The Rest Is Football: Daly Brightness - Q&A and Agony Aunt Mash Up

Episode Date: March 5, 2026

In this week’s Mash Up episode… Can you guess which member of Team Daly Brightness was a huge fan of Avril Lavigne as a teen? And which of them - rather scarily - suffers from sleep paralysis? And how much is too much to spend as a bridesmaid at your mate’s wedding? Millie and Rach hand out some much-needed advice to a listener as resident experts on the matter, given Millie was bridesmaid to Rach only a few months ago. British Gas is proud partner of the Barclays Women’s Super League and The Rest Is Football Daly Brightness. Learn more about the BWSL Football Tariff here: https://wsl.theenergyshop.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to Daily Brightness, the Q&A episode. Obviously, we're going to start off with an absolute banger. So let's get straight into it. Would you rather always have itchy eyes or always have an itchy bum? Straight away, I've just got pictures. I've just got images of us just scooting on past. Imagine you just got an itchy ass and you just like sit down like dogs and you just... Honestly, we were doing it other day and I thought,

you're going around in circles. I'd have to say itchy eyes, but also I do itchy eyes. I hate that when you get itchy eyes. Itchy eyes at minute. Freaking sinuses. But yeah, itchy eyes. No one. No, I want to say, bum.

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I bet I could find them Don't because our mum's will be at it Getting kicked out No, where you'd get A T-shirt with a vest over the top Yeah I did that. I don't know what you're talking about

That's back in fashion People do that all time Wear a T-shirt and a little wooly thing over it And a big belt you know the big belt with that long dangly bit and like yeah

oh my god I could I could go on for days I had some terrible fashion right if I don't say it I know my sister my sisters are going to say it so sad it

I'll embarrass myself I'm not bothered anyway fashion don't go out of trend it comes always in trend I used to dress up as pink and Averill Levine as when I'm a little Pleist

It was so bad yes Mama B, I know you're listening because you're always listening and yes, I know you'll be posting the pictures and go and post it, I'm not bothered. I used to wear my little flared jeans at bottom, tight at the top and flared at bottom

I used to have a little skater boy? Fish not, yeah, I'm like... So were you a bit of a got a got a gothaw? Basically, I had purple in my hair. That's so funny, I never went through a got got got a gothast of Godfrey night at Academy because I had purple shrieking me at. I'd ban you all.

Like purple in me out, I went, she felt like doing it, I'm expressing myself. I'm not going to change it. I play football, is it? Yeah, to be fair. There's a lot of bad fashion trends for me. Goff stage and I thought I was pink and Averro Levine. I used to love her.

Like, love her. If your life was a smell, what would it be? Mine would probably smell like it's a flora because I use that much of it. Mine would be rituals diffuser. Rituals defuser. Oh, mine would be like Joe Malone, Cyprus and Grapevine. Yeah, to be fair, Mirren Tonka, Joe Malone, banging.

But I'd probably say rituals or the mood. diffuser because that is amazing. I've got that in the living room. I'd probably say some form of diffuser, let's say rituals or mood. I'm saying Joe Malone, Cyprus and Grapevine. Go on the girl. Oh, interesting. Would you rather be able to see 10 minutes into the future or 100 years into the future? 100 years. What's the point? Just wait 10 minutes and you'll see it. Yeah, 100 years. But then again, I don't want to know future. Yeah, but you'll never get to know what You'll never live to see what happens 100 years from now, so you might as well have a look at it.

What's going to happen in 10 minutes? I'm going to know in 10 minutes. If I could click a button and be like, right, what's 10 minutes look like? Might be a bit helpful for me. Yeah, but if I know one-off button to press, I'd probably say 100 years. 100 years. What's a song that always gets you on the dance floor, no matter where you are?

Any song once we've had a couple of minutes. I don't think there's just one that would get me on the dance floor. I think a couple of drinks down my neck and I'd be anybody's... Anybody's dance floor. We make, we are the party. I don't think people understand. Like Rachel's wedding, you better believe I was shouting everyone on the dance floor.

I was herding them up. Amma Hendie was so funny. We didn't leave the dance floor. No, we didn't. Let's think of one song though because they definitely would be one song where we go, oh my God, that's our song, that's our song. I hope we do it to every song that comes on.

It's like, oh, we'll come back after. Yeah, but it was, um, What was the theme there? It was like 80s. We like 80s though. Old music, yeah, gets me going. Like old school music. I'd say 80s. Oh, I swear that came on.

Going local down in a couple of... Loads. I love, yeah, we like that. It's probably just an oldie. Excuse me, can you comment on my vocals? Thank you. I've just sang it on the pod. It's not Lady Marmalade, but it's coming. Who are you barking at? Isn't it?

Yeah, sure up, Louie. It's Dexy. Dexy. Dexy. Oh, he has to get laxie. Last wording. Would you rather have a tail or have ears that wiggle

when you are happy? People can wiggle their ears already. I'd rather my ears wiggle than everyone knows when I'm happy and if I'm not happy they're not wiggling. Who wants a tail? I don't want a tail.

Although, do you know what a film I did love as a kid? Babe, please tell me you've seen it. The pig? Yeah, loved it. Cried though many times. Yeah, I'd rather my ears wiggle.

I don't want a tail poking out of my jeans to be quite honest. No. then button really wouldn't go up, would it? Right, what's the strangest dream you've ever had? This is a hard one. Do you know what? I'll let you in on a little treat.

I have terrors a lot. Like actual terrors where, I think it's meant to be a sign of something. If you believe in all that, don't freaking Google it because it scares me. But I have terrors a lot where I actually wake up and I'm physically, like, my body is going through every emotion

that is physically happening in the dream. So, like, if I'm... This just sounds really dark, but I have a lot of, like, where people are getting hurt in like my terrors and then I'll wake up and I'll be like sweating

I'll be crying my eyes out like it's happening like to my body whatever I'm... Dreams are so strange have you ever had sleep paralysis no I can't talk about because I get scared

so I had it I've had it a couple of times but... La la la la I had it the other day right and honestly I was panicking like hell I was lying in bed

so obviously I think I'm awake but my hands my hands were strapped down to the, like, it wasn't a coughing but imagine like a shallow box Oh my Jesus Lord and my wrists were pinned down

and my ankles were pinned down and I could not move and I needed a way like I was getting up to go to the toilet but I couldn't move and I was just like fighting to get up but I'm like I'm awake I can't, how can I not get up? What do you do with that situation?

Genuinely, I'm awake but like I know where I am I know exactly where I am that it's not a dream but I can't move. What do you do? you just come around from it and then you get up. But it's the strangest thing.

I've only ever had it a couple times that this one happened recently. Absolutely not. I'd rather stay awake and my eyes be burning than that. I know. Honestly, the next night I was like, I don't want to go to sleep. Yeah, I just get bad terrors, but I'd probably, yeah, I don't really have strange dreams. Bestie, text me if you get bad terror.

Just have bad terrors and I wake up and I'm like, you know, and you bolt up from your sleep and I'm like, ooh-hoo! And I'd be like sobbing my eyes and be drenched. I hate that. I hate when dreams feel really real. If I wake up panicking, I have to text that. person about, oh my God, are you alright? Is everything? Yeah. And also, like, why do you dream about certain people? Like, people that have, like, not been on my brain whatsoever are in my

dream and I'm like, what? Yeah. Word. Crazy. Anyway, what's your most used emoji and why? Mine is the crying, laughing face. Because I don't text out of many people, but I tend to laugh a lot at the people I text. I've been using old little animals a lot. The dead cute on new update. I haven't seen them. Yeah, the proper cute... I don't know why I've got a little starfish. Oh, and I've used that new...

I've been using this one a lot. Hmm. I don't know why. Would you rather never have to sleep again or never have to eat again? That's horrible. I'd probably say never have to sleep, yeah, I'm starving now. I don't sleep anyway.

Me either. I'm a terrible sleeper. So, but I can't give up food. No, absolutely not where food is. Foodie food is. And I'm not a sleeper, I'm a terrible sleeper, so. Yeah, I don't think, I think people get scared when we tell them how much we sleep and they're like, how are you functioning?

I'm like, because it's all mind over matter. All these sleep meetings. Got no choice, love. La, la, la, you don't actually need 10 hours sleep, thank you very much. I've been functioning on five for the last year of 10 years. Exactly. The other day I functioned on three, what you're saying? Not saying that's a healthy lifestyle, by the way, and I don't intend on doing that,

but sometimes you just can't sleep. Would you rather have the same dream every night or have no dreams at all? No dreams at all. What's the point in repeating a dream? I don't want a terror every night. I do have some recurring dreams, but no, I'd rather not have any more dream. I don't want to cry every night, thanks. I'd rather not have a dream because they're not real anyway.

Bestie? They're not? No, but I do believe in them a little bit. If you could instantly learn a language, which would you choose? I would choose Spanish for sure. Spanish, I've been trying on duolingo, but I don't pick up my accent. Piece of shit. The reason why I choose Spanish is because it's so versatile, like you can,

use it in so many places, not just Spain. Like it transfers over to Portuguese and you go, you know, Brazilian. You know, yeah, Spanish. So, yeah, Spanish, for sure. Yeah, right. Final question. By the way, the questions have been top tonight. What was your favourite board game as a child, Rachel?

Well, I think you're the same as me, but my mum will tell, my mum will be sat there laughing now because I couldn't really play a play of board game when I was a kid because I got that angry if I wasn't going to win. There were nothing left if it was there. So I vividly remember frustration that game. And I remember my brother, my brother nearly getting home and I was like, oh, and look here, he didn't win, and tip the board up.

My mum would be like, Rachel, why'd have to ruin it? Monopoly, I'd just cheat. I'd take all the money out. I'd be a banker. One for you for me. Yeah, I'll just slip that little bit of money in. We used to play Monopoly, but again, table we're definitely getting flipped. But I do like, I must say,

I do like the new Monopoly deal cards and I love Uno. No Mercy. Yeah, Oono's a good game. But it annoys me when people cheat, though, then I don't want to play. Yeah, but I did cheat when I was younger to take a lot of money. Anyway, yeah, like Millie said,

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It is also one of our favourite things, Agony Ants. So kicking off with the first one. Moving in too quickly, Dear Rachel and Millett, my boyfriend of four months wants us to move in together. His leases up and he says it makes financial sense. And that when you know, you know. I really like him, but a part of me thinks this is way too fast. My friends think I'm mad for hesitating.

and I'll say I'll lose him if I don't commit. Am I being overly cautious or are they right? It's hard to comment on this because you don't know the person's situation like if she's been hurt before, maybe she's more wary. Yeah. We don't have all the context do we so it's very powerful.

No, we don't have all the context. It's a hard one because for me, after four months if everything was great, I would know if someone could move in with me. Yeah. And I'm not, I'm a big believer that, listen, if it feels right, it feels right. I don't think, I think they used to,

I think everyone went through this, this, like, rule book of relationships before where it was like, oh, you've got to have been dating four months before you can be together, and then you've got to have, like, been, been, like, seen each, in the actual relationship a year before you move in, and then you've got to have lived together before you have a baby, and I just feel like times of changing,

to be honest, life's too short, like, if it feels right, then do it. But, what I would say, if she's, if she's, she shouldn't actually listen to us or a friend. Like that's something it has to be a good decision. So you can get advice from people. Some people might go, oh, four months is far too soon to be moving in. The other person's on the other side of the fence going,

you're crazy like you like him, do it. There's no one situation by yours. So I think you could take a bit more time. You could say nicely to him, listen, I'm not sure I'm ready yet. But I don't know. I don't know the full context, but. I like his thinking though. I'll give him that, making financial sense of it.

I think he's, you know, and it's got to be a nice feeling that he's like wanting to do that. I think that is a good sign. But I just, you know what? But it is a massive commitment to move in with something. Like, if they've not lived together or spent like loads of time. It's hard because you don't know the ins and outs. No, and you don't know how much you're going to enjoy living with someone.

So it is hard. And obviously if you move them in and then he's got nowhere to go. How much you've spent time together? Like, have you been saying it is every day? Is he been saying? at yours every day. I think if you've already technically been living together,

then, but maybe go for a walk, clear your head, and it has to be your decision. Just forget what everyone else is saying and we can only give you our opinion and maybe our experience, but yeah, it has to be your decision. Good luck, sister.

Wish you all the best. Next one, the jealous best friend. Uh-oh. Uh-oh. Hi, Millie and Rachel. I've recently lost two stone and I feel great. Well, well done, first day.

Well done, amazing. I'm getting attention I've never heard before and it's been really fun. but my best friend keeps making snide comments. Things like, must be nice to go, must be nice to have time to go to the gym and don't get too big for your boots.

It's hurting my feelings. How do I handle this without losing my oldest friend? Say something. Say something. If that's your oldest, longest friend, whatever, they should be happy for you. You should be able to have an honest conversation. You should be able to say it how it is.

If I needed to say something to Rache, I'd be able to say it to Rache, but what I will say, people, and this is just my opinion, this is my view and my friends, people that are my true friends would never ever, I wouldn't ever expect those sorts of comments or behaviour from like true friends and to me I'm a very sensitive person, news slash, maybe people don't actually know that, but I am, I know, under the hard exterior,

I am actually super soft. So that would really get to me and then I feel like once I get in that headspace, it's kind of done anyway, so, but I have a conversation and just say like, listen, I don't know, Rach, you're better at stuff like this, Well, if you were making snippy comments at me for something that I was proud of myself, I'd be like, why are you doing that? I'd for sure have a conversation with you.

I'm a little bit hot-headed out of that. Why is your problem? I think, yeah, I think also they could be going through something, do you know what I mean? Like, if you'd done that to me and I was like, why are you saying shit like that to me? And then you were actually going through a really hard time.

It would make sense. But I think, yeah, have a conversation, open that floor, and then, you know what, if they're going to keep doing that, then they're not a friend, sorry. I don't care if they're your oldest friend if they're not ever going to keep being nasty to you then they're not a real friend

Your friends should be your biggest supporters and they should no matter their no matter if my life was the shittiest it ever been and Rachel was winning at life and succeeding and happy that's all I want to see from my people around me I want to see everyone happy I could be depressed as hell

I wouldn't care I would still cheer I'd be the biggest cheerleader for my people so that's just my view on life and friendships and family and I won't be any different so yeah your people should be your biggest supporters even in the time of

lifting you up singing your phrases and enhancing your life not making it worse but yeah have a conversation and we wish you all the best

nobody wants a jealous best friend nah red buzzer for me right moving on the bridesmaid on a budget whoa this is interesting hi girls I'm a brisemade

for my best friend's wedding she's dreamt of this day forever which I love but the costs are spiraling. Oh, I can understand that. The dress, the hendoo abroad, the shoes, the hair and makeup. I'm looking at over £2,000 and that's before a gift.

And I can't really afford it. But if I say something, I'll look like I'm not happy for her. How do I handle this? That's really tough. That's really hard because she sounds extremely supportive and you can tell with the way she's written the message, like she's absolutely buzzing for her best friend. But equally, if you don't have the money,

you don't have the money. And everyone does everything different, don't they? Like, obviously, for me, like, that was important for me and for Sarah to make sure that you guys didn't have those costs. Yeah. But not everyone's in that position. But I think if I put the costs on you, let's say, and you couldn't afford it,

I would hope that you would come to me and just be like, listen, Rachel, like, I actually can't afford on this. Is there any way we can, like, cut down the cost? Like, how can we work it out? I would hate for you to think that you had to pay for something that made you feel uncomfortable. because that's a horrible thing. I understand you wanting to make things easy for the bride.

I'd want you to come to me, and then to be honest, the most important thing for me is that my best friend, if I was the bride and you came to me, the most important thing for me is that my best friend one of bridesmaid and two is attending the head, the wedding. So I would then, me personally, I would then be like, don't sweat it, I'll cover it.

Like, do what you can afford, I'll cover the rest. I'm not saying that's what everyone should do, but everybody's different. and everyone's financial status is different. I understand that. That's just how we would handle the situation. But I would never, if you said to me, Rachel, I can't afford that if I was to put the cost on you,

I wouldn't be like, we can't come then. Like, I literally do everything. I'd bend over backwards to make sure that you could get there. And even if it's a cheap address or we'd change, I don't know. I don't know. We would figure it out. I personally would, if it was me, and I couldn't afford it. I would come to you and say,

Mills, I can't do this. So I'd say have a conversation and you sound like you should. super, super close and it sounds like you've got a lot of love for one another and a great friendship. And don't be embarrassed that you can't afford it. That's a lot of money. And trust me, it costs a bloody fortune. Yeah, it does. So just have that conversation

and yeah, I think go from there. Yeah, I hope. I hope you get that solid. Well, we wish you all the best, fingers crossed for you but I know if you've got a good friendship, you'll get it sorted. Whoever sent that agony hunting could you please respond to us? we would really like to know because, yeah, that makes us a little bit sad as well

and we'd really like to make sure you get sorted. Right, the nosy neighbour. Dear Rachel and Millie, my neighbour constantly comment on my parenting, that would do my Sweden if somebody did that to me. Oh, I'm here for this agony aunt. Every time my toddler has a tantrum in the garden, she's at the fence telling me how she'd handle it,

or that he needs a firm hand. It's driving me insane and making me like, every time we go outside, how do I shut this down politely? Right, that... Firstly, there is no politely. Tell her to mind a damn business and get back inside. I understand people's advice to one another in parenting. Everyone's got to go through it at the first time.

Do you know what I mean? Yeah. But I hate when people like belittle somebody else's parenting. Well, there's two red flags for me in this situation. One, the neighbour been nosy in the first place. I call them curtain twitchers. Keep your damn eyes to yourself and in your foresight. all walls. It's so annoying. Those neighbours

that are like this all the time. Oh, what they're doing? Oh, where's that visitor? Mind your business. Who's it matter? Who's coming in and out of house and what I'm doing and what I'm wearing? That, oh, my blood is boiling. First problem, red flag number one. Secondly, have you got nothing better to do than stand over a fence

and judge someone on the parenting? Also, and also, you could make a kind recognition. Like, obviously, if there's major red flags and she's beating the kid and she's looking over the fence, Yeah, different situation. But if you're actually telling her to give him a firm hand. Yeah, exactly. Instant no, no.

I say this because we've had this with my sister and Vinny and Harvey and Vinny's autistic and ADHD. So you have no idea, neighbours comment all the time like, oh, you need to control that child. If Vinny's having a meltdown, he's not having a meltdown for crack. He didn't just think, you know what, I'm going to piss all my neighbours off tonight. I'm really going to have a meltdown.

It makes him upset. he cries after because he can't control it. You also don't know what that person is going through and how hard it is to handle that child. So you don't know. So just get back in your house. Move then if you don't like it. Move.

Move. Right, I said, I'm pretty sure. I'm pretty sure. It's like when, oh, this is a block and bleat. Get me off on a rant. Sorry, we're going on a tangent here. When you're in the supermarket, people go, oh, child, I'm like, you weren't a kid once, were you not then?

You were absolute fucking sane angel. You didn't cry, you'd stamp your feet. I guarantee it I put a million pound every human on this earth had a tantrum as a kid or yelled or swore or screamed or did something that is deemed naughty in a social environment

I freaking hate it what advice would you have to shut it down politely I just say maybe go calmly to the fence and just say listen thank you for your advice and your opinion but it's not warranted at this moment in time and I don't like you to keep popping your head over my offence

because that's actually weird. Trespassing. Get your down. Get your little peering off the fence. I'll build a higher fence. I would actually go round and I'm not sure I'm going to think like Rachel here this is in a piece. I'd go around and I'd do a little...

I love, I'd just like to say stop interfering. No, to be fair, I'd actually get someone else to go around because I wouldn't want to deal with it. No, but it's... I think you can just say like, listen, I appreciate you trying to help but one, it's not as easy as you think. And two, this is my child

and I'm going to parent in my way. And I don't appreciate you constantly putting your head over and you're actually affecting my mental health. So I'm going to need you to take a step back. And then listen, love, once you've done it politely, well, cards are off at table. Build a higher face. Pop your head over my fence and I'm not sure what's going to come your way.

Pop it over one more time and drop you. No, I'm not encouraging that. But seriously, it does my head in, like, proper winds me up. I'm just like, just stay in your lane. I'm not telling you how to live your life or parent or whatever. Also, if someone's doing it. It's the same with dogs barking and someone's shy.

Oh, gosh. What do you mean, shush? You're telling a dog that is born to bark. That is how to communicate. Don't tell my dog to shush. It's rude. I'll tell my dog to shud. Don't you do it to my dog.

Oh, me back, best in, pump. On me back. It really does my head. And you know what, if you're that concern and you really, really want to help someone, how about your help and you don't just stand there, barking instructions and do this and do that? How about you actually say, do you need any help?

Like, could I help you in any way? Or is everything all right? Or, even better, could just mind your business and go about your day and have your cup of tea inside or sit in the garden and put some music on. All that. Yeah, exactly. You know? People are so interesting

in what other people are doing. Like, just seriously, just leave people alone. Yeah, nosy. I'm going to have to go and do some therapy. I'm too angry. She really got me that. Whoever sent that nose in ebriene, I'm freaking with you on that one.

That can go up block and delete and all. Get rid of it. Right, that's enough for today. Thank you for your questions. Thank you for your agony answer. We've loved today's episode. I hope you've enjoyed it as much as we have. Goodbye from me.

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