The Rich Roll Podcast - Modeling Well-Being: Gisele Bündchen On Nourishing The Self, The Soul & The Planet

Episode Date: March 25, 2024

This week, I am joined by Gisele Bündchen, one of the world’s most recognized faces—a world-renowned supermodel, philanthropist, New York Times bestselling author, and ardent wellness advocate. G...isele shares her personal transformation journey, transitioning from the pressures of the modeling world to prioritizing wellness and mindfulness. She candidly discusses battling anxiety and panic attacks, opting for a disciplined, healthy lifestyle to reclaim her well-being. We explore the significance of positive choices, including her decisions to abstain from alcohol and set boundaries, showcasing the strength derived from aligning with personal values. Beyond the glamour, Gisele emphasizes the hard work, respect, and continual growth underpinning her modeling career. We dive into her environmental advocacy efforts and hands-on parenting approach, tackling challenges like instilling a solid work ethic in her children. Gisele’s commitment to leading by example and imparting life skills is a valuable lesson for every parent. Please enjoy! Show notes + MORE Watch on YouTube Newsletter Sign-Up  Today’s Sponsors: Momentous: Use code RICHROLL to save 25% OFF all Inside Tracker tests + 36% OFF new customer subscriptions 👉livemomentous.com/richroll Peak Design: Get 20% OFF backpacks, duffels, & more 👉PeakDesign.com/RICHROLL. Better Help: This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp—get 10% off your first month 👉BetterHelp.com/RICHROLL Go Brewing: 15% OFF my favorite non-alcoholic brews w/ code Rich Roll 👉gobrewing.com/discount/richroll Roka: Unlock 20% OFF my favorite shades & specs 👉 ROKA.com/RICHROLL Waking Up: Get a FREE month, plus $30 OFF  👉 wakingup.com/RICHROLL

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Starting point is 00:00:00 The choices that you're making are really either supporting you or not. Straight from the pages of Victoria's Secret, please welcome Gisele Bundchen. Gisele Bundchen. Gisele has walked in nearly 500 fashion shows and graced the covers of more than 1,200 different magazines. On paper, like, you're perhaps highly unrelatable. You know what it is? It's a character. That's the job I do to kind of make a living so I can, different magazines. On paper, like, you're perhaps highly unrelatable. You know what it is?
Starting point is 00:00:26 It's a character. That's a job I do to kind of make a living so I can, like, you know, put food on the table. Raising children is by far the most challenging thing I've ever done. It's a different kind of modeling. It's the type of modeling that I prefer. Giselle Bundchen is one of the most recognized faces on the planet, a world-renowned supermodel
Starting point is 00:00:44 and one of the top recognized faces on the planet, a world-renowned supermodel and one of the top fashion icons of all time. But I wanna ask you to set aside all of that. I want you to let go of any presuppositions you might have about her and her life. And I want you to meet her for who she really is, which I gotta say is surprisingly grounded as well as relatable.
Starting point is 00:01:04 She's a mom, she's an environmentalist, and she's also someone who cares deeply about wellbeing. This passion that emerged from her very real and relatable struggles with anxiety, with panic attacks, which catalyzed this journey that she went on to overcome the unhealthy habits that drove her maladies, allowed her to rewrite her relationship with food, with her career and herself,
Starting point is 00:01:29 and what matters most, all of which we explore today and further unfolds on the pages of her latest cookbook and lifestyle guide, Nourish. Giselle is a delight. She's definitely a talker. And what else is there to say? This one is just good times all around. So here we go. This is me and Giselle is a delight. She's definitely a talker. And what else is there to say? This one is just good times all around.
Starting point is 00:01:45 So here we go. This is me and Giselle Bunchen. So nice to meet you. Nice to meet you too. So excited to have you here today. Yes, me too. When this opportunity presented itself, I was like, of course I wanna talk to Giselle.
Starting point is 00:02:00 And then I had my own like sort of mini panic attack. We're gonna get into panic attacks. I'm like, what could I possibly talk to this person about? The all-time great supermodel of all time. Everybody knows this. On paper, like you're perhaps highly unrelatable, but then the more you dig into your story and the more I kind of learned about your arc and your past and what brought you to this place, there's so much that's deeply relatable and your kind of transformation story is remarkably similar to mine. Although you did yours at like 23, I was 40,
Starting point is 00:02:34 but there's so much in there. So I thought it would be cool to kind of talk a little bit about what it was like, what happened and how you made these changes in your life. Because I think you're in this interesting new season right now, where despite the fact that you've been this wellness advocate and wellness warrior for a long time,
Starting point is 00:02:53 my sense is that there's a more full embrace of that now with kind of how you see yourself and what's important to you. Oh, well, thank you for the introduction. You know, the funny thing is I, you know, people's, you know, what I did for a living is something that kind of just happened to me at 14 years old, you know, it was like,
Starting point is 00:03:14 hey, do you want to be a model? And I thought, oh, I can help my family. You know, I can make a living and help, you know, I have five sisters and all that. So modeling to me is something that is an opportunity that came along. Like I think in life you have these opportunities that either you take that train and then see where it goes, you know. And I never even believed that this was going to take me.
Starting point is 00:03:35 And I was going to be doing this for almost 30 years. You know, it's one of those things that I was like, oh, I'll start doing this job and, you know, send money home and help my sisters go through school and do all that. And maybe in five years, you know, I'll get a house because I didn't even go to school. You know, I was emancipated at 14. Yeah, you were in Tokyo at 14. I was living in Japan without speaking English or Japanese. And that's when I started learning the language of energy. You know what I mean?
Starting point is 00:04:05 Because you don't have to understand the language. You just have to feel something. There's a lot more that is being said without words. Sure. So I start learning about that. But I think that I went through this journey of modeling, which was something I thought was going to last five years and I was just going to help my family out for a little bit.
Starting point is 00:04:22 And it just kept going. It just kept happening. I didn't even think you can have longevity in this career because it's not what I saw really around me happening. But it kept working out, so I kept doing it. And it was kind of a mindless thing. You got in the hamster wheel, and I think we do that sometimes in life. And you're so young, you don't know when you live the first life and all of that.
Starting point is 00:04:45 So in my early 20s, I developed anxiety and panic attacks and all that. Because when you drink a bottle of wine and that, because you're like, I used to be a smoker. So I smoke. I can't even imagine. I used to smoke. It feels like a whole different life. But it was the late 90s and there was a lot of drugs in fashion and all that. So I thought I was sane just because I was like having some wine and smoking cigarettes.
Starting point is 00:05:10 Everybody was doing way worse things than me. Yeah, I'm sure you've seen a lot. I've seen a lot. Yeah, that's a whole other show about that. That's a whole other story. But yeah, so that was the beginning for me to start reconnecting with myself because I think when I was 14 and I got that train, my only focus was like, how can I be the best that I can do on this?
Starting point is 00:05:33 And, and, and that was my focus. And, and I didn't measure any sacrifice. It was like, if I had to work 360 days a year and I felt like I couldn't say no because people were giving me a chance. And then I was like in this really overdrive and burned down my adrenals. I found out later when I found this amazing natural doctor who told me like, listen, you don't have any more adrenals. They're shut down because you burned them basically.
Starting point is 00:05:56 I'm like, but I'm only 22, you know? So basically I had to change the habits that I, you know, smoking a pack of cigarettes, drinking alcohol every day to calm myself down, coffee all day to keep myself up and also going from, you know, one time zone to the next. I was three days in Paris, two days in London, one day in New York, going back to, you know, my life was in a living in a suitcase. And of course your nervous system is going to freak out, you know, and the way I was eating, it was very, you know,
Starting point is 00:06:26 anything that was in front of me, I was just like not mindful about anything. You know, I was just kind of like a workhorse. Right. And when that happened to me is when I, you know, I come from a family that is very, my grandmother had a tea for everything. So we never had, we were not the kind of, you know,
Starting point is 00:06:43 you get sick, let me see this herbal remedy that we, you know, so. Yeah, you grew not the kind of, you know, you get sick, let me see this herbal remedy that we, you know, so. Yeah, you grew up in kind of a small village, right, in Brazil. Your grandmother was cultivating herbs and she was the person that everyone would go to for their remedies. So you have this sort of background and connection, you know, with the earth. Exactly. That, you know, is kind of lingering in the back of your mind when you're just, you know, the earth that is kind of lingering in the back of your mind when you're just hammering nails and drinking wine and living that life. But you're young, it's like,
Starting point is 00:07:10 that's kind of what your 20s are for. Kind of. And you're on this like jet plane, I mean, figuratively and literally, like your career's taking off. On top of that, a people pleasing tendency where you feel like you have to say yes to everything and you're just go, go, go, go, go.
Starting point is 00:07:27 Yeah, and I think, but that was a big wake up call for me because I think sometimes, you know, you have to reach rock bottom. And when I had that, it was anxiety and they started becoming like almost crippling because I couldn't get on planes. It was just, you know, I was going to all these doctors and they were like, you have to take this stuff.
Starting point is 00:07:42 And I was just afraid of taking anything because I've never taken anything. You know, I was, there was a T for this. You know, my grandmother wasn't there. So finally, you know, I wasn't going to take a medication because just the idea of taking something, I was like, I was normal before. How can I go back being what I was? You know, like I didn't have this issue. So what's happening? Long story short, I found this doctor. I had to replace my habits. It was that simple. I had to replace these habits that had created the reality I was living at that moment,
Starting point is 00:08:10 which was, you know, really killing me in so many ways, you know, killing my spirit, killing my... And I replaced it with good habits. So now instead of smoking cigarettes and having a mocha frappuccino in the morning, I'll go out and do breath work and go out for a run. And, you know, I replace. In one day, I gave up everything. Because he looked at me. He says, Gisele, he called me adrenalina.
Starting point is 00:08:32 He says, do you want to live? And I said, I do. He's like, so we're going to change my diet. in my life that I realized that I was really like the one who got myself there. And I was the only person who could get myself out by the choices that I was making. So I had to take full responsibility for what I had created, but it was in my power, only in my power to change that. There were no doctors, nobody who was going to save me. I had to change, you know, the choices I was making. And I did that. And it was incredible because after over a year and a half, like, really struggling with anxiety and panic attacks and all that, within three months, I was like I never had another incident. And it was, you know, and once you start meditating, I mean, at that point, this was 20 years ago, right?
Starting point is 00:09:20 It wasn't like people were talking about meditation and yoga and any of that. It wasn't like people were talking about meditation and yoga and any of that. It was just when you sit in silence and you reflect, which is what we don't really give ourselves time to do because the world is so fast-paced and everything is catching your attention, is trying to throw you off your center. Everything is so busy. It's like an overload of information. To have that space to go inside and reflect and look and really take a
Starting point is 00:09:47 step back I think that was the biggest blessing of my life so really I think what could have killed me is what gave me a whole new life and it was amazing because since then like everything changed like I realized that food is my medicine I realized that I am the director of my own movie that I'm creating my reality based on the choices that I'm making, but what I'm choosing to, not only the people I'm choosing to have around in my life, but what type of energy, what kind of thoughts I allow to, what am I feeding?
Starting point is 00:10:13 What kind of thoughts am I? So all of that. So that became like a big changing of seasons for me in my early 20s. What were those first couple of weeks like if you went completely cold turkey on all of these bad habits at once? I think it was like a drug addict.
Starting point is 00:10:28 I never was a, I guess I was a drug addict on illegal drugs because I guess alcohol is a drug and so is cigarettes and nicotine and all that and caffeine and all that, but they're like socially accepted. But I tell you that I had the worst migraine. I mean, I felt like the,
Starting point is 00:10:44 I mean, maybe that's what a person who's going, like you have gone to rehab, right? So I don't know what you felt, I would love to hear, but for me it was like- Yeah, it's not fun. Right? I mean, I don't know about that. It's the only way I know how to do it though. I don't understand how people kind of phase out of stuff.
Starting point is 00:10:59 Like you have to, for me, you have to draw the line and step over it and it's gonna suck and you're gonna be uncomfortable for a while. But you know that on the other side of that lies all of this opportunity and possibility. And that's what happened to me. I think there was that because what I knew, I knew that what I was and what – if you do what you've always done, you're going to get what you've always gotten. It's that simple. If you do what you've always done, you're going to get what you've always gotten.
Starting point is 00:11:24 It's that simple. And what I realized at that moment that what I created for myself was not what I wanted. I needed a drastic change. And then it was like, draw the line, stopped everything in one day. And the migraines and all of that, like the consequences of what I had done, I had to deal with them. You know, it took me like two weeks, I think. I was like having the worst migraines just because I didn't know if it was the nicotine, the caffeine, the alcohol. I don't know what it was, but it was all of it together.
Starting point is 00:11:58 But then it was amazing because from that experience, I became so much stronger. And there are lots of different things that happened in my life after that. I feel like every time we get tested. It's like the Super Mario, you know, like the little video game when you go to do the big boss, like you go through all the phases and you go to level one, the big boss is like one, it's okay to defeat that one. But then the second one is like a tougher big boss. And then the third one is, you know, it's like, it's life. I feel like that's what life is. You get like the new tools to get equipped. And then you go to the next challenge that is a bigger one. And then it's a bigger one. I feel like that's why we're here,
Starting point is 00:12:25 to keep seeing how we can expand, how much more we can- To grow, to evolve. To grow, to evolve, to expand, to see how strong and how creative and how much we can experience of all this wonderful- How did you plug that into the fast paced life of your modeling career? Because it's one thing if you're living a more
Starting point is 00:12:46 kind of grounded at home lifestyle where you can control your food and your environment a little bit better. But when you're flying all over the world and you're on these sets and there's craft service and it's junk food, like you have to be way ahead of the curve to prepare everything,
Starting point is 00:13:02 to have everything kind of organized for yourself. Because how do you, you know, if you're in just hotels all over the place and you arrive at midnight, like how are you getting your, you know, like how did, so how did you manage all of that? You have to be very disciplined. I think, you know, when I did this book called Lessons and it was like, everything starts with discipline.
Starting point is 00:13:20 That was like my first chapter. And that's what I believe you have to decide. And then you have to have the discipline to follow through. So once you realize that these choices that you're making are having a positive impact in your life, you want to continue doing them. You know what I mean? You don't want to fall back into something that you didn't feel good. That's your past. Like you don't want to go back there again. So you're going to stick to the plan. Like this is what's working and this is what made me feel good again. So I'm going to stick to this. And of course it's not a hundred percent. You have to be compassionate
Starting point is 00:13:50 with yourself too and say, and I'll be like, you know, life is hard as it is. You don't need to beat yourself in the head sometimes if you go and you, oh, you know, I had like, um, I was exhausted. I had like a banana bread or something where I had, you know, but I think you realize that the choices that you're making are really either supporting you or not, you know, supporting you, living the life that making you feel good and living the life that you want and is taking to the direction where you want to go or not. And then it's just kind of an easier choice to make. Right. And then I feel like when I go to the jobs, you know, I've got to the point in my life where people know how I eat. And, you know, I can tell people like,
Starting point is 00:14:28 listen, this is what I want. I want salads. You got an extensive rider. Yeah, I kind of, you know, because I was already working for so long. So I have, you know, I got to the, I guess really the privilege to be able to kind of say like, this is the kind of things that I would like to eat.
Starting point is 00:14:44 So if please at the job you know if you're working 10 12 hours in the studio can we have these things available you know what i mean so then it was easier to keep the food healthy you know um because i think that's so important and then just to say i feel like and then saying no to those things you know like coffee or alcohol things that i was just so used to because i was still in that same environment the environment hadn't changed i had changed but all of that was around me still but then it was just a choice of saying you know I feel great and I haven't drank alcohol in over two years now too this is something you know I even when I went back drinking after it was very
Starting point is 00:15:20 moderate you know I was still like like I would drink socially. Sometimes, you know, peer pressure. Sometimes like, oh, come on, have a drink, you know? And then you like feel like, especially in my world. I mean, everyone pretty much is like socially having a drink. So I would be like, okay, I'll have a drink. But then it got to a point that I was like, and that was like 20 years later because it just happened over two years ago. I was like, I don't want to drink. Like, I don't care what anyone thinks.
Starting point is 00:15:44 And I don't care if they have peer pressure. I'm going to have my mint tea, my chamomile tea. And if they want to drink, I'm not making anyone feel bad about drinking. They can do whatever they want. This is their temple, you know? Yeah. This is my temple.
Starting point is 00:15:55 I get to choose. And they shouldn't make me feel bad that I don't want to, you know? So then I kind of stood up for myself. I think that happens after you're 40. It's like you care less about what other people think. Wait till you're 50. Oh my God, I can stood up for myself. I think that happens after your 40s. Like you care less about what other people think. Wait till you're 50. Oh my God, I can't wait for that. I'm going to be like, he's going to be amazing.
Starting point is 00:16:12 But I think the thing you mentioned, you mentioned like being directed and being kind of dedicated to your path. And I feel like that's the underappreciated aspect of understanding you and your career. the underappreciated aspect of understanding you and your career. A lot of people arrive in New York City every single day with a similar dream or ambition that you had when you were a young person and you arrived there. And a lot of those people are very beautiful. You're very beautiful, but that doesn't tell the story of how you translated an opportunity into the career that you had. And I think between the lines, there is an intense work ethic and a very intentional approach to what you were doing. Like, how did you apply those skills?
Starting point is 00:16:56 Like, what is the differentiator between you and the career that you've enjoyed versus, you know, the other beautiful people who aren't enjoying the same kind of career? And you're not allowed to say luck or, you know, the other beautiful people who aren't enjoying the same kind of career. You're not allowed to say luck or, you know, I mean, be honest. I don't believe in luck. I don't believe in luck.
Starting point is 00:17:12 I believe in hard work. And, but I believe in, I mean, I think discipline, but I also believe that I always treated everyone the way I like to be treated. And I've always was appreciative. I have this immense sense of gratitude for just being there. So even though, you know, people were like, oh, you know, when I was 19, I was like,
Starting point is 00:17:31 I want the model of the year. And everybody's like, how does it feel to me? It didn't really, it didn't matter to me because quite frankly, I never saw myself as a model. It's just not something, I didn't drink the Kool-Aid. I didn't believe because I was a model or because I became successful in this job, like I was better than anybody.
Starting point is 00:17:49 I just, and I didn't believe that. I believe that I just got to learn that craft really well. And I understood what the job entail. And like, I learned how to do the job really well, but by no means is what defined me. It's just something I did. It's not who I am. I don't know if, you know, it's like I go there,
Starting point is 00:18:06 I had this opportunity at, you know, 13, 14 years old when I finally left home and pursued this career that really I thought it was just, really I did it for the money. I did it because I was like, what else am I going to do at 14 years old that I can help my family? You know, I don't have any other jobs
Starting point is 00:18:23 that are offering me an opportunity. So I'll take this one. So for me, it was really like a job. So I never like, it didn't kind of define me. I kind of did it my way. Like I never became like, you know, it was like, oh, they need to be glamorous. I was never glamorous. I'm a jeans and t-shirt type of girl. Like, and if I needed to go to parties or hang out with this type of people, I never did any of that. Like I went there, I did my job. I did the best that I could. I never was late in my life for my jobs. Like never showed up like late. I was there before everyone. I was there a hundred percent. You know, I, I, I just wanted to make sure that if people were booking me and they were trusting in me, that I was going to show up and deliver, you know?
Starting point is 00:19:08 And I think that's kind of what it was. I did it my way, you know, and it didn't broke me kind of. Because I saw, you know, people in this business, you know, you can lose yourself. Because if you drink the Kool-Aid, if you start thinking, you know, like you lose yourself in it. I never lost myself. It was just a job. And it's still just a job. I can't even believe I'm still doing it. Sometimes I go in and I do it. You know, it's not yourself in it. I never lost myself. It was just a job. And it's still just a job. I can't even believe I'm still doing it.
Starting point is 00:19:27 Sometimes I go in and I do it. You know, it's not what I do full time anymore. But it's just one of those things that, you know, I got to do this. I got to make a career out of it. And I got to make a great living and help my family. And I have wonderful, you know, I got to travel the world and learn different languages and all of that. And that's how I see it. I don't see it as a, I don't see myself as like-
Starting point is 00:19:48 You're not defined by it. Not at all. You're not caught up in the kind of dark underbelly of that very strange world. This whole world is like, almost like a parallel reality for me. You know what I mean? It's something, it's like a switch on button.
Starting point is 00:20:00 I go there, I do my job. I take my picture, I turn it off. I go home and I have the same friends, I have my family, I'm very close with my family. But I think you're very good at seeing opportunities when they arise. And you tell a little story in the new book about being 14 and en route to Tokyo
Starting point is 00:20:19 and your parents gave you, your dad gave you a little bit of money that was intended for getting a cab from the airport. That's the first day I arrived in Sao Paulo. And instead of using that money, oh, it was Sao... That's when I first moved to Sao... You were super young, right?
Starting point is 00:20:32 So you had a little bit of money to take a cab and you had the presence of mind to say, this money would be better spent buying some clothes so I can do better in my auditions or whatnot, which isn't like, that's not normal. Like that's somebody who's thinking ahead, who's planning long-term, who's understanding that they have an opportunity
Starting point is 00:20:53 in front of them and trying to figure out how to make the most out of it with limited resources. And I think that speaks to, or says a lot about your sensibility or your perspective as a business person. Yeah. I mean, it's so interesting to see it that way. I mean, for me at that moment in time, you know, I just felt like I did something else than that. You know, that was one of the things. Now that you're saying that, I actually did that throughout because I bought my first apartment
Starting point is 00:21:21 when I was 19 years old. And when everybody was buying, you know, designer bags, all the models and, you know, remember, I didn't know I was going to last in this business. I thought like, I didn't go to school. I didn't go to high school. I didn't, you know, I left, I went to work and whenever I go, I go back, I thought I was going to be a farmer or something because I just always loved the land. And, but I didn't think like, you know, like, where am I going to go from here? So I have to make sure that I have at least a place to live. I'm a cancer. So I want to have like a stable home. And when I was 19, you know, people start flying me first class because I was like the model of the year. I saw the clients now are paying me first class. I was exchanging those
Starting point is 00:21:59 tickets for coach classes because I was every two, three days in a different country. And instead of paying a rent in an apartment, I put down a down payment for an apartment. And then I was paying my mortgage instead of paying rent. Yeah, and you're 19. And I was 19. So I own my first apartment. I was 19 years old. It was like in New York City. It was like facing a wall of another building, mind you.
Starting point is 00:22:24 It was like a very small City. It was like facing a wall of another building, mind you. It was like a very small apartment. It was horrible. That's smart. That does require some maturity and some long-term thinking. Well, because I just thought to myself, I don't know how long I'm going to stay here. At least I have to have a place to live. I'm not going to live empty-handed. You know what I mean? What do I care about a bag or what is that going to give me? It's not going to be a roof over my head. I need to make sure that I have, that I can spend in the right places. But I think that sense came from my mother because we grew up, you know, my mother was a cashier in the bank. My father had like lots of different jobs. Like he had a real estate job, but he was, you know, my mom, like literally we were like really simple people
Starting point is 00:23:01 and grew up in two bedrooms with six girls and, and, and money was always tight. So I learned how to, it's the same thing in the book is like, how do you prepare? How do you not waste food? I mean, everything is like, I think in my life I was kind of like raised that way. You know what I mean? Kind of plan ahead, like for tomorrow. So you make sure that you have like food for everyone. Like, like we're going to reuse the meat we cook on the barbecue and we're going to put it in the rice. We're going to have character. So you're going to have an abundant meal because we have the rest of the, you know what I mean? It's kind of like that.
Starting point is 00:23:31 It's like you put money in the bank. So when you retire, you have something to, to live off when you can no longer work. The same thing I feel about food, like you eat the right food. So when you're older, you, you're able to have the energy and your body's functioning because you made the right choices. So for me, it's the same thing, you know, to have the energy and your body is functioning because you made the right choices. So for me, it's the same thing. You know, it's kind of making like just being kind of what is necessary here. Like, do I really need this? What do I need more?
Starting point is 00:23:54 Do I need a roof over my head or do I need this bags and this stuff? Do I need to take a taxi when I arrive to the model's apartment when I'm 14, even though I've never been to the city? Or can I take the subway and save the money so I can get the clothes for the casting and maybe I can get a job? It's like, it's kind of thinking like, with the resources that I have right now, what is the smartest? Sure.
Starting point is 00:24:15 How is the smartest way to use them, I guess. There feels like a distinction, a difference between Giselle Bundchen and the things that you care about being this sort of homebody, family person, holistic lifestyle, like all of this stuff. And then, you know, Giselle, the runway, you know, on the runway. Like it's almost an alter ego. It might be an alter ego, but you know what it is?
Starting point is 00:24:54 It's a character. I always call it her. Because I think being a model, what I understood as being a model is to play a character in a silent movie. You know, you get to experience all these different aspects of being a woman, let's say, because one designer wants you to be more androgynous, you know? One designer wants...
Starting point is 00:25:15 You know, I remember doing a Balenciaga campaign. I was like, they made me a boy. I was like, literally, like a week, I was like a man, a boy. And in one, I was like the sexy Versace campaign, like, you know, like with big hair and like, you know, push up bra, you know? So it was kind of like, I got to play from the androgynous girl to this very sexy,
Starting point is 00:25:37 to the tomboy. Like I got to, you know, I mean, you should see, I don't know if you ever saw my book, the other one that was like the 20 years, I did a 20 year anniversary book. Well, I watched the video that you did where you kind of went through it and you were talking about what was going on with you with each of those photographs. Yeah, so it's really about kind of playing these different roles,
Starting point is 00:25:56 but it's just instead of you talking like you would be in a movie, you've got to make the image, that picture, that one capture image to— It's a performance art. It's a performance art. It's a performance art. Yeah, but it's such a weird world though. I know that like Alexander McQueen, he was like, he was really the catalyst, right? He was the guy who kind of made it happen for you.
Starting point is 00:26:14 He gave me the chance. But when you watch his shows or some of these other shows, like the designs are stunning and gorgeous, but they're also totally inaccessible. It's like, who wears this? Does anybody, is there anybody in the world that even wears, I mean, if you're Lady Gaga, I guess, or somebody like that. He's a fantasy.
Starting point is 00:26:32 Yeah, it's a fantasy. And so it's curious, like, how does that translate into, I guess it's just how you feel and how you think about a particular designer or a brand, and not so much about directly selling those designs to the person who's going to the department store or the boutique, right? Yeah, they're not thinking that. I don't even understand the business model of the whole thing. Yeah, I mean, neither to be honest with you, but I think it's a really, I mean, I think it has changed a lot since I started. Like I see a big shift
Starting point is 00:27:04 because I think before there was a lot more creativity. There was allowed a lot more creativity. I think, you know, McQueen or John Galliano, you know, the shows and stuff like you were like in a fantasy world. Sure. And the photographers being rock stars themselves. Oh, yeah. And I think it was a moment in time where there was so much less about selling, in time where there was so much less about selling,
Starting point is 00:27:25 but it was much more about the inspiration and the aspiring, you know, the aspiration of creating like a fantasy and like, and it was a lot of fun then, I have to say at that time, because I mean, it was a lot. I would have been dead. I wouldn't have survived it. I would have gone all in.
Starting point is 00:27:38 I would have been at every after hours party. It would have been a disaster. You see, I was in bed, like studying my astrology books to like by 10, you know, that was me. I was like by 10, I was like, oh no, I have to go. I was like, I have to start early so I can go to bed early. So for me, it was a different thing. But, you know, but I guess for me,
Starting point is 00:27:58 I also felt very responsible because I didn't want to, one of the guiding lights for me, I really believe was my parents because I saw how hard they work and I didn't want to disappoint them so I think part of like me being so stay on the line was like I'm not disappointing my parents I don't care if they're not here they are gonna know what I'm doing like I remember part of the reason why I got so freaked out about the McQueen show when they sent me out like without a top, because I couldn't speak English and they didn't even do a fitting anyway. So then I was like, oh my God,
Starting point is 00:28:30 if my parents see this, they're gonna make me go back home. And then I, you know. What is it like when you go back home? But it wasn't an internet, but there was no internet in 1997. And it wasn't, so thank God, because they didn't even saw that.
Starting point is 00:28:42 Otherwise they would be like, what are you doing? I'd be like, I don't know. And you have five siblings, right? I have five sisters. I'm a middle child. I have two older sisters and two younger sisters. And I'm a twin in the middle. So we are like the sandwich, like the cheese in the sandwich.
Starting point is 00:28:58 Being Brazilian, you're connected to the Amazon and to climate change issues. And you've done a lot in terms of your environmental advocacy and clean water initiatives. Talk a little bit about how that began and what that looks like now. You know, I've always been a big, basically like a child of nature. I always tell my children when they ask, you know, what's your religion? They say, mom, we don't go to church.
Starting point is 00:29:23 I say, you know what? You're in church every day. I say, what do I say when people ask what my religion is? I say, love is your religion and nature is your church. That's your cathedral. That's the big church. That's our temple, you know? So you honor your temple. You love your temple. Because that's the only reason why we are all alive, because this whole ecosystem is making it possible, you know, to grow our food, to provide us with all the things we need to survive. And that's how I grew up. I felt that way, and especially having a grandmother that everything was from the earth.
Starting point is 00:29:52 You know, she grew everything she ate, and, you know, the earth was giving us the herbs that we needed to, like, when we fell ill. And I grew up in that way. So when you grow up in that way and you grow up running around bare feet you know I come from a small village and anytime you want to eat something you grab there is like a tangerine tree or like an orange tree or is a plum tree and you just go and pick up the fruit from the tree we never bought fruits from the supermarket you know you go either you had it in your backyard or your neighbor had it or the other neighbor you know somebody had the fruit you wanted to eat you just go grab it So I think when you leave with that connection to nature,
Starting point is 00:30:26 you have a different appreciation. It's like, so I feel like nature is just like, it's me. Like, I think we are, you know, we are that. And I think this connection from nature for me is just something I've always known, you know, is how I grew up. And so for me, taking care of which I love, which is nature, is natural. So, but the first time I realized there was really problems happening is when I went to actually spend some time with the indigenous people in the Xingu area of the Amazon in
Starting point is 00:30:59 the 2004. And that's when the first time I realized, you know, pesticide, what pesticides were doing, what mining was doing, how they were contaminating the rivers and basically all the indigenous tribes they were living in, depending on that water, they were getting sick. And even though they were living very wholesomely, you know, with nature and, you know, by the impact that the big farms and different mining and all that stuff was having, um, was really, um, having a really terrible impact in their, in their, their livelihoods. And, and that's when the first time I was like, I need to do something about it.
Starting point is 00:31:32 And that's when I started, like I had a flip-flop line at the time in Brazil and we gave a percentage, you know, to, that's actually a funny story. The, the, the indigenous people. And I was like, I wonder what they would do with this, with this funds. But it was like a group that helped indigenous in Brazil. And the funny enough, when I did, when I turned 40, this was in 2004. So I was like 24, cut to when I'm 40, 2020, I was 40. I wanted to do something for my 40th birthday. And I was like, oh, I want to plant some trees in the Amazon and how are we going to do it? So we looked around for who can help us do that.
Starting point is 00:32:07 And we contacted the people that are working with the indigenous people that we knew in Brazil. And they're like, we have the largest seed bank in the Amazon. And we started with the money, with the whole program that you gave in 2004, that money that was for the sale of the flip-flops. Now, years later, they had the largest seed bank of you know the indigenous they collected the largest seed bank and this is how with that whole group of people we basically planted over 300,000 trees in that area of the Amazon so that was like years
Starting point is 00:32:36 later so that's just how funny how life goes but for me because I was so connected to nature and I always wanted to help and my dad always said you know water is the most thing. And of course I saw that with the indigenous people, because that's how they were all getting sick because all the residue of mining and pesticides were going into their water. In my little village, we were having a lot of problems with agriculture as well, where there was a lot of runoffs from Roundup and all this stuff that they use in agriculture, all the pesticides and stuff. And it was getting a lot of people sick. So we actually did the Agua Limpa program in 2000 and I think it was 2009 or so. I don't remember when we started, but it was like a long time ago. And I funded it. And my dad, who's also a sociologist, worked with the university and we
Starting point is 00:33:20 basically regenerated the whole area of the river that was kind of, you know, getting the water to the city, and we were able to clean it. It took us like a few years to do it, you know. It was pretty simple because all we had to do, I mean, it was not simple. My dad is the one who did the work. It was simpler for me. I just kind of funded it.
Starting point is 00:33:37 But he was there every day. He had to work with, I don't know how many farmers. You had to take their piece of land and kind of grow the native species forest, you know, the native forest back. So then there was a buffer and then the root systems could filtrate it before all that stuff would go into the river. And then that was the Agua Limpa project. And that was one of the projects we did to clean the water. And anyway, so there's lots of different things.
Starting point is 00:34:01 But in the overall thing, my thing is, we gotta take care of Mother Earth. She takes care of us. When people say to me, oh, we're gonna save the planet. I say, that's such an ego thing. As humans, we think we're gonna save anything. The planet is in her own process of evolution. This is a, I mean, dinosaurs were here before us and Lemuria, I mean, so many different civilizations.
Starting point is 00:34:24 The planet will be fine. That's what I always say. I say, please don't fool yourself. I think we are really saving ourselves. We need to, yeah. I say there's no saving the planet. We need to reel ourselves back. Yeah, this is really about us protecting the resources
Starting point is 00:34:36 and taking care of what we really need for our survival because once we are gone, the planet is going to regenerate. I mean, I've seen this over and over again. The planet regenerates itself so quickly, you know, because it's just a very intelligent, we need to learn from nature instead of like trying to control nature, we need to just like take a humble pill
Starting point is 00:34:56 and learn from the big mama. We've moved so far away from that. And we do live in this dualistic mindset where we think there's our environments and then there's nature or there's us and that's outside. But really understanding that you're never out of nature as you said, I think is the first point of trying to really deepen your relationship
Starting point is 00:35:23 with the world in which you live. We all live and share. And I think when it comes to the Amazon, like we all hear about deforestation and all the clearing that's going on for cattle grazing and the strip mining and all the stuff that you mentioned, but it's an abstraction, especially for people in North America.
Starting point is 00:35:44 Like we know what's going on, we know it's bad, but I've never visited there. Like I've never seen it myself. And you being Brazilian gives you kind of a deeper appreciation and understanding of the extent of it. You know, I think it's how people tell the story because I think it's a lot deeper than, you know, I think people like,
Starting point is 00:36:03 depending on the industry that wants to benefit from something, they tell the story and they people, like, depending on the industry, they want to benefit from something. They tell the story and they say, okay, this is what we're going to do is about the cattle. The greenwashing aspect of it, you mean? Oh, yeah. It's so crazy. A lot of NGOs go in there and they say, we're going to have an NGO because we're going to, like, protect Amazon.
Starting point is 00:36:16 But they're, meantime, they're the owners of the bigger paper company that comes from the Amazon. They are just not, you know what I mean? It's not all as it seems. No, it's a very, it's a wild, wild west there. And one of the biggest, you know, I've been there a few times and also done a lot of, um, just kind of like talking to people and understanding what happens there. And a lot of the, you know, there's ancient woods there and a lot of that goes to
Starting point is 00:36:39 Europe. So like what a lot of the cattle, for example, is what they use to kind of occupy the land. But what they're really after, which is really valuable there, is like gold and, you know, the- The rare metals? The rare metals, yeah. The rare metals and the gold and all that stuff that's in there, that's what interests this,
Starting point is 00:36:59 like, you know, the different countries, let's say they're not Brazil. When they, and because it's so corrupt, unfortunately, you know, Brazil is very corrupt. The politicians are very corrupt. What happens is they sell those rights to those countries. And then we have what we have. And then the cattle, like in the end, they just kind of put them there because they have to occupy the land after they, because they have to enter. After they've removed everything.
Starting point is 00:37:23 Because they have to remove the- The value. The value. Then they put all the cows there. That's what they do. So they remove the ancient wood. They remove the precious metals. But they have to get there because if you fly over it,
Starting point is 00:37:37 I mean, you're flying for hours over just a green carpet. So for you to have access to that, you have to, you can't just like clear cut because it grows. So what they do to keep the forest from growing, they just throw, because it's very fertile, the soil, as soon as you cut, because imagine that soil has been there, like receiving all those healthy bacteria from the leaves falling, super fertile.
Starting point is 00:37:59 So within like three days you can, grass grows. And then in order for the trees not to keep growing, because if you just leave abandoned, that's what's gonna happen. The birds are gonna carry the seeds, they're gonna drop the seeds, things are gonna start growing again, and then they won't have access, you know?
Starting point is 00:38:12 So they kind of, it's just like a cycle. But what they're really after, what they're really after it is the big stuff. And it's not, unfortunately, you know, it's so sad, you know, it's greed. In the end of the day, it's greed. And it's greed by people that, you know, they don't have those natural resources where they are. And they understand the situation in Brazil and how corrupt the system is, you know, with the politicians.
Starting point is 00:38:42 And they come and they just buy those rights. They exploit it. They exploit it. They exploit it in every way. But in the end of the day, I think greed is the biggest disease of our time. You're not going to get to know yourself. Back to the wellness stuff. You're so intentional with food and lifestyle practices,
Starting point is 00:39:19 breath work, like all of these kind of protocols and the ways in which you live that you express and explain in this book, it's a lot. And you have two kids, how old are they now? Like 15, 14, 11. And I have a bonus child that is like gonna be 17, so. Oh, okay. How do you instill these choices in your parenting? How do you get your kids
Starting point is 00:39:50 excited about the things that are in their best interest from a wellness perspective? I think the number one thing I feel is like monkey see, monkey does, right? I think you have to be the example. You have to live it. Because I think whatever you say is one thing and whatever you do, they need to kind of, they need to, whatever you say, whatever you do, they have to be the same thing, right? Sympatico. Yeah, they have to be simpatico.
Starting point is 00:40:16 And that's what it is. And I think for the kids, for my kids were a lot easier because I was home a lot with them. So I was, you know, taking them to school every day, making their breakfast, you know, just having my gardens at home, growing the food. So when the kids would come for play dates at the house, you know, my kids were grabbing like everything raw, cucumbers, carrots, like green beans. They were just grabbing it from the garden and like collecting things and putting in the basket. It was like a game for them. And it was
Starting point is 00:40:41 like, oh, friends are coming over. Why are we going to grab for the first to do a picnic outside and then so they grew up in that way you know they they uh so it was easier for me to feed them healthier food and and and explain to them you know we always composted we had bees at our house um so you know they they were learning about you know when the beekeeper would come and they explain you you know, how much honey can you take and how much honey do you leave for the bees and how does a queen bee work and all that. So they were. They're emotionally connected. They were emotionally connected. They were part of that, like I was as a kid.
Starting point is 00:41:18 So for them, it's really natural. And they were also homeschooled for the last three years during the whole pandemic thing. And we moved from Boston to Tampa, so it was a whole new world for them. So I homeschooled them, and now they just went back to school. But I have to tell you, I see a huge difference, especially because my son is 14 now,
Starting point is 00:41:38 so he wants to kind of push back. This is what I'm getting at. Well, how old are your kids? Well, they range from 28 to 16 and each one of there's four and each of them is different, but it's a delicate dance because, you know, we raised our kids similarly, but they reach a certain age and part of individuation and maturing
Starting point is 00:42:03 is taking ownership for your own choices and understanding what you stand for and what you don't. And in order to really define that and hone that, you have to go out and kind of push the envelope and try new things. Otherwise, it's just something you're doing because that's the way you were raised and that's what your parents told you as opposed to really owning it for yourself. And so we have learned that you have to have the reins very loose and let them go out and do what they want to do and control the environment at home, but be, you know, very kind of nonplussed if they go and make a choice that you wouldn't make or whatever, and just be curious about it and allow them the space to do that. And you hope they come back
Starting point is 00:42:48 and do it the way you taught them to. And sometimes they do and sometimes they don't. And again, every one of them is different in our case, but as they get to a certain point, and especially when they're with peers and friends and they're in social situations, those things they have to learn for themselves. And you have to allow them to, I think. It's so interesting to say that.
Starting point is 00:43:10 So you have to let go a little bit. Let go and let God. Yeah. I tell myself that is like a mantra. You know, and I remind myself of like my mom let me leave home. She emancipated me and I was living in Japan at 14 and there was no cell phones. Like I call, you know. Can you imagine doing that for one of your children right now? No. And actually, you know, it is so funny because I was having a conversation with my son about that.
Starting point is 00:43:34 He, he was complaining, you know, I have chores in my house, you know, kids have to do their chores. So set the table, wash the dishes, you know, now I make a point, you know, I cook at, you know, they come from school, I'm cooking, you know, so one has to set the table, whoever sets the table, wash the dishes. You know, now I make a point, you know, I cook at, you know, they come from school, I'm cooking, you know, so one has to set the table, whoever sets the table, the other has to wash the dishes. And there is like, you have to clean your room. You have to do the basic stuff, you know. My daughter is doing amazingly.
Starting point is 00:43:55 She loves it. And she's like really good and very proud of herself. Mom, look how good I clean the dishes. Like she's really good and she's washing herself. She's not putting it in the machine. She wants to learn how to really wash it and do it right. And she's very focused on it. My son is like, always like, why do I have to do this?
Starting point is 00:44:11 So actually, we had like a breakthrough this Christmas, this whole holiday season. Because he says to me, I'm going to leave home when I'm 18, mom. And I don't know if I'm going to go to college. You didn't go to college. You didn't go to school. I'm going to just leave home when I'm 18. And I'm going to do this and I'm going to do that I'm like okay that's great so you're going to live in your own apartment and who's going to cook for you and who's going to wash your dishes and who's going to clean your clothes who's going to do that
Starting point is 00:44:34 and he's like for a second he's like because you're not going to have a chef and like a you know like and he was thinking for a second and I say, well, this is why when mommy tells you to do those things at home, you know, is because I want to give you more tools for your toolbox. Because when you learn how to do those things and they become second nature to you, then you don't even have to think about it. You become empowered to do it for yourself. You don't depend on anybody. And that's nothing. It's amazing to be able to do that. I said, you know what made me feel so like strong and capable when I left my home?
Starting point is 00:45:06 Because my mom taught me how to do those things. So when I left home and I was living by myself at 14 years old, I was first at 13. At 14, I moved to Japan. But because I was living in a modest apartment, I was the only person there who knew how to clean, cook, iron, do absolutely everything in the house because my mom taught me. And it was easy for me. I didn't think it was a struggle. I was happy to do it.
Starting point is 00:45:30 And I was happy to do it for the other girls that didn't know how to do it. But if you're going to be planning on living on your own at 18, who do you think is going to do all those things for you? So all I'm telling you is, like, take advantage. The mommy is here for you right now. And I'm able to teach you all those things. The mommy's here for you right now. And I'm able to teach you all those things and you can do it at your time. I'm not telling you like at this time, you have to wash the dishes. So let me just help you. I'm going to create a list for you and you just have to do them. And you can decide if you want to wash clothes once or twice a week,
Starting point is 00:45:58 you can decide if you want to wash the dishes right after dinner or before you go to bed, whatever you want. But if you learn how to do those things, you're going to see how empowered you're going to feel. And the more tools we can put, like the more things, like the simple things that you can learn and that you can equip your toolbox to do, you're just going to be just that much like capable. And there's nothing more fulfilling than feeling like you're able to do stuff, that you're capable. And then he looked at me and he's like, okay, mom, so when we get back home,
Starting point is 00:46:27 you give me that list and I'm going to do it. I'm like, I like- I was going to say like, he actually received that. I think I'm a big through, I think I got a big through. The hormones are raging, like whatever, mom, you know, storming off, like you can get that reaction too. That was good, good job. Don't you think that was a good thing but you but i used but you see it was a moment that i used what he
Starting point is 00:46:49 said because when he thought to himself that's true how am i gonna do all that stuff i say you don't want to live in like a you know a messy stinky place that is not clean like you know you want to like have you know so you need to know how to do this stuff. And I think all, I see like all the things that happen in life like that, like different tools we acquire, you know, even the job that I, you know, my job, like all the tools that I've acquired in this job, all the things that I've learned to do that I don't know when I'm going to use. I use them for my job, but maybe I'm going to, they're going to be useful like in 20 years from my life. Sure. But you came from very different circumstances. It's the peril of success, right? Like you and the kid's dad like worked very hard
Starting point is 00:47:32 to achieve all of these things in life. And now they're reared in, you know, like an insane degree of privilege. And it becomes more difficult to instill that kind of work ethic into somebody who, you know, grows up that way. I think you're correct. I think it becomes a lot more difficult to instill that kind of work ethic into somebody who, you know, grows up that way. I think you're correct. I think it becomes a lot more difficult, but I think it goes back to the discipline and it goes back to priorities. And I think for me, it becomes about
Starting point is 00:47:57 what kind of, you know, I feel like I'm their guardian because we don't possess our children, right? I mean, we just come here. They come through us. But they're as much as our teachers as we are their teachers. And we're constantly learning and teaching, you know, in every relationship in our life. And I feel that we get this moment in time, which is very short in a way, that we get to influence our children. Because then they go, I mean, look at my parents. They had 14 years to influence me. Then I was out into the world and I never went back. And I keep remembering like,
Starting point is 00:48:29 what are all the things that if they wouldn't have taught me those things, where would I be today? And I'm so grateful for them for, for those lessons. And I feel like, yes, I grew up in very different circumstances than my kids. And it is a bit more challenging to have them, you know, make their bed and wash the dishes and clean their, you know, when I have a person that can do it too. But I make a point of me doing it. So then they learn that, oh, mommy's doing the dinner. Mommy is making the breakfast.
Starting point is 00:48:56 Mommy is, so they're like, we can do it. You have to model. You have to model. And I feel like. It's a different kind of modeling. It's the type of modeling that I prefer. It's the type of modeling that I find to be the important type of modeling because that's the you know I mean what's the most the most important thing you're going to do in your life I feel like raising children is is by far the most challenging thing I've ever done and the most
Starting point is 00:49:19 fulfilling at the same time and you know but I feel that, but I feel that if, if I don't do that, if I don't equip my children to be good, capable assets, you know, for themselves in their lives, if they're not going to be, then I fail. I feel. Yeah, you haven't done your job. Then I haven't done my job. I mean, I feel that that's my job. I mean, that's a job I do to kind of make a living so I can like, you know, put food on the table and have, but my real job as, as I think as a, as a mom and I chose to be a mom, so I have to show up for my kids. And I feel like these things that my, you know, I think is really what shaped me and what made me who I am today was definitely the upbringing that I had and, and what my parents, how they guided me. And I feel like that's really important. So I make that a priority in my life to make sure that my kids are going to have, even though they don't have those same needs, you know, to do those
Starting point is 00:50:16 things, because my mom didn't have a person she could pay to come clean the house. We had to, you clean the bathroom, you clean the, you know, it was like a list. All of us have to share between us who's going to do what. And we grew up that way. And it was kind of fun because, you clean the bathroom. You know, it was like a list all of us have to share between us, who's going to do what. And we grew up that way. And it was kind of fun because, you know, I was always, I always loved the cleaning part. You know, I love organizing and cleaning. I feel like a clean house is a clean mind.
Starting point is 00:50:35 It's like what's out is in. You know, if like everything is organized outside, I can think. And I tell my kids that and I feel that if I can really get them to do those simple things in life, you know, and, and learn those things and teach them how to be self-sufficient and capable human beings, I feel like I've done my job and then I can rest. And then whatever else they do, the choices they make, if they choose to eat the food that I fed them when they were little, if now they want to go eat, you know, whatever, or, I mean, it's going to be what they're going to do. You know, they're going to choose their friends. Hopefully they choose wisely because
Starting point is 00:51:12 in the end of the day, they are going to be the one dealing with the consequences of their actions. And I always tell them like, listen, you know, you're going to go out there and you're going to make the choice, whatever choice you make, there are going to be consequences. You're dealing with those consequences, not me. This is your life. And sometimes they need choice, whatever choice you make, there are gonna be consequences. You're dealing with those consequences, not me. This is your life. And sometimes they need to make those mistakes and face those consequences. Like we had.
Starting point is 00:51:31 I mean, how many mistakes did I have on this? And those experiences are formative. Like I'm sure if you look in the rear view mirror and think about the panic attacks that you were having on airplanes and your inability to get into an elevator and this desire to jump off your balcony, on some level,
Starting point is 00:51:50 you wouldn't wish that experience on anybody, but you probably wouldn't wanna change your experience either because it's set in motion, this whole sensibility and way of being that you now have. And I think with kids, regardless of whether they hear you in the moment or whether they go out into the world and make a bunch of mistakes,
Starting point is 00:52:10 like they come back. Yeah. And whatever you taught them, it's in there. And at some point when they're ready or whatever, like they return to it. And I think to trust that, it's very important. And I also feel like- Because if you try to overly control it, you're going to drive them away. Absolutely. And I think for me, I keep going back to me as a kid and the trust my parents had in me
Starting point is 00:52:38 to let me go. And I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for them trusting in me and for all the mistakes that I've made and then had to come the other side and figure out for myself. So I think it's important to give our children the dignity of their own process, you know, because we had a dignity, you know, we have to go through our own process to become who we are. And I think as long as they know that we are there and what, what is our values, you know, it's like those things that are important. What is that we stand for? What's important for us, you know, as a value, as a core value, as being a good human being and a good person.
Starting point is 00:53:17 And if you thought that your children and they got it, in the end of the day, they're going to go out there in the world and they're gonna have to make their mistakes. And I think the best thing you can do for them is just be there for them whenever they come back and if they want your help. You know, and I think it's hard because you want to protect them. Like, you can put bubble wrap on them
Starting point is 00:53:39 so like nothing will touch them and they will be safe. But in the end of the day, that's unrealistic. And it's like- It doesn't work anyway. You know what? I like this idea. You know, there's a metaphor of the butterfly. Imagine the caterpillar as she is transforming into becoming the butterfly.
Starting point is 00:53:55 She's, you know, eating, eating all the, you know, until she finally starts spinning into a cocoon. And then she has to like go through that whole strenuous process if you've ever seen like you know they turn into glop yeah but they're like but it's exactly it's just and it's really kind of like hard to like when they're coming out it's like really awkward and it looks like there's very strenuous and very difficult so if you go in there and you try to help them come out you're gonna cripple them you're gonna cripple the butterfly and she won't be able to have the strength she needs to.
Starting point is 00:54:26 The struggle is crucial to the growth. And you have to give them the dignity of their own process. You have to, and I keep reminding myself, I cannot take away that opportunity for them because my parents gave me the opportunity for me to go through my own challenges and I grew and I want my kids to have that same opportunity because whoever they're going to become is going to be based on
Starting point is 00:54:50 what their choices and hopefully I gave them enough good example and good values where they would make the choices that is right for them, you know? What is it that you want people to understand or take away from the new book and how you are modeling this lifestyle, whether it's dietary changes, lifestyle changes, movement practices, how can somebody who is interested in kind of leveling up across the board begin the process of making those changes in their life?
Starting point is 00:55:27 It's funny because when I decided to do a cookbook, I'm the farthest thing there is from a chef, let me tell you something. I'm not a chef. Let's be honest, you've got a private chef at home. That person is taking care of everything for you. I have, not anymore, I used to. You don't anymore?
Starting point is 00:55:41 No, I don't. I don't. Come on. No, the last two years, I don't. You're cooking your own meals? Yes, I'm cooking my own meals, yeah. I grew up that way, and I want, like I told you, like my priority is showing my kids what I believe is important for them. And I can't say, oh, this is important, and I'm not doing it.
Starting point is 00:56:01 You know what I mean? So it has to be cohesive, right? And I think that for me, really being like living what I believe is very important. And I was showing my kids that this is important to me. Like the only way I'm going to show them that is by doing that. So yes, I had chefs and this is how I learned how to cook a lot of the things. A lot of the recipes in the book are like inspired by the things that I created with the chefs that I had throughout the years. I had the opportunity to, you know, to really work with incredible people,
Starting point is 00:56:30 incredible chefs, people that love food as much as I do, because I love food. But was really an idea for me to, look, I can say, go and meditate, go and exercise. You know, I believe meditation. I believe rest. I believe exercise. I believe nutrition. I believe exercise. I believe nutrition. All of those things are extremely important for you to be able to take kind of
Starting point is 00:56:52 ownership of your health and really take care of yourself and have, and work on just having a more clear mind and just feeling more connected to yourself. I think all of those things are different aspects of it. But the reason about the cookbook is quite frankly, I was seeing kids were coming to our house and in play dates and, and moms will come and be like, how did you get my kid to eat broccoli or roasted vegetables? Or, and it was like so simple. And I was like, oh, maybe we can share how to make some simple recipes that are super easy. You can make it like in 10 minutes. And you know, moms, some, you know, you just sometimes feel overwhelmed. And I know because life is busy. There's so much going on. So I was like, how can I help in this way? And also I feel like food is a perfect time
Starting point is 00:57:35 for you to practice being present and mindful because you can eat like on a rush and not being present and the food have a one effect in your body or you can do something which is what I talk about in the book is like every time I look at my food not only the act of preparing your food there's so much love and you're touching the food and you're connecting with your food that's one thing but even if you're not the one cooking your food just to take a moment to bless your food to acknowledge that that is something that is alive, that you're taking it, and that's also your source of life. So it's kind of like connecting to the food in that way. I think it does something because everything is energy. So you're having a transfer of energy
Starting point is 00:58:16 with something and with the intention that you're eating, it has a different... I feel huge when I start doing that. It does make a difference. Just being mindful about that. Just being present and being connected to what you're doing, having gratitude for that moment. And you get to do that three times a day. I mean, now I have a juice once a day, but I still blast my juice. But it's just kind of like – this book, what I to to for people to take is like it can be really simple it doesn't have to be complicated to to eat healthy and really like if you have plans you
Starting point is 00:58:53 know my mom taught me you know since i was a kid like no food waste so how can we organize our meals so you can so there's a big thing about like reducing waste yeah that's for me that's huge and also like meal planning like if you're gonna buy because or Yeah, for me, that's huge. And also like meal planning. Like if you're going to buy, because, you know, food sourcing, that's huge. It's not about having something with a lot of condiments and a lot of stuff. It's just like, keep it simple, but buying really great quality products. Like if you can do that, and then instead of like, because a lot of people are like, oh, and then you buy organic and then you throw it out because it's like, you know,
Starting point is 00:59:23 it spoils much faster. And I'm like, yeah, but if you have a meal planning and I teach that, I kind of give some suggestions in the book. Like my mom did that. I grew up like that because she didn't have time. You know, she was working all the time. So she had like in the fridge, like what are we going to have for the whole week? So she would go to the groceries and she would buy and then the things were allowed to the next day. So you would always know what we were eating and things that wouldn't be eaten
Starting point is 00:59:45 could be easily transferred for the next day and be made into the next meal. Organized so that nothing spoils and you're getting to the things. So nothing spoils and you never had food waste because you're always taking it from one day to the next. So it's never wasted and you always have great quality food.
Starting point is 00:59:57 You get organized. You have like your broths and all those things that you cook like on the weekend and you put it in the freezer. So you always, broth makes everything taste better. So if you make a rice, if you make a soup, anything, you just put broth in it is amazing. You're making it, even if you're making a grilled chicken, you just put broth in it, makes it amazing.
Starting point is 01:00:13 So it was just like introducing an idea of how can we eat healthier and how can we also practice in a way a meditation because you know maybe people don't are not going to sit for 30 minutes or 15 minutes however long in meditation but if they can just take that moment and then it just becomes the practice of observing and of having these moments of gratitude in a day it just changes your life because it's kind of like you practice you start little by little. And when you realize you're having moments of gratitude a hundred times a day about everything, because that kind of seed was planted. And then you're like, wow, like I get to experience this or I get, and then life suddenly changes because the ordinary becomes extraordinary. Like the
Starting point is 01:01:02 you know, for us is ordinary, maybe to have a plate of food, but for so many people, it's not, you know? Well, the more kind of mindfulness and presence that you can bring to a mundane experience, the more extraordinary it becomes. And then life becomes amazing, you know? It's great.
Starting point is 01:01:17 Yeah, no, it's a beautiful book and it's very accessible. And like you said, like, it's simple. It's like simple stuff, easy to prepare, super healthy. Let me ask you this. What is the thing, what is the challenge or the obstacle that you're facing right now that you're trying to work through this year?
Starting point is 01:01:38 Like what is coming up for you in the spirit of bringing intentionality into kind of the new year and what you want to manifest and express? You know, I think I'm always working constantly in patience and in being patient and just accepting the timing of things, you know, from the simple things like I have a project or something i'm working on and i'm like and people are not moving at the speed that i want or i'm doing a construction and like you know it's supposed to be finished and it's like still not like you know in whatever area it is i think one of the things that i really am working on is to not allow the outside
Starting point is 01:02:24 you know the intensity of whatever is happening allow the outside, the intensity of whatever is happening in the outside. There's a lot of noise around you. There's a lot of noise. That has to be hard. If we had more time, I'd love to hear more about that. Yeah, we have to. That has to be challenging. Yeah, there's a lot of noise.
Starting point is 01:02:37 So I think the thing is, how do I look at everything and have the patience and the compassion also for myself and for others and just kind of be in that space of, you know, allowing things to be what they are and not try to change them and just accept them for what they are and release that and just be and just kind of go back to putting the focus on the things that I can control and just keep working at that. That's like an everyday. Ongoing. Yeah, it's an everyday. I can't imagine.
Starting point is 01:03:16 Exercise. And I guess, you know, I get to do those things. I feel like, you know, this is happening for me. I'm not the type of person that's like, why is this happening to me? I'm like, why is this happening for me? What are, there's always an opportunity for me to, to grow. And, and, and, and there's always so many. So, but I think this of just kind of accepting what is, is it's, it's, um, it's a kind of something that's on my consciousness and is constantly coming to me every day for me to exercise patience, compassion for myself, for others, and just kind of stay on that. Things are exactly as they are and it's perfect.
Starting point is 01:03:57 Everything is perfect as is. Well, I need a little bit more of that in my life too. Yeah. It's a practice. It's like I haven't achieved that yet, but that's what I'm working on. I'll let you know if I get to the other side. I gotta let you go. So thank you so much. That was absolutely delightful. Thank you. So fun meeting you and talking to you. Everybody pick up the new book, Nourish,
Starting point is 01:04:20 your favorite bookseller. We'll link all that stuff up in the show notes and come back and talk to me again sometime. It's super fun. And I'm going to go straight to Erewhon and get your new smoothie. That's why you came to LA to get that up on its feet. I had like four yesterday. I was like, oh my God, I ate so much. I couldn't even eat at dinner barely last night. But it's the immune booster smoothie because Gaia herbs, I don't know if you know Gaia herbs. Yeah. They're amazing.
Starting point is 01:04:47 I've been using them for 20 years. Actually, when I was having my panic attacks, my doctor at the time suggested I take adrenal supplements. And that's how I learned about them 20 years ago. Funny now, 20 years later, here I am working with them because I think they're amazing. And so I wanted to do an immune boost smoothie and really a great after workout smoothie. So like something that I could just like a meal that I could have after workout. So in this one, there was like coconut meat, coconut milk, acai. You know, I grew up in acai. I love that. So superfood. There is lucuma. There is, of course, edelberry syrup from Gaia Herbs.
Starting point is 01:05:25 And I have bananas, frozen bananas. So it kind of gives like a little thickness. And, oh, yeah, I have almond butter. And I also put some collagen in there, some vanilla collagen. So it's a yummy stuff. It's really filling. You're going to like it. You have to tell me what you think about it after.
Starting point is 01:05:41 But it's really yummy. It feels like a dessert, but it's so good. It's full of good stuff. Nutrient dense. Awesome. Do I have to take out a second mortgage on my house to buy this smoothie? Maybe, right? No, but it's a meal.
Starting point is 01:05:55 I promise you, once you drink this, it's literally like a meal. So once you're done with it, you're not going to be hungry for the last four or five hours. You'll be all good to go. Cool. Awesome. Thanks. Thank you so much. That's it for today. Thank you for listening. I truly hope you enjoyed the conversation. To learn more about today's guest, including links and resources related to everything discussed today, visit the episode page at richroll.com, where you can find the entire podcast archive, as well as podcast merch, my books, Finding Ultra, Voicing Change in the Plant Power Way, as well as the Plant Power Meal Planner at meals.richroll.com. If you'd like
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