The Rich Roll Podcast - Roll On: No Shortcuts To Enlightenment

Episode Date: December 17, 2020

Post-election thoughts. Managing stress and disagreement. Connecting to gratitude. Weekly wins. And, of course, listener questions. Welcome to another edition of Roll On. Commanding co-host duties as... always is my hype man Adam Skolnick, an activist and veteran journalist perhaps best known as David Goggins’ Can’t Hurt Me co-author. Adam has written about adventure sports, environmental issues and civil rights for outlets such as The New York Times, Outside, ESPN, BBC, and Men’s Health. He is the author of One Breath and is currently hard at work on a novel. Some of the many topics explored in today’s conversation include: What can be learned from the life + death of Zappos’ Tony Hsieh; The unpredictability of happiness; The antitrust campaign to break up the tech behemoths; Rob Bell lessons on writing + self-love; Our growing adoration of ‘Feels Good Man’; and Celebrating grassroots environmental activism In addition, we answer the following listener questions: Is pursuing a more authentic life path an ego trip? How can a person with low self-esteem and avoidance discomfort develop more intimacy? Does endurance racing in your 50’s pose health risks? Thank you to Joe from northern New York, Seth from Wisconsin, and Michael from Boulder, CO. If you want your query discussed, drop it on our Facebook Page, or better yet leave a voicemail at (424) 235-4626. The visually inclined can watch our exchange on YouTube. And as always, the podcast streams wild and free on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Peace + Plants, Rich

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Starting point is 00:02:38 and how challenging it can be to find the right place and the right level of care, especially because unfortunately, not all treatment resources adhere to ethical practices. It's a real problem. A problem I'm now happy and proud to share has been solved by the people at recovery.com, who created an online support portal designed to guide, to support, and empower you to find the ideal level of care tailored to your personal needs. They've partnered with the best global behavioral health providers to cover the full spectrum of behavioral health disorders, including substance use disorders, depression, anxiety,
Starting point is 00:03:18 eating disorders, gambling addictions, and more. Navigating their site is simple. Search by insurance coverage, location, treatment type, you name it. Plus, you can read reviews from former patients to help you decide. Whether you're a busy exec, a parent of a struggling teen, or battling addiction yourself, I feel you. I empathize with you. I really do. And they have treatment options for you. empathize with you. I really do. And they have treatment options for you. Life in recovery is wonderful. And recovery.com is your partner in starting that journey. When you or a loved one need help, go to recovery.com. All right. Adam and I are back. And once again, it's time to take roll call. We're back. We took a little bit of a forced hiatus. We're going to talk about that in a second. But Adam, how are you doing? Doing great, man. Feeling good. Great to be back in the, in, well, I don't want to step on the,
Starting point is 00:04:30 it's great to be in this particular room with you right now. Yeah. Good to see you, my friend. Roll On is resuming. Not only that, we are in a brand new studio. This marks the debut of the Rich Roll Podcast HQ. I did record a podcast the other day, but this is gonna go up ahead of that. So I think officially this will be the first podcast. Well, I know it will be the first podcast that everybody gets to see the new space.
Starting point is 00:04:59 So I'm very grateful and excited about it. This is like, it feels like home already, doesn't it? It does, yeah. What do you think? I love it, man. I mean, I remember when you showed me this space a few months ago, it's happened very quickly and maybe two months ago.
Starting point is 00:05:14 Yeah, I mean, we've been working on it for a while. It was well underway when you saw it for the first time, but we did hit our stride and this final push, we got a lot done pretty quickly. So it's pretty great. We got our boy Davey over here. He's making a video that's going to take everybody behind the scenes on the whole thing, which I'm pretty excited about. And it's amazing. Now we have our own podcast headquarters. People don't realize like, well, maybe some people do, but you've gone through,
Starting point is 00:05:42 this is at least the fourth space that I know about that you've been functioning. And five, if you count two spaces or six, if you count three spaces. Well, I mean, originally it just moved wherever the guest was. Like I was sort of a traveling salesman with the thing for probably the vast majority of the history of the show. I mean, I would do them occasionally at my house, but more often than not, even when they were in Los Angeles, I would go to the person's house and set up there, which was kind of fun because you're in their environment. So they're already gonna be more relaxed.
Starting point is 00:06:15 And it's cool to like go see how other people live, like the guests that you're gonna talk to. You get an introduction into their space, which I think helps inform the conversation. And then when I would travel and go out of town and I still do this, like I have a travel case and I bring my stuff with me, but then it kind of migrated to this office.
Starting point is 00:06:37 That's where we did the podcast. I had this little janky office in West Lake. Don't call it janky. It was a little janky. It was fine, It was good. Listen, I was very grateful to have a space outside of my house to work and I would do it there.
Starting point is 00:06:49 Then we moved it into an open room in our house when the boys moved out. And that's where we started shooting video. And that's what most people have seen when they've seen the YouTube video version of the show. And then when the pandemic hit, we had to, for understandable reasons,
Starting point is 00:07:09 not be having people come over to the house all the time. So we moved it to a temporary space, which is where we've been hosting it for the last nine months or whatever. Meanwhile, while everyone's kind of sitting at home, trying to figure out what's next, we kind of went bold and locked down this 2000 square foot warehouse and began building it out.
Starting point is 00:07:30 And here we are today. Into the Rogan ditch town. So now you're the biggest podcaster in the West Valley. Listen, I think the lesson in it is I could have never envisioned or anticipated or dreamed that it would become a thing that would even be deserving of something like this. And just by showing up for it, you know, day by day and building it brick by brick, it's like the natural evolution or progression of what happens when you put in a lot of work and kind of stay out of the results. Like I've been doing it for the process, the love of the process of doing it
Starting point is 00:08:10 and just been on this journey. And it feels like I just woke up one day and here we are, but it's been eight years at this point, we just eclipsed the eight year anniversary of the show. And going hard too. Going hard. And I take from it is you could have easily said, okay, the pandemic hit.
Starting point is 00:08:26 At first you were doing things virtually like everybody else on Zoom. And then you kind of figured out a way to do it safely out of the house to keep everyone at home safe. And then it came into this. So it's like, I mean, obviously you're in a good position to be able to do it, but you were thinking, you were able to kind of flip something
Starting point is 00:08:46 that could have been kept other people cramped and their vision kind of insular and not looking to jump ahead. And you were able to kind of figure out a way to make this whole thing a move for you in a positive direction. Yeah, I mean, it's a risk, but there is something cool about investing in ourselves, especially in a moment where there's a lot of uncertainty, you know?
Starting point is 00:09:09 So it's new for me, you know, like the largesse of the whole thing, like getting used to it and feeling deserving of it is a growth arc for myself. Didn't you have that with your house? I still have that with my house. You still have that? Yeah. Yeah. You know, more to be revealed. Like I said, we're gonna do a video
Starting point is 00:09:28 and show everybody everything. We've got a cool lounge here and it's just a great place for a guest to come and feel comfortable. And also a place where the team can come and work also. So we're not just always a distributed group of people working on the show. Excellent, man.
Starting point is 00:09:45 So- It's such a quicker drive for me and it's right over the hill from my favorite dive spot. You and me both. What dive spot is that? I'm not saying that. Okay, you don't wanna have stalkers showing up, rolling up on you?
Starting point is 00:10:00 When you wanna- Don't roll up on me, bro. When you wanna escape for a cocktail or something? I don't do cocktails. I've done cocktails right after, but yeah, it's not a typical thing. Now I have to get back and make sure a baby is taken care of. Yeah, you do have to do that.
Starting point is 00:10:15 So let's get into it. Well, the first thing I wanna say is that we missed the other week because you had a scheduling thing and we had to push this. And there were a lot of people that were like, what happened to roll on? Like I need my roll on fix. So that was nice.
Starting point is 00:10:32 Thank you. I'm glad that people are enjoying it and feel like they missed it. Yes. That must feel good for you too. It does feel good. It was, I didn't expect that, but it was just one of those things
Starting point is 00:10:43 that scheduling came up last minute. I couldn't be avoided. And it's nice that people are needing that fix. And it's nice that we're delivering something to people that they are enjoying. And that I'm a part of this great show. I feel like- You're a podcaster now.
Starting point is 00:11:02 I am now a podcaster. I can't deny it. That's true. I like it though. I like this form. I like new media. Well, for people that are brand new and maybe this is their first episode of Roll On,
Starting point is 00:11:15 Adam Skolnick is the person you've been hearing. He's my BFF co-host on this kind of tangential edition of the show. Journey into Richeside. Adam is a journalist, he's an environmentalist, he's a contributor to the New York Times and Outside, perhaps best known as the co-author of David Goggins' mega hit memoir, Can't Hurt Me.
Starting point is 00:11:40 And this is the show where we talk about current events, kind of things that are top of mind. We share a few lessons. We do a little show and tell, and we answer listener questions. And it's a cool opportunity because this show is always about the guest to share a few of my thoughts on subject matters
Starting point is 00:12:01 that the audience seems to be interested in. And we're gonna start today with a big story, right? Yeah, well, before we get into that, I just wanted to let you know that you have a couple of new super fans. Speaking of the fans that like roll on, my parents, Trudy and Richard. Excellent, what are their names?
Starting point is 00:12:21 Trudy and Richard. What's up, Trudy? What's up, Richard? And they- Have them come over here and we'll give them a tour. You know, when I started doing your show, they would like, okay, well, definitely when they're next time.
Starting point is 00:12:33 When it's safe, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But like when you first had me on, they watched it on YouTube and they thought it was cool. Then I kept turning up on the thing and they never really brought it up again, but somehow lately they've been listening to not just this episode, but all these back episodes.
Starting point is 00:12:50 They've been like diving into the back episodes. They are buying the products that you are selling or that you're advertising. Does your dad have a whoop? And he's like drinking athletic greens and stuff? No, but he's using the new roll on that you're advertising. And he's using the- Oh, the native you're advertising. And he's using the-
Starting point is 00:13:05 Oh, the native deodorant? That's it. My mom bought it for him. She wanted it out of the Tom's racket. She got into the native. And the vegan energy bars, I think, are on his list. Cool, man. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:13:21 That's very cool. So yes, so they're your newest super fans. They're probably listening to a back episode right now. They're deep in the archives. Right. Well, I think we'll do, maybe we'll do, this is actually gonna, we're gonna be taking a little bit of a hiatus
Starting point is 00:13:33 from this show actually, because I'm gonna take a break in January. Last year at this time, I took all of December off and I was in Australia and it was really great to just hit pause on my professional life. I think we all need that at times in our life. And I intend on doing that again,
Starting point is 00:13:56 just in January rather than December. So I've been working my butt off the last six weeks or so along with a team to get all the shows essentially produced. So there'll be no interruption in the podcast. The shows will go up as usual. There just won't be any roll on because these are recorded contemporaneously when we publish them.
Starting point is 00:14:16 So January, you're saying I don't have work in January. I'll see you in February. Right. So we gotta make it count. We might sneak one more in, right? No. Maybe, we filled the schedule out for January. No room for another roll on in January.
Starting point is 00:14:32 All right, well, I thought I had two more hours to convince you. We'll make it count today. Yeah. Yeah. Let's get into it. Let's do it, man. So the first thing that I wanted to talk about was a story that definitely impacted me for personal reasons and for broader reasons as well.
Starting point is 00:14:50 And that is the passing of Tony Hsieh, who was the founder of Zappos, who passed away on November 27th. He was 46 years old. The cause, the stated cause of his death was related to smoke inhalation from being in a fire, but there's a lot more to the story. And I think there's so many interesting threads,
Starting point is 00:15:13 tragic threads to pull on to kind of understand what happened here. No doubt. When I first heard of the story and I'm not, I'm new to him. Like I wasn't really familiar with Zappos really. And I read the New York Times obituary, which didn't get into kind of the more,
Starting point is 00:15:35 the dark side of what was happening, but it kind of, you could hint at it. You could tell that something was going on. But, you know, I was really interested in, I like a kind of class who are thinking differently, who the wealthy guy that lives in Airstream trailer that is revitalizing an entire area of Las Vegas, that's interesting to me.
Starting point is 00:15:55 Someone who is interested in capping his salary, if not his entire compensation, who is interested in not having a corner office, but wants to sit in the bullpen, like these kinds of things of how he ran his company. Interesting to me. So, you forwarded this Wall Street Journal story that goes deeper into him in ways that I had not read about. And I think that's what we wanted to get into that too, right? Yeah, of course. So the Wall Street Journal article is called The Death of Zappos, Tony Hsieh,
Starting point is 00:16:27 A Spiral of Alcohol, Drugs, and Extreme Behavior. But before we dive into that aspect of him, perhaps I can share a little bit of my personal experience. I only met him once and very briefly, so I can't say that I knew him in any meaningful way, but I will say that he was definitely a maverick and very beloved when he passed away. The outpouring of love and support for this guy
Starting point is 00:16:52 was unbelievable. On Twitter, it seemed like every single person that I follow had had some story about their experience, spending time with him. He was truly a remarkable person and obviously an extraordinary businessman who in many ways as an early pioneer in the e-commerce space,
Starting point is 00:17:14 revolutionized that consumer experience by doubling down and really prioritizing the customer service aspect of what he was doing, which was essentially selling shoes. That's what Zappos is. By making all of their customers feel heard and respected and really, you know, almost like they were part of like a thing, like a community or like a family.
Starting point is 00:17:36 Like he would personally respond to customer service emails himself at like two in the morning, right? And by, you know, really making that like the focus of how this company did business, they were able to grow it into this massive thing. It seems like he has, he had that successful first company that he sold for what? 200 something million dollars to Microsoft. It's almost like Zappos became his, his Petri dish for how to run a company and how to, how to be a business be a business person in a new kind of way, right?
Starting point is 00:18:06 Right, right. And like you said, he would sit out in the bullpen with everybody else and he didn't have a corner office. And he was a guy who loved people. And for reasons that we're gonna get into, like needed to be with people all the time. He didn't like executive row,
Starting point is 00:18:24 like they called it that. He liked monkey, they call it monkey row, something like that. Is that what he called it? Something like that. Yeah, he liked that better. So I first, when I met him, it was because I was invited to come to Zappos
Starting point is 00:18:38 as part of a kind of curated weekend called the Downtown Project. My friend, Amanda Slavin, who had a company called Catalyst Creative would invite a group of people like a couple of weekends a year. I don't know, maybe she did it every couple of months to come and visit Zappos, but also get a taste of what Tony was doing in downtown Las Vegas, which was truly extraordinary. This is a guy who had his company headquartered in Henderson, which is kind of like a suburb of Las Vegas, which was truly extraordinary. This is a guy who had his company headquartered in Henderson, which is kind of like a suburb of Las Vegas.
Starting point is 00:19:08 He decided to move the company into a pretty decrepit part of Las Vegas, the downtown area that's well off the strip, which was the original kind of city of Las Vegas that had fallen into a significant level of disrepair. And most of the buildings down there were abandoned. And he envisioned creating this campus kind of like NYU, where Zappos would be integrated into the city amongst many buildings where people would walk, you know, or ride bikes around in between them with an effort of really revitalizing this part of the city. And he personally put $350 million of his own money
Starting point is 00:19:51 into doing that. And when I visited, which was many years ago, I'm sure it's much cooler now than it was then. It was pretty amazing what he had accomplished. Like he was taking over these like rundown, you know, one story or two story motor lodges and turning them into startup offices. He was putting seed money into all these businesses, like everything from some new technology play to a coffee shop and all over the place, there was this sensibility, like an energy,
Starting point is 00:20:20 like something cool is happening here. You know, it was like, it's very hipster. There's people riding fixie bikes and skateboarders and things like that. And like artists, you know, painting murals on the side of buildings. In addition, this thing called the container park, which was kind of like a little Plaza built
Starting point is 00:20:40 with shipping containers where there were little businesses and restaurants and, you know, like frozen yogurt and like t-shirt stores or whatever in this kind of park where he, with which he surrounded it with like these amazing sculptures. He had this huge praying mantis metal sculpture that I think he got from Burning Man
Starting point is 00:21:00 that like would breathe fire at night, like at dusk every night. Amazing. And it was kind of an amazing thing. he got from Burning Man that like would breathe fire at night, like at dusk every night. Amazing. And it was kind of an amazing thing. And as part of this weekend tour, which by the way, that's where I met Robin Arzon for the first time. Like I met some cool people.
Starting point is 00:21:14 I met Kevin Pierce, who was the snowboarder who suffered a traumatic brain injury and then became the subject of this documentary called the crash reel, which if you haven't seen it, it's amazing. He's really cool. Him and his brother were there. You know, Robin became a very good friend as a result of that experience, meeting her on this weekend, but they took us to, there's a condo building on the edge of, of the city there. He was building condos too, right? He was building all kinds of stuff. Yeah. He was building it, but there was a preexisting condo building
Starting point is 00:21:46 and on one of the floors, I think it was the top floor, he had busted through the walls of like, I think almost every single apartment on that floor, maybe not all of them, but a significant portion of them to create one massive condo that was kind of like a commune. And that's where he lived. Like we were there, there were all kinds of people staying there
Starting point is 00:22:09 and people would come and stay for a while and leave. Like it was a transient kind of communitarian approach to living, including like a room where there was like flora growing on the ceiling, like plants were growing from the ceiling down and he would kind of wander through. And this is the CEO of this massive organization. So it was kind of frat house meets hippie commune on some level.
Starting point is 00:22:33 Meets real world. Right, and there's like, I think there's a certain unique courage to live your life differently, especially when the stakes are high and you're like this crazy high net worth individual to continue to kind of iterate and try things and experiment.
Starting point is 00:22:53 He also was one of the people that backed the Life is Beautiful event, which was kind of like this Coachella sort of weekend concert situation that also had speakers. And I spoke there and it was like, I met Bill Nye and I met Dan Price, who was that CEO that instituted the salary cap and has all his employees starting
Starting point is 00:23:14 at a base salary of 70 grand. Like I've met tons of cool people as a result of Tony Hsieh indirectly, right? Was that also in Vegas, The Life is Beautiful? Yeah, it's in Vegas as well. I don't know if it's still going on. I think it still is. The obit I read prior to the one I read this morning, but the obit I read said something about how, for some reason, when he revitalized downtown, it was going well, but then there was the backlash. Oh, you're making downtown this one place that's affordable for people to live, now unaffordable.
Starting point is 00:23:47 So then he created the trailer park and moved there as kind of a way to say, no, there's other options. And he lived like in this Airstream village. And I think there was low-income housing as part, incorporated into that from what I remember. Yeah, I think that's true. I just remember thinking if I was 23 or 24
Starting point is 00:24:06 and interested in startup culture or wanted to do something artistic and different, I would have considered moving there. Like it was a very supportive environment for that kind of thing. The housing is super cheap and there was this community of people that were doing, it's rare that, you know,
Starting point is 00:24:26 when you think of trends or movements, like you think of Seattle during the grunge period or like Greenwich Village during, you know, Bob Dylan. And those don't happen that often. Like what, where would you point to now where there's some kind of emergent artistic sensibility percolating up out of, you know, someplace off the beaten track that then has a downstream significant impact on
Starting point is 00:24:52 culture? Like that's like lightning in a bottle. And I did have that sense that he was trying to craft that there. And there was an energy that something like that was going on. Yeah. I can't even remember, I guess you could say Williamsburg in the 2000s in New York. Maybe, yeah. But you can't really point to like some big cultural event that came out of that other than just, you know, I mean, I talked to my, you know, my boys are musicians
Starting point is 00:25:17 and we have this conversation a lot. I'm like, where would you go right now? Like, where is the music scene happening? And they're like, it's not really like that anymore because of the internet. Yeah, it's like, remember when Beck was coming up and LA was having a moment at, what was that place in Silver Lake
Starting point is 00:25:35 where all those bands would play? Bright Spot, no, no. Star, it starts with an S. Yeah, yeah. I'll think of it in a second. But there was that kind of feeling then, or when the Wallflowers were playing at Cantor's. Yeah, that was great.
Starting point is 00:25:47 I love it. Yeah, there are those moments where you're like, something is going on right now. That's more like the seeds of something cool, right? Anyway, that's the feeling that I got in this downtown section of Las Vegas. So in any event- But what was coming out of that
Starting point is 00:26:07 was a new way of managing people, right? It wasn't so much a cultural product like music or art, but what was coming up out of that was this new way of running a company, right? And that he was able to express in book form. He was speaking about it quite a bit. He was demonstrating it. It was demonstrating it. His life was kind of not a performance at all, but like a demonstration of a new way of being. Right.
Starting point is 00:26:33 If you want to be a CEO, which you don't really see, usually what you see is yachts and Davos. Right. You don't typically see Airstream be on the same level with the people that you're managing. You don't typically see it. And when you do, it's news. That's why the $70,000 a year CEO is news. a different type of leader. And I think you see that in startup culture now. And I would suspect that he deserves quite a bit of credit for that. I mean, this is a guy who, he, you know, he did do events where he's sitting with Bill Clinton, you know, at some big fancy conference,
Starting point is 00:27:14 but then you'd see him on stage somewhere else and he has a Mohawk that's like two feet high, you know, like, and he was a partier. Like that's the thing, you know, this guy loved to be with people. He loved to be out late into the night, you know, was a partier. Like that's the thing. This guy loved to be with people. He loved to be out late into the night, having a good time. That all becomes relevant in the wake of him
Starting point is 00:27:32 stepping down as CEO. We should mention that he sells the company to Amazon for like 1.2 billion, makes a ridiculous amount of money, continues to be the CEO. But I don't know exactly when he stepped down, but it was sometime last year. And with that, as you might imagine,
Starting point is 00:27:51 it appears from reading these long read articles on his life that there was a bit of an existential crisis about what to do next. So he ends up moving to Park City. He surrounds himself with quite a few sycophants who he's paying. They're all on his payroll essentially. Like I think for a lot of them,
Starting point is 00:28:10 there was something about, he would say, tell me what your dream salary is. And then he would double it. Is that right? Buying homes for some of these people. Yeah, he was buying up Park City in kind of the same way he was downtown. Right.
Starting point is 00:28:23 Las Vegas. There was an idea that he was gonna try to replicate. I think that was his idea. Like I wanna replicate what I've done in downtown Las Vegas in Park City. Except that Park City wasn't Daryl's. Community. Yeah, so he moves there,
Starting point is 00:28:37 quite a bit of partying is going on. Meanwhile, COVID hits. And for a guy who is an introvert, but also seemingly needed to be around a lot of people, being deprived of that took its toll on him emotionally in a pretty significant way. And he starts doing all this weird stuff, like experimenting with all kinds of psychedelics
Starting point is 00:29:00 and really amping up his dosage of whatever he was taking and doing. They said that in the Wall Street Journal, also drinking more, right? Yeah, I guess. And then doing all this other weird sort of behavior that I guess you could shroud in soul searching or even biohacking, but I think is indicative of somebody who's in trouble, who's having a hard time and searching for answers outside of himself. He ends up dwindling down to like a hundred pounds. He's doing these crazy fasts
Starting point is 00:29:34 and he's experimenting with oxygen deprivation. And that ultimately is related to how he passes away. And he's locking himself in sheds and he's obsessed with candles and he like, he starts fires and he's breathing in the smoke. That's part of the oxygen deprivation thing. Ultimately, it appears that that's what contributed to his passing. Do you wanna get into that now?
Starting point is 00:29:58 There was a fire in New London, Connecticut. Right. And one report is that he barricaded himself inside this, they call it a shed, but it was like a three bedroom structure. I didn't know it was that large. I was envisioning some little tool shed in the back. Yeah, I know, I know.
Starting point is 00:30:12 Well, maybe in New London, that's a big sheds or three bedroom or something, but it was like a structure because the three bedroom structure was on fire, according to that story. And then family couldn't get to him. And so originally the reporting was, it was just accidental fire or whatever.
Starting point is 00:30:28 But then one firefighter did report that the person had barricaded himself inside. That doesn't mean- But didn't he also tell his friends like, check on me every five minutes? Yeah, yeah. So it's hard to say that there was any kind of suicidal ideation. Like it wasn't a result of that.
Starting point is 00:30:47 But it was some sort of stunt of some kind. Yeah. Yeah. Well, he was, I mean, among his experiments, he was like trying not to urinate, you know, he was attempting to induce hypoxia. I think that's what that was all about. But, you know, ultimately dies as a result of complications from that shit incident.
Starting point is 00:31:06 Smoke inhalation a week later. Yeah, only 46 years old. Meanwhile, there was indications that he was in trouble. There's this letter that's been published where Jewel, who he was friends with, wrote him a letter basically saying, "'Look, man, you're going down the wrong path here. "'Like I'm worried about you. "'And you're surrounded by all these people
Starting point is 00:31:26 who won't tell you the truth about how you're behaving. So it wasn't unnoticed, but he didn't have people in his immediate circle who could intervene and of course correct him. Yeah. There's this legendary story that Tony used to tell about the moment when he sold Zappos to Amazon, where he traveled to Seattle to pitch Zappos to Jeff Bezos, who, like I said, ultimately acquired the company for
Starting point is 00:32:05 a crazy amount of money, like 1.2 billion, I think. And in the middle of the presentation, Tony starts talking about the science of happiness and how, you know, at Zappos, he was trying to use the company to serve the customers and the employees better. And Bezos then says, well, you know, people are pretty bad at predicting what will make them happy. And Tony then says, yes, but apparently you are very good at predicting PowerPoint slides because his next slide addressed that very thing.
Starting point is 00:32:35 But this idea of being bad at predicting what will make people happy is so interesting because you can make the argument that Tony couldn't predict his own happiness. And this is a guy who wrote a New York Times bestselling book called Delivering Happiness. Like he was the happiness guy. He was all about serving other people. And he was an incredible example of that because he was unbelievably giving in his own life. And yet the irony, the inescapable irony, of course, being that he was seeking out happiness that eluded him.
Starting point is 00:33:06 Like the guy who was all about happiness seemingly died an unhappy person. Does that surprise you? Doesn't, it doesn't. I mean, you see it again and again. Like there is this, it's not unusual to see somebody who is seeking, whether it's happiness or fulfillment or approval,
Starting point is 00:33:28 successful business people, you can say, well, they're doing it through money and then they get the money, it doesn't work. They consolidate power, power doesn't work. They try to find it in sex or polyamory or something like that. Then you turn to drugs, maybe drugs will be the answer, which kind of broadens the aperture
Starting point is 00:33:49 of what we wanna talk about, because that involves psychedelics and psychedelics are very much in the news at the moment as a treatment protocol for that thing that we're seeking, that sense of happiness, or as a protocol for dealing with things like depression or PTSD. Obviously in Tony's case,
Starting point is 00:34:11 he's taking it to these extreme levels, like losing all, dwindling down to 98 pounds, fasting, breathing, all of these practices. So what is fueling all of that? Like, why is it that this guy who seemingly had everything who was about happiness, who was so generous with the people that he cared about was pushing the envelope so hard at this phase in his life
Starting point is 00:34:35 where most people would look at it and say, dude, just like hang out, it's good. You built this amazing thing, like take a breath, enjoy your life. For some reason, it appears that that escaped him, his ability to do that. It appears so. I mean, I think of Martin Seligman
Starting point is 00:34:55 who started the positivity, I think at University of Pennsylvania, it's called authentic happiness. It's like a whole school of psychology, positive psychology out of University of Pennsylvania. It was one of the people that was the first to study happiness. And then there was a guy named Philip Brickman,
Starting point is 00:35:14 who's early on a psychology happiness person, I think for 40 years, he studied it. He was the guy that did the lottery winners and accident victims study, which if you meet a lottery winner and someone who became a paraplegic and you interview them the day after it happens, and then a year after it happens, it's interesting how the day after it happens, yes, you're going to have a big disparity, but a year later, sometimes the paraplegics actually fared better than the lottery winners, of course. You know, in my own life,
Starting point is 00:35:45 someone who has been broke is a joke and has had eviction notices on their door and was never a money guy. Like I never really made my decisions for money, at least not until- But now that you're a podcaster. No. Not until you got a little of that can't hurt me cash.
Starting point is 00:36:07 I joke about it, but I used to be like, you know, the whole thing of money can't buy happiness. No, but it can buy happier. I've learned that. But that's up to a point. I think that's what these studies show. It's up to the point. Anyway, not to bury the lead,
Starting point is 00:36:23 but Philip Brickman took his own life and he was an expert in happiness. So it's almost like there, and I think we should get back to the psychedelic drugs in a second, but like, because I've taken my share of those too, but, and we should talk about that. But I think there's something,
Starting point is 00:36:42 the problem isn't happiness. The problem is like, what are we chasing as human beings? What's the human animal looking for? Cause I'm not sure happiness is what we're designed to look for and consume and thrive under. You know, I think happiness is great. We all wanna be happy. We all want comfort.
Starting point is 00:37:00 We all wanna be fed and watered and loved, but I don't think happiness is a permanent state anyway. And to pursue it as the main goal in life might be actually the wrong thing to do. Well, happiness is a very effusive, fleeting emotion. It's not really a state of being. It's like a by-product of something else that kind of comes and goes. And I don't think we're hardwired to just be quote unquote happy
Starting point is 00:37:33 like as a permanent state, right? Right. I like to think of it more in terms of, you know, feeling purposeful, intentional, living a meaningful life. And as a result of those things, like being fulfilled, like I'm very fulfilled in this vocation and in what we're doing right now.
Starting point is 00:37:51 Sometimes it makes me happy, but often it makes me frustrated and anxious and all of those things, but I wouldn't trade it for some kind of state of, I don't know, like perpetual bliss. No. Because I don't think that's what, you know. Listen, I'm talking to a very accomplished ultra athlete.
Starting point is 00:38:11 Those are not the people that seek out happiness typically. Right, like you're seeking something beyond that. You're seeking, like ultra is the crucible to which you learn about yourself. It's kind of a good analogy in some ways to psychedelics, although psychedelics would be a shortcut. But like, you know, you're not trying to be comfortable when you sign up for a, you know, to do five Ironmans.
Starting point is 00:38:33 And by all indications, that pursuit of comfort ultimately, you know, leads us away from happiness. Like I, last night, I got a screener for this new documentary that's coming out on Netflix called Less is More by the minimalist guys. You know the minimalist, Joshua and Ryan. So they're coming tomorrow to talk to me.
Starting point is 00:38:53 Oh really? And this documentary, which is their second documentary. If you haven't seen Minimalism, their first one, it's fantastic, it's on Netflix. Everybody should watch that movie. I've talked about it many times. Directed by Matt D'Avella, who's gone on to become like this huge YouTuber.
Starting point is 00:39:09 He's very talented and just, you know, they're just really good, cool people on a really important mission. So I'm watching this documentary last night, Less Is More, which is all about what minimalism is and what it isn't. But essentially the message is about, where our consumerist ideology,
Starting point is 00:39:29 which is really the foundation upon which this country is established, leads us away from these things like happiness and fulfillment and living a life of purpose and meaning, et cetera. And essentially the things that are most valuable aren't things at all. This is, what Joshua says in the movie, but they're these intangible things. And they're the things that we don't spend enough time trying to cultivate in our lives, like community and service and things like that. Those are the things that actually genetically were hardwired to that provide us with those emotions
Starting point is 00:40:09 that we're seeking through the accumulation of material belongings. It's fulfillment, not happiness. Yeah, like those are two different things for sure. But which one is the kind of- I would pick fulfillment over happiness. Like I don't even know how you pursue happiness. Well, you can.
Starting point is 00:40:29 I mean, like there's this idea that, I think the idea that Tony was trying to put out there was that there's a way to have a happier workforce because what does happier workforce mean? It means employee retention. You keep the intelligence, industrial, whatever it is. But that happiness is a product of them being fulfilled in their role in the company, right?
Starting point is 00:40:47 Because they feel empowered, they feel seen and heard, they're taken care of, they're respected, all of these things that, yeah, I guess fall under the umbrella of happiness in some respect, but how are we defining happiness and what does that actually mean? It's a good question. It reminds me of like,
Starting point is 00:41:06 it's like the intellectual version of what Guru Singh always talks about when he talks about food. People nourish their bodies based on the first inch of taste buds. You know how he talks about that? Right. And it's like,
Starting point is 00:41:18 it's kind of like the intellectual equivalent. Like I'm unhappy today. Today I'm sad. And depression's a real thing. I'm not talking about depression, but we're talking about like, can I be happier? The grass is always greener. And that's the kind of stuff you can get through
Starting point is 00:41:35 by pursuing fulfillment over happiness. Cause if you're always kind of, not every day, you don't wake up happy every day. Some days you don't even sleep well. How can you possibly wake up happy? you don't wake up happy every day. Some days you don't even sleep well. How can you possibly wake up happy? I think that that's where you go wrong.
Starting point is 00:41:51 Well, there's also a conversation to be had about the pursuit of those states externally versus internally. Like you can cultivate an environment that's more conducive to those types of emotions. And that's certainly what Tony was about with his Zappos Corporation. But ultimately it's also, and fundamentally,
Starting point is 00:42:13 mostly it's about your relationship with yourself, right? So you can be in a great job, but if you're disconnected from who you are or you're in the wrong career path or you don't understand how to have functional relationships with other people or you have unresolved childhood trauma or all of these things contribute to that, right? And if you're blind to that and instead focused
Starting point is 00:42:36 on the big screen TV or the next thing that you're gonna buy or the job promotion or the car lease, then you're losing the opportunity to really, you know, wrestle with what it is that fundamentally is going to lead you towards a path of greater fulfillment and as a by-product happiness. Yeah. I think it's interesting. I think it's important to say that we're not kind of trying to get in his head and claim this is how he was. This is all coming from an article that we read. And I'm not vilifying this guy in any way. I'm celebrating his life.
Starting point is 00:43:09 But I'm looking at his passing as an opportunity to do a case study on the trajectory of a very successful life, what may have gone wrong and what we can learn from that for ourselves. And the reason that we are surmising that has gone wrong or that things weren't going well, I mean, his own family in that Wall Street Journal story is said to have been planning intervention for him.
Starting point is 00:43:36 So I think- And certainly if you read Jules' letter, it's pretty clear that he wasn't in a good place. Yeah. I think we should unpack a little bit about the psychedelics because I know that there's kind of overlap there with kind of some stuff that you talk about and guess even. And so what are your thoughts on that?
Starting point is 00:43:56 Because I know that it seemed according to that one story that he was increasing his intake and ecstasy. And I think, was it mushrooms or something like that? Yeah, I think there was some psilocybin. I don't know if there was ayahuasca or DMT. I mean, he was a big Burning Man guy, so I wouldn't be surprised. I'm sure he's had plenty of psychedelic experiences
Starting point is 00:44:16 in his path. And maybe those were spiritual breakthroughs for him that contributed to this culture that he created at Zappos. So I'm not demonizing any of this, but I do think it's important to at least take a moment to pause on this notion of psychedelia for a moment, because we're in a cultural moment right now where there is this convergence of that particular genus
Starting point is 00:44:47 of drug culture with the wellness movement. Like those two circles are starting to overlap and to create a Venn diagram. And I think we need to appreciate just how incredibly powerful these mind altering substances are and that their use, specifically their routine use
Starting point is 00:45:09 is not without ramifications or consequences. Despite the fact that there is some incredible research coming out that's been widely reported regarding the therapeutic application of these substances, which I don't dispute and I do celebrate. When you see work coming out of Johns Hopkins that psilocybin can help ameliorate depression or PTSD and these other therapeutic applications
Starting point is 00:45:38 that are starting to emerge from the scientific community, these are good things. Like I'm celebrating that, but I also think that there's a difference between that and the kind of, you know, what happens is you see that, and then for some reason that creates a permissive attitude around these substances and it trickles down into what does become routine
Starting point is 00:46:02 or overly routine use with people. Right. So, you know, if you look at, Tim Ferriss talks about this all the time on his podcast. I think he's helped fund some of those studies coming out of Johns Hopkins. Oh, really? If you read Michael Pollan's book.
Starting point is 00:46:18 That's a feedback loop. Well, I mean, I think it's a personal interest to him. Right. You know, I think that he's very emotionally engaged with that whole thing. And I think that's a good thing. And he talks about all the time and then there's Michael Pollan's book,
Starting point is 00:46:34 "'How to Change Your Mind' and I think there's a lot that can be learned from, he subjected himself to all of these different drugs and reported on it and did a deep dive into the science. So again, I'm not raising this in any disparaging way whatsoever. I celebrate all of this, but I do think it should be said in my opinion
Starting point is 00:46:55 that there is an epidemic right now of very unhappy people, a lot of people who are in considerable pain. And although some, or perhaps even many of these people may be good candidates for that kind of chemical therapy, there are too many people out there who are casually and irresponsibly looking to these substances for answers, for the answers that elude them.
Starting point is 00:47:17 In this effort to kind of shortcut the path to greater self-actualization or happiness, or at the end of that spectrum, enlightenment. Or sobriety. And it does come- I've heard of people like actually going and get ayahuasca treatment in Mexico
Starting point is 00:47:33 to stop taking opioids. I know somebody who did that. And I, yeah, I do too. And I know people who have done that and it's been successful for them. Yeah, yeah. So again, I'm not robbing those people of those experiences.
Starting point is 00:47:45 I'm validating that. But that's different from, I'm gonna do ayahuasca every weekend or we're gonna take mushrooms all the time because I'm unhappy and this is my solution. It's more complicated than that. And if ayahuasca was so effective, then there'd be a lot of enlightened people
Starting point is 00:48:00 walking around right now. Now, some of those people are better people as a result of those experiences. Again, I fully acknowledge that, but I think there's also a lot of people who are a little bit awash and lost and return to those experiences, looking for answers that continue to elude them.
Starting point is 00:48:21 So there is no panacea here. And I'm always suspect when something appears in the culture as a shortcut to these things that all of us seek more of and that there is a dearth of right now, these feelings of engagement with ourselves and the world and a sense of grounded belonging and community and love and compassion and the like. So I'm only sounding a little bit of, not even really a cautionary tale, but maybe just a pause button
Starting point is 00:48:54 so that we can reflect a little bit on this. In Los Angeles right now, like the pot dispensaries are like Starbucks, and there is this idea that like, oh, well, THC is just part of your wellness routine and like micro dosing and all of these things. And it's like, I'm biased because I'm a product of 12 step
Starting point is 00:49:15 and I'm somebody who has addiction issues. So I have my own, you know, kind of set of ideas around all this kind of stuff that maybe make me a little bit more calcified to the new ideas. But I just think that that's dangerous. Well, it's not just Los Angeles. I mean, it just got decriminalized nationwide and it's in lots of places.
Starting point is 00:49:34 But, and I think the big fear was young people were gonna be the ones that end up getting high all the time and it impacts their brain development. And what we've learned is it's the baby boomers who go on QAnon and just get high and watch YouTube all day. They're the ones who really we should have been watching out for this whole time.
Starting point is 00:49:50 Well, if they just did that, I'd be fine with it. If they just watch YouTube. It's when it spills into the world that it becomes problematic. You know what? I keep thinking of a couple of things. One with, in terms of hacking your way to something, I think there is something inherently dangerous in thinking that you can take a shortcut, especially to something
Starting point is 00:50:11 as, you know, look, you're 12 step, but you know, you're sober for years and years and years. Maybe there's something to going slower to get there and making it last longer. I don't know. I haven't looked at the studies, but I wouldn't be surprised if there's a higher relapse in people that do a shortcut versus that people that are in the community and doing the daily, daily work that you do. Are you saying that it's about the journey, Adam? I don't know.
Starting point is 00:50:37 Well, speaking of journeys at the same time, like the first time I ever kind of like had that crack open, love the world feeling was tripping. So like, you know, to me, psychedelics were an important part of kind of cracking me open. It was a portal. Yeah, it's a portal.
Starting point is 00:50:53 Yeah, and like, look, as a sober guy, like that's like a trip wire, you know, like that pushes my buttons. Cause I know sober people who have in sobriety volunteered for psychedelic, like under supervision had psychedelic experiences. And I think we've talked about this before, but, and emerged from it saying that it was revelatory.
Starting point is 00:51:16 Right. And so that's interesting to me. Like, would that be something that I would wanna check out? Maybe, I don't know. I won't dismiss it. But again, my instinct is, that the answers that I would wanna check out? Maybe, I don't know, I won't dismiss it. But again, my instinct is, you know, that the answers that I'm seeking are not gonna be found in a substance. That's not to say that that might not open up
Starting point is 00:51:32 some portal for me and put right in front of me some blind spot that I have. But when you tell somebody in recovery that the answer to their problem lies in a mind altering substance, like, you know, it's like ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, like everything lights up in your brain. And that scares me.
Starting point is 00:51:50 Yeah, well, I get it. I also actually don't even believe that. I think what it did for me, and I was very young at the time, I was probably 20 at the time, is it showed me that love can be unconditional and expansive. And then I was dropped right back into my body He showed me that love can be unconditional and expansive. And then I was dropped right back into my body
Starting point is 00:52:11 that I didn't necessarily love, or it didn't feel very expansive. And the way to actually get there in life, in day-to-day life, isn't to take that drug again and again. You got the lesson. It's the lesson. You learned what you needed to learn. And then you have to keep moving in life in a way that's productive. And so he didn't have to do that because he had too many resources at his disposal, perhaps, and he could do whatever he wanted any
Starting point is 00:52:35 day. But there's danger to that level of freedom, to not being tethered to having to do X, Y, or Z to get to pay bills or to accomplish this task or that task. It's almost like freedom and happiness were kind of what became the undertow. And I wanted to touch on escapism because I think that came up in a couple of the stories that he was into escapism.
Starting point is 00:52:59 And I'm not against escapism because if you look at the way the world is and the way people treat each other and who would not want to escape from that every once in a while like we escape in it in our different ways you know whether it's a trail run or a free dive session or an open water swim that's what it is i mean that's to me what it is and i'm totally down with that like i think i think you'd be crazy not to want to check out for a little bit and try to reconnect in something that's bigger than the bullshit that we see every day. And I
Starting point is 00:53:33 know a lot of your listeners are nodding in agreement would feel the same exact way. Escapism isn't the problem. The problem is when escapism becomes everything. Well, two things I agree. And two other things that agree. And two other things that I take away from this. One is the very significant emotional and mental toll that the pandemic has on a lot of people, right? This is a guy who could not be alone. Like he needed to be around people. And suddenly when that was removed
Starting point is 00:54:03 from the realm of possibilities, I think that that impacted him disproportionately. Like I think that's a big part of what led to this spiral. And maybe being around people, I don't know him and I can't get inside his head, but maybe him being around people all the time was some kind of distraction that kept whatever demons he had at bay, being a social animal
Starting point is 00:54:27 amidst a group of people. Maybe he could be part of it, but also hide in it. And when that's gone and you're forced to be with yourself, the discomfort of that became unbearable. And he started to look for different ways to, you know, medicate that. It's interesting. He was interested in the communal mind, right?
Starting point is 00:54:44 He was interested in that, like the hive mind. And maybe that was another escape, like you said, so he could get out of his own mind. Right. The second thing is no matter how successful you get, it's absolutely critical that you surround yourself with people who can give you objective feedback, right? Like too many stories of people that get successful
Starting point is 00:55:06 and are surrounded by yes people or people that have a financial incentive and you not being as healthy as you should be. And things go haywire. So surround yourself with good people and solicit feedback, honest feedback on how you're living. And when people deliver that, don't take it personally. Right. Right?
Starting point is 00:55:30 Like thank them for that, because that's the stuff that's ultimately gonna catalyze the growth. Growth over happiness. But beautiful man, Tony, and it's quite sad what happened. So I celebrate his life. His life was kind of a work of art in a way. It was an incredible work of art,
Starting point is 00:55:51 an incredible work of art. So he will be missed. So let's take a break and we'll come back with a bunch more stuff. All right. We ready to go? Let's get into it. Should we talk a little antitrust? Let's talk antitrust.
Starting point is 00:56:17 You are- Because it's fascinating. People don't realize you're an antitrust expert. It is. It might be one of the few A's that I got in law school. Rich Roll got an A or two in law school. Right, which let's just be clear, my father is an antitrust lawyer. So infer as you will, my deep seated need to get approval from my dad. That would have been the one A that I got in law school.
Starting point is 00:56:46 Now, in law school, did you have your Stanford swimming hair going still or did it grow out by then? Who knows, man? I was drunk the whole time. It's very, it's all murky. But no, not swimming, not swimming, not the chlorinated hair.
Starting point is 00:57:01 Oh, you mean the flat top? The flat top that you sported on. No, no, no. We would get a flat top before big meets every year. So yeah, I would rock that like once a year. That was just for me. Not a solid look. Okay.
Starting point is 00:57:16 With the glasses that take up like the whole face too. I mean, with that mane you have, I was gonna be like, God, did he do that all in college? Because that'd be unfortunate. I have to wear my hair. This is the only way that it looks good. You could grow it long.
Starting point is 00:57:29 You could get a mullet going. Yeah, I could do like the Trump mullet and like comb it over. Right. It could be a good look. Yeah. No? Let's try that.
Starting point is 00:57:37 Diet blonde. That's a biohack for you. Antitrust. Are we gonna have, we could have a new category of the podcast, legal corner. Ooh, legal corner with Rich Roll. You wanna try to reclaim?
Starting point is 00:57:49 We'll see how this goes. The problem is, then we're gonna start getting calls and asking you to take the case. The next thing you know, you're in front of Judge Judy. Yeah. It's a whole series and Netflix buys it. There is a reason why we're bringing up antitrust today. Yes, well.
Starting point is 00:58:01 Because it impacts all of us because I would suspect most people listening or watching are on Facebook or have some connection to Facebook. And Facebook is very much in the news right now facing antitrust backlash. The US government and 48 states have sued Facebook for illegally crushing competitors and demanding the company to undo its acquisitions of WhatsApp and Instagram. And I think it's worth talking about for a couple of reasons because it does affect all of us so deeply. And I think it raises interesting questions
Starting point is 00:58:35 about the power of these massive platforms and the control to which they exert over our lives, which obviously is a subject you and I have talked about before with the Social Dilemma documentary and also talking about Feels Good Man, which I just had those guys. So this is the second podcast that we've recorded in the new studio because I had the filmmakers from that documentary here the other day. That episode is not going to go up for a little while, but I'm telling you right now,
Starting point is 00:59:08 that one is not to be missed. We had an unbelievable conversation that's rooted and related to how we use these platforms and the impact that they have. And to the extent that they are wielding monopolistic power in an anti-competitive, anti-consumer way. I do think as bland as a legal discussion around antitrust potentially might be,
Starting point is 00:59:34 that it was worth planting a flag here and talking about it for a few minutes. Yeah, just for a few minutes, teachable moment on why it's important. I mean, I think one thing that comes to mind for me is like, if you're going to have a brain that you carry around with you in your hand, it would be better if it wasn't just a few dominant companies that are controlling most of what you're getting and seeing and accessing, because that starts to play on you. I think that's what you were talking about with the guys.
Starting point is 01:00:06 And so the idea is kind of from what my understanding is and correct me if I'm wrong, that they, the government, Facebook acquired Instagram and WhatsApp in 2012 for WhatsApp, 2014 for Instagram. And in some reports they're saying the government signed off on those acquisitions. Kara Swisher says that they just didn't intervene and they allowed them to go forward. And now with more data and better understanding of how that has transformed the innovation in social media or lack thereof. The government is now saying that they acquired them
Starting point is 01:00:46 in order to crush competition in that space. And because of that, that's illegal. That's my interpretation of it. Is that correct? Yeah, well, the federal argument and state argument is that these organizations, particularly in this case, Facebook, because that's what these specific lawsuits are about, the Google stuff's a little bit different, but in the Facebook context,
Starting point is 01:01:09 the argument is that Facebook is trying to reduce competition by purchasing rivals in an explicit violation of the antitrust laws. Essentially, when another platform or a new technological advancement comes up before, or when it looks like it's an emerging threat to Facebook's business, they are faced with the decision of either crushing it or acquiring it. And in the case of WhatsApp and Instagram, they acquired these companies, they consolidated their power. And that has a downstream impact of reducing competition in the marketplace at large. Facebook's argument is that, as you said,
Starting point is 01:01:51 the government signed off on these acquisitions. 2012 was WhatsApp, 2014, Instagram. They went through the whole process. Like when you're a large company and you're acquiring another company, the FTC and the Justice Department have to get involved. Like as a lawyer, I've been involved in these situations. Like you have to produce a tremendous amount of documents.
Starting point is 01:02:10 It's called a second request that the FTC does where they look over everything and they have to do an analysis. Like, is this going to have an anti-competitive impact on the marketplace or what is the impact on the consumer? So this gets run through their system. And in the case of Facebook, Kara Swisher said they allowed it to happen, but I'm sure if you were to talk to one of the FTC lawyers that they did look at this stuff pretty intently, signed off on it.
Starting point is 01:02:38 So Facebook's saying that a do-over is unfair. And second to that, their other argument is that Facebook actually made Instagram and WhatsApp better than they could have been on their own. If you listen to Kara and Scott Galloway and their podcast pivot, they talk about this at length and Scott,
Starting point is 01:02:56 who's a professor of business at NYU, and just has an amazing mind for these kinds of things. He's basically like, I don't think that that's true. I think that if you look at WhatsApp, for example, what would WhatsApp have been, had it been independent, particularly in a pandemic, maybe they would have gotten into video. Maybe they would have innovated in different ways. Maybe they would have acquired some other company. Maybe WhatsApp and Zoom would have merged or something, you know, like you can't say that these apps are better
Starting point is 01:03:26 by dint of being under the umbrella of Facebook. In fact, you could make the argument that Facebook has impeded their ability to iterate because when you're part of a massive organization, you're not gonna be able to be as nimble with your technological advances. The problem with all of this, we're just at the starting gate of these lawsuits,
Starting point is 01:03:46 is that the burden of proof in an antitrust case is quite steep and it's two-pronged. Essentially, the government has to show that Facebook purchased its rivals with the express purpose of squelching or killing off competition. So essentially, they have to prove intent and proving intent is very difficult.
Starting point is 01:04:06 Although Swisher is hinting that there's some interesting Zuckerberg emails that are gonna come out of this. Well, there's a book coming out, right? About Facebook. Okay. And she's hinting at like some emails where he's basically hinting at,
Starting point is 01:04:21 I want, you know, we gotta crush Instagram or crush WhatsApp or something. Right, right. Yeah, I've heard that. I mean, I think those emails have been like, he's, yeah, like that they acknowledge that that intent. Okay. Right. But then, you know, they'll deploy a battery of defense lawyers that say that's taken out of context or what have you. I'm pretty sure they're going to have some good lawyers. Yeah. Facebook is not going to go quietly into the night on this. They have too much to lose.
Starting point is 01:04:46 They're gonna fight this tooth and nail for sure. I mean, and the second prong of this burden of proof is that the government has to show that the consumers in the market would have been better off without the merger. And that's hard. That's a tough road to hoe. And my favorite part, there's a couple of New York Times articles on this
Starting point is 01:05:00 that we'll link up in the show notes, but there was one where my former antitrust law professor, George Hay, law professor at Cornell and former antitrust official at the Justice Department was quoted. So I felt so good about that. He basically said, "'It should be assumed that Facebook will seek to obtain
Starting point is 01:05:20 "'all the internal work product "'that lay behind the original decisions "'that the acquisitions did not pose a competitive problem. Right. Right? So this is just beginning, but I think it's gonna be fascinating. It's gonna be years, right?
Starting point is 01:05:34 Yeah, it's gonna take years, but to watch this, the battle lines are being drawn. And if I was a law student right now or a young lawyer looking to be in the middle of the action, I think being at the FTC or the Justice Department right now would be an amazing place to be. Because I think antitrust activity is going to explode with growing political will to really look at these gigantic companies and the deleterious impact of the power that they wield over the market and the consumers. What do you think is, if they're doing,
Starting point is 01:06:11 if Facebook is now, what do you see as some future kind of terrain that antitrust lawyers might look at? Well, honestly, I think that you do need to decouple WhatsApp and Instagram from Facebook. I think 100% that consumers would be better off and Facebook needs to be right-sized with that. But then when we look at the other big players out there in the pecking order of like who would be next, I mean, Facebook is the easy first target because there's this sensibility around Mark Zuckerberg and this kind of the evil empire idea.
Starting point is 01:06:50 Right. So that I'm not surprised that they're going after Facebook first, but who's next? And I would look at Amazon and their suite of businesses that they Lordured control over, AWS, they run, they own the biggest cloud service in the world. Like remember when, was it Twitter? No, there was a day when like,
Starting point is 01:07:14 you couldn't refresh your podcast. Like all the podcasts were not available for a couple hours because all of these platforms are backed up on AWS. Like AWS is like the engine behind the internet. Right. And the idea that that's owned by Amazon, this e-commerce website is crazy.
Starting point is 01:07:32 If you're smart, you would prophylactically decouple some of these businesses from your core enterprise as a measure, as a defense measure against the government going after you. And that's something that Cara and Scott Galloway were talking about with respect to Google. Scott was saying that, you know, if you look at Google,
Starting point is 01:07:52 all right, you know, should YouTube be part of Google? Like certainly those are businesses that should be separated, but Google's not gonna voluntarily cut ties with YouTube and spend it off. But if they were smart, if you listen to what Scott's saying, they would spin off their cloud service, right?
Starting point is 01:08:13 Like let go of Drive to say, we're a good actor in the space. Don't go after us. So they can hold onto YouTube, right? You know what I mean? Like it's gonna be fascinating to see the kind of jockeying and the strategy and the moves that these companies are gonna make.
Starting point is 01:08:30 But I think breaking them up will be this amazing spark to innovation in the space. And I think consumers will benefit from that. So you think it's gonna happen? Well, the lawsuits are moving forward. Right. You know, how they'll play out is anybody's guess. But I do think it's interesting
Starting point is 01:08:44 that this is happening right at the end of the Trump administration as we're heading into Biden. Certainly the Biden administration is going to be much more politically interested in this. Although Trump, you know, he was on record as saying these companies are too big and seem to have an interest in going after them. Yeah, I mean, ultimately these Justice Department, the people who bring these suits, they aren't really political appointees, they're higher-ees. But if you're at DOJ, if you're the attorney general, like you're still taking orders from the White House
Starting point is 01:09:19 in terms of the kind of cases that they want you to pursue or not pursue. It's interesting, when it comes to consumers, when you having seen Social Dilemma and we've talked about it is like, who are the consumers of Facebook and Google and YouTube? Cause it seems like their consumers are their advertisers. It's not us.
Starting point is 01:09:36 It's super interesting. And by users, I mean, we're getting used. And it's like, we do use it, we do access it. Well, the Social Dile dilemma said we're the product. Yeah, we're the product and the resource. I mean, look, I do think I use WhatsApp in my reporting. I use Facebook Messenger in my reporting. I think early on I used Facebook a lot
Starting point is 01:09:57 to connect with subjects and then to keep in touch with people that overseas that I wouldn't otherwise see. That became WhatsApp. Small businesses, local businesses are deeply knotted into Instagram. Travel, the travel industry is deeply knotted into Instagram. There are people who this could affect because if to decouple,
Starting point is 01:10:18 it won't be necessarily so seamless probably. Although maybe it will feel seamless to us, but I am in favor obviously of, of, of reduced corporate hegemony. Yeah. Right. Anyway. And the idea that, that the market is better with these companies holding on to all these things, all you have to do is look at antitrust history, like look at the breakup of, of the telecoms spinning off Ma Bell and all these, you know, smaller, you know, companies that that was a period of great innovation as a result of that. And I think that's what you'll see here now,
Starting point is 01:10:50 in terms of the moves that these companies are making, what should they do prophylactically? How are they, you know, trying to protect themselves right now? You see Facebook starting to take their messaging service and, and integrate it across all of their platforms. So it becomes very difficult to disentangle. Whereas Apple conversely is cutting its commission charges on the app store to say, we're a good actor. Like I think what Tim Cook is doing and how Apple is proceeding here of all of these,
Starting point is 01:11:23 like they're in the best stead in terms of weathering this and not being a big target. But when Facebook is going out of its way to make separating WhatsApp from the rest of its ecosystem more difficult, to me, that makes them all the more a likely hard target. Well, also Apple can afford it because their big money is the phone.
Starting point is 01:11:47 It's the hardware. That's where they're making their coin. Right, it's a different kind of thing. But their profitability, I mean, they're so massive too that the lens is gonna get aimed in their direction at some point. But this idea of who's the customer is super interesting. Yeah, like the advertisers are the customer. That's the customer is super interesting.
Starting point is 01:12:06 Yeah, like the advertisers are the customer. That's how they make their money. So they got to keep them happy. And that's what I hope comes out of this. Like who's the consumer? Because the news is going to be reported and consumer is going to be used a lot. And I hope that what we're paying attention to is, I want to know who Facebook thinks the consumer is.
Starting point is 01:12:24 Well, I think we, who Facebook thinks the consumer is. Well, I think we know that Facebook thinks the consumer is, is the, is the advertiser, but what is going to get reported and how is the narrative going to be spun? I mean, I think, you know, I think the, you know, with the exception of very savvy reporters like Kevin Roos and the like, most of it's going to get positioned as us being the consumer. Yeah. Don't you think? I think so. I think user and consumer are two different things in this case. And often they're not. I mean, so like that's what, that was always the argument for don't, don't break up Amazon when they were getting all their terrible press for how they operated their business and abuse, employee abuse and whatever, was that you can say what you want, but the
Starting point is 01:13:09 consumer gets lower prices. You know, they chase the diaper company out of business, but the consumer gets lower prices. They chase that company out of business. Walmart cracks down on mom and pop shops all over small town America, but the consumer gets lower prices. But the problem is when you look at things just like that, the collateral damage is completely ignored. And you wouldn't need to buy things so cheap if everyone made a little more money, right? If the wealth was shared a bit more. And that's the biggest problem with tech companies is they siphon money into smaller and smaller straws or big straws, but for few people.
Starting point is 01:13:46 Yeah. And that's why I think breaking them up and having more competition means more money gets spread around. And I think that that's not being talked about really, but that's what it's about. It's a way to redistribute wealth in an era of a gilded age. Yeah, I mean, Facebook's argument is there is a robust market when it comes to social networks. And there is a lot of competition when you look at TikTok and Snap and things like that. But is there really? Who looks at TikTok, Rich?
Starting point is 01:14:16 Who looks at TikTok? TikTok's huge. I know, it's huge. We're a bunch of old dudes. I can't do it. That's the bridge too far for me. I mean, my daughters aren't on it all the time, but that's where I have to draw the line and say,
Starting point is 01:14:32 okay, it's not appropriate for me. Maybe I'm just getting older. I'm listening to the Obama book. That's what I'm doing for entertainment. How is it? It's fabulous. Yeah, I'm sure it is. Him and his little book out there.
Starting point is 01:14:44 So cute. Dainty little 750 page volume one. All right, well, more will be revealed on this. And I think that concludes this week's edition of Legal Corner. Slash teachable moment. I hope you learned something kids. What do we got next?
Starting point is 01:14:58 We're gonna do a little show and tell. A little show and tell baby. Yeah, well, my big show and tell, which we have locked down cameras here, but my show and tell is our new studio. Well, my big show and tell, which we have locked down cameras here, but my show and tell is our new studio. It's fabulous. So check us out. If you're listening on Apple Podcasts or Spotify,
Starting point is 01:15:12 go to YouTube and see what the new studio looks like. I mean, we maintain the same aesthetic from the temporary place, but we've dialed it up a notch. Yeah, I'm getting a pedicure right now. Yeah, that's right. It's socially distanced pedicure. I'm telling you, it is next level. It's next level stuff's going on. But you got a couple of things you want to talk about, right?
Starting point is 01:15:31 Well, I just wanted to, because I couldn't make, I wanted to say hi to the guys that made Feels Good Man, because just to reiterate, I love that movie. I think it's one of the best documentaries I've seen in years. I highly recommend everyone to see it. And I love Matt Fury and his ill-fated quest to try to reclaim his froggy, Pepe the Frog. Right. Pepe the Frog? Pepe the Frog. Pepe.
Starting point is 01:15:55 But so my wife and I loved it so much, we went out and bought his children's book, "'The Knight Riders," which is his attempt, second attempt, I think, at reclaiming Pepe, but in a different way. Cause he loves drawing frogs. Well, it's a different frog. It's a different frog. They say in the movie, it's unrelated to Pepe.
Starting point is 01:16:12 It looks kind of a little like him. Right. But I mean, he's the guy's been drawing frogs since he was a kid. Right. So he's gonna draw him and it's the artwork in here is spectacular. I mean, it's like an art gallery as a children's book
Starting point is 01:16:25 and it's so weird. And there's no words in it, right? No. Yeah. It's like incredible. That mushroom frame was in the movie. Yeah, okay, I'll get something. Look at how he eats a moth.
Starting point is 01:16:36 Right. It is beautiful. He is quite the artist and it was a bummer that you couldn't be here when Giorgio and Arthur were here because they were amazing. And I watched Feels Good Man a second time to get ready to talk to those guys. Oh, did you?
Starting point is 01:16:53 And it was better the second time. I bet. I'm telling you, this movie is unbelievable. And it's so shocking to me that everybody isn't talking about this movie constantly. It should be nominated for an Oscar. That's how good it is. Hopefully, if there's justice in the world,
Starting point is 01:17:09 and maybe this is a subject for a future legal corner, if there was justice- Spoiler alert, there isn't. Yeah, right. They will get an Oscar nomination. But what's interesting about this movie is that despite premiering at Sundance and winning these guys an emerging filmmaker award
Starting point is 01:17:27 at that lauded festival, struggled to find a distributor. And so, although it's available on a variety of platforms online, Apple TV, Apple Plus, is it Apple TV, Apple Plus? What do you call it? Yeah, Apple Plus. They ask that people watch it there because Amazon takes a big cut if they watch it there.
Starting point is 01:17:47 It's available VOD, but there is a visibility problem. Like it's suffering from discoverability, I think. And so I just wanna shout from the mountain tops that I think everybody should see this movie because I just thought it was phenomenal. And everybody that I've turned on to the movie absolutely loves it. Davey's here, he was like watching it the other night,
Starting point is 01:18:07 texting me like, this is unbelievable. You know, it's insane. It is insane. It reminds, like I was like oohing and aahing and like feeling the feelings I was getting similar to, I got in Blackfish, which is another great documentary that exposed something that I wasn't aware of. But this is artistically a whole nother level.
Starting point is 01:18:27 Artistically phenomenal. And also so relevant to our everyday lives. Like you watch Blackfish and it alerts you, it's an incredible movie to alerts you to, a wrong in the world, but it doesn't necessarily impact you when you open up your computer screen every day. Right, well, that's a perfect example. So you Blackfish alerts you are wrong in the world.
Starting point is 01:18:50 It's very captivating in its own way. Then you have like the R. Crumb movie, which alerts you to weirdness and art in the world in a very disturbing way. And you wrap those things two together and the artistic value of this. I mean, I think the animation, I mean, this just
Starting point is 01:19:05 is all those things wrapped up in one. That's why it's so great. Yeah. And I was delighted that they were the first, I love you, Adam, but I was delighted they were the first guests in the new podcast studio. And they brought me an incredible gift, which was a print from boys club of the actual page where, you know, you see the four pains or whatever it is culminating in the feels good then. You're saying it's the page that Matt wishes he never wrote. I'm sure.
Starting point is 01:19:34 That's the one you have. Yeah. And it's in like this glow and glow in the dark, like color scheme. It's like, you know, I don't know, three by two and a half, like just a beautiful print. And what a incredible like artifact of culture, right? So they actually were going up to see Matt over the weekend
Starting point is 01:19:55 and they were gonna get it signed for me, which I will proudly be hanging in this studio. So I appreciated that. Hell yeah. It's very cool. But that book I wanna get, in the movie they talk about the book and I can't remember, was it the publisher
Starting point is 01:20:09 or somebody in publishing was commenting on the Knight Riders and talking about how, it's very much in the vein of where the wild things are and on that level artistically, it's a pretty cool book. But it doesn't have the words. It doesn't have like the neat and tidy story for kids. It's like, you can kind of see it's not necessarily for kids or it's for bigger kids.
Starting point is 01:20:34 Did you buy it online? Yeah. On Amazon? I'm not at liberty to say, Rich. We will figure out where the best place to buy that is and link it up in the show notes. Because if you're listening and you have very young children,
Starting point is 01:20:51 I think it would be a really cool holiday gift. I hear they sell it on Amazon. You heard. Ever. Right, but I'm not gonna quote you on that. We're not getting into my past purchases on the show right now. But I did make a past purchase, Rob Bell's writing class.
Starting point is 01:21:07 Yes, I wanna hear all about this. You were gonna tell me about this earlier and I said, don't tell me, I wanna just hear it fresh on the pod. Friend of the show, Rob Bell. Right, very good friend of the show and good friend in person. Also- Of both of us.
Starting point is 01:21:22 Yes, I can't wait till we can see persons again. Yeah. And beautiful human being. Great human being. Incredibly gifted writer and speaker and just guru of all things unlocking creativity. He's so smart. It's just, that's why I took it. It's like, I took it because A,
Starting point is 01:21:40 I took it for a couple of reasons. One is, yes, I'm wrestling with a novel that is kind of occupying a lot of space in my brain. And it's not easy for me because it's a different form. I'm not used to it. And I have my own little imposter syndrome around it. But also I'm interested in kind of this love,
Starting point is 01:21:59 this part, I think we talked about this, this time in my career, looking at craftsmanship around writing and around storytelling in ways that I previously was just kind of not, didn't have time to engage in or just wasn't really that interested in engaging in. And so then knowing the third thing
Starting point is 01:22:17 that Rob is so smart and brilliant that it's fun to listen to him anyway, talk about anything. Yeah, I could just listen to him read the phone book and like raise his eyebrow. He gets so excited. Well, and so that's the, and the first thing I noticed is that he and I
Starting point is 01:22:31 are very different in our approach to our own work. He's very thrilled by it all the time. And like at the beginning of a project, I'm very not thrilled with what I'm producing. And so, but that's the lesson, right? So one thing that he, he goes into the project with, with wonder. So he, this, this class, he went through every book he wrote and he kind of went through it and told the story behind it. And kind of, as he did it, he was opening each book and like kind of gleefully looking at his
Starting point is 01:23:03 chapter titles and just like really stoked on it. And I love that because he's owning it in a way and giving permission to really love yourself and your work at the same time. And it's a great example. And it's something that I think is my biggest takeaway is to feel free to do that for myself, which I do not feel free to do typically.
Starting point is 01:23:22 Right. And that enthusiasm and wonder is infectious. It is. But there's a half-life on that too. Cause I've been in his orbit and I feel so good when I'm around him. And I find myself trying to meet his energy in that way. And then I leave and then I wake up the next day
Starting point is 01:23:39 and I'm back to myself. And you're like, shit, I wrote this shit? Yeah. But you know like, shit, I wrote this shit? Yeah. But you know what? It's interesting is he comes into it with a, what is this? That's how writing starts. What does this wanna be? He referenced the great architect, Louis Kahn.
Starting point is 01:23:58 Before he started designing, he asked the building, what does this building want to be? So he's asking, what does this thing wanna be? Coming into it with- He's co-creating with the thing that does not yet exist. Exactly. And he actually suggests interviewing the book idea, like interviewing it and asking it questions. And in doing that,
Starting point is 01:24:15 you become a steward of the energies of whatever the project is gonna be, because that's what he sees a writer as, a steward of energies. It's not just you. Well, that's a very big magic Elizabeth idea. And he and Liz Gilbert, I think there's a lot of overlap there. He's saying, are you a writer? If you write, you're a writer and someday you'll become good. You don't have to worry about becoming good. That's not your job right now if you're a beginner. He talks about the
Starting point is 01:24:43 separation between flow and edit. Flow, just let it come out, edit, go back later and deal with which I've engaged. That's definitely something I believe in. I believe in a certain amount of words per day and getting that out and not necessarily rereading it. Even the next day, I try to, I try to get through a whole draft before coming back and doing a full reread. Sometimes that changes, but that's what I try to do exactly for that reason. There's a flow draft and there's an edit draft for me. He talks about how it feels to him. How is it feeling when you're writing?
Starting point is 01:25:14 Is it urgent? Is it personal? Is it spiritual? I think that's interesting. I don't really care about how I feel when I'm writing that much, but he's talking about the feel of the story itself. Not how you feel about it,
Starting point is 01:25:29 but the feel of the actual product. The feel of the project. And that I got a lot out of, I actually took something cause I never thought about the feeling of the book. I've always thought about story points and characters, but now I have a feeling that's like a theme and I'm only in the second draft right now.
Starting point is 01:25:46 I'm like two thirds of the way through a second draft. And my goal is to have the second draft done by the end of the year. But then this is gonna be a 10 draft process to get this to any point where I even give it to my wife to read. I mean, it's gonna be a while. So to have the feeling now, I think is great.
Starting point is 01:26:02 So I got that directly out of it. And the number one thing I got out of it is own it, you know, own, own the piece. Like don't question, if you're gonna write it, don't keep questioning, are you good enough? Are you doing it? Like, is it worth doing? Own the fact that it's worth doing,
Starting point is 01:26:18 cause you're doing it. And I think that that level of confidence has been missing and he just gives you permission to feel that way. And so I think overall, did I get a lot structurally out of it? Not necessarily. I mean, I don't write memoir. He's a guy who basically writes about the Bible
Starting point is 01:26:40 and writes memoir. He also writes some fiction stuff he hasn't really shared necessarily. I mean, he is a much more, he writes about anything he wants, but the stuff that we know of him is typically memoir related. I don't do that. Did he share anything about productivity or sort of, you know, the resistance, the creative resistance and how to get over that kind of thing? Because the reason I ask is he's one of the most prolific and productive creative people that I know.
Starting point is 01:27:09 Yeah, he's very prolific. He just doesn't ever seem to get gapped out in any way. Like he's just constantly putting out amazing stuff. And even his podcasts, like the amount of intention and thought, like most of them are monologues that could be characterized as sermons and they feel very intention and thought, like most of them are monologues, you know, that could be characterized as sermons and they feel very natural and casual,
Starting point is 01:27:29 but it's indisputable that he's thought deeply about everything that he's saying. And the naturalistic, you know, approach that he, like, it's so attitudinal because he does, he does like enter into everything that he does with a certain kind of enthusiasm and joy, as opposed to the gnashing of the teeth. There doesn't seem to be a lot of self-doubt.
Starting point is 01:27:54 How does that work? He doesn't have the self-doubt problem that we have. And I don't know if it's, or I have, I'm not, I don't mean to say it. I got plenty of it. Yeah, and he doesn't seem to have it. It seems like that could be a product of his faith. You know, the fact that he is, he's got so much-
Starting point is 01:28:09 But I would suspect everybody has these angsty moments, right? But he seems to be, I mean, I'm not standing over him, watching him write, but- We should be getting him on. It feels like he's figured that out. That would be, it would be great to get him on. And just to talk about creativity.
Starting point is 01:28:27 I mean, I've said this before, but he has, I don't know if it's still up on his website because I listened to it quite a long time ago. I suspect it is. It's called, I think it's called Something to Say. And it's an audio lecture that is hours and hours and hours. I think it's like eight hours or something like that. It's like an unbelievably long lecture, series of lectures on basically how to create
Starting point is 01:28:52 like a speech or a presentation or a keynote. Like if you have something to say, here's how you take an idea and turn it into something worthwhile. It's a masterclass on communication, on clarity of thought, on executing on an idea. I mean, of everything that I've consumed on the subject of creativity and writing,
Starting point is 01:29:14 it was the most interesting, thoughtful, and helpful thing that I've ever listened to. And very different from anything else that I'd ever- Well, this was not necessarily that. So he didn't get too in the weeds on structure and like helping you figure out- This is a different thing. This is a little bit more general
Starting point is 01:29:29 than I thought it might be. But like a couple of things that were really stuck out is, if you've written multiple things, it's okay to go back to the drawing board and write this one differently. So to him, he's like, how am I gonna write this one? Maybe this one I'll do longhand. Maybe this one I'll speak into a recorder and have someone transcribe it.
Starting point is 01:29:49 He likes to keep it fresh. For someone who's done a lot of writing and he's very prolific, I think it was like nine books we went through, I forget. He's very open-minded. He keeps that mind and that space as open as possible. How do I write this one? What does this one want to be? How do I align head and heart? And like I said, I'll quote him
Starting point is 01:30:13 here. Here's the thing, own it, own it. The thing you're trying to write, own it. If it's a sci-fi novel, inventing an entirely new world, make it as weird and wild and strange as you can. Own it, own what you're trying to do. And that's the key. Like, I think that writers can get into trouble trying to be too nice and he hates that. And so that was a nice piece to hear from him. Who's like, typically who is one of the nicer people you'll ever meet for him to say that because, um, cause he knows that that won't come across well on a page if something's too nice, if it doesn't have that edge, because there's nothing for the reader to hang on. And I think,
Starting point is 01:30:52 I mean, to me, he doesn't want people sanitizing their experience or sanitizing their writing. But for me, the things I got out of it is, how do I write this one? What is the feeling of this piece? And own it. Those are kind of the three major things I took. It was very worthwhile. And for somebody who's listening or watching, who's not a writer or doesn't consider themselves to be a writer, but perhaps as a creative spark, of these ideas, what can be extrapolated to anybody who's listening, like the, the, the lessons baked into this are specific to writing, but they seem to me to be easily translatable to other pursuits. I think anytime that you have an idea that you want to pursue and you feel self-doubt,
Starting point is 01:31:36 it's okay to own what you're trying to do and not give yourself a third degree about it too often, because that can infect what you're trying to do. It can, that insecurity can leak itself into the work itself. It doesn't always, but it can. So I think owning it is good. How do I want to go about it? And asking yourself those questions,
Starting point is 01:31:56 even if you're mid-career in any job, like say you're a lawyer and you're taking on a new case. Okay, how am I gonna research this case? How am I gonna try this case? It doesn't have to be the same way I've done, even if they're all wins. What's the weirdest, craziest argument I could come up with?
Starting point is 01:32:10 Right, right, yeah. How to attack each new project from a fresh and different angle. Yeah, and then he comes with the, don't be precious or attached to your writing. I think that's very important. That could be used for any idea in any job. Don't be precious or attached to your ideas.
Starting point is 01:32:26 But he has something that's interesting. He has a bits file, stuff that doesn't fit into the cuts he's made that he wants to keep. And then he puts it into a bits file and he's used that. He gave a couple of examples of using it in later books. And it ends up in another book. Yeah, and I've never done that.
Starting point is 01:32:41 I always just move on completely and start again from a different again from scratch. So that's interesting. It's been years since I listened to that something to say, but I seem to recollect that one of the practices that he talks about is just being more observant in your daily life. Because if you're paying attention, there's weird stuff going on all over the place
Starting point is 01:33:00 and making a habit of like writing one of those things down every day or like making a list of those things. And the more that you do that, the more engaged you are with the world and your environment. And the more you pay attention, the more that that kind of fuels a creative spark.
Starting point is 01:33:16 I love it. That just reminded me. Maybe I just completely imagined that, but I'm pretty sure. You know, that just reminded me of that movie adaptation where- I just watched it a couple of weeks ago with the boys, but I'm pretty sure. You know, that just reminded me of that movie adaptation where- I just watched it a couple of weeks ago with the boys. They had never seen it. And I was like, how can you be cinematically literate
Starting point is 01:33:31 and not have seen this movie? This is the greatest- It's the greatest adaptation. It's easily in my top 10 movies of all time. I was splashed on that moment where Nick Cage stands up in Robert McKee's story class. Robert McKee is like, you probably have heard of him. He's on Twitter, but he kind of burst on the scene.
Starting point is 01:33:47 Legendary screenwriting teacher, wrote story. Script doctor, he wrote story, which is amazing. And he's actually the mentor of the script doctors, right? And Nick Cage raised his hand in this, he plays Charlie Kaufman, very like mousy guy. And he's like, you know, I'm writing a story and it's about nothing. And cause nothing happens in life. So I want nothing to happen in this movie. And Robert McKee just goes, who plays Robert McKee?
Starting point is 01:34:15 Brian, what's his name? I can't believe I'm blanking on it right now. Legendary. Brian Cox. Yeah, Brian Cox from Succession. And just launches, launches in it. What do you mean nothing happens in life? And then basically you start talking. Yeah, a lion's roar emits from his mouth in an auditorium of thousands of people, it's classic.
Starting point is 01:34:34 It's a classic scene. Cool. Anyway, Robert Bell's class was not like that. So I trust this was like on Zoom or how did you do this? Yeah, it was on Zoom. It was like he had us all kind of muted and nobody... Was it unlimited? Like you could, everybody could sign up?
Starting point is 01:34:51 Yeah, it was like 50 bucks and he did like a few sessions and then people, you could fire questions at him through the chat and he was answering some of them. So it was like a mix of like 20 minutes of lecture, then some questions, 20 minutes of lecture, then some questions. And it was really good. And he's going to repurpose it.
Starting point is 01:35:12 I think he's gonna do some version of it on his podcast, he claimed. Oh, cool. But he hadn't decided when. And so I don't know. It was good. It was worth it. It wasn't, if you're looking for a nuts and bolts
Starting point is 01:35:23 writer's workshop where you learn how to do X, Y, and Z, this was not that. But if you're looking for true inspiration and trying to figure out how to find joy in it and to feel like you can do something, this was that. And then if you're a mid-career writer like me, just looking for a fresh take on how it's done, I definitely got something out of it.
Starting point is 01:35:44 Thus concludes the We Love Rob Bell fan club segment of the show, which will likely reappear at some point. Slash Adam takes a class. I enjoy your continuing education. Adam's continuing education. That could be a theme. Send me on another mission.
Starting point is 01:36:00 Let's talk about this Goldman Prize as the win of the week here. Yes, the win of the week is the Goldman Prize. Would you like me to explain the Goldman Prize? Yeah, please do. The Goldman Prize, one way of putting it is it's the Nobel Prize for grassroots activists, which is really what the Goldman family
Starting point is 01:36:15 who's behind the prize kind of created it for was to reward people. Every continent gets one winner every year, except for Antarctica. So six continents a year are recognized. And the winners are people doing grassroots work that have had a significant impact. And what they get is a cash prize,
Starting point is 01:36:37 like the Genius Grant or anything else that they can do anything they want with. And it's a six figure prize of some kind. I used to remember the exact amount, but it's escaping me. And so the first time I heard about Goldman Prize was when Berta Cáceres, who I think we might've mentioned her on the show before, she's the Honduran environmental freedom fighter
Starting point is 01:37:00 who was murdered for trying to stop a dam from being built on the river in her ancestral homeland. I think we did talk about her. And I went down and like a week after she was murdered, another environmental activist was murdered there. And Honduras is, there's no other way of saying it. It's basically verging on failed state status. There's so much corruption that it's kind of leaked
Starting point is 01:37:27 all the way up to the presidency. And the people who killed her have been connected to the current administration there through the electric company. And so I went and reported on that. That's how I heard about Goldman. But what makes this announcement this week special to me is that Crystal Ambrose from the Bahamas, ocean plastics activist and pioneer in education and study of
Starting point is 01:37:57 ocean plastics is one of the winners. And I was with her on the five gyres expedition from Eleuthera where she lives and where she works to Bermuda. And her story is really interesting. She started kind of like, just as, you know, she used to be a scuba diver in Nassau, like a scuba diving instructor at, what's that, at Atlantis in Nassau. And next thing you know, she's in Eleuthera
Starting point is 01:38:24 and she sees all this plastic on the beaches Atlantis. In Nassau. Right. And next thing you know, she's in Eleuthera and she sees all this plastic on the beaches and she's saying that something's wrong here. And she starts through her curiosity, finding her curiosity in that, realizing that is this our plastic? Is this the Bahamas plastic? Or is it coming in from elsewhere? She started to collect it.
Starting point is 01:38:42 She started to educate. She ended up connecting with five gyres. She got a last minute invitation to go on one of their expeditions to the great Pacific garbage patch. She made the flight, made the expedition and like the last minute, like running to get on the boat.
Starting point is 01:38:59 And next thing you know, flash forward, whatever, seven years later, I forget exactly how many years later, she's a Goldman Prize winner. And the reason that she won is because in 2017, through their fifth annual plastic camp where she takes students of primary and middle school age and she gets them to look at the problem of plastic pollution and come up with ideas that could solve the problem. It's a youth activism workshop. pollution and come up with ideas that could solve the problem. It's a youth activism workshop. She hosted a second edition with kind of her all-stars from the summer camp program, which is, and did something. The first is kind of a plastic pollution work education workshop. Then she did this youth activism workshop with her all-stars and they surveyed the community to
Starting point is 01:39:40 find out if locals would support a plastic bag ban. And through this process, the students decided with Crystal, let's try to get the Bahamas to implement a plastic bag tax, not a ban, but a tax. And so eventually she got a meeting with the minister of the environment and the Bahamas with the students and the students, this was 2017. She, that summer, she met with the students, 2018, she gets this meeting and on the way to the meeting, she's all nervous. She's like, come on students, wear your best clothes, no talking out of order, be on your best behavior. We have to do it properly. And the students are like, Ms. Crystal, that's boring. We want to sing the song that we wrote. And they'd written this song, uh,
Starting point is 01:40:24 about, you know, it was, it was, we are the change. We are the solution. We want to sing the song that we wrote. And they'd written this song about, you know, it was, we are the change. We are the solution. We can fix this plastic pollution, which had been a part of their video that had gone very well. And so that's what they did. They went in and they did their song. And the minister was like, you want to just ban or tax bags? What about all single use plastic? Oh, wow. And so it grew into this thing where by 2020, after they helped write this bill, now the Bahamas doesn't, it's illegal now to import any single use plastic into the country. I didn't know that. And so because of this work. Wow. So you can't get plastic water bottles in the Bahamas. It's now, it was a six month, there was
Starting point is 01:41:01 a six month, what's it called? A six month phase in or whatever. Right, right. And now apparently you can't. That's amazing. And, but that doesn't solve the problem with plastic on the beaches because a lot of it is- Grace period, thank you. You are a lawyer.
Starting point is 01:41:17 It took me a minute though. It's not, that's not antitrust law. I got a white beard for a reason, buddy. But the plastic is coming in from elsewhere. It's coming in from cruise ships. It's coming in from the United States. The Gulf stream goes right through the Bahamas. And so they have a lot of trans boundary waste.
Starting point is 01:41:35 And so right now she's getting her PhD and studying that exact thing, trans boundary waste and how it's hitting these island nations that are kind of caught in the middle. Trans boundary waste and how it's hitting these island nations that are kind of caught in the middle. So, but she still is, is got this, you know, the Bahamas plastic movement is her baby. That's what it's called.
Starting point is 01:41:52 And Crystal Ambrose is the head of that. And it's pretty cool. So this Goldman prize is a big deal, right? Like for, and their whole thing is finding these gems, like these grassroots people that are making change. Exactly. I mean, just a quick rundown. Chibese Ezekiel in the Ghanaian winter was basically stopped a coal power plant
Starting point is 01:42:14 and changed that into a solar plant basically and did that through grassroots activism. Leyde Pec, I think, in Mexico, she's an indigenous Mayan beekeeper and led a coalition that successfully halted Monsanto's planting of a genetically modified soybeans in the Yucatan. Lucy Pinson in France, Lucia maybe. She successfully pressured France's three largest banks
Starting point is 01:42:42 to eliminate financing for new coal projects and coal companies. And Nemonte Nenquimo in Ecuador, she is an indigenous activist that protected 500,000 acres of Amazon forest in her territory from oil extraction. And then another one that kind of hit close to home is Paul Saint-Trois in Myanmar.
Starting point is 01:43:02 He's a Karen activist that created a 1.35 million acre peace park along the Salween river, which is a major river basin, a major biodiversity zone and a place where the Karen state, the Karen state is on one side, Thailand's on the other side and Myanmar has been trying to basically eliminate the Korean state as a place and as a people for years and years. And there's been a rebellion there ongoing off and on
Starting point is 01:43:35 for dozens of years. And so this was a peace park, a way to stop the war in this area and protect nature. And so all those people are heroes. They're all incredible activists, Crystal among them. And it's an incredible slate. And I just felt bad because I was supposed to celebrate with Crystal in San Francisco at this great gathering. Right. Do they have some big fancy gala?
Starting point is 01:43:56 They do. And the fancy gala, you know, like Crystal comes from humble origins in Bahamas and her, her father, her parents go to Florida every once in a while, but they never been to San Francisco where this was gonna take place. So she was kind of bummed. We were bummed for her, but at the same time, it's gotten her lots of attention and press and all these activists, and it's a great thing for all of them.
Starting point is 01:44:16 And it's recognition for life work without them looking at, she didn't even know she was being looked at for this. So they do it in such a really stylish way. And Robert Redford was narrating her life on this video. Oh, wow. We'll drop the links in the show notes. Yeah, yeah, yeah. GoldmanPrize.org.
Starting point is 01:44:31 It's a one hour, you could actually watch the Sigourney Weaver hosts the one hour presentation and you can get, there's mini docs on all these activists. On each one of them. Yeah. So these docs are getting made
Starting point is 01:44:42 and these recipients aren't even aware that. No, by the time the docs are being made, they knew. I see. So they do research on you when you don't know. But they don't know if they're a candidate. They don't know if they're a candidate. It's not like you submit or you lobby for this. No, but like even the docs,
Starting point is 01:44:56 like in the case of Berta, when she was down there, the activists were, I mean, there were threats against her life the whole time. And when the Goldman people went down there to actually do their mini doc, it was no puff piece. Like they got into some real trouble. They wondered if they were gonna get out alive. So it's like real report.
Starting point is 01:45:12 And sometimes some years it's real reporting in areas where there's real conflict and real stakes, life and death. Wow, that's cool. Yeah, I was not familiar with that at all. That's pretty cool. And it's like, you know, like every one of those people that you named,
Starting point is 01:45:27 I'm like, that would be a good person to have on the podcast to learn more about that. You know, true heroes, all of these people. Yeah, and I'll drop the link to the Berta Caceres story too that I reported for Playboy. Cool. Congratulations, Crystal. Congratulations, Crystal.
Starting point is 01:45:42 Crystal Ambrose, people. Let's do some listener questions. Okay. This is from Joe in Northern New York. Hi, guys. First, thank you both for what you're doing with Roll and Run. And thank you, Rich, for the podcast in general. It's been very influential for me over the past year and a half. And this is Joe. I'm 42 years old and live in northern New York. I'm in this place in my life right now where for the first time, I feel like I'm living in a period of stepping onto my own path.
Starting point is 01:46:13 I've heard you discuss this concept before, the notion of living authentically, paying attention, and looking for doors that are opening for you. I'm looking for some guidance about navigating this experience. I've always valued humility as a character strength and now feel a tension between my usual humble mindset and the feelings associated with recognizing the call of this path. It's almost as though you need to have a certain amount of ego involved to maintain the confidence necessary to believe that you are on the right track and that the door is really about you,
Starting point is 01:46:44 necessary to believe that you were on the right track and that the door is really about you, that no one else has done exactly what you're doing. It's a strange tension that I've never experienced before. I hope this makes sense, and I would love to hear your thoughts and any advice you could give me. Feel free to play this on the air. Thank you both. Thank you, Joe, for that question. Northern New York is a place that I'm glad I'm not in right now, because I know what it's like living in upstate New York at this time of year, it's very cold and dark. So sending you good vibes from sunny California. This is an interesting question.
Starting point is 01:47:16 I mean, it's a bit esoteric, which I like. And in trying to wrap my head around how to best answer this, I guess the first thing I wanna say is, of course you need ego. I feel like there's this tension that he's having between humility and ego. You need healthy ego in order to move forward
Starting point is 01:47:35 in the world, right? That does not exist at odds or in contradiction to things like humility. You can be humble with a healthy ego and those things coexisting, I think is where I wanna focus my answer today. You also need patience for this kind of journey. And with that healthy ego and humility and patience,
Starting point is 01:47:57 it's about learning to lean into intuition, which I think he's already understanding because he's saying looking for the doors that are opening for you. Sounds like he's got something. Sounds like he's already understanding because he's saying looking for the doors that are opening for you. Sounds like he's got something. It sounds like he's excited about something. Yeah, like what's beneath here? Like we don't have specifics.
Starting point is 01:48:11 So I don't know exactly what's going on, but I feel like something has woken him up that is getting that sort of, you know, shaking the sleeping self a little bit and energizing him in a certain way. And I think looking for those doors that are opening is key here, like learning to lean into your intuition about which doors to walk through,
Starting point is 01:48:34 I think leads to a certain hypervigilance around your environment. Like the more you're paying attention, the more you're gonna see those doors or learn how to discern the doors that are opening from the ones that you should yourself close. So it's about paying attention to the signals that are being given to you.
Starting point is 01:48:53 And I think so much of this is about not sweeping change or grand gestures, but really micro adjustments. Like when you're in that hypervigilant state and you're thinking about this move and you're trying to identify those doors, it's about when you're in that hypervigilant state and you're thinking about this move and you're trying to identify those doors, it's about when you're saying yes and when you're saying no.
Starting point is 01:49:10 And I think saying no is equally important if not more important than looking for the open doors. Like you're gonna have to say no to stuff you're used to saying yes to, and that can feel uncomfortable. And that's a practice that I think you have to, you know, kind of acclimate to over time and can be practiced in these little micro scenarios where, you know, it's essentially a low risk situation. But I think what's most interesting to me about this question is Joe's perception that there's a conflict between his innate humility,
Starting point is 01:49:46 this character trait that he obviously values in himself and living authentically. As if to step out and into this more authentic version of yourself or to follow whatever this instinct or intuition is must be some kind of ego trip, right? Like that by doing this, he's engaging in his ego and he's betraying his humility that he prides himself on.
Starting point is 01:50:13 And I don't think that that's the best way to look at this. I mean, you need confidence in yourself. You think it's a false choice. Well, I think it's a, well, let me explain it this way. You need confidence in yourself, you need faith's a, well, let me explain it this way. You need confidence in yourself. You need faith. You need patience. But these things are not selfish.
Starting point is 01:50:30 I think there's this false comparison that he's drawing between this drive for authenticity and it being a selfish ego trip. Because in fact, what it is, is an act of self love. Like you're honoring yourself by listening to your intuition by following that muse and creating boundaries around that isn't an ego trip and it's not selfish, it's actually protecting what serves you.
Starting point is 01:51:02 And I think that that requires conviction and courage. And those are laudable traits in a human being. So I would encourage you to not look at this as egoistic or selfish, but to flip it and to understand that it's actually selfish of other people and the world to want or expect you to be something that you're not. So if you've been living your life in a certain way
Starting point is 01:51:28 to fit into a box or to please other people or for whatever reason, and you're worried about stepping outside of that because it feels self-serving or egotistic, consider the fact or consider what's kept you in that box or kept you limited in those ways. And those forces, if they are external forces, those are the self-serving forces, right?
Starting point is 01:51:54 And you catering to that is an act of self-betrayal in many ways. So I think- Interesting. Letting go of that ego aspect and understanding that it's self-love will allow you to move forward while also honoring and embracing this idea of humility with the whole thing. I feel like you're picking up on some sort of external definition of humility and ego that was transferred to him when he was younger. Well, let's talk about humility.
Starting point is 01:52:26 Like when he's saying, I feel like this is an affront to humility. Like, is it humility? Like, is this truly humility that he's considering or is it sheepishness, right? Like, oh, when I stay small in this world, I'm being humble, but maybe you're just afraid or maybe you lack the confidence to actually be yourself. And it's not in fact humility.
Starting point is 01:52:49 So the question that I would pose and leave for Joe is there a sense that you're not entitled to live your life your way? And that to be humble is to stay in that box or to stay small. And so he was thinking of anything that is like self-promoting is considered ego kind of inflating,
Starting point is 01:53:15 but you're talking about- But put the Rob Bell lens on it. Right, exactly. So elaborate on that. Finding the joy. And you know what Rob Bell also said is that- And finding the joy, but also the freedom
Starting point is 01:53:25 to be in self-love and sort of congratulate, be your own biggest fan of your life. Yeah, and you know what he also said is, it's not egotistical, it's humbling. That's something he specifically said in that, and it's true. Like if you really embark on something, doing something that feels like is connecting to your soul
Starting point is 01:53:52 and what you're meant to be doing here, you're gonna find it's more humbling than it is ego promoting. But I don't mean that in like beware. What I mean is that like, it doesn't have to be in a negative way. It can be in like, beware, what I mean is that like, it doesn't have to be in a negative way. It can be in like, you feel so at one with the cosmos some days that you feel like a speck.
Starting point is 01:54:13 And that is humbling in a way that's like, wow, that's how big the world, that's how beautiful the world is. And I'm playing my little part. And it could also be the other way, which is, you might get kicked in the face a couple of times to see if you really want to do this. It is humbling innately to go on, branch out on your own path and try to do something that you didn't know that you could do,
Starting point is 01:54:37 or that you just dared yourself to do. It is a humbling act, I think, Rob Bell would say. So we're leaving Joe with this idea that what he thinks is ego is actually humility. And what he thinks is humility is actually ego and fear because he's attached to this story that actually is false. Yeah, or that's certainly one way to look at it. And if it gets you on the road to doing, to self-actualizing, then look at it that way.
Starting point is 01:55:03 Right, and Joe, if this doesn't resonate with you at all, then... You get your money back. Yeah, I'm refunding you because I don't know enough about the story, but I have a feeling we might be onto something there. And callers, just so you know, I'm trying this new thing where if you are concise
Starting point is 01:55:21 with your question, it gives you a better chance of getting on here. That's the Skolnick algorithm. My new algorithm. If you wanna game the your question, it gives you a better chance of getting on here. That's the Skolnick algorithm. My new algorithm. If you wanna game the algorithm, keep it short. Keep it short and to the point. And also like just be really clear thinking and it might help.
Starting point is 01:55:35 A lot of these, you can tell some people are reading from a script they've written themselves. And it's easier to answer a question that's a little bit clear. And even though that that was esoteric, it still was clear. He still had a very specific thing he was asking. Right. He made his way through the algorithm.
Starting point is 01:55:49 He made it through. All right. Let's go to Seth from Wisconsin. Let's go to Seth. Hey, hello, Rich and Adam. This is Seth from Madison, Wisconsin. Listening to the podcast has been transformative for me ever since I first came across an episode on a solo road trip that I
Starting point is 01:56:06 took after my divorce. So your podcast became my soundtrack for that soul-searching tour of national parks. And my question revolves around the distancing that can occur in relationships. And in the relationship with my ex-wife, my poor self-esteem and the avoidance of discomfort kept me from what Zach Bush said in one of your interviews, from being seen and truly seeing my ex-wife. So endurance training and a plant-based lifestyle is transforming my sense of self and avoidance tendencies. But I'm curious as to what practices that you both encourage that couples can cultivate to close the distance that can build over time and help both partners in a relationship see each other. So thank you for the opportunity to ask a question. Take care and please keep doing what
Starting point is 01:56:57 you're doing. It means a lot to people. Thank you, Seth. Thanks, Seth. Also coming to us from a very cold part of the world. Yeah, and it's a divorce question. I love divorce questions. You do? Yeah. Well, let me say this. Well, not a divorce question, relationship question. Right, poor self-esteem and avoidance of discomfort
Starting point is 01:57:18 is like the perfect one-two combo that fuels isolation, that keeps a lot of people stuck, gets them stuck, keeps them stuck, and also is very effective for keeping people at arm's length that day, right? Like if you don't feel great about yourself and you're not comfortable with any kind of conflict or doing anything outside your small little zone of comfort,
Starting point is 01:57:48 then you're unlikely to take any risks with other people. And that's gonna keep you separated from other human beings. So when I hear those two qualities, I think what's behind that combination. And I hear somebody who feels like they don't have a voice or they're not entitled to have a voice or to speak their truth.
Starting point is 01:58:10 Somebody who's afraid of letting anyone else know who they really are. And perhaps somebody who even feels undeserving of love itself. And I think the avoidance of discomfort is rooted in the sense that if somebody really knew you, if they truly understood you, if they could see right into your soul, that they would leave you, right? But I think what I would urge Seth to do is to look at how these tendencies maybe contributed or in some way led to the dissolving of the marriage. I mean, obviously we don't know anything
Starting point is 01:58:54 about what happened there, but those things, that avoidance of discomfort, that poor self-esteem, those are ways that they're like coping mechanisms to keep you safe, right? And to prevent you from being in the position of being hurt. It seems like he's figured that out. Like that is what led to it. Ultimately that manifests the very thing
Starting point is 01:59:18 that you're trying to avoid. You get hurt. Right, so in truth, it's the vulnerability, it's the taking risks, it's the willingness and the courage to, you know, weather that discomfort that ultimately creates the intimacy. It's counterintuitive, right? Like if I stay safe, then I can be in this relationship
Starting point is 01:59:39 and I'm not gonna get left, but you have to take the risk to pave the road for intimacy that brings you closer. So as uncomfortable and as counterintuitive as it is, that's, I think, the growth arc for this person to embrace. Vulnerability, meaning revealing how you really truly feel. Yeah, being willing to be honest with somebody else about your insecurities or your poor self-esteem or what's bothering you and the willingness to have the uncomfortable conversations. You know, understanding that they may lead to a conflict, but it's only through that kind of like tension that you can come to a place of understanding and bonding.
Starting point is 02:00:20 Well, you have some suggestions in terms of how to cultivate that? Yeah. I mean, a couple of things. I mean, I think some of them are super basic and elementary. I mean, the first thing is, you know, if you're trying to create this bond, you've got to set aside time for conversation and treat that as sacred rather than just saying, well, the next time I see this person, I'll try to do it. Like if you establish it as a formal thing that's calendared and respected by both parties, you're creating a crucible, like an environment in which there's expectations around that kind of thing transpiring.
Starting point is 02:00:55 So setting aside time is super important. I know that it's scary if you're somebody who is conflict avoidant or afraid of that kind of discomfort. So the best way to get over that is to start to practice it in a low stakes environment. So maybe not with your ex-wife, but find a friend who you trust
Starting point is 02:01:18 and use them as an experiment, like say something vulnerable, like take a risk and try to have a conversation that gets you, that shakes you out of that safety zone a little bit, knowing that that person, you know, is somebody who's close to you and nothing bad is gonna happen. And I think that will help you acclimate
Starting point is 02:01:39 or get a sense of how this can work. And then over time, slowly increase the intensity, take little, you know, bigger and bigger risks until you're ready to kind of do this with your ex-wife. I wouldn't, you know, do the trial run with the ex-wife because my sense is that that might be too perilous at this moment. You can do pushups to get ready for something like that.
Starting point is 02:02:02 Or even like if it's for a new relationship, which it could be for, think of these things. It's still good to get the muscle working with a friend so that when the next relationship comes around that you're ready to be who you are. Right, and what a burden you're carrying around trying to prevent that person from seeing who you really are. Like the weight of that is tremendous.
Starting point is 02:02:25 And when you let that go and let somebody in, there's a huge release. And the intimacy that comes with that is tremendous. The other thing I would suggest is in these exchanges or in this dynamic to always, this is something I do all the time and I do it on the podcast, is to lead with vulnerability.
Starting point is 02:02:45 Like if you, instead of waiting for that person to give you the feedback or to say the intimate thing, like you've got to go first. And I think when you do that, you're giving the other person permission for that level of intimacy. You're saying, this is safe. I trust you.
Starting point is 02:03:02 You can trust me. And then with that, it's practicing how to listen, like really listen, because the most valuable thing that you can give another person is your time. And of course, your full attention. And the more that the other person really feels like they're being heard,
Starting point is 02:03:20 then the closer they're going to feel to you. And the more they're gonna gravitate towards you. Staying out of the other person's reaction to your attempts at intimacy, I think is important. If you're wed to a certain result, like I'm gonna have this conversation and then this is gonna happen, then you're setting yourself up for disappointment.
Starting point is 02:03:40 So it's not about the result, it's just about engaging in the process of being open, vulnerable, and intimate and trusting that over time, that's gonna breed the intimacy that you seek. But trust takes time. So patience, I think is super important. And then the esteem piece, I think is super important.
Starting point is 02:04:00 And forgive me if you heard me say this because I repeat it all the time, but self-esteem comes through performing esteemable acts, whether it's on behalf of others or for yourself, it applies to yourself as well. So simple things like setting healthy boundaries and making time for those that you care about, investing in helping other people,
Starting point is 02:04:20 all will slowly open you up and ground you a little bit better and make you a healthier person for your current and future relationships. And then the final thing I would say, sorry, did you wanna say something? No, I'm disagreeing with you. Yeah, the final thing, and this is important too,
Starting point is 02:04:39 is to forgive yourself, to like let it go, because there is this narrative about, I'm somebody with self-esteem and I don't like, you know, to be uncomfortable and I'm afraid of this and I'm afraid of that. You've got to rewire that neurology and start telling yourself a new story. Like in other words, letting go of that story
Starting point is 02:04:59 and opening up to perhaps a new and better story. And again, those pushups, those little actions that you're taking will help inform that, but that story is likely hardwired into you and pretty calcified. So it's gonna take some work and practice and intentionality to create that new narrative,
Starting point is 02:05:19 but that's the work, man. And I think- Yeah, and the only thing I'd add is that, distancing that can occur in relationships. I mean, I think there is a certain, as relationships mature, there's gonna be a certain areas of freedom where people can operate.
Starting point is 02:05:34 And you don't all, relationships can evolve and distance, it depends on what you mean by distance, but you can operate in different spheres and function differently. And as long as you have that, like you said, you have the space to communicate, you're listening, you're being vulnerable,
Starting point is 02:05:52 you are not reacting and not expecting certain responses or certain things coming your way. And you feel good about what you're giving to the world. In the end, that distance won't even feel like distance. It'll just feel like your life is working. Yeah. And there's something about just owning your truth and being who you are.
Starting point is 02:06:10 Yeah. And the more that you do that, the more you can kind of stand on your own two feet and it becomes less about what that person thinks of that and just about you and your relationship with yourself. And if you do all that and everything your wife says, everything will be fine. Is that a guarantee?
Starting point is 02:06:27 That's just a wife joke. It's a wife joke. All right, let's go to Michael. Sorry, hey. All right, here's Michael. We have another cold, cold wintry place right now. Sorry, next time it'll all be the island. Hey, Rich and Adam.
Starting point is 02:06:44 This is Michael from Boulder, Colorado and certainly fine to play this on the air. I can't tell you both how much I really enjoy the new roll-on addition to the podcast. I look forward to listening to it every other week, and it's thankfully become part of a routine for me. Anyway, I'm 55 years old and have been active really since high school as a runner and triathlete, but really primarily as a cyclist over the last 30 years. My question is around heart health and endurance activity for an athlete now heading into my late 50s. I recently signed up for a couple of lengthy gravel bike races, but in the back of my mind, I have concerns with this type of activity and heart health. Living in Boulder, Colorado, I've known and certainly heard of a number of athletes that have died or had heart issues with either training or racing.
Starting point is 02:07:33 While I know there are a number of factors at play, genetics, lifestyle, I'm primarily plant-based. I'd be curious to hear of any advice or changes that you both have discussed or considered with your training. I'll certainly put a greater premium on recovery these days. Training for a day where I'll be in the saddle for seven to 10 hours will still require considerable effort. Anyway, much gratitude to you both for the engaging and intriguing format, and I appreciate any thoughts you can share. Thanks. Great question, Michael. Let me preface my response by making it very clear that I am not a doctor. I'm certainly not a cardiologist,
Starting point is 02:08:12 but I would encourage you to see a cardiologist and develop a relationship with a cardiologist. I think it's always a good idea to have your heart regularly tested, get a calcium scan, get your blood work done. It's all very easy. Do you do that regularly? Yeah,, get a calcium scan, get your blood work done. It's all very easy. Do you do that regularly? Affordable, yeah, I had a calcium scan done
Starting point is 02:08:29 like a year and a half ago. I should probably get another one. Like starting at 50, you recommend that? I think even sooner, you know, all the cardiologists that I've had on the podcast, you know, say the same thing, which is that, you know, the plaques in your arteries begin in your teenage years. It's not like you wake up at 50
Starting point is 02:08:46 and suddenly you have a problem. Like this is a progressive thing over many, many years. That's informed by genetics, diet, lifestyle, all of these things, it's complicated, but being ahead of it, I think is important. Davey, call a cardiologist. Get me in there. Get me in there.
Starting point is 02:09:03 So at least you have a baseline to know what you're dealing with, right? If there are cases where people get a calcium scan and are alarmed to get some crazy score because they're completely asymptomatic and then they realize like they have to deal with stuff. So that's a good idea. Of course, there are cases of endurance athletes
Starting point is 02:09:23 that end up with heart issues. And you hear this a lot. I don't know what the statistics are on this. And I don't know how much of this is outlier versus majority or anything like that. But I think it's important to not live your life in fear and not use those incidents as an excuse to opt out of life or to make excuses for yourself. I think it's important to be prudent and responsible and appreciate the fact that as you age, you're not gonna be able to do things
Starting point is 02:09:54 like you could do them in your 20s and that we need to gauge our efforts a little bit more consciously than we needed to when we were in the past. And the question is really specific to things that I do or that we do. My life is very different now than it was when I was training for Ultraman.
Starting point is 02:10:14 So my training is at a very low boil right now. But even in the event that I was to sign up for a race that would be eight or nine hours or 10 hours or whatever the gravel race distances that you're thinking about. Some of the things that I would think about and take seriously is not overtraining, not being chronically exhausted.
Starting point is 02:10:36 You know, I don't think that those are good ideas as we get older and to pay much more attention to recovery, nutrition, et cetera, particularly recovery and all the kind of pesky little things that are annoying, like foam rolling and body work and getting adjustments and having active tissue release. And all of those things I think are really important.
Starting point is 02:11:01 Which is hard right now also. It's hard, right, but you can get devices that can at least help you with some of that stuff until we can safely do that again. Also, it's important to train responsibly. This is not something, if you're gonna be out for nine or 10 hours, you don't want your training to be you just winging it. And you're like, oh, I'm just gonna go out and ride my bike
Starting point is 02:11:22 and ride hard when I feel like it. Like I would encourage you to get some professional consultation, whether it's a coach or a training plan of some form and paying attention to how your body is responding to that on a day-to-day and a week-to-week basis so that you're not overdoing it. You know, I feel like at 54, I love just going out in that like zone two mode and enjoying myself. And that way I don't get run down. I'm not overtraining. I'm giving myself a workout,
Starting point is 02:11:54 but I'm definitely more gentle with myself than I would have been 10 years ago even. And do it for the joy of it, I think is important. To the point of endurance athletes having heart problems for the joy of it, I think is important. You know, to the point of, you know, endurance athletes having heart problems for every person like that, there's a guy like Don Wildman, who I was talking to Laird Hamilton about,
Starting point is 02:12:13 who was just killing it, you know, up into his, up through his 80s on the mountain bike, just destroying, you know, every young buck in Malibu, you know, with his, you know, Jack LaLanne-esque, you know, lifestyle. So, you know, Jack LaLanne ask, you know, lifestyle. So, you know, there's guys like that too, who, you know, went all the way to the end and lived a very long and fulfilling life,
Starting point is 02:12:34 basically doing what he loved to do. So I guess those are my thoughts on that. Even Dan Buettner's guy in Loma Linda, who was swimming into his nineties, that doctor, plant-based guy. Oh, right, yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, right. I forget his name.
Starting point is 02:12:49 I think Dan had him on the Today Show at some point. It's right on the tip of my tongue. I know exactly what you're talking about. Yeah, amazing guy. But that guy wasn't doing, he wasn't racing. No, but he was still active. And Michael lives in Boulder and everybody in Boulder looks like they're ready to win Ironman at all times.
Starting point is 02:13:09 So it's a very hyper active and competitive environment. And yes, and middle-aged guys, especially, there's so many of them. To be honest, Michael, right now I've got an ankle thing, a back thing, then my back locked up on me. I got a neck thing. I've had, you know, my biggest problem is- You have a baby. I have a baby. I'm like, I haven't been, that's the main thing is I haven't been doing my recovery. I haven't been doing the yoga. Obviously, massage is out out. And so the recovery stuff backs up on you.
Starting point is 02:13:46 And the next thing you know, your body starts to rebel. So, but I've never done the cardiologist, never had a calcium scan. So this is all news to me. So I don't have anything really, but that's why we have the guru of ultra here to tell you how to do it. I would, I think that makes sense
Starting point is 02:14:04 to think about these things. As I'm getting older, I'm in my late 40s now, as I'm getting older, I think about it too. I think it makes sense to think about heart health. I think you're doing the right thing by even bringing up the question. I think it's something probably a lot of people in their 50s think about.
Starting point is 02:14:19 And we've all heard, when we were kids, it was Jim Fix or whatever, I forget who it was, the runner that like- Right, it was Jim Fit, the guy who wrote that book. Yeah, yeah, who died quite young. Yeah, so there's always those crazy horror stories and of course people you might know. But, and in Hollywood, the stories were always
Starting point is 02:14:39 like the 50 year old producer who had blow in his system, died on the basketball court. It's very different. Very different than Boulder. Right. On a very tactical level, a couple of things that you could do, since you're living in Boulder,
Starting point is 02:14:51 you probably have a heart rate monitor strap already. Like this is not gonna be news to you. You're born with it, right? But if you don't, that would be one thing that I would do. Get a heart rate monitor, track your heart rate when you're training, understand what your zones are. So you know specifically which energy systems you're
Starting point is 02:15:07 training, which will help you be more efficient to pinpoint how to work the systems properly without overdoing it. And you might want to look into getting like a whoop, because a whoop basically is very good at tracking your recovery, how you're bouncing back by monitoring your heart rate variability and also your respiratory rate. And all of these kind of markers help inform the level of strain that your body is prepared to endure.
Starting point is 02:15:39 And that could be a tool in paying attention, paying better attention to your heart health. Yeah. And I'm sure there's plenty of doctors and perhaps cardiologists in Boulder who are well-versed in this subject because it's so much a part of the culture there. So find the right person to be your consulting partner on this.
Starting point is 02:16:02 And zone two forever. I just did an hour, 20 minute run, zone two the whole time. For the first time, I was able to do that. And look at the smile on your face. And it felt great. My back was killing me. My ankle was fucked, but it was a great time.
Starting point is 02:16:17 On that note, this shall conclude. This concludes 2020's roll on edition. Yeah, exactly. On that note. Awesome, man. So I don't know when we'll be back with this. It will be at some point in the new year. Stay healthy, everybody.
Starting point is 02:16:35 Enjoy the holidays. Happy holidays. Love your loved ones. Be kind, be grateful. And I'll catch you in 2021 because we are putting this fucking bad boy in the rear view. Are we not?
Starting point is 02:16:47 2020 is gone, baby. It is done and dusted. We are done with it. It is not quite yet done with us, but it will be soon. Very soon. How do you feel? I feel great, man.
Starting point is 02:16:58 This was a good first session. Breaking in the new studio. We did it, man. We did. Cool. Look good? Feel good? Feel good.
Starting point is 02:17:08 You ready for the January break? I am. Travel's kind of out the window, so I don't know what I'm gonna do. For the foreseeable future. Yeah, I don't know exactly what I'm gonna do. Maybe get in my car and drive around, but we'll see. Adventure.
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