The Rising’s Growing Together Podcast - STOP Comparing Your Job to Others and Focus on the JOURNEY

Episode Date: July 22, 2025

Feeling overwhelmed by the summer heat, family life, and big career goals? You're not alone. In this episode, Billie and Charlotte dive into the reality of balancing working mom life with ambition, exploring how the heat affects daily routines, how personal development fits into family chaos, and what it really means to pursue transformation through coaching.They share honest reflections on the struggles and joys of parenting during summer, running businesses, and finding clarity through action not perfection. Plus, Billie opens up about her coaching business journey and how it differs from therapy, focusing on forward momentum, goal setting, and self improvement.Whether you're navigating career shifts, motherhood, or the pressure to "do it all," this conversation will remind you to give yourself grace and enjoy the ride.

Welcome back. Hey, welcome back. Welcome back to The Risen's Growing Together with me, Billy. And me, Charlotte. Another week, another week of dealing with the heat. Yes, well, yes. You're saying that's all anyone talks about. Is it? Hi, you're right. Yeah, it's hot and it.

Yeah, it's all the conversation goes to. That is it. We all know we have to eat at some point. We don't really want to, but we have to. Yeah, that is the tough thing I think in the summer is just losing your appetite. I mean, it's hard. We've already complained, knowing what's for dinner, what to do for dinner. Yeah. And it's so much hard. in the summer because you just don't have that appetite, don't want to eat the things that you normally

eat the same five dinners on rotation, just aren't good enough anymore. Everything, everything, from just hanging the washing out to just have a shower. I've currently got one out for two days. It's probably like losing colour because it's in the sun and it's like getting ruined and another one in the wash of it.

Well, it's to the point, open the door and it's like boom. Yeah. It starts well putting it in the wash of thing like, yeah, I'm going to get on it today and do this. Well, mine my plays a noise. I don't know if yours does, but when mine's finished, mine plays the noise. It's like, the worst noise. I'm like, oh, no. Mine does it, luckily.

I'm going to hang it out. You know, like, dun, dun, dun. Yeah, though, even today, I had all good intentions. Like, we've had a couple of days off work. We had a bank holiday and then I was off Friday. So, had a couple days, chill it. Like, let the house be a mess, let the kids play, whatever. And then I was like, right, no, Saturday.

Get up. Do it. Get on it. At least get the house sorted so that you can chill on Sunday and then ready. Like, the house feels, you know. A little bit for another week. Another week, exactly. Like I say, get on top of the wash and whatever.

I cleaned my onsuit. By the end of it, I was dripping. I'm over. Heaving. I'm out. I was like, that's it. That's all I've got the energy to do. She did that.

Well, I hung two washing out there. That sounds pretty stupid. Well, I did one yesterday. Like I said, I put one on. So I put one on and then clean the bathroom. But, yeah, it just takes you out. It is. It's a good.

Like, say the heat. Like, me and Liam are napping. Yeah. It feels like I could at any... It's like, I don't even do anything and I'm tired. And then when I do do it, I'm just like, I can't do anymore. This is just... Yeah.

And I think I'm just rolling with it, not making myself feel bad about getting... No, and I did. It's good to talk because everyone's feeling the same. Yeah. So it's not just me. I'm okay. I'm okay. Yeah, I'm not...

But I think I am because now I've got a man in the house. Mason turned 18. For long... It has happened. It has happened. Yeah. Have three adults. Very strange.

Very strange feeling. Do you know what I mean? I know because I remember even like when I was doing like my driving and turning 18 my mom was like I feel so old that I now have like an adult child. Yeah, it is a strange feeling. Especially when you and my mum both had kids young. Yeah. You're young to have like an adult. So imagine how I'm going to feel when I have an 18 year old.

I'd be like crepid. But yeah, so that was that was nice celebration. The five of us just went to the water park in Benedorm. That was really good. because the kids are all at an age where we can all just do stuff together it's not like I've got to take a younger one to a different part

you know what I mean to try and end up their age that is good that you kind of reached out of you. Yeah so it is nice it was a really nice day it was a little bit here miss at first because Morgan's had an infection so I think I've now understood

that he's just going to be prone to that yeah so we got he was an ear plugged up to the max blessing for the first time and it worked it helped oh good just well it could still get an infection obviously but he didn't feel like You're not tend to, well, I suppose I was going to say,

you're not tend to be under the water much because you're not really in the pool. You're normally like going on slides, but I guess you still are going under. Yeah, I was a bit panicky of even if we were going to be able to go or not. But no, it was nice. It was a really, really lovely day. We were literally there all day. And then we all went, we went for dinner last night, didn't we? It did.

That was really nice. It was a load of us. I know, yeah. When you said like, we had to pre-order the food because there's that many of us, I was stupidly. I didn't fit. I felt it was just us. And then I was like, well, no. No, of course.

There's a lot of us. Yeah, and I knew you'd gone away for the day to the water park. So I was like, oh, yeah, it's going to be grandparents. Even just our family, we're like 14 or 15 without us then. Do you know what I mean? And we're all fours and a nice long table outside at Kaysen's favourite place. Yeah, it was really nice. When you said outside to Kaysen, I was like, guess where he's going?

He was like, his house? I was like, no. He was like, our house. I was like, no, he's like, Rosie McGuire. Bless him. Oh, that is so cute. It was really, really good. It was a nice place.

He had a fab time of everyone. It was hot. It was good. It was nice. It was hot, but it wasn't actually unbearable. No, it wasn't. It wasn't at all. I think it just started to get a bit cloudy and it, like, there was a bit of a breeze.

It was, good. I'm just, it's just all I have to say. There was nice music. It's nice shout out of Rebecca. She smashed it. The one girl that made sure everything was running smoothly. Yeah. Yeah.

That's good service there. Like you say, the people are good there. It's just really nice atmosphere. Like, you've got singers, which is nice. But it's like all songs that we were saying, like all songs that you know, so you can kind of sing a lot to, covers, yeah, very nice.

Popular songs, but they do it in their kind of, like, acoustic way. But, like, loud enough that you can, like, listen, but, like, quite enough that you can still talk to the person in front of you. It was. And, like, say, with the kids all different ages, like, and, I mean, we, were outside, which you didn't originally plan, but it was nice because you could leave the

singer and then, like, I was walking casing around. The kids were playing, I think, hide and seeker one point in and so. I mean, they weren't, so it wasn't taking the hits, but it was nice place to, for them to, kind of, because I didn't know what I was doing in, in, in, Mason wasn't too fussed in anything, if that makes sense. Yeah. What I mean by that is, if it was probably Lexi, she was, I want to, do, do you know what I mean for this? Whereas, um, whereas Mason's not, not that fuss. So, but I've still just, um, but I've still something it was his 18 then obviously everyone was asking and we want to do something with it yeah so i was thinking of all different things i was like right rather than just do

separate things let's just try and get everyone together yeah um that's the easiest way i said where did you want to go and that's where you wanted to go and that's it so yeah that was my week nice nice good week ready for another week yeah mine's kids last week they haven't even been for the last two weeks because obviously more gazelli infection and then it's more most of stuff so i think i think it's their last week i don't think they've finished you already anyway i'm hoping they've got one thing. I think most of them are four weeks because it runs for the yeah. But I don't know how I booked it so I just need to check. Yeah. So they could be going back for another week or that could be it. I have no idea but well Kaysen finished

his on Friday but did he enjoy it? He did. Oh yeah he didn't want to book it at all and I said to me yesterday I was like see sometimes I know best and he was like that's true because I used to only want a family free and now we've got hay and I'm happy and I was like see mom's no best. So yeah no he finished because I only booked him the three out of the four weeks that they offered. Yeah. I should have just booked four, but with it being a completely different place,

kids he didn't know, I was like, and it's expensive, I was like, I didn't want to pay for the four for him to hate on the first day. Exactly. So, no,

three weeks was nice. So now he's, so we had a week off from when he finished school, a break. Then they started summer school. And now just eight weeks to keep them insane still.

Yeah. And it already feels a lot, don't it. Is it eight weeks? I don't know where we're at. We're like, yeah, it's about seven,

eight weeks they were less. A lot. So, yeah. And we still got birthdays in between that. You're going to England in between that. Yes, yep. So it will be yours and our friends' birthday first. Yeah.

And then I'll be going. Well, Lexi's as well. And then it's my sister-in-laws. It's my nieces. Like, August is a busy birthday month, actually. My sister's birthday and Kaysen's book will be in England for that. So, yeah, lots of books. At least that breaks it up for you a little bit.

Yeah. To be fair. Yeah, it does actually. Yeah, it does. It breaks it up so that, yeah, August will hopefully go fast. Yeah. And it's just the last month of the heat. It feels really sad.

It's sad. We don't want it to brush, but it is, I just want to, I hope I'm going to just snap out of this thing, but it's like, it is everyone. It's just how it is. Yeah. How it is. I keep looking at everyone's, like, holiday snaps, like being on holiday, especially like people in England going on holiday.

Yeah. And I'm like, oh, I wouldn't do that, but they're literally doing what I could do today, like going to, by a port, going to the beach. Getting dressed up going out for dinner. Yeah. I could do that now, but it's like the heat wipes you out. But I, when you've got it all the time, you don't make the effort. Look, yes, whenever I wasn't yesterday, but whenever I went to the Mason's birthday,

whenever went to walk park, when we got up and got out and we went and done it, it was brilliant. We was there all day or night, you know, I mean. Going out for meal was lovely. And I say, if you know, exactly. But it's just, that's why it is good to book it in and say you're going to do it. Because otherwise, you do just think, oh, no, no, no, no. To be fair, we've like going out for dinner and stuff,

I've been a bit nuh because of taking the baby, but he loved it yesterday. He's dancing in his chair. A little roll of the shop. I've got a video of that. I'm going to get Liam's put it in to York and see his little dark. He did not whinge once. He was up walking around.

He sat down while we were eating and ate of the bits and stuff. That makes everything more enjoyable, doesn't it? It really does. Because like you say, when you feel a little bit about going somewhere because of your kids and that at an age or for whatever reason, yeah um because you know something's gonna whatever case we're happy to be at home and then hayden's a bit of a handful so it's like oh we just won't bomb go it exactly so when it yeah when it's like that so go in somewhere that casein enjoyed and obviously the girls were there so like he was happy

playing yeah they all got they all got on well they all do yeah they love it so no it was really nice so just making effort maybe of doing a few more things like that i think it is booking it in as well because it makes you a thing of you know what we've even got barbecue today haven't got a barbecue later today after we record this so that's why i'm in just this that's easy enough isn't it to do and i think that's the most enjoyable like just going to each other's houses we've all got kids we've all got toys we can even be inside with the air con we can be around a pool yeah it's yeah we don't have to go away away to do these things no like you say we have got it here and for it i can't justify what they're charging right so yeah well even i was thinking

oh be nice to go just for like a long weekend just somewhere an hour two hours away everywhere's like three for and it's easy it is ridiculous cheap cheap and that's just for a room by the time I probably would put us both like all four of us on the room book in and then like whether you want buffet or something or which is fine like you say

if that's your if that's my holiday for the year exactly that's brilliant if I just want a little weekend away we've got that so for me I can't justify that no no so we just we do just do little day trips and that's it I think that's yeah little day trips

and oh like you say just making effort to go set outside. In between working. Yeah. It's the thing. We're still at work. We're still living. I don't want to wish this summer.

Like I say, I want to enjoy it and stuff. But I'm looking forward for like kind of September, October to come just so I can feel a bit more productive because that kind of takes us to where I want to take today's episode, which is the topic of when parenting feels like it's impacting your career. Okay. And what I mean by that is that's kind of how I feel at the moment is that work's going

good. I'm getting into the swing of things and obviously it's going well. We're doing a lot of good work with the team. But besides that and being at home, keeping the household going, the kids, the side business, the coaching business is like third on the list at that point, third, fourth on the list. Which is something that you really want to push to do. Yeah. And not only you're not doing anything in summer, you feel like you're getting nowhere with that as well. Yeah. Because everything else is coming first. Yeah, exactly. Okay, okay.

And then it's like, it's going to have to be, I was going to say a weekend thing, but it's hard because obviously Liam watches the kids all week while I'm working. So come Friday, when I've got Friday off Saturdays and Sundays, he's generally going out to work. Yeah. And although you're going to have to do extra to get, we all know that.

We've got work to get to where we want to, you know, to be able to do. You don't want it to take over to then hate on it in a way. Yeah. I've got to do that because you don't, you enjoy it. You love it. You love what you do, you know what I mean? And you've learnt a lot to be able to push forward in what it is. What is it?

Because you need to, I know that sounds pretty stupid. This is me, okay? So there's going to be more people like me. Obviously, I sort of know, but really explaining it from your mouth, probably better. It's funny because my sister popped around the other day with her friend just as she was going out for dinner. And her friend asked her what I do for a living. And she went, she's basically like, Chandler from friends. Nobody knows what she does.

It's money, something, like, I'm not sure, but it's like, actually, I don't think any of my friends, like, my actual job job could really explain what I do, let alone like the side business. So, yeah. Obviously, my actual day job is... Day job. Way. Day job. Is in international payment, so it's the finance sector, but we're basically helping people move their money internationally, whether they're coming. to Spain or leaving Spain to buy and sell properties. So we're helping with, you know, international transfers. But my actual job originally was to make the partnerships so that we get

the referrals for the clients. So with lawyers, with agents, they're the ones whose clients are doing it. They recommend us and we have a partnership with them. So it's building relationships with them. And then now I've kind of transitioned into the training and development of the team who do that job. Yeah. Yeah. So kind of get everybody up to scratch, getting them to to perform, do really good, and kind of sharing nearly a decade's worth of me doing the job and kind of what works. So basically they're making, because they know what you are, they're making you make loads of mini of these, but then they can go and do more up the job.

That's how I've just seen it in my head. Kind of, yeah, yeah. Obviously, we, I don't want copycats and robot versions as me. But yeah, it's sharing, you know, what works and putting their twist on it and sharing in like the knowledge and the skills of doing it. And it's kind of business to business sales. So there's a lot of, you know, sales psychology and people skills and presenting and all these kind of things that go in it.

There's actually quite a lot because you have to business developments. You have to identify opportunities. You have to approach them. Then you have to, you know, be able to get a meeting, you know, be interesting enough to actually get the meeting because generally people have, you know, are working with competitors. So we have to try and win the business. Then when you actually do have the meeting and pitch them and win

them, it's then taking them through to actually managing their account and delivering a great service and building a long-term relationship. So actually, kind of a lot of that, which I'm, you know, coaching people and developing their skills and being really good at that job, kind of goes a little bit with the coaching stuff of what I want to do on the side. So kind of the rising is what I, my coaching business that I've started inside, which like I said, don't have a lot of time dedicated to it at the moment. But ideally the point is that I have a 12-step coaching program that I take people through. And it's basically coaching to deliver a transformation.

So, you know, in my work, it's more to do with sales and results and, you know, delivering on targets and stuff. But essentially, the coaching that I'm doing outside of work can be for anyone, for any one, for anything. Yeah. It's all to do with personal development. So you could come to me and be like, this is the goal that I want to achieve, whether it's, you know,

in my relationship, in personal life or whether it's professional and I want to develop and go this way with it. So it can actually be applied to anything. But the 12-step framework that I've got is science-backed. So it's basically geared to deliver a change and a breakthrough in someone so that they leave and come out of the 12-week program

not completely transformed but are so much further in the progress of achieving what they want to what they want to get because there's lots of different pillars of things that we cover and it's you know you look at first of all the clarity like what is it that you want how can I get there what are the steps and coaching's about guiding people to figuring it out rather than just giving people the answers which is where it's a little bit different from kind of like therapy because a lot of people have the question of what's the difference between therapy and coaching therapy is about talking through your past to understand kind of how you think the way you do

how you behave the way you do from your past and then you can kind of if it's something that you want to change then you look at it the root cause of it and work that way so it's all stuff in the past whereas coaching is all stuff in the future so it's about results driven yeah so a lot of coaching not all pro like some people might have had coaching

and it's not worked so you know you obviously have to look into the credentials of the coach that you choose and kind of the results that you want to get but like I said the one that I take people through is so I got certified from he's actually the highest paid coach in the world coaches people like Oprah

so I've got his certification so he created it as science backed he's worked with Harvard you know all these people that's where you've learnt from that's who I've learned from by him directly yeah um so yeah the the program that i've got that i take people through and deliver it's not just the which is what most coaches do like hi how's it going so last month or last week we said you were going to do this have you done it um this is a lot more thought and process based

in order to deliver results so yeah that's that's kind of what the the plan is the vision is um and like i said i kind of do that at work so i kind of want to take it outside of work and and work with more people, really, and develop more of that side. So that's what I'm struggling with at the moment. Yeah, because you've got it there. You just don't feel like you're because of just, yeah, we are, I think, in the year. That's the thing. And it's all well and good saying I've got the program.

I know how to deliver it. But it's like, obviously, starting an online business. I have to get out there. I have to do content. I have to push, you know, what I'm doing so that people know, attract people to at least ask the questions. And then we can get on a call. we can discuss if it's right for you, right for me.

You know, you kind of have an introductory call first to make sure that it meets the expectations that you have, that I have. And then, yeah, because sometimes you might feel that you're not the right person, coach, or the person who's contacted you, for example. Exactly. Exactly. Because, you know, some people just want a quick fix and give me the answers. That's not really what I'm doing.

I'm kind of there to help coach and kind of change you in a way so that it's lasting results, help you get to this point and at the end you know some people stay on coaching and then we take you to the next point and then it's ongoing but the whole point is for you to finish those 12 weeks with you know something that's that's long term that's you know an achievement exactly long term as well because a lot are quick things that don't last yeah and at the end of the day you know I'm best place to serve people that are similar to who I used to be that's the same with every person, entrepreneur, business owner, you're always going to be best served to serve the person you used to be.

So someone who... Exactly, from experience now. So someone who was, you know, going through the corporate ladder, trying to balance, you know, working while being a new mum, burnout, toxic culture, you know, people-pleasing. Panic attacks. Panic tax. Can coach through that now. Oh, my God.

So, yeah, all those kind of, the, a woman who's highly ambitious, that's probably quite critical, that's really pushing herself, that's, you know, burning the candle at both ends, trying to do it all. That's the kind of person who I could really help because that's the person who I used to be. And like I say, I'm not perfect, still working with myself. And I'm buying the coaching stuff to my own life. I was just about to say, you see these things coming your own life.

Do you know what I mean? Yeah. And you're just knowing how to deal with them. Yeah. You're now more experienced than that to deal with it. just like whoever this stuff, I've liked experiences. But, you know, it definitely, definitely helps. Well, it helps that you've just explained that anyway.

Yeah, that's someone asking you, like, yeah, I know. I, see, I'm, obviously you've got this whole program, literally, and this whole new thing, so exciting. Do you know what I mean? To start, and I can imagine where you were starting in it. It was so exciting, and it was kind of like this, and then nothing got, nothing come from it, but you just stopped of the push in it.

Yeah. To start, well, you didn't start it. If they're just dying it. And then to do that, like you say, all that kind of pushing it, it was like, where you feel, like I'm not held back. I don't mean it like that. That's kind of what it feels like, though. Yeah, but it's, yeah, that, exactly that.

Because of other things. Yeah. I can't do that yet. Yeah. And don't get it wrong. And you can. Yeah. It's just like you say.

Pushing. Figuring it out and pushing and I'm really getting a thing of no. Come on. So the, the person that can do this is you. Yeah, exactly. And totally know that. say, I know that, you know, when I put my mind to it, I'll get it done. But it's just the balance at the moment between, right, don't be too hard yourself.

It's summer. Kids are off. It's hot. Now isn't the best time to do it. You've got a baby who's taking five steps at the moment. So it's starting to walk. So all of these things happening. So, you know, don't be too hard on yourself.

And when I actually look back, I'm like, so I actually did the qualification at eight months pregnant. Yeah. so that just defines me all over. Exactly. You know. You never do things by the next anyway. Biggest project at work,

oh, and while I'm doing that, I'm going to do a coaching qualification while being pregnant and about to give birth. A huge. It's not just a little thing. It was a big one, yeah. That's the biggest outside of my degree is probably even more expensive

than my master's degree. So, yeah, it's a big investment. But like I say, it's all these little stepping stones that's kind of lined me up to get there, especially with, you know, not planning on, changing my job at work which is even more closely aligned with with coaching and I'm really

enjoying it so I know I'll get there and getting results and getting results yeah that's the best thing that's that's what's fulfilling about it is getting someone to where they need to get to so they you know it's it's high performance basically coaching which is why you know I'm looking for people that are ambitious that that are going for it but yeah it's it's finding the balance and when I actually look back of the progress so what Hayden's one so in a year that's a lot but I've obviously given birth yeah been on maternity leave um you know created the the company set things up got my page started doing podcast which you know part of it is so that people can get to know me they know who I am before there's other forms

of content that people can get to know me before deciding that I'm the coach for them so yeah when I actually take a step back it is a lot but I know there's a lot more that I'm going to need do to get it to where I want to get to. Yeah. And slowly but surely, but now it's just maybe, but we haven't got to where we've got to by not working hard. Exactly. So I know I can do it. It's just like you say, don't be so hard on yourself. Yeah. And I tell that on myself, not in comparison to what you're doing and your project that you're dreaming for, I'm just generally, don't live so hard on myself of whatever at home. Do you know what I mean? Generally, you know? Because we work hard and we do well with our kids and our families and

ourselves and everything else. Do you know what I mean? So yeah, you will at some, point when you start it is going to be a little bit tough at times you know like oh you know but it's just finding the tire yeah you're definitely and there's there are some excuses here and there and I know it is excuses because like I say I could find the time if I really pushed but I think that's just going to push me to a point like you say of maybe where I'm not enjoying it so I'm going to let summer play out September and October come naturally you know it's going to be cooler as we said I'm going to have more energy and I'm going to dedicate more time and the thing that I have which I have to get over is that because I work all week

and Liam watches the kids that when I'm not working I feel like I have to watch the kids whereas I need to be like well actually know still sometimes on Friday, Saturday or Sunday I'm going to have to go right I need to take two hours you know and no Liam For what for that? To take away and actually start working on it yeah

But that is work that is work that is work yeah In a way do you know what I mean Or if not let's say it's a hobby Yeah. Do you get what I mean? Because it's still something that, yeah, you do have to take that time. It's so funny because you're saying that with work and that, and when you're not working, you've got the kids kind of thing, I think I don't know who I've spoke about it before, but we always seem to get the kids looked after it in that way of, you know, when we've got stuff to do that, you know, like that, like whether it's work or whether it's, you know, these things. It's never just to have some time just to be us or do us or do nothing. Or, like you say, do a hobby. Exactly. Do you know what I mean?

It's never ever than that. Polaris, I've stopped completely because I'm like, right, well, if I'm working Monday to Thursday, I can't ask Liam to watch the baby on Friday so I can go on my day off to go Pilates. And I absolutely can. Yeah. But it's me guilt tripping myself into thinking, well, I can't ask Liam to watch them even longer than he already is because it's already a bit unbalanced. But then it's like, well, I need to talk to myself as well.

Exactly that. I think there was a study that shows. that moms have, on average, 17 minutes a day to themselves. Wow. That's probably just having a shower and going. So probably not, actually. Probably just a couple of weeks. Hang in the washing out if they do.

Because no kids will be around them then to help. Yeah, exactly. So, no, it's tough to find the time to do it all. And like I said, it feels like it's impacting my progress at the moment. But, yeah. But like that, I think sometimes you need to even put like a, you know, like you put deadlines on things. You know, like put and target to stuff.

Yeah. You know, like where you've said, right, let's just get somewhere out of the way. Let's be realistic here. Let's get stuff. If you're still in November and you're telling me you haven't done nothing, then I'm going to get a bit worried. Do you know what I mean? So I think, like you say, be realistic and have your goals and have these things.

And don't be so hard on yourself and give you time just to be you. Take that time to be you or you and the kids or you and your partner or whatever it is, you and your mates, whatever it is. But you know you've got that goal to do on that. time frame that you've said in a water start, whatever. Because then you know, you'll do that there. Yeah.

And that will be when it is. Like I say, if it goes further than that thing, you really do need to pick up the ass kind of thing. Yeah, I think like I say, I just need to run that business like I run my main job. Exactly. And then it would work.

But like you say, it's also time. We do this with work. We have our time. Yeah. You know, and then that's it. Yeah. But if you said you were tired, you worked from here to here,

or you worked on a, let's just say, a Saturday from 11 till 2, let's just say, then no one would think anything of it or you wouldn't even think... I wouldn't feel bad. You know what I mean? It's just, well, I'm working, so that's it. But we do, we're so hard on ourselves with these things.

Even, like you say, going Pilates or going to dance class or kids are going to go into bed. They're not going to be doing anything else. Or even Mitch does it. We're going on his bike. Do you know what I mean? He's like, you know, like, I'm going to go out on my bike for a bit. Okay.

And he's still roughing around the house. And I'm like, you've just said, just go. Go and do your thing for a bit. And sometimes we'll all be sat in the living room together. So Liam sat there. I'm sat there. The kids are around and it's like, I could actually be working right now. But like I say, for me, the way my brain works, I can't, because even Liam said sometimes, we'll just sit there and do some stuff.

No, I can't. You need to take your thing. I need to be away. I need to be in quiet. I need to think, yeah, exactly. Yeah. Because I'm still at the early stages of. Right. I've got the program. That's not the problem. But figuring out the sales process and getting it all set up online so that I'm ready to go. That bit of it, I'm still learning. I'm still new to. So there's learning and stuff that I need to look into in order to kind of actually start doing things.

Yeah, you need to be researching things to be able to put it into again the next step of where you're dreaming. Building out the sales process online. Like the funnel and the content and the, you know, social media plan, like, I'm probably a little bit overthinking it and probably procrastinating a little bit. I think once you start, it's just going to go through. That's it. And sometimes when I sit down, I lose myself in it because I do, I was going to say, I don't know if I, I don't think I have ADHD. But part of that, which I do resonate with for those people that do have it,

is hyperfixation. So when I'm, when I'm into something, I can lose myself for hours. Yeah. because I'm like into it and I go for it and I'm like tunnel vision and I get loads of stuff done but because I don't know where I'm at with it and I'm still learning

there's a procrastination of actually sitting down to do it because it's a lot of effort and a lot of work yeah yeah yeah yeah I just starting yeah and like you say it's oh just do an hour a day or do you know an hour every other day but then I get into the flow of things and I'm learning things

that I'd have to stop it's hard for me to do it like just oh just do half now 45 minutes a day that's easy to take or you know in the evenings when the kids have gone which will be once you get like you say over that that that hurdle of that start point of yeah the next step of where you're going with it when it comes to that when you feel more like your head ready to get that that focus in your zone and environment like with anything isn't exactly have the energy is the main thing and then and you know i think we all you know even you need to be in the right mindset you need to be in the right mindset and then when you

actually get into it, even though I'm a little bit unclear on some things, which is what's stopping me or slow me down, I'm not going to be able to get to the point I want to get to unless I just start. Like, because clarity doesn't come from thinking, clarity comes from actions and, you know, as you go, as you go through it, you figure it out. And that's when things become clear. Action leads to giving you the clarity that you need, whereas a lot of the times people think it's the other way around, which completely stops them from starting. I know, that. So it's a matter of just having the energy and then like I said, come

September October. I'm going to give myself the time. It's good you've got that time thing to start. I think we're all, we all need that and as long as you do it you know what I mean, you do start at that time. Because then like you say you just, once you started you've see it, flow, like you've got

action. Yeah. Action. You're saying that though, we're not stopping just before we end this thing quickly because it just reminded me when you said it. One of our friends who obviously I used to work with say like a certain job she was doing going through lists or whatever it was she was doing I can't think of an actual job now

but you know what I mean like whatever she wouldn't be able to do it until like say the page is finished or the whole whatever's together like the booklet's finished you know I mean she should be standing there like I need a way I'm like just go to the no no I need to finish this list

I've got two more to get through I've got two more to get through I'm like just go for a wee yeah I can't I can't I just need to finish it just in mind of you when And then literally, it could knock and be like, Bill, you need to have dinner, babe. Like, come on, come out. You know, like, you need to, you know. He does deliver some food through the window.

Just drink or, you know, food and drink, you know. Because you just won't end, you're in your literally a zone and you're like, no, I'm going. I'm like, I'm like, can't break the focus, can't break the progress. I'm in it. Like, yeah, I can't stop for a wee. No, that's the waste of time. Exactly. When you said it then, it just made me giggle because, uh, I do, I do things with, I can get

into stuff like really get into stuff like you say i think it is it's just starting and it's enjoying what you do i think and you've got that excitement and that passion for what is that you're doing as soon as you get into it and that's that's why you're feeling like you're feeling like now because you're because i'm i want to get into it but you know it's it'd be pointless to start now it really would be yeah you know what i mean i mean look at this country it shuts down in august so yeah i'm just going to go with them learn for the spaniards like we said last time As to September. Put the blinds down, stay in the dark and astasthiambriam.

Yeah. And that'll be it. We're off. Hey. Yeah. That would be us then, August. Yeah. You won't catch us.

Well, you will, but we will be with a sangria instead. Or serious talk when it comes in September. But no, that's kind of how I've been feeling that, yeah, I'm kind of impacting my progress. But I think the main thing. as well is that I keep moving the goalposts of progress. I want to get here, then I get here. Oh, now the next bit. Now the next bit.

Like we said probably a few times, that's just who we are as people, very ambitious. And then once we get one thing, we want the next thing, then we want the next thing. So, no, I'm kind of allowing myself time. But it is. It will be ambitious. Like you say, don't be hard on yourself. Yeah. I think that's literally that, isn't it?

Definitely. So we'll get there and enjoy it. And that's it. I want to enjoy it. Yeah, I want to enjoy the process. That's what they say. It's not the destination, it's the journey. Oh, look at you.

Whoa, she's good, isn't she? All these toes I'm going to end up getting. Right. Well, hopefully that makes you guys feel a bit better if you're feeling like progress isn't happening, especially if you're living in Spain in a hot country. Saying that, they have a heat wave in the UK. In the UK too.

So wherever you're based, summer. We're feeling you. We're feeling you. Summer is summer. it feels like you could conquer anything in the summer but the reality is it's tough it's hard work so don't be hard on yourself and pick up again to come autumn

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