The Ryan Hanley Show - Elite Success Coach: Don’t Quit Your Job to Build Your Next Chapter

Episode Date: April 20, 2026

I help founders & executives generating more than $10M in revenue find their Easy Mode. Start here: https://ryanhanley.com/subscribeListen to the audio version of the podcast: https://linktr.ee/ry...an_hanleyMost people think the only way to start a new chapter is to quit, leap, and hope.That is stupid.In this episode, Mitch Matthews explains how smart leaders build an authority bridge from the life they have now to the life they actually want next. We talk about monetizing your expertise, why you should teach from the journey instead of the destination, how AI can help without replacing human energy, and why some of the best speakers in the world are actually introverts.If you know you are capable of more, but do not want to torch what is already working, this conversation will help.In this episode:👉 How to find the brilliance you cannot see in yourself👉 Why your next chapter should be a both/and, not an either/or👉 How AI helps great communicators get better instead of making them obsolete👉 Why live speaking, coaching, and real human energy still matter👉 How to build something meaningful without sacrificing your life to get itGuest: Mitch MatthewsSite: https://MitchMatthews.comFree training mentioned in the episode: https://MitchMatthews.com/time and use the code "peak"This show is part of the Unplugged Studios Network — the infrastructure layer for serious creators. 👉 Learn more at https://unpluggedstudios.fm.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Starting point is 00:00:00 What is it that when Mitch shows up is fucking easy for him? And he can do it all day long, max energy. It's new and so that can feel scary. But the people who are able to shift and maximize are the ones who thrive. Are we looking at this as an opportunity? Are we looking at this as the enemy? AI can't really be the enemy. Like, it's not a thing that can be an enemy.
Starting point is 00:00:24 Machines can't transfer energy in the way that humans can. People are so much more willing to, celebrate your wins if they know about a few of your losses. Give these things, like their own personality. So I was like, your hardcore Gen X, you love Wu-Tang, like your Buffalo Bills fan. I was like, you know what I mean? So I'm like, I'm giving him this thing. Yeah, so you know Max is a fighter.
Starting point is 00:00:57 You know he's got some, yeah, raw talent. Doesn't take any shit. Maybe felt a little unappreciated, you know. in his early years, right? That's right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, bitter at the two generations that are sandwiched between you. That's exactly right.
Starting point is 00:01:12 Let's go. And to ride his bike home on his own. Yeah, open up the house when nobody else was there. Yeah, that's right. I know. I said, oh, my gosh. And then this is the last thing I'll say. I'm just, dude, I love this shit.
Starting point is 00:01:26 Like, I have become so enamored by it. So the book I'm working on is called Easy Mode. and my whole philosophy is to be our best selves, we need to figure out what our easy mode is. Not working hard, but like what is it that when Mitch shows up is fucking easy for him and he could do it all day long, max energy,
Starting point is 00:01:51 like what are those things? Okay, once we know what those are, right, then we use AI automation outsourcing to get rid of all the other shit. Not a new idea, but I want to do this. but it's due this filter of like a human optimized business. So my previous startup that I found it and sold, I basically got every employee to buy into the idea
Starting point is 00:02:14 that we're only better than machines and automation at three things, building relationships, solving problems, and selling shit. And that what we want is every human in our business spending as much time as we possibly can in one of those three buckets. And anything that they do that isn't in one of those three buckets is wasted time unless we have made a conscious decision for some, reason that we want a human to do that. And I see AI, to me, this is just such an amazing in time.
Starting point is 00:02:44 There's so much opportunity. All these people are scared and you got Bernie Sanders saying we're all going to, you know, everyone's going to lose their job Armageddon. And I just don't see it. Like I don't see that. Like the world's going to shift and change. But like, I'm just so optimistic. Well, it's one of those where you look at, I'm with you and so much of it is your
Starting point is 00:03:02 perspective, right? Because what's interesting is, you know there were people that made the same predictions about the printing press, and there were people who made the same predictions about factories. And you're like, okay, well, it's new. And so that can feel scary. But the people who are able to shift and maximize are the ones who thrive and the ones who resist. You know, and I mean, yes, there is, with AI, there are some fundamental differences, you know, and, you know, we can go with the Terminator model. There are some scary potential outcomes. But at the same time, who's, are we looking at this as an opportunity? Are we looking at this as the enemy? And to be able to go, hey, we need to be intentional with our approach, but let's maximize the opportunity. I thought Patrick Bed David wrote a really interesting book, Choose Your Enemy's Why, I don't know if you read it or heard about it. I didn't read that. I've heard it.
Starting point is 00:04:05 Yeah. Yeah, I won't say I've read every word. Yeah. But I own the book. I've scanned through it. I've read some sections that I thought were really interesting. And it's an interesting concept. And I think what I see,
Starting point is 00:04:18 the mistake that I see a lot of people making today is they're making AI the enemy. Where AI is not a thing. Like it can't, you know, outside of some odd marketing message. that is probably most self-indulgent to whatever you make money, AI can't really be the enemy. Like it's not a thing that can be an enemy, right? So it's like people are completely misappropriating their energy
Starting point is 00:04:46 and just their brain cycles on a technology that isn't positive or negative. It's wholly based on how it's used. So like, yes, if you get a bad person, a bad person can do bad things with AI, but that bad person was going to do bad things with whatever technology they had in their hands. So why are we demonizing AI when passed through a positive filter gives limitless upside to the increase in the quality of life that you can have? And I don't know, but I just so. Oh, it sounds like you're maximizing the shizziness out of it. So that's, that's awesome. And that's the thing, especially as you're training up an agent to do.
Starting point is 00:05:31 some of the things you're doing there. Like, yeah, there are course corrections. There are fixes. But if you're saying, hey, Max is helping you save three hours a week, right? And maybe 15 minutes you have to go back in and tweak something Max did. You're still up two hours and 45 minutes for the week, right? So like, hey, that's upside. And boy, does that compound.
Starting point is 00:05:57 So, yeah, we're in the process of identifying which systems can we be able to do what we do and do better through training up some agents. And yeah, we're in the process of that, which is exciting and a little existential and all that stuff too. So. Yeah. Well, if, you know, after this conversation, whatever, if you ever have any questions or want, you know, I'm happy to just share what I've experienced because I've been down the rabbit hole.
Starting point is 00:06:25 You should probably, you know, look for ways to rent out max for crying out loud. It sounds like you're getting a system. locked in that would probably podcasters would invest in, right? Like, that's an incredible thing. What's really interesting is I was talking to this super AI nerdy guy and very, very smart. Yeah. And he's building all this stuff. And I asked him, you know, I was like, he's kind of like a, I won't say he's a close buddy,
Starting point is 00:06:49 but close enough that I could reach out to him because I saw him doing all this stuff. And I was like, real with him, right? Yeah. Yeah. I was like, what is all this? You know, like you have so many things going on. And he goes, dude, I am fixing problems. in my life and my business,
Starting point is 00:07:03 and then every problem that I fix, I tell the AI as it's building the fix for me to consider what would it look like to commercialize this fix. So every project that he does, even if it's a small, tiny thing, he's asking the AI to, in parallel, build a commercialized version,
Starting point is 00:07:22 and then when he gets to the end, he kind of, I ask myself, like, one, is this something that I actually want to have as a business? And two, is it commercialized? viable so much as more than just me have this fix and people will pay for it. So he now has like seven or eight little like SaaS companies going. Some are recurring. Some are just one time purchase of a skill or something like that. And it's all these just little tiny fixes like, you know,
Starting point is 00:07:50 something was like calendar to set appointment, whatever this process. And it was a simple skill. You pay 24 bucks at one time. Now you have it like that kind of thing. And I was just watching them going, This is really, it's an interesting change for particularly what I want to talk to you about is like, yeah, literally this conversation that we're going to have today couldn't have come better for me in terms of personal free consulting because I'm in the transition that you literally teach people how to do. Yep. So hopefully it'll be very contextual for the audience. One billion percent.
Starting point is 00:08:22 I love it. Yep. But it is an interesting shift, especially for people in the consulting speaking space where you're like, now literally every project that you work on, whether it's for yourself or for a client, you can be thinking in the background, is this something that I could commercialize and mass scale this solution to a broader audience,
Starting point is 00:08:42 which was never possible at this scale before. It was just never possible. 100%. I love that question. And it's a question we should have been asking ourselves for the last 50 years, right? Like, hey, you know, I obviously need this solution. who else might need this solution, right?
Starting point is 00:09:01 But you're exactly right. Now with AI, the ability to duplicate that and scale that becomes so much more possible. It's interesting, the person I was talking to just before you was my coach, and we're working through these kinds of things. And what we wound up coming up with was all of these different opportunities are popping, right? And I always say my core question for myself, and it's also for my authority bridge clients, the people you're talking about that, you know, successful people that now want to coach and speak
Starting point is 00:09:33 in addition to what they're doing, not burn down their life, but add that, right? My question myself is, hey, I want to create a business that allows me to live the life that I want to live. You know, do more of what I'm put on the planet to do in a way that I love doing it. And sometimes when you come up with these product ideas, you're like, oh, yeah, that's a viable, business, but it doesn't help me live the life I want to live, right? Like, I will be busier or I will have to do things that are not me that are outside that expertise, that zone of genius. So like, yes, is it viable? Um, yeah, it is. But do I, does it help me create the life that I want to live? If it's no, then who could you sell it to? Right? Like, I mean, that, that's the beauty of something
Starting point is 00:10:21 like this is even a no still could get you to a yes. You just have to be intentional because I don't know about you, but I love helping people build businesses that pay them really well, but I never want to help them build a business. They eventually, you know, it helps them create a life they hate. So it's got to be both and not either or. And dude, we can just get into the podcast here since we're having such a good conversation. You know, this is one of the more interesting questions that I've had to address even in my own life is, as I told you. So in 2020, I started a business a national digital commercial insurance agency. In 2021, we were fastest growing small commercial agency
Starting point is 00:11:01 outside of the top 200 agencies, which are like mega agencies. And that spurred us getting purchased. And then ultimately, I exited two years after that, which is a kind of classic sell to a PE, watch them destroy my baby, you know, slice by slice until the point where I hit my first exit trigger and I was like, I can't do this anymore.
Starting point is 00:11:22 I need to get out. Okay. So I hit that point, I exit. And, you know, I got a lot of people that were like, well, why don't you just go, go be an executive somewhere. You know how to scale, go be a CRO or take a, you know, become a mercenary CEO for maybe stagnated startups. Because that's kind of the space I'm good at, I'm good at launch to escape velocity is
Starting point is 00:11:45 probably where my bread and butter is. I'm not a great peacetime general. I'm much more of a wartime general. That's a huge realization. That's massive. So I toyed with this question, right? And to your point about, like, I could have gone and gotten a job at any number of companies, particularly in the insurance industry, which is my home industry, and made $2.50, $350,000, more, you know what I mean?
Starting point is 00:12:10 Like tons of money. And I hate the corporate life. That is no knock on anyone who's listening to this that loves that lifestyle. It is zero knock. But for me, I have built my entire life around driving my kids to school and dropping them off, being when they have a half day going and getting them or if they don't have school like my older son is off from school today he's upstairs uh he's 12 like when we're done here it'll be you know early afternoon and we'll go out and shoot hoops or we'll all go hang with him for a bit and like
Starting point is 00:12:42 i will i would much rather have to kind of live continue to live through that entrepreneurial you know kind of speaker coach podcaster life which you know there's not that backstop that you get from a corporate job, but to your point, that the extra stress and anxiety that comes from always having to kind of keep yourself alive is worth the flexibility and not having someone go,
Starting point is 00:13:09 oh, well, you know, were you logged off at 3 p.m. today? Like, you know, exactly. You don't have any more PTO, buddy. Yeah, it's like, wait a second. Yep. The idea of having to log into some system and tell somebody that I took two hours of PTO in the afternoon is just, it's never going to happen again for me.
Starting point is 00:13:25 Like, I literally never live that life. Ryan doesn't play well in the sandbox anymore. That's true. Yeah, I think unfortunately I've become unemployable to that extent. But I think it's such an interesting question. So when you have someone come to you, right, and they're having this existential crisis. They're like, I'm not sure what to do next.
Starting point is 00:13:45 I have all this expertise. I've thought about speaking. I've thought about coaching. I also have maybe some offers to, like, what's the first step in starting to understand what this next move could mean for you and what the right path for you is? Yeah, I love that. And it really does start with acknowledging it. Like you're not broken.
Starting point is 00:14:07 It's just a new season, right? Because there were seasons of your life. You had success in the insurance world. You had success growing your own business. And those seasons, yeah, you might have to check in at 3 o'clock in the afternoon to take a little PTO, all that stuff. but you're in a new season. So it's time to reshape your life, right? And I'm with you.
Starting point is 00:14:27 I was in the pharmaceutical world. I had a lot of success there, but started, I got promoted into a bad fit job, which was my wake up call like, wait, I'm not playing well in the sandbox anymore. I think it's time for me to build something of my own. And so I did that. I started to build a coaching and speaking business on the side. And that took off. And I'm wildly grateful to say we've been able to do that full time since.
Starting point is 00:14:51 2002, and then in 2006, other coaches and speakers started to notice what I was doing was working. So they started to come to me for help, all these kinds of things, which is great. And then fast forward, now we have online programs that help people to do that. So I do. I have a lot of people like yourself that come and say, hey, listen, I've got success in this area. And, you know, I don't want to burn down that life. I don't want to quit everything. but I do want to expand my impact.
Starting point is 00:15:22 I want to generate more income. They have a scratch that they just know they need to itch. And part of it is to be able to say, hey, I want to start creating something of my own. And that is huge. So part of it is just acknowledging that and to say, hey, even that acknowledgement is a win. And then it starts with giving yourself permission to walk through some steps
Starting point is 00:15:45 that we really encourage people to take. And it really does start with saying, hey, you don't have to burn down your current life in order to start this. We just start by giving yourself that permission and starting small. And one of the first things, it's actually a pretty encouraging experience, but one of the things we do is to inventory your brilliance. Now, I know that might sound a little crazy, but like yourself, we always say there's a fish in water concept here where when we start to work with people, and it's, you know, oftentimes it'll be entrepreneurs and executives, founders, leaders, all of those things. It's a little bit of, you know, a fish swimming in water is not really aware of the water it's swimming in, right? And the people that we work with, they are often swimming in brilliance.
Starting point is 00:16:37 They have lost awareness for. Not to say that they're not doing, they're not walking out this brilliance every day. they've just started to walk around in that brilliance so much. They think that everybody knows it. And the good news is they don't, right? So it's that thing of being able to say, hey, what are some of those things that you do to make your team more successful? What are some of those things that you do to make yourself, your day,
Starting point is 00:17:07 your morning, your evening, your family more successful? Now, we're not saying you do it perfectly. And we're definitely not saying you have it all figured out, but to be able to say what are some of those things that make what you do work. And we inventory that brilliance. And what's interesting is a lot of people would be like, I think I might be too humble to do that. Like, you know, I don't have that much brilliance.
Starting point is 00:17:35 And it's like, nah, you do. You have brilliance. And part of the brilliance is in the sequence. You know, there's certain things that you know that might, there might be elements of it that are common, but you've figured out some sequences, some things where the order matters. Let's track that. Let's inventory that. Or, you know, we even say inventory events, like you, you just walked out of a meeting. It ended on time. People seemed to have clarity and nobody killed each other, right? Hey, I know I've been in enough
Starting point is 00:18:06 meetings where that's not always the case, right? So what are three things you just did? You know, we always say take a five-minute inventory. What are three things? things you did to set that meeting up for more success, big or small, right? So we have them inventory, some of their brilliance. And it really is a pretty encouraging activity where people are really like, oh, there are some things that I know that not everybody knows or to be able to start to recognize those patterns, those things that you've done, choices, intentional decisions that you make, you know, all of those things, it's a really powerful thing. But then to be able to say, okay, now, how can we start to teach to those things?
Starting point is 00:18:49 How do we take those things that you're aware of to then turn them into teachable, tangible moments? And so it's a really powerful process that kicks it off. And it helps people to feel more encouraged, but it also helps us to lay down additional strategy of saying, okay, that's some of the ones. But now who are we talking to and how do we relay that? So, but it starts with an inventory of their brilliance. It's pretty amazing how in others we can see those things so clearly.
Starting point is 00:19:22 100%. The way Mitch articulates the agenda at the beginning of meetings, it just, I know we're going to be on time. I feel confident. I feel secure. Right. And you're like, I just put an agenda together. What do you? Doesn't everyone do that?
Starting point is 00:19:34 That's just what I do. Yeah, exactly. You're like in the head. You're just like, wow, this is just what I do. And you like, can't see it where everyone around you, you could be like, that's, you know, that's brilliant, that's brilliant, that's unique, that's novel. And it is a very odd process in so much as you almost do need someone to guide you through it. I think it's very difficult to ferret this stuff
Starting point is 00:20:00 out on your own. And I'm a huge proponent of working with coaches, whether on a project basis or on an ongoing basis. For this very reason, coaches need coaches. I mean, you already said it. Like, here you are, you know, one of the top consulting coaches and strategists in the world. And you have your own coach who's helping you get through your stuff. Who's doing expensive, right?
Starting point is 00:20:26 But he is incredible. And he's helping me fill in the gaps and doing, like you said, he's helping me inventory things I couldn't see. So you're exactly right. How do you get past the, I think people use fear as a misrepresentation for ego when it comes to putting these things together and making these kinds of moves? Because I know, I know more than a few friends who will talk on the side at conferences or, you know, when we're chatting on the phone or whatever about wanting to speak or write a book or, you know, do some. coaching or consulting and instead they always take that you know see-sweet job they just keep coming back to the sea sweet job over and over again and you know they'll bitch about it but at the end of
Starting point is 00:21:20 the day they like being the insert you know chief of whatever you know whatever their specialty is they really like walking into rooms and and meetings and what conferences you know being the chief of whatever it is they do. And one, if that's the case, should they even consider making the move or, you know, or is there a way to kind of break down that ego slash fear that might be keeping them from making the move if it's what they truly want to do, working through the assumption that this is really what they want to do? Yep. I love this question. I love, Ryan, I love how you get into the mind like this is these are the things that that people some people like they feel that tension but they can't put their finger on it like you just did so i i think that's one of your superpowers one of
Starting point is 00:22:10 many superpowers right um but that is something we have a program called the authority bridge and it is specifically for leaders executives entrepreneurs who are saying i've always wanted to coach or i've always wanted to speak or maybe they've even got invitations to mentor or We're invitations to speak, but they just haven't put that business together, right? And we actually help them do that. But one of the things we say is it's best to start this when you still have a full-time job. And for many of our authority bridge people, people that are generating an extra six figures, you know, $200,000, $300,000 a year just by coaching and speaking on the side,
Starting point is 00:22:55 instead of burning down their life or instead of quitting that C-suite job, they're doing it in addition to. And what's interesting is, is that as you can imagine, as you start to inventory or brilliance, as you start to name some of those things that you do and do well, as you start to teach from those things, not as a, I'm a speaker, I'm a coach, but you just start to teach from that leadership capacity.
Starting point is 00:23:19 What often will happen, especially in early stages of the authority bridge, is your authority within your organization, grows. I give you an example. One of our authority bridge clients is an engineer who's, she's very successful within her firm, and she's getting asked to speak all the time. She's getting asked to mentor all the time. She's like, I think I should put a business together for this. And so we started that process, but she's not in a place where she wants this to be her full-time gig. And she has to even be strategic about how she, you know, announces that she has
Starting point is 00:23:54 our own coaching and speaking business. But we've started to build that foundation, and that's what we do. We start to build the foundation. So as those opportunities come in, you're able to handle them, but also how do you grow your authority in a way that's complementary to your current business or current role, but also starts to send that signal, hey, I do this, right? This is what I do as well. And in her case, it's really been interesting because we have a process of what we call value-based promotion, which is not necessarily value based on, you know, your faith or your politics. It's you deliver value as you teach, right? So her social media posts aren't about the breakfast she had this morning or about the sunset. Not that those things are bad, but she does one value based post a
Starting point is 00:24:41 week, primarily on LinkedIn in her case, where she just offers some of what she's learning from her journey. She hasn't made a big announcement that she's a coach. She hasn't made a to make an announcement that she's speaking, although she's gotten paid for both. She's just teaching from her journey. And what's interesting is that recently, someone came to her and said, hey, we have an opening on our board
Starting point is 00:25:02 and people are kicking around your name. And she was shocked. Like, that has never been something she's been considered for in the past, but people have started to notice that she is consistently showing up, not only within the organization as a leader, but also as she starts to teach
Starting point is 00:25:21 these things in a more public way, people are starting to see, wow, this isn't happening randomly. Like, she's actually working on this stuff. She's actually, she understands it enough to be able to teach it to others. And so, you know, what's wild about the board, it's a paid, a paid board, you know, position. And what's interesting is, is that there's a good chance she's going to go for it. There's a very good chance she's going to get it. And that's probably going to actually meet her revenue goals for what she was thinking would be her coaching and speaking business, right? So it's that thing of being able to say as you intentionally step out and build your authority, bridge to that authority, it allows you to have more impact. Oftentimes within your
Starting point is 00:26:05 organization, you don't have to leave it. Again, you don't have to burn down your life to get this started. But with some of our folks, they just realize like, man, I feel so much more satisfaction, being able to once a quarter go speak to a big audience that it's actually interested of what I'm, you know, talking about. And it scratches that itch of having more impact, more reach. But, hey, they're happy to make an extra $100,000 a year by doing that periodically, but then coming right back to that job that they enjoy or that title that they benefit from.
Starting point is 00:26:36 And they're not going to leave it at all. Other folks, though, they realize, hey, if I can make this much by this little effort and I really enjoy it, what might happen if I have all of my time devoted to it. So some of our authority bridge people do eventually then build that as their only business. Some of the people decide, hey, this is my exit strategy or this is my retirement program. Like, I'm going to do this. I'm going to start this now and I'm five years away from retirement, whatever that might be, whether it's early retirement or actual retirement, whatever, and say, hey, this, I'm going to have a business that I can step out.
Starting point is 00:27:14 into fully that allows me to make more income, make more impact, but it allows them to exit in the way that they want to exit. So it can be a both and it doesn't have to be in either or. Yeah, I love that concept of this type of work being able to translate post maybe your traditional career. I think as we live longer, as retirement ages get pushed back, our world is changing. We were talking about AI before we went live and a little after, you know, like we have no idea what that world's going to look like, but we do know, or at least I'm fairly confident that
Starting point is 00:27:51 people who can specifically in person articulate ideas, transfer energy to an audience, inspire, motivate, entertain, those, you know, kind of live experiences. this being one of them, right? This type of experience here where, you know, this can't be duplicated with AI, right? You could write scripts and there could be AI versions of us, but certainly not in the way that we're talking. And I think live coaching, live consulting, I think speaking events,
Starting point is 00:28:29 I think all these things are going to come back in the age of AI like gangbusters. I think all the AI is going to tear apart, thought leadership and all this stuff. And yeah, I mean, to a certain extent, there are people that are already just delusying these social platforms and our email inboxes with work slop. But I think that's only going to put even more of a premium on those individuals who are able to articulate thoughts, communicate them in a way that inspires people.
Starting point is 00:28:55 That being said, this is work that you can do until the day that you die. And that to me is what makes, even if it is just a small side portion of what you do today, right, it sets you up to be able to continue working, continue thinking, continue finding purpose and fulfillment. Because I'm a firm believer that,
Starting point is 00:29:19 you know, your body reacts to how you use it, both physically, mentally, et cetera. So, you know, when I hit 40,
Starting point is 00:29:26 my early 40s, I'm 45 now, I had talked about it before, I had this testosterone scare, right? Yeah. And it got me really deep down into, you know,
Starting point is 00:29:37 our hormones and how our bodies change as we age and all this kind of stuff. And my doctor basically said to me, like, this particular issue wasn't, was kind of acute and fixed and everything's all good. And that wasn't the issue there. She did say, look, like, part of the reason your testosterone starts to drop for most men when they cross 40 is because they stop being active. They stop using it.
Starting point is 00:29:59 And if you're not lifting things and pulling things and pushing things and doing stuff that tells your body, hey, we need to still be strong in our. our bones need, like, it just starts to deteriorate because your body's like, hey, you're older now, you know, you're not here to procreate anymore. That day is come and gone. So we're just going to start to deteriorate if you're not going to use this thing. Same thing with your mind, right? So if you have this, you know, whether it's writing or podcasting or speaking or whatever your kind of mechanism of value delivery of choice, it keeps you active for the rest of your life. It's something you can dig into build the legacy of.
Starting point is 00:30:37 And I'm a bad podcaster. I probably shouldn't talk as much as I do, but I want to share this with you because we were discussing stuff. So there's this open source tool. We're talking about OpenClaw, right? So there's this open source tool. So I'm a firm believer that I've kind of come to this realization recently,
Starting point is 00:30:54 but that we need to have a local server. It could be a Mac Mini. It could be a Macs dues. We need to have a local hard drive that's in our residence or our business that holds who we are, holds our files, our history, all this stuff. Because the cloud is becoming more dangerous with AI, et cetera. And I think having a version that's on site,
Starting point is 00:31:19 it's almost like we flipped, you know, back, going all the way back to the 90s when everything was on prem. Okay. So there's this open source tool called Obsidian, which I started playing with. And it's essentially, think of it as a lightweight neural network for the content that you create. So I have pulled from LinkedInX, my podcast, and my website,
Starting point is 00:31:43 every piece of content that I've created over the last 10 years, and I have now put it into this neural network. It's insane when I can start to prompt my AI agent, Max, effort, and say, you know, where I'm like, hey, I really want to start working on an article around insert topic, right? Now, what he'll end up doing is going, he's not just like going out finding some stats and just pulling together an outline he's going well you you talked about this like in 2019 on this podcast with you know so and so where you kind of broke this down
Starting point is 00:32:19 and this really cool quote i want to pull that in so now he's able to go back and had and i actually have a i have a database mind mapped by topic by by a medium of creation of everything i've created thought, shared every stupid thing I've tweeted or posted on LinkedIn for the last decade. And like, when you talk about finding your brilliance, finding your zone of genius, your expertise, holy shit, man. Like, it's crazy because you forget what you were thinking 10 years ago. Absolutely. Yes. You might have this loose idea, but it was 10 years ago.
Starting point is 00:32:54 I can't remember what I was doing 10 minutes ago, let alone 10 years ago. And now all of a sudden, these agents are able to dip into this pool and come back and go, You wrote this LinkedIn post in 2022 on the idea of, I think I told you, the book that I'm working on is called Easy Mode, right? You didn't use that term, but you kind of talked about it here. Let's pull that reference in. I'm like, this is amazing. I mean, and I think about what, you know,
Starting point is 00:33:22 what the people you coach do for a living, right? Like, this is like gold to a coach because now you can, you can extract your own, like, oh, I was actually struggling with this same problem is my client seven years ago, and here's the post that I wrote about how I fixed it. Oh, I completely forgot that I had this step in there. That's amazing. Pull that out.
Starting point is 00:33:40 So it's like we're just living in this world where I think what you're advocating, right? Like, I hate to say this because it sounds huckstery, but monetizing your expertise and experience, like this is the golden age for being able to do that. One billion percent. And what I love about this, it's a little bit like we were talking about before. Or, you know, like, you know, people raged against the printing press, apparently, because they're like, oh, what's this going to do to how we, you know, share knowledge?
Starting point is 00:34:09 Like, we've always told stories, like, what's this going to do? Or apparently there was rage against factories as we started to understand how factories could work and what that could do to production, people freaked out because it changed the way that we did the work, right? And AI can be that same thing, is are we going to recognize it as a tool? or are we going to recognize it as the enemy? And I know we've talked about this, right? But especially when it comes to this and kind of in our shared world
Starting point is 00:34:39 of creating content and as speakers and coaches, what's interesting is that all of this helps us to do, it can help us to do what we do and do it better, but the hinge point is IRL in real life, right? So it's those things of being able to document and keep in order to all of that content that you've put out there, right? Like, that is freaking gold so you can put more content out. That really truly helps people and makes a difference.
Starting point is 00:35:13 Plus, I don't know about you, but I don't have a recording of my grandpa Matthew's voice. One of my favorite humans to ever walk the planet, I don't have a recording that I can share with my boys of my grandpa's voice, right? good or bad, my boys will be able to share with their kids and their grandkids, you know, my voice, because we've got 450 episodes of Dream Think Do by now for crying out loud. That's, that's like 450 hours of grandpa, you know, like, oh my gosh. So that's, that's in and of itself a gift, right? And we can do things with the information that we've created, again, to create more content, help us write books,
Starting point is 00:35:58 those things. But the IRL is in a coaching session, yeah, I got all this information up in my head. I've got these things that I've experienced. But boy, in real life, when I am with a client and I am fully present with them, I can do things AI will never be able to do. Speaking to an audience, right? Like, I can actually have AI. I've got an agent that actually helps me create content for my speaking engagements, but I still got to be there to deliver it. Because sometimes, as you well know, you're on stage all the time too, sometimes you can go and say, these are going to be my points.
Starting point is 00:36:37 But boy, you have an interaction with an audience and you decide for 10 minutes to go over under this tangent because it's needed and it's a call that you make right there from stage and it's the right thing to do because of that moment in real life the AI can't do. And sure, down the road, who knows what, you know, how will expand and change. But I do think we can use AI tools to make us better.
Starting point is 00:37:05 But it's that as long as it's allowing us to come into that in real life moments, and those in real life moments and be fully present and to be at our best, which is really kind of that best of both worlds. So creating content can be easier, improving content, fantastic. but still we are absolutely needed for those in real life moments. Machines can't transfer energy in the way that humans can. It's just that, that even when they're humanoids,
Starting point is 00:37:37 I mean, maybe when they're, you know, AGI and they're walking around like X Machina, maybe, I don't know. I feel like we're a little ways away from that. I mean,
Starting point is 00:37:46 I know they do flips and cartwheels and shit now and they're strapping machine guns to them, but I don't see them like giving keynotes from stage and the audience. like because because you know and I'm sure you felt this and anyone who's spoke who's listening to this right now I'm sure you've had this experience as well but there are moments in a in a presentation or performance I like to call them performances you just they're all unique you know for for for for almost five years I did almost the same slide deck but I never did the same
Starting point is 00:38:21 presentation for five years. I was just, you know, the topic that I was talking on at the time, it was relevant to the insurance industry. Everybody wanted me to come speak. I did probably 200 gigs in those five years. It was crazy. I was on the road all the time and it was almost always the same exact slide deck. Never the same presentation ever because you're watching the way the crowd reacts. Are they tired? Are they energized? Are they leaning forward? Are they just, you know, did they just come back from, you know, a CE class and they're all bored to death. Are they, you know, are they bellies full of pasta and chicken, you know, like, are they just, are they all hung over in the morning? Like, what are we dealing with? Right. And then, and then your job sometimes
Starting point is 00:39:04 isn't, you know, your job is as a, as a performer in this case, at least from my perspective, and I'm very interested in yours. Sometimes it's not always to deliver the message that they hired you to deliver. Sometimes when you show up, I've even had event organizers do this, like, in the moment go, hey, like, everyone's staring at their phone. Like, how do we kick this up? Like, you got a story or something. And, you know, now all of a sudden, you have to do what, what a, what a human can uniquely do, which is read in a situation, feel the energy and try to change the vector that that current audience is traveling. And again, as you always say, I feel like we have to always preface this. We have literally no idea what AI will be doing in the future. I'm fairly
Starting point is 00:39:50 confident that in my speaking lifetime, AI will not be able to deliver that in person in the way that a human can. And there's also just something to connecting with the people that you listen to, that you read. For me, it was Jordan Peterson was a big one. I've met him twice now in person. And I've watched months of his content.
Starting point is 00:40:12 I mean, I'm just a huge, I love his way. You know, I don't even agree with everything he says, but I love... For someone who's never seen him, he has this way. Have you ever seen him speak live? Oh, yeah. I'm not seen him speak live, but I've, yeah, countless hours. I had this opportunity because I, so I live in Albany, New York, tiny little town.
Starting point is 00:40:36 And he came for some reason and spoke in Schenectady, New York, which is an even tinier town, about 20 minutes from here. So I was like, oh, my God, small venue, Jordan Peters, this crazy. I bought front row seats, like, bought the VIP thing. I was like, you know, here's this. guy I've been following for a decade. This is amazing. This is before his most recent illness, which hopefully he's continuing on the mend. I know he hasn't been in great shape. But my point in saying that is, even having watched all of this content and read all of his books, I could not replace the
Starting point is 00:41:07 you couldn't replace the in person. There was just something about watching him do this thing where he throws this question out in the world and real time for 90 minutes, you watch him try to answer the question, you know, just working through the problem. And it's a you can't, you can watch him do it on thing, but when you see him doing in person, it's a completely different thing. And it's like that for you, for the audience that follows you, they're going to have the same experience the first time they see you live. Yep.
Starting point is 00:41:35 Absolutely. And what I do love about this and appreciate about this, I think, I think we're talking about the future. We're talking about right now is, you know, when we're training up people, that are experts in an industry or they're really good at their day job, right? Sometimes they'll be like, well, can I really wow an audience? I don't always wow my team, right? Or I don't know, I certainly don't always wow my children, right? You know, those kinds of things. You're like, yeah, here's what's interesting is, is that one, with AI, AI is going to help us to organize our content, process our content,
Starting point is 00:42:15 produce our content. But to your point, being able to be in the room, like there is just an authenticity that can only come from that shared space and from seeing people do what you do, right? But it's also that thing of being able to say, hey, you know, one of the perspectives that often is a real game changer for people is
Starting point is 00:42:40 we encourage people, never teach from the destination, only teach from your journey. So, you know, you've seen, and I'm, you know, you've seen a lot of speakers. And there are people who try to speak from the destination. I have arrived. I have it all figured out. My life is perfect. There's no problem that I can't handle because I've handled them all.
Starting point is 00:43:04 And they teach from that. And, you know, some of those people are very successful, but I don't think they're always very effective because I don't know about you, but I think, think our world is changing rapidly. And one of the things that's happening is that everybody's BS meters are getting more sensitive. So it's that thing of like, you know, I really don't think anybody has it all figured out.
Starting point is 00:43:27 So I'm going to play the BS card and say, ah, right? But for the folks that we work with, I'm like, hey, don't teach from the destination. You haven't fully arrived. Like none of us will fully arrive on this side of heaven, right? So to be able to say, hey, I'm teaching from the journey. And this is something I'm learning. I'm learning this week, right?
Starting point is 00:43:45 And what's beautiful about that is that also gives us freedom to teach from mistakes. And one of the things we always say is people are so much more willing to celebrate your wins if they know about a few of your losses, right? And so, you know, I bring this up because especially with AI, you know, our industry, whatever industry you're in has faced changes and challenges. That's just life, right? but AI does represent a new kind of challenge. Something like COVID a few years ago was the first time,
Starting point is 00:44:18 definitely in our lifetime, and really ever, the whole globe has faced the same challenge at one time. So that was a really unique thing. AI poses some of those same things. Like this is a completely new thing. But what's beautiful about the freedom of being able to teach from your journey, not the destination, is to say, Hey, even with AI, this is what I'm learning this week.
Starting point is 00:44:43 Not saying I have it all figured out, but hey, I've got some things figured out. And in fact, this is something I tried and this is how it went this week. And that has freed up a lot of people, whether it's big issues like AI or little things like a really problematic teenager or a really problematic team member. You can be able to say, hey, listen, this is something I'm trying and this is how it's going. And that can be so powerful, but I think it also comes back to the authenticity aspect of whether you're on stage or whether you're talking to somebody as their coach, their mentor, their consultant to be able to show up and say, I don't have it all figured out. But I got some of it figured out. And this is some of what I know. But let's draw out the best from you and let's figure out the best plan for you.
Starting point is 00:45:30 And there's that that's magical when it can happen, but it also, it's one of those things that can pay you really well when it does too. Guys, this is solid gold advice for really any time you're performing. And I couldn't agree with you more. One of the things that earlier in my career, speaking career, I got marketing was a big part of why I would get hired to come in and speak. Great. Yeah. And people would, you're such a good writer.
Starting point is 00:45:57 You write so much, blah, blah, blah. And one, I don't know that I was great. I didn't feel like a great writer. Let me put it that way. Right. And I would share, but I would share with people. like I was a math major that had to cheat my way through college just to graduate. Like I'm not a writer.
Starting point is 00:46:14 Like I don't, right? I'm not formally trained in any regard. You know what I mean? Like go back. If you can go back in the way back machine and find some of the stuff I wrote like in the mid-2000s, like 2005 to 2009, it looks like a fifth grader wrote it. Like it's crazy. It's terrible.
Starting point is 00:46:31 Right. But, you know, I just kept writing and writing and writing and writing and learning. And, you know, here I am. And now I'm fairly prolific. and feel like I can at least spin a word halfway decent. But originally, when I first started, I never shared the story about, you know, I have this whole like little schick that I do about,
Starting point is 00:46:49 you know, I started as a mechanical engineering major. And my second semester, I had a 1.3 GPA. And my guidance counselor basically told me, you know, you can either be a mechanical engineer. You either have to choose mechanical engineering and that's what you do or something else. And the something else for me was play baseball, chase women, and drink beer. and I'm not a mechanical.
Starting point is 00:47:09 I'm sure prolific and very effective at all those things, right? Yeah, I was like, I'm not mechanical in the years. You can see which way I went, right? So it's working out. But when I, it wasn't, when I started sharing, to your point, you know, to your point, when I started sharing that story of how, like, I was a mess in college.
Starting point is 00:47:27 I had no idea what I wanted to do. I changed my major two or three times. I ended up with a math degree simply because it was the only thing that I could graduate with on time. And, you know, and here I do nothing with math in my real career and marketing and speaking, you know, it's not a part of it. And my point in kind of reiterating what you say is, guys, like, these origin stories are what,
Starting point is 00:47:50 so this is where I think this goes. And I'm interested in your take on this. Like, I think a lot of speakers feel like they have to be that perfect version, that destination version that you described because they feel like that's what the audience needs to hear to believe me. And to your point, that couldn't be farther from the truth. What the audience needs to know is a guy like me can become like Mitch. That's what you're telling me.
Starting point is 00:48:13 Like he used to kind of be like me. And then by doing his authority bridge process, he's able to become what I want to become. Like, this is possible for me. Like, oh, wow, there's like possible. He wasn't just born in the womb, this amazing coach and speaker and writer and podcaster. Like, he was a regular guy who built this life for himself that I want to, have a similar life. Like if you don't make yourself accessible to people and,
Starting point is 00:48:40 and show them that, that what you've, what, where you're trying to get them is possible for them, it's just, they're just writing down notes. And I feel like most of it is just bouncing off their face and they're waiting for you to stop talking so they can check their Instagram feed. Yep. Absolutely. And that's, that is. I think it's interesting in that as, as you're tempted, and this, this doesn't even have to be as a paid speaker, right? Like, It's interesting. I think we're all in sales and we're all in speaking, right? No matter what role you have, you're in sales. My mom, I have great parents. My dad was a retired Marine and a warden in a prison. My mom was a CPA. I got into sales early on. I started working at a bike shop when I was 13,
Starting point is 00:49:28 and the owner of that bike shop took me to a selling school, the Schwinn bicycle company selling school when I was 14 and I got into sales, which I loved. And we would talk about this. I'm like, you mom, as a CPA in a small manufacturing company, you're in sales. Like everybody's in sales. Like everybody has to sell ideas. Everybody has to, you know, get people to see their vision, to sell their vision, all those things. Same thing is everybody's speakers. Whether you ever stand in front of a room of five or 50 or 500, we all have to communicate as a part of our day to day. So learning how to do those things more effectively helps everyone. And a big part of that is how can you do it in a way that's truly authentically you, right, where you can not perform
Starting point is 00:50:23 behind a mask of a mask of perfection or a mask of I have, you know, all the answers, but say this is who I am and this is something I'm trying or this is something I've done. What do you think? And to me, one of the core elements of being a better speaker, whether you're getting paid to be the speaker or whether you're just relaying a message that needs to be communicated to your team or to a team member or to your teenager at home is to be able to say, listen, I don't have to be the smartest person in the room, but what I want to do is I want to draw out your best ideas. I want to help make you smarter by drawing out your best.
Starting point is 00:51:09 And one of the things I always say is, are you holding your audience as capable? Right. I don't know about you, but I had a lot of great college professors and I had some douchebag college professors, right? And the douchebag college professors were the ones who walked in and tried to establish their authority.
Starting point is 00:51:30 by making us feel like idiots and to try to make us marvel at their brilliance, right? And what's interesting is that that usually did the exact opposite. Nobody liked them. Nobody wanted to listen to them. You only did things because, you know, you had to get a grade. You were forced to do it, right? But those people who walked in, those college professors who walked in and you could tell, they actually believed in us, that you could tell that they actually thought that,
Starting point is 00:51:58 yes, we needed to learn some things, but we started out pretty doggone intelligent anyway, right? Like those are the people that you double down and you did your best. You delivered an A plus whatever project speech because you wanted to wow this professor. You wanted to show to them, hey, you believe to me, let me show you what I can do, you know? And I think the best leaders do that, the best managers do that, the best parents do that, is they hold their people as capable, and they want to draw out their best. And you can see that when a speaker goes in and they don't care.
Starting point is 00:52:36 Like I try to not care what my audience thinks of me. What I want to do is I want them to think more of themselves. And part of that is to offer strategies and solutions that help, to tell stories that move the needle, but also help them freaking remember the brilliance that's in them. And the more I do that, the more actually brilliant they think I am too. But it's like, hey, if we get there, you know, we get there, but like you're happy with
Starting point is 00:53:06 my talk because you're actually happier with your world or you're walking out on fire and motivated, then, hey, win, win, you know. So I always say don't try to convince the audience of your brilliance, uncover the brilliance that's in the room. I absolutely love that. I had a buddy who works in PR and he has a client who's fairly famous. Everyone listening would know this particular person's name.
Starting point is 00:53:36 And we were talking about this idea of authenticity versus performance mode. And what he said was the best performers he's ever worked with from his perspective. He's like, when you sit with them in a booth at a coffee shop, they're like any other person. They're not, they're not, but when they go on stage for whatever it is the thing that they do, they become this bigger version of themselves.
Starting point is 00:54:05 And he said, the best, to your point, are able to take the authentic version and not change it, but amplify the parts that stand out on stage in the performance version. So it's not like you're a different human. You're not trying to be, you know,
Starting point is 00:54:22 if you're if you've never sold anything in your life you're not standing there trying to be the world's best salesman the wolf of wall street or whatever right but but you're taking this authentic version of you that might be more mild manner you know doesn't talk as loud doesn't talk as fast doesn't you know whatever right now you know you're just amplifying the parts of you on stage how how do you personally one do you agree with that too like do you need a performance version of you because i've seen people try authentic and they're terrible And it's like authentic still has to be good. Like I know some people I think misinterpret and sometimes I think purposely misinterpret
Starting point is 00:55:00 because it can be lazy. They're like, well, this is this is who I am. And I'm like, yeah, except that's not interesting. Like, you know what I mean? Like there's nothing about that that anyone can grab onto. So like, okay. Like, so you're this skater dude. And like no one cares.
Starting point is 00:55:16 Like, so you, how do you marry your authentic version of you with a, performance version of you that actually, you know, is going to draw some energy and interest out of the audience. Like, how do you, how do you marry those two ideas? I love this question, Ryan. And I love that you actually use the word amplify because one of the things we talk about in some of our speaker training is I'm a U-2 fan. And partially that's because Joshua Tree came out when I was in high school. And U-2 was, that was really when they started to break through and so they played an auditorium, uh, in Iowa. So me and a couple of buddies drove over. It was two hour road trip to see you to Joshua Tree, uh, in this stadium. And there was about
Starting point is 00:56:05 30,000 people in this stadium. It was, it was huge. It was amazing. But at one particular part of the show, there was a spotlight and a stool and a microphone hanging from the ceiling. I don't know how they did it. It must have been like, I can't even imagine how long this microphone chord was. But Bono comes out with a single guitar, just a, just a, you know, not an electric, an acoustic guitar. And he sets up on this stool, and he strums. And here I was in an audience of 30,000 people. And he was playing an acoustic guitar in a single spotlight. and he strummed and somehow, even though I was in this sea of humanity, it was intimate. And that was partially, and in most parts, because his guitar was amplified, right?
Starting point is 00:57:09 Somehow because of the way he strummed, like it was hooked up to amplification so that 30,000 people could feel like they were sitting on that stage with Bono. all at once. So it didn't change the way the guitar sounded. It just made it so that everybody could hear it. And that's what I talk about with speaking and amplifying who we are. It's not changing who we are, but it can be bringing a different energy so that people still hear the message. And that's what I always say is like, I want you to be your authentic self, but I want your authentic self to be able to reach a stadium of 30,000. So how do we do that? And part of that is to be able to go in energized, not necessarily by being somebody that you're not, but it is saying, hey, do I actually believe what I'm saying?
Starting point is 00:58:04 What do I hope for for this audience, right? You don't have to go up there and be Tony Robbins or Chris Farley, right? You don't have to be over, and not to say they're over the top, but you know what I mean? like over-energized huge, but you want to show you believe what you're saying. You want to show that you believe that they can actually believe what you're saying, right? So it's that how do you show up in a way where you're telling stories that are truly authentically you, right?
Starting point is 00:58:39 How can you show up in a way that offers strategies that are not something so, far out there that they can't do something with them immediately. That's, that's always my lipness test is can 80% of what I share be applied within five minutes of me being done? That's always one of my livenous tests. And if I can do that, I walk into that space so much more energized because I'm like, guys, you like, I want you trying this in the hallway. When we're done, like when you're running to the bathroom, because this session has been way too long, I want you trying this thing out, right? I want you to do this stuff.
Starting point is 00:59:20 I want you to apply these things. I want you to experiment, right? That helps me walk in energized. You know, I'll give you an example. I'm a pretty energized guy, but I also will say that I'm generally highly caffeinated too, right? But recently I had one of those situations you, I'm sure with all of your travel you've experienced it,
Starting point is 00:59:41 where planes were delayed, got no sleep the night before. nothing was optimized about my day. I was the first, basically the first event for a talk, for basically a two-day event. And when I walked in the room to do the mic check, everything in the room was basically on fire. An A-B person hadn't shown up. Some files were corrupted. Like everything was going wrong and I was operating on about two hours sleep. And the event coordinator, who was an amazing, human but was pulling her hair out and basically just short of losing her mind, she came up and she said, please save my event. Now, I can tell you, I didn't have the energy to go up there and be
Starting point is 01:00:32 somebody I'm not. But I had the energy because I was like, you know what, I know these people need what I've got. And in that particular day, the irony was I was speaking on how can you be innovative and find new solutions when you're faced with worry and anxiety, right? And the talk is called Is Your Hair on Fire? So it's a catchy name, but that's basically what we're talking about. And so I actually started that talk saying, you know what, guys, I got to tell you, I'm operating on two hours of sleep in about four cups of coffee. This room was on fire before you guys were in here.
Starting point is 01:01:09 Like, nothing went right this morning. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to offer you. strategies because I need them today too. I'm not offering these strategies because I've got it all figured out. I'm offering these strategies because I need and use them daily. So would you guys be willing to join me in that? And the event coordinator came up afterwards. She's like, oh my gosh, they were eating out of your hand. I'm like, yep, because it's not that thing of I've got it all figured out join me in my brilliance it's hey gang we all need this shit so let's do it together and that changes everything i love that i love that and i think developing your performance persona
Starting point is 01:01:57 right this this amplified version of you it also becomes like a like muscle memory so even though you are on two hours of sleep i'm sure there's a certain part of you that there was a switch that said it's game time. I may only be on two hours. I don't feel my best, but I know how to go, boom, and turn this burden of me on
Starting point is 01:02:17 who's not tired, who can with sentences together, who doesn't want to crawl back into bed and get a nap. You know, like, there's that version of you. You know, I want to ask you this one last question, too, about speaking,
Starting point is 01:02:31 and it's this idea of introvert versus extrovert. I get all the time people who come up to me and they're like, it must be nice, you're an extrovert, you know, you go up there because I, you know, I'm Irish and I have the hands gestures and energy. I like to walk around and voice inflections and, you know, whatever, I've been doing it a while. I don't know, I like to get into it.
Starting point is 01:02:55 I like to have as much fun as the audience having. You know what I'm up there? Even though I'm getting paid, I like to have fun too. But afterwards, I am drained like on zero. And like, it's shocking. to people when I tell them like maybe I'm an ambivert or whatever that thing is maybe like but I'm certainly not a pure extrovert and there's this I think a lot of people feel like if they classify themselves which they shouldn't be doing to begin with as an introvert somehow that is a barrier
Starting point is 01:03:26 to them ever being able to perform at a high level and it's like no the the performance version of Ryan is an extrovert sure but I'll tell you what when I'm done speaking I mean you do the line If people come up, I love that. Guys, if you're ever at one of my talking, I love it, don't not come up, I love it. But as soon as that line is done, I want to go hide in the corner of a bar, I want an IPA, I want one IPA, I want to sit by myself, and I just want to like pull myself. And there's something about an IPA. I get it, guys, not everyone loves alcohol, whatever.
Starting point is 01:03:57 I like alcohol, so do your thing. For me, I have found, not a, not wine, not a soda, but a single IPA, draft IPA after I speak, it just like allows me to come back into myself and like relax and whatever. Okay, that's my thing. But being a quote unquote introvert should not stop you from being a speaker or performer if that's what you desire, correct? I couldn't agree more as an introvert as well, right? I always say God's great sense of humor is that I'm an introvert who's needed to learn to do
Starting point is 01:04:31 extroverted things because part of my day job is to walk into rooms of 500 to a thousand strangers and still be okay, right? And I'm with you. And it's interesting because a lot of folks that might be listening to this, maybe you've taken the Myers-Briggs tests, maybe you've been, you know, some other assessment that's told you you're introverted or extroverted. I always say the best way to know is how do you restore? If you do something and at the end of the day, you're exhausted and all you want to do is grab up five friends and go to the bar and just talk about your day, there's a good chance you're extroverted. If you have knocked it out of the park, you've had a full day, you're exhausted and all you want to do is retreat someplace quiet with a good book and maybe a glass
Starting point is 01:05:24 of wine, there's a good chance you're an introvert, right? And what's beautiful about that, you can be a great communicator no matter which model you use to receive. store. I will say, and I might be a little biased, but I often will find that the best speakers tend to actually lean introvert. And the reason why I say that is the best speakers, I always find, are the ones who don't necessarily want to be in the spotlight, but they've just found a truth or they've learned some solutions or strategies that they just have to share. with the world. So they almost fight that that resistance to be in the spotlight because their message, they know their message is so important. That tends to be more of the introverted person.
Starting point is 01:06:17 Now, some extroverts, and not all, I know many are wonderful communicators that are also extroverts, but there's definitely a portion of extroverts that feel like they demand the spotlight. They deserve the spotlight in every room. If there is a spotlight, they're going to be right there in the middle of it, whether they've got a message or not, right? So I always say, yeah, if you're an introvert, don't let that convince you that you're not supposed to be a speaker. Some of the best speakers are absolutely introverts
Starting point is 01:06:51 who've just learned to do extroverted things for an hour at a time. I agree. I think talk to a lot of my speaker friends and a lot of them classify themselves as introverts. And I think, yeah, I looked into it a little bit. And some of that, I think also is introverts tend to be a little more empathetic. They tend to be a little more in tune to emotional responses. So if you're not just giving a book report, if you're actually feeding off of the audience
Starting point is 01:07:19 and trying to respond to how they respond to certain things and adjust midstream to match what's hitting, what's not, et cetera, an introvert will tend to be a little more receptive and naturally attuned to how the audience is responding and their emotional reactions to things versus a pure extrovert who may just plow right through those responses because they're just living in the moment of the spotlight
Starting point is 01:07:47 which is what they love. And again, like you said, nothing wrong with either one. There are pros and cons to both, but I just wanted to make sure we hit on this fact because I get asked this all the time. I want to add something to that, Ryan, because I do think you drop some wisdom there.
Starting point is 01:07:59 It's a part of your brilliance. right? But I think for introverts who either are, I've thought about being speakers or get the opportunity to be speakers, you just talked about a key survival tactic. And that for me is that whenever I have an extroverted event, and I do coaching too. So my Tuesdays and Wednesdays are filled with coaching. Those are all extroverted events. I'm with one other person. If I've got speaking, I'm, you know, in large rooms full of strangers. Those are extroverted. events. So with every extroverted event, I need to have scheduled introverted time. So for you, that's, you know, dark corner with one IPA. And you know, hey, that's what works for you.
Starting point is 01:08:44 I know for me, after a full day of coaching, I need at least a half hour at the end of my day where I'm not talking to anybody. I can process. I can sit in my chair and just think about the day, process the day, get the day off of me. so then I can move into the evening to be with my family, my wife, whatever it is. Scheduling, like make an appointment with yourself for just a little bit of introverted time after every extroverted event and you will be able to sustain that thing that you want to do and be able to do more of and take care of that inner introvert along the way. Mitch, I can talk to you for another three hours, my friend.
Starting point is 01:09:23 This has been absolutely fantastic. I love the authority bridge. I love this, I love the demographic, the mindset of the person because I think this is a place that there's so many amazing professionals who have so much to share with the world that they don't because they don't know how to make this jump. Where is the place that people who are kind of listening to this and going through it right now? If they want to get deeper into your world, how do they do that? Where do they go?
Starting point is 01:09:52 Oh, I appreciate you, Ryan. So the easiest place to start is to go to Mitch Matthews.com. That's kind of our universe and people can find out more. there's a specific page just about the authority bridge. But we did put some training together. It's something called making time for your next chapter. And it's specifically for people that maybe the authority bridge, the idea of it resonates,
Starting point is 01:10:15 but one of the first questions that we often get is, I'm so busy. How would I ever make time for something like that? Whether it's, you know, making time for a coaching and speaking business or just something new, something, you know, to inject into your life. And so we have this training called Making Time for Your Next Chapter. It's $97 in training, but for your people, if people go to Mitch Matthews.com backslash time,
Starting point is 01:10:42 and they actually use the coupon code peak. So we'll know they came from you. Just put in that coupon code peak. It makes it free and they'll get access to this training. It's been super helpful for folks because it really helps. them to go, you know what, I do have time to do this next thing, whether it's coaching and speaking or something else. I do actually have time to do it and allows them to move into that with boldness. So just go to Mitch Matthews.com backslash time. Use that coupon code peak. Thanks to Ryan.
Starting point is 01:11:16 And we'll get to that training for free. I appreciate that. And guys, I'll have that linked up, whether you're listening to the audio, show notes, or YouTube video, just scroll down. You'll find that. We'll find out of the coupon code in there. And I encourage you guys to go do this, even if you do not desire to have a speaking and coaching career, because I can tell you, going through these exercises, even at a minimum, they're going to open you up to ideas that you could implement in how you lead your team, how you lead meetings, even help you connect ideas that may just help you in your day-to-day life or your interactions with other people.
Starting point is 01:11:51 So, you know, sometimes when I'm putting together a talk, in that effort, I'll have, you know, a new product idea and two new articles and a podcast that I want to go do that just come out of going through the effort, even if that never made it into the light of day or I never performed it once, you know, going through these thought experiments can really help you in other avenues of your life. So I appreciate the hell out of you, man. Thank you so much for your time. I wish you nothing but the best. We're out of here. Peace.

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