The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - #11: How to deal with Anxiety, Sexting, What to look for when Hiring

Episode Date: May 17, 2016

In this episode we talk about anxiety, sexting, what we look for when we hire, and how to rally.   

we are back with the Skinny Confidential, him and her podcast. You have me, Lauren Everts, from the Skinny Confidential, Michael Bostic, my fiance, and Jordan, and of course, the bare-naked cucumber, Taylor,

on sound. Thank you guys so much for tuning in. First things first, we hope that you will subscribe and review our podcast on iTunes. It's super easy. Hopefully, you'll give us four, five, how many stars? I mean, don't even bother with four.

Only go for five. And I just want to say for those of you, last week I said I wanted to get to 200 reviews because I felt like that was an official podcast. And I thought it would be super cool to get to 200 reviews. And as of late, we're at almost 400. So you guys have doubled what I thought was possible. And you guys, Michael is by the phone pressing refresh.

I am super pumped on you guys. Thank you so much for reviewing it. It really means a lot to me. He sits by the phone and he's waiting for your reviews. You know why? Because I know it's kind of a pain in the ass. You've got to go into your iTunes account and you've got to hit the five stars. I just checked. I'm checking right now. We are literally five away from 400.

So the next five people, you'll be our favorite people. So we have gone to be officially official. Okay. Okay. Well, the good thing is, is that the reviews will not only benefit us, we provided value for you. I'm hosting a giveaway on the Skinny Confidential. It's a $2,500 giveaway for the most amazing beauty and wellness products. It's all my favorites kind of combined into like this huge bag. And then I also have a juicer and we're going to give away

three bombshell body guides to the runner-ups. So that's if you review and rate our podcast on iTunes for those of you that don't know what the bombshell body guide is it's a 28-week guide complete with a full-blown workout schedule three workouts a week you're gonna get in serious shape with that plan I've been really using the bombshell body guide and kicking it up a notch lately I really just want to get my ass into gear. I've been eating, um, you know, super healthy food and keeping my diet on point. So, um, check the bombshell body guide out if you're looking to tone up and get a harder ass, which I've been loving that Lauren is eating more healthy because I'm like always around her just grabbing the scraps

that I can of the healthy watermelon jerky and whatnot. And I have been loving the harder ass. You have? Yeah. It's tighter. Maybe not harder. That's kind of. Hard as a rock.

Oh, okay. Moving right along. Yeah. Michael went to New York City by himself without me. No, not just by myself. I went with my partner. I wasn't there. Weston.

Yeah, you weren't there. You're used to having me on trips. And I missed you tremendously. You did miss me. I missed you. You did miss me. No, I just by myself. I went with my partner. Well, I wasn't there. Weston. Yeah, you weren't there. You're used to having me on trips. And I missed you tremendously. You did miss me. I missed you. You did miss me. No, I didn't. You called me when you were drunk and you like confessed your love.

I know it's true love because every time I leave, I just, I can't even function without you. You do though. You called me drunk at midnight. I was having sushi. If I don't remember, it doesn't count. Okay. Well, you should remember because I, I mean.

No, but let's talk about that. I recorded it. I mean, even for me, who's like a go, Okay, well, you should remember because I recorded it. Even for me, who's like a go, go, go person, that was tough. Me and Weston trained up to L.A. Not trained. We took the train up to L.A., which was actually really fun. We brought his mom, and we all had lunch together. And then Weston had to go run some errands. And surprisingly, Weston's mom had to go run some errands and surprisingly Weston's mom had

to go get a tattoo from Weston and I's tattoo artist shout out to Dr. Wu he's the man he's at Shamrock up there and it was really strange for me because I was thinking about how much the times have changed I was taking my best friend's mom to get tattooed so anyways that was fun we went and did that had some beers she got tattooed and then after me and Weston or Weston and I, as Lauren would like to say, we caught the red eye to New York, which red eyes to New York are always a terrible idea. And I totally disagree with that. Lauren loves red eyes. I love red eyes so much. I can't sleep on them. There's not enough hours. I love the red eye. I go on, I put my earphones in and no one speaks to me for six hours. No one can text me. No one can get ahold of me. Anyways, I love it. I bought one of those

neck pillows, right? You do that every time we go to the airport, you buy a damn neck pillow. And they hold your head up like a neck brace so that you don't turn and kink your neck. But so we did that. And if you know anything about Weston and I, we are the extreme versions of being on time. It's like Susan times 400. Yeah, I mean, so we get to the airport three hours ahead of time. So absurd and ridiculous. The ticket counter is like, hey, guys, we don't even have a gate for you yet.

Like, the flight's not for three hours. What are you doing here? So then we sit there. So anyways, red eye, get up. We just go straight into it. We ended up going to this creative packaging convention. I'm working on something with Weston that i'm not quite ready to uh get into yet because i'm still doing some research and i don't know if it's ever if it's actually going to be a thing but as soon

as i do know i'll for sure let you guys know lauren um i've kind of even kept her a little bit in the dark on it not really you asked my opinion on everything so i don't really know what you're talking about they're kind of in the dark not really anyway he flew back to la no so then we went no we didn't just fly back we didn't just fly back oh we went out oh you went out right and i don't go out that much anymore i know he doesn't drink that's why he doesn't drink now is like past 10 30 like past 10 30 and past i feel like it's past 9 30 that's pushing it so anyways we were out and i guess i must have called you at whatever time. Three times. Three times.

You called me three times and told me how much. I did some drunk dialing. You missed me, how it wasn't the same without me. Did I call either of you guys? He's turning beet red. No, no one else got a call. He said me. No, it was actually kind of strange because I didn't get a phone call at all all weekend.

Were you waiting by the phone? I kind of was. Were you with your bare naked cucumber? That's probably why I didn't call. So anyways, then we had to go and get on the flight. And once again, we're three and a half hours early. The gate's not ready. The guy says, what the hell are you doing here? And I came back and we landed in LA and I met up with Lauren and I slept from four o'clock in the afternoon till seven in the morning. So about 14 hours. You needed your depends changed when you came off the flight because you

were so grumpy your diaper was so full you couldn't even like speak or form a sentence so i sent you to bed and you slept like a rock no but first i was so pathetic i ordered postmates you went around for this i'm so glad i was and i had like three sandwiches and ate them alone on the couch by myself and in the dark and in the dark pretty much and just went to bed so shout out to postmates for making that possible and um thank you so much for contributing to that so anyways once he got back from New York it was non-stop in LA um we go up there probably twice a month for a couple of days just to do everything we need to do there. All the stuff that we kind of pile up and wait for until we get to L.A. So it was non-stop.

And yesterday on our way back from L.A., we went to a Mexican restaurant, which is so good. I love that restaurant. It's called South of Nick's, right? It's in San Clemente. And we met up with the cutest couple um you should follow them on social media at wesley and at brano and they're adorable and we had some drinks and some chips and some salsa came home crashed again and um up on monday doing the whole cycle over and i just got on these these new supplements that after all this time that Lauren's been telling me.

They're like nothing crazy, men. These are for men, not for women. They're all natural men's supplements. I'll probably do a post on them at some point on Lauren's blog for the men out there that are interested in the supplements. Okay, where did you get this idea to take these supplements that you're obsessed with? Seth told me to take a couple of them,

and then I did some research online, found a couple more. Tell everyone who Seth is because we're obsessed with? Seth told me to take a couple of them and then I did some research online, found a couple more. Tell everyone who Seth is because we're obsessed. Seth is a trainer in Los Angeles that you met, that you're friends with, that trained me for the first time in a long time and completely traumatized my body. I can barely move. I'm trying to get more into heavy weights and I need someone to help me with those heavy weights. So I found a friend in LA and he's helping me lift very, very heavy. I mixed that with the bombshell body guide and Pilates and cardio and I'm just really trying to like hit it hard. And so I manipulated Michael into seeing Seth. I think I just scheduled the appointment and put it on your calendar and forced you to go. And Seth literally kicked the shit out of Michael. He couldn't walk.

I think, can you walk today? Well, I I'm having a really rough time today. Yesterday was much worse. Like I couldn't stretch my legs and I felt like an old man. I couldn't get, I couldn't stand up. My, I couldn't stretch my biceps out. Like I feel like you got to ease into that. So when this guy just threw me right into it. Yeah. You were complaining. It was amazing. It was amazing. You were complaining for, um, every single hour on the hour for four days straight. He's sticking his tongue out at me. So Michael's the type of person that when he's sick, he tells you he's sick 400 times. So it's kind of like this. I don't feel good i think i have a sniffle coming on can you pass the remote i feel sick oh can you shut the shades i'm feeling

sick literally tells me he's sick six million times in one day like being sick it's kind of like no one likes being sick you complain just in everyday normal life no no no this is even worse this is like i don't know if you can get much worse. No, this is worse. This is worse. And you, with Seth, you told me you were sore 80 million times. I've never heard someone say something... Us men, when we get sick, that's a window for you women to look into what it sounds

like with all the complaints the rest of the year. I don't get it. You're trying to even it out. So I get it. I get for one day, I go into like what you guys do 365. Oh my gosh. You blow your nose like extra loud. The coughs are a little louder than they're supposed to be. You alert the media that you're sick. That's what it sounds like when I walk in the front door and you ask me to take my shoes off. Yeah. I hate when he wears his shoes in the house. I like, I can't deal with it. So women,

all the, all these, like when you're, when the guys are complaining about being sick, that's our little way of like showing you what it's like with complaints. What your reality is like. Oh, poor you. So luckily I don't get sick too often. Oh, boo-hoo. All right, well, that was our weekend. Let's get into the show.

Andy asks, what do you look for when hiring someone? This is such a good question. I think she was specifically asking you, too. What do you guys look for when hiring someone? This is such a good question. I think she was specifically asking you too. Like what do you guys look for? I personally look for someone who's hungry. You know what I mean? Someone that wants to work. You can tell they want to work. They have the energy and they go above and beyond. When you started working for me, Jordan, I was really attracted to the fact that I would give you a task and then you would deliver that task, but you would go above and beyond. So say I asked you to, you know, put together a beautiful collage. You would put the

collage together and then you would add the links, the hyperlinks, stuff like that. Hey. Yeah. Shout out to me. Like the bare naked cucumber, when our sound wasn't the best, he would go above and beyond and find the best sound that we could possibly have. Right, Tay? Yeah, basically. Yeah. So –

I mean, besides the basic essentials of like hard worker, you know, efficient, I look for somebody that's going to mesh with the company culture and kind of get the vision of what the whole company is trying to do. Because our company is different. Like, our company is different than the typical nine to five. Can you, like, explain why? No, because there's so many random, like, there's so, like, you know, one of our businesses or my business, I was running advertisements on Facebook and Google. One of my businesses is Jetbed. We do, you know,

we sell beds for corporate and private aircraft. Obviously one of the businesses, the Skinny Confidential, which is a blog. There's all sorts of different things. And I kind of look for somebody that's going to be versatile in all of these things. You know, Taylor's traditional job is not the sound guy on this show. He works for me mostly on the advertising side. And he's willing 100% to jump into this and say, listen, I'll take on this task as well. And I kind of look at it as he, he's, he molds, he's on board and he's fluid. And, you know, I was telling Danny who also works for me that this is not, I'm not looking for a corporate structure. I know a lot of companies look for that and they want the,

you know, the traditional nine to five structure, structure, structure. I don't think I would ever run a company like that. And I don't think I would ever have a desire to run a company like that. It's just not how I am. Yeah, I agree. I also think Michael and I look for someone that works smart, you know, you know what I mean? Like they don't take a hundred hours to do something. They get it done quickly and efficiently. I like someone that takes initiative. Like for me, it's okay if someone does something and fucks up. I know that sounds weird. A lot of people don't want it. But I would rather have Jordan or Taylor, like, do something and fuck it up a little bit

and learn from that as opposed to, like, Lauren or I coaching them through it and then never letting them fuck up. Because if you fuck up like you kind of learn you learn quickly you learn quickly but with that like lauren just said nail on the head somebody that learns quickly and adapts after doing that like i have no problem with somebody messing up a little bit as long as they can learn from that and adapt and keep going and not lose confidence to do to do that kind of stuff i also love someone that's creative just because I'm creative and I love when creative minds mesh together I think creativity is a big plus and just someone that also doesn't have to be told what to do all

day long I don't want to babysit and I think that when you have an employee that you constantly have to babysit it's exhausting and it becomes more time consuming than you wanted when you first hired them. So I don't want to micromanage anyone. I want to kind of give them what to do and I just want it to get done and I want it to get done in a creative, efficient way. I have an interesting experiment. What's that?

Jordan traditionally works for the Skinny Confidential and Taylor traditionally works for me. Jordan, what do you think that we're looking for in an employee now that you've worked for us for a while? Putting on the spot. I pretty much think everything you said about being efficient is key because there's a lot of things that need to get done around here. You have a big scroll of a to-do list, don't you? Yeah. So getting things done really quickly efficiently like i always

ask myself am i doing this the fastest way the absolute fastest way that i can do it um so efficiency is huge yeah you're good at that you're really good what do you think it is you've worked for me for a long time i think something quick and easy would be to be like water you kind of want to be able to flow with whichever direction the current goes how poetic are you one day easy shakespeare one day michael says hey i want you to do this so i there's no way that i can go well you know i don't do that or that's not something that i want to do so i kind of just flow i go wherever the current takes me love it so taylor's like water they do it well and you

know what else i think it is when they don't know know, like a lot of the times, some of the things we asked to do, Lauren and I are not experts in, and they're definitely not experts in, and they go and figure it out. Like there's been so many things where both Jordan and Taylor have figured things out on their own that has added so much value to everything that Lauren and I are doing, that I think that's another thing I would look for in an employee. Somebody who really cares about the direction the company's moving and really cares about progressing it and takes the initiative to go and find new ways to add value to the business. Yeah, I think, I think I totally agree with you. And I think with the skinny confidential, it's such a new type of business because blogging is a new type of business. So you have to have someone that kind of gets the bigger picture and gets exactly what I'm trying to build.

And when they understand that, it's easier to build the company in the way I want to build the company. And I think Jordan really understands what I'm trying to do and what I'm trying to achieve, and that really helps with an employee. And you have to like dogs because there's always a lot of dogs in the office. There's six million dogs here. So if you don't like dogs because there's always a lot of dogs there's six million dogs here like don't like dogs there's currently two dogs on michael's lap one next to jordan she's chewing her bone taylor's doing hand signals to tell her to stop chewing her bone uh we got dogs in and out all the time and the last one self-sufficiency because lauren and i are on the go a lot and i need people and so does she that we can rely on when we're gone I mean that's a source of a lot of anxiety for I think both of us when we're gone

right yeah totally you need someone because when we're traveling you gotta know they're getting their job done and you know it's hard and I assume that like Taylor and Jordan probably felt this like you look and you see your bosses out of the office running around and you're like these people aren't working and we're here so people that understand like, it's not just all like fun and travel, like that there's business taking place. I think that's really, really important. Like Taylor gets so mad at me because sometimes I don't network as much as I should. And he's like, what the fuck are you doing in the office? Get out there and network. Right, Taylor? Not the biggest. That's one of his strengths. So he gets mad at me. He's like, what are you doing in here? Get

out of here. And so like he gets it right. Like that's, that's what I'm looking for. Yeah. I think too, people have to understand that travel and movement is part of part of blogging. It just is. People want to see movement. They want to see travel. That's part of, of the brand that, that I've created. And so, um, I think having employees that understand that it's really important to move and not stay stagnant is a huge plus. So yeah, that's a kind of a list. Yeah, but it's a good question. And for those of you who may be looking for jobs, I think those are good things to think about as well. Yeah. All right. Next question is from Leneth. I hope I'm saying that right. And she asks, what is your take on sexting?

Sexting? Meow. You hate sexting. No, I don't know. No, be honest. No, no, I don't like having shit out in the ether. I mean, I guess I'm Snapchatting all the time. No, no, no, you don't like having private stuff out on the ether no um no i don't like that so that's a definitive no from my no

it's not that i don't like i get it okay you know like we're being sexy i sent you a tit pic the other day like it was like in the mirror and it was like sexy and hot russian spies captured and instead of him being like wow babe you, you look hot, you sent like delete that right now. Like thinking that there was like a Russian spy gonna take my tit pic. A lot of the time I'll be with people and I'll be like looking at my phone and it'll just pop in and there's like all of a sudden like two tits that just like pop up

on the screen. And they're big. And they're big. They're cannons. He calls them cannons. I don't think there's any problem with sexting as long as you do it right. No, listen, if that's what gets you off, like, by all means. You never send me a good dick pic. No, I don't do that.

I feel like Taylor's in the corner, like, laughing. There was a guy who came into our office, and this was a while ago, and he asked to charge his phone, and we plugged it in. And it usually pops up with the most recent photos, and there was actually photos of his girlfriend in pretty revealing clothing that you wouldn't want portrayed on an office screen so I unplugged it

and I said oh yeah you unplugged it so we took it in the bathroom it's not charging and he's like oh okay I'll do it when I get home I just don't want to embarrass him or put him in an awkward situation no I don't I think that you have to be smart about it I'd love a good dick pic from you tomorrow. Didn't you tell me a story about somebody you knew that went to

get their iPhone fixed at the iPhone? Yeah, there was, it was let's say someone. Someone. Oh gosh, that means it's someone we know. We'll leave his username below. They went into, they were having issues with their Mac and they brought it into the Apple store.

And when they were trying to get it working or the app guy, he plugged it into one of the bigger display screens and the naked photos. In the middle of the Mac store. That he had on his phone. So this dude, I'm not going to say who, had him with his bare dick out

in weird positions on the Mac store. And the Mac guy is trying to navigate through and get it off. And this guy, you know. Was that really you Taylor? No no it wasn't me. Definitely wasn't me. Winky winky. I just don't want to you know. No we won't throw the guy on the bus. Okay you're going to have to tell us. That's my biggest fear is like something happens. You would die if that happened to you.

Well listen I don't need to be hanging out with a Mac technician with like their weird Birkenstock shoes and fucking pop up my dick all over the fucking Mac store. I would love that. I wish they would put it as their desktop or something. That would make me really happy. Michael does not like anyone to see anything. If there's a peep in the curtain, he wants it closed.

He's very private. That's not true. I don't like, yeah, I just don't need people creeping in on me. Yeah, he's private. So no sexting from Michael. I guess that makes me sound kind of boring, but like, you know. No, you're not boring. You're fun in other ways, but you're not a sext sexter i just don't need to put it out there no and you know what sex is kind of boring like i'm sitting there i'm fully

clothed i'm in my office i'm like there's people like asking me to sign papers and shit and i'm like okay like trying to like sex at the same time you're like okay all right so moving on from the sexting question cindy, I'm always anxious. Do you and Michael ever deal with anxiety? Would really appreciate any tips you have for dealing with it. Well, Cindy, you're talking to the queen of anxiety. I am always anxious. I've been anxious since I was about 18.

All day long, even into the night, I'm just anxious. And I try to channel that anxiety into a productive way. So if I'm starting to feel anxious about not doing something or getting something done, I'll log on to the Skinny Confidential and write a blog post or go on my email or feel like I'm doing something productive. And that really helps. Another thing that really helps, and I've gotten Michael addicted to this, is calm tea. Admit you're obsessed. Is that the magnesium tea? Don't act like you don't know what I'm talking about.

Is this the magnesium tea? Yes. Yeah, I love that tea. I kind of wish that there was like a remote, like a microphone in the car yesterday when me, you, and Wes were driving home. Because Lauren and Wes and both deal with anxiety all the time. I don't deal with it as much, but recently I've been dealing with it a lot. I wonder why maybe this podcast, maybe being called Susan, maybe having people on the street scream Susan at me might have something to do with it. But no, really. So I'm the type of person

when something starts happening, I'm like, huh, what the fuck is this? I really have to go and figure out what it is. And so I read a bunch of books, which I can list somewhere. I've listed some of them on Lauren's blog, but I started reading a bunch of books on anxiety. Like give us an example of one. There's one called Anxious. I can't remember the author's name. There's the Happiness Advantage. There's one called Guerrilla Mindset by Mike Cernovich, which is awesome. And all these are really helpful. But I wanted to know like the science behind anxiety. And basically what it boils down to is the fear of future events that are in your head, which could be caused by, you know, either thoughts that are in your head now

or caused by events that have taken place in the past in your life. And basically, I went into this study like, okay, what causes all this anxiety? Why do I have it? You know, if you've ever had anxiety, it really sucks. Your heart starts to race. Your mind starts to go crazy. I feel like prickles too, like on my, on my skin. Yeah. I mean, it can be really debilitating and I sympathize with anyone that has anxiety, but just know, and this is maybe going to sound bad. And whenever I say this to people, they're like, no, you just don't get it. But anxiety is all in your mind, right? It's created by yourself. And it's easier said than done to just conquer it.

But for me, once I kind of know something like, okay, this is taking place because of the thoughts in my head that I'm creating, I can kind of work myself down from the, let's call it the cliff. I can kind of like work myself back off the edge. So you just kind of start talking to yourself and in your own head and breathing and saying, okay, this is the real situation. This is what's really happening. Like understand that whatever's in your head and however bad you think it is, it's probably not as bad as it really will be. I was telling Lauren and Wesson, a good way to work back is like, think about a time in your past where you had a shitload of anxiety about something that was going to happen. And then think about what actually happened and ask yourself, was it really as bad as I thought? And most of the time it's not. The human mind will go to places much darker and much worse than

its actual reality. What do you think of that? I totally agree with you. I think there's been two things that have really, really helped me. One is intervals. Running for a minute on, a minute off. So it takes your cortisol up and then brings it down and goes up and down. That's really, really, really helped me with my anxiety. Actually, I cannot believe how much it's helped. You wouldn't think it would, but it just does. I don't know why. I have to look more into the science behind it.

And another thing that has really helped me with anxiety is meditation. And that's something that you and I have been doing in the morning. Yeah. Michael has a weird spot. He does it. No. You do it in the closet. Yeah. That's, it makes me sound weird. With the dog. Yeah. I'm in the closet. No, I get up much earlier than Lauren and I don't want to bother her, but I do want to meditate. And I find that five to 10 minutes of meditation a day is really making all the difference. Listen, I'm not somebody that gets extreme anxiety, but I've maybe developed a little bit in the last year, more than I, more than I've ever had in my life. And, um, you know, like I said, I read a lot about it. So

I go in the closet in the morning when I wake up, sometimes the dogs with me sometimes, and I meditate for five to 10 minutes. And it's just a lot of like, breathing deep, clearing my mind. And I think it makes all the difference because it kind of sets your day up to be, you know, you start with a clean slate a little bit, you kind of clear all that bad stuff out of your head when you wake up. Also, what's important, I think, when you're going to bed, try to clear your mind. Lauren just started meditating. I saw her this morning. I brought her some coffee, and she was meditating in the room.

I didn't want to disturb you. You actually knew I was meditating? Well, yeah, when the concha, rancho, rancho was playing in the house, and you had your fingers in weird positions, and you would close your eyes. No, I didn't have your fingers in weird positions and you would close your eyes. No I didn't have my fingers in weird. I was sitting up in bed with with a green green hot tea next to me with my meditation music on that the dogs love sitting there with my eyes closed. She was wearing a turban on her head. I wasn't wearing a turban and and it really helps me set the tone of my day. It's very difficult for me not to wake up and check my email. A lot of people

wake up and check their social media but I wake up and check my email. A lot of people will wake up and check their social media, but I wake up and check my email. And that's a horrible way to start your day because you get flooded with all these things that create anxiety. Due dates, things that need to be done, what you haven't done, something's wrong, da-da-da-da-da-da. Waking up and checking your email is the worst thing ever. Did you do the tip that I told you to stop checking your phone right when you wake up? Yeah, I haven't done that.

You still do it? Yeah, I've been stopping to do that. Because that's like a key tip that I told you to stop checking your phone right when you wake up? Yeah, I haven't done that. You still do it? Yeah, I've been stopping to do that. Because that's like a key tip that I told you about. I actually read The Miracle Morning, which has been life-changing, and I've been trying to do that. So basically The Miracle Morning is where you wake up and for one hour you do 15-minute segments of something different. So first you wake up and you sit in silence for 15 minutes. Then for the next 15 minutes, you do an exercise. So like sit-ups on the floor. The next thing you'll do is you'll maybe organize something.

So I'll organize, you know, maybe I'll make the bed. Maybe I'll organize my day, whatever it is. And then the last 15 minutes, you set affirmations for yourself. And, you know, you make a list of what you want to accomplish that day so the miracle morning I definitely recommend it I found it on Amazon and they also have stuff on YouTube about it but supposedly it's changed a lot of people's life and it seriously sets the tone for the day I also have to make my you know I'm always in the kitchen making my detox drink I wish you would drink that I drank the one last night. It tasted like piss. No, that was absorbic acid.

So I mean... Oh, absorbic acid. Wait, I have the hangover cure. It is the hangover cure. It's a scoop of absorbic acid, which is 100% non-GMO vitamin C, mixed with two ALA tablets, and you drink an entire cup of water with the absorbic acid, take the two tablets, and it takes care of the hangover.

What's that sour taste? It's vitamin C. Why doesn't it taste like emergency? Because emergency has fake shit in it. I love the fake shit sometimes. I know you do. It's so weird. This stuff tasted like sour.

I think it's good. It tastes like lemon or something. I don't know. Not lemon. Okay, well, when I don't have a hangover and you do, don't come crying to me with your headaches that you get. So yeah, there's a lot. So there's a lot you could do for anxiety. I think that's a, I mean, I think we could do a whole episode on anxiety, like a whole thing. There's actually something that you guys, there's a situational anxiety where for

instance, I don't have bad anxiety at all, but when I go to a restaurant after I'm done eating, if the waiter doesn't bring me the check right away i get super anxious are you serious i i have to get out of the restaurant because i feel like i did something terrible almost like i'm not joking like i committed a crime and i have to leave wait wait wait wait wait back up this is a whole another episode wait so set this up you're at the restaurant it is it's not you know you got to explain this better you're at the restaurant at a restaurant if i go to like just say red robin or anywhere where you sit down so you're having anxiety and red robin so let me get this straight you probably ate some clucks

and fries you had a milkshake and now you're having like a shit ton of anxiety unless if it's if it's a date i don't get anxious but any other like classification of seated meals where there's a waiter and you have to kind of sit there and your fate is determined by the check. Wait, how is your fate determined? I know why, because his grandpa made him sit at the dinner table

and finish every single scrap of food when he was a kid and he has complete anxiety. It's weird. We've talked about this. So when the check comes, before you get the check or when the check comes,

the anxiety starts? No, if he doesn't get the check, he's having a meltdown. Once I'm done eating, I like the check sitting there so I can sign it and get up and leave like right away it's almost like i just want to like it never happened i gotta get that but for a different reason i just want my hands get sweaty it's weird i kind of get that but i just my reason's just because i'm like it's

done it's done like time to go i'd love to go out to eat with you when can we plan this let's schedule this out well because then that would classify in the more like long drawn-out dinners where i don't necessarily get anxious but if it's like a quick turn and burn oh i i'm like gabby's always like what i want he's got gabby's my girlfriend she's always like uh oh i want to relax i'm like no we've got to get out of here it's so funny to me like this is so fucking funny that you're dating a European. Like, I can't even with that because they love to relax and eat and drink and you're just like,

you can't, you can't do that. You're incapable. Now, I want to know when you and I are going to go to Red Robin. Well,

if you want to come, once we go to Red Robin, like at least, Does he do this with you? Twice a month. They don't know it, but I always have the exit planned in my head.

We're going to make it a giveaway. Wow. Okay. Well right never heard of that i'll have to look that up on wikipedia he's always got the great comments okay olivia asks i know you were joking about scheduling sex two podcast episodes ago but how do you actually fit it in when you're super busy and tired at the end of the day i feel like a psycho planning it out with my boyfriend but at the same time I don't want to be too tired so I'm going to give everyone advice that my stepmom gave me when I was 22 I called her one day I was working three jobs I was so tired to the point where I would literally hit the pillow and my my eyes would be closed, asleep, done.

And I asked her, what do you do when you're so tired and you just don't want to have sex and you're over it and you're not in the mood? And I thought she was going to give me some sweet answer about, oh, you're tired, like don't have sex, just relax, it's all fine. And she goes, you rally. And ever since she said that, I rally. Because when you're going to marry someone and you're going to be with someone, that's a part of the game. That's a part of the plan.

Like, you rally. Get over it. You know? That's, I think in a relationship you're committed to to that area you kind of just have to put your bootstraps on and get over it what do you think about that Michael what do you think about that oh Jordan's own answer deflect deflect well yeah I mean there's always that thing like if you're not getting it there you're gonna go get it somewhere else right and like I don't think you can blame a guy or a girl if if you're not I mean what's the point

right like what's the point of putting in the work or a girl if you're not. I mean, what's the point, right? Like, what's the point of putting in the work and the relationship if you're not going to have that benefit, right? What was that show you had me watching? And there was, like, that couple, and they were, like, pumped that they didn't have sex for, like, six months. And I was like, what the – like, what's the point then, right? Like, why are you going to deal with all the aggravation? Like, why not just be good, like, best friends? What show was that? Housewives?

No, it was a reality show. Which one? The young guy, the young people. Oh, Vanderpump Rules? Yeah. Oh, I don't know who that was. Yeah. There was this guy and I was looking at him like, dude, what are you doing, man? Like, that guy doesn't seem, like that didn't seem too happy. I think men and women need sex. It doesn't matter who you are. I think it's a big part of a relationship. Some people choose not to have sex before they get married. That's fine. But if you have chosen to have sex you should rally you know get over it pull the band-aid off get it done and everyone says this but sex is like fitness no one really wants to go to the gym and put their

gym shoes on and their sports bra but you just get in there and once once your workout's done you feel great about it yeah once i wrap once i strap on my gym shoes and my gym i thought you were gonna say once you strap on something else once i strap on my gym shoes and my gym clothes. I thought you were going to say once you strap on something else. Yeah. Once I strap on my gym shoes and my gym clothes and I get in there with Lauren, then I'm good to go. No, once you finish a workout and you do it, there's no workout where you're like, God, I hated that workout. I mean, sex is fun. It's not like someone's making you, you know, go do something you hate. Sex is fun with the right person. Oh.

But you can definitely have a... There's been definite times in my life when I've said, well, that wasn't too fun. You're sick. That's disgusting. There's also been a lot of times in my life where I've curled up in a blanket and wanted to cry myself to sleep. Not with Lauren, of course. No. Well, why did you ask me to marry you?

Because I don't curl up in no i'm a i'm a rallier yeah lauren's a rallier you just do it um and no we actually don't schedule sex that was that was a joke although i would love a good google cal with you and i on it scheduling our sex i'd love it in like red so it's like very obvious you're at the point of having to schedule sex you might want to re-examine you. You told me to time block my day. Yeah, but I mean, you could time block, like, spending time with, like, you know what I mean. We could just call it. I feel like if you have to schedule it, that's a kind of a bad sign.

You're going to throw me into a conundrum now because I've been so about scheduling. Yeah. I'm like a robot whose brain's about to blow out. No, but if you have to schedule it. See you at 7 p.m. tonight. If you have to schedule it. See you at 7.32. Meet you in the room. Dim. tonight. If you have to schedule it. See you at 7.32. Meet you in the room.

Dim the lights. Frank Sinatra playing. You know, we have a rough time, though, because our chihuahuas sleep in the bed with us. And every time that we want to do this, we have to go and put them outside the room, and they scratch at the door and cry like mockingbirds. It's so true. This is real life. They cry and whine, and they can't imagine not being in the room with us.

The other option is to keep them in the room with us. Whenever I hear a chihuahua scream, it just gets me going. Ew. I'm just kidding. We could keep them in the room with us. I had never heard the term rally used to define sex, so I just searched it up in the Urban Dictionary states, clawing your way out of the

depths of drunken hell and rejoining the party in full-on pimp style that's pretty that's pretty good thanks for that ty you're always there to provide the best content there is so yeah if you're a girl if you're a guy rally get over it put your bootstraps on and get on no and i and really i think guys or girls if you're not if you're not being intimate like they're you know guy or girl going to go and get it somewhere else. So, you know, don't put yourself through that. And you can't blame them if they do, right?

Like, if you're withholding sex, you can't really blame them. I would stab you a bit. But, like, what are you supposed to do? Like, hey, we're not going to have sex, and, like, I expect you to stick around and just not have sex. Even when we're in a fight, I'll still have sex and continue to ignore you. That's actually some of the best. Like, we got in a fight the other night, and then I just Oh, Jordan, you probably don't want to hear this, but we woke up

in the middle of the night, and I just, animalistic. Oh, you are sick. No one wants to hear that. You were cute. I was still mad at him though, afterwards. Yeah, but I didn't care. I was like, we're done now. I was like, bye, you're out. Move. Hate sex is some of the best sex.

Jordan's so uncomfortable. Her palms are sweating. My palms actually are sweating. So on that note, we will end this podcast. And I just want to say that we really, really appreciate your reviews and you guys rating us and rallying. Rallying. Rallying.

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