The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - #123: Listener Calls with Jack Ketsoyan - Arranged Marriages, Celebrity PR. How To Interview, & Hollywood Stories

Episode Date: July 12, 2018

This is our first official Thursday episode. Due to the demand of the show and amount of interviews, we have decided to up our show to 6 per month. You can expect a new full length episode every other Thursday. On this episode we answer some listener calls from our new hotline (1-833-SKINNYS) and sit down with celebrity public relations expert Jack Ketsoyan. We answer a listener questions on how to start a new business and a question on how to pick interviews.With Jack we discuss how PR has evolved with the rise of social media and the internet. We also dive into arranged marriages and what it takes to make it in the world of PR. To connect with Lauryn Evarts click HERE To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697) For Detailed Show Notes click HERE  This episode was brought to you by Grove Collaborative.   Grove Collaborative offers healthy alternatives to household supplies and we use it for all of our cleaning supplies. To try grove collaborative go to www.grove.co/skinny Listeners will receive 30 dollars in free supplies a special gift and a 60 day VIP membership.    This Episode was Brought to you by Sunday Scaries   Sunday Scaries are CBD gummies made with vitamin B-12 and D-3. They will boost your mood and help you relax when you are feeling stressed and anxious. Unlike THC, CBD is non-psychoactive so you don’t have to worry about cognitive impairment. Sunday Scaries will relax you and relieve tension and paranoia. To try Sunday Scaries go to www.sundayscaries.com and enter promo code TSC10 for 10% off.

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and her for some odd reason people were really shocked about the fact that there's an arranged marriages or there's arranged dating life in hollywood can you give us some details of one of the stories in the book um well in one? Well, one of the characters is dating a certain person in the book that is just completely arranged for a look. I call her the beard. She's the beard. And this really happened? It really happened. And who arranges this? Most of the time it's the agents who will make the connection or the studio at the time was like,

hey, we need to have something come out about, you know, some kind of a controversial publicity stunt we need to do. So let's get this going. Welcome back to the Skinny Confidential Him and Her Show. If you're new, thank you for joining. If you're not new, thank you for coming back. That clip was from our guest of the show today, Jack Ketsoyan. On this episode, we answer a couple of listener questions from our new hotline. We dive into the world of celebrity public relations, and we learn about some of Hollywood's darkest secrets. Dun, dun, dun. Lauren. I'm Lauren Everts. I'm the creator of The Skinny Confidential, which is a blog, a brand, a book, and obviously a podcast. And I'm Michael Bostic. I am an entrepreneur and

business operator. I have specialized in brand building and direct-to-consumer marketing over the last 10 years. Most recently, the CEO of Dear Media, a new kind of podcast network that focuses on female hosts and voices and audiences. And it's Thursday. It's Thursday. This is our first Thursday episode. Plot twist. Plot twist. Well, it's not a plot twist. I mean, we've been announcing it. If you listen a few weeks back, we said that we would be upping the monthly shows to six. So every other Thursday now,

you can look for a full-length episode. It's not a bonus episode. It's not a mini episode. It's not a quick episode. Nothing half-assed. No, it's a full episode. Full ass. As you guys know,

we wanted to continue to do the interviews, but we also wanted to do some solo episodes. So in order to get to those interviews, as well as the solo episodes, we wanted to continue to do the interviews, but we also wanted to do some solo episodes. So in order to get to those interviews, as well as the solo episodes, we needed to up the count to six. So you can look forward to six episodes each month. Lots of value, lots of quality, lots of fun, and connecting with you guys because we now

have the Skinny Hotline. And a lot of arguments the night before when we do the intros, because sometimes we butt heads, Lauren, on these intros. It's late at night, night before, Wednesday night. We're not going to fight six times a month. You know what I'm talking about. We already fight four. So today, Thursday, July 12th, that's when this is airing.

As you guys know, we are doing our live event tonight in L.A. And if you're in the L.A. area, come on by. It's at The Grove and the event is free. Seats are limited, but if you get there early, there still should be some space. So to check it out and get more details, if you haven't already heard the last few episodes, go to deermedia.com slash live. I'm so excited. This is going to be fun. We are podcasting tonight with Cupcakes and Cashmere, Emily Schumann and Jeffrey Fuller. They're behind the brand and we're so excited to like see a different side of them. We're going to ask some real deal questions.

Yeah, we're going to hit them with some hard questions. We're going to find out some real data. I don't know what we're going to do. We're going to have fun with it. I feel like hard's not the word, but okay. It's going to be a him and her twist. Okay. And I'm a little bit nervous

because we've never done a live event and you guys know I'm not the best live speaker. I'm practicing, practicing work in progress, but we'll see. Yeah, we will see. I feel like I need to give you a Campari soda with a little bit of like calm in it. I'm going to have a drink before, and it's actually probably going to be my last drink for another, I'm going to do another month off, maybe two because I'm starting to get a little wine gut again, you know, a little wine pouch. I saw that this morning when I woke up. So it's not, it's not pretty, you know, that trip to New York, eating all that pasta and then the, youze, and started to get a little kangaroo pouch.

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So that's Jenny B. I was calling you guys because I had a question about starting up businesses. Where do you start from scratch? I am really curious about just starting up when you literally have no idea where to start and you have no education. So if you could answer that for me, that'd be great. Have a good one.

Bye. Jenny B, B, B, B. I feel like we've talked about this a few times, but I'm happy to talk about it again. So I think when you're starting a new business, it's really important to not overthink it. So many people get overwhelmed and they start to think from A to Z. And we've covered this on past episodes. But when you start to think from A to Z, like how can I build this massive business or how can I leave my job and do this massive thing, it starts to become overwhelming. And then what happens is you get scared and then you don't take chances or you don't start that new business. In my opinion, the best thing to

do when you're starting out is think A to B. Say you have an idea and you have an idea for a new venture or a new business or brand. What can you do today that's cost effective that you can actually implement right now to move towards that step? Think A to B instead of A to Z. And from there, you're going to go A to B to C. And I think that's the most important. In terms of education, I mean, there's so many resources. I mean, you have the internet at your disposal. Now there's books, there's courses, there's podcasts. There's so many things that you can do to figure out how to start your process into the entrepreneurial world. Everything I've ever started, let's take Dear Media, for example. We started this podcast out of our living room and since then grew the show and now manage another 16 shows. So it all starts from actually taking a step forward and doing what you can at the time and moving

forward and constant progression. I think when people overthink it, they psych themselves out and then they never get started. And another thing that entrepreneurs need to know is that a lot of the things you need to know, you cannot know until you actually get started and make some mistakes. Lauren, what do you think? I think that a lot of people, when they sort of have a vision, instead of doing like a strategic future, they sort of do a vision board. And I am not a fan of a vision board. I think that a vision board, in my opinion, and this is really harsh, is a waste of time. So what I would do instead of a vision board is an execution board. And what an execution board looks like is it looks like your future designed out on a poster board.

And the reason that I say a poster board over Pinterest is that Pinterest is great and it's awesome, but you close out the tab and you go on with your life. With an execution board that's right in front of your face where you're actually pulling textiles and pulling colors from maybe Home Depot paint section or where you're doing fonts and like pulling it out and actually building your vision in front of your face, there's something different. And what I mean by that is like a vision board is like magazine cutouts of words or other people or what. It's like inspiration. Yeah. It's so inspirational.

I think instead of the inspiration, you should cut that and you should really work towards actually building what you want to build on paper. Does that make sense? I think we're saying the same thing. You have to create concrete steps and resources so that you can actually take the steps to get started. Yeah, I think a lot of people make excuses of why they can't do things. But when you have an execution board in front of your face, you can actually see what your strategic future is going to look like in front of you.

Yeah, and let's just say this, like, again, going back to the Dear Media example, I didn't study broadcasting in college. I didn't have any kind of educational background in broadcasting. Either did Lauren. We didn't, or I guess you did college. Did you study women? I studied, yeah, I studied a lot of women, mostly anatomy. But no, I think it's important to understand that, you know, using the, I don't have an education excuse is only going to hold you back. And people feel like they need this arsenal of information and this huge background before

they can get started. I mean, listen, to just try something, you can always go back, but you have to take the step to try. And so my first piece of advice when you're starting a new business or starting a new entrepreneurial venture is to at least start taking the steps forward, figure out what you can do today, because when you take a step today, it's going to lead to a step tomorrow. That was very, you know, like poetic right there, but it's true. So my advice would be take a step, take a leap forward, figure out what you can actually take action on today. And then as the business unfolds, go further. And, you know, Warren Buffett used to say there was a, what he likes to strategize on is a two month plan and a seven year plan. What can you do in the next two months to work towards your

seven year goal? I think that's a, it's a good way to look at things. So here's what I would do. I would go to Rite Aid, buy a poster board, just like I did when I was first starting out and put the poster board in front of you, hang it on your wall in your living room and actually add to it slowly over six weeks. Give yourself six weeks, no longer than six weeks though. Start writing words that inspire you. But everything that goes on that poster board is things that are executing towards your goals. It's not inspirational quotes or pictures of other actresses or influencers. It's actually how you're going to execute your vision in front of you. You're going to walk by it every single day and see it and you're going to keep

adding to it and eventually you're going to execute on it. Yes. Good luck, Jenny B. Okay, Michael. And next call. All right. Hi, this is Liz from Beachwood, Ohio. And my Instagram handle is at Liz, no veggie girl. I've been listening to the Skinny Confidential Him and Her podcast since the very beginning. And I was just wondering what your process is for both you and Michael, or both Lauren and Michael, about choosing who you want to interview on the podcast because you've picked so many great people.

There has to be some sort of a process like, hey, this is what we're going to do to contact this person. This is what we want to talk about. because you've picked so many great people. There has to be some sort of a process like, hey, this is what we're going to do to contact this person. This is what we want to talk about. So I was hoping you could open up a little more about that. Thank you. Hello, Liz. I guess Lauren talks to you on Instagram. That's what she just told me. I'm going to go, right, Lauren? Yes. Love Liz. For me, I don't know if my process is so scientific. I think, and Lauren maybe has something more to

say about this, but we started this podcast to have interesting conversations. So most of the time, the guests are people that we're interested in talking to. It doesn't necessarily have to be someone that's super famous or have some big platform. We tend to stay away from the typical podcast circuits where maybe someone's on a book tour, unless maybe we find that author interesting, then we'll interview them. But we tend to, we tend to stay away from like the typical PR type outreach podcasts. There's a lot of different PR companies that reach and say, Hey, I have this client, dah, dah, dah. And sometimes we do it, but most of the time that's, we don't be just because we're looking for conversations that interest us because we figure, um, a lot of our audience is

like-minded to us. And if we're interested in that conversation, a lot of you guys will be as well. So, you know, take Ryan holiday,, for example. I was so interested in talking to him that we actually flew to Texas, brought the equipment, went to his office and talked to him. And I think it made for a really good podcast. I think podcasters make a mistake when they just book anyone for a name and they're not actually interested in what that person has to say or do. Because if you're not interested in what someone has to say, you can't get the right questions out of them. I completely agree with Michael. I think that we don't want to find a guest that has this answer that's been super rehearsed. We want to go deeper than that. And we even go as far as to tailor our questions for each guest. So we're very, very methodical

and careful with who we bring on. And then we're even more careful with the questions that we ask. So each guest has a very different set of questions. We don't try to do sort of a one-size-fits-all sort of thing. That's really, really important to us. We want to bring different personalities, different ways of life, just really interesting people. And just to give you an example, it's like Aubrey Marcus, he was in an open relationship. And then we brought

Tanya Zuckerbrot on who's all about fiber. And then, you know, we bring Dr. Dennis who's so into skin. I think we really like people that are obsessive and passionate about their certain field. And we like to just showcase that to you guys. At the end of the day, the most important thing out of everything is the takeaway and the value for the audience. Yeah. And then I think another thing that we do, which is intriguing to me for multiple reasons, is that we find guests that may have their talking points. Like maybe somebody comes on and talks about a certain subject the majority of the time. And we try to kind of find out the reasons why they talk about the subject or maybe something that's a tangent that they don't usually go into. And, you know,

anything that's unique and interesting that we haven't heard before. Honestly, we would talk to anyone as long as it's new content in a conversation that people haven't heard before. And I think anybody that's out there that's thinking of doing a podcast should kind of go into it with the same pretext. It doesn't necessarily need to be a name or a draw. A lot of times those people, when they come on anyway, they don't do a lot for your show. They're not going to go out and promote it. Some people do. So it has to be interesting conversation. And most importantly, it has to be interesting to the audience. And that's what makes an interesting show. So that's kind of our process. I love the Collins, but you know what I don't like? Being scared on a Sunday. And Michael,

I know you know what I mean. My nickname is basically Sunday scary. She looks over at me every Sunday now and says, you got the Sunday scary? Pretty much. Yours is like weekly scaries. Okay. So let's talk about the Sunday scaries. So you guys know that feeling when you're sitting around on a Sunday, maybe you had a couple too many glasses of rosé. Maybe you had a wild, irresponsible decision that you made over the weekend. And then you realize that Monday's coming. It's upon you. We've all been there. I just feel like it hits you like a ton of bricks. So those are the Sunday scaries. Michael has them every day. I should call them the everyday scaries. If I'm being honest. I should call them the everyday scaries.

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for 10% off. That's sundayscaries.com. Use promo code TSE10 for 10% off. That's sundayscaries.com. Use promo code TSE10 for 10% off. That's going to be in the show notes and on our new podcast site. Jack Katsoyan is a veteran publicist in Hollywood who spent most of his time on the other side of the velvet rope. He has worked for a bunch of the big agencies and he now runs his own boutique agency, EMC Bowery. Jack specializes in crisis PR, helping celebrities deal with crisis, helping stars deal with sudden scandals, and some of his clients include Kristen Cavallari, who's been on this show, Paris Hilton, Carmen Electra, and Erika Jayne. With that, Jack, welcome to the show. This is The Skinny Confidential, him and her.

Okay, let's just jump right into it. How did get in to being a publicist start from the beginning well crazy story well i started working at a more of a corporate uh office when i was 16 in high school i had to take a class for for one of one of the credits and i started working at a small pr firm and they just did products so it was like diaper genie and toilet seat covers, like some random things that I used to pitch. And then there was a woman who started working with us and she was like, you love celebrities. Do you want to work on an award show? I was like, an award show?

They're like, yeah, you want to work on the Billboard Music Awards? I was like, sure. So I signed up as an escort. And from that day on, that was it. The girl who actually signed me up, she was like, you're really good at this. We're going to hire you to do the Grammys. So from there, just kind of spread open. So what was the gig specifically?

So basically, the gig for that was just like basically babysitting the celebrity that was there for the one or two days that they were performing or presenting. You just babysit them. That's how I met publicists. And I was like, OK, kind of this is where I want to go. But first of all, I was going to go to school to be a pharmacist because that's what my mother wanted. But it turned out to be something completely different. So I started school.

I was 19, and I got my first job at PMK. I left school. I actually showed them a fake ID to get the job because they wanted someone to be 21. And I was like, well, I'm not 21. But it worked. I actually showed them a fake ID to get the job because they wanted someone to be 21. And I was like, well, I'm not 21, but it worked. I got the job. Back in the day, fake IDs were a lot easier. I look at the kids IDs now it's like holograms and like, you have to like put your eye retina in there and you get everything, you know, and it's crazy now. Can you, for someone like me, who's a little bit ignorant to your world, what would, what is babysitting? Like,

what does that entail? Like when you're at these events? Well at this events basically you have to make sure that they're there on time They have everything they need and you're basically the troubleshooter if something goes wrong. It's you're on your ass is on the line That's why I always say to my assistants I'm like no matter what you do if you make a mistake or not if the car didn't show up They're not calling to yell at you. They're gonna call and yell at me So I'm the one who gets the brunt of it no matter what so what's what's something like where you have to do damage control in the in real time right like is there someone to ask a bad question is it somebody that you know

like you said a car doesn't show up is it like what is what is something that you need to immediately put out this fire well car doesn't show up or you show up to their to take a flight and you don't have the first class seat you promised to have. Or, you know, someone is asking a bad question or you have someone who's stalking them. It's a combination of everything. You're 911. Whatever, you know, something happens, they call you. You're the first line of defense.

And the last. Listen, I had a client once call me. She was like, I want to go shopping today on Robertson, and it's raining. Do you know what I could do? Or is there something you could do? And I was like, do you hire you an umbrella carrier? I don't know what you want me to do. She was like, well, that's a great idea.

I think we should do that. So there you go. An umbrella carrier? I need somebody I can call for when it's raining out. I don't ask for fucking much, Michael. I'd love an umbrella carrier next time it rains. So's let's talk about the clients so you you get this job how do you start landing your clients how do you like what who's can you tell us who the first ones were like what can you tell us here so i was an assistant for a while i'll be honest i was an

assistant probably for about four years and then i got promoted and my one of my first clients was actually kristen cavallari a girlfriend girlfriend of mine who was best friends with her and she was just on Laguna Beach and they were like, hey, there's this girl who wants to hire PR. Will you be down to meet with her? And I was like, sure. That was it.

And then we've been together now almost, God, 20 years. And how has it evolved from when you first met her on Laguna Beach to now? Because now there's so much social media. Tell us how it it was i feel like it was easier to keep things under wraps or control things in the past now like everybody's got a camera everybody's a reporter everybody's a blogger lauren and you know everybody's a podcaster how do you how do you now do damage control if there is damage control to be done well here's the thing be back in a day you could control things much easier because there was

not much out there now you really can't because things go wildly you know in 2.5 seconds someone put a video out tmz already has it before we also made deals with a lot of people before like hey if you killed this and i'll give you this but now you really can't because if let's just say mary in wisconsin got a video if she goes to Us Weekly, Us Weekly goes, okay, no, we're going to pass on it. She's going to go to other places easily now. Yeah, or she's going to put it up herself. Exactly. Or before you couldn't find it.

Or she wants to be famous and Mary's going to put it up so that she can get the followers. So how do you do damage control now? What steps can you take? Somebody fucks up real bad. What's the first step? Let's say we have a Tristan Thompson situation happening. What are you take? Somebody fucks up real bad. What's the first step? Let's say we have a Tristan Thompson situation happening. What are you doing? I mean,

with that, you can't really do much of anything. He's pretty much fucked. Sorry. So there's things you can't come back from? No, there's things you can't come back from. Before, here's the thing. Before, you probably would not have known about it. He would have been killed. He would have been known about it. He would have been killed.

He would have been easily killed. Or he would have been forgiven and moved on. But now we are going to talk about it until the bitter end. And we're not going to stop about it. People are going to follow him. People are going to chase him. People are going to taunt him. It's going to keep going.

So what advice would you give him? Because we have social media, so it's easy. So you as a publicist, what's the advice? What would you say to him? Don't keep going so what advice we do get social media so it's easy yeah so you as a publicist don't cheat on your girlfriend but after the fact no don't cheat on your girlfriend yeah well of course that's the first step but so now like what what do you do to start doing some damage control like I guess okay let's hear the things you can there's nothing you could do what you're gonna send to do work on at a charity place or feed the homeless? That's going to make him look like an idiot.

It's going to make it look like it's not authentic. He's doing what he's supposed to be doing to make himself look good. That's about it. I mean, he's fucked. It's done. So what do you think that Kris Jenner is doing right now? Nothing? I mean, I don't think she's not managing him, I don't think.

I might be wrong. But I don't think there's nothing they can really do. So I don't think I'm, I might be wrong, but I don't think there, there's nothing they can really do. So sometimes you just got to sit back and do nothing with social media until you've literally forgiven and hoping that they're going to forgive you. So has this made, and listen, maybe this, maybe this question is strange, but has this made your job more difficult or easier? Difficult.

More difficult. Because how do you come back with that? Like, how do you tell the client that they're, they're not going to be able to come back from that? And do clients come, is like, do, how do you tell a client that they're not going to be able to come back from that? And do clients, do you feel like you're more in demand now or less in demand? Because, you know, it's so much harder. It really depends on the situation. Yeah.

It really depends on the situation. Because there are certain things that you could get away with if you get busted with drugs or if you get busted for other reasons. But for cheating, it's a little dicey. Yeah, I feel like people forgive you a little bit if you're partying right yeah not for cheating but yeah it's there's ways to get around that stuff but for cheating it's a little bit of a harder to come back from so someone like a harvey weinstein they're just done done like nobody would you even touch a client like that no yeah it's a waste of i mean what do you do besides have a headache every day what do you do what there's nothing else you could see back in the day you probably could have killed a lot of

that but now easily are you picky with who you take on you have to be here's the thing when i you know when i work with a corporate company it was um they started dumping clients on me and then it became like what am i doing with a chef i have no idea what to do with a chef nor do i want to work with a chef so yeah you have to be because i don't want to you know idea what to do with a chef, nor do I want to work with a chef. So yeah, you have to be, cause I don't want to, you know, you have to deal with that person every day. And the fact that if you are not into it and you have to answer their call, that's not what I want to do. It's not for me. So I want to, I want to get a little bit, I want to go deep with you here. I want to get a little bit more into your psyche. What, what personality traits do you think someone in your position needs to have to do a job like this? Like maybe there's somebody out there listening and saying, Hey, I think I'd be a good publicist. I'd be a good at PR. Like what, what traits do you think someone in your position needs to have to do a job like this like maybe there's somebody out there listening saying hey i think i'd be good at publicist i'd be good at pr

like what what traits do you need to have do you have thick skin like thick skin for sure people's people you got to be able to take what you know even though you're right if they say you're not wrong you've got to be able to take it without arguments and you got to be creative you but you have to be very creative especially now you know the pr 101 ways of doing things it's it's over and what do you think's made you that way like what like if you're going back and you're thinking of like any time in your life that has really developed those personality traits in you i think it's you have to have a passion for it if you don't really you don't have a passion for it it's it's not gonna it's not gonna work and

also you got to be excited about your job but do you think you know it's one of the it's not gonna it's not gonna work and also you got to be excited about your job but do you think you know it's one of the it's one sorry to cut you off it's one of the stressful jobs they say in the world yeah number one always when you're constantly managing somebody else right so you have to be like their biggest cheerleader while also dealing with all their shit yep well also that's why a lot of the girls who are publicists and sadly they're single and miserable because you don't have a life. Your life becomes their life. So when you're trying to take a vacation or go on a date or your husband is asking you, it's 10 p.m. at night, where are you?

You don't have a known life. Especially if you're traveling. I travel so much sometimes that I don't even know where I am myself. Wow. I heard that it's known in Hollywood that Paris Hilton is smart. She's savvy. She's a go-getter. Have you seen this firsthand?

I know you worked with her. 100%. I mean, look at the girl. She has the biggest brand out there at the moment. She's still this. It's been so many years, and she's still killing it. So she knows what she's doing. She built an amazing brand, and she has what it takes to get where she's at at the moment and it's still going. She was smart

about it. Unlike some of the girls who burned through it quickly and they took every single deal that they possibly can that didn't make any sense and you kind of get burned out and move on, she didn't. She has built a business out of this this so you've seen a lot of highs and lows with a lot of your clients like for somebody that wants to be famous and they want to get you know they want attention and they want to be in the public eye what would you say to someone like would you caution them or what like what are things that people aren't looking at right there's a lot of glamour there's a lot of attention there's a lot of money but what what are the dark things that come with that a lot of fake people uh you get to have a lot of fake, but what are the dark things that come with that? A lot of fake people.

You get to have a lot of fake friends. And also, when you're hot, you're hot. You get so many people on you. And then when you're not, everyone disappears and becomes a lonely life. So you've seen a lot of your clients, they've really, people around when they have attention, everything's great. But so what happens in the dark times? How do you walk them through that? They have no they have no more friends then you become their friend then it becomes a problem with you because then all of a sudden

you're you're they're literally consuming all of your time so you have to be very careful on that side of it because then you're going to drive yourself crazy is it strange for you doing interviews like this now because you've been on the other side so frequently? It's still weird. You know, I get like, yes, absolutely. It's still weird. So how do you manage all these celebrities? And then you also ended up writing two books that are beautiful, by the way. Thank you. Thank you. You know what? I wrote it with my best friend, Kevin Dixon, who was actually at Life and Style for a long time. So we became friends when he was working there.

And, you know, you just find the time. If you want to do something, you just find the time. We were talking about this for a long time, and one of my girlfriends was on my ass about it. She was like, you have to do this. You have to do this. You have so many crazy stories that no one is ever going to believe it, but we know it's all true. Got to put it in a book. Got to put it in a book. You have to do this. You have so many crazy stories that no one is ever going to believe it. But we know it's all true.

Got to put it in a book. Got to put it in a book. So we just did it. In the book, what is one of the juiciest stories that's getting you a lot of attention? And have you gotten in any trouble for it? We haven't gotten any trouble for it because it's done really cleverly, I would say. Especially with the names and their nationality or what they look like. We've changed a lot.

And some of the characters are two characters instead of one person. It's about two people. So nothing but for some odd reason, people were really shocked about the fact that there's arranged marriages or there's arranged dating life in Hollywood. Can you give us some details of one of the stories in the book? Well, in one of the characters is dating a certain person in the book that is just completely arranged for a look. I call her the beard. She's the beard.

And this really happened? It really happened. And who arranges this? Well, you know, most of the time it's the agents who will make the connection or the studio at the time was like Hey, we need we need to have something come out about you know, some kind of a controversial publicity stunt We need to do so let's get this going It is this or if if the person is gay back in day you just have to do it and a lot of the girls will take the job because

They won't go from zero to 60 in a matter of nights. If you're dating a Hollywood heartthrob, all of a sudden everyone is calling you in for castings, and everyone knows their name. So the benefit then for the heartthrob was that he can appear straight, and the benefit for the woman is that she can get work. Exactly. So is there a time like, hey, we've got to be together for this many years,

and then we can split? It's usually around two years. And you get to see that. It's around, yeah, it's about two years. So some of the biggest celebrities have arranged marriage. Like the big, big ones. Superstars? Yes.

Can you think of ones off the top of your head that are like nuts that you can't even believe? Like, I'm talking like Brad and Angie. Like, is that arranged? No. Okay. They actually loved each other. Yes. Like like who can you not break my heart not a client that we can talk about that you can give an example of i'm putting on the spot i'll tell you off air he'll give us a wink i'm trying to penetrate your armor here to get some some stories about like not like a gotcha but like who who's someone that we could talk about as an example of someone that's had some really good pr or maybe that's

already broken i know someone and you don't have to say yes or no but i've heard multiple times that john travolta and kelly preston have an arranged marriage an arrangement he's rolling the eyes tilting the head it's not i can't see if it's a firm yes or a no the way the head is being tilted i know in your book that you talk about hot interns sleeping with your clients. Yes. What is this? And how do we get an internship with you? You know, it's so crazy. We used to have, you know, interns were my best assets in life. I always tell people, like, if you need anything, you get interns. They're, they're amazing. And then, you know, I used to hire hot, hot interns they they're they're amazing and then you know i used to hire hot hot interns because they worked it was easy it was fun so a couple of the girls had a bucket list

of certain celebrities that they wanted to sleep with and they would literally start going through the list and then that was a way of from them to work at the pr agency to get the to the celebrity because they would work at events. Oh my gosh. They had a list? They had a bucket list. Wow. Maybe you should tell your friends to get an internship with Jack, like Weston. Literally a bucket list.

Some of my guy friends, they need to get an internship. One of them actually wanted to have a three-way with a certain musician and his girlfriend, and she did it. Have you ever worked with any, like, okay, strictly celebrities, but has there ever been any politicians or government officials you've ever had to go into that world, or no? No, thank God, no. That world just seems so crazy. Yeah. I think it's worse than celebrities.

How much does the media manipulate what we see? It depends on the person. Here's the thing. If you leave out certain words or the headline, the way they portray the headline, all of a sudden you get 15 things from that one headline, even though it's actually apples. They're kind of flipping into an orange. So it really depends on the person. But that does control a lot of stuff now are there any are there any strategies you've taken or any

anything that the audience can take away where you know maybe there's something at the time was not getting a lot of attention that you were able to leverage to really skyrocket someone's career or something creative you were able to do to put someone on a platform that they may have not had if you hadn't done something like is there any examples of that that you can think of? So back in the day, I would say that a lot of the things that worked was the set-up photo shoots that we did. You know, the bikini photos, and you did a lot of that. Like them at the beach.

Them at the beach. And, you know, the set-up stuff was the one that really caught our attention. And a lot of people started doing that. Now it's overplayed. You can't really do that anymore. But back in the day, that was the biggest one or go out and be associated with a certain celebrity at the club even though you were not you know be associated because you know there's all these reporters were at the club watching what was going on so if you were at you know back in the day it was like Hyde,

and you're sitting next to Leonardo DiCaprio, the next day all of a sudden you were kind of dating. That is crazy. So Heidi and Spencer, me and Michael should do like a shoot on the beach. Totally. Just kidding. What would you tell me to get some attention?

What would I move? Well, guys are screwed. Right? Sadly. It's so hard to get press for guys, especially now. Why? Because there's not many outlets out there for a guy. Yeah.

What do you talk about for a guy? I mean, unless you have some crazy-ass ripped body, then there's not much out there. Well, that's like, I'll be fine then. That's the sad part about guys. It's like, it's really hard to get press. At least with girls that there's the hair the makeup or the fashion there's a lot to incorporate into getting press on a girl a guy it's you know you got to work 10 times more so if you're coaching me what's what's my first step what do i do in one way to get press to get press like what's that what's the move nothing i'm not saying i'm looking for it but i'm just saying like if you if someone's out there and they're

like okay i need to get attention i'm a man i'm listening for it, but I'm just saying, like, if you, if someone's out there and they're like, okay, I need to get attention, I'm a man, I'm listening to this, and it's difficult to shine, what's the move? You gotta start dating a bunch of girls. Damn. You gotta go through some girls. That would be the easiest way that we would get attention, all of a sudden everyone would be talking to us. But not just any girls, you gotta date the right girls. Who knew who Tristan Thomas was until you started dating her?

Did you know who Tristan Thomas was? I had no idea. Exactly. So there you go. I just learned about it from, because I was reading the comments on his page. They were eviscerating that guy. I actually felt bad at some point,

but he did a scummy thing. You won't be in Hyde next to girls, so I don't know what you're going to do. But listen, this is not the first. I need some attention. This is not the first time he's done this, so you know what? He deserves it.

Okay, let's talk about the Kardashians, because I think that they're a master at PR. Would you agree? What do you think are some things that they implement in their day-to-day to get this crazy PR around them? Well, I think we talk about them. There you go. We're just talking about them right now again. So I think that's the crazy part is that as much as people want to hate on them, they're still talking about them.

So no matter what, they're still talking about them. So no matter what, they're still going to be around. So as much as people want to say that we want them to go away, it's not going to go away. Because if you don't talk about someone, they're not going to be anywhere. We are the ones who at this point in day and age, I think we are the ones who are making these people famous.

So if we stop talking about them, if we stop following them,'s it's gonna go away eventually it's like that old quote it's like better better to talk behind my back than not talk about me at all right and i always sound like haters are the fans if you're gonna come on my page and hate on me you're actually taking me somewhere else you're talking about you remember the howard stern movie and they were going through and he had like the nbc guy was so pissed the executive that he was getting all this attention and they pulled going through and he had like the NBC guy was so pissed though they get the Executive that he was getting all this attention and they pulled the reports and they're like well

What about the people that like him is so well they listen this money What about the people that hate him and they're like oh the people that hate him listen three times as much like because they want It the most common answer is they want to see what he says next, right? It's so crazy because I've had Instantly, you know something has been Gone so crazy. It's blown out of proportion and all of a sudden you look at the numbers and you're like oh my god we're selling music today we're selling books today we're we're doing things it's so crazy how even if it's a problem or whatever it's going on

whenever you're nice nothing really happens whenever you're an asshole something good comes out of it yeah no it's interesting i think yeah like you said before who knew tristan thomas and there's so many there's so many instances like when in music career and celebrities like as soon as people start talking about it's like oh i got to see what this guy's about or this girl's about and i think like like you said no bad press like there's a line right there's there's a line there's a line but bad press can actually be really good for your career just there's the line what do you think the line is like what's it what killing? The line that would kill you? I think cheating is a big one.

Is it really? Because, like, what's going to happen to this guy's career? Like, I feel like he's getting more attention than ever now. He is, but it's, you know, brands, here's the problem. Brands will stop you. Brands will stop. Because if women stop following you and women stop kind of buying what you're selling, because, you know, 90% of the time women is the one who's buying for their husband

or their significant other. So if they're not going to buy your brand, then you're kind because if you know 90 of the time woman is the one who's buying for their husband or their significant other so they're not going to buy your brand then you're kind of screwed so cheating but like but i mean anything like harvey weinstein yeah anything sexual assaults and rape but porn tapes have seemed to be i don't think porn tapes those days are gone you know porn tapes are great but now it's like hello china, China. Black China came and came. Michael and I were going to make one called One Night in Lauren. We shouldn't do that? It's a waste of time. Okay. I think the sex tape days are over.

As long as it's not One Night in Michael. I think someone needs to come out with something completely different than the usual sex tape situation. It needs to be some kind of a Fifty Shades of Grey moment. Add a whip and a chain. Or maybe some kind of an orgy situation. Then it to be some kind of a Fifty Shades of Grey moment. Add a whip and a chain. Or maybe some kind of an orgy situation, you know, then it'll be something

interesting to watch. Maybe you guys in the celebrity, that, hey. Get the celebrity, maybe get a couple whips in there. Let's do a threesome with Brad Pitt.

You know, sit up there. You know what? He's not interested. If you have Brad Pitt, maybe, maybe. Maybe, maybe. Just because, you know,

it's Brad Pitt, maybe. But it's like having a sex tape. It's like, oh, I already watched something else on YouTube. It's another sex tape. Great. You know, it's kind of played out. Let me ask you this. You have worked with a lot of traditional celebrities.

But you've also, you know, we were talking before the interview. You had the foresight to start going for reality star clients before they were as popular as they are now. How do you think you came up with that foresight and why did you decide to do that? Well, when I first got promoted, I would say the whole situation is when they came to a big company, they didn't want to sign someone who just got promoted. That was the real deal. They wanted someone higher up to be on the count. And the higher ups never, you know, they never wanted to help you out. No one, you know, it was kind of like you're on your own. We promoted you, now you figure out what you want to do. So

when I first got Kristen, I kind of was like, okay, this Laguna Beach phenomenon was so big and I was like, okay, there's a market here. And I think what'm going to do here I'm going to capitalize on this was there a resistance from a lot of the higher ups towards reality stars yes I mean I've had many chats in the conference room saying that I need to stop signing reality stars because it was not it was bringing the aura of the company down okay and then when we got corporate it was like, you need to get everybody and everyone you can. So it was like, okay, now all of a sudden I was fine to be there now. What do you think about the influencer space now? Because there's kind of like another wave, right?

There was the traditional celebrities, then there's reality. But now there's a new wave, what we call influencers. That's the hot term everyone's throwing around. How do you look at that space? Well, I mean, here's the thing. There's ever-changing worlds, so you have to adapt to it. So we just adapt to it. And I know a lot of PR people don't really understand that world,

so you've got to kind of dive in and get into that world. Here's the thing. If you want to make money and you want to have a business, you just have to adapt to it. I always say that when you can't understand something, you know you're on to something. So when I tell people an idea, like in 2010, I told everyone I was going to be a blogger. And I always say that there was this 80 year old guy at the bar that was laughing at me and was like, well, how are you going to

monetize? And he actually was the inventor of the airbag. And if I had listened to him, I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing. So I always think that you should be looking where no one else is looking. Exactly. So I want to talk about staying power. So Kristen Cavallari was on the podcast. You were here with her. And I think she's done a really good job of evolving and standing out in this industry. How do you think your expertise has kind of helped with this? Well, I think we've had, you know, we've, you know, it's called a partnership and teamwork and you work together to figure out what really makes sense and she's never sold out like most people have and i think that was the one of the most important thing and especially nowadays fans know when you're selling out and you're not

being authentic and you are trying to shove down something there and you know down their throat people understand it so i think that was the most important thing that she really did say, no, I'm going to do what I want to do. So we kind of navigated towards that. Having the shoe brand was amazing because that kind of still got us press without begging for press. It's an ongoing thing. You have four or five seasons of different shoes coming out, so you're going to have to talk about press. So I think navigating and figuring out what really where your brand is and then sticking to that is what the solution is. There's staying power. Yeah, there's staying power. And if you get that, you know, if you understand where that part is, I think it would stay for a long time. So when you sign a client that's, you know, someone like Erica Jane or Kristen Cavallari

or Paris Hilton, do you guys sit down and have a strategy about how you're going to kind of map out systems to get to the goal that you want? Is there something written down or do you just kind of go with every day? I mean, it depends on the person, you know, and the project. If they have a project going, then you're like, hey, we're going to work on X, Y, and Z and get you X, Y, and Z. And also, you don't know until you start pitching someone. I say when you go to first meetings and there's someone promising you the moon and the world, they're lying. Until I leave the room and get on the phone and start

talking about you and pitching you, it's not going to happen. How many bullshitters are there in this industry? Everyone is a publicist now. That's the biggest issue that we have is the fact that there's so many PR people out there and they'll be like, oh, we'll charge this much money. And some people take the bait and they'll be like, you pay what you get for. Let me ask you this. We've worked with PR before in multiple capacities with the businesses we operate.

Also personally, and it's never really been a good experience. There's a lot of young business operators that listen to this show. What would you say red flags are when they're thinking about PR or publicists? The number one I think it would say if they promise you the moon in the world, they're lying. If they give you a proposal that has so many magazine names on it, it just basically, they're circulating that proposal around their company. That's what they're doing. Because there's no way you could sit there

and say that they're going to get you Cosmo, Vogue. They're going to get you the top tier magazines because it's not going to happen. And so what do you think the biggest mistake as a consumer that consumers make when they're working with PR? The biggest mistake that they, when you're first signing on or so is it like because like so for for example say we're talking about woo and i want to sell more woo right like that's a specific plan that i have a

goal do you think they're like it you know i we've had a lot of different pr proposals oh we could do this and we can do that i mean do this it's like it's it seems like it's like shotgun methods splattered everywhere. It's not really targeted. So I'm trying to kind of figure out, you know, if you're thinking about working with PR, do you have to come in with a certain intention in mind? Do you have to look for a specific strength at that PR? Well, here's the thing.

If you're selling a certain product and they're telling you you're going to be in a certain magazine that makes no sense whatsoever, that should be your red flag right there. Like, why would I be in, let's just say family living and if I'm selling lube I'm saying family living is not gonna cover lube and you'll be surprised I've seen some proposals that people are like it can bring more families together yeah they've given you and they're like okay and then also the other problem is some people are just afraid to express their feelings. If you're with a PR person for more than two months and they haven't done anything for you, you need to say something.

You know, I've taken a couple of, this past few months we've had meetings with some people and they're like, oh, we've been here for seven months and we haven't even spoke to the actual person I signed with. I was talking to the assistant. So you paid seven months of PR and you've never talked to the person you signed with? That's your problem. You're just not. To me, that means that you don't care about your career or you don't care about what you're doing. Honesty is an important thing in the PR world, and I think that's why I've been, thank God, so successful in my lane.

If I feel like more than a month, you know, two months is the cutoff when you can't really understand what's going on. If there's a problem, we're pitching and pitching when nothing is coming back. Hey, listen, here's what the feedback is and here's what's going on. And we need to figure out a way to change some stuff or we need to figure out a new situation that we pitch you so we could get press. So honesty is an important thing. And I know most people don't want to hear it, or I mean to figure out a new situation that we pitched you so we could get press. So honesty is an important thing. And I know most people don't want to hear it, but you have to. In every industry, honesty I think is important.

Being up front. Tell us about your book Guilty Pleasure. What can the listeners expect? Well, Guilty Pleasure is a sequel off of The Blind Item, which was out almost a year ago, a year and a half ago. So it's just basically juicy stories about Hollywood. We talked about the arranged marriages and what really goes down behind PR world.

You know, when you're watching TV and you're seeing certain things, it's all about the glitz and the glamour and the whole, like, in front of the red carpet. This actually gives you the glimpse of what really went down back in the day when we had to kill stories or we had to arrange marriages or the little things that you would never think about, it's all in there with fictional characters. Did you ever think that you were going to be

arranging marriages when you thought about going into PR? Never. Never. You know, my mom still doesn't understand what I do. And I'm like, Mom, it's not rock and science. But it is. You know, you'll be surprised at things that we've done or the things that I've been asked to do. Well, sorry to break it to you guys, but Michael and I have an arranged marriage.

It's arranged. Thanks, Jack. It's been a good two years on the show. We fooled everyone. We basically just outed you guys out, huh? Anyways, yeah. Lauren, it's been fun. Yeah, it's been fun. Where years on the show. We fooled everyone. We basically just outed you guys out. Anyways, yeah. Lauren, it's been fun. Yeah, it's been fun.

Where can everyone find the book? Amazon, Barnes & Noble, any bookstores that's near you, basically. What's your Instagram handle so we can stalk you? It's Jack Ketso. J-A-C-K-K-E-T-S-O. Thank you for coming on the show. Thanks, guys. Quickly, again, if you're in the la area today

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