The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - #129: Rachel Hollis - Prioritizing Time & Maximizing Results, Childhood Trauma, Work/Life Balance, Mommy Shaming, How To Say No, & The Adoption Process

Episode Date: August 9, 2018

On this episode we have Best Selling Author & Entrepreneur Rachel Hollis in the studio. This conversation is another wide spanning conversation covering: prioritizing time & maximizing results, childhood trauma, work/life balance, mommy shaming, wasted time and wasted energy. How to say NO, appreciation vs expectation, fear of what others think, scarcity mindset vs abundance mindset and the adoption process. To connect with Rachel Hollis click HERE To connect with Lauryn Evarts click HERE To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697) For Detailed Show Notes click HERE  This episode was brought to you by Grove Collaborative.   Grove Collaborative offers healthy alternatives to household supplies and we use it for all of our cleaning supplies. To try grove collaborative go to www.grove.co/skinny Listeners will receive 30 dollars in free supplies a special gift and a 60 day VIP membership.    This episode is brought to you by Liquid I.V.  Liquid I.V. is the great-tasting, portable powder drink mix that is changing the way the world hydrates. The hydration multiplier uses the breakthrough science of Cellular Transport Technology (CTT) to deliver hydration to the bloodstream faster and more efficiently than water alone. Liquid I.V. contains three times the electrolytes of leading sports drinks and is free from preservatives, artificial sweeteners or colors. Go to www.liquid-iv.com and ENTER PROMO CODE SKINNY15 AT CHECKOUT TO RECEIVE 15% OFF YOUR ORDER

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sorry, guys. So go to liquid-iv.com and enter code SK code skinny15 at checkout to try this product. She's a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire. Fantastic. And he's a serial entrepreneur. A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the Skinny Confidential, him and her. I have a high school diploma. I did not go to college. I don't have resources. I didn't have access. I didn't have money. I didn't come from a family that had any of those things.

The only thing that I had is I will outwork you. I will be the first one there. I will be the last one to leave. I will do whatever needs to be done to get the job done, to get the next client, to get the resources, to get, I have always been that was the only thing that could level the playing field with me and other people who were, who had all those things I didn't have. So I just, I'm so passionate about the idea of hard work and hard work means that you're going to have to give up some stuff that you might rather be doing right now.

It's like that quote. That's like, um, I'm going to, you're going to live life in a certain way or you're going to live life in a way that other people won't. You can have a life that other people can't. Clear the pipes, clear the pipes. Here we go. One, two, one, two. Lauren, sound check. Can you hear me? I can hear you, Michael. We are live broadcasting. Here we go, everybody.

Is that my radio voice? Is your baby Botox wearing off? One, two, three. I think it wore off. I think my body digested it. Dr. D might have to come back. See you again. Welcome back to the show, everybody. Here we are. That clip was from our guest of the show today, bestselling author and entrepreneur, Rachel Hollis. On this episode, we discuss prioritizing your time to maximize results, the adoption process, overcoming childhood trauma, how to say no, a scarcity mindset versus an abundance mindset, and mommy shaming. For those of you who are new to the show, I'm Lauren Everts, the creator of The Skinny Confidential. And I am Michael Bostic. I am a business operator, entrepreneur, rock star husband, rock star co-host. Feeling froggy today. Had an espresso shot at 5 p.m. Probably not a

great idea. You also had a Coca-Cola too. And I'm jacked up. But you know what? I thought I would need it because last night I got four hours of sleep. That's a whole nother story. But now I'm jacked up. But you know what? I thought I would need it because last night I got four hours of sleep. That's a whole nother story. But now I'm thinking I screwed myself because I'm going to be up all night. Great. Hyper, ready to go. We can watch Sopranos though. So there's that.

I'm going to chloroform you tonight. I honestly welcome it. Could use a good chloroform. Knock me out. Speaking of chloroform or house hunting. House hunting. You know what? I'm pretty much done house hunting in this weather. It's way too hot.

We're trying to, you know, we need it. We have the condo up here in LA. As many of you know, we're up here in LA full time now working and we're moving out of San Diego. It looks like. But we still live in San Diego. People are asking me questions on Instagram. So we have. At this point, it's just like a very overpriced storage unit. So we have, no, we have a house in San Diego. That's our storage unit that I'm referring to. And then we have a small condo in LA that we use when we come up here, but now we're up here so much that we've been living out of this condo. And right now we have Taylor and Mimi here with us and we need to find more space. Yeah, no, I need to get a new place. And I have a list of

demands that are pretty specific. Okay. I want bright light, lots of light needs to be light everywhere. I don't love carpet. Okay. Michael, I don't ask for much with that. Um, I want bright light, lots of light. Needs to be light everywhere. I don't love carpet. Okay, Michael? I don't ask for much with that. I want a bright light bathroom. I'd love a bathtub. Maybe a fireplace, if I'm being honest. Love maybe like a bar area.

And I would love the kitchen to be matte white. Yeah, okay. So I'll just build a new house. Anyways, I can't keep house hunting in this heat. Anybody, if there's anybody out there listening, just find us a house. If you're a broker, send us recommendations. Or a grave site. You know what Lauren likes, LA brokers, if you're listening. I also need the backyard to be completely, like we can't have the chihuahuas getting out, you know? So there can't be any holes anywhere. I'm specific. While we're on the subject,

let's talk about household cleaning supplies. You know what I'm thrilled about, Michael Bostic? No, Lauren. What are you thrilled about? Fall, okay? Fall? That's not what I was going to guess, but okay. Yes, I'm thrilled about fall. I mean, I know it's summertime right now, but it's so hot out and we're all melting and fall is around the corner, okay? Nothing screams fall more than pumpkin. And don't mean to brag, but I just picked up

Mrs. Meyer's latest products and guess what their scents are. Okay, guys. Pumpkin spice. What is up with all the girls loving the pumpkin spice? We love our pumpkin. They took a play out of the coffee playbook. Don't screw around. Not only do they have pumpkin spice, guys, they have maple and nutmeg. Okay. And you know where I got them. I got them from my favorite place online to scoop up cleaning supplies, natural cleaning supplies, Grove Collaborative. So I started using Mrs. Meyers products when I was living alone, uh, like 10 years ago. And when I moved in with Michael, I strategically moved all his chemically products out of the way and moved in my Mrs. Meyers products. Okay.

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So check out Grove and our special offer at grove.co slash skinny. That's grove.co not.com slash skinny. Guys have been doing it all wrong hanging out at the bars. All they got to do is hang a little pumpkin spice out of their pocket and stand on the street corner and get all the girls. Hang a little pumpkin spice out of their pocket? It's like a, it's like a fly catcher. Don't get any ideas. I don't want to see anything hanging out of your pocket. All right, let's meet Rachel. Rachel Hollis is a bestselling author, TV personality, in-demand speaker and founder and CEO of Chic Media. She's also a mother of four and a total badass. Rachel's tell it like it is attitude is a refreshing approach that allows her to authentically connect with millions of women around the world. Her blog,

the chic site chronicles everything from recipes to styling advice on a budget to parenting tips that she's learned on the job. Plus more Rachel's new book, girl, wash your face is currently crushing it with over half a million copies sold. I think it's currently number one on Amazon's most sold top charts. Let's help it stay there, guys. With that, welcome Rachel to the Him and Her Show. This is the Skinny Confidential Him and Her. Okay, Rachel, let's hop right into it. So you talk a lot about time. Time is money, and I think it's our most important asset. What's the vibe on the whole I don't have time thing? Like, what's your vibe on that?

It drives me insane. I can't, I mean, just as a point of reference, I have four kids, you guys. That's a lot of, yeah, a lot of freaking kids. Four kids is the same as a thousand kids, in case you're wondering, in terms of the amount of effort it takes. Holy shit. I know. Running a business with a staff of 10, working 60 hours a week. I just released my sixth book.

My seventh will come out next month. When do you find time to do all these things? When do you find time to chase your goals? People ask me that all of the time. And it drives me insane because we all have the same amount of hours. It's just how are you choosing to use yours? I haven't watched TV in a decade. I cannot tell you a single thing that's happening on any sort of Netflix, anything, because I would love to know what This Is Us is all about. I would love to know how great that show is. Everyone talks about it., because I would love to know what This Is Us is all about. I would love to know how great that show is. Everyone talks about it. But what I would love more is to have another

book. What I would love more is to train for a marathon. What I would love more are all of these different things and goals that I set for myself. So for me, it's, you know, success is the difference between choosing between what you want right now and what you want most. What you want now is to stay in bed. What you want now is to lay around. What you want now is to watch this show. But what do you want most? So don't tell me that you don't have time. Let's figure out how we can better utilize the time that we've got. You know, when you take a drink of something and go, that's how I want to be like, that refreshing right it's refreshing yeah no because we talk about this we talk about this a lot and I think that you you touched on it multiple times is that

if you prioritize the things that you want later in life you'll get them it's just not prioritizing those things in the short term is what makes it's what holds you back absolutely because everybody does have the same amount of time and it drives me nuts when people say oh well this person started here or this person started there it's like yes those are all factors but you can get whatever you want if you put in the time and if you prioritize right. Yeah. I think when I look at my career, I've been an entrepreneur for 14 years and the success that I've had over that time, I have a high school diploma. I did not go to college. I don't have resources. I didn't have access. I didn't have money.

I didn't come from a family that had any of those things. The only thing that I had is I will outwork you. I will be the first one there. I will be the last one to leave. I will do whatever needs to be done to get the job done, to get the next client, to get the resources, to get... I have always been that was the only thing that could level the playing field with me and other people who were who had all those things I didn't have so I just I'm so passionate about the idea

of hard work and hard work means that you're gonna have to give up some stuff that you might rather be doing right now it's like that quote that's like um I'm gonna you're gonna live life in a certain way or you're gonna live life in a way that other people won't. You can have a life that other people can't. What are some sacrifices that you've made? Gosh, what a good question. Time with my kids, time with my husband, time to relax and rest. That's the hardest thing for me.

I don't know if you guys struggle with that as an entrepreneur and you're building this business. but it's the question I get most often, like, how do you rest? How do you, I'm like, I don't know what that means. I really struggle with it because it's like your greatest strength is your greatest weakness. And mine is I can outwork you, but then the weakness is I don't know how to shut that off. So I think sometimes that has manifested in issues with my health or pushing too hard, not getting enough sleep or anxiety. There's a lot of things that I've had to navigate or weigh against. I'm going to put in this time, but it's not without like every yes that you give is a no to something else. And I think it's only in the last handful of years that I've really understood. You got to make sure that the thing you're saying yes to is worth what you're going to

have to give up in the interim. Well, it's a really self-aware way to be, right? A lot of people say work, work, work, work, and they don't understand the toll it takes on the other side, right? Or they say rest, rest, rest, rest, and then they don't understand the other side. So it comes down to what you really want in life. If you're happy making those sacrifices, and that's what truly makes you happy, the entrepreneurial journey and success,

however you define it, then it's fine, right? Where I think people, where this message of work, work, work gets people in trouble is if you don't really want those things and you're just trying to do them because somebody said I have to outwork you or I have to hustle, hustle, hustle. Not everyone has to do that.

Some people are fine. Or if you're sitting around complaining about it. But I believe if you want the things in life that you want and that I want and I have to hustle, hustle, hustle. Not everyone has to do that. Some people are fine. Or if you're sitting around complaining about it. Yeah. I believe if you want the things in life that you want and that I want, and I believe Lauren wants, then yes, you have to make those sacrifices and you can't have it both ways. I want to go back to where this started. How did you grow up? What's your childhood? So I grew up in Bakersfield, California, which is about two hours north of here, and feels very much like you picked up a West Texas town and dropped it into California. So huge ag culture, farmers, everyone drives a

truck and wears Wranglers. My family on both sides was from Oklahoma. So I have a very southern minded culture on both sides of my family. Really hard childhood, lots of trauma. Parents, marriage, absolute disaster for as long as I can remember. You know, knock down, drag out, punch holes in the wall, those kind of fights. Between your parents. And I was the baby of four kids and was also very independent. So I can look back now as a mother and think, well well were you independent or were you just it wasn't necessary for you to take care of yourself because there was nobody else to do it so by the time it got around to raising me I think my parents were so wrapped up in their own stuff that I was largely

ignored so I really raised myself and from a very early age and I'm a big believer that life isn't happening to you. It's happening for you. So I'm able to look back on that childhood and go, okay, that, that stuff was hard, but the good things that came out of it were, um, I am super independent. I can figure things out. I can get stuff done. Um done um the do you guys do enneagram do you know your enneagram numbers what what's that we can tangent you want to tangent for a second holy crap oh my gosh enneagram i don't know what that is it's e-n-n-e-a-g-r-a-m if anyone wants to look it up it's been around since like ancient greece so it's personality types divided into numbers so yeah i've heard about, but I've never done it.

Yeah, Google it, like freeenneagramtest.com. What if mine's 666? I mean, it's one number. But it's so, so interesting. So my number is three, which is an achiever. An achiever is typically made in the exact kind of childhood that I had, which was I was largely ignored unless I did something good. If I got an A on the test or I scored a goal in the soccer game or I

got a part in the play, then I got praise. And to a little kid, praise looks like love. So can you tell I've done a lot of therapy and a lot of, I'm like, let me just walk you through. So for me, I learned at a really early age that, or I believed that in order to be loved, let me just walk you through. So for me, I learned at a really early age that or I believed that in order to be loved, you had to you had to perform. So that's why, you know, shot out of the gate. I graduated high school a year early in an attempt to try and get out of the chaos that our family home was, and moved to Los Angeles at 17. Got a job at Miramax films back when working at Miramax meant or meant something and just worked my butt off just worked my butt off had my older sister's ID because I was at that point when I got

the job was 18 but I had Melody's ID so I was old enough to like go get a drink with the people after nobody knew my age um and I just it was a it was kind of the wild, wild west in a production company that you could potentially pull that off if you're willing to, you know, make $12 an hour and not get paid overtime. And it was, I was a country mouse. I was this little chubby girl in her pay less shoes who all of a sudden found herself working, you know, the Oscar after party and movie premieres and press junkets. And, um, I was exposed to events through that and started to just like naive and dumb enough to think like, I can probably do this myself. And, uh, I decided to start an event planning company. So fast forward to I'm 21, 20. Yeah, 21. And newly married. And I quit my job on a Friday afternoon was working at a different production house at that point, quit my job and

decided to start this event planning company on Monday morning. And just hustled like no other way to like, just please God send me one client. My only mission was I had left a job that made $38,000 and I just wanted to make at least $38,000 to make up for the income because I didn't want to put that on Dave to cover. I want to ask you, I want to go back just a little bit. So if you grow up, but let's call it like an achievement complex, right? If somebody's listening, that's grown up with similar trauma or a trauma where they feel the same way they have to achieve or they they're overachievers. How do you now balance that as an adult? Like if you could go back 20 years now and give your younger self advice on how to balance this, what would you tell yourself? The irony is I wouldn't

take it back because I have achieved what I have the success that I have because of the way that I was raised. That's what I really feel passionate about. Like nothing is, nothing is wasted and nothing is lost. I feel the same way. I feel like you can let it victimize you or fuel you. A hundred percent. Total choice. A hundred percent. Um, I think how it manifested for me negatively as an adult was I really was a workaholic. I mean, I worked until I was sick. I couldn't see straight. I mean, I just, it was bad. And I did this the worst when I had two toddlers.

So I am excellent at work. I'm so good. I can do all the things. I can run the company. I can motivate you. I can lead a team. And then I would go home. And do y'all have kids?

No, yeah. Okay, okay. Scarce selling. It's lead a team. And then I would go home. And do you have kids? No. Yeah. Okay. Okay. It's hard. Okay. It's we tell every like, we're just like, wait as long as you can. It's so freaking hard. It's so wonderful. My kids are amazing. But it's really, really, really hard. Sorry. Do you want me to really scare you or no? No,'s wonderful and when it happens like it's gonna be great um but it's also gonna be a punch in your face uh because i was trying to build a business and working and doing all this stuff and i was excellent at work and i felt like i was failing as a mom and most mothers will tell you they feel like they're failing as a mom so did you get like uh other

moms like kind of beat you up saying, oh, you're working. You're not taking care of. Yeah, I was just talking about that's what I called when other moms judge you like shaming you mommy guilt, all of that, especially I mean, women do this. Unfortunately, women do this the most. Why do they do that? I think when you're insecure, you pick on other people. I think it's like junior high, like you have insecurity.

So you're going to pull her apart. So nobody notices your stuff. Don't you just want to be like, fuck off. I feel like's like junior high. Like you have insecurities, so you're going to pull her apart so nobody notices your stuff. Don't you just want to be like, fuck off. I feel like I'm going to be so gnarly. I'm going to be like, mind your own fucking business. I mean, it has to be like,

hopefully you have a community that's going to support you being whatever kind of mom you're going to be. But for me, I was constantly going up against, it's like the big debate, and I hate that this is a thing,

but like stay-at-home moms versus working moms. And, oh my gosh, and you're not here, and you missed the school thing, and whatever. So I, because I felt like I was failing at home and felt like I was winning at work, I threw myself even harder into work. Well, I think it's really important that women, and this is maybe counterintuitive, maybe I'll get in trouble again for the 50th time on the show, but don't in a way, don't you kind of have to put yourself first and your own happiness first before you can do a good job of taking care of your children or no? That is 100% what you should be doing, but very few people are going to agree with us on that.

I mean, I speak to women all over the world. It's a big part of my job and I will ask them to make a list of their priorities and hands down without question, I'm always like, okay, where are you on the list? Well, listen, if you're a miserable person. They're never on the list. They're never on the list. But that's so obvious and fantastic person to want to make a child with that you get this. My facial massage is going to be pretty fucking high up there. Just so everyone is really clear.

And I might want you to be the room mom. And I would love a couple nannies and maybe a chef and a personal trainer. I don't ask for much. It's pretty common. I mean, we're on a real tangent, but it's common. It's like if I come home from work every day miserable, or if Lauren comes home, and then the kid's there, then that's going to rub off on the kid, right?

Yeah, can you imagine how I am in the morning? It's going to be 20 times worse when I have kids. I don't know. I don't do self-care. I'm going to bow out of this before I get the emails and the messages going to come in. It's so essential. You can't take care of other people. Well, if your cup is empty and so many women, I can't tell you how many emails and DMS I get every single day from women just saying, I have nothing left. I've got three kids or I've got two kids or I'm trying to do this or that. I have nothing left to give. And I feel like shame on you. Shame on you for getting to this place where you

have given everything of yourself to other people instead of caring for you. It's like when you're on a plane, they tell you put the oxygen mask on yourself first before helping a child. Because if you're dead, if you're depleted, if you're gone, you don't have anything to give them. And I promise you that kids, for any of us who grew up with parents who were miserable, that didn't serve us. That didn't help us. It made us fearful. It gave us anxiety or it taught us horrible lessons. But this isn't serving you and it's not serving your babies. Speaking of taking care of yourself, let's talk about hydration. When you're hydrated,

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water and then put a berry in each cube. So my ice cubes were frozen liquid IVs with little berries in them. And then I added that to my water. Well, that sounds amazing, but that's, you're a little bit turbo. No, it's so good. But for anyone out there that wants to be turbo like Lauren, go ahead. Michael, you just put water and liquid IV in there and a couple berries. It's perfect. All right. Okay. So for those of you that want to try that or just try it alone without the berries and the ice cubes like Lauren, the team at Liquid IV is offering all of our listeners 15% off at checkout when you enter code SKINNY15 at checkout.

Definitely try this if you're jet lagged or you're hungover or you just need that little hydration boost. So go to liquid-iv.com and enter code SKINNY15 at checkout. Again, that's liquid-iv.com and SKINNY15 at checkout. I also think that it's important too to serve your partners. Like sometimes maybe even before the kids. Yeah. to check out. I also think that it's important too, to serve your partners. Like, like sometimes maybe even before the kids. Yeah. Well, serve me. It is. Well, our biggest, and this, this freaks people out too, but our biggest commitment, Dave is my best friend. He's been my best friend since

we met. We'll be married 14 years next week. I've been together 16. And that our commitment to each other is our first commitment. If we're not happy, if our marriage isn't strong and thriving and doing great, we're not going to be able to show up for them. We're not going to be able to create a safe or happy house if we're not in love and supporting each other. So yeah. So what ways do you practice self-care? I made a list. Actually, I'm getting really good at this and I hate that I have to be so intentional about it. It really doesn't come naturally to me to be like, let's rest. But I sat down at the beginning of this year. This was so great. And I, for the first time ever, audited my calendar from 2017. So it took me about three hours. I went through every single

appointment in 2017. Think about this, right? And I made a list of like, did this serve me? Did this help my business grow? Did, was this good? And the amount of wasted time, wasted energy, chasing projects that didn't come to fruition was so upsetting. Oh my gosh. Cause we, you know, the 80-20 principle. So it's like, dang it. I'm spending 80% of my time chasing stuff that doesn't matter. Uh, so I made this list and amongst that, I did, I identified like, what are the things that make, that are life-giving that make me feel like refreshed and renewed for me? That's time with my girlfriends, uh, vacation date nights, um, massages and like really good dinners. Like not

that I make where we go somewhere and we have like a 10 course, like that's my love language. And so I just started, sad, but I started making a lit, like every time I do that for dinner with friends or I go get a massage or I do, I just put a little check mark. I like, I'm keeping track of it throughout the year to try and beat last year's numbers because they were really low. I'm being really intentional about a vacation every quarter where we get away without our children. Because when you take your kids, it's not a vacation, it's a trip. So I'm really intentional with those things that give me life, though they might not be what give other people energy or life, but those are mine. I am at the point in my business, and this is maybe a

selfish question, where I'm having trouble saying no. And yesterday I kind of had a breakdown to Michael and I just told him, I was like, every single time I go to my email inbox, I want to blow my head off. Do you have any tips for me and for the audience that feel like we're just on this hamster wheel every time we open our email or text message, even text message, by the way. It's so overwhelming. Yeah. So I have a couple thoughts on this. My first question, just out of curiosity, as someone who sort of lives in a similar lane to you, do you feel like you say yes because there was a time where you wanted work so bad? Because I feel like that's where my yeses come from is like is this gonna go away yeah scarcity um and i'm like wait a minute that's not this is not real so probably first for me is identifying like why

do i have this desire um my friend jen has this great saying where she says if it's not a hell yes if your initial gut reaction is not hell yes it's a no which is like that's a really clear test. And does that work for your friend? A hundred percent and I have learned to be really honest with people and just say because here's the deal um every that I said this earlier but every yes that you give is a no to a thing that you actually want to do is a no to time together is a no to whatever you're into every yes you're giving away a personal time. So I've gotten really good at saying no. I think a new thing for me, and this is about a month old,

and it's legitimately life-changing. I don't know what your staff situation is with the business. People don't have access to my email anymore. It's changed my life. I'm not kidding. how do you do that I have an assistant who every like people think they're sending a note to me they're actually sending it Michelle filters it and there's only certain things that I want to see the rest is farmed out to the appropriate person on my team and I made a new secret email address and 10 people

have it and those looks like my publisher and all the people that we work with know why you email me because there's two. I mean, I really do. It's like so overwhelmed with the amount of stuff that's coming, and I feel like I'm sure you get this all the time because you're a different level, but in the last two months with the growth of everything, and I don't mean this to sound so terrible,

but it feels like everybody wants something from me. Okay. It's not just me. Well, I look at it, I look at it this way, right? Like it's, there's, I look at email and text message and phone is all the same thing, right? Like if somebody just called you out of the blue, anybody, any of us, anybody listening, they called you out of the blue and they just asked for something and they said, Hey, can you get this done for me ASAP? You'd probably hang up or not pick up. I look at emails in the same light where if it's something that somebody's coming and telling me I need to get something done right away, if it doesn't serve my overall mission and my overall long-term goal, then sometimes it won't get a response or sometimes it'll get like, hey,

can't do this. I think that we've gotten into a state here where the email is a space where people work and it's like a it's a workplace, right? It's like you're it's like clocking in, but it should be a space where you're getting things done, not where you're not where you're answering to every beck and call. Yeah, it's like you're on defense instead of offense. It shouldn't be that shouldn't be that way. Someone an email coming into your inbox is someone else trying to give you their priority. And the problem is that like, if you're trying to check off your boxes and make

sure things are done, oftentimes it feels like this anxiety of I've got to get through these emails to have done my, and four days go by and I realized, wait, like on Monday, I wrote down my intention and my goal for this week. And I haven't even touched it because I've been doing other people's stuff. So I can't scale and it because I've been doing other people's stuff. So I can't scale and grow this company if I'm constantly doing what other people need me to do instead of what my goals are. That is great. Listen, there's going to be some crossover, right?

But you have to, again, it's prioritizing, right? Like maybe when Cousin Sal reaches out and says, hey, should we get coffee on Wednesday at 10 a.m. during the workday? He's like, that probably is not going to get a response, right? It's not that I'm trying to be a dick or trying to be mean or don't like the person. It's just that it doesn't make sense for everything else going on, right? So you don't have to feel obligated unless your intention is to follow up with someone and say yes and then follow through with that commitment. Then all you're doing is prolonging a bad conversation

or hurting someone's feelings or creating work for yourself. So it's a lose-lose that way. Well, I think the great thing about having someone else handle it if that's an option for you is that then it's not you being hurting someone's feelings bowing out no it's like someone else is like you know what lauren's schedule's insane she can't she's not even gonna be able to like touch this until august we'd love to circle back with you then but this is not something she can take on right now i'm gonna record what you just said and actually us as individuals if you're making cold emails or you I'm going to record what you just said. And us as individuals, if you're making cold emails or you're reaching out to somebody that you want

to connect with and you know, they're busy, like we have to get out of the state of mind where we're offended when we don't get, you know, you can't, you can't take people's time. Also,

I think it needs to be a give, give, give, ask. I'm, you know, you get so many emails. It's like,

can you promote this for me? Can you do this for me? And I just always have come from this mindset where if I want something, it's always a give, give, give. And then if there is an ask, you ask. You don't just ask or you don't give an ask. Well, the crazy thing to me, too, I feel like is this is not strangers asking. I don't know if you have this.

It's like brands, friends, people. High school friends. Yeah. You're like, this is so, I sometimes, and I'm excited, I'm moving to another state, so I'm getting a new cell phone number, and very few people are getting access to this, but I sometimes want to just screenshot the conversation and send it back to the person, like, do you see that the last 10 text messages you've sent me are things you asking me to do stuff not how are you not like hey I'd love to take you lunch but just like can we send you this product to put in your answer

can we and it's like it hurts my feelings because then I think I mean we just went to a therapy session but I'm like were we ever friends or do you just want to give you advice here about expectation yeah he is the best advisor because I was bitching about this the other day. And it's not just my advice, but it's a way I live where I just don't have any expectations really of anybody, right? And I don't mean that in a mean way. I mean like a sandwich and a BJ once in a while. No, meaning this.

So that's an expectation. Listen, I have people on my teams and I have people that I'm in relationships with where the level of expectation, if they were to bow out or not meet a task, they're the level of expectation. Like I don't, if they were to bow out or not meet, you know, a task, I wouldn't be so pissed. Like I don't, I don't have an expectation that they perform at a certain level. I look at it as I appreciate when they do. Right. So when you look at it that way, like, wow, I really appreciate how this person on my team's performing, or I really appreciate this person relationship or a friendship, then I'm never, I'm never let down. But if I expect them to perform at that level all the time, and then they don't, then

I'm living in a state of like, I'm let down all the time. And then I'm pissed off. And then I'm upset. I wonder what your Enneagram number is. But I was thinking like, back to the email thing, where, and this isn't anything in life, we have to get as a population. And as a person, you have to get in a state of mind where it's like you provide value first. Yes. Always first. You're always providing value up front. And then again, if somebody reciprocates, then you appreciate it as opposed to expecting as well as saying like, hey, this person has a platform and can do me a favor. So let me reach out to them cold email and ask them to do it. That's just not how life works. And even for brands out there, when you're sending an influence or something and you send them a gift and then they follow up and they say,

well, when are you posting? Yes. What is that? And there's not even a like, oh gosh, that sounds terrible, but there's not even a, I didn't even tell you I wanted that thing. I didn't pick it out. That's not even my style. That's, but now you're upset because you, that's not how it works. And the funny thing is half the time I love it and I'm going to post it. It's just like, give me one second.

Yeah. I think that is a great piece of advice is to send, a lot of times people just send product with zero, just like, here's something. And if I like it,

I will of course post it and tag you. But if you ask me, if you follow up, if you bug my assistant if you're how dare you Gary Vee has probably the best take on this where it's like and he wrote a book about it but it's like give give give and then without expectation but what people forget is they think give give give and then I'm owed something it's like no you forget the last most important part

without expectation it's like you know you might give your all, you might provide the most value, you might gift somebody this, you might send them this, but you can't expect something in return because they're not asking, right? And that's important. I think as soon as people start playing life that way, then they're going to start to grow. Yeah. I want to give some advice to our audience. So what would your advice be for someone who's unhappy in their job? They're sitting at their nine to five, maybe listening to this podcast, and they just really want to go for their dream. Where would you tell them to kind of start?

Well, the entire reason I wrote the book was because I got so many direct messages and emails from women all over the world asking for advice. How do I do this? How do I save my marriage? How do I leave this job? And what I wanted to say to them, but I couldn't because I felt like it was so mean and because I didn't have time to fully go into it with people,

was stop reaching out to a stranger on the Internet and fix your own life. So I wrote the book because I wanted, I hope, women to understand that they are fully in control of what happens next. You are in charge of your life. If you don't like your job, change your job. If you don't like your partner, work on your relationship or leave. If you don't like that you don't have money, if you don't like that you're in debt, all of these things you can control.

I think oftentimes it feels like life is living us, like we're just sort of being tossed around with the tide, when the reality is it's not easy, but you can take control and get to a different place than you are right now. So if it was me, and it was me at a time, I had a really crappy boss. I didn't want to do it anymore. I thought I could have my own business. What did I know how to do? Well, I knew how to plan events because I had been doing it for a couple of years. I also knew I lived in Los Angeles, which was a huge space for weddings. So I thought, well, I could do this. I did the math. And I thought, I think, I think I'm smart enough to figure this out. And I jumped. And this is

probably terrible advice, but truthfully, I believe if you throw yourself in the deep end, you'll learn how to swim. No, it's not. It's not bad advice. I'll tell you why. It's people, people go so crazy about this in the job space. You can go back. Yeah. Like you could go back to that shitty job and you could go back to that thing you hate. But if you don't take the leap, you'll never know. Right. Yeah. Like people think like, but listen, you already got a shitty job that you hate. I'm not attacking you, but anybody out there, you got a bad job you don't like, that's why you want to leave it. You can go get a job like that again. So take the leap. Like that's why it's not bad advice. It's practical. Yeah. I think that a lot of people too

are beating to the tune of their parents drum. I think that's a big one. And I think that's a choice as well. Yeah. Well, so many, especially for women, um, are living into other people's expectations for their lives or what they believe society's expectations are for their lives. And if it doesn't look a certain way, act a certain way, feel a certain way, if you haven't made a certain amount of money or gotten married or own a home or whatever it looks like in your community, you're judging yourself as not enough because you're judging yourself based on what other people think. And it sounds so, you know, simple and easy to say,

but honestly, the greatest gift you could give yourself is to stop caring what other people think of you. Well, this is a perfect segue for my next question. And here's the other thing. Society doesn't give a shit. Nobody gives a shit. They're thinking about themselves. I hate it.

They're thinking about themselves. Like Michael's thinking about his hair in his next question. If I was going to write a book, I would call it nobody gives a shit. Like, you know, think about how many times you like embarrass yourself or you make a jump or you have a fair, like nobody really cares. Like they're saying, oh, okay, that sucks.

And they're going to go start worrying about themselves again. So I think like this deep rooted fear that we have in what other people think is so false. Yeah. Right. People just, they just don't have that much time to think about. Yeah. So my so my question was going to be uh the comparison game on social media there it's going it's it's it's gnarly it's

rough i mean we've i feel like we've all been sucked into it what are some tips and tricks that you kind of do to check yourself before you wreck yourself so i have a couple here um two things one i heard this years ago and i swear I do it and it sounds so cheesy but it's real is uh when I find myself if I'm scrolling through Instagram's my favorite platform so if I'm scrolling through Instagram and I see someone who's in a similar field it's usually a similar field where I'm like oh like oh my gosh she has three times the followers I have it's like this gut I wish I didn't think that, but sometimes I do. Or dang it, her hair is so pretty or her body is this or her whatever.

If my reaction is because I feel like it's that scarcity, right? So if I feel like she's gotten something that I really wanted, like she's gotten more followers, she got a three-book deal, she got a this, I immediately make myself stop and pray for more success for her. I heard someone say this years ago. And it is such an incredible practice of that's not who I am, but I want to be the kind of person that's rooting for your success instead of being jealous of it. And there's something about forcing myself into that space that changes my mindset. Like, yeah, there's enough for us all. If she is succeeding, we're succeeding.

Women are growing in business. These are all good things for what we're doing, number one. Number two, I think if you're consuming media and it's making you feel badly about yourself, your body, your hair, your this, your that, either change your mindset or stop following that person. Stop consuming that media. You are not required to follow beautiful girls on Instagram if it makes you feel like crap.

If you are not in a healthy headspace yet where you're like, man, her beauty doesn't negate my own, then just unfollow them until you're in a better place. And you can come back to it. But if every time you see them in your feed, you're like, oh, I'm garbage. Like I didn't, I'm never going to be that pretty. I'm not. Then what are you doing, sis? This is not serving you. If it's, if you're actually beating yourself up because you're consuming it, then you have to stop. I would also say, figure out what the core issue is. Like if you're, you know, if you're looking at somebody and you say they have this and I don't like, is that really about what they have or is it about, is that about what you know if you're looking at somebody and you say they have this and i don't like is that really about what they have or is about is that about what you know you could be doing to get it but

you're not doing right yeah or if they look a certain way whether it's like you know maybe they're in shape it's like does that say that it's about your you know some things are your genetic but you're gonna look at something and say you know i know that i could be trying harder like a hundred percent i think a lot of the time the way that you react to things says more about your internal issues than it does about the way you look at somebody else, right? Actually, I was talking to a girlfriend about this the other day who is another influencer and she was saying that she had seen the success of my book and that she's like, honestly, my gut reaction was like, I was so jealous of you.

And I was really mad at myself for being jealous and I was so like not for you in the success that you're having and then she said she realized it's like this had nothing to do with you this is because I've always wanted to write a book and I don't put in the time and the hours to get it done and so when I see other people having success in the area that I know that I could be doing something and I'm not then I get get down on myself. So it's not about the, it's not about the person. It's about how do you change what you're doing? So you're at a level where you're at least taking steps in the direction of that goal. One of the reasons I love doing this show, and we talked about it on some previous shows, is that we can have conversations around

new subjects that we haven't explored. Adoption being one of them, never, we've never talked about it. And there's a lot of stigma around adoption. Yeah. Let's destigmatize it. Let's talk about it. What does that, what does the process look like for somebody who's unfamiliar with it? Yeah. So for us, um, we, our family motto, and this has been our motto since we were first dating is to whom much is given, much is expected. And we really feel like we have been given this incredible, not given cause we've worked really hard to get where we are, but we have this incredible platform and we have amazing resources and just we have lives that we didn't have growing up. And with that in our minds comes the responsibility to as often as possible give back and show up in spaces that maybe other people aren't. And for us, that felt like we were called to adopt.

So we felt really passionately that we wanted to adopt. How many children did you have at this point? Three. Three boys. Yeah. We wanted to adopt a daughter. And so we originally started with international adoption because ironically, we wanted a place where we wouldn't have any involvement with the biological parents.

And so we thought, oh, we'll do international adoption. So once the baby's here, then they can't take her back or whatever. So we started with Ethiopia. And there's a ton that goes into international adoption, but you have to choose your country before you go, you do anything. And so we chose Ethiopia because most children there are in orphanages because of poverty versus like, let's say Eastern Europe where they're in orphanages because of drugs and alcohol use. And we didn't feel like we were equipped to handle that because we already had

three kids. And so we started with Ethiopia. We were in that program for about a year and a half. And you just slowly work your way up a list. Like there's a list of, let's say, 50 families. And then the family at the top gets a baby and then the next one. And then you just work. Do you have interaction with the children during this process? No, no, we hadn't been matched yet. Once you are matched, they're like, this is your kid. It could take three more years, but this is your kid. And so that can be, so then if you don't get that kid, that's where the trauma sets in or is that, or am I incorrect? No, no. So for us, um, we never got matched in the Ethiopia program. They actually closed down their adoptions with the U.S.

because of, I now understand, really horrible human trafficking. So unfortunately, Ethiopia is a hard country where a lot of the children who've, I shouldn't say a lot because now I'm going to get angry emails, but many children who've been placed with families outside of Ethiopia believe that it's an orphan. And really it's someone's taken a child from a impoverished family and then put them, it's horrible. So they had to close down the program until they could get a handle on it. So once that was done, we were like, what are we going to do? We've spent a year and a half, almost two years here and really, really did not want to do independent adoption, which is when you're

used lawyers and you're matched with a mom. Because I felt like, I can say now because that's where we ended up, but I honestly felt like, are we buying a baby? Like, are we, it's like what celebrities do, right? They, you know, and I just was like, oh, I wanted to be of service and not, I don't know. So I felt weird about it. So we decided- Can you explain the difference to me when you say buying a baby?

What's, I don't really understand. Well, because it costs money. So you're paying legal fees. You're paying the mom's legal fees. You're not really, I understand now, it was like super, I didn't know what I was talking about. But because it's so expensive, I mean, $50,000, it feels like, okay, um, it feels

like, okay, not, it feels transactional. Yeah. So, um, we decided to, uh, adopt from LA County because there are children obviously in foster care here in LA County. Um, just as a, we're, we're really passionate about foster care. Um, there are half a million children in the U S who are in foster care right now, which is just imagine how many football stadiums that is of little kids who are in care. And the system is so broken and so hard. But we decided to adopt from foster care in L.A. You have to commit to being foster parents before you get put in the adoption program. So you're going to be

foster parents for kids you don't keep. And we had three boys and we both have full time. We're like, how in the world are we going to be? How are we going to do this? And how are kids going to handle like someone coming in and then leaving? And we just were like, all right, we're going to try. And we did it. And it was the hardest summer of our entire. Oh, my God, it was so hard. It was so, so hard because we got a little girl, 11 months old. And then a few weeks later, they called and said she has a two year old sister. Can you please, please, please take her sister?

And in retrospect, we shouldn't have done that. But it's so hard when someone's telling you like there's a two year old who has nowhere to go. And we just said yes. And going from three kids to five, and both the two little girls had just massive trauma. And we had them for about four months, and then they transitioned back out, which was one of the worst days of my life except for the death of my brother because a baby is never supposed to leave your house, ever. And these little girls had been in foster care their whole lives. So when we had to go, I had to go put them in the car with a social worker they don't know. And what was so horrific about it to

me was that it didn't bother them at all when they showed up at my house on the first day the two-year-old said hi mommy and when I put them in the car with a social worker she said bye mommy and it's like they were conditioned they were conditioned that this was what happens now now we're gonna go back to mom and dad and we're gonna try try this again. Um, and then, uh, we, I, I told my husband like, I need a minute before we can, I can't process. I just couldn't. And they called a month later and said, Hey, we have newborn twins. We never thought we were going to have two, but they were like, you just had to. So you're in the system is able to take two. We have newborn twins. They've been abandoned at the hospital. No names,

no family, nothing. You have 20 minutes to decide because with babies that little, they have to make it. And we were like, oh my, it was crazy. And we said, he's at work. I'm at work. We're on the phone. We said the biggest yes of our entire lives. And we went to a hospital and got our daughters. Um, and we had them for six weeks and I, because they had been abandoned, it honestly did not occur to me that there was any scenario where we were not raising these babies forever. Um, and we named them and oh my, it was like, ugh. Um, and then we found out that their dad wanted them back and in California, um, and most states biological family has um first right yeah so um they left too and that was um honestly horrific for me because it felt like someone had

died um and I don't mean that disrespectfully because I know people listening there are people who've lost babies but um I had daughters and then I didn't and I didn't know where they were or were they being cared for were they being like I didn't know and I still to this day don't know where they are or what happened to them but I like I said earlier after that I was done and Dave said please please please just one more time like all my friends have told me about this lawyer who had worked with a lot of people and at his job he's like let's just take a meeting let's just take a meeting and so we go sit down with this lawyer and he's telling me the process to adopt independently is a birth mother has to choose your family out of like a photo album which is crazy and then her lawyer and your lawyer work

together to like you basically cover all of her medical costs. So it's not buying a baby at all, but it definitely has that stigma. And we met with this lawyer, and we left, and Dave decided to take me to lunch. And I'm still not convinced that I want to do this. And we went to Bouchon, and Beverly Hills are sitting out on that patio and he's like let me get you a glass of wine and we're just kind of talking about the last five years and he's trying to convince me to to do this and I'm like I can't do it I'm wearing big sunglasses and we're talking about the whole history and I'm like crying and I'm like babe I can't I can't do it anymore it hurts too much I don't want to do this and you know I y'all I'm sure y'all have been there the tables really close together um for people who are not in LA, it's worth saying people in LA do

not talk to their neighbors at restaurants. So even though we're very close to tables, everyone just sort of like sunglasses on doing their own thing, eating your butter, which is the best salad with shallots. I love that salad food. Um, so we're sitting there, I'm like crying behind these big sunglasses. I'm like, I can't, I can't. And all of a sudden this man slams his hand down on our table and he says, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I can't, I could not help but overhear your conversation. I am adopted and my parents lost two babies through adoption before they got me. And if they had given up, I would not be sitting at this table right now in Beverly Hills.

I would not have graduated first in my class. I would not have met my wife. I would not be a record executive. I would not be any of these things. You can't give up. You have to keep trying. And I'm like sobbing behind my, like just dying. And I felt like God was like, just one more time, just, just try again, just one more time.

And faith's a huge thing for me. And I got to tell you in this walk, I felt like I had lost a lot of that faith. And for months after we lost the twins, I just kept crying like, God, you, where are you? Where are you? You, you brought us here and you left us and I don't, where are you? And, uh, walking back to valet, I felt God just speak over me. Like I was always here. I was always here. And that man's name was Noah. And that is our daughter's name. That is so cool. Yeah. That is amazing. That's our story. I was going to say, when you told me her name, I like what a beautiful name yeah and that was named after the man who told us to keep trying and now you have four kids i have four kids so many kids i just want to say after hearing that story if

anyone says they don't have time with what you've accomplished that's a horrible excuse yeah there you go yeah we're just we're making it work. Yeah, time with 4K. I mean, everyone has time. Yeah, you just have to figure it out for yourself. Switching gears, what's your favorite success? My marriage. We work really, really hard on our, we want to have an exceptional marriage.

Not good, not great great exceptional um and what does that look like to you that looks like what does that mean he's my best friend we still text all day we still make out like we did when we first met i could use a good makeout section if i'm being honest yeah that's my polite way of saying depends if you're eating all that garlic by the clove right i eat garlic cloves oh no um listen i get Listen, sometimes I get a pass, yeah. Yeah. If you're eating garlic like apples, you know, it's down. Yeah, we want to still be in love and want each other, you know, 50 years from now. And so I think that takes work and intention and dating each other.

And what does some of that work look like? Like, what are some practical steps that a couple could take to have a successful relationship? We have a weekly date night that is sacred. Like it is, as we've done it forever. Same night of the week? Usually, yeah, because the babysitter knows that she's going to stay on that night and our kids know to expect it. So we go out, we're really intentional about mixing it up, going to different places, not getting in that rut, not doing the same thing. We don't want to talk about our kids when we're on a date. We want to pretend that this is like what life was like before all of this responsibility came down on us. So yeah, it's a weekly date night. It's I think that you have to choose every day to have a happy marriage. There's

so many things with your partner that you could be annoyed with or frustrated by or get pissed off over. Like his hairspray smells so bad, he's got to get a new one. Or just like, yeah, right? Many things that you're like, stop. Would you stop leaving your clothes on the floor? I mean, you're 43.

Can we stop? And I could get really pissed off really easily or I could be like, oh my God, this is not the hill I'm going to die on today. Your next book will be boy. Pick up your shirt. I know. Honestly, honestly, you're not.

Lauren has died on many hills. Yeah, I don't want to. I mean, the thing is, I also came from parents who screamed and fought. And I don't ever, ever want that. So we will constantly we don't always get there but we're always gonna reach for I don't know joy and laughing we laugh our butts off every day so yeah I think treating him like my best friend because I think I show up for my friends in a different way than I maybe would for my husband I

don't know why I did air quotes um but uh acting like we're friends instead of just you know married is is has been a big deal well Rachel you got a shitload going on I really do man tell us where we can find your book what's yeah let's talk about the book what's what's going on the book is called girl wash your face which I think is that how we know each other like did you read the book is that how you that's okay no I think I found no no here's what happened okay a skinny confidential reader messaged me and said you will really really like this oh that's cool and so I went to look at your page and I just saw you had so much community and then I went and bought your book yeah read your book and then I reached out that's awesome

thank you for that um yeah so the book is available available everywhere that you can find a book. It's called Girl, Wash Your Face. My favorite platform is Instagram because it's pretty and it makes me happy. But yeah. What's your handle? Oh, Miss Rachel Hollis. And what's next? We are about to move in 10 days to Austin, Texas. My husband is leaving a massive job to come and scale this company with me. And we're moving our team. We're moving those children. So that's a big focus for us.

And then there's some other stuff we haven't announced yet until he leaves. We'll look forward to it. Austin's a cool place. It is. A lot of cool people moving out there. If Rachel has time to wash her face with four kids, I'm expecting everyone out there who's listening to wash their face every night. That's important. Use an oil cleanser if you can. Just wash your face. Thanks for coming on.

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