The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - #14: Mimi Evarts, Work Life Balance, How to use Calendar Apps, What to do with Cheaters, is Twitter making a comeback?

Episode Date: June 7, 2016

We have Lauryn's younger sister Mimi on the show! Talking about tequila tasting, how to balance work and your relationships. How to use calendars for your business and what to do with cheaters. We also talk about what the youth is doing on social media and discuss the Twitter comeback!  To learn more about The Skinny Confidential visit the site HERE To connect with Lauryn click HERE To connect with Michael click HERE

hi guys we are back with the skinny confidential him and her podcast we have a special kind of guest today who's going to be asking us questions that's Mimi hi we got Michael and I and we've got a lot to talk about. But first, we want to just let you know we really appreciate all your reviews on iTunes. Thank you guys for subscribing. Thank you for the five stars. It's amazing. We're obsessed.

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have seen her on my Snapchat. She basically does anything and everything for Michael and I. She helps us with bombshell body recipes, with getting us organized, with packages, mail, what else, Mimi, everything, Instagrams. She cooks for me so that I don't starve to death when Lauren feeds me bread. No, I feed him pumpkin seeds when I can't find anything. Have you ever seen that meme on social media? Pluck seed. Where the guy comes home and he has two pieces of bread and some ice between it. I feel like that's what I would eat if Mimi wasn't around.

Yeah. Well, you know, I'm busy. What can I say? Mimi helps with everything. She's awesome. And she's just basically going to be taking jordan's spot because jordan just got back from cabo and um mimi's gonna be asking us questions so um anyway so this weekend we took a break from social media kind of like we did but i took a i went cold turkey you went cold turkey

yeah i needed a break i needed a need to slow on the snaps. Yeah, you needed just a break from Snapchat. And I feel like you're not on Instagram too much, but we're going to change that. I needed to go meet with Taylor Taylor, the man with two first names, and get some acupuncture and some cupping. Yeah, a lot of you guys have asked me on Snapchat where we get cupping and acupuncture and herbs. And it's from Taylor Taylor at Fix. Fix fix body group in hillcrest and he is amazing he did this thing on me this weekend called pet the dragon i've done the dragon no you haven't because i have when he pets the needles okay so basically he puts needles in your back down your spine which sounds really scary especially if you have um vasovascul or vascovagal or whatever it's called.

I think it's vasovagal. Whatever. He puts needles in your back and then he pets down on your back to stimulate the needles. And you'd think it would hurt, but it feels so good. Mimi's looking at us like, what the hell are you talking about? That sounds terrible. No, it's not. You should try it. It's acupuncture is my one day where I

clear my entire schedule. I don't speak to anyone. I hardly speak to you. You tried to speak to me and I was like, no, be quiet. Um, and then I get cupping done. So my whole back is in bruises. Um, yeah, the cupping, I still, I'm not so sold on the cupping, but I do like the acupuncture and, um, you know me, I'm not all about the on the cupping, but I do like the acupuncture. And you know me, I'm not all about the heebie-jeebies or whatever you call that, all that stuff. Everybody's always trying to get me to do these weird things. You looked like you just got laid by 20 women when you walked out of Taylor Taylor's office, though.

Admit it. It's better than that, I think. It's such a good feeling. Is this weird? I'd rather maybe have an afternoon with Taylor Taylor than be with 20 women. Actually, being with 20 women sounds terrible to me. You know.

Well, I'm bad at too much work. Yeah, too much work. Too many conversations. Too many problems. Moving on. Okay. So, yeah. We did a little acupuncture, a little cupping on Saturday.

But what's new with that? That's one of our favorite weekend activities. And then on Friday, if you follow along on Snapchat. We're like going in reverse. We're going in reverse. Whatever. I can't. I can't be...

I'm not perfect. Close to it. Thanks. Don't compliment her too much. One compliment a day. No. I'm just kidding. So tequila tasting was Friday.

We had Weston and Jessica, who are some of our best friends, come over to my parents' house, and they set up the most beautiful, beautiful setting. Don't you think? Yeah, it was beautiful. Your parents are the best at that setting of ambience. But Jesus Christ, they were getting us loose.

They were getting us loose. Egoosey. Yeah, your dad's just like dumping tequila down my throat. Weston, I don't think he knew what planet he was on. No, Weston was on Mars. My dad was giving us mezcal.

Mezcal. He's like, oh, this is like a No, Weston was on Mars. My dad was giving us mezcal. Mezcal. Mezcal. He's like, oh, this is like a drug, but it's tequila. I love tequila. You came in later. That was how we sold it? Yeah, that was how we sold it. I love tequila. Mimi came in later.

She made us tea. I was there for about two minutes before I went to bed. Oh, yeah, that's right. You did. You made me some tea. You don't remember? No, I do remember that now. Michael blacked out.

I was just eating cheese. The cheese was good. We had cheese. We had cornichons. We had grapes. We had, I mean, the works. These, like, beautiful platter. No, your dad and Julie are the best at that.

They just know how to set a scene. Yeah, my dad's opening a restaurant, which I'm so excited about. I'll be there, like, every day. We'll be there every day. Yeah, both of us. All of us. We'll film podcasts there. And it's basically all based around tequila and just really amazing food. So I'm excited about it. I'm super pumped about it. Actually, I love tequila. Tequila, like I'm not a big drinker, but tequila is my jam. I love when you have a shot of tequila.

Your wrinkles relax, your personality relaxes, everyone relaxes, you take a shot of tequila. Your wrinkles relax. Your personality relaxes. Everyone relaxes. You take a deep breath. You chill. You go to sleep on the table. I did not go to sleep on the table. You can't open your eyes. You don't know where you are.

You don't know who I am. I actually watched House of Cards afterwards. I can have my way with you. Did you really? Ew, sicko. We did watch House of Cards. Finally got caught up on that. Yes.

Loving House of Cards. Lauren's my little Claire. Ew, you're my little David Spacey, or Kevin Spacey. David Spacey, who the hell's that? His brother, whatever. His older brother, the outcast of the family, David. So, yes, we are back in the office today, hitting it hard. Per usual, I projectile vomited all over me

not actually but um with all the stuff that i had to do today she got probably about 40 text messages this morning it's a normal day i'm gonna projectile vomit with all of these salad bowls with whatever yogurt and junk you're eating all over the office. I'm looking around. There's these plastic bowls everywhere. There's disgusting yogurts. I don't like white yogurt. I don't like white mayonnaise. Wait, let me explain to them what this is. Okay, so you guys know that I love the Kardashian plastic salad bowls. They're BPA free and we wash them and reuse them. They're perfect for the office and Mimi helps me meal prep. Give them an example of like something that you made today. You really like grapefruit. And so I'll cut the grapefruit into quarters.

And then I'll put it into the plastic bowl with yogurt and blueberries and a little stevia or something. It's so good. So we'll have that. And then she'll also prep like a kale salad with turkey and mustard on top. It's awesome. So anyways. Speaking of mustard, that mustard chicken this week could be good. Maybe tomorrow.

No, no, no. We're doing burgers tonight. But we could do meat sauce tomorrow. We did burgers last night. I like a ritual. You like the same thing every day. You say chicken and broccoli. I tell, I tell.

No, I wanted, I wanted that. Every woman that's ever been in my life, mom, grandma, you, exes, whoever. Not everyone can be so lucky to have women making them food every day. I just say that I'm the simplest person in the world. I don't need a lot of variation. Just like, I need like five staples. Okay. So anyways, back to the salad bowls. All the guys in the office have decided to copy me.

Not me. Besides Michael. So what Michael's employees do is they ask me a couple questions, then they secretly email me. Behind my back. Yeah, behind your back. Can you please email me the link to those salad bowls? Then they ask me so many times about the salad bowls that I just end up bringing them salad bowls. And then they try to order the salad bowls on Amazon, and when they see they're sold out, they come crying to me. Everybody's creeping around the office, like, winking at each other about the salad bowls,

and everyone's just like, you walk by and one employee's giving the other a thumbs up about the salad bowl. It's like an inside thing, and I'm just completely out of it. I mean, not everyone wants to eat at Red Robin for lunch. Taylor. Michael. Can you blame us? I mean, nobody ever hated on a good Clucks and Fry. No, I don't think so.

We don't need milkshakes for lunch. So anyways, now we're all in the office. I'm trying to remodel the office. So a lot of you don't know what this office is. I work out of a shipping warehouse for my company Jetbed, where we sell beds for corporate and private aircraft if anybody ever wondered what that was um so anyways what it's we've been in here for a long time and what it is is it's just a big uh shipping warehouse so there's nothing special i mean

no it most certainly isn't anything special michael because it's a it's a fucking warehouse okay yeah listen i want to actually touch on this a lot of people no no i want to get into this i see a lot of people start businesses and this is, and I'm going to jump into some business right now. I see a lot of people start businesses and they go balls to the wall with their office space. Like unless you're a lawyer, yeah, unless you're a lawyer or accountant or you're entertaining people and people are coming to your office to meet you and in and out, like you don't

need that fancy office space. And I think I've seen so many people waste all this money um me and weston had a business and i swear to god we had before we even had the business set up we had a bar in there we had people running in and out there was a lounge area nobody was using this stuff it was just a huge waste of overhead so when you're first starting out you don't just take it easy on the office space. Like you can, you can work very efficiently in a reasonably priced, small space and build into that dream office. Don't, don't go balls to the wall in the beginning. Okay. I agree with you, but let's like work with what we have and what we have right now is a butthole. We got to clean it up a little bit. So what we're doing, so no, listen, so I got

it. I got, you know, moving some stuff around. We just carpeted half of the warehouse, which we're not using. Why'd you do that though? Why'd you carpet it? I mostly did it for the chihuahuas. Their knees. Their knees. They had bad knees. So I got to, you know, everyone had, nobody wanted the carpet.

I said too fucking bad, everybody. Carpets, chihuahuas, it doesn't matter. Hashtag chihuahua with scars. I got, look at it. I got, I'm painting the walls bright white for you. We're doing a. Oh yeah. So I'm micromanaging you with the walls.

Yeah, but then I got you some white desks. Wesson brought in a big badass conference table that he built from his furniture line. We're getting some new whiteboards set up. So anyways, we're fixing all this stuff up. Thank God. I'm in the process of it. It's called when a woman touches your office.

No, but listen, the last time, like when me and Lauren first moved in together and she was micromanaging me, I had a had a complete meltdown i do remember when i had this meltdown yeah look over there you see those star wars legos yeah okay so the first time i had a meltdown with you i like it was like this is maybe like explain the context of the meltdown no i mean like i got in there you're screaming at me like i can't move you got it where at the house to the house okay no you can't move the candle that's got it to where? The house? To the house. Okay. No, you can't move the candle. That's my house. I got a coffee table book.

If I open the coffee table book to read it. No, you're not supposed to read the coffee table books. Who does that? You got black hangers. Mimi helped with this. The closet, if one shirt is not hung the right way. Wait, you always leave your cuffs rolled, and so that's 90% of my job going through.

What do you mean? And uncuffing your shirt. He doesn't even know this. Oh, you mean like... I can't believe we're saying this on the podcast. I am so OCG that he leaves his cuffs rolled on his shirt. What do you mean? And I make Mimi go through the closet and unroll it.

Like your swannels. Oh, like I roll them up. I roll the sleeves up. And when you hang something, you have to unroll the cuffs. Yeah, and you'll leave it like... Some parts are up. Like your hood is like out and it's not tucked in correctly drives us crazy we can't deal so anyways this is why i had the meltdown so all these new things um and i started coming into my office i went and spent like probably like two or

three grand that's ridiculous no no on yeah i know i'm just i'm i'm saying this out loud you hear them on it so that people can understand how big of a meltdown. Everyone's going to think you're ridiculous. No, no, no. And I sat in my office and built thousands of Star Wars Legos. I have walkers. A therapist would have been cheaper. I have Jabba's sail barge.

If anybody's a Star Wars fan, I got the sail barge. I got... So now I'm blessed with many models of Star wars that no one cares about that i'm throwing away when you're not i gave i gave some away to the kids i have a couple left but yeah we'll be giving those so this time i'm on the verge of buying some more legos because you're micromanaging me on my office rebuild and it's the office that i've been in for five or six years listen it's not perfect but it's it's mine this is why you never ever move in with a man girls ever you always get move into a house that's ours.

Yeah. Because if you move into his space, he thinks it's his when it's not. No, I'm not saying it's mine. Like, this is mine. I'm saying like... But you're saying it's yours. It was like it's a shithole, but it's my shithole. Does that make sense?

Yeah. Well, I'm going to come in here and clean this up. Mimi will be uncuffing stuff, hanging stuff the right way, fixing the walls. I mean... It's going to be way prettier. I don't know. Uncuffing stuff, hanging stuff the right way, fixing the walls. I mean, I don't know. This is the place I used to escape the first time with the Legos. Now do I go to the house? You can go to Red Robin.

With Legos? You can go to Red Robin. Have some klutz and fries. Anyways, Mimi, we're also building her a calendar that you guys can work on. No, we're going to talk about that in a second, our calendar. That's a whole a whole story that they're going to love okay so let's do the first question since it has to do with calendars okay what apps do you use for calendars and how do you structure your calendar great question this is why you wanted to wait on getting into the calendar yes i was excited should i talk about which i don't even know where to start because I love calendars so much.

We both love calendars. Yeah, we do. Cheers. So my friend, I've talked about this before, What's Gobby Cooking. She's a blogger and she's adorable. She gave me the best tip because she's so organized. She said to buy these like I think they're 12 by 16 calendars off Etsy. Get four months worth. Have them designed and branded towards whatever your brand is. So of course mine are light pink with black and then frame the calendars in four

separate frames and have the four months laid out on the wall are you guys still with me then take post-it notes and put on post-it notes what you have to do that day or what piece of content goes live and stick the post-it notes to the day is everyone with me or am i not making i know what you're talking about but i would i mean that that sounds here's what i'm gonna do i'll do a blog post on it this week or next week showing the layout so you guys can see it. And I'll leave the link to Etsy. That's perfect for, like, you. No, I have a couple other things.

That's not the only calendar thing I do. That's very OCD. Yeah. Yeah. I mean – It's cute, though, and it works. So let me get this straight. You're going to have that, and you're going to have your new giant calendar that also goes on this wall.

Tell them about my new giant calendar. So we're picking one of the walls in here. And we're making. We're painting. Are we painting? What are you doing? You're painting a giant calendar. I micromanaged and tricked him into painting a wall.

Right? White. So cute. I don't mind that. Okay. I'm going to hire a painter to come in here and paint a calendar on the wall and this wall is huge the calendar is gonna be like i don't how big i don't know how big so wait how are you gonna write on it though are you just gonna put post-it notes or something what are you

doing well there's this there's this um marker that you can write with on a wall space if you put like this shellac on top no you have to use no i know what you're talking about but you have okay don't don't get in the way of my dreams you have to use um dry like like drywall paint or not drywall paint no no no um whiteboard paint like the same stuff they use on a whiteboard let's make it happen okay early christmas gift okay you can do that so anyways but like the app like to answer the question the app that we both use and that we both love is google calendars it's the i mean i've seen people some some people like Outlook. I like Google Calendars better.

I think it integrates more. I have the app Google Calendars on my phone. I used to use Sunrise, but when Outlook bought it, I switched over to Google Calendar. No, you're looking at me weird because you told me to do Google Calendar, but for a while the app sucked and Sunrise is better, but now Google Calendar is better. So we use google calendar and we have all sorts of different calendars set up within the calendar like i have one that's a personal calendar for me lauren has a personal one we have one that's together i have one for

jetbed i have one with weston mimi has one we have one with the team we have one for the podcast we have one for skinny confidential blog do we have one for blog do we have we have like 20 calendars basically yeah and they're all color coordinated and we have one for trial anyways this calendar is amazing because you can it we we use it for everything we schedule every single part of our day out on it you can invite multiple people um you can have multiple people share it you know some some calendars can be viewed by the whole team. Some calendars can only be viewed by us. I love it. Google calendars is the best.

That's what I use. I like Google calendars too because of the color coding. I'm all about the color coding. Everything's colored. So when I wake up in the morning, I can see what conference calls I have, what time they are, what's due, what needs to to be turned in what needs to get on the blog etc etc etc so my whole day is laid out in front of my eyes why i want my big calendar on the wall how big would you say the wall is because people are going to want to know how big this wall is i mean it's like 10 feet by no i know it's bigger than that it's like well the space you're going

to use is probably like 10 feet by 10 feet. Okay, so my 10-foot calendar. I don't think it's going to be that tall. I do. So my 10-foot calendar is going to have my editorial schedule and then what everyone needs to do that day on it. So, for instance, it'll say Mimi, roll out Michael's cuffs. Speaking of editorial, we should get into a little bit how we like set up your calendar and how we like structure. Yeah. Because we, we talk about how we use calendars, but you know,

anybody can just write down like due dates and stuff. Well, we, we actually for Lawrence, cause you know, we, we're a blog that has seven posts a week, five, more than that. 15 right now. Oh, wow. Okay okay so what we do is every time we have a post we sit down as a team and we come up with monthly content ahead of time and we try to blog as much as we can in real time um and we leave spaces for like spontaneous posts but say that we're working on a post about venice we just did i just did a post on venice we actually schedule okay the venice post is due monday which is today and we from there we actually schedule, okay, the Venice post is due Monday, which is today. And we, from there, we actually schedule the back work too. So like my Venice work started last Friday and it goes through a review process. And then, and then once it's gone through that

review process, we, we post, we like, I finish it on Monday. A lot of the things I post are in real time as well so if I say that I'm in Florence and I'm blogging about Florence I have to schedule the time in Florence to work on that post so basically all the back work is scheduled into the calendar even when I'm traveling and then we also will schedule you know social pushes and newsletters and when things are due so the whole team can see the calendar. And again, that's through Google calendars. So calendars are a huge theme here. Yeah. It just keeps everybody on the same page. It keeps management on the same page. It keeps

Lauren on the same page. It keeps me, it keeps, it lets the whole team know what's going on. Basically I have three calendars. Yeah. And so the ones, the ones that I really want to show everyone that's listening is the one that's the four pictures that are framed where I put my editorial notes on with post-its. And I promise I will do a blog post on that. So moving right along. What is the next question, Miss Mimi? Logan asks, how do you guys keep a balance between work, friends, and your relationship? Ooh.

Well, that's easy. We don't have any balance. Actually, balance, I think, is bullshit, kind of. I don't, I mean, there's no such thing as balance. I think that balance is, like, it's who I... There's no such thing as balance. No, I think my balance, my definition of balance is different than your definition of balance. Because there's no such thing as balance.

Okay, well, whether it's, like, fake, but I think... Well, if you're working on something, how are you, and you something, how are you in your, like you're either working or you're not, or you're either with friends or you're not, there's like no balance. Like someone that's a mom is going to have a different definition of balance than me who is not a mom, you know? Yeah. But I guess what I'm saying is you're always going to be out of balance when you're doing one thing, you're not doing the other thing, which means you're out of balance. So like it's a seesaw. It's. So, like, it's a seesaw. It's not really a balance.

It's a seesaw. Balance would be you're doing one thing and another thing at the same time, which, again, we've talked about this in the past, my thoughts on multitasking. Thank you. We know your thoughts on multitasking. Yeah, so, no, we have a rough time separating, at least in our relationship, when it's time to switch off because, you know, to go we'll go on a romantic day oh tomorrow's our date night by the way oh we gotta tell them about that but that's what i'm gonna talk about that and then we can't wait it plays into it so tomorrow's our date night right so we decided that once a week and the day is going to switch around you've decided no we've decided yeah no no but i it was your idea which is cute yeah so in hopes of

i'm just gonna put it in quotations and call it balance. Right, Mimi? You see me doing the quotations here? Yeah. I'm going to say that we are seeking balance, Lauren. Hum. And so in hopes of trying to find that, I said, hey, how about once a week we do our date night for when we're not traveling or running around.

And this week, I'm going to pick a surprise thing to do. It could be dinner. It could be dinner and a movie. I can't wait to see what you have planned. Mimi, get on the reservation. Yeah. Mimi, I need help. And so the problem is I'm going to set up this nice romantic date night

and da-da-da, but I guarantee in the middle of the date, even if we both try, even if we say we're not talking business. Let's try. Let's report back and try. I guarantee we're going to try. Why don't you tell me how pretty my hair looks? It does look great. Here's the thing.

I say your hair looks pretty. Your ass looks good. Body's tight. Shirt's great. And then we get in. I'm like, okay, so what's going on at work? Because we run out of shit. I mean, that's what's going on in our life.

We're hustling around. We're working. That's what we talk about. I mean, I can't imagine a dinner just sitting there. What else are we going to talk about? I guess we could gossip about it. One time on a romantic date, I told you that it may be time for a retainer. Then the next day, you got a retainer though.

And now your teeth are flawless. I lost that retainer. Well, you probably need to reinvest it. No, but the point is, how do we keep balance? I mean, we just check ourselves. We go like, we'll be like having a really romantic dinner. I'll say your eyes are beautiful. We're doing this.

We're getting lovey. The candle's burning. And then boom, I'm like, yo, what's going on with accounting? And it ruins the moment. Accounting? Don't ever bring that up. Or I'm like, yo, what's going on with this post? And then I get a smack.

No, I actually enjoy discussing business with Michael because Michael, the one reason I fell in love with him, giving you a compliment here. Only one reason? The main reason is because he stimulates my brain. I thought I was going to say something different, didn't you? Yeah. Isn't that cute? he stimulates my brain and and that sounds weird and creepy but he his conversation there's so many layers to it and we have so much fun talking about what books we're reading and and how to grow our businesses and how to growth hack and how to what we should talk about on the podcast and blog and i mean there's so much to talk about there that it's kind of never ending um and it's fun when, when we work

together, even though we want to kill each other sometimes, um, to go after work and get out of the setting, but still kind of talk about it. No, I mean, I, this, this is why I think it's so important to develop things to talk about. Right. I mean, like it doesn't have to be work fortunately. And unfortunately a lot of our stuff's work, but it doesn't have to be like, I'm not saying that, no, work but it doesn't have to be like i'm not saying that no not every couple is going to be able to work together as a matter of fact like probably most aren't we're still kind of navigating it um but still you got to have something interesting to say besides what other people are doing and gossip and we can talk about the way that you take care of your closet tomorrow on the date yeah i have a full date night's

canceled change canceled and we do not put our socks inside out and put them together and then as for friends i mean honestly like we should we could probably do a little bit of a better job with the friends department well i mean the problem is is that when we're not working the time goes it's allocated towards our family So that leaves a limited amount towards our friends. But here's the other thing. A lot of our friends work with us. Yeah, that's true. I've got, you know, we went to Palm Springs last weekend.

Yeah, but one of the people that we went with, Weston, works with us. Yeah. But we definitely do try to have time for our friends. And we do, we make time. But it's definitely hard. I'm not going to sit here and say, oh, it's a breeze like NBD. I'm a big fan of acquaintances. I like to have just a small group of friends that I don't have to satisfy the needs of too much.

And I know that sounds like a terrible thing to say. But I like a couple good friends and then a bunch of acquaintances where i could be out and be like hey jim bob what are you up to or hey sally like you know what i mean and then i and then that's like they're like oh wasn't that great no okay no yeah yeah sally who the fuck is sally yeah sally oh no um you know it's good they'd be like oh wasn't it great seeing michael yeah it was good but like then they don't really care what else i'm doing they're just like no like i'm because i'm busy i don't have that much time to like run around anymore yeah so you and when I do have time I want to read and be with my chihuahuas and you

I feel like you're obsessed with time with your chihuahuas let's just admit it that's what a lot of people don't understand they're like don't you want to be out and just raging and like drinking and like don't you don't you miss hanging out with us I'm like listen guys I know this like I'm good just with my chihuahuas. He spent a good hour yesterday walking the chihuahuas, bathing the chihuahuas with lavender essential oils, I may add, and then brushing their teeth with peppermint holistic wipes. True or false? True. 100% true.

You also fed them organic turkey that was supposed to be mine and gave them a little sprinkle of pumpkin enzymes. No, look, I mean, I used to go, I mean, if any of you know me from the past or have seen me, like, I used to go out all the time. And I don't know what I was doing it for because I really didn't have that good of a time. I was just, like, out there drinking and partying. And then I get home and I'm like. You probably drank one beer. No, I used to get after it. I didn't know't know you then no you knew me a little bit shucks anyways did you notice that um twitter's making a comeback yes Mimi okay first of all when we

have a question about social media we ask Mimi because Mimi's how old are you I'm almost 19 she's almost 19 I don't know how she's almost 19 because she's the most responsible person in my entire life. At 19, I couldn't even find my ass with both hands. At 19, I was cocktailing and I had three boyfriends. I was a full-blown disaster. Was I one of them? No.

No. I was like a side dude. Yeah, you were like on the eh, whatever. Yeah. Could go without it. Yeah, so I feel like when you were just like starting your blog, I told you to get Snapchat and you got one. This is six years ago.

Yeah, and you never really like understood Snapchat and so you never used it. And then it started to pick up all this speed. And you had one, you just weren't using it. And ever since then, I feel like you've valued my opinion more. Yeah, I wish I valued your opinion six years ago. Mimi told us in the beginning of the game. Mimi told us six years ago. Wait, how old were you six years ago when you told me that?

Like 13. Yeah. What were all the kids doing on Snapchat? Well, at first, they didn't have stories. Way back in the day, there was no story. Vintage. Yeah, it was only to one person you couldn't send it to multiple people love it so what were you guys doing on there

it was just like you would you would smoke weed right yeah you'd send pictures of us smoking the bong you know when we were 11 years old yeah right yeah they would me and your sisters oh jesus christ yep um so yeah she told us to get Snapchat six years ago. We didn't listen to her. Here we are. Snapchat's huge now. Thank God I listened to her like a year ago and got it because it's definitely one of my favorite platforms. But on that note, I keep asking her what's the next platform.

And surprisingly, I've been thinking that Twitter is coming back. Because I never used it. Twitter was out for about two years. So out. Yeah. And now I've been kind of coming back slowly. Why? And I've been leaning off of Snapchat for some reason. Really?

That scares me a little bit. I don't want the youth. If any of the youth is listening, I hope you stay on Snapchat and just don't leave me. Well, I don't like sound on my phone. That's something. I don't like to hear it unless it's on Bluetooth in my car. Got it. But I'm always in public.

Like when I'm working, I'm not going to be playing Snapchat. Why don't you wear the headphones like me? No, no one wants to wear that. Yeah. I'd rather kill myself. Unless they're real. Unless they're real diamond or like real gold. No one wants those.

Wait, so Twitter's coming back. I've been liking the interaction. You know what I think for a pure bit? You've been liking the internet. Yeah, I've been liking the internet. Internet's a great thing. No, Twitter's coming back. I've been liking the interaction. You know what I think? You've been liking the internet. Yeah, I've been liking the internet. The internet's a great thing. No, Twitter's awesome. I think that right now the attention dropped off it so much

and so people were – the engagement was really, really low. So right now I think it's a really, really good opportunity to jump in and have some engagement with people that you normally wouldn't get it from. Like right now, if you're trying to reach out to that person that has a bajillion followers that you couldn wouldn't get it from. Like right now, if you're trying to reach out to that person that has a bajillion followers that you couldn't get to before or that person that doesn't respond to your emails or hasn't responded to your inquiries,

like Twitter is where you're gonna get them. Like Snapchat, Lauren and I do our very best to answer every single thing on Snapchat, but still Snapchat, there's so many messages and there's so much activity so many messages and there's so much activity that sometimes it's hard Twitter, when I get a Twitter message or a tweet or whatever, I respond right away because I see it like pops right up there's and I've seen a lot of people with a lot and you know, I don't have shit on Twitter. But I've seen a lot of people

with huge followings on Twitter, start to respond and engage with people, which tells me that right now is a very, very good opportunity to reach out to that person that you've been wanting to reach out to and get ahold of them. I think it's your best chance. I respond to every single tweet I get and make sure to retweet. I make sure to engage. I think Twitter is a very valuable kind of platform and I think it will make a

comeback. But what's next after Twitter? I've been searching for what's next. Do you guys use like Musical.ly in those things? No, that's a feel like younger. Musical.ly is younger? I've never heard of Musical.ly, so maybe I'm outdated. What about after school?

Is that an app or are you talking about what I do after school? Yeah, that sounds like a pedophile. No, after school is an app. I have a boyfriend. Yeah, after school is an app I have a boyfriend yeah after school is an app and um in what I do is I just go on uh I go on the why are you guys laughing at me because Boone farted so bad oh stop you're making me embarrassed don't embarrass him um so wait you don't use after school you don't use mus No, I think that you guys are really searching for these apps, like what's next. And I kind of just let it come to me, you know.

She's right. And so unless I hear about it, I feel like After School is probably not cool. Yeah, After School sounds dreadful. What about Kiwi? No, I've never heard of that either. Let's see. All these things are in the top 20 apps. Well, maybe Mimi's too old

yeah well I now have just been listening to podcasts in my car and doing my after school is funny anonymous school news so maybe that'd be a little creepy maybe that'd be a little creepy if I jumped in there because I probably don't belong in the the school gazette but we're not have you heard of that you're not gonna join after school yeah that's a little creepy I know because I was just looking at it right now and it's just like party tonight at someone's house and like you going yeah I don't I don't know about that um okay so yeah we're not gonna do after school what's the next question um you talked about monogamy last week what do you do when someone

cheats i really liked last week's episode oh thanks mimi yeah it's good we're getting we're we're getting a rhythm going with me you know we're getting a rhythm yeah you're building off of last week this week cheating cheating cheating cheating i feel like you want to talk about this a lot. I have a lot to say about cheating, but here's the thing. Cheating can be circumstantial. So sometimes... What does that mean? Yeah, I'm not quite sure about that one. What do you mean? Like per circumstance, it can change. Okay, continue. Explain further. Like there like, there's maybe, like, a little wiggle room, depending on the situation. Sometimes there is. You disagree?

So, if, like, I cheated, I'd have wiggle room? If you cheated... Basically. You and Sally. Your penis would be sliced into small salamis. I'd give them to the dogs. Or big salamis. No, what did they do on Game of Thrones to, um...

What's his name? Theon. Theon, yeah. Wait, but so expand on this circumstantial cheating. I think like if someone made a really big mistake and maybe made out with a girl and you're in college and you're both at separate colleges there's wiggle room i think if you're in a full-blown relationship and you're 25 and up and it's based on trust and you live together it's absolutely not acceptable yes can i build on what you just said you always do i always do um i think like you said the example of someone making out with someone or doing something I think if you're gonna let that fly

That's fine. You can let it fly But don't complain if it happens again Okay, can I build off that? Yes. Okay If I was in a serious relationship and I knew that this was going to be the person I was going to marry I would never put up with it because the second that you give an inch to a man, they take a mile. Or a woman. Or a woman. Or a woman.

They take a mile and I'm telling you. That's why I rule you with an iron fist, Lauren. You don't rule me with shit. I've got you locked down. You're not going nowhere. I'm so happy that you think that. I'm actually just too tired and busy to cheat, to be real honest with you. I know. too much effort

mimi can you put it on my google calendar yeah unless it's calendared i can't cheat yeah put it in pink um i but seriously let's give a real answer okay a real answer to this is that if someone cheats on you and you're 25 years old and you think it's the person that you're gonna marry and they're and you're living together, it's breakup. Yeah, I'm going to... It's breakup. Yeah, I think it's... Well, no. You have to set a boundary.

No, it's not breakup if you're okay to live with it and you're okay to get past it, but it's breakup if you can't. You can't... I see so many people where it's like, oh, they cheated on me. Oh, they cheated on me. Again, it's like, listen, at that point, it's your fault. It's not their fault. It's your fault for allowing that behavior to continue and to occur it's well like it's well within anyone's power

to leave to just leave like it's over like if i cheated on you you if you cheated on me i would leave i would be even if i would leave i would take the dogs and i would leave you would not take the dogs that's why i would take the dogs, but seriously, even if I was super, super sad just in principle, I would have to leave. That's just how I'd have to be. So I think once that trust is broken, it's very difficult to get back. But everyone's different. I mean, if you're okay with it, then you're okay with it. But if you're going to say you're okay with it and you're going to get past it, like girls or guys, if your person cheated on you and you said, okay, it's over and we're moving on, then it's over and you're moving on and don't go

back to it because then it's just going to be a nightmare. Well, I have a very kind of cynical view on this. If we're being dead honest, I used to work when I was, I think I was 22 to 25 in a bar. And I worked in this bar that was in this very like prominent area in San Diego. We won't name names. Um, but the area was very affluential and there was a lot of very wealthy people there. And for some reason, when you're surrounded in that area and you incorporate alcohol, men, especially because that's what I saw, feel that they are deserving to cheat. It's very interesting. They get a little froggy.

They get froggy. And so I was the bartender behind this bar and there was all these men coming in all the time because it was a very like men, a manly bar, I guess. And for some reason, these men just wouldn't kind of notice the bartender like I was just basically pouring them drinks I didn't have any eyes or ears but I did have eyes and ears and I watched and it was very interesting how these

these affluential men acted when they started drinking because they they would do things that when they were married that that were so inappropriate. I mean, I could tell stories, like, up the wazoo. That's for a different podcast. But these men just would, like, blatantly cheat in front of their wives. Not in front of their wives, but when their wives were, like, a couple miles away. And they're friends with these people, too. It's, like, close circle.

A very close circle of people. So what's the point? Very incestual. So the point is, is that is unacceptable. However, the wives would come in weeks later with their husbands and they knew that their husbands were cheating. And it was an unspoken thing. So that's my point is like, if that's okay and that's their thing, then that's their thing. That's what I'm trying to say. Some people are fine with sweeping it under the rug and going on and living a normal life and

if that's how you are then that's fine but if you're not fine with it like it wouldn't work for me if you treat it not if you're not fine with it then you have to leave and you have to because if you if you say listen jimmy you know stop with jimmy and sally like these names are from like 1941 listen joe times listen joe you know if you've done it once and you you said you're Can you stop with Jimmy and Sally? Like, these names are from, like, 1941. Listen, Joe. Let's get with the times. Listen, Joe. You know, if you've done it once and you said you're not going to do it again, like, and then he does it again, like, don't be surprised. Because it's like you had the option to leave. I want to ask Mimi, like, being how old are you, 19? What are your thoughts?

I definitely think it's, there's a little bit of wiggle room. Like, I'm in a long-distance relationship, and so stuff, you know, I don't know what he's doing. I don't know his friends. I don't know. She's also 19. Yeah. And it's just kind of like, I have to accept that. What's crossing the line?

Crossing the line would be, personally, I thought girls in the room. Like, I know it's kind of funny. No that's okay. Yeah. That's girls in the rooms crossing the line. Yeah.

Like alone together in the room. No even just like in the room I think is inappropriate. Just Mimi's very conservative you guys. Yeah.

Just to let you guys know which I love about her. You mean just alone together in the room or is it like what if all like what if it was a bunch of like a group of people?

No I don't really think that's okay. She doesn't want girls in the room. Why would they be sitting on his bed and if there's something in his room. Or is it, like, what if all, like, what if it was a bunch of, like, a group of people? No. I don't really think that's okay. She doesn't want girls in the room. Why would they be sitting on his bed and if there's something in his room? Oh, his room. Yeah. Michael, this isn't, like, you're not, like, Inspector Gadget. Like, there's girls in the room.

She's not comfortable with it. But that's my circumstance, you know? And that's, again, you have to create your own boundaries. You have to sit down, I think, with your partner and, like, lay the line. Like, this is not okay. What's your standard, Lauren? Girls in the city? I'm just kidding. Well, I mean, you're living on campus. Lauren's pretty cool. I don't like, like, you know, I do know why I will just say this about Lauren and I's relationship. We both just like, we trust each other so much. And I think we both

know that if either of us cross, like it would just fuck so many things up that it's just, it's just it's just not worth it like we just don't i mean i trust you 100 my parents were divorced when i was 10 years old and um i just watched my dad and mom go through so much unnecessary stress that they wouldn't have had to go through if they didn't get a divorce and it's almost like adding shit to your life that doesn't need to be added yeah i said if you don't want to be faithful then don't be in a relationship exactly wow the 19 year old cc that's wisdom can you say that again so everyone can take note say that again if you don't want to be faithful then don't be in a relationship

every guy i want you to tattoo that on your six pack. Wear it around like the scarlet letter. Six pack? Yeah. They need to tattoo that. If you don't want to be faithful, then get out of a relationship. And guys, just a little note from a girl. The worst thing you can do is cheat and then lie about it. Because we will find out.

And imagine me with a knife emoji in my hand. And you know, it's the same thing that I said last week. We always do. You cannot force somebody to be faithful if they don't want to be. So that's on you as well. It's just as much on you as it is on them. But let me ask you something, Michael. Why do your friends even go into a relationship when they know they're not going to be faithful?

And I can name a couple of them. So dumb. Let me talk about my school. No, no. It's called the Sunday lonely game. So like, Oh, I know the Sunday blue. Listen, you have all week during the week, you're all like focused, you're hustling, you're getting your work done. So like you don't have time to be thinking about anything else. And then Friday, Saturday comes around and you're drinking

your party. Yeah. You're out there and you're getting going. And then Sunday comes around and you're coming down from the week of work and the week and the weekend of partying and you look around and there's nobody there and you're just depressed and then like you get that sunday call and you know let's okay let me just let me just tell every girl in the world one thing if a guy calls you on sunday if you want to get back at him i used to do this to my ex-boyfriend all the time never pick up sunday is the worst day to pick up. Don't pick up. Don't return his text. Don't like his Instagram.

Don't retweet his tweet. Don't watch his Snapchat. Do not engage with him on Sunday. They go crazy. I used to drive my ex-boyfriend so nuts. I was unavailable on Sunday. That's cute. You have the Sunday blues.

Sorry. Yeah. Go out. Have a mim mimosa be with your friends do you know what there's a fold your laundry like pet your dog there's some advice that i think applies to anything in life in any kind of hard situation and i always i always talked about this i said it's it's difficult to like take your own advice so you're going to take it a step further and if this was your best friend in the world or your sister or your brother, and you were, that's the person you're trying to protect. What is the advice you would give them

if they were in your exact situation? And then take that advice. Cause a lot of times you have a rough time taking like the advice you would really give somebody else that you cared about. So, you know, if, if you, if your sister was being cheated on over and over and over by the same guy, what advice would you give her? Okay, now you take that advice. My advice would be if you're over 25 especially, or I'm going to say 22 actually. If you're over 22 and someone's unfaithful to you, next them. You know that show Next MTV?

Next. Like next. Swipe, swipe left. What is it on Tinder? I don't know. I don't, I've never, that was a trick question. I just wanted to see if you've ever been on it. Well, I want to end the show with done with this subject, got over it. I want to, I want to talk about, you know, if you have a business or you're starting out, I really want you to think about taking Twitter seriously and reaching out to some people that you think could help your business or would benefit from

your services and just hit them up on Twitter and see what happens. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised with the results. And I think now is better time than ever to get someone's attention. You gotta keep in mind, a lot of these people with huge followings still have those followings and still have those numbers,

but they don't have the engagement. No, you're... Sorry, that's my line. They don't have the engagement. So right now is a great time to jump on and try to get their attention and interact with them. And I highly recommend it. Well, that's it for today.

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Or if you are, you shouldn't be listening. Yeah, and if you are, you shouldn't be listening because you're a troll. What the fuck is a bridge troll? That's disgusting. If you know, you know.

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