The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - #21: Porn, Online Dating, Watermelon Jerky, & The Pressure of Social Media

Episode Date: July 26, 2016

Jordan Bosstick & Taylor O'Conner join Lauryn & Michael, to talk about guys who watch porn, online dating, drunk girls at weddings, the pressure of social media, watermelon jerky, bad lighting, and the biggest sacrifices you make in order to help grow your career. To learn more about The Skinny Confidential visit the site HERE To connect with Lauryn click HERE To connect with Michael click HERE

The following program is a podcastone.com presentation. She's a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire. Fantastic. And he's a serial entrepreneur. A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the skinny confidential, him and her.

Hi everybody, this is the bare Naked Cucumber coming live. Not coming, but coming at you. Hi, everyone. It's the Skinny Confidential Him and Her Podcast with Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic coming at you from Podcast One in Beverly Hills. Thank you guys so much for subscribing on iTunes and all of the great ratings and reviews. We really appreciate it so much so that we even brought the bare naked cucumber up because we appreciate it so much i'm lauren everett's blogger author and lover of watermelon jerky and i'm

always late like i just can't get it together and i'm michael bostick entrepreneur chihuahua whisperer failed nba nfl, PJ, and MMA athlete, Lauren Sexslave, alarm clock, and head of complaints department. And let me tell you, the complaints have been piling in this week. Yes, they have. Thank you guys for listening. It's been an amazing journey. As you know, we started out in our living room with a couple of hundred bucks. I would actually say it was more like 50 bucks, if we're being honest. And we we had this idea to talk are you talking about the equipment which that's what i'm talking about

i don't know how much the equipment was that was on your amazon bill thank god um and we just had no experience and we're learning as we go but most importantly we're really excited because we have the baronica cucumber back he is back he's back and we also have jordan jordan's my sister she works with us helps us stay organized fields the questions that come in from the uh readership and listenership on a weekly basis she helps us pick the best ones and she's also the chief mediator um she's in charge just in case lauren and i decide to get in a fight during the show she will uh jump in the middle and put a stop to it thank god i am ready to go. So Taylor's here. As you guys know, Taylor works for Michael. We call him the

Bare Naked Cucumber. That's a long story. If you want to hear it, go back a few podcasts. Maybe we'll tell it again today. He was our sound guy, but now we have Kevin. No offense. I'm into Kevin more than you for sound. So Taylor drove up today at 5.38 in the morning. If you were

wondering exactly what time, you can check his Instagram at TalesYouDie. Is that right? He was the sound guy. He weaseled his way onto the show. He got 16 Snapchat followers, so he's now Snapchat famous. And he decided that he could not miss the show up here in L.A., so he got on the road at 5.30. He's got the shakes right now from drinking too much coffee. How are you feeling over there?

I feel like a shaky bridge. An old one. A shaky bridge. I've never heard anyone compare themselves to a shaky bridge. Shaky bridge. Okay. You decided to wear a matching t-shirt or shirt with me today, which is a little strange. It's cute. You look like the twin emojis. You guys are totally twinning. It's cute. So yeah, first before we start the show, I would just really like to know where Tales You Die came from. Like, what's the screen name like give us a little uh tails you

die uh i actually i don't know i just made it up because if you think about flipping a coin it's heads you lose tails you die neither one there are very good options but i have a nickname called tails and i just added that well now that you're on the dating scene you may want to consider changing it to something other than tails you die because you're probably right the other one was may cause death which i don't think is much better is your username on bumble tails you die uh no i don't think there is i think it's just the name is what it what it comes out to as far as the title so as you guys know if you listen to a couple episodes back taylor broke up with his girlfriend but he is ready to be single and ready to mingle and he is on bumble and tinder no not not tinder bumble tinder's tooth is to 2014 you have something against tinder no i just i don't think it's

i think it's it's fake actually you think it's fake you were just telling me before the show that you like to slide left right no no No, no, not slide left slide. Okay. So I did a test and I just went wild and I was watching a TV show and just swiped right on almost every single one and never got a match. So either I'm ugly or it's a fake. Wait, I don't understand how, how, how Tinder works. Can you explain it to me?

If you go or it's Tinder and bubble, the same thing. So if you go left, you're not interested. And if you go right, that means you're interested in some degree. But I just think just the rule of probability. Wait, some degree? Does that mean like you would have sex with her? You want to date her? You want to take her to meet your mom?

What I mean is some degree is you're looking at one picture and you're making a snap judgment. So it depends. You either go, eh, you know, eh, she's okay. Or, whoa, that's probably both a swipe right. It's the ones that you go, ugh, that's the left. Okay. So thank God you're not single anymore, Michael. We wouldn't want you sliding right.

No. I don't even know how to get back in the dating scene. I've been locked down for eight years. Because right now I haven't been sliding anywhere. Oh my gosh. and on that note so girls if you see him out there give him give him a little right wait what's your username so girls can i don't think there is i think it just it's like uh it's anonymous it's random it's just it has to happen like you bump into someone did you update that pic because you had a picture of yourself when you were like 18 years old, when we were in high school.

Did you, did you end up changing that? Yeah, we deleted that one. Okay. We need some new headshots for you. That and I removed the poem about the heart. Good.

I feel like I have to approve your defaults before they go live. Can you send them to me? Like send me like a couple, like a couple so I can choose like one, two or three. I need a couple of choices. That's probably why I've gotten no matches. Oh, anyway we um are up in la we were up here last weekend we're podcasting very exciting last week because we met shack and not like the reason that i bring this up

is not to brag it's just to say that shack is the nicest celebrity i've ever met in my life like how humble was he yeah Yeah, he was super nice. I was so like, I didn't see him. Then all of a sudden I turned around and there was the biggest human I've ever seen in my entire life in front of me. And he, um, he put his hand out to shake and I felt like a small boy. Like I felt like I was three years old. Your hand fit in the palm of his hand. No, I mean, my hand was enveloped in the palm of his hand. It was like a baseball glove. You looked like a little tick next to him. Yeah. Anyway, so he was so nice.

I don't know how other to explain it. And then he was so humble and so nice. He was so starstruck by me, though. I mean, he couldn't get over it. Oh, my God. I can't. So we went back from L.A. to San Diego to go to a wedding, and the traffic was atrocious. Michael complained about it for about three, four, five days. He's still complaining about it. I can't stand it

anymore. I'm losing it. Like we were there. We were stuck in traffic all day long. I mean, what's going on with LA people? Like, I feel like people are getting worse. They don't know how to drive up here. Just drop. I mean, any, anything, somebody's pulled over to take a leak or something and everyone has to slow their car down. And then we get back in the pride parades going on. So all the streets are on lockdown. And the first thing I see is a guy running around in a diaper and nipple clamps. I got in a fight with a cop. That was tails. You die. Taylor, was that you? No nipple clamps or the diaper, baby. Seriously. I feel like we need a hashtag. Never forget for your traffic story. If I hear it one more time.

I think I've heard it in every language. I've heard it every day. I think Nico's here in the studio. Nico's going to pop some champagne for us. And Nico's heard it about 600 times. We get it. You were in traffic. So moving on from that, the wedding was super fun.

Jordan was there. You looked hot. Thank you. I was excited about that. I think the dress was super fun. Jordan was there. You looked hot. Thank you. I was excited about that. I think the dress was super Kim K. If I'm just going to like pat myself on the back on that one. What brand was that? Ooh, I don't know. You guys, she was wearing the cutest dress. It was like, um, like square sleeves. It was very like militant, but in the best way. Yeah. And it was also kind of masculine, but it was very feminine at the same time, which I love contrast so much. And the stress was just insane. I had to have an alteration is so

the front, like a little bit closer. Cause when I first bought it, my boobs were like way too out. And I was like, this is not working for me. So that up. And then I asked her to borrow it and asked her if I could undo the part where she sewed it up. Cause I like a super lovey. Lauren's dress was um a low-cut dress that doesn't fit her properly it needs to be tailored and um her fun bags were flopping out all over during the wedding party and there was designer tape everywhere uh this is kind of like the traffic store you've told this and talked about this for about two years what happens when you put one of those dressers like yeah this will look good like um the dress where my tits flop out

every second will be the best that'll be the good choice they didn't flop out every second you guys i was wearing nippies and i was wearing fashion tape and you were having a full-blown meltdown but then girls get upset when someone does look like oh how dare you but what's the purpose my nipple okay let's not jump in with your perviness right now you're getting really pervy lately we're back for a minute ago in here he's popping looks no i wasn't she it's one of the scenarios where they go oh don't look at that and the human reaction is to look it's like when someone says don't look into the sun it's gonna blind you and you go what you literally at breakfast mentioned lauren's buttons popping open like six times yeah it's because you got to see this thing

it's it looks like a man's trousers are gonna it's gonna shoot out and like go bouncing around the restaurant i'm wearing a really cute bodysuit that's a button up you guys and it happens to be white and taylor was copying a couple of looks today at brett fitz and um michael was getting a little pissed yeah how do you feel about that i was just investigating to make sure it wasn't a d-clamp he's uh he's he's not getting enough swipe right so he he can take a look that's fine yeah you're such a good not getting enough swipe rights, so he can take a look. It's fine. You're such a good friend.

Come on, just let him look, man. He deserves a look. So yeah, wedding was fun, and there was a drunk girl there. Yes, there was. We always have that one drunk girl. Before we talk about the drunk girl, can we talk about my dad

and how absurd he's getting? So my dad's at the wedding. It's a family friend that's getting married, and literally the first moment the ceremony is over he starts complaining to anybody with an ear about how there's not enough bars i just had a wedding at the house we had so many bars you can't get a drink i'm like dad you got to calm down man like he's he's getting so bad and we're just we're just sitting there. And I'm just watching this guy have a full meltdown over not getting a drink. And literally, the bride and groom just got married. Everyone's saying congratulations. He's going up and complaining about the bar.

It's unbelievable. He actually was asleep with his eyes open. He's mastered that. And the drunk girl was talking to him. And he was still asleep with his eyes open. The drunk girl was all over the place. She sat on my lap at one moment, I feel. The red wine was literally flying out of her glass and she was swinging it around. I was like in the splash zone. I was scared. The splash zone. You know,

it's fine to be the drunk girl once in a while. Sometimes you just got to let loose. Just keep your shoes on. I can't stand when girls take their shoes off. It's like a pet peeve. So very Britney Spears 2000 gas station look. But remember that one time I took my shoes off in Spain, it was like five years ago. And I was having a meltdown. You had a meltdown. One time I took my shoes off and Jordan has not let me live it down. You can't take your shoes off, especially in the streets of Ibiza. I entirely agree with you, but it was one moment in time and it was five years ago and I was having a little too much fun. I'll forgive you. Okay. I'll never do it again. Thank you. Okay. So yeah, that was our weekend. Um, I would love for the bare naked cucumber to like kind of share his weekend because

I feel like there's like a lot of stuff going on. Well, there's two things things so i don't know if you guys know this or not maybe through lauren or michael snapchat but i'm training for something called the better body contest 2016 and i've been in the gym a lot trying to well hold on hold on this contest is between you and one other guy in my office and you guys are literally fighting for last and second to last place in the office that's because michael thinks this is it's a fake contest there's in the only it's between two people and basically at the end of the month we're gonna snap your bodies up i'm gonna just the one guy is a really good looking guy so we're gonna do is we're gonna put the emojis like and we're gonna zoom in so it covers the faces and then we're gonna show your bodies and i'm gonna let snapchat be the judge of

who wins you need to tan that thing no i actually I actually think I am going to go get a spray tan. You are as white as paper. I know. It's horrific. And you're hairy. Horrendous. Not horrific. You remind me of that movie Powder.

Ooh, I don't know about that. That's a little too white. If you guys want a good laugh, watch Snapchat while we're at the office because we've been doing these like pushup competitions with Taylor and the other guy. Can I say his name? No, no, no. It's not with the other guy. Can I say his name? No, no, no. It's not with the other guy. It's just Taylor doing push-ups by himself.

The other guy forfeits every time. You said you could get to 50 the other day, and you didn't even get past 25. No, it's because you guys are making me laugh, so I crapped out. Your face was so red. I've never seen... You were like a strawberry. Wait, wait. Can we get into this?

Because then I started snapping him, and the next day he saw the snaps, and he came in, and I snapped him again, and he said if I ever snapped him and zoomed in on his face again, he was going to fucking quit. That was usually just, I'm going to fucking quit. It's because the way he zoomed in, yeah, it started out good until the very end when he zoomed in, and I looked like an obese Pac-Man. So now every time I come in the office with my phone, he runs into the bathroom and starts combing his hair because he thinks he's going to be on Snapchat. Hey, you never know who's watching, so I like to try to look my best, as always. We know you have hair gel in the bathroom at the office with a comb. Yeah, just in case.

I mean, you never know. You never know when an impromptu push-up contest in Snapchat is going to pop up. No, but that wasn't a contest just by myself. Weston was like, oh, yeah, maybe I'll do it. So I got down and did it, and then he just said, eh, I'm not going to. No, but that wasn't a contest just by myself. Weston was like, oh, yeah, you know, maybe I'll do it. So I got down and did it. And then he just said, I'm not going to do it. I want to hear about your weekend, though. Like with Bumble and Tinder.

Like what's going on? So I went on a date with a girl. And she's awesome. She's actually really cool. She listens to the podcast. So shout out. Wait, so wait, wait, wait, wait. She's awesome and really cool. And she listens to the podcast podcast so like you have to say she's awesome and cool no no no she actually

is awesome and cool i guess is this why you got up at 5 30 morning to get on the show no no this has nothing to do with that i got up because i want to be an active member of the team so actually no i woke up at 4 30 set an went to bed at 9, which is very rare if anybody knows me. But no, so I went on a date. But the thing is this. It was probably as far as like Tinder goes or not Tinder but Bumble. I'm the type of person who when I like meeting someone face-to-face or I'm very – I've got, what is it? High standards. So the fact of these, these apps where you see one picture and you throw a little excerpt about yourself, about themselves, it's kind of hard to, you know,

really get into that. So I don't really ever take it very seriously in any sense. And this is the first time I've ever actually hung out with someone on it. And it's kind of, it's good to talk about this because we've had a lot of, we've actually had a lot of questions come in about dating apps and how to use it. And it's hard for Lauren and I to give really hands-on advice on this because we're both not in the dating scene hopefully unless you have some kind of secret bumble account i miss this whole like online dating app thing too no it's the reason it's different you miss it no i missed it like i didn't yeah because i've nico and i've been together for five years so i feel like it's not after that so i never speaking of nico nico's

gonna pop the champagne like jeeves right now so if you guys hear a pop that's the champagne my friend weston who you guys have seen if you've watched Snapchat, is so absurd. He's like, listen, man, we're going to get you on. And Bumble. And then if you strike out, you're going to the Asian massage parlor. Has that happened yet? Weston is basically borderline forcing me to do it. So it's definitely, he's like, you're going to do it or I'm going to, you know,

punch you in the face. Okay. But I have a, I have a burning question that everyone is wanting to know. Yes. Okay. So you're on Bumble. You're on Tinder.

No, no, Bumble. Not Tinder. Excuse me. Whatever. Tinder is like the, the,

like a red light district of dating apps. Okay. Okay. So you're on like, what's what, how are you hooking these girls? Like what's your one liner? Like what's your sentence?

How's your week going? No, no, no, no, no. That's why I'm not very good at is, is I'm a very complex person. And the very first you have to actually know, actually take it back. Bumble. I don't hook. I don't say anything to them for Bumble. They have to message you.

So that's, it's an app where the girl has to say the first so that she has to bridge the connection. Okay. But, but when I say one-liner, I mean, what's, you know, on Instagram, you have like a bio. What's your bio?

Let me see. Yeah, I would love to hear your bio. We had to clean it up a little last week because he had a sonnet in there. No, I feel like

it wasn't on brand. If you had a poem. If you asked this a week ago, it would have been much more entertaining, but let's see. So, currently, and maybe we can get, i can get some advice from everybody out there please maybe this is why my

we would love it please anything will help us bumble my the hive is low on honey wait no no no i'm just i'm because bumble it's the symbol is oh okay but like. What's your bio? My bio right now is... One second. I feel like you know it. You're just stalling here. No, no, no. I'm honestly trying to bring it up. He's typing something right now for his bio.

I'm trying... Okay. Read it out. No, no. This is pretty normal. Read it out. Okay. Read it out.

Vinyl. Music, art, and business. World traveler and active gym user. Co-star on the skinny confidential him and her podcast. You're a co-star now. Oh. Hey, I've got to use a little embellishment here. The sound man has become the star.

I feel like we should... You're a star. You need to include the bare naked cucumber in your bio. I think you should only just, like, just literally just say bare naked cucumber, period. I think I should just put in my swipe left and get it out of the way. I feel like you should write, I shave everything. Because if you guys remember the reason we call him the bare naked cucumber is he announced on one of our first podcasts that he shaves everything bare. But hey, now that your ex is gone and she's out of the picture and she's the

one that wanted you to shave bear are you still going to continue this this disgusting habit of shaving yourself to look like a 12 year old boy basically i mean i'm i'm conditioned right now to to you know live a specific way so i would say after the actually lauren did do a what'd she do i did a twitter poll yeah she did twitter did a Twitter poll, and I lost. Wait, explain the Twitter poll. Explain the Twitter poll. The Twitter poll said, to the girls, it said, what do you prefer? It was like bear.

One was like 70s afro. One was like, what was it? It was just like clean. It was like... One was like, ew, what the F? Yeah, one was like, ew, what the F? And one was like a charred lawn. What was it like?

No, half and half. It was like mulch. It was half and half. I don't think I used that word. Mulch? Ladies, I took one for the team, and I put a survey on Twitter, and I asked girls what they prefer for men, because I was shocked that Taylor told me that he was completely bare, and he decided to do a whole episode on it.

I think that's like episode five if you guys want to hear but my burning question is what kind of razor do you use to go bare because that's like a big situation maybe we can get a razor company to sponsor the show yeah no i mean i i actually what is the brand is it bick any of the any of the the the dual the chart the chart sorry the the three razors get the nice clean shave. The Dollar Shave Club? No, I feel like it's a purple Venus. You know, there's a saying that I quoted for this, and it was, once you go bare, you don't go hair.

Holy shit. Oh, my God. That should be your Bumble profile. Okay. So, girls, if you see this smooth dolphin of a man on Bumble, hit him up. Let him know what's going on up let him know what's going on because you know what's going on down there now my buddy wesson's gonna force him into the asian massage parlor which he is fighting against we got to keep the sex drive up though anyway okay

so i've had enough of this bare naked talk last night we went to dantanas has anyone been because it's very good and it's very good were you able eat at Dan Tana's with those new watermelon jerky cavities? Yeah, I have cavities. I got two cavities from eating watermelon jerky. That's a true story, you guys. I literally ate watermelon jerky too much and got cavities. And Michael's been making fun of me. Well, the reason this is so good is because she's been annoying me with watermelon jerky

and saying it's the next best thing since sliced bread for the last five months. And then she went to her dentist and said, this watermelon jerky is saying it's the next best thing since sliced bread for the last five months and then she went to her dentist and said this watermelon jerky is rotting your teeth i still have not tried the watermelon jerky i don't know how i dodged that bullet i don't know no the reason being is because it tastes like you're eating twizzlers so twizzlers aren't good for your teeth watermelon you are out to lunch no that's what it tastes like it tastes like you're eating twizzlers but jerky you should never wake up at 4 38 again in the morning because i don't know it doesn't taste anything like twizzlers i'm not saying it tastes like i'm saying the consistency it's very

gelatinous is that a word yeah so yeah we went to um so lauren's got rotted teeth now because i got it fixed um they should get like gold teeth. No, no, no, no. I just wanted, I got my cavities fixed. They numbed me, which wasn't bad because I'm already half numb from jaw surgery. So I'm probably the first person on the planet though to get cavities from watermelon jerky. There was something about like the hand to mouth thing with watermelon jerky where I would pull the strips and just eat it in bed at night. It's so good, Jordan. You can't make that face.

You guys, there's something, This is not a pitch for anything. It's not sponsored. I just love watermelon jerky. I have a weird addiction. It tastes like a sweaty gym sock. You've never tried it. Yes, I have. You have?

So then we went to, last night, Jordan Nico came up last night to hang out before the podcast today, because it's an early one. It's 9.30 this morning. We went to Dan Tana's. Every time he says Dan Tanaantanas he does an accent and I primarily can't go there again because you do the accent every time. I feel like you need to do that one more time. Dantanas.

Awkward. Dantanas reminds me of New York. Gary Busey was there. He was shoving pasta down his throat, going ballistic. That was nice to see. I ate the most delicious pasta. We had a chopped salad. We had a little melon and prosciutto.

Some Caesar salad. Their Caesar salad is good. Yeah, it's so good. Lauren and Jordan ended up drinking and staying up till three in the morning, telling each other they weren't friends, as girls do. I don't know why you guys do that every time. Nico's trying to mediate. I went to bed.

No, Jordan and I were having a come-to come to Jesus meeting and we had a little too much to drink. I don't ever party. I never do anything. I'm such a bore. So God forbid I go to Dantana's and have like one too many. We told you we were coming up here to let loose and relax. Do you know how to let loose, honey?

Yeah, I did. Have some carbs, have some pasta. Yeah. Had a little carbs, a little bread, a little butter. I loved it. So that's pretty much all that's been going on. Just meeting Shaq, following up with Taylor's date life, hitting Dantanas, filling cavities, doing a little work.

And before we get into the show, Jordan, we got some questions. I think we'll take a quick break and then we'll get into it. We need a champagne refill. Yep. We'll be right back. This is the Skinny Confidential. Him and her. We're back.

And when we had a break, we discussed watermelon jerky. Everyone was curious. Kevin was Googling it. If you want to Google it, it's on the Skinny Confidential. It shows you how to make it at home. Or you can buy it on Sakura Life. What's pretty cool is you pop up number one in the Google search for watermelon jerky. I didn't know that until we just did it.

Yeah, because I'm obsessed with it. I am obsessed with watermelon jerky. It's a strange addiction, I know. But there's been weirder. Every watermelon jerky company should just be paying you now. Because literally companies that make watermelon jerky can't even rank themselves. No one makes it besides one person. It's a new thing, you guys.

It's not something that's, like, around. Well, if they keep giving cavities, it's not going to be around for too much longer. During the break, Taylor said that it tastes like eating the flesh of a wild animal. No, I mean, the texture is, it looks like it... If you look at it, it looks like, you know, a charred animal. I'm just curious, like, where... Like, how does your mind go there, of all places? Like, a wild animal's flesh? Well, because of the watermelon, when it dehydrates, it looks like, like where, like how does your mind go there of all places? Like a wild animal's flesh?

Well, because of the watermelon, when it dehydrates, it looks like, you know, burnt remains. I've never really thought of it like that. I've just thought of it as watermelon. But if you guys haven't tried it, try it. But don't eat too much because you'll get cavities like me. And by the way, there's no sugar added to it. It's just watermelon. So yes, I got cavities from watermelon.

And it's really pink. Like it's so pink. What areities from watermelon and it's really pink like it's so pink what are we describing here it's this is it's so pink jesus christ okay let's get this show's taking a turn babe can you pour us some more champagne a little refill thank god we have nico here yep as our steward jeeves nico's also my lawyer and champagne pourer today. Yep. You are very talented. Jack of all trades. He's charging you. Yeah. God.

All right. Let's get into the questions, guys. Okay. Anonymous asks, why anonymous? Give your name next time, people. Do you ever get overwhelmed by expectations for your online slash digital slash social media presence? No, but me and Lauren will probably have different answers on this. I don't. I assume with what

Lauren's answer is going to come in, it's going to say yes, because there's a lot to live up to with her platform and what she's putting out there. But for me, it's kind of just become part of my life. I probably could do a better job at getting more social media content out there. But for me, it's just, I don't, I don't really get overwhelmed by it. I don't think that's the right word. What I do is I do think that it's part of our job. It's part of my, my everyday life. Now I have to actually like think about putting out content on a daily basis.

I'm not so good on Instagram, but I'm working on a lot on Snapchat. So yeah, I mean, it's just part of it. It's just like one of those things you get out of bed and it's like part of the to-do list for the day. I get so overwhelmed by social media, as you know, Jordan, but you, you like take days off, which I think is really, really healthy because it's so much, there's just so much to post and it's every single day. So taking a full day and just taking a break, I feel like you love those. Yeah. I do that on a Sunday. I probably do it twice a month on a Sunday where I just don't Snapchat. I don't Instagram. I don't do anything. I just need a break. I need to step away.

There's pressure the second you wake up to be constantly posting what you're doing, what you're eating, where you're going. I do try to take even chunks of the day off. Like I'll take two hours off and then I'll put a lot of work into the next hour. I think that social media in general for anyone, and Michael might not agree with me, but if you're a woman, there's pressure. There just is. And it's just kind of part of it. And it's part of what I do. You know, I'm constantly texting, like we need new content. We need this, we need that. It's, it's pressure. Yeah. I mean, now there's this whole thing, like basically people say that influencers should be posting a certain amount of times per day. And there's this like threshold

that you need to meet. We did like a, we did a piece on that though. And we said, you know, it's not, there is that pressure, but I think that's a false pressure. I think you need to find what your audience is responding to and then post accordingly. A lot of people go, Oh, I see this person posting three times a day. I need to do the same thing. And if they haven't discovered what their audience likes and what the audience will respond to, sometimes they can come off as like oversaturating their space or, you know, kind of putting out the wrong formula for their success. So I think when I say I don't get overwhelmed, it's because I'm not really paying attention so much to what other people are doing. I'm trying to just produce for myself. What is a little bit,

what I can, if I was going to use the word overwhelming when we're doing Snapchat, for example, how interesting is it to see me sitting in my office all day long? It's not interesting. So you've got to show movement. You've got to like show patterns. You. You got to, you got to show interesting things. And if you're not doing that, that can get a little bit overwhelming. So yeah, there's a little bit of pressure for that. I will say you get used to it. You get used to it. Don't you think it kind of over overwhelms like some of your moments too? Cause I remember when we were at the wedding, we were trying to get some pictures and it's like, everyone's hanging out, you know, you want to socialize, but then you got to get a photo.

Yeah. But that's what I've signed up for. I've signed up for something that's constantly 24 seven working. And a big part of that is what I'm doing in my life. And so I'm okay with it. I'm not complaining about it, but can it get overwhelming? Yes. But it's also sort of ingrained in me. It's something I just do every day. It's like brushing my teeth. I wake up and I Snapchat my coffee. Like it's just kind of what you do. I think you need to pick and choose the moments. Absolutely. There's a lot of times where I'll put my phone away and just like, you know, turn it off. But a lot of the stuff that I'm doing on a day-to-day basis does need to be Snapchat or Instagrammed or blogged about. So I'm constantly thinking about content. You know,'s overwhelming? The lighting. Oh, I hate bad lighting.

If anybody sees me with Lauren in an event, I swear to God, we have to take so many photos in the right light. I mean, it's a constant struggle to find out where the sun is, where it's not. Is it in front of us? Is it behind us? It drives me insane.

I can't do bad lighting. Lauren, can you give us just an overview, a summary of what good lighting means? I don't know the technicalities of it. I just know what looks good and what doesn't. I would definitely recommend getting a Diva light if you're inside. It's amazing. It's a perfect selfie light. I don't use it for every single selfie, but if you want great light when you're filming,

get a diva light, a ring light. The girl at the wedding goes, hey, Lauren, haven't seen you since third grade. Remember we were best friends? She goes, not now. I got to get some good light. Well, the light was really good. You basically stiff-armed the girl. No, I didn't.

It was 6.02. 6.02 is like an ideal time, and the light was there. She's like, enjoy your chicken kebab. I'll be right back. I got to get the good light. Not 6 o'clock. 6.02, guys. Everyone write that down in your calendars.

602 is a great time. It's prime time. Set an alarm so that you can take a photo at 602. Here's the other thing. If you're all dressed up and you put a lot of effort into it and you did your hair, I washed my hair for once in two weeks, did my eyebrows, like my mascara's good, I'm wearing a dress with my tits popping out a couple times. But I want to take a picture of that.

I didn't get the picture I wanted, though. But to give some value to this answer in terms of answering a question about being overwhelmed with social media, I think the best advice I could give is to stay in your own lane and worry about what you're doing. Don't get caught in the spiral of looking at what other people are doing other influencers other people on social media friends family Whoever because when you start paying attention to every little detail about what everybody else is doing It's distracting and it takes you out of what you should be doing and what you should be focusing on And I think that's what causes people to get overwhelmed. Absolutely And and i've said this before and i'll say it again

I asked bethany frankel when I went and worked for skinny girl What's your your biggest tip? And she said, stay in your own lane, be like a swimmer, focus on the end goal. You do you. And that is what I think ultimately brings followers is when someone's so focused on what they're doing and not so focused on what everyone else is doing. The comparison game is a losing game. It's I'm telling you, comparing is a waste of time, a waste of energy, and a waste of space in your head. I agree. Okay, let's get into the second question.

Another anonymous asks, Michael and Bare Naked Cucumber, what are your thoughts on guys who watch porn? What are my thoughts on guys who watch porn? Take it away, Taylor. Every guy watches porn. And if they say they don't they're lying period

end of story i was gonna say the same thing uh but the the interesting thing is i'm curious we got girls here getting pissed no no i mean well they shouldn't because you know what all the girls listening to this if you say you don't watch porn you're probably lying too but there is a movie called don juan and it has to do with a girl who gets in a relationship with a guy who's a porn fanatic and it played the central part of the movie is how much porn he watches so to the degree and you identify with this man no no i don't i'm just saying i think most people watch porn to some degree i mean yeah there's some freaky stuff out there, so I guess it's twofold. It depends on what porn they're watching and how much they are watching.

I mean, if it's like, oh— No, listen, listen, listen. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. You're going down a weird path here. Taylor needs to change his username to Don Juan immediately. Screw tails, you die. It needs to be Don Juan. No, no, I'm not advocating.

I'm trying to play devil's advocate saying it depends on the situation because porn in itself isn't yeah i guess it could be bad but it depends on the amount of porn that they watch taylor is very scientific about this analysis of guys i'm just gonna say like listen sometimes you're you sometimes you got to get going you know i actually i actually adjusted your porn watching um routine i took the coconut vaseline chemical filled butter and put a big thing of coconut oil raw and unrefined yeah so thank you for that you're welcome i love you so much but lauren it's funny it's like you know i don't i don't like get caught watching porn because that's just super awkward i don't need i don't need lauren to be busting in if i'm watching porn but the other day she like had all these dvds out and

god i hope my parents and our godparents and everyone's listening wait you realize i'm your sister and i'm sitting right here yeah that's fine you can hear let's go pg on this i was looking for my book light because at night lauren turns off the lights and i was trying to read so i have those like one of those little things that clips to your book you know so you can read in the dark how seventh grade of you and i was like searching around. So I have those, like one of those little things that clips to your book, you know, so you can read in the dark. How seventh grade of you? And I was like searching around in the, in the, in the drawer, but this is where Lauren keeps the porn. And so while I was searching, I was like throwing all the porn DVDs all over the place and backing up. Yeah. Lauren, Lauren got us some porn so we could watch it together once in a while,

which is also cool. So let's fist bump that. Okay. She's not fist bumping me, but that is way too TMI anyways. So I was digging around and all the porn DVDs were flying everywhere, but I was looking for my book light and she comes in in like a flurry with her hair all messed up in a storm. Like, were you watching porn? And I was like, listen, I'm looking for my book light and it was super awkward. I had to explain and like.

Remember that one time I checked your history and screenshotted it and sent it to you? Do you know what's creepy though? Why did you get the Ray J, Kim Kardashian porn? There's history. Okay. My friend, Carly, love you, gave me all the celebrity porn just to like watch for fun. So she gave me Paris Hilton. She gave me Kim Kardashian.

She gave me another one. Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee. No, no, no. I need HD. Yeah, we know. We know you need HD. I saw that on your computer when I checked your history. I love checking your history.

Every guy in this office is like shaking their head. You guys are disgusting. Listen, you don't need some grainy thing that you're trying to like figure out and decipher what's what. I actually don't think it's disgusting that all guys watch porn. I actually think it's like something that guys just have to do. I think it's like having a huge pimple on your face, you guys. You have to pop the pimple. It's an itch you need to scratch.

Okay. But do you need to get so into this HD and all that? Well, listen, I need to make sure that I'm actually looking at a female and not a couch or something. I need to be able to decipher what's going on. All the guys in this office, you guys, just to let you know, are shaking their heads. So if you think your boyfriend doesn't watch porn or your husband, you're wrong. They do that face. We could do a whole episode on the evolution of porn because it's gotten way better. Well, here's the deal.

Why do girls care if guys watch porn? I don't care. I don't care either. I mean, I could understand why you would care if it's affecting your sex life and the guy's like only watching porn and not paying attention to you. Like, that would suck. But what do you care? I mean, there's a lot going on.

What's your porn preference? Like, do you like girl on girl or are you more like for like the firefighter that comes home and like the cheating wife? Like what's your prep? No, I switch it up. You know, I don't go too crazy, though. I don't like I'm not there's nothing weird. You know, I feel like I don't like context.

I just like, you know, we both know they're both there for something specific. You know, there's he's not there to fix the light. She's not there to, you know, babysit the kids. They're there to just get straight down to it the ones that are weird are when it's like the mom and dad come home and they find the daughter and they punish the daughter and you're like oh she's in trouble and then like the mom and dad like what end up hooking up with the daughter like that's a little strange i always wonder about like who's coming i'm like literally considering like not marrying you what are you talking about who's coming up with that sick story who is watching that well or there's a scenario where like the mom comes home and the daughter is you

know with a man and the dot and the mom comes in instead of yelling at the daughter joins everybody here is a little confused because it's weird it's like okay like you know i can't imagine me and lauren have a daughter at one point we're like listen you've been a bad girl like and then they like start hooking up with the daughter i'm like this is strange i'm getting on bumble and my bio is going to be amazing and so on brand. I'm so over you. You're sick. You can take your porn and go over there.

We should probably get back to the question on... What are our thoughts on porn? Wait, I feel like we didn't get a clear answer from Tay. Yeah, Tay, what's your porn choice? Be honest. Get deep. Real deep. I don't know.

That's a difficult question. Well, he just said he went from being an ass man to a tit man. i don't know that's a difficult question he just said he went from being an ass man to a tit man that's recent that's a new yeah but when it comes to the porn field tits or ass you can you you know actually that's where you can get both you've been really titty lately though i've caught i've caught you checking out my tits like 40 times you're looking at them right now no that was a glance i have a really funny story actually about porn and then like we can move on. I guess we've addressed the point that every guy watches porn.

Girls, if you don't like it, you better get used to it because you're not going to stop it. It's just part of being a guy. Wait, really quick. Do you check when I'm on Snapchat, when I'm somewhere, before you watch it? How do you gauge where I am? I have a lot of people. I got Taylor in the field. I say, Taylor, get me a 1020 on where she's at. No, I'm just kidding. No, I don't really get that in depth, but I have

a funny story and then we'll move on. I have a buddy who ended up watching porn and he was telling me this story and he probably shouldn't have told me the story because now I tell it to everybody, but he ended up watching porn and he's like, yeah, I was watching this porn and then I was going at it and then I was finishing. And right when I finished, I realized that it was a he-she. And the woman was actually not a woman. It was a he-she. There's nothing wrong with that, though. Different strokes for different folks.

He said that he finished, and then the person turned around, and it had a big old dick. I'm going to be honest. After this conversation, I feel like all of you guys in this room and Nico and Kevin and everyone that's here have done weirder. Maybe don't watch HeShePorn. That's your thing. I guess that's your thing. If that's your thing. I have an embarrassing story that happened to myself and I'm surprised

I'm telling this, but it's not It could be worse. When I was in high school, I was watching a porn and I don't know why I left on the screen but I paused it and you know usually with the screen when you walk away it goes black there was a girl that came over that I was dating at the time and she walks into the bedroom and this was probably like I think it was the second time I'd ever hung out with her she goes onto the computer

like oh hey like let me check something on the computer and she like moves the mouse the screensaver is on and it goes away and, and just some big-titted girl just getting blasted. And I had to... She's like, what is this? And my reaction was, of course, I said, I think my sister was down here using my computer. Needless to say, they broke up.

How did this show go so far astray? No, no. It's because of the question, not because of the people. Okay. So anyways, yes, that's our answer. Taylor and I think we're both in agreeance, Taylor, that every guy watches porn. Hopefully it's not too aggressive and it's not ruining your sex life. Hopefully it's enhancing it.

It needs to enhance it. It enhances ours. Okay, let's do a total 360 and talk about business. The next question is another anonymous and she or he is asking, what's one of the biggest sacrifices you've had to make in order to help grow your career? That really is a complete 360. Time, time, time, time, time. Time.

Well, I think that's in any business, right? You're going to sacrifice personal time and freedom. But I'd say with this particular business, it's a lot of stress on a relationship and it's a lot on privacy because we're out there, we're on social media, we're on Snapchat, we're on here. As this has gone on, there's been less and less privacy, which is fine. That's part of of the field and we like what we're doing. We love what we're doing, but yeah, I'd say privacy and then strenuous relationship because we have to work together so closely all the time that it's definitely like there's, it's, it's been difficult to decipher when it's time to switch off work and when it's time to get back into the relationship. Yeah. I think that that's been

difficult. I think it's a dance and you learn the dance. When I go right, he goes left and we've had to learn that. Sometimes we were both going right. But definitely time for me. I have to put a lot of time into what I do. It takes a lot of time. I think the more effortless something looks, the more time it takes. And that's an interesting concept if you think about it. The more effortless something looks, the more time it takes. And that's an interesting concept. If you think about it, the more effortless something looks, the more time it takes. So I try to make everything look very effortless and whimsical and on brand and feminine. And it takes a lot of time and whether that's editing photos or getting the right light or the right outfit or the right, you know, food for a blog post and writing it and editing it and spell checking it and, and, you know, making sure everything's linked. Like it goes on and on and on. And the emails and the behind the scenes, as you know, I love those emails. The emails are like, we probably get 200 to 500 emails a day. Each. No. And I've said this before. Like if you're going to go into business and you're going

to start developing your career, like you're going to have to give things up. Like maybe you're not going to be out on that Friday night drinking with friends. Maybe you're not going to be out Saturday at the beach. Like that just comes with the territory. If you want to have your own business, I mean, or if you want to develop your own career, it just, it just comes with the territory. I know Nico's here. He's my lawyer. And I've seen him start his new law firm, which is, um, in Becerra law. If you guys are looking for a good lawyer and I've just seen like the guy is slammed, stuck in the office, and it just comes with the territory. He's a budding entrepreneur.

He's just starting his law career, and it just takes time. And I think people that think that when they work for themselves that it buys them freedom or tricking themselves, you have a little bit of financial freedom, but you also have the stress of carrying that business on your shoulders, and you lose a lot of that personal time that you may have had before you got into that. Someone asked me the other day, they said, I'm mentoring this girl and I'm going to do this on the Skinny Confidential. So I'm picking like two or three girls a year that I'm going to mentor.

And her name's Deepa and she's amazing. Hi. So anyways, she asked if I'm overwhelmed. And I said, I'm overwhelmed all day long. And I really am. I'm overwhelmed all day long. And I need to get that under control. And that's something that I'm working on.

Like I said, I try to wake up and meditate. But when you are running your own business, I don't care what it is. It's overwhelming. Whether you're a lawyer or what Michael's doing or a marketer, whatever it is, it's overwhelming. It just is. Don't you think it all kind of evens out? Like, it pays off.

Like, would you have it any other way? No, I get off on it. It's funny. I was training with Seth, who was on the show last week. I was training with him yesterday, and he said, you know, do you ever have those thoughts where you said, maybe just go, quit what you're doing, disappear, and go to Bali or something, and just stop?

And my mind just doesn't think like that. I can picture myself going there for a vacation, having a great time, and go to Bali or something and just stop. And my mind just doesn't think like that. I can picture myself going there for a vacation, having a great time, but I know just being me, I thrive on the pressure. I love it. I wouldn't want to be away from this kind of pressure.

I wouldn't want to not be overwhelmed. I like the feeling. I think life is very boring if you're just sitting there going through it slowly. I like a fast-paced life. That's why I love New York so much. And so yeah, you're going to sacrifice time. You're going to sacrifice some privacy with this type of business. You're going to sacrifice some relationship. I know some people like think about the dad that doesn't have as much time to spend with his kids. Like that comes with it. You got to decide what you want out of life. And if you,

if you're not being honest with yourself about that, then yeah, you're going to, those sacrifices are going to hurt. But if you're being like totally honest, like for me, yeah, I like the fast pace. I don't mind that me and Lauren's relationship gets put through the test when we're working together. I don't mind sacrificing a little privacy because I love what I'm doing. So you need to make that decision. Yeah, I totally agree with you. I think you need to decide what you want to do and kind of readjust accordingly.

It just depends. And I think as a blogger, like I said, you're blogging about your life. It's at least I am. And that there's a lot of different things that are cons that come with that. Yeah. Privacy is a big one. Privacy is a big one. I'm very, very private in a lot of different ways. People would be shocked as you know, I'm very protective of my family and my friends. But I will say something that is a pro out of this. What this business has done for me is it's allowed me to put my eggs in the basket that really matters. So friendships that maybe don't matter, I put all my eggs in the ones that do because I only have a limit, like a limited amount of time. Yeah.

It's made you prioritize for sure. Absolutely. Absolutely. So yes, that's probably it. And just one, like one, I'll say one last thing on it.

He always likes to say so much talk about like entrepreneurs and, and getting everybody set up to be like a business owner or start their own career. And I'm a big proponent of that. And I really do believe in that. I think everybody should have, like I said, they should have a side thing. They should try to get their own business set up. They should take a stab at life. They should put themselves out there. But I think before any of that can occur, you need to have a really honest conversation with yourself. And I don't mean to say you need in a way to be off-putting.

I mean, like a person needs to sit down and say, okay, I'm having this conversation with myself. Do I really want this stress? Do I really want this pressure? Do I really want the responsibility of this business? Do I want to be responsible for other people? Do I really have the patience? Do you have the patience? Do you have the persistence? All these things we've talked about, if you can come out of them and say, yes, I do. And it's an honest answer, then just be ready to make some sacrifices. But if you, if you ask yourself those questions, like, you know what? Nah, not really. Like there's nothing wrong with that. Just don't do like what society is telling you and be like, I have to do that because that's what people, I've read this book or that's what Michael's saying. Like, be honest with yourself, be honest with who you are, and then go from there. You won't feel overwhelmed. The struggle for me is worth the reward. I feel like we should make a segment of Michael's one last thing. Totally.

He always has one last thing. There it is. We might as well just add it in. It's usually the most valuable thing in the show. Oh, that's cute that you think that. That was valuable, though. That was good advice. I'm taking that one to heart. Okay, well, you should put that in your Tinder bio if you had one.

So, Bare Naked, anything else to say about any plugs for the dating scene? One phrase. Help me. Oh my God. You guys help me build it. Not actually like, I don't need help. We're confused. He's taking applications. If you want to see him, you can head over to his social media. It's super creepy because he let you know what time he woke up this morning, which was because I'm a, I'm a really cool person i'm a great guy i am creative what kind of porn do you like you got to get to know me no no i mean i think once people break down my my my rugged exterior they'll find this i don't know how rugged you can be with that bare naked i'm a very tender and warm warming caring person tender that's an interesting way to describe you

rugged to caring and warm I think you're all over the place we need to we need to do like we were talking about brand profiles last week I think I need to do a brand profile for your dating scene everyone's wondering if you're going to put that on the skinny confidential by the way I'm working on it all right you guys we are out of here. We had fun today. We had a couple laughs. Remember to subscribe. Tell your friends, tell your family, tell everyone. Submit questions to Snapchat and Twitter. You can use the hashtag AskKimAndHer on Twitter,

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