The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - #37: Steve Houck - Married... Finally! Locked Down, Game Over.

Episode Date: November 15, 2016

Fresh off tying the knot, Lauryn & Michael are joined by Steve Houck to talk a little bit of wedding shenanigans and transformational consulting. Steve Houck specializes in personal & professional coaching, transformation, and time management. He shares the amusing story of how he met Lauryn and the impact he has had on her life goals. The trio, also highlight Lauryn & Michael's special day, an intimate - Gothic themed & drama infused Wedding! From Michael's blackout hairdo to everyone winding up in the pool with their clothes on, this installment of "The Skinny Confidential Him & Her," is nothing short of eventful! To connect with Lauryn click HERE To connect with Michael click HERE This episode is brought to you by The Skinny Confidential Bombshell Body Guide and Meal plan.  tired of combating inflammation & bloat? Want to feel lighter and sexier? Check out lauryn’s latest 7 day meal plan. In this simple & super effective plan you’ll find: + tsc grocery list with every ingredient you need for the 7 days. + what the f*ck to do when you love carbs guide. + quick and delicious recipes: breakfast, snacks, lunch, dinner and dessert. You will also find 28 weeks worth of fat burning, muscle toning, 27 minute long, effective workouts you can do at home with no equipment. USE PROMO CODE: HIMANDHER at Checkout for 20% Off

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A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the Skinny Confidential, him and her. Ah-ha! Welcome back, guys.

For those of you who don't know me, I'm Lauren Everts, creator of the blog and brand, The Skinny Confidential. Are you Lauren Bostic now? Oh, shit. You might be. I am Michael Bostic.

I don't love signing a B. Newly married man. Game over. Game over. You're dead. Life is over. Your introduction should just be like, I'm Michael Bostic and I'm dead. I'm dead i'm dead so as always we

want to thank you guys for subscribing and listening and rating our podcast your snapchat messages have been unbelievable we really appreciate the reviews and the messages on social media if you guys have not rated or reviewed the show please do so even if it's just a one star drop us a line and let us know how we can continue to improve. And of course, if you like the show, let your friends, boyfriends, dogs, sisters, brothers know so we can continue to grow this amazing community. The amazing community. Yeah. Michael's a little hungover.

I'm a little hungover. Be honest with how hungover you are. Very hungover. Today's going to be a very hungover, very interesting show. Newly married. Your voice is sounding like really rough too because I hear you screaming. And we're here with our good friend, Steve. Hello, Steve.

Hello. So Steve is one of my best friends. He's become one of Michael's best friends. And we decided to make Steve, well actually I manipulated him and forced him over here to be on our podcast today because a lot of you guys have met him through my blog, but you've never met him through the podcast. And we're so hungover that we needed to take the pressure off ourselves and have somebody else step in. Really diabolical of me. I guess they were really stretching for content.

Really stretching. It's a stretch today. I mean, we've basically been on a bender for five or six days down here partying for this wedding. A lot of alcohol. A lot of alcohol. A lot of alcohol. Steve actually said that there was tequila tables on the table and they were gone in two minutes. Less than two minutes. My group of friends, our group of friends, they like to party.

I watched, what, 60 people devour two cases of Karma tequila within about a minute and a half. We love karma. Karma is our favorite tequila. It was all down the table. We had a super gothic wedding. I'm going to show you guys all the details on the blog. Think drama, drama, drama. I feel like I've said the word drama six million times this week, but I had to explain what I was wanting.

I think the hotel was excited to have us, but I think they're even more excited to have us leave. What did they say to you about the tequila? They said, we've done a lot of wedding parties down here, and I've never seen anyone drink this much tequila in my life. Well, it was a sight. It was a sight. We love our karma. All right, so before we get into the show, I want Steve to introduce himself so you guys can have a little context. So I'm Steve, Steve Howell.

Good friends to Michael and Lauren, but a lot of people have asked what I do. Aside from being in high technology and enterprise software for years, I also work a lot with personal and professional coaching. And aside from being friends, I've worked with Lauren and others both in personal and professional coaching. And that's what I do. A lot of calendaring. Calendaring. Steve is actually – you've helped us. You've done a big coaching session with us earlier this year. Relationship coaching.

No, but on the Skinny Confidential as well. Yeah. The Strategic Future by Design. Yeah. We did a compelling Strategic Future by Design, is that what it's called? Yes. Okay. And how would you describe what you do?

You kind of basically help us get a framework for what we're trying to accomplish. Well, at its base, it's called transformational consulting. So whether you're a couple, a person, or a business, we're always striving for a constant state of transformation and growth. And so the genesis of what I do is transformational consulting. And we worked, as you said, on the strategic future by design. That was looking at how you transform the skinny confidential. We've done some work with Lauren and you about transforming your lives and, and a strategic future as you get married. And the basis of it is transformation.

Is there an accelerator class for Lauren on the transformation now that she's a married woman? So we're, we're working on that. I thought we had moved a little bit faster, but well, the calendaring has taken me a little long to get my head wrapped married woman. So we're working on that. I thought we would move a little bit faster. Well, the calendaring has taken me a little long to get my head wrapped around it. So it's one thing we work on is,

Lauren calls it calendaring, but it's probably the most fundamental aspect of transformation is time management. I think most people who are struggling with transformation struggle with the fundamental management of time and where they spend their time. And more importantly, that time is burned up by conversation. So what we worked on with Lauren is first get a budget on your time, being on time, spending time in the right areas. You told me time is currency.

Time is currency. And it's just like a check. If you book two things at the same time, or you try to make two commitments at the same time, you're going to bounce that check. You're going to bounce that conversation. And in the end, what you're doing is compromising your integrity. Then you lose credibility. And you lose credibility.

And you're certainly not going to transform. What's funny is during the wedding, we did our vows and I wrote them all out and I had them in this book to read is the what's funny is during the wedding we did our vows and my i wrote them all out and i had them in this book to read at the altar and my first vow before my first thing i said before the vows was i was setting out to thank lauren for being on time for our wedding but if you remember i had to actually scratch that one out because you were not on time for our wedding i would have never been on time for our wedding. In fact, I was sitting in the room completely ready to go. I couldn't be on time for our wedding because it wasn't on brand.

Well, we're going to talk about that. I was standing up there for a while. We were all standing and waiting. I needed to have a dramatic entrance. Oh, you did. Yes, you did. I thought that was good. You told me in my vows you'd promise to lie about the time.

Yeah. Well, it was great, but I was standing up there for a long time in a suit with a bow tie in the hot Cabo sun, melting. Well, I got my drama. I had my dramatic entrance. I needed it. So you can see time and calendaring is fundamental. We're still working on. We're working on it. But I have gotten a lot better. In fact, I was waiting for you at the bar the other day at the Peninsula at 4.40. No, 4.58.

We were supposed to meet at 5 and you got there at 5.08. So I'm feeling you. No, I was there at 5. I was just on the other side of the bar. No, you were not. Yes, I was. You were. 5. I was just on the other side of the bar. No, you were not. Yes, I was. You were? Yeah. You were hiding on the other side?

Yeah. Okay. You and Jordan were sitting at the bar. I was on the other side. We were ready to go. But you were on. You were actually early. And that's one of the other things is if you're not 10 minutes early, you're late.

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you have to get into the story and set it up of how we met you guys should tell the story how you guys met because I think it's one of the funniest stories of all time I'll let Steve tell it he loves to tell it it's his favorite story ever so as part of what I do in technology you guys met because I think it's one of the funniest stories of all time. I'll let Steve tell it. He loves to tell it. It's his favorite story ever. So as part of what I do in technology, I was working with a technology company in San Diego that was raising money at the time.

And I had spent time in San Diego on business, but this was going to be a longer assignment. So I would be in town every two weeks for two weeks at a time and took up residence at the inn in Rancho Santa Fe. And my first night in, as some of you may know, Rancho is pretty quiet after 7.30 p.m. I walked down to the only bar that seemed open at that time was Delicioso. And this was only about 8 p.m. and I see the door open and I walk in and there's a blonde girl with a sweatshirt on, I think was eating off someone's plate.

I'm pretty sure you were. And looked at me and asked me what I wanted. She goes, what do you want? Completely, I think she was ready to be out the door. And I said, well, you know, can I get some food? Are you closed? Like, what time do you close? Lauren's like 10.

It's like, so she yells back to the kitchen. Hey, can we get him some food? That's service. It says I'm a servant. So I was immediately intrigued. Right. And I figured this is someone that would keep me entertained on my assignments. So I sat down to have dinner at the bar that night and got to know Lauren and it was incredibly entertaining.

But there were, what, three, four other guys at the bar that night. And it quickly became evident to me that Lauren knew these people and they had grown up together. And they were all talking, I think, about why they didn't sleep with a certain girl. It was all the same girl. And I leaned over and asked Lauren if this was a gay bar because these guys were, you know, arguing about why they didn't sleep with this girl. Anyway, the place became so intriguing.

Lauren became my source of entertainment, but we became fast friends. And I, what, ate dinner there every night. He ate every night. Surprising you live to tell the tale, considering how much bar chemicals she put in those glasses. So I start getting this horrific sore throat and anyone who's familiar with bar chemicals, the three step process for washing

the glasses, Lauren put chemicals in every process. Yeah, I'm not a good bartender. What can I say? You almost killed me though. My martinis had head on them. They had foam. But you kept coming back. I did. This is my problem with you and Michael.

You guys complain about me, but I can't cut you out. I can't quit you. You guys keep coming. Gluttons for punishment. You're like herpes. It was... I don't know if I want to be described as herpes, but... No, it was fun, and I really got a sense of the community in Rancho Santa Fe.

About the third time in, Lauren asked me what I did for a living. People who know me, I don't often talk about me. I like to turn the tables. So I told Lauren I was a reality TV producer. And she immediately went on stage.

100%. There was a fucking runway behind the bar after he told me that. I was making moves. I was doing dances. I all of a sudden went to the back and put mascara and lip gloss on. I was like, enough about me. What do you think about me? Like the WB frog. The WB frog.

That was me. And so as my strategy goes, she knows very little about me. And about a weekend, I know a lot about Lauren. I know a lot about the town of Rancho Santa Fe. And I hear a lot about Michael. Unbeknownst to me, Lauren is going home and telling Michael that there's a new guy in town hitting on you. Yeah. I was like, there's this new guy in town. He won't leave me alone. He keeps coming in. I think he's obsessed. I like to stir the pot a little bit with Michael.

I don't get too riled up about that, though. I'm like, okay. Yeah, you were fine. I tried to make you jealous. Another one of my wedding vows was that I will always do my best to believe your many exaggerations. And you do that well. Thank you. I love drama.

So as we got to know each other, Lauren's like, oh, you've got to meet Michael. I think she was trying to make me jealous and compete more. Ultimately, her tips were going higher. They were. I don't know. I was getting good tips. But it all came to a crashing close for you one night. Eight months later.

When, I guess, what, I was arguing over a text message or something? You were arguing over a text message, and I said, what's wrong? And what, I was arguing over a text message or something. You were arguing over a text message and I said, what's wrong? Yeah. And what did I say? You said, oh, my significant other. Yeah. Just jealous, jealous. And I said, tell her to be quiet.

Like, she needs to get over it. We're just friends. And I, at that point, because I don't hide anything until I let her know that there was my boyfriend and her face just went. I mean, her whole strategy with Michael and the tips and everything else just went out the door. I had this whole strategy and this whole plan and you said that and I had to go to the back and collect myself. So then I met Steve and I said, Lauren, I don't think he's hitting on you.

I think he's hitting on me. And Mike and I became fast friends. We did. And met both families. And at that time, Lauren was beginning the blog. And she began to tell me about her focus for the blog. And I was really impressed. I mean, not only was Lauren incredibly creative,

but she had an extreme focus and strategy for the blog. You know what's funny, though? At the time, a lot of people were like, what are you doing? I don't think so. And I was always in support of what Lauren was doing. And I think you were one of the only like maybe three to four other people that like clearly saw the vision and clearly thought, hey, this is a good idea and helped her execute. And you put together a PowerPoint for her and you kind of gave her some framework to how to get started and like how to look at the brand and what to do. And I think you were one of the first people to tell her to look at it as a brand.

No, and she ran. So it wasn't, you know, I like, I'm fascinated by people who have drive, vision, and can execute. And so when I saw what Lauren was up to, and it took me a while, a few days, when she kept talking about her blog, even me, I was like, blog, blog.

But then when she finally said, no, listen to what I'm doing, and I sat down and listened to her, I said, then I realized she was onto something and just put together a simple framework is three slides. But I'll tell you what, the two of you working together and where it is now, I look back at those slides. I mean, you guys have executed flawlessly on building this brand, building an engagement level with a community that is, you know, fully engaged with you. And it made me really happy.

I forget where we were. I think it was in Malibu. So we went to Malibu Farms. Love Malibu Farms. And that was the first time that I actually got an idea of how big the brand had come and how far it had come. Lauren had told me that, you know, this is getting big. In fact, we were sitting for lunch and what two girls came up and said, oh, you're Lauren

from the Skinny Confidential. And, you know, they expressed how much not only do they love the brand and the platform, but how much they're involved with it. Yeah, I think creating that community is really important. I don't want to be like a blogger that has like kind of a wall up. I want to be able to converse and talk with the community. But you made me this beautiful PowerPoint. You're totally underestimating what you did.

It was a beautiful PowerPoint with a timeline of what I should hit and when. So, for instance, he said you write a book in a year. You create a product line, you all over time. So you kind of were doing a creative strategic future by design for the skinny confidential without telling me you were doing it. This is where I'm interested in jumping in here. When you've seen a lot of different businesses start, you've seen some succeed, some fail. What do you like for people out there that are thinking about starting a brand or business, what do you think the biggest mistake is that they can make in the beginning?

I think the big, where I, I don't know if it's a mistake or a misconception, but where I see the biggest failures are when people enter whatever business it is purely for making money. And so I see a lot of people now that I know wanting to start to blog because of the story I relay about Lauren. But Lauren wasn't in it to make money. Obviously, she wanted to make money, but I think her first priority, and it was in your mission statement, was to be an authentic voice. And at that time, it was a focus on North County, San Diego. So she had this passion for blogging and she wanted to be an

authentic voice for lifestyle choices. And for this generation, like I want to be like a Martha Stewart, but cool that cusses and is edgy and fun for this generation. So there was a clarity. There's a clarity. So you think when people get started, if their main priority is to make money, that usually ends up? Yeah, I mean, if you're not a stockbroker or hedge fund, but if you're in most businesses, if you're not focused on creating value, right, if it's just how do I make money on this, that's the biggest flaw. There's a number of execution errors after that, but I see a lot of wealthy people, a lot of smart people look at whether it be blogging or they see

someone be successful with a product that they're like, oh, I can just go build another one and compete with them and be successful and make all this money. It usually doesn't work out if that's the driving force. It's really funny that you just said that because today I screenshotted this quote because it really spoke to me and it feels like the more success that I get, I have a long way to go. I haven't reached the potential I want to reach at all. But Oprah said, the reason I've been able to be so financially successful is my focus has never ever for one minute been money. And I think that what you just said is a hundred percent true. If you're so fixated on money, I feel like it takes so much energy and space that you can't really thrive.

Flourish is the word I want to use. Well, there's not the authenticity. But I'll tell you the second mistake is for creative people that do have that authenticity and create a brand, there becomes a point at scale which kind of this lack of acknowledgement of what it takes to finance things can be, you can underestimate that. And I think between you and Michael, both creative people, both smart business people, you've got this balance of authenticity of the brand, a commitment to your base, and a business acumen that's really making it work. We're trying. No, I think we're both creative in our own ways. Lauren's much more artsy creative. I don't know if that's the right word to describe her. I would like to be called a visionary every second. I'm your wife.

My wife's a visionary. I think what's important is when you're partnered with somebody that has a lot of that creativity, you need to figure a way to help them channel it and still execute on a business. I don't know the best way to do that. Michael's been amazing for me. And so has Steve, because both of them, they, I feel like both of them really get me. And, um, I, I, I, they just were saying before we started the podcast that I don't sometimes know how to communicate what's in my head, but both of them, they both give me the ability to be a better version of myself. I feel like without both of you, you'd be screwed. Yeah. And you know, there's people in my life, like my dad and Mike and Jen and Julie, like there's, I have a lot of

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That's Kopari, K-O-P-A-R-I, beauty.com slash skinny for 20% off. We get a lot of questions as well, like how do, you know, we're married now. We've been engaged for a long time, been together a long time. How do you work together? And we've answered this a few times our own way, but for people that you've coached, couples you've coached, what is usually the biggest, as you like to say, breakdown when it comes to having a relationship and also running a business together? And with finances too. Like how do you juggle it all? Well, whether it's a personal relationship, business relationship.

I mean we're human beings, so we don't separate them. So fundamentally, the failures in business or the breakdowns in business or the breakdowns in relationship are somewhat similar. So if there's first not an authentic commitment to the relationship, oftentimes couples in a relationship really don't slow down and get aligned on what you're committed to in life. You commit to the big things, like we're going to get on what you're committed to in life, right? You commit to the big things, like we're going to get married and we're going to have kids, but you don't commit to what are your priorities, what are your priorities around work-life balance, really talking to the details of what you're okay with and what you're not okay with. And it's easy to be in a relationship and get caught up in being married, get caught up in having kids. Those are all institutional

type things and go 10 years without ever talking about, well, we didn't really get to what we're committed to as individuals in this relationship. And, you know, we're doing some of that, that work now. And I think when you do it, you begin to realize we never really talk. What are my core values? What are my principles? You know, what am I going to compromise on and what am I not willing to compromise on? Yeah. And, you know, I've said this in the last episode that I fully believe that in a relationship or marriage, love is not enough.

Absolutely. You need to, you know, even Lauren and I, you know, we've been together a long time, but we're committed with Steve to constantly work on ourselves, be able to communicate with ourselves between each other so that we can get on the same page, figure out what our common goals are. And like Steve said, not just, oh, get married and have kids, but, you know, let's talk about this issue or let's talk about what this podcast looks like, or let's talk about what it means for Michael to be involved in Lauren's business or vice versa. And so I think that, you know, in a relationship, if you just think you're going to get in and be in love and that's going to carry you through life, that's almost impossible.

You need to get on the same page. I hate a fairytale too. I mean, there's no fairytale. Like, you have to work it. Let's get real. There's no fairytale. You have to work it. Let's get real. There's no fairy tale. You have to work it every single day. You have to work on yourself.

You always say you have to have accountability. Accountability, to me, is, I think, really important. And you have to be self-aware and call yourself on your own shit. Really? Yeah, Michael. This is a new wife thing? This is a new me. This is a new wife thing? This is a new me. This is a new wife thing? I think you're also touching on when you're struggling, Lauren, in particular, with the work and the relationship.

And I say in particular because we've been working specifically on this is people aren't conscious of what they choose every day. And, for example, Lauren will be in a frenzy because she's, you know, running late or there may be a conflict somewhere at work. And I can tell she's really choosing to be flustered, you know, angry and getting people really present to on any moment of the day and in your life, what choices are you making? And I think most times if you slow down and really say, okay, with this behavior, with this conversation I'm having, what choice am I really making? And I think most people aren't conscious of it.

And if most people are honest when there's a breakdown, what they're really choosing is to be right, make other people wrong. They're choosing to be insecure. They're choosing to be fearful. But it's just as easy to choose to be insecure. They're choosing to be fearful. But it's just as easy to choose to be happy, confident, accountable. And so getting present to what you choose is really important. No, and I think that you've obviously helped Lauren and I both tremendously, not just in our relationship and our business, but both of ourselves personally. Me and Steve have private conversations.

Lauren and Steve have private conversations. And just getting in the right mindset i think it's important to kind of get like a mentor or coach in your life that can help you like you know figure out what your choices are figure out what your thought pattern for the day is going to be i mean it's just we talk about all the time and i talked about it i don't want to get too deep in the election a lot of people were um snapping us about that but i think whether you're for the current president-elect or not, it's all about mindset and how you choose to react to something. People were snapping saying, oh, the world is over. Oh, this is going to be the worst thing ever. And I said I choose to believe that this is going to be a good thing.

And I think if you choose to be unhappy about something, you're going to be unhappy. And if you choose to look at things in a brighter light and you choose to be happy, then you'll be happy. It's all about perspective. Choice creates how the world occurs to you, right? Like you said, if you choose to be mad or upset or fearful about something, that's how the world's going to occur to you. And that's what's going to manifest in your relationships. I 100% agree. And your other point about coach or mentor.

So, you know, I'm working with both of you, but I also work with them. And so it's really important if people are committed to transformation in their business or their personal life that they do get a third party. Because I have my own issues. And what do you all say to me? Cause this is what I, I was trying to get this point across in previous podcasts that, you know, I can give advice or Lauren can give advice, but you also need to go and like figure, figure some other things out outside of what we're saying. Cause you know,

Lauren and I work with you, you work with somebody else and I think you need to take these things and, and take these different perspectives from different people with a grain of salt. And just – and not know – and know that there's more than one way to skin a cat, right? Well, you're pointing to – so Lauren kind of leans to the fix me, right? Give me tools where I'm immediately fixed. I know. I like a quick fix.

We all know that. But transformation is not about that. It is more about what you're talking about, Michael, where, okay, I've gotten coaching, I've gotten context, and it's given me a new way to evaluate things. But then use those tools to create the right conversations for yourself. Super important. So how we worked together with Steve was that we both had to turn in pre-work, which still waiting on yours. I had to get through the wedding. Okay, Michael. I barely made it through that.

He's acting like bridezilla. I did everything. Like you just literally stood at the altar. So we both had to do pre-work and pre-work. It's like all these questions about. Sure. these questions about sure that those were the questions about communication communication what you're committed to what you're fearful of what you're willing to compromise on think about your principles and one of the one of the reasons michael told me that he hadn't done it yet is

those questions are they're they're nothing tricky about, but they are not normal conversations that you have with anyone. And so one of the responses was from Michael, he wasn't just ready yet to commit to have that conversation, which is fair game. If you have to get in the conversation with me, not you, Lord, but if you're not authentically ready to have that conversation, don't commit to having it. And so I recently, although he hasn't done the pre-work. Tick tock. No, but I am committed to doing the pre-work. I just wanted to get through this wedding and sit down and actually have the time to really sit down and think and be able to write down clearly what my thoughts were. And I think the wedding shed some new light on things and will help you in the pre-wedding.

I had a jet ski parked out on the beach. If shit went south, I was going to use that as a getaway vehicle. I hired a whale. And take off to South America. Okay, Michael. All right, you guys. So, as you know, I spend a lot of time researching beauty. The good, the bad, the trends, the colors, what works, what doesn't,

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We're a bit sex obsessed. Extremely chocoholic. Sometimes judgy and slightly insane the chick show does your life period get it free at itunes or podcast one this is the skinny confidential him and her well let's talk about the wedding a little bit let's change gears the wedding was phenomenal and. Let's change gears. The wedding was phenomenal. 55 people, not one person there that I didn't absolutely love or that Michael didn't absolutely love. Every single person. They're our best friends. Our family members came together and it was so special and so intimate and so gothic.

Honestly, it was basically a three-day party. Yeah, we just partied. And like I said earlier, our friends really like to party, so it happened really fast. I didn't know how I was going to feel about the wedding, not in terms of marrying you, but in terms of like if it would be fun, if it would be worth spending the money, if it would be worth doing. And I don't regret spending anything on this.

I thought it was so much fun. That's awesome. Yeah, we had an amazing time. We all ended up in the thought it was so much fun. That's awesome. Yeah, we had an amazing time. We all ended up in the pool with our clothes on. My phone's gone. Your phone's gone. You can't Snapchat. Were you nervous?

I was not nervous. I swear. I actually told Steve in the beginning. He asked me. He was there. Steve was our ring bearer. Steve was our ring bearer. He also gave a speech at rehearsal. Which I got noticed last minute.

Of course. Which I completely ignored. Sorry I didn't calendar it. But it's funny because I had two of my friends come up to me and say, oh, are you nervous? No, they're both married. They both told me they threw up before their wedding because they were so nervous. Steve asked me if I was nervous. I said no.

Everyone asked me if I was nervous. I was not nervous for a second. I think – I think, I mean, I committed to this a long time ago, right? And it's something I wanted to do. So I didn't have – I didn't have any nervousness both of you i could tell were i was saying this early i haven't been to a ton of weddings but i've been to some big ones and oftentimes the bride and groom don't get a chance to enjoy the wedding and you know even while we were standing there talking and i was asking if you're nervous because

lauren was late you were still enjoying the wedding and when i I saw you three hours later, you were still enjoying it. Yeah, we enjoyed it. Maybe I enjoyed it a little too much. So I had my blackout diva moment Friday night, and Michael had his blackout diva moment Saturday night. And when Michael gets drunk... God forbid I have a couple drinks at my wedding. You had more than a couple drinks, buddy.

When Michael gets drunk, I'm going to go here a little bit. His hair pops out like a huge boner off his head. So erect. All your hair, I call it the one hair when he's drunk, I'm like, oh, the one hair is out. You had 40 hairs out.

Your hair was going in all different directions, which is really rare for you. Our first dance was to Metallica. I tried to dip you and you were like, absolutely not. Probably better. I don't think I was... You were grabbing my ass the entire first dance. Yep. You were like, I think you ejaculated on my

white skirt. No, I didn't ejaculate. I missed all that. I know, you missed that. That's rude. No, we were there for a good length of time. Taylor, the bare naked cucumber, as he's known on the show, is on timeout for a very long time. Taylor's on timeout. You guys aren't going to see him for a long time. Yeah, I heard about that.

He lost his mind. He lost his mind. He's on timeout. I'm building an annex in the office and he will be working there for the next six months. Yeah, Taylor's done. But everyone else was incredible. And it was so nice to be around all these people and not have to go glad hand everyone

and have conversations and feel rushed. It was like I'd already been with these people for three days and there was only 55 of them. Granted, 75% were men. Yeah, and honestly, if I could give one piece of advice for anybody that is planning a wedding guy girl honestly make it more about having a good time than a production i think there's so many couples that get married and it's like it it turns into work no one cares about a fucking filet and honestly yeah like everybody there we had empanadas and like street

tacos it's so excited just to party we had bottles of tequila all over the table like steve said i mean they didn't last very long but karma was down the whole entire table they were there so instead of doing like round tables and i'm going to talk about this on the blog i did one long huge gothic table with all different heights and candles and i wanted wax dripping down the candles and i just wanted like black dark eggplant drama i feel like i captured it do you yeah well in my in my you did capture we definitely you were definitely dramatic thank you um especially on friday night um i had a sharon stone casino gold dress pony in my in my opinion people want to come down people a lot of times people feel

burdened after go to weddings we're being honest right but it's like oh great we got to go to a wedding you're gonna spend money to go here i gotta deal with this i gotta get dressed up in a suit or a dress no one wants to go and so knowing that and being like somewhat self-aware we said listen we want to make this a vacation a vacation for. We want them to have so much fun. What did you say earlier where I got goosebumps? You said something. We wanted to make everyone else feel special, not us. So the people that were down here, we wanted them to feel like they were special to us. It was more about them than it was about us.

I know we were the ones getting married. It was like acknowledging the people and putting a boundary in our lives of who is like so special to us and like who's our ride or die people. And that's why it was such a small wedding. And some people asked if they could bring plus ones. And the reason that we said no to some people is because we only wanted people that we really, really, really knew. You know what I mean? Well, and we wanted to have those experiences with those people where they didn't feel obligated to take care of somebody that didn't know.

You're a little bit of a newcomer to our group of friends. Like six years ago. Our friends have been friends since 12. Everybody knows everybody. And the person that married us, we're going to talk about all this on the blog, but the person that married us, Chris Beaton, was insane.

He's been our friend since we were 10. I've known Chris since second grade. You've known him since second grade. And he was just incredible. He did a great job. Didn't he do a good job? Yeah. He was on brand.

Yeah. You were loving it. Whoa. He did a great job. And? I happened to be on brand. There was a whale that jumped across where we were getting married, an altar. Yeah, I had that flown in.

The Michael City had it flown in. It wasn't cheap. Yeah, that was cute that you did that. I'm just kidding, I didn't. He's back in SeaWorld now. And then afterwards we had this beautiful fun wedding and then we went to the office and fucking sat on the beach and ate chips and salsa and drank margaritas and just listened to mariachis play Pretty woman and get shots from Rambo

I'd say it was a success it was a success you're both still standing and breathing barely, congratulations how bad was your hangover today? it's still going are you hungover? no, I haven't been hungover all 4 or 5 days

that's a bit disappointing no I don't like that that's not enough drama for me. We have it tonight. Okay. All right. We got to step it up tonight. We're going to go to the Thompson Hotel.

All right, you guys. That's Steve. He will 100% be back. We got to have Steve back in the studio so we can do proper. We can get some questions from the audience. Steve has a lot of value. One of the reasons he's my best friend is because he has so much different depth and dimension and a lot of layers. So I want you guys to get to know him.

Yeah, we're back in the studio next week. Back at it next week. That's going to go well. Back to reality. All right. Remember to send in your questions to Twitter or Instagram using the hashtag Ask Him and Her. We're also going to be doing call-ins soon. So if you want to be a part of that,

email podcast at the skinny confidential.com. Ask us anything and anything, anything and everything. And we will do our best to answer or just drop us a line and let's talk. If you guys like Steve, let us know because he'll be back. And send us questions to our snapshots as well.

Yes. Once I get my phone back. Your phone doesn't work. Congratulations, Mr. and Mrs. Bostick. Thanks. Should I do a hyphen or just Bostick? I can't decide. Bostick's the cooler name.

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