The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - 7 Life Changing Habits Every High Performer Needs To Succeed, Stay Focused, Fulfilled, & Clear On What Matters

Episode Date: July 10, 2025

#864: Join Michael Bosstick as he sits down to share the 7 key habits that changed his life & elevated his mindset. From morning rituals & productivity to mental clarity & relationships, these high-impact habits are designed to help high performers live a more focused, fulfilling life. In this episode, Michael breaks down the power of diverse perspectives & critical thinking, investing in yourself, prioritizing what truly matters, his detailed morning routine - including supplements he cannot live without, the importance of daily movement, & the value of asking yourself the hard questions.   To Watch the Show click HERE   For Detailed Show Notes visit TSCPODCAST.COM   To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE   Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE   Head to our ShopMy page HERE and LTK page HERE to find all of the products mentioned in each episode.   Get your burning questions featured on the show! Leave the Him & Her Show a voicemail at [phone].   This episode is sponsored by The Skinny Confidential Your daily routine done better – with The Skinny Confidential Caffeinated Sunscreen. Subscribe today at https://shopskinnyconfidential.com/products/sunscreen and get it delivered right to your door – because great skin doesn’t take days off!   This episode is sponsored by Taylor Farms Learn more at http://TaylorFarms.com.   This episode is sponsored by Opill Opill is birth control in your control, and you can use code SKINNY for 25% off your first month of Opill at http://Opill.com.    This episode is sponsored by Chime Open your account in 2 minutes at http://chime.com/SKINNY.   This episode is sponsored by Momentous Use code SKINNY at http://livemomentous.com for up to 35% off your first order.   This episode is sponsored by Fatty15 Fatty15 is on a mission to replenish your C15 levels and restore your long-term health. You can get an additional 15% off their 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going to http://fatty15.com/SKINNY and using code SKINNY at checkout.   This episode is sponsored by Fay Nutrition Listeners of The Skinny Confidential Him &Her Show can qualify to see a registered dietitian for as little as $0 by visiting http://FayNutrition.com/SKINNY.   Produced by Dear Media

The following podcast is a Dear Media production. I am big on optimization. I'm big on processes. I'm big on creating systems for success. I'm a little bit more analytical than I would say my wife. We offer this kind of yin and yang where she was really more of the creative, more of the passion, more of the like kind of big picture around some of the, the aesthetics and the vision and the design and some of the presentation. And I really kind of am analytical and I've been that way my whole life, right?

Like I'm good with numbers, I'm good at process, I'm not so good sometimes at being in the moment. I really need to like plan things out. And so with that in mind, I've had to create these structures and these habits so that I can optimize my life, be productive, be a human being, not be just one of these logistics numbers guys that gets stuck in the mud and all that. And so I thought some of these habits and thought processes that I've put around my life and in my life would help some of you. It's not going to be the basic stuff like get up and drink lemon water, although that is part of one of the things I say in here. There's real tactics here and forgive me, I have notes on this episode because

while I get into these habits, there are some detailed notes that I wanted to add and include into the episode, specifics around either supplements or books or things that I'm doing and that I don't want to forget because I've taken some time to put this episode together. So these are seven habits that I'm currently implementing in my life day to day that I think can enhance anyone's life. They're all cost-effective. They're all free to do. They're all things that you can implement today right away or, you know, over time,

you can implement one of them, you can implement all seven of them, but they have helped me in my life and I'm hoping that they'll help you as well. So I've broken them down into, you down into different kinds of habits, some around mental clarity, some around physical habits, productivity, accountability, relationships, clarity, vision, and I've gotten detailed with how they kind of work. I've put them in order that I think make the most sense in order of importance or in order that you might want to implement them into your own life. And before I kick it off, I just want to talk about something that Lauren and I have been discussing a lot privately lately. So we're at a stage in our life now where we've been together

since we were both 20. I'm almost 40 now, so close to 20 years. We've known each other since we were 12. There's this phenomenon called compounding, which I'm sure many of you know about in the world of finance, where if you invest the earlier and the more often that you invest, the greater the amount becomes over time. You start little amounts in the first two or three years, and then in 10 years it starts to get really big. In 20, 30 years it becomes huge. What I've been talking to Lauren about is that that phenomenon of compounding doesn't

only work in finance, it works in every area of life. It works in your relationships, it works in parenting, it works when you're building a business, it really works in any area. The earlier you start doing something and the earlier you start chipping away at that thing, whether it be a relationship, whether it be a business, whether it be something like this podcast, whether it be creating social content, whatever it may be, it feels slow in the beginning. It feels like you're making very little progress, whatever it may be, it feels slow in the beginning.

It feels like you're making very little progress, but then over time, these things start to exponentially grow. Lauren and I were talking about that in regards to our relationship. We've been together for so long now and blink of an eye, all of a sudden we look back and we've got these businesses and this life and these three children. And it's just interesting to observe because what feels like something that started very slow and organically over time has just compounded in this snowball where there's a lot of things going on in our personal lives.

And I, as a man, think I really focused on being with one woman and focusing on one relationship for a long time. And now I'm bearing the fruits of that labor and having a lot of amazing things happen. Some of my friends are still out there dating and there's nothing wrong with that. But when they come to me for relationship advice, I say, hey, I wanna get to where you're at or I wanna have a relationship like you and Lauren. I mentioned to them this idea of compounding,

which is like, you gotta start and you gotta put in the time for a while. And that goes with business, it goes with this podcast. And I think as I'm talking right now, we're on what Carson episode 850 or 900, something like that. And to me, it feels like a blink of an eye, but we've been doing it for close to a decade now and it's become what it's become by putting that consistent time in. So I say this because these habits can help you start your compounding, whether that's

in your relationship, whether that's your journey as a parent, whether that's with your side hustle, your business, if that happens to be investing even, that's great as well. But anyways, the point is start the compounding process, start putting these habits in place. With that, let's get to the first habit that I think will change everyone's life. What I do every single morning is I follow a specific routine. So the first habit would be implement a wake routine. We talk about these nighttime routines. We talk about these productivity habits, all these other things.

But what I think is it's so important to start the day off right. So for me, I'm not hung up big on waking up at a specific time. I don't have to get up at 5 a.m. You don't have to get up at 4.30. Whatever time makes the most sense. I tend to typically rise between 6 and 6.30. Lauren and the kids are typically up around 7, 7.30. 6 even better for me.

But what I've done is I've fully optimized my wake routine. So every single morning I wake up, I go downstairs and the first thing I do is I create this hydration drink that I take every single morning and there are specifics around it. It's not just water and salt and lemon, even though that's in it, but I actually built a concoction specifically for me after looking at my blood work and figuring out what I need best and also figuring out my way of being. I'm somebody that starts the day a little bit slower, sometimes, dare say, Lauren would back this up, maybe a little grumpy.

I need a little bit of a moment to kick into gear and to get right in the day. I don't know if that's relatable to any of you out there, but I'm not one of those people that jumps up and starts seeing flowers and rainbows and happy thoughts. I really need to get in the day. I don't know if that's relatable to any of you out there, but I'm not one of those people that jumps up and starts seeing flowers and rainbows and happy thoughts. I really need to kind of get in the process. So what I realized is that I've got this slow quarters all rise that I need to have in the morning. And so the drink that I've created, again, waking up between six and 630 is, and I've written it down, is I typically take 16 ounces of water and then I use Paul Saladino's Lineage Nose to Tail Collagen.

Collagen is so incredible to start the morning. It is going to help your skin. It's going to help your joints. It's going to help your hair, your nails, and it's going to give you that little bit of that collagen protein to get you going. I take a little bit of sea salt and then a little bit of lemon, and then I take very specific supplements that I think are widely applicable. They're very safe.

Anyone can take them. The first one is I take L-tyrosine and I take this every other day because you don't want your body to get used to it. And this is a dopamine precursor. It's going to boost motivation. It's going to boost your alertness, your mood, especially if you're someone who runs stressed, which I tend to do. If you're one of those people like me, I would highly suggest trying to get into some L-tyrosine. I like the one by Momentus. They're one of our favorite products.

And supplement companies, they have code skinny. And so that tyrosine would take that every other day so you don't get used to it. And that's just going to help with your mood, your motivation. I put that in the water. Then I also take Acetyl L-carnitine. I hope I'm saying that right. This is for mitochondrial energy, mental clarity. As you can see, a lot of what I do in the morning is getting my mind right, right? I'm sitting there, I'm hydrating, I'm looking into the sun as often as I can, as soon as the light comes out, which we've talked about before, and I'm hydrating slowly. I'm not just chugging this water. And then I'm getting these supplements in, which is going to help with my mood, my energy, my focus.

I also take NAC. Again, these are all safe to take on an empty stomach. It's a precursor to glutathione, which is a master antioxidant, and it's going to support detoxification, brain health in the sick seasons. This has also been said to help your immune system and help get rid of things that are viral or causing infection that are making you sick, especially if you have young kids like we do going back to school, maybe double dose the NAC during that time. So if you take this hydration drink with the L-tyrosine, the acetyl L-cartotene and the NAC, you're going to just feel on fire. I take this and immediately start to feel better.

I also have been taking Fatty 15, which we've talked about on this podcast, like we have Code Skinny, check that out. And this is going to help with your inflammation and longevity. So those four supplements, and then swapping in the L-tyrosine every other day, just so I can get in the habit every morning. I know I'm waking up, I'm hydrating. So many of us run dehydrated. We jump straight into coffee. This is a huge mistake. You don't want to do that first thing. You want to hydrate slowly, get the right supplements in, get that collagen, get that lemon, get that sea salt so you can have the electrolytes and those minerals.

And then I slowly start to figure out what my intention is for the day. Maybe I'll pick up the Wall Street Journal, maybe I'll look at the New York Times, maybe I'll pick up a book. Really, I'm taking this time every single morning for the first hour before my kids wake up to make sure that my intention is right, that I'm calm, that my mood is in the right place, that I'm learning something. I stay off my phone during this whole period of time. I've had to work on that.

I know it's not for me. I'm somebody who lives in my and works off of my phone. I'm not on the computer as often as the phone. So I've had to work on that habit. My wife, Lauren, has helped me with that. I've got to give her credit because she's going to listen to this and beat me up about it. But I leave that in the room and I take this first hour to do all these things.

This is going to set the intention for the day. It's going to give you mental clarity. It's so important to have a routine that you look forward to. And more importantly, this gives you a reason to look forward to waking up. You're going to, you know, that after doing this routine every single morning, you're going to feel great. Then after I've done this 60 to 90 minutes later, and I learned this from Andrew Huberman, you can go into your caffeinated beverage, whether that's your coffee or your match, whatever, but you want to wait at least this 60 to 90 minutes later, and I learned this from Andrew Huberman, you can go into your caffeinated beverage,

whether that's your coffee or your match or whatever, but you wanna wait at least that 60 to 90 minutes. Don't just dive straight into the caffeine that's gonna shock your adrenals and cause all sorts of issues. Ever since I switched to that, I typically only need one to two coffees a day, and I stopped drinking coffee by like 9 a.m. and I'm done,

and then I sleep perfectly. So that's the first one is create a morning wake routine, which is going to set your mental clarity, develop intention for the day, and it's just going to set you off on the right path. Next, and this should be no surprise for your second habit is no matter what, we need to develop a daily movement pattern. We need to develop daily movement habits. We need to move every single day, no matter how uncomfortable.

I know some people are in cold areas, hot areas, but it's so important to do something. Here's the reason why. It's not just for the physical benefits. It's holding yourself accountable. It's doing something hard. So many of us seek comfort in our life. You know, people want to work, work, work, work to one day be able to retire and be comfortable. I never got this because comfort is where you go to die.

It's where you go to be complacent. It's not that you have to be uncomfortable all the time, but the human body needs some kind of challenge to challenge our mind, to challenge our body, to stay active, to make ourselves feel good, to hold ourselves accountable, to be confident. So for me, that could be, and I've got really into tennis lately, maybe I'll book a tennis session or strength training. I'm doing that three to four days a week, likely with a trainer, shout out Sandy and Brent. Also, if you want to do some kind of stretching routine, some zone two

cardio, pick one thing, ideally carve out one hour. If that means you have to wake up a little bit earlier, so be it. I know it's not the easiest, but over time, you're going to get to place where you have more confidence, you feel better. I think even if you can only do something for 15 to 30 minutes, we just, you know, Dear Media made this announcement that we acquired Obey Fitness. That's a great at-home fitness application. If you could check that out, it's downloaded on your phone. They have all sorts of different classes and trainers on there. You could do something straight from the house or if you want to go somewhere. So, you know, for me, like it's

waking up with intention and then jumping right into something hard. That's typically some kind of physical activity. One thing that's also great if you have young children is maybe this is a great time for the family to take a walk, leave the phone at home, talk to them about their day, what they're going to do, talk to your wife or your husband, talk about their day, their intention. Again, this is going to bring everybody closer. And more importantly, this is going to get your mind firing on the right cylinders and on the right pathways.

I've said on this podcast before that I believe a lot of depression and a lot of the anxiety that we go through as individuals can be solved with physical activity. I get pushback on this sometimes, but anyone that is in the fitness community, anyone that moves their body every day knows that when you move your body and you get active and you get out of yourself and your mind, most importantly, this is where you start to feel better. You boost confidence, you boost mood. Hopefully, you're doing this maybe outside at points, you're getting that vitamin D. And again, if you notice here, these habits have nothing to do with anything but getting your mind and your body right first thing in the morning. So two very basic things in the morning. One, with a little bit

more detail around that drink and those supplements and the second around movement. These are very basic. Everyone should be doing these. I cover them because if you don't have these habits, the others are really hard to follow. Now we're going to get into habits that I think are a little bit more niche, a little bit more specifically tailored to how I've set my habits up and maybe a little bit counter in some cases to some of the things you've heard. So one of the things that I'm personally huge on is getting rid of to-do lists and focusing on essential lists. Now it may sound like the same thing but there's huge difference here. In my personal opinion people, especially people that consider

themselves productive, waste so much time with these tedious to-do lists that have a bunch of garbage, a bunch of small tasks, a bunch of things that aren't going to move the needle. We do this because people like to feel good when they check things off a list. They like to feel like they're accomplishing things, getting things done. But the question is, why do some individuals get so much more done than others with the same amount of time? And it's likely because they're focused on the essentials that actually move the needle and have the greatest impact. Why do some people make a billion dollars and some people make minimum wage?

This is not a commentary on fairness or the economy. It's just how does that happen? It's likely because that person that makes the billion has figured out a way to be extremely productive and create something that is extremely useful for society. Again, not a commentary, but it's just a fact. And so the way that these individuals are able to do this, and dare I say sometimes I'm able to be productive as well, is because I think high performers focus on the essentials and not the to-do lists. I get in trouble a lot in my house and with my wife because I sometimes let the small things fall. I'm maybe not the best guy to make the bed or pick up the towel or go and clean up the

kids' toys in the room or something like that. It's not that I don't think these tasks are important. It's that my brain has been trained over years to focus on the essential things that I think are going to move the needle the most. For example, let's say you have a hundred emails in your inbox on Monday and you wake up. Is it really necessary to respond to all 100 of those emails? I would argue is it even really necessary to open all 100 of those emails? I'm notorious for going through my inbox and slashing sometimes 40 to 50 percent of

the emails that are in there. It's not that I don't value the correspondence. I just know that with everything on my plate, it's impossible for me to be productive if I'm answering things that I know aren't going to move the needle or aren't going to be productive or things that I can't pay attention to. Sometimes there's an autoresponder, sometimes I will just forward it to somebody, sometimes I will just outright delete it. But again, many of us have been trained through school or whatever, or maybe some kind of OCD that we have to answer every single text,

we have to answer every single email, we have to get to every single message, and this is a mistake. So what I do is I wake up, I scan that inbox, I figure out what are the 10 most important things that I need to get to, and those are the things that you're marked to do. I ignore the rest. You could do this as well, like say that each night before bed, you go and you look at your to-do list, you know, and there's 15 things on there. I would say cut 13 of those, 12 to 13 of them, and just focus on the three and likely focus on the three things that you've been dreading the most. The things that are the hardest, the essentials.

You know, the first half of this year for me consisted of a lot of things and I'll just be, you know, personal and vulnerable here. We had our third child on the way. The first half of this year for me consisted of a lot of things, and I'll just be personal and vulnerable here. We had our third child on the way. I was in the middle of an acquisition for this company that Dear Media acquired called Obey, which I just mentioned earlier, which is a huge process. We were batching the majority of this show. Lauren and I, our show comes out two to three times a week.

A lot of people forget that this is technically my side hustle. I run Dear Media day to day. And so we were doing multiple episodes daily and weekly to get ahead and to make sure that we had episodes for her maternity leave. I was purchasing a property for a real estate asset and I was doing it without a broker and all of these things. And I say this all to mention that all of this was going on additionally to also running Dear Media Day-to-Day as CEO.

The way I was able to get all this done without going crazy was by every night before I would go to bed, I would create this list, my to-do list, and then I would go through that list and say, what are the absolute essentials? And then I would disregard all the things that weren't essential. Here's what happened. All of those things got done because there was my complete focus on the most important things and all the stuff that wasn't so important either kind of took care of itself or was not necessary, or I was able to go and accomplish later. And here's the thing, when you focus on the essentials and you get rid of all

the minuscule tasks that don't matter. What you do is you're training your brain to tackle the hardest things and the most important things. And what happens over time is you're able to start to be more productive because you realize, okay, if all you do all the time is train your brain to look for the most important thing, then that's what happens over time. You're just going to start focusing on and on on the most important things and you're going to be able to get rid of the stuff that doesn't matter.

Again, we distract ourselves with these to-do lists by focusing on things that really don't move the needle that aren't important and we do it because we want that dopamine hit of just feeling like we're getting things done. So if you're somebody that wakes up every day and you have a to-do list of 15 things, really ask yourself, are all of these 15 things that important or should I just be focusing on one or two things that move the needle the most? Again, so that's really for productivity. It's get rid of to-do lists, focus on essential lists. This is going to completely change your life. One thing I do not mess around with, that is my bowl of meat. I do it every day. I do

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You could do a Caesar bowl you could do an avocado and ranch or you could just bring a Taylor Farms chopped salad kit to work and Add some chicken. It's so easy. Like I said, there's no chopping, so you don't have to do all this work just to prepare all of the lettuce. Sweet kale, Caesar, avocado ranch, Mediterranean crunch, those are my favorites. You're gonna feel like you have your life together. Let me tell you.

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and not get nailed by these exorbitant fees that so many companies charge. So check them out. Open your account in two minutes at chime.com slash skinny. That's chime.com slash skinny. Chime feels like progress. Alright, the fourth habit that I've implemented over time is to start asking myself the hardest questions and treating myself as if I was an investor going to invest in my life. This sounds really strange, but over the course of the last 10 years running Dear Media, I

have been in and out of conversations with different investors, different banks, different kinds of people in the world of finance. And I've learned a lot. Again, this was the first company that I ever went and really raised outside capital, private equity capital. And I learned a lot through that process. But one of the things that I really learned was that what makes the greatest investors, or this is one of the things that makes some of the greatest investors, are some of the questions that they ask in their underwriting

process. What I realized is the smartest investors are, listen, they're excited about the vision, and they're excited about the founder, and they're excited about the future, but they're poking holes into the infrastructure and into the individual and they're looking for that individual to come up with the answers to kind of combat some of those concerns that they have or answer to some of those concerns that they may be thinking about. And what I realized is that this can also be applied to our own lives. So many of us go through life with our own perspective and we feel like we're doing so

great and we write these manifestation journals and these dream journals and all these things and we give ourselves this pat on the back. And listen, that's all important and confidence and self-love is part of that. I'm not going to be the expert on that and there's plenty of people that talk about that all the time. But what I realize is that exercise is useful, but what I actually think is more useful and not cynical, but really productive in a different kind of way is underwriting your own life as if you were investing in your life. So some of the questions that I've written down that you could be asking yourself are, you know, am I being smart with my money?

You could write that prompt down and you could literally write it as if you are not yourself, as if you were objectively answering it. So if you write, you know as if you were objectively answering it. So if you write, you know, I'm every day, I'm going out and I'm living paycheck to paycheck and I'm out at the bars every night and I'm buying things I don't need, then the question is probably not. And what it does is it forces you to get in the mindset of like, if you are out to answer for yourself with a third party, again, taking you out of your own mind in a different perspective,

then by asking the smart question, you're able to come up with a smart answer on how to combat maybe the way that you shouldn't be living. So if you're answering and you're not investing your money and you're not saving it and you're struggling, maybe this question will start to inform you how you could get better. Another question is, am I showing up the way I should in my relationship? Many of us project what we want our partners to do and we project how we want the relationship to be. But if you ask yourself this question, am I showing up in the right way

in my relationship and you actually honestly answer it objectively, it'll give you the answers of where you can improve. Another question is, am I being a good father? If you answer that and said, hey, maybe I'm not spending as much time with the kids as I should be. Maybe I'm not listening to them. Maybe I'm being distracted. Again, asking yourself these questions, underwriting yourself as if you were investing as an investable asset into yourself. These are going to come, these are going to help you come up with the answers that you're looking for instead of just writing manifestations and dreams. You know, a lot of what I do in life is try to figure out ways to hold myself accountable in more ways. And a lot of times that requires uncomfortable introspection.

It requires sometimes uncomfortable conversations with others. If not, you could start to live in a little bit of like a self-fulfilling way where you just, you know, you think you're doing everything right and everyone else is doing everything wrong. This is a way to really hold yourself accountable. Another great question is, am I holding myself accountable to my health? Again, honestly answering that, are you going to, am I going to the gym? Am I eating right?

Am I being disciplined? Am I eating junk food? Am I drinking too much alcohol? All of these things. Are these decisions I'm making going to be smart decisions in five years? Are you doing things right now that are going to have that compounding effect that I talked about earlier? Are you slowly pushing a boulder up a hill and creating that kind of tumbleweed effect

that's going to happen down the hill or are you just staying in the same place? I've learned this from being in business, the smartest capital partners, they ask these kind of hard questions and what they're doing is they're looking for an answer or they're looking for that sliver of an idea that's going to combat for that vulnerability in the business. You can do this again with your life as well. So many times we create these gratitude journals and these dream journals, which are great. There's nothing wrong with it.

But if you then don't follow it up with action items to go after those dreams or manifest those visions or whatever it may be, or get that relationship you want, or be the dad or mom you want to be, it becomes really hard. And that's why some people look back and they look at these lists and they're in the same place five years from now, it's because they don't create the action steps. These questions are going to help you create the action steps. So I guess the key here is, pretend you're underwriting your own life. You just pitched yourself to yourself.

And with these answers that you come up with, would you invest in your life as it is, or would you go and make the changes? So again, ask yourself the hard questions. This habit is going to be game changing. I think it's something anyone can do right now. I like to break it down in different areas of my life. You could take it down to relationship, parenting, business, health, finance, and really go through. You can even go to chat, GPT and say, hey, can you help me come up with questions to

hold myself accountable and then create a prompt for it? There's a million ways to do this. But the most important thing is you need to get to the right answers, which are going to lead to the right action steps. Next, and this is something that I continue to have to learn the hard way. It's basically ask instead of assume. I'm somebody that's in a long-term relationship. I now have three children. I manage an organization with, you know, close to 70 to a hundred different people at any given time. And, you know, it would be very easy for me to go and assume that what I'm thinking is how everybody else is feeling. So taking the time to go to your wife and really just ask them, like, you know,

most tensions in a relationship come because of assumptions and assuming that she's okay, assuming that she's happy with the way things are going, assuming that I'm being a good husband, assuming that you're being a good wife, assuming that you're being a good boyfriend or girlfriend, just because things are good on your side, that's not necessarily the best way. Just assuming that you work with someone that is happy in the role that they're in or that they're happy in the way that you're interacting with them, this is also problematic. Actually taking the time to ask, and even if that question is difficult, but what you're

doing is you're starting each conversation without an assumption, but with an ask. How are you doing? How do you feel about the way I'm doing this? How do you feel about the way that I'm managing this? How do you feel about the way that I responded to this? What do you need that I'm not giving you? All of these questions, when you lead in with asks instead of assumptions, and you can do this in any area of your life. You could do it, like I said, in a relationship, in your business, you could do this with your children. You could sit down with your children and say, how do you feel? Something stupid. How do you feel about the way daddy read that nighttime story to you?

Was it too fast? Was it too slow? Did you like it? Do you want a different one? You'll be surprised at the answers you get if you invite people to share with you in a non-judgmental way how they feel and about how they're interacting. What this is going to do is it's going to open up opportunity for you to not only form habits that are going to fix those relationships and improve them, but it's going to open up opportunity for you to not only form habits that are going to

fix those relationships and improve them, but it's going to create a bond of trust between you and your coworker, your employee, your wife, your girlfriend, your boyfriend, your kids, because they're going to realize that you're putting their needs and their wants at the forefront of the conversation. And so again, a lot of the things that I'm talking about here is getting out of your own perspective and making sure that the people around you are feeling valued, that they're seeing the world the way you're seeing it or maybe they're not. If they're seeing it in a different way, maybe adjusting your thought process. But again, these slow habits of

starting to look at the world in a different way other than your own are so important. The sixth habit is probably one of my favorite habits on this list because I think it is so important and that is pick something to learn about every week that you have no clue about. I could go on and on. I could do a whole podcast on how I feel about the world, how I feel about people's thought processes, why I think we're in so much trouble. Maybe I'll do a little bit of a tangent.

I think we live in a society now where we are really good at digging into our own biases, our own corners of the world, our own corners of society. The algorithms now are all interest-based algorithms. So if you're interested in a specific thought process or a specific type of content, that's what you're going to see the majority of your time. These companies are really good at giving you more of what it thinks you want and less of what it doesn't think you want. And here's the problem with that is when you live in a bias and you live in the same thought

process and everyone surrounding you is cheering the same way or thinking the same way and not challenging the way that you think or you see the world, this becomes very limiting. It becomes a very limited view of the world. Imagine trying to build a business or develop a world perspective and all you can see is a sliver of the pie, a sliver of the equation. That's what many of us do. You know, Lauren and I get a ton of pushback on this show whenever we have somebody who people deem to be on the right or whenever we have somebody who people deem to be on

the left or whether we have somebody that has one health perspective or a different health perspective. You know, this tribalism is real and it's something that, you know, doing this show for close to a decade now, we kind of sit back and laugh because there's certain buttons you can push with society where you know, you can predict the response you're going to get. I know if we have one kind of person, what response is going to get if you have another one? And it would be very easy to turn those dials all the time.

But one thing that we do on this show is we try to bring on a diverse set of ideas and topics not just because we think it's more interesting, but because it challenges Lauren and I to think in a different kind of way. So if you're somebody who finds yourself constantly watching the same kind of news or reading the same kind of books, and listen, this could even be fiction, like maybe you're a sci-fi or fantasy enthusiast and you just read the same kind of book over and over, or maybe you're into biographies and you're just constantly reading the same kind of genres, there's nothing wrong with that.

It's great to learn, it's great to read, It's great to do these different things. But it's challenging when all you do is focus on a very narrow sliver of thought process. And so what I think is going to completely enhance people's lives, and I know it's enhanced mine, is to try to learn something different and new from a wide variety of topics every single week. What this could look like is maybe one week you're reading the news from the New York Times and the next week you're reading the Wall Street Journal and maybe one day you're watching Fox News and maybe one day watching CNN and maybe one day you're listening to a podcast on history and one day you're listening to a podcast on the future. I give these examples because the point is you want to broaden your perspective and you

want to listen to different people. This whole thing when why we had such a difficult time with this whole idea of cancel culture is there was a segment of society that thought the best way to move forward was to literally turn certain people off so that you didn't hear their ideas or the perspectives. And that's just not a realistic way to live because those people don't go away. Those ideas don't just die. They're still well and out there. It's kind of like a little kid going like, la, la, la, la, la, and closing their ears.

It's not realistic. You have to understand what's going on around you so that you can combat it or engage with it or at least understand what's happening. I wrote some book recommendations to kind of give you guys an example of some of the things that I've been learning about. And there's different, my sister Mimi or Lauren says for Mimi, I guess she's my sister now. Hi Mimi. Said that like Kindle does these reading challenges.

I'm sure you could go to AI for this kind of stuff, but there's ways to build diverse sets of content or reading materials or whatever it is. And some of the things I've been reading lately, just for specific, I know people like book recommendations is first I read Confederacy of Dunces, which is a fiction book based in New Orleans. I don't really know so much about that area. It was a great book, won the Pulitzer Prize at one point,

written a while ago, but it's hilarious. I just read Barry Diller's new book called Who Knew? Great book, a lot of parallels to what many of us are doing now in media and on the internet. Funny enough, Mimi wants me to do a whole episode on this. I don't know, I don't even know how I stumbled with this. I read Rebecca Yarrow's book, The Fourth Wing. Carson, have you read The Fourth Wing? I think it's like, I thought it was like a young adults novel, but it's about these dragons and then like these people are like shooting fire and lightning and having sex all over the place. It's kind of, it's kind of weird.

But anyways, I read that. I wouldn't think I was the audience for that, but I read it. And I do this because again, I don't think that I would be the audience for some of these things, but I read it. I actually liked the book. It was good. Some of the romantic stuff was a little bit kind of made me tired, but it was good. Then I read TJ English book. It's called Havana Nocturne. This is about the mafia in Cuba and the Cuban revolution and how Cuba developed over time and the history of the mafia in Cuba and the Cuban revolution and how Cuba developed over time and the history of the mafia. Again, very different. All these books are so different. I read In Cold Blood by Truman Capote because I wanted a classic. I never read that book before.

It's a great book, still holds up. And then I read a science fiction book called Leviathan Wakes by James Corey. I know a lot of people like that series. I think Amazon did a series on them called The Expanse. I think it's a show, but I like that. And then there's a book called The Courage to Be Disliked, which I recommended before. Anyways, I say all this because reading in this diverse way and picking these different books and different topics. Oh, I also forgot, Keith McNally's book. That's a great book. I love Val Thazor. I regret almost everything is the title of that book. He's in the restaurant business. But anyways, reading in this kind of way and getting into the perspective and

heads of so many different authors and diverse opinions and diverse thought processes, it challenges your brain. It helps you expand your mindset. It helps you see different perspectives. As somebody who's a business person, this is a huge advantage. You know, it's such a disadvantage in people in business when all they do is look into myopic point of view and perspective and they only see the world from one point of view. This is going to broaden that.

So again, I think if you want to get into one great habit, it's pick something new to learn about every single week that you know nothing about. That could be through books, that could be through podcasts, that could be through AI, that could be through TV, it could be through journalism, it could be whatever it may be. But go find something that stretches your thought process because it's going to open your mind and likely it's going to create new ideas, new vision, new businesses, new ways to live your life. It's going to give you empathy for people and it's going to make you a better person. Let's take a quick break to talk about momentous. We talk a lot about performance on this show.

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as a habit development and as a person in the world that we live in is to develop a perspective of the world outside of your own. There's this viral clip going around and I don't know how to cite it. And I don't know where it is, but it's from a, I think it's a former spy. I don't know if you've seen this, Carson. And this spy was saying one of the most important things that you can do as a spy or as a person is to stop viewing the world from your own perspective all the time and to start viewing it from the perspective of those around you. It is such a blind spot in life when we go through and we're constantly saying like, I feel this way, I think, I know, I don't,

I, I, I. And it's because what that's doing is it's pointing out that your view of what's going around you, your view of the world, your view of your company, your view of your relationship, is based only on the perspective that you have. And the reality is, is that the people around you while they live in the same world, may be viewing the world in a completely different way. They may be viewing the problem in a completely different way. They may be reviewing, you might think something's a good deal in business and they're looking at it as a bad deal. And so getting into the habit of starting to think, okay, I see the world in this particular

way, but the person I'm engaging with right now doesn't see it that way. And again, this goes to questions. If you constantly find yourself in a fight in your relationship and you're saying, I can't believe this is going this way. I don't know why this person doesn't see it. It's likely because they're seeing the world from a completely different perspective. So the best thing you can do is to get into their head by asking questions, figuring out how they see things. If you're trying to make a deal in business and you can't figure out why the deal can't get done, it's likely because you're only seeing what you want out of that deal.

Again, how do you switch it and start thinking from the perspective of the other person so that you can start seeing it from their perspective? If you're struggling with your children and you can't break through to them, or maybe they're struggling in school or struggling with friends and you're giving them this advice over and over and over and they just don't get it, maybe again, get in their head and ask yourself, why do they see this differently than I do? All of us have that friend that constantly struggles in a relationship and you give them advice and they can't seem to take it. It's because all they can do is see the relationship from their perspective.

They can't see it from their partners. They can't see it from the world outside of them. So what I try to do personally, and I'm definitely not perfect at it, is anytime I get into a situation or an interaction, the first thing I try to do is set aside my thoughts and feelings and ask myself, what does this person think of this moment? What does this person think of the way that I'm handling this? What does this person see that I don't see? What does this person want that I might not be aware of? And if I can start answering those questions, then I can start to alter my behavior or alter some of the decisions I'm making based on

that perspective. And typically we come to a better outcome. So again, it's so important to get out of your own head and into the perspective of others. This is a habit that takes probably a lifetime to develop. I'm working on it constantly. Again, I'm not perfect at it. But where I see trouble time and again with either people that I mentor, people in my life, people that I have personal relationships with, the people that struggle the most are the ones that only see the world from their perspective. It's almost like those people that are shocked when they get broken up with, are shocked when a business deal goes bad, are shocked when they get fired. It's because they're only looking at the world from their perspective. And so again, getting in the habit of looking at the other perspectives is so important.

Again to recap, the first one is to create a wake routine and develop something that you look forward to each morning that's going to set your mental clarity and your mind right for the day. Then it's develop some kind of habit too, to develop some kind of movement that you're going to do and hold yourself accountable daily. That could be a walk, that could be tennis, that could be strength training, could be Pilates, whatever it may be. That's going to get your physical and mental wellbeing right there as well.

Then it's going to be your third on those habits list, which is to create a essential list and not a to-do list. Really get out of the habit of just having these long to-do lists and focus on the absolute essentials that are going to move the needle most. Then it's to ask yourself the hard questions, habit four, underwrite your life as if you were investing in your own life and ask yourself, would you invest in your life at this stage based on the ways that you're behaving? The fifth one is to ask instead of assume how people feel around you, what people think

of you, what people need from you. Again, getting in that habit of making sure that you're not constantly barreling down assuming what people want. And then the sixth one is pick something to learn about that's different than what you already know every single week. Take the time to get out of your own thought process into somebody else's, broaden your mind, broaden your worldview. And then the last one is to get out of your own head and into others.

Again, in every interaction, ask yourself, what are they thinking? What are they feeling? Not how am I thinking? How am I feeling? This is going to get you better deals, better relationships, better interactions, better relationships, all of those things. So these seven habits have changed my life. I think they will change yours.

There's plenty of things that you can do to enhance these. There's plenty of different tactics that you can take. You can add more in, you can add less in, you can take one of these. If even one of them helps, I've done my job here. And I think that these will be game changing, especially for high performers, for people that want to live productive life, happier life, and for people that are willing to ask themselves the hard questions. With that, I hope you liked this episode.

I will be doing a couple more solos before Lauren comes back. And if there's any specific things that you want me to cover in business and relationships and finance and whatever it may be, right into the TSE Podcast or go to our site, www.tsepodcast.com. We have a contact form there and I will see what I can do. Also, if there's any guests that you want me to have on before Lauren gets back, let me know as well. And be sure to check out our YouTube channel. We're doing a lot there, a lot of shorts, a lot of clips, and full-length video episodes. So check it out.