The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - Another Threesome With Sex With Emily - How To Keep Your Sex Life Alive In A Relationship, Sex Advice, How To Communicate With Your Partner In The Bedroom

Episode Date: June 14, 2019

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Aha! So it's timing and tone and location. Aha! So it's timing and tone and location. Your timing has to be right. You want to make sure you're in a good place where you feel safe. And your tone, because what a lot of people do is like, we need to talk about our sex life. You never initiate.

You never give me a blowjob. You never go down on me. This conversation that you have about sex is positive and it's light. And remember, it's not the last one. It's only your first one. Well, well, well, what do we have here, Michael? A new hairdo? Another sexy episode. Another sexy episode. Another sexy hairdo by Michael Bostic.

That clip was from our guest of the show today, Emily Morse of Sex with Emily. We also just did a two-part episode on her podcast. So make sure you check it out after this one. This little two-parter, we did part one and part two, and then we did a little swap, cut the episodes in half. So you got to check out hers, got to check out ours, and we're going to do that right now. Guys, we have had Emily Morse on the show before. We always have a good time talking all things sex, relationships. Threesomes. Threesomes. Sexy stranger.

Sexy stranger. We've talked about sexy stranger a little bit on this show. She's the one that gave us the idea. It's really on this episode or it was on her episode, whichever swap. We even got into it with Taylor about edging. If you don't know what edging is, you got to listen. On one of these, like I said, two partner. So yeah, this is a sexy episode, which is perfect because I just put up a blog post breaking down sexy stranger. And Michael, I got to say, I threw you under the bus a little with your outfit. My outfit sucked. I'm going to redo it, guys. I'm sorry. Listen listen I'm sorry to the whole community I apologize to everyone not just to my wife how can you not understand that we wanted you to get really detailed with your outfit I didn't realize the effort that was being put in I thought you were

gonna show up like like from like the space guy from Toy Story listen the next time I show up you're not even gonna know who it is I'm gonna I'm hiring actors I'm having all sorts of... There's a whole thing going on. But we're also going to do it at a bar, not a restaurant, not an intimate Italian restaurant where a guy was literally in my nipples that was next to me because we were so close. Whenever Lauren and I go to a restaurant and there's... Sometimes you sit next to a nosy couple. I'm just going to call it out. Don't be a nosy couple. Sometimes there's nosy couples. Don't be a nosy couple. They sit there with the ear horn. No, there's nothing worse when you go to a really intimate restaurant, which is my favorite kind of restaurant.

And you're next to someone and they have an ear horn up to your conversation. Me and Michael, Michael and I just hate it. Listen, I was trying to talk to my whore of a wife because literally she was dressed up as a whore and I was trying to like be sexy with it. And I had ear horn Susie next to me judging me. And I was like, like guys you don't like i mean listen i understand to their they're probably like what is this guy doing why are they like i had a horny henry in my tits well i mean okay guys lesson number one when you do sexy

stranger uh don't don't go to a place where you're next to ear horn suzy and billy and also don't go next to or don't do it where you're sitting at dinner go and pick up at the bar and do the whole thing yeah pick me up at the bar i was wanting to talk dirty and all don't do it where you're sitting at dinner. Go and pick up at the bar and do the whole thing. Yeah, pick me up at the bar. I was wanting to talk dirty and all that stuff. And it was, you know, there was a guy like, you know, I knew it was going to be dicey when he had his napkin tucked into his shirt. You know when guys do that? Yeah, his napkin was tucked into his shirt.

He had an ear horn, a microphone on us. It was too much. It was hard to have a conversation. Watch, the internet's going to pull one of those clips when I said horrible wife is going to be a whole thing. Just don't do it, guys. We don't care, but don't do it. I like to be a freak in the bedroom, you know what? Guys, here we are again. Sex with Emily, again, on the podcast. Emily Morse, she's been in this space, audio space, for a very long time. She has her show

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We are here with one of my favorite all-time guests, my favorite people to podcast or person to podcast with, Emily from the popular show Sex with Emily, now also on Sirius. Emily, welcome back. So glad to be here. This, guys, is a part two. We've been in the studio for about an hour and a half now just chatting it up. We just did Emily's show. So if you want to hear the first part of this episode, I don't think we've ever done a part one, part two. We've been in the studio for about an hour and a half now, just chatting it up. We just did Emily's show. So if you want to hear the first part of this episode, I don't think we've ever done a part one, part two. You got to go over to her show and hear the first part. We're getting a lot of, you know, a lot of nitty gritty in the sex world. Yeah. We talk about sexy stranger and

how Michael is going to dress up. And so am I as a stranger on my birthday. And I'm going to meet him at the place that you're taking me, which I hope you booked reservations for. And you're going to be a different character. Like, I don't know what I'm going to get. We're going to build a whole backstory. Yeah. It's going to be, we're going to work on it. Maybe make sure you have Emily's number. So if you, if you don't follow through, this is going to be a big, I'm getting Emily, I'm getting you on speed dial. So it's funny guys. We, we were just talking before. And when we, we look at the analytics of the show and we see what you guys are listening to. And whenever we are talking about sex, the numbers always spike. They're the highest.

We see little freaky freaks out there. Yeah, we see it. But the chatter on the interwebs is always crickets. You know, people are we see the listening, but we don't see a lot of talking about it. People are scared to talk about sex, which is understandable, which is why we have someone like Sex with Emily to come loosen everyone up. You're an authority when it comes to sex.

Why do you think people are so scared to talk about sex? The reason why people are not talking about sex is because it's not modeled to them. Their parents didn't talk to them about sex. No one talked about it at school. They're not talking to their friends about sex. Women need to talk. I think women do a little bit more so. There's always like that one person in the group, hopefully that, and I always encourage people on my show. I'm like, be that friend, be that one

who's like, so do you masturbate? And so also, so there's that, there's like, no one else is doing it. And also most when, when sex was talked about it, maybe it was shameful. Maybe they grew up in a home where maybe their parents would happen. So there's always like a first infraction that happens to someone. So maybe they were like six years old and their parents caught him touching himself. Like that's dirty. Do it, do it by alone. Do it. Don't ever do it outside or never touch yourself. So we have all these early messages around sex. And so we just shut down. We think it's wrong. And again, we don't see it. We know that sex is something that's just mysterious. And then we tell kids if they do ask about sex and what little sex education there is,

their parents are like, oh, well, it's one day when you're in love with someone. You find that's when you'll have sex. When you find a partner, it's just all this misinformation. And so there's really no safe place for people. And they feel like they will be judged. And that's what I think it is. Well, you came to the right place because this is a very nonjudgmental community. And the way I look at it is basically everyone's having sex. So let's talk about it. Right. Well, you came to the right place because this is a very non-judgmental community. And the way I look at it is that basically everyone's having sex. So like,

let's talk about it. Well, that's, that's a big thing. So on my show too, it's, it's, you know, just like you, Lauren, exactly what you do. I'm not judgmental. I'm open. I will talk about anything. And so I think it frees people up on the show on sex with Emily and what you guys are doing to be like, oh yeah, it's okay. And then if you're that person, wherever you're at and you start talking about it, I do it everywhere. Like someone says what you do. I'm like, I talk about sex. I help you. How is your sex life? And they might be taken aback, but they're never run away. They're like, oh, I actually have a question. I actually have a question. I mean, it's such a big component of human life. How could you not want to talk about it? So that's what's the mystery too. We're all

having it. We all want to do it. We all want to understand it. It's like food. It's almost like cooking or food. The sex category. Yeah. We need a sex cookbook from you. I know. Yes. What is sex with Emily like? Is it like mind blowing sex because you're surrounded by it every single day? Every single time, is it? I mean, is it? Yeah, I would say that sex with me. Well, here's a funny thing. So when I started my show 14 years ago, I was not having the best sex. I did not know. I wasn't that girl that was always talking about it. I wasn't the one who had multiple orgasms and all the things.

I mean, I thought I was good and bad. I always felt sexy and had a lot of boyfriends and all that stuff. But I knew there was so much more to sex that I knew about. And I was like, I'm not having like crazy orgasms sometimes. And I just knew there was more. So I started this as me search going out researching sex understanding what makes what makes it great so now i have to say that yes sex with me is pretty damn good like you're getting a room with me and like i know give us some tips what's like like give me some tangible

takeaways that i can go and do all the tips. Last night I bit Michael's balls on accident. So I need some tips right now. It was an accident. We talked about this on your podcast. I had too many margaritas and you have to go listen to part one of you to hear that story. Might've gotten a little bitey, but you know what I mean? So give us some tangible takeaways on how we can have sex.

Like Emily has sex. That's a really good question. Number one thing, honestly, is communication. I will never say communication is a lubrication, has been my motto, and that will never change because if we don't talk about sex, we often expect our partners to be mind readers. And they should know what it's like.

Exactly, like, don't you see my neck sticking out? You're supposed to kiss it right now, hubby. Why didn't you? But they're not. We're all caught up in our heads and all of our own things. No, they aren't. I think you have to. We're just big, like, us men, we're just big, in our heads and all of our own no they are i think we're just

big like us men we're just big dumb animals we don't really yeah really i mean not dumb but your animals we're all animals we have sex just like the chimpanzees it's fine like that's our ancestors so i think the main thing is not assuming that your partner's gonna have sex the same way your last partner did because that changes over time and then in the moment like talking about before sex what are you into that so we're going to get into some tips here yes no maybes um but also just constantly talking about it and i think also being exploratory getting into different things trying new things and not being afraid of like vibrators and lube i mean you could get one toy woo more play which i love god bless bless you. I really do.

I was sad when I ran out of the first bottle. I'm like, are they still making it? First of all, we love to... You love this too. Multipurpose products. Right, Lauren? Efficiency. Efficiency. I love time savers, efficiency. Everything. Productivity. You know? So, right.

You're getting your healthy thoughts in. Wesson better have you guys stocked up now i'm hoping he does he did he dropped off bottles not enough i give it to everybody we'll say we're gonna send a truckload we'll just send them all over there okay so communication so michael we need to communicate before you just stick it in well always but here's the thing okay so imagine this scenario there's a guy or a girl out there that's listening and they're their partners may be a little squeamish around the topic of sex. They don't like to talk about it. They get uncomfortable

and maybe the other partner is very open to talk about it. How do you kind of break down that barrier? Cause I think there's a lot of people in our interactions, there's a lot of people that write and say, you know, I'm very interested in this, but my partner's not open to talking about it. Like how do you break down the barrier to get them comfortable okay so that is a great question so i would say that talking about sex is actually a skill okay it's not like oh i because most people do it the wrong way and they'll do it in the bedroom right after sex and they'll say oh i wish you would have done this it's more of a critique could you not bite my balls and and the truth is outside the bedroom i gave her instant feedback on that one yeah you're like ouch it's a good feedback.

I mean, I believe the only time you should actually have a constructive talk about sex is when you're in pain. A lot of women have pain during sex, and apparently men. And also, just if something's uncomfortable, in the moment, you want to be like, oh, could you move to the left or right? That's fine. But the best way to... If you've never talked about sex, which I'm telling you is why I will always have a job,

because most people do not talk about it, outside the bedroom. That's the number one thing. It is, and that is so, it's also timing. So you want to make sure that these things are not happening. Think about HALT. You want to make sure that you are not hungry, angry, lonely, or tired. Ooh, that's going to be real hard for you. Hungry and angry.

Lonely and tired. It's when you're chilling. Hungry and angry. Lonely and tired. It's when you're chilling. You guys are having breakfast. Maybe you're on a road trip. Maybe you're lying by the pool. Yes, a little spontaneity, Michael. Sprinkle that shit like cinnamon. You know, I will say when we travel, and I don't want to get too off topic, the sex is really good when we travel.

Vacation sex is so... Cabo's the best. It's that overrated, yeah. It's almost as good as makeup, but not quite. Makeup sex, yeah. Vacation sex is like so... Cabo's the best. It's that overrated. Yeah. It's almost as good as makeup, but not quite. Makeup sex? Yeah. Vacation sex. Because it's novel and it's new and exciting.

So you want to do it outside. Some of the best sex is makeup. Remember my bachelorette party in the bathroom? I said that is makeup is the number one and then it's maybe travel. Okay. But back to the... It's different. Okay.

So outside the bedroom, when you guys are chilling, you're feeling comfortable, you're having breakfast. Are you... You know what's great for a lot of people who are afraid to talk about sex? I mean, because literally, it is like people are like, I don't know. I want to so bad that I can't. It's when you're on a road trip or maybe you're just driving somewhere. You could go to Walgreens.

Hopefully a little longer trip. But you're driving and you don't have to make eye contact. But you're still, you know, just the two of you. You're still stuck. You're still stuck in that little vehicle. And you're like, hey, babe, so I've been thinking about our sex life lately. And I love having sex with you. It's been so hot.

Remember last week when you bit my balls? Sorry, I won't. Remember last week when you went down to me for an hour? That was amazing. And when you kissed my neck, I love that. And you know, it would be so, for example, you know, it'd be so hot. I realized that when you come up

and you like kiss my neck, that after you do that, I'm being Lauren now. This is an example conversation. I get so turned on and it makes me feel like, so like, I just can't wait to have sex. So what I'm talking about, like compliment sandwich here. You say what you like. I think that's so hot. It may turn me on. And so I think it would be great if we do more of that. And so when you come up to me and you give me a massage first and you pull out the woo and you like massage it back, it just makes me want to do anything. I just want to give you a blow job from,

I want to do all these things to you and so what do you think about that is there anything you've been wanting to try and you know just kind of like you may you keep it so it's timing and tone and location your timing has to be right you want to make sure you're in a good place where you feel safe and your tone because what a lot of people do is like we need to talk about our sex life you never initiate you never give me a blow job you never go down to me a compliment sandwich so the compliment sandwich starts with something that you love but it can't be an attack so you never be attacked your tone you want to make this positive this conversation that you have about sex is positive and it's light and remember it's not the last one it's only your first one and if you're in a relationship and it's ongoing you want it to be

like as much as you guys talk about where you're going to dinner, what's your workout going to be, where are you going on vacation? How's our sex life doing? Like I believe in, I'm going to do a course for people that's your sex plan, like have your sex plan for the year. So that's really my thing is like together you're on the same team. And I think couples forget that when it comes to sex, you're on the same team and you both can have your needs met if you figure out what they are and you learn to talk about it in a healthy way. I think that people spend so much time, including myself, on like their morning routine or their nighttime routine or their workout or their business schedule, their calendar, whatever, diet, hair, makeup, whatever. And then they like kind of leave sex out. It gets neglected. It needs to

be optimized. Exactly. Like that's why we have you. Right. That's why I'm here. I mean, I'm trying to opt because people, when you asked me your first question, so great. Why don't we talk about it? Because no one else is. And the other reason we don't talk about it is because we assume that sex should just always be amazing and great and it shouldn't take effort. And it's so odd to me that the thing that is so important to us, that we all want to have deep pleasure in it. It connects us in its intimacy. It's why you guys aren't just roommates.

You're married, it's sex. Yet we don't, we think it should just be like rainbows and hearts and happiness. And it's just not, it takes work. It's going to change over time. So people have to prioritize their pleasure, their sex life. Prioritize your pleasure. Well, I think it's such, it's so important to think about because like you said, every other area, everyone's focusing so much on improvement, but this area just gets neglected.

And it's probably the most, in terms of relationship, it's one of the most important. Yeah. Completely neglected. I want to dissect your yes, no, maybe list. So Emily has this yes, no, maybe list. It's on her site, sexwithemily.com, right? Yeah. Okay.

And so there's all different kinds of things on this list. There's like, like Michael, we're probably, we're probably not going to do the dirty stepfather and we're probably not going to do, uh, there's some things I'd do on here. We're not going to do, uh, we're not going to do double penetration, Michael. We're not going to do double penetration michael we're not going to do uh a gangbang not going to do a gangbang i hate to break it to you we're not going to be doing this list is this list it's pretty it's there's some great ones on there like costumes dildos vibrators dirty talk what if you just put one thing on here and you're like oh you know what i like this fisting is out for people that are nervous of talking is that you can kind of maybe do this separately

and then you can come together and share lists. And this is exactly. And you can even share the lists not together, but just like, here's my list. Here's your list. And they can go in a separate room and say, oh, I didn't realize that my person was into that. And maybe if you find out your person's into face fucking, that's a good thing to know. Right.

Okay. I'm going to fill my list out and I'm just going to leave it in your, in your office. Right. I mean, maybe not your office. We're going to create like different versions of it, but you could also do it like on an app when we get that, like it could only be, you only see the yeses or you only see the curious.

So you don't have to see if you're embarrassed and you're like, oh God, I'm into, I'm into squirting and he's not. Then he never has to know. What's your favorite on this list and what's your least favorite? For me in life, my favorite thing that I want, I mean, if oral's on there, oral sex, I would say, what is it on there, James? I think there's versions of it.

There's versions of it. This is, I would say, my favorite and my least favorite. Oh, my God. My least favorite. What did you say? I don't want to gag and choke. That's my least favorite. Fisting is off for me. I don't want to gag and choke. That's my least favorite. Fisting is off for me.

I don't want to fist. Yeah, no. Golden showers. No, that's off for me. That's an off. That's an off for me. That's my favorite. There's so many things.

I love you through masturbation is one of my favorite tips. Guys, there's phone sex, porn, prostate play. Orgasm denial, paddling pain, phone sex, porn, prostate play, sexting, spanking. But we got to share that. Mimi, when you're listening to this, we've got to link this. Sporting, strap-on plays, swinging, threesomes. Oh, my God. What's my favorite?

I would say that my favorite that I don't get enough of probably would be some spanking. A little bit of BDSM stuff. Yeah, blindfolds, bondage. If you're listening out there, future BDSM. Future boyfriend, future ex-boyfriend. I love a good spank. I like spank. Do you? Yeah. Lauren likes a good spank. Good. Just sp um i love a good spank i like spit do you yeah lauren likes a good spank good just think just a good good we've got floggers we got paddles

we sell things like that and then my least favorite what's my least favorite maybe face slapping michael what's your least yeah i don't want my face slapped do not i had a guy kind of like like no and he spit on my face once no none of that i wouldn't mind a face slap if it was like if it was like from my husband like i mean i'll give you a real good face like now perfect i'm just kidding see we're all different who would you know that but i like these lists but i think people don't even know that that's an option so they're like what we try to do and i think what you've done and also try to do is just break down these barriers around conversations that people are curious about but won't have and so that's why i was looking i

was we were talking earlier offline i was saying i look at the analytics and i see one on woo's account i see all the people watching the stories and watching the posts i can see it but not not really engaging maybe they're scared their friend's gonna see it or their boyfriend or their mom or their dad whatever it is and then also with these, when we do episodes with you or any sex topics, it spikes, it goes crazy, but there's less chatter because when you say less chatter, you mean they're not commenting on Instagram. I love the show or they're not emailing you email it, commenting or sharing, you know, cause we see all the like shares and yeah, we see all that stuff. And so we, we monitor, we I'm very analytics driven guy.

And I just see, it's funny. I see all the views. I see all the listens, but it's less engagement. That just tells me that people are shy to talk about these subjects. Okay. So let's get to what really matters. We just got a question from a reader. Tips on giving the best blowjob ever. Oh, okay. Let's get right to the blowjobs.

Enough with the analytics, Michael. Yeah, Michael. I was being a nerd. I'm kidding. I actually have so many questions for you after. Okay. Best blowjob is enthusiasm. I'm telling. I actually have so many questions for you after. Okay. Best blow job is enthusiasm. I'm telling you, you got to be into it.

You got to be, but not in like a fake way, unless you have to fake it at the beginning. But the sexiest thing I think is no guy wants to look down at a woman's like her eyes are rolling and she's just like kind of looking like it's a chore. Yeah. That's not fun. I've never made you feel like it's a chore. So you should give me a little credit there. I have no complaints.

I have good enthusiasm. Okay. So that's it. Yeah, go ahead. See? A plus. Big participation. As long as it's between 8 and 9.30.

Taylor's BJ tip is eye contact. He came on the mic. Yeah. And he's big on eye contact. Eye contact is really big. So that's kind of like the enthusiasm. So enthusiasm means like you want to lick it like it's the most delicious ice cream cone you've ever had and you cannot drop a bite. You don't want to miss a bite. And then, yeah,

eye contact. And it's about how you look, like moving around. Like it doesn't even mean like, I think the problem with a lot of women, and Lauren, this is something like, well, they're not confident in their bodies. They don't feel sexy. And I think a lot of what you do is like, you're so confident authentically yourself. Not that we don't all have insecurities, but you know how to move your body, right? The way that feels good, I would think. Slytherin like a snake. I would hope so. I think that you should own the body that you're in. Own the body you're in.

Yeah, and I think you should be confident with whatever you are. I think that's such a waste of energy to not be confident. Exactly. And people ask, how do you be confident? You just wake up and make a decision you're going to be confident. There's no other way. Exactly. What else exactly? You might have to choose every day. We all have insecurities. Everyone has insecurities. I have a hundred insecurities, but I try not to give that

energy because it wastes energy towards things I can be doing that are more productive and efficient. I love that you're so productive. I mean, I have to work on being like, I want that, but it's not my go-to. You're pretty good. you're pretty good you're doing eight shows a week i would say you're you're 10 hours yeah it's crazy you guys she does eight shows a week about sex i know but sometimes we're on topic 10 hour it's it's it's 10 hour 10 hours a week on the live radio okay but back to blow dubs could be like come on enthusiasm so and you're into it and you're looking in their eyes and you're just like, you know, and I think also a really important thing is you want to make sure it's wet enough. And I think lube is so on. I don't know how people, your saliva.

First of all, your mouth isn't always going to produce. Especially if there's alcohol involved, then you're even more. Alcohol or weed. Forget it. Yeah. You're dried out. Yeah. No way.

So I'm not even just plugging it because I will more play. Listen, I told you when we were talking on your episode, it exists because of it was invented out of necessity. I also think there's nothing wrong with like a twist with the flick of the wrist, like a tight

not too tight, like a tight grip of a twist going up and down while you're utilizing your mouth. I feel like I'm pretty good at multitasking. That's good. No, that's my third tip is technique. So right. You got it. So the first one is like, you want to be into it. The second one is like, make sure it's like the wetter, the better technique and technique means, because I think the thing is with porn, I was like, I should deep throw it. I should gag. Not only if you're into it, your hand is your best friend. During blow

double, like use your hand. I love the double twist with your hands. Play with the balls if they're into it and mix it up. Don't forget the balls. Don't forget the balls. And remember that the tip is the most sensitive. So lick the tip and then also the frenulum. Here's my other thing, if you guys don't know this, that the underside of the penis, where the shaft meets the head of the penis, right?

So the underside. Michael, pull your penis out so we can see. I don't know if it'll fit on camera. So Michael's penis is erect, let's say, and he's looking at it, the other side of it. Okay. The flip side, where the balls are. I've seen that a lot.

There's this little tiny spot where the head meets the shaft. So here's the penis right here. Okay. It's right there. Okay. It's called the frenulum. Okay.

It's your new best friend. The fenulum?. Okay. It's called the frenulum. Okay. It's your new best friend. The fenulum? Frenulum. Frenulum. I like it. So you look around it. We'll name our first born frenulum Bostick. Exactly.

There you go. Come here, frenulum. Come here, freni. Freni. I love it. And you lick it. You apply pressure to it with your hand, with your thumb, with your mouth. And so that is just a magic spot.

I think guys know that. They're like, oh, yeah, I do touch that one. I didn't know it was called the frenulum, though. I probably should. Lick magic spot. I think guys know that. They're like, oh yeah, I do touch that when I'm- I didn't know it was called the frenulum though. I probably should. Lick it, suck it, and fuck it. Lick it, suck it, fuck it. Taylor, get out of here. Sounds like a spring break shirt.

Taylor, do you like to pleasure your frenulum when you're jacking off alone and edging? Friends till the end. Friends till the end. Oh, here's, yeah. Okay. You know what's so relevant to this episode yes i do what is it sex sex lube lube well we talk about it in this episode a lot i mean we've been talking about

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I think if you ask the question, you don't want it to just be like scientific questions. It's more like, do you like that? Do you like this? You should hook up with me after this podcast because I have all this knowledge about your frenulum. I'm ready. Cancel our next episode. We got to go home.

Yeah. Do you guys have like a sex room in here? No, you don't have a sex room. I think my HR department would have a sex room with you no you don't have a sex i think my hr department would have a rough time with that yeah they sit right next to my office probably on purpose we could just go in the car you guys are so cute you know it's funny we were doing this um instagram live the other day jamie just on our thing we were doing luar play and we said i'm like i thought about it i'm like like the sexiest couple that i know invented this too so they

probably were like what could we use and that because we didn't really talked about it. I'm like, the sexiest couple that I know invented this too. So they probably were like, what could we use in that? Because we didn't really talk about it. Lauren and Michael are so sexy. And then they made a lube. And it's a sexy freaking lube. Massage oil. It's just hot. I'm like, go look at them and then see them, the sex therapy, and then you're going to want to use it.

Like I said, it was a lot of trial and error. It wasn't that hard to come up with because we were we were testing it we should make a homemade porn on my youtube channel and do a diy have you not yet no we don't have a homemade porn i mean michael's not big on when things get a little slow that's our that's our no michael's not big on having things in the cloud we're slowing down nobody's listening bust out the porn and then boom yeah maybe like we do like a paris hilton one night in paris but we should well we have a blog about how to make a sex tape we have a really great blog on our site how to make a sex tape a sex it's not for everybody but if you're in a committed relationship you're not worried that he's going to show he's

worried that the cloud is going to capture it i might have trouble capture like i don't know how i would film it i've already have a rough enough time trying to just take a basic what do you mean you just you just put a tripod oh you put a tripod it's not like showing the ink taylor can come set it up we have three cameras here in the studio taylor just purchased taylor let me tell you something if i was going to do a tape you would never be anywhere near that filming i could just set it up and then you know set it and forget it i'm telling you it's really hot i haven't done it i've never done it but my mom my mom did it it's so funny okay 10 years ago she was on my show she was like i was doing something about a sex tape she's like oh i'm like i would never do it and my mom's like well we did it once i'm like wow with your dad yeah

with my with my stepdad she did i was like you did and then what happened i was probably like literally the 90s or something wow i was like what'd you do with it she's like we destroyed it we didn't want your kids to find it. I want a sex tape. Let's do a sex tape. It's hot for you guys to watch. I think it could be. Yeah.

You like looking at her, you know, her new boobs you were saying? You do like looking at my new boobs. She did get me this sexy book before we got married. No, no, no. I got you a masturbation kit for when we got married. So what I did is I shot naked photos and I did a book and it says your masturbation kit. And then I got a huge thing.

This is before woo of coconut oil for him. And, um, one more thing that had to do with masturbation and made a kit for him and said at the end of the book, your life's over. But I, but I don't want to use that book.

Cause I feel like there's a little bit of a psychopathic behavior to try to use your own wife as like a masturbation kit I'm not listening I think about my wife no no no Emily you gotta tell me I want to talk about this I want to talk about porn because a lot of women when we talked about this I think before get really pissed off when the men in their life watch porn oh yeah that's a great topic. I get that every night. And I keep trying to tell everybody that this has nothing to necessarily do with the partner at all. I don't care if you watch porn. If I watch a porn, it's not a reflection on Lauren or our sex life or relationship. You would be a better person to explain this than me. But even women, women watching porn, has nothing to do with the partner. It's a natural part of human behavior. It's like exercise. Yes. It's a stress reliever.

It's self-love. And it really, it's not because they don't like you anymore and they're not attracted to you and they actually want you to look like the girl in porn. It's not about any of that. Like, I always tell people, like, that he was watching porn before he met you. He's going to watch it when he's with you.

And if you keep writing about it, he's going to watch it after you. And if he says he's not, he's lying. And you're putting him in a position to lie. But every day I hear from people like, oh, I partner watching porn like who cares don't lie to your partner about it either like the more people are open and honest and authentic about what's actually happening in their sex life they're gonna be shocked to see that their partner's gonna be this is another thing though you can't control it so like why give it any energy like if your partner wants to watch porn let him watch

porn i mean i think watching porn together is. As long as it's not absolutely becoming unhealthy to the point where it's inhibiting your sex life. Like if, if I was watching a ton of porn and neglecting my wife, that would be a problem. Taylor, when you go search red tube or porn hub or whatever you watch your porn on, what are you searching? And be honest, like, well, what's the real search i browse around what's the most popular i like to see what's trending like give us a couple of browsing yeah what's trending i don't know what's trying i'm just saying in general the video is is it like teacher student or like boss i'm not into role play come on that's i think the role play thing is for me

has no effect i don't know yet so the whole i i get what you guys are talking about earlier about the stranger thing but for me i would just go i know you i don't you're not selling me on this okay also be just like dressing up being like you know like okay hey honey like the milkman's here yeah but that's really hard to get over the laughing or the weirdness you realize that you actually it is someone it feels like someone new so it's it's not unhealthy in your opinion not at all and especially for a relationship no i So it's not unhealthy in your opinion? Not at all. And especially for a relationship? No, I think it's actually healthy for a relationship. Here's the thing. Porn is only a problem when there's consequences. So someone's like, I think my boyfriend's a porn addict. He

watches like three times a week. I'm like, that is not a problem. It's when there's consequences, like any addiction, like drinking or smoking. If it's impeding your life, you can't get up and go to work because you were masturbating all day. You lose relationships because you can no longer get turned on by a human. That's when it's a problem. So no, I think that porn is ultimately really can be really healthy and it's a release and it's great when couples watch it together because it can be inspiration. Again, the reason why sex gets boring and dull, which is going to happen in your relationship if you do not prioritize it, talk about it, think about it, and discuss it is because you're doing the same thing over and over and over again. So if you have watched some porn, talk about it, think about it, and discuss it, is because you're doing the same thing over and over and over again.

So if you watch some porn, and there's a lot of great porn that's like female-friendly, like Erica Lust makes some great porn. I can give you a login to her site. It's super sexy and fun. We've sent her some woo. Yeah, you've sent her some woo? Oh, good. Oh, love.

Oh, you guys, she's my, great. And then together, you could be watching and be like, oh, that's really sexy. Maybe we could try that position or just inspiring at something new. So no, I think that, but when I was 24, my boyfriend was watching porn. I was, I remember thinking like, but we're having the best sex in my life. I thought at the time, as you often do, I thought, how could he ever? And then I got, I had the insecurities as you want me to look like this woman. And that's because people just don't talk about it enough. And we're very, and I understand why it could be a point of contact problem for some people, but really no, it's healthy.

And then step two of that masturbation, a lot of men and women get insecure if their partner is masturbating. They think, oh, am I not satisfying you? And like a lot of times for me personally, it's not, it has nothing to do with that. It's just like, it's a release. It's like a stress release or it's just like a thing. And the act of masturbation is completely different than the act of sex oh yeah typically quicker not as not as engaged not you know what i mean it's literally it literally is like a stress reliever and that's why i try to right it's just like you do it it's

habitual and it just i don't know right it just it's like sometimes you wake up you're like man i'm not in the best mood i'm gonna get a shot of serotonin. I'm going to get the dopamine rush. Yes, but again, as long as it's a healthy balance. Just don't use my La Mer cream like you used the other night on your arms and legs. I never did that. You always exaggerate. If Lauren gets a paper cut, she'll say her arm's gone. I know. This

motherfucker leaves out Vaseline and now he uses Woo, but before when we first started dating, he would leave out a Costco Costco size Vaseline situation. And I'd be like, oh, how I wanted to set the bar right from the beginning and say, listen, this happens. This exists. I can't, I think masturbation is great.

It's self-love. Like you said, we need it. And I often have to remind. So women, this is the, this is what happens. Women are often, you know, concerned or bummed out by their men masturbating their partners and for women i have to i have to incur i have to remind them like you need to master it because women don't have that many women don't have that same incentive or push there might still be some shame around it i have women of all ages who say to me well i have a

partner i don't need to it's like that's no no no yeah i gotta masturbate it's like it helps you figure out you know your own body too because women also are very set in their ways like well i can only orgasm clitorally or i only orgasm this way but that's also how you learn other you gotta get to know your body i always say it's like mind-body connection everything is what you're talking about multi or being multi-orgasmic like that's mind-body connection i think a lot of it like it's it's it's having the connection and you have that, I think through masturbation. What Anthony Bourdain said, he said, he said, your body is not a temple. It's an amusement park. No, have fun with it. I like that. I like that too. I want you to give advice. Cause someone just asked this question

on Instagram. Do you have advice for virgins? Yeah, I do. Okay. Okay. So here's an advice for virgins is that first of all, don't beat yourself up. You're right where you need to be. There's no perfect age to lose your virginity and don't trip on it and don't feel like you're some kind of leper and like it's a problem in the community and like you, oh my God, I got to get over with. So I think I hear from when they're like, what do I do? Do I tell the person that I'm with? First of all, I say, should I just go on a dating app and find someone to get over with? No, you shouldn't. Virginity is still a thing. We put a lot of emphasis on it. You're always going to remember when you lost it. And it is a big moment in time. I think we celebrate it sometimes or we,

for the wrong reasons, or we make it a bigger deal than it should be in the sense of like, oh, it has to be this perfect thing with like candles and rainbows and music and lights and all those things. But it still is a big deal. The first time you're doing it, it is. So it's not something that you want to just rush through or have some rando partner. I think that absolutely if you're having sex for the first time with someone, you have to let them know. I also hear from people who I think feel shameful around it and they're like, oh, I don't need to. I'm just not going to tell them. I'm just going to pretend I'm not a virgin. No, let them know that like, I haven't had sex yet. Just so you know, like absolutely be open about it.

And I think you also want to pick a partner that you trust. That's a really big thing that you want to feel safe and you want to trust, especially for women. I feel like we have our best sex, more orgasms and more pleasure when we're with a trusted partner. Someone they actually feel safe with. So I think that's, that's kind of like my main tips is just to take your time, make sure it's someone you know, and then also masturbate. If you haven't had an orgasm yet, you know, just that's

for me, I never had one during intercourse. I was unlike Lauren, luckily, like didn't just have one right away. I don't know if you did it right away, but I personally had to masturbate. I had to be like, what is, because I used to think like a lot of women, I, you have a sex, you have intercourse, like boom, penis goes to vagina, explosive orgasm. That's not reality for most women. Most women do not orgasm during intercourse. Only 20% do. So I had to do my own work. So if you're a virgin, spend the time getting to know your body, what makes you feel good. So when you do have sex, you can move, explain to your partner and show them what you need. I'm into it. Someone just asked, I'm not going to say usernames because some people don't probably want it. Yeah. How to ask your husband about having a threesome. Oh, that's a good one

too. I get that a lot. So here's the thing. This is okay. This goes back to the communication conversation. You don't want to say, well, first of all, you don't want to spring it. I want to have a threesome. Cause the first thing your partner is going to say is who do you want to fuck besides me? Like who else is there? Why do you want it? It's threatening. It's like, we have this union and you want to bring someone else in. So this is when you have that conversation. You're like, Hey babe, let's talk about our sex life. Any fantasies you've been wanting to try? Is there anything you've been into? Like, let's talk about some things. And cause I think that a lot of people have never talked about sex ever. So I think kind of say that. And you could say, have you ever thought about being? My thing is also, if you don't want

to do yes, no, maybe, or an alternative, that is a bucket list. Like you each write down three things you want to try and you swap that. I think we've talked about that before. But as far as a threesome goes, say, you know what? I've kind of thought it would be really hot to see you with another man or another woman. A lot of times, I don't know if she's thinking about whoever asked it. I think it was a said husband. It was a she. She wants to tell her husband that she wants to have a threesome. With a guy or girl? With another guy or girl. She didn't. She didn't. Let's do both scenarios because I think they're different.

They're very different. Yeah. Okay. So if it's a woman saying, you know, I've been thinking lately that it would be really hot to be with another woman. I've never done that before. I think a threesome could be interesting. What do you think about that? That's something that you would be into. I think it would be really sexy for both of us to share that experience. What do you think? And then you just bring it up like that. And you have to make it more about the three of you. And I also think that you have to listen because sometimes when we spring something new on our partner

their first reaction is no or scary or scared or fear or the defense defense i don't know that i want that or what do you mean are you not satisfied so i think you actually have to lead with i'm loving the sex the compliment thing again to 11 things sex we're having it's been so great lately i i love everything about it and i've been thinking I have these fantasies sometimes when I'm masturbating. I think it'd be kind of hot to have a threesome. Never done it before. Not really sure how it would work. But first, I want to see, would you be open to that? I also think that a lot of like if a woman says that, oh, I want to bring another woman into the relationship in the bedroom. The man is like, is like that,

that meme where there's like laser everywhere and he like doesn't know where to go and he doesn't know what to touch. Cause he's scared. If he says yes, then the woman's going to like flip. I'm going to be honest here. There's a lot, there's not a lot.

I mean, and I could be generalizing and this could be sexist and I could be getting in trouble. That's wouldn't be the first time that's happened to me. There's not a, in my opinion, eight out of 10 times, I'm going to put a number on it. There's not a lot of men that if a woman approached him and said, I'd be interested in having another woman in the bed,

they'd be like, whoa, whoa, whoa, I don't think so. Bring a man in, that could be a different scenario. We said that's different. But I don't think there's a lot of men that would be immediately on the defense. It's more of like, oh shit, what do I say here? Well, I think that's a good point. Is this a trap? It's a lot of men that would be immediately on the defense. It's more of like, oh, shit. What do I say here? Is this a trap? It's a trap. Is this a trap?

And then they say, the guy says yes right away. I love traps. I set traps all the time. Do you? Yeah. So Michael never knows what's a trap and what's not. That's so good. I love it.

But, you know, you have to navigate it carefully where you don't want to be too enthused. I think you should have some things on your bucket list. So now that we're talking, be like, oh, so I've been wanting to, I thought we could just, you know, I was, I always tell people, don't blame me. So you were listening to my podcast, but like I was listening to this woman. She said, we should prioritize our pleasure. And I think we've been having sex a lot. You know, we do the same things.

And so I think it'd be fun to like try different things. I mean, maybe give a variety of things and say, you know, I love that time we were on vacation and we had sex outdoors. I think, you know, I think about threesomes. I don't know if it's just a fantasy or what, but is that something you'd want to try? So you make it more like, you don't want to be like, we need to try a threesome and pressure. You want to make it more like casual like that. But you're right.

The guy's gonna be like, uh-oh. You don't know if it's a trap because listen, ladies, ladies are laying traps out there. Say, tell me more about that. Like, okay. And then, and then you're right. Because if you said, yes, I do. I was like, fuck yeah. listen ladies the ladies are laying traps out there say tell me more about that like okay and then and then you're right because if you said yes i do i was like yeah i'd be like who do you which one of my friends do you want to sleep with yeah exactly so i think you got to ask a little bit more questions and then be like well i don't know i think it's interesting if it was something

this is the right answer is really so that's how do you picture that going down explain to me what are the logistics of the threesome if If say this woman does ask her husband, like, let's have a threesome. Like what's, what have you seen as the most successful threesome? I think the most successful threesome is when it's somebody, first of all, yeah, you don't know. Yeah. Unless it's someone you kind of know randomly and you know, it would be cool. But I think it's better if it's not like, oh, she's our bisexual friend. Let's bring her in. Or my best friend. I mean, typically, I mean, I've been's better if it's not like oh she's our bisexual friend let's bring her in or my best friend i mean typically i mean i've been with women it's never like my

best friend i'm not even attracted to my best friends but it's something kind of more organic you know my best threesomes were more organic and you're out and you're not attached with someone but i think for it's not your bookkeeper it's not your accountant no right especially um although no it's not but i i think um i think it's more about finding what you're both into so you both here's the thing the woman has to be attracted first to the woman like you have to make sure that she's into it and she's leading it those are the most successful so i think finding someone online there's some great sites like um cassidy and fleshbot and what's another one um field yeah we have a blog at? Field. Yeah. We have a website. Taylor's taking notes.

Yeah. We have a website on how to find a third on our website. Yeah. Field. F-E-E-L-D. So I think that that's it. And then you find and meet them ahead of time. Like have a drink or do a FaceTime.

Just like online dating. I think you'll need to FaceTime first. Don't waste your time putting makeup on and getting out the door unless you like actually. That's some good advice too. Just generally good advice. Yeah. Like don't freaking go. So do that. And i think that it's some people i know like like to go to vegas and make a weekend out of it and have so i think that's the best there's like also

another thing is there's play parties like you know find someone who's throwing them wherever you live i promise you there's swingers in every town that you live in there are swingers like a swinger group and they come sell swingers but now they're more like play parties. So you guys could go. Another thing I say is experiment. Go to these parties where they invite couples. And like women, they're called unicorns, are often invited without a date. Single men are typically not invited. And you go along and you see, is this interesting to us?

There's no pressure to hook up. But you kind of be like, oh, I want to, you know, maybe like, let's say it was you two. Lauren would be like, oh, yeah, I think it'd be kind of hot. I'm going to make out with her. And then you watch. And you just kind of follow her lead in most cases. It's not me leading, just diving in. No, you're like that chick.

No, she'd be, I don't know. But she might be like. My eyes would be ripped out of my head. Absolutely. You'd be wearing a blindfold the whole time until Lauren set the whole plan. So I think, I think it's more like that. You just find what you're both attracted to. Or another great thing is I just think couples have to try to really lightly. You don't want to do a threesome if to

save the relationship because sex has been dull. You want to do it because your sex is so hot. You guys communicate so well. You're on super solid ground and you've really talked with you. Like maybe you've watched threesome porn together. You dirty talk it like, okay, so right now she's going down on you. She's going down to me. She's hot. She looks like this. And you're visualizing it and you're picturing it. And then after you've done all those things and then you set boundaries, can she sleep over? Is it someone we know? Is he allowed to make out with her? Lauren, I'm just playing it to you guys now. You know, what do you want to see? And you really take the time to make sure that you have discussed everything because while it can be super hot for couples, I know lot of couples are like oh yeah our sex life went to the next level some couples

they can't handle the jealousy and it actually tore them apart more so so question was that a real question or was that it was you it was no it was a real question actually got submitted i don't know i don't know if i'm in a trap scenario here. Gotta be careful. Do you guys ever want to try it? I love setting traps. I think I would have a threesome if I was like in Amsterdam. Yes. Why do you always say that?

Because Amsterdam is literally the best place to have one. And there's drugs and sex. Yeah. Okay. What do you mean? Taylor, talk to our arm. Book a flight to Amsterdam. Is this a trap?

Is this a trap? Taylor, book my flight to Amsterdam. Is this a trap? Is this a trap? Taylor, book my flight to Amsterdam. Taylor. I have my arm here ready to block. I love you guys. Ready to block. You guys are the best. Okay.

Yeah. The most underrated sex tip. Most underrated sex tip is to go slow. I mean, honestly, my best sex tip is, I guess, do you guys know that? I mean, I think you should slow everything down. Well, when you were talking to us in the first, when we did part one on your, on your podcast, um, and you were talking about slow, I kind of wanted to go into it because I think men and women reveal all of their cards so quick in a relationship, not just sex. And what happens is it takes all the mystery out of it right away.

I don't think us as humans can process that kind of information on an individual that quickly. And I think we've never really gotten into the science of why people get turned off when that happens quickly because I won't say who it was, but I've a lot of my friends and I'm just speaking because most of my friends are men when they get in a new relationship and the woman that their relationship with reveals all of their cards right away, it turns them off and they run for the hills. You mean sexual cards are just like their entire history? Everything. It's like, this is where I was born. This is what I'm doing.

This is my ex-boyfriend. This is what I want to do. This is when I want to get married. This is what I do for sex. More mystery, less history, right? Yeah. Oh, no history. Be a poodle.

We talked about this on your podcast be aloof be make them work for the information um i also think that keeps things interesting like even when i and you don't even know i do this but even if i have like a really great interesting story when i see michael i'll think i'm gonna save this for dinner and and i've i learned that actually from your mom like brain stimulation is a thing. And if I have four good stories, I'll save maybe two for dinner this night and save another two for dinner later. I think that you should have your bullets and your gun and not fire them off all at once. Yeah. I think that makes total sense. And the reason why it goes away is because we are no longer interested because the newness that's

why sex is so great early on because you have the spontaneity and they get the newness nothing everything's like mysterious you don't know what's going to happen next and like that is what makes it hot it is the biology like our brains are we're firing it all cylinder because like this is new we don't know what's happening and then it becomes rote we're doing the same things over and over again so and the wanting of more like oh i'm still i'm still intro i want to know more i want to learn more like when it's everything's just thrown at you right away it's too much information overload i agree so the more you reveal things slower you move slower i think i always say go five times slower um i always tell men this because i think

what happens after rise you just rush through it like Oh, my God. Sometimes you get so lazy. You need to like. You could go a little slower. Are you saying that you don't sometimes? No, you could. We all get lazy. Everyone gets lazy. They do.

But like guys need to slow down. Slow down. Five times slower. Girls need to slow down too. Slow down. Really? Wait, what? How?

Just in general. Like what do you mean? Talk fast. No, no, no. I just mean. No, no, no. What exactly do you mean? Just sometimes girls i just mean i was no no what exactly do you mean just sometimes girls it's the same thing as immediately that they you know their whole life

story and you know all about their ex-boyfriend i think generally everyone can slow down i think it's good before you bump up you're right you need to we all need to slow the fuck down and be more mindful like if that's where everything the world is going right now is towards mindfulness and breath so i also think my other tip underrated tip is to breathe during sex breathe actually enhances orgasm sometimes we forget to breathe but for women and for men sometimes and you probably learned this taylor check out my podcast we part one we talked we had some great premature ejaculation tips i'm very proud of taylor uh most men can't do that shit so it's really amazing that makes one of us right so what proud of them don't forget to breathe it's important but breath you guys and i even tell like women too it's like

we since we're holding our breath but when you get anxious we like sometimes we o-block ourselves like about to get there and we can't if you breathe deep like deep in your pelvic floor like it's going down you feel it you like breathe back up again it's like down and you feel it and you like breathe back up again. It's like your whole body can become more orgasmic. And this goes for men too. So I think breathing more during sex and then breathing together, which is kind of a tantric principle. Well, careful.

Taylor's going to be panting over there over sex. Taylor will be like, my whole body is so orgasmic. Yeah, we know. Don't pop a boner. Taylor from the, from what is it from my toes down to nevermind. I it? Don't pop a boner, Taylor. From what is it?

From my toes down to... Never mind. Okay. I think you need to do some soul searching, buddy. With that... But our whole body can be orgasmic. I agree. Slowing down so you can explore.

We're slowing down so we can explore all the erogenous zones. More touch, more kiss, more slow. You know what? Set an alarm in your phone. Guys, we've learned a lot today. We've learned a lot today. We've learned a lot today. We've gone, we've gone a lot of different areas. We have gone in a lot of different areas.

Emily, it's always the best doing this with you. Yeah. You're the best. It's fun. You guys are. I'm so glad you're here now. Pimp yourself out. Tell everyone where they can find you.

It's at sex with Emily across the board on social media. You guys can find me on Sirius XM satellite radio, which is amazing. It's 5 to 7 p.m. Monday through Friday on Pacific, 8 to 10 East on Starz Channel 109. It's also on demand

on the SiriusXM app. I have three podcasts a week, so wherever you listen to podcasts, you can check those out. And that's where you find us. Thank you for talking about stuff that is so taboo and opening the doors

for women especially to let their freak flag fly and have fun with it. Like, let's talk about it. I love your whole mantra and what you're about. So thank you for coming on. My pleasure. Thank you. Thanks. As always, we want you guys' feedback. Let us know your favorite part of the Sex with Emily episode, and we will drop into your inbox and send a few of you pink Barbie sparkly pop sockets. Thank you so much for listening and make sure you rate and review the skinny confidential him and her podcast on iTunes.