The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - Caroline Stanbury - How To Use Self Confidence To Build A Career, Reality TV, & How To Capitalize On Authenticity

Episode Date: July 16, 2019

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A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the Skinny Confidential, him and her. Aha! And it just grew. I started from home with one person and then it just grew and grew and grew. And then suddenly everybody took notice

and I had some of the biggest investors in the world. As I said, they managed $22 billion of money and I literally walked in with a piece of paper and no way to even, like didn't know how to put a business plan together and I managed to raise the money. I raised just under $14 million. How cute is that theme song, Michael?

I love it. I could just like dance to it every minute. I thought you were going to open up with an English accent. No, I was about to take my top off and shake my tits. Well, I'll take that in substitution instead. That sounds much better to me. Let's hear your English accent. I'm not even going to try to disgrace myself. I don't know how to do it. Hello, governor. Oh, oh.

That's more of like a Cockney accent. I don't know how to do it. I got to hear it. I got to hear something. I got to bring Caroline back. Guys, welcome back to the Skinny Confidential, him and her show. That clip was from our guest of the show, Firecracker, Caroline Stanberry, the wildly popular show, Ladies of London. She's a socialite, an entrepreneur, a boss, a reality television personality. She kind of does it all. And she's a mom. She does it all.

And she is not apologetic about it. You know what I love about Caroline? She does things on her own terms. She doesn't give a fuck what anyone says. And she does it like in this hot, sexy, sassy way that just attracts you to her personality. With an amazing sense of humor. Huge sense of humor. She doesn't take herself too seriously.

She's in on the joke. I love that. I think Taylor was getting a little bit too turned on on this episode. He was flirting with Caroline. And, you know, that's what I mean about sense of humor because I don't think she was serious. Taylor literally had a chubby the entire episode.

Wouldn't you say, Taylor? It wasn't a halfie. It was a full chub. Oh, God. But you can't blame me. It's not my fault. I am only human. And she actually reminds me of the, like an English version of you, Lauren. Wait. So you had a half hard on for Caroline, but she reminds you of me. Okay. Good to say in front of my husband. This is becoming very creepy and incestuous in here. Taylor, is there any like hole in the wall massage parlor that you go to that you

get a happy ending at? I've never received a happy ending and the only time I've ever actually received a massage was when I went with you and Michael and we went to that one place, but there were definitely no handjobs or happy endings taking place in that. Listen, he's given a lot of sad endings

to a lot of poor women on this planet. So, you know, that's kind of the same thing, but in reverse. Wouldn't you say, Taylor? Yeah, but also the one person always leaves happy, me. Taylor, I'm going to find you a good, nice massage parlor up here in LA. I will always, you know, what's funny, we should have someone on that's actually gone through the experience of having a happy ending because I want to know what the do's and don'ts are. How do they signal that something's about to happen? Do they just grab you? I mean, you want to know the do's and don'ts so you can go use them. I heard somebody

do a blog post on it. There was a comedian talking about this. God damn it. I can't remember which one. I think I heard him on Joe Rogan's podcast and I'm going to, now I'm going to kick myself in the head for not remembering who it was. But anyways, I'm not taking credit for this, but it was the first time I heard about this, that it made a lot of sense to me about happy endings. Why would you want it at the end? Wouldn't that give you anxiety the whole time, build up and you get to the end? I think the best way to do it is to have a happy beginning, get it out of the way and then get the massage after when you're all tired and relaxed. Does that, doesn't it make more sense? Good thing you don't have to ever think about that, Michael.

Well, because I'm thinking like you're going to sit there the whole time and you're like, well, you know, how do I do this? What do I don't? Let's just get it out of the way in the beginning. So you just want to like, let your lizard like spray everywhere and then just keep getting massaged with it. I think if I was managing those business, I would say, listen, guys, guys, girls, ladies, boys, gentlemen, whatever it is, whoever's doing it, maybe not boys and girls. That's a little weird, but I would say, let's get this out of the way in the beginning, get the customer relaxed and happy, get the hard work done, and then finish off with just a relaxing time. So nobody's got to be stressed. You've thought about this too hard, Michael Bostic. When I heard the comedian talking about it, I was like,

that sounds much smarter. Denise Richards took her husband, Aaron, on Housewives, she talks about this, to a massage parlor because he never had a happy ending and gave, he got, he got one. That's a gold metal wife, I must say. All right, Taylor, I'll be on the lookout. But I disagree with you, Michael. I really think it should happen at the end. The reason being is because the tension that gets built up because you don't know when it's coming. You don't know when she's going to grab it or he, I don't know. Again, whatever you're, I don't know what's going through your mind. Wait, hold on. For you, it would just be like, you'd have to get like a 31 minute massage

because you could get 30 minutes of the massage in just one minute of like your wind down. You know what I mean? I wonder if they book by the minute. You could just go in for a minute massage. I think it's a flat fee based on whatever the job is, right? I would love to like set up an Uber of massages and just have like,

it could be called the minute man massage and they could just go around and just give massages to people like you, Taylor. Taylor, you could probably negotiate and be like, listen, this is only gonna take about a minute. So like, is there a discount, you know? I wonder if anyone's ever actually gone in and said, listen, I don't want the massage.

I just want the happy ending. I'm sure that's happened. I'm sure that was you. Anyways, guys, this is getting weird. Let's jump into the episode with Caroline. Lauren, take it away. With that, let's welcome Caroline Stanberry to the Skinny Confidential, him and her show. Michael, you know what's for dinner tonight? What's for dinner tonight, Lauren? Michael, don't act all scared. Well, I'm a little bit nervous. Come on now. What's for dinner is spicy arbiata pasta finished off with a couple of smart, sweet fiber gummies. Get excited.

Are you cooking it? I am cooking it with Thrive Market. It was delivered straight to my door. So I thought I would start with some peanut butter pretzels just to like have you not be hangry. And then we're going to go into a fiber pasta with a spicy sauce. And then I think we'll finish it in bed with like a fiber gummy, specifically SmartSweets, which are sour gummies and insane. You know, Lauren, that all sounds really good, but you know what would finish it right off?

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I'm really excited to open this. But as I said to you earlier, I've got to find someone here to have sex with to use this. But I hope my husband's not going to hear this podcast. Taylor is ready. He's hot on the mic and he's behind a wall. I would have checked him out better if I knew we were having sex later.

I put that wall there on purpose so that we wouldn't have a moment. And I sit my back to it. No, it's more so that I don't have to have a moment with him. Taylor, are you ready to have sex? I mean, we're in a glass box, Taylor. Okay, so you're opening I'm 43, I've got three kids. I mean, no one wants to see this naked. We need to so you're opening... I'm 43. I've got three kids.

I mean, no one wants to see this naked. We need to turn the lights down. I don't know how you have three kids, you guys. Caroline, when you're in America, if you were looking for that, I would feel like we would need to set you up with maybe somebody a little bit more up to the task. She is taken.

She's been with her husband for 10 years. 17. 17, excuse me. No. That's inspo. You look so young. So that's the coconut oil lube. Okay.

You can eat it, lick it, suck it, fuck it. Those are little stickers. Where do they go on my nipples? They can. Taylor's going to pop a boner. I thought it was like a whole thing. Taylor's in the back sweating. Those are freshies.

Those are for post-sex, post-wipes. Or pre. Whatever you want to use them for. After I can wipe your vagina? Yes. Yes. Or Taylor can wipe whatever he's wiping. So I can wipe your vagina? Yes, yes. Or Taylor can wipe whatever he's wiping up right now. Oh, nice. Nice, Taylor.

He's camisole. I hope my kids don't hear this. How many listeners do you guys have? Four, I hope. Yeah, maybe like two or three. Two or three? Okay, great. For all of you out of there.

Okay, so let's get a little background on you. Where'd you grow up? What was your childhood like? Take us way back. Is this you? I wouldn't say I cook. I throw stuff together in five on you. Where'd you grow up? What was your childhood like? Take us way back. Is this you? I wouldn't say I cook. I throw stuff together in five minutes. But this is you, right?

That's me. It's from about six years ago, but I threw that in there. Oh, so this is like a box of everything. It's a box of everything. She cooks. It's not always edible, but we get through it. I'm doing my best. I can't do everything.

He wants me to be a business person. He wants me to have a great personality. Suck his penis. You guys are married? Yes. We are married. It's like, I can't do everything. I can do one thing really well. Okay. Listen, if that's the thing you do really well, I'm good. I'm good. So tell us about your childhood. Take us way back. Oh my God. I don't know if I remember that far back. Way back.

Okay. So I grew up in Dorset in the middle of nowhere, and I went to boarding school, funny enough, from the age of six to 18. So I'm pretty institutionalized. It's very English. It's very English to have children and then give them away, basically, and then say, see you when you're a lot older, which is, you know. That sounds fun. Well, yeah, I was kind of traumatized by it. I wouldn't do it to my kids, but it's a very British and old school way of living. Children should be seen and not heard. So I grew up in like a big house in the

middle of nowhere, like with a two mile drive. So even if I wanted to go anywhere, I couldn't. I mean, I did run away from home once, but by the time I got to the top of the drive, I was so exhausted, I went home. I didn't get anywhere. I was like, come pick me up. I love my parents. They're amazing. But you know. What does that do though, as a child, when you get you know when you get sent away literally sent away is it um you learn you i find it very hard to i think i was known for not giving hugs like if people i'm not good with emotion i don't really know how to deal with that so i i do a lot of tapping and um i'm not a big hugger and I'm not a big, and which is difficult for me because here and the Americans want to hug me

everywhere I go. I'm like, you know, personal space, a little bit of personal space, like let's keep this clean. But if, you know,

Taylor and I are going at it later, I don't, you can invade my personal space. I was going to say it starts as a hug and then I'm inside you. Right. And it only lasts for a minute because it's been on the podcast. So it's going to be the best minute of your life. I wonder if I got sent away as a kid. That sounds very, I relate to, to all that personal space, not hugging, not showing emotion thing. So how did you two do? Um, she gets mad and I,

and I have to, um, adjust. Right. No. Yeah. I'm affectionate only with my husband. I agree with you that I need a little bubble around me. I'm not super huggy. Iate only with my husband. I agree with you that I need a little bubble around me. I'm not super huggy. I'm good with my kids. Yeah, you have three kids. Yeah. Okay, so you go to boarding school. College?

No, I could not wait to get out. Okay. I left school and when everyone else was doing really well, my book said people person. It's like I was the people person. But I became the most successful by far out of my class. So, I mean, I don't believe in that. I believe in, you know, book smart, street smart. And I just, it was sink or swim. And I just always liked shiny things, you know, and that's what drove me. I just always wanted things, but I wanted to be able to buy them

myself. I mean, I bought, I remember my first car car I bought myself a Mercedes SLK and I got a check back like six months later for a thousand pounds because I wired too much money I mean who does that because I just had no concept of like any of this shit so at what point do you meet your husband I met my husband I was 25 I'd just broken up with um some footballer I'm not gonna talk about but because he doesn't deserve it um let's not give him that air time no definitely not so i was crying into my lunch uh in a track suit with no makeup on and he walked in and sat at the next table and um i think my girlfriend dropped her jacket whatever and i saw him he clocked me i clocked him and the next night i went to the same restaurant he was at the other

table so and so and his friend had tried asking me out the week before and i noticed they were sitting together so anyway they invited me out for a drink i ended up giving both of them my phone numbers said don't uh don't argue boys and it's a pretty boss move yeah it is boss yeah it's like no need to fight you know i mean i don't even know where those balls came from um and then when he called me to take me out i couldn't remember which one it was because they i mean i i'm english i i used to go out with guys called john james alex they were called Jem and Raja. I mean, like, it's ridiculous. So I was like, okay, well, what's the worst that happens? I

haven't, I meet a nice friend and I'll just go. So I went out on a date with him. I lied the whole way through. What do you mean? Get specific for anyone out there who's single that's listening that needs some tips. Oh, definitely lie. I lied about everything. I said I cooked, that I don't like designer clothes. He's like, in my entire life, I haven't seen you without a label. I said that I love the Simpsons. That's what really did it. And then the first time we actually had sex, I got out of bed and ordered a kebab. He was like, this is the woman I'm going to marry. He's like, any woman that wants a kebab after she's had sex is my kind of woman. What did he do when he found out you couldn't cook?

That was upsetting. Yeah. He found that hard. Just order a kebab. Yeah. No, he cooks. He cooks. He cooks.

I mean, I did cook for him once. I made spaghetti bolognese, but you know, we have a cook now. Yeah. I'd like a cook. I don't need you to cook. That would be perfect. It's lost on the priorities if you could do other things. So at what point do you decide after you're married that you want to be on reality TV?

I mean, you're reality TV gold. Thank you. But I did not decide I wanted to be on reality TV. It was so far from anything I wanted to do. And I was I first of all, at school, I wasn't really pretty. I used to. Oh, my God. I went to school with

headgear I mean I had fucking headgear who talks to that girl so like I've never been picked for anything I wasn't good at sport I never got picked for anything so when I was put up for it I was one of the first people they found and because I was a female CEO I had like 86 employees at the time you know so I was I was you know a boss bitch they wanted they wanted me and I was like 86 employees at the time, you know, so I was, I was, you know, a boss bitch. They wanted, they wanted me and I was like, I can't, I was on, I can't do this on top of what I'm running. What's the pressure of an 86 person team like? I, I kept a lot of Xanax behind my desk, a lot of vodka, a lot of pressure, a lot of pressure. And actually I don't think I, I'm not sure I was a really nice person in that time, to be honest. So I think you masculine like if my husband if I had a stressful day I would literally get home like the kids would

be like oh mommy and I'd be like fuck off you know um I love your honesty yeah I did but I did I didn't you know I'd go and sit in the bathroom literally on the floor like because the pressure is huge there's a ton of payroll yeah and also you're managing not just your life but everybody they're all depending on you. Everyone's depending on me. Yeah. And like they come in, you know, and that's what I always laugh about because my staff would come in and go, you know, I'm not feeling so well.

Or, you know, my life is, I've had a really broken up with my boyfriend. I'm like, look, bitch, I have to do this. You know, I'm like, I can't, I can't take this on right now. So like I used to go to my sector, if you're in here to cry, you need to leave. Come back when you're done. Because I, you know, I don't, I don't have that luxury. Why do you feel like you can come into my space and do it on me? When I just, you know, I don't really don't have that time. So when you were when you're managing this company, and the reality television producer approaches you was the business aspect of learning? Yeah, well, so what happened was,

I don't know how I can do this on top. So I was like, how the fuck do you grow a company? I didn't go to school. So I was like, how do I grow it can do this on top so I was like how the fuck do you grow a company I didn't go to school so I was like how do I grow it from this to this and I was like you know I could buy a billboard in America because I wanted America or but how does that really work and then I was like okay reality tv might actually work and maybe this is a good thing to have this in my office so I was like I literally pushed the papers under everybody's desk like they had to sign or leave you know but, but actually, I mean, when I did the, what do you call it? The, the test for, I really wasn't expecting to get it at all, but I was the first person they chose. And then I was like, no, no, no, I just don't have time to do this. I can't take this on. I was doing IVF as well. I mean, oh my gosh. When they came.

So that's not an easy process either. IVF and 86. Not that I could understand it, but I've had friends that go through it. No. And you know what I used to do? Because there's huge queues for the doctor. So I used to send my secretary to sit in the room until I was three down to get there so that I could take my meetings, then go there, take the things and go back because I didn't

have time to do it. I mean, that's pretty efficient. No, that's inspo. That's pretty efficient. No, that's, that's, that's, that's in spell. So do you think looking back now, do you think that going on TV was a good thing, bad thing, happy with it,

not happy with it? As I said, anyone that starts a startup or whatever else, I think we all have a beautiful idea of this beautiful straight line that you're going to follow to your, your, uh, path. And it's going to lead you to success.

And anyone that's successful will explain to you that it's just not what fucking happens it's the world just sends you curveballs every two minutes and you just have to roll with the punches and oh my god and i'm still still dealing with it now um so it was what did you just ask me well basically are you happy with the experience of television so it was it didn't do what i thought it was going to do because it actually takes time so that you know when you're on a reality tv show you know people need to fall in love with you and that doesn't happen straight away so it's one year two years seasons before people really care about you and your family so it wasn't as an immediate switch that I thought it would be for the company.

I was like, you know, it took time. And actually it takes you away. So much time of it. So when I actually gift library didn't work out in the end, and it's a long story, not because we actually did anything wrong, and I was on TV. Reality TV was then the bit that I ended up giving me the next phase of my life. So although I thought I was going to be doing this reality TV and because I was the breakout

star of it, I was just going to say you were the standout star, like by far. I've seen the show when Lauren has it on. I actually am going to disagree with you. I fell in love with you from the second I saw you. I mean, like one of my favorite shows. I wish it was still on. I'm not going to lie. People might get mad at me for saying this but like I remember, I don't, I'm not a big reality TV show but if it's on I'll watch it but I you're probably the only one that I would remember. Yeah, he's like one of those guys that's like

peripheraling to the TV. Listen, it's entertaining stuff. I'm not saying I don't watch it. I just I'm not actually going in and like tuning in. I'm not the end user but if it's on, of course I'm going to watch it. So what does it feel like when you end up being the breakout star of the show i was just being me i didn't really i because you know when the the standout lines and the things that people remember me for i mean i don't hear myself say it it's not like i'm like oh you know this i'm gonna do this today i've i i watch it back like you do and i'm going shit that i say that and

the thing is i think also being so stressed with business and everything else, like I'm not that friend that sugarcoats things. I give very one word. Like I said to my secretary, she comes in, as I said, or I used to love jelly, but well, you know, jelly beans. And like I would just walk in and go, why? Why the fuck are my jelly beans not color coordinated? And everyone's like, oh, my God, because I only eat certain colors. And they're like, and that was my thing. That was my lunch and breakfast. But people are like, is she for real? What color? Green and yellow. Okay. And so I had to have that my secretary

would hand pick them every day. And she looked at me, she goes, you, you ate them. And I'm like, but why, you know, and this is everyone's going, is she really for real? But I really was for real. That's like, that was my food. That's how I function. You seem very logical. You think with your logic, not emotion. No. Yeah.

How long does a jelly bean picking gig last? I know you can't even pay. You really couldn't pay for someone for that. And my makeup artist, it gets worse. He used to come and scrub me naked in the bath. And because I don't even like to do that. He'll walk in, put gloves on and start doing it. Oh, my hair so the other day we were in new york wait hold on hold on hold on he has to come in and he has to scrub you down because you just you don't want to do it no of

course not you just want to lay that you want to relax totally i actually kind of agree with that i go to a korean bath how do you find how do you find somebody that does that job well listen to me so then he goes then he goes to he comes in, he puts the gloves on. And he's like, I'm about to wash my hair. He goes, I'll wash your hair. And I said, I'm 43. I can wash my hair. You can't wash your hair.

I'm like, you're right. Taylor, after you have a minute of sex, can you wash your hair? I was going to say, I'll scrub you down. Oh, okay. It's getting better and better. Oh, God. So as you're on the show, were you getting along with the cast of characters that are the ensemble no do you know these people before i did um closely or just you know some of them really closely preferably the show when you become the

breakout star not through any fold of your own then then people begin year after year, beginning they're happy because you're getting a hit show. So they don't mind. They're like, okay, it's fine. You know, and you're getting the attention, all the radio shows, the whatever it is, and which is the bit they all enjoy. But then after year two and year, you know, going into year three, then they're like, no, fuck that shit. I want to go. And so then it just changes everything. It changes a relationship and you live in a state of total anxiety and panic because it's just like, you just have to fend off people coming at you all day long. And it's exhausting. And you're like, also, it's so mind numbing. The stuff that I'm fighting about, I would never fight about. We had a baby shower

fight. Do you feel like they do that to kind of like, okay, shit, she's getting so much attention and I need to step it up. So I'm going to bring in some drama. And so I'm going to just bring something at her and then you have to defend yourself. job i don't want to embarrass my nobody even thinks i really have a husband because he's not on my instagram and i'm like he's a businessman he doesn't want to be in it it's not like locked him in the dungeon i don't know if any of you if you follow me but like yesterday um i'm having a uh it was our wedding anniversary and my husband knows me so well like i'm a party animal i loved every aspect of my life so he sends me a note he sends me a big bottle of champagne and then on instagram he goes darling i was going to send you flowers. But then I thought you could drink this and party in your bedroom. I was like, so I just posted it. I was like, look, I have a husband. He knows I'm partying here. And my bedroom is filled with peeps.

And I'm like, why don't you send me champagne to party? I just took that sounds like a fun husband. I just wrote back, where's the other four bottles what the fuck whoops yeah I'm having a party tonight how do you drink champagne every night and stay so fit because you look amazing in person okay we're really going to discuss this again actually yeah I stay really thin because I managed to find the fucking hardest trainer on the planet. So frankly, I do whatever he says, whenever he says it. And even if I'm exhausted, I'm too embarrassed to let him know that I can't do it. So I just do it. Give me an example.

You mean fitness wise or food? Or both? Both. But he makes me like, he'll go drop and give me another 20. And I'm like, okay. You know, like inside I'm dying. What do you do when you're traveling? Oh, he's not with me, unfortunately. But when you're home, I go to Shiva's Brothers.

When you're home in Dubai. Yeah. You're working out every single day. Every single day. I love that. That's commitment. It's well, I'm committed to him. When you were on the show, were you doing the same thing? No. So what do you do on the show? You look amazing too. No, I didn't. I look double the size. I looked a double the size. I look at myself on that show you look amazing too no I didn't I look double the size I looked at double the size I look at myself on that show I can't look at myself on that show and also I just I I've watched it once how was it with your so your brother was married to one of the cast members and then they ended up getting a divorce on the show yeah what was that dynamic like on the show it wasn't great because she threw me under the bus with a few things. But now like they just spent Christmas with me and it's great now. But

I think she got very led by the producers. Have you ever watched that one? The the the unreal or something? The real? No, everyone says to watch that. Unbelievable. OK, I'm going to watch that. That's the truth about what they do to us. What is this like a documentary on how they how to produce? Actually, it's a show but it is how they produce show uh reality shows oh they show like the producers producing producing producing it and they were all characters and they've got this board on in on the wall of like each of us has a you know a character and how they maneuver us without us understanding we're being removed we had a woman on this show um who is did a reality show one of the first reality

shows alexis and um she said the producers would do fucked up things like hide her dog and then say the dog is lost and they'd be like running around the street freaking out or she had a drug problem and they would like she had drugs um but they would go and like take the dog's pills and put it in her medicine cabinet and then go to the mother and be like hey you should go look in the medicine they just do fucked up things like that they didn't do that they didn't do that to be fair i mean and i i'm still friends with the producers but they did they do things like if i have an argument with you you're not allowed to solve it then and there so like they turn off you have a nanny so that at night you can't i can't

call you and say look let's just work this off camera so that doesn't happen and they you know they they plant things in your ear they're like you know you know they went out for lunch and then they said this about you and you're like really they did and then you know, they, they plant things in your ear. They're like, you know, you know, they went out for lunch and then they said this about you and you're like, really, they did. And then, you know, you get anxiety and you get this whole thing. And that's why, you know, I'd find it when I quit, I was like, my husband said, look, doesn't make you really happy making it. He's like, you don't, you don't, you never watch it. I mean, I watch, as I said, I've watched it once. Like, you don't want to watch it. You don't want to really make it, but then you, you know, so he's like, why are you doing it?

You don't really need it. So did you miss it when it went away? I missed, you know, it's weird because I was so used to, well, I moved to Dubai and that really helped. Because I really had to come to terms with if the show had continued without me, how would I feel watching it being filmed? But no offense, it's like having a hamburger with no meat in it, though. It was, the show needed you. And I guess it couldn't have been Ladies of London if you were in Dubai. how I am now on a 33 foot billboard as you leave the airport and I'm blonde in the Middle Eastern

country. It's hilarious. I mean, how that happened, I have no idea. It actually went up three days ago. It's there for a good year. So welcome to Dubai, everyone. And it's really weird. And, you know, and I've got this podcast now with Chris and I, you know, we have so much fun doing it and he's teaching me so much. I keep, I mean, I do have to learn to speak on my own podcast because he's so good at it, but it's been such a laugh. If there's one thing, Lauren, you okay over there? There's one thing that I know that is going to stop you from moving forward in life. It's not acquiring new skills, picking up new skills, acquiring new talents.

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hours so like but you know people are so bitchy when i left everyone was like oh you know because of gift library didn't work out they're like oh she has legal problems she's gone to the middle east like are you it just comes with the people are just gonna they bring you up to tear you down can you even hear that sentence? If you have legal problems, you think you run to the Middle East. I mean, it's like so ridiculous. You leave the Middle East. You don't go to the Middle East.

I mean, it's it's it's so funny to me. But I mean, people love to if they see somebody having fun and living, they just want to make they want to, you know, they want to bring it down. You do always have fun. I noticed you have a very light childlike energy to you. How do you maintain that? Because I've watched, I've seen your Instagram stories. You're always having fun. You're laughing. You're always having a good time. How do you maintain that? Well, my friends are all a lot younger than me, a lot. So I choose them because I find women my age, it's like they've given up. It's like, I feel like I look good, better than I did in my 20s. Whether I do to

anyone else, I feel it. I'm having the time of my life. I have a disposable income that I'm finally, you know, that I can have fun with. And I just think laughter is the best medicine. I mean, that's what keeps me young. And having all these young friends, like I went to some underground club the other night, two nights ago, the laundry, the dirty. So I went up and I was like, is this the laundry? And she goes, no, this is dirty laundry. And next time we're going to no vacancy. I'm like having, I am going like deep with these like young boys who are like have a band and I'm like I'm

with the band and I'm having so much fun but they love me you know they they have the best time with me and it's really just really good friendship I go running with my friends I'm here at Shiva's my best friend so I'm always with her Alexandra von Furstenberg people that I've caught I've known Alexandra since I was 15 you know my, my core groups here. And then I have like amazing people that I met here and they just make me, I'm always happy. I just am. It's just, I'm a glasses half full person. You're very good at networking.

Very good. Yeah. Do you have any tips on that? Any tangible takeaways? You thought about it for a second and then you're like, yeah. No, I mean. I know everyone.

Yeah. And you seem like you're a connector too. Yeah. I don't really know. Like, I mean, Nicole Scherzing is one of my best friends and she was the same because she doesn't like anyone, like anyone. I introduced her to everyone. She's like, who? And I'm like, Nicole, you met them like four times with me. And she's like, babe. You know, anyway, how no one understands that friendship either and then i was here like i mean travis barker was what is watching all my stories right now and because we used to party together and back in the day and you know he's text i mean the how random like the people are that i spend time with like from going from alex and i can be with nicole and whenever we go out with nicole she's like babe i really need you to be cool tonight and i'm like i think i'm pretty fucking cool

she's like no you're not what do you do what what it was her in her eyes what are you doing that's not cool i don't know being me i think she took me out to see maluma in french montana i know i had never heard of maluma um neither have i oh i'm not cool i know french montana i don't know who maluma holy shit google him right now okay taylor pull it up on the google you're gonna die he is so freaking hot and said and there's only like four of us in the room. She's like, you don't know who Maluma is. He has like got 26 million followers or something. I mean, he's huge. I need to get some young friends. Maybe I'm getting too old. I think you need to come hang with me. Hang with the kids. Okay. I don't think you spell it like that. Yeah. Whoa, Taylor. I don't know how to spell it. I don't know if that's going to get you laid, spelling stuff like that. How do you spell it, Lauren?

M-A-L. I thought it sounded like some sort of growth. Or Mo-Luma. No, it's M-U. Oh, M-U. There's probably a bunch of young people listening to this being like, you fucking idiots. We've been listening to these fucking nerds. Wait, we've got to find Maluma.

Oh, there he is. Oh, yeah, there he is. Look at we've got to find Maluma. Like he's. Oh, there he is. Oh yeah, there he is. Look at him. Okay, he's cool. And like he's frigging hot. And like French Montana's team still text me like, hey, let's hang out. And I'm like, I'm like, Nicole, everyone else thinks I'm cool. How are you balancing all this?

You're balancing coming to LA. You've got a full time business. It sounds like you're working out every day. What's the trick? The secret? I'm physically exhausted and tequila. Really? I can get on board with that.

I can drink a little more tequila. What's a day in the life for you when you're in Dubai? Oh, God, nothing. What's it like over there? Well, I mean, I use that as like, for me, it's like rehab and I'm so healthy. So every morning I get up and I go to the gym. We need specifics. What time? Are you early or late? Oh, no, I'm late. My kids every morning I get up and I go to the gym. We need specifics. What time?

Are you early or late? Oh, no, I'm late. My kids have already gone to school. Okay. So we're very spoiled in Dubai. I have to say, like very spoiled. I have a driver,

I have a cook and I have two housekeepers and I have a secretary. So I really don't have to do much. Dubai doesn't sound that bad. No. Sounds pretty good. For the price of one and a half

in England. Yeah. England, I mean, it is so fucking expensive. We were just over there for Christmas. It is. It's ridiculous. So I, you know, I can, I lie in bed in the morning. You really want to hear this?

I want to hear every specific. And then I text my chef to make me a full on celery juice. Then I wait 10 minutes. What's the wait for? Well, cause it's like, has to digest. Oh, you out, you drink it. I thought you were saying you like, you make it and then you say, wait 10 minutes what's the wait for well because it's like has to digest oh you out you drink it i thought you're saying you like you make it and then you say wait 10 minutes off drive drunk okay okay then i re-text him and say now bring me my cold collagen coffee with the bulletproof for my brain so which he makes specially for me it's like a cold coffee

like frappuccino thing but we put a lot of shit in there, collagen every single day. Then, so he brings me that. What brand? Of the collagen. Yeah. Oh my God. I can't remember. Okay. Okay. Anyway. So then, then I slowly get up and I go and see my very hot trainer for a good hour. Oh my God. I have to show him to you because I don't think you are. What's his name? Taylor can pull him up or you can't. I'll put him up. Don't worry. Yeah. And then I, um, my kids have already gone to school,

which is the way I prefer it. Sounds like how I'm going to be with kids, babe. Just so you can get a taste of it. I'd like to text my chef for a celery juice and a collagen coffee. Then I go, okay. So I open like hospitals.

Are you ready? Oh, wow. That's a good looking man. I don't know any trainers that look like that here. Wow. Oh, yeah. Straight?

Yeah. Whenever I've had trainers like that, that look like that, it's not, it hasn't made me feel the same way. I don't think I get the same reaction as you do. Well, my favorite part of the day is when I get stretched. I'm lying there with one leg up and I'm just looking at his eyes. Hold on, hold on. What is this guy's certifications?

What's his qualifications? Does it matter? No, I guess it doesn't for a guy like that. A guy like that doesn't need to have any certifications or qualifications. Absolutely none. He's probably on the street somewhere. It's fine. He's a baggage handler at LAX when he's not training you.

That's neither here nor there. It really isn't. I said to him my favorite part of the day of every day is when he stretches me. I'm actually lying on the floor. I can't, you know, it's like going to the gynecologist. That's how I feel. Like, I can't look at him. I have to look.

I look every other way. I don't know what it's like going to the gynecologist. Well, it's bad. You don't want to look at the doctor either. I can get, okay. So you're like there and I don't want him to, I don't want him to know that I'm like looking. So I'm like, I just look around the gym and as if I'm not like really bothered

that he's literally on top of me right now. Taylor, Taylor, you have, I could be pregnant again, except I'm too old. Taylor,

you have zero shot now. What's after the trainer? Oh, sorry. Just, you know, I was, we got distracted.

We all got distracted. Yeah. Shit. Yeah. Good for him. Yeah. So after that, I need a minute to cool down.

Cold shower. I need to go to cool down. Cold shower. I need to go to the bathroom and use the freshies. Those are for after your trainer. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh. Yeah, bring some of those to the gym. Oh, by the way, honey, I really love you. Your husband's a regular listener to this show.

He's going to be pissed. He's so pissed. Anyway, so then I go home, see my husband, and we lie by the pool we i work by the pool my secretary's there she she and i just we well we talk about my trainer actually lie by the pool we do a bit of work and then i go all over there's 186 hospitals so i go i've just been in oman i open six of them i kiss a few hands it's really funny i mean like they put the red carpet out i mean really i'm really famous in oman, people. No, it's an actual thing.

We believe you. I just think. What does that look like? Are there like paparazzis everywhere? Paparazzis, film crew, red carpets. It's hilarious. I was like, holy shit. And but the best part is I get to stay in the Oman. I'm like, I get to shake a few hands. I just wear very big glasses. If you wear a big glass, it makes you really look like you know what you're doing. And important. So I just don't take those off. I do my thing, kiss a few hands and leave.

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Can you sort of explain that? So I think what happens and people are very interested in how I would, or how I managed to do this job here, because I have a lot of clients that are doctors here. And when you have a lot of beautiful women in LA, why they chose me. Now, the reason that I'm so good at it is I think that I'm, you know. You're a bridge. I'm a bridge between the Middle East. You're a bridge between not just the Middle East, but the culture. Yes. And Middle Eastern women follow Western women.

And these are the doctors that I use and trust. And I think, you know, as much as I do, I don't look plastic. I haven't had any surgery and, you know, and I'm not a 20 year old model. So people really believe it because, you know, as I said, I turned 43 this month and, you know, for 43, I look pretty good. And so people want to know what I do. And so that's how I started finding the doctors. And then, you know, yeah, I started filling the hospital. It was just an idea.

So you connect the doctors here that are going to go and work on individuals in the Middle East or with individuals in the Middle East. So we then fill their diaries so that they don't lose anything by coming because obviously they're very successful here. So we'll do every six weeks. We then do two, three days. So at the moment we do fillers and things like this but right now i'm here to find the surgeons so what we'll do is they'll come for like four days a week and we guarantee them a certain amount of money obviously that because we will have take we will have yeah you're flying them out and put them up and then we you

know we we go back to back to back and they come back how does that work with like the facilities they have state-of-the-art facilities that doctors come and feel completely comfortable in there? They have royal suites. I imagine. We got to go there. We got to go there. NMC is huge and it's a giant hospital group and they have the best technology and everything. And also the great thing about this and what I really enjoyed about it, which I think is very interesting for famous people or people that don't in london or coming here so many

paparazzi you know the paparazzi are illegal in the middle east yeah so you you don't have that issue of like if i was going to go and have a body or overall i would go there you can just go lie on the beach nobody's going to take nobody's going to take a picture and nobody knows you how great is that so if you're having whatever you're having done and it's it's that's why lindsey lohan went over there i think well probably multiple reasons but she was saying i mean she was saying that's a big thing over there is that nobody was bothering over there she loves i know lindsey well and that's a huge thing for her she can't go out in la people won't leave her alone no of course and but that just doesn't happen that i mean they love famous people

and if you're doing an event and things like that because they don't really have many famous that's i mean i think for me all the opportunities um opened up was because there was no one like me out there i mean there's me and lindsey from you know this kind of a background that's what i was gonna ask you what is it like there describe it if you were to describe every little detail like what what is the vibe there well i think she's looking for like what for like, what's the social life there? It's like living in LA. It's very, very easygoing and relaxed. I think we have a different picture in our head.

You do. Because I think what Americans, and I don't mean to belittle you all, but you kind of get mixed up between Dubai and Saudi. And they're completely different places and way. I can dress exactly like this or hot pants, jean pants, you know, drink like there's Nikki Beach. There's all the clubs, you know, that you nightclubs, everyone parties. I mean, the only thing they don't have is any drugs.

It's like zero tolerance, which isn't a bad thing, to be honest, you know, and there's zero tolerance on, you know, stealing things and things like that. But so we I sleep with my windows open and my diamonds next to my bed literally you steal something you have your hands chopped off is that simple yeah they're not fucking around with that stuff fucking around and you know what doesn't bother me i'm not stealing anything i'm all for if somebody's stealing from me to have their hand chopped off i want to put that out there on this in america if someone steals from me in america I hope their hand gets chopped off. I'm all for this kind of punishment because people genuinely

don't do it. If you really thought about it and if I get caught, this is going to happen to me and you get thrown out of the country, it doesn't happen. This will be the piece that gets picked up. They'll say, you hear those people on there talking about hand chops? Of all the gems here, they're going to say that's the piece

and then they're going to attack me. Do you follow a specific diet? Do I follow a specific diet? I try and do high protein, but to be honest, since I've been here, I've been eating everything. When I travel, it's really hard. And I love food. And every, you know, LA life is

just about going from restaurant to restaurant, as far as I can see. I'm going straight to lunch after this. What are your spots to go? I need specifics. Tonight, I'm having a party. And I'm going to restaurant to restaurant. As far as I can see, I'm going straight to lunch after this. What are your spots to go? And I need specifics. Tonight, I'm having a party. Okay. And I'm going to Elefante. Okay. And then I'm having a house party.

You guys should stop by. All right, we'll get the details. Yeah. Taylor, calm down. And then, yeah, come. Taylor's going to be catering it. Oh, back there. Oh, yes, Taylor, it's you.

Don't forget about Taylor back there. It's my birthday. It's my birthday. It's your birthday? Is it really your birthday? Oh, no. Oh. Just like to celebrate it for a good year. Oh, yes, Taylor, it's you. Don't forget about Taylor back there. It's my birthday. It's my birthday. It's your birthday? Is it really your birthday? Oh, no. Oh. Just like to celebrate it for a good year.

Yeah, okay. I was going to say, good thing we brought a fucking gift. Yeah, all my friends wanted to throw me one here. So then I like Catch. I'm staying at the Cipriani. Should I put that out there? Is this live? Is everyone knowing?

No, it's not live. It's not live. You'll be long gone before this. Cipriani Hotel. What else do I like? I love Nobu. I've just been at soho house every weekend i've been going down there my friend owns it so he always books it for me the malibu one the malibu okay i went to malibu last weekend and i'm gonna go that's the best one it's the best one and i like just going early

afternoon and staying all the way through and then i i like house parties and things you know i think it's so much better than clubs. I mean. What about London? Do you miss it? Not at all. Not at all. Sick of it, huh?

Yeah. I'm going back now. I get anxiety because everybody wants to see it so full on. I'm going back on the 4th. I leave here and then go back because I'm doing this charity rally with Paris Hilton. Yeah. Tell us about that. So Paris and I have been friends since we were 16. She was 16.

I'm older than her. How do you even meet Paris Hilton? and I have been friends since we were 16. She was 16. I'm older than her. Hold on. How do you even meet Paris Hilton? We used to holiday together when we were little. So I, yeah, known her a long time. Long, long time. She's big in Dubai too, right? Yeah.

She's like well, well known over there. Huge. I mean, literally I went to her perfume launch just now. I managed, I got so drunk, I actually stradd to her perfume launch just now i managed i got so drunk i actually straddled her perfume bottle and almost went over the top of the balcony she's always like anyway she thought it was funny and then i took the paris cutout home with me in fact it's still my house trying to get that into the car with me was interesting but we've been friends a long time and i think um we always go to crazy stuff like either we end up in Ibiza together,

we end up in Coachella together. And then this was just seemed like another natural, ridiculous thing that we would do together. We were meant to be in sports cars, but Paris brought seven bloody luggage with us. And now we're in a G-Wagon. It's 40 women. It's for three charities in Africa. And Paris paris won't let me drive so i will be map reading we are going london paris geneva monte carlo and each night in each uh each city there's a party so i don't know how we're going to do this it's seven hours driving a day and if we don't kill each other then yeah i don't know and we've got a film crew in the back of our car and this is for charity this is for charity.

This is for charity. So we go now, we go the 4th to the 9th. I just spoke to her today. She's really, really excited about it. We've got, we've had, Michael Kors has made us those all-in-one red suits, you know. So cute. Yeah. So we're going to go and it's got the whole thing on it.

And it's going to be really, really fun. I was like, let's, you know, take some friends with us. She's like, no, we are going to relive our youth. This is going to be fun. I'm actually really excited to do it. I'm also really scared that I'm just going to be Paris's own personal selfie taker the whole trip. There's a good chance. My arm is going to be like this, you know.

But it's going to be fun. And then I get back. I wait four days and I fly to New York. I meet the Duchess of York, Ben Stiller and APJ. And i fly to new york i meet the duchess of york um ben stiller and uh apj and we fly to haiti and we do the graduation of three thousand children or two and a half thousand children that we put through school how did you get plugged in with ben stiller like how did i didn't well so not like it's not that it's odd just how no it's a it is an odd combination yeah um so i joined artists peace and Justice about four years ago now.

And it was founded by Paul Haggis. He wrote Million Dollar Baby, Crash, Casino Royale. And he's a very good, very good friend of mine. And he made me come on board. And, you know, I love, I'm the only, they've got 30 A-list celebrities on the board. I mean, huge, from Charlize Theron to, I mean, you can't believe the names. Anyway, and Ben was one of them. the board i mean huge from charlie's the ron to i mean you you can't believe the names anyway and ben was one of them and when paul you know stood back from the board last year i think you know

he's done it for a long time and ben took over so now he is my um he's the guy that i do he's the head honcho in charge over there he's the head honcho and so i do that i do it with him but i mean you know and susan sharon sarandon and madeline Stowe. I just can't. I mean, my phone is like kids, kids, you know, normal things. And it's like, Madeline Stowe. So it's mad. I'm like, how the fuck? I mean, when I saw the invitation, I was like, oh, my God. You know, my school friends were like, how on earth has that happened?

Anyway. That's got to be a good feeling, though. With the school friends. Like, yeah, that's right. You're very involved in charity. Have you always been very involved? I just joined No Dogs Left Behind as well. So I'm going to Beijing to intercept trucks for the meat trade.

Amazing. So that I'm going to do after this. I'm very involved. I only pick, I pick small ones that I really, I mean, they're not small, but the ones that I really, really feel passionate about. Like with APJ, 100% goes to charity. It's literally cash given to them and you feel like it has more of an impact maybe yes and then I dealt you know no dogs left behind I'm like that

for me was really one close to my heart because when they asked me like Petra Nomkova called me three days ago and said would you join and I was didn't even think about it because I hugely into my dogs and then the the one, the rally one, is run by a really good girlfriend of mine. I'm not going to get more involved than I already just doing the drive because I work all year round for Artists for Peace and Justice and it's a lot of work.

It really is a lot of work. Anyone that's ever done anything like this. And you're not paid, obviously, and nobody's paid, which is what I love about it. Everyone gives their time. So, yeah, I believe in them. Otherwise, I wouldn't do them. What are your three beauty tips?

And the more specific, the better. The products that you're using. Is there, like, skin care that you do? Okay, I get asked this question a lot in You're Gonna Die. Okay. I had my makeup done today. Okay. It's for my birthday tonight i

will be sleeping in this because it will last two days and i do that too yeah does she hold on you guys sleep in your makeup literally my husband wakes up there's like my face plant because i have the worst beauty routine of anyone i'm first of all i'm lazy as hell. I don't know how to, like, that whole, like, wash this, that, I just can't. I mean, if somebody's having to scrub you down in the bath, I can understand that adding the beauty routine, that's going to be way too big of a step.

It's really a lot. It's overwhelming. I can understand. Wait, so do you sleep like a mummy? Explain this to me. I need to understand this. So you get your makeup done. Yeah, and then I'll just add to it in the morning. So, like when when Luke and I used to travel he was my makeup artist the one that scrubs me down I mean he was so cute because he used to lock the door going I just don't want your husband to see me do this I'm like I think he knows you do this he's he goes I see her vagina more than sunlight and I only showed it to him because I know he

really hates it like really hates it it's not like he even wished to see it for a second. He's revolted by it. He's a gold star gay. Never kissed a girl. Never experimented. So it gives me so much pleasure to show it to him. Taylor will love it. Taylor, you'll see it later.

Oh no. Jem, I love you. Sorry, Jem. Sorry, Jem. Anyway, so yeah, my skincare routine is find a good doctor to do it for you okay so like i just have the worst i literally use those wipes and then or i sleep in it because so you sleep you sleep in your makeup what you're wearing right now and then you wake up and you just add more makeup to it yeah lauren's about to have a meltdown i just can't believe that your

skin looks the way it does and you do that if i sleep in my makeup for one night i'll have like 10 pimples if i do a really good skincare routine i get 10 pimples wow whatever you're doing is working so keep doing that and what about like brows spray tan anything else i'm i've just scrubbed i'm about to have a spray tan this afternoon for my party i'm a spray tanning queen i like leave you know the outline of my body in the bed too so you've got my face on the pillow and then you've got the outline i mean it's like a crime scene you can see exactly what happened crime scene my husband's just like he's like okay he can't bear it he cannot bear it I've just invented a sleep suit so that I can literally cover myself so that I don't leave it all over him the things I mean he's he's an actual actual saint I mean listen as somebody who's had to experience the same thing

with her like when you wake up and there's just this outline of brown like spray tan and makeup an eyelash hanging off the pillow you know that happens i was telling i like to leave him on his pillow when he does something annoying yeah you know as a as a network i had a conversation with um ardell you know and I was like, listen, I may be one of the only men on the planet, one of the only straight men on the planet that knows what an Ardell 113 is. And I was like, my wife needs those things. The 113s are the best because they open your eyes instead of closing.

Well, they're hanging all over the place. They're in the shower. Yeah. I just found them in the bottom of my bag. I, cause I can't apply them myself either. So my husband, like literally, I mean mean he managed to separate our bathrooms because he was like enough is enough

but we couldn't separate the beds unfortunately I think the key to marriage is a separate bathroom oh we have separate bathrooms it actually has changed

who was it that we had on the show that said the key was separate bedrooms I was like well that's a little far well someone said the key is separate houses too

no we've never slept well that's you know I was working towards that but who was that that came on we've done too many of these you know i was working towards that but yeah but who was who was that that came when we've done too many of these things i forget now i don't remember i'll remember what i've never slept apart like unless we're traveling we just we don't like sleeping apart either we like to sleep in the same no she can't she can't get enough of me she craves me

she thinks she thinks about me night and day um i am a hundred percent coming to dubai can't wait to see okay you'll come on my show. I would love to. I'd love to come to Dubai. Is that where you record it? In Dubai. Yeah. Dubai.

Okay. Yeah. Yeah. And you'd love Chris. Is Chris in Dubai? He's in Dubai. Yeah. Virgin radio.

It's huge. Yeah. We're on our way. Okay. What is a book, a podcast, a resource that you would recommend to our audience? Oh, without a doubt. You're a badass. I read that book and it's

life-changing and every page it's the weirdest thing is it that one with the yellow cover yes every single page something happened or who moved my cheese if you're going through something who moved my cheese what's that about it was one of the it's about a mouse believe it or not but it's like one of the most famous uh new york timesers. And it's about a mouse who, you know, went to get his cheese every day from the same spot and someone moved his cheese. So it's about like in life, you know, if you really think that you're going from here to here

and, you know, but someone moves your goals or your goalpost gets moved and you can't cope with it. This is about that. And it's amazing. It's the most amazing. You are a mouse that's cheese has been moved and you've managed to find your cheese. Yes. Pimp yourself out. Where can everyone find you? Your podcast, your Instagram, your website?

Chris with a K, Chris Fade and Caroline Stanbury on Spotify, iTunes, Angami, YouTube. Yeah, watch it. My first guest was Nicole.le it was really really fun it's fun it's just a laugh it's nothing serious and you won't learn anything that's okay though that's i bet you'll learn a thing or two and what about your instagram because your instagram stories are really funny oh thank you it's just at caroline stanbury thank you so much for coming on you're welcome to come back anytime you want so lovely i mean i could there's a hundred different things i could have asked you okay well i come. I'm always happy to come back. Come on back.

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