The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - Dr. Scott Cohen On Parenting, Childcare, Vaccines, & How To Combat Parental Anxiety & Depression

Episode Date: November 3, 2020

#305: On today's episode we are joined by Dr. Scott Cohen MD, FAAP. Dr. Cohen is a board certified pediatrician and the author of the bestselling parenting guide Eat, Sleep, Poop: A Common Sense Guide to Your Baby’s First Year. Today Dr. Scott joins us to discuss parenting, childcare, vaccines, and how to combat parental anxiety and depression. Check out Dr. Cohen's Book HERE To connect with Lauryn Evarts click HERE To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE For Detailed Show Notes visit TSCPODCAST.COM To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697) The episode is brought to you by AncestryHealth  Your inherited health risks don't have to stay unknown. Learn if you're at lower or higher risk for some commonly inherited conditions linked to breast cancer, colon cancer & heart disease, with AncestryHealth. Find out what your DNA says about genetic risk with AncestryHealth®. Head to Ancestry.com/SKINNY to get your AncestryHealth® kit today! This episode is brought to you by Feals Feals is a better way to feel better. Our premium CBD will keep your head clear and help you feel your best. CBD has been proven to greatly reduce anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals has us feeling our best every day and it can help you too.Become a member today by going to Feals.com/skinny to get 50% off your first order with free shipping! This episode is brought to you by THRIVE MARKET. We use Thrive for our online grocery delivery on a weekly basis and we also now get our wine at Thrive! They provide the highest quality products and ingredients delivered straight to our door with unbeatable prices.  Be sure to grab our deal by going to to https://thrivemarket.com/skinny to select your preferred memberships package and start saving today! Produced by Dear Media

The following podcast is a Dear Media production. She's a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire. Fantastic. And he's a serial entrepreneur. A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to The Skinny Confidential, him and her.

Most things, even serious things in kids, kids do really well and are treatable. Even really serious things like leukemia now is more treatable than ever before. And it's horrible to have any child with a serious diagnosis and watch them have to go through anything. But knowing in the back of my mind that kids are really resilient and we can do so much for them, it helps not to go to that bad place. Happy election day. That clip was from our guest of the show today, Dr. Scott W. Cohen. He's a board certified pediatrician and the author of the best selling parenting guide, Eat, Sleep, Poop, a common sense guide to your baby's first year. His groundbreaking common

sense based parenting philosophy has helped thousands of parents learn stress-free techniques for raising healthy, happy children. He is an insane pediatrician. We are obsessed with him. He's Zaza's pediatrician. We really get into this episode. We are recording this on Monday night. It's going to be a hell of a week. We don't know which way all this is going to go. This has been a crazy year. And I just want to take the time to remind everybody, no matter which way this goes, no matter who wins, no matter who's in office, we are all going to continue to get through this. It's going to be okay.

We're all going to be fine. Just got to keep persevering, keep pushing forward. I know that's not necessarily the message that everybody always wants to hear, but it's the message I think everybody should hear. And I think this episode is very timely, whether you have children or not. The future is about raising families and children and creating a better world for people that are going to live in it after we're all long and gone. And I think that's always the context to go in and try to remember things. We're all

human beings. We should all be coming together. I'll be helping each other. And I'm hoping that we go into 2021 with that energy. Dr. Scott Cohen has been selected as one of the best doctors in America in 2007 to 2019. And he was named one of Los Angeles magazine's top doctors in 2018 and 2019. I personally love his energy. We got to vet doctors and interview a bunch of doctors and he just really stood out to us. He's been on tons of national media outlets, including Good Morning America, The Doctors, ABC News, and Parents Magazine. He's charismatic, smart, and very well-spoken, as you'll see. With that being said, I want to jump right into this show. It's a long one. Even if you don't have children, I do think it's relevant. With that,

Dr. Scott Cohen, welcome to the Skinny Confidential Him and Her Show. This is the Skinny Confidential Him and Her Show. This is the Skinny Confidential Him and Her. Zaza's pediatrician. You're more than Zaza's pediatrician, but to us, you're Zaza's pediatrician. Give us a little intro on yourself. So my name is Dr. Scott Cohen, and I'm one of the co-founders of Beverly Hills Pediatrics. I'm originally from the East Coast. I like to make fun of all the born and bred LA people. But originally from the East Coast, grew up in Maryland and came out to California to work at Children's Hospital Los Angeles. Had the privilege of working with some amazing doctors there for three years. Met my original partner there, Dr.

Bess Raker. And then we opened up Beverly Hills Pediatrics about, oh gosh, it's almost been two decades. And it's just such a joy. I say, you know, if parents didn't show up in my office, I'd probably have the easiest job in the world. You know, then I get people like, oh gosh, it's almost been two decades. And it's just such a joy. So if parents didn't show up in my office, I'd probably have the easiest job in the world. Then I get people like the two of you and I have to deal with. So give us more of a background on how you grew up. Go way back, your childhood, everything. So I was born in Boston. So everybody thinks that I'm a bandwagon Boston person, but I'm a huge Boston fan. So when I grew up, the Patriots, the Celtics, the Red Sox, they were all horrible. Now they just happen to all be great. So people get really angry living in LA.

It's really fucking unfair, actually. I know, right? It's just really amazing. And then I grew up in Maryland outside Washington, DC. My father worked for the Department of Education under the Carter administration. That's why we're living there. We used to put on all our school forms, we had to say he was a consultant. We actually think he's probably a spy, like a CIA

or FBI agent of some sort. Either that or he was having an affair when we were younger because every dinner he would leave, his beeper would ring and he would leave and go someplace. So probably secret agent, we'll go with that. And then- Easier to take. Easier to go, yeah. My mom is a realtor. We had a great, great upbringing. I had a younger brother and a younger sister. We're all three years apart. And it was like suburban Maryland, Potomac, Maryland, outside DC.

Public school, sports, dance, theater, something every day of the week, which was just awesome. Dinners together. Really, really awesome to have the family life together. And then I went to Cornell in upstate New York for college. And that's actually where I met my wife, Erin. She's an amazing orthodontist out here. She has a practice called Lux Orthodontics. But we met my senior year. I was three months from graduating. She was a young sophomore. Her sorority best friend, big sister, was a good friend of mine and introduced us. We were pretty much inseparable after that. We ended up being long distance. Gosh, if she was here, she's going to correct me, but it was like seven or eight years. Oh, that's horrible.

It was horrible. And that was before, you have to remember before video calls. And I hate talking on the phone, even though it seems like I do that for a living. We would talk every night on the phone or she would talk to me every night on the phone. We did that. We were two years apart in our career. So I went down to University of Miami for medical school. It was tough living on South Beach across from the Delano Hotel for four years. And then she's the smart one. She went to Columbia for dental school. So we did New York City, Miami, great cities to do long distance from. And then I came out to Los Angeles to work at Children's Hospital Los Angeles. She was still in New York. So then we did New York City, LA, another two great cities to do long distance

from talking on the phone all the time. And then she had the opportunity to go to UCLA for a fellowship. They take like two people in the country. And she said, I'll come out. It wasn't even if I get in. She's like, I'll come out if, what's gonna happen with us?

And she came out, we lived together for a year. And then I got an ultimatum. I mean, I proposed to her. No, no ultimatum. Yeah. We've been together now, gosh, how many years? 20 some years. You said something when we were in your office to me. I think I asked you, how did you know you wanted to work with the baby and not the mom? Yeah. And you told me something. Can you tell the audience what you said? You know, it's funny. When we go through medical school, you go through rotations of different specialties just to see what you like. It's your third and fourth year of medical school. And I always knew I wanted to work with babies. And I didn't know if I wanted to be an obstetrician

and deliver them, or I wanted to be a pediatrician and take care of them. And I did as many deliveries as I could. And I really, really loved it. And it was just interesting because when the baby came out, somebody said, well, are you more interested? And not in a mean way, but are you more interested in what is going on with the baby or the mom? And I was always so interested in the baby. Of course, we cared about the mom too. But that was really interesting to me and how the baby grows and develops. And I feel personally the best doctors are teachers.

And there's no bigger field of medicine that education plays such an important role. And I think I got that from my parents and my father, again, working for developing the Board of Education, Department of Education. But that teaching aspect, because think about what we do in the office together, right? You come in with Zaza,

but we spend like 30 minutes just talking and we talk about what she's doing that's appropriate and what she's gonna be doing till the next time I see you and what safety things. And as a parent, that provides so much knowledge and so much reassurance. So when things happen, you can be like, oh, great, we knew that was gonna happen,

not, oh my God, what are we gonna do about it? And that's what I love so much about pediatrics is the education. Think about how much we do with the exam. It's actually a very small part. It's a very important part. But more of what we're doing is the education, the talking about the child. Yeah, because I mean, every time I see you, I mean, I leave, I'm like, okay, I feel a lot better because you go in, you're like, what the hell is going on?

You never, Lauren and I have never done this before. So we're like, what the hell is going to happen here? But then I'm like, oh, okay, He talked about when this is going to happen or when we watch for this or this milestone or what this means. And I think it makes parenting a lot easier because we're not sitting there constantly scared of what's going on with the kid. It's all perspective, right? I mean, remember when Zaza was born, how you held her, right? It was like a porcelain doll. I'm sure you were afraid every possible movement would break her.

Should have seen me driving home from the hospital. Right? It's like, it's the first time your wife was like, great, you're like actually driving slowly in LA traffic. But now, you know, you feel more comfortable. You can flip her around. You can do things comfortably because you know you're not going to hurt her and it's safe.

And that's the same thing with the perspective of being a parent. I thought as a first-time parent, I would have the perspective, right? I take care of thousands of children. I've done this a million times with my own kid. Why would it be so different? But it is. I say the first kid, you hold, fix, and stare, right? You're holding them, you're staring at them, and you're trying to fix something. I remember with Aubrey, the phone ringing, and I was like, somebody get the phone. And I'm like, wait,

I could have just put her down and gotten the phone, which is what you do with your second and third. You don't even know where you put them. They're back in the corner somewhere. And you're like, yeah, you're good. Yeah. You're hungry. We'll get to you. But it's all about perspective. If we could have the second child's perspective on the first life would be much easier, but even the specialists can't have that. Who's more micromanaging in your relationship, your wife or you about the kids? Because Michael's more than me. Oh, my wife. I'm very laid back. I mean, you know my personality.

She probably thinks I'm too laid back with the kids. My wife is also, I mean, orthodontics is a microcosm for her life, keeping things straight, teeth straight. She keeps things straight. She is A plus personality, which is amazing because I need somebody to keep me straight. I mean, I would be a disaster if not for her. But she is. One example was Lexi is our second. She was probably about four years old. And you guys know what croup is? Croup is the virus. Like scariest can be. It always happens at like three in the morning, of course, which means I'm getting that call in three in the

morning. I love it. So it was like, I got home from work and Lexi's on the couch and she's sitting there. She's like, and my wife's like, that's croup, right? And I'm like, uh-huh. She's like, what do you want to do about it? I'm like, no, I mean, she's watching TV. She seems comfortable. She's fine. She goes, what would you do if it was your patient? I'm like, oh, I'd put her in a steam shower, take her on the cold air and give her a dose of Decadron. She's like, then why don't you effing get up and go to the pharmacy and get the medicine? So it was like, you know, this is the perfect example of what I do and what I say, two totally different things. That's an interesting dynamic. What do you think the reason for that is? Is it like you're wanting to get away from work when you're at home with your own kids or is it because you're doing it

so often? No, I think it's, I just, and what we try to impart on parents is what to worry about and what not to worry about. And I don't feel like I'm laid back in a negligent way. I wasn't worried. I've seen this a million times and nothing's going to happen. And if she gets in distress, yeah, we'll move to the next step. We didn't have to do it that second. But I mean, there's a million instances where we're just like, I mean, I love your podcast,

The Him and Her, because I feel like that's me and my wife. And we fight over things, especially when it comes to the mouth. Aubrey, I think it was Aubrey, was running down the hall one day. We were living in the Hollywood Hills, like all hardwood and like stone, right? And we hear, boom, like flat on her face. So my wife runs over. All she's worried about is one thing, like what happened to the teeth? So I'm like looking at her doing like the typical, is your head okay?

Whatever. She's like, no, no, no. Let me look. That's the teeth. I'm like, no, let me look. That's the head. So we're literally fighting over body parts. Meanwhile, she's totally fine.

I'm dreading that moment because I know what I was telling you on the hall that like she's starting to move around a lot here. And I'm like, oh, I thought I had a grip on this. And now she's moving and she's mobile and she's going different places. And I'm like, oh, I thought I had a grip on this. And now she's moving and she's mobile and she's going different places. And I'm like, oh, shit. Like, I'm scared for those moments. Safety proof. I really think you're such an amazing pediatrician.

If someone is looking for a pediatrician out there, what's the pediatrician checklist that you would recommend? So that's interesting. So I think that philosophy, overall philosophy is so important. So when we meet with, you know, pediatrics is a very interesting field. It may be one of the few or only fields of medicine that patients interview you before they go, right? Usually you just go see your doctor and if you don't like them, maybe you don't see

them again. But this is a relationship I have with families for 18 to 21 years, one of the longest relationships. So when we meet with families, you know, I like, I want to impart on them that it's important that we have similar overall medical philosophies with things so that we can spend the time enjoying each other and the child in the exam room, and we're not fighting over fundamental differences. Do you vaccinate or you don't vaccinate? Do you want to give medicine? Do you not want to give medicine?

And there has to be some level of trust there as well. If you're coming to me as your specialist, I would hope you would trust my opinion on those things. And I think that's so important. And personality makes a big difference. Again, you're sitting in a room with me for long periods of time for years and years, and you have to have sort of that feeling of, you know, I get along with this person as well, and that you're getting the best medical care.

So I think obviously a good medical degree and being board certified is important. It means you took extra testing in the specialty of pediatrics. I think availability is really important as new parents. You know, when do all things happen? It happens in the middle of the night or after hours. And everything that happens for the first time, I get this question all the time. Well, you know, we always say, oh, we'll call us if it's an emergency. Well, what's an emergency? Everything that happens to a first parent the first time is an emergency. You know, to me, I know 99% of things that happen are never

an emergency, but the first time it happens, it is. So you want to have the ability to obviously communicate with your doctor. You know, I feel like our practice is, we're fortunate. We have the square footage in space. We have two entrances, a sick side and a well side, so we can keep the sick kids away from sick kids and the well kids away from the other sick kids, which has been so important during COVID as well. In-house laboratory has been really great, so we get tests back. I'm somebody, I really like information, and I think it's important for parents to have that information and we're not waiting and finding out lab results at 11 o'clock at night because then I'm somebody, I really like information. And I think it's important for parents to have that information.

And we're not waiting and finding out lab results at 11 o'clock at night because then what do you do with it? So I think these things are really important. But I think that connection you have, just like when you walk in anywhere, preschool or anywhere else, you know if they're your people or not, you know, and you're going to get along with them and you have similar viewpoints. And I think that's really important. It's 2020 and getting your groceries delivered to your door makes all the difference. I'm telling you one of the things that I spend my money on is saving time. I am all about saving time. It

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comfortable with Zaza not having to worry. Obviously, everyone's worried about COVID. But at least when it comes to her, we have not been worried. And that's in very large and part because of the conversations we've had. So maybe sharing a little bit of data from a doctor, everybody, on how children are affected, if at all, and what to look for. So we've been very fortunate. I feel very fortunate as a parent, as a pediatrician,

that the pediatric population has not been as severely affected as the adult population, especially the older adult population. The people that are most significantly affected are obviously over the age of 65 with comorbidities, whether it's diabetes, heart disease, obesity, things like that. It doesn't mean it can't be severe in kids

and it doesn't mean that kids can't spread the illness. It just, statistically speaking, over the last six months, it's happened a lot less so. And complications from COVID, especially in younger children, have been a lot less as well. And thank God. I mean, if we had to worry about the kids as much as we did the rest of our parents and grandparents, I don't think anybody would ever be able to leave their house ever. I think people would be able to go insane. It's just so scary. And it's a weird thing. And I feel weird every time I say it, but most illnesses affect the youngest the most and the oldest. And in COVID so far, the youngest have actually done statistically the best as far as serious complications. Have they figured out why that is?

So, I mean, there's a lot of hypotheses. One may be the actual binding of the COVID to the cell, that it's just less likely to happen in children. The other is that COVID is a type of coronavirus, and it may be that children, because they get sick a lot, have seen a similar virus, maybe not the exact same. So you've gained some type of immunity. And there's a lot of talks about T cells. T cells give you long-term immunity. So there may be some T cell immunity. And that may be another reason why even some adults, even older adults do better than others, because maybe they do have some T

cell immunity. So those are some other reasons, but I feel very fortunate and lucky that this has been going on. But still, despite that, we need to take all the precautions necessary to help prevent anybody from getting it, including kids. Because if they do get it, yes, it could be serious. So wearing masks and social distancing over six feet and constantly washing our hands. And it's all about mitigating risks. Because short of never leaving our house, everything has risks, right? So, you know, masks are better than no masks.

Being outside is better than inside. Small groups are better than large groups. Washing your hands is better than not. So these are common sense things that seem so obvious. That was always the case, yeah. Right. And it should always be that way. It's just people need to do a better job of following that.

What are some common things that you see in your practice? What are people bringing their kids in for? Krupp, you mentioned, are there any things that you keep seeing over and over and are there any ways to combat or prevent that? So currently or always? Could be both. Yeah. So I mean- Outside of like the regular checkups, just like any things you see, maybe there's something that you just, people don't think about. Yeah. I mean, colds are probably the most common, especially when kids are school. I mean, kids are cesspools. They pass everything. They're all touching the same thing and putting the same

things in their mouth. I live with two of them. So, you know, a lot of just different viruses that cause colds. Thankfully, again, most of these end up being totally benign and kids get over it. Yes. It's not fun to have fever for a couple of days and cough and congestion and vomiting or diarrhea, any of these things. It's not fun, but kids are really resilient and they get over most of these things without secondary complications or problems. Croup is just a type of virus. Well, there's many viruses that causes croup that gives that specific sound because it

causes inflammation in the upper airway. A lot of ear infections, obviously, a lot of rashes. So we have viruses that cause rashes. One you've probably heard of commonly is roseola, where you get fever for anywhere from one to three days. You may or may not have other symptoms, fever breaks, and then 12 to 24 hours later, red bumpy rash all over your body.

So scary because the high fever, but then the rash comes in, actually makes you feel better that things are getting better. Lots of diaper rashes, you know, azaza and like atopic dermatitis or eczema type rashes. So we see a lot of skin issues in kids, but that's sort of the bread and butter, the coughs, the colds, the rashes. And thankfully the kids end up doing okay. Why are there so many allergies? She's thinking exactly the same thing. Yeah. What's going on with all these allergies? Has

there always been this many allergies? I saw a video of a guy today that got kicked off a plane for eating peanuts on the plane. Yeah, so what do you mean? I always eat the fucking Southwest peanuts. You can eat peanuts? They're not. They're pretzels now. They don't serve them anymore.

Where have you been? Yeah, what do you do? Where have you been? Well, the last six months, you haven't been anywhere. So that's right. But they took him off the plane. No more peanuts. This guy got literally thrown off the plane because of peanuts.

I love Southwest peanuts. There's nothing better. They're done. They're done. You can't do that. Okay. So food allergies is really, really interesting. So you're right.

When we were kids, people didn't, your friends didn't have allergies. You didn't have to worry about bringing a peanut butter and jelly sandwich to school. And now, unfortunately, you can't go to a lot of schools because of severe peanut allergies that cause so many issues. We actually found out we caused that problem because we didn't sensitize kids to foods early on. So what we were saying is, oh, don't give eggs till this age. Don't give fish till this age. Don't give peanut products till they're three years old. And by not sensitizing them, we increased the risk of allergies. And these great studies came out. One was originally out of Israel, which compared

children in Israel to children in the UK. And basically, kids in the UK followed US recommendations of not giving peanut products till about three years of age. And then in Israel, they would give it in the form of bomba. If you've ever heard of that, it's like a peanut puff. And they were giving it like as a finger food around eight to 10 months. Their kids had 10 times less allergies. They ate 10 times more peanut products. And they got it two years earlier. So we're like, whoops, we did that all wrong. And there've been many studies since then that have shown this. So now what we do, and we talked about this with Zaza between four and six months is anything you're eating from day one that you can make non-choking, she can eat.

So I sort of joke, you know, if you wanted to put in a blender, you know, eggs, shellfish, peanut butter, yogurt, citrus, and give it to her. From an allergy standpoint, not a problem. But no honey. No honey till a year. That's right. No honey till a year because of something called botulism, not allergies, not common at all. But we wait on honey.

But anything else you can make non-choking. And we've actually shown that early introduction of a wide variety of foods, especially the allergenic foods, decreases allergies later and creates a better eater. Because think about it. When your parents gave you food, they gave you whatever they were eating, spices included. They just grind it all up and give it to you. Quick little break to talk about something a lot of people are struggling with, and that is anxiety. Okay, so CBD is known to greatly reduce anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Michael and I have been huge CBD fans for forever. It's something we do every single night. I cannot

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realized. I haven't been giving her almond butter and peanut butter because I'm scared. Yeah, but you should. Okay. And I eat it every single day. You should do it. Absolutely. What happens? So like what happens- Even eggs. If we- Yes, absolutely.

Because a lot of parents, listen, if you give them something, they start to have an allergic reaction at like, let's say four to, or maybe six to nine months or whatever. Like what happens then? What do you do? So you give them Benadryl. So you should always, whenever you're introducing food,

you should have children's Benadryl at home and you dose it by their weight. And if there's any signs of an allergic reaction, and signs could be anything from hives, which are big, blotchy red spots. It could be violent vomiting or in various- I can't do vomiting. No, no.

But she's not going to have an allergy because she tolerates it. She tolerates it. And then severe reactions would be swelling or breathing. Swelling or breathing, 9-1-1, right? We're going right to get help. But even hives or vomiting, you're going to give Benadryl and that's going to blunt the internal allergic reaction. Even in signs of anaphylaxis where kids are having really severe allergic reactions and

they're quick and they can happen quick, usually even with Benadryl and getting to the emergency room, we have a little bit of time. It's a serious emergency, but thankfully most kids don't have allergies. So if first degree relatives, the two of you don't have allergies, we want to introduce those things and eat them when you eat them so that we're decreasing our chance of having it later. Scrambled eggs and Skippies on the dinner menu tonight, Saza. Do you recommend that parents have like an EpiPen or no?

No. So if I have a family with a first degree relative, so parents who have true anaphylaxis will often get the child tested for that. So if you said, oh, I would stop breathing if I had peanut butter, I may consider getting her tested because if she's negative, that would be a reason to introduce it to her to decrease her risk later on. But in general, if families don't have allergies, the child's most likely not going to have it. Benadryl will help blunt it. We want to introduce it if we can. EpiPens also expire. You're more likely to have it expire than not, than use it. And of course, if there's any concern, we'll give it to a patient. But typically, we wouldn't give it to

every single patient starting solid foods because just the chances are unlikely. Why do you see so many patients be so scared of vaccines? So I think that it's gotten better. It got better in Los Angeles, especially for a couple of reasons. You know, we had the measles outbreak in Disneyland, which was a big deal. And then, you know, in California now, you can't go to private or public school if you're not fully vaccinated. So that's what helps the pediatrician cause. But listen, it's scary to give your child anything.

And I would, you know, what I always tell patients, I would never do anything to their child that I wouldn't do to my own. I would never ask of them anything I wouldn't ask of myself or my wife or my children. I think the three biggest reasons people had fears of vaccines, the things that you hear coming up is one, certain preservatives in vaccines, they call them, you know, they said mercury, but it's thimerosal, which was a mercury derivative, could cause problems. And number two, was there a correlation with certain vaccines like the MMR vaccine and autism? And the third is we're putting so much in a tiny baby system that are we overloading their system? And thankfully, all these things have been disproven many, many times over in many, many countries. But

just briefly, the idea of overloading the system is not really quite the truth. Actually, when you're giving a vaccine, you're basically giving a foreign substance called an antigen. So your body produces antibodies. So if you see that foreign substance, again, you know how to respond. You're actually boosting their immunity. You're not decreasing their immunity. And when we give vaccines, whether we give you one vaccine or we give you three vaccines, your immune response is going to be the same. And actually the only thing, the main thing I find that changes is your side effect profile. When you separate out vaccines, you increase their chance of having side effects because most commonly, if we give it most likely nothing happens, she cries, you feed

her, she's fine. But some babies get a little fever, fussiness, or a little redness at the injection site. Those are the most common things. But that can happen after every individual shot. So giving three doesn't increase that reaction. Separating them out, now we could have it three more times. And as a parent, why do you want to watch your child get shots three separate times? I mean, I didn't want to watch my daughter get shots that many times. So we're not really overloading the system. The reason we start at the age we do, around months is that we want to vaccinate them as early as possible because the younger you are,

typically the more severe the infection and get the appropriate immune response. And you get that appropriate immune response anytime after six weeks of age. So that's why we do it at two months of age. The correlation of certain vaccines and autism Obviously, this has been debated a lot. And you feel for families that have any child with developmental delay or autism, of course. Thankfully, we haven't seen a correlation between that vaccine. And there's a temporal relationship initially that we give the MMR at a year. And then we diagnose autism because of some of the receptive language skills that they lack around 18 months.

So we said, OK, well, wait a second. If we give this vaccine and then we see this, maybe they're related, right? But then you have to prove that. And thankfully with lots of studies, there hasn't been a cause and effect causal relationship with that. So there's obviously like a sensitive subject that I obviously, you know, and Lauren, one of the biggest things we say on the show is like, we don't ever get involved with telling people how to parent.

But for people that are against vaccinations,, what are the main things they're citing as the reasons why they're against? I think you highlighted a few of them. And what are the sources that they're citing to back them up? And again, this is just me being completely uneducated to this space, but also trying to share both sides. No, I think there's a lot of just internet information and it's really hard to weed through it. I mean, I see information, read stuff on the internet and in books and say, well, is that real? Did I just not learn that? And you really have to do a deep dive.

I mean, we're seeing this with everything from medicine to politics right now. You have to look at sources, you have to look at agendas and all these things. And, you know, and also it's sort of our personal group, you know, our friends and who we equate with. So if you have friends who believe that this is what happened when their child got vaccines and it was really, really bad, then you're more likely to believe that no matter what the science tells you. And that's a really hard thing when you have a strong belief, whether it's politics or religion or medicine. If you believe it, it's really hard to change somebody's viewpoint, throwing as much science as you want. There was actually a study on this

with vaccines that people who truly didn't believe in vaccines, the more information, scientific data you gave them actually made people dig in harder and not want to do it more. But I'll tell you, working at a place like Children's Hospital Los Angeles, where you see the rarest of the rare and the sickest of the sick children, and you see things that could have been prevented by vaccines, being a parent and a pediatrician, I wouldn't feel like I was being your child's advocate unless I protected them with that. I need an example. Can you give us an example, like a story of something that you saw at Children's Hospital where you just couldn't believe what was going on?

Well, I mean, you know, there have been cases of measles and measles can be very serious. It could just be fever and rash, but it can cause things like meningitis and even death and pertussis, which we sort of take for granted, whooping cough, and we get the whooping cough vaccines. There would be floors of kids with whooping cough, most of them under two months. So they were getting it because they couldn't get the vaccine yet, but then older kids getting it because they weren't vaccinated and it causes severe labored breathing and you can not breathe. So, I mean, these are really, really sad and scary things to sit down with families and watch and especially if it was preventable.

And that's what's so nice about pediatrics. We can prevent so many of the serious things from happening. And look, if it's against your belief or you don't want it, you know, I get it. I just feel it's so important. Speaking of kids, children, and how we take care of our children, let's talk about Ancestry Health. We have been talking about these guys for a while now, and what a timely partner, because this is very much in line with a lot of things we're discussing on this episode. Okay, so what is Ancestry Health? Well, Ancestry DNA tests can tell you exactly

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potentially avoid or diseases that we could potentially avoid, why would we not? And now that we have a young child, I definitely want to make sure that we know everything that she's potentially predisposed to. And so doing this thing, it's so easy, it's efficient, gives you peace of mind. 99% of the time when things go wrong in the medical field is because they go undiagnosed. So knowing what to look for ahead of time is super important. And boy, oh boy, do we have a deal for you. Don't miss special holiday pricing on truly meaningful gifts during the holiday sale at Ancestry. Head to our URL at Ancestry.com slash skinny to get your Ancestry gift today. That's Ancestry.com slash skinny. Such a good holiday gift, guys. Again, as somebody who's not super educated on this subject and wanting to just understand a little bit more, when did the conversation start around anti-vaxxing? And what was the reason that

that movement started? Was it something that happened that people started looking at? Was it some data that came out? What started this conversation between Vax or not Vax? That's a tough one. I don't know exactly. I think it was perpetuated. I think there are some pediatricians that perpetuate the anti-vaccine belief, which I think is unfortunate. And I think it gained some high-profile people also as well. So I think- But is there certain things that they're citing? There's pediatricians that are- I think it's just chemicals in your body,

I think is the biggest thing. We're putting chemicals in a small baby. Do we really need to put chemicals? And it sort of goes on for there. And I think sometimes the people with the biggest voices sometimes can do a lot of harm by putting those beliefs out there when there could be a lot of good.

But you get it. You understand different people have different beliefs. You just hope that we're doing the best for everybody. Being a pediatrician to me seems almost similar to being a vet, and I'll tell you how. If I was a vet, I would have extreme anxiety about seeing hurt animals. And as a pediatrician, I would have extreme anxiety about seeing a hurt baby. When you see something that's horrific happening to a three-month-old, is there a practice that you go through in your mind to calm yourself down so you're working from your logical side of your brain as opposed to your emotional? Right. No, that's a good point. And especially

being a father, seeing that, I think things touch me a little closer to home because you put your own child in that place. Ever since I became a father, I'm way more emotional about stuff. I don't know what happened. It's just like something happened. So fortunately, like we talked about that most things, even serious things in kids, kids do really well and are treatable. Even really serious things like leukemia now is more treatable than ever before. And it's horrible to have any child with a serious diagnosis and watch them have to go through anything. But knowing in the back of my mind that kids are really resilient and we can do so much for them, it helps not to go to that bad place. I'll tell you a personal story. With my kids, as you know,

I'm pretty laid back with them. I really never go to a bad place, even when they're sick. When my wife was pregnant, I didn't worry about anything. And I think as a physician, you can go one of two ways, right? You know so much, so you could run every bad thing through your head. What if, what if, what if? And I don't know how you would get through the day. Or you could be like, no, everything's going to be okay. And we'll take it as it comes. So Lexi was probably about three. She went to ballet class, baby ballet. And she had had fever all week. And then she didn't have fever for a day or two and felt really good that Saturday morning.

And we took her to ballet. And she did the class fine. And then we're walking the car. And she started to limp. And she said, Daddy, my leg. And she started to limp and fell to the ground. Couldn't walk, wanted me to carry her. So I was like, okay, maybe she did something in ballet class.

So we picked her up. We put her in the car seat. And as we were buckling her up, my wife goes, what's that rash? And she had purpura, which is like purple bruising all down her legs and on her chest and on her belly. So as a doctor, there's really two things that cause that fever, limp, and purpura. So cancer or something called head actual and purpura, which is the type of vasculitis, which is has a lot of things going on with it, but it resolves on its own and tends to be okay.

So it was the first time that I was inside losing it. And my wife, she looked at me and she goes, what are you thinking? And I'm like, nothing. Everything's fine. We'll go. Let's just go to my office right now. And she goes, look at me. Don't lie to me.

What are you thinking? And she read me like a book. And so I told her, and it can be differentiated very simply with a blood test, the CBC. If your white blood cell count and all your lines, your hemoglobin hematocrit plates are normal, it's probably hematocrit and purpura. And if they're down, then cancer. So I called my nurse. I didn't want to go to the emergency room. I didn't want to wait. We had the machine in our office. I called my nurse. I said, I'm sorry. I don't know what you're doing. Can I just pick you up? I don't want to poke my own daughter. And we took her there. And it was like the worst five minutes

of my life waiting for that result. And thankfully, it was fine. And it was this other thing. But as a parent, you get it. I mean, these things, when these happen, you feel for all the families that have to go through anything. And as a pediatrician, I actually think it makes you a better doctor to witness these things so that you sort of get the idea that things aren't always so rosy. When you witness these gnarly things at work or when you were at Children's Hospital and you saw all these things, how do you come home? And I'm sure you get asked this all the time. Just disconnect. Or can you? Yeah. I think it would be asked this all the time, just disconnect. Or can you?

Yeah. I think it would be different now. I have to be honest. When I was at Children's, I was single, dating my wife, no kids. And I didn't have that perspective. So I was doing my job. I was treating kids and sitting with families, but I didn't have that underlying thought process. Like when you were just telling me that story about your daughter, and I knew you were going to at the end say it ended up being okay, obviously, because I know you, but I was viscerally stressed. Sick to your stomach, yeah.

But I always wondered, and I've asked doctors that I know who went through residency training who were pregnant, who had little babies at home, and I'm amazed by them, how they could go through the daily things that they saw and they did and then go home to a baby and not think, well, what happens if this happened? Which it's just, it is really interesting, but you find a way you have to decompartmentalize it. What are some things that you do

that have nothing to do with work that make, like, do you run? Do you take cold showers? What are those little things that you do that really help you decompartmentalize? Well, this is interesting too work that make, like, do you run? Do you take cold showers? What are those little things that you do that really help you? Well, this is interesting too, because Lauren's like, if I, I'll be kind of stress case and things,

Lauren and Lauren has, you know, she always says exactly, she said like decompartmentalize, like figure a way to like separate. And it's like, so it's interesting to hear how people do that. Yeah, let's just put it this way. He woke me up at 5 a.m.

because we're jet lagged today. And he goes, so what do you want to interview Dr. Cohen about today? And I looked at him and I'm like, you're not asking me about work the first fucking second. You've got to be kidding me. That's a minor example. Or like going to bed with him. And you know, I was looking at QuickBooks today and I literally have a butcher knife next to my bed. He does not know how to compartmentalize. So we would love to know your tips and tricks. No, I mean, I love, I grew up playing every sport.

So I love sports. Now it's hard, but we've been able to play, you know, a little golf and tennis. I live vicariously through my girls. I have to be honest. So everything that they love doing, my oldest loves playing soccer. So watching her games on weekends is like the thing I look forward to. You know, when you wake up on a Monday and you're like, you have, you're just waiting for Friday night because there's just something to look forward to. You know, when you wake up on a Monday and you're like, you have, you're just waiting for Friday night because there's just something to look forward to. Like, that's how I

feel with whether I have a date night, you know, before COVID, my wife and I made it a point every Friday night, we would do a date night together. And it was crazy because all week, that's what I looked forward to. What's your favorite restaurant that you guys would go to? We love restaurants. Oh my God. We, no, we just go, I don't know. We go, we go everywhere. We love sushi. Okay. I love sushi. Okay. Yeah, yeah. And then my little one, Lexi, is an amazing violist. And Aubrey also plays the violin. And so I just, I love watching them and doing those things. And the date nights, you have to keep it, you know, in your marriage, you got to keep it fresh, right? So I love dating my wife., it's just, that's the best part. Like looking forward to those things outside of work, because you know, you can just get in the grind

like you guys did at five in the morning where every day you're waking up and you're just doing the same thing over and over and over again. And I love what I do and I wouldn't choose anything else, but I also love other things too. Like writing the book was so much fun for me. I was an English major at Cornell and it was something I always wanted to do. So those things outside make me really happy having other projects too. Yeah. Why are people so fucking judgmental about breastfeeding? I know, right? Because listen, we know breastfeeding is the best, but I wish that people would just say what's best for mom is also really, really important. And if we can breastfeed, that's great. We should try to do

that for all the benefits. And you won't find a pediatrician who doesn't say breastfeeding has advantages over other things. But I'm sure I told you this, whether you breastfeed for a day, a week, a month, or a year, if you choose this is a miserable process for you or the baby's not gaining good weight or something like that, you know what? Baby's going to be okay and you're going to be okay too. I feel like this happens with a lot of things in all of medicine, especially in parenting, maybe more than anything else. Everybody has their opinions and wants to impose it on everybody else, right? And really what we should look at is, yeah, this is just one way of doing it. And if you choose to do it, great.

But there's also a lot of right ways to do it. I mean, I hope I even do that as a pediatrician, that I don't say to you, this is what needs to be done, gospel, have a good day if you don't do it. But it's, look, this is my opinion. I think this is important and it's one way of doing it. But if you have other ways you'd like to discuss, let's discuss them. But then I'll also tell you when there aren't other ways because those ways are just straight out dangerous. But most of the time they're not. There's just

lots of different right ways. And that's what we should be talking about. It would make everybody's life so much easier. I joke on this show because, I mean, again, new parents and I'd never seen people get so riled up about what and how and when people should be doing things and imposing like their way. And I always joke, like, you know, if you were at a dinner table and I was at the same restaurant and I walked over in the middle of your dinner, you know, you really shouldn't be eating that. Like people look at me like I was a psychopath, but they do that with parenting. But it happens all the time. I mean, it literally happens when you walk down the street, a stranger will be like, well, da, da, da, da. And you're like, wow.

And in any other area. COVID's eliminating like, I didn't ask for your opinion. COVID's eliminating that. That's one good thing about COVID. Yeah. Nobody can come. You're like, why are you crossing the street? Getting closer to them. Yeah.

But in any other area, like people would look like, what is this psycho doing? But with parenting, it's like free game. People just say whatever they want. They impose their will. And it's like, I get it. People are passionate and obviously they care about kids and they want, and like, you know, a lot of, especially people that are, you know, they take parenting so seriously, like they want to do, you know, they think their way is right.

Right. But it gets, you get into this awkward place where what it's right for them may not be right for you. A hundred percent. You do have a really great lactation coach, Linda. Linda Hanna. She's amazing. Yeah.

She really helped me a lot. Yeah. But you know what? It's so funny because I worked for about a decade without a lactation coach. It just wasn't, I guess it wasn't in vogue. Like you didn't have them in your practice. And I thought I was doing a great job helping moms. Nobody seemed to complain.

We talk about breastfeeding and everything seemed fine. I didn't know what I was missing until she came in. And just whether you're having your first kid or your fifth, like people come out of that room and are like, oh my God, this is amazing. I was scared, but then I walked out of the room and I was like, whoa, she knows what she's doing. Yeah, you're a little scared. Yeah.

But you know what? Even she's a realist about things. Like, yes, we're trying to help breastfeeding, but if for whatever reason we need to do a little of something else or supplement, that's okay too. We put too much stress on parents to do things a very specific way, and that can cause its own problems. I think what is overwhelming about breastfeeding as a very specific way. And that can cause its own problems. I think what is overwhelming about breastfeeding as a first-time parent is that you basically give up your body for nine months. Someone else has taken over residence. And then you give birth,

and you're like, oh, I get my body back. And then the weight doesn't fall off as easy as you thought it would. And then you're also having someone clinging to your tit yeah and so you're talking about your daughter yeah so your body is still really not yours yeah and then your husband wants a blow job and it's like jesus christ what am i open a fucking 24-hour motel there's no way but she aaron would say like yeah i was you know pregnant for nine months then breastfed for a year pregnant for nine months best for a year she's like i just want to be able to dress in something that i can't pull all the way down in the front when I'm walking down the street. And then Michael turns to me at three months and goes,

what's wrong with you? I've been beat up too much on this show. And I'm like, what do you mean, what's wrong with me? What's wrong with me? I'll be better the second time around. Speaking of the second time around, if there is a second time around, when another kid enters a family, how do you coach parents to obviously still care for the first kid? Because there's different dynamics. And you see, like, I have a friend that just had another baby. And the first daughter will not let the dad in front of her touch the other, the new baby.

She's very jealous and just mad at the mom. Like, what do you do with parents that have like, look at our situation. If we had another baby. Oh, it's going to be a disaster. No, I'm kidding. No, you know what? You end up, like I said, you know, first child holds their fix and the second child you realize doesn't need much other than, you know, when they're hungry or to be changed, you end up spending more time and more one-on-one with your first anyways, and giving them all the attention. And then there's like little things you can do to like make it okay. So, you know, when you were able to, so after the baby's born, you know, I like putting pictures of the older child around the bassinet so that the older child sees themselves. And you can be like, oh my God,

look Zaza, your brother loves you. Look at your pictures. You're the best big sister. So it's all about her, right? And then having a present from the baby to her and her to the baby because it teaches sharing and then holding her next to you with the baby and the whole time it's all about Zaza. Oh my God, you're the best big sister.

You're so gentle because the most common behavior at all ages is like, nice baby, nice baby, whack. And it's not that she wants to hurt her brother or sister. She just wants to get your attention. When people visit at home or the hospital, instead of like, I watch my daughter Aubrey, like watch everybody walk right by her to the new baby. Remember, for two years, they've been going right to her. Yeah, it's tough.

So you say, oh, Zaza, you want to go show them your baby? Get her involved. We used to wrap a bunch of crap at home. So everybody who brought the baby something, we would have something to give to our older one to, you know, like nothing fancy, but like something to unwrap. Like here's your big sister present. Oh my God, this sounds like so much work. But then the best thing is it's all about reverse psychology, right?

So you're playing with Zaza and the baby cries. And you can be like, well, I'm playing with Zaza and the baby cries and you can be like, well, I'm playing with Zaza right now. We'll be there in a second and spend like 20 seconds and be like, oh, Zaza, your brother's crying. What should we do? Should we go get him? And what you just did in 20 seconds is said, you're more important. You make decisions. And now when you do it, she's okay. Cause she permitted it rather than just being like, hold on Zaza and going to get the baby and saying after two years, he trumps you. So little reverse psychology things work amazing. Because I think about it selfishly. I'm like, okay, in my dynamic in my family, I'm the oldest.

I have a middle sister and a young sister. And I was like, okay, there's always that joke about the middle kid. Sorry, Jordan. And then there's the baby, Tara. And I think like, okay, how- Well, you're one of three? I'm one of three. I'm the oldest.

I'm the only boy. But I try to think like, one, I think it's important to parent individually for each kid because we're all different. And I think my parents did that. But I also think, how do you avoid the dynamic of what I'm describing here? It's like oldest, youngest, middle. The oldest is always the best. Which one were you? She's the oldest. Oldest. I was the oldest. My wife was the oldest. Sorry. I mean, it was just, we get all the attention. So we're spoiled. That's just the problem with it all. One thing that you do in your practice that I

think is genius, and I don't know if everyone does this. So correct me if they do, is you give the mother a checklist to every time she comes in to ask how she's doing. And I had really bad postpartum anxiety, and I feel like it's not talked about enough. Can you speak on why you do that and more on anxiety and depression that women experience after they have kids? Yeah. So we do a postpartum checklist at your first couple visits through the first couple months. And it's just so, you know, we sort of forget about the moms. Like we assume everybody's happy and the baby's doing well, but how's mom doing? And that's really important. And especially in COVID, it was really sad for me to watch and all of us to see.

The first couple months of COVID, I would say the vast majority of new moms that we saw had postpartum depression. Why? They didn't have any family support. Grandparents weren't coming out to visit. Nobody was helping at home. Moms were leaving the hospital sometimes as early as 18 hours because dads weren't allowed to be there after delivery. Breastfeeding rates were plummeting because moms were in pain and stressed out and things like that. And it was

really, really, really sad and hard to watch. And we want to see that early on so that we can get moms and dads help to cope with all those things. And it helps, obviously, your parenting and it helps how you treat each other and the baby. And so that's why we do it. Yeah. Can you explain to my husband how real postpartum anxiety and depression is? Because I think that the dads, you said they don't get it. They really don't get it. Yeah. No, but I believe it now. We've done a bunch of shows. Oh, that's good.

You believe it now. See, now. This is great. People use it now. It's nine bucks late. So you just need me whenever something comes up. We'll come in and you'll just be like, can you tell him? Yeah.

You know, things like that. No, but I'm guilty of that too. We just don't know. Yeah. And also just, you know, you're so strong and it looks like you're handling everything well. And sometimes it's just hard to tell. And that's why those questions are really, really important because, you know, sometimes

I'll have moms who fill out the questionnaire and I'll say, listen, the score says that you may be at risk for postpartum. And, you know, do you want to talk to somebody? Can we, can we help? And they're not even aware of it. They're like, oh my God, I didn't realize that these things were happening. So it's important, not just for us to see, but for them to see so we can get you the help they need.

And, you know, this is, but this is dads on everything. You know that? Like I come home and I, you know, I want all the attention from my wife and she's like, I don't want to talk to you right now. And I get upset. And it's because she just spent, you know, she ran her practice. She cooked and cleaned and took care of two homeschool kids. And then it's no wonder why, you know, she doesn't want to talk to me. That's not her practice. She cooked and cleaned and took care of two homeschool kids. And then it's no wonder why,

you know, she doesn't want to talk to me. That's not her fault. That's, you know, she's doing too much. You guys love to talk. I mean, sometimes I'm talked out so much.

Speaking of COVID right now and kids at home, because I'm talking, I have, I've talked to a lot of different parents and I have some friends that are older and they have kids that are older than us. Right. Yeah. And it's a handful for them right now because all these

kids are at home. And, you know, a lot of parents, especially, I mean, luckily we're not going to this. They're not equipped to be teachers, but they're at home and obviously teachers are still teaching, but parents are now with their kids a lot more. What is that doing to the development of children right now? And I think it's an issue that people aren't talking about as much because there's obviously other things that are happening in the world, but I think it's a serious issue because- It's a very serious issue. And it's really hard on all families right now. And you can imagine you have kids at home and whether you have working parents or not,

right, they're trying to teach their child if they're able to. Sometimes there's just not time and they have to do the virtual teaching and the teachers are also doing their best, but sometimes they're at home with their own families and having to deal the same thing with their own kids. So the circle goes on and on. What I've seen with my, you know, I have a fifth and a seventh grader is really, you really need at times an adult there with them when they're off these Zooms to help out, to answer questions that would have been answered if they were, you know, physically in school and to help out, to answer questions that would have been answered if they were physically in school and to help go over the things that they went over in the quote unquote virtual classroom. And if they didn't have that, I think they'd be missing out on a lot. And that concerns me. And all the racial and socioeconomic divide that we're talking about, I worry that's going to get bigger

the longer this goes on because those reasons. And kids need help with the education. And I feel fortunate. My wife and I can work. And we were able to hire somebody to be there with our girls and help them. And they have amazing teachers and schools. And my Wi-Fi goes out a couple times a day. But you can imagine in places where you don't have a good computer reception or you don't have the support that you need to help the children or both parents are working and right. All those things. It's, it's a tough time. Not to mention just that, but like also the social interactions. Like I feel like children learn so much by seeing facial expressions and interactions of other children. Like even with Zaza, she's so young, but like if I, we have the

masks on in front of her, she pulls them down. She wants to see like what our mouths are doing. And I think about like, you know, when I was a young kid, like you learn so much about life by interacting with other kids and like a lot of kids have, you know, it's been a year almost of them not being able to experience that. So what, like, what do you think the long-term effects of that would be? I mean, I would hope not as much as we think, because again, kids are so resilient and we've just adapted to socializing in a different way. Unfortunately, they're socializing on the computer and on Zoom and on all the video chats.

So they're doing it, they're just not doing it as much. Fortunately, kids under the age of two, I always say first children are really good with adults. They're around adults all the time. And then when they get to school around two to three years of age socially, they usually end up all in the same place within a couple of weeks because they adapt and they're used to being around and the structure really helps. So I think as soon as we're able to

go back and it's safe to go back, I think kids are going to get back in there and it's going to be really great. And the long-term effects won't be as significant as they seem right now. But at the same time, the learning and that social development is so important that we want to be able to do it as soon as we can do it. Eat, sleep, poop. Dr. Cohen, tell us about your book, Pimp It Out. Yeah, Pimp It Out. All right.

So when I wrote my book, I had just had my daughter. And there were a lot of pediatric books written by doctors and there are a lot of pediatric books written by parents, but nobody combined the two pieces of advice. And before I had my girls, I was really good at quoting information. I could quote you any topic, any research, anything, and people seemed very happy with that. I think maybe they came to me because of that knowledge base. And I felt really good about that. As soon as I had my daughter and I would start spewing the exact same thing, I would get stopped every time. And the parents would be like, yeah, yeah, yeah. But what do you do at home? Does your daughter listen to

that advice? Does your wife listen to that advice? Because what do you want to know as a parent? Does the specialist really follow his own advice at home? Because that's really what's important. It's not what the book says. It's what really happens in real life. So that's what I wanted to do with Eat Sleep Poop. I wanted to give all the things that happened in the first year. Every question I've ever been asked is in that book. Because it's funny, no matter what age you are, the parents ask the exact same question. So all parents of two-month-olds, I could write you the list, ask the exact same questions. All the parents of four-month-olds ask the exact same questions. And we're talking like 99% pretty much the same. So it's very easy to compartmentalize those ages and know what parents ask. But then I wanted to

give, but what really happens at home? So when Zaza's are four months old and I said, hey, if you want to sleep train, I'm a big advocate of it. Who doesn't want their child to sleep 10 hours through the night? Let me explain how to do it. Yeah, well, that's what the book says. But let me tell you what happened at home where my wife and I fought and she cursed at me for a couple of nights and we didn't sleep together because my daughter was crying and I was being a mean dad. So that perspective, which you would think parents would say, oh, I don't want to go

to a doctor who does all these things and makes all these mistakes. I actually think it gains confidence, you tell me, because you see that at home, we all make the same mistakes and the kids do great. It's like people that write business books but haven't done the business, right? You're like, yeah, that's what you're saying, but that's not what you're actually doing. And the ones that write the books that show you exactly what they did and how they did it, those are the ones like, oh, okay, that's actually real. Because it gives perspective. And then you can see as a father, you can read this and it's not just like boring data, but it's like, oh, okay, he's advising us

on that and look what happened to him. So if it doesn't go perfect, that's okay. You said she's moving around so much. I mean, don't give her the beeper to your car. So when Aubrey was a year, she used to like pressing the lock button on the car keys. Erin asked me one day, she's like, can you put Aubrey in the car? Sure. No problem. I buckled her in her car seat and I handed her the keys to play with. And she went beep, beep and locked all the doors. Okay. Not a big deal. We're in the garage and she's going to hit it a thousand more times. She always does. But instead she throws them on the floor. So I go inside and I call up. I'm like, hey, where's the spare set of keys? She's like in the glove compartment. So I can't tell her she's dumb for putting a spare set of keys in the glove compartment because I just locked her daughter

in the car. So I'm super calm and I'm like, all right, so I think we need to call AAA. She's like, why? I locked Aubrey in the car. She's like, no, are you crazy? We're calling the fire department. So fire department comes up. We're talking like, you would have loved this. Three gorgeous strapping firemen like out of the movies get out.

And imagine me in one window, two firemen in another. We're singing Itsy Bitsy Spider to Aubrey, keeping her laughing. And a fourth guy's at the fourth window, jimmying the lock. Erin is in the corner, just arms folded, just like glaring at me. And in the middle of it, she says to the captain, she's like, hey, what would you guys think if I told you my husband's a pediatrician? And they're like, what? And they're like, oh yeah, this guy, pediatrician.

And they're like laughing at me. And they get Aubrey out and we take pictures on the fire truck together and we send them pizza and the thing. But like, and then Erin calls everybody she knows to tell them how dumb I am. But you know, we- I'm sure that story- Okay, so you are 180% me

and Michael is your wife because I will probably lock Saza in the car on accident. No, but I think like you need that dynamic to balance out a relationship. And I, you know, like not to, if some people don't have that dynamic, I don't mean to say their relationship won't work. But I think like Lauren, like if I maybe level her out and she also makes me not so rigid, right?

Like that's what we do for each other. Oh my God. So you're the A plus? He's the A plus personality? He, you know what he does? I'm going to tell you what he does. I'm going to call him out. So he's on Zaza's strict schedule.

I'm more fluid, go with the flow, every day is different type of person. He will walk by me and go, she needs a bath at 630 on the dot. Maybe it's 629. She needs a bath. The other day I looked at him. I said, I do not need you micromanaging every step of the day under your breath. He'll walk by me he goes she's hungry like you know what why do you tell him to do it because that's what i would hear but he does do

it he does i know better not to say it because i know i'm in trouble yeah he does do it michael does pick up 50 sometimes more of the slack but the micromanage of the like under the breath like blow like like i don't notice what he's doing to like push me her diaper needs changing like i can't i can't do it well i haven't learned i haven't yet got farther enough in the relationship to learn not to say things but i'll learn i'm very stubborn the second one you're gonna be like do what you want yeah i mean i think it's funny like both of us are discovering like zaza's like both of us are discovering Zaza's both of us, right? And so the things that I'm like, oh, she's like me.

And then I'll see, oh, she's like her. And so we're navigating that new dynamic. I just wish my wife trusted me. And I think she does. But I wish she trusted me as much as my patients trusted me. And I didn't have to quote like, but they would listen to me if I said this. But it's hard. You know, everybody's got to do it the way they feel

comfortable. But the funny part is when we first had Aubrey, she would call her two friends that had like an N of one, right? They had their own first babies who used to call me for advice. And she would like ask a question to me and then the two of them and weigh them equally, which is, wait, I'm supposed to be the specialist here. And so it was so funny. So I used to call them and plant information with them. Smart. That's the dynamic though. Right. They could at least say what I was going to say. So it works out perfectly. You and I could literally go in the other room and then we could say, we're going to say this to Lauren. If I say it, she'll say no. But if you said it, she'll say yes. And vice versa.

I'm sure with your wife too. It's like, it's something in a relationship where if it's coming from the spouse, it's not the same. It is hard to get my way though, if I'm the one that locks her in the car. I feel like it's gonna be hard when I accidentally lock her in the car to try to get my way. I mean, my wife will, she will admit pretty much every bad thing that's happened

has probably happened on my watch. I don't recall it that way, but yeah, it probably is that way. Yeah, I know. Where can everyone find you, share your Instagram or how they can book an appointment with you? Give us all the details. Yeah. So they can go to beverlyhillspediatrics.com is our office website. It has all our phone

numbers and addresses. The book is on Amazon. And when we used to have book stores, it was sold there too. And I think those are the two best ways. Yeah. Do you have an Instagram? I do. I have to be honest. I'm so bad. I do have one. Has it ever been updated or anything? So maybe you guys can help me with that stuff. Yeah, Beverly Hills, a pediatrician needs Instagram. So I have eat, sleep, poop is my Instagram. Doctor, I think it's Dr. Scott Cohen, but I don't know that there's anything on there. That's the bad part.

That's okay. But you do have- Because I'm a doctor. I don't think about these things. I don't blame you. I don't blame you. You know, that's a hard thing. No, I don't think, I don't do that well on the social channels either. I just like doing this.

You do have a Finding Nemo fish tank with all the fish in it. We do. That's so cool. I mean, but I would never do that again. Oh my gosh. No, no, it's fabulous. The kids love it. The upkeep on it is like, you know, I feel like I'm the Aquarian of the Pacific. I'm like, what is going on? Things only like four by four feet. What's going on? Dr. Cohen, thank you so much for coming on. Come back anytime. Eat, sleep, poop. Thank you. Thank you, buddy.

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