The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - Farrah Brittany - On How She Navigates Reality TV & Real Estate - Morning Routines, Productivity, & High Performance

Episode Date: October 4, 2019

#219: On this episode we sit down with Farrah Brittany. Farrah is the daughter of Real Housewives Of Beverly Hills Co-Star Kyle Richards, a top real estate agent in Los Angeles with The Agency. On thi...s episode we discuss how Farrah balances a massive real estate career & a life showcased on reality tv. We also dive into productivity hacks, morning routines, and what it takes to have a high performance career. To connect with Farrah Brittany click HERE To connect with Lauryn Evarts click HERE To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE For Detailed Show Notes visit TSCPODCAST.COM To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697) This episode is brought to you by FOUR SIGMATIC We have been drinking this company's mushroom-infused elixirs and coffees for over a year now. When we need a break from coffee but still need that extra morning jolt and focus the Mushroom Coffee with Lion's Mane and Chaga is the way to go. Lauryn also drinks the Mushroom Matcha which is a green tea designed as a coffee alternative for those of you who want to cut back on caffeine without losing focus and cognitive boosts. This stuff doesn't actually taste like mushrooms, it's delicious. All of these blends have a ton of nutrients and amino acids to give you balanced energy without the jitters. To try FOUR SIGMATIC products go to foursigmatic.com/skinny and use promo code SKINNY for 15% off all products. This episode is brought to you by Your Super. Your Super is on a mission to improve people’s health with the power of super plants. Your Super’s functional superfood and plant protein mixes are made from naturally dried, organic whole foods/superfoods— nothing else Get the cleanest superfood and plant protein mixes at YourSuper.com and receive 15% off your order when you use code SKINNY at checkout . Produced by Dear Media  

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Starting point is 00:00:00 The following podcast is a Dear Media production. caffeine intake. Four Sigmatic has the blends for you. They're all delicious. Just open a pack and add to hot water. They don't taste like mushrooms. And like always, we have a special offer just for the him and her listeners. Go to foursigmatic.com forward slash skinny and enter promo code skinny at checkout for 15% off your entire order. She's a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire. Fantastic. And he's a serial entrepreneur. A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to the skinny confidential, him and her. You don't need to have a lot of deals under your belt to get a vast knowledge of learning all the data, all the comps. So I always tell people who are looking to get into the business, pick a few neighborhoods that you want to focus on and learn
Starting point is 00:01:11 everything about those neighborhoods. Like learn all the houses that have sold, learn the average price per square foot, learn the average sales price, read up on articles on who bought what. That way you are the expert in that area, even if you haven't sold any homes yet. Happy, happy Friday. It's almost the weekend. We are going to Texas this weekend, which should be interesting, but we are back with a new episode today with Farrah Brittany. You guys may have seen her on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. I feel like she makes a lot of cameos. She's also a mastermind real estate agent at the agency. Like seriously, she is a seller and she's a hustler.
Starting point is 00:01:54 And today she's talking real estate, entrepreneurship, and morning routines. And today as your host, you have me, Lauren Everett Spostek. I'm the creator of The Skinny Confidential, a podcast, book, brand and blog. And Michael. Back for another episode. Taylor, how many of these things are we at now? 250, 230, 220. I don't even know how we're losing track. Wow. 224. So how Farrah and I met was through Instagram. We connected because we are obsessed with optimizing our day and our routine. And we ended up going out to dinner. We went to Dan Tana's and just caught up like old friends. It was like we've known each other forever. And then after that, we had to do a double date. And all we could talk about was
Starting point is 00:02:36 productivity hacks and optimization and daily routines. After stalking her Instagram highlights, which you guys have to check out, she has all these really good tips, tricks, and hacks. So of course, I'm super excited for this episode. Like I said, we're getting very, very micro and into it. And she has the most iconic family. I mean, between Kyle Richards, Paris Hilton, Kathy Hilton, Nikki Hilton. She has some history, guys.
Starting point is 00:03:03 With that, let's welcome Farrah Brittany to the Skinny Confidential, him and her show. FourSigmatic. It is the year of the mushroom, people. At least that's what Taro, the founder and creator of FourSigmatic, told me as I drove by Lost Inega and saw a FourSigmatic billboard. It just reminds me how much I love this brand, how much I love this company. Lauren? I personally think that you guys should start with the Mushroom Hot Cacao Mix. Michael's always been a fan of the coffee, but I, being pregnant, like to wind down with something that's sweet. Even when I wasn't pregnant, though, I like to wind down with something sweet. Anyways, this is Mushroom Hot Cacao Mix, and it's filled with
Starting point is 00:03:41 mushrooms. So you're going to get all the benefits. Mushrooms are like have these insane benefits and to be able to drink it in a hot cacao mix is like a warm hug from grandma. I even add some lemon on top, which sounds weird, but you got to try it. If you're late to the game, late to this show and haven't heard about Four Sigmatic, now's your chance. Americans drink a ton of coffee. Chances are, if you're listening to this, you're one of those coffee drinkers because over 64% of Americans drink coffee. Not surprising data there. What was surprising to me is that we are not the biggest coffee drinkers in the world. Data shows that Finland, the Finns, drink the most coffee.
Starting point is 00:04:15 Data also shows that they are the happiest people in the world. Why are they so happy? Because they know their shit when it comes to coffee and they drink a lot of coffee. They also know their shit when it comes to coffee, and they drink a lot of coffee. They also know their shit when it comes to mushrooms, and this time they have blended mushrooms and coffee together to make a delicious mushroom coffee elixir that you need to try. They also, guys, have beautiful skin, which is really important to me. And if you're wondering some other health benefits of mushrooms, they're high in iron, which is ideal when you're pregnant. You need a lot of iron. They repair DNA, reduce diabetes, boost immunity,
Starting point is 00:04:52 high in antioxidants, ease asthma symptoms, help build body muscles, and contain B2 and 3. I mean, you can't get better here. Can't get better, guys. They come in individualized packets, so you can keep them in your bag, your desk, pocket, on the go. Take them anywhere you want. Add them to hot water, and boom, you have a delicious, nutritious mushroom boost. We've been talking about these guys for a long time. We've had the founder, Taro, on this show multiple times. He's coming back on soon. So check them out. Go to foursigmatic.com slash skinny and enter promo code skinny for 15% off your entire order. Again, that's foursigmatic.com slash skinny and enter promo code skinny for 15% off your entire order. And make sure you get the spicy mushroom hot cacao and you add lemon at night while you're watching TV. He'll thank me later.
Starting point is 00:05:31 This is the skinny confidential him and her. You see my picture on my Insta story with Paris? No. Oh my God. I got to show it to you. I did not see. I got to show it to you really quick. Let see let me see so when i was like 19 or something we saw paris and nikki my friend and i and we followed them in the bathroom and i thought how fitting is this that i found this picture from like 1992 or something i gotta show her we're just like 1992 you were like six years old no i like printed out the picture and because you like could it was there was no cell phone so i like printed out the picture and we took a selfie on um what are those cameras i took a picture on one of those i don't even know what it's called what are the disposable camera yeah and i took one in the
Starting point is 00:06:13 bathroom and we took like a selfie and then i just remember her saying that's hot that's hot that's hot and i was like this is this nothing has changed nothing's changed and i literally i framed it in like a pink situation. You know why I love those old disposables? It's like, for me now, when she asked me to take a photo, it's like 40 photos, right? I got boom, boom, boom. I just rapid fire them. Back then, you just got the one.
Starting point is 00:06:35 You just got the one. One and done. Literally one and done. The fact that you guys were doing selfies back in however long ago, it's crazy. I mean, she basically invented that. Well, your cousin invented influencer marketing, in my opinion. Absolutely did. Yeah, for sure. I mean, honestly, she was the first influencer. But she's the first person that made a brand out of herself. Yes. Yes. And has been consistent throughout the years of promoting herself, her brand and becoming a
Starting point is 00:07:00 name. And she did that all on her own. And I feel like a lot of people in your family, though, have done that. I mean, it's like you guys, I was just telling you before we got on the mic that each one of the women in your family and men are really dominant. I mean, confident, beautiful, smart. We got a pool of overachievers in that family. Well, it all came from my grandmother. So she was this dynamic woman, and she had such a big personality. And when she left her ex-husband, her whole thing was never depend on a man for anything. So she taught her daughters, you're all going to be somebody, and so are your kids and this family. Everybody is going to be somebody in this family. So that's basically what happened.
Starting point is 00:07:48 And how do you think she taught that? Like, looking back when you evaluate it, how do you think she, because, I mean, that's something I want to teach, you know, my future kids is don't rely on anyone but yourself. I think that she really supported them. Her daughters made them believe in themselves, made them believe that they could do anything they wanted to do, be whoever they wanted to be. When Paris was actually a baby, her nickname was Star. And my grandmother said, you're going to be a star. And she died, actually, just as Paris was starting to really make a name for herself, but she saw a little
Starting point is 00:08:25 bit about it. She saw a little of, you know, the transformation, but she just knew, she just knew that this is, you know, our family, the women in our family were smart, independent, strong, and that everybody could be somebody if they wanted to be. And is your mom doing next? You have, your mom has four daughters which is insane like they tried for a son they tried and tried and tried and tried and it did not happen and they just said you know what forget it they did all the you know scientific techniques and then the second they just said for you know fuck it let's just go natural portia came wow yeah that's a lot of estrogen in the house that's i think maricio though on housewives, he does a good job of managing it.
Starting point is 00:09:06 Oh, he is the best dad's, you know, girl's kind of dad. Yeah. You know, he's masculine, but he loves it. He's the king of the house. There's like four girl dogs, four girls. I mean, five with my mom. It's just complete estrogen and he loves it. No, I think what I was telling Michael, what I find attractive in a man is when
Starting point is 00:09:25 they're masculine, but they also are able to tap into their feminine side. And I think like a man like Joe Rogan, he has, I think he has two or three daughters. Really? Yeah. And he has his wife obviously. And so he, I think he does a really good job of balancing that. They say, and this may be legend or it might not be true. They say men with a lot of testosterone are more likely to produce women. Really? That's so interesting. If you think about some of the guys that have daughters.
Starting point is 00:09:50 Oh, my God. My boyfriend's going to be like, what? He's so old and I'm having a son. That could be completely BS, but yeah. I don't know. We'll see. Mauricio seems like he has a lot of testosterone. That's probably a compliment.
Starting point is 00:10:03 Well, I'm saying that. Well, I feel like the more masculine you are, the more comfortable you are, you know, maybe with yourself. And so you don't mind being a little feminine in some areas or more sensitive because you're just confident. Exactly. Bingo. So looking back on the way your mom raised you guys, four daughters, what are some things
Starting point is 00:10:20 that you think maybe she got from your grandma or things that she's instilled in you that you think are really valuable? As kids, I think she never treated us like kids. Like she treated us like, not like adults, but if we had an opinion, she would listen. She would really support what we wanted to do. And she was really, she was strict. She was strict. So she had a lot of rules, you know, but a lot of positive reinforcement. So she would always tell me, you can have whatever
Starting point is 00:10:53 you want, you know, I'll get you this for Christmas or for your birthday, but you have to, you know, work for it. So when I would get good grades in high school or in school in my whole life, I would work towards a goal. And so that positive reinforcement kind of, you know, instilled a work ethic within us. Well, I think it's really important for parents to think about, and we're not parents yet, obviously, but you know, it doesn't matter where you start, whether you come from a family that's, you know, that's got a little bit of backing or where you come. What I'm trying to say here is that it's important to instill confidence and goals into children, I think. Absolutely. Because there's a lot of people that, you know, if you grew up privileged and you're just given
Starting point is 00:11:33 things, but without the incentive of like, Hey, this was given to you because this, this, and this occurred before you could get it. I think that's where kids get in a little bit of trouble. But if you can instill like, Hey, you're going to be rewarded with this type of thing, but in order to get it, you have to do these things. I think that's what's important. That's the missing component. A lot of parents that start to make some money have problems with, right? Like they don't instill drive. The basic foundation, basically. But what's funny is I'll just point out, our lives have drastically changed in the past 10 years since the show. I did not grow up with this kind of lifestyle. We were always comfortable.
Starting point is 00:12:07 But when my sisters were born, we were living in a two-bedroom apartment in Beverly Hills. And the agency, our company, is only eight years old. And the Housewives show is only 10 years old. So we always had a great life. I always went to the best schools. But the lifestyle that we have now is nothing like it was when I was little. I remember when I was little, I always wanted a house with stairs. And I would ask my stepdad, I'd say, when are we going to buy a house with
Starting point is 00:12:35 stairs? When are we going to buy a house with stairs? And he would say, well, when we have 13 cushions, you have to kind of come up with a way to put it to a seven-year-old. And so every day I'd say, do we have, how many cushions do we have now? And he'd say, we have seven cushions. Now the next month we have, we still have seven cushions. So, you know, my life then versus like what Portia's life is now, so different. So I think it's a lot harder for my mom actually now to make sure to instill the same values in my younger sisters because they just have, you know, total different lifestyle. When parents get tired, right? Are you the oldest?
Starting point is 00:13:12 I'm the oldest. Yeah, you're the oldest. The oldest always has it the hardest, right? The parents are the hardest on the oldest. Oh, my God. Are you kidding? Don't cry me a river, you guys. No, it's true.
Starting point is 00:13:19 I'm the oldest too. What happens is that, you know, like the parents, the middle one. Play your violin, Michael. No, the parents are the strictest on the oldest because they have the highest expectation. And then they're like, okay, maybe we're being a little too extra. And then the middle one gets a little easier. The youngest is like, that's the baby. And their parents are checked out and they're tired.
Starting point is 00:13:34 It's crazy the difference. I mean, I wasn't allowed to drive with anybody's parents, anyone's babysitters, anyone's siblings. My mom had to talk to everyone's parents. I mean, I had such strict curfew, just strict, strict. And I think it worked well. But with each sister, definitely they become more and more lax. Yeah. If my sisters are listening, you guys got it way easier. You guys are soft. Totally. I want to talk about your work ethic and where that sort of began because your work ethic, I, you know, I watch you. I've seen your Instagram stories and, you know, we've gone out to dinner, I with you and you have this incredible drive and work ethic. Is that something
Starting point is 00:14:09 that you put on yourself or is it something that you think you've learned through your parents? Like go back, like back when you were little. I think it's a mixture of both. Cause my mom always tells me, she says, I never had to worry about you because you always just did it. Cause I used to get mad at her. I'd be like, why don't you ask me when the SATs are? Why don't you ask me when this, all the other parents are writing their kids' essays. And she said, I never had to with you because I was so proactive. So I think that was just my personality. And then again, I think with them constantly like praising and giving me that positive reinforcement of working hard, that also helped. And that's definitely just, I have that perfectionist personality. And in some
Starting point is 00:14:51 ways it's great, but in other ways it can also be limiting. It can also be stressful. What ways do you think it's limiting? Sometimes you just have to, you don't have to be so overly prepared because sometimes it can stop you from doing things. So, I mean, I'm sure I've missed out on many opportunities because I just thought, what if there's a chance I don't do it exactly right? So, let me just maybe not even give it a shot at all. That's something I'm really working on this year. I think it's important for people to talk about this stuff, especially someone that's achieved as much as you have, like to talk about working on yourself in areas that
Starting point is 00:15:22 you don't feel as strong. Right. So, yeah, when I turned 30 this year, I already have a successful business. I do well, but I was really well, I do, I do really well, but I was just ready to take it up to the next level, not only in work, but also in my personal life. And I kind of realized it like trickles down into both areas. And funny enough, when you and I had dinner, Lauren, the first time you said to me, you know, you just put a lot of ideas into my head about where I could take my business to the next level. And then same with my real estate coach. And so I've realized that, you know, I want to put myself out there more.
Starting point is 00:16:01 I want to grow my business. I want to expand my business. And you can't really do those things unless you're, you know, dealing with things that make you uncomfortable every day. And so I think maybe I even heard you say this and this is a common theme that I'm just coming across probably because I'm seeking it out in the universe, but you should be doing something that makes you uncomfortable every day. That's the only way you're going to grow. So if that means, you know, taking on a public speaking event in front of a large crowd or just something that you don't want to do, like it's okay, even if you're not perfect at it. And so that's what I'm trying to navigate is like being open to more opportunities, even if I might not
Starting point is 00:16:41 be perfect at it in the beginning. I think I told you this, or maybe I didn't tell you this, but you know, like before, I mean, if you would, or maybe I didn't tell you this, but you know, like before, I mean, if you would have met me three and a half years ago, it's like right before the show started, my biggest fear, which is crazy.
Starting point is 00:16:51 Cause I've done some wild shit in my life. My craze, my biggest fear was public speaking. Couldn't speak in front of anybody. Would never talk to anybody. Look at you now. Now he doesn't shut the fuck up. I can't shut the fuck up.
Starting point is 00:17:00 Jesus. Taylor. No, I would think like, I would have these like dreams, like, Oh my God. And then morbid dreams.
Starting point is 00:17:04 I'm like, what if I have to speak at someone's wedding or like even worse, what if I have to speak at someone's funeral? What if I speak at a funeral and I can't do it? Or like, what if I, now, you know, I go around and I speak and I do this show, but it's what it was, it was constant repetition of putting ourself out there and speaking. And honestly, in a weird way, putting yourself on this show and social media and talking and all the time, you just get comfortable.
Starting point is 00:17:23 But in the beginning, it was extremely uncomfortable for me. Exactly. I actually learned something recently from somebody who told me confidence doesn't always come first. Sometimes if you just commit to do the thing, no matter what, like take massive action and just commit to do it, then the confidence might follow. So I just keep that in my head and I'm like, this is really helpful. And what are some tactics or habits that you do every single day to help you get uncomfortable? Like, is there any, any books you study or people that you talk to or podcasts you consume? So I have a real estate coach who I speak to twice a day. We have a one-on-one call once a week, but then it's twice a day. It's a group call. And he's really pushing me like every day. He's like, I want you to lead the
Starting point is 00:18:05 call today. I want you to speak up, you know, no hiding in the shadows. And I'm, I don't have a problem speaking or talking to people. I just, for some reason, when it's like a group setting or a larger setting, I get really nervous. So he's pushing me. And then when I had dinner with you guys and you just said, who cares what anyone thinks? Just say what do you want to say? That also stuck with me. And then I decided why not share kind of the behind the scenes on my social media. And that is like a low stakes way where it's not like I have to do it. I can, but I'm going to commit to do it at least once a week, which is what I've started to do. And that kind of kills multiple birds with one stone. It caused, you know, it helps me be more comfortable sharing, being vulnerable and also helping people along
Starting point is 00:18:56 the way because people are reaching out to me saying, I really needed to hear that today. Like, thank you so much. And I'm like, okay, wow, this is not so hard. And it's helping people. Hold up. Before we dive into that, let's talk about yoursuper.com. Okay. So tons of questions on if I'm drinking coffee during pregnancy, and I'm just going to be real with you guys. I am drinking a couple sips of coffee, but I've replaced my typical two huge cups of iced coffee a day with matcha. You've probably seen that on my stories. I just think it feels healthier when you're pregnant. I can't explain it, but you don't want a lot of coffee. So matcha is like the perfect replacement.
Starting point is 00:19:36 And the matcha that I've been using is from yoursuper.com. So let me tell you all about it. We'll get specific, okay? Basically, Your Super is on a mission to improve people's health with the power of super plants. It sounds so witch doctor-y. I love it. They make it super easy for you to get the nutrients your body needs to thrive. So your super's functional superfood and plant protein mixes are made from naturally dried organic whole foods and superfoods and nothing else. So you know exactly what you're getting. So you're getting 100% transparent supply chain and you know you're getting the cleanest superfoods and nothing else. So you know exactly what you're getting. So you're getting a hundred percent transparent supply chain and you know you're getting the cleanest superfood
Starting point is 00:20:09 mixes on the market. This is obviously extremely important to me when I'm pregnant. I wanted to know exactly where my matcha was coming from. I'm actually very, very picky when it comes to matcha. There's bad matcha out there. And this powder matcha mix is legit. So like I said, I get the powder matcha mix and it helps me stay alert all day, but without the sugar crash and without the caffeine jitters. My doctor recommended that if I'm going to drink caffeine, I do like 200 milligrams a day. So this is very ideal and perfect. Energy is extremely important to me because with being pregnant, I'm freaking tired. And the power matcha really, really is keeping me on my toes.
Starting point is 00:20:46 Also, their site, Your Super, has so many free recipes and other resources so you can go and get creative with how you add their superfood mixes into your meals. Get the cleanest superfood and plant protein mixes at yoursuper.com. That's Y-O-U-R super.com. You get 15% off your order when you use code SKINNY at checkout. Try the Power Matcha% off your order when you use code skinny at checkout. Try the power matcha. Let me know what you think. Just go to your super.com and don't forget you get 15% off with promo code skinny at checkout. All right, let's get back to the show. This is so interesting to me. Like I almost want to do a case study on it because your cousin has made a career off not giving a fuck what anyone thinks. Like that's like,
Starting point is 00:21:26 like I, you know, everyone could channel a little Paris and then your mom is obviously on housewives and she puts herself out there. So it's almost like you like sort of went a different way at first and then you realize, okay, no, I'm actually going to, you channel some of this and mix it with all your strengths. Totally. And you're utilizing both. And also, cause I'm actually going to channel some of this and mix it with all your strengths. Totally. And you're utilizing both. And also because I'm just realizing lately the people I'm attracted to on social media are people that are sharing the whole story, not just the pretty picture, being vulnerable, sharing the things that I'm like, why am I continuing to watch this and watch this?
Starting point is 00:22:04 But you're like addicted to watching it. And so, yeah, my, my, my cousins, they don't care what anyone thinks, like they're doing their own thing. But what's different is I'm like going all the way down the end and like kind of just think sharing like more of my thoughts and vulnerabilities rather than just getting up there and just doing like a real estate video, which is all, you know, might be scary too. But to me, this is extra scary to say like, okay, today I'm feeling a little insecure or, you know, whatever it is, or I have anxiety about all the things I have to do today. And I feel overwhelmed. Like to me, that is
Starting point is 00:22:40 terrifying to share because after I'm like, does anyone care about this? But everyone, I mean, people care. Have you guys ever watched children play? Like, I know that sounds like a strange question, but it's, it's interesting. I've been noticing it lately where you'll, we're just at this kid's birthday party and the kids, they have no fear, right? They'll jump up, they'll say anything, they'll do anything. They'll make any, like they're, you know, they're not guarded. Or if you've ever seen a little kid go skiing and they just charge down a huge mountain and they'll say whatever. Yeah. And grown adults are scared to go down these things and scared to say, I think what happens is as you get older and people start telling you no and start saying,
Starting point is 00:23:11 don't do this. And society starts saying like, this is the way to do things. You start to build up this fear, right? It starts to grow. Like each year you go on, you say, wait, I can't do that. And you lose your inhibition to just go and be childlike, right? And so it's interesting to get back to that place. Yeah, totally. And then you start telling yourself stories about what you're like. You're like, oh, I'm bad at this, your narrative, or I can't do this. And that just like builds and builds and builds. And you lose your creativity and your imagination. So you have to get back to that place. You have to channel your inner child because you have to break out of that. I respect that though so much about you, how you work on it
Starting point is 00:23:44 every single day. There's not a lot of people that see a weakness that they feel they have and work on it every single day. I mean, that's really rare. I did not think it was going to be this, would take this much energy and effort, but it really is like an everyday thing. Now I am trying to, because I am a perfectionist, I am trying to read books about it and like study and do as much coaching and everything that I can to kind of just be more agile, more comfortable, more open, all these different things. I always say that, that for like eight years of my career, I said yes to everything. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. And it served me so well until one day it didn't.
Starting point is 00:24:25 And I had to pivot and start saying no and be more efficient with my time. It seems like being a perfectionist has gotten you so far in your career, but now you're realizing, okay, maybe this isn't serving me in every area. And so you're pivoting and adjusting. Exactly. It strips the weapons away from others as well, right? Like say there's somebody out there that wants to tear you down. Like there, I mean, there's very few things, if any, that someone could come on, say about Lauren and I at this point that we probably haven't already said or shared ourselves. Right.
Starting point is 00:24:53 And so I look at it as also something to build a little bit of armor where it's like you put yourself out there and you show those vulnerabilities. So when people want to attack you for anything, which will happen as you put yourself out there, it's kind of like, yeah, okay. We know that we already said that. Right. You can get in front of it. Yeah. So when there's cameras all over your house, are you like avoiding them? Like,
Starting point is 00:25:11 what do you do? I mean, I can't imagine like coming home to my dad's house and there's cameras everywhere. It was just normal to you. It's normal to us by now. I mean, it's six months of the year, six days a week. My mom will say, Hey, you know, we're doing a family dinner. I mean, the good thing about it, it is reality. So really, I just have to show up and have dinner. Yeah, it's a little weird having the cameras, but by now the crew has become like family. It's so not a big deal. When it's an event, you know, a housewives event or a dinner, I usually don't go because I only really want to be a part of it if it's actually like the reality of our family. So how has your life changed?
Starting point is 00:25:49 And I'm interested in how your life has changed since Housewives has come on. Has it changed any way in your business, in your personal, when you go out to dinner? Like how has the day-to-day changed? The day-to-day probably has changed more than I realize, but it's hard to quantify, really. I mean, yes, I have followers on Instagram. Okay. Yes, I get stopped every once in a while. I still find it very funny and weird.
Starting point is 00:26:17 In terms of business, you never really know who is coming because of that. Like sometimes you just get a hunch. You know when you're out and you guys probably have this all the time and someone will try to act like totally normal, but you can just tell by just a simple look, like they know who you are. And sometimes it's better. They don't say anything. And sometimes it's better that they just say that they did, you know, that they know who you are, whatever. Um, so when I get a phone call, I don't always know if it's a complete random referral or if it's potentially coming through the show or Instagram or whatever. And talk to us
Starting point is 00:26:53 how you started working at the agency. Was that a decision you always knew you wanted to make, or was it something that you know was thought out, or did you fall into it? How did that happen? So I've always loved real estate, but I was actually planning to go get my master's in psychology. And then Mauricio said, hey, you know, we're going to start our own company, the agency. And I was like, oh my God, that is perfect. I mean, if we're going to have our own real estate company, I love real estate. I actually was starting to lean more towards questioning whether I wanted to do more of a business job versus psychology. It seemed like a very stressful situation. It was just a natural thing. I wanted to be part of the family business and be there from the get-go. Some of these people that watch these shows,
Starting point is 00:27:40 these reality shows, they get extremely invested, right? Like they're, they're, they're in it. Do you ever, you know, through the, throughout the years, ups and downs, both good and bad on the show, if people are attacking your family members or your mom, like how do you handle that? Ignore. You just ignore, ignore. Totally. My mom, I laugh though. Cause my mom, I'll look and she responds back to all these people. All like, she literally like, we'll have full conversations with 10 people saying like, stop, stop trolling. Don't, you know, if you don't want to be here, get out. I'm like, mom, why are you even engaging with these people? Like, it's comical to me. It probably gets exhausting. It's like Chinese torture when you get poked over and over and over again at one minute, you're just like, come on, like get off my back. I have to defend myself.
Starting point is 00:28:21 Yeah. I mean, I'm sure you guys know, I'm sure you guys get that too. But it's just a name and a stupid comment. Like I'll either completely disregard it or I'll delete it if it bothers me. And you get to a point. And I mean, I'm sure that your family's dealt with this and you and everyone. You get to a point where it's like you've heard everything. It's like, yeah, it's not original anymore. Exactly. You know what I mean?
Starting point is 00:28:42 It starts to be boring. It's like totally like oh so ugly this that awful hair whatever it is i'm sure you're pristine pamela like it's crazy not everyone can be as perfect as you call it some level that's kind of i mean the show in some ways are designed to get people triggered and engaged i mean i think that's just that speaks to the success of the franchise the show doesn't last for 10 years if there's not some controversy. Well, and your mom has lasted longer than any housewife that's ever been on. I mean, she's like the- Yeah, she's the OG.
Starting point is 00:29:14 Yeah, she's the OG. So I want to talk about your morning routines. Okay. I love talking about this stuff. Because we've talked a little bit over text message about this. I know you have, and we've talked in person. You told me all about your celery juice maker. Tell me your morning routine because it's very, very, very planned out and very methodical. So my morning routine starts out with 20 minute meditation. What time? You have to give us so specific. Okay. Well, on Tuesdays, I have to wake up at 5.30 for my real estate call. And then the rest of the days I try to wake up around 6.30.
Starting point is 00:29:49 I get up, make the bed, boyfriend, meet him downstairs. We make celery juice with the Breville celery juice maker. And that, you know, we have to wash the celery. It's a whole process. It's annoying. But once we get into a routine, it's like we have to stick with it. After that, we meditate together for 20 minutes on the living room floor. Then we have to make our whole other green juice concoction, which consists of like a green powder with a glutamine powder mix in, drop of chlorophyll, mix it all together,
Starting point is 00:30:19 have that. Then we're ready for coffee. Then we separate ways and start our email, start our day. And from then it's off to the races because in my job, everything, you know, every day is so different. And how has every day different? Like, is it like sometimes you're at the office, sometimes you're at home? Yeah, absolutely. So I'm either showing properties, you know, searching for new properties for my buyer clients, getting houses ready to come on the market or, you know, planning marketing and advertising and open houses and stuff like that. And you're really up on your fitness and wellness. Like you
Starting point is 00:30:53 went, I feel like you went through a transformation. I mean, you think, well, I mean, your body like has always looked amazing, but like you just have, I feel like you've really figured out what works for you. Yes. I was inspired by turning 30 and just saying, Hey, I just, I need to get my act together. I've always been very obsessed. Health conscious doesn't mean that I follow everything perfectly, but I like knew, I know exactly what you should be doing. And then finally I found some, you know, something that worked for me before I turned 30, which was simply don't eat as much. What I found was when I eat breakfast in the morning, I am hungry all day long.
Starting point is 00:31:30 And it'll make me want to have a snack and then lunch and then another snack. So now I try really not to eat until late in the afternoon. Probably not the healthiest way. No, it probably is. Maybe. Some people believe in intermittent fasting. Other people say, oh, you're going to ruin your metabolism. I don't know but for me simply consuming less calories and of course working
Starting point is 00:31:49 out etc is work is what works for me there's a weird american thing where you know like grow up and say you have to finish everything off your plate i think it's just it's just strange way to be that i can't remember there's a football player that is fuck he's fucking jacked and his and his um his whole tip was like, as soon as he's full, he stops eating. Right? If you assume whatever meal he's having, as soon as he's full, he stops.
Starting point is 00:32:09 Well, people think it's wasteful for food. I think that's more of a problem with the portions that we serve. But the person should not feel obligated. If I go to a restaurant and it's a giant beef plate, I'm not going to eat the whole thing. Right.
Starting point is 00:32:18 Just take it to go. I always ask if they can do half orders. And if they can't, I just take the rest to go. It's simple. It sounds like you do intermittent fasting. Yes. Basically.
Starting point is 00:32:28 How did you two get connected? I don't even know if I know that story. We met on Instagram. Yeah. There's a lot of people meeting on Instagram. It's so funny. No, because I think on Instagram, the like-mindedness attracts the like-mindedness. And I think Farrah's really interested in optimizing and hacking her life in every way possible.
Starting point is 00:32:44 And we just connected on that. Nobody's reaching out to me. I'm not meeting anybody on Instagram. really interested in optimizing and hacking her life in every way possible. And like, we just connected on that. Nobody's reaching out to me. I'm not meeting anybody on Instagram. I love that. You guys, he wants you to reach out to him. Well, I don't know. I hang out with like four people and two and three of them are my dogs and Lauren. So it's rare. I want to talk about real estate because I am so overwhelmed on what to do. Like, do I buy a house? Do I rent? What do I do?
Starting point is 00:33:08 Can you speak on that a little bit? And speak on it for like 25 to 35. She's like, everybody buy a house. She's like, everybody buy a house. Totally. Well, you know, interest rates are low. Okay. So it is definitely a good time to buy. However,
Starting point is 00:33:26 in LA, especially pricing is still extremely high. So we've been in just like this bubble of inflated prices and sellers asking for this aspirational pricing. But what I would say for first time home buyers is that if you find something you love, you should just buy it. Because the truth is this cycle has continued to push and push. And yes, eventually it's going to have to pop or whatever they say. But if you find something you love, now is the right time. Because who knows when it's going to become a buyer's market. And in terms of actually going through the process, because it is very overwhelming, you need a trusted advisor, you know, and there's a lot of ins and outs. You need somebody to teach you what is the better neighborhood. Why is one side of the street better than the other side of
Starting point is 00:34:17 the street? What house is not to buy? You know, walk you through the inspections, the disclosures, the whole escrow process. Like there's so many ins and outs. So there's a lot of information. Let's talk about some of the loan types and some of the mistakes that first time young, let's say young, cause there's a lot of young people, young home buyers make when buying a home. Because I think that that's something to talk about. One, they don't know, okay, how am I going to come up with this loan? How am I going to get a loan? And two, like what's the right, what's the right mortgage payment to pay? But you know, what's the right down payment? I think if you could speak on that a little bit, there's a lot. We haven't addressed it on the show. I'm happy. Never. That's why I was really excited to have you on. But I think there's a lot of confusion out there,
Starting point is 00:34:51 right? Like right now there's a lot of rentings, you know, it's not cheap. It's very difficult to get deductions with renting. But I think speaking on how to buy and when to buy and how much to buy is important. So I would say in terms of getting a loan, I recently represented some buyers who went online and we were submitting offers with a quick and loans application. And they quickly realized that other agents were like listing agents were not taking those offers very seriously. So quickly had to revise our process. And what I did was I connected them with my contacts because they had been wanting to use their own connections, but I had to kind of like take over and I introduced them to a contact that I have at
Starting point is 00:35:34 Wells Fargo and it could be multiple other banks. It doesn't really matter. But you want to definitely shop for the best rates around. Don't just talk to one person because they're a family friend or something like that. Do your research. And then now you can do something which is get advanced underwriting approval. So not just coming in with a pre-loan approval, which is kind of, anyone could get a letter from the bank that says that. But what I had them do was go through the whole loan process before they even found the house that they wanted So by the time they found the house that they wanted we were able to shorten the escrow period we were able to shorten the contingency period and remove the loan contingency with our offer, so
Starting point is 00:36:16 When you're a first-time buyer and this you know in the let's say one to Two million or less price point. there's a lot of competition still. And there's a lot of people submitting offers because the inventory for good homes in that price range is low. So in this scenario, there were eight other offers, but because we were able to get the underwriting upfront, we beat out all the other offers. So I would say step one, do your research, try to get advanced underwriting, your loan upfront if you can. And then once you find the house that you want, it's really a good idea to write a letter to the sellers. They love that. With a one-page. Like they love that with, you know, a one page
Starting point is 00:37:05 brief letter with your picture, your story kind of give some core, you know, some sort of personality or like emotion attached to the offer. So it's not just numbers on paper. Well, I think the one thing that I also want to discuss is when it comes, like a lot of people are overwhelmed by the down payment for first time buyers. Let's say, let's say the house is under a million dollars, right? Let's say average household income of listeners that listen to this show is like 75 K, right? So a house under a million bucks, what is a down payment that someone could comfortably put down on a, on a home like that? And how do they get those loans? So typically it's expected between 20 and 30%. Some people can do 15. Recently I had a deal where the buyer did, was doing 15%.
Starting point is 00:37:51 The seller wasn't super comfortable with that, but I had, I let him know that it doesn't really matter as long as we get reassurance from the bank, you know, what the percentage is, but the range is typically between 15 and 30, with 20 being about average. So if someone's out there in any area of the world, how can they find someone who's a really damn good real estate agent? How do you weed through the ones that aren't good to find the gem? To find really good agents, it is a referral business. And usually somebody you know that you trust
Starting point is 00:38:23 probably has a few great people that they've worked with. So I would say ask your friends, but make sure they know the area that you want to live in. You want like an expert in your area. So once you pick your area, try to find people that you know that have worked with agents in that area. Once you get a few names, I would say it's a really good idea to speak
Starting point is 00:38:45 with those three agents or whatever it is and look at their track record. What have they sold in the neighborhood? Make sure that you guys are a good fit. Some personalities vibe and some don't. So you definitely want to do your research. I mean, I wouldn't say some agents rely heavily on their Zillow reviews, but for example, I think I have one review on Zillow. So for me, that would not be, you know, something I would say. But I think just asking people you trust to give referrals of people that they trust and then making sure that those align with the neighborhoods that you are interested in. If there's someone out there that wants to get into real estate, you've done such a good
Starting point is 00:39:23 example, you know, the way you've done it, in my opinion. Like if I wanted to get into real estate, I would look at what you've done. Can you sort of give us the blueprint? Like how you, I mean, obviously Mauricio, but it's more than that. Like you put in the work, like how did you even decide to get in and what were the steps you took to get in it? Well, I decided because it was just, you know, our family business that was starting and I loved real estate and I already grew up around it. So I had a lot of experience even coming into it. But I think there's two separate things in terms of other agents coming into the business. I would say it really helps to start out as an assistant to a top agent or to a team. And that's actually what I did with Mauricio. I was his assistant for three years before I went off onto my own, like doing everything
Starting point is 00:40:09 for him. And that is such a good way for you to learn the business, get experience and not have to rely on like the commissions that come every once in a blue moon. Like you can be making a salary, gaining credibility and getting a lot of experience. So I would say start there. You don't need to have a lot of deals under your belt to get a vast knowledge of learning all the data, all the comps. So I always tell people who are looking to get into the business, pick a few neighborhoods that you want to focus on
Starting point is 00:40:37 and learn everything about those neighborhoods. Like learn all the houses that have sold, learn the average price per square foot, learn the average sales price, read up on articles on who bought what. That way you are the expert in that area, even if you haven't sold any homes yet. Another really good tip is sitting open houses for other agents. What does that mean? So basically, even if you have no listings, you're a brand new agent, you have nothing. A lot of agents sit other
Starting point is 00:41:05 agents open houses. So if one agent, let's say if I have five open houses this Sunday and I can only be at one other age, I'll say to some, you know, who can help me with my other four open houses. So you should be that agent to volunteer, to help sit those open houses. And that's because when you order your open house signs, you can order 20 of them. People don't really think of that. They think, let me just put one or two in front of the house, put 20 of them around the neighborhood. So start having your name be exposed in that neighborhood. And that's just like marketing for yourself. Then people are coming to the open house and you're meeting people. And that's what you should be doing.
Starting point is 00:41:44 You should be meeting new people, making new connections. You should not be afraid to call your whole database and let people know that you're in real estate. A lot of people are afraid to do that because they think they're bothering them. And how do you use social media to market yourself? Or do you not use it? Because it's a tough thing with real estate, I would think. So before, it was just simply a post of a property here and there, or just sold, or just listed.
Starting point is 00:42:10 I'm trying to make the extra effort now to take the time to do the behind the scenes stories of the open houses or showing what's going on. And I'm going to try to take that a step further in the future because I think one thing in real estate and any industry is you really have to be adaptive to change. It's like it's so huge. Before we just had print marketing and, you know, print ads. And now everyone is doing these social media videos in real estate. So you kind of have to like keep up with the times. And whether that means just a simple video that you do yourself or getting a production company to do a small little video, I think that's just where we are in the future.
Starting point is 00:42:52 I also think it solidifies you as the expert in that area. And so when people think of real estate Beverly Hills, they think of your name because you've already sort of content marketed as the expert just through social. So even if they don't end up buying a house from you, it puts you in the top of their mind for the real estate person to go to in Beverly Hills. Absolutely. And then if a seller, for example, is thinking of hiring you or talking to five different people, and then they're going to check your social media. That's what the day and age that we live in. If they can check your social media, it's kind of like verifying your business card. If they see, okay, that they're actually active, they have all these listings, they're taking the time to do these videos. It's kind of an extra layer of credibility, I think. What are some hacks that you do every day or once a week or
Starting point is 00:43:40 a couple of times a week that you think make a difference in your productivity? So I'm completely obsessed with this. Like, I, like you, like to ask everybody, like, what do you do to be productive? I'm obsessed with, like, work-life balance. How do people organize? And in reading that book, Essentialism, I just started, like, that is the thing I'm He's coming on the show. I told her. I'm so, that's so cool.
Starting point is 00:44:04 I can't wait to hear. But like you were saying before about the perfectionist thing, like I can't do everything and I want to be really good at like a few things. So I'm working on that, which is saying no to certain things, trying to multitask. I used to think I was so cool because I could multitask so well, but I'm really trying to time block and multitask. Can you give think I was so cool because I could multitask so well, but I'm really trying to time block and monotask. Can you give us examples of what that means? Like give us something that you time block at or you monotask at. Well, I'll tell you a little funny story. So
Starting point is 00:44:34 on Sunday, I, you know, had the tip of doing your, the six things to do priorities for the next day. So I did that on Sunday and it really does take the guessing out of where to start your day because I wake up with so many emails and so overwhelmed. And then this is just like, okay, at least do these things in order. I need quiet. I'm like, I need natural light. I'm like such a freak. I have to have a perfect workspace or else like I can't deal. So that has to be perfect. And then just going through the most important things first, and then just trusting that everything else is going to get done. But the hardest thing in real estate is prospecting, which is making those contacts, making those calls, whether they're cold calls or warm leads or whatever it is. That's the most important thing we can do because
Starting point is 00:45:24 that is the business we're in. The more prospects you do, the more is, that's the most important thing we can do because that is the business we're in. The more prospects you do, the more listings, which means the more business and the more buyers. But if you don't actually take one or two hours out of the day to reach out to people, it will just get pushed back and pushed back and pushed back because I have escrows. I have listings to bring on the market. I have things that seem so much more important because they're like a bird in hand. But if you don't do prospecting, then you're never going to grow your business. I think that's the same for every business though. There's a lot of people that hit a wall because they, you know, like I'm not a networker. I don't like to network. But what happens is when you do
Starting point is 00:45:55 that, you limit yourself. Are you talking about me? Are you identifying with this? No, it's true. I mean, even people... I hate networking, by the way. I hate it. I'm not sure. Networking the way it's traditionally going to like a meet and greets a But it's important to build a network of individuals that can help you grow. A lot of people, even running Dear Media and the podcast space, people that are relying on a booking agent to get guests on their show, it's not the same as having a relationship. You can reach out to someone and say, hey, do you want to? It's important because those people go and spread the word not only to listeners but to other guests and say, hey, come on the show. But the way you put it is actually taking the time to reach out and build those relationships. It's extremely important for any business. Right. And also not only taking the
Starting point is 00:46:32 time, but literally putting on your calendar and making it non-negotiable. And I'm still working on this. This is something that my real estate coach drives in every single day. Like if you're not going to do this, then don't even bother coaching with me. And I'm like, okay, I'll start tomorrow. Like it's so hard because so many things are coming at you every single day. So to block off and put your phone away and like, you know, go to your landline or whatever, and just do that for two hours, seems like the whole world is going to collapse in those two hours. So I'm really trying to just get in that routine more and more and just make it like, no matter what happens, that's what's happening in those hours.
Starting point is 00:47:04 Everyone has the same pressures. It's so funny. I relate to so many things you're saying right now, just in a different line of work. It's the same. It's so funny. It's like, put the phone away. You need to write for two hours. Exactly. There's so many people that are working so hard and they look over into their contemporaries or their peers and they're getting in the people that aren't working as hard. It seems like they're getting further ahead, but it's because they're making the right connections and growing the right network. You can work and work and work and work, but if you don't grow your network and build the
Starting point is 00:47:30 right infrastructure to help get the word out for whatever you're doing, you're fucked. You're in trouble. You can't grow. There's only so far you can go. Right. And I think what you said before, like the like-minded things, I think maybe it's either as we're getting older, as we're really focused on whatever we're doing in our life, I think we're attracting certain like-minded individuals. And I think it's so great, supporting each other and kind of driving on certain things
Starting point is 00:47:53 and extending our network while doing so. Your boyfriend is a very, very hard worker and a hustler, and he's very driven and just a gnarly businessman. How do you guys make time for your relationship when you're both so career focused? I mean, we are basically, we're working all day, but he ends work around eight. I end around seven. We come, we're pretty much, you know, together every single night. We spend weekends together. When we're not working, we spend a lot of our time together and he is such a hard worker and he's definitely like a reminder every day like an inspiration every single day because he's oh like no excuses you know um and just such a big personality and so
Starting point is 00:48:38 inspiring so being around that has definitely helped and this whole like movement of myself of just like yes I was doing very well before, but now I'm really ready to like do really well. And he's definitely a huge part of that. I was talking to my friend the other day about the importance of picking a good teammate. Are you looking at me so you can get, I'm wondering if you picked a good one or not. I'm going to see what you have to say. It depends on the day, but, but I, it is really important to pick a teammate because it does either elevate you or take you down. Absolutely.
Starting point is 00:49:06 It's like, you know, it's like swimming. Yeah. I mean, how do you guys navigate working together, living together? No, we navigate it by, I think, by actually just throwing ourselves into it and then adjusting. Like, for instance, like if I can't talk about work after 10 o'clock, it's time to go to bed. Well, I'll tell you the main thing is like, no matter how ambitious I am or how ambitious Lauren is, like whatever's going on in the business, I always tell people like I would throw everything away. I would, I would shut down this company and shut down everything, sacrifice all the money. I wouldn't, I don't care about any of
Starting point is 00:49:40 it as long as our relationship is first. Right. And so people, they get fucked up because they start doing these things and they put their businesses and things that don't necessarily matter in front of their relationship that does matter. Right. And so for us, as long as you keep that perspective and you know, you're working on things together, then it's fine. I never understood the people that want to work their whole life to achieve this crazy goal, but they have nobody to celebrate it with. It makes no sense to me. So you have a jam sometimes. And you're doing things for probably like, you know, the people that have that insecurity that are working towards those things to build for people that don't necessarily care. For me,
Starting point is 00:50:13 like if my wife's not happy and my family's not happy, then it's like, what's the point of building all of this? I also think that what makes a relationship successful and you guys do this, you mentioned it earlier, is little things every day that's like a little habit. Like for instance, you guys wake up and you make celery juice together. And like, that's such a, it's a little thing, but it's ways to spend time with each other every day. You meditate together. Like Michael and I like to read together, you know, just little tiny things that you have in common that make up the big picture and also telling each other that you appreciate each other like constantly you know i'll just he'll just say you know you're thank you for being so great today or that was really helpful what a tip
Starting point is 00:50:56 appreciative so we're constantly like showing each other appreciation like all day long and it's really great but i'm curious to know you guys, who's you spend so much time together. So do you have to like schedule time where you're like, like where we're at? We schedule time. I think it's like, it's not in the calendar, but it's like when we get off work,
Starting point is 00:51:16 we hang out. What's interesting with this show is that this show has actually made us spend more time together because I've always had my own thing. She's always had her own thing. Like, you know, the office we're in right now is my office. She'll go to her office after. So we get to come together on this. It's nice because we get to connect and do, but at the
Starting point is 00:51:30 same time, like we spend a lot of time apart, but just people see us together a lot. So I think it's, I think it's important for couples to be together, but also take time apart where, you know, when I come home from work and she comes home from work where there's something to talk about, there's something to connect on. Like what happened in your day? We're not hanging on each other's hips all day long saying, what's going on? What are you up to connect on like what happened in your day we're not hanging on each other's hips all day long saying what's going on what are you up to a lot of the time like someone asked me the other day where i was with a group of friends and they're like what's lauren doing i have no idea no idea what she's doing she's having a full-on affair i have no idea i can find out just like you can tune in that's important too right like to separate
Starting point is 00:52:00 and have things outside of the relationship right there's so many couples that like their whole life is based around that relationship. You guys, when you guys went to dinner that night, I have no idea where you were or when she was coming home. That's good. I think that's healthy. For sure. Young couples that get in these relationships and they're attached at the hip, I say, don't do that because you have to stretch that to, you know, if it's a serious relationship, you have to stretch that 10, 20, 30 years, especially if you get married. So true. Yeah, definitely. You have to have your own thing. What is a book, a podcast, a resource that you can recommend to our audience that you feel like it's brought you a lot of value?
Starting point is 00:52:32 Okay, well, I found this podcast called Unfuck Your Brain. This woman named Cara Lowenthal, she's a Harvard, Yale, she went to Harvard and to Yale. And she is actually a master coach. And I just, I came across it because I was like, this is interesting, unfuck your brain. And then each episode was about perfectionism, overwhelm, anxiety, productivity, optimizing, like every single thing. And I started listening and they're just short. They're like 15 minutes. But I felt like this. I was like, I had to know her. So I went to her website and I was like, forget that. I went to her Instagram, DM'd her and I was like, how do I sign up with you? And so she responded and now I'm doing her whole program. And she's
Starting point is 00:53:21 become like this. I think she's like a mini celebrity because she's so smart and it's about thought work. Her each episode is about thought work and how to optimize your life. And so, yeah, she's amazing. Where do you think personally for you, the need for perfectionism comes from? Because I think both of us have had to deal with stuff like that too. Where do you think that, where do you think the root of that is? I think I was just born that way.
Starting point is 00:53:50 It's not my parents. I don't think. I think firstborns get attention by, by, by being perfect. And I put that in quotes. But yeah, by the way,
Starting point is 00:54:00 perfectionism is not like, I'm not trying to be perfect. I like to try to do things perfectly and that is the difference but like i'm just learning like that is not a good way to live life of trying to just do everything perfectly cause so much stress sometimes like it's okay to make a mistake i i also think too like what i really really like about you and i'm really attracted about to you is that you are constantly looking to better yourself. I was talking to my friend the other day and she said, you know, one of her friends said to her,
Starting point is 00:54:32 I don't, this is how I am. This is how I'm always going to be. And I told her, if I said, this is how I am, this is how I'm going to be, shoot me. I want to be a better version of myself tomorrow. I want to be a better version of myself in five years. And I think you, it seems like you're always like seeking. Totally. I am. And I've seen that in you too. And yeah, I mean, what is the point if we're not constantly trying to better ourselves? And this is also something that Alex, my boyfriend, he's been doing for a long time. Like every day he's trying to do better, you know, be a better person, you know, just be the best person he can be. And I think, what is the point of being here if we're not constantly doing that? Like, why would we get
Starting point is 00:55:14 stuck in the story of ourselves and all these and any limiting beliefs? And it's just, it's not going to turn out well. There's a lot of coaches confusing people when they say, accept yourself, right? It's like, it's good to, I think, love yourself and know that you're enough, but the whole idea of accepting yourself and becoming complacent, just, I don't understand it. The whole idea of being a human being on this earth is to get better, right? It's to improve. Accepting yourself, you might as well just give up and die. I think it is loving yourself for who you are, but don't create these narratives or stories about who you think you are, because then you'll just get stuck in that. Like, those are just thoughts in your head. That's kind of what they teach on the podcast. Like, you can change those stories. Like,
Starting point is 00:55:54 these are simply thoughts and feelings, and they can be changed. And it's a lot easier than you think. I think I need to listen to this podcast because it sounds like it's thinking with your logic, not your emotion. Totally. Yes, it is. It's totally that. Yes. I need to love it. Okay. You got to send me a screenshot. It was so crazy that I literally found it. It was like eight hours in. And then I was like, I need to, I need to get on this. Okay. I had to reach out to her like that second because I felt like we were best friends and I had to know her and you know, those like moments. You need to come on the skinny confidential blog and do like farrah's like top 10 hacks and like start i need to hear yours start writing down like like little hacks that you have like this and you have to come on and share them i would love to thank
Starting point is 00:56:34 you for coming on the podcast where can everyone find you pimp yourself out give us your instagram your website everything find me on um at farrah brit that's f like frank a double r a h b r i t t on instagram and actually my website is linked on my instagram so you can you know see all my properties there and that's all and guys go to her instagram stories and like look at the fitness and the wellness ones you'll really really like it i know everyone will love that i've just started to like you know curate my highlights so it's a lot more easier to, to follow these certain things. You have really good highlights. I was looking at them the other day and like, I was watching the whole thing. You know, when you just tap past someone,
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