The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - Former Navy SEAL Andrew "Sully" Sullivan: Fixing America’s Broken Safety System, Protecting Our Children, & Protecting Yourself

Episode Date: December 16, 2024

#786: Join us as we sit down with Andrew “Sully” Sullivan – a former Navy SEAL with over 12 combat deployments. As a Special Operations Senior Chief, Sully noticed critical differences between SEAL & police training within communities, especially in the context of active shooter preparedness. In this episode, Sully gets real about law enforcement training standards, highlights the importance of situational awareness, shares practical tips for keeping your kids safe, discusses the realities of school safety measures, & offers valuable advice on preparing your children in case of emergencies.   Visit c1p.org to donate to the Community First Project, a mission to make communities safer by ensuring the quality & integrity of our nation's law enforcement agencies.   To connect with Andrew Sullivan click HERE   To connect with the Community First Project click HERE    To connect with Lauryn Bosstick click HERE   To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE   Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE   To Watch the Show click HERE   For Detailed Show Notes visit TSCPODCAST.COM   To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697)   This episode is brought to you by The Skinny Confidential   Head to the HIM & HER Show ShopMy page HERE to find all of Michael and Lauryn’s favorite products mentioned on their latest episodes.   Give the gift of an upgraded routine this Holiday Season. For a limited time, use code JINGLE at shopskinnyconfidential.com for 20% off.   This episode is sponsored by LightBox   Discover Lightbox Jewelry’s lab-grown diamonds for yourself on lightboxjewelry.com. Plus, all new customers will get 10% off their first order on lightboxjewelry.com using the code SKINNY10.   This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp   Visit BetterHelp.com/SKINNY today to get 10% off your first month.   This episode is sponsored by Prolon   Go to ProlonLife.com/SKINNY for 15% off their 5-day nutrition program.   This episode is sponsored by TravisMathew   Consider TravisMathew your holiday headquarters, and discover the perfect gift for everyone on your list. Visit travismathew.com and receive 20% off your order with code SKINNY.   This episode is sponsored by Cymbiotika   Just go to cymbiotika.com/theskinny and use code SKINNY to save 15% off your subscription order.   This episode is sponsored by O Positiv   Visit opositiv.com and use code SKINNY at checkout for 25% off at checkout.   Produced by Dear Media

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And that's just probably my background in the military and being overseas and seeing what I've seen. Too many people are hyper-focused on what their individual task is that they're doing at that time that they're not paying attention to the surroundings. And that's just not school students. That's just general public. And that's one of the first things I talk about when I go talk to people about any kind of personal safety is like, man, okay, you got to pay attention to what's going on around you. Hello, everybody. Welcome back to the Skinny Confidential, him and her show. Today, we have Andrew Sully Sullivan on the podcast. This was one of our more intense, interesting episodes. For those of you that do not know who Andrew Sullivan is, Andrew Sullivan was medically retired from the US military in 2020 after nearly two decades of

service in the special operations community, including six years at SEAL Team 2 and 11 years at Naval Special Warfare Development Group. He has an assortment and laundry list of different commendations that he received during his time in the military. On this episode, we talk about all about how to be more situationally aware, how to protect our children and loved ones. We also talk about how you can contribute more as a citizen to protect the children and loved ones. We also talk about how you can contribute more as a citizen to protect the children in the community, the loved ones, everyone. We dive into it with Andrew. And if you're wondering, if you're watching YouTube, what we're wearing, we are wearing Travis Matthew. I am obsessed with what I'm wearing.

It's so comfortable. I wore it to school pickup. It's like a little fleece button up, and it's just so comfortable to throw on. You can see it on our YouTube channel. What are you wearing, Michael? I'm wearing military green, olive green. It's because it makes my eyes pop. Okay. Whatever you think. Big thank you to Travis Matthew. On that note, here's the show. This is the Skinny Confidential, him and her. Senior Chief Andrew Sullivan, welcome to the show. I'm so glad you came to do this. To give a little context, Lauren and I were in Nantucket this summer. We met you at our mutual friend Henry and Savannah's house. We were very inspired by what you were saying at that event and thought that it was great that we were hearing it in that intimate setting. But getting you on to share this message here and in person to get a little bit more of your background, we thought would just be super interesting.

So welcome to the show. I think to start, maybe a brief introduction on you to yourself. I mean, what you can share, not share, but maybe just introduce yourself to start. Well, I appreciate you guys having me. And obviously, thank you to Savannah and Henry for making this happen and for the introduction. I really wouldn't be here without them. So Andrew Sullivan, everybody calls me Sully. I grew up in Massachusetts, bounced around a little after high school and college,

and was in D.C. living when 9-11 happened. And for me, that was a calling card that I needed to do something. And I've always had in the back of my head being a SEAL and joining the military. And that was really the catalyst for me that pushed being a SEAL and joining the military. And that was really the catalyst for me that pushed me over the edge to make the commitment. And I was 24 at the time, which was a little bit older and somewhat established and working. And it was a big decision, but the 9-12, I was trying to find a recruiter and go. That quick? That quick. I knew right away. I'm watching it on TV happen and watching the people around me kind of go about

what they were doing. And I didn't understand why people weren't more involved because this was life-changing for everybody. And that's what I did. I joined the Navy and tried to get on the first flight out of there to go to bootcamp with the goal of being a SEAL. And I went in on a SEAL contract, which means I had a guaranteed opportunity to go to BUDS, which is SEAL training. Went to BUDS, checked into my first SEAL team thinking I would do four years and serve my role and do my part and then get out and go back to my life. But the people I worked with and the mission, it had me, it drew me in, it kept me in. And I don't think there's anything else I could have done in life that would have given me the fulfillment or make me feel like I was doing for my family and my community and my friends what I could be doing as a SEAL and going overseas. So it turned into a career. And how long was that career in active duty? 18 years. So yeah, I medically retired in 2020. When you look back at your childhood, was there something like a void that you think that it filled?

Or was it only after 9-11 that you noticed something? I don't know that it necessarily filled a void. But I remember we called it Vietnam. As a little kid, we would go in the woods and we would play guns and cops and robbers and cowboys and Indians, whatever generation. They all had their thing that was us and growing up in massachusetts it's so pro-military and i you know i can remember every traffic circle we call them rotaries but every traffic circle has a sign right in the medical middle dedicated to a assault fallen service member in vietnam and and i remember American flags hanging from overpasses even as a little kid. And to me, that's that patriotism and that, I don't want to say glorified,

but man, as a little kid seeing that, it made me kind of fall in love with the military. So I always had that in the back of my head, but doing it, it's a big commitment. It's one thing to want to do. It's another thing to actually, you know, quote unquote, pull the trigger and dedicate your life to doing something like that to service. We've spoken to people that have become SEALs on the show before. I think you've heard some of those episodes. From your perspective, what does it take to become a SEAL and get through buzz? I think a lot of people think about this and like, oh, could you do it? Could you not do it? Lauren, I remember one time, do you think you could, I'm like, I have no idea. I don't think you could know unless you've done it. What are the qualities that it takes to actually make it through? Man, if I had that,

I'd be a rich man. If I knew the answer to that question, because we spend a lot of money in the military and special forces trying to figure out the qualities and the attributes, you know, 18 to 20 something year old men and women that make them successful at these high stress, critical incident response types of jobs. And in the SEAL team specifically, it's hard to say, you know, everybody has this image of what they think a SEAL looks like this, you know, big Jack dude, and going to go over there and just crush. But in actualityity they're all different kinds and there are some common denominators and you know i've heard it on the show you know buds is mental it is and there's a physical attribute to it as well you have to be able to do the physical

side of it which a lot of people can do and a lot of people can do the mental side of it but they can't do it for the entire time, the eight months that it takes to make it through because it's just too much. If I could put my finger on one attribute that I could say, hey, if this is what you have, then you're going to make it through. Or if you have this, you're not going to make it through. It's impossible because it's just such a broad variety

of people that end up going to that training. And it's really hard to tell who's going to make it and who's not going to make it. That makes sense, though, because you guys are a team, right? So it's maybe different attributes and different people that make up the team and the strength. I've also heard... It's a great way to put it. And you're absolutely right. It makes sense there's not one common denominator.

I've also heard people that have made it through B and become seals also say that sometimes there's classes that like the entire class fails and that the team makeup of the people going through it is, is important or just as important as like going through it individually. Is that true as well? To some degree? Yes. Um, and I don't know if an entire class has failed. I may be way back in the day, but definitely depending on the time of year you go, if you're a winter class, meaning you go through hell week, which is, you know, what everybody hears about hell week, it's, it's five and a half, six days of just nonstop training. And if you do that in a winter, you can add freezing water temps to the equation, right?

So winter classes tend to lose more people than some of the other classes at other times a year but it's if if you aren't there individually right it is a team aspect and the SEAL teams unlike any other department of the military from day one everything is about the team team teammate self that's your. And you're never alone. You have a swim buddy from day one. They preach that you're not doing anything by yourself, but nobody else is in your head. And if you can't handle the mental aspect of that training by yourself,

because your friend's not your support network when it comes to the mental aspects of buds, if you can't handle that individually, then you're not gonna make it through. And a lot of people, it isn't the physical, of buds if you can't handle that individually then you're not going to make it through and a lot of people it isn't the physical it's that they get in their own heads and they they can't they can't comprehend doing what they're doing for extended periods of time because it sucks every day sucks when you're in buds but it's the best time the worst time or what it called it's the best time that I would never want to do again, right? Because I made some great friends that I still

talk to going suffering together. So that sounds like the common denominator though, is that you are able to get into your own head. And even though you're so uncomfortable fight through the uncomfortableness. Yeah. Well, and there is a common denominator on the mental side. People have to be able to handle a lot of stress and compartmentalize the suffering for the greater cause. And it's a lot easier to do. I say this, and I'm sure people might agree with me. I joined right after 9-11, a time of war, and every day I went in, my focus was, man, I got to get over there and help, right? And that was my motivation to get up every day and, and suffer with my teammates. You had a greater purpose. I felt like I had a greater purpose. How cold of water are we talking in the cold?

I'd like to know. I mean, it's not cold plunge cold, but it, but it's cold. It, I think it gets to like 57, 58 in the winter.

But you're in it for a long period. I'm assuming. Yeah. So it's, you know, sometimes people have this perception of buds that they're trying to kill you and they're not. Everything is very specific. So they check water temperatures every day and they have charts that say, hey, based

on this water temp, you can put the students in the water for X amount of time before they get hypothermic because Because they don't, they're spending all this money to put people through training. They don't want to lose people to something dumb like that, right? There's a lot of other things that could happen outside their control.

Like you could tear your ACL, MCL, you could get a significant injury. We don't want exposure to be one of those things. So it's very calculated, the training. And it's over how many years now that they've been doing it. So if you were, if a young guy came to you now, I was like, hey, I'm motivated.

I'm going to buds. I'm going through like, what pieces of advice would you give that person? First thing I would say is get your degree. It's a much different Navy than it was when I went through training. Get your degree, like your college. Go to college.

Get a degree first. Absolutely. Right. your degree like your college go to college first absolutely right and the it's seats to buds are hard to come by it was a lot easier back in the day but they're getting such better qualified candidates nowadays and physically it's a lot the internet is a crazy thing right you have a much greater ability to look up what it takes to get through training and guys are coming in in much better shape so you need to be able to set your apart. And man, a lot of kids now are coming in with college degrees already, which is great. It gives you a little bit of an advantage

and a leg up. So that's the first thing I say, Hey man, get your degree. And if college isn't for you, that's fine. You know, do it. But I think college gives you a little bit of life experience. It helps you show yourself that you can follow through on something, even if it's not something that you're particularly interested in. And you know, that was me. I didn't finish college. I went in the Navy and then I finished college when I was in the Navy. But it helps because every class, it's the 18 year old kids are the first ones to quit. It's the kids that have never been, not all of them, but a lot of these younger kids have never left home. They graduate high school, join the Navy. And now they've got someone making them get wet and sandy every morning and they're

suffering and miserable. And they're like, man, mom didn't do this to me. Dad didn't do this to me. Screw this. Let me get me out of here. And they quit. And most of them quit before they even get to hell week. Do you need to be in top physical shape before you start? Like, were you in shape when you went, or you were just, cause it sounds like you already had stuff going. Like, were you just kind of like an everyday guy that took care of himself? But were you? Yeah, no, I mean, I was, I played sports all the way up till I, till I joined. So I was athletic. I've always been in shape, but I will say I went to bootcamp and got out of shape and they do it a lot different now than they did back then. Back then you went to boot camp and got out of shape And they do it a lot different now than they did back then back then you went to boot camp like everybody else

Now you go to boot camp and you're in a special division where you train all the time, so The the quality of candidates they're getting physically is so much better now than it was back when I went through So I went to boot camp got out of shape went to buds had to get back into shape And it's it it's crawl, walk, run. I don't know if any of your other guests in the seal teams have said that that's the mentality and teams crawl, walk, run. Like you, you can't walk before you learn to crawl. You can't run before you learn to walk. That's the methodology and the teaching. Like we're going to start at a fundamental level and then we're going to add on and add on and get

you to where you're sprinting. So if you show up and you're not in great, let's say you're not a great swimmer, they're going to teach you. You're going to become a great swimmer. You're not a great runner. You're going to be doing a lot of running and you're going to become a great runner. So, you know, you can definitely show up and have a few shortfalls. It's a lot harder to get selected now if you have that, right? Because the physical level is so much higher, but it happens. What surprised you about yourself when you were training? I think my ability to compartmentalize the stuff that I didn't like, vice the stuff that I did. And I say that because there's not a lot of stuff

you do like in BUDS short of the people that you're with. Suffering with a group of people makes things tolerable sometimes. And to be able to focus on that and not think about how cold I am or how miserable or wet I am or how much my legs are hurting or my back or my head is a skill.

And it's one that I didn't know I had. Even playing sports growing up, nothing was ever as physically demanding or challenging as going through that training. And to be able to put that aside for, like you said, the greater purpose was, I'm proud of myself for doing it. What was your childhood like with your parents? It was great. You know, my parents, I have an older brother. I would call it the average

childhood. I lived to play sports. My brother and I, we never, there was never a season where we weren't doing something. And, you know, we'd wake up, we'd go outside, typical family, hey, come back when the streetlights. So nothing abnormal. No, nothing. No crazy origin stories. That's what I'm always fascinated by because you hear some stories, it's like this wild thing and then some of this seems like just an everyday average. Yeah. And I would say the majority of the guys, the SEALs that I work with, it's similar. You know, there are definitely some of those guys that, hey, you're going to jail or you're joining the military and those stories or, you know, whatever have you. I know that Dave Goggins is a big one that people hear about in, in his overcoming his, his weight loss and his traumatic childhood to make it through training and be a seal. So it's definitely out there. But for me, man, I had a really loving and supporting childhood and I always felt like there was nothing I couldn't do so in in my own way that was my origin story is I had parents who were super supportive and wanted

me to do what made me happy and that was what I thought would make me happy and I was right it did so yeah it was great you mentioned that you kind of had an epiphany on 9-11 about going to become a Navy SEAL, but you also didn't mention, and you have to tell this story, of when you had the epiphany of the fact that something needed to be done about schools. Was there a moment that you can remember when you realized this is a huge problem and I'm going to do something about it? Absolutely. And I guess to lead into what I'm doing now, which is my nonprofit Community First Project, which is Navy SEALs. We provide no cost training to law enforcement to better respond to these types of critical incidents like active shooters. And for me, when I retired in 2020, I started a for-profit company.

Knowing I wanted to train police, because I've worked with police throughout my entire career, just having the knowledge that I have doing the job, it was easy to be able to give it back and I knew they needed it. Wait, on that note, what is the, I mean, obviously there is a gap between SEAL training and police officer, like how big is that gap though?

On typical training that a police officer goes through big is that gap though on typical typical training that a police officer as far as capability compared to like the training that you guys receive versus the training a typical police apples and oranges yeah so unless you're on a SWAT team you're not really getting any kind of tactical training and then if you're on a SWAT team it really depends on how big the city is and what the budget is like that's going to dictate what type of training you actually get and so it it's significant. It is a, especially when you get into like the tier one level of SEAL teams, whose primary mission is hostage rescue. And that's what you train to every day. And then you go on deployments and you do it. It's quite a bit different than what law

enforcement sees now. And to go back to your question, the aha moment for me was I started this for-profit company thinking I was going to provide this train to law enforcement. And the only people that were coming to me were military and federal agents. And I realized really quickly that law enforcement couldn't afford it. And I'm watching these incidents. I'm watching the Uvaldes and I'm watching the Stoneman Douglas and all these incidents play out in schools and feeling a little bit like a dirt bag because I'm profiting off of these other organizations when the people that I really wanted to help that are going to protect my kids when they're in

school, aren't getting the training at all. And that's where the nonprofit, that was my aha moment. That was like, man, well, what if we took money off the table what if i paid for it you can't say no now now you have to do it right and and that was it and that was how the nonprofit came about and i i started shopping it around and asking what people thought and getting support and there hasn't been a single person i've talked to yet that hasn't been on board with this idea and wanting to help. It's a really uncomfortable, horrible topic to talk about, but you have to talk about it. Since you've started talking about it, what do you think has changed? What are some things that you can point to that you think have made a difference? Well, we're so new to this.

I think the only difference I'm seeing right now is awareness. And it's very small. It's only in the limited circle that I've been able to affect. And other people like I'm not the only one doing this. I'm the only one with my background doing this. But when you read some of the statistics that I'm putting out on my website or my social media, most people are just flabbergasted. They don't realize the limited amount of training that's available to law enforcement. What are some of those statistics? I mean, there are states where it takes more hours of training to become a barber than a police officer meaning you have to train

longer to carry scissors than a pistol right most police officers shoot an average of 12 to 15 hours a year and that's it i shoot more than that exactly right and it's been my experience that most of the departments don't have the manpower to facilitate that training. So what happens is you go in and you do your qual and you pass and then you leave and the actual training goes to the people who aren't passing the qual and need remediation. So there are national standards and averages, but I would say most departments are not reaching them. And a lot of states have zero requirements for active shooter training and texas actually just was one of the states that passed a law that every police officer has to

have active shooter training amazing right it's great but what is the training right right who's giving it you know to me and i tell everybody this because my training is it's a 40-hour course and a 40-hour course isn't enough a lot of what's being mandated is an 8 or 16-hour course that is taught by people that have never been in an active shooter situation that are qualified to teach it because they went to a 40-hour course to learn how to teach it and have no real world experience on these things so that's the training that now signs the officers off to be active shooter response qualified. To me, that is not someone who's qualified to go rescue my kids with a

firearm while someone's trying to kill them. On that note, what are some of the things you tell parents that are concerned about the safety of their children and putting them in schools and reading the news and seeing things like this happen in the country. Like what, what do you tell the parents when they come to you and say, Hey, Sully, I'm, I'm terrified about this happening. Like what, what can you, what resources can you offer them? First of all, we have a generation of kids that are so embedded in their phones that they're not paying attention to the things that are going on around them. And there's a lot of these incidents where police are going in afterwards and there are children and difficult conversation to have who are dead and their phones are still recording

right because their first reaction was to pull their phone out and record it and not get away right so it's a very tough thing to talk about with kids it's a very thing a tough thing to talk about with kids. It's a very thing, a tough thing to talk about even amongst adults. But until this, this epidemic is gone, we have to be having these hard conversations and we have to talk to our kids about situational awareness and about, you know, what are your schools doing? Know what the schools are doing to respond. What is local law enforcement doing? Who's actually going to your kid's school in the event that something happens? And what is your police department's protocol for active shooter response? When you have looked into this, what is the common denominator of these shooters? Is it most people who want attention? What is the things that these characteristics that these people have?

You know, it's hard to say. And at the end of the day, it doesn't really matter. All that matters is it's happening until it's not happening. We need to figure out the best way to that everybody's involved, right? Because this isn't everybody's problem. This isn't a left problem. This isn't a right problem. We need to have difficult conversations in a meaningful, impactful way. But until that happens and until we can agree and figure out a way to stop this stuff from happening, we need to have the best response possible. So how do you talk to your daughters before they go to school? Like, what should I say to my kids about this? What are things that you tell them to look out for, to do? Like, do you tell them to go under a desk?

Like, what are the things they should do? So it's hard to say with certainty what to do because it's situational based. Right? And a lot of these active shooter programs and not necessarily for law enforcement but we're teaching kids you know the run hide fight it's good it's it's a basic understanding but sometimes it doesn't come in that order right what if the shooter is already in your classroom and you can't run and you can't and you can't hide right what so sometimes running is your first option.

Sometimes hiding is your first. Sometimes fighting is your first option. You don't know. So what I think as parents we need to be doing is having these difficult conversations and trying to teach our kids to look for those warning signs. Who is the kid, you know, potentially that might have the issues, right? Every time we hear the after action on these shooters, it's never someone who was a normal kid or a normal, right? There was always warning signs.

There's always something that led to that. And if you ask the kids, well, yeah, they were outcasts. They were treated poorly, right? And that's another issue we need to talk about as parents is how are we treating other kids in our schools? But you need to be able to recognize these things and and deal with them and you know as parents we need to be talking to the schools and making sure the schools are doing the right things why can't they tell why can't they teach teachers how to um how to defend the students so it's a conversation

in some places and i i go back to the shooting. And you said, oh, I shoot more than that. Well, there's a lot of teachers out there that shoot more than that. There's a lot of teachers that were prior service members or prior police officers or hunters or competitive shooters, right? And they are already involved in the situation if it happens in their school. So there's a great case to be made. Well, let's provide them with a little bit extra training and allow them to carry a gun. But you mentioned that in some places and people get scared, right? They don't want guns in their schools and they have a legitimate argument.

Like we're putting- It's hard. It's so hard. It is. And that's why it's a difficult conversation. And what makes it even harder is, you know, a lot of people are so passionate and fired up about it and it becomes a political issue. And then we can't have a conversation about it because people want to make it political. Before we go down that rabbit hole, because again, I think we could take nine hours and go into 18 different directions to avoid that because obviously that's a, that's an issue that at some point is going to keep being talked about, but you talked about situational awareness and a lot of people in your line of work and profession have mentioned that before. And I think you mentioned

it be around the children, but I actually think the parents just as much, they're just as good. There's so many people I walk around in public sometimes. And I, Lauren knows this. I comment all the time. I'm like, look at all these people, their head down and they're in the phone and they have no idea. So we could just, you, you, you see something like, how did that person just get clocked in the face and on the street? Or how did that person get stalled? You see these people walk around like zombies with their heads down or in their phone, just completely unaware. And I think because we live in a civilized place where there's some law and order and more or less in some places, people just feel this huge blanket of

safety. And my thing is I walk around with my head on a swivel all the time thinking someone's going to, maybe I'm paranoid, but I think maybe just talking about situational awareness, not only for the children, but for the parents, just because I think that's where it starts to begin with. Situational awareness mindset, right? We need to start talking about the mindset of people who are doing, you know, living their lives. And like you said, the cell phone, it's a great tool you know we're walking around with computers in our pocket right the knowledge our kids have knowledge in their hands that we never had you need to go to the library look things up in books right and now it's it's

there and that's great but it's also really dangerous and you know driving yeah i i hardly ever will drive my motorcycle anymore, right? Because people will sit there and be on their phones driving cars and it's just so unsafe. And it's a tough, again, conversation to have with adults who don't like to be told what to do. It's much easier to tell a kid whether they do it or not. I don't know. You know, I can tell my kids all day, put the phone down and I can't control what they do when they leave the house. It's the same thing with adults, but adults are, I think, a little bit more stubborn. But based on what your experience, is it fair to say that if there is a threat of some sort, say someone wants to harm you, just being aware and making eye contact with that individual is maybe half the battle in some cases

because they're playing on people that are unaware. Is that fair to say? Absolutely. It's a hundred percent. You're trying to recognize a problem before it happens, right? And that's the awareness we're talking about. Being alert when I walk, I never walk into a place on my phone. I'm always up. I'm looking at exits. I'm looking at people. Anytime someone is behind me, I'm stepping aside. And that's just probably my background in the military and being overseas and seeing what I've seen. It's too many people are hyper-focused on what their individual task is that they're doing at that time, that they're not paying attention to the surroundings. And that's just not school students that's that's just general public and that's one of the first things i talk about when i when i go talk to people about any kind of personal safety is like man okay you gotta pay attention to what's

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for this special offer. That's ProlonLife.com slash skinny. If you could wave a wand and have like your dream happen. Yes. With all of these schools to protect them. What does that look like? Like what does your solely checklist look like to get everyone sort of buttoned up i mean if it's a magical wand i just say there's no more active shooters right and it's done okay but let's say there is let's say that that's a it could happen yeah so we protect everything that's important to us in our culture except our kids like there's no security at a lot of schools and schools that do less security you're right it's really airport i get

felt up and finger banged every single time i go to the fucking airport yeah it's like thank god i haven't had that happen to me they bend me over with the dildo and at schools there's nothing is this you know what i would say thank god i'm not michael if you're not going to defend me right now i'm in a little while then you know what it's the women every time i get the extra screen listen do you know what she fucks up though because she'll come in in full hair and makeup sometimes we're going to do something like this i go in i look like i just rolled out of the trash you know smack my ass whatever but it is true that you're so right i'd never even thought about that

the airports are so gnarly and everywhere banks even businesses right you need you can't get in anywhere without a key card i mean like coming into here coming in here going through security but we don't do that for our schools and we just want that perception for our kids that hey you're safe when you're at school right and that's great's great. I love that idea, but that's great until it's not great. And at some point, we need to start choosing between safety and the perception of, we live in this free world where nothing bad is going to happen to you, because we don't know where the next active shooter is going to be, but we know there's one coming. There's going to be another school shooting. It not where it's when right and and where it's going to happen we don't know so we can't pick and choose all right we need to make this school

safe that school safe that school safe because that's where it's going to happen it's either all or none and unfortunately it's it's usually the schools with the money to be able to do it that have the security to protect them are there any schools that are adapting, adopting security? Like, are you seeing some schools that are going? Absolutely. There's a lot of schools that are doing it. And there's a lot of, we call them school resource officers. So there's a lot of police departments that have school resource officer programs where they're putting police officers in the schools. But again, it's only good if they're trained. And we saw Stoneman Douglas in Florida had a school resource officer and the guy didn't go in. He went and hid while

kids were dying. Right. So a lot of these and this is in every department and this is it might not even be the majority, but there are departments where that position is someone who doesn't necessarily want to be or fit in with, you know, being out in the field as a patrol officer. So we're going to put them in schools. But from your perspective, as someone with combat experience, is this something that, I mean, obviously you can train for it, but how are you able to like, say you put an officer like that, how do you know someone's going to answer the call and have the courage? Like, is way you can even vet for that or is it just training? Well, I think if you started vetting police officers for the attributes it takes to become a Navy SEAL, you wouldn't have enough police officers. Sure, sure. Right? So you

can only vet so much in law enforcement to be able to, you know, 800,000 police in the US, you have to have a, the standard has to be lower than what it takes to be a tier one operator. But at the same time, if the first time you are under stress the way you would be when someone is actively shooting and not in a training environment

that is controlled and you can work on the response and make the response better, then you're wrong. We need to start training police officers in stressful situations. We need to put them in stress regularly as part of their training so that they learn how to deal with the physiological and the psychological effects of stress on the body. Because that is a limiting factor. It's that you're freezing in the moment because you are fearing for your life and you don't

know how to respond. For somebody who's never been in the situations that you've been in without going into so much detail, what are the physiological or mental effects that happen when you actually get into a firefight or a situation? What happens for somebody who's never experienced anything like that? Like what does the body do? Have you ever jumped out of a plane? Yeah, I've shot up.

The first time you jumped, what did you see? Not a lot. Right, not a lot. Tunnel vision at the ground, like, oh shit, oh shit. I've only done it once. Yeah. I'm trying to put myself back. That's what it's like when you,

because you're afraid in that moment that if this parachute doesn't open i'm gonna die and the thing that's gonna kill me is that thing i'm staring at right there which is the ground so you don't see anything around you you see that you know what i equate it to when i was a kid i used to sometimes i used to have a time i used to get in fights and when you're in a fight you kind of only see yeah i always say like you don't see anything or hear anything around you your blood pressure goes up right and you know your blood is going to the center of your body and you're losing dexterity and it becomes harder to make decisions. It's big movements.

And like any other life or death situation, your body responds in the way that it's going to. And the only way you can teach it to adapt is by putting yourself in that situation regularly. And it just doesn't happen. It doesn't happen in the military, except for maybe special operations in some select units. It doesn't happen in law enforcement, except for maybe SWAT teams. And unfortunately, it's not SWAT teams responding to school shooters. It's whoever's closest. And usually, that's the person with the least amount of training. So from the first time that you had situation to the last time,

is it a completely different physiological response? You just, your body just adapts and you get used to it? Yeah, and I mean, the first time someone is shooting at you, there's a definite pucker factor. It's not fun. And, you know, it definitely changes, right?

You learn to recognize gunfire. You learn to recognize gunfire from accurate gunfire and you learn to recognize accurate gunfire from, oh shit, I need to get on the ground and hide. Right. And you know, if there's a shooting in this building right now, the hardest thing to know would, Hey, where is that shooter? You just hear a gunfire and you panic and you don't know what to do because am I running towards it? Am I running away from it? It's a really hard thing to discern for someone that hasn't been around that regularly. And that just adds to the fear in the unknown. And the more you put yourself in those situations, the easier it becomes to make better decisions. And at the end of the day, that's what we're doing. We're just

trying to help officers control the stress in the response so they can make better decisions. And at the end of the day, that's what we're doing. We're just trying to help officers control the stress in the response so they can make better decisions that are going to save lives and keep them safe as well. So is there a different sound from like a fake gunshot you just kind of said to a real? There's different sounds?

Yeah, a real gunfire vice a blank or something. There is a different sound and it's going to be louder and there's going to be more concussion that comes along with it, depending on how close you are to it. But there's also when bullets are coming at you, there's the sound of the bullets whizzing past you that you can hear. So you might hear a gunfire, but if you're not hearing the rounds impacting, then the gunfire is not coming in your direction. I don't think that, you know, obviously we're pro-military on the show and pro-police and we've always been that way. But the reason so much is,

I used to read a bunch of W.E.B. Griffin books. You know him? Yeah. Anyways, so I would read all this stuff and the thing that I took away from it as a kid reading those books is, you just don't realize how far removed you are as the, as an average person from people that do what you do or do what police officers do. So I'm so empathetic

and appreciative of people that put themselves in the situations you put them. Cause like, even in, like I told you, we just did that tour in, on, in Coronado for the seal bases. And like when you get, and that's still so far removed, but when you realize there's like people right now in places where bullets are flying, keeping you safe. And there's active police officers that are there doing this line of work, trying to keep the community safe. I think like the average person has such a disconnect from that. And it's easy to get online and like get on your high horse and comment on whatever way you feel. But I just, I think that that it's unfortunate that that disconnect exists exists obviously it's going to be there because you're not in the situation but if people would just get closer to empathize like what guys like

yourself and women like just like go through it's just a it's just a wild thing to fathom and think about like we've lord and i have never had to be in a situation where like there's bullets flying and we're having to distinguish between the sounds. You know what I mean? I do. And I appreciate that. It's definitely a great perspective. And I would say one of the hardest things I have to do

is teach people that there's actually a problem because Hollywood paints law enforcement and military in a light that isn't accurate. And so most people believe that police are these Navy SEALs. They have the same training. I did before I heard you talk. Right. And it couldn't be any further from the truth.

Like you said, you shoot more than most police officers. Yeah. And I do not consider myself qualified to be a police officer or an active military member. And I do do that. You know what I mean? Like, yeah. So it's crazy to hear you say that so we have that's part of the reason and i think that that there's a lot of negativity towards law enforcement because there isn't really an

understanding of what they do but when things get bad we expect them to do job their job at a level that they're not trained to do it at. They're set up for failure. I'll use sports analogies if I'll give you one. But if you were to take a baseball player and say, hey, I'm going to make you a quarterback. So he's an athlete. He's obviously got some ability, athletic ability. And then you bring in an ex-quarterback and teach him how you you know, this is how you throw a football and, you know, teach him some maybe fundamentals

of this is a pass pattern, this is a drop back. And for a week, you teach him how. And then you set up some canned plays with fake defense and you let him run those plays and he succeeds because they're canned. And then at the end of the week, he said, okay, here you go, you're a quarterback. Go back to your job as a baseball player.

And then five years later, call that guy and tell him, hey brady's hurt you're starting in the super bowl what do you mean i don't know how to play football no it says here you're a quarterback you you took a one-week class and also it's like it's not like oh like you have a day to prepare it's like we need you now right now that's what we're doing to these police officers we're giving them a week of training on you know tier one navy seal mission which is a hostage rescue or active shooter and then we're sending them back to do their job and then who knows at any point in their career they get a call and say hey i need you to do this tier one mission and go rescue these kids and then when they fail we want to blame them and throw them in jail and sue the police departments and and just ruin their lives right well of course they're going to fail you

didn't prepare them to be able to respond to this what worries me about someone i've said this before and i got some shit for saying i don't some of the negative press that a lot of these police forces get is like if you're seeing this as an aspiring individual that's like maybe thinking you want to be a police officer and now you're seeing some as an aspiring individual that's maybe thinking you want to be a police officer, and now you're seeing some of the flack these people take, whether they fail or they do something wrong. What I worry about is who then is saying, that's the career I want to jump into.

You're maybe going to get people that, all the people that you might want to get might say, hey, I'm not doing that anymore. Yeah, and we see it up there. By the way, I think the same thing for politicians. And we see it a lot in those places like Boston, New say, Hey, I'm not doing that anymore. Yeah. And we see it up by the way, I think the same thing for politicians, but we see it a lot in those, you know, places like Boston, New York, Chicago, all these old blue collar cities that have generational police departments, right? My, my grandfather was a cop. My great grandfather was a cop. My father was a cop.

I'm going to be a cop. Well, now they're going to be firemen because nobody hates when a fireman shows up. Everybody's happy. happy right you're coming to save my life come on i love it and you know the pay scale is the same the the hours are better right you're work two days you're all or work one day you're off four days whatever the so we're losing all these potentially qualified people that wanted to be police officers and now because of this this public sentiment that vilifies law enforcement, they're choosing other careers. And then the people that have been on the job for a long time are getting out and leaving, and all that experience is going with them. It's a scary time.

And I'd like to say that the pendulum is starting to swing back and that perception is changing, but we've already done a lot of damage. Well, I think people are starting to maybe think and come around to the idea that it might be a good idea to have law and order in our cities. Right. Yeah. What a novel concept. With what you're doing with your organization, is all the resources going to training police officers? Is that is that is there a one, two, three, four, five thing you're doing, or is everything going to training police officers? That's it. So we have a couple of pillars. One is our goal is community safety. That is it. That is our mission. We want safer communities for our family. I did this because of my kids. I want my kids,

when they leave the house, to be safe. I don't want to worry that they're going to go to a movie and someone's going to walk in and start shooting or to school or to the mall, right? That's what it is. That's mission number one is how do we keep our kids safe? And we do that by making sure that the people who are tasked with responding to these incidents are as highly qualified as possible. And we're getting them the best training as we can. And we're doing it at no cost. The second one is because in part of all this stuff we just talked about with the negative sentiment from a large part of the population against police and the types of things that

we're seeing specifically with the school shootings and children dying, the mental health issue in law enforcement is critical right now. It is at a critical point. And I say it's probably where we were in the military about 10 years ago, as far as the response and the culture and how we need to change the culture in law enforcement to really prioritize mental health among officers. So that's another thing. And I love, from my perspective, it doesn't cost me money to pair an officer up with a SEAL or a special operator from the army who has had a similar incident, right? So maybe an officer gets shot, I'll pair them up with someone from my world who's been shot and it's just pure mediation.

Okay, this is how I worked through that problem and trauma. And this is the type of care I received and how I got back to work or you took a life. All right. Well, here's, you know, a CEO who had a similar shoot had to take life. This is what they did to get back to where they need to be. So that that's just building relationships and fostering relationships between my community and that community. I have two questions for you. One, what do you personally do to stay in the right mental space after everything you've seen and done? And how do you kind of like, I guess, compartmentalize in a way? And also what is the experience like when you actually get shot? Like what goes through your mind? Um, yeah, it's not fun. I didn't expect you to say it's fun. So for me, I teach, I teach and I talk to me that this is my mental health. I've always been a service oriented

person. That's why I joined the military in the first place. And just because I retired from the military, I didn't lose the passion to serve and to help. I just found a different outlet for it. And thankfully that outlet is also for me, it's mental health to be able to teach someone something that I learned over my two decades in the seals that potentially could save their lives or the lives of an innocent person is a very gratifying thing to do. And I also think talking to my peers about my experiences and, and overcoming some of the cultural faux pas of, Hey, you know, we're, we're these tough guys. We don't talk about our feelings and problems. You know, we've had to really force that mentality and that mindset out of our community for us as a whole to be in a better place. You think that was contributing to mental issues because people just would bottle everything in?

I think so. Right. But that's that's what we teach. That's that's how we learn from day one. That that has been the culture of the military since the military started. Right. So it's a really hard thing, especially when, you know, our generation, my generation was two decades of sustained combat. Like we haven't seen that. My dad's uncle was in Vietnam and he told me, my dad told me that he went and had so much stress and so much trauma and they actually told him,

like, don't talk about it. And he ended up getting schizophrenia because i believe he he you go crazy when you can't talk about it and you can't share yeah it's it and again it's a cultural thing in vietnam nobody knew what ptsd was back in vietnam right we just had all these guys coming back that were fucked up because they were doing seeing these atrocities overseas and they had no outlet for that. Yeah. And then they said, don't talk about it. Don't talk about it. And I imagine some of those old guys were some of the guys that trained you guys too, huh? Yeah.

Maybe there's still a few. One or two around, but ironically, most of the guys that put me through training earlier on were that post-Vietnam pre-9-11 SEAL that never really went to combat. That's interesting. Because we didn't have a big role in the first Gulf War. So, you know, Black Hawk down, we had a few guys over there, but for the most part, there wasn't a lot of combat for SEALs in that time. So the tactics I learned coming up were Vietnam era and they don't apply to Afghanistan, Iraq, or the other places we went to. And we learned that really quick because we would get people killed using them. So you have to adapt and overcome. And that's something that we're trying to teach law force, law enforcement right now is that you can't use the same tactics you used, you know, for serving

a warrant that you're going to use for an active shooter. It doesn't work that way. And it's hard. It's hard to get people who have this cultural generational thought of, hey, man, we've always done it this way. We're not going to change now to really understand why they need to change. What conversations are you having with your kids? And I'm not just talking about school shootings. I'm talking about in general about the world right now. Well, I have a teenager and an almost teenager. So there's not a lot of conversations.

They know everything. They already know everything. They should tell me what to do. I mean, I love my girls, Taylor and Tegan. And they're a girl. Two girls. So if they're a girl and they're a teenager, they really do know everything. They teach me something every day. Every day. It's great. I don't know where they get it. It's very hard to have a conversation with a teenager. I'm sure you were a teenage girl once you probably know, you know, I just I try to engage them. They're definitely at that point where they don't necessarily want to be engaged or talk about that stuff. But you know, sometimes you just got to force feed them some issues and talk about or at least I try to feel where they're at on it and if it's something that's bothering them and whether I need to dig in a little further. What are the top three things that you think are important? Like if you could say three things to them,

what are those three things? I think situational awareness. I think they need to be more aware of their environment in general. And that's every kid in this world, right? Because we're so engaged in social media and in personal devices that we're not paying attention to what's going on in the world, right? Because we're so engaged in social media and in personal devices that we're not paying attention to what's going on in the world around us. I also would like to see my kids

and again, it wasn't me either, but take an interest in what's going on around the world and understanding that we do live in a country with freedoms that aren't seen anywhere else and that they are fortunate to, to be born in the greatest country in the world and to have all the things that they have. And another thing is I want them to be aware that, that they do have a lot and, you know, they might not have everything they want, but comparatively, I want them to be compassionate and understanding of people that are less fortunate and in a way that helps them realize that how fortunate they really are. Yeah. I mean, again, I think there's a disconnect and I'm passionate about this. I think if you were born in this country and you have the liberties

that this country offers, you just don't realize that you have it better than the majority of the world. And if you've seen what, I mean, you've seen it firsthand, but I just think people that don't, they're not aware, they haven't seen it, they don't understand how good they have it almost. And there's a lack of gratitude then

because you just feel like, oh, like whenever I hear people whining and crying about how bad it is here, I'm like, there are people that don't, that would die and give everything to come here and have what you have. There are people that do do that. They give everything and they leave their whole world behind to come here.

But again, it's like being able to see past your own front door. It's crazy. Some of the unhappiest people are the people with the most. And then some, I think I've been to 80 something countries, right? Some of the happiest people that I've ever come across are the people that have the least. What do you think that is? Man, I don't know. I wish I did. It's crazy though. Some people that, you know, they, they, if they don't work, they don't eat every day and that's it. That that's their life from birth to

death and they're happy and the kids are happy. And what countries are you talking when you say this? It's's it's not necessarily a country thing it's you know man all the countries i've been to you see it it's not one specific country what do you do this is this is a tangent but that's the show okay to get your muscles now how are we keeping the muscles man i watch your show while I'm working out and that really motivates me. Okay. I'm assuming weightlifting. Yeah, so I mean, I've always been an active person and so I have a fairly strict schedule

when I'm not traveling. What's the schedule? I can't wait to hear it. Oh man, so I wake up every day, usually around the same time. I don't set an alarm. What time? Usually 6.30. Okay. Not too early. Yeah, usually around the same time. I don't set an alarm. What time? Usually 6.30.

Okay, not too early. Yeah, not late, not early. I was joking with Carson. I was like, listen, Sully's out there. He's been hiding under the table the whole morning. I'll be waiting for you. Escort me down to my car, please. I get up every day, two cups of coffee, start my day.

I watch the news, and then I work out. And then my gym is my garage, so i don't have to go far and usually it's some kind of weight lifting and cardio whether it's treadmill or rower or bike and then i for me while i work out i'm working right so i'll have music on in the background i have a whiteboard in my garage i'm'm big on like, I need, I'm a visual person. I have to write stuff out. And I do a lot of my critical thinking while I'm lifting. I love that. And I have my board and it's something pops in my head. It's like, okay, that's what I need to focus on today. I write it down and then I'm done. I drink my protein. I'll eat something and I go back and I snap a shot, a picture of that whiteboard and I go to my computer. And that's usually what I'll start working on.

God damn it, Sully. Now when Michael gets a gym, because now I can see. He's got to have a whiteboard. No, he's going to have a fucking whiteboard in the gym. I can already see. Make it a big one. Make it a big one. I can already see his brain like, oh, I need a whiteboard.

Do not roll a fucking whiteboard in my house. You're going to roll a giant whiteboard in there. You know what's better? They have the digital ones now. Oh, no. Please, don't do this to me. That's what you should do. A couple grand.

I can beam them. You get that big digital one and you can you can do all that swoopy swipey stuff it's great so before you jump i want to talk about no before before you jump i have a couple savannah questions okay oh god yeah i have some savannah questions i i feel like i should be a little bit afraid no it's don't be afraid don't be afraid this is a good question how do you feel about police cameras um i guess it's less about how i feel and more about how police feel and i think there was a general consensus of what the fuck when they first came out with them but in my opinion they have protected the police more than they've affected the police. And they've shown that in most situations, the police are actually doing the right thing. And so it's hard to push back, I think, from a learning side and

to be able to go back and, you know, we're big in the military on, and especially in the teams on after action and debriefing everything we do. And I think that's something that needs to be put into law enforcement a lot more. Like, hey, you just had an incident, whether it's real or training. Let's pull the footage. Let's watch your response. And let's cater and tailor our training to be able to fix what you did, whether it was right or wrong, to do it better the next time. It's genius.

It's refinement. It is. That's genius. I think that's very smart. Okay. Go on. What is the most important tactic or skill that you teach? It could be like a very specific, detailed thing. I think it's the ability to handle stress. If I had to break down the nonprofit into one line,

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As somebody who's been under such stressful situations, what are some of the tools you would give to just the average everyday person? For me, it's, and this is something I learned in buds is if you think about two months down the road and not what you're working at right now, it's really hard to succeed, right? You have to take problems one step at a time and handle what's right in front of you before you can handle what's down in front of you before you can handle what's down the road you're good at that i always say i i need to handle this so i can get to the other side i think of it like a fence yeah like i can't i can't even look at z if i haven't done a i cannot stand when he brings i i i have a detachment thing where i can detach should i

should i try out? I think you should. I can handle 36 degree water. I will be here at 5 a.m. tomorrow. We'll start working out. I don't love 5 a.m. Can we make it 10? I'll bring a whiteboard. Can we make it 10?

Do you think Buzz can work around our schedule? Of course. Yeah. I mean, it's all about you guys. Yeah. This is an amazing question, and I almost hope it's a no. Okay, then no. Have any of the teams you've trained been in

a situation to use your training? Yes. And it's a great question. And it's really hard to quantify what we do because these things don't happen a lot. And really the only way to be able to quantify it beyond the feedback from the people going through the training is, well, when do they actually get to use the training? And at actually Nantucket, I have a Boston police officer who went on video and provided some feedback on a female officer who went through the training that responded to a call of a suspect with a knife and jumped in with other officers. And they were all like, who the hell is this? Right. Cause she went right to the problem and saw the problem and, and deescalated the scene and was able to,

to, to take the guy under custody without having to discharge her firearm. Right. So she did everything she was taught and she had gone through the course, I think a month before. Like what does the course teach if someone hasn't, like just as someone who doesn't know anything about this, like what are the steps that you're teaching this woman to do when there's a guy with a knife? Yeah, so we focus on the fundamentals of a tactical response to a critical incident.

And what that means is crawl, walk, run, right? So police officers will get a basic introduction to tactics in the academy, and that's it. So they don't have a fundamental baseline to build on when responding to a tactical situation. And if they don't go to a tactical team, they're never going to get it. So we design our training on all right

the very basics of a seal learning how to do a room entry that's where we start day one week one of of you know selection for dev group is you know a two-man entry into a room with a pistol with no no ammo in it just to learn how to go through a threshold of a door. And then we add and add and add until they're doing, by the third day, complex scenarios with role players and paint rounds to where they're having to decide whether or not they need to take shots, right?

Because a big thing in law enforcement is de-escalation, is target ID. Whoation is target id who am i shooting who am i not shooting imagine going into a school with a yeah it's a kid with a t-shirt and blue jeans on and he's shooting people and you walk in the hallway and there's a hundred kids running in every direction away from this person and you are fearing for your life and you have a gun in your hand like the stress to be able to decide if you're going to shoot a kid who yeah exactly right right so it to be able to that that's what we're teaching and what we're saying is if i can put you under stress and help you

realize that you don't need to make a split second decision you need to make a split second decision. You need to make a two second decision. And I just bought you a second and a half of more time to analyze and respond. Maybe that's the difference between I need to take this shot and I don't need to take this shot. Or maybe that's the difference between I need to take the shot on this person, not that person.

Because they're dressed exactly what I was told the shooter was wearing. But that guy doesn't have a gun. That guy does have a gun. So it's significant. It's a lot to learn in a short amount of time. And like I said before, one week isn't enough, but we're certainly going to identify the problems and hopefully help these departments build better training plans going forward. Can like Michael take the course or is it just law enforcement? It's for the nonprofit. It's just law enforcement.

You should do like a, we do it on a for-profit side, right? So we, I'm going to send him. That's what he's getting for Christmas. Go learn how to defend me, bitch. Absolutely. And we do a lot. I think she should learn it too.

Nope. Okay. I will. There's a lot of things you can learn. He's right. I just feel like I do a lot in my life. I do a lot of things he's right no he's right i just feel like i've been trying to take her for years to go a lot in my life i do a lot in my marriage and i just feel like fuck if i can't just close my eyes at night and be defended what if i'm not there one night but

you're always there you're up my ass maybe one day i won't be okay but oh man but like it's i just sometimes i'm like can he just do it let Let's put it this way. Don't you want? But then I hear you talk and I need to be more situation like to be. It's a skill you have. I agreed. That you hope you never have to use. Yes, I agree with you. Listen, I, you know, you do women too.

Yes. All the time. I prefer that. Yeah. Thank you. But let me ask you this, Lauren. So like here we have a daughter now now. And you better be sure, like I'm going to want to teach her some of these skills

and how to be situationally aware. Like it's important because just being aware of threats and danger that are around you is like, like I said, I think it's a huge portion of it. I can be oblivious. I know what my weaknesses are. And I'm a little oblivious, which makes me nervous if I'm being really self-aware to be around a firearm.

There's something about it that I'm, I can be a little distracted. And so that makes me, it makes me a little bit nervous. Yeah, but you should have a basic understanding of firearms. Yeah, I don't. And kids, as soon as my kids were old enough, you know, I shoot with them sometimes, but as soon as they're old enough to hold a gun or go to a friend's house where, you know, I don't know what their parents are doing with their friend's house. Right. So my kids have a working knowledge of gun safety. Yeah. And they don't really have an

interest in shooting, but they're going to know about firearms and they're going to know, like, if there's a firearm and I'm not around, treat it like it's loaded. Don't touch it. If they want to touch it, you need to leave that situation. Right. And as a parent, we should be teaching that because even if we don't have guns in the house, which a lot of people don't, you don't know where they're at after school, especially as they get older and you want them to know how to respond to those situations. And I would say the same thing applies to you. Yeah. I mean, listen, I was fortunate. My dad was in the Navy. And he, since I remember,

I had to be 10 years old the first time that I learned how to handle fire. And it was just like a normal thing. I think a lot of people that have never had that experience, it's like crazy. But for people that grew up with it, it's just a tool, right?

It is. As long as you understand the function of that tool. I would take your class. Let's do it. But I would rather, I think just for you alone, it's important to just know how it works, what it is, like all of those things, because you never know. We'll get Henry and Savannah down here and we'll all do it. We'll go shoot for a day or a couple of days.

I heard Henry's got some fun stuff. Yeah. This is the last Savannah question. Okay. Do you get hit on constantly? Um, no, really sometimes, but no, I mean, I, I, I'm not usually in situations where that happens, right? Maybe people are scared to hit on you cause they don't want to come out of nowhere. Maybe. I don't know. I think, you know, when I'm home, I'm home. I don't go out

much. I'm with my kids and when I'm on the road, I'm working. It's, you know, I love't know. I think, you know, when I'm home, I'm home. I don't go out much. I'm with my kids. And when I'm on the road, I'm working. It's, you know, I love my job. I'm going to tell you something, Sully. Oh, God. There's been a couple people who have come on this podcast. No. One of them got married and has two kids now. So.

I tried that. Be careful. I have two kids. You know, be careful. There might be some ladies sliding into the DMs after this. There might be a DM slide. Where can everyone... Before we go, I want to talk about if people want to support the charity.

And I want you to also talk to the parents about how this works. You go around to different cities, different forces, and you're able to offer training. So maybe just go into that before we go. So the big thing is to be able to train police departments across the country and to do that, it's a significant amount of money, right? So it costs me about 20 to 25 grand a week to do this training. In the two years we've been doing this, we've raised over a million dollars and we've trained a significant amount of police officers and police departments. But for every department I trained,

there's probably nine departments that I have to turn down because I don't have enough money or time to do it right now. So to be able to support us, obviously we need donors. We need companies that are willing to partner with us and support us and bring us in. And we need departments. And c1p.org is our website. You can check us out on social media, community underscore first underscore project. Obviously, if anybody wants to support training within their schools, that's completely different, right? But we do have a couple of the schools up in Boston that we're working with now with some of the private schools that have parents that want us to come in and assess

the school security and assess their plan, which we can do that as well, and then train their organic security along with the police departments that are in the cities that they're residing in. So there are options of things we can do. And obviously on the for-profit side for personal security, home defense, firearms instruction and training, we can do that as well. So for parents that may want to bring this to their city or their community, and they hear this, they can get together with a group of other parents

and they can say, okay, we can donate at, would you say c1p.org? c1p.org. They can donate there. They can message me there as well. And we can talk about what that looks like. So say people in Austin say, okay, we want Sully and his team to come here and train in Austin. They can say the Austin group of parents

can get together and bring this, or if they're in Boston or Nashville. When my daughter goes to kindergarten, I think we should get together. No, no, no. We're in and we're going to do something. I told you that. But I just want the parents to understand, if you're listening to this and you want Sully and his team to come to your city or to your... Absolutely. You'd get the group together and say, okay, let's see if you can make it happen. And then you could be in contact with those parents and make something potentially happen. What if someone wants to donate?

They can donate at c1p.org. It's the easiest way. Just go to the website. You'll see the big red button on the top right corner. Click on that. You can donate. And it doesn't necessarily have to be donating. Follow us on social media.

Share our message. As I told you guys, a lot of what we do is trying to get the word out that help is actually needed in in the deficiencies in training and law enforcement so sharing our message and sharing our posts help with that as well last question to put some pressure on the federal side of the government why is the federal government not funding more training like this with all of the money that we waste in all of these different areas. Maybe Doge is going to come in and change them with that. But why is the federal government not funding this kind of training for the people that protect us more? They are. And there's a

significant pot of money and we're actually going to be going after it in 25. We haven't had the track record, right? We're still a new organization to be able to apply for some of that federal grant money, but there's hundreds of millions of dollars available and a lot of it goes unused. So you could potentially unlock some of that federal money? Potentially. That's the goal. So if anybody's listening has lobbying power to help us do that, then that helps. Grant writers are another thing we're always looking for, people that want to help us with the grant writing side. But at the end of the day, the federal money is there and it goes to departments or it goes to organizations, but it doesn't mean it's the

right training for these people. In my opinion, there's a systemic problem in how law enforcement changes that needs to be changed at the fundamental level. And that's a significant price tag. Yeah. Well, you know, like if you see what's happening now in some of the stuff that in the conversations that's going around food and farming and are like, I think fortunately, some of these kinds of properties are being listened to with more frequency and, and taken more seriously. And I think like, this is where the conversation again, like just being aware that this isn't happening for a lot of these police forces is important. I don't think, I think the average person would assume that these people are getting top-notch training and should have all the capability. And they should be. And I understand completely why people assume that

it's just not the case. And I need people to realize that. And if you knew actually the limited amount of training that officers get outside of a tactical unit, that should scare you as a parent, as a community member, that should scare you. My antennas are up. Good. All right. So where can everyone slide into your DM? C1P.org. That's the website. I'm at Sully underscore C1P. That's my Instagram. Community underscore first underscore project. That is the nonprofit Instagram. So shoot me a message if you think you can help in any way or support or just a positive affirmation.

We love it all. Alex, Savannah, Henry, thank you for coordinating this, connecting us. Sully, thank you for doing this. Thank you for all that you've done and all that you're doing. Appreciate you, man.