The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - How To Regulate Your Nervous System, Break Toxic Relationship Patterns, & Heal Your Body Ft. Alyssa Lynch

Episode Date: April 30, 2026

#966: Join Lauryn Bosstick as she sits down with Alyssa Lynch – former actress and creator sharing content at the intersection of wellness, style, and self-trust, focused on building a life that feels good, not just looks good. In this episode, Alyssa opens up about her healing journey – from navigating a traumatic relationship to facing insomnia, inflammation, hormonal imbalances, and nervous system dysregulation.  Lauryn and Alyssa discuss relationship patterns, emotional health, and how trauma can manifest physically, along with the impact of environment, overstimulation, and learning when to slow down. She shares the tools that helped her heal – including breathwork, cranial reflexology, journaling, and simplifying her environment; plus her daily routines, beauty rituals, and wellness non-negotiables. As someone in her "figure it out and share it" era, Alyssa brings a candid perspective on self-awareness, resilience, and learning to trust your body.   To Watch the Show click HERE   For Detailed Show Notes visit TheBossticks.com   To connect with Alyssa Lynch click HERE   To connect with Lauryn Bosstick click HERE   To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE   Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE   Head to our ShopMy page HERE and LTK page HERE to find all of the products mentioned in each episode.   Get your burning questions featured on the show! Leave the Him & Her Show a voicemail at [phone].   This Episode is sponsored by The Skinny Confidential  Shop the limited edition Eden Rock x The Skinny Confidential collab at https://boutique.oetkerhotels.com and at http://shopskinnyconfidential.com. While supplies last.    This episode is sponsored by Just Thrive Get your health in check and save 20% on your first order at https://justthrivehealth.com/SKINNY with code SKINNY.   This episode is sponsored by Paleovalley Head to http://paleovalley.com/skinny for 20% off your first purchase.   This episode is sponsored by Momentum Go to http://momentumshake.com/SKINNY to get your free Welcome Kit and Travel Collection!   This episode is sponsored by Cotton Learn more at http://TheFabricOfOurLives.com.    This episode is sponsored by The American Beverage Association Visit http://goodtoknowfacts.org for more information.   This episode is sponsored by Sam Edelman Visit us at http://samedelman.com to explore everything you need for spring and get 15% off with code skinny15.    This episode is sponsored by Running Point Watch Running Point S2, Now. Only on Netflix. Produced by Dear Media  

Welcome to the Bostics, starring Lauren Bostic and Michael Bostick. Together, they are the Bostics. Girl Talk. This is a total girl talk episode. Alyssa Lynch and I get into a candid conversation. She opens up in this episode like never before. She shares some really personal experiences in this episode. And she also talks about her journey with self-trust and self-love.

In this episode, you can expect a super open conversation. So we discuss healing, being calm, real, grounded, and we really focus on how to build a life that actually feels good, not just one that looks good. Alyssa Lynch, welcome to the Bostics. Okay, Alyssa Lynch is here. We kicked Michael off the episode because we wanted to have some girl talk. And I think that this episode just didn't need his interjections. I love his interjections. We're going to go all over the place.

We're going to talk about healing old trauma, energy healers, periods, beauty, health, wellness, skin. And I just don't, let's just do a feminine energy. Next time you come on, do both. Okay. Welcome to the show. Thank you. So give us a little bit of background on the journey that you have been on the last couple of years because it's been intense. It has.

Yeah. Well, going back to when I moved to L.A., I think it kind of started. I was 19, and I moved here, and I was really excited. I was in a relationship, and that's kind of when I got started with social media, because he was in the business. And I kind of judged it at first, and then I was like, this actually is just a way to, like, be creative. I mean, this was in 2016, right? So it was a way to just be creative and have the freedom to do kind of whatever you wanted. And we, it was a really, it was a really traumatizing breakup.

I know I was only 20 or 21 when the breakup happened, but I was so in love and in fantasy land. And I thought we were buying a house together and having kids together and all these things. He started to get really spiritual. and that's when I had I've always had a like a spirituality thing inside of me that I you know I've always wanted to explore as well and so I think I took that as like permission and I was 21. I was like I'm booking myself this yoga retreat. I met so many lovely girls and thank goodness for that because when I got home I had only been gone for six days but he had done some type of spiritual drug which I know or is a beautiful

experience for some people, but I think with maybe some of the, some of his chemical imbalances that it set something off. I mean, he was in a psychosis and it was traumatizing. He wouldn't snap out of it. It's psychosis is traumatizing, but it's so traumatizing for another person to experience as well. Like, like, this is, this is not the same, but similar. My brother, my brother has diabetes and he had a seizure in front of me and that's I feel like that's kind of like a psychosis and totally and of course it's traumatic for the person having the seizure but I just remember and I'm sure you felt the same being so affected by my goodness by seeing that as someone you love it was also hard

because it wasn't there was so much like ego that I was being told that I was crazy um and It was so interesting that, you know, he was, he really questioned his sexuality and thought that he was in love with a man and also, um, also would, would do things like meditate at the wheel and getting car accidents from it. No, it was like, my mother was like, sweetheart, come home to Canada, please. And then now everyone, like, now I can laugh about it. And people are like, you need to write like a cliche Los Angeles book, you know. Because that stuff only like happens in stories and movies, but it was reality. And I was just such a, I just, I didn't have any friends here. I didn't have a life here. I did, which was my mistake. And I learned from that. But I really revolved. I was inserted into his life. And I didn't create my own life. And so then having to try and get out of that was really tough.

I had health issues come up and my period stopped and I lost a lot of weight and I had such crazy insomnia. I didn't sleep for two and a half years. This is wild. Yeah. So it sounds like that this relationship like affected your entire identity. Yeah, I think it really, really affected my nervous system. You know, I think my nervous system went into complete, like, shut down mode.

And so I have been working since then to heal my nervous system. And I've never shared that story before. So a lot of, you know, people, and I am a sensitive person. And I know, like, I think you can relate. I've heard you talk about even, like, when you walk into a room, if it's really fragrant, you're like, ugh, you know. Oh, it's the worst. I'm like, I got to stay at hotels that have no fragrance. So even on that, like, physical level, I've always been like that. But I do think this certain circumstance really set something off. And the hyper sensitivity after that was just like really intense. I think that when you're at capacity with your nervous system already. And so many of us are because of all these overhead lights and the fragrances and all the different things that are in the world.

the food and then something like that happens it's like your thermometer like just cracks yeah and i from what i'm seeing in front of me and what i've seen on your social media is it seems like after this horrible relationship you went through a lot but it seems like you also have had this really healing journey of and i could be wrong this is my feeling of learning to love yourself for sure so when i would think when you enter into your next relationship and you'll have to take us on with that story but like it seems like you entered in your first one depending on him and then the second one or the next one maybe you entered loving yourself absolutely i think my biggest lesson in this life or in this um era like 20s my 20s era is my biggest lessons are through

relationships like i i have been in relationships like i've been in five serious relationships and they've been years long and I in between I'm very single in the sense of like I'm not dating I'm spending all of that time on myself but I've learned so much and it's funny how you can you can get into a relationship after a traumatizing one and it's just filling the voids that weren't present in the last one but it doesn't mean it's right but you're so obsessed with the fact that you're like oh my gosh I've never gotten physical touch and now I'm getting it with this person you know, but it doesn't mean that it's right. So I've just like learned so much about myself throughout my relationships. What has it been like for you to have a platform and to have all

these people who are wanting to know what happened? And you're just not maybe ready to share every last detail right when you're in it. Yeah, it's, I think I'm, I'm an extremely empathetic person. And so even when someone has hurt me and done things that, that are just like so not okay. I'm so protective over them still. And I just have this sense of like I can't, it's not just my business, it's theirs too, and I just can't share that.

So I think that's been, but I'm also, it's hard because it's like I'm fighting myself because I'm also a very open person. And I think the most healing thing is talking. and being able to be super vulnerable. And then, you know, when someone can relate or when someone feels seen, like that's the best feeling to me.

When you were going through this on social and you started to have like this nervous system breakdown, how much did you end up sharing and how much did you say for yourself? And is there anything that you want your people who follow you to know that you were like, maybe something that they didn't know was going on behind the scenes that now you want to share?

Yeah. I mean, I think I really, well, that's why I really leaned into wellness after that breakup because I was like, felt like I was dying. So I needed all of these wellness habits. It was very obvious. I was 90 pounds. I definitely, I don't even, I think the word eating disorder is, like it's never something I was diagnosed with because I never saw a professional. and I just think it's so complex. I look back and I'm like, I don't even know if that's an eating disorder because I think I was just so over.

My nervous system was so out of whack that I was afraid to put certain things into my body because I didn't want to feel worse. I also, when I get really, really sad about something, I think some people, they gain weight and some people lose weight. I get sick to like even the thought of. food when I'm really upset about something. And so you're right, that is a complex word. It is. It's almost like the relationship ending activated that. So I don't know. I mean, I don't know enough about eating disorders, but I just know that sometimes you get so sad and you get so depleted that you just don't want to look at food. Exactly. And I think a lot of the time people can just think it's, oh, you're just obsessed with your weight and being thin. And it's like,

that actually, I didn't even have the capacity to really think about that then. It's a lot more complex, I think. From what I've, when I've interviewed people who have experienced that, it's not so simple as being vapid about the way you look. Totally. That's an important message, I think. And I think just because social media shows up in images, that's what, you know, people think.

There's a lot more sometimes going on behind the scenes that people don't see. And I think like people like for stories, take stories, you see three to five minutes of someone's day. Like you don't see my daughter having a tantrum or like there's so many idiosyncrasies and things that happen throughout the day that you just don't see. It's so true. And I think that it's important to give people grace. A thousand percent. And I feel like it's starting hopefully to go in more of that direction because we were in a direction a couple of years ago. that gave truly nobody grace, just full assumptions.

So I really, yeah, I really hope so. So that was definitely one. And then I think like the next relationship I got into and I did share a lot about that. I mean, I moved in with that person the day COVID hit. Oh. The next relationship you had to quarantine right away with this person. Right away with someone who is.

clinically extremely anxious, hypochondriac. And I am someone, like I said, like I'm so empathetic that it has really hurt me because I, when I see someone sad, I just like go into fix help mode. And I mean, because I grew, my mom had me in high school. My dad was in high school. Like I just felt like from a really young age, just trying to make sure, like, I'm not in anyone's way, and everything's, like, really solid and good. And, you know, when your parents are teenagers, like, they have emotions. And so you can almost come up with ways as a really young child to try and find ways to calm people and to make them happy. And it's like, it's your number one focus. And so that happened again during quarantine. And I talk to so many people who are like,

You know, this is bad to say, but like, quarantine was the best. It was amazing. It was when we all just got together. I'm like, oh, my gosh, I wish my quarantine was horrible. That's interesting that your parents had you in high school. Yeah. If I had my children now in high school, I would be a completely different parent than I am now. In fact, if I had had my children 10 years ago, they would have gotten a different parent. Right. that that is wild to think about high school is like you're still processing your own your own stuff

of course and that makes so much sense that you're saying like they had their own stuff and you're trying to like help fix it as a little girl yeah that makes a lot of sense though why you were picking these people absolutely it was like it was projects especially after being so hurt you were I was like, okay, I really gave my heart to someone who I thought could hold it. And so I know what I'm good at. I'm good at helping other people. And so, you know, it's not all conscious. I'm just, I've really reflected on this.

And I think I then got into something where I was like, I know my role here. I can help somebody. And in the end, of course, it was like there was so many secrets and cheating and disloyalty that I am usually the most intuitive person, but I was so focused on feeling bad for this person because I did love them. I had so much love for them that all of those intuitions were completely suppressed.

With what you went through as a child, though, it makes sense that your picker was not the picker that you deserve. For sure. How through each of these relationships have you gotten to a place where you feel like you love yourself enough to attract someone who is worth your time? I think it's being self-aware and really reflecting, like, you know, I could sit and be like, it's not fair. I was cheated on. I was lied to. I was this. Or I could be like, why have I put

myself in that position? And I'm a really, like, analytical thinker. I want to understand all of my thoughts. You seem very cerebral. Yeah, yeah. And I, and it's a great thing. Sometimes it gets a little too much where I'm like, okay, just let it go and move on. But I think looking back, I'm like, how, you know, what are my patterns? How have I gotten into that? It was almost like I got into the fixer. I need to fix him. And then I went into another relationship after that that was complete settling. It was almost like I had to try different directions to realize more things about myself. And once I was in the one that was settling, I was like, I just woke up one day. And this was only like a 10-month relationship, but I woke up one day being like, no, no, no, this is not

what I do. And that was just, that was almost the worst one because it was like a slap in the face to myself. It was like, you did this to yourself. You chose this person. And, you know, he didn't try to be anything he wasn't but and I don't mean to for this to sound egotistical at all but it was like I am so much higher than and not like better but like I'm so much more in tune and I can call something in that is that is that is that is on the level I'm I'm at you're out of alignment with yourself and for you to be able to recognize that that you're right is really self-aware. I believe with everything in life and my life that everything is happening for you. I really believe that. Yeah. I think you can look back,

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code skinny 15. That's sam edelman.com code skinny 15. What's interesting and I know we'll get into, but it's also, it's also funny that, you know, our bodies, what I've really realized to about going through any health issues or hormone issues is that our bodies are always trying to tell us something. And I have never had a period in a relationship. The day I break up with somebody, I get my period. And the day I get into a relationship, I lose it. I am now in a relationship and have had a healthy cycle and it is and also it's the healthiest relationship I've been in a by far I honestly didn't even know it was possible for something to be I don't like to word the to use the word easy but to be honest it is a million times easier than anything I've ever been in and I just now

can look back and be like oh my gosh I was so mad at my body for not working properly but really it was just protecting me, I think, from being with the wrong person. That's wild. Yeah. Because if you had had your period, you could have gotten pregnant with one of these people. Uh-huh. And I think it's also, you know, to get a little woo-woo, the healer that I've worked with is like, of course my mother didn't want to have me in high school. You know, I wasn't planned.

It doesn't mean that I was like, my mom did the best job ever as a friggin' 16-year-old, you know? like incredible. But I think you can, when you're in the womb, take some energy from, you know, from your mom. And I think there's been fear in me growing up of having a child with the wrong person. Because no offense to my father, but I think my mom's thought that a lot of times, you know. That is so true. Yeah. I am the most woo-woo. And I totally agree that the baby picks up, on all of it. I've flipped three kids in my stomach that were breach. That's so cool.

They can feel it. They can feel what you're feeling. If you're sad, you can physically, I mean, people are going to be like, I'm turning this off, but they absorb how you're feeling. And so that makes a lot of sense, but how freeing and liberating for you to be able to understand that so you have the tools to move forward and live this beautiful life. Imagine if you didn't think about and have empathy for your mom at 16 or if you didn't understand maybe how your mother was feeling when she carried you. It's really, to me, it's cool that you have this

information. Exactly. Yeah. And you have to switch out of the victim mindset and just see it that way. And once you do, Like even nervous system dysarculation is just like annoying because there's so many components to it and you don't understand. And I think I've had so many like inflammation issues and like body aches and pains. And the moment, and this is honestly a really recent thing, the moment I started to like surrender to those uncomfortabilities and be like this is information. This isn't my body punishing me. it trying to show me a sign for something, it alleviates so much. It's so interesting for me to hear that you have inflammation issues. Because when I look at you, you guys got to pull up her Instagram if you can't see her or go watch the YouTube.

But I know a lot of people know you. Inflammation would not be on my bingo card for you. You don't look inflamed to me. Thank you. Like I don't. It is a thing, though. I will say, like I, you know, my, my, my, boobs go two sizes bigger. I carry, will carry 10 pounds of water retention. And like if I really work

on my nervous system over four days, it will go away. What does that look like working on your nervous system to get rid of inflammation? So a lot of it, a lot of the practices that I've learned come from Brian, who I've worked with a lot. Yeah, tell us about this. Yeah. So he, it's hard to title him. I don't even know how he titles himself, but I think it's like cranial reflexology meets facial work meets. He's just really good at nervous system help, especially with women. And there's a lot of breathwork is really good for me because, you know, some people are like anxious minds. I'm more of an anxious body.

And so I, and like I said, I like to understand and know everything. and sometimes my body is reacting and my mind feels good. Like I'm like, I'm chill. I'm not anxious. It's not like I have rumerating thoughts, but I will have like my body feels adrenaline like it could run a marathon at 10 p.m. And I'm like, what is going on?

So I know that my nervous system is dysregulated or I'll get hives all over my chest or my eyelashes fall out. Like I don't have any eyelashes anymore, which is also, I guess, a sign of yeah of mineral deficiency because of nervous system for dysregulation. You got to write a book about the nervous system. There's so much to it.

Wow. So I use the app open and I just will do like a five minute breath work or meditation. That has really helped. But when I'm doing those, I literally imagine it's usually my pelvis area that holds trauma or just emotion in general. It blocks me from creativity. It feels really heavy. And it's like every time I like breathe into that area and try and imagine it going down out of my feet. It's amazing. I'll usually like cry for five minutes straight and then feel so relieved after. This is going to sound off the beaten path. I'm here for it. So have you ever gotten work on your pelvic floor where they go up you with fingers? No.

You got to try it. So yes, yes. You got to try it. Something's calling me to tell you this. There's a woman in Austin that after I had a baby, your pelvic floor, like think about all that trauma from birth, but also what you're saying, there's something in your pelvic floor. I mean, this is my own. This is Dr. Lorne. I love Dr. Lauren.

Give it to me. She goes up you with gloves and she adjusts not only your pelvic floor. She almost takes pressure off your organs inside. Right. And it is amazing and she does it for about an hour. Wow. She also goes up the butthole. I have not done that one yet.

I'm going to let Taylor be the guinea pig for that one. But this is a real thing. It's like it's cranial sacral inside. Well, it makes sense. If they're, that you have organs and muscles and everything up there as well. And it's like there's only so much. I mean, Brian definitely doesn't go up there.

That would, that would, that's why I'm, I go to a woman. Oh, you go to a woman. That's why I'm recommending Dr. Maria and Austin. I'm obsessed with her. She, like, doesn't even have social media. Yeah, that's the best.

I think that you should look into adjustment in the pelvic floor. Mm-hmm. If anyone listening any recommendations for us, it really, for you, I feel like you would love it. Well, that's the treatment or the sessions that we do, I'm lying down. And he pushes on different places in my body and will be like, I mean, I don't even know he does it. He's like, okay, is it sore here? Yeah, okay, I got to go up to your head now. And now I'm going to put pressure on your head.

And I will feel the craziest release, the biggest one. and I don't know if you've ever had this done is when he puts gloves on and goes inside of my mouth. There's a spot up above your teeth like up here, up like almost towards your nose. And then back also behind your teeth. And he will put pressure on it. And it is the craziest emotional release. He said he's done it to like Marines that have been carrying so much trauma. And when he does it, they will cry like little babies.

And they're like, I haven't cried in 20 years, you know? And one time I did it, bawled my eyes out. The next time I did it could not stop laughing. It was like that was my emotional release, like so much, like hysterical laughing. That's trauma in your fascia. It is. Yeah. Yeah.

Try that pelvic floor thing. I'm going to. It's really, I know, guys, it sounds crazy. I'm going to. I'm going to fly to Austin to get. Someone's hands up there. Next time you're there, I'll set it up for you. And it's, she like, it takes pressure off your hips, especially if you already know what I'm talking about because you did the mouth one.

Yeah. It's the same. Oh, yeah. Vibe. It's just a vagina. Right, right. Perfect. Can't wait.

Taylor, don't get any ideas. Taylor's like Googling, like, pelvic floor banging porn right now. Okay. You never know what you're going to get. I love it. How has moving to Ohio and out of L.A. and out of this energy helped you heal your nervous system and what are things that you're doing on a daily basis to allow yourself to flourish? Okay, so I've learned so much, again, about myself throughout this move because, and I'm sure you can relate,

the over-stimulation here in Los Angeles, especially as someone who's like in the business. business and always like putting themselves in situations that, you know, people are networking and talking and that. It's a lot. And that's why I'm so grateful. I feel like it's my friend group is quite rare. Everyone is in the industry, but I don't think people realize that 99.9% of the time that is not documented. There's no photos taking. We're off of our phones. It's been a, like, thank goodness for them. Like, leaving my entire family and moving here as one just by myself. Having them is everything.

It's been really healing and amazing. But even with that, like L.A. was just, yeah, I was getting too much. And I finally, I met someone who really related to me on that. Like, he is the best at being so social. And he's incredibly adaptable, which I think. is a really great skill. But he wants to be near the grass and the dirt and hear birds chirping in the morning, not sirens and trucks and all of that. So we moved up there and it's so beautiful. We're on like 11 acres. And it's like it's so nice. You don't have a neighbor in sight.

It's beautiful, right? But then I also realized, and I think this is the funny thing, is that You can talk to people and be like, I'm over-stimulated. And they're like, well, you're a highly sensitive person. You need to be, yeah, you need to move somewhere, like out of, in the middle of nowhere and doing nothing. What I realized about myself, though, is I also, because I noticed this when I was going to New York that I, like, loved it. I love New York. I love walking around. I don't like going to New York and having a schedule from 8 a.m. to 8 to 10 p.m.

That is a no good. but I love being there because I think with this incredibly analytical mind of mind and needing to understand everything, it can get to be a lot like in my head. And so being in New York and being able to observe everybody else and like everything around you and no one's paying attention to you, it's like it gets you out of your mind and I'm inspired. I'm creatively inspired a lot by by that. So, it was an interesting thing for me because I almost felt like bored in Ohio. But also my nervous system was taking an exhale, but to an extent then it would get anxious because I'm like, I'm stuck.

I'm not inspired enough. So it's just interesting. You can learn like different things about yourself. And I think obviously not everyone has the ability to travel a lot. But I think that's why, like, having a home base that is calm, like getting in this phase of life to travel to places that creatively inspire me is the perfect recipe. That I feel the same way. Yeah. I say this all the time.

Like, New York and L.A. is my mistress. I suck it. I fuck it. And then I get the fuck out. And I want to marry the birds and the grass. And I want to wake up and walk in the street with my baby in my pajamas. Like, I don't want to run in to anyone. I just want to be low, low, low vibes.

Right. I completely feel the same way. I made a TikTok the other day, and I was like, I love that I moved to farm town. But I'm in L.A. right now. I have my freaking overpriced expensive coconut water matcha. I just went to skims and bought something that Kylie Jenner was wearing, and I'm a ho for this shit. Where is the matcha and what is the thing that you bought that she's wearing? Oh my gosh.

I bought like a one piece A one piece swimsuit because I'm entering that era from skims but it's like super fitted and I was like I want something more chic I don't always want like my boobs to just like be out in a bikini You do have great boobs Thanks thanks there are a lot sometimes My mother just got a reduction and she's trying to influence me

And I am like Don't touch your boobs they look so good I'm gonna wait till I have kids, but then maybe like a reduction in a lift. You know what? I think you look great. Thank you. That's, that's Dr. Lorne. So, and then what's the coconut macho? Where do we get that? So I get it, actually right down the street. I get, if I'm getting iced, I get it from Sun Life. Okay. And I get the match. So they have like already curated recipes for their matcha, but you can't custom make them. So I get a matcha iced no milk coconut water. From Sun Life. From Sun Life. And then I get a little dollop of the coconut cold foam. Kalil, did you hear that? You should do the Alyssa on the menu.

We did. What? It's not there anymore. We did it for like a certain amount of time. But we did actually a macha offigado. So it was pouring matcha on their like ice cream. And it was a hit. And then we also did a smoothie. But yeah, I'm, I love him. And I love him. And I love him. And I love sunlight a match a macha afagano that's fun that's amazing yeah what are some beauty things that you do that also have like a little bit of wellness in them i know you're very into the hacks and the optimization um you know not not saying this just because i'm here but the like your especially travel size ice roller is is everything i love like a facial ice dunk as well but sometimes that's incredibly messy and I'm traveling or whatever.

So just being able to go everywhere with that is so great. Because I'm, I mean, at this point, I've branded myself as like the puffy princess where like sometimes I wake up and it's like my eyes are swollen shut. So that whole process to depuff hits long. But that is saved my life. You're such a big proponent of the ice roller. I always see. I'm like, you're amazing. Well, and then I created eye patches.

because I was like, these bags are so crazy that after I ice roll, I want to put something under my eyes to go on a walk or to go get a coffee so people don't see my under eyes. Are those the green ones? Yeah, they're not. They just sold out. Okay, because it's really funny. I was on your Instagram today doing research, and I saw you in those green iPads. I didn't realize they were yours.

So I wanted to create my own eye patch, and I was working with ClearSstem, and I went to them and I said, I'm going to do this with her without you. but I would love to do it with you because I trust your formulations. I trust your products. Someone with, I struggled with like dermatitis, which is just like a bitch. You know, it's hard to know why it's happening. And so I went to them and I said, I want them to be infused with macha because green tea is great for the skin and deep puffing. And I also love macha and it's aesthetic and brand worthy and all of that. So we did it. They said, wake me up all over them. and they're the best eye patches. Like, they really are.

It's hard to find eye patches that stay on, and I can do like a heated sweat class with them, and they stay on incomplete. I need some of these eyepatches. I'll get you some. And the best is when you ice roll over the eye patch. It's so good. The best feeling, because these ones, too,

like, they already give you that kind of, like, tingling feeling of waking you up. So with the ice roller over top, it's great. I am thinking about launching my own, because people are really sad that they're not there anymore. It's so funny when I saw your page, I was like, those eyepatches are cute. I was like literally about to look at them

and then I was getting my haircut. So I changed and I saw them. They're like very aesthetic. Yeah. I think it's, I mean, as you know, as someone who owns a very aesthetic wellness brand. Like they're important. It's important.

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I know. So working on it. We love Clearstem. Clearstem's amazing. Clearstem also launched their own eyepatches. So it's very similar. A little different, but very similar. So those are now available. Well, maybe you can put like a pre-order button for this episode.

I will. Because that would be really fun for them to be able to go support. Yes. Support everything you're doing. What are other things you do? Red light, workout. Are we lifting weights? Are you runner?

What are you doing? Okay. So recently I have learned about myself that I don't know, have you guys ever had anyone on the podcast talk about MCAS, mass cell activation syndrome or like histamine overload. I've heard that word, but we've never had anyone on the show. So tell us. So there's like a few like super talented professionals that honestly like you should get on the show because I feel like MCAS or histamine issues weren't a very,

there were more of a rare thing, but since COVID happened, these, you know, you've heard of long COVID, right? Yeah. It has people with long COVID, it has really affected their histamine response. And so a lot of people now, and the more I talk about it with people, I mean, it's just wild how many people are on antihistamines every day. I have a rash all over my legs right now, and I can't figure out what it's from. Just try and take a pepsidate and a Claritin and see what happens.

Why? Because it goes away? That's when I realized it was a histamine thing. I couldn't figure out every time I would go to a lymphatic massage, a buckle massage. I would go and do a crazy hard workout. Sona? Sona. I would get so swollen and puffy.

And I was like, this is supposed to do the opposite for me, right? And I think, I mean, the wellness industry, it's like obsessed with detoxing because we have to. We live in a world where the environment is so bad that we have to detox. But then people are having these histamine responses. So what I think about it is I think about how they kind of describe it as like you have a bucket. And everything, like one lymphatic massage is one glass in the bucket. One hard workout is another glass in the bucket. And your body can only handle so much until your histamine is over, or it's overloading,

and then your histamine responds to it. So mass cell activation syndrome is like your white blood cells are almost firing off alarms at all times because your system is just overloaded. So I started to realize that. Like you were doing too much while I was doing too much. And so. That's interesting. I'm still figuring out what workouts and what works for me. But if you would have told me two years ago that I would go two weeks without working out, I would have been like, you're crazy. But that is my reality right now. I'm walking. I'm meditating. And I will do like a 10 to 15 minute, like whether it's Melissa Wood workout or Megan Rup workout at my house. Because I just feel like I can trust that versus.

I used to go into that heated room every day and do, you know, a really intense workout. And it just started not working for me. I'm not a fan of the heat. Yeah, it's hard on the system. I love sauna. Me too. But I'm not a fan of heated rooms. It feels like it's a lot of bacteria.

Totally. I don't know why I've always felt like that. Yeah, it needs to be a really clean studio too to like make my mind at ease. But then also I'm like, but then we're putting wind decks all over the studio and then we're heating it up. I've always, there's something about that that feels. No, you're really onto something too because I feel like everyone gets obsessed with something. And then, you know, it's our society. We get obsessed with one thing.

And we don't realize that if you do that too intensely, there are repercussions. It's like if you only focus on protein, then you're going to lack fiber. And like, you know what I mean? Also, what I'm seeing, too, is people eating too much meat and then you get iron. Exactly. I think you have an iron influx. And that's a problem. You're so right and you're really on to something with that.

I hate to say the word balance, but it is like a balancing act of like not going too hard. I'm such an intense person. Me too. Like when I cold plunge, I want to be in there for five minutes in the most freezing cold and it needs to be so. Michael is, he's a fourth Japanese, so he's very, he's very, he eats until he's 80% full and he's done. And like, what's that like? It's so weird to watch. I'm like, I've never heard of.

That must be so nice. That must be, his mind must just be kind of like, gosh, I'm jealous of that because I'm not the same. I get, I'm, and I think this is, this is what I mean is, this is just me trying to break certain. too intense habits. It's hard. Like, I want the water freezing cold and that's not, like, you want it, like, I feel like the intensity has got to be a response to something, though. Like, what is, what is it that, like, makes you want to be so intense? Well, I think to, I think back to, you know, my childhood and where I grew up, like, no shade to anyone where I grew up, but they are all doing the same job.

And they're coasting. And maybe some of them are really happy. But to me, viewing that growing up, terrifying. Like, terrifying. I was always, I mean, at six years old, I sat my family down, and I was like, I'm going to move to Hollywood, and I will miss you. And it's like a joke. We all joke about now because they always thought I was bullshit.

And the moment I graduated, I was like, bye guys. And I just wanted to be around like people who were so inspiring. And so you have to go through times of being intense, you know? I think I heard you and Michael talking about one time of like how there was a point in your guys' career where you're like, you don't sleep. You go intense. But like that's a phase of life. And then at a certain point, you have to also be like, okay, sleep is, I get to sleep now. I get to create this life because I went through the intensity that I now get to create a life that's that I'm able to manage the intensity.

I have the tools now. And I'm also going to take time to not be so intense. I think you're right. I think the intensity works until it doesn't. Exactly. And if you can't pivot when the intensity works, you end up being very burnt out. Totally. You have to come back on the show with Michael too because I feel like we got some girl talk out of the way.

But before you go, you have to tell us about your morning and nighttime routine rituals, because I feel like you're probably really ritualistic. Yeah, I am. That doesn't surprise me. My morning, I mean, it's nothing like revolutionary, but my morning is sunlight, first thing. Like, you can ask my boyfriend, he grabs the phone, and I'm so offended. I'm offended. It's actually disgusting.

I think it's so gross. We can't open an eyelid without grabbing the phone. I'm sorry. I get cold and he's like, what's wrong? I'm like, you've just been. Have you ever seen the throw-up emoji? Like the one that's like barfing everywhere? That's how I feel when Michael does that.

That's how I feel. I literally, it's a turnoff. Oh, and I like this like wave of like anger comes over me. I want to grab it and throw it. And I want to. No one's ever said that the way. Like, I feel the same way. I'm like angry.

No, I'm annoyed. So I open the blinds and I get sunlight because that's what's good for our eyes. And I used to do like hot water with lemon and all of these supplements. And to be honest, I've realized that less is more. I like don't, I just kind of cut all the supplements right now. And I'm just like drinking water. Like I know it's crazy. But like, yeah, hydrate.

It feels good. It feels great. And then I do this thing called journal speak. Have you heard of that? it's really helping me. You pretty much, Nicole Sachs created it, you write down everything you're thinking in your brain. It can be and it usually is so ruthless. Like it is not things you would usually, it's like the opposite of manifesting. Like if you are, is it like the morning pages? No, it's like I am worthless. I'm useless. I feel fat. I feel like, I mean like you wouldn't

want to see my pages, it's bad. But what you do is you write and you're just, you're kind of like rage writing. And then you rip it up and you throw it away. And it's really therapeutic and nice. And after you see him on the phone, you can be like, yeah, fuck this guy. He's awful. Yeah, it's fucking disgusting. Yeah. So I do that and then I make a matcha or I go get one. And I just like go at a walk and that's my morning routine. I'm going to tell all you girls out there something. All you girls that don't have children, you better be enjoying your matcha morning where you can Oh, I'm trying every moment I get. Enjoy every second. I know. I will pick up a pen and sit down at the table. It gets ripped out of my hand. I'm hungry. There's not, right as I'm about to write my rage. No. You need to like lock yourself in a closet. But that's okay. I'm in this

phase in my life and I love it and it's so intense in the morning with children. But my point is to everyone who does not have children now is, is love your morning. I know. Embrace your morning. Romanticize the shit out of it. Yes, because if you do end up having kids, that changes, like we were talking about phases. Yeah. And if I were you, I would sip that matcha so slow and relaxed and I would just write as slow as you can and just enjoy it and embrace this chapter of your life. And I mean, my advice is don't, like, feel like you have to, like, rush anything. Just be in the moment. It's really amazing.

I look back on my mornings before kids, and it's different. And not one's better than the other. They're both very fulfilling. Totally. It's just, I just think people who do not have children need to understand that you're lucky. Right. Yeah. There's nothing worse than seeing someone who doesn't have children and has the ability to have that

morning of freedom that doesn't take advantage of it and goes into full, like, got to get to work at 7.30 and then my meeting's at 830 and then this. I'm like, just breathe. Like, slow down. Breathe and do your journal speak. I'm going to do that maybe though when Michael picks up his phone and I'm alone in the hotel. I'm going to send you something really funny. Okay. Thank you for coming on. Where can everyone find you if they want to check out the iPads? Where can they grab them? Maybe they're on pre-order? Well, yeah. Thank you so much for having me. Yes, you can look on Clearstem's website. There still might be some available. They're available until they're sold out and then I might just make my own. So stay tuned for that.

But you can find me at Alyssa Lynch on all platforms. Thank you for coming on the show. Thanks for having me.