The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - Ivanka Trump On Life Lessons, Leadership, Values, & How To Be Resilient Under Pressure

Episode Date: January 13, 2025

#796: Join us as we sit down with Ivanka Trump – a devoted mother, accomplished entrepreneur, visionary builder, strategic investor, bestselling author, philanthropist, & former Senior Advisor to t...he President. In this episode, Ivanka shares her journey of personal & professional growth, from launching a fashion brand to advocating for policies that support working families during her time in the Trump administration. Ivanka reflects on her entrepreneurial spirit, leadership lessons, family values, & commitment to creating meaningful impact. Ivanka also discusses her remarkable achievements & her perspective on her father’s upcoming presidential campaign as The Trump Administration prepares to return to office.   To connect with Ivanka Trump click HERE   To connect with Lauryn Bosstick click HERE   To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE   Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE   To Watch the Show click HERE   For Detailed Show Notes visit TSCPODCAST.COM   To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697)   This episode is brought to you by The Skinny Confidential   Head to the HIM & HER Show ShopMy page HERE to find all of Michael and Lauryn’s favorite products mentioned on their latest episodes.   This episode is sponsored by The Skinny Confidential   Optimize your daily beauty routine. Shop Beauty Water (one day) EARLY at ShopSkinnyConfidential.com.    This episode is sponsored by DailyLook   Head to DailyLook.com to take your style quiz and use code SKINNY for 50% off your first order.   This episode is sponsored by Lancôme   Shop now on lancome-usa.com and use code TSC20 for 20% off Genifique Ultimate.   This episode is sponsored by YNAB   TSC Him & Her Show listeners can claim an exclusive three-month free trial, with no credit card required at YNAB.com/skinny.   This episode is sponsored by Momentous   Go to livemomentous.com/skinny and try it today at 20% off with code SKINNY, and start living on purpose.   This episode is sponsored by Ritual   Start a Ritual that’s backed by science, without the B.S. Ritual is offering 25% off your first month at ritual.com/SKINNY.   This episode is sponsored by Seedlip   Start the New Year right by visiting seedlipdrinks.com and entering the code SKINNYCONFIDENTIAL to get 20% off your purchase.   Produced by Dear Media

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Starting point is 00:01:25 Welcome to the Skinny Confidential, him and her. I have had the pleasure of getting to know Ivanka Trump over the past few months. And I can tell you that she is even more impressive than you could ever imagine. She is cool and thoughtful and well-read, and she's funny. I really like her. She's a devoted mother, an accomplished entrepreneur, a visionary builder, strategic investor, bestselling author, philanthropist, and the former senior advisor to the president.
Starting point is 00:02:00 I am very inspired by how she helped with the iconic redevelopment of the old post office building in Washington, DC. You guys also might recognize her from her global fashion brand. This brand generated hundreds of millions in sales in apparel, bags, and shoes. I think people don't realize what a businesswoman Ivanka is. She also starred on the hit TV show, The Apprentice. She's authored two bestselling books. She's served in government. And she also led the effort to double the child tax credit.
Starting point is 00:02:34 She's really done it all. This credit benefited 40 million American families. And it also secured paid leave for the federal workforce. She's really made a mark. I sat down at lunch with her before this interview and I got to hear about how she's channeling her energy into investing and incubating businesses. She's really interested in helping entrepreneurs who align with her interests and passions.
Starting point is 00:02:59 She's also returning to her real estate roots and developing luxury hotels. We're really excited though in this episode to dive deeper into the story of Ivanka Trump. I wanted to hear from her directly about her journey from New York to DC to Miami and what she's learned along the way. In this episode, you'll get a bag of Chex Mix.
Starting point is 00:03:19 So you'll hear how her priorities have changed. You'll hear what brings her happiness, the impact she's made across all different industries, her thoughts on everything from creatine to Brazilian jujitsu. We get the Ivanka Trump smoothie. Beauty, weightlifting, time management, and how she continues to shape the future
Starting point is 00:03:39 through her passions and pursuits. She barely does podcasts, so I'm honored to welcome my friend Ivanka to the Him and Heruits. She barely does podcasts, so I'm honored to welcome my friend, Ivanka, to the Him and Her show. This is the skinny confidential, Him and Her. This is your second podcast, right? Only second. Is this the only second time you've done it? Uh-huh.
Starting point is 00:03:56 I love listening to podcasts too. I started initially, I'm an avid reader, so I listen now to a lot of books and I toggle back and forth between them, I'm always like just pounding through books. And it allows me to both have, enjoy sort of the page and the feeling of having a book in my hand. But in Miami, I drive a lot. So if I get into a book, I normally start with it in hard form and then I start listening to it if I really like it after,
Starting point is 00:04:28 and I give myself like an hour. If I'm into it, I also buy it on Audible, and then I go back and forth between the two. So I got used to, because of that listening, and it was right around the same time I got into podcasts, and now I'm always listening to something. Almost to like my detriment, because I think for all of us, we need sort of the calm, the peace,
Starting point is 00:04:51 the noise to just be taken down. And I'm like such a voracious consumer of information that I find myself sometimes filling the quiet moments with learning or a podcast or a book. So I don't know. I think my commitment is to have more sort of quiet drives in 2025. What podcasts are you listening to?
Starting point is 00:05:10 What are your go-tos? I listen to everything. I listen to you guys. I think you're great. I'll take it. I love Lex Friedman. He's become a good friend of mine and I know he's Austin-based here.
Starting point is 00:05:23 I recently met Theo Vaughan and I think he's so funny. He's such a nice guy. He's so sincere and curious. And I love the podcasts he does. He does these podcasts with just interesting people from all walks of life. So I find that really interesting. I listened to one recently with a Carney. I listened to one recently with Akarni. I
Starting point is 00:05:45 listened to one with somebody who'd worked in sanitation, Staten Island for 25 years. I think it's just awesome. So I like that a lot. There are a few business shows I really like. This guy, Patrick, has a great show. He just interviewed my husband and it was really interesting. What's the show called? It's called Invest Like the Best. He has great stuff. There's another great one called Acquired.
Starting point is 00:06:10 I really like that's a great business show. And then a person who I'd been listening to for a while and subsequently I met, he's Miami based. David Senra has a podcast that's really good. You'd actually love it. Is it the Founders one? Founders. Okay.
Starting point is 00:06:23 It is so, he is just so passionate about reading, specifically books on business, biographies and autobiographies. And he made a podcast out of just discussing various books he was reading. And it's great because he'll read quotes from them. He'll talk, he'll talk you through the whole arc of the book.
Starting point is 00:06:43 But over time, like Steve Jobs, he's done five episodes on Steve, so he'll pull in from other episodes and other biographies or autobiographies. He'll pull in material as well. So you really, over the course of an hour, you really get to know the person he's profiling in a very intimate way. So it's, it's great. And I've discovered a lot of really great thinkers through that podcast that then I've subsequently gone back and read their books. So it allows me like a little nibble at sort of their wisdom, and then sometimes I dive in more.
Starting point is 00:07:19 It's really good. Have you always been like this since you were a little girl? Were you always this learner, consumer of information when you go back? I've always really loved learning and I I would say like a constant in my life has been just a huge curiosity about everything. Like there's no obvious thread that ties it all together. You know I was never there were certain trends that. You know, I was never, there were certain trends that I was, you know, I was always interested in real estate, I was always interested in design, I always loved history, but I find these things and my
Starting point is 00:07:55 way of researching is to read. My way of tackling new experiences, I've often found myself at the deep end of life, you know, having to sort of sink or swim. And one of my, the early ways I sort of embark on the process of trying to meet the moment is through reading. It's amazing. I mean, for $30, you can learn somebody's life wisdom and they give it to you. And having written a book myself, my husband wrote a book,
Starting point is 00:08:25 I know just how much work goes into a book. Somebody will tell you all their secrets. And so it's an amazing way to contextualize an experience you're having or to learn about something new. Like right now I'm super fascinated in AI and robotics. So I'll call up a friend, Actually, I called Lex on this. He gave me some suggestions, but another professor also at MIT, actually, I called him up and
Starting point is 00:08:50 I said, look, I don't need a degree. This was maybe two years ago. I don't need a degree, but I really want to understand at a higher level artificial intelligence and this sort of coming wave, the challenges, the opportunities, like, can you create a curriculum? As if I was a freshman at MIT, can you just create something for me of materials I can read, of articles I can read, of podcasts that you think are particularly informative? And he said, sure. Three weeks later, I'd kind of forgotten about it. I thought he had as well. He sends me this beautiful curriculum that I pounded through over the
Starting point is 00:09:27 next five months and it was amazing. Is he a professor that does like that teaches about AI? He's, he's an AI professor at MIT. So that was like, it was an easier ask of me to make, but I've done that with, with friends who are just subject matter experts in different fields where I start to get curious and I realize that I could spend a lot of time trying to curate from a place that's not so knowledgeable or normally you can make a few phone calls and somebody will help you out.
Starting point is 00:09:54 So it's just, it's my way of learning and exploring topics. You sound like someone that when you get into something you kind of get obsessed, but you don't necessarily want to dedicate your entire life. You just want like a base level of expertise. Does that sound accurate? Yeah. So it depends how far I want to go with it. I mean, something like AI not being a mathematician or a computer scientist, there's probably a cap
Starting point is 00:10:18 on how far I can go with it. But one of the cool things about that particular space is the amount of entrepreneurialism, that layer over it. So if you know the capabilities and you have a lot of sort of reverence for it and a little bit of fear, there's just a lot of thinking you can do in collaboration with the people who are the subject matter experts. We were just talking about this the other day.
Starting point is 00:10:43 Not that you need another career, but you would be a good podcast host. Ooh. Because you're curious. I mean, and you do know a lot of different people. You would make a very good podcast host. Well, thank you. You've lived a lot of lives.
Starting point is 00:10:57 You've been a business woman, an advisor, a mom, someone navigating politics, family, entrepreneur. When you grew up with the last name Trump, how did that shape how you thought about success? You know it's interesting, growing up in Manhattan, I had a lot of people around me whose parents were very accomplished, were either public figures themselves or had experienced great success, wealth, fame, whatever it may be, and great, I guess, material success, I should say.
Starting point is 00:11:31 And I found that their children tended to fall into one of two categories. They were either real strivers and oftentimes extremely successful, or they never got out of the gate and they never made an effort because they were paralyzed by a fear of failure and by not living up to the potential or the expectations that were set for them by society. I very seldom found people in the middle. It kind of seemed to take to extremes and a lot of people would really take themselves out of the game really young. You know, I'd see it at when we were in middle school
Starting point is 00:12:11 and in high school, you could just feel that they were afraid. They were afraid of not living up. And I think seeing my parents, their passion, their energy, their commitment to their work. It made the prospect of sort of accomplishing things in my life and having an impact exciting and something that felt aspirational. It felt aspirational in our household.
Starting point is 00:12:38 But I also just chose to take the natural sort of insecurity, fear, self-doubt, and harness it to propel me forward. And I see this in my daughter now. You know, she is, it's an amazing thing how nobody is going to motivate her more than she motivates herself. You know, that motivation comes from within, sometimes to a standard where it borders on perfectionism, where I'm the one actually pulling her back from striving to be so good at everything. And so, so I think the best kind of motivation is that that comes from within.
Starting point is 00:13:16 And sometimes it takes a while to find it. Sometimes it takes just being exposed to the right mentor, the right teacher, the right path. But early on I used all of the insecurity I had and the doubt that others would thrust upon me that, you know, well it's just because anything she accomplishes it's just because X, Y, Z. And I use that to really motivate me to work harder, to dream bigger, and to just go for it. from real estate to fashion and will always be true. And that's okay because I can't prove them wrong.
Starting point is 00:14:08 You know, I... I think you've proven them wrong. But it's not even, I don't know, like I am who I am. I'm proud of where I came from. I had certain tremendous advantages in my life. I've had some challenges in my life as well. And so these are all things just, I have to be comfortable with who I am. And I also, you know, I think as I've had some challenges in my life as well. And so these are all things just, I have to be comfortable with who I am.
Starting point is 00:14:26 And I also, you know, I think as I've gotten older and as I think about the lessons I pass on to my own children, you know, there's like nothing out there. Nobody can validate you and nobody should be able to take you down. Like that all has to also come from within. So I think most people's suffering comes from the need for validation of other people.
Starting point is 00:14:51 And that's true in one's professional life as well. You have to be doing it for yourself and for the right reasons. Otherwise, I think there's a real ceiling on either where you can go, because nobody works harder than somebody who loves what they do. Nobody. Or a ceiling on your personal joy and and and peace and happiness within your own life. Where do you think your confidence comes from?
Starting point is 00:15:18 You're very confident. If someone's listening and they don't feel confident, how would you advise them? I'm not always confident. I have fears and anxieties just like everyone. I think as I've grown into myself, I become more comfortable with who I am. And I've adopted an attitude of it just feels better to be me, you know, than to try to be something else, even if people
Starting point is 00:15:45 don't like it. So I think my confidence or any confidence that I project comes from just being increasingly more comfortable in my own skin. But I still have insecurities and all of the rest of the things that most people, if they're really being honest and if they're being introspective, will admit to also having. But I think also confidence. I mean, I look back and I think about me as a 16-year-old and I was so ambitious. And, you know, I was, there's some video footage of me looking out of over the New York City skyline and saying, you know, I can't wait to transform the skyline with towers that all build. And it's like, there's like a really cute confidence
Starting point is 00:16:31 that comes with having not stepped out into the world yet, you know, that like only almost somebody who's really young can have. And then there's real confidence, which comes from accumulated experience, hopefully combined with success. And like that, you can't, like I look back and I was like, that's really sweet. That's super cute. I see it in my kids. The confidence that's just like being young and being totally unafraid. And then I think you learn lessons in life and even those small wins.
Starting point is 00:17:04 Some of the best things that ever happened wins, like some of the best things that ever happened to me were some of the victory laps. And I'm sure you both have experienced this, that now you look back, you're like, I'm not even sure if that was like a real milestone, but it felt so good to like, you know, slay some task or to perform beyond your expectations. And you get a few of those and get going. And the momentum is incredible. I was fortunate, it sounds like you were fortunate as well.
Starting point is 00:17:28 And so it's learned that we had parents that really encouraged us. You know, we know people that have had parents that have done the opposite where they kind of like, ah, maybe that's too much for you, maybe you can't do that. You had two powerhouse parents that, I don't think a lot of people realize, they work together on a lot of things.
Starting point is 00:17:44 When you think back on their relationship and your upbringing, what lessons do you, of all the things they've taught you, both your mom and your dad, what are some of the biggest lessons each of them taught you? Wow, so many. Starting with my mother, she really was this unbelievable role model
Starting point is 00:18:04 for what a working woman could be. Almost in mythological terms, you know, she was impossibly glamorous while also being a working woman at a time when there were many, many more barriers. Much higher expectations for both her in a boardroom context, much less forgivable absences for a school play or a doctor's appointment, but also a working woman at a time when, you know, other mothers would often look down on that. So she was straddling challenges that feel familiar
Starting point is 00:18:36 to many of us, but in a different way, because it was a different time. And she really showed me that I could pursue my dreams and be in a professional capacity and be a great mom. I used to go to her every day after school and she was the CEO of the Plaza Hotel, the iconic hotel in New York and I'd go with her on walks and it was literally like a more well-behaved Eloise at the plaza. I'd run behind her and just watch her do her thing.
Starting point is 00:19:10 And my father was the same. It was, there was never explicit instruction. I kind of wish I'd gotten a little bit of that, like sort of sitting me down and saying, this is how I like to be, this is how I conduct myself. Did you notice this? It was purely observational. So they never jammed it down our throat, you know, come and work with us in this capacity, but if we were curious and if we were interested, like they would
Starting point is 00:19:37 always want us around. So I would spend my weekends on construction sites just trailing behind. And you learn a lot like that. But I remember my mother, her attention to detail is second to none. Like it was amazing. And you could see that in the way she carried herself and like moved through the world, but also in the development projects and construction projects she managed. And later on, oversaw, I remember once when I couldn't have been older than six or seven. And part of me thinks that this isn't even a real memory, that it was a dream, because it's too fantastical.
Starting point is 00:20:14 But I remember going to visit her at the Trump Castle, a casino in Atlantic City, that she ran. And we walk into the lobby, and as casinos have, they have the whole ceiling is covered with chandeliers. And we get on the escalator, and she points like one perfectly lacquered finger up to the sky and doesn't even tilt her head, at least in my memory, and says to the general manager, there's a light bulb out. And I'm like, whoa.
Starting point is 00:20:46 And I look up and it's like more lights than there are stars in the sky. I'm like, where, which one? I'm like, is she, is there even a light bulb out? Like, but like that level of crazy detail was my mother. She's also so funny too. There was a, I feel like there was like this energy where she didn't take herself so seriously. Oh my goodness. Which was like. She's so funny. I feel like there was like this energy where she didn't take herself so seriously.
Starting point is 00:21:06 Oh my goodness. Which was like, she's so glamorous, she doesn't take herself so seriously, but then she's such an editor and curator. She was probably very disruptive for all these men. Oh yeah. Oh, I can imagine. Well, I told you. It's not uncommon because I developed quite a number of buildings myself.
Starting point is 00:21:24 It's not uncommon to have generational people in the trades. And I'd meet a grandson who's, I'd meet somebody on a job site who was the grandson of somebody who'd worked with my grandfather, whose father typically, seldom at the time mother, worked with my mother. And I'd hear these crazy stories about how they'd hear her feet
Starting point is 00:21:43 on like the concrete slab that had been poured three days earlier. She'd hear the heels and know she was coming. So she was just a remarkable person. But I think to your point, she was very funny. I mean, she, one of the most underrated things about my father is a sense of humor. I don't think it's underrated at all. I think he's one of the funniest people.
Starting point is 00:22:02 People are starting to get it. But for a long time, like people didn't quite get's underrated at all. I think he's one of the funniest people. People are starting to get it. How long? But for a long time, like, people didn't quite get it. I got it. But my mother was exactly like that. And she made him look PC. So she was like, it was a wild household I lived in. But she would say exactly what she was thinking, always. Much to my chagrin as a child.
Starting point is 00:22:22 Why I believe you is I told you when we spoke on the phone that we have a mutual friend with Nikki Haskell. And she sings your mother's praises. And she was telling us these stories years ago about how your mom would be in business settings and in the casino and how she was like the detail person. And she would recognize like every small thing and couldn't get past. Everything. And you know, you said this, in thinking about like that, that detail, the,
Starting point is 00:22:47 in some ways over the top glamour, you know, she was like glamorous in the way that the times were, the 80s, the 90s, the sense of humor. So I think a lot of that was her rebellion against the austerity of her upbringing. And she left only when she was in her early 20s. So this was really her whole childhood. I mean, she was in Prague at Charles University
Starting point is 00:23:12 during the Prague Spring and the uprising. So this, she was skiing at the time, and she'd come back from ski meets, the only people in communist countries who were really allowed to leave the country are athletes. So they allow them to go and participate in competitions. And so she was on the then junior national team. She would tell me how she'd come back after a ski race
Starting point is 00:23:37 from Austria or wherever they had gone. And she had to first, before going home, check in at the local police department where they'd interview her for two hours about her experience. Did you like the food? Did you like the culture? Did you like the clothing?
Starting point is 00:23:51 Testing to see if she was a flight risk. So she couldn't like it too much, but she couldn't be blase about it to the point where they would know she was faking. So at 14, she knew she had to navigate this middle ground. She actually told me that, you know, it didn't take long before all of these people became her best friends because she came home
Starting point is 00:24:10 with perfumes and pantyhose for them to give to their wives. And she's like, they left me alone. My interviews were shorter than anyone. As a 14 year old, she was navigating this. And I think that's why when she got to America, she was so unapologetic about saying whatever she wanted to, wearing whatever she wanted to, and I think she really, really reveled and embraced that freedom.
Starting point is 00:24:35 When she came here, at what point did she meet your father and then at what point did they have kids? And tell me, just so I know who was first. My older brother, Don. So I'm the middle child. So how did that meeting go? Depends who you ask. Okay. Because I read it in her book,
Starting point is 00:24:53 but I just, what I'd like to know from you. They had a pretty short and intense courtship. And she was skiing in Canada at the time and modeling and skiing up there. And she had come to New York as part of a group promoting the Montreal Olympics. So they met at, I think it was Maxime's, the sort of famous 80s restaurant
Starting point is 00:25:17 and hit it off almost immediately. But in, you know, they both tell some version of a hilarious story when they first went skiing together. And he didn't quite know how good she was at the time, which is kind of amazing that that didn't come up in conversation. But he didn't know she was as good as she was. So he had gone out in the first few days. She hadn't been feeling well, so she stayed at home and he had gotten a couple lessons. He was feeling really like good. He's like, well, you know, I got a couple of lessons, I'm doing well, I'm gonna show her how to do it, day three.
Starting point is 00:25:48 She comes on the mountain, she starts to ski, she's gone. Like, she was, this was, I don't think I turned until I was 15 years old, because she wasn't one of these people to wait for you. So she did two turns and was at the bottom of the mountain. He's halfway up with his ski boots on. So he jokes about how he took, he couldn't figure out how to get his boot bottom of the mountain. He's halfway up with his ski boots on. So he jokes about how he took, he couldn't figure out how to get his boot
Starting point is 00:26:07 out of the binding. It was only his third day. And he was so frustrated, he took off the whole boot, still in the binding, and like sent it down the mountain and walked up to the lodge. And it took him like another three months before they skied together again, or another season, whatever it was. But she was very athletic.
Starting point is 00:26:23 Very, very. Her father was also a great athlete. He taught her how to ski. They had no lifts, so they'd have to carry their skis on their back between each run. They'd walk up the hill. A lot of discipline. So any time I complained about it being
Starting point is 00:26:39 cold, you know, in Aspen. Yeah. My mother would be like, get out there. Your first tracks, you're not off, like short hot chocolate breaks, otherwise I'm making you walk up the hill with your skis. Yeah, up the hill with your skis. Do you think there's hope for Lauren Lauren?
Starting point is 00:26:51 I think there's hope for you. We're gonna get you... We've had some rough goes on the slopes. I've taught many of my friends. I'm not above, like, putting my skis around you and carrying you down the mountain. I think you'd be like, I don't know about her. She turns into a bit of a different person on the ski slope. It's a bit jarring to be honest.
Starting point is 00:27:09 I've thrown poles at him. Crying. Have you ever done the hook where you hook the back of their jacket? I've done all kinds. I've hit you in the face. I mean. But similar. She throws the boots off and the skis on the middle of the slope and everything starts
Starting point is 00:27:22 flying down. I'd be a tough case. It's so good. I wanna see, I wanna see that. Oh, it's embarrassing. When was the momentum in your career started? Like, what was the first thread where you realized you were entrepreneurial?
Starting point is 00:27:36 And I almost think like, go back, because I remember seeing a video of you modeling, walking down the runway when you were very young, like back, back. You know, it's always been really core to me. I was always conceptualizing the businesses I would create or dreaming of the buildings that I would build. It actually was more rooted in real estate early on in my life,
Starting point is 00:27:58 but I always had, you know, something I was creating and selling to my friends or solutions I was trying to provide for them. So I would say it's always been, since my earliest memories, that's always been a big part of my life. And you know, I find innovating to be really inspiring. I like problem-solving and I think when you're building businesses or you're sort of putting yourself in a space where you're identifying solutions for problems that haven't been devised yet, it's just fun.
Starting point is 00:28:34 Like you can do, and I think of stuff all the time that I'm never actually gonna do, but I feel like it creates a certain flexibility to your thinking and it's a good skill. I play this game with my kids all the time, where I'll ask them if you could invent one thing that doesn't exist, what would it be? And I get the funniest answers.
Starting point is 00:28:51 That's a good game. It's fun, because they really like, they have, you know, just with my son Theo, it's always something relating to football. But it's cute to see sort of what they see as sticky points in their own, you know, lives and sometimes really like almost comical and sometimes like brilliant solutions they apply towards it.
Starting point is 00:29:13 Our son would just bring back the dinosaurs. That's all he would do right now. You know, there are, I've spoken to a few companies that are basically seeking to do this. They're creating through DNA. They're bringing plants and animals back from extinction. This is actually happening. I feel like if they bring back the friendly ones.
Starting point is 00:29:34 They're doing it with like a woolly mammoth and like a dodo bird. That sounds like Jurassic Park. It's wild. And I feel like we've all seen the movie, so to speak. You really have to be careful. We've seen The Terminator, we've seen Jurassic Park. We know what could happen here. Your company that you launched a while back was incredibly successful. And I told you this on the phone, I cannot believe how entrepreneurial you are.
Starting point is 00:29:58 How did you have that idea and how did you put it into action and execute it and make it so successful? It actually arose pretty organically. I met my first of 11 different partners in my fashion and accessories brand on a real estate deal. He also was in real estate, but his primary business was fine jewelry. So we started talking about, at the time, how there was really no retail experience for
Starting point is 00:30:26 self-purchasing women and so many of us didn't want to wait for anniversaries or Christmas or Valentine's Day to buy ourselves a bracelet we really loved with our hard-earned paychecks. So we started talking about how we would create an experience that really catered towards that working woman who was a self-purchaser. And that was the beginning. And it started with fine jewelry and then we launched footwear and we had some great shoes. It is not uncommon for me to have three people stop me in a day and tell me that they've resold the shoes ten times because they miss them so much. They were chic and comfortable and excessively priced
Starting point is 00:31:08 and amazing. And then we went into apparel and we did some great dresses and coats and sunglasses and fragrance and handbags and the whole gamut. So it grew to be a very big business, but it really was just a response to a need that I saw in the marketplace. You'd look at what people were wearing during the workday, and it was super non-aspirational. Nobody was snapping a photo of the outfit that they were wearing from Ann Taylor going into the office. Nothing felt multidimensional. I wanted to have a dress that I put on in the
Starting point is 00:31:47 morning, that I could drop my kids off at school in, that I could go to the office and feel confident and look professional, and that afterwards I could go on a date with my husband or be sitting on the floor of, you know, my kids' room playing block. It's like something that could take me through the day and help me feel confident in all of the dimensions in which I existed. So we set out to do that and it was great. It really was like lightning in a bottle.
Starting point is 00:32:13 We ended up growing the business. We were doing hundreds of millions of dollars in sales annually. At the time I closed it down when I went into government. And I was- Did we force you to close it down? Or was it just a conflict of- An amazing experience. Well, it was, you know, in accordance with the Office of Government Ethics. They basically look at every asset you have, every business you have,
Starting point is 00:32:34 and tell you what they believe you should do with it to avoid a conflict of interest. And then you have to do those things if you want your form to be certified and- Be able to take a position.... you want your form to be certified and. Be able to take a position. Work unless it's certified. So you have these third parties that have to certify your financial statements annually. So they went through everything and said, you
Starting point is 00:32:54 have to sell this, you have to put this in trust, you have to divest, you have to whatever their litmus test. And, and I did it. So, so that was part of. Is that hard for you to do? Or was it. No. So I initially put it into trust and I did it. So, that was part of... Is that hard for you to do? Or was it... No. So, I initially put it into trust and I had an incredibly capable group of people who were operating it. I could have no involvement whatsoever. But it's very hard to put something in a holding pattern for a number of years.
Starting point is 00:33:19 So, when it became clear to me that I was staying four years to have a business where you've put boundaries on it where it can't grow anymore, you can't do new deals, you can't I can't promote it obviously, I can't have any transparency into it. It just felt like you know what this feels like I'd prefer I always prefer to end things on a high note and four years without in a very static place I think would have been anticlimactic for me. Plus I also realized that you know coming out of government my life would be so different and I'd want new challenges. So you know I'm always looking forward that was an amazing phase of my life and you know at
Starting point is 00:34:00 the same time I was building that business I was spearheading most of the major construction and development projects we had at the same time I was building that business, I was spearheading most of the major construction and development projects we had at the Trump Organization. So I was redeveloping the old post office in Washington, D.C., which is an iconic and beautiful asset right on Pennsylvania Avenue. I was rebuilding. I had bought and was spearheading the redevelopment of Trump Doral in Miami, Florida, which is hundreds of acresll in Miami, Florida, which is hundreds
Starting point is 00:34:25 of acres right in Miami. It was five golf courses. We sold one of them, so now it's four and over 700 hotel rooms. Soup to nuts redevelopment. So I had a lot of different things on my plate, but going through four years where I had to completely separate from my life, including the city I grew up in, New York City, everything. It's this interesting sort of wall that you have to create. When you come out, suddenly you're like really untethered. And for me, it was a time of amazing introspection rather than I think the tendency to just like go back
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Starting point is 00:40:36 at www.ynab.com slash skinny. Again, that's www.ynapp.com. You and your family have always had a public platform. And I remember used to watch you on the apprentice back in the day. But when your dad became president the first time, what was that shift like for you? Because I imagine that overnight overnight everything kind of changes Where you always you always had the public kind of platform, but now it's a much different kind of platform Yeah, very different extremely different and it was also a very emotional time So people were sort of processing the experience for the for the good and for the bad and in very individual
Starting point is 00:41:22 Unique sometimes highly counterproductive ways. But it was a time of extraordinary personal growth for me and learning. You know, I had been exposed to extraordinary things in business and in travel and in life, but there are communities that I never would have visited. There are communities that I never would have visited. There were issues that I never would have internalized and understood, people I never would have met. So I really think in retrospect, I was able to break free of a bubble
Starting point is 00:41:58 that I didn't even know that I was in of the sort of upper east side of New York. Can you give us a specific example of something that was really like crazy for you to see while you were in office that you helped with, maybe at some initiative that you worked on? Yeah, I think there's a big misunderstanding of the role that you played in the administration the first time. Maybe not a misunderstanding as much as a misconception and maybe a lack of knowledge. Yeah, so you know, the way I viewed it is you have,
Starting point is 00:42:25 unlike what you're building here, where you build for longevity, you have a finite period of time to have impact. And you think about that every day. And that's part of why the balance is so hard, because you know it's sand through an hourglass. So when my father was elected, I had no intention of serving.
Starting point is 00:42:44 And he came to me and my husband, and he asked for us to go with him. And this was not what I had set my life up for. I loved the life I was building. Our young family in New York had an eight-month-old son when we arrived in Washington and two children not that much older. I had businesses I was building. The trajectory of my life felt really exciting. Like, I was at that place now where I'd laid the foundation
Starting point is 00:43:10 and it was growing, but there was no world in which I could imagine 40 years down the road having sort of put my head in the sand, said no, continue doing what I was doing, and not looking back with regret that I hadn't helped. And you know, I had very specific things I was passionate about that he empowered me to run after and I did and I feel a tremendous sense of privilege for having been given the opportunity. I'm so happy that Jared and I were able to be there to help him. You know, this time it's so different because so many people are raising their hands and I'm so to help him. You know, this time it's so different because so many people are raising their hands,
Starting point is 00:43:45 and I'm so grateful to them. You know, we were like the pioneers, and he really, he knew no one in Washington. And, you know, I'd worked with him at that time over a decade, and he trusted my ability very much to help him execute, and of course Jared. So, you know, I really wanted to figure out a way to help working families, especially
Starting point is 00:44:05 working women and lighten their load. I saw firsthand, you know, my team was comprised mainly of young women, and I know the supports that they needed and I need to be able to do the thing that we love and pursue our professional dreams. And for many more, it's far more existential than that to be able to put food on the table. And so I went down to Washington with that goal and I was incredibly focused on policies like I fought like hell to double the child tax credit and was really proud at the end of my first year to have accomplished that in tax cuts. And that benefited 40 million American families, over $2,500 a family on average.
Starting point is 00:44:47 So that is exciting and meaningful. We were able to do even pre-COVID, obviously, we accelerated it during COVID, but the largest ever block grants to the states for childcare support for working families, which was incredibly meaningful in terms of creating access to safe, nurturing, and affordable child care for families across the country. I did a lot on workforce vocational education and policies surrounding job skill acquisition,
Starting point is 00:45:19 working with the private sector to commit to reskilling mid to late career workers, as well as to commit to upskilling young workers to fill the vacancy that employers know before the government which technologies they're investing in that are going to automate certain jobs out of existence. So I felt like it was our role and with the bully pulpit we had at the White House to really call on the private sector to like step up and to help re-skill workers into the jobs they so desperately needed. I mean, the economy was at this point just soaring. So an amazing statistic at one point, this was right pre-COVID, 72% of all new jobs were
Starting point is 00:46:01 coming from outside of the workforce, not even unemployment because the unemployment numbers were so low. So it was people really getting an opportunity to work who had been totally marginalized. They had either taken themselves out of the economy or had been out of the workforce so long they didn't count in the numbers. So what is the employee, all of these business leaders who are saying we need more workers, we need more workers, what's their role in creating programs that can help skill those people that are on the sidelines? So over 15 million commitments were made by the private sector as part of this Pledge to America's Workers.
Starting point is 00:46:36 I did a lot on human trafficking, which is something that I did not go to D.C. with the intention of advocating for. I knew very little about. But in the early days of my being in the White House, I took a meeting and once you're exposed to the horror of human trafficking, I mean, there is no greater human rights violation. When you get in that position or in that role,
Starting point is 00:46:58 are you immediately flooded with information that you just don't have access to as a regular citizen? You are, like your aperture goes like this. Yeah. And I think that's, you know, what I, I've spent a lot of the last few years just backing entrepreneurs, I believe, and in fields that I never would have even understood because you just learn, even if it's not part of your portfolio, you're exposed to, to so much in terms
Starting point is 00:47:22 of what's happening in synthetic biology, quantum computing, you name it, that being in fashion and real estate in New York, you may not have otherwise dug into. So I feel like my world just widens materially. And not because those were the things that I was necessarily spearheading, but you learn and you become close with your colleagues and they share that which they're passionate about. And it was, so it was an extraordinary period of growth,
Starting point is 00:47:52 but I think going back to the original question, I think where I changed the most and where I expanded the most was just meeting more people that represented different facets of America and American life and the American experience. And that to me is something that I'm so grateful for. And you know, because I was somewhat well-known when I traveled, I would really meet people and they'd come to me and share their stories.
Starting point is 00:48:29 And one of the unique things about being in that position is people will tell you in 40 seconds. You may meet them for a minute passing through an airport or in, you know, at the end of a roundtable and they will share with you their greatest fears, their biggest hopes, their most intimate secrets, things they haven't told their spouses, things they haven't told their children in the short period of time, and it hits hard. I think made me, I hope made me, I think first off being a parent makes you more empathetic. It should at least, I think. But this really opened
Starting point is 00:49:06 my mind in a tremendous way. You mentioned that you worked with your father before the White House. What are the traits that you and Jared bring to your father that complement his? Like what would he, he obviously wanted to keep working with you. So what are those traits that he loves about you? Well, the Secret Service nickname Jared the Mechanic, because he is an unbelievable problem solver. You know, he sees the world. It's great for you. Yeah, it's phenomenal.
Starting point is 00:49:35 Yeah, and this does not just apply to geopolitics. It applies to all facets of life, including working the coffee machine. So, very importantly, very importantly. But, you know, I think that for both of us, we're really good at execution. So, when we run at something, we tend to get there. My father saw that in me having worked directly with me. You know, as years passed, he put himself in the position that is every parent's dream when they're at the helm of a family company where he could really step
Starting point is 00:50:10 back and focus on that which he enjoyed doing, knowing that all else was in capable hands. So he started really focusing on golf. He loves to play golf, so he would design the golf courses. And I would spearhead the acquisitions of the projects and the redevelopment of them and I would come to him for advice and guidance and with a lot of humility around what I don't know And I think he he recognized in me that I was unafraid to say I don't understand I don't know it's part of my process of learning by asking the right people a lot of questions and so I think he recognized that I had the ability to know what I didn't know and that I had a
Starting point is 00:50:50 sort of drive and dogged commitment to accomplishing goals that has always been helpful to him in business and he thought it would be so in politics as well. Same with Jared. When you were doing all of that, how did you think about health? Beauty, all these different things, because you're doing such a crazy job. Oh no, I was like vitamin D deficient. Yeah, I can imagine. I look back at these pictures, I'm like, oh my gosh, I don't think I saw sunlight for four years.
Starting point is 00:51:18 I exercised to me at that point in time was going on a weekly run with Jared on Saturday mornings or chasing the kids around the house in the evening. So I think I had a good base in that I was never a gym person, but I loved sports. So sports have always been this huge part of my life. What sports do you like besides skiing? So I love skiing. I love surfing, but that's a recent sport. I just love it. There's a few things I enjoy doing more.
Starting point is 00:51:48 I like racket sports, so I grew up playing tennis, but now in Miami, everyone's into padel and I have friends who are into pickle. I play that less, but it's, you know, sort of fun and social. I most recently got into jiu-jitsu, courtesy of my daughter, Arabella, who I'm just so in awe of because this was, she's now 13, but at 11, she came to me and said, you know, as a woman, I feel like I need to know how to defend myself and I don't have a confidence
Starting point is 00:52:20 level yet that I can do that. Can you get me, can you sign me up for a self-defense class? And my jaw just hit the ground because at 11, I don't know what I was doing. I was like thinking about boys or something. I have no, but I was not thinking about being able to physically defend myself. And so I thought it was the coolest thing. So I called a few friends and I asked for recommendations and I got a recommendation for these brothers in Miami, the Valenti brothers, who are amazing. And I started driving her to these classes. She started asking me to join, I joined. Then my two sons wanted to do what their older sister was doing. Then my husband joined.
Starting point is 00:52:56 It's supposed to be really good for kids, right? It is good for everyone. And it's like multiple things I like. So it meshes physical movement. It's almost like a moving meditation because the movements are so micro. It's like three-dimensional chess, you know, everything. And now it's funny, like I'll watch like ultimate fighting. And you see some of these moves are so subtle and they'll like break out of a whole,
Starting point is 00:53:20 it's like fun to watch it now having just sort of a... I'm like a blue belt. You can start going to the matches and doing the walkout. Yeah. I'm not really knowing what's going on, but I'm just, what's the first belt? I don't want Lauren to learn because she could fold me into a pretzel and I can't have that either. That's the last thing I need. I have a feeling Lauren, you could already do that. I could do a lot of things. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:53:38 I've got a lot of things I need to do. And you may not always not want her to do that. Yeah, that's true. I am careful to, You may be folded into a pretzel tonight. Yeah. Let's see what happens. I'm good right now. I'm actually good. It's fun. You guys would love it.
Starting point is 00:53:51 And it satisfies both, there's like a real spiritualism to it. Like it's the grounding in sort of samurai tradition and culture and wisdom. I love philosophy. I would say one of the core parts of my life, and we were talking before about like knowledge acquisition. I've always loved reading philosophy.
Starting point is 00:54:15 I use it as sort of a guide for life generally. And I find to just to combine physical movement and philosophy in an amazing way. So I feel- You're selling me on it. Yes. I love it. You know, it's funny because my... I boxed when I was younger. And I don't regret it because you learn a lot. But I don't think it was the best.
Starting point is 00:54:32 I got a problem with the septum and nose has been broken. Probably because I wasn't good enough. But there's... I like jujitsu for kids because it feels like a competitive way to do combat sports, but without doing the damage that someone like myself did when I was younger. Does that make sense? Oh, 100%.
Starting point is 00:54:49 I don't think it's necessarily the best thing for kids to take a bunch of punches. Yeah, and it's also, you know, boxing, there's a reason why people wear gloves, because if you actually punch someone in the face, you'll break your hand. So I think the, what I love about Uditsu is, at least the discipline we practice, is it's very focused on extracting yourself hand. So I think the what I love about
Starting point is 00:55:24 having these skills make you less likely to get into a fight, not more likely to. Don't mess with people. There's no like aggressive, it's like once you have a confidence that you can sort of move out of a situation, there's a real focus on elevating awareness, which I think like I walk through New York and I'm like shocked every day when I make it 10 blocks and somebody on my left or right hasn't been hit by a car. You know, nobody looks up, everyone's on their phone. There's like a complete lack of awareness. And by the way, I'm guilty of this myself,
Starting point is 00:55:49 but there's, I think this like having an awareness of what's happening around you is super important and it's instilled that. We did an episode with our friend who's a former SEAL, who's on the dev group, and we were talking all about just the basic safety of just being aware. Yeah. Like of all the other things, you know, self-defense and security, all that,
Starting point is 00:56:11 it basically just being aware of what's around you. I always find it so crazy when you see these videos of people just getting like nailed in the streets or pushed and it's like, all they have to do is just like look up and look around, you know? And we're getting worse in this regard. Not better for sure. Okay, so when you guys come to Miami, which hopefully you will, I'll take you to the studio.
Starting point is 00:56:32 And if you bring your kids, we'll bring all the kids and we'll do a little class together. Ooh, that's gonna be interesting with my daughter. Oh, she'll love it. Like Arabella walks, she loves the fact that she has the capability of flipping flipping a 250 pound grown man. She thinks it's like very cool. So the only problem for me is she's constantly
Starting point is 00:56:50 like flipping her brothers. And they're like eager recipients of her attention. So she's 13, I have an 11 year old son, Joseph, and we have an eight year old, Theo. I wanna go back to after you left the White House and you started implementing all these different things. What were the other things you implemented? I know you started weightlifting too.
Starting point is 00:57:11 What were, when you got out of that chapter, what was like sort of your wellness, diet, health list? Well, I think I just did like a recalibration across the board where I said, you know, this is super unusual to be 39 years old and to find yourself untethered to the past in the sense that I had to leave all my businesses, everything in order to serve. I was in a different city. And so now you come out and you're as free as one can be at this point in their life
Starting point is 00:57:40 with all of this experience. So sort of where do I want to aim my attentions going forward? And there were professional goals, of course, but my primary goals were just to like, be the best fricking mom I could be. You know, every time I had to miss something, I'm like, I will never let this happen again.
Starting point is 00:57:58 The minute I leave the White House. And so I went like- It's hard, it's because the demand was so high when you were there. It's hard. And you, I mean, I did the best I could and I think I was there for all the really critical moments, but you know, you don't want to miss the small ones either, you know? And so I learned through that process and part of the reason, you know, the main reason
Starting point is 00:58:19 I am not going back to serve now is I know the cost and it's a price that I'm not willing to make my kids bear. Have people given you pushback for that, for not coming back? Oh, I mean, I get the question a lot. And there's also like a lack, there's both people I served alongside of and also people who are just incredulous to how could you not, you know, which to me it's, it really feels like it's very easy to make a decision when it aligns around your core values. And my highest most core value is family. And my kids were much younger. So it was easier
Starting point is 00:58:59 to not be present. But when you have kids that are teenagers, about to be teenagers, like your physical presence matters so much. It's crazy that you have to justify it to people to meet. Well, you know, I don't because I just tell them like, that's, you know, that's them, not me. So I feel super great about this decision. Well, I think people can empathize with the price you have to put on your children and your marriage and your family to go back and you have to put on your children and your marriage and your family to go back and you've already served and your kids are young. And that's why I'm so grateful for all the people who are serving because I know how
Starting point is 00:59:31 hard it is and how taxing and every one of them will do their best to balance it all. But it is hard. There's another element though for me, I love policy and impact. I hate politics. And unfortunately, the two are not, you know, there is a darkness to that world that I don't really want to welcome into mine. To some degree, I'm, you know, at the center of the storm, because my father is about to be president. But it's a very, it's a very dark negative, and some people love the gladiator aspect of it. You know, the fight that that was never me.
Starting point is 01:00:12 I really did love the impact, especially as time went on, and it wasn't theoretical. People would walk up to you and say, you know, the child tax credit or the fact that I was able to advocate successfully for getting paid family leave for our federal workforce, the largest employer in the country or the first national paid family leave tax credit or things like this that people benefit from and then they tell you that. And it feels really good. But I also now recognize like there's so many ways to have impact. I mean, most of the compassion work happening in the world
Starting point is 01:00:49 is being done outside of government. I also, and when you take ambition and ego and all these things out of it, I'm just not a believer that impacting one life in your community matters less than doing things with greater scale, you know, both for your own heart and like for the world. So I think there are a lot of sort of microwaves you can impact, just, you know, volunteering locally with your kids, setting a good example for them. And I'm so proud of the frequency in which they want to volunteer with me and it's their idea,
Starting point is 01:01:26 you know, as opposed to mine and how it's become internalized as part of our life as a family. And then there are huge things, huge ways you can catalyze positive change through work in the private sector. So I think the impact I really loved and hopefully I'll live a life that continues to be impactful, regardless of where I do it. I went through years of craziness and I've never become cynical about like I think the fundamental goodness of people. And I really do think most people are good people
Starting point is 01:01:57 who wanna work hard, provide for their families, live a good life, have peace and calm, make a positive contribution. Like that is most people. I think just for a while we weren't hearing from them. They were busy building their lives and their families. And those of us in the public domain were hearing from the outliers.
Starting point is 01:02:16 And I really think that started to change. Again, I'll get shit for this, but I think as a society, we gave way too much voice to people that were causing harm. Meaning like, there was a lot of people that were screaming and yelling about a lot of negative things that we just paid way too much attention to.
Starting point is 01:02:36 And I think people are now like, hey, if you walk around on the street as a normal person, you don't see these kind of people out in public. They exist in corners of the internet, or for whatever reason, we were paying way more attention than we should have. And I kept saying, like, it's interesting running a media company, but also doing a show. The high majority of people that write in
Starting point is 01:02:53 are very positive, nice people. And the people you meet normally are very positive. It's very rare that you meet some of these crazy people, called lunatics, actually, that are screaming and yelling about God knows what. And the problem is we were platforming those voices way too often. crazy people, call them lunatics actually, that are screaming and yelling about God knows what. And the problem is we were platforming those voices way too often. So I think people are now like, okay, enough with that.
Starting point is 01:03:10 Don't you think with what you've experienced too, there's some kind of exposure therapy where you've been exposed to so much that you almost have this muscle of resilience that you wouldn't have had if you didn't get exposed to that? You become a little bit calloused, but you know, I think it's for sure. I mean, if you're internalizing that as real, that's a recipe for disaster. I don't think there's longevity to that. So I think you have to build the skill to tune out that noise. I also just think about, you know, I chose and it was at like the most volatile time.
Starting point is 01:03:43 I made a conscious effort just to like live in alignment with my own values and not allow like the outside world to tell me how I should be and what I should be. And for me, it doesn't feel right to be combative with a stranger on social, it's just not who I am. And so I took a lot of punches that I just absorbed and then punch back on. Sometimes I really wanted to because I took a lot of punches that I just absorbed and then punch back on. Sometimes I really wanted to because I had like a zinger. I didn't even write it out. But at the end of the day I
Starting point is 01:04:12 never press send and I always felt good about that. And I now look like I try to live my life in a way that models for my children how I want them to be. Like that's all I can do. I can't, you know, change anyone else. I can just live in a way that I'm proud of. And I'm really proud that I lived through a very emotional time where people were not their best selves. And I kept my North Star. And I didn't become something that I wasn't just because I was thrown into an arena that was different, you know, the political arena that was different and people acted differently than the previous arena of the business world and the private sector. So I look back at that with a lot of pride because I feel like I was able to maintain
Starting point is 01:04:57 my composure and model for my kids. I always tell them, you know, that there's this concept in Judaism called Lashon Harah, which is literally translated to evil speech. And we talk about it all the time. Like, I just like will not abide by like gossip in our house. But it's bigger than gossip. It's also just sort of the use of words for ill. And it's something that I've internalized as an idea and as a message, you know, within
Starting point is 01:05:24 our family. Or one could also call it the golden rule, right? One of my best friends, his family's golden rule is just don't be an asshole. It's so simple. Right? Don't be, you know, and don't speak ill. And so we've done that and I've been able to do that in my own life. And I feel good about that in retrospect. I take creatine. Ivanka takes creatine. We love creatine. Creatine is all the rage with women.
Starting point is 01:05:52 I'm telling you, I think it's going to be one of the top supplements for 2025. In saying that, the creatine that I take, that I've always taken, is by Momentis. I love the research behind this creatine. They take it so seriously. How I take my Momentous creatine is I will do a cup of water before I go to the gym, like a bottle of water. I put two scoops of aminos in it and then I'll do a scoop of Momentous creatine and then I'll froth it up. You got to have a frother and I'm ready to go. This is my gym drink. And what I've done is I habit stacked this drink Into my gym routine. So I know right before I'm about to get in the car to go to the gym I'm gonna put my aminos and my creatine in my water bottle and go I drink it while I am working out and
Starting point is 01:06:39 I have just found that it's really really good if you want those tight, toned muscles, because this is really weird, but the skin tightens over the muscle from creatine. That's what I've noticed, and I've been taking it for probably a year and a half. Michael's actually the one who got me on it. He takes this creatine too. This is the purest form of creatine on the market. It's monohydrate available, which is awesome. And it's the absolute best for both women and men for peak physical and cognitive performance.
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Starting point is 01:11:11 So, you know, we were talking before about sort of balancing all these things. And I think instead of balance, I like to think about my life through the lens of my priorities and have really clear priorities that I maintain integrity around. And so rather than balance, because we all know, like, your child gets sick one day, there goes balance. Right. Like, it doesn't matter that you had a big presentation at the office, like if you're
Starting point is 01:11:38 at home with a fever, like done. And so it's very, like, it can be defeating to maintain something with by its nature tips as the scales of life will cause to happen. But if you're living in alignment with your core priorities, I think then you can have like a bigger picture way of looking at the life that you've architected for yourself. So you know, for me, first and foremost, it's my kids. It's my family. Now, increasingly, it's, you know, about taking care of myself so I can better take care of others,
Starting point is 01:12:10 and that includes fitness and nutrition. And we were talking about how I didn't have much of a regimen before. Now, I look at my day and I think about the scaffold. Like, what are the sort of scaffolds for my day that I know I need? I want to exercise every day. You know, I want a resistance train, I want to eat well. So knowing that I want to do those things and knowing that those are best done for me in the morning,
Starting point is 01:12:33 like that is part of my life and that's part of how my day and that's part of how I choose to allocate and prioritize my time. I also know I want to be there with my kid at the dinner table, you know, on the weekends, three meals a day. On the weekdays, I cook breakfast. We don't have anyone who lives in with us, so I get them up, we make them breakfast. What do you cook? Well, I should have said that Jared cooks the most successful breakfast. He makes pancakes. Wow.
Starting point is 01:13:00 Really great pancakes, like every other morning. I tried to make French toast the other day, and I'm actually like a decent cook, but because he was traveling as, I don't know if you're experiencing this yet, but like they're, they can be brutal to me when I don't do something as well as their father. So my kids just looked at my,
Starting point is 01:13:18 I tried to make this French toast, and then I was getting my son's lunch ready. I forgot about it. It burnt. And I heard for the next 20 minutes how my French toast will never compete with their dad's pancakes. I'm gonna give you a French toast recipe.
Starting point is 01:13:30 And it was so unfair. Michael has a French toast. I would like a French toast. Thank you. It's from the Rock. I stole it from him. Okay. Yeah, you can find it.
Starting point is 01:13:38 But I think it's- Well, I'm sure it's protein packed. It's all the bread. No, it's not actually protein packed. It's the exact opposite. It's not, it's his's not actually protein packed. It's the exact opposite. So maybe- It's not. It's his cheat meal that he does. Okay.
Starting point is 01:13:48 But it's the bread that matters. You have to get, that's like the main thing. It has to be a little bit stale, like a few days old. Let it sit out for a little bit. But what I've always been, like, so how long do you soak for? Because this is like a big thing. Like we had a debate with the kids, like do, you don't want it to be soggy, but you need to be soaked
Starting point is 01:14:05 enough that it goes through that's why you got to get the brioche and then you I'm sure people are in love this and then you put it in and you flip it once twice and you give a little squeeze and it kind of absorbs and you throw it right on. I don't overthink this like this you guys should see me make French toast it's it's pretty efficient I think every dad should know like at least a pancake or a French toast I have a buddy this is too much information, that he'll even bring a girl on a date, and if it goes well and she's there the next morning,
Starting point is 01:14:28 he'll do a buckwheat pancake. It's always a hit. So, you know, if you did the buckwheat pancake, that was good. So, if they get, like, the oatmeal or the blueberry, it's like... If you don't get the buckwheat pancake, it's probably not gonna...
Starting point is 01:14:39 It's not gonna last. So, oh, my gosh. You know there's somebody out there listening who, like, had a buckwheat pancake this morning and is like, I wonder. But yeah, I think you could do the same thing. So you cook sometimes for your kids breakfast and it's French toast.
Starting point is 01:14:55 What are you eating for breakfast? Huh, I've got a shake. I'm like sort of a morning alchemist. I've got all these things that I've been told over the years that are good. She's going to make you give the details. And I throw them in and it's, it's, I would say it's a living organ, it's like a work in
Starting point is 01:15:10 progress. So. Okay. We want to hear. Like I learned recently that creatine, which I had been dumping and sometimes I make it the night before because really like the morning, we're like fast and furious.
Starting point is 01:15:22 I get my kids up and we have a half an hour to get them all up, for them to get dressed, for them to come down, for them to have breakfast, which we're making before I drive them to the bus. So it is like when people ask me about my morning routine starts after I've dropped the kids off. Like I'll brush my teeth before them, but it's really like I wake them up, run downstairs, and then while something's cooking, I'm like doing cleanup with like the inevitable one or two children that decided not to get out of bed the first time I came a-knocking.
Starting point is 01:15:51 So mornings are super chaotic and they go to the bus so early that I actually, it's still quite early when I get home from dropping them off. So that's when I, you know, I'll work out and I'll do things for myself. I'll actually drink the shake that I've made for myself. What's in the shake? We have to know. We've got to know the shake. So a lot of protein. So I try to get, I think something that has been a massive change for me since I moved to Miami. I started prioritizing exercise and initially that took the form of yoga and Pilates and these
Starting point is 01:16:25 things that I had done at various points in my life and but now I had the ability because I was on my own schedule to make the more consistent and a more regular part of my life. So I started doing that and then gradually I started doing more resistance and weight training and that's when I saw a massive difference. My whole body changed. I felt. I'm just doing a little Instagram story. It's distracting. It's distracting too.
Starting point is 01:16:53 She throws me off sometimes too. I'm like, what's going on? I'm like, what I do? Do I smile? Um, but that's when I really noticed a massive change for me and, and my body composition fundamentally changed. I got stronger, I got leaner and I could kind of get away with it because I'm really tall.
Starting point is 01:17:10 So I could look lean even if I wasn't strong and yoga and Pilates, while I enjoy them a lot more to be honest than resistance training, I was not able to develop muscle through them and I really needed this. I don't know if it's because I'm tall. I don't know if it's because of I'm tall. I don't know if it's, but it's, um, No, everyone needs to resist. Yeah, it's been life changing. It's like, it's one of the biggest topics on this show is incorporating
Starting point is 01:17:32 resistance training, especially as you start to age because you've got to keep the muscle on. And really basic stuff, you know, like I'll look in the gyms and people are doing incredibly complicated things. I found what works for me is like the simple stuff, like pushes, pulls, hinges, deadlifts. And again, I don't really enjoy doing it. Like I enjoy going for walks, I enjoy playing sports, I really enjoy Pilates and yoga, but I have seen such a transformation in terms of my health. But I can't mention that without saying the protein element,
Starting point is 01:18:05 because it's that pairing of protein and resistance training and weightlifting that I think, like for a while I was doing weightlifting and I still was not consuming nearly enough protein, and I was not seeing the change. It's when I married those two things that I started noticing a difference. So in my shake, typically the morning is like, I'm just like, I want to get to the races.
Starting point is 01:18:29 And it's also the time of like self-care and my self-care is not, I'm not going to sit down and make myself a big breakfast. That's not where I choose to allocate the time. I want to be, you know, get a workout in or go for a walk, meditate. So I try to make my own breakfast as quick and as impactful as possible. So I do protein, I do things to make it taste good, you know, banana, cacao, I put in creatine, which I just recently found out is not water-soluble. It's not sort of stable in water. So I was putting it in the night before, which it actually morphs into something else after around 10 minutes. So now I'll notice, I'll be in the night before which it actually morphs into something else after around 10 minutes
Starting point is 01:19:05 So now I'll notice I'll be in the gym and like these like really like jacked people I'll see them and they're like raw dogging creatine. They're like throwing this when I do that But it's but that's how you do it. Throw it in their mouth. Just suck it down. It's water can't be Sit in a water bottle doesn't work anymore Comes and you're, somebody on the internet's definitely correcting me, but it becomes like creoline. It's something that sounds the same,
Starting point is 01:19:31 but doesn't, it doesn't get it done. So you have to drink it right away. You have to, right away. Ivanka, I love that you used the term raw dogging the creoline, that's, we're gonna, we're gonna pull that. But yeah, that's how you do it. You take the big scoop, you dump it. That's gonna be the headline, even.
Starting point is 01:19:41 But I looked at these people, I'm like, that's gonna be the clip we pull for the thing. I'm like, this person, like, really,'s gonna be the clip we pull for the thing. This person, like, really, like, I mean, talk about, like, bare bones. Like, they can't even make themselves a morning smoothie. They're, like, throwing powder into their mouth. Like, it's next level. We're gonna get you there.
Starting point is 01:19:55 But you've got around 10 minutes in water. Okay. So now I have my little creatine on the side of my smoothie, and I, like, drink it really quickly. We can get you there, and then we're gonna get you some BCAAs. We're gonna get you some amino acids. You can putAAs. We're going to get you some amino acids. You can put them together. I bet you she already takes the amino acids.
Starting point is 01:20:07 You like them? No, she already takes amino acids, Michael. Yeah, the gentleman you mentioned before, Gary Bracca, he told me I should start using something called perfect aminos. So I have it in my gym and I put a little scoop of it into my water. Okay. That and electrolytes. So when I work out, I just take my water.
Starting point is 01:20:25 I have like a little basket, put a little scoop of the perfect aminos. Before you leave, I'm going to give you some key on aminos. Okay. Those are, and you can try. This is, a lot of this is new to me. So I'm like playing around. Just put in the water, create time to work out. No, she does her, no, you have to do it in 10 minutes though.
Starting point is 01:20:40 Yeah, but you can put the aminos in your like water, whatever, from when you're training and you drink it throughout, you'll feel really good. So I don't feel anything, to be honest, but I do the research and I feel like these are- You look great. These are things, but I don't notice it, and thank you, but I don't notice with creatine, but I see the studies and I believe that these things work.
Starting point is 01:21:02 So I feel- Is your sleep improving? Cause the creatine also, a lot of people don't realize it's not just good for the muscle, but it should give you better sleep. So I take a little magnesium before bed and I found that's been really nice for sleep. And you sent me this mouth tape and I view it as, no, it's, once in a while I wake up with it like in my hair
Starting point is 01:21:20 because I've like subconsciously taken it off at night, but it's really great. Like I view it as that night when I'm really gonna spoil myself and I'm gonna get into bed at 9.30 and I want the best night's sleep ever. I'll use it and it's amazing. So like, I love it.
Starting point is 01:21:35 So thank you. I got you five in there. Oh, I've got the little boxes. I think they're amazing. Do not disturb for your husband. Sleep is like, Totally, totally. Sleep has not been a challenge for me ever. So I'm like one of those people,
Starting point is 01:21:51 I could fall asleep here if you gave me 45 seconds. So like sleep, I feel very blessed that even in times of a lot of stress and anxiety, I fall asleep easily. Sometimes I'll wake up and have that sort of 3 a.m. rumination that so many of us are, you know, that's when we start to get our thinking time in. That's like 90% of the battle, though,
Starting point is 01:22:12 is just getting good sleep, you know? Yeah. What are other things that you do wellness-wise? Like, do you cold punch, do you sauna, do you do anything like that, or is that off the table? No, I think all of that's amazing. So it's not like a daily part of my routine, but I think it's incredible and can feel, I mean cold plunging feels horrible, but you feel like some level of accomplishment and I do feel like you, for me I've felt like mood
Starting point is 01:22:39 elevation from it and all of these things. The sauna is great, steam room is great, all of that's great. But as part of my daily routine, it's pretty simple. I like to find and cultivate calm because I've, at basically every phase of my life, so I've just now identified this as like the status quo. There's, you know, always a hurricane that I find myself in this. It's always so busy and active,
Starting point is 01:23:03 whether that's in my role as a parent or professionally or otherwise. So, you active, whether that's in my role as a parent or professionally or otherwise. So, you know, things that help me with that, I think prayer is really helpful. I think being grounded in nature. So I take walks as often as I can. I was mentioning before that I love podcasts
Starting point is 01:23:19 and I love audio books. And I actually make an effort when I take a walk now, not to take my phone with me Yeah, and not to listen to something because I really just want to sort of be with myself and and reconnect and you know When I'm in beautiful areas, I you know in Miami. I love to walk along the ocean Sometimes I'll wear a swimsuit under my clothes. I don't get out of the car and I'll after I drop my kids off. I'll drive to the beach totally empty, and I'll jump in the ocean as the sun's rising and it feels so good.
Starting point is 01:23:50 So little things like that that like tether me to to nature are really important. Meditation I've been doing for for years. Is there a certain one? I've kind of tried a bunch of them and I view them all as like quivers in my arsenal, right? Like at different times they do different things for me. So I initially learned Transcendental Meditation with a gentleman named Bob Roth who is amazing and a dear friend and will still sometimes do it even with each other telephonically or when he comes through town.
Starting point is 01:24:21 And that's really helpful for me because there's, there's nothing to do other than sit in silence. You're not being instructed to do anything. You have to sort of sit with yourself. And sometimes actually that's the most challenging. 20 minutes and somebody's, nobody's saying breathe in, breathe out. You know, you just have to sit. So a lot of times I return to that because I think the discipline of not doing something is very good for me. I've tried Qigong which is like a moving meditation. I've tried breath work. I have a friend Lucas Mack who's amazing. Him and his partner Helly do these incredible breath routines that can be really centering and grounding, yoga nidra. So this is when I talked about before like I get curious
Starting point is 01:25:03 about I get curious about this too like like different ways that I can sort of physiologically control my body and control my mood and control my nerves. And I think all of these different things serve a purpose. So I don't view it and go in and out of different practices, but I view it as just tools I have for whatever moment I'm facing. You know, a lot of times people ask, you know, how do you deal with stress and how, you know, there's stress that is within your control and there's stress that's totally external to you. And I think like the number one way I can deal
Starting point is 01:25:41 with those things that I have little control over is just to prepare to meet the moment as like my higher self and my best self and that's like really simple stuff So it's like great as a cold plunge is and I like it's great More important than that is like going to bed early Like not drinking too much if you know, you need to be on and you're going through a period of like high stress nourishing your body, little, you know, finding moments of calm and not being over scheduled, like making carving out time for yourself to be reflective and to think. And a lot of the people I admire most, they're not the people running from thing to thing.
Starting point is 01:26:19 They're extraordinarily busy and they take great pains to carve out of their day an hour, two hours, and they'll sit and read and they learn and they're proactive around the knowledge they want to acquire and then how they want to utilize that. Charlie Munger is somebody who I've read so much of his work. I mean he is, could argue for, he lived over a hundred years and was one of the most busy, productive people and he would take large chunks of his day just to learn and to read and to explore. I'm not that disciplined yet, but it's an aspiration of mine and I do try to look at my schedule and ask myself where I'll have the time to be proactive instead of reactive. Busy's kind of overrated.
Starting point is 01:27:05 It's, I think the nervous system is going to get the best PR in 2025. That's my prediction. I think busy and productive are not the same thing. What do you say busy's for the bees? Yeah, everyone on TikTok gets mad at me, but I was like, yeah, listen, like bees work hard and ants work hard. Yeah. You know what I mean?
Starting point is 01:27:25 But I think there's people that do a lot of hard labor and really difficult things. And I'm not saying that I'm not taking anything away, but I think when people lead with how busy they are, my big question is like, well, how productive are you being with that busyness? 100%. And I think there's an awakening to this. I remember early in my career in a very
Starting point is 01:27:48 sort of professional corporate setting, there would be executives in a real estate firm who would leave their jackets on their seats as they went home at night because they wanted people to think and leave their lights on because they wanted people to think they were there longer. Like it was an old mentality, right, that they had probably inherited from a generation prior. What I find, like, really inspiring is not only people who can create and build, but, like, people who's, like, have great families,
Starting point is 01:28:18 who are well-connected to their kids, who are kind. Like, this full person is what I try to emulate. And I look back at different iterations of me, and while my priorities haven't changed, my energy has. Like, I had this like hardcore working mom energy when Arabella was first born. And I think that was born out of like an insecurity, you know, that I was still so young and I was playing in the jungle of New York City real estate and I had to be great even before I was great, you know, and I put
Starting point is 01:28:50 a lot of pressure on myself and I felt like I didn't give myself the sort of freedom to be comfortable in those relaxed moments. I was striving a lot, as one does when they're young. And I see my energy now and that kind of ambition is so much more fully integrated into me as a human being. I don't think there's anything charming about working so hard, you get sick that you don't give yourself enough time after. Like with Arabella, I mean, I fought hard for paid family leave in the federal government and we had some amazing wins on that front that delivered that policy to 9 million more Americans.
Starting point is 01:29:38 Yet I was super uncomfortable with taking it myself. Uh-huh, I relate to that. I was so uncomfortable. And then by the third baby, you're like, oh my God, I just want to be at home and just be- 100%. You can't even give yourself three months. And I'm like almost, this is me being critical of my,
Starting point is 01:29:53 but I'm almost like ashamed. I'm like, what was wrong with me? And it was because it's one of two things. It was either I was too insecure or I hadn't built systems that could withstand my absence. Both of those were my fault. Like both of those were me not being a good leader in those early days and the fact that I felt uncomfortable, the fact that I couldn't really take
Starting point is 01:30:13 the time off for myself psychologically or physically and and I'm just not that person anymore. So I I'm much happier with this. So when I think about like time, you know, how how we think about time, it's so ephemeral, it's the one thing none of us can stop. I really think about living life in alignment with my core values, my priorities. And I guess I'm at an age and a point in my life where I have the wisdom to realize like that's the way to be happy as opposed to living for anyone else.
Starting point is 01:30:47 Well, I mean this as a real compliment to you and your family, your parents, and you and Jared as you parent. How busy you guys are and how much you have going on, literally at the highest levels of the world, it seems like you're all very grounded in family and you keep that in perspective. Like, it seems, your father seems like a great father, your mom seems like she was a great mother, and you guys parent, and there's a lot of people I think could get lost in the ambition of all the things that you've accomplished
Starting point is 01:31:14 and that your family's accomplished, and they kind of lose sight of what's really important. And I think your family is one of the examples of like, you guys have all kind of turned out well and stayed close together and parented well and have good kids and I think that's that's rare. Look I think I think Esther Perel said something to the effect that the you know quality of your life is the quality of your relationships and I believe in that I think almost all sort of sadness
Starting point is 01:31:42 and happiness arises from these interpersonal relationships and those that are strong, those that aren't strong. And I think it starts with family. It starts with friends. We were talking about like what's self-care for me. Self-care, a big part of my self-care is staying connected with my friends. You know, just reaching out when I need them, reaching out to check on them, and making sure that I'm prioritizing that
Starting point is 01:32:11 for them and for myself, and really putting the work into these relationships that are so important in my life. I bet that it's difficult at times when you have friends for them to be able to relate to what you've gone through. I mean, it's like crazy what you've gone through and it's like... It's pretty crazy.
Starting point is 01:32:34 You maybe have a friend for each era? Like a specific friend. You know, some of my friends are... I've known since I was a little girl. Yeah. So one of my best friends, I've known her since we were in kindergarten. We went to school together. And she's still one of my best friends today.
Starting point is 01:32:48 One of my other best friends I've met more recently and we relate on sort of like this spiritual level. And there's just what we talk about like transcends like the day to day. And I feel like I have these sort of philosophical and intellectual conversations with, and it's super nurturing for me as a human being to sort of step out of the day to day issues
Starting point is 01:33:17 and have these more abstract conversations. So I love that. But yeah, it was interesting moving to Miami because when I moved from New York, which had been my home base my whole life, I lost a lot of family support system. You know, Jared's parents were really involved. They would take turns walking our kids to school on the days we couldn't do it. His mother used to fill our refrigerator.
Starting point is 01:33:40 For the first like 10 years we were married, she'd go on Costco runs to New Jersey. I'd get a call once a week being like I'm going to Costco What do you want and some of my friends would be like do you find that like annoying is she like overstepping? I'm like, I love it. Like I don't have to drive to Costco. It's great. She'd fill And like the refrigerator at our office So she knew every girl who worked for me like what they liked and she'd bring it back for a Costco So it was I love my mother-in-law for so many reasons, but that was one of them. But that was like an amazing support system.
Starting point is 01:34:12 And we went to DC and we lost that. Obviously, my father was there, but he was pretty consumed with everything going on. A little busy. A little busy. So that was interesting. On the friend front, I made these amazing friendship sort of forged in fire because you're really like being thrown into a lot of intensity.
Starting point is 01:34:33 So you really see who will be with you in a foxhole. Did you have some that pulled back? Like did you have some friends that had been with you before the presidency that kind of like leaned out a little bit? Well, I had, you know, what I basically told a lot of my closest friends when I went to Washington, like, I'm like, I don't, I'm gonna have the bandwidth for work and for family.
Starting point is 01:34:55 And so like, I really am gonna try not to be a bad friend to you for the next few years, but like, give me some grace. Like, I'll be there if things are bad. Like, I'll be the best, like, bad time friend ever. I'll be on your doorstep with like a box of tissues, but I may miss a lot of the celebrations in the coming years, just because I know I'm like, I'm going to leave it all on the field. If you have a friend that needs a birthday, you might miss a birthday. And that was true.
Starting point is 01:35:16 And what I realized in coming out is like, you need the birthdays too. You know, like you need, you need both. You need to be there for- I might miss a birthday and I'm only just doing this podcast. But yeah, there were definitely, it was not friends. I definitely had some acquaintances who, who, you know, their politics diverged wildly from that of my father's and they took things personally or got overly emotional. But I'm actually really proud of the fact that like, and I think part of it was also growing
Starting point is 01:35:45 up in the public eye, like I had a pretty keen eye for what was real. And so the people I really had led into my life over the years- You already had a filter. ... didn't surprise me. And I feel really blessed by that because I have friends who, you know, they don't speak to half their family because the time was that emotional. But I also don't I'm, I'm, I never judge someone by their politics. So for me, it's not a litmus test. So I would expect that back from you. So I, you know, I have friends across the
Starting point is 01:36:18 ideological spectrum and I view conversations with those who disagree with me as like an opportunity to learn. I may not agree with them. I may partially agree with them, but I view that as, I feel like that makes you like a full human being when you have people in your life who disagree. And you know, politics for most people, it's a small part of their life. There are a lot of other areas
Starting point is 01:36:43 where you can vehemently agree. And so I focus on those. Rapid fire questions. Oh, rapid fire. Let's get up. Rapid fire. Let me take some water before. Yes. We've covered some ground. We have. You guys are really great at what you do. Really. It's amazing. Michael's going to take that compliment and apply it to his own self. I'm going to pull that clip and I'm going to use it as my meditation. Exactly. Your, your daily affirmation.
Starting point is 01:37:12 Well, I'm sure you've been told it before. It's going to start with the raw dog and creatine and then you're saying you're really good at what you do. It's going to be a loop. No, you're like amazing, obviously to be in this business, you have to be great conversationalist, but I feel and this has been true when I've listened to the interviews you do, I feel like you allow people to show who they are and you're curious to get to know them.
Starting point is 01:37:34 And I feel like that when I've listened to different interviews that you've done. So it's- I think- Keep up the great work. I think we just like to learn about people and why people think the way they do and their backgrounds and you know, doing this for as long as we've done it. You realize that most people come to their conclusions from, you know, a good place and it's a lot of upbringing, it's a lot of culture, and it's a lot of family values, and it's a lot of who you know and where you've been. And I think when you look at people in that way,
Starting point is 01:38:02 as opposed to some like prejudgment based on their politics or ideals, you really can get to know people a lot more and you can empathize, use the word empathy, or like you empathize with why they believe or think the way they do. Most people don't have bad intention. That's what we've learned from doing this show. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:38:17 Carl Jung said that thinking is hard. That's why most people judge. And I believe that. Like, it's easier to judge. And, you know, I like to listen, I like to learn, I like to ask questions. And that sort of informs me as a human being. My dad used to say,
Starting point is 01:38:37 two percent of the world thinks, eight percent of the world thinks they think, and 90 percent never think. Which one are you? I like that. I like your dad. Not as nice of a delivery. Oh, yeah, my dad, he's a character. Favorite book you've read recently. Ooh. Oh, recently. Okay, recently, that's helpful. So, right now, I'm reading something which is pushing it for me.
Starting point is 01:38:57 It's outside of, like, my normal genre. It's like a cyberpunk sci-fi book called The Diamond Age that a friend recommended to me that's you know rather different. I actually recently reread sort of sci-fi or sci-fi as well Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy which is a blast. I've been on a little bit of a of a thread here but I'm enjoying it. I also I recently reread Jitterbug Perfume which I think I sent to you which is such a wild ride. I also I recently reread Jitterbug Perfume which I think I sent to you. Which is such a wild ride. I love mythology. I love it's it's just such an
Starting point is 01:39:32 amazing story and I think for you for years I go through ebbs and flows. I go really hard on philosophy and psychology to some degree and history and biographies that I'll go through these periods where I just want like I'm like bummed I'll be on I'll be at like the beach with like something like Ridiculous like Plato's Republic I literally did this at a water park and I'm like why did I pack this as my only book and I'm like why don't I have like? So I actually have to force myself to read more fiction. And I think that's like the busy bee, like the doer, you know, that for some reason I feel like I'm accumulating
Starting point is 01:40:12 a different type of knowledge in biographies and that's like a false premise. Like I learned so much from the fiction books I read, but it's also enjoyable. Like you get a good laugh and you can, you can really sort of escape the world. So, so jitterbug perfume, I would recommend to anyone. And then there are some, you know,
Starting point is 01:40:31 there are some tried and true. I, I, I, a friend of mine told me how she started reading every book that was assigned to her children. And now they call it, we used to call it like English, they call it language arts. And so I thought, what an interesting idea. So it's actually been really fun. So it's allowed me to revisit a lot of books.
Starting point is 01:40:53 So I just read Fahrenheit 451 that my daughter was reading. My eight-year-old is reading his first novel in class, which is The One and Only Ivan. So that's been really fun because then at the table I can ask them specifically and I remember it, not just like in broad brush. It's really interesting and I learn what they like, what they don't like. So that's been really interesting. You can test them.
Starting point is 01:41:17 You can be like, chapter seven, what happened? The outsiders. Exactly. You remember the outsiders? I'm rereading the outsiders. I never read the outsiders. Oh my God, I read that and I was like, okay, it's leather jacketsading the outsiders. I never read the outsiders. Oh my God. I read that and I was like, okay, it's leather jackets and slick hair.
Starting point is 01:41:27 That's what it is. Maybe I'll, I just read the Animorphs with my son, which is like, they morph. I remember reading those as a kid. And so I, there's like a whole series. So we read, we have this funny bedtime routine. He's, you know, my daughter at this point just like wants our space. My middle son, he wants like a good cuddle with his dog. And my youngest son, he just will like milk it for...
Starting point is 01:41:51 If I gave him three hours, our bedtime routine would be three hours. I love that. My umbilical cord needs to be connected at that age too to my son. Oh my god. It's, it's, and you know, he's actually, he's so independent. He's my most independent because he's our third, but he's also like our most like cuddly and like, he's like, you know, he's quite literally is our youngest, but he still has like his beds full of stuffed animals
Starting point is 01:42:15 and every night we choose which stuffed animal we both get to cuddle with while we're reading. There's like every time I go on a trip, I bring back a new one, so it's piled up. We have all of these different things that I bring back or Jared will bring back from travels that we have to do as part of a routine. So we have a Tibetan singing bowl. We have these like chimes from Bhutan.
Starting point is 01:42:37 I picked up a bell at a wedding that I went to in Mexico and you know I say whenever you hear this noise it's me loving you. And so he like rings it when I'm not there. And we do this after reading. We say our prayers together. And then I do the chime. I've got this like leaf thing. All of these wild little like noise things and they're all piled up on his bedside and
Starting point is 01:43:01 we go one by one and do this routine. And it takes a long time. And some nights I'm like- I would live it up until he wants to stop. I mean, they want to stop at some point at 13. No, not at 13. We're not going to 13. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:43:13 Honestly, like you wish you could make it. I was fucking getting in bed with my son at 13. We're going to like, maybe like 13 for a boy. You don't want to be laying in bed with your 13 year old boy. Well, that's one of like the most interesting things about kids. Like I feel you see in their eyes, like when you're in that age, how old are your kids? Four and two. Four and two.
Starting point is 01:43:34 Well, our daughter's turning five. Okay. So you're going to start to see with your five year olds when they start to internalize like the messages of the world around them, both your expectations, society's expectations, and it's like really interesting because it starts to happen I feel like most around like six, seven, eight, where they become self-conscious. How they look, hugging you in public, what they are saying, like there's nothing more amazing to me than when a child says something completely embarrassing,
Starting point is 01:44:06 you know, because they don't care. And they're not trying to embarrass you, they're not trying to hurt you, they're just saying exactly what you had said five minutes earlier or what's on their mind. They're not self-conscious about being loved and hugged. And as they get older, they start to, you know, sort of have this imprint on them. So for me, what I think about a lot with, with all of my kids is how do I maintain this and, you know, obviously they have to be growing, they can't be naive to the world, but there's something so pure about just being.
Starting point is 01:44:36 If my daughter stops hugging me in public, I'm probably going to cry for sure. It'll happen probably for like a moment. Do you remember what we were doing at 13? You can't be laying in bed with our son at 13. Let's not tell Yvonne what we were doing at 13. I was probably right there with you. Like I said, we've covered a lot of ground. I don't know, I'll compare notes later. Yeah, I'll hope we can compare them.
Starting point is 01:44:56 This is a scandal section. The rapid fire. Your guilty pleasure. Does it have to be one thing? No. My guilty pleasure. Maybe this is a notes one thing? No. My guilty pleasure. Maybe this is a notes comparing session later. I would say, yeah, you know, I would say, obviously,
Starting point is 01:45:10 they're like boring answers, like certain types of food and that I love. It used to be like really bad reality television. That's mine. Housewives. So I got it became a problem, though, because we don't have a lot of TVs in the house. And we have basically like two and one's in the bedroom.
Starting point is 01:45:30 And my husband would lose his mind. He'd come in and he's like, I can't hear that. Like turn off the squawking. Like he would really. It's annoying as a side sound. If you're not an active participant. It would drive him crazy. He's like, I feel like, he would say he like feels
Starting point is 01:45:44 himself getting stupider. So he'd make me, and it was this whole thing. I's like, I feel like, he would say he's like, feels himself getting stupider. So he'd make me, and it was this whole thing. I'm like, why can't you just let me watch my show? So I kind of have stopped doing that. And I actually say, and it's not like guilty, it's kind of nice is I love like that time after your kids are in bed and you can like just take a minute for yourself and like there are creams involved and face, I love that. It's not like a long nighttime routine,
Starting point is 01:46:09 but whatever it is, it feels really good. And that's been kind of the substitute for me. That's my last and final rapid fire is what are your beauty tips? What are the creams you're using? What are the makeup products that you like? What are your go-tos? So I have been using this makeup product from Estee Lauder since I was like 14 years
Starting point is 01:46:31 old and it's a concealer that is just, I mean, and basically the tube is this big and I've probably only gone through three bottles. Like this thing lasts forever, but it's amazing. So I love that. It's called Maximum Coverage, but I don't wear a lot of face makeup, so I'll use it a little bit under my eyes, even when I don't need to, it's just such a part of my routine.
Starting point is 01:46:50 I don't love so much foundation or things. I prefer to focus on skincare rather than makeup. So I like a good mascara, especially when I feel tired, but I feel like when my skin looks good and feels good, I feel good. So that's where I'll prioritize. And I love like serums and moisturizers. And right now I'm using something called sea buckthorn oil.
Starting point is 01:47:13 And it's just very moisturizing. And I love it. I am addicted to lip moisturizer. So I always have to like wherever I go on my bedside table, there's a lip moisturizer. So I always have to, like wherever I go on my bedside table there's a lip moisturizer. My favorite one was by Glossier, thebomb.com and they've changed the formula. So I'm like on a mission to find the original. I have a few bottles left that... Can I just stay for Glossier?
Starting point is 01:47:40 Honestly, my daughter walked in and it was like she had found like gold. She had two bottles that she had found like somewhere in her room or whatever. Backs that she's like, look what I found, Bob. I was going to scramble to get that old formula. This is my recommendation, lawless lip mask. Okay. I feel like it's similar. It's like a lip mask that you wear.
Starting point is 01:48:01 I just like feeling hydrated. Yeah. So everything like some people, I'm, you know, I just like feeling hydrated. Yeah. So everything like some people I'm you know don't like that I really like especially at night feeling moisturized. So I like the thicker moisturizers. I use MBR moisturizer. I'm a sunblock fanatic and that's one thing that that I'm just so I have so many I have sunblocks for every occasion. I have you know the heavy sunblock when I'm out doing water sports or surfing or you something in the hot Florida sun. During peak hours, I have that heavy zinc one
Starting point is 01:48:31 that your face looks all white and even with the best formulation, it's horrible. That's good though, because then people won't recognize you and come up to you at the beach when you're trying to have your meditation. There you go. Yeah. There you go. It's a great way.
Starting point is 01:48:42 So put on zinc. But the Alt-MD is pretty good for that, so I like that. And then I have the thinner ones. There's a great way put on zinc But I you know the alt MD is pretty good for that so I like that and then I have the thinner ones There's this new sunblock called Nuda that I love for just more daily wear you gave me one That's amazing with the caffeine in it. So that's a great sunblock. I have sticks I have I have it all so sunblock. I'm pretty nuts about that and I think living in Florida. That's especially That's especially true. Quickly, I got one more. Oh, and one other product that I fell in love with recently.
Starting point is 01:49:10 A girlfriend of mine came out with it. It's called John T. It's a lymphatic drain. It's like a body lotion. And that's not an area I ever, I always use drugstore products and this is relative, it's relatively well-priced, but it is so good and smells so delicious. And it's all these Brazilian,
Starting point is 01:49:30 it's a Brazilian formulation that like, it just, it's amazing. It's beautiful. And we both like Isabella Grutman's jewelry. I love her ring. You were wearing that really pretty, I think it was emerald ring. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:49:42 Isabella is a dear friend and she's an incredibly talented jewelry designer and clothing designer. Yes, I just had to shout that out. I know it's not beauty. What is your one last... Last one, and I know we got to get you out of here. We all got to jump. Your dad is about to become the president once again. What are you most excited about this time around compared to the first time? Oh, that's a good question. Yeah, I mean, listen, we...
Starting point is 01:50:03 Sorry, I'm more curious about the cream. Listen, not to say I'm not- I'm like, it's been years since I've been asked about moisturizer. That was great. I remember- Sorry. Did take a mental note about the body cream for myself. But I figured I'd end with this one.
Starting point is 01:50:17 So, you know, it's this ride that we've been on is so unusual. So, you know, most people who become president, they've cut their teeth on a congressional run or something state or local. And then eventually they work up the ladder to running for president and maybe, maybe actually being elected.
Starting point is 01:50:39 So the fact that he did it on his first go, first time out of the gate, and then we had the experience the first time that there was a four-year break and then he's come back in with such a strong mandate. I'm just- Probably the greatest comeback story in maybe the history of the world. Yeah. Maybe.
Starting point is 01:50:58 It's incredible. And he's got so much energy and support and excitement. And I think the four years has really allowed him to calibrate how he wants to spend this next four years. And he's incredibly excited and enthusiastic. And I think about, you know, my role the first time was very different. We were like the pioneers.
Starting point is 01:51:17 Nobody was really knew what to do with him as a political figure. And now there's so many capable people around him, many of whom we've worked with in the past, almost all of whom we know very well. And so, you know, I think about in this moment how I can also support him because I know what the job is, like in a very personal way, having been by his side for four years. And it's the world's loneliest position. The enormity of the decisions you're making
Starting point is 01:51:45 on a daily basis, how transactional everyone is with you, you know, your closest friends, everyone's passionate about something and they all want to spend the short time they have with you selling you on what they think is something good and positive and productive for this country in the world. So it's a very lonely perch. And I would often think about this during the first four years, but now I'm having a little distance from it.
Starting point is 01:52:13 I think I'm most looking forward to just being able to show up for him as a daughter. And be there for him to take his mind off things, to like watch a movie with him or watch a sports game, to know that he can be with me and be himself and just relax and for me to be able to provide that for him in a very loving way as his daughter. So that's how I'm sort of thinking about how I can best support him in this moment. But he's excited. We're excited.
Starting point is 01:52:45 I think there's a general excitement in this country that that has been catalyzed. And and I think it will be a great four years. And the inauguration is coming up. It's coming up. Yep. It's in a little over a week. Week from when this airs. That's true. I'm sure a lot of people already know where to find you. But if they don't, where can they find your book, your Instagram, your Twitter, all the things? Yes, you can find me at my handles, Ivanka Trump, and I'll be in Florida.
Starting point is 01:53:17 And your book, Women Who Work, you can get it on Amazon. Thank you. Thank you so much for coming on the show. You're welcome back anytime. If you want to come back again to talk about more health, beauty, skin, diet, fitness tips. Thank you for doing this. Maybe we'll kick Michael off. Thank you so much guys. You can't kick me off. Thank you, Valka. Thank you. You're welcome. Sit right over there. Yeah. You can be the co-host. Let's do it. I could use a break. Interview Michael. Oh, no.
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