The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - Lili Reinhart - Top Anxiety Tools, Stress Management Tips, & Embracing Self-Compassion

Episode Date: December 19, 2024

#787: Join us as we sit down with Lili Reinhart — an actress, mental health advocate, & founder of Personal Day, a clean ingredient skincare brand. Lili shares her journey, from overcoming social anxiety & discovering theater at a young age to then rising to fame. In this episode, Lili candidly discusses the influence  of social media on young women, the pressures of societal expectations, & her transformative journey towards spirituality & healing.   To connect with Lili Reinhart click HERE   To connect with Lauryn Bosstick click HERE   To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE   Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE   To Watch the Show click HERE   For Detailed Show Notes visit TSCPODCAST.COM   To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697)   This episode is brought to you by The Skinny Confidential   Head to the HIM & HER Show ShopMy page HERE to find all of Michael and Lauryn’s favorite products mentioned on their latest episodes.   Visit personalday.com to find your skincare support system for acne prone skin and use code skinny for 15% off our order.    This episode is sponsored by TravisMathew   Consider TravisMathew your holiday headquarters, and discover the perfect gift for everyone on your list. Visit travismathew.com and receive 20% off your order with code SKINNY.    This episode is sponsored by Cymbiotika   Go to cymbiotika.com/theskinny and use code SKINNY to save 15% of your subscription order.   This episode is sponsored by Squarespace   Check out Squarespace.com for a free trial, and when you’re ready to launch, go to squarespace.com/SKINNY to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.   This episode is sponsored by Good Ranchers   Subscribe to any Good Ranchers box and use code skinny to get a free gift of chicken breasts, ground beef, bacon, or salmon for a year plus free express shipping.   This episode is sponsored by Noom   Noom GLP-1 starts at $149 and is delivered to your door in seven days. Start your GLP-1 journey today at Noom.com.   This episode is sponsored by Branch Basics   Save 15% on your Starter Kit or their new Hand Soap when you use code SKINNY at branchbasics.com. Produced by Dear Media

The following podcast is a Dear Media production. She's a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire. Fantastic. And he's a serial entrepreneur. A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to The Skinny Confidential, him and her.

Aha! We grew up in the time of People Magazine and, you know, seeing at the newsstand at the grocery store pictures of celebrities without makeup on with the headline like, ugly. And, you know, I would grow up watching America's Next Top Model with my sister and watching them stand on a scale in front of everyone else and say their weights out loud. And I was watching that when I was 13. So I was seeing these parameters that I had to be in. I was like, you know, I didn't want to be a model, but I was seeing these just like, oh, this is what women are supposed to. OK, so I need to fit in that. Lily Reinhart. Welcome to the show. You may recognize her from the CW teen drama Riverdale.

She's also a huge actress and she has the skincare line Personal Day. By the way, she gave you guys code skinny 15% off on personalday.com. She's major on Instagram. I feel like she has like 30 million followers and people sure do love her ASMR on TikTok. In this episode, we discuss the challenges in the entertainment industry. We talk about performance, ambition, mental health, anxiety. We even go in to the balance between achievement and fulfillment. It's pretty deep. It's very self-aware. I have to say, and I said this to her at the end of this episode,

a lot of celebrities will go on podcasts or shows and you can tell they're super guarded and almost sometimes in a way robotic. And she is not in this episode. She's very much a human having a human experience. And I think as a listener, you guys will appreciate this one. Lily Reinhart, welcome to the show. This is the Skinny Confidential, him and her. What points did you know that you were made for show business? When you go way, way back and you reflect on your childhood, is there an epiphany? I mean, I would force my family to watch me perform Where Are You Christmas from the Grinch to them. So I was like Cindy Lou Who performing for them. And they would just have to listen.

Like you just are going to sit on the couch in the living room and listen to me. It's weird because I was a little bit shy, but I guess I would love to sing and do little. I liked to make my family laugh, I think was more so what I was going for. But then I would also sing. I was just a little theatrical child and then I went into theater. But yeah, I was performing for my family. And did your parents know that there was something sparkly? I don't think until I started doing actual community theater and then it was like the parents of the other kids or whatever coming up to my parents and going, your kid's really talented.

And I think that was sort of, you know, I think I don't't have kids but I imagine every parent thinks their kid is talented or not and so to have some other people come up to you and tell you oh your kid's actually pretty good at this I think that was the validation to for me it was to pursue my parents never there no one's in show business in my family so it was kind of just something that I wanted to pursue and then they were told, hey yeah you should go for it. Lauren's dad still thinks she deserves a Grammy. And why doesn't she? I think I do. I can really sing

I Don't Mean to Brock, The Little Mermaid. Oh, just one of all of the songs? It depends which mood I'm in but I think I have a real voice. Her dad is the perfect he's listening to this, I promise. He's the perfect example of like she he fully believes like in everything she does which is amazing that's amazing but it was a bit delusional at times with some of the singing i believe what is the background and the grit and the behind the scenes before you quote unquote make it oh a lot of for me a lot of anxiety well still today a

lot of anxiety comes with this industry but i mean i i wasn't a i don't want to say i was a child actor but i kind of was in the sense that i started pursuing this when i was 11, 12, like theater. And then from theater, I went on to pursue, it was like, oh, you know, I'm from Cleveland, so there's only so much you could do there. So I pursued, like modeling was kind of how you got your foot in the door. And then from modeling, you would go on auditions. And it was sort of building blocks of performing, starting in community theater for me. I mean, I couldn't have done this without my parents and my mother who would drive me from Ohio to New York for auditions, which is an eight-hour car ride where I was 13, 14, so I was not driving.

And my mom was just booking it the whole way for me, and she would be driving our blue minivan in New York City, which is a hilarious thought to me now. Every time I'm in New York, I'm like, you couldn't pay me to be driving here. It scares me to be a passenger there. So I can't imagine driving. And my mom would take me, we would use my dad's hotel points from work to like book a hotel right outside the city and then drive into the city for an audition and it was just a lot of that. What was shocking to you when you started to get into the industry? Was there things that you just couldn't believe that now maybe feels normal but at first was jarring? It's a good question. I guess kind of the, you think that you're going to reach a certain point where you feel satisfied or satiated and then you never do.

That's entrepreneurial of you. Sure. And it's also miserable. But is it kind of nice too in a way? Because I think that's like ambition, right? It's ambition. You've literally said what she just said to me. You think you're going to reach like the top of the mountain, then you climb the mountain, then there's like 20 more mountains to climb. I think that's it.

Yeah. And I, go ahead. No, no, no. I just, I've always found like, I remember I was sitting around one time and I just thought it was strange that some people's ambition is to work so hard for so long that so one day you can basically just stay

in the same place comfortably. Yeah. Does that make sense? It does make sense. And I think when I started thinking that way, I'm like, oh, that's strange. And so then when you make peace with that, you're like, okay, I'm just never going to be comfortable and I'm always just going to be going. Yeah. I mean, I would, I would pray for myself that I don't get there, but it is, it's sort of the nature of the beast. And I think, yes, in this industry, but in every industry, if you're super ambitious and if you have anxiety, that kind of boosts the ambition is it can be a good thing.

But also, I think it can kind of hurt me in the sense that I reach a point that is, you know, successful and then I want more or it's not even that I want more. I just like I'm aspiring to keep going and to pursue different things and like reach a different point in my acting career it's always sort of like and I imagine you know you know they tell people they're like don't try to win an Oscar in your 20s because then what do you do for the rest of your career but I'm like but I'm sure winning an Oscar in your 20s would be sick but like you know but, the pressure of what do you do if you achieve everything in a short amount of time, and then you have to keep going. And so I kind of give myself grace with that idea, because I do feel this industry

perpetuates this idea that you need to do things quickly while you're young, especially. And, you know, I'm 28. And the way that I think about my age in my head I feel is very unhealthy because of what my industry has taught me is that I'm in my prime and if I'm not in the prime of my career right now that I'm failing I'm reading Lucy ObalBall's book. Oh, okay. And she says that in her day, you were out of your prime at 25. That's horrifying. But I also feel... Can you imagine that? No.

I mean, I feel like for our generation, they try to manipulate maybe 30, 35, maybe 40. Yeah. Hers was 25. But if it makes you feel any better... Yeah, that is sick. I'm a decade older than you, and I feel like I'm just getting warmed up.

Well, that's great. But'm a decade older than you and I feel like I'm just getting warmed up. Well, that's great. But what she's saying is her industry is it's different than your industry. Like as a woman, there's a pressure in the acting world that if you're not a certain age, like you're disposable. Sure, but don't you- And I know I totally, we've interviewed all different kinds of, you know, well-known people that have said that too. They feel like, if you feel like once you reach a certain age, there's like an undertone. It's getting better. I think it's getting better.

But it's also like, it's so hard in general just to even get your foot in the door of this industry. And then it's also incredibly hard to continue to level up in this industry. So you find, you know, a people if they're if they start off in this career doing one thing they continue doing that one thing whether it's a genre or a type of like television show or you know i'm saying like the step before they reach you know what you know i don't want to give i mean we all are just trying to level up quote unquote yeah and i think as an actor that's like stepping into more prestige film for example from like i was on a teen you know young adult television show and you think the level up is going into more like a prestige film career you

feel like you have to evolve yeah you always have to evolve and then to get that for me to get that kind of satisfaction and I have had many a conversation with myself and my partner and my mom and it's sort of like if I continue to look at my career in my life that way I think I will be miserable forever and this is like something that i've very much been dealing with very presently but also just the last few years of my life if i if i continue to think about my career as something that i always need to be you know getting like not getting better because we all want to get better with what we do but that i need to like outdo myself or outdo others or continue to climb this ladder that literally will never have a top to it, I will be miserable. And so I need to reframe how I think about

my life and my career because I think my whole 20s, I was on Riverdale and was experiencing fame and how kind of crazy that is to experience in your 20s. But then how you step out of that and people expect something of you. They expect you to keep going and do this and do that and make these like similar moves to your peers. And everyone, you cannot compare two careers. Like truly everyone has such a different trajectory and I think comparison is such is so evil and awful that I've really tried to step away lately from social media as much as I can because of it because I feel that it's having such a negative impact on how I view myself and my progress because I'm measuring it against others and that's so just not that's what's going to keep me in misery is if I'm

comparing my success to someone else's success it's like that person's a different human being and living a different life than I am I will be truly stuck in misery if I allow myself to compare the success the success that I have to someone else's when we're two different humans. And I think, and I know I will be much happier if I view my career as a part of my life rather than my whole life, because I think I'm 28, but so far in my twenties, my career really has been my whole life. And I think that's what has contributed to a lot of anxiety and depression. And I would like to be happy in my 30s. That's very self-aware and honest.

Yeah. Thanks. Like a lot of people don't have that self-awareness and they're not honest with themselves about the things that are, I guess, stealing joy from them. Sure. Right? I will tell you, I, at your age, was very similar with achieving. Achieving. Achieving. Yeah. Achieving. I, at your age, was very similar with achieving, achieving, achieving, achieving.

And something that's helped, this doesn't work for everyone, it works for me, is having children. It kind of like level sets you a little bit. I can't explain it. It balances you and it sort of recalibrates what's important through their eyes. It's interesting. But also something that really helped me, and I'll DM it to you you after this episode is tony robbins theory on the art of achievement no the science of achievement and the art of fulfillment okay so you're you're talking about the science of achievement and if you look at his theory on the art of fulfillment that balances the leveler. I would look into that. That's like what I have found

has helped me balance. But also, and we've talked about this on the show for years, have you ever heard of experience stretching? Stretching? Experience stretching.

No. This is Michael's favorite. It's not my thing and I can't remember. Settle in. I'm settled. No, I'm settled. I'll do it real quick

and it's not mine but I heard it once and it clicked for me because I used to also be achieve, achieve, achieve. I'm settled. No, I'm settled. I'll do it real quick. And it's not mine, but I heard it once and it like clicked for me because I used to also be achieve, achieve, achieve. Yeah, yeah. I still have ambition, but I've just been able to kind of look at it differently. And experience stretching is essentially like, say you go and- And win an Oscar at 20. No, no, no.

I'll get to that. But say, I'll give you a different example. Say you go and you could never afford a vacation before. And one day you get to go on this vacation. You're staying in a beautiful hotel and you're looking at a sunset. Like this is the best life can ever get. A year later, you go back, but now you're not in that same hotel, but now you're in a hotel suite and you have champagne and you're like, this is the best I can ever get.

And a year later, you're like, okay, now you're not in a suite. You're like, you're on a yacht. You know, this is the best I can ever get. Yeah. And then the fourth year you go and you stay in the same room that you stayed in the first time and look at the same sunset. Like this is the most miserable I can ever get. And then the fourth year, you go and you stay in the same room that you stayed in the first time. You look at the same sunset and you're like, this is the most miserable I've ever been. It's like the thing that used to make you the happiest now makes you miserable. And that's what happens with people that achieve a lot and stretches.

You're stretching the experience so far that even the greatest thing that at one time gave you so much happiness now makes you miserable. And so in a career example, you could have a great year where you get all these gigs and you do great performances and you make a great income. And then the next year, maybe it's like, not that. It's like, it's still a job, but it's not what the prestige level. And it's like, years ago, that's what you were aspiring to. And now it makes you miserable. And so it's just like a perspective shift where a lot of times like success breeds misery if you don't have the perspective of saying like, okay, this is still amazing and you've accomplished a lot at 28.

Yeah. There's a book that my therapist had suggested to me that I'm listening to on Audible and it's called The Gap and the Gain. And it's basically, do you know it? No. Okay.

I don't know the author off the top of my head, but it's basically how we measure ourselves against what we don't have versus how much, how far we've come so living in the gap is basically saying well i don't have this yet but living in the gain is saying well look how far i've come and look at what i've achieved and i very much live in the gap presently where i'm like oh but i have this much to do rather than thinking oh but i've done so much in my life and I've achieved

so much that I'm so proud of. I don't sit in that moment and be present and happy with that. I go, no, we need to do that. And I'm measuring my own success against what I don't have, which is creating a sense of lack. And to live in a sense of lack in a time where I feel incredibly privileged to do what I do and to live in a sense of lack in a time where I feel incredibly you know privileged to do what I do and to have the things that I have it's just a moment of like me knocking on my own head saying let's stop with the comparison against the other people in my own field and things like that and and be thankful for what you know when I was 12 I never in my life thought that I would actually be a working actor and have the opportunities that I have and create a brand and get to talk and meet with all

these people like I just didn't think that that was possible but I'm living that that idea that I didn't think was possible when I was 12 so remembering that rather than thinking oh but I have so much further to go is the goal. I think it's like that's why people look sometimes and they're so shocked by what on the outside looks like the most successful people being so miserable. Absolutely. Like how could that person be unhappy when they have all the things? It's because this is just human nature. You know, no matter how much you achieve, what is it that Valses desires a contract you make with yourself to be miserable till you get what you want that sounds about

right i'm trying not to live that way but it's i mean it just comes with i think time and experience i mean both same with us like everybody's trying to figure that out i will tell you though i think it's so important that you're vocalizing this while you're in it because most people wait until this chapter is over to then talk about it yeah Do you know what I mean? No, yeah. Like you're in it. Yeah. I'm very in it. For someone with 23 million Instagram followers and all of these accolades and your product line and all these things that you're doing to be able to say this out loud is, to me, really refreshing.

It's like, I mean, for lack of a better word it's real yeah and most people they do wait until the the the chapter shit is over you know what i mean so i think like walking yourself through this in real time is probably very nice for the people that follow you i always try to be i never i'm not here to on, it's my job to put on a show for people. So I think in my real life, I don't have a poker face and I can't bullshit anyone. I just don't have the energy to do it, quite honestly. It's like, I just don't, I'm not a high oct, I don't have a lot of energy in general. So I'm like, that takes a lot of energy to like put on a facade or to pretend.

And sometimes you have to do it if you're going through something personal and you have to push through, which I've had to do many times. But as we all do, we have to show up for work even when we don't feel like it. But I think when I do have moments like what better time than when I'm sitting down for an hour to talk about my life and my life experience to just be honest which is yeah I'm very much I'm in this point of my life where I'm struggling with this concept of trying to just be happy and satisfied with what I've built for myself rather than comparing myself to everyone else I got off TikTok I'm on TikTok but I don't go on tiktok for the last three months and it's life-changing this is so weird but i had this like energetic vibe that tiktok when i would watch it and i'm sure everyone feels like this sort of made you feel like you were in a daze and by the time you were done watching it you didn't know what you watched sure and i thought

about it and i'm like oh my god my friend and i were talking and she's like lauren it's like tick tock tick tock like a clock that's exactly how you feel when you're on that app it's like someone's hypnotizing you yeah i swear to god that whole app is designed to put you in a subconscious... No, especially this one, though, Michael. You don't watch it like other people do. Michael does X. Okay. I just got off that one. Yeah, he does.

I don't go on that one because if you're going to watch X every single day, I hate to break it to you. You're consuming the news all day long. For sure. I don't want that in my ether. For sure. But TikTok is like...

Oh, yeah, TikTok's much better. I'm saying I got off i i can't i don't want to do it it's good it's good for the add which i have but it's also horrendous for it because instagram doesn't feel the same am i right i actually don't like instagram you don't like i like tiktok actually because i have curated my well right now my for you page is literally just wicked clips um which is great and i'm not complaining but like usually you can curate like if you like one video on tiktok about spirituality your entire for you page becomes about that specific thing what's your for you

page i didn't know to like it show me your algorithm yeah you have to like it it's i wish i could just make it louise hay you probably could and that's what i would like maybe my phone's i heard you're allowed to reset the algorithms maybe i'll go like all louise hay's stuff sure and then you'll just literally you will just see that mostly and so my tiktok actually feels like quite a safe space for me because i you curate your for you page in a way that you're seeing the stuff that you i'm like'm like, I'm happy I go on TikTok and I watch all these behind-the-scenes clips of Wicked. Yay, I'm happy about that. I love to see Cynthia and Ari, like, holding each other's fingers and crying.

I think that's very sweet. Do I need to take my four-year-old to see Wicked, or is it too much? Oh, I don't know about a four-year-old. Too little. I mean, my... What is Wicked? Goddaughter. What is Wicked?

Keep up, Michael. I have no idea what Wicked is. It, Mauricio Dresden. What is Wicked? The Wicked Witch of the West? Isn't there a witch in it i don't know i've never seen it you both no no i've never seen it my algorithm is no guys i'm not watching wicked my algorithm is a little different i think what is do you know who ariana grande is but how do you know who she is and not know what i know what it is i what Wicked is, I've just never seen it. Yes, okay.

Do I need to see it? Is this one of those moments where I'm going to get shit on now? Wait, you don't know what Wicked is? I don't know. I know the Wicked Witch of the West. Oh, no, he doesn't know what Wicked is. It is originated, Wicked is a musical that I believe came out. We just watched The Wizard of Oz with our four-year-old.

No, this is not The Wizard of Oz. But it is of the same origin. Oh, it's an origin story of the way to the west sure yeah in a sense okay i'll keep up quick so wicked was a broadway musical christian chenoweth and idina menzel were our originating these characters of glinda and elphaba the wicked witch when is the nice witch well okay this is where we get into wicked some conspiracies. Oh, is this one of those stories? Wait, hold on, hold on.

Let me, let me, the story is the witch didn't start out mean and then the nice one who really is not nice is mean. She's literally horrifying to you. And then she makes the

This is worse than TikTok. Then she makes the one mean because she was mean. Is that what it is? It's a sure. Along those lines. It's all this time. But the movie,

so it was a musical, but the movie just came out with cynthia arrivo and ariana grande playing glinda and alphaba the good technically what they say the good witch and the bad witch whatever pink and green there's a lot of pink and green going on in the world right now with the green witch and then like glinda wears pink and she's like pink everything so they're vilifying the good witch now well if you watch the story you're kind of it's the undertone

basically she's saying watch it it's a beautiful movie you know what would be more concerning to you though and I say this to a lot of the women that come on the show

not to be but what if I was like if I knew everything and I was like I would be thrilled for you and I was like and I knew all the like

trivia I would be impressed I know but it's just whoa, this guy. Let's move to the next topic because I'm not going to be able to keep up much longer. I say go see Wicked.

It's rated PG. Maybe I can take my phone. We'll take our daughter to see it. It's two and a half hours. For me, it flew by. It depends how your daughter does in theaters. It sounds like you just love cinema. Well, I was a theater kid, so I appreciate theater.

I saw Wicked when I was 10 in Cleveland with my best friend, and then we went and saw the movie together. So it was very sweet because it was a musical on Broadway. But it's good. Yeah, it's a great movie. This is just a random question. What do you do when someone is so associated you with a character that they want it to seep into your real life? Do you get that a lot? question what do you do when someone is so associated you with a character that it's they

want it to seep into your real life do you get that a lot they'll just be disappointed okay because i'm you're not like any of your characters um which one do you relate to the most oh god i don't know about that none i don't know i don't know i think people associate me often the most with betty cooper from riverdale obviously that's what a lot of people know me as. And you don't relate to her? No, I do. She's definitely, she has a lot more energy than I do. I think I'm just a lot more, I haven't, I don't know, character-wise, who I relate to the most. I just, I've played a lot of, maybe characters have a lot more energy in general, and I'm just kind of a more, I like to sit on my couch and that's about it.

So you're a rotter. Anytime. Yeah. That's okay. And you know what it is coming back to TikTok is like, for me, I'm like, oh, I can't wait till the end of the day when I can sit and watch my, watch TikTok for an hour. This is honest. Because I'm like, you know what it is?

And it's sad, but it's the dopamine hit. And we are in a dopamine epidemic. Well, yeah, with our world and we. So I guess is that a pandemic? No, epidemic, right? I think this is important that a 28-year-old is saying this because this is the residual of how much the phone has been in everyone's face. I'm a part of the generation. I think it's very, very self-aware, like you said.

Well, especially because of the line of work and the career that you're in, right? To be thoughtful and aware of it. I mean, Lauren and I, I was looking at this meme the other day and we, it was like kids born between 87 and 91 with the last cusp to, we went through high school and college

without social media and stuff. I mean, we got basically like smartphones, which was like the ones with the screens and everything. We also had a buggy and a horse carriage. Like if you go on Facebook and hopefully it's been deactivated, you could see like my college nights out with a hundred photos from the same night. Sure, yes, yes, yes. On the Facebook albums. Yikes. But anyways, we were like on the cusp.

And so your generation has really had to grow up as the first test subjects to figure out like what it's like to come up with these things. In the rise of ADD, we are the rise of that. What are some tools that you use to help with anxiety to help alleviate it? very much, I try to be very aware of, I've heard one, I don't know, I'm like, heard one source call it popcorn scrolling, which is where you pick up your phone just when you have nothing else to do, just to look at it. And it's like when you're walking from your couch to the bathroom, you look at your phone and that's like, what, 10 seconds of time or however, whatever. And using your phone as just to fill the void for such small moments of time is really so bad for your brain. So I've been trying to just like that's a small step to take, you know, to be like, OK, I'm not going to bring my phone to the bathroom while I pee for a minute.

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out like if you don't know what's if you don't have your finger on the pulse you're left out next thing you know you don't know about wicked and you're just i don't know how you don't know it is like the largest marketing campaign you know you know why modern times because i just like i was talking about this on the way over here. What's crazy about the internet is there are things that are so big and so popular, and this exists for people too, but it's so big and so vast, depending on what's being served to you or not. I guarantee if I brought up some crazy thing that's popular in some other area, and you guys didn't know.

I think I would know. Unfortunately. Bring up something. I'm way too chronically at home. We're going to talk about Bitcoin My point is Anyways I just think that there's so much Information being thrown at us all the time

What are you supposed to even keep track of in your head That's why we got rid of the news a long time ago You didn't get rid of the news If you look at X everyday Let's be aware If you are waking up and staring at X You are looking at everything that's happening. It's the same thing.

It's a different format. Yeah, I don't watch TikTok anymore. We got rid of cable media during the pandemic. And people were like, what? Up in arms. How are you going to get informed? There is no problem finding information. It's too much information.

I think what you're saying about your phone, having boundaries, like you said, like I got off the phone on 20 minutes. I don't take my phone to the bathroom, which by the way, if you're taking your phone to your bathroom, you're probably getting fecal matter all over your phone and pee drops. A thousand percent.

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It's impressive. It's ruining my flow. Couldn't agree more. Couldn't agree more. And he likes to wake up and look at it, which is... It doesn't fuck up my flow. How do you know? I would love to not look at my phone for two hours.

Well, what time are you waking up? Seven. Okay. Well, that's... Okay. I feel like if I were to not look at my phone for two well what time are you waking up seven okay well that's okay i feel like if i were to not look at my phone for two hours i would come back to 100 text messages and be very overwhelmed okay so let me ask you this when you wake up do you go and respond to the text messages

i'm well so my dog usually wakes me up annoyingly these these days he woke me up at 2 a.m to go out yeah but i don't know why he's in this weird habit of waking me up at 2 a.m to go out yeah but i don't know why he's in this weird habit of waking me up at 2 a.m but he usually wakes me up at like 7 7 30 and i'll go let him out i won't touch my phone i won't bring my phone downstairs with me i'll let him out but then i go back to bed usually if i can if i can't then i'm like okay then i pick up the phone but i've created more boundaries with myself where i'm like, I don't need to answer someone immediately. It's this anxiety part of me. If I see a message, I answer it right away.

I want to be prompt. I want to get back to that person. But I kind of found that in doing that, I was crossing my own boundaries of, oh, I actually don't want to be on my phone right now or I'm actually taking on too much at one time. So I started being, you know, just being more aware of, oh, I can, that person can wait a few hours. Like it's not going to kill them. I can give myself also some space to get back to them instead of trying to rush and answer people immediately. I think that's great. I think anyone that expects to come into your personal space on your time and take your time better not expect an answer right back

they're asking for your time and you responding like right away like you said like you you used to is reactive it's not proactive also sometimes you have to think about the answer sure i changed my number smart you know what changes your life people wow that's it and then everyone messaged me and now it's what's her number you don't respond so that's fine but i was gonna ask there's different ways to do it he just doesn't respond well well i was gonna ask you were you anxious as a kid very why i had a weird home body attachment like i want i wanted to be home i didn't do good at sleepovers. I was attached to my mom.

I wanted to be at home. I felt safe there. I had social anxiety. So I just kind of always never felt super comfortable going to even birthday parties as a kid. And that was kind of a weird signal to my mom. Like, okay, my kid I think has some social anxiety going on. And then it just kind of got unfortunately unfortunately, worse as I got older. Were you like a people pleaser?

No. It's no? No. Because I was interested, because when you were talking about that feeling, this need to get back to people. I think it's just anxiety, because I would rather deal with it now than give it to my future self. I think it's a pressure she puts on herself for achievement.

It's like she wants to... I understand that you want to get back to people prompt you want to be professional it's i mean i understand that well i think the way i look at text messaging i so i look at phone calls like out of the blue are just wild i never will never answer my friends my family now do not call me and if you're calling me someone was murdered call me in the morning i'm like literally i know when my phone is ringing from my mother i'm being told bad news like i do not i because we literally i just don't i don't talk on the phone i facetime like every now and then which is even asking a lot then i think a text message you have to like if i'm sending a

text my perspective is i'm sending it to somebody that will choose on their time when to get back. And then an email, I think it's like a professional. That's nice. You're the only one in the world that feels like that. No, because well,

text is wild because you're just supposed to like, you know, just, they just, I have a friend that does question mark, question mark, question, question mark until I answer.

Like how many unread texts do you have? Yeah. Let's, let's, let's look at yours too. 201. Okay. I know off the top of my head i have five unread five okay yeah what do i have but i cleared this so what because it's i have 35 i think that's decent i don't answer though we've talked about this on the show how am i supposed to get back to 201 messages that you're too far gone my friend

do you know what i do once like every few, I go in and do a mass delete. Just delete? Just delete. Don't read. And I figure if it's important, it'll somehow get to me. Never to be seen again. Never to be seen again. These four messages.

How far back does the 200th one go? No, I do it once a week. I go mass delete. So these are just from a week? Yeah, because Lauren changed her number. So I got mine. Oh, no. Oh, my God.

I also don't answer my husband's texts. Sure. I don't like to answer his texts. I like to make him, you know. Squirm. Yeah. Yeah, squirmity squirm. But you know, I do have text messages that I put in the little bubble in the top.

Yeah. They're like the pinned ones. Then I'm like, okay, I'll get back. But sometimes if it's just. I don't have that problem. I don't have 200 people texting me. I'm going to change my number. That I just saw on here.

And give them my number. Yeah, give them someone else's number. Give me your number after this. I don't have 200 people texting me. I'm going to change my number. That I just saw on here. Give them my number. Yeah, give them someone else's number. Give me your number after this. I need it for something. 2018 at Glamour's Women of the Year Summit, you talked about body image, and this is really interesting what you said. We aren't born with these insecurities.

We're told to be insecure. Does that have to do with social media? Can you expand on that? I mean, we grew up in the time of People magazine and, you know, seeing at the newsstand at the grocery store pictures of celebrities without makeup on with the headline like, ugly. And that's just absolutely insane. And, you know, I would grow up watching America's Next Top Model with my sister and watching them stand on a scale in front of everyone else and say their weights out loud. And, you know, if someone was a certain weight, everyone would be like, ooh, that's not good. Is that true?

I didn't watch that show. Yes, that was absolutely in one of the episodes. They weighed them on? I remember it, yes. Because I remember I think it was one woman weighed 130 pounds and everyone was like not good it was like she was immediately in the plus size category which is the craziest thing i've ever heard in my life genuinely and i think i was what watching that when i was 13 so i was seeing these parameters that I had to be in I was like you know I didn't want to be a model but I was seeing these just like oh this is what women are supposed to

okay so I need to fit in that I need to fit in this category I need to look like that I need to make sure like they were absolutely like they would have people be like your skin looks like shit get it fixed like it was just like they were everything was torn apart about these women and i was watching this on like a thursday night with my sister just downloading these ideas into my brain and i think i don't i mean i don't know these cultures that exist on planet earth that don't watch television i'm sure they're not dealing with body image issues maybe maybe i don't know but i i don't think so because i think it's born and bred in this well what we think about like even well magazines and like newspapers in

the 50s or whatever selling diet pills for women like it's kind of just always been if you have mass media in a culture it's going to shove the idea down your throat that you need to be now it's ozempic and it's um i mean i my entire tiktok and i don't know why because i'm not engaging with these ads i'm not liking them it's all digestive enzymes and it's every other ad i'm seeing as a woman being like I can eat whatever I want and look as thin as I you know whatever because and then you know they're selling on their little TikTok digestive enzymes or like this stupid tea that I'm sure doesn't work I just am oh I just can't believe like the week of Thanksgiving I'm looking at my phone and TikTok and just seeing these ads for how to stay skinny, how to stay skinny.

And I just can't believe and I was going to maybe I have to pick and choose my battles, but I was going to maybe post a little TikTok or at least like a story being like, I can't believe how every other ad I'm seeing on this app is telling me how to lose weight or how to stay skinny. And that's all, you know, these have 30,000 likes. And women, I'm sure, are buying them left and right because if you tell someone this is going to make you skinny in two seconds, you're going to fool a lot of people. But it's probably American. So it's American to me. But 76% what happens when everyone's doing it?

Then the body trend will change, I bet. We went to this. Because then they'll not want to be a part of the mass. They'll want to be like, oh no, we need to accentuate curves now again and make that more on trend because that will separate me from the masses. Once it becomes a mass thing and the masses have

access to it, it will shift. It's exhausting. Do you know who Brian Johnson is? Sounds so familiar. The guy that's trying to live forever. Oh, that guy's scary. He's been on show and he's actually a friend. Sorry. If you met him, you'd like it. The idea of living forever is scary to me.

So we went to a dinner at his house and hopefully Brian's okay with this story. But, um, he basically, one of the questions he asked at this, like it was like this intimate dinner table where it's like a Jeffersonian style dinner and you have to basically like someone asks a question and then everyone around the table waits and responds and like everyone listens to each other.

It's very nice actually. Yeah. But he was saying if there was an algorithm that existed, that if you followed it, it would give you like perfect, like meaning like you'd be perfect in a mental state, you'd be perfect physically, like it would give you exactly what you need to do, but you had to follow it to a T. Would you do it? Yes or no. And that could include like, you have to go to bed at four o'clock in the morning and you have to eat at and you had no choice but to follow it and he asked all the people if they would or not but yeah but anyways all these people at the table were like quick to say no i still say no but then he gave the example he's like well look how quick people were to adopt the glp-1 that says you take a shot here and then you eat at this time you do this and how fast

people were adopted as imagine in the future more of these things coming out and how quickly people will adopt like that's the direction he believes society's moving in it's like in the future we're all just going to be taking all these things and kind of giving up more autonomy and saying like like come on what do you think is something wild about the entertainment industry like if you could change one thing and wave a wand i guess it would be and i think denzel washington just said this about like when he was doing his press tour with for gladiator he was saying like when i was coming up in this industry we did not have to see the opinions of every person on the fucking planet and i think if i could change anything, I guess it would be the idea that like when you are an actor or singer in the public eye, you're basically raising your hand to be ripped to shreds. And it's very discouraging.

And it makes me at times I've absolutely wanted to quit. I've been like, I'm actually can't do this anymore and I'm going to go live on a farm in somewhere else. Would you ever do that? Possibly. Michelle Pfeiffer and Demi Moore, I feel like. I know Amanda Seyfried lives in a farm somewhere like she, or maybe not a farm. I don't want to, she lives somewhere not in a populated area for her mental health. And I think I see why. I understand why. The internet only writes really kind things about Lauren.

To your point, to what you said earlier. And me as well. I don't actually deal with this problem personally. You only find uplifting positive. Yes, yes, yes. Of course. To your point with what you said way early, where you feel like you do something like Riverdale and then you have to, it's like, what's next? What's next?

There's something kind of cool. And I keep talking about this when I'm on the podcast about absence. Absence is underrated. Absolutely. And it should be used to people's advantage. I don't want to see what someone eats for breakfast seven days a week. For sure. Hold back a little. I hear you. A little art of absence goes a long way and I think like that could maybe take the pressure off anyone who's an actress.

Like it feels like I almost feel like I want to be like a cat sometimes and go away. Yes. Don't they go away to die? But don't you feel

they just like they spell out. Don't they go away just to die? Yeah, but you could just go away and then you can come back when it works for you i had a cat do that i never found it it went off we can't talk about your childhood trauma this is not about you it was an 18 year old cat so it had a good run yeah it had never to be found no but that's what they do they just scurry off and die somewhere okay they don't want

to be found okay the art of absence that's not you lauren you're gonna leave like a whole you're gonna have a whole thing for you there's something something there, though, to just go away. I agree. And I feel that when I, and I was saying this, like when I have a show coming out or when I have a movie or when I'm obviously talking about my skincare line like a lot and I'm more in the public eye, I find that I am a lot more anxious in these periods of my life because I'm more in the public eye and being in the public eye makes me uncomfortable and usually like causes me a lot of stress and unhappiness to be to be honest which is ironic being an actor but like when you're on a set working in like a little bubble it's very different from when you're promoting it and again when you're promoting anything when you guys are putting yourselves out there as these hosts and like releasing your shows, you're putting your face out there.

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hurt your feelings today because you've seen it so many times. It will roll off my back, I think more than it did when I was 19 and I was very reactive and I was very much like quick to defend myself. I think like if you're gonna call me something or accuse me of something or say some shit that's just like hurtful or not true my 19 year old self was ready to go and and to defend and to go to battle and to say that's not true and unfortunately me doing that to one person is not going to change the internet or the world so I think over time I've just learned like I can't go to battle with these people because I kind of just look at it like this if you are unless it's like i won't say that we won't get political but i'm saying like i'm like can we bully one person just one but if you are raising

your hand and like publicly on a profile on facebook on instagram on twitter if you are taking time out of your day to type the most obscene evil mean-spirited comment to someone that you don't fucking know. You are, to me, literally outing yourself as an incredibly unhappy person. No happy person does that. A person who is happy and confident and comfortable in their lives is not on Facebook fighting with strangers.

It's also low vibration. What you give out comes back to you. The thousand percent vibrate. Like that is, you're showing me the lowest vibrational energy possible, ma'am. Thank you very much. I think that's also like a healthy way to look at it. Because if you look at a person like that, it's hard then to be upset because you almost in a weird way feel empathy that someone's in that position.

But empathy's always gonna, you're like, okay, let's choose empathy and let's choose compassion because this person's clearly... I'm like, I'm so sorry for you. What is your home address? I'm coming over right now to talk to you. But it's like, yeah, why are you... I wonder about those people who hide behind an Instagram message.

Is it Oscar Wilde or Mark Twain? If you acknowledge it, they'll immediately apologize. No, they don't. I've tried. Really? Yeah, no. They double down. They double down. like they'll immediately apologize is it no i don't i've tried really oh yeah no they double down oh they double down they double down well they're probably 19 looking for a fight you know what i mean not necessarily there's that quote that says yeah sometimes i've had some middle-aged men come for me and then double down which is always like middle-aged men middle-aged men on

x which is why i deleted x what are you doing back there taylor is that you no but they say the only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about. Yes. So it's, yeah, I think I disagree. But think about it this way. I think we all like, you know, fantasize, okay, we're going to go live on a farm

and nobody's going to talk to us. Then you sit on that farm for like a week and this one's kind of. No, a thousand percent. You'd be bored. You'd be very bored. But like. I like a toe in the farm, a toe out of the farm i make sure yeah

a little bit yeah i had a buddy that said to me he's like listen michael they ain't hating on you you're not doing it right and i was like oh i don't know if that's good advice or not well yeah what there's something like if no successful you know what is it the critics something about critics the problem is of course i don't know if you're somebody that puts yourself out there in any way and shares an opinion of any kind with conviction behind it, there's no possible way to keep everyone happy. So there's going to be somebody at any given time that's upset. Absolutely. You mentioned off-air spirituality.

What does that look like for you? Is it a daily practice? Is it like certain books that you can point to? What are things that you do i really 2020 was like my hub of spirituality because it was the the forced inside forced time with yourself kind of chapter of my life and i really went inwards and deeply and was working with my therapist and was reading a lot of self-help books and I went on the quest to become a Reiki master. Cool. And because I was given, had received Reiki a few times from this makeup artist that worked

on Riverdale seasons one and two. And she was, I just thought it was such an incredible thing to be able to like put your hands over someone and transfer help steer energy into their in and then through their body and i thought okay i'm going through this you know 2020 was hard for everyone i think and i'm going through this hard chapter of my life i want to pursue this and if i can help heal myself i'm gonna do it and so i pursued uh reiki through i found two teachers because I lived in my 20s most of the year in Vancouver where I shot Riverdale and so I found two teachers in Vancouver who taught me over the course of I think it was two years Reiki, Reiki level one, Reiki level two and then my mastery. It was like really tight up there too right you looked like full lockdown up there.

For a year I was yeah so for like filming of one season you would go to canada you would quarantine for two weeks and then you were in there for five months and then i went home self quarantine yeah no i quarantined with two girls from my show yeah so no yeah i was not i that would have been horrible yeah but yeah so spirituality today i think for me looks a lot like I still love a good self-help book or a spiritual book and I love I do like meditation I'm doing kind of some hypnosis therapy sessions with my therapist I see my therapist I have a lot of healers so I will go do like a session with my healer who lives in Bali like over zoom obviously I'm not flying to

I wish I can't I can't take that plunge yet. I'm like, I don't know if I can travel to Bali. It's a lot. It's like two days of travel. And I don't know if I can handle it. I bet it's amazingly healing there to do. I mean, absolutely. Ceremonies.

Well, I would go see her. She comes to Mount Shasta. Okay. Do you know where that is? No. It's in Northern California and it's in northern california and it's a very high vibrational very spiritual place that's where you had the farm that's really it's a really beautiful special place i'd like to go there and i've gone i think four times and she's

i've gone to see her and i went and saw her in uh sedona actually this year in march that also that place has like sed Sedona. Yeah. Crazy energy. Weird, weird energy. Cool. But like amazing. I love it. Yeah.

The one time, she was explaining to me Reiki and I was like, okay, we'll go try this. That tripped me out because I felt like I was there for two minutes and it was like an hour and a half. Are you ready for this?

Wow. Reiki flipped my baby. I believe it. So my baby was breech breach i was two weeks into giving birth and they told me your baby's breach like we have to manually flip it and i was like no no no i'm gonna tell my baby to flip i'm gonna like i'm gonna open space in my stomach and relax so much that the baby has room to flip and the doctors literally were like you're crazy well i told her she was crazy too so i was there so i went to this girl she's

recommended by my friend carly her name is sage she's this amazing energy great name master she's in encinitas at an acupuncture center and she gave me reiki and i was laying there i was you know how you're asleep but awake like i never fall asleep but oh yeah like a transcendental sort of like brainwave i felt the baby flip because i was my nervous system was so relaxed that the baby had room to flip and i felt the baby flip then i went and and told Michael the baby flipped. He's like, you're fucking crazy. I said, book an ultrasound tomorrow. The baby was flipped. Yeah, tripped me out.

True story. And so now you're a believer. I also guessed my son's birthday in a dream, and he thinks... It's true, she did. Was it the exact date? I said, the baby's... He's going to be born on 69. 69.

Yeah, I was going to say, what day of the month is 69? She does weird shit like that. But the baby's, he's going to be born on 69. 69. Yeah, I was going to say, what day of the month is 69? She does weird shit like that. But the point is, Reiki does 100% work, I think. You have to believe it. Yeah, for sure. I mean, you have to believe in anything, I think, for it to work. But it makes sense if you're so relaxed and your nervous system is so, like, just calm vibration.

Like, your body has room to do what it needs to do. Yeah, I agree. Tell us about why you decided to start your skincare line personal day. Tell us how it became a seed of an idea and then how you sort of executed it. Well, I mean, speaking of like, I mean, we're talking about mental health

and spirituality and all these things. I, my skin very much reflects what's going on on the inside and your skin looks beautiful right now and you're probably using your products it looks really i do i have i got a nice pimple from my my travel day yesterday but it's all good i basically have struggled with acne since i was 12 and getting into the industry just kind of exacerbated that like it just you're wearing makeup 16 hours aated that. Like it just, you're wearing makeup 16 hours a day, you're traveling, you're on, you're, you know, it's a lot. There's lights,

there's people touching your face a lot. It's just, it's a lot. And so my skin was sort of getting worse as I was getting older, which was kind of crazy because like I was, you know, out of my teens, I was like, okay, finally my skin's going to calm down and it's's gonna start to heal because people don't have acne in their 20s right and then that's a fun surprise that um you do and then and I do at 28 and basically I started seeing I went on Accutane twice for my acne so I like had cystic acne to the point where I felt that I needed to go on Accutane which if people don't know what that is, it's basically like what people say is the cure for acne, even though it's usually only temporary. Some people it works forever and they're, you know, it's great for them, but it's

so horrible on your body and wreaks a lot of havoc, but it's an oral pill I went on that twice and when I went on the first time when I got off of it my acne came back with a vengeance and so I had to go back on it because I was in the middle of filming so I was like I can't just walk around with this my whole forehead covered in bumps so I went back on it and as I was weaning off of it I was working with my esthetician Sarah Ford and she was saying, okay, well, are you looking at, because my acne kept, it just kept coming back. And it was like, what the fuck is going on? What am I putting on my skin that's creating this reaction? And she said, well, are you looking at the ingredients in your skincare? And I said, no. So I went home and I

was on my little laptop in my bathroom and copy and pasting the ingredients of like all my skincare that I was using and makeup products into an ingredient checker, which we now have on our website, personalday.com, where you can plug in the ingredients, like copy and paste. And it shows you, it highlights in red the ingredients that are acne triggering ingredients or pore clogging or whatever. And I was realizing that like 90% of the stuff I was using on my face had acne triggering ingredients in it. And give us some names of things that you, if you, I know it's like a lot of butters, a lot of oils, anything with fragrance. I stay away if something's scented, I have to stay away from it. But a lot of butters and a lot of oils and like phthalates and parabens and all the nasty stuff but it's

things that like you wouldn't think you know you'd be like I've never heard of this in my life but then it pops up and a lot of times you can't pronounce these things but you're like oh that's an ingredient that I'm putting on my face so I was kind of it clicked in my brain because the idea of starting a brand had been proposed to me and I I was like, maybe a skincare line because I'm so passionate about skincare. I've talked about it forever. And it's been a passion of mine that I felt that I could just trust as someone with sensitive acne prone skin that I could use that wouldn't trigger new acne breakouts because I'm like looking at all these products and it's saying you know they're all from different skincare lines are all from different brands and they all were having these acne triggering ingredients in them so I wanted to create a line that had no acne triggering ingredients in them

across the board. So you could use the moisturizer and a peel or a cleanser and know that none of them had those ingredients that would trigger a new breakout. Like someone with acne prone skin, if you see something and someone says that it works, you're like, yeah, I need to try it. I have to try this thing if it's going to help my skin. But you always have that fear of trying something new is going to break you out, or I do, especially like makeup products, whatever. Trying anything new is very scary because I have very sensitive skin. So I wanted to create a line that felt kind of like a safe haven for people who were looking for help with their acne and they knew that they could trust that nothing in the line would trigger a

breakout. And it's dermatologist developed. Yeah, we developed with our dermatologist, Dr. Mamina Taragano. We have our board of advisors. We have Dr. Courtney Tracy, who's a mental health professional. And because we wanted mental health to be a big pillar of the skincare line. I've talked about my depression and anxiety since people knew who I was for 10 years now. And I know personally the effects that acne has on my confidence and my mental health. Very hard. When I have a breakout, the way that it makes me want to hide from the world. And I really wanted that aspect of, I really wanted compassion and empathy for people with acne to come through with this brand. And I guess I think, you know, calling it personal day is a reflection of taking a moment for yourself and self-care. And I think like investing in

skincare is self-care. For me, it always has been. But actually, I mean, the products are all under $40. Which product would you start with? I mean, for people who are struggling with acne, I would definitely say the Doing the Work Salicylic Acid Acne Treatment because that's the one that really is going to like, it has the salicid in it and has two other actives in it, not just two, multiple actives in it that are going to target your breakouts. But also with each product, like the more you use them over time, the better your skin gets over time. So we have luxury skincare ingredients in the product. Like I'm a skincare girl. I love skincare and having acne kind of makes you feel left out because you can't just try all these

things and try all the bougie products. but we have like our niacinamide and squalene like we have the bougie ingredients in the line so you're getting that plus the acne michael's gonna add the cleansing powder and i'm gonna try this too it's like you told me it's like a powder that turns into like yeah like a foamy lather cute so that's amazing yeah it's really you get your palms michael is very into skin care your palms wet and then you dump a little beep beep beep beep little powder and you rub it in and it turns into like this nice foam that's really smart it's really nice it's nice too when you're traveling all my shit always spills everywhere i've tested this myself

tried and true this little cap it's it locks. You can hear it. It locks into place. I just have flown with it multiple times. It's never opened up. I think our audience would love that. Can we have a code? Do we have a code? We have a code. I think it's skinny on personalday.com.

Go use code skinny at personalday.com. You get 15% off site-wide. I would definitely start with what Lily recommended, and then I'm going to definitely check out that cleansing powder. I think that's genius. The brand's also really pretty. You want it out, I feel like. It's not something you want to hide.

Where can everyone follow you? You have 23 million followers, so I think the whole audience is already following you. No, not true. But where can they find you? Where can they follow you? Where can they support what you're doing? I mean, I'm on Instagram, just Lily Reinhart.

And TikTok is my name as well. And I just joined Threads. Okay. Because I was like, I'm getting off of, no offense to you, X. I can't handle it anymore. I didn't build it. No, I know. So I got off of that one.

You know what, though? It's a little masculine. It's a little heavy in the masculinity, isn't it? Yeah. It needs a feminine balance. Not only to take with it, like, this guy is still on X on x he's in the conspiracy i do have to say something to you i was going to tell you off air but i'll just say it on air sometimes all the time not all the time 90 of the time when you interview a very famous person or a celebrity there's a lot of guardrails

it feels sometimes a little robotic when you're interviewing them yeah you do not feel like that it's a compliment it's it's it's she's humanized something and and i think you should always be like this don't ever change it's so it's frustrating as you know as interview hosts to interview someone that it's like yeah you like what are we even talking about yes or no answers and you are just very open so i think it's cool thank you yeah that was awesome thank you come back anytime thank you to shop lily's skincare line go to personalday.com and use code skinny for 15 off