The Skinny Confidential Him & Her Podcast - Marianna Hewitt & Lauren Gores Ireland Like You've Never Heard Them Before - Tactics For Success As Creators, Founders, Entrepreneurs, & Hustlers

Episode Date: August 2, 2021

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The following podcast is a Dear Media production. She's a lifestyle blogger extraordinaire. Fantastic. And he's a serial entrepreneur. A very smart cookie. And now Lauren Everts and Michael Bostic are bringing you along for the ride. Get ready for some major realness. Welcome to The Skinny Confidential, him and her.

Aha! We wouldn't do Summer Fridays the exact same way if we started today versus three years ago because it's just different. And I feel like now everything changes so fast. Like even year to year, I try to evaluate both on like a personal end and then also on our business end of what's working, what's resonating. How do we need to change things? How are we reaching people? Because it just constantly changes. And that's where I think you have to be so open to that change.

I feel like as new influencers or anything or brand now, niche is so important because if you go to somebody, you want to go to them for a reason. And if you don't have a niche, then have a personality because then you can only get the personality from that person. The episode that you've been waiting for, this has been a long time coming. You are going to meet the duo behind Summer Fridays. Some of you, all of you may be familiar with their blue jet

leg mask. It is iconic all over Instagram. You've seen it over all the skincare gurus feeds. I'm sure you've tried it. It's an amazing product. They also have lots of different products. My personal favorite, I have to say, and I talk about it in this episode, is their lip butter. It is absolutely incredible. The brand is owned by Marianna Hewitt and Lauren Gores. Marianna Hewitt is a huge beauty influencer. She also has a podcast on the Dear Media Network,

and it's called Life with Marianna. And then Lauren Gores is a mother, an entrepreneur, a badass, an influencer. Both of them together have made this really massive brand. I personally have so much respect for this as a content creator because I know that it's very difficult to manage content creation, podcasting, all the things that come with it, motherhood, and then to add being a founder of a business is a whole different layer. So what they've created together is really, really impressive.

And we picked their reign about their entire journey. This was a really fun interview to do. It's very full circle. I actually interviewed Mariana on The Skinny Confidential 600 years ago. When she had first started out as a television host, I saw her Instagram and I thought, wow, this woman is so influential. I need to interview her. If you want to see that interview, you can literally Google The Skinny Confidential Mariana and it will come up. It's so vintage. And then Lauren Gores just

creates the most incredible, beautiful content. Her Instagram feed is absolutely gorgeous. And her journey as a mother of two is so inspiring to me. With that, let's welcome both of the Summer Fridays founders to the Skinny Confidential Him and Her Show. This is the Skinny Confidential Him and Her. I told you this a little bit off air, but I want to hear your story before you guys were this big business. I want to go back to when you were like five and six and seven and talk about all the little things that you did that you think set you up to be where you are. Well, I'll say that we have a common goal of like we both wanted to be Oprah when we grew up and we still do. We are obsessed with Oprah. So what do you mean? How old are you when you

decide you want to be Oprah? I maybe was like five or six, honestly. I love, we both have an obsession with Oprah, but we also have, we have some like similar things with our upbringing too, just in terms of like our parents, how we split our time. We both split our time between our mom and our dads. And I feel like there's been these certain similarities

over time. And I think a lot of that is why we work so well together now. And so what happened was we both wanted to go to school to be TV hosts and news anchors because we wanted to be like Oprah when we grew up. So we're both from the Midwest, Ohio and Michigan. We both went to school. Lauren graduated and became a news anchor. I wanted to become a TV host.

And then we both started our blogs at the same time. But weren't you doing some TV hosting before? You were? Okay. And Laura was a news anchor, like a real news anchor. I lived in the middle of Missouri and I was a morning news anchor there for about four years. That is brutal. It's tough time. It was rough hours. I had to be at work at 1.30 every morning. You needed an ice roller.

I needed an ice roller and I didn't have one then. When you have to wake up at 1.30 in the morning and you have to be on air and it starts to become miserable, your dream that you think is your dream. And then you realize, oh shit, I didn't realize what this was. I think all dreams have a little bit of that, right? I mean, all dreams look really dreamy in your mind and to the outside world. And then when you're actually in it, there's always the hard stuff. I will say that I still really love, I didn't love the hours, but I loved what I did. I really loved feeling like I was waking up Missouri and I loved like having that intimacy

with people who were watching that show. So I feel like it just, it transitioned into something that I'm doing now that there's like some similar overlaps where I feel like now I can have this intimacy with my community that I have a lot more control over and I don't have to get up at 1.30 in the morning, which is great. But I feel like that also just made me appreciate now my schedule, what I'm able to do. Like when you get up at 1.30 in the morning for four years, you like really appreciate, you know, waking up at seven. At your age, I was going to bed at 1.30. You're waking up. That's great. Yeah. I was waking up. It's so fun for me to hear about what influencers and entrepreneurs did like this. That

is something that got you closer to your goal. Even if you didn't realize it at the same time, like for instance, I was obsessed with scrapbooking and everyone's like, you're not going to make money scrapbooking. And now we're scrapbooking for a living online. So it's so interesting to me to like hear all the little puzzle pieces that got people to where they are now. It's like me. It's like, I never shut the fuck up. And then now look what I'm doing. I'm just going to do it for fun. You don't stop talking. And here we are. I never listened and look at me now. So with you, Mariana, when you decided you wanted to go into hosting, I feel like you did a lot of things that maybe people who want to get into hosting aren't doing. Like I looked at your YouTube, you were putting yourself out there. You were creating your own content. You were

doing videos, but you were also hosting. What are some things that you did to get into hosting? So I think there's like two different career paths. So like with Lauren being a news anchor, you have to go to a small town, you have to anchor and you work your way up. When you want to be a TV host, basically when I moved to Los Angeles, it's like a catch 22. You can't get a job without a reel, but you can't build a reel without jobs. And then at this time, it was starting to be like celebrities starting to host things like at the time it was like Vanessa Manilow, like people like that. And so I would go on auditions and I would lose out every time to a celebrity when I would go on these jobs. So I took TV hosting classes and I built a fake reel, but I had to put this reel somewhere. So I put the reel on YouTube and that was in 2012. And so I would use this YouTube channel as a place

for this fake reel to try to get other jobs. And then because I had a YouTube channel with my fake reel, I started filming beauty content just because I had it. So it was like all the things that we wanted to do when we grew up. I just think it ended up becoming like a different platform and dream, but we always had this passion for sharing the things that we loved with an audience. We just thought it would have to be on television, but now with YouTube blog, Instagram, we can do it in our own way. We were literally talking about it in the car on the way here. Like think back then celebrities had to call people magazine, like, Oh, I'm having a baby. Do you want to cover this announcement? But now you're in control of everything. You can post everything you want online yourself. And so instead of having to hope that somebody hired us to be a host on a show, we have our own,

we hired ourselves. There's two things that you guys both have that I think is very unique and very essential to being an entrepreneur. The first thing is that you guys always find angles to get yourself into the door that you want to go through. I think a lot of people when they're told no, they just take that as no. It sounds like both of you weren't taking no. And the other thing that you guys have is execution. How important have those two things been to your career? Both really important. I think we also both have an openness to be very flexible and to change quickly. So when we're told no, it's not necessarily, okay, we have to find a yes in that exact

route, but it's we're going to find a yes that might take us down a different path, but we're still going to get to this goal that we have. And I think we still do that day to day in our business. Like we're told that things aren't possible all the time. And then we're like, okay, what's a new path that we can take to get there? And we always try to say like, we literally every day remind each other to be super open and super flexible because things change quickly. You know, something that we might've had in mind that we thought would work really well ends up not working. And so we pivot and our team pivots really well too. I would love to know separately each of your stories on how you got into the influencer world and like very granular and micro, like,

was there like an epiphany of how you got into it? When did you realize, oh my gosh, you know, this is something I can make money off of. I remember that I interviewed you on my blog so long ago and where I remember seeing you had influence and you're like, maybe not even going to remember this is there was a picture on your vanity and it was like lucite and it had all your makeup in it. And you had like little heart filter over it. Do you know what I'm talking about? No, I have no idea. You have to go scroll back. It was so long ago. And I was like, huh, I'm wondering what's in her vanity. I want to interview her. So is there like moments like that that you guys can go back to where you realized, holy shit, I can really make a career out of this? I think I didn't know that it was a career. So at the time, like you think now people

see influencers and they aspire to be an influencer. But at the time when you started and when we started, you had to really do it as a hobby, right? Like we weren't making money off of it. It was like genuinely like loving to create and post the things that you share. And so because we always had that passion, I think we wanted to do it on a different platform, but the internet gave us kind of a different place to do it. And so Lauren is a beautiful writer and for her having a blog and a space to like physically write words that she loved being like a journalist was a really great outlet for her. For me, I really loved video content.

I love sharing the products that I love. And, you know, I wanted to have my own Oprah's favorite things. But instead of having Oprah's favorite things, it was Marianna's favorite things. And I just genuinely like would be so offended if somebody asked or somebody bought something without asking me first. Like I love giving recommendations for like any and everything. And so, you know, I started my YouTube channel in 2012.

I started my Instagram in 2013. And by 2014, I could do it full time. Yeah, I would say mine was a longer journey on the influencer side. So I was broadcasting at the time and then I kind of had created this website just as like a journal. Honestly, I'd just gotten married. I was like, I'll just kind of write about things like new married life. And kind of to Marianna's point,

I'd moved to LA and a lot of the hosting jobs were going to celebrities or to big influencers kind of in that time. And I thought, okay, well, and everything that was on my reel were things that were hard news. So things like crime and politics and like, I was definitely not getting a job that was something lifestyle based. So I kind of just started this website on the side and started doing like DIY type things. Like it was the days of like Lauren Conrad. Yes. And it was very much like this kind of, that was like for definitely the kind of vibe that I was kind of trying to achieve. And I wasn't making any money on it. I was just trying to create like beautiful content. I was still broadcasting. And then I noticed that I really loved it. I loved to also write on it, but I wasn't making any money

yet at this point. And I thought, okay, I'm going to really try going into like more wellness focused things. I've always loved my workouts and I've always loved, you know, clean beauty and things like that. So I started focusing more on that, but I still wasn't really making a full career out of it. And to be honest, I really didn't make a career out of it until the year that I was pregnant with Evan, my now son, he's four. And the year that I was pregnant with him was also the year that we came up with this idea for Summer Fridays. And during that year was like the first year that I really started to monetize off of my influencer work. So the nice part is that I already had kind of laid that foundation for years. I mean, for almost like

a year and a half, two years prior to making money on it, I had had this site and I was writing and I understood the space, but I think it was like once something felt so genuine and authentic to me, which was like this role of new motherhood and starting a business and sharing things like my wellness journey, that's when I was able to really monetize off of it. But it took me a lot longer than Mariana to do that. And I feel like for aspiring influencers now, they have to understand like Lauren and I and you two, like we created content for free every single day for so many years before we made any money off of it. People don't touch on that enough now, because I think like, especially like sitting in the dear media seat now, like one of the first questions I get is like, how am I going to

make money? And it's, it's easy to have that conversation when someone has an established platform like it, but it's, but this is all three of you as like years and years of back work. Right. So it's like, okay, you can like talk through that and kind of estimate based on like where it is. But so many people come in and like, that's the first question. I always tell people, like the first question you should ask yourself as a creator is, how can I create content that people actually care about? Because if you do that, the other stuff takes care of itself. But nobody wants to do that. Everyone just wants to know, how do I make money? How do I make money? You have to genuinely want to be a content creator, influencer, podcast host. You can't

do it thinking like, oh, I'm going to be this big time person and make all of this money because it's really difficult and competitive now. There are spaces for everybody to succeed, but you have to genuinely want to do it because even now as a working influencer, 90 something percent of the work that you create every single day is still for free. Every single piece of content you post is not monetized. So regardless of getting some sponsored work, you still want to genuinely create the stuff every day because you actually like it. So if you don't like being on camera or taking pictures of yourself or doing this, maybe being an influencer isn't the right role for you because you have to want to put yourself out there and do that for free all the time.

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influencer today without the platform you've already built, would you take the same strategies you took in the beginning? Would you do it completely differently? Because I think people look at you guys and they'll look at a Summer Fridays and they'll look at your platforms and say, hey, that's what I want to be. But what I'll try to point out is that you can't take that same strategy because you guys probably wouldn't do that strategy today either. No, I mean, I think it would be a different strategy. Even with Summer Fridays and Summer Fridays is three years old versus our influencer backgrounds being much older than that. We wouldn't do Summer Fridays the exact same way if we started today versus three years ago, because it's just

different. And I feel like now everything changes so fast, like even year to year, I try to evaluate both on like a personal end and then also on our business end of what, what's working, what's resonating, how do we need to change things? How are we reaching people? Because it just constantly changes. And that's where I think you have to be so open to that change. I feel like as new influencers or anything or brand now niche is so important because if you go to somebody, you want to go to them for a reason. And if you don't have a niche, then have a personality because then you can only get the personality from that person. But I feel like if I'm looking for gluten-free recipes, if I find a gluten-free

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but I still go to your blog. Like there's not a lot that I actually go to, but on yours, I feel like there's a lot of resources. It's very detailed and you have a lot of like links and information. So if I'm searching for something, I know I can go there and it's a very like long detailed thing, but it's because it's providing some information and it's also evergreen. So like if I'm looking for something a year from now, I know that I can go to your site and I'm going to find all of the information there. And I feel like you do a really good job of making people go there. Swipe up because I'm going to tell you the full story here. I'm not going to give you the whole thing. Swipe up. She does that actually in stories that she tells me in person as well. I get the first part and then I have to do this whole rabbit hole to figure out the rest of the

story. I'm not kidding. She's like, check this resource and come back and talk about it. Yeah, it's weird, man. What is a tip that is so tiny and little that you think makes a big difference? Maybe a tip you haven't talked about with influencing. There's this book that I just picked up. I have not read it yet, but everyone says that you have to read it if you want to go into the influencer world called invite me. And it's all about how you include everyone and you don't make it seem like it's this exclusive party that people can't get into. And I think that's really interesting. Is there any like little tip that you do every day that's so tiny, but you think it makes a big difference over time? What shifted for me is I started really telling myself in stories, especially in talking stories that I was talking to my good friends. Like these were

people that were in my home. These are best friends of mine. How would I speak with them? And that made a significant difference in how it was received. Whereas before, I think I went through this phase and I was kind of trying to figure out how to be authentically myself digitally, which sounds easy when you say it, but you know, it like takes some time to figure out how to actually come across as you through a screen. And that took me a little bit of time. And now I think about that every single time I open up the phone, I'm like, what would I send to my sister right now? Or like, what would I tell my best friend? And that has really helped, I think,

with just having that connection to people. And then I think for me, it's just tagging brands all the time. So I think influencers now are like, I don't want to give anything for free. But I'm like, you're working with brands. If you are an influencer, you should be tagging and posting brands all the time. If you're working with the brand, I like to show extra love either before or after the post. I always throw up like an extra swipe up link or whatever. And like, if you want to be a working influencer, you need to have stats to show the brand. So don't feel like, oh, I'm not

going to post anything because I don't want to give away something for free. No, like think of this as added value and the brand will want to work with you because of these things. Because on the brand side, we know every single time somebody tags Summer Fridays, we know every time they have a swipe up link. We have so much data on the back end on these like platforms that we use that even if you're not on our radar and you're tagging our brand all the time, we'll know who you are. So if you want to work with a brand, I feel like buy their products, tag their stuff, swipe up on their stuff.

And like, don't think of it as like free work. You know why people get that confused? I think like if you came to a place like Dear Media and I said, work for free as a salaried employer or team member at Dear Media. Like that, that would be weird, right? People were like, why would I do that here? But when you're an influencer and you're building your own business and your own thing, and you're taking full control and like setting your own terms, like people get a twist because they think I'm selling myself short or I shouldn't do stuff for free. But that's what

happens when you build any business, right? Like when you guys build summer parties, you've probably done a ton of things for free, right? Or like this for, like I didn't take a salary out of this business for two years or like Lauren in a podcast, all these things. And I'm like, if you want to have the audacity to like set your own terms and build your own brand, your own thing,

like there's so many things you got to do for free. And I think influencers get that twisted and think I'm only going to do something to get paid, but they forget there's so many people that are out there doing all this stuff and hustling so hard to get to that next level. Like you kind of, you kind of have to, I think just eliminate the word paid and monetize and money from your vocabulary for a while. And also what you said, it's, it's coming from an abundance mindset as opposed from scarcity. We are living in a time where there's

enough for everyone. You can tag brands, you can support small businesses without having this pompous egotistical attitude of, I have to get paid. It's a very short term strategy. It's not long term. When you guys know, I imagine you've gotten a ton of campaigns by starting with doing free work, right? Yeah. I mean, even I like got a campaign a few weeks ago from just literally commenting on one of Marianna's posts and I was telling her how much I loved the bag. And then that company reached out and I ended up doing a paid partnership with them. And that also just kind of goes to show like the more love and support I think that you can show your peers online and liking people's

posts, commenting on them. And we talk about this all the time, like show that support. And we are full believers that that support comes back to you full circle. You both are really good at that. I noticed, but I see that you guys are very supportive of other brands, other communities. That's another scarcity versus abundance mindset. Yeah. We think there's room for everyone. There's more than enough room for everyone. There's so much room. It's bad advice when these business consultants give people that are pursuing this type of career that advice, they only do stuff if you're paid. I think it's like, because I know a lot of people give that advice. I think it's terrible advice. Yeah. And it's like, do you think about the potential of something versus just what is

it short term, but what does this have the potential to be? And it's an investment. I want to know how you started summer Fridays, but I want to know like what the first conversation was, or I want to know what the first, like really take us back to like the story of how you guys started it and then how it's sort of tumbleweeded. So this is in 2016. Um, and we wanted to do something together and Lauren then was like very early pregnant with Evan. Yeah, it was, I, it was seven weeks pregnant. Uh, I don't even know if I, you didn't tell me. I think I was still seven weeks pregnant. Uh, I don't even know if I you didn't tell me I I think I was still like yeah pretty quiet with telling people I was really really early pregnant and we went

On a coffee date and we had been at this point We'd kind of been talking and like we knew we wanted to create something together We didn't know exactly what that was going to be why together And I want to know why because I mean did you guys just like each other a lot? Like what what was the reason that you felt synergy? Did just like each other a lot? Like what was the reason that you felt synergy? Did you like each other's content? Like did you just, you wanted something clean? Like what was the energy like?

I think, well, one, we had known each other for many years at this point. So we've been friends for more than a decade now. I don't know how many years we were friends in 2016, but it was a while. We had known each other for a long time, but I also wouldn't start a business with every single one of my friends. You know, There's very few people that I would actually want to

create a business with. I think for the two of us, we had this innate trust in each other. We also have the same type of drive. We're very goal-driven. We're very flexible. We're very forgiving. We're very open. And I think when you have that inherent trust and when you have this sort of bigger goal, that's very clear, you work together really well. And, and I just, we felt that. And we were very lucky because we know that it's not common to have like the working relationship that we have with each other. Like people ask all the time, like, do you guys really get along? Yeah. We're like, yes, we really do. We have such a great working relationship. And I think like our backgrounds of like being from the Midwest, wanting to have the same career, starting our blogs at the same time, starting to be TV hosts and news anchors around the same time. And we had similar work

ethic, like Lauren said, like she was going to work at 1.30 in the morning. I was going to work at 5.30 in the morning. We just, I don't know, there's just like so much synergy. And I think the biggest thing that Lauren said is like, just have a common goal in mind. So before you go into business with anybody, just make sure like, is this thing that we want to do together? Are we on the same page? And if you're not, that's not the right person to go into business with because every decision we make, we take our ego out of it. And it's like, if it's the best for summer Fridays, and if this is like the goal we're trying to get to, then we're in agreement that that's the right decision for our business. And short-term and long-term. Cause I think there's sort of, there's the short-term goals,

things that you need to reach immediately, but then also a long-term goal. And if you're not aligned on that, then none of the short-term goals will happen. It sounds like also you married your need for clean beauty with your traveling a lot. Yes. Definitely. So yeah. So take it. So kind of now going back to when we were first I was early pregnant. I was like cleaning out my beauty drawers like crazy, trying to kind of figure out like what could I use? Obviously, Mariana was at this point working with every big beauty brand you can possibly imagine. And I was kind of really focused in this sort of like clean wellness space and trying to just sort of clean out my life in anticipation of my first

pregnancy. And we had talked about a skincare line at sort of this first coffee day, although at that point it wasn't a skincare line. We had literally just talked about this mask, the idea of a mask that was versatile, that was multi-use. And there weren't a lot of brands, at least for me at the time when I was cleaning things out, that were clean, effective, that had a brand story that was cool and that really resonated with me. There were a lot of clean brands and things that I could use, but it just, there weren't a lot of things with a brand story that I felt, wow, I really resonate with that. And we felt like there was this kind of white space. So that's where the idea of, of the mask started. And then kind of the idea of a whole skincare

line didn't come until later. Yeah. And then as far as like the packaging and branding, like we're so obsessed with how things look and how Instagram is. And at the time, like there's no Instagram stories when we're working on the brand. And so, you know, like a brand would send you something, you'd love the product, but maybe the packaging was like not so photogenic. So you would never want to post it because it's like, oh, it wouldn't go in my feed. Like my feed is so curated and like beautiful. And so we were like, it has to be clean, effective and photogenic. And like maybe you're not thinking about that. And as we're working on packaging and developing and what the branding looks like, instead

of taking pictures with a camera, we're like, how would this look in a square on an iPhone? So we're like really testing it. And we're like, OK, make the logo larger because if it's in a flat light, I want to be able to see summer Fridays really big. And so we're thinking about it from a social first point of view, which at the time I feel like a lot of brands weren't really doing. And that made this blue tube become iconic and stand out on an Instagram feed where a lot of stuff was looking the same. I spend my money on my time. Everyone knows that that is the most important thing to me. I value my time. So there is nothing worse when I have to go to the nail salon and sit there without

my arms. I need my arms. I need to be passively multitasking. It's the worst. I try to listen to a podcast, but sometimes I just don't want to do it. So what I've been doing lately is I've been using Olive and June's Manny system. And I'm obsessed with this because it is the only system on the market that I've seen that you can do both your nails. So what I used to do is I would do one hand and then try to do the other hand. And one hand would look immaculate. And the other hand would look like a five-year-old did it. So they have this thing.

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20% off your first Manny system when you use promo code skinny at oliveandjune.com. We're done with expensive bad Manny's. This is the new us. it is iconic it's something that you recognize and you're like oh i bet a lot of the beauty brands were shaking i bet you they were you guys don't have to say it but i'm gonna say it because i feel like you leveled up the category it was like no you got to do the whole 360 approach. The highlights need to be branded. You also, I see working with a lot of micro influencers. I'm from the mindset now that I have product that I'm not so much interested in huge influencers as I'm interested in the micro communities. I think there's so much to be said about that. Do you guys feel like that with your brand? I think it's everybody. You can't just have macro. I feel like you need a little bit of everything.

And now that you have a brand, you probably see... I remember thinking like, oh, this really big person posted our brand. Oh my God, we're going to sell out. And then the sales are just kind of the same. And so I think you see now that you need people consistently posting and sharing your products all the time. And sometimes like the really big influencers and people like they're busy. They have a lot of like paid jobs. They're working with a lot of brands. They have a lot of stuff that they just like have to be posting. And I feel like it's not even micro that it's a number that's small. It's micro as in like niche that I talked before. So somebody with 10,000 followers who has 10,000 people who

are obsessed with skincare is more effective than somebody with 100,000 followers who has 10,000 people who are obsessed with skincare is more effective than somebody with 100,000 followers that just talks about like everything. So it's not just like number micro, but it's like niche people who are very, very specific. And there's a very strong online skincare community, like so many amazing micro people who are like skincare obsessed and they're very educated, savvy consumers. And if they like something, they'll tell you. And if they like something, they'll tell you. If they don't like something, they will definitely let you know. You know what else too is the audience. I think my audience, and I'm sure you guys feel like this

too, my community and my audience sharing the product have created the most amazing content I've ever seen. I didn't do any influencer gifting just to start. I just was like, I'm going to, you know, gift to random people in the community. And then anyone that buys it, who wants to create content, I'm going to repost that. And that's been really incredible to see. And you guys, I feel like have that same kind of community. Yeah. There's such a loyalty there. Well, that kind of goes back to what we were talking about before of, instead of just thinking about the pay or the monetization first. I mean, that loyalty that people feel to you is after years of so openly bringing them into your life, into your home, into your day-to-day

habits. So then you create something and they want to organically support you. But I was going to add to the kind of the different influencers that we work with, and Marianna says this all the time, like everyone kind of has this different purpose. So sometimes we work with people who are going to create beautiful content, others it's exposure for other people, it's sales. And there isn't one isn't necessarily better than the other. It's just understanding that everyone has a unique purpose and you can work with a variety of people and, and really win at working with each person, even if it doesn't convert necessarily into sales, because it might have converted into this beautiful content or into massive exposure. I want to ask you both this. Lauren and I talk about this all the time. We joke around that we're going to do a podcast when they sell yo

brands. And it's just going to be like kind of talking to people like mistakes you make when you work with people like the three of you, right? Because I'm sure you guys have seen it. Now that you're running your own brand, and you've also both been on the receiving end of running successful campaigns, are there certain things that when you work with an influencer, you're like, hey, these are what we need and this is what we donate? Are there certain things you stay away from that other brands have asked you to do knowing like, hey, this works and doesn't? Does that make sense?

It's hard because you're investing money into something. So you do need to get something in return. I would hope as a brand, we're better and more flexible about working with influencers. But what we try to do is like, you know, like the brief that you get when you work with a brand, we try to make it really, really easy to follow and like have the exact information per frame so you can check stuff off. So it's not a confusing brief to read. So almost that side is better. And then there's certain influencers where it's like, okay, we need to kind of help you dictate what this content will look like. But there's other influencers where it's like, send them the product

as long as they tag the brand and swipe up, give them the freedom to do what they do. Because like, there's just some people where that works really well for them. So it's knowing on the influencer side, we have an amazing marketing and influencer team. They like are obsessed with these people. They follow them.

So they know what works best. I mean, you talked to two. So it's like, you know, they know what works best for each person. So I think the influencer person needs to really actually follow influencers and know this person's traveling this weekend. So send them jet lag mask. This person's really good. If you just give them stuff and let them do this, this person's really great with, you know, ingredients and product details. So you have to know you can't treat each influencer like the same person. So like they kind of need like specialized briefs per campaign. For me, as anyone that follows me that wants to send me product to post, I'm like,

I can't do a script. I'm not an actress. Go hire an actress. And I think that's so right. Every person's different. There may be people out there that want this script. So you do have to have someone on the back end like you guys have watching everything. I think that's different. There may be people out there that want this, this script. So you do have to have someone on the backend, like you guys have watching everything. I think that's genius. I always laugh when I see you get briefs and it's like, no cussing, no foul language. You're working with the wrong person. I also read the brand. Like if it's a brand that like, I don't think needs, you know, you, you as an influencer too, you have to also read the brand, read the realm. I think, you know, it's different, but yeah, I'm probably not the person to go to for, you know. Was it challenging to transition from doing, let's say like blog influencer,

social work to running a business? Because obviously it's a different beast and it's a total different type of work and management and like everything. I mean, I don't think they could be more different, even though they marry the same areas of, you know, let's call it marketing. Like they're different beasts. I would say what people probably don't know is like Lauren and I were actually running the business. Like we didn't, you know, start this company with a parent company where they plugged us into a team of people. Like we truly start a licensing deal. It's like, it's your business. It's really our business. Like we truly started it. Like we were doing like operations finance.

We were the international salespeople until we hired a salesperson. Like for a while. I remember we had like this, there's like this meeting that Sephora has like twice a year. And we went and we didn't really fully understand what the meeting was

because nobody explained it to us. And then they were like, okay, so do you guys want to present? No, we were like- We got really good at kind of winging it and like fake it till you make it, you know, and you kind of just live by that. And we played so many roles for a while, but we also were super confident in our vision and our product. And I think that really helped. And we were always very personable and honest with people. So as time went on and we realized, okay, we actually have to get

some team members in here who are really well experienced in certain areas. We did that. And that kind of goes back to like what Marianne and I have said all along, which is we're really okay with pushing our ego aside. And we love to bring people on board who are the best at what they do really difficult because we didn't go to business school. We've never ran a company before. We didn't have never produced product before. So it was really hard. But I think being an influencer is the best role you can have before starting a business because you have to do so many things. People get mad at me for saying this, but I think the stuff that you had to figure out for operations or is probably easier to figure out than the other stuff. Like, well, I'm gonna probably get some shit.

All these people with MBAs are gonna write in all pissed off. But it's true because you can go and learn from people because they've done this for... People have been creating companies for so long. What you guys do in the influencer space, that is new and it's a moving target. It's constantly changing. Yeah. And we also built a company with that space in mind,

which is why I think we were able to kind of pull things off for a while without having this sort of like executive team. because we were creating a company that resonated with us and then for people like us and for our community. So I actually think it really helps and still helps that we don't always think of things in this traditional business sense. We just think about it as like, what kind of product do we want to use? How do we want to see it online? How do we want to see it, you know, used on multiple people? Like we just think about it in a very different lens. And then we've now hired people around us who can obviously help us execute things efficiently from a business standpoint. And I think too, starting with

one product is also easier to execute as an independent brand. So instead of trying to launch seven things, I don't even know how we would have launched a whole line of skincare products at the same time because it would have been impossible. But from an operation standpoint and production and everything, making one or two things at the very beginning, even though it's still difficult, it's a lot easier. I think it's also easier for a retailer to take a risk on you because it's just one product on a shelf space versus like needing to find room for an entire assortment. And cost-wise. And cost-wise. So it's easier. So it's high risk, high reward. Like if it works out great, then amazing. If it doesn't work out great,

then it's not good until your next product launches. We happened to get lucky. And I think it was on purpose. A lot of thought went into it with Jetlag Mask. And then like Lauren said, with the team, we ended up hiring a CEO last year who's amazing. So we knew at some point in time, our company started to get large enough that there's things that we don't know how to do.

And to serve our company best, we do need to hire somebody who knows what they're doing. And so we have an amazing CEO. He came from Drybar and he's just the best. And he compliments us in all the best ways. And we let him do his thing. He lets us do our thing. And then it's really an amazing partnership with him. It's been great to have him. I think too, like you can have sort of this kind of quick, big success, which we were incredibly grateful to have with jet lag mask and with these, you know, with our first products. And then I feel like you can either sort of hit this kind of like middle point where you're, you're successful and you're doing good sales, but you're not necessarily having the growth that you want to have, but you're, you're doing okay. You know, and I think you can do that if you don't

make a decision to, to bring on other people. But we't make a decision to bring on other people. But we felt like the decision to bring on a CEO, which was a big decision for us, because obviously then we're no longer serving that role. It's a big decision, but I feel like it allows for significant growth that we couldn't have otherwise achieved on our own, at least in the amount of time that we would want to achieve it. Well, it's smart. You're scaling. It's very, very smart. Hold up. Do you know about the shoes that I have been wearing

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micro failures, micro struggles during COVID. I mean, personally, professionally, it was a lot with what happened to this world and a lot of pivoting had to happen. What did you guys do when all this was going on? Well, we had a launch literally like in April. And so we were like, what are we going to do? Like we, our first billboards just went up now a year later, but we had billboards set to go up around Los Angeles in April. We had events happening. We were supposed to go to Dubai for work. And then we, by the way, we still hadn't thought. We're like, oh, it's a month later. Like, I think we can probably go still. We hadn't canceled our flights yet.

We're not going to cancel our tickets. And then we ended up canceling our tickets. We canceled all of our events. We canceled our billboards. And then we were like, okay, what are we going to do now? So we took that budget, pivoted. And you saw like, we did these like beautiful gifting and like at-home deliveries. And we were sending people pizza and ice cream. Oh yeah. I remember when you guys did that. I thought that was rad. we took that budget pivoted and you saw like we did these like beautiful gifting and like at home deliveries and we were sending people pizza and ice cream remember when you guys did that i thought that was rad yeah i ate the shit out of that pizza yeah people actually we wanted to do things that people actually wanted at home so we changed that budget around and then instead of well first

we were like oh my gosh it's a lip balm like you know people use their fingers so we had to think about like you know being sanitary and how are we going to change the messaging? So we quickly pivoted the messaging to, you know, talk about applying it directly from the tube so that you're not using your hands. And so you to think about everything. And then we were like, do we even cancel the launch? Do we push the launch? But we ended up moving forward anyway. And so it's not just like personal things that are going on, which were really heavy at the time, but it was also like big business things. And then we had opened our summer Fridays headquarters Monday, March 7th. By Friday, March 13th, we were working from home. We were in the office for four days. Four days.

Did you guys just stay remote until like, I guess like recently? We're still remote. Yeah. I mean, these are also, I have to point out like significant financial things that were going into this, you know, I mean, to have billboards ready to go up, to have an office that we just started to lease with a team of people that we needed to put someplace. I mean, these were really big financial decisions that we were just starting to make with our brand because we had just kind of reached this point where we could financially do it. And then we not only had to pivot, but we also had to make sure that our business was financially okay to pivot, have our launch had to make sure that our business was financially okay

to pivot, have our launch, but also take care of things that we'd already committed to. We did get, I mean, people were very kind and generous in that time. And there were other businesses that allowed us to pivot or delay plans until there was a better time to be able to execute certain plans. Well, I think you guys keep using the word pivot. I think it's, it's, it's really smart because so many people, when this happened, listen, there's certain industries, like the restaurant industry, like there's nothing you can do. Like you'd be working as hard as you can. And it's just like, you just really just kind of like got dealt a bad hand. But I felt like the businesses and the entrepreneurs that survived during this were able to adjust

and pivot and change with the times as opposed to like being like, this is how I do things. I'm not, you know what I mean? Cause like you said, you thought it was a month. I mean, we're here, it's like a year and a half later. We thought it was two weeks. I remember taking it. We would email our team. We'd be like, we're still working from home this week.

I'll never forget. I took this picture with my son on our couch and I was like kissing him and I'm like, I can't wait to have a few weeks that I'm grateful for a few weeks at home with my son, you know, slow things down for a little bit. And obviously it was so much longer than that. I mean, none of us could have anticipated what it was. And we just kind of kept, we still, by the way, we're still pivoting and we're still, you know, kind of. And we've hired so many people in the last year. That sounds like you guys are flexible though. We're very flexible.

So honestly, like, you know, the teams and the people who manage each teams, like they have been amazing at onboarding new employees and hiring people. People have moved here during the pandemic. There's some people that we still haven't even met yet in person. It's so fun to like finally see them because you see them on Zoom.

You talk to them all the time, but to actually see them in person. And so we grew so much and like, our team worked so amazing remotely over the last year so it's like you know we're fine still working remote we'll have a flexible schedule when we go back because if you're doing so great right now remotely then it's okay to keep doing it but there is something about working together with people in person seeing them face to face being able to brainstorm i think there's just like small conversations that happen in person, like not digitally, that are really helpful to the brands hopefully later this year. We'll get back, but it'll probably be some kind of a hybrid, which I think is what everyone sort

of, all businesses are figuring out right now is what does that hybrid look like? I love the word hybrid. That's such a great word. What are some tools in both of your toolbox that you use for optimization of your life? I know that you're both incredibly efficient, balancing being an influencer now and a founder. And for you, a mother, it's a lot. So what are like little things that you do that you just feel like streamline your life? Mariana is very good at this, by the way. She even helps me streamline my mom life.

And she's not even a mom yet. She's really, really good at streamlining. But for me, routine is everything. I just personally like thrive off of routine. And there was a period of time where I kind of threw it out the window and I was like, I can't have a routine. It's too difficult. It's too. And then I started to feel really overwhelmed again. And then I got back into my routine and feel so much better. So I think certain daily habits, like I have every single morning, I do the same stretches every single morning when I wake up. And it sounds like such a kind of silly, simple thing.

It takes maybe three minutes. This isn't a whole workout. This is just like stretches. And I honestly think even that little habit makes a difference. And then it's like, I see my son. I go get my daughter out of her crib. I nurse her. But even just having that movement of my body makes a big difference. And then it's like, I see my son, I go get my daughter out of her crib. I nurse her. But even just having that movement of my body makes a big difference.

Can you teach Michael the stretches so he can do them butt naked in the morning? I would love for that. I would love that show in the morning. Every morning, three minutes of stretches. I'm sure you would. I don't know. I don't know if anyone needs to see that. That's a great idea. I don't know if you've shared this on your Instagram stories, your stretches. You have to share. I have't. They're usually so like early and I'm, yeah, I'm probably half dressed. I have not shown this in my story. So I need, I do, I do, I need to share that. But it's just like a little daily habit. And then now I have, so my son's four, I have a five month old also five month old daughter. And so like, to be honest right now,

I'm still kind of in the thick of figuring out my new normal. I haven't really fully gotten there yet. So I don't know if I have like the best hacks in this exact moment of time because I'm still figuring it out. Do you live by your calendar? Do you have, you know, like driving time in your calendar? What are like little tiny things that you do? Yes. I live by my calendar. Everything, everything has a spot in my calendar from driving time to my workout time. But even like hanging out with your son. Yes. To literally like solo time with my son. Like we're going to go have an ice cream date

and it's in my calendar and it's like a 30 minute moment in my calendar. Or it's, and like right now I'm nursing my daughter. I have, I have her on a routine and a really strict schedule and it's the only way we can operate. And I know like that's the time that I'm feeding her. And if I am unable to, because I have a meeting that I know like I leave milk and there's everything's just very, very specific down to like, if I'm going on a date night with my husband, like whatever it is, everything's really specific in my calendar. And then the way that my calendar is and like the best way I found to like optimize just because I have so much going on is each day is dedicated to a certain type of work.

Oh God, you and Michael. Oh my God. I love this. Oh, you're just yelling at me about this. I'm telling you though, it really is the best. The change, it's brilliant. So I feel like- Because you have to shift your brain, right?

Exactly. And so I feel like from having so many people on my podcast, I was like, I have to pick the brains of all these people who are like highly successful. And I kept hearing the same thing over and over again. I'm like, okay, if all these people are doing this, like, let me give it a try. So, and it, but it also works. It's a huge win for me right now because I'll just yell at her like this to say, thank you. I just switched over to it and it is.

It's amazing. A life changer. But because Lauren and I have to do so many things together, having us also on this shared same day makes it easier because what we don't on Monday, every summer Fridays, phone call meetings, zoom. Obviously we work on the brand on other days, but at least we know this day it's both of us dedicated. So Monday, summer Fridays day, Tuesday is podcast day. So Tuesday I record new episodes. I edit the episode for the next week. I do everything, record ads and everything.

Wednesday is my influencer day. So that's the day I create content. I work on all of my sponsored content, submit everything. Thursday is like a floating flexible day. So like whatever happens that day, Friday, no phone calls, no meetings. It's like a Mariana day to like be creative or like do personal appointments or whatever. And obviously we're still answering emails in between, but I think knowing that I have each thing, especially with influencer stuff, like you want to be ready. Right. But like some days, you know, you just don't want to get ready, but you still have to like shoot sponsored content or shoot content, whatever you want to do. I know Wednesday, I need to do my hair and makeup when I wake up because that's the day that I have to shoot stuff.

But I just feel like having these set days, which I know it's not possible for everybody, but like, because there's so many different types of jobs I have, I feel like it's the best for me. And then that way I'm like never behind because I can't be late with certain things. But I want to stay on this for a second because I think like, no, because here's why. Of course you want to stay on this for a second. This comes up again and again. And I always tell people like when people come to me and they say they're a multitasker, I like actually look at that as a red flag because I say like, there was a study I read a while ago and it was a Harvard study and they did a, basically people that were, they said to only do certain tasks compared to people that were said to do multiple tasks,

but they all had to complete the tasks eventually. And the people that were like focused and only did the one thing at a time just destroyed the people that were multitasking. So I think we're like told this lie as we're in school or growing up that multitasking is a strength. But for you, like people come to you and say,

how do you get it all done? How do you be an influencer? How do you run a business? How do you do this? And then get it all done. It's because you're not really multitasking, right? You're focused. And I think having a start and end time to your day is really important. So I think people used to think like, oh, you're supposed to work really hard and that working hard, it means working better. But I don't think that that's true.

I think having a start and end time to my day and actually not working on the weekends and now lauren and I both do One day on the weekend. No social media It actually makes me work better during the week because I have that true break because before I was basically just never Stopping to work. So I never actually felt like recharge but now on monday I'm ready to go because I actually didn't work on the weekend and then this new no social media day for one day Which sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn't one day a week. We one day a week, we aim for it. I think, too, like the multitasking, I think especially as a mom or for any working parent, there was sort of like this old idea, I felt like at least, especially when I first became a mom four years ago with my son. And it was sort of

this like glorification of the multi-hyphenate. Like you're a mom and you have a business and you do all of these, like all of these different things that you're doing all at once. And people, I felt like it was just this glorified thing. But then no one really talked about what happened behind the scenes to make that happen and what kind of village it required, what kind of help you need, whether it's from your family, a caretaker, a daycare, whatever it might be. Because you can't, to your point about multitasking, I can't possibly be super present for my child while also responding to emails that are really important or that have some kind of financial statement attached to it. I can't be like nursing my daughter and answering that question at the same time. So how do you do it? Do you like, this is actually a selfish question

for myself. I'm on my phone so much in front of the baby and I'm like, I do have time in the calendar with her, but then I also want to hang out with her too. So I'm on the phone so much in front of the baby and I'm like, I do have time in the calendar with her, but then I also want to hang out with her too. So I'm on the phone and I almost feel like it's better to just go in the other room and have a nanny help me. Is that the most efficient thing that you've found? Yes, that's what I have found. So I have an amazing nanny and that's exactly what I do. And I feel like I'm trying to always be really open and honest about this because I'm not doing all of the things at one time. And obviously when you're sharing things, sometimes you can only share so much in your day. So like they'll see, you know, I'll be with my daughter or my son and then they see me

going into work or whatever it might be. But it's hard to show like every single behind the scenes moment. That's important to touch on because people think that the five minutes that you show of your day on Instagram is the whole day. And I feel like even with my friends, sometimes they're like, they're like, oh, like I saw you were here. This I'm like, this is five minutes of my day. And I think even when I hire someone now, I'm like, it's not rosé and oysters and, you know, unboxing.

There's so much more behind the scenes. I think that's an important thing to touch on. 100%. There's five minutes. There's a lot that happens behind the scenes. And think that's an important thing to touch on. 100%. There's five minutes. There's a lot that happens behind the scenes. And I think especially with parenting and it requires like, like not only do we have an, you know, amazing caretakers, but it's also, it's my husband, who's like such a true partner in, in our home life and like really supporting things on the

business side and like, you know, really believing in what we're creating. It's also my family, like my siblings step in a lot, my parents. So it really like is a team effort and requires a village of people to get it done. And I do find that if I can have some separation, meaning for instance, when I'm nursing, my daughter has been a big goal of mine since I had her. I really didn't want to be on my phone. And it was a goal that I set for myself early on, which is hard in the beginning because they nurse forever in the beginning. And I really made it a goal to to be on my phone. And it was a goal that I set for myself early on, which is hard in the beginning because they nurse forever in the beginning. And I really made it a goal to not be on my phone because I felt like when I would do it,

I would get done. Even if I was nursing for 45 minutes, I felt like rushed after, like I felt out of time because I was like trying to do the emails and trying to pay attention to her. And I never felt settled. Whereas if I can have some separation and say like, okay, this is the time that I'm having with my children. And then this is my work time. I feel more relaxed at both.

I think what is going to be popular moving forward is the people that have the discipline to have absence. I think we've lost absence. There is a discipline in absence and getting off and putting it away. People think there's a discipline in absence and getting off and putting it away. People think there's a discipline in just presence and posting and getting it all up and seven days a week and go, go, go and hustle culture and this and that. But there's also a discipline in absence. And I think to be able to put the phone in the other room or my new thing right now is putting it on airplane mode and reading a book, like whatever that is. I think that's going to be a thing.

I love the new feature on the iOS update that's coming this fall. And it's like the not do not disturb. There's like some new word for it where you can set things where like Instagram or text messages won't pop up and it'll auto send a text message to the person and say, Lauren is in do not disturb mode right now. I'm going to be there forever. But I think it's amazing. It's like, I forget what it's called, but there's like some word for it. And I think it's such a great feature because then it's like, there are times where you can have your phone,

but you're not available. And the person will know, like you're in a meeting or you're doing something. It's almost like a away message on Slack where people like will know that you're unavailable at this time. And it's like, you can set emergency contacts,

but I love this. But with like the, you know, the absence part, I feel like we have really enjoyed the one day of no social media Because you have to think in any other job you do get a weekend off, right? But when you're an influencer Basically, probably since you started instagram. Have you been on instagram every day? I take I take time off all the time. Oh, okay Well, I don't even know for you

I go back all the time But that's a decision. It's a conscious, but we don't even notice so it's like even though you post all the time. But that's a decision. It's a conscious, purposeful decision. But we don't even notice. So it's like, even though you post all the time, but you have to think like as influencers or bloggers, YouTubers, whatever, you're consistently posting content every day through the holidays on the big moments.

People want more content. Like when you had your baby, I'm sure they're like waiting for your posts. So it's like, you know, in normal jobs, you wouldn't have that time off. So we're like, you know,

it's okay to take a day off. And then on Monday, we're like, oh, we didn't miss anything. All my mentions are still here. I can still go look at people's posts and it's all good. And we're really liking it. Also, this is a new hack that I have.

You guys probably already know this one, but you can go to the mention and save it and post it on. If you want, you know, like you don't have to post it in 24 hours. So like if someone mentions me that like, I really want to repost it, I'll like turn the background pink and save it and then post it on like Monday or Tuesday. Does that make sense? Yes. I didn't know you could do that. Oh, that's helped me so much. It's good for brands though too. Cause you know, brands, sometimes you don't want to, you're not reposting things at that time. So you can save

them for later. This is very smart. It's changed my life. But you know, I also think like what I want to remind people of is all of this has been scaled into, right? Like when you started, you weren't running a business and being a mom and doing the influencer and I think people look at the three of you, right? If you're like a new creator and maybe even me once in a while, but you could look at us and say, this seems overwhelming, which it is. If you were like, if you were just starting, I was like, you need to do all of this today. You'd be like, what the hell? You'd freak out. And so I think people just need to, like, if you were just starting, I was like, Marianne, like you need to do all of this today. You'd be like, what the hell you freak out. And so I think people just need to like, if they're starting out, they need to figure out, like focus on the first thing that you're doing

and then scale into all of these opportunities. Right. Yeah. I mean the only, yes, yes. But the only thing I'll say on that is that you can't always, at least, at least it's been my experience is I can't always control what an opportunity comes. So for instance, I never really intended to have a baby and start a business at the same time. That was like never in like my plan book. And that's also really hard to do, but it, it happened and the opportunity came and we had the discussion and we decided to go for it. And then I also happened to be early pregnant. And so it was, it, it like all happened at once. So I think, I think for sure, yes, like find that focus and especially whatever your niche is and focus on that.

But then also know that there, there has to kind of always be this like willingness and openness for things that might come that you didn't plan for. This episode feels like it needs to be titled how to be flexible. Then it comes down to like, I imagine like the sacrifices that you're willing to make, right? Like I told Lauren, when we started the podcast and do you meet, I was like, all right, well, I'm just going to eat shit for three years. I literally was like, I'm going to, I was in the beginning, we were in San Diego. I was driving back up in four or three nights a week. We were taking salads. Like, I'm just, this is just going to suck. I was like, this sucks. I'm going to have no social life, no weekends. Like, it's just going to suck. I think the unlock is

that there are certain people that would be like, okay, I know this is going to, like, there's gonna be a lot of sacrifice and you have a kid, you're running a business, you're doing like there's sacrifices you're making. There's no way you're having it all. Like I always point that out to people. It's not like you're having this amazing life and doing all this stuff in your free time and like reading books or like you're making sacrifices. And Lauren made a lot of personal sacrifices. So like I don't have kids. And so for me, it's a little bit more flexible, but like when we're going and committing to a trip, Lauren's not just committing to like going on the trip. She's committing to like, my husband has to watch the kids and then Evan is

going to do this thing. And so it's her personal sacrifices are a lot more than mine are. I think I want to ask a selfish question, which is text messages. And this is a very specific question. Your friends are texting. They need your attention. Birthdays, weddings, just want to shoot the shit on a Wednesday at 12 o'clock. No, I can't get coffee with you on Thursday at 10 AM. I mean, it's wild. But these are the sacrifices I'm talking about. I want to know how you guys handle friends, family demands with everything else you have going on. Yeah, it is a lot.

I also have a really big family. I'm one of six kids. There's, it's a lot going on at all times. And I have my own family and there's always a lot happening. I will say I just had to be really honest with the people closest in my life. So, you know, friends of mine who are truly like my closest friends and then my siblings, my parents, all of that. I just had to have a really honest conversation and kind of just be like, look, I'm at this point in my life and it doesn't last forever. Everything's a season, you know, and this is a season of life

that I'm in where all of my energy and my attention is either going to my business or it's going to my immediate family, my kids and my husband. And as much as I want to be able to give my attention to everybody and shower all of the people I love the most with all the love in the world that I can. While showering. Getting a shower for yourself. Actually showering myself and having any sort of self-care. There's just not enough. There's not enough hours in the day. By the time I like prioritize my workout, which I have to prioritize for my mental sanity. And then like, you know, taking care of my children, getting them off to wherever they need to go to,

like saying hello to my husband and having some sort of conversation during the day and then running our business. That's like, that's the day. So, so when you get all these text messages from friends, are you responding right away? Are you, for me, I batch my text messages. I sit down once a week and I respond to everyone. And I know that sounds obnoxious, but it's, it lets me check in and see what's going on and respond. I know you do it during your foot rub. During my foot rub. And it really, really, really helps. Is there something that you guys do or do you answer, like, are you reactive to it? Like say a friend texts you, like, are you, do you react right away or do you wait? It just like depends really like what we're in the middle of doing. Like sometimes I just won't

check my phone for a long time or sometimes like if I need, like Lauren even sometimes doesn't get back to me. So it's like, I need to go to like somebody else to like get like Lauren. And so I feel like it's hard because between like, and especially all being like digitally right now. So it's like between Slack emails, text messages, phone calls, Zooms, it's like, how can you possibly communicate on your phone and then try to not be on your phone all day long? But I feel like our friends and family are just like really forgiving. There's no real answer. It's like, you know, you know, our life, if we get back to, we do, if don't like it, don't be offended. Like just text me again. And then maybe I'll see it. The worst is like everybody DMs now on Instagram instead of text.

And then I miss the DM or I open it and I forgot. And then it's like seen, but it was, I didn't even really see it. Oh, that's the worst. And then they think that you read it, but you didn't really.

And so it's like, please, if you're my friend, just like text me, don't DM me because I'm for sure just going to miss your DM. Please, can we take off scene? I'm over the scene.

I know. I agree. Take it off. It's so invasive. It's literally the most invasive thing ever. Take the scene off scene I'm over the scene I know it's so invasive it's literally the most invasive thing ever take the scene off I totally agree but I keep talking about sacrifices like I there's two ways that I figured out how to get over envy I heard two things I don't know if you ever heard this but like the first one was Charlie Munger said that um to not be envious because it's the it's the most useless of the seven deadly sins right doesn't give you anything you don't

be fun in it so it's like that's that's no good and of the seven deadly sins, right? It doesn't give you anything. You don't have any fun in it. So it's like, that's, that's no good. And then the other one was somebody was talking, I can't remember who this was. And they said like, if you envy someone, like I say, someone admires you, like someone's following you, like, oh my God, I would love to have her life. It's like, you have to be willing to trade every aspect of your life for every aspect of your life, right? Like friends, family, sacrifice, like all, you have to be willing to take all of it. And as soon as you start to think about it, you're like, oh my God, I don't want that person's life. I don't want to give up the things I'm doing. So you move on, right? Everyone has a different priority list. We can all handle different things in a different way. We each have a different size cup and it's

how much can you fill it? And that's so personal to each person and what you're willing to sacrifice is so personal. So I think you kind of have to like list that out for yourself and then work backwards. Can you both leave our audience with your, a couple morning routine? I know you listed a couple, but a couple more, maybe how you make your coffee or your matcha or whatever, a couple morning routine tips, and then a couple wind down tips. Wind down's important because the cortisol is real with work. Like I would love to know both. I wake up, I meditate, I meditate twice a day. And then I write in my gratitude journal. I like to always write in my gratitude journal in the morning. So I have a gratitude mindset. So instead of being like, I have to do these things today,

it's like, I get to do these things today. I end it with like sending love to some people, whoever. So they're just like top of mind for me. I listened to the morning news USA Today, like five things podcast. So I get like quick blurb every morning i also like stretch do a little bit of physical therapy and walk my dog and that's usually like my morning routine if i don't do my morning routine i feel so rushed through the rest of the day i feel like everyone kept talking about meditating and like how amazing it was and i kept trying all these apps and nothing was happening i was expecting it to be like magic and i I was like, okay, none of this works. So I ended up taking transcendental meditation when I had like a week free in December. I do it twice a day, 20 minutes.

It sounds like an eternity. It's really not once you're actually in it. It is so amazing. It was the first time I actually felt like meditation worked for me and I've done it every day since December now. I love it. And then- Selfishly, how long is that course? Because you're the second person that's come on here and said like three or four days, but it's not like an all day course. I couldn't figure out, I can't figure out meditation either, but you're the second person that said they did a course and like figured it out. So, you know, that like weird time between Christmas and New Year's and you're like, what do I do with myself? And you're like, no one's really working. I did it in that break. And because of COVID it was virtual. So you could just do it virtually, which maybe it's a little bit better if you do it in person there. And

there's one in Santa Monica. It's worth a try. If it doesn't work, then it didn't work. But if it works and it's amazing for you and you can do this, because I kept being like, why does everybody talk about how meditation is like the best thing in the world? And I can't figure it out. And if all these people are saying it and they've been doing it for like however long I want to do this. And it really does help me so much because I'm so connected and thinking and I'm such an overthinker. Like I go to sleep at night overthinking. I like I have a brain dump. I write everything before I go to bed. But like I feel like it's 20 minutes to just not think, which is so hard to do. But in the nighttime routine,

because of you actually have my red light in my bedroom, I put it on. I have my blue light glasses. I watch TV. I did my phone 30 minutes before I go to bed and then just chill. That's pretty much my nighttime. I want to do that meditation thing because I think I'm saying way I can't like get out of my head at night. Yeah. But the problem with you is that if we do that course, I'm going to be in the room being quiet for 20 minutes and you're going to walk in and be like, do you like this shirt or this shirt? No, no, I wouldn't do it. How's my hair? And I'm going to be like, I'm literally meditating. I can already see it.

I can feel when it's like 19 minutes. Like I have this, like when I'm doing it, I almost know like when it's, when the timer is going to go off because there's an app you can use. It's silent. So there's no music. You're not like saying or doing anything

because like, you know, other meditations, they're like speaking to you the whole time. It's literally just like this mantra they give you. It's not like a real word and you just sing it over and over again. But I love it now. It's amazing. Oh, you're so disciplined with it. She's, I do not meditate as often as Mariana does. I wish I did, but I don't. I mean, honestly, my morning routine is pretty fast because it's also very. We've got two young kids. I was going to ask her. That all goes out the window.

Yeah. So like in my mind before I go to bed, I'm like, I'm going to wake up before they wake up and I'm going to do my workout and my stretch. I'm going to shower. And then my kids are going to magically wake up, which never happens. If I wake up early, they wake up even earlier. And it's just what happens every time. But I do have a couple of things that are like non-negotiable. One of them is the morning stretching. So I always do. It literally takes three minutes and it's just a way to move my body right when I wake up. And then I try to down a bunch of water. I'll go and get my daughter from her crib. I nurse her usually is like my son is walking in and then kind of get them situated. So things like breakfast or like I'll be packing his lunch for when he goes to

school and kind of getting him out the door is like a big part of the morning routine. And then I have some time to myself to then kind of like resituate myself. So that's usually when I'll do either each day I have a different kind of workout that I like to do. So like two to three days a week, I usually do a run. And then the other day is I do something shorter, like a 20 minute Pilates workout that I do through an app or something like that. You look amazing after the baby. Are there any tips that you can give me and everyone? I think, well, one, I think it's definitely such a personal journey. And I know you've probably heard this a million times, but it's like comparing the postpartum journey to anyone but yourself is just so unrealistic because I think each of our bodies, we're so individual,

the journey is so personal. Your birth is so personal, all of that. I think for, for me personally, with both pregnancies, I do think that all of the daily habits that I put into place long before pregnancy, during pregnancy and after pregnancy, all really have had a significant impact in the healing process. I bet you they're on your blog, huh? So I have written about them. Okay. I'm going to go read your blog. And it's just like, it's all of kind of those wellness habits, I think,

combined, like the workouts that I've been really dedicated to. And it doesn't, I mean, I don't, I'm not a marathon runner. These aren't like crazy workouts. It's just a commitment to moving my body every day. You also eat well too. I eat well. Yeah. i've been kelly levac be well but kelly love her she's been my nutritionist for a long time um and then we both work well i work with dr will cole and then lauren's working with him now i just had a call with him hey dr will hey you have to send your your uh sample into him i'm not sure what kind

of sample it is okay leave our audience with a book a podcast or resource that's brought you a lot of value and then pimp yourself out jamie kern lima's book is amazing she is a friend and mentor to us as well her story is obviously like so incredible and inspiring so her book is great if you guys want to check that one out i love jen atkins book i'm just finishing reading it right now really good um and oh pimp ourselves out on summer fridays Atkins book. I'm just finishing reading it right now. Really good. And oh, pimp ourselves out. Summer Fridays, summerfridays.com. We're available basically like, you know, anywhere and everywhere. Sephora, Call of Duty, Mecca, Revolve, Net-A-Porter, Space NK. I feel like I'm surely forgetting something. Yes. You can find us now pretty much anywhere. Your own Instagrams? Mariana underscore Hewitt.

And Lauren Ireland. Oh, wait, and my podcast too. New episodes, Life with Mariana every Tuesday. Say it again. Say it again. With Dear Media. Yeah, so with Dear Media, actually it was something that I wanted to do.

Well, I wanted to do it before. There really wasn't just time. And then in the pandemic, I was like, I actually have like some extra time while I'm at home. Because the biggest issue I felt like before with podcasts was like, oh, it's like, I don't have time to go record or like do these things. But because I could do everything remotely, I love doing it. And I feel like it gives so much value back to people and I'm really, really enjoying it. It's

very time consuming if you're thinking about starting a podcast. So it's definitely not easy, but I love doing it. And so, yeah, new episodes every Tuesday. Which episode should they start with? Lauren is on. So you guys can listen to Lauren's. Melissa Wood was on. People loved her episode. Jen Atkin.

There's one with Brittany Hennessy giving really great like influencer tips. So lots of lots of ones. And I just have to say, if you guys are going to start with any Summer Fridays products, I'm sure that you guys have already tried them. I was just telling you guys off air. I'm a huge fan of the lip butter.. I was just telling you guys off air, I'm a huge fan of the lip butter. It's so good.

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