The Squeeze - The Bump Club: Becoming Moms Together

Episode Date: June 17, 2026

This week, Tay sits down with Natasha Perry and Amy Atia for their first-ever Bump Club episode!! They start off by giving a peek into Natasha and Amy's pregnancies and reflect on what it's been like to go through this season together. Amy opens up about her fertility journey, including two back-to-back miscarriages before this pregnancy, and the three talk through their individual journeys to getting pregnant. They share what they didn't expect from pregnancy, including Natasha's intense morning sickness, and get candid about balancing pregnancy with being super anxious. They also get into people commenting on their bodies during pregnancy, the body changes they've experienced, what mental health has looked like for each of them throughout their pregnancies, and so much more! Another Bump Club episode coming soon!Be sure to follow Natasha on https://instagram.com/natashaperry/ and https://tiktok.com/@natashaperry!And follow Amy on https://instagram.com/amyatiaa/ and https://tiktok.com/@amyatiaa!To email us your questions or share your story, you can reach out to [e-mail] sure to rate, review, and follow the podcast so you don't miss an episode! Plus, follow us on all of our socials:The SqueezeInstagram: https://instagram.com/thesqueeze/TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@thesqueezepodcastTay LautnerInstagram: https://instagram.com/taylautner/TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@mrstaylautnerAmazon Storefront https://urlgeni.us/amazon/FDXj7 Taylor LautnerInstagram: https://instagram.com/taylorlautner/TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@taylorlautnerTo learn more from The Lemons Foundation, follow https://instagram.com/lemonsbytay/ and visit https://lemonsbytay.comEpisode Sponsors:Visit ronaldmcdonaldhouse.org/donate/mcbridefamily to make a donation today.Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at square.com/go/squeeze! #squarepodGet your choice between free ribeye or top sirloins for a year or ground beef and bacon for a year, PLUS $20 off when you go to ButcherBox.com/squeeze.Use promo code SQUEEZE for $200 off your purchase at tonal.com.Visit Crocs.com or a store near you to find your perfect pair of Classic Clogs!Visit drinkspindrift.com and use code tay for 15% off.Try OLLY’s daily probiotics to support your digestive and immune system or tasty fiber gummies for you and the kiddos. Find it all at OLLY.com.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The following podcast is a dear media production. Floam and Drops, this is a very special episode because this is our first of hopefully many Bump Club. Mm-hmm. Woo-hoo. We have Natasha and Amy. We're all pregnant with our first babies. I was telling both of them separately that I was pregnant. They both then got to tell me that they were also pregnant.

So it was the most fun experience ever. And the fact that we're first-time moms doing it together is like the best thing. because I feel like our whole group chat is just constant questions and complaining and things that we're all experiencing for literally the first time, which is so fun. My first trimester was like probably the darkest moment of my whole life. I'm not even going to kidding. Morning sickness is like. We need to get rid of that term.

No, that is like. Who made that up? It's 24-7. And I get nervous. I sweat a lot from my armpits. I remember I was sitting at the appointment. It was like one of my first ones. And I remember like laying back before my doctor came in.

and I was like dripping sweat on the paper. And Bradley was like, you need to somehow dry that up because there's going to be puddles of sweat. That's so funny. And I was like, I don't know how to help this. Like, I'm so nervous. The first trimester anxiety is not talked about enough. It's crazy.

I had told a couple people over FaceTime, they're like, I could tell you're glowing. I'm like, bruh, I'm just, my face is more full. I'm not glowing. I think I'm just chubby. Yeah, literally. I got some extra fluff on me.

What's been the most unexpected thing? about your pregnancy. Like outgrowing my clothes so fast. Wait, can we talk about that? Because I have so much to say about this topic. Floam and Drops, this is a very special episode because this is our first of hopefully many Bump Club. We have Natasha and Amy with us.

And Tasha has been on the pod before, but this is Amy's first podcast appearance. Ever. Whohoo. Which is, right, have you done a podcast? No, I've never done a podcast.

You're like, I've listened to it. It's my first. Fun fact. Amy does all of our behind the scenes, everything for a podcast and lemons. So she's listened to literally every single podcast. All the unedited cuts.

Yep. All the things. So this is going to be fun. We wanted to, obviously you guys have been seeing us like posts on social media, but we wanted to come do a little episode because we all get so many questions about pregnancy and whatnot. And it's so fun that we get to have each other to, like, talk to and have a group text

and walk through this time with. But you guys have already kind of heard my initial pregnancy story. And I'm sure I'll get into more of it today. But Tosh and Amy, if you guys want to, like, share a little bit about, like, pregnancy stuff where you're at. Yeah. Amy, you go first. Wait, no, I was going to say. You go first.

No, no, you go first. I was literally going to say the same thing. No, I don't know what to say. No, I don't know. Where should I start? I know. I guess maybe. I really can't.

There's so much to say. We're all pregnant with our first babies. Yeah. We all have beautiful, loving husbands. I know. We, I mean. And we're so blessed to literally do it so close together too. I know.

Which all, that was like complete coincidence, too. I know. Yeah. That was not planned. That was not a planned thing. Yeah. If I haven't posted it already, I will post it by the time this episode comes out. It was really cool because when I was telling both of them separately that I was pregnant, they both then got to tell me that they were also pregnant. So it was like the most fun experience ever. I think we need to share those videos. They're so good. I still watch them like to this day. It makes me cry. The moment is so sweet. And you almost. didn't tell me that you were pregnant too. I know. Well, I didn't know if I should. It's so, I just like, never know the vibes, you know? Like, I wanted everyone to have the moment. No, I, this would be my recommendation unless your friend has explicitly said, don't tell me you're pregnant if I'm telling you I'm pregnant. Yeah, totally. Um, but I, but I, but two people in my life didn't do that

to me. Yeah. Like, oh, that's so true. Like you told them you were pregnant. I told them and they were both pregnant at the time and didn't tell me. And then they told me on their own. So it's like, I think that is a common thought to be like, I'm just going to let them do their own thing. Yeah, because you don't want to like outshine their moment. Yeah. Or just like, I guess if someone is like planning on telling you, it's so fun.

Like you are the only person that I have that experience with of like, oh my gosh, same. Yeah. But it is like, I don't want to take away from someone else's like thing. Yeah. But it was so fun. Like I'm so glad. Yeah. But I feel like when you have friends that are like pregnant.

it with you. It's so much more fun. It's so much more fun. Like it's been like the best. Well, and the fact that we're first time moms doing it together is like the best thing because I feel like our whole group chat is just constant questions and complaining and things that we're all experiencing for literally the first time, which is so fun. Yeah. And we're also close too. So it really is like we're all like, did you do this at this appointment? When's this happening? Like how is this? And we're all like we are so close. So it's like happening in real time. No, for sure. Which is really fun. And also.

Like I feel like I always ask you like whenever you have an appointment because you're like a little bit before me. Yeah. I'm like, wait, how is this appointment? Like tell me. Like what are we got to like do? No, it's so good. Yeah. I love that.

Okay. I mean, there's a lot of questions that you guys have sent in for pregnancy stuff. But I think let's kind of start with the first question I'm just going to say Natasha is not going to like. Or it's going to have a good answer. but someone asked how to get through first trimester nausea. I mean, you guys got through it. I didn't.

So I'm still in it. I don't know. You're so fully in that. I couldn't tell you. I guess maybe do you want to share a little bit? Because I shared about my first trimester. Maybe that's the question for both of you to answer. I've shared about my like first trimester symptoms and how I've kind of like gotten

through that. Do you want to share yours? I feel like you and I have very similar like first trimester. symptoms. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I definitely had morning sickness, not to the extent of I feel like what Natasha experienced, but I had more, well, I mean, I guess the nausea was like 24-7. Morning sickness is like that. We need to get rid of that term. No, that is like. Who made that up? Yeah. No. It's literally all the time. It's 24-7 and then it would honestly get worse at night. I totally agree. Yeah. Mine was always worse at night. It was always at night. And I mean, I was,

So I would throw up every single time I took my prenatal. So like that was always a trigger for me. So I never knew when to take my prenatal. Yeah. Because I'm like, do I take it in the morning and then feel nauseous all day? Or do I take it at night and then feel nauseous at night? So it's like you can't win. Yeah.

But also like I feel like I would always get nauseous if I didn't eat something. So like I would have to eat to be able to feel good. So then I like gained weight, you know? So you really just can't win. Yeah. No, there's no. There's no winning. But yeah, it's so true.

I think that was probably the biggest misconception for me was going into it, that it was going to be like morning sickness and then I throw up and then I feel fine. Yeah. But I really do think at night, like at night for me, that was when my acid and like my bloating was the absolute. I mean, even so, that's the only time I ever really struggle with it still is at night, like the bloating and everything. The night is definitely the hard part. But yeah, they, yeah, it just needs to be all day.

Yeah. Sickness. But yeah, you kind of. had the same thing. Yeah, you were definitely throwing up from your prenatals. Definitely prenatals. I had to like switch my prenatals a few times because they were just like making me throw up every time. And I'm like, I need to get something in me to like nourish the baby that was like starting to give me anxiety that I was like, am I messing up my baby because I just keep throwing up the prenatal. Yeah. And then what else? I feel like I was just like exhausted my entire first trimester.

Like I was just sleeping constantly. Like I would like every hour I felt like I had to like down. I had never experienced something like that. But it does get better after like, I feel like the exhaustion got better after like 13 weeks. For me, the nausea got better around like 15, 16 weeks. And then, yeah, now I'm kind of chilling. I feel like I'm like feeling a lot better now. Yeah. In the second trimester. Yeah. Tosh. I'm sorry, Natasha. I know. As I'm saying that, I'm like, I'm sorry. No, that's okay. I mean, I still, my first trimester was like probably the darkest moment of my whole life. I'm not even going to kid you around.

But I, yeah, I dealt with like the worst nausea, vomiting, food aversions. I couldn't smell. Like being in my home was horrifying because like when I'm in an enclosed space, I just am smelling everything. Yeah. And I'm grossed out by everything. So I tried to spend a lot of time outside in like the fresh airs. that didn't bother me. Yeah, you really did actually.

Literally anytime Bradley would cook, I would just go up to the rooftop because I'm like, I cannot smell whatever is going on in here. And even when we would go to restaurants, I would only sit outdoors. Like any type of fresh air really helped me. I mean, it's not like it cured my nausea, but like it was better than smelling things.

Yeah. And yeah, the exhaustion was something I wasn't expecting. I like love a nap like I always have. but I was taking like three, four hour naps every single day. If I woke up at like 8 a.m. By 10 a.m. I had to take a nap. I was so tired. Yeah.

But I quickly learned that, yeah, my nausea's not going anywhere. Which is a bummer. But also I've just had to really reframe my mindset and not, I guess, let it like overtake my whole day. Because I think in the first. trimester, even with like prenatals or eating, you're kind of just experimenting with everything, or at least I was like, when should I take my prenatal? If I don't take it, do I still get nauseous? So for me, I found out that it doesn't matter what I do. And I'm just going to throw up every day regardless. No matter what medication I take or how many lollipops or like ginger, you know,

choose if I'm taking my prenatals, if I'm not, if I'm eating, if I don't. Like that's just how my body reacts and it took me a while to get there because I kind of was waiting like everyone had warned me and even my doctor like you know you should feel you know he never said is a hundred percent you're going to feel better by this time but he was like most women do you can't like predict anything and um yeah I mean for as far as I'm along in my pregnancy like I don't think it's going away probably until I give birth which is fine but I've just had to mentally retrain my to be okay with it and then just learn how to like manage it honestly yeah no it's been literally like crazy watching you also like the progression of like I could I knew when you were like really mentally

struggling with it because even when you're not like when you're not feeling good and when you're in that first trimester like trench it's literally like is this like is it ever going to end like you are so just day by day trying to get through and there's literally like no end in sight So it's been cool to watch you, like, get, like, through that mindset to now, like, we were with, our husbands were golfing this past weekend. And Natasha just at the end pulls her a little barf bag out and starts walking to the car. And I look at her. I'm like, is it time? She goes, yep.

Like, just, like, how you've, like, adjusted to it is. Yeah. I was really sad and honestly so. I truly feel like I was very depressed my first trimester because of it because you are kind of waiting for this, like, period to be over. And I feel like it could be so easy for me to still, not that I don't have those moments, you know, every so often where I'm crying about it, because I'm like, I just can't believe I'm still dealing with this. But I feel like it's also just a choice to be like, okay, I have to readjust and figure out how to push through this and like not let it overtake my day.

And I didn't want to be depressed throughout my whole pregnancy just because I'm physically feeling so bad, even though it doesn't feel great, but like, I just think you have to figure out a way to push through it. You know what I mean? Yeah. To be like mentally saying. Yeah. You've done a really good. You've done a really good job at it and you're more than halfway. I know. We're getting there. Slowly but surely. I know. We're getting there. We're getting there together. I feel like there has to be a certain point where where you'll start or like start feeling better, you know? I know, but the thing is because I, like, I'm a little bit too far where third trimester

is coming quickly and then I think it comes back anyways. Oh, it does it really? Oh yeah. Oh, great. So I think I didn't know that. Yeah, I think like the last couple of these, especially with like acid reflux and heartburn and all that. So I'm like, once I hit that, then if it doesn't go away, then it will be my whole pregnancy.

You know? I mean, I'm still fingers crossed. It'll go away, but like, I don't have there's no size of it. Yeah. You're going to be like giving birth and throwing up. I know. Baby's going to come out and you're going to be like Like, oh, I know. You're going to be thriving. You're going to feel so good. Yeah.

Yeah. No, that's great. And it's a good outlook too because I know there's like a lot of women out there that are. So like they do struggle with nausea and for literally their whole pregnancy and there's nothing, you know, to do about it. And it's frustrating. But your outlook on it is great. Thanks. I applaud you for it.

Okay. I want to start with some like earlier like questions before pregnancy. Um. Someone asked, what made you say we're ready for a baby? My husband and I are close, but I still don't know. Did you guys have any moment like that? Or what were you like when you're like, okay, I'm ready. Like, what did that look like?

You want to go first? Yeah, I think at least for Bradley and I, we've always wanted to be parents. So I think even before we got married, we were just really excited to do that eventually. And we didn't really have a timeline on it. And it was literally after we spent new years together. And I feel like we were just all talking about, you know, what does this next year look like for us? And we were always talking about babies, I feel like. And then after that, it was just kind of like, okay, well, we're not going to prevent anything.

But like, we'll just kind of see what happens. I was not expecting for it to happen a few days later. Like, that was a shock. But, yeah, I think we were just, that was something we always had conversations about. and we were never scared of it. Like it's always been an exciting thing for the two of us. So that's Bradley's nice. No, it's so sweet looking back on it because I made all of my friends do a little.

What are they called? I literally forgot. Like vision boards. Vision boards for the new year. Yeah. It's so cute. I did them out and had all of my friends do it. And Bradley literally put like being a dad on there.

Yeah. It's so cute. And we were like, Bradley, calm down. Like, no. Literally. You're like, dude. Were you pregnant at that point? No, so I got pregnant literally three days after we got home from the trip.

Oh, okay. Got it. And then I found out like a few weeks after that. But I just, yeah, on the plane home, we were like, you know what? Let's just see what happens. But no, I just, everyone's fertility journey obviously is so different. And I truly just had no expectations. So that was a shock. But like, obviously not a surprise.

Like, we know how this happened. Yeah. Right. Yeah. That's so true. What about you, Amy? Yeah. No, I mean, I feel like ours, like, was kind of similar because, like, we had always known

that we wanted kids, but we just, like, were like, uh, like, maybe in a couple years or, like, at least, like, a year before we wanted to, like, start actively trying. And then, like, last year, we ended up just getting pregnant without even trying. Like, we were not expecting that. And then I, like, had a late period. And so that's how I took a test. And I found out that I was pregnant. And we were, like, so excited.

And I feel like that's how we, like, knew that we were ready. Yeah. Yeah. Do you want to share a little bit about your fertility during since we're on this topic? Should we start from the beginning? Yeah. Okay. So, I mean, like, going from there.

So I took the test and then it was positive, which we, I mean, like, we weren't doing anything to, like, actively not get pregnant. So, like, it wasn't, like, the biggest surprise, but we weren't actively trying. Yeah. So it was positive. positive. And we ended up losing that baby around like 10 weeks pregnant. So I had gone to, well, no, it was like eight weeks. So we went to our eight week appointment. And then at that eight week appointment, the doctor was just like, you're either like not as far along as you think

you are or you're like losing the baby. So she's like, maybe you have your dates wrong. Let's wait two weeks and then you can come back and that we can like reevaluate. Oh, God. So the problem with that was that we were leaving for Europe in like two weeks. We were going on our honeymoon and, sorry, I'll probably cry because I still get so emotional about it. Like, I'm literally six months pregnant and I like still get so emotional about it. But we were going actually like on our honeymoon.

So like our honeymoon was like a year late. Like we did it a year after our wedding. But my brother-in-law and his fiancé at the time we're getting married in Europe. And so we were like, let's just wait to do our honeymoon until their wedding so that we can just combine the trips together. So like we told our doctor that and we were like, we're going to be in Europe in two weeks. So like I don't really know what to do. And so she was just like, I don't really know what to tell you. Like you can either just wait to have your second appointment like after you get back from Europe.

or you have to post like postpone your trip. But she was like, there's a chance that you might miscarry on your trip. And so we were in a really tough situation because, I mean, obviously, like, we can like postpone our honeymoon. Like, that's not an issue. But I'm like, I'm not missing my brother-in-law and like my future sister-in-law's wedding. Like, I'm not missing that.

So we were just like in a really tough situation where we didn't really know what to do. So we ended up taking the trip. And we were just like kind of like, we took a gamble. because we're like, I don't know if, like, I'm going to miscarry or not. So we ended up, we were in Portugal at the time, and we were in an Airbnb, and that's like where I miscarried that baby. Sorry, I will literally start crying. But, yeah, so that ended up happening there.

And I bled for maybe like a month after that, and our trip was like a month long. So I was just bleeding the whole time, which I didn't realize that, like, you bleed so much in a miscarriage. Like, that's, like, you don't, I feel like nobody talks about miscarriages very much. So, like, you don't really understand, like, what to expect if that ever happens to you. Yeah. So I was literally on Reddit, like, the entire trip, like, looking up, like, other women's stories. Because I was like, what do I, like, what do I need to prepare myself for? And honestly, like, my husband was like, you need to get off Reddit.

Like, you need to, like, stop doing that. You're freaking yourself out. But I was like, no, it's actually helping me because I'm seeing like all these other women share their stories. And I knew like kind of what to expect. So like I knew that it was going to hurt really bad. I knew I was going to bleed a lot. And like both of those things happened. So honestly, like I felt prepared in that sense. But I mean, we were able to be there for, you know, my brother and my sister-in-law's weddings or wedding. And by that point, the bleeding had kind of like slowed down. But like I was like happy to be there for. like for that. Yeah. Then we came home.

And then that's, I feel like when the whole like grieving process like really started because during the trip I was just distracted, you know, which honestly is kind of a blessing that we were like not home. Yeah. Because I wasn't as like inside of my head with it. And then by that point we were like, okay, we know that we're ready to have a kid. Yeah. Because like we were just like so upset about like losing that baby.

Yeah. So then we started, like I waited the like month or two months that the doctor recommended, you know, until we start trying again. And then it took like five or six months to get pregnant after that. And that was like really tough on me. Because by that point I was ready to have a kid. I was like fully like prepared. So it took a while, got pregnant in like October or no, September of last year. And then, like, obviously we were so happy, very anxious, you know, like, as any, like, loss mom understands. And then we ended up losing that one as well around 10 weeks also. So that was kind of this similar, like, timeline where we both, we lost both babies around 10 weeks. This time, I didn't want to pass it naturally. I wanted to, like, know what happened with the baby. So I got a DNC, which is like a procedure where they just remove the baby from your body. And they were able to test it.

And so we know, like it had a, I think it's called a trisomy. Is it trisomy or trisomy? Something like it. Trizomy. Yeah. So it was a trisomy too. So we knew that it wasn't something that like was with my hormones or anything or like with my vitamin levels.

I mean, there's so many things that can like be wrong like with your, with your body. body that causes the loss. So then after that, we worked with a fertility doctor and they helped us feel more confident with getting pregnant again because I was just so terrified of getting pregnant again. And then it happening a third time. I was just like, I cannot do this again. Like there's just like no way. Like mentally and physically, I was like, there's just no way.

And so we worked with a fertility doctor. and then luckily we were able to get pregnant again on the first try with them. And then that's this baby. And now we're in the second trimester. So I feel a lot better. Obviously the anxiety doesn't go away. But it does feel like a lot better being this far along. Yeah.

It's been so like interesting is not the right word. But I've had like honestly the way you've approached your miscarriages has I feel like helped me with. my like first trimester anxiety and things because you're and I've talked about this and this is Amy who I've talked about many times on this podcast is you know your first pregnancy you didn't tell me that you were pregnant but then you had to tell me that he miscarried and the second one you had told me you were pregnant and then you had to like deliver that news so going into my pregnancy I was like, I've gotten to walk through both with you, which I feel like is a very unique, I think is the correct word. Experience to get to walk through with someone.

And it made me really like think about decisions that I wanted to be sure about. Like telling, you know, like telling you guys so early and telling my close friends early. Like I was like, I want to do this because I got to walk through that with you. And I was like, I don't want to have to like seeing how the news had to be delivered both times. I was like, I need that. That was a big thing. Yeah. Like with the first one, we hadn't told anybody.

We hadn't told our parents. We hadn't told siblings or friends. And that's like what made most of that or a lot of that grieving process hard is that we were just like having to tell people because like we needed like support from, you know, our people. So like we were having to be like, hey, like we were pregnant, but now we're not. You know? And like that was like so difficult.

So then that's why for the second one we told people like right away. Like at like four or five weeks, like as soon as we got the positive test, we're like, okay, we're going to tell everybody. Because if this happens again, we want the support, not knowing that it would happen again. And it did. But yeah, I felt like for the second one, we definitely had more support because we had told people that everyone's different. Yeah. Everyone has their own comfort level with wanting to tell. Yeah. Like, share a pregnancy.

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it's scary because when you like are feeling symptoms, then I feel like you can like, you feel it. So you're like, okay, I am pregnant. But what, what has your eyes as, like, experience been with the early pregnancy anxiety? And is there anything that you did to, like, help that? I'll cry if I talk about it. So. Do I want me to go first? Yeah, you go. Okay. No, I was so anxious for this pregnancy, obviously. Like, after two losses, there's just, like, no way. that you can't be anxious. And I think, like you said, like, every pregnancy there's anxiety, like, no matter if you've

gone through loss or not. But I think if you've had a loss in particular, the anxiety, it's like, like, I was having full-blown, like, panic attacks, like, because I was just, like, not convinced. Like, I, like, I felt like there was more of a chance that the, like, I would lose the pregnancy than it lasting, you know, like, my mindset was just, like, not in a good place in the first trimester. like before every ultrasound, I would have a panic attack. Like, I would have physical symptoms, like, where they would be like, you need to get

your blood pressure down. Like, I would feel like I want to throw up. Like, I just, like, couldn't handle it. But, I mean, things that helped reading. I read a lot. Yeah. I probably read, like, 12 books in the first, like, couple months of the year. Wow.

Going on lots of walks. Yeah. Talking to you guys, I think, definitely helps. helped like in our group shot. And then something that our friend Marissa gave me was a fetal heart Doppler. And that helped so much. And I know they're kind of controversial because like some people are like, don't use those. Like I've heard people be like, don't use that because it's going to make your anxiety worse.

And I'm like, no, it literally makes it better. You know, because I can like find her and like know that she's alive because that's the biggest thing. It's like I would go into an ultrasound absolutely terrified. that our baby didn't have a heartbeat. Same. And then, you know, they would find the heartbeat. I would be like, phew, like I can calm down.

And then I would walk out of the office. And then my anxiety like starts up again because I'm like, I mean, like it could have stopped now, you know, like 10 minutes after the ultrasound. Like I don't know. So like the Doppler helped so much because I was just able to like check on her whenever I needed to. Yeah. And now thankfully like I'm to the point where I can feel her moving so I don't use it

anymore. But like it was so helpful in the first like, like, I know you were using that like every day. Once you figured out how to do it, you were like locked in every day with it. Every, every single day. Sometimes more than once a day. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Hey guys. No, I'm like actually spiraling, listening to the story and then all my other thoughts. No, something I want to add, I mean, the, I will say, I think that's also a part of. I'm like, I will say, I think that's also a part of of why my first trimester was so tough is like I didn't understand the anxiety that comes. I had no clue that this would happen to me because I never had like fears. I just thought like when you get pregnant it's a super happy thing and you're excited and I wasn't I was not mentally prepared to all

the sudden have this overwhelming amount of anxiety every single day. Like I was just I would weep in the shower thinking of every single thing that could go wrong. And honestly, I think a lot of it came from the internet. And there's like so many pros and cons to it, like you going and saying, oh, I felt so validated because other people have experiences. And that's like what I feel in our group chat and with our friendship and like talking with each other. And I still do. If I have a symptom that I'm, you know, unsure about like I love that I have a place on the internet to go look those things up. But in the first trimester, when there was nothing wrong, it became my whole feed of every single thing that possibly could go wrong. And it was like fearmongering me to the point where like I could not go on the internet without someone telling me a horror story of this happening to their body or this happening to their baby.

And it's all real and it's all valid. And that's like really not to take away from someone else's experience. But I think it instilled so much fear in me that I didn't enjoy being pregnant or like I did not have happy feelings about it. really until the second trimester when I just was so faithful in prayer of like, please just give me the peace, give me the calmness, and remove this fear that doesn't need to be there. Like all of the, all of the worry I think is valid, but I'm placing so much on myself for absolutely no reason. Like there just wasn't a reason. And every time I'd go to the doctor was like, same thing. I would cry before I would get an ultrasound. I'd cry during. I'd cry

during the ultrasound out of relief because I was like just the pressure that I felt going into these ultrasounds and like for some reason feeling almost like embarrassed or worried that they weren't going to find a heartbeat and then like what do I do if they don't and like I don't it's just such a weird thing um so then when my doctor would tell me everything's great everything's fine I just would weep in the office because I'm like so overwhelmed with all this pressure I've put on myself and so if I could give seriously any advice to somebody in their first trimester, just like stay off your phone. If something's wrong, reach out to your doctor. And then if you want to have a relatable experience, we're like, hey, I just need some support. That's different. But don't go on the

internet and just search up everything and scare yourself for no reason because I feel like it's just it's doing nobody any good. You know? No, that's so valid. Because like even in this like, this is my third pregnancy technically, but like I would have like cramping in my first trimester and then I would go online and look that up and they're like, oh, it could be like a miscarriage sign. And I'm like, great again, you know, but it's like no. Like your uterus is expanding and you're like growing like a little baby. Like of course you're going to cramp. But it's like don't look stuff up like on the internet.

Call your doctor. Literally. I would wake up and I would text you about this all the time. But like my first trimester, the prenatals that I was used. just were not super compatible with my body. And I was trying a bunch of different things, but they caused a lot of gas pains. But when I'm,

I've never experienced pregnancy before and I'm feeling cramping and things moving around, I literally would like weep on the floor in the middle of the night thinking I'm miscarrying because that's what WebMD is telling me is happening. You know what I mean? Right. There was no nothing. And I'm so grateful that we all have such supportive partners

that are able to calm us down. and are there to pick up the pieces. But it's, when you're just in it, it's so tough in your mind spirals in like a thousand different ways. And every little thing that would happen was, okay, this is like the worst case scenario. So I really just had to like get off my phone.

I think reading is great. Or just like finding hobbies in your first trimester to try to distract you from worrying about it. Because also it's tough. You're not really seeing much of the baby in the first trimester like at all. You know it's in there, but you also have, like, no proof of it. Yeah.

Of it. Totally. So I don't know. It's tough. Yeah. Yeah. It's a lot easier now, now that we can feel the baby's move. Yeah.

No, that definitely helps. I think that is something that is so, like, unspoken is the anxiety going into the appointments. Like, I was anxious going into, obviously, my first one. And then I just thought I would be fine. But it was probably, like, the three following appointments after the. that because I was going in basically, I don't know, but I was going like basically every other week. Yeah.

Like I went at 6, 8, 10, 12. I don't know if that's normal because I feel like we all have different. Like, everyone has. I ended up going every week this time. Okay. Because of like our history with loss. Yeah. So they were just like monitoring.

But I think it was probably like, it took me the third or fourth appointment to finally realize what, like I thought I was just getting car sick like because I wasn't feeling good. So I think I was just thinking that that's what it was. Yeah. But then by week 1214, I was starting to like, yeah, 1214, I was, the nausea of it all was kind of starting to go away from me or wasn't as consistent. And then I was thinking that it was just the, I was getting car sick.

But then I was starting to actually feel the anxiety in my chest. And I was like, babe, like, I actually think I'm anxious right now. And like every time he'd be like, you're okay. We're going to walk in. You're going to see the baby. We're going to be like, you are going to be fine. Yeah. You guys, I was so anxious.

I will never forget. And I'm like already when I get nervous, I sweat a lot from my armpits. They have like the paper that you sit down on. Oh, no. Oh, no. Yeah. And literally, I remember I was sitting at the appointment. It was like one of my first ones. And I had a similar situation where for my first appointment, when she had brought me in,

she told me like my baby was measuring smaller. So it was either like the, like my last period, which it was because we knew what day we conceived. So my period dates were just, and I don't have a regular period. But anyways, all that to being said, she was like, you know, you need to come back next week because you could either lose the baby or the dates are wrong. So when I came in for the next appointment, I was so nervous and I was just praying like everything was okay. And I wore this sundress because I just wanted something quick for the exam. And I remember like laying back before my doctor came in and I was like dripping sweat on the

paper. And Bradley was like, you need to somehow dry that up because there's going to be puddles of sweat. And I was like, I don't know how to help this. Like, I'm so nervous. And luckily now my appointments, I'm way more relaxed for, but like the first trimester anxiety is not talked about enough. It's crazy. Yeah. I talked about this when I did my like one solo one that I think, I think a lot of the first trimester stuff kind of gets like swept under the rug because not even intentionally. But like I, I literally forgot, and I haven't even, like, shared this, but I forgot I had a heart monitor around for two weeks. I literally, like, I forgot about that. I've forgotten, like, so many things that I've, like, gone through this pregnancy and had to do.

Forgot. I, just because there's, like, I feel like we're just blocking things out too. Yeah, truly. Like, we were just so anxious that. Well, and every week you have, like, a new something. Yeah. So, you know what you mean? Every week is different. Okay. This week it's, you know. So I feel like we just, like, move on. And then I'm like, oh, I forgot that. I'm like. I literally forgot that that happened to me. Yeah. Yeah. So I think that's why a lot of this first trimester stuff isn't talked about.

And that's why I'm like on a mission to talk about it more because I think like. I could write a book on the first trimester like literally. Like there's just so many things and you're not expecting like anything to really change so much. Like you're just kind of expecting like morning sickness and pregnancy to be this beautiful thing, which is beautiful that you and your spouse. made a baby. Yeah. But there's lots of other. Yeah. People definitely need to talk a lot more about first trimester. Also like loss. Yeah. Like if people talked about these things more, then we wouldn't be as shocked like when they happen. Right. You know, like even just first

trimester anxiety. It's like never knew. That was a thing until now, you know, or like loss. I didn't know anything about a miscarriage or loss or infertility until I actually went through it. Yeah. And yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's wild. That's why we're here today to talk about it. It's not taboo. A question. Do you have any symptoms before you had your positive pregnancy test that made you take one?

For my first pregnancy, I had just missed my period. But other than that, no. Okay. For my second one, I, no, I don't think so because I was, like, actively, like, taking tests. Like, I was taking tests, like, from, like, 9 DPO. Which is days past population. Same. I found out on 10 DPO. Yeah.

Yeah. So not really. And then for this one, I was working with a fertility doctor. So no, we've literally found out like exactly three weeks or maybe even less. Like we knew right away. Yeah. Did you? No, because I found out literally like the earliest possible day you could find out.

But I will say my aura ring did tell me. Yeah, you had an interesting thing. My or ring did tell me some like warning signs or what is it when it gets kind of cloudy on that? Yeah. Like something, yeah, I'm blanking on it. Something was going on. Don't ask the pregnant woman to turn. I don't know.

Something along those lines. So I was like, huh. And then the other thing was my PMS symptoms are usually very strong for like a week and a half before I get my period. And I didn't have any PMS symptoms. So I was like, huh, that's weird. It doesn't feel like my period is coming. And it was supposed to be coming somewhat soon.

Oh, wow. So then I was like, that's my only like, like, red flag, but also I know what day ovulated. I tested as soon as I possibly could. So I wasn't like waiting for a symptom. Like I was actively testing when I knew it was the soon as possible I could. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I guess I'm probably the only one. I guess I had symptoms, but then I didn't realize that I had symptoms because I wasn't trying or thinking

about anything that I was pregnant. But yeah. Yeah. So Taylor and I were not trying. We weren't doing anything to stop it, but we weren't like, okay, we're like ready to make this decision. And a few months before I got, a few months before I got diagnosed with PCOS. I think I've talked about this before, but I was on birth control for basically like 10 years. And then I went off of it to like a lower dose one, beginning of last year. I had a pregnancy like scare thought I was pregnant, wasn't. And then it was like beginning of last year when I was like, okay, if it happens, it happens. I ended up trying this like the lower dose birth control. It was, I did not like it. It was horrible. I was like

bleeding like every other week. It was just like it did not work well with my body. So I just went off of it. But I was then off birth control for, I mean, I think I was off of it for like eight months before I got pregnant. But that was the first time I'd been off of it in 10 years. So I got that diagnosis. And then my cycle before I got pregnant. was 40 days long, which, like, is kind of crazy. Like, it took me, like, I didn't have a period for that long. Yeah, it's long. And so I wasn't even technically late when I took a test.

But I was supposed to have a microneedling appointment. And so I was like, let me just, like, make sure that I'm not pregnant because I don't want to, like, have to do that. But then after, then, obviously, finding out I was pregnant, I then was thinking back to, like, what the week or weeks before. I basically was like almost five weeks when I found out. Okay. I was like around, I think it was around five when I found out.

How far along were you? I was probably like three. I was three. Yeah. And then I realized that like the few days before I took the test, I thought I was getting sick because I was so tired. Like normally like a thing for me before I get sick as I'm like, my body's exhausted.

And I remember it was like 2 p.m. on like the random day. I didn't really have anything going on and my sleep was still fine. And I remember laying on the couch and I like knocked out like I was sick like knocked out. And I woke up an hour later and Taylor was like, are you okay? And I was like I think I might be getting sick. Like I literally told him. I think I might be getting sick. Because I'm so tired. Just come to find out I was pregnant and literally had no clue. So I guess that was like my biggest like. Yeah. For sure. Little sign was the. tiredness. But yeah, I wasn't even like technically late. So I probably would have noticed it if I would have been. I feel like exhaustion probably would have been my first sign because I was just so tired all the time. Yeah. So sleepy. Yeah. So sleepy girls. But like you said about the aura ring, that's actually how I knew that I was miscarrying or because like I had I had a feeling because I wore my aura ring all the time. Yeah. So I'm talking about my first pregnancy. Okay. And so I kind of like I saw my numbers like going all wonky, but like I didn't immediately

think that I was pregnant because of it because like we weren't trying and I didn't really know anything. I thought I was just getting sick or something. Then we found out we were pregnant. And then all my numbers kind of started stabilizing back to like normal. And so before that first appointment, then I was like, well, maybe something's wrong. So I went into that appointment already kind of thinking that, you know, that maybe I was losing it. But like, I didn't know as much as I do now back then. Yeah. But it's definitely a positive about

wearing an oar ring. Yeah. She had to take hers off. Yeah. I took mine off because I had a similar experience, but nothing was wrong. So then I was like, like, other than it gave me the warning signs and then probably a month into my pregnancy, I noticed that I had one number that had dropped. And I was like, that doesn't look good. And if you, if your, if your, if your ring's not on your finger, then it's not going to accurately read. And that's what the internet was telling me, like, there's a chance, you know, you weren't sleeping with it, whatever. But it just freaked me out so bad. And I cried the whole day. And then Bradley was like, you had to just take this thing off. Because again, I think I was so deep in my first trimester anxiety that I'm like, if something happens,

it's okay. That's life. But I don't want to be freaking myself out for nothing. So like, totally. I just took it off. But totally. I mean, it's, you have to listen to like your your body and your mind for sure because everyone's so different it's like some people want to know yeah some people don't and that's totally fine yeah that's been the biggest thing i've learned is i'm like i love hearing people's like what people have gone through but when people feel like they are they can give you advice on like what you should or shouldn't do like every pregnancy and every baby is different yeah you have to listen to you really got to like you have to tune everybody out yeah and just do what's best for you yeah it's so true

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like probably like outgrowing my clothes so fast. Wait, can we talk about that? Because I have so much to say about this topic. Body was going to be my next. Yes. But that is something I also was not expecting. I remember telling two of my girlfriends. And I was probably only eight weeks pregnant, if that.

And I was like, I am not showing at all, but I don't fit in any of my clothes. And I don't know how that's possible. Literally. And I feel like now that we all have bumps and things are fitting different and it's cute. Like I have more confidence in how I look and how I'm able to dress with my bump. But the first trimester, when you have literally no proof of your baby, but you're not fitting in any of your clothes. And it's like. You're just fluffy.

Yes. It's just weird. Yeah. Like I just looked like I gained like 10 pounds. And I'm like, no, I promise I'm pregnant. Yeah. No. I did not.

Or also if you're not, if you aren't trying to tell people or you're trying to conceal your pregnancy, And then it's like, what do I do? Because literally nothing fits me. Yeah. And by four weeks, we would send each other like pictures of our belly by the end. We looked like we were nine months pregnant. And like there was no bump. But it was just bloating.

I was not expecting that at all. The bump growth from like morning to night is insane. Yeah. Like, yeah. I definitely look nine months pregnant. I feel like we're all in a better place with it now because. Yeah. Now I actually like kind of like the bump and I'll like be cute with it, you know?

But yeah, when it was in that bloating phase, I was having meltdowns. I was like full on crying in my closet. Yeah, I think that would be my biggest advice is like in a weird way as you grow. It will get easier. I think I'm still kind of like not. I still, I think probably struggle with it the most just because like my body really truly has changed like so much. Like I can't get any pair. Like I can barely fit in tailors.

So jeans. So it's like, there's just like a lot of things. Also, I was trying to like not know how much weight I'd gained. And at my 20 week appointment, my, I like stepped on the scale. I didn't look at the scale. I'd like secretly high five Taylor and then like went and sat on the thing. And my OBB is like looking at the baby. And she goes, how much weight is she gained so far?

And I was like, she asked that? Oh my God. But like, yeah, no, I know. And in hindsight. Like I said in private. I don't want to be there. I don't want to know. I don't want to know.

It's not my business. Yeah. No, obviously if she like would know that I wasn't looking at the scale, she would not. I've said anything. But but then I had gained 30 pounds already halfway and she was like, maybe you should try walking and like just I'm not going to end the sentence there because

it keeps going in a good way. But she said that because she gained 60 pounds during her pregnancy and she was like miserable by the end. So she was just like. It'll be easier on you. Yeah. She was like try to like get. exercise in what she is right. I need to, I have not moved my body like at all.

And I need to just like walk. But that's been like, I mean, it's so hard to not gain weight because well, yeah, you have to. Well, like, well, like we said in the beginning, it's like in your first trimester, if you don't eat, you feel nausea. I mean, not everybody, you know, but for like us, if we didn't eat, we got nauseous. So I was just eating carbs all the time. Yeah. Because protein also made me feel sick, like chicken and beef and fish. I would cry about my lack of protein intake, because I'm like, but I can't stomach it. Yeah. It's like, I was literally only eating carbs.

Yeah. No, for sure. Yeah. But it's like when you're eating carbs for breakfast, lunch and dinner, you're going to gain three midnight snacks I was having. Yeah. I would literally wake up in the middle of the night and have a cracker. Yeah.

Oh, I would eat like two protein bars at night because I was like, I didn't. No, it's so hard to not. I am curious. I feel like Tye and I, we've kind of talked about this. And I just have had this conversation with like so many of my other friends, but curious what your thoughts are on it. I feel like I was not expecting for my body to change as quickly as it did. And everyone's pregnancy is very different.

Whether you have like the most massive appetite or you're barely eating, you still gain weight. Like you just do. And your body's changing. And I think there's also something just weird because it all feels out of your control. And it feels very foreign, at least for me, the first few months, I was like, I actually don't even know like whose body I'm living in. It just feels very foreign to me. And now, obviously, I'm in a better place with it.

But something that really affected my mental health. And I guess, like, hearing someone else's confirmation that they've also noticed the same things about my body really hurt me. And I know that it's not coming from a bad place. But I think a lot of times when you would be sharing the news of, oh my gosh, I'm pregnant, I had so many people, not just for myself. This is from other girlfriends of mine who are also pregnant. The reaction being, oh my gosh, I knew it. I saw that picture of you or like, I've noticed you've gained weight or just making a comment about somebody's body and that being your connecting source to why you knew that they were pregnant is a discouraging feeling. And I think

if you're going to tell somebody to, oh my gosh, I knew it. Because I feel like when you and I told each other, we were pregnant, we then said, oh my gosh, I noticed, you know, when we were dinner, you weren't drinking, or you haven't been feeling well lately, or you've been canceling plans. Like, there's a way to go about it and an etiquette that doesn't have to feel like, hey, you noticed I put on 10 pounds or whatever, because you're already dealing with your own body images and then to have confirmation that everyone else has also noticed it is like the worst feeling. And whether that's true or not, it just doesn't need to be said, you know? Yeah. No, there's definitely like, And I just try to tell myself that people, like, don't know how to, like, I don't know, like, react.

Like, you know, in like a weird way when people, like, don't know how to, like, comfort you, like, if you're grieving, like, they don't know what to say. I feel like people maybe get just, like, awkward because I had multiple people tell me the same thing. Like, someone said, like, you know, my jeans are, like, a little more snug or, like, they could. Yeah. Like, I would, I had told a couple people over FaceTime, they're like, I could tell, like, your face. Or people are like, you're glowing. I'm like, bruh, I'm just, my face is more full. I'm not glowing.

I'm just chubby. Yeah, literally. I got some extra fluff on me. That's so funny. Yeah. So I'm like, yeah, I'm. I think it's like you said, I think people get awkward and they don't know what to say. So they say the first thing that comes to mind.

Or also, most of the time, it's people that haven't, like, been pregnant or like, for me, that was, I feel like, that was kind of the people or they're like so far removed from pregnancy. That was, that was my experience. it was that it was like so either hasn't or like you just don't think about it. Yeah. And also I don't think a lot of like not every pregnant woman, you know, struggles with body image.

Yeah. And some people are just like my mom like clothes that she would wear when she was pregnant with me like I wear normally. Like I have some of her old clothes still. So it's like. Yeah. It's just like people walk through things. No, it's so true.

Different. Like not to keep bringing up like miscarriage, but like it's even like with that. Like it's even like with that like people say the most like out of pocket things like when you're like going through something like that. We both laugh but that's no I like keep bringing it up. I like keep bringing it up. You need to calm down. I know. I need to stop talking about it. No, but it's like people say the craziest things when I'm like I just have to remind myself that like it's people who haven't experienced it and they just don't know what to say and they're trying to like make you feel better. Yeah. And so they say the first thing that comes to their mind and it's like well that's not really. You shouldn't really. say that. I also feel like it's hard because you don't want to be overly sensitive and like to the point where no one can say anything. And it's like you have to be so tight-lipped. But it's also,

I think it's, if anything, it's just given me more perspective about how to approach. Because I'm like, have I done that to somebody. Because I have, I didn't know. Yeah, like I'm sure I have. Maybe I have said that not like, I know I'm not making a direct comment about somebody's weight, but maybe like I'm saying, oh my gosh, I knew it instead of just meeting them with congratulations. That's so excited. Like I don't know how that person's going to take it. And I think now being on the receiving end, I'm like, huh, I'm just going to change my outlook and try to be as supportive or mindful with my words as I can't be. You know? I think something else that I've been learning to, which I think is just going to take me a long time to like continue to learn is like how I'm talking about myself as well because I think that's still something that I'm struggling. with like I was it's like talking to um I forget what I was telling Taylor I think it was about like laying out and tanning over the summer and I was talking about like being like a big pregnant woman laying out he's like you're not a big pregnant woman you're pregnant that's all you are right and I was

like drop the big drop the fat like drop these drop these words that I'm filling in because that's how I feel but like I I need to stop saying that in my head and Taylor called me out on it a few days ago and I was like, no, you're right. I should probably call me Big Mama every day. But I love it. And I think it's, I actually really do love it. No, I'm not. No, that's cute.

Okay, biggest lesson you've learned through your pregnancy journey so far? Mine's not going to be very like sappy. Mine's just practical. Love lesson I've learned. I have always been the type of person that I love physical activity. I love movement. I love working out. And not just for like aesthetic or.

but just the way that my body feels and for my mental health. And my first trimester with how sick I was and then also how exhausted I was, I really didn't get much physical movement. And I think that also played a big role into why I was so sad every day just because I wasn't like releasing any endorphins. I wasn't getting much movement. I would try my best when I could to get like 20 minutes in on the treadmill or like lift some weights or go outside for a walk, but it really was hard for me. And in my second trimester, just having so much energy, I am in the gym every day not trying to, like, build some crazy physique,

but literally just to get movement in. And my mood has completely shifted. And I knew how much it affected me before pregnancy and being in it now. I'm like, it's the exact same. Like just getting out and somehow moving, I will never take that for granted. And it doesn't have to be some crazy strenuous workout. It doesn't need to be lifting or even going to a Pilates class.

But like just getting outside for 15 minutes and walking has just drastically changed my mood and my spirit. And so I feel like it's something I'm prioritizing because I love it. But I will just, I will continue to do that for the rest of my pregnancies and like really make that a priority. even when I'm just not feeling it or I'm like, obviously you want to take care of your body and not overwork. But like just knowing how much happier I am when I can just somewhat move my body, I'm like, man, I will do this for every single pregnancy. Even on the days where I don't want to get up just because I've seen how it's affected me. And like, that's been such a cool thing to see over the past few months, I would say. Yeah.

Honestly, I'm proud of you for doing that, like, while you're so sick too. Because like that's really hard to When you're feeling nauseous to just like get out of bed And work out your body Like that's that takes a lot of strength It also sucks I'm such a competitive person And Bradley's like building his dream body right now

And I'm a little couch potato and I'm like I can't I can't do this I'm gonna go with you No my favorite was I need to be better What did you had like sent me a photo or something And you were literally like in flip flops Just like slow like pace on the treadmill

Literally. I was like, that's like so real and it's so good. And it like made me. I was like, take a 10 minute, 15 minute walk outside when I was feeling like just complete hell. But I loved that. Oh my gosh. My flip-flop walks were like peak first trimester. Belly's like just come down from 10 minutes.

I'm like, all right, this is the best. In my pajamas too. Like in our just at our house. Hey, you got it in. You got the movement in. You got the movement in. And it helped. Yeah.

Yeah. Do you have a lesson? I'm trying to think. I feel like the biggest lesson is just like how different everybody's pregnancy journey is. And like I didn't realize that. Like, I don't know. I feel like I just thought like pregnancy is pregnancy. Like everyone kind of just like goes through the same thing.

Yeah. Like everybody literally has such a different journey. It's just like wild. And then like kind of like what you said earlier is just like I've learned to have more empathy because of like being, you know, pregnant and like going through loss and all of that. It's just like learning how to talk to people about pregnancy and learning to, you know, care for my body and be kind to myself. I feel like that's all like things that I didn't know before. What are you going to add? I was going to say I have another lesson or another thing I've

learned. And you talked about it in your solo episode and I loved it so much. And it's something I feel like I really had to implement in my first trimester was telling the people. people in your life when you need support and when you need community or when you need help. Because I really have always been such a hyper independent person. I don't like asking for help. I don't like asking people to like show up for me. I'm just like if you do it great. If you don't, I'm self-sufficient enough to go through life by myself or like with my husband or whatever. And in my first trimester when I was in such a dark place, for a lot of my friends that either hadn't been pregnant or have been pregnant, but they didn't have the same type of pregnancy

experience that I had. They, it wasn't anything intentional, but I just like needed something that I wasn't getting. And it was up to me to go to them and just say like, hey, I really need X, Y, and Z. I just need a friend. I need to talk about this. And, uh, I feel like you can't expect somebody to understand exactly what you're going through unless you verbalize that to them. And that was a hard thing for me to learn because I felt so needy texting a few of my friends and being like, hey, I really need something more. You know, like I just have never been that type of person. But I was like, I'm sitting at home almost hurting my own feelings because I feel like these people aren't showing up for me. But how would they know that they need to? How would they know they've

never experienced this? Or if they have, they had a wildly different. on pregnancy than me. And I need to express that. And so it's, I've always been a very vocal person, not with that though. And so I feel like regardless of if you're going through pregnancy or not, if you're experiencing grief or like, you know, there's marital issues or family things or body image issues, like expressing that to the people around you and calling on them for help is so crucial. And that has been like such a big. learning lesson for me throughout this pregnancy. Yeah. No, it's, it's so good. And I feel like I'm still learning it. And I think that's something that I'm going to take to like into motherhood and into just

honestly, like life. Like I can't expect people. Like I feel like we talk about it the most like in marriage. Like you can't expect your partner to like raid your mind. Like if there's, you know, they keep leaving their dirty socks on the floor. You can't expect them to like know that bothers you or like pick it up if you're not voicing that. So I think we need to carry that into like our other relationships as well. I'd say my biggest lesson also while you were talking, she was literally kicking so much. Like literally, it kind of scared me. Like my arm like moved.

No way. No, literally. They're getting really big. But I think my, I think my biggest lesson is that it is a hundred percent perfectly normal and fine to be so grateful to be pregnant, but also not like being pregnant. For sure. And I've obviously like opened up about this on like social media. I feel like I've actually talked about it in a few podcasts now.

But I really think that a positive and a negative like can be true. And we need to just like as a society accept that. Yeah. And just because I don't like, you know, I'm not thoroughly enjoying being pregnant. Like, and what it's doing to my body doesn't mean that I'm ungrateful for this little thing that's kicking me like during this. You know, like I think both. can very much be true. And I think it's honest.

And I think a lot of women feel like they can't voice that because they don't want to like sound ungrateful. But that's just like that's just the reality. Some people like I have people who love being pregnant. They're glowing. They feel the best when they're pregnant. Like they would be like a surrogate. They love being pregnant so much.

And so I think it just really everyone is different. So it just is really what. It really is true. What your body likes. Or also not feeling guilty about that feeling. because that was something I felt so early on was like, why am I not as excited as I should be? Or like, why am I not glowing in this joy and like this gift of life? But I am struggling so much.

And I felt really guilty. And then that would make me sad. And then you're like in this cycle of I'm trying to be happy. But there's all these reasons of like why I feel like crap. And so yeah, even just like internally coming to grips with that, I guess. I love that. Well, this will be the first of many bump club podcast because I am about to click stop on the cameras and then we're going to keep recording because so there will be another

episode coming soon but I'll leave links to Amy Natasha's social so you can see all of our fun our fun pregnancy yeah bump club content because we we honestly I'm so proud of us we filmed we probably filmed like we have like a full work day like we really did I was exhausted after guys we were so efficient we really were bouncing around I was proud of us I love that um if you have any other questions about pregnancy or something that you're going through and you want our take on, leave a comment down below or you can always like DM one of us and we'll see it and answer it. But I'll see you guys next time. Peabreak now.

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