The Tim Ferriss Show - #233: Cory Booker -- Street Fights, 10-Day Hunger Strikes, and Creative Problem-Solving

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Starting point is 00:02:57 that's tim.blog forward slash Friday. And thanks for checking it out. If the spirit moves you. Hello, boys and girls. This is Tim Ferriss, and welcome to another episode of The Tim Ferriss Show, where it is my job each and every episode to deconstruct world-class performers from many, many different areas and try to connect the dots. So they may come from chess, entertainment, athletics, or otherwise military, for instance. But what are the common habits, the favorite books, the routines that you can apply to your own life? That is what I tried to tease out. And this episode, we have a very special guest. He was highly, highly, highly requested, has been requested for years by thousands of you at this point. Cory Booker, that is C-O-R-Y,

Starting point is 00:03:43 at Cory Booker on Twitter and elsewhere, is an American politician and the junior United States Senator from New Jersey. Now, I want to say right up front, I generally have an allergy to politics, and long-term listeners know this. I very seldom dig in and try to penetrate that world. But a few things. Number one, Corey and I actually go back a ways, so we've spent time together. Second, his story is endlessly fascinating to me. For instance,

Starting point is 00:04:11 he's faced down death threats from gangs, run into burning buildings, and much more, aside from all of the official stuff that you see. That, I think, is worth mining. He's also very well-spoken and very well-educated and pulls from many different disciplines. We cover a lot in this wide-ranging catch-up, which we did in person in Austin Tejas, including his diet, lessons from early mentors in athletics, routines, most impactful books, the books he's gifted the most to other people, learning how to, quote, street fight, end quote, in New Jersey after a Rhodes scholarship and a fantastic education and much, much more. Corey began his political career, as some of you probably know, as a city councilor from 1998 to 2002 in Newark, New Jersey's largest city.

Starting point is 00:04:55 He later then served as mayor of Newark. And under his leadership, Newark entered its biggest period of economic growth since the 1960s. The first new downtown hotels were constructed in 40 years, the first new office towers in 20 years, etc., etc. He then won the Senate Democratic primary in August of 2013 and then won the general election on October 16, 2013, becoming the first African-American U.S. senator from New Jersey. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. I always enjoy spending time with Corey. So without further ado, here is Corey Booker. Corey, welcome to the show. It's pretty amazing being here, actually. I am so thrilled to finally be sitting here with you to have this conversation. We met many years ago and I've wanted to get you on the podcast ever since I realized the podcast

Starting point is 00:05:50 was going to be more than drinking too much with my one or two closest friends in San Francisco and embarrassing myself. I love the drunk taking questions. Oh, the drunk dial episodes. Yeah. But, but this is one of those moments where literally when my team, my team that works with me in the Senate says to me, you know, Tim, once you have you on your show, it's like this like moment where I'm like, wait a minute. I see this show as sort of like you having pretty masters of their domains on this show. And the fact that I want to be on a show, I have this severe problem of imposter syndrome. Like I am not worthy after a list. I'm a huge fan of your show. It has literally influenced my life in a very significant

Starting point is 00:06:26 way, as you did. In fact, when we met at Dialogue, we met at Dialogue, I was way overweight. And you took the time to stand with me as everybody left. We were at some table and just coached me for 10 minutes. I then went on to lose. It was probably the best shape I had been in until more recently. But you just coached me. I just followed your gospel and I got myself in shape. And by that point, I was like, this guy changed my life. And I just became a fan, read the four-hour work week, read the four-hour body. Seth just got me your most recent book. So I'm just thrilled to be here.

Starting point is 00:06:56 Not sure if I'm worthy. Oh, I think you're worthy. And more than worthy. And I have so many questions that I was waiting to ask you, whether in person, just over dinner or on the podcast. So I figured, why not just do it on the podcast? And I wanted to ask you to start maybe at the beginning, because I came into this not knowing a whole lot about your upbringing and childhood. Could you tell us a little bit about your parents? So I hit the lottery to be born to these two amazing American folks who both have tough backgrounds. They're black people who were born in the 30s basically. And so growing up under

Starting point is 00:07:39 Jim Crow and my father, especially very poor, single mom to a mother who couldn't take care of him, then a grandmother that couldn't take care of him. And I've now, since I was on this great show called Finding Your Roots, so I actually now know about my roots going back to the 1600s in America, actually, amazingly. But for that sort of branch of the family, my father is poverty, poverty, poverty, slavery. And so these parents came from tough environments, but both were fortunate enough to get to a college. And through the interventions of a lot of really great people, especially my father, it was a community of people when his mom couldn't take care of him, that took him in and bent the branches of my family towards college and ultimately towards being middle income, pitched in money. I don't know what their ROI is on those people that gave

Starting point is 00:08:24 like a buck to my dad to get his first semester's tuition paid for and then work his way through college. But incredible amounts of individual kindness got my dad to college. And then, hey, great. You land in college right during the civil rights movement and you got black people, white people, Christian, Jewish, Muslim, all pouring into the South for you to basically give you equal opportunity in this country. So doors started opening up to blacks that never had been before. My parents both get to Washington, DC after college. And my dad, thanks to, again, the activism of blacks and whites, you know, Christians, Jews, Republicans, and Democrats, who were just saying that these

Starting point is 00:08:58 companies kind of got to start hiring black people and companies opened their doors. So my dad became the first black salesman for an oil company, first black buyer, I think for a department store. Then he became IBM's first black salesman for the entire Virginia area. And what happens when you let people at the table to have a fair chance to compete, he kicked ass. Excuse me. He just, second thing you know, he's like their top 5% of their global salesman and gets promoted to New Jersey with his new wife. And at that point, I was four months old. So we moved to Jersey.

Starting point is 00:09:29 That's how my sort of Jersey origins come. So I've spent a good amount of time in Jersey. And we're going to get to Jersey. We're going to spend a lot of time on Jersey, I suspect. What were some of the lessons or sayings that you found most impactful or have retained from your parents? Well, look, I mean, James Baldwin says that children are never good at listening to their elders, but they never fail to imitate them. So I've learned that my parents said certain things that I abided by because that's how they lived. And then my parents told me a whole bunch

Starting point is 00:10:00 of stuff that I didn't embody because they didn't live in allegiance to what they told me to do. So look, my parents embodied this interesting ethic. They were very entrepreneurial people. They were very business-minded people, but they also almost felt like they just had this debt to society because they knew the extraordinary acts of love and kindness that got there. I mean, my dad's work ethic and my mom's work ethic is I get older. I more appreciate my mother. I don't think I appreciate as much as a young, but my father was one of these guys that would like, if it was a snow day and I'm like in first grade, all excited, the first sound I would be woken up in the morning, but like 5am, my dad's shoveling

Starting point is 00:10:37 the driveway when everybody's staying home. Cause he was going to go to work and be the first person to work no matter what. And so, you know, my dad, even though he had this incredible work ethic and climbed the ladder into middle class, you know, through the sheer grit that he had, he also had this understanding that like, if it wasn't for lots of thousands of people that you don't even know, I wouldn't be here. And so my dad had this powerful story he told that got more dramatic the older I got. I mean, I'm walking around. By the time I'm 18 years old, I'm thinking I'm the greatest gift of the world. I'm a two-position high school, all-state high school football player, all-American high school football player, president of my class.

Starting point is 00:11:18 I'm thinking I'm somebody my father would look at me and say, boy, don't you dare walk around this house like you hit a triple. You were born on third base. You think you're special? You know how many people? and say, you know, boy, don't you dare walk around this house like you hit a triple. You were born on third base. You know, it's like you think you're special. You know how many people? And I would get the lecture, you know. And it was easy for him to do that lecture because he knew that I knew that I was very different than my peers in the sense of I was black. As my father called us, we were the four raisins in a tub of sweet vanilla ice cream.

Starting point is 00:11:42 We were definitely not the norm in terms of race in the town. And so then he can easily tell me how I got there. Look, when my parents moved to New Jersey, I grew up in the Northeastern County, the one that looks at across the Palisades, across the Hudson River at New York, north of the George Washington Bridge. My father basically is like, look, what took us to get here? So my parents, when they tried to buy homes in Bergen County, there's only a handful of towns in this 70 plus town county that would let blacks move in. And they didn't have laws at the time. People think the North, it was a South that had the segregation laws. No, it was real estate steering. Black family shows up. Let me show you homes in

Starting point is 00:12:22 Teaneck or Englewood or Hackensack. You don't want to go up here. So what my parents ended up doing, a group of just, again, blacks and whites joined together to create a storefront operation called the Fair Housing Council. And they would go with blacks, my parents, and send a white couple right behind them. My parents would look at a house, be told it was sold. The white couple would come and find out the house is still for sale. And on this house that my parents fell in love with, 123 Norma Road in Harrington Park, New Jersey, they were told it was sold. The white couple came, found out it was still for sale. White couple puts a bid on the house.

Starting point is 00:12:53 Papers are drawn up. On the day of the closing, my father shows up and a volunteer lawyer, a guy named Marty Friedman, a Jewish lawyer who just on his own time wanted to help black families out. And literally the real estate agent stands up angrily when he realizes he got caught in a sting operation. It doesn't relent. It doesn't say, yeah, I broke the law. No, he punches my dad's lawyer in the face and, and SIGs a dog. Always a great response. Right. And puts a dog on my dad, literally SIGs his dog on my dad. And I always joke that, that every time as I got older and older, the dog got

Starting point is 00:13:22 bigger. Eventually it was like a pack of wolves. wolves and I fought a pack of wolves so you could eat that tuna fish sandwich. But, but, you know, then we move into this home. And, and so for me, as my father would like say to me, he says, you're, you know, you're drinking from wells of freedom and liberty and opportunity that you didn't dig. You're eating from banquet tables prepared for you by your ancestors. This is the kind of stuff my parents inspired my understanding to recognize that if you have the luck, I just had a Senate hearing last week about Yemen and 3 million internally displaced people, war. It's a country on the brink of famine, which is not something the UN does lightly to talk about widespread famine. If you have the fortune, the blessing of being born an American, you are in the rarefied of rarefied heirs in humanity if you're an American in the 21st century. And what my parents did a good job of sort of bringing fully to my consciousness through the portal and lens of the black experience. But frankly, I don't care if you're

Starting point is 00:14:19 Irish American, if you're Indian American, this is all of us, how much effort had to go. And it wasn't Abraham Lincoln and FDR. No, it was good folk, ordinary folks who just said, you know what? I may be Jewish. You may be Christian. I may be black. You may be white, but we are in this together. And we're going to, we're going to, if you're facing an injustice, it's, it's, it's a problem with me. And I would hear, you know, before I even studying this stuff in history, like, you know, son, people stormed beaches in Normandy for you. You know, they swept floors for you. They went on freedom rides for you. And so if any mantra, civic sort of family mantra that was there for my brother and I is, yeah, you have an obligation to take the

Starting point is 00:15:03 blessings God gave you and work like, work is like the most important thing. Like we're out, don't let anybody ever outwork you. And that that's, you and I have shared this in sports or what have you work ethic is important, but like service has got to be a part of that too. You owe a debt. You can't pay back to your ancestors. You got to pay it forward by paying it to other people. So you, you played ball, you ended up at Stanford. I always say I got into my Stanford because of our 4.0 and 1600, 4.0 yards per carry, 1600 receiving yards. Now I was, so you grew up as I understand it about a mile or two away from a previous guest, John Crowley. And so he suggested that I ask you about,

Starting point is 00:15:48 and I know nothing about football, so I'm getting deep into my, sort of the deep end of my ignorance pool here, but Lou Holtz trying to recruit you. So maybe you could provide some context for people who don't even know who Lou Holtz is. Well, Lou Holtz is probably one of the greatest American college football coaches of all times. And so I was in all fairness, because the older we get, the better we were at our sports. But in all fairness, I was probably the most overrated high school football player ever. I was just, people thought I could, you know, part the seas of linebackers and score anytime I wanted to. And it was a lot of hype. I think the song back then by Public Enemy was Don't Believe the Hype. That was written, I think, about my football

Starting point is 00:16:29 career. But I had a choice of going anywhere. And I just looked at it. You went to Princeton. And again, this idea that like, okay, I have a chance to get a full scholarship to any college in the country. I'm going to go because of my parents wiring to the best academic school I can go to. And so I looked at Duke and Stanford and UVA and, um, but Notre Dame was definitely in that list. And so Lou Holtz is probably one of the most persuasive human beings ever. And I always talk about the fact that, you know, and, and it definitely an embellished story, but going out there and like Lou Holtz, who is a short man, I'm six three. And he, I would say it was like five foot in a smidgen. And, uh, but like a booming guy, you look up to him right when you meet him and he just gives me the best sell you can imagine.

Starting point is 00:17:15 We actually go into the Notre Dame locker room and there's my Jersey with my high school number in it. And you have to say you're 17, 18 years old. Like this is amazing. And Lou Holtz goes, take a knee. And like when Lou Holtz tells take a knee, I'm a Christian boy, but I bowed before that man. And then he gives me the best pregame speech I'd ever heard in my life. I mean, he, and he pulls from all history. He's talking about, you know, uh, uh, the Gipper. And I mean, he even talks about Rudy for crying out loud. He goes to Rudy. And so I'm like, oh my God, I hyped up.

Starting point is 00:17:45 And then he goes, you know, rise, Cory Booker, rise. And it didn't take a muscle twitch. I literally elevated up into the air. And after he told me that, I'm ready to go out and chop down trees. And then Notre Dame, you go through this little tunnel. There's like a four-leaf clover there or something you hit. And I don't care if you're black, if you're, you know, if you're from Bangladesh. When you touch that Irish, from bangladesh when you touch

Starting point is 00:18:05 that irish you you the irish isles call you you feel your irish ancestry and so like i'm fully baked then i walk down through the tunnel and you get on the field and like palt is still in your ear it's like as if he's narrating your moment on that field and i'm walking down and like cory booker you're gonna score a touchdown in that end zone so you get to that end zone and then you turn around and the field is like a bowl, but there's a building behind the field that's called, it's their library, I think. And on the field, there's a picture, there's a mural of Jesus Christ with his arms up as if he's saying touchdown. In fact, his nickname is Touchdown Jesus. And the only time you can see it, so i turn around and now i don't care if you're baha'i seek christian um uh jewish you see touchdown jesus after after uh lou haltz has

Starting point is 00:18:50 pumped you up it is a conversion moment and i looked at you and i knew what jesus wanted for me at that moment he wanted me to score a touchdown and then so it's on swearing i'm gonna score a touchdown and so i get home and my parents are like where are you going to school i'm going to notre dame and it took them you know psychologists and and they had to deprogram me to eventually get me to go to stanford when i realized that we played stanford we played notre dame twice in their in their end zone in my senior year uh my best career game was against um notre dame we were we weren't even ranked in the top 50 notre dame was ranked number one in the country. We were going in and everybody said we were going to get killed by 10, 20 points. And they score a touchdown.

Starting point is 00:19:30 We score a touchdown. We were actually staying with them. And I had this pass over the middle and Todd Light, an All-American corner. I have one move in sports and all the sports. He must have not watched the film, but it's basically me throwing my hips one way and running the other as quickly as I can. He actually fell down and I'm running towards touchdown Jesus. I'm hearing the Lord calling to me, this is what I've wanted from you for your life. And I get tackled from behind by some spawn from hell and takes me out. Eventually we scored

Starting point is 00:20:01 a touchdown, won the game, but my Notre Dame experience is I love the school. And if anything I learned from that, cause we had no right to be in that end zone. I still always tell people my true lesson from that story is that if you have a right team, you can be up against people that are superior athletes, superior intellect or whatever, but a good team, people together can beat any group of great individuals. So, okay. That is a fantastic story. We're going to talk about delegating and team, I think a little bit later because there were some listener questions about that, but I want to talk about persuasion. So you mentioned Lou is very persuasive. I think of you as very persuasive and you're very gifted speaker. And I think we're going to take a

Starting point is 00:20:40 slight left turn. It's going to seem that way, but it's related. We talked a little bit about this before we started recording. So correct me if I'm wrong here, but you ran a student run crisis hotline at Stanford. Could you talk about that? And specifically, I want to know what did you learn about that experience and what works when you are on a crisis hotline? So this is a sort of a crisis hotline called the bridge at Stanford. And it was probably one of the best life experiences because I was sort of a teenager going into my early twenties. And it was the first sort of nonprofit I ran in this collective of other leaders. It was five of us that lived at the center 24 hours a day would cover the night. And you have to understand when I just started as a counselor there, I'm this 18 yearyear-old or 19-year-old young man who a lot of us, I don't think, get this understanding that we've lived our lives in our own lane.

Starting point is 00:21:33 And we don't necessarily get to pull back the screen and talk to other people about their experiences beyond the niceties we exchange every day. And I can't remember who said about, you know, be kind to one another because we're all fighting a hard battle and it might've been Socrates or someone, but it was, it was basically punched me in my square in my nose about how important kindness and empathy is. Because when I started sitting on that phone and on a Friday night, I was so shaken because we would have rape calls that I had women that were there. I still remember one incredible woman named Allison who would do pick up women that were escaping spousal abuse. And there's another counselor there named Daniel Bao, another amazingly beautiful human being. I just had no idea how, again, this is early 80s, early 90s, how ignorant I was about gay and lesbian Americans and how many biases that stem from my ignorance and sitting down and having people calling about their experiences coming out and hearing the truth of people talking about thinking about killing themselves because they are not attracted to someone of a different sex um or talking about the horrors that they

Starting point is 00:22:52 experience the abuses they experience um or eating disorders and and um having being in forms of honest conversation about how just saying something to somebody like hey you're gaining some weight you know something and how comments like that can hurt and, and, and, or what it's like just growing up in, in, in an environment where you've, where you're constantly being told that your worth is based upon your, your, how much weight you have. And so I can go on and on and on, but it was one of those places where I felt like Sanford's a great, my course load got great, but I learned so much about empathy and about listening and about nonjudgmentalism, sort of the fundamental core. I mean, we literally had a rule of what the sort of the first five rules of peer counseling that were about empathy, that were about nonjudgmentalism,

Starting point is 00:23:43 about listening. Do you recall specifically what any of those rules were? Some of them were as simple as be nonjudgmental. And that's something that I think of. I literally was talking to one of my closest friends about that yesterday because they were going off about someone who was involved in a protest or something and how it wasn't sincere and so on and so forth. And we just don't realize how often we're casting judgment when we know nothing about the person,

Starting point is 00:24:10 we know nothing about their struggle. And we just are so quick to judge other people and how harsh it would be back to us. And to actually be taught to be able to be a counselor to somebody and hold no judgment of them whatsoever, or to suppress that and just be there to listen and to give them empathy. And all these are often tags for love. It was a powerful lesson for me. And so I guess what I'm saying to you is I think there's something about persuasion that people often go about it as thinking about, well, how am I going to convince you to do something? And I kind of think about that from the start of, no, it's not about me and what I'm going to do to you to get you to do something.

Starting point is 00:24:59 It's actually about me being there for you and opening myself up to create a safe space for me to actually listen and hear you. And this has been a hard lesson. And I've sort of, you know, when I was living in really a tough environment in Newark, when I first moved there, I was living in some high-rise projects which became public housing. You know, it's just like these same lessons that you're, I think you're meant to hear on your journey in life. You know, when you start getting the same thing over and over again, trying to teach you the same, I think the universe sort of tries to do it the easy way first, but that, you know, when you see the same thing coming, but this idea of empathy and now in our society and you and I sort of touched on this, I'm one of these people that gets kind of bothered that

Starting point is 00:25:40 we've stopped listening to each other. Like I can't, I wish I could find this study and I asked my team to help me find it. But I remember being on an airplane reading a study, and I thought it was USA Today, about a public policy position in education. And they said, this is a democratic position. And immediately, 80% of Republicans were against it. They didn't even know it. And they flipped it around. Democrats were the same way. They said, this is a Republican policy. 80% of Democrats were against it. It just shifted by just labeling it Republican or Democrat. And what I often find, and we're in a point in our society right now where we just have stopped listening to each other and stopped being empathetic and instead are leading with

Starting point is 00:26:16 that judgment. And the problem with that is it disables us in our ability to come together to do the kind of things that need to move our society forward. And that's why I think now more than ever, and I say this in my speeches all the time, in America, we need a courageous empathy where we're willing to let go of our own ego and tune into another human being to really listen to them. I may not agree with that Black Lives Matter march. They may offend me, but we're all kind of wired the same way. So why are they out there yelling and screaming? Is it because they're bad and I'm judging them? Or am I taking time to really

Starting point is 00:26:50 try to surrender my own position for a minute and listen to that person in the Midwest who is a serious Trump supporter and try to really understand where they're coming from? So I want to talk about both. And now I might separate these two out, but the empathy and the courage, which are going to be eBay for, I want to say, $600 million or something like that, $900. At that point, who cares? I mean, it's a big number. And he said that when he had all hands meetings, people were very hesitant to bring up certain problems. And he would stand there and he would make jokes about himself and mistakes he had made and wait until, as he put it, people would bring up the pebble in their shoe. And he said, very often, that's all that was needed to so-called solve the problem was to give someone the space and elicit them to talk about the pebble in their shoe.

Starting point is 00:27:53 And in the case of the crisis hotline, what are some of the tools that you used to either make people feel better or calm them down how do you go about doing that when let's say even in your own head you might be subconsciously judging a situation or making assumptions are there any particular lines or questions because you're no stranger to conflict you've been in a fair number of street fights not literal but oh I mean certainly there's a lot of excitement in in the biography of Coryer, but how do you calm people down, diffuse situations? Are there any particular words or questions or any tactics that you use? So there's definitely a tactic and I want to talk about that, but just to, to give, just to give more affirmation of what Brian was doing. So

Starting point is 00:28:40 I wrote a book a year before last called United. And I wanted to, the best reaction I was hoping for people to read the book and say, wait a minute, this is not what a politician would write. Because I wanted to write about, and there's five or six major instances in a book, or maybe actually a lot of more smaller ones of like, this is me being a jerk. I mean, this is me being a royal ass. Or this is a big mistake I made. And I don't mind being a little vulnerable here because I find that that vulnerability actually creates a climate for all of us to learn. Often, I think it's bad when we create, when we put people on pedestals. I think it's so much better when we, and this is why I like biography, when we see people, like Lyndon Johnson was a

Starting point is 00:29:22 jerk in terms of the way he treated other people. And when you, Martin Luther King, like I, Cornel West always talks about the Santa classification of Martin Luther King. He was a complex man with flaws. And I think that makes it more accessible and real when you realize that. So I think that what he was doing with his creating an environment where, let me tell you what I did that was really dumb, it gives people a safe space for them to start sharing and build more effective teams when you have that kind of connections. But in terms of a tactic for counseling, which is a tactic that we all know already, those of us who practice this, who've been up at night, you can't sleep, you have anxiety and you open a book and you just

Starting point is 00:30:06 write down what you're anxious about. Suddenly it actually helps. It's a really good way of suddenly it's real and on the paper. And it's really good a way to get to a point where you go from the emotional anxiety of it all to suddenly seeing it in a, in a, in a more objective way. Not that it still doesn't have emotional triggers and the like, but you see it in a more objective way. I'm sure you've probably done that yourself. I actually very routinely do something called morning pages, which is effectively trapping that those anxieties and monkey mind generated insecurities or emotions on paper so that I can get on with my day. Right. And so, and most of us don't understand how in our own lives, something simple, we allow our minds to do things to us that are horrible. We are worst.

Starting point is 00:30:52 The most important conversations you have every day are the ones you have with yourself that you're not even often aware of. That's a great way to put it. And we're driving ourselves often insane with these scripts that we're not even, sometimes they're just a little bit below the consciousness of, of the scripts we're not even, sometimes they're just a little bit below the consciousness of the scripts we're running. And sometimes when you take a pause, this is why just breathing in and out, just taking a moment to remember to breathe or meditation is a tool that I love

Starting point is 00:31:18 that you talk about also, but writing something down. So in a counseling setting, often what moves a person to call a crisis hotline is they're at a peak moment of emotion or distress or worry. And that's where the active listening comes in, where you're really, people have this idea about being a counselor that they're somehow going in there getting great advice. I can't solve your problems, but you are equipped.

Starting point is 00:31:45 And as a person of faith, I really don't believe the universe puts anything on you or God puts anything that you can't handle. Sometimes you need to know the right people to go to or the right person to ask. But I think what's the tactic of just allowing somebody to talk and being a good filter or paraphraser back to the person. So maybe it's not physically you're writing it down, but the person's beginning to hear themselves and be able to sort through what's going on and help them sort of start to see strategies that they could be pursuing to make themselves better. We all have so much more wisdom inside of us than we give ourselves credit for. I want to flash forward and given the memento like scripting or lack of scripting in these

Starting point is 00:32:24 conversations, I'm sure chronologically it will be challenged, but we'll jump around a little bit. We, as we were doing a sound check before we started, I asked you what you had for breakfast today and you said, I'm fasting today. Now I have, as you know, a deep interest in fasting. And I, I thought that we might touch on a 10 day hunger strike and correct me if this is inaccurate, but as I understand it, it was to bring attention to open air drug dealing and related violence and so on at the time. Can you place us in terms of what you were doing at the time and why you chose to take that approach? Right. So your question has so many things I want to talk about with you because the whole

Starting point is 00:33:01 concept of fasting and the benefits of fasting, so want to talk to you about it because I've learned so much from you about it already. And now it's become a regular part of my practice. How do you fast? I'm curious. So I, I, to take you through the Tim Ferriss effects on my life, which are many, you, you are such a good soul because you make yourself vulnerable. I think that's one of your attributes. You know, that you are schmuck at times, like we all are. And you admit that, um, which is again, that makes, makes me feel a brotherhood with you. But yet you have like my father, that dogged work ethic where you're willing and also a, um, a willingness to hurl yourself off cliffs with no parents, my MRI MRI is going to test. Yes. And I find, um, and by the way, my, I'm in

Starting point is 00:33:46 a profession that does not like risk, you know, politicians can, it's like, what is the least amount of risk that I can have? Because I don't want to offend anybody. God forbid you have no problems. I think you're good at that. But I think that that's what my best time's learning. And we can get back to the 10 day hunger strike. Cause this was a big moment when I take the greatest risks and I just hurl myself off. And that was out of desperation. But I love the fact that you're willing to use yourself and embrace this idea that I don't have all the answers. I'm going to try to learn something.

Starting point is 00:34:16 And I've followed you through a lot of your journeys and learned a lot myself and hacked shortcuts by learning from you. And so you go to that moment where we met and talked deeper years ago. It was 2009, I think where you helped me get my physical health back. Cause it's something I've always seemed to be willing to sacrifice my physical health and my own wellbeing and relationships. This, this terrible view I've had to fight where it's all about the service. It's all about the mission,

Starting point is 00:34:43 but that self care I've, I've learned as I've gotten wiser is so much important. It's like Stephen Covey's sharpening the ax, but most of us forget that. So I then went back and gained a ridiculous amount of weight. It was over like 300 pounds again. And it was a few of my friends talking to me about intermittent fasting that was a tactic. Obviously, there's a lot more going on when you're in that moment, but it was a great tactic to use. And it was everybody from a congresswoman who was hearing this. And a lot of people started giving me that information. It was Ezra Klein. I was on his podcast and we started talking about it. And he was just talking about not eating until noon most days or 11 a.m. if I remember exactly.

Starting point is 00:35:28 So I decided I hurled myself into trying it. And the more I tried it, I found that so many benefits to my life of doing two to three days a week of intermittent, as they call intermittent fasting, 500 calories or less a day. And so I can talk to you about all the benefits I've found, but your podcasts about the subject matter, about everything from cancers to Alzheimer's, but more important. Dr. McAgostino probably. That was exactly it. But I remember that you said something on one of your podcasts about the stress you used to have to be if you missed a meal. Like, oh God, where am I going? I'm in the airport. I missed breakfast. Where am I going to get this? And how much peace I have now where

Starting point is 00:36:03 even on days I'm eating, I'm like, wait a minute, I've gone three days without eating. Why am I stressing over that? Or just the mind space, it clogs your head about thinking about food and all the time that suddenly I get a more Zen-like path. And my chief staff who's sitting in here to leap at me, should I say something that he's unhappy with? But on, like I, I, on days that I eat, I get that three, four o'clock exhaustion where I need a nap. On days I'm fasting, I don't feel the need to be in that. So I can go on about intermittent fasting. And I'm one of these people, again, like you in my life, there've been moments where I just said, I'm going to try something for three months. Like the incoming of vegetarian. It was, I was a peak athlete at the time. And I just said,

Starting point is 00:36:43 I'm going to try this and see what it does to my body. And I stayed with vegetarianism first and foremost, I'd like to say it was for the environmental, ethical, my body just jumped to a whole new level of performance when I first shifted to becoming a vegetarian. So that was the first thing that sort of like, wow, this feels great. But this is something I tried in my life that has intermittent fasting that really works. It's very different than the 10-day hunger strike. And you've inspired me with you said you now do some days with just water, as you see me here drinking this green juice. Green juice.

Starting point is 00:37:14 Yeah. No, well, there are different ways to go about it. So we'll get into fasting for a second. So there are those who like Walter Longo, for instance, the researcher who's talked a lot about the fast mimicking diet, which is generally, I think it is fewer than 500 calories per day for anywhere from say three to five days. And, uh, I've, I've tended to go more in the water fast direction, uh, maybe allowing some fats like coconut oil or MCT oil, which is something that say, uh, Dominic D'Agostino is the PhD who first talked about fasting on the podcast or Peter Tia, another, uh, in that case, an MD example.

Starting point is 00:37:52 But, uh, let's, let's talk about 10 because 10, 10 is a serious, that's serious commitment. Right. And right. And I don't know, like the one thing you do that I, I have not been able to testing your blood and seeing if you're hitting ketosis. And I listened't know, like the one thing you do that I have not been able to do is testing your blood and seeing if you're hitting ketosis. And I listened to all that and saying to myself, dear God, Tim, I can't get my blood tested. Well, I can tell you 10 days you're in ketosis. But just before I get into this 10-day fast, my chief of staff and I were in the Middle East. I wanted to go to Iraq and meet with, you know, we're meeting everybody from the prime minister to leader of the opposition. And we're in Baghdad. And I just, when I get there, I decide, you know what, I'm going to do entire time I'm here, just going to fast.

Starting point is 00:38:32 And it was this almost spiritual sort of experience when you're, you know, sort of dealing with real, very serious issues. And it, but it's still, I was amazed at how much energy I had, how much clarity of thought. And I, and I hope that as you do with your life and inspire me to do with mine is that people just try stuff and don't put it at such a level on that. If you, if it's like noon and you're fasting,

Starting point is 00:38:57 you suddenly start eating, don't hate yourself. And, but I just hope, I think it's the kind of stuff we should do is we should experiment with why Gandhi's autobiography. What, what is it? It's the title of it. My experiments with truth. And I think it's the kind of stuff we should do is we should experiment with why Gandhi's autobiography, what is it?

Starting point is 00:39:07 It's the title of it, My Experiments with Truth. And I think we all should take things, not just in fasting, but, you know, I'm a Christian. But, you know, I said, you know what, I'm going to do a little bit to study Islam. I hear all this talks about Islam. Let me study it. Just doing little experiments in your life to learn, to grow, to help understand. I think it's just an incredible way to learn. And actually at the other end of experiments that I do with my life, I always find myself better and more enriched. Let me jump in for one second because I want to underscore what you just said. Those experiments can take many different forms. So it could be,

Starting point is 00:39:40 say, a three-month experiment with vegetarianism. It could be a one-day experiment with fasting and obviously folks listening uh i am not a doctor neither of us are doctors don't play doctors on the internet so talk to your medical professional but all that i've been said experiments can also take the form and i do this a lot when i journal of thought experiments so one of the more productive brainstorming sessions that i observed recently was about, I would say a group of 15 and the moderator started because there were a lot of heated topics that were going to come up political or otherwise. And he said, let's start with everyone.

Starting point is 00:40:16 Each person will go around the room thinking of one of their most deeply held beliefs, taking the opposite viewpoint and then justifying it or explaining why it's correct Wow so assuming taking one of your deepest held beliefs taking the opposite and then actually giving a compelling argument and this is something that I believe has the nickname steel Manning as opposed to straw Manning right now when Darwin Darwin actually did this in Origin of Species to prepare for the onslaught of criticism that he would receive. He predicted and preempted many of the positions his critics would take, did not dismiss them, actually made them the strongest versions of those criticisms that he could, and then addressed them in the book so that he would

Starting point is 00:41:01 be prepared. And so that was one of the experiments that I most enjoyed observing as a moderator to set the tone, which I thought was really productive. Again, great. And you can't interview all the great people on this podcast because many of them have died, but we didn't even left clues for this, how they experiment. Like Ben Franklin, he didn't mean to write his autobiography. He wanted to write a note to his family about, hey, this is what I've learned in my experiments. And so he would take one theme. Just imagine if we all said, okay, today I'm going to look at the idea of gratitude and figure out through this experiment.

Starting point is 00:41:34 Mark Zuckerberg said, okay, I'm going to have a year where every day I say thank you to somebody and write those notes. These are glorious sort of journeys, odysseys to see where it leads you and it doesn't always do it. And you're right. They can be just one moment. You know what? It's Sunday. This is my day of faith. And I'm going to honor God by, you know, not going to the church I go to all the time.

Starting point is 00:41:55 And maybe I'm going to go down into Camden, New Jersey and go to a black church. Or maybe I'm going to go to a Latino church. Or let's think crazy. Maybe I'm going to go to a mosque or a synagogue just to experience that and meet different people. So we get caught in these grooves and we're playing the same record over and over again. And just doing one thing different, we may not like it, but it actually is going to stretch and broaden us and actually change our, as you know, I know you've studied a lot about brains and how we work. Just by changing the synopsis of that normal routine, even as something as simple as I both have read about, don't drive the same way to work every day. There are collateral benefits that brain scientists will say to you that benefit your life in other ways. Oh, definitely. And I'm not going to forget about this hunger strike. We're getting to it, folks.

Starting point is 00:42:38 But we might end up in a more interesting place by taking some detours. But the name Phil Zimbardo came up before we started recording and for those people who don't know he was one of the lead investigators if not the designer of the protocol the princeton stan uh the stanford princeton oh my god let's try english again the stanford prison experiment which is profound which is profound and many experiments afterwards that showed how you could influence, uh, good people to behave in evil ways, uh, or neutral people to behave in evil ways. And there's some really interesting studies that have looked at, uh, so-called good Samaritans and how you can impact that, uh, their behavior based on a feeling of urgency and so on. But the point

Starting point is 00:43:19 I was going to make is that he encourages people to, uh, do what he calls what he calls the deviant for a day experiment. And it's in effect doing something that is so out of character or so socially odd that people will, might criticize you or at least look at you in an unusual way. And the example he gave was encouraging his students to put, much like, I think it's's Ash Wednesday when people will put, say, ash on the forehead. But do put a mark on your forehead and just walk around all day. And even if people try to take it off of your forehead, which they probably will refuse to do that and keep it on just so you become more comfortable with discomfort. And that could, though, deviant for a day could take the form of, say, going to a church you would never think of going to, or, uh, change your routine in such a way that maybe I met someone recently who took, uh, and this, this is a cop can be a complicated subject, but he routinely, uh, does not give

Starting point is 00:44:17 money to homeless people, but we'll invite them to dinner and have an entire dinner with homeless people. And he's done this. I want to say a half dozen to a dozen times. So let's just say hypothetically that you earmarked for me is usually Saturday. So I do these experiments and I met someone, a technologist recently who's decided even though he's not particularly religious, he is Jewish, but he's going to observe the Shabbat. And from, I think it's sundown to sundown for one day a week on the weekend, he's not going to use any technology whatsoever because he realizes how dependent he has become and distracted he has become based on that. Hunger strike. I promise. The problem with you is you give these, like, first of all, when you talk about stoicism and this idea of dressing for one day in rags,

Starting point is 00:45:02 I mean, there's such a power of teaching ourselves to be more empathetic to people who might have different experiences. So I was a Stanford student who did graduate work in sociology and just watching actual experiments, not experimenting myself, like there was a experiment. I think you can still get the video of it where you have rooms full of different people that all sit in one cohort, a bunch of guys, and you put two or three women in there and just watch how many times a woman tries to speak and gets cut off versus the men in the room when they try to speak and get it. And so it made me, even if you do 50-50 in the room, it just made me suddenly wake up and start looking for that pattern in my own conversations that I had. It was a really mind-blowing experience to me.

Starting point is 00:45:46 Another study, another experiment we did, this one we were the experiments in the room where we all had to reach into a bag and we pulled out a chip and the chip was yellow, green or yellow, blue or red, let's say. And it decided the station we had in this game, whether you were the upper class, middle class, or lower class. And this was the game. And the rules of the upper class were great.

Starting point is 00:46:08 They really benefited us. And so we knew what the game was. Okay, this is like class society. But we quickly in the upper class made its laws that protected us, you know, and the lower class people. But what was interesting about the game more than that was that the groups who sat in different areas, the animosities amongst players that began, I mean, the anger and the defensiveness and the shouting, it descended into a very bad place to the point at the end of the experiment or said, okay, I want everybody to take their chips, throw them on the ground, stamp on them. They had us do a bunch of exercises to get that purge you. And so just like Zimbardo's prison

Starting point is 00:46:43 experiment, as well as this, I think the group, the game was called star power or something like that, how quickly we fall into these roles. And so for me, I had this one experience where I went from living in affluent suburbia to living in a housing project. Can you explain for people what the catalyst for that was? So it was the parents I described to you. And, you know, and you know, I was really affected when I was at Stanford by working in East Palo Alto and it was literally. It's incredible. I mean, the, the, the contrast is just incredible. And for me, just literally you cross these tracks into East Palo Alto, especially at that time. Now you've got a four seasons or whatever there it's gentrified in some ways. But for me, you know, I need to get my hair cut as a black guy. There's

Starting point is 00:47:29 no place on Stanford's campus was used to having black hair. So my first time was just going to find a barber. Um, that's when I had hair and, um, you and me both. Yeah. But, but then I started my freshman summer of my freshman year, sort of working in a place called the Onetic Harris community center, which technically is East Menlo park, but it was a similar community. And I found such a connection with these kids. And I basically said, okay, this is my life work. I want to work in cities. And so I worked everywhere from East Harlem to East Palo Alto when I was at Yale, helping to run legal clinics and just felt a kinship and a connection with what I thought my sole mission was, which was when I say these words, liberty and justice for all, I always say to people,

Starting point is 00:48:06 before you tell me about your religion, first show it to me and how you treat other people. Well, our civic gospel in this country, what are the things, we all know the words of the declaration of independence, or at least, um, we all know a lot of those words. We know the words to our pledge, we know the national anthem, but those words actually have power and meaning. And, and is it just like religious texts that we read and then we go out on Sunday and cut driver off and flip them off? Or are we living

Starting point is 00:48:29 with grace that Christ or whatever your religion is commands? And I think we have a civic gospel as well. We are pledging allegiance to this idea of liberty and justice for all. But most Americans don't know that we have a justice system that by its definition treats you better if you're rich and guilty than poor and innocent. Because if you and I get arrested for the exact same crime, I'm wealthier than you. You're a poor white guy from wherever you're from. I can get out. I can bail myself out. But you're stuck in the jail sometimes for months.

Starting point is 00:48:59 People don't realize this. Some people say for months. If you really believe in that idea of liberty and justice for all, what do you do today to live that civic gospel? And so for me, and again, this is just for my own path, what I saw was that I so benefited from this country. And I didn't have, you've interviewed people in the military, which I have this, you and I are both wired this way, that we see people in uniform and just very drawn to them. When you meet some of the guys and say, you know what? I believe those words that injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. And I'm going to do whatever I can to commit myself. So people, you and I both have friends that did Teach for America. You know

Starting point is 00:49:57 what? I'm going to go off and make a lot of money, but for two years of my life, I'm going to do the Peace Corps. I'm going to do TFA. I'm going to do something. And anyway, I had all these ideals. And I think the challenge in all of us in our life is to try to live lives of the best integrity we can where we live in accordance to our ideals. And lo and behold, though, Newark, New Jersey flipped the script on me and basically said to me, you think you're coming here to serve. You know, I was a 20, whatever I was, 26, 27 at the time. You think you're coming here to serve time you think you're coming here to serve

Starting point is 00:50:25 you think you're coming here to help we're going to flip this script on you i always say i got my ba from stanford but my phd on the streets of newark and this actually leads me to the hunger strike where i decided that i was going to move into the toughest area and literally as i'm moving in was this before after uh the city council no i'm a Yale law student. Oh, this is Yale law student. Yeah. This is a Yale law student. And I start, and again, I worked one summer in East Harlem. I mean, I'm very much engaged in what I think are some of the frontiers of our democracy, but I'd never really been a part of the community. You know, a lot of us, I would volunteer, work, then I go back to my dorm at Yale. So I just said, you know what?

Starting point is 00:51:07 I want to live my life. I want my professional life to be a part of a community. And here I am. I'm a United States senator. And I have the privilege of going back to probably one of the wealthiest communities of all the senators to go back to. Median income is $14,000 per individual. But I live in a community that blows me away every day. I see Americans

Starting point is 00:51:26 with a fealty to the ideals of this country literally in the grassroots or in the trenches of the fight for our democracy every single day. I love when reporters or whoever wants to come and walk around my neighborhood and see great people who often are stereotyped or misunderstood because we wall ourselves off in America. We often don't cross these lines, unfortunately, in our society. So long story short is I move on to the south end of Martin Luther King Boulevard in Newark. And I'm moving literally as I'm moving in, my big Italian best friend from fourth grade, a guy named Chris Magaro, helping me carry stuff in.

Starting point is 00:52:03 We come back to the store and my stuff is stolen. And I'm like, welcome to the neighborhood. And unbeknownst to me, but the abandoned home, I shouldn't say this. I did actually know this at the time, but the abandoned home next to me is where you see, again, real great cross-section of American life because drug addiction knows no race or socioeconomic status boundaries. So people are coming into this community to buy drugs that I didn't realize. I've now learned a lot more about the drug market even than when I was mayor, because I went back to write a lot about this for my book and went back and interviewed drug dealers from the 90s. But this was a hot place to sell drugs because

Starting point is 00:52:42 one guy who is probably a guy that should have been in corporate America, he ran the drug operation here, just found a way to get very cheap, high quality product. And so I had moved in the middle of this not realizing that I was in probably one of the most violent drug markets. I knew it was bad, but I didn't know it was as bad as I when I went in. And when I actually interviewed this guy and some of the drug dealers, they had set things up in a way that, I mean, I was with a person who was helping me record a lot of the interviews. It just sounded like New Jack City. So, I'm in the middle of this. And I go with this arrogance to the tenant leader. I'm now living in the neighborhood. I'm thinking, ha-ha, I'm here.

Starting point is 00:53:23 And riding on my white knight on my horse, you know, and da-da-da. And Newark is just an amazing city that doesn't deal well with people, like at least the attitude I had at that point. Because Miss Virginia Jones, the tenant president, sort of looks at me when I'm telling her how much I'm going to help her. And she looks at me with this cynical, almost just like, I don't have time for this. And so she did this experiment with me where she takes me down to the middle of Martin Luther King Boulevard. And again, I'm this, yeah, law student. I'm here to help you. And she goes, what do you see?

Starting point is 00:53:56 What do you mean? She goes, what do you see in this neighborhood? And I just describe it just the way I did to you. Crack house and drug operator. I describe the neighborhood. And she just looks angry. And she says, you can't help me. And she starts walking away. I run after her. I grabbed this woman from behind very respectfully. And I say to her, what are you talking about? I don't understand. And she says to me words that changed my life. She says to me, boy, you need to understand something. The world you see outside of you

Starting point is 00:54:25 is a reflection of what you have inside of you. If you're one of those people who only sees darkness and despair, that's all there's ever going to be. But if you're one of those stubborn people who every time you open your eyes, you see hope, opportunity, love. If you see the face of God, then you can be one of somebody who helps me. She leaves me there, you know, sort of looking at my feet, thinking to myself, okay, grasshopper, thus endeth the lesson. And I went back and I just was like, okay, I'm here to learn, not here to help. I'm here to learn. And I sat on this woman's couch and watched what I just was in awe of. People would come to see her with problems, you know, and she would

Starting point is 00:55:06 help people with rent. Somebody needed a job. I mean, she was the hell of this community. Her son in the 80s, before I arrived, got murdered in the lobby of the building that I lived in, that I eventually would live in. She and I probably were the two people that were some of the highest income earners in there. We could have lived anywhere. But she, literally after her son is murdered, stayed in those buildings, remained the tenant president, held that community together with the force of its will. Those buildings don't, I'm living in that neighborhood still, but those buildings aren't there anymore. They still have a reunion every year. I mean, think about this. These were buildings when I lived in them for eight years,

Starting point is 00:55:40 heat and hot water irregular, homeless people or worse, sometimes collapsed. I'd walk past people in the stairwells when the elevators weren't working, wondering occasionally if somebody was alive or not, trying to nudge them. You'd see feces in the hallways, mice. I could tell you all the challenges of living in these buildings, but yet there was such a sense of community created there that still years later, the buildings are gone. There's still a reunion being held. And the alumni from those buildings, because of the spirit in that community, go on to do incredible things. Like I'm sure you do, try to write checks at the end of the year to people who are doing great things. One of them is to a guy, police officer from those buildings,

Starting point is 00:56:19 grew up in those buildings who still does things. And so that's, I hadn't gotten the politics because, okay, so fast forward, me and Ms. Jones are, and other tenant leaders are taking on the slumlord who eventually got convicted in federal court fighting noble battles. But the residents in that building and a number of others are really frustrated that they don't think the city is being responsive to their concerns and needs. There's talk about running somebody for city council. You know, it's one of those times where you're standing in the line, who volunteers? And everybody steps backwards and you're the person. So, before you know it, I'm the candidate. And I won the Central Award of Newark, which if you go visit me in my Senate office, that's the map behind me that still sits there. Who got me into politics? This place with an abundance of public housing, overwhelmingly black and Latino,

Starting point is 00:57:07 folks who put their faith in me before they even knew me, because this is about a year after I moved to the neighborhood, that before they even knew I was a known commodity, they said, we're going to take a risk on you. And the reason why the hunger strike ended up is because I get elected and a year later, I am at the nadir, the lowest point of my professional life where I felt like a failure. I wasn't getting anything done. The mayor of the city who was like, if I'm just a novice in politics, if this is like my freshman year of high school as a first year city council person, Sharp James was, and anybody will tell you this in New Jersey, He was the grand master. I

Starting point is 00:57:45 was a Padawan Jedi. He was a Jedi Vader. He was depending on your perspective, give love to people, but he was a Jedi Knight. And, and, and, and again, we're laughing and people here might not know it. This period of my life became a document was a documentary called Street Fight got nominated for an Academy award. One, one won the tribeca film festival for audience choice i always say the ignominiously now as a vegan it lost to a movie called march of the penguins um so i always say i make an exception for penguin meat when i'm eating but but this was an interesting moment because feathered sausages as they're known as they're known you and i are going to get letters from the humane society. You guys can all mail those to Brian Callen, a comedian. He's the one who came up with it.

Starting point is 00:58:28 And so my first year, basically sharp James is toying with me. I mean, and the headlines are still there because I pulled them to write this book. So I want to show people I'm not making this up that I was getting my car ticketed everywhere. When I parked in front of city hall with the other council people, I was, my phones were tapped. This is stuff that you, that sounds almost funny, you know, two decades later, but my phones were tapped. I wasn't getting anything passed. My own community was getting frustrated with me because all this effort to get you elected. And so I'm ready to quit. I was more effective as a young attendance rights lawyer than I have been as an elected office. And on my lowest day, one year later, the summer of 1999, I'd been elected in 98.

Starting point is 00:59:08 I'm at my wits end. I've gained weight. I go to bed most nights with pounding headaches. I'm stressed out of my gourd. I feel like people were warning me that the police were following me because I think the mayor might have seen me as a future threat, which was pressing for him. So people warning me that the police are following me. I'm getting, I'm just scared.

Starting point is 00:59:30 And I'm feeling like a failure for, as a guy who so much of my life has like been afraid of failure. And now I'm first steps into my professional career, I'm failing. And on the lowest day when I'm getting outvoted all the time on the city council for my great brilliant ideas, of course, people are supposed to just bow down before. I'm being a jerk because one of the moments I admitted a self-righteous jerk to my fellow city council people who I'm supposed to find common ground with the past stuff. So I'm making all these mistakes. I get a call from tenant leader named Elaine Sewell at these other high-rise low-income housing. And she basically says to me, it's off the hook

Starting point is 01:00:05 up here. I still remember the movie that summer. It was a Wild, Wild West. She's like, it's a Wild, Wild West out here. There was a horrible incident where the security guards were attacked by some of the drug dealers in this open-air drug market underneath. These buildings sat by Highway 280 in New Jersey. So it's a place people drive by but never slow down to look, except for by drugs, because it looked like a McDonald drive-thru. People would line up to buy their drugs. So the drug dealers controlled this area. The security guards were undermining that.

Starting point is 01:00:30 They tried to light the guard booth on fire. And so she's like, you've got to do something. And I'm basically, I can't do anything. I just professed impotency. I said, I can't get anything done. What do you expect me to do? She and I start yelling. I'm like, I can't even get the cops to stop ticketing my car.

Starting point is 01:00:43 How am I going to get them to come out there? And she basically says to me, like the worst thing she could say to me, and this is not because of her, but it's just, I had a wound. She's like, why did we elect you then at all? If you can't do anything. And I was done. I lose my temper, raise my voice, hang up on her. And now I storm home to, and you don't have this problem. I do. It's my, one of my addictions. All I want to do is get back to my apartment in brick towers and hang out with my two buddies, Ben and Jerry, and just like eat myself into a food coma and go to bed. I'm familiar with the cookie dough mixture, self-medication. No.

Starting point is 01:01:22 Yes. And so, but unfortunately I'm walking past to get to my apartment, this woman, Ms. Virginia Jones, this pain in my neck, this righteous pain in my neck, the tenant leader happens to be standing out in the courtyard. And I literally, as I see her, I'm sorry, I'm not in the mood for you, Ms. Jones. I need to get back to my apartment and eat my Dagnab cookie dough ice cream. Cause they combine the two now. And as I try to walk past her grunting her hello, like a, like a Falcon would with like a mouse, she starts playing with me. She's don't walk past me. And I'm like, you know why? And she goes, I turn around and stop. She goes, and she read me right away. She's like, come here and give Ms. Jones a hug. And I'm like, I walk over and give her the most insincere hug in the world.

Starting point is 01:02:03 Like when you say you're still going to be friends with somebody after you break up with them, it's just like, yeah, yeah, yeah. And I try to turn around and she grabs me by the arm and she goes, tell me what's wrong. And I just got like angry. I'm like, you want to know what's wrong? You want to know what's wrong? And I vented on her, probably blaming her a little. This is not working. I'm a city, you know, I'm in this office. I'm not getting anything done. I'm getting, it was like the cry me river Always me kind of speech and then I ended with what's happening to elaine sewell and garden spires and literally said I don't know What to do? I don't know. I must have repeated. I don't know what to do like three times

Starting point is 01:02:33 And then finally she looked like a lightning bolt had hit her. She suddenly gets really excited. She goes. Oh my gosh I go I stop like she erased my script and my pity party and she's like I know what you should do and And I'm like, you know what? This is kind of a wise woman. Occasionally she pulls some amazing gem out. And I'm thinking maybe she has hope for me. I'm like, what do I do? And she goes, I know exactly what you should do. And I go, okay, I heard you. What should I do? And then she repeats it. Yep. I know what you should do. And I'm like, Ms. Jones, I don't have time to play. Enough foreplay. What's the plan? And she looks at me.

Starting point is 01:03:08 She leans in and she goes, you should do. And I'm like, yeah, yeah. She goes, you should do something. I'm like, that's it? And if my mama didn't raise me right, I probably would have said some wrong things to her. I storm off to my building. Elevator's not freaking working. I climb 16 flights of stairs, practically kick open my door, plop down on my couch. And if you walk into my office today, I still have like the Bhagavad Gita, the Quran, the Torah, the Bible.

Starting point is 01:03:34 The Bible's sitting there next to me in my apartment. I open it up and there's this passage that most Christians know called, if you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you can move mountains. But the next passage, which I didn't know well at that point, it says, but sometimes you have to fast and pray. And I just thought to myself, you know what? I was too caught up in my drama, too caught up in my script that I hadn't sort of surrendered myself with an open heart. And I decided I was going to fast. And then the idea started flowing. I could do something. And I said, you know what? I'm not just going to fast.

Starting point is 01:04:12 I'm going to plop right down in the middle of the drug market and fast. And I'm not going to just fast and pray. I'm going to get a tent. And before you knew it, my mind just started kickstarting. Like this is the problem most people understand is that despair or cynicism is the worst. I think cynicism, just like despair, is a toxic spiritual state. Agreed. It gives you the inability to see faint hope amidst glaring problems. But I'm, again, a person of faith. I believe that we were made in the image of a creator.

Starting point is 01:04:45 And therefore, one of our greatest gifts is to be creative, to think of new opportunities. But if you're so negative and so cynical about the world around you, you disempower yourself and do something about it. Well, you're only going to see the problems and not any of the solutions. Right. And you and I both have had conversations with somebody that's in that state. They say they want help. But every time you bring up an idea, they just shoot it down. Oh, that won't.

Starting point is 01:05:03 Yeah. Because they're not open to the possibility. So long story short is I go out there to garden spires. We set up a big tent. I apologized to Elaine Sewell. Literally, there might have been some hugging and crying between the two of us because we were such close friends. I wouldn't have gotten elected without her. And then I do what politicians love doing.

Starting point is 01:05:20 I call the press conference. And I just said, this is the United States of America. People shouldn't live in fear. And I announced that I was going to stay on this pavement and fast as long as it took for something to change. And I would invite people to pray with me. First day, it was four of us praying and everything. And then I went to bed. First night was scary. Courageous people slept with me underneath it in this, what used to be the drug dealers territory. People threw diapers on top of us and it was just a scary night.

Starting point is 01:05:45 But I woke up the next morning and a bunch of correctional officers were there and they said, hey, we saw you on the news. You're not staying out here alone. And over 10 days, the world came out. I mean, there were community leaders. I mean, Newark has such a reservoir of strength and love and people poured out. But then people from a suburban mayor from West Orange came out with his police officers. Hospitals started coming out and doing health screenings. Employers started coming out doing job fairs. People were donating computers.

Starting point is 01:06:14 And by the 10th day, the mayor of the city came out and it was so funny because he came out with prepared remarks and he and I would fight bitterly later. But after 10 days of fasting and praying, I looked at him differently. I looked at him like I saw his humanity. I saw that he was a guy. And we hugged. And I'll never forget. In fact, my editor wanted me to write this part out because I'll never forget.

Starting point is 01:06:39 Smell is one of the most powerful triggers to memory. I hugged him and I breathed deep as we were hugging and I smelled him. And he smelled like a family member of mine. I was at that point like a 30-year-old. He was my father's age. And when I smelled him, he felt like older uncles and things like that. We parted from our embrace, which became the front page of this section of the newspaper. And he put away his prepared remarks and turn and gave an incredible speech.

Starting point is 01:07:06 He made promises that he ultimately, like he was going to build a park in the area. That stuff never happened, but it was a beautiful moment. We tent came down and I always say that change never happens in an instant. You know, this even in your own life, change in your own life.

Starting point is 01:07:20 So you have to keep it and work at. And so the world didn't change, but I always tell people that for me, the most power, one of the most powerful moments of my life, because of problems, the garden spires didn't go away. And it was something I worked on until eventually I became a mayor, built a park in the area and all this stuff. But the point I always try to tell people is the powerful moment of the whole experience to me was the last prayer. Where there was now from four or five people praying and shaking on the first day. Now there's a hundred, 200 people. And there was everybody there. I looked at, and this is,

Starting point is 01:07:49 I said, this is my America. Cause there was white folks, black folks, Latino folks, Asian folks. There was an imam, imams, rabbis, priests, ministers, young, old people. When they started praying, we're praying in Hebrew and Arabic and Spanish. And I was the weakest I'd ever been after 10 days of not eating, but you know, this one fasting, but I think it was also the circle. I just felt such strength, such power, such energy, like I'd never felt before. And I just felt like I was connecting to who we are as a country, that ideal of E Pluribus Unum, that when we all come together, nothing is impossible. And it was the most hopeful moment of my life at that point. And it also gave me a renewed sense of mission that if I could find ways with others to bring people together, we could blow away problems in

Starting point is 01:08:36 this country and everybody could benefit. I want to ask what you learned from that, because it seems to me, and I don't like when people put words in my mouth, so I don't want to put words in your mouth, but that you found an option when you thought there were no options, right? And I'd love to know what you learned from that and how it impacted maybe later decisions. You could just say, maybe I'm making too complicated, what you learned, because to me, there are a couple of takeaways And I'm taking notes for those people who can't see me because you can't. It's audio. I constantly take notes. So I'm circling things.

Starting point is 01:09:11 I'm highlighting things. That A, you also forced the mayor to respond. Yes. Right? Because you were calling attention to something. So if you couldn't go through official channels, you could use the court of public opinion to force his hand to respond. And I would just love to know what you learned from that experience that maybe became part of your repertoire or set of options later. Well, so this was my first experience with lessons that people have learned a lot through activism experiences if you could bring attention to a problem you know look when Martin Luther King and

Starting point is 01:09:47 James Bevel Dorothy or cotton were fighting Bull Connor if they tried to fight that battle alone who knows what the outcome would have been but he had that fire hoses he had the dogs and all of that but by their ability to bring attention to the problem after their demonstrations and and the story went viral back in a day where you didn't have social media, but you had the traditional media. And suddenly the Soviet Union is mocking our democracy because of watching black kids get bit by dogs. People in Iowa are sitting there having their dinner and saying, oh my gosh, look at the humanity of us all.

Starting point is 01:10:19 We all love each other or have reservoirs of love for each other that once we trigger each other's consciousness or expand each other's moral imagination reservoir of love for each other that once we trigger each other's consciousness or expand each other's moral imagination, let's just say that, it activates us. And so clearly in New Jersey, we set up this society, unfortunately, and a lot of this was very bad policy, some of the very bigoted policy of redlining and decisions by the federal housing organizations to pack all this poverty in one area. What is redlining and decisions by the federal housing organizations to pack all this poverty in one area. What is redlining? Redlining is where it comes from literally what they did on maps. They said, okay, this is a black area and we're not going to give mortgages and loans to people.

Starting point is 01:10:58 We're going to devalue the neighborhoods there. And decisions being made about zoning where we're going to let certain people live. And so you see some of these maps that are still around. This is like part of our history, where at a time where people were starting to flee urban areas, it was a federal policy enabled certain people to move out and get good value for their homes and the like, certain people not. And then it was put on top of that where everything from restrictive covenants to real estate steering, which my family did, to think about this. And New Jersey is a great example of this, but lots of states are. If they decided instead of putting a whole bunch of public housing in one area, like thousands and thousands of units, what if we took every unit, like a Harrington Park,

Starting point is 01:11:42 you take four units of affordable housing. We now know that poor kids, same poverty, poor kids in middle-class neighborhoods do so much better than when you concentrated all poor kids in poor neighborhoods. So a lot of, and by the way, these were over policies. These were like, we cannot let black people out of neighborhoods. What are we going to do to keep them in? And so that created these ghettos that then became, well, where do the jobs go to? They went outside of the communities. Where are the good schools? Because remember, if everybody leaves a city, their ability to have a tax base to support the education system is not there. And by the way, the tax base has now disappeared. You can't even support police officers or everything. So cities are tumbling downward. And then you create laws to keep people back.

Starting point is 01:12:26 So I was shocked when I got to Newark that the surrounding suburbs with really great schools would actually hire people, private investigators to say, okay, there's a black kid going to these schools. Let's follow them around to see where they go home. In fact, there's a woman, I just saw her again, last name Martinez, who was a writer for the Wall Street Journal education page. Her family used a fake address in a different neighborhood to get her kid to school. They were caught.

Starting point is 01:12:46 She was pulled out of, ironically, a journalism class and forced to go back. And a horrible situation. So a lot of people think, don't realize that a lot of these problems that are existing today are not legacies to slavery. These are legacies to the 50s, 60s, and 70s and 80s, what were going on. But they forget the other story of America, which is literally the creation of toxic zones in our nation. So people don't understand. So when they flee these cities, corporate America was allowed for years to pollute those cities pretty badly. So in Newark, I used to remind

Starting point is 01:13:23 people, literally pollute, literally pollute. So now you're a kid growing up in an environment where you've got lead paint and we had epidemic levels in Newark as well as other kids. So you and I both know, you don't even need lead poison, just elevated blood lead levels affects your brain where your executive function deteriorated. Yeah, your oxygen carrying capacity and all of that. All of that. But it's not just the lead paint. The air, because now you've created cities. Again, where did we choose to build highways and roads

Starting point is 01:13:51 that the oxygen is so bad that you have asthma levels that are three and four times as high in urban areas? It's not even done yet. I remember when I wanted to try to get rid of the food deserts in Newark. Big campaign. I just finally got a Whole Foods. We just opened, got supermarkets. But we also said, let's create urban agriculture. We're going to create acres and acres of farms in Newark, which we did successfully and got

Starting point is 01:14:13 guys coming home from prison, men and women coming home from prison jobs. But we also said, wait a minute, we want to dig in the ground. And the state said, you can't dig in the soil. It's got too much lead. So imagine this now, your air quality, your soil quality. And what about the river that a hundred years ago, immigrants from Ireland and you pick areas could, if you were poor, you could still go into the river and it was a commons, right? You couldn't get fish out of, you could get, we had lots of clams and the like, but now it is, I'm not exaggerating this, it is literally an agent, a super fund, poisoned with Agent Orange, all kinds of other dioxides from the years of corporations to spoiling the river, literally stealing from future residents of Newark and calling it profits in their present. And so now imagine this, you've got schools that have

Starting point is 01:15:00 deteriorated, you've got a physical environment that's toxic, you have large concentrations of poverty. And then you have something on top of that, which most Americans don't realize, which I mentioned earlier, but let's just understand it, called the criminal justice system. This is why I love from the Koch brothers to the Heritage Foundation on the right to Democrats like me all agree because of this reality that I now know from my own experiences. My friends in Harrington Park, New Jersey and Old Japan High School I went to, and I hope they don't get mad at me for saying this, but we broke a lot of laws. Okay. Drug laws. Friends of mine on senior cut day kicked open a liquor store. It was closed. They couldn't use their fake ID. So they stole cases of beer, got caught. That's breaking and entering. That's a felony. Very little consequence besides our

Starting point is 01:15:43 parents and others maybe getting upset. But my friends and I are all going on with our lives, raising families, very different justice system for doing the exact same things that you experience in many places in our community. Our criminal justice system now is overly targeted towards poor people. At Stanford, at Princeton, nobody was getting stopped and frisked coming home. And by the way, if they did from a frat party, they would find drugs. No FBI operation right now saying, how are we going to get those college kids and break their drug ring?

Starting point is 01:16:10 What I know on college campuses from Adderall to X to these things, you can get them sometimes on a smartphone. But in the inner city, those things become literally the difference between you making it in life and don't. And in a nation where almost one in three adults now has an arrest record. For you and I right now, we get arrested where we have the means with which it's not going to change our lives. It might change my politics, but that won't change our lives. The problem with inner cities, and I saw this when I went

Starting point is 01:16:38 out to Rikers Island, you get arrested, you can't even afford the bail. I was out in Rikers and these were kids missing six months to a year before they're even adjudicated. There's a documentary Jay-Z just did about Kalief Browder who spent two years plus in jail for stealing a backpack. And most people don't realize it in jail what we do to kids. Other countries call it torture, which is solitary confinement. Talk about life experiments. And we've heard about this. There's a great guy you should interview who wrote an amazing book about what he did with trying to cope with being stuck in solitary. But psychologists now conclude, in fact, over 50% of the suicides of juveniles in prisons are kids that were in solitary confinement. Over 60% when kids, if you include kids that just got out of solitary confinement. So now you have a criminal justice system that preys upon the poor.

Starting point is 01:17:24 And by the way, you and I are both guys of means. But in America right now, there's no difference. Drug dealing and drug usage is sort of equal amongst races in America. In fact, young white men have a little higher levels, according to some studies of dealing drugs. But if you're black in America, you're going to be arrested for that usage 3.7 times more likely than someone's white. So now you get these poor areas,

Starting point is 01:17:46 toxic physical environment designed to be poor because of the compacting and public housing in those certain areas. Now you get a criminal justice system that is focused on them, not in my town where I grew up, where we're going to get arrest records. And by the way, most people, Americans don't know that if you get arrested in America, most states can legally discriminate against you. I can deny you a job just because you have an arrest, even if you were as clear of the charges. Most people don't realize that FBI records are so bad that a large percentage of the

Starting point is 01:18:15 FBI background checks come back wrong. I think the majority of them come back wrong. So you may have been cleared of your charges, but that employer who doesn't even, you don't even know they're looking at it, thinks you still had something wrong. But the American Bar Association identified 40,000 collateral consequences if you have been convicted of a nonviolent drug offense. So remember, two of the three last presidents, felony drug use they copped to, not just some pot. Obama and Bush, felony drug use. There are presidents, a lot of Congress people the same.

Starting point is 01:18:45 But if your kid in Newark, you got caught for a nonviolent drug offense doing something stupid that we did, that Stanford students, Princeton students are doing, they can't get a Pell Grant, they can't get food stamps, they can't get business licenses. I had a guy begging me when I was mayor of Newark, why can't I get a cab license? It was 18 years ago and I was just caught with a little bit of drugs. You can't get a job at Burger King in Newark. So I say all this, oh no, go ahead. No, the conclusion of all this is, is that, you know, that that's sort of what got me into fighting against a lot of this stuff and finding like the, like the, the, the concrete of garden spires where I did the hunger strike, learning that if I try to fight these battles without creating unusual coalitions,

Starting point is 01:19:33 basically, if I could create unusual coalitions, I can get unusual results. And if I can awaken people to the facts of what's going on, if I can appeal to people's moral imagination, I can tap into a tremendous amount of energy. And it was, for Newark, I had to hack the system. This, in many ways, what I did with being, the hunger strike taught me that if I could think of ways to sort of hack the system and get people to pay attention that weren't paying attention before, I can actually make tremendous things happen very quickly. And so I became mayor at the worst time to be a mayor of an American city during the great recession, which is a great depression. I had a guy who was my friend. And I know I say that in my, some of my Democrats

Starting point is 01:20:17 friends get mad at me, but Chris Christie is my friend. I can write a dissertation on our disagreements, but I said said you're the mayor of the i'm the mayor of the largest city you're the governor of the biggest state let's not focus on where we disagree let's see if we can find some things we can work together on because if i don't i'm just going to be screaming at you from the outside as opposed to sitting at the table with you and finding things that at least two americans can find six or seven things we can work together on and just to pause everybody should rewind that and listen to the exact wording of that five to 10 times. I think because it's useful. And my funniest Chris Christie stories,

Starting point is 01:20:51 not funniest, but most instructive to me was when I press got mad at me, it was marriage equality, it was gay marriages being voted on something I'm strident about equal justice under the law, Chris Christie stridently against, and it's being voted on in the United States Senate, excuse me, in the state Senate in New Jersey. And I had a meeting, I didn't plan it this way, to schedule with Chris Christie in Trenton in his office on the same day that all this is happening. So imagine this, protesters outside, media outside, I'm going in to meet with Chris Christie. And everybody's thinking the guy who raised the first person ever raised the pride flag in front of City Hall in Newark, the guy that refused to perform marriages when I was mayor because I'm not going to marry anybody unless I can marry everybody. I'm marching in to meet with Chris Christie and everybody's like, yeah, he's going

Starting point is 01:21:31 in there to give Chris Christie hell. Really, I'm marching in there with him because I'm working on a $300 million project in downtown Newark that had places for schools, that had affordable housing, that I brought together an unusual coalition, unions pledging to me to do apprenticeship programs for my kids, Goldman Sachs, God forbid, because they were one of the few people I can get to get capital for the project. It was an amazing coalition to benefit my city, to create jobs and the like, and he's critical to getting it done. So I'm going to meet with him and I come out and the press is like putting the microphones in my face. Did you give it to him on this? And I'm like, I could have sat there for my entire

Starting point is 01:22:09 one hour I had with the governor of the state of New Jersey and fought with him and we would have changed neither of each other's minds. But by focusing on something, and I'm not saying there's not a time and place. Chris Christie has not been soft on me on things he disagrees with, publicly criticized. Even when I'm a senator he's still publicly criticized me on things. I haven't been soft on him. But in that precious time I had with him, I wanted to get this dag nap project done so I could get jobs for people who tomorrow or the day before they needed to go to work. And that was what was important. I think it was glad I didn't interrupt you. Sorry for attempting where I was going to go is exactly where you helped me segue,

Starting point is 01:22:47 which is something that we chatted about very briefly before recording and feel free to wordsmith this. Cause I, I scribbled it down very quickly, but we're becoming reactivists, not activists. So for people who listen to, for instance,

Starting point is 01:23:02 when you were talking about all these various problems, there are many people in this country and certainly around the world who feel overwhelmed, disempowered, like it's all just too much that they can't do anything. And then they become, or they take on the cynicism that we already talked about as being very toxic and contagious also. How would you suggest if people care about a specific issue, they want to do good, but let's say they have a full-time job, what makes someone a good activist? Well, so great question. And I'm just trying to figure out how to approach this, which is, I guess there's two things that are coming, bubbling up in me.

Starting point is 01:23:50 And the first is again, life lessons that you and I have talked about in our past, but more you've talked about with like what I just find that, that if I, every day, if I get up and I can focus on and keep clarity on what the mission is, what is my purpose today? And even back to the time, I credit my success in college from failure. Okay. So I got, and life does this to me a lot, beats me down to like the basic elements of my being. Like you and I both probably been through that where you just, I mean, Newark did that to me a lot, just broke. I think from our brokenness, it's also necessary to be broken because that's often when the light gets in. It's like when we're shining armor and stuff like that, nothing's penetrating, but sometimes it takes us

Starting point is 01:24:31 getting broken down. And so my first brokenness in my post 18 year old life was getting to Stanford as this big hyped football player and failing and just like sinking on the depth chart to the coach had to dig a little hole and write my name really low on the ground because that's how far in the depth chart I was. And just getting into a fight on the football field. I'm not a fighter. I'm a guy that fight meaning punch, punch. Oh my God. Yeah. I went at it. Um, and, uh, because you often, most people, I always say this to kids when I'm saying, if you bump into somebody in a hallway and you're in a great mood, that's just a bump in the hallway. But sometimes when you have a lot of anger and you bump into somebody, you take all the anger from all other areas of your life and you focus

Starting point is 01:25:10 on that person. And so I was just feeling like a failure, like on the football field and anxious and nervous and fearful because you get there in Stanford for football, you get there like around, you know, God, August and school doesn't start in Stanford until like September, October. And so I'm fearing this reality that the truth is I was not the greatest student, not as great as the kids these brainiacs are going to come to. And I thought to myself, I'm not competing on the football field. I'm about to go into the classroom and get just kicked, my butt kicked by these smart kids from around the globe who should be Stanford students. I'm an imposter. I got here as an overhyped football player who's not good enough to compete in school.

Starting point is 01:25:49 And I'll never forget the moment I really was contemplating leaving Stanford before the school even began and running, tucking tail and running. And I pulled out of my notebook a piece of paper and just clarified. And basically put values down, statements of who I am, what I stand for, and what am I trying to achieve. And the goals then became, and you can talk to my college roommate who's still a dear friend, I'd have a whiteboard up, entire college career. In the dorm room. In the dorm room. And I put it in code because I didn't want people to know what my goals were with my goals. So I have to ask, so what would be an example of a goal? If you don't remember, you could make something up. And then what would the code say? So I'm guessing it wasn't just like pig Latin or something. No,

Starting point is 01:26:38 no, no. The code would be like, um, like I was really, I wanted to transform my body. And, and so some of the goals were very specific. Like I'm going to weigh this much. I'm going to run this 40 time. I'm going to bench this much. And I'm going to do everything I can to get to these numbers. So, and academically, it's the same thing. I'm taking this course load.

Starting point is 01:26:57 What, like, I'm going to decide beforehand what grade I want to get and what I'm willing to do to get to that grade. And I found in college, it was this liberating experience because I realized if I was willing to, and I have a good book in me, if you ever want to co-write this book, how to get straight A's in college, how to get straight A's in college if you're a dumb person. Sounds like a winning title. Yeah. Because I just realized, you know this, everything's a hack, right? Everything is the strategy that you have and how much like, like there's, forgive me, Maya Angelou,

Starting point is 01:27:33 forgive me, Alice Walker. I can't remember who said it and it is a curse in it, but I'm pretty sure it's Alice Walker. So this is the quote, if you want to fly, you've got to give up the shit that holds you down. Now, the power of that is that most of us want things, but we're not willing to give up something to get it. What I learned in college, it still serves me now, is what am I willing to sacrifice? Am I willing to sacrifice? And in college, for me, there wasn't a complicated life. There wasn't anything that I was willing to give up for the two things I wanted to excel in, academics and athletics. And so once I realized that and really got it clear, then I could do it.

Starting point is 01:28:09 So what happened to me? So why did I become an A student when in high school I was a B student? Well, it's simple because when everybody else on Friday and Saturday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday night was going to parties, I realized if I do everything, what everybody else is doing, I'm going to get the same results. If you want things that other people don't have, you've got to be willing to do the things other people don't do. And so I said, I'm going to go to the library for three or four hours. I'll still go to the party at 11 o'clock or 12 o'clock, but I'm going to do things that other people aren't doing study.

Starting point is 01:28:40 I'm going to learn little hacks. If the paper's due on the 7th, I'm going to find out who's grading my paper and give them a rough, quote unquote, rough draft at the first. But really the first, I gave my best effort. Like this is the best thing I could put together here. And I found out that the TAs would say, I'd say, here's some of my ideas. Could you read this over? Tell me if I'm on the right track. And they would then tell me the pathway I needed to take, to take that B paper to an A paper. I could go through all the things I did to come out of a Stanford and be qualified to get a Rhodes Scholarship.

Starting point is 01:29:07 But what I'm saying to you, more importantly, going to this idea of activism, and I do this all the time, and especially because in politics, there are so many forces trying to erode your moral core. I look pointing to my chief of staff because we just went through one of them on drug imports where we got castigated publicly. We ended up getting to where we were in a place accordance with our values for the importation, for the rightful importation of drugs from Canada. But if I didn't know my moral core before that, I would have veered way off course. And so what I'm saying, what college did for me, it said, if you can focus in on what's

Starting point is 01:29:39 important and cut everything else out and then find people who can teach you. And what I did there, and the joke I always say is like on the football field, there was a guy named Jeff James, like this great wide receiver. And I studied him. He didn't know it, but I watched what he did. I mean, I literally would begin copying the way he dressed for, for the go out on the field. Like his towel was a certain way I watched at the end. I used to go back and sulk that I was so low on the depth chart, but I started seeing that the superstars on our team, they were going to the gym when everyone else going to the training table, transform my body, made the California all strength team by, by going in and doing all the extra work in the classroom.

Starting point is 01:30:16 What I did as I just looked at who are the smart people and I saw smart people have better habits than me. They, they sit different places than I used to sit when I was in class. And so for anything you want to do in life, except for maybe being in politics, which I can talk to you about, it was harder for me then. I always look for a model. What are they doing right? What can I innovate upon that they're doing so that I can find a way to do it even better? And then by the way, share with other people your results. Tell them about your story and so on and so forth. So let's get back to activism right now. One thing I have to get off the shoulder, and I don't want to be a complainer,

Starting point is 01:30:50 but I know your audience wonderfully is, you have Republicans listening to you and Democrats listening to you. This is one of the greatest podcasts in America, and I'm not just trying to blow your head up, because one of the few spaces in America where people from different political parties come to listen to the same guy. And that's great that right now, and there might even be some Republicans listening right now that are like, God, who's he got this week? A Democrat. I usually don't listen to him, but it's Tim. I'll give this guy a shot. So this is a wonderful space that right and left are listening to. But let's just take it from people on my side of the aisle who are so upset about Trump right now. And one of the things that bothers me right now is because what we don't understand is before Trump, right or left, why weren't we so disturbed before this about the

Starting point is 01:31:38 injustices in our country? That super fund site in Newark, by the way, there's super funds in every single state in the nation. Ronald Reagan was one of the last presidents to reauthorize a cleanup mechanism for the superfund. Mitch McConnell, the current leader of the Senate, voted for it. It was to take polluting industries into a teeny tiny tax. No difference. Teeny tiny tax to fund superfund sites. Well, we're now in a different era where, God bless Ronald Reagan, but a lot of things he did, we currently don't necessarily want to do.

Starting point is 01:32:05 So that has lapsed and nobody's willing to reauthorize it. So what's happened to super funds in America? They've gone up. We have more super fund sites now. They're increasing. Can you reiterate what a super fund site is? I'm sorry. These are sites that are so profoundly toxic and dangerous.

Starting point is 01:32:19 Living around them is- And it's super fund? Super F-U-N-D. Because we created as Congress bipartisan, a fund to clean them up. We said, these are so toxic and dangerous that we are going to take special legislation to clean these up. God bless Reagan for reauthorizing it. God bless Mitch McConnell and others for voting for it. Now it's not, it's lapsed. When I got into Congress, this was a mission for me because New Jersey is the number one state in America for super fund

Starting point is 01:32:44 sites, North to south. And they're overwhelmingly concentrated in poor areas. And now we have longitudinal data that we know that, unfortunately, children who are born around Superfund sites have significantly higher levels of birth defects and autism. So this is a threat to American children. And it's been going on. Why aren't people more activated about that? I'll give you one more example. And this is a controversial example because we all like our bacon. But North Carolina has 9 million pigs. Why is that an important number? Pigs create

Starting point is 01:33:20 10 times the excrement that a human being does. So they've got the same population of pigs as New Jersey has people, but 10 times the excrement. What do you do with that excrement when you have that kind of factory farming? Well, New Jersey's waste, we put it in human waste, we put it in waste treatment plants, it doesn't poison us. We don't get poisoned by our own crap. North Carolina, what they do is unfortunately, a lot of these pig farms are located in very poor areas, low-lying areas. And these people who live in those areas didn't invite this stuff in. I talked to a Vietnam War veteran, leaves his home to serve in the Vietnam, comes back, and there's one of these places. What they do is they put all the crap into a lagoons.

Starting point is 01:33:58 Now, just weeks ago, I went down to stand with these people and try to figure out how I can help them in these lagoons. And then they take the excrement and they spray it in the air over what are empty fields. But the problem is I watched, I stood there and watched as the mist from that stuff floats off the property of the pig farmers. And by the way, the pig farmers in many ways don't even own the pigs. They get these pigs delivered by the larger corporations. They have to raise them for six months and they get picked up. But long story short, this community has horrific cases of cancers and respiratory diseases. They can't open their windows. They can't run their air conditioning. And every time they try to elect somebody that will represent them, the industry, one of the most powerful lobbies in Washington is big ag.

Starting point is 01:34:44 These corporate farms, corporate folks will just put a lot of money behind people. They'll fight them. And I bring this example up because no human being could have gone where I went, right or left, sat with these people and see what they're enduring and their children are enduring and not been outraged by it. So why all of a sudden now that we have a new president, and I don't care if it was Obama or whatever, why have we lost our sense of urgency and our sense of outrage? And the last example I'll give you is a Chris Christie example. And I'm glad I said already, I talked to him a few

Starting point is 01:35:15 weeks ago, if you can't find a way to be a friend with another American, I always say patriotism is love of country. You can't love your country unless you love your fellow countrymen and women. And our founders even understood this. A bunch of very different people at the end of the Declaration of Independence, they call to future generations and say, in order to make this country work, we have to have an irrational commitment to one another. It's irrational. It doesn't even make sense. We've got to mutually pledge to each other our lives, our fortunes. And I love this last one, our sacred honor.

Starting point is 01:35:46 So if you're one of those people who just because somebody says they're a liberal, you call them a libtard. And I see this is the stuff I read on. Just because somebody says they're a Republican, you call them a racist, whatever, whatever, whatever. Then you are not honoring the vision that this country was founded upon about that irrational commitment. Team of rivals, right? Yes. And so Governor Christie is, I use him as an example, and I apologize if he's a big listener to this, because I went to go vote in 2008 for Barack Obama in Newark, New Jersey, a majority black city. Let's just say he was a little popular in Newark. Lines around the

Starting point is 01:36:21 polling places. I go vote there. The woman at the end of the line, I'm rolling deep. I'm the mayor of the city. I got officers next to me. I'm getting out of a fancy SUV. And the woman looks at me as Newarkers do, love my city. We keep it real. It's not like, hey, mayor, nice day. She just looks at me. The first thing she says, don't you think you're cutting in this line now? And I'm like, yes, ma'am. And I waited in this long line. One year later, it's a governor's race in New Jersey. I go to vote. Nobody's there. I walk right in and vote, hug the woman behind the table because she looks lonely. Then the results come out.

Starting point is 01:36:55 Chris Christie narrowly wins that election. I look at the data. If just the cities in New Jersey had turned out a fraction of what they did a year before, and I always tell people, then people are complaining to me. Again, I told you I'm mayor during the most difficult hand of cards. I got a Republican governor who is now cutting back on funding. And again, New Jersey as a state had terrible problems. And he just said, I'm not going to fund cities like I used to. So Trenton cuts off a third of their police department. I lay off 12%. Then we see the earned income tax credit, which is a way for working Americans making $30,000, $40,000 a year to get tax breaks.

Starting point is 01:37:27 He ends that system. He cuts funding to Planned Parenthood, which again, different people on this recording might have different views on it. But for Newark, it was one of the best ways for people to get access to preventative care, prevent unplanned pregnancies. People are saying, why is Chris Christie doing this to us? And my response to them is, Chris Christie's not doing this to you. What's happening is we didn't come out and vote. So what people don't understand, King said this, and again, nobody's evil here, but he said the problem we'll have to repent for in our day and age is not the vitriolic words

Starting point is 01:37:57 and violent actions of the bad people, but the appalling silence and inaction of the good people. So could I jump in for a second? Jump in, yeah. All right. So if you were providing, say, a cheat sheet to people listening, maybe, and almost certainly people in the Carolinas were thinking, my God, that's terrible to my backyard. I want to do something, but I fear, A, it's too overwhelming.

Starting point is 01:38:17 B, I won't have an impact. C, maybe I could have an impact, but I don't have the time. If you were providing, aside from ensuring that you vote on the things that you claim are of importance to you, what else, if you had a training school for super activists, what would some of the tenets be? Well, I mean, that's the point I guess I was trying to make with some of my earlier comments to you, which is the same point over and over and over again. And it's this idea that Ms. Jones said, I was overwhelmed. I didn't know what to do. And she didn't prescribe things. She said do something. And the problem is we often let things feel so big, we allow our inability to do everything to undermine our determination to do something. Right. to do everything to undermine our determination to do something. And what people don't get is that you and I, and I know a little bit about your family history and you just heard a bit about mine. What if that person in North Carolina, again, my father's home state, said, I can't do anything about segregation.

Starting point is 01:39:20 I can't do anything about poverty. I can't do anything about the lack of education for black kids in this town. So it's terrible. Somebody should do something about it. Instead, they said, you know what? This is one black kid named Carrie Booker. I'm going to give him a dollar to go to school. That act of love literally had a time-space jump that I am sitting here right now because a small group of poor North Carolina folks in the mountains decided that I can't change the world, but I can do one thing for one kid. There's a United States Senator where he is today because of those acts. And so not one action done in a righteous cause. And look at people who are hacking our politics. Money is one of the most

Starting point is 01:40:00 toxic influences in our politics. But yet you just watch Bernie Sanders run a campaign where he didn't ask for one corporate dollar. Not because somebody said, I only have $5 to give somebody. He said, you know what? I believe in that candidate. I'm going to give $5 to them. Well, all those small actions in the aggregate turned into a tidal wave of action. So you and I, I don't know if you're like this, but I get appeals for money a lot. And if I can't help, I at least let me give a dollar or five dollars to show I care about this issue.

Starting point is 01:40:28 And it's something important. And that's my hope for anybody listening. Don't feel powerless ever. I mean, Alice Walker says the most common way people give up their power is believing they have none. We all are so much more powerful than we realize. And sometimes if we want to curse the world around us because it's not kind enough or there's too much cynicism, nothing is going to change about this world unless we do first. And so if that might just be picking, that might just be doing the smallest thing. Like I just spent this week

Starting point is 01:41:01 reading about Yemen. I mean, it is awful, God awful what's going on there, but I'm not, I can't get mad at other people for not knowing what's happening in Yemen. But if I say, you know, I'm going to do one thing on my Facebook page, I'm going to post a little bit more about the near famine going on in Yemen. And I'm going to give people one instruction of an action they can take. If we were all doing that about issues we care about, we would be influencing each other. And so that's what I'm just saying is I've learned in my life, again, I got a little cut off, but if you're an activist or if you're a person, what is your life mission state? Why is that not clear? What do you stand for? I'm not even telling people. I don't care if your mission is to go out and make a

Starting point is 01:41:38 billion dollars. Are you getting up every single day and at least knowing what your mission is, what your values are, and how you're going to fight the good fight as you know it? And are you living in allegiance to that? That's why I always say that civic gospel, you know, and that's why I always say, before you tell me about your religion, show it to me and how you treat other people. How are you living in accordance to those values that you hold, that you intellectually have? And be that kind of activist. Don't suddenly, and I'm not saying there's anything wrong with suddenly waking up and saying, I reject what's going on, but try to be consistent in what you do, even if it's a small way.

Starting point is 01:42:16 And maybe, I know we're coming up on time in a little bit, but if we have a few more minutes, I mean, I was just going to be reiterate and reinforce what you just said. And perhaps it's the word that scares people off activist or activism because it sounds like a full-time job. So if we were to maybe just say, call it being a good person, as you define it in accordance with your values and so on that, uh, you could look at it almost, almost like behavioral change of any type. If you, if I'm trying to get someone to change their diet, to take exercise as a new habit, I'm

Starting point is 01:42:50 going to want them to do less than they think they can do so they can build momentum in doing very small things. So no, it's not going to be the gym for five days a week, an hour at a time. It's going to be five minutes in the gym twice a week. Anything beyond that is bonus credit. Diet, great. Fix your breakfast. Everything else you can keep the same. So they build them that momentum. And a challenge

Starting point is 01:43:08 maybe that I would issue to people listening is if it seems too big, keep ratcheting it down until it seems easy. And then just make that your 30 minutes of being a good person for the week and put it in the calendar for a week from now. And that could be donating $5, $10 to a classroom of donors choose in the town where you grew up. It could be educating yourself for 15 minutes on a site like QuestBridge, which is another incredible educational nonprofit I'm involved with. Make it small enough so that it's not intimidating. So it's easy. And you, that's what the gift you gave me back in 2009, when you told me about working out and I think about you and I don't mean, again, I feel like this is like, I have a little fan boy moments with you, but there are days I can't work out. And I say to

Starting point is 01:43:53 myself, Tim told me, just raise your heart rate for 12 minutes. And so from my home where I live in the, in the Capitol to the Senate office building is a little over a mile. And I don't know if this sprinted, I'm telling you right now, it's embarrassing, but it's about 12 minute run for me. And I think about you and I'm saying like, look, I I'm missing a workout because my chief of staff, closest friend jerk over here doesn't schedule me time to work out. I'm like, at least I think of Tim. I said, at least I'm going to get 12 minutes in. And I'm telling you right now, when it comes to being an activist, if you, if even it's as simple as this, I really believe that there should be more people being mentors in this world. And I can't be a mentor myself, but I'm going to once

Starting point is 01:44:36 a week on social media, post the link to big brothers and big sisters. Somebody, one of your circle of friends, if you have more than 100 followers, is one day, and if you post the data, you and I love data about a one mentor in a kid's life dramatically changes their life outcomes. If one person in the next month that you do that, or two months that you do that once a week, or whatever, one person is a mentor, you've just helped to change somebody's life. And so that's how much power you have. You don't even have to give the $10 to big brothers, big sisters. And so that's what I'm saying. If there's so much we could do that we just don't do because we don't understand. And with this power, I'm holding up my smartphone right now that we have to connect

Starting point is 01:45:13 to people. I found this out as a political scientist that more powerful than one of my political ads trying to get somebody to do something is someone posting information to their friends. It affects behavior more than we know. So just a few very quick closing questions because we could talk for hours and hours and hours, and maybe we'll be able to do a round two because I know we have a lot of listener questions, some of which were really fantastic. And I apologize to people who are not going to get to delegating today. We will get to it some other time, hopefully. But what are some books that you have gifted the most to other people? So I have gifted your book a lot. And I shouldn't say it wasn't the four hour work week. I think the book of yours or I had to gift anyone was a four hour body. I just thought

Starting point is 01:45:58 that there were so many great little hacks in there. Some of them rated R. Yes. Yes. It is not all family programming. It's not all family efficient. As I realized as I was handing to a teenager. Well, that's why it was taken out of Costco because it also is apparently it just printed in such a way that it flips open to some pretty explicit diagrams. So for those who enjoy adult recreation, also useful, but fair warning. But that is, and I'm not just, again, I shouldn't, maybe I shouldn't even waste my time saying, because most of these people probably most of the good folks who listen to you probably have already listened to that. So look, I, I, I thought just mercy, this book written by one of the greatest American heroes that I know, a guy named

Starting point is 01:46:35 Bryan Stevenson, who was a death penalty defender. And, and I try to consume as much as I can. So I do a lot of listening to books. And that was one of the biggest books that I handed out. Just Mercy back in 2015. It is a beautiful listening. It's one of those books that is a really good story. And it takes you out of where you probably are and lets you look into a window of aspects of our society that are really important. I'm trying to think of other books. I'm actually going to just open up my audible. Oh, you know what a book I loved? A buddy of mine wrote this

Starting point is 01:47:10 book. And just for guys and men and women, I should say, that want to just work out a lot, the book about living with a Navy SEAL. Do you know what book I'm talking about? You know, I do know of the book and I'm blanking on the title. Living with a seal. That's what it is. And it's a Jesse Itzler. Who's just a, if you are a workout guy and that was, it reminds you of things you already know that you can push your body and yourself far further than you think.

Starting point is 01:47:36 Oh yeah. And it really was a moment. It was actually right. I think I listened to that around the time I was starting to battle back into shape from being the heaviest I ever was. And it was, it was a wonderful book and he's going on to write, um, uh, to write, uh, more books like that. I'm just going through some more of these, uh, that are not sort of, I listened to a lot of history and biography. So if you were to suggest people to start with

Starting point is 01:48:00 one biography, if they've, if, if they'd like to get into biographies but are not sure where to start so I think the I think Gandhi's autobiography is a profound read I think that parting the waters is one of the best Taylor branches puller Pulitzer Prize winning book if you're an American it's just a unbelievable story of our country. Question that you wish more people would ask themselves or that you wish people would ask themselves more often. Any question that you wish people would ask more often? Well, it's productive for me to do a recentering a lot. And, you know, I think I even brought this up to Matt, who's again, my chief of staff, relating to about like, in this context, we were just deciding whether to do an interview that is

Starting point is 01:48:49 kind of a quirky request that we got. And it was so easy for me to fall back on, okay, well, wait, why am I here in the Senate? What is my mission? And so I do really think that's a really productive thing. If you have an hour just to sit with an open notebook and just say, what am I about? Or what do I stand for? Or what are my most important values? And if you actually can do that, and then actually have an honest conversation about what am I living in accordance to my highest values? What legacy do I want to leave? What energy do I want to leave on this universe? You know, I sat down with, and now I feel like I'm doing more name dropping, but a guy i review your name neil degrasse tyson neil degrasse tyson brilliant guy brilliant guy i would have

Starting point is 01:49:29 him on the podcast you should have one neil neil you should really come people would really benefit from talk about a guy who's non-partisan i mean he's a guy that would give you that that lecture about go where the science leads you whether it's left or right um but he because i've heard him talk in ways that ticks off. If you're ticking off both sides of the aisle, you're, you're probably doing pretty good. But he's, he says, we had this conversation because I love, again,

Starting point is 01:49:55 I love talking about things from a spiritual perspective. And, and, but I'm now finding that science and religion are really the frontiers of science really are very spiritual. And so in astrophysics, I wanted to confirm this with me because I was using it in like major speeches talking about, you know, stars are millions, if not hundreds of millions of light years away. That's what I wanted to confirm with him. And I had always heard that we're looking at stars at night that have disappeared, but because your light goes on in perpetuity, we see those stars as if they're there, but they're really gone. And so he confirmed all of that. And I said, well,

Starting point is 01:50:28 that's powerful that a being of energy could be gone millions of years ago, but we're still basking in its light, marveling at its glory, feeling its warmth. And I said, we are beings of energy too. And so this idea that the energy we give off while we're alive, this idea that it dissipates or dissipates. No, I'm sorry. I am basking in the warmth of those men on the beaches of Normandy, as my dad might say. I'm basking in the warmth of those people who helped my family buy our first house. And you've got to see yourself as no good deed doesn't resonate. But the problem is we all shrink ourselves.

Starting point is 01:51:06 Fear shrinks ourselves. Bigotry, hatred shrinks ourselves. Negativity. But what makes us bigger and bolder is courage and kindness. And we get radiant when we live with those values. So what are your moral values? And are you living by your highest, most luminescent self? And what makes you and understand what your triggers are.

Starting point is 01:51:25 When do you get small? When do you get petty and what have you? I think that kind of self-work really helps you be more effective in living out your mission. But you know, and I said, people will get on. If I got in my car and didn't know where I was going, I would just waste energy, race fuel and what have you. But if you have a, if you know, like a laser beam where you're supposed to be headed, if you've taken the time to do that work, when the craziness of life, you can easily fall back. Okay, why am I here as a senator? Why am I here as an entrepreneur? What values am I trying to do? And I think we've lost that. Capitalism is a great example. As a guy who loves a free market, capitalism got lost when we were allowing people in a very un-free market way to foist their costs off on society. Most people don't realize

Starting point is 01:52:07 that a person working at an IHOP in Newark is, you are subsidizing that IHOP by giving that, because I have friends that work at IHOP that live in public housing. It's taxpayer subsidizing. It's outsourcing the costs of paying somebody a living wage to the rest of people in society. Most people don't understand that capitalism, if you really read Adam Smith, he has his moral sentiments. He really talks about the larger vision. This is, again, he's a Democrat. The head of AEI is a guy that talks about, we as Americans don't believe capitalism and free markets are the end. We believe it's a pathway to reaching the free market. And so what I'm saying is, is we remember why we have capital.

Starting point is 01:52:47 And this is why I love people who get perverted in their corporate goals, where it's just about that quarterly report. Well, if you look at some of the early entrepreneurs in America, they weren't looking at short-term views of their company. We've allowed a lot of things to erode our moral compass and make us smaller and greater because we don't reset. What are we really about as a society? Why did we form as a nation? What are our guiding principles and live in more accordance to those? Last question. Do you have any, uh, ask of the audience, uh, something you wish the people listening would, would do or think about and where can people find you, say hello, learn more about what you are up to? Well, I mean, the easiest way to find me is if you have social media platforms is at Cory Booker, C-O-R-Y-B-O-L-K-E-R on any platform, Twitter,

Starting point is 01:53:38 Facebook, Instagram. And I try to do my best to live sort of my authenticity on those positions, on those platforms. And I guess my request from people, which is tough today, because I think that I do worry about the divisions in our nation. And if I'm worrying about something, I'm trying to do something myself to heal those. And that's why when I went to the Senate, I told my state, I'm not going down as a Democratic senator. I'm going down as a senator for our state. And I'm going to listen to Bill Bradley, who's one of my mentors, to try to do everything I can to create working relationships with my senators. So if Republican senators like Deb Fischer, who she and I have done such good work together, senators like Tim Scott, a Republican from South Carolina, done really good work together. Senators like Tim Scott, a Republican from South Carolina, done really good work

Starting point is 01:54:26 together. Rand Paul, who's a guy people wouldn't imagine, but he and I have done really good work together. And I guess I'm saying that as a preamble to say this, it's a shame that in our society, we're creating divisions that are so deep between us that we fail to see each other or hear each other. Back to how we started about non-judgmentalism and leading with empathy, with a courageous empathy. And so my request for people is my first, one of my first mentors in Newark, this amazing tenant leader led the longest rent strike in our city's history back in the 70s against, he won against the government.

Starting point is 01:55:04 It was public housing. He led people in this amazing rent this crotchety and you looked at him he's you know he not dressed in fancy clothes and but i watched him at tenant meetings he's and you and i've both been in them whether dorm meetings whatever everybody wants their moment and they speak for too long but i watched this guy just look at everybody with these eyes that he was listening to you. And while I'm getting nudging and tired, he's still looking at people. And the irony of his sight was that he went blind. And yet he would tease me every time I'd see him. I'd say, hey, Frank, it's Corey. He's like, I see you. Anyway, I want to end with my request to everyone and, you know, and a foreshadowing

Starting point is 01:55:44 of what I hope to share with some of the students who I'm going to speak to in a commencement speech in a couple of months. His last words to me were, I walk into his room, he's in hospice and my ego, which I need to check is upset. I'm like, this guy, tens of thousands of human beings had hot heat and hot water or stayed in their homes. Why is he dying without crowds of people? I mean, this guy taught me that significance is more important than celebrity, that purpose is more important than popularity. He lived a life of great purpose and great significance. And I go into his hospice room after the nurses have told me that it's not going to be long. And he can barely talk

Starting point is 01:56:26 and he's got, I don't, I hope many people have not heard people towards the end of their lives. I saw this with my father and others. It's something that your breath gets really short and, and, but yet he was aware enough to know that I came in the room and I announced myself and he forces out these words that used to be what he used to tease me. He goes, I say, Frank, it's Corey. And he's like, I see you. And I sat down with him, hugged him and kissed him on the forehead right before I left. And I said to him, I love you, Frank. And his last words to me were, I love you. And I think about that, those, I see you, I love you. I see you, I love you. We have lost our way in a sense in America, at least many of us,

Starting point is 01:57:06 and maybe I'll implicate myself, that we think the highest calling of this country is tolerance, that we're a nation of tolerance, that that's a good thing. But tolerance says if you disappear off the face of the earth, if you're that person in the party and you just disappear, we'd be better off, you know, or I wouldn't be worse off because I was just tolerating you. But this country, as our founder said in the Declaration of Independence, pledging to each other in a rational commitment. This country says we were not called for tolerance. We're called for love to move beyond tolerance to that. Because love always sees worth, sees dignity, sees value in the other person and knows actually that if your kids do well, if your kids become an entrepreneur or an artist or a teacher,

Starting point is 01:57:45 my kids are going to benefit from that, that that is what makes a great society. And we cannot tolerate each other. We cannot tolerate divisions. We have to find ways to stitch this country together with love. And so my request to everybody listening is you could be fervently against a Republican. You could be fervently against a Democrat. You could be fervently against a Democrat. You could be fervently against those people who are marching in the streets or what have you. My request is that we all try to, all of us, including me, starting with me, try to see each other, our humanity, our dignity, and try to love each other. I see you. I love you. And love

Starting point is 01:58:26 demands a surrender of ego for a little while. It demands a courageous empathy, as we've talked about. It demands a surrendering of your position, not always, but for a moment. Let me imagine what it's like to you. Love demands you learning about somebody else. Like, how can I really, I love my Irish American colleagues or my Jewish American colleagues. Have I taken the time to learn about the Irish experience in America, which is one of the great stories of America, the Japanese American experience. What a great story of America. Have I learned about you? So, you know, this idea, people always say the biblical sense of knowing each other,

Starting point is 01:59:05 but love, not eros love, but love, agape love necessitates knowledge, knowing one another as well. And so I guess that's a long-winded way of saying my request for all of us, for people that you think you disagree with, take time to see them and to feel in your heart a love that Americans should feel to each other. Don't have to agree with each other, always like each other. But do you sincerely believe that patriotism obliges you to love Americans? And if it does, then really try to love, which is not a being verb.

Starting point is 01:59:35 It's an active word. It necessitates us acting towards our neighbor with a certain level of commitment. I think that's the perfect place to end. Corey, thank you so much. Thank you for taking the time. I'm blown away that you would have me on. Oh, well, it's great to see you again. And I hope that we don't go as long before the next time we see each other. So thank you again. I really appreciate the entire team. Thank you. And I'll say this one more time. You are one of the sources of inspiration in my life and more, more than just inspiration education. I've learned a lot from you as a, as a, as a guy, I see you as a peer, but in many ways you are one of the teachers of my life. And

Starting point is 02:00:13 I appreciate you, uh, professor Ferris. Thank you. Thank you, Corey. Well, you said you were a Padawan at one point earlier. I think you were definitely in that teacher role and certainly in that leadership role. Uh, so this is, this is a conversation I hope we can, we can continue. And for everybody listening, as always, you can find the show notes for this episode, links to all of the books, documentaries, and many other things mentioned at tim.blog forward slash podcast. And you can find links to the show notes for all other episodes there. And until next time, thank you for listening. Hey guys, this is Tim again, just a few more things before you take

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