The Tim Ferriss Show - #424: Brian Koppelman on Making Art, Francis Ford Coppola, Building Momentum, and More
Episode Date: April 23, 2020Brian Koppelman on Making Art, Francis Ford Coppola, Building Momentum, and More | Brought to you by Helix Sleep and "5-Bullet Friday" “A lot of growing up is learning to shift the responsi...bility from the other to the self.” — Brian KoppelmanBrian Koppelman (@briankoppelman) is a screenwriter, novelist, director, producer, and host of The Moment podcast. Prior to his hit show Billions, which he co-created and executive produced (and co-wrote on spec), he was best known as the co-writer of Rounders and Ocean’s Thirteen, as well as a producer of The Illusionist and The Lucky Ones. He has also directed films, such as Solitary Man, starring Michael Douglas.Consider getting Brian’s The Royale mug (all proceeds go to Food Bank for New York City), and join the community using hashtag #TheRoyale on Twitter when you have your first cup of coffee in the morning. Please enjoy! This podcast is brought to you by Helix Sleep. I started sleeping on a Helix in 2017, and they’ve been one of my top choices for mattresses ever since. Take their two-minute sleep quiz, and, based on body type and how you sleep, their algorithm will identify and match you to your perfect mattress.Helix Sleep offer a 100-night trial and free shipping and returns. They’re manufactured in the USA, and because they ship it directly to you and cut out high-margin middlemen, they cost hundreds or even thousands of dollars less than comparable mattress-store options. To personalize your sleep experience, visit HelixSleep.com/TIM and you’ll receive up to $125 off your custom mattress.This episode is also brought to you by “5-Bullet Friday,” my very own email newsletter, which every Friday features five bullet points of cool things I’ve found that week, including apps, books, documentaries, gadgets, albums, articles, TV shows, new hacks or tricks, and—of course—all sorts of weird stuff I’ve dug up from around the world. It’s free, it’s always going to be free, and you can subscribe now at tim.blog/friday.***If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests.For show notes and past guests, please visit tim.blog/podcast.Sign up for Tim’s email newsletter (“5-Bullet Friday”) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Interested in sponsoring the podcast? Please fill out the form at tim.blog/sponsor.Discover Tim’s books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss YouTube: youtube.com/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, and many more. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Hello, boys and girls, ladies and germs. This is Tim Ferriss. And welcome to another episode
of The Tim Ferriss Show, where it is my privilege, pleasure, and obligation to deconstruct world-class performers of all different types.
And my guest today was, in fact, I believe the 10th ever guest on this podcast, and I had to have him back. He was so nice, we had to do it twice. Brian Koppelman on Twitter, at Brian Koppelman, B-R-I-A-N-K-O-P-P-E-L-M-A-N,
is a screenwriter, novelist, director, and producer. He is prolific. Prior to his hit show
Billions, which he co-created and executive produced and co-wrote on spec, he was best
known as the co-writer of Rounders and Ocean's 13, as well as the producer of The Illusionist
and The Lucky Ones. He has directed films such as Solitary Man, starring Michael Douglas. Brian also hosts
the very popular The Moment podcast. Brian, welcome back to the show.
It's such a pleasure, Tim. I'm always so happy to talk to you, man.
And you are also, I would consider, aside from being a friend, a mentor of sorts. I have sent drafts of various things to you for feedback, and you are a real master of your craft, and I appreciate your help when I sent you a draft of one of my blog posts, I can't recall which blog post it was exactly, but you said, I will give you feedback because I believe you actually
want feedback or something along those lines. It was the first one because, first of all,
this is great and it's something that I'm really eager to talk about, which is the importance of
connection, but also how to expand your reach. Because, you know, Tim,
you asked me a question last night because, and I think I like to declare this kind of thing on a
podcast. I mean, you and I are friends. We've been in touch for a long time and we text and talk and
we can lean on each other for stuff. And last night you said, hey, let's try to not just ramble since we, you know,
the danger of having someone you're friends with on a podcast is it can ramble and suddenly just
be for the two of you. So, but I was thinking about the last 10 years, because that was a
great sort of prompt you gave me. You said, think about between 2010 and 2020. And one thing that occurred to me is it's super important to me
to expand my world. And because that's the way that I learn and grow. But in order to expand
my world, and you do the same thing, a key thing is to improve myself so that I have something to offer as I try to expand my world.
So that by doing work on myself, by trying to grow, by trying to read more and learn more, I then am prepared to engage when I reach out to somebody I admire. So you might say
I've been a mentor of sorts to you. Obviously, even though you're younger than I am, you've been
a mentor to me in various areas too. And part of that is because each of us are trying in whatever
way to do the work on our own so that when we meet again, we're meeting as versions
of ourselves that are in a place of momentum, not inertia. Now, sometimes you're in a place
of inertia. And if you've built real relationships, you can then go to somebody and say, hey, I'm
stuck. Help me figure out why I'm stuck. Help me figure out how to move forward. But for me, I've realized that can't be the only place that I'm in.
And the reason that I've come to know that is, as you have, I've spent years feeling
stuck at various points in my life.
And so I tried to find ways to unstick myself, expand my world so that I can have helpers
to help me unstick myself. And when you sent me,
it was your first of these new blog posts. And you'd sent a note, I think, to a few of your
friends saying- I think it was single ply. It might've been where in your life are you still
using single ply? That's correct. It was. And you said, I'm doing this new thing where I'm
going to start blogging more in a certain way. And you were like, would you be willing to give me notes? And I remember where I was. I was actually heading to the airport
in LA, coming back to New York. And I knew you were coming to me as a professional,
that you were a professional. And I would define that as somebody who just, whether you're making
money on it or not, didn't matter. That's not what I mean by professional. And this,
I'm using more Seth Godin's definition of it, which is, you know, you were taking this work
seriously. You were trying to communicate for other people something, you were trying on the
page to figure out your strongly held belief and then to share that with other people. And I could
tell what you wanted was a gut check. Am I communicating cleanly enough? Am I entertaining
enough to get the message across?
And when I receive something like that from a fellow professional, it's an honor, man. You feel
like what a joy to be able to, because then I knew I would give you feedback. I knew you would
be able to throw out the stuff that didn't apply, but I knew you'd be able to take, because I gave
you some harsh notes. I was like, you can cut this section. An amateur or even someone who gets paid to do this work, but who
isn't in a professional mindset defaults to, instead of hearing the notes they asked for as
from a peer or a mentor or someone trying to help, they make that note as though it came from the teacher who hated them the most or the parent who they could never please, and so they react a trip that was a 24-hour trip to California.
We were in the middle of making the show. I had gone out there to do Bill Simmons'
three podcasts in two days with Bill while still writing Billions. And you sent me that thing.
And I thought, oh, well, this is really a valuable thing to do because Tim is
actually in the middle of trying to grow. You said, I'm trying to reshape the way I think about
my posts. And I was like, well, this is great. I'm so fucking proud and happy for Tim.
And I know my, this is the key. I know my efforts won't be wasted. I know if I dig into this as though I wrote the piece, Tim is going to react to it in kind.
And that is exactly what I'm talking about, about expanding your world and growing.
And it's the kind of thing, although you've written many books and I've done the things that I've done, I believe we would have interacted in the exact same way in the moments before
our professional successes happened. And I think that's part of why we were able to manifest and
have some professional success, because of that desire to get the work right. Does that make
sense to you? Is that track? It makes perfect sense. And you are also, not to turn this into like a whatever it might be, but you are, and I think this is really important to underscore for folks who perhaps want to explore different creative paths, and whether that be professionally in the paid sense or not, as you said, the
professional mindset is one I think you reflect in so much as you take feedback extremely well
and unemotionally, as does Seth Godin, who you mentioned earlier. And I really find that to be a hallmark of someone who can make a lot of
progress in terms of their creative endeavors or otherwise.
But let's take a second and slow down. This is such a crucial point.
And it's one that I've given a tremendous amount of thought to because I don't take feedback well in the instant
it's given. So what happens privately, and I think it's like when you watch an Olympic athlete
perform, even though part of your brain knows all the years of practice, all you really think is,
geez, Michael Johnson's fast. So here's what I'd say. When I get feedback sometimes, my initial reaction
might actually be all the things I just said to avoid. My initial reaction might be rage,
might be sadness, might be self-pity, might be wanting to beat myself up. And I'm not exaggerating, I might have 12 really bad hours where I go through
a range of purely emotional responses where what I want to say to the person giving me the feedback
is go fuck yourself. But when I was younger, I did say go fuck yourself, right? Now what I,
and by the way, we all have bad days where we could say the wrong thing. But what I now know, because I've trained myself to notice it through meditation and journaling,
is, okay, this is you shaking off the bad reaction to the feedback. You're not going to do anything
with that material or that approach until you've shaken this emotional response off enough
that you have intellectual clarity. And then you can look at the feedback and say, okay,
these three things make a lot of sense. I know what to do with them. That fourth thing,
I see what that means. I can address it a different way. And this bundle of things over here,
while that's really the person giving me the notes
issues, I don't think that makes it better.
But until I can get to that place, I won't even deal with it.
So we went through this process, and I'll talk about this more later, with COVID and
when to leave New York City.
You and I had three or four conversations, and I had to get to a place where I could take my emotional response out to
get to my pure intellectual response. And that process, the more one can learn to accelerate
the process so that if I've had this experience, someone will call me, someone I know, and they'll
say, will you look at this cut of something I've just shot?
Or will you look at this thing I've just written?
Or will you listen to this song?
Because, you know, I made records for a long time as a producer and A&R person, right?
And they will want feedback.
And so the thing I said to you, I now have learned to say to somebody, describe the kind of feedback you want.
Is this finished?
If it's finished, Penn Jillette said this to me once where he said, if you tell me it's
finished, all I'm going to say to you is congratulations because you can't do anything
about it and I don't want to.
And this is important, right?
But I'll say to someone, is it finished if they say, right?
Because if I show you something and it's finished, a finished movie that I've just made, but
it's not out yet, honestly, what is your feedback?
Really all I need at that point is a pat on the back for accomplishing something, right?
But if somebody – so the first thing I say to somebody is what kind of feedback are you looking for?
Now, you preempted that because your initial note, you said, I want harsh feedback.
That's great. So I'll say to somebody, do you want the kind of feedback I
will give to a peer? Because the feedback I give to a peer has very little positive in it,
not a lot of praise. It's right because we don't need that. If I send my friend Craig Mazin,
the great creator of Chernobyl on HBO, if I send Craig, if I'm going to waste Craig's time and
ask him to read a script, I don't need him to also spend a half a page of response to me telling me
what I've done well. What I need him to do is tell me where the thing has fallen short, right?
So I will say that to somebody. Are you prepared for that? If you are, I will give you those notes,
but you have to be willing to do something with them.
So before you ask for feedback, you have to get yourself in a mindset that is open to taking action based on the feedback.
This is in any area of life, except if your partner asks you if they look good.
If they ask you if the sweater fits them well, they are not asking for this kind of
feedback. So I just want to be clear about that. That is an entirely different feedback loop that
you have to figure out for yourself. Because the answer can wildly vary, the response. But
this is one of the keys, I think, to becoming successful in any area of the arts, but I would
expand it to in any area of business.
How you ask for feedback and how you respond to that feedback when it's given. That's something
I've spent a lot of time thinking about, and it's something that I think all of us should think
about because it's an incredible shortcut to growth. Because if you take the feedback the
right way, you don't only improve the thing you're working on, then you improve the next five things you're working on, because that feedback has led
you to understand how to iterate the next thing. Makes perfect sense to me. And I want to jump
back to a few things you mentioned, and then ask a follow-up question. You mentioned meditation
and journaling.
We don't have to go into great depth with that because we spoke about it in our first conversation
on this podcast, but transcendental meditation and morning pages, a la Julia Cameron, are both
arrows in your quiver. I want to talk about the initial response to feedback. So, if you have the, say, up to 12 hours of rage, denial, sadness, whatever it might be, in the moment, if someone delivers just steps back up and has a huge shit-eating grin on your face and you sort of play nice until you get off the phone?
Is there something you say to get off of the phone so you can buy yourself time and a clean exit so you can experience your emotions?
That's a great thing to think about because what that really is is a great aspiration,
right? And it's important to keep that aspiration in mind. Now, I have a creative partner,
David Levine. And so when I think we're going to have a call with somebody who's going to give us
feedback and I'm concerned that my emotions are too engaged, sometimes I will say to David,
hey man, I think you should do most of the talking on this phone call because I can feel myself
amped up. So part of that is taking stock of your, look, a lot of success in interpersonal
relationships involves understanding your own complicity in how the engagement is going to turn out.
So a lot of this growing up is learning to shift the responsibility from the other to the self.
That doesn't mean, oh, I'm responsible for my own success. What it means is,
instead of saying, that dick treated me poorly and it made me feel a certain way,
before the interaction, I try to prepare myself so that I'm going to react in the right way in
the moment because I've learned to know myself probably through the meditation journaling.
Also, honestly, through the relationship I have with my wife, we celebrate our 29th
anniversary in two days. And she's also a writer and filmmaker. And we talk about this stuff all
the time and have, and we're very good at being honest with one another. And so Amy will, as the
Brits like to, as the Brits, she's not British, but as the Brits say, you know, she'll pick me up
on that stuff and to help teach me. But I can be a total asshole if I'm not ahead of time prepared to have those conversations.
I often say people who listen to my podcast, they're listening to the most understanding version of me, me trying to be that ice skater where I'm so outwardly directed on being there to listen to the other
person. I'm incredibly patient. I'm fully engaged in their journey. I've taken myself out of it.
And I try really hard to be that person in all the interactions that I have. But as you know,
that hour that you're doing this, you're able to manifest it.
It's really hard to manifest it at the end of a long day when you fail during the day,
because we all fail during our day sometimes, when you've had to manage four flame-ups on set
that happened for a variety of reasons. A director, for me in my life, making our show,
there could be an issue with a director, a cut. cut. I could give notes on a cut. The editor could have done what I wanted.
I got the cut back. I made four different mistakes. Uh, the cuts taking a step backwards,
not a step forwards. And then I have a notes call at seven o'clock at night. And I've had a day
where I've felt like I've been in, in, in the ring with Mike Tyson and someone says the wrong thing.
And I could absolutely tell somebody, somebody I respect, like, value. I could absolutely,
in the way that I take their note, make them feel shitty and ruin their night.
And I've really worked hard not to do that. But you know what?
I will say one thing I've learned is if I do that,
if someone gives me feedback and I think it's stupid,
let's say someone gives me feedback and it's actually a bad note.
And it's a note that I know won't help
and I know why and it's something I've thought of before
and Dave and I have gone down that road.
And if I do react by saying just a curt,
nah, that's not going to work,
which is by the way, the worst I'll be now. You know, I won't, I never would call someone. I would
never, um, actively insult somebody. But as you know, we pick up on, on con when someone's
condescending. And so let's say I'm, uh, and this is something I think few of us do, and we should
do much more frequently. Let's say I am a little
bit of a dick and I'm like, no, that's not going to work. Nope. Sorry. 10 minutes later, I'll
fucking pick up the phone and I'll call and I'll go, listen, I reacted. I know how I reacted. I
know that that probably made you feel bad. Sorry that I reacted that way. I've had a weird day
today and I'm going to take those notes and think about them. And tomorrow I'll respond.
And I am so willing to own my behavior. And that's something that I've learned too. Again,
I want to be super clear because I don't want to paint myself worse than I am. I'm really close to
the guy that I am on the podcast. And as I say, I would never insult anybody, but I've become much more aware that, again, we all have a responsibility, if we can, to protect the feelings of those that we're interacting with.
We can be truthful without being an asshole.
We can be constructive and corrective without making someone else feel worse. And so if I can find a way to not leave somebody that I've engaged with feeling worse, I'm going to do it.
Sometimes it's impossible.
David and I run a writer's room.
Sometimes we have to say no to 10 ideas in a row from the same person.
Nobody feels good hearing their 10th idea rejected, no matter how much you take the time to listen to it and make them feel better.
So sometimes in all of our interactions, we're going to, no matter what we do,
leave other people feeling a little bit worse. But where you can fix that,
it's incredibly worth it to fix it. Yeah, that's something that I've tried to work on a lot in the last handful
of years since... I've definitely thrown some Molotov cocktails unnecessarily into the mix.
I remember a few years ago, I was doing my first handful of experiments with extended fasting. And I realized after the
fact that if you're doing a long fast on day two is not when you should be sending a lot of very
nuanced emails. And as one of my employees put it at the time, he woke up and checked his inbox
and said, holy shit, you guys are throwing haymakers. That took a lot of cleanup. But the cleanup, you're not always going to be your best
self. So you do, it behooves one, at least it behooves me to become a practitioner of the art
of cleanup. I wanted to ask you about being stuck. You mentioned that you've been stuck
many times in your life. Could you tell a story of one time when you were stuck and how you got to the other side?
Absolutely, man. There are a few of them in various different ways.
And I think it's important to talk about it, not just in terms of the arts,
because momentum and inertia are these counter forces. You could probably define the terms
better than I could in terms of, you know, what they exactly mean. Also, everyone can just,
you know, Google it on your phone. But I can even look at it in terms of, uh, so, so certainly in terms of writing, like I've been stuck and, uh, spent a lot of my life stuck before I became somebody who did this stuff for a living.
But, you know, Tim, I mean, two months ago I was 250 pounds and that was, and today I'm 230. Now 230 for six feet is still too big,
but I can't tell you the difference between being 250 and 230 in terms of the ability to move around
and also the momentum of moving in the correct direction. And I was so stuck at where I was,
and it was an awful feedback loop because at 250, you can't sleep well.
So you can't sleep well. So your discipline is less. So you're feeling, you have a headache all
the time. And I felt helpless to change it, even with someone like you on my speed dial,
where I could ask you because I had to find a way to make an internal change. And I'll tell
you actually what it was. I say 250, but it really was stepping on the scale of being 249.4.
And I hadn't stepped on the scale in a while intentionally because when you're someone who
wrestles with weight, you kind of instinctively avoid the scale sometimes but i was journaling and in my journal
i remember writing about not sleeping well knowing that i probably had sleep apnea from being too fat
i'm someone who loves playing sports i'm an exercise fiend like sports in particular i
wasn't playing sports because my knees and ankles hurt too much because I was so
big. And I was like, you have to get on the scale. And I got on the scale and I saw that I was 249.4
and I just sat down on the edge of my bed. I just said, Brian, if you go over 250,
there's a real chance you're going to be one of these assholes who hits 300 pounds. And the thought of that, and even that's an artificial line, the 250, the thought of it,
Tim, was so painful to me. And the picturing myself at 300 pounds, and right around that time,
so about a year and a half ago, I lost a lifelong friend to opioid addiction, a late in
life opioid addiction. This is someone who was like a brother to me. David and I dedicated the
first episode of last season's Billions to this person. His name is Dennis Shields. And Dennis
was someone who had never had a drink. And then in his forties, went for back surgery, became addicted to opioids and
was dead by 50. And his daughter had posted right around when I got on the scale, like within a day,
his daughter had posted something about missing her dad. And I looked at the picture of, and it
was a picture of Dennis. And I looked at the picture of Dennis and I read Tyler's post,
Tyler's the daughter, who's like a niece to me, you know, and I read Tyler's post.
And then I thought about my kids.
And then I thought about the fact that I was 249.4.
And I was absolutely trapped and stuck and had been stuck.
And I just right then made the decision and called a couple of my friends and I did should start? And you said, slow carb.
I said, should I do keto or slow carb? And you said, here are the reasons I think for you,
slow carb right now. I got rid of the carbs and I started seeing a food addiction therapist. I took these steps and immediately just began to get a momentum the first couple days of not eating carbs.
Very difficult.
Also, the failure that I'd had over and over again was just on my mind.
That self-criticism, right?
You know, of, well, this isn't going to work because it's failed in the past.
So I was hearing that voice. But I then, because I journal
and because I meditate and because of this thing I started with, which is trying to expand my world,
I made a decision a bunch of years ago that a lot of the stuff we keep very private,
I don't want to keep very private anymore.
I want to be able to fail in public or succeed in public, to live as I am, to become as comfortable in my skin as I can be, meaning to try to have very little difference between the public and
private version of who I am, which meant that I could tell people in my life I was struggling
with this. They knew they could see that I should get bigger size pants, right? But by engaging in
that conversation with people and by then taking the step of saying, okay, so I called this food
addiction person who someone I know had gone to. She's a nutritionist and food addiction specialist.
And I'm not going to say her name now. She doesn't want me to until we're done with this
because it's a therapeutic practice. But she said to me, we're going to have to talk once a week.
And you're going to have to commit to once a week for a year. And because you're going to have these
ups and downs and you're going to have to, this has to be important enough to you that you make a verbal commitment to me.
And I made that commitment because I was so stuck.
I needed a force of momentum.
And that once a week check-in, I knew it was going to be momentum because one week was going to become two, was going to become four, was going to become six.
And Tim lost at least a pound a week every week.
And it's been steady and constant.
And more than that, I feel better about myself. So I now have this momentum in that area where
I was stuck for honestly a year and a half. I was stuck at just gaining weight, knowing it,
going to bed, disliking myself. Now that feeling, which you can get, I had that
feeling when I was a blocked writer. I've had that feeling at various times in my life where
I would go to bed at night knowing things I'd hoped to accomplish that day, I didn't accomplish.
And in fact, not only did I accomplish them, but I went backwards. As soon as I really started
dealing with the food, meaning tracking
every single thing, I take a picture of every single thing that I eat now. Literally, if I take
a bite of one slice of an orange, I take a picture of it and I record it and I share it with the
person that I see. And each time I do something like that, I am creating this momentum and I'm fighting inertia. I'm moving
myself forward toward the goal. And it's really hard at the beginning, but then the amazing thing
about momentum, and I'm sure you understand why this is the case scientifically in a way I don't,
but the power of momentum is so great that it stops being hard. In fact, it just starts being
the way that you live.
And that's what I found with journaling,
and that's what I found with meditation,
and that's what we find when we start exercising, and that's what I find when I start eating better.
I would love to ask you about the...
I have so many follow-up questions.
This is fertile territory.
First of all, I'm extremely sorry about your friend and the
opiate addiction uh and and uh premature death uh my i don't know if you're the worst it's the
worst yeah i don't know if you knew this brian but my uh best friend from childhood
almost identical story never did any drugs uh had a hangover from alcohol he did drink
and a friend of his who was already an opiate addict gave him a synthetic opioid well fentanyl
very powerful yes and he said this will help with your headache took a nap never woke up and uh my
that was just a few years ago and my aunt also died of percocet and
alcohol uh about a year and a half ago so uh dangerous dangerous things topic for another
time it's actually no it's worth spending one minute on it let's spend one minute on it because
so i had to i had to get a root canal two days ago or half of a root canal because you only
the emergency part which is getting the nerves out i can finish the root canal two days ago or half of a root canal because the emergency part, which is getting the
nerves out, I can finish the root canal in a month, they said. I swear to you, the worst pain
I've ever been in by a factor of any factor you want, like the kind of like writhing around on
the ground pain before I went to, so I had to go to the dentist. It was so bad, I couldn't live.
It was really that bad. But the first thing I said in the very first, so I found this dentist,
I texted with him. And the first thing I said is I don't want Vicodin and I don't want Percocet.
I need to be out of this pain without taking either of those things. And the reason is,
and I've taken those things. I'm not, uh, you know, some people have the gene for it. My gene
is for addiction to pizza and donuts. I don't the gene for it. My gene is for addiction to pizza
and donuts. I don't have gene for addiction to opioids, but I still don't want to fuck with
those things. I want to find a way to deal with this without it. I'll have a drink. I have no
issues in that area, but I think those substances are so powerful in ways we don't understand that some percentage of the population, they're just built to be addicted to them.
And those things should be prescribed unbelievably rarely, and they're still prescribed way too frequently.
After the root canal, the doctor gave me a prescription for Tylenol 3, which is Tylenol with codeine.
It's far, far less powerful than
the synthetic opioids. I took one Tylenol 3 and I threw the bottle out. There were 12 pills.
My friend Dennis, really and truly, we would go to dinner and he was like a state champ wrestler
in high school. We would go to dinner our whole lives. He would order four ginger ales. Everyone
else would be drinking. He'd have four ginger ales. And he was not a drug or alcohol guy. He
really didn't drink. And then the opioids started and there was nothing anybody could do. So, you
know, he was dead in two years. So that stuff is so powerful. And I miss the guy every fucking day
in my life. So yeah, it's never a mistake to tell people to be careful with opioids.
You should be very, very careful. You don't know also in advance what your
molecular kryptonite is going to be. So you may say, I've never been addicted to anything,
and I know a lot of people have become addicts starting with that type of overconfidence. That's also why I'm so
involved with, say, opioid dependence studies at places like Johns Hopkins and looking at
psychedelic compounds for treatment of addiction. But I want to talk about your check-ins. We've
been talking about creating positive momentum in behavioral
change. What is the nature of the weekly check-in? What is the format? What does that look like?
When I, so, well, it was until this, it was an in-person check-in. I would go,
like a therapy session, right? So, I would go to her office. So even if I was not now,
this all created an import to it, right? Because I don't, this is also very useful. I think
it is amazing how much more time you have than you think you do. Time's finite. It's our most,
this is not a cliche, right? It's our, the most valuable thing that we have. But one of the things is I committed that I was going to go in person to see this therapist
once a week. So that might mean being at a rehearsal on set in Brooklyn, getting in the car,
you know, being driven to the city, going to the therapist in Manhattan, spending 45 minutes talking about, I'll tell you
what we're talking about, talking about the food that I ate that week, what I was feeling like
around eating the food, what, in the beginning, you know, what it felt like not to eat the things
that I was dependent on, right? For me, not eating sugar and flour, because that's her insight is that sugar and
flour are, for people who are food addicts in a certain way, that sugar and flour are these real
triggers. So eliminating sugar and flour completely from my diet, that's a huge change. And so figuring out how that felt.
So that's part of the check-in is, all right, were you angry this week? Did you feel deprived?
When did you feel deprived? Did you want to eat something wrong? And then also, Tim, getting the volume of food also under control.
Because as you know, one starts with the idea, like I loved in the slow carb thing,
your initial one pager. And then once someone buys into that, it's like, well, okay, but now
let me just give you a few more ways that we ought to be thinking about this. So it's the
same kind of thing. It's like, no, but that's really important, right? Because
what you're doing is you're getting, it's all about momentum, Tim. It's like, okay, you do
these five things. You're going to actually improve. This is going to be better. Now, if
you're, if I've now gotten you engaged, let me tell you how to really amp this up. And so she
did the same thing, right? It was,
let's eliminate flour and sugar. And then we did three weeks of that and it was great.
And then she said, well, now we have to talk about volume. And I was like, well, you're changing the rules on me. What do you mean volume? And she said, well, I mean, you know,
right? She's like, well, you know. You hit a gallon tub of almonds yesterday. Let the process of that conversation and of changing a core belief,
right? A core belief I had, all right, we'll get granular because everyone cares about this food
thing. And I'll expose myself because that's part of the thing. So I immediately was like, okay,
if I'm not having flour or sugar, so no ketchup, by the way, eliminating ketchup is a huge thing. And I, I highly advise people
to eliminate ketchup if they want to lose weight, uh, because it, I, I, you know, uh,
you will just eat less, but, uh, I would get turkey burger for lunch. Right. So I said,
well, if I'm not getting a turkey burger, let's say I'm going to get two turkey patties.
And I really couldn't with a salad, like a big salad and two turkey patties. And I really,
I swear to you, Tim,
I couldn't believe that I could just eat one turkey patty. I was like, that seems ridiculous,
like one turkey patty for lunch. And she said, okay, well, what if you try it tomorrow?
And just see if this belief, if you're certain that you're going to be so hungry,
order two turkey burgers, save one for later the next day, put it in the fridge, have
one and see how you are an hour later. And I'll tell you, I had certain core beliefs about the
amount of food I had to eat. And of course, it turned out not to be true. Now-
Turkey burger dogma.
And I'm loathe to even talk about this because I know like an alcoholic, I could backslide at any moment.
I will say that I've been in this quarantine now for three weeks and I've been eating perfectly.
And I'm so glad that I started this 10 weeks ago because I know if I hadn't, the momentum the other way would be I would be pounding like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches,
and I would be eating, figuring out ways to get pizza, and I would be obsessed with food during
this. And instead, I've been able to just be completely responsible about it, which means
my mindset is able to be calm, which means I'm able to go to bed at night feeling like I don't have to hate
myself. And going to bed at night feeling like you don't have to hate yourself is the greatest gift
you can give to yourself. And so the ways to do that are like contributing, like you know them,
we've talked about them before, but they're all valid, right? It's like finding a way to do for
others, being responsible for your own behavior so that you're not a dick to other people, and not letting yourself down on your core values.
And so this is, for me, is a huge area that I'm able to handle in that way.
And I'm really grateful that I found this person who's been helping me and that I'm
in my journaling and meditation, I wasn't able to hide from myself to get full circle.
The reason I do the morning pages originally was to become a creative person, meaning to work, to be able to live professional life from my most creative place because I felt that was the way I was going to feel right.
But now these things serve as ways to keep myself honest. There's no way you can meditate for
20 minutes twice a day and journal in the morning and not check in with yourself. So I had enough
days of being mad enough that I made myself get on the scale that I saw that I was 0.6 pounds
away from being 250. And in that instant, it was like, I had to take action.
You mentioned, I think it was maybe a few years ago, that you decided to close the gap if there
was one between your public life and your private life to share more of the things that we tend to feel we cannot share.
What led to that? What catalyzed that? How did that come to be?
I think it has to do with, well, one, it has to do with the podcast and then being on so many podcasts, right? It has to do with wanting to connect as deeply as I can when I'm connecting
with people. And I would prefer that if someone knows me, they know who I really am. Now, there
are certain things, it's harder and harder. Like, there's a fine line between putting on Instagram the nice car you might be driving.
That's not what I'm talking about, right?
I'm not talking about, like, putting in which I grapple with my own insecurity or my
own fear or my own anxiety or my own imposter complex, should that surface, that if I can
grapple with that publicly, it's a service to other people. You know, I often think about
Francis Ford Coppola making The Godfather.
And I think about that because I think The Godfather 2 is the greatest movie ever made.
I think The Godfather is the most important, probably, in American cinema. And I think about
the fact that he was wracked with doubt throughout. When we watch The Godfather, we see a masterpiece. But what we don't see is
all the days that Coppola thought it was going to be a failure, that he was a failure, that the
dialogue that was written the day before didn't work. All that stuff that's not there makes The
Godfather seem not only like a masterpiece but makes it seem as though
it showed up fully formed and a large part of my life is about disambiguating that stuff is about
looking at that stuff and saying well how did that come to be And I think so part of that is if we could have followed Coppola when he was making it, if Coppola was on Twitter then, because people have a lot of different thoughts about Twitter.
But to me, Twitter is the most amazing creation. It's the icing on the cake of the Internet because it allows us to get right inside of all these different processes.
We can reverse engineer by looking at somebody who accomplished something.
We can track what the process was that got them there.
And so I want to be able to say to people, you're watching Billions now.
And if it's your favorite show, damn, that makes me so happy.
But if you go through my Twitter feed, you will be able to see how hard it was to get to a place where we were able to make that show. And I'm really happy about that, that that's there
for people, that they can see when I felt lost, that they can see when I felt like it might go
a different way, or when I felt like a failure before that, the movie Runner Runner, which was a terrible disaster, when that movie bombed how I felt, they can look at the vines that I did, where I was
making these six second vines, you know, 60 million loops on those things, Tim. And because I was
talking to people about the creative process and giving themselves permission, and I was really
talking to myself about that. And I found through doing that, a few things happened. One, I started getting
letters from people about how in seeing what I was going through, it allowed them to go through
something similar without beating themselves up. And look, you're more than anybody. You understand how seeing that stuff drives you forward to do more
of it. And so I feel like the more I'm just who I am, also, dude, faking it's hard and sucky.
And the more you can just be like, hey, this is who I am. I mean, that's why I do this thing in
the morning. I know you're going to ask me better know um I do this thing in the in the morning I
know you're gonna ask me better but I do this thing in the morning over this where I named the
first cup of coffee of the day the royale because it's so I feel like the first coffee of the day
is such a special thing that it deserves a special name and so and and over this we're talking about
quarantine yes or self-isolation yes so so I had named it the Royale a long time ago.
And then a friend of mine-
That was just for yourself?
You named it the Royale?
I named it the Royale for myself.
Then I would talk about it on the podcast, you know, online.
And other people really liked it and started talking to me about it.
And then a friend of mine named Tom Kretschmar is a great guy.
He said, you know, you should, I bet you people, he was having coffee and he sent me a
picture and he said, this is me with my Royale. And he said, I bet you people would want to share
their pictures of them drinking their first coffee of the day. And I was like, so I quote tweeted
Tom and I said, and I posted my own picture of me having the Royale in the morning. I said something about us all being isolated and this is a way to connect.
Let's have our first coffee of the day together.
Hundreds of people started posting their responses to me.
They would either message me pictures, send them on Instagram, or post them on Twitter.
I started retweeting them.
Suddenly, all these people started telling me. And I'll say
the first, this is one of those examples. The first couple of days of it, I got super self-conscious.
I lost probably 300 followers because I was just tweeting picture after picture of somebody
drinking their coffee. And so I did. I flaked off like hundreds of followers. It doesn't matter.
I did it. But I noticed it. honestly, you know, you notice if you
lose 500 followers or 300 followers, like you're like, Oh, what the fuck? Maybe I shouldn't do,
you know? Cause you're like, well, that's, but then I just thought, no, I want to do this.
And these people who are sending me these pictures, cause they started to, so then
like two, three days later, I started getting all these tweets from people saying,
Hey, I haven't posted my picture, but I want you to know I go to bed at night thinking about the pictures I'm going to see in the morning.
And it makes me feel less alone. Like, holy shit, if doing something stupid and simple can actually make somebody alone in Kansas City feel even 2% better for one hour, what a fucking powerful thing that is.
That is honestly what fires me up.
Then, dude, so many people started telling me that and sending me emails.
So I just decided if I lose 10,000 followers but the 100,000 people who are there are getting something out of it, I'm doing it.
And then someone else said, hey, you should make a mug.
Someone actually designed it.
So this is one of those things.
I had nothing to do with it.
Someone on Twitter said there should be a mug with your face on it that says the Royale, that we can have our coffee and then give it to your favorite charity.
And I tweeted like, well, that sounds fun.
And then some other dude goes, how's this design?
And he just designed it and sent it to me.
And so then I made the mugs.
And you can get a mug at theroyalebk.com, just th-B-K.com. And all proceeds go to my favorite charity, which is the Food Bank of New York,
which is the food bank that feeds every food pantry in the city. And for a long time, what I
would do is when I would go to dinner in New York, because going out to dinner is expensive,
I would try, whenever I could, I would try to kind of give the same amount to the food bank.
And it's a great charity. I love them.
I've spent time with them.
I know that they're the real deal.
And so now all these people have ordered these mugs.
And it's become – so that's one of those things where I named it the Royale because to me it was special.
I talked about it.
Someone else responded.
And then through this openness, as you've experienced many times with your stuff, but through this openness, suddenly I had nothing to do with it. My community of people came up with the idea to share the mugs,
to share our pictures, came up with the idea that I should have a mug, and then came up with the
design of the mug. And that's, for me, the reward of this idea of trying to live without being self-conscious, just trying to live as close to
who you are in public. It also allows you to create real relationships with people online.
Again, thinking about between 2010 and 2020, the things that have changed the most and this idea
of trying to expand my world, by talking about my enthusiasms by
talking about what i care about i people from those worlds have reached out to me so that
when i was a kid man i was such a big nba fan that it was like you know the most important thing to
me and now i have many friends who are running NBA teams or on NBA teams.
And that all happened just from doing the work that I do, being on Twitter, talking about it, connecting in a real way with people.
And I think one tangible thing, and this is going to sound crazy, and this is true, is everyone makes fun of, or not everyone,
that's not true. It's kind of hip in some communities to make fun of people on Twitter
who have blue check marks. But I do think if in your area of the world, if within whatever you do,
you can find a way to make a goal for yourself to be somebody that Twitter verifies,
it's one of the biggest value ads that you can
have in the world. It may not be fair, but we have to accept that it's real. So I'm willing to say
it's not fair, but it is a gigantic advantage. It enables you to surf Twitter in the way that
the best board and lessons from the best surfer would give you, because it
immediately allows people of note to notice you. And so, even though that's a weird kind of goal
to have, I actually think it's worth having it as a goal.
Let's talk about, so I want to mention a few things. One, behind the scenes, and that is a story from my own experience with
you and in observing you, and that is you have, maybe we call it facilitated serendipity,
right? So, you have these moments of serendipity where someone designs a mug for the Royale,
and I really encourage people to see this hilarious mug,
the RoyaleBK.com. Check it out. That's for Brian Kalbman, not Burger King, by the way.
And so people should just check that out. But that was facilitated by you. Does that make sense?
Like there was a lot of serendipity, but the, and I can't remember who first used this phrase, but the surface area upon which luck could stick was increased by certain actions you took.
Similarly, with Billions and possibly other projects that you've worked on, you've been
very proactive about reaching out to people you might want to get to know. And even before that, thinking about how you might, say, integrate them, like Jocko Willink, for instance, Deontay Wilder. And you're very proactive in using your craft as a vehicle for expanding your circle of friends and your circle of influences, right? So people who
can. A hundred percent, a hundred percent. And let me say, so I'm so glad you brought this up.
So Jocko, right? So this is, this is a great sort of example of this. You write your first book
because we didn't talk about this on any of the podcasts. So you wrote your first book and you were writing your second book. And I read the first book and I loved it. I just thought
it was just so smartly written and that your worldview was so fascinating. And I remember,
I wasn't in a particularly hot time in my career. I mean, we could both figure out what year it was.
It was a long time ago now. Well, when did you write the second book?
When did you write the second book? Second book I would have been writing in 2008, probably last part of 2008, 2009,
was published in 2010. So the first book was 4-Hour Workweek. That came out in 2007.
And then 4-Hour Body came out in 2010.
So this is before Body came out. So I wrote you a letter to somehow, and I knew, you know, in the book,
you made it clear it was hard to reach you. And I, and, and this is something that I always,
always have done. So I was like, you know, this guy, I think maybe there's a movie or a TV show
in his life, but more than that, I thought I want to meet this guy. And I think that we would have
kinship of some sort. And so I wrote you a letter and I
don't remember what it said. I could probably find it, but I wrote you a note and I, and I said,
Hey, I'd love to talk. Or I wrote it to your assistant and the thing you get, you know,
you had a virtual assistant or whatever. I wrote to wherever that was. And I didn't just write a
note. Cause I get, as you do every day, can I take you to coffee? I did not write it. Can I
take you to coffee note? Because can I take you to coffee note is useless. Um, uh, I wrote you a note that was sort of like, here's who I am.
Here's what I do. Here's what I got out of what you did. I think maybe there's something in this
in movies. And if it's not that story, there's something. And we set up a call and we got on
the phone and then you came through New York, uh, right as you finished the book and, um,
the second book. And we went and had lunch together with
Dave. And so then you and I had a correspondence and like friendship that began then before you
had a podcast, before I had a podcast, we'd connected. I wrote you, I wrote a note that was,
I thought about the note that I wrote, right? That's another thing. I didn't just write you,
hey, let's have coffee. I thought about, well, I read this guy's book. I think we'd have a kinship. I'm going to
write a note that might express that so that when he reads the note, he too might think there's some
value in this. Not in a transactional way, strictly, just like, oh, this might be an interesting
person to meet. So then we met. Then years later, when we had this
idea to have Jocko on the show, it wasn't that you and I just had that one meeting. We then stayed
in touch, checked in with each other, hung out in different places, became friends. When I was
interested in having Jocko on the show, I called you or wrote you and I was like, hey, dude, I want
to invite Jocko on the
show. Will you connect us? You connected us to Jocko. You connected me to Jocko. Then I got to
know Jocko a little bit. Jocko comes on the show and this was huge. So this is the precursor and
I want to point this out about momentum. Right around that time, I had also, through Twitter,
met someone who invited me to, I don't want to give away the event,
an event that involved athletic endeavor. And it was three months away, and I was worried that I
was in such bad shape. And I sat there on the set talking to Jocko, because Jocko was there, right?
Jocko, one of the foremost authorities on a certain kind of physical fitness. And I explained
to Jocko what I was going to have to do. And Jocko said, you should start doing these exercises and you should do this kind of cardio.
And so even though I was 250 and horrible from that day, Tim, I've done exercise four to five
days a week and haven't stopped from the day I sat with you and Jocko on stood with you and Jocko
on set outside that boxing ring. Like I started doing those exercises because I'd picked Jocko Willink's brain and I
decided if I'm going to bother Jocko to tell me these things, I'm going to do them. And that's
another part of what you're talking about, the serendipity. So it wasn't serendipity,
but I definitely put that stuff in motion, but I didn't put it in motion so that Jocko Willink would give me an exercise plan. You know what I mean? The long con. Yeah, for sure.
Right. But when I was standing there with Jocko Willink, I was then going to say to him,
hey, dude, look, I know I'm a fat fuck and I'm never going to do your thing. I'm never going
to be you, but I have to go do this thing in three months. What would you suggest? And he
looked at me and similarly to what I said to you,'s like all right you really want me to tell you and i yeah yeah i
remember that very i remember that conversation very very clearly yeah yeah yeah right yeah he
did say effectively the same thing that you said to me uh in reviewing the blog which is you're
gonna do he's like do you really want feedback? You're going to do that? Yeah. Yeah. If you really want me to tell you what to do,
I'll fucking tell you. But, and, and I will say, I then have checked in with him at various times.
He then, so he doesn't follow me on Twitter, but he checks in because once in a while,
somebody, cause he was on my podcast and once in a while he'll, he'll tweet something about me
keeping it going. And so like a month ago or two months ago, I was home and I really didn't want to go
work out.
And I was like whining.
I said, OK, this is what I mean about living who I really am.
I just really wasn't in the mood.
And I just put on Twitter like, oh, I've had a shit day.
I'm tired as fuck.
I don't want to go exercise.
And somebody in Twitter at mentioned Jocko and they were like,
Jocko Willink, take a look at this. And then like, I knew, so I saw that somebody did that.
And I like immediately just put on my sweats and went out. And then a day later, Jocko wrote,
I'm watching, you know, with eyes on it. And then I got to write back, I did it.
I went to do the exercise.
And then Jocko texted me or something like, good man.
Well, that's all silly, of course, and unnecessary on one level.
But on another level, the fact that I'm just like willing to be,
expose myself as being too lazy to go to the gym, but also, as you're saying,
that I took a whole bunch of actions ahead of that, right? So that in some weird way,
Jocko Willink, the toughest, most fit, most uncompromising motherfucker in the world,
is sort of loosely paying attention to whether I'm getting my reps in is the perfect combination of what
you're talking about. Setting a thing in motion and then letting serendipity do its part, right?
Is that a good example?
It is. And that's also why I asked about the check-in format with your, I suppose,
food addiction therapist, because accountability works. You don't have to rely purely on some internally generated
willpower, which will have moments of frailty. It's helpful to develop that. Discipline equals
freedom, as Jocko would say. But that discipline can also be reinforced and cultivated through
accountability.
And I very, and you know this, Brian, I very rarely would say what I'm about to say, but
for those people who are interested, I mean, the 4-Hour Body does cover how to engineer
that kind of accountability.
And I'm sure a bunch of it is available for free on the blog as well, Tim.blog.
But the accountability, the power of it is really hard to overstate. Now, you mentioned
the food bank earlier, and that is a perfect segue to talk about process. But before we get
to your process with the monologue, because I want to talk about the monologue, before we get there,
do you have any favorite books or websites or documentaries that come to mind for you as showcasing the messiness
of process. For instance, to buy some time, I remember seeing this documentary about Spielberg.
I think it might have just been called Spielberg, actually. And they talked about, A, how he effectively, seemingly had a
nervous breakdown slash heart attack or had those multiple times in the making of, oh, no, that
might have been Lucas. That was Lucas. Lucas was killing himself and hospitalized during Star Wars.
And then Spielberg, during Jaws, created the iconic buoys slash barrels on top of the water imagery for the shark
because the goddamn animatronic shark they were going to use broke.
That's how.
Right.
Oh, of course.
No, I know.
So do you have any favorite movies or documentaries or anything?
There are three.
There are three.
The documentary about Apocalypse Now that Prince Ford Coppola's wife made is amazing.
You should find it and watch it because Apocalypse Now, which is clearly more and more of a masterpiece every year and sort of incredible because it's still an unfinished work.
Like Coppola released, I think, the best version of it last year.
Five years ago, he released another version of it,
but the one from last year is really incredible
and purports to be the final version.
But that movie was impossible to get made,
and it is truly an artistic masterpiece
and worth watching, the documentary and the movie together.
I would say that Steven Soderbergh's
book about the making of sex, lies, and videotape is spectacular for anyone interested in any of
these things. He takes you through from its inception as an idea, starting with other ideas
that he had through the inception.
I'm not sure it's an easy book to find, but it is worth it.
That's a book that's worth overpaying for.
And he takes you through every day of production, post-production, Sundance, selling the film, and then the script for the film is in there. You could only read that book and you would be in great shape. The two more things. One is a book I read about once a year
called Making Movies by Sidney Lumet,
which brings you through each part of the process
from a true master,
one of the greats who ever did it.
And then I've mentioned this book before,
but I try to mention it every chance I get.
And that book is what I talk about
when I talk about running by Haruki Murakami, who is my favorite living writer of fiction. But that book is not fiction.
It is a book about running, but it is really a book about the discipline it takes to become great.
And it's all about process. It's about the process of figuring out what the most useful breakfast
you should have is if you want to write 10 pages and run 40 miles in a day. And it is a stunning,
a stunning short book that is incredibly easy to read. And it is the most empowering book I know of about trying to live as an artist.
Incredible. All right. Taking a lot of notes here for myself. My goal is always to-
Wait, have you not read what I talk about when I talk about Rondon?
I have not. I've read, I think, Hard Boiled and Wonderland, or I've read one of his-
Oh, yeah. Hard Boiled is a great book. That's fiction and it's great.
His fiction's amazing.
Tim, you'll freak out.
There's so much of you in that book.
You'll freak out.
You got to read it.
You'll freak out from it.
Like you'll blog about it.
It's so amazing what this guy did to turn himself into,
because he was very late in life when he became a writer.
It's really, really worth reading.
I'm in.
What I talk about when I talk about running.
I'm into it. I'm into it. I'm reading a really incredible novel right now,
which is going to take me a little bit of time to get through. It's Little Big. I don't know
if you've ever seen this novel. It's Little, Big. And I'm blanking on the author's name.
Yeah, I haven't read it. I have the book, but I haven't read the book.
It is one of those fiction books. It is one of those novels that is so complex,
and the prose is so painstakingly beautiful and subtle and, quite frankly, difficult at points
that you have to finish this book you cannot put this book down
for a month and just pick it back up in part because there's a very complicated family tree
to keep track of but once i fit once i finish that then i will i'll check out some more i've
just had that experience i've just had that experience reading exhalation by uh so good
chiang oh my god yeah bad i i mean the long novella in the middle of it is just one
of the greatest of feats of imagination isn't it just yeah incredible yeah if yeah if anyone is
looking for they vary tremendously in length but if anyone is looking, an incredible collection of short stories that, and we're talking about fiction here,
somewhere between or a blend of science fiction and fantasy. Ted Chiang, C-H-I-A-N-G,
Exhalation is his latest collection, is just incredible. And for those of you who may have seen Arrival, the movie,
which is one of my favorite movies the last many years, in part because the hero is a linguist who
studies this very, this sort of orthography-based alien language that ends up relating to the
nature of time itself. That was based on one of his short stories in his previous collection.
So that is a top recommendation.
So let's talk about a personal example of process.
And tell us about the monologue,
which is fucking amazing.
I just watched it this morning
because it just came out.
I mean, it was just put up.
But could you just walk us through
the origins
and the process? Yeah, I'd love to because it's sort of a perfect encapsulation of all this stuff
and also something that would have been impossible 10 years ago. In 2010, the whole confluence of
events would have been impossible. And also, it wasn't the way like, like, um, the business even worked where people
were willing to sort of do this, right? I mean, Vincent is doing, so what we're talking about,
sorry, let me set the table here, is that Vincent D'Onofrio, one of the world's great actors. I
mean, that's literally one of the greatest actors of our lifetime. Um, Vincent D'Onofrio, during the coronavirus quarantine isolation time, has started posting
monologues of himself reading some Shakespeare and some old classic plays, just little two and
a half minute bursts. And he's just doing it to give people something to amuse themselves, to feel connection, and
probably to do his work. This is the work that he was born to do, and he loves doing it.
But the other day, and this was right when I was having this terrible tooth pain, which it matters
because when you're doing the work that really matters to you, everything recedes, including pain.
So Vincent and I are not close friends or anything like that.
We know each other professionally.
We've always liked each other.
We've always wanted to work together, but have never quite been able to have it come together.
And he messaged me and he said, hey, I want to do something for the food bank.
What I want to do is I'm going to ask three writers to write me a short monologue. I'm going to perform the monologue and encourage people to
give to the food bank. I'm going to put the monologue up on Twitter. And the thing we haven't
talked about, Tim, and part of the thing we talked it on the first podcast, so people should go back to it, is I really was a blocked writer for a very long time.
And most of my life until I was 30 was filled with the disappointment of not being able to complete a creative assignment, not believing I really had it in me to pull something like that off. And so Vincent was like, I would love to have this monologue from you like in a day,
if I could, if you're up for it.
So I instantly wrote him back and said, yes, I'll do it.
And I will tell you that I had no panic.
I had no panic because of everything we're talking about, this idea of
process, this idea of being willing to live as openly as I can. Because suddenly a word popped
into my head, because you asked about process. So a word popped into my head. The word was
reputation. The word popped into my head because I was thinking about Vincent. I was
thinking about the way an actor can have a reputation as being a perfectionist or as being
difficult. I was thinking about all of our reputations online because I knew I was writing
this for Twitter. I knew what I was writing this for. It had to be a contained two and a half
minutes that if you knew nothing going in
would be compelling i knew vincent would crush it i had to do something that would turn vincent on
artistically and uh that would have some kind of throw power weight to it that would make you want to keep watching. And I thought, well, even though, and I thought,
Vincent doesn't really address this stuff in life. And by the way, I didn't talk to him about any of
this, right? We had no conversation. I didn't say, I'm going to write about reputation.
So the word popped into my head. Suddenly I had three lines. I was in a car, so I got to the house
that I'm in. I was just getting gas in the car so I got to the house that I'm in. I was just getting
gas in the car. I got to the house. I immediately opened my laptop and I said to myself,
just do it. Just write this thing. Go with it. And Tim, I just blasted out. At first I thought,
do I say Vincent? Or this is the way a writer thinks about this kind of thing,
because I'm writing for an actor now, right? So I realized it would be different if I wrote under the name of
who spoke, Vincent or a man. And so I decided to write a man. So Vincent could make the choice
about how close to him this was or not. And then I wrote this piece. And I wrote this piece, it was like a page and a
half. And I finished it. I worked on it, let's say for an hour and a half straight. And for an hour
and a half, I was just in it. The world, when I'm in that kind of a state process-wise, the world
disappears. Nothing else exists. I'm just in this place that's in between, that's like hyper-present, but also kind of
floating in the air and you're kind of tethered to the page. So I wrote this page and a half.
I reread it. I walked around. It took like a mile and a half or two mile walk. I came back.
I looked at it again. I made a couple of changes of words then I sent it to my creative partner
David Levine
and I said hey D
Vincent asked me to do this thing
I wrote it
everything is written by the two of us
take a look at it if you think you can make it better
and I said and even if you don't make it better
if you don't feel like you have any ideas for it
or you think it's okay
I'll just put both our names on it
because everything is from the two of us he wrote back and he he said, no, you nailed this, dude. Don't put my name on it.
There's no reason. You wrote it. Do it. I could do a long podcast about successful partnerships,
but that whole thing of me sharing it with him first before anyone in the world saw it,
him appreciating it, writing me back about it,
telling me not to put his name on it, even though it would have been my pleasure to do it,
him wanting to give me that for myself. All that stuff was really beautiful, incredibly generous
of Dave. Because he could have totally just rewritten it, added six lines. It would have
been written by the two of us, but he was like, no, no, no, come on, you did this thing. I'm not going to take partial credit for it.
So I sent it back to Vincent.
He immediately wrote me back and said how pleased he was with it.
And, and, but then he said, hey, but I think this won't fit in the two.
And we only have 220 because I don't want to put it on YouTube.
I want it on Twitter and I'm limited by 220.
Can you cut it?
If you can't, do you want me
to try to figure out how to cut it? So this is one of those notes things, right? I really liked what
I'd written. I really thought it could work. Now he's saying, will you cut it? I immediately said,
of course I can cut it because you can always make cuts. You can always cut to make something
better. So then I started cutting it, but I'll tell you what else I did. I wrote two additional monologues that night. So I cut down the monologue, sent it back to Vincent,
and then I thought, you know, I want to give this guy real choice. So then I wrote two more
monologues. I spent four hours knowing that in all likelihood they would be for nothing, right?
They're not going to be for billions because they're very specific things for Vincent D'Onofrio. But as a professional, I wanted to give – once I decided I was in this with Vincent, I wanted to give him the option to like, hey, man, I don't want you – so I wrote him two more monologues.
But by the time – and I sent them.
By the time I had sent them, he had recorded the version of the real thing that he was going to post.
He sent it to me he's
like i'm really happy with this do you like it i loved it and and i said i can't wait for you to
post it this seems great so it was an amazing process but i it was an i it was here's the thing
there's nothing professional about it on one level vincent's not getting paid i'm not getting paid
you you have i'm someone who's under contract to show time i make shows for show time or cbs only vincent's um on his show on uh
stars or on epics i think is the godfather of harlem vincent's in his movies years ago
there's no way that this could have come together but because because we're both on social media, we're both
put ourselves out there, we were able to do this thing. And now we put the thing into the world
and got to have a day of watching Vincent D'Onofrio, an actor I've wanted to work with for over 20 years.
I got to see him do this monologue that I wrote for him.
I got to see people show me their receipts of money they gave to the food bank.
It was an amazing thing that Vincent also thought of the food bank, which is my charity.
He didn't do that.
On his own, that's his charity that he loves too.
And so it was this great, I guess this is exactly what you're talking,
somehow this fits into what you're talking about, where it was serendipitous, but also
all the groundwork had been laid, right? Yeah, absolutely. And for people who want to see it,
they can see it if they go to Vincent's Twitter account. So that would be at Vincent D'Onofrio, which if you want
a mnemonic is like do no frio, right? Vincent D'Onofrio. And if you don't recognize that name,
you will recognize his face and voice. Certainly, early, early on, although he probably had many,
many, many years prior to this, people may have seen him in, for instance,
Full Metal Jacket as Private Pyle,
who had quite a memorable role in that film,
and so much more.
He's just spectacular.
I was really, really impressed with the monologue
and wanted to ask you about the process.
And I also want to ask you, when you put together your first draft,
did you do that by hand, on computer?
If computer, what kind of app?
And then when you made the changes you made, you said it changed a few words.
Yeah, go ahead.
And then when you made your changes,
do you remember what any of those changes were?
Might be too micro, but I'm curious. So final draft is how you drafted it.
Yes. Final draft. I go to final. Yes, I opened final draft. And in fact, someone yesterday asked me if I would post it. I want to let it live this way for a week or so, meaning let Vincent's interpretation of it be the thing that's out there in the world.
But then next week I'll probably put up on my blog the script itself so you can see what it looks like when someone writes a monologue for an actor.
I think that might be useful to people, so I'm going to put that up. But yes, Tim, it was, it was, when I went back to it,
I think there were just some phrases that I felt were lazier. Like often what will happen is I'll
find I use, it is a particular quirk. I don't like, if the same word is used a few times in
a piece, I want it to be used really for a purpose. I don't like how it sounds if a word is repeated without there being a real clear
reason for it to be repeated. So often I'll go through and just try to spot where I've sort of
fallen into cliche or repeated myself. And so I probably went through and cut some of that stuff.
And then often when I go through something a second time, I'll be able to find where the
breaks in it are, where the natural moments.
So like in it when Vincent kind of interrupts himself, it's written that way.
You'll see when I do it, when I post it.
And then I probably added a line of description just to give the actor something to think about in that space.
And that's just from years and years and years of writing for actors now.
I've been writing for actors for 25 years. So part of that is that the first blow at it is the artistic inspiration. And then
each draft after is the sort of craft. We've covered a lot of ground, my friend.
This is fantastic. Good. Yeah, I'm having fun. I have tons and tons of notes. I'm going to have
to pick up Murakami also. I have to say one thing lastly, which is I know you don't like praise, but if you cut this out
of the podcast, I'll be mad at you, which is you, I'm just going to say it quickly. I just want
people to know that you are who you say you are, that the person you are on the podcast,
even if you don't quite live as publicly as I do, I will say you called me when I was wrestling with the COVID question.
I was in New York City and I was trying to decide what to do.
Because I was very early on it.
I posted a list January 31st of all the smart scientists on Twitter.
I told people this was going to be a problem.
But I had an emotional problem with leaving New York because I was making the show there.
I love New York City.
There were all sorts of ways I was trying to
bargain with myself. And you called me twice and you were like, Brian, you go, you basically called
and you were like, here's what I'm seeing. Here's the problems. I thought you were calling me to
calm me down and you were calling me to do the opposite. And I said, well, dude, make sure when
you really feel it's the, like the time I got to get out, you tell me and you go, this is that,
this is the call. I'm making the call to you. I was like, definitely tell me when it's bad. And you
go, it's bad. It was great. But that I will say, and then you posted it. This is the thing. You
didn't hoard that or keep it to yourself. You posted it that night. Um, or the next morning
was when you released your, your post to people about, um, the seatbelt. And so you are in real life who you purport to be
in this stuff. You're on top of things, you're taking the actions that you want people to take,
and you were a good friend to me, and I really appreciate it. Sorry, I've said the nice thing,
now we can move on. We can be done. Thank you, Brian. I really appreciate that. What a journey. And we find ourselves in exciting times, and it's going to be...
I know, I know. The old Yiddish curse, right? That's an old Yiddish curse. May you live in interesting times, is an old Yiddish curse.
It is.
Yeah, I believe it. I believe it. Tim, thank you so much for this.
I love talking to you, and somehow talking on a podcast, you do get to get to very deep and real and directed stuff.
So this was very valuable to me.
I did have to go see the dentist three days ago, so my quarantine was broken.
So I may reach out to you to help fix me up if I somehow caught it.
I will do my best to not lie to you.
Thank you.
Yes, I will not improvise.
So I will fully explain the limits, sort of parameters past which I'm deep in the ignorance pool. But happy to help anytime.
You can reach out to, here's the thing, if I really am in that state,
I will ask you to reach out to Peter Attia for me, and you will do it.
I will. I am happy to help my friends.
All right. Thanks, dude.
All right, Brian. Awesome to hear your voice. People can find you at Brian Koppelman on Twitter, The Moment Podcast.
Anything else you'd like to mention?
Of course, theroyalbk.com.
I want to see people drinking their coffee in the morning.
Let's have coffee together.
The Royale and go to theroyalbk.com.
The money goes straight to the food bank.
Awesome.
And for everybody listening,
you can find links to everything we've talked about,
the docs, the books, the this, the that,
and the other thing in the show notes,
as per usual, at tim.blog forward slash podcast.
And thank you for tuning in.
Thank you, Brian.
Bye, Tim.
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