The Tim Ferriss Show - #513: Sebastian Junger — Seeking Freedom, Near-Death Experiences, and Reordering Your Place in the World
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Hello boys and girls, ladies and germs. This is Tim Ferriss. Welcome to another episode of
The Tim Ferriss Show. I'm very excited about this episode. I'm going to keep my preamble short. My
guest today is a repeat guest, one of my favorite guests, Sebastian Junger on Twitter,
at Sebastian Junger, that's J-U-N-G-E-R. He is the New York Times bestselling author of Tribe,
War, A Death in Belmont, Fire, and The Perfect Storm, as well as co-director of the documentary
film Restrepo, which was nominated for an Academy Award. He is also the winner of a Peabody Award
and the National Magazine Award for Reporting. He's based in New York City in Cape Cod. His
newest book is titled Freedom. I would give a few fingers to be as concise, as dense, as powerful as he is as
a writer. It clocks in at minus the source matter at the back, 133 pages. So it is a fast read and
a powerful read. For more Sebastian, you can find our first conversation from 2016, feels like a
thousand years ago, at tim.blog forward slash Sebastian. You can find him online,
SebastianJunger.com, at Sebastian Junger on Twitter, Facebook also, Sebastian Junger,
and then Instagram at Sebastian Junger Official. Sebastian, welcome back to the show.
Thank you, Tim. It's a pleasure to be back.
A lot has happened since you were last on this show. And I cheated as I did last time by having a number of exchanges with our mutual friend, Josh Waitzkin, who is responsible for us first meeting. I really have very little context on, but it is about a near-death experience that you
had not too long ago.
And we kept this for this conversation, meaning I didn't ask you to get into any of the details
before we clicked record, but could you please share your experience?
Yeah, of course.
It was a profound event and I'm still,
I'm changed by it and still navigating the new reality that includes quite an awareness of
being mortal. I never really understood it before I realized. I spent a lot of my life as a war
reporter and I've been in situations that could have killed me, but I never expected that to
happen at home. I always went somewhere else for my danger,
if you will. And I was in the middle of writing my book, Freedom. I'm an athlete. I'm very healthy.
It never crossed my mind I would ever be in danger on a June afternoon in my own home.
And I suddenly felt this bizarre pain in my abdomen. My abdomen was suddenly flooded with
pain, not unbearable pain, but way more than
indigestion. And I thought, oh my God, that's odd. What is that? And I stood up and I almost fell
over. I didn't know it, but my blood pressure was plummeting. I had an undiagnosed aneurysm
in my pancreatic artery, pretty rare. It was a congenital defect in one ligament that was
pressing down on my celiac artery and it created a blockage. It was an congenital defect in one ligament that was pressing down on my celiac
artery and it created a blockage. It was an aneurysm that's developed over decades apparently.
And just one beautiful June afternoon on Cape Cod, the artery ruptured and I started bleeding out
into my own abdomen. Took them an hour and a half to get me to the hospital.
I started to go blind.
A lot of other unpleasant things happened to my body.
I didn't know I was dying, but by the time they got me to the hospital, I'd lost 90% of my blood.
I was still conscious.
I was very confused.
The doctor asked if he could cut my neck open to put a line into one of the big arteries
in your neck.
I don't know exactly which one, but if they need to give you a lot of blood fast, they can't do it through your
arm. And I remember being puzzled and I said, you mean in case there's an emergency? And he said,
this is the emergency right now. So yeah, I said, I said, yeah, do it. And then that was when I
really started dying. Like right after I gave the okay, my body started to fail. I could feel it.
I survived. it. I
survived. But when I woke up in the ICU the next morning, I mean, all the nurses were like,
no one can believe you're alive. You shouldn't, like, that was a miracle. And it, particularly
because I'm a dad now, a new father, that experience completely changed my experience
of almost everything. What was it like in the days following that for you? And that could be
physically, emotionally, psychologically, anything. Did it take a while for it to set in,
or was the sort of reset or shock of that experience immediate?
You know, in the moment, I didn't know I was dying. I'm an atheist. I don't believe in anything,
right? I mean, anything that you can't measure or observe.
And as was my father, he was a physicist. But as I felt myself getting pulled into this sort of dark pit underneath me, it's what it felt like. There's no tunnel of light, you know, whatever. I mean,
the things you hear, it's dark and it looks scary. And I was getting pulled into it. And
right at that moment, you know, they're working on my neck and they eventually put 10 units of blood
into me and that saved me. But right at that moment, my dead father popped up and started
talking to me and consoling me, comforting me. It was a long night. I mean, they didn't really
have me safe until about 3 or 4 a.m. They finally found the leak and plugged it with an embolism,
but that took a long time and it was touch and go for a long time. But anyway, the next morning I woke up in the ICU, I threw up a lot of blood and
the nurse came in and said, you almost died last night. Like you're incredibly lucky, man. And I,
that was a shock. I had no idea, but suddenly I remembered my dad and some other things. And I,
and all of a sudden it started to sort of make sense. And I was profoundly
traumatized by it. It was the safety of the circumstances. I was in my own driveway.
And the fact that you could be struck down in your own driveway when you least expect it,
like bullets are nothing compared to that fear. So afterwards, I got out of the ICU after a few
days. And my sense of the order of the universe was completely rearranged.
And I realized, you know, really nothing is for sure. I mean, I, you know, I know you can get
cancer and you can have a car accident and all that stuff. We all know that, but I didn't know
nothing was for sure moment by moment. That was news to me. And it gave me this crazy sort of
existential, either an existential crisis or an existential blessing, which is if you can be
annihilated at any moment, then it's each moment that's precious. And if you don't experience each
moment, if you don't understand how precious each moment is, you are missing out because that's all
you can ever be sure of getting is what's happening right now. And it put me in this sort of weird
Zen way. And I don't in this sort of weird Zen way,
and I don't practice Zen either. I mean, I practice nothing except, I guess, athletics.
It suddenly put me in this place of sort of Zen grace, I think, of just being amazed at the fact
that any of us exist and that we have children who we can hug and love. At the end of the day,
those two things amazed me so profoundly
that it was almost hard to function for a while.
That's terrifying.
And for those who don't have a bit more color
on your athletic background,
it's not like you are elderly and obese.
I mean, there are at least no comorbidities
that I'm aware of that would have put that on the radar ahead of time, right? I mean, perhaps if you had your whole genome sequenced, you might have spotted something or a possibility. running times and your best time for the mile was it four minutes 12 seconds something along those
lines and marathon two hours 21 minutes i think about your life i think about your experiences
as a journalist in war-torn countries in some respects embracing risk and i'm looking at a
quote from your literary agent of 10 plus years ago i I'm not sure if he's still your agent,
but this is Stuart Krzyzewski. And the quote is, quote,
what really motivates him, meaning you,
are things that terrify him, end quote.
And certainly, I mean, one doesn't have to look long
at your bio to identify many things
that would scare most people.
Has the experience, the experience
you just described, affected how you think of voluntary risk or has that aspect of your life
not changed much? The risk-taking has changed enormously. I think it would have just as a
function of getting older and certainly as a function of being a father. I mean, you have kids and you are the custodian of your own life for them. It's not your life. And I'm not saying
that you're a martyr in your parenthood. I'm saying that the highest priority for you as a
parent must be to stay alive and to provide a loving environment for them. That's it.
And, you know, when you're a young man,
when you're a young person,
there's every reason in the world to pursue very, very much your own
sort of ego-driven desires and ambitions.
I mean, that's what you should be doing.
And sometimes those include risk-taking.
I've taken a lot of risks in my life.
I'm not at all a thrill seeker.
So I, you know, I drive responsibly
and I wear a seatbelt and all that.
But the risks I've taken,
I was a high climber for tree companies. So I'd be working 70, 80 feet in the air with a chainsaw,
taking trees down from the top down. That could be dangerous. I mean, it can be deadly if you
make a mistake. And then I did a lot of war reporting. And those risks all felt voluntary,
but manageable. If you're smart about it, you're in less danger than if you're stupid about it. You know, I felt like I had a sort of handle on the risk that I had to
vote in the outcome. And then I was an athlete my whole life. And after I stopped competitive
running, I, you know, in my 50s, I started boxing, which is without exception, the hardest thing I've
ever done. As the arrogance of the distance runner, I looked at a boxing ring, I'd be like,
the size of my kitchen, how hard can it be? You know, like, oh my God, like I couldn't believe
it. I mean, getting hit, getting hits the least of it. At any rate, like I started boxing at my,
you know, 55 year old amateurish level, but it was really good for me.
And the doctor, you know, the doctor said, look, if you weren't in incredible shape,
you would have died. You would have had it, you know, your heart would have stopped. Your kidneys would have failed. Any other medical issue with shape, you would have died. Your heart would have stopped.
Your kidneys would have failed. Any other medical issue with you, it's a miracle you survived as it
is. If you had anything else going on, you wouldn't be here. And it made me realize that I was 58.
That was the race I've been training for my whole life. That was the boxing match I've been training
for my whole life. It wasn't something in college. It wasn't
whatever. It was when you lose 90% of your blood and you're in good hands at the hospital,
you have a chance of surviving and being a father to your daughters. And that was,
I did it. I did it and I got nothing else to prove. And I'm certainly not going to take any
risks that would jeopardize my daughter's chance to have a father. So I'm certainly going to come back to your daughters, because
these daughters were not in the picture last time we had a conversation on the podcast. So
talk about a phase shift. A lot has changed. Before we get to that, though, I want to ask
you a bit about boxing. So if you
could just repeat, when did you start boxing? Roughly what age?
I think I was 51. I'm married now, but I was married before. And that marriage, we agreed
to not really talk about it publicly. But basically, it ended, we're still friends,
it ended in a friendly, collaborative fashion. The ending of any marriage is enormously painful,
particularly if you care for the person.
And we did. And it was enormously painful. And I wanted something. I'd always wanted a box. And I
just wanted something to put my mind in a different place. So I did two things. I'd always
wanted to learn accordion. And so I started playing an accordion, which is a really hard
instrument, by the way. And you have to coordinate the two hands. They're doing totally different things.
And it's just, oh my God, it took me years to get that down.
But the thing that scared me, and here was, you know, I've done things that scared me
my whole life.
And clearly I need something of that.
What terrified me was boxing, was getting into a ring, even for friendly sparring.
I couldn't believe how frightening it was.
And there's no rational reason, right? But the demands on your body-
I think one could make an argument. There's some pretty rational reasons.
Right.
What involves getting punched in the head.
But the sparring I was doing were with guys, my trainer or a friend or whatever,
no one wanted to really hurt me or vice versa. It was very,
you know, time out, like, you know, this is too much and it stops, right? I mean,
the anxiety I would have was just unbelievable. And the physical demands on you are, I couldn't really fathom it. And that was why I did it. And so, and I'm still doing it, you know, like,
it's just clearly, it's a sort of lifeline to something that I need.
What do you think that might be? What is it that
you need? What does that scratch for you? Honestly, I think I need things in my life
that scare me that I think I can't do. And then I face my fears and I wind up being able to do them.
And it makes me feel like a little bit more secure in the universe. And, you know, keep in mind, if the universe can take you out on a June afternoon
with no warning for no reason,
like any sense of security that you can get,
take it because you'll need it.
That makes sense to me.
One thing I need some help, not help,
but I would like to, I wasn't planning,
this was not in my list of questions for you,
but I did not foresee the accordion coming up.
So few do.
Of all the instruments in the world,
how did you choose the accordion?
And that's not to slight the accordion.
I'm a big fan.
I'm a big fan.
There's a variation of the accordion
called the bandoneon in Argentina,
which I was exposed to a lot.
So I think these are beautiful instruments,
but it's just not one. This is probably the first time in 500 episodes that the accordion
has come up on this podcast. How did you arrive at the accordion?
Yeah, you know, it's just in a lot of the musical traditions that I really love. It's
Eastern European music. My first wife was from Eastern Europe. It's in gypsy music and Mexican
music and Irish music. I mean, all these traditions that I absolutely adore.
And everyone plays the damn guitar.
You know what I mean?
So the accordion was it.
I don't know.
With the left hand, you're playing the bass line, which is you're basically playing the
rhythm section.
Your right hand, you're playing the melody.
So they're not doing the same thing.
And splitting your mind into these two different tasks simultaneously
was unbelievably hard.
But I heard, I mean, this is the aging male talking now, right?
Like I'm 59.
I heard it's actually really good for your brain, you know,
as you get older to challenge it with tasks like that.
It's good to offset all the brain damage from the boxing probably.
Yeah, exactly. They can't sleep the boxing, probably. Yeah, exactly.
They can't sleep till they're out.
Yeah, exactly.
I got to say, it gives me a sense of just practicing, just playing a song.
Like that I'm even, that the universe has even allowed me to play a beautiful song
is so stunning to me because it always seems so far beyond my capability.
It almost felt like I wasn't
allowed to. And I realized that I can play Danny boy, that I'm allowed to do that and it will come
out and it sounds beautiful. It's so stunning to me. It gives me a sense of peace and completeness
that I think only holding one of my daughters is the only thing that kind of rivals that sense of like,
ah, here I am. Things are good. Things are calm. I love this. It was a pretty extraordinary effect
on my life. I have Alzheimer's on both sides of my family. And I recall the first time that I was
sent a video program, a link on YouTube to a video program, and I'm blanking on the name, we'll put it in the show notes, of Alzheimer's patients being played music from their
adolescence or childhoods. And what was so incredible is not only what happened when
they listened to the music, they went from completely catatonic in some cases to animated and singing along, but the persistence of this sort of
cognitive upgrade for a period of, say, 30 to 60 minutes afterwards, where they could hold a really
coherent conversation, recognize people, in contrast to being completely unable to do so
beforehand. So I do think there is something so elemental and mysterious about what music does to the brain
and the personality. I don't claim to have any answers, but I find it endlessly interesting.
Let's talk about your daughters. As Josh put it to me via text, he said he's raising two young
daughters in an extremely elemental, that's where I got the word, mindful tribal manner.
Definitely explore, you're going to recognize this is Josh, definitely explore what fatherhood is teaching him about life. What have his daughters taught him about tribes? So these are,
and then the last one, he said, ask him about how he has structured sleep with kids and pets.
That should be fun. Smiley face. So I realize this is a bit of a hodgepodge
of many questions, but what do you think Josh means? And is he accurate by saying elemental,
mindful, tribal manner? Well, let me just start by saying, I think both music and children,
I think one of the things, the invaluable things they do is they give you the courage to face life.
Life is hard and life is scary and sometimes painful. And both of them, in my experience, give you this resource to draw on
that help you face it. And so it is actually a very good segue for me to go from music to
children. I think there's some real similarities. There's something about not living for yourself
any longer that's enormously liberating. I think that's one of the things, you know, I spent a lot of time in combat and in combat with American soldiers, actually. And I
think one of the things that was, drew these guys to war, you know, often after a bad deployment,
you know, a lot of them sort of missed it. And I think what drew them was the loss of
the experience of losing your, the primacy of yourself as the most important thing of your,
in your life. you lose that when
you're in a platoon. I mean, you really have to think in terms of the group and first you might
imagine that that's a loss. It's actually you gain by doing that. The focus on the self can be
enormously tormenting and make people incredibly anxious. It's not a good place to go. Children
allow you to do that for better or worse. You know, sometimes, you know, it's not always fun.
It can be pretty hectic and insane, actually.
But at the end of the day, either because you're overwhelmed with tasks or overwhelmed
with love, you are thinking about something else, not yourself.
And they are the most important thing.
And so it totally reorders your place in the world.
And I've loved it.
I think at age 25, i might not have loved it
you know i mean i think i had to be in my 50s to do this gracefully and well but here i am
and so why do you say that not not to interrupt but i will uh why do you say that about uh
your age and that possibility now or at least in the last handful of years, as opposed to earlier?
I grew up in a very safe, pretty affluent society in a suburb of Boston. And I had this enormous
craving to experience the world and particularly the risks and thrills that it offered, you know,
of all kinds. And, you know, I could have had children when I was doing that, but it would,
I wouldn't have been a very good father. And so now, you know, that I've experienced the world sufficiently. Like, you know, like I don't need any more of
that information. And it has allowed me to completely devote myself to being a good dad
and a good partner. Part of that means, you know, I have to work. I need to earn a living. It's not
like all I do is I have to focus on a lot of other things. But at the end of the day, there's really only one thing that is powerfully interesting to me,
and it's my family now. It's not my work. It's nothing. It's them. I don't think I could have,
or maybe even should have done that at 25. How do you think about raising them or parenting or
fathering to Josh's list of attractive adjectives, elemental, mindful, tribal manner.
Do you think that's accurate?
Yeah, it is.
I mean, you know, I studied anthropology in college.
I've been in the developing world an awful lot.
You don't have to do too much research to realize basically the British legacy of parenting
that we have is very rare.
So in most of the world, parents sleep with their
young children in the same room, even in the same bed. Humans are primates. Young primates
are very vulnerable in nature. And they know that if they're alone in a dark room or anywhere that
they're in a lot of danger and they cry. And one of the odd things about English style
parenting, again, which is basically what we have in America, is that when children get put in a
room to go to sleep and they cry, nothing happens. No one goes in to comfort them. I mean, that's
called sleep training and it can be done, right? I mean, eventually the kid stops crying.
But if you think about it this way, if you were backpacking with your family in the Bob Marshall
wilderness in Montana, and you had a six monthmonth-old or a two-year-old or a five-year-old, you probably
wouldn't put them in a different tent. They'd sleep with you, right? It's a scary environment.
Well, the six-month-old doesn't know that their bedroom is not a scary environment.
It's dark. There's dangers out there, you know, and all that fear is wired into us. So the contemporary term for something that's, you know, has been around for hundreds
of thousands of years, but now we have a term for it, co-sleeping. That used to just be what
sleeping was, but called co-sleeping with your kids. We've never owned a stroller. I walk around
with my kids on my shoulders or on my chest. There's a lot of physical contact. You know,
what I sort of realized is that if there is physical contact between the parent and the child, it's very hard
to monetize that. So if you're a company and wants to make things for parents, things for children,
you can't monetize a mother holding their child and nursing. There's no way to get in there
to charge money for it, right? As soon as you have people that are sleeping separately from their kids, you need cribs,
you need play pens, you need video monitors, you need all this stuff. As soon as you have
parents who are not willing to carry their children, you need strollers. Some of those
things cost $1,000. If you sort of look at it in sort of capitalist terms, and whatever,
I'm not a socialist. I'm just trying to analyze something which is unique in the world, like our society, starting maybe around 100
years ago, started parenting in a radically different way. And it happened to be in a way
that can be monetized to the tune of hundreds of millions, a billion dollars a year industry,
you have to separate the parent from the child, particularly from the mother in order to monetize
it. And I think that's basically what's happened.
And so we just don't do that.
And we share, my wife and I share the burdens of challenges and thrills of parenting equally,
like I'm a fully involved father, but we don't have any of that stuff.
And, you know, I got to say, I mean, I know it's a data point of one, but, you know, we
have two very, very happy, secure, non-anxious little girls.
I mean, it's just amazing to see them really have almost no anxiety about the world and
about whether we're with them or not.
We can leave them with a friend and walk away and they don't even blink.
So much that we could unpack that we might come back to unpack in this conversation.
I'd like to jump to something you said earlier. And that was,
I'm saying A, B, and C, I can't recall exactly what it was, but as an aging male. So one of
Josh's, not to turn this into the, might as well have Josh doing this interview, but he knows you
well and I like to cheat. So one of his questions was, how does he, meaning Sebastian, relate to the
aging process of a warrior? And then I'm going to need a pronunciation check here. I did actually
look up who this person is, but ask him about Plenty Coops on that theme. Is that the correct
pronunciation? Plenty Coup. Plenty Coup. There you go. Yeah, it's a French word.
Betraying my lack of French. I would love to hear your thoughts on this,
because you certainly strike me as someone who embodies,
I suppose we all do, or at least most males do,
some warrior DNA or ethos,
and you've spent a lot of time among people on front lines, on deployment.
Yeah.
So how would you answer that question
and i suppose we should explain who plenny ku is at some point he was he was a crow indian
chief and war leader and visionary so society every society needs a lot of different kinds of
people they need mothers they need fathers they need warriors they need grandmothers and
grandparents and fathers they need wise people they need people who need warriors they need grandmothers and grandparents and fathers they
need wise people they need people who are really good at just working you know i mean there's a lot
of different things that need to happen in a society all the way from hunter-gatherer to
modern mass industrial society that we have today a lot of different things are needed and warriors
are one of them it's a dangerous world there. There's predators, there's enemies. And even in a society where, I mean, we're not in here in New York City where I am, we're not going to be invaded at the moment. And there are no animal predators, but fires kill people. I mean, there are structural fires that can kill whole families, right? So we have firemen who live in firehouses, who will risk their lives collectively to save people they don't know at all.
They're warriors in that sense. Society needs all of this. They don't have to be male. Often they
are for some pretty obvious biological reasons, but they don't have to be male. We all remember
Joan of Arc, of course. But that requires a couple of things to do well. First of all,
being a warrior in that broad sense requires being in very good physical condition.
So as you get older, a lot of processes happen to your body and you're not as fast.
You're not as strong.
You're not as coordinated.
You're not, your reflexes aren't as good.
I mean, everything, everything goes downhill.
You don't want 70 year olds trying to be warriors. They just won't be as good at it
as they were when they were 20. But also there's this other thing. As you get older, your ties
to life get stronger and stronger. You have a place in the community. You have children.
You might have a business. You have whatever. The things that keep you moored to your existence emotionally
psychologically those things are more numerous and they're stronger and when you're a 20 year old
i think particularly for a guy but i think it's either sex but i think particularly for young men
you're a 20 year old guy you're not more to much you, like all those things for most 20 year old men,
20 year old people, those things haven't started happening yet. So if you want to
put them in a warrior mode where they might lose their life, you know, for me, I'm okay losing my
life for myself, right? I mean, there are things worth gambling one's life for. As far as I myself
am concerned, I sure am not going to gamble my daughter's ability to have a father for much.
I think I might only risk my life to defend them, to protect them.
That might be the only thing I would risk my life for at this point.
When I was 25, I might well risk my life for a buddy or whatever.
No one else is paying the cost of me dying.
So I can make that choice on my own.
And so what you have to do as a warrior,
even just as a human being is you have to transition from a sort of,
I'm making all my own decisions.
I don't owe anything to anyone,
any explanation to anyone.
I have to transition from that to,
okay,
there's younger guys, there's younger guys out there. They can
outpunch me. They can outrun me. They definitely get noticed by young women a whole lot more than
I. The sun is setting on your world. So what does that mean? Does it just mean you are used up and
useless? No, it doesn't. And the amazing thing about Plenty Coup, the story, the value I
saw in that story, and I'll tell it in a moment, was that it was a perfect metaphor for getting
older and maintaining your utility, not to mention your dignity. So there's an amazing book called
Radical Hope. It's not a self-help book, although it sounds like it is. It's a work of philosophy
and anthropology, and it's about the life of Plenty Coup. And I can't remember the author's name because I'm 59 and names just slip out of
my mind, but it's a short book and it's an incredible book. And it's about Plenty Coup
and how he went from being this warrior. I mean, the big threat when he was a young man fighting
was white society, right? They were coming. The railroads were coming, the telegraph lines, the cowboys, it was all coming across the plains towards Crow society.
And the Sioux, for example, were very, very warlike like the Crow, and they fought to the
bitter end. What Plenty Coup realized was that the ultimate job of the warrior is to protect
their society. And for all of Crow history, that meant fighting to
the death if need be to protect your community, right? But this was a different moment in history.
Everything had changed. And fighting white society to the death would mean that your society was
going to get killed too. Your community
was going to get wiped out. There was a lot of killing of women and children in these battles
that happened in the Great Plains in the 1760s, 1770s, 1780s. Non-combatants really weren't spared.
So if you fought to the death against the 7th Cavalry, you were really risking everybody.
And so what Plenty Coup realized was that in
keeping with the ultimate warrior role of preserving at all costs, preserving your community,
in this case, in this new history, this new moment of history, this new era,
it actually meant not fighting. Fighting was the thing that would get your people killed.
Not fighting was the thing that might save them.
He figured it out. He said, learning to read and learning to farm were the new callings of the
warrior. Those things would best preserve the people and the community that the warriors love.
And they would have to get over their own ego and their own sense of, well, I'm nothing if I'm not
a warrior. They have to get over that in order to truly own sense of, well, I'm nothing if I'm not a warrior. They have
to get over that in order to truly do their job as a warrior and protect the people they love.
And for me, I read that book in my mid-40s just when the knees were starting to hurt a bit,
whatever, the hair was starting to leave the top of my head. Those changes just start happening in your 40s. And I read that book then. I was like, oh my God, this is it. There's a stage in one's life
when being a warrior means actually not being in that aggressive, physical, confrontational,
super physical role is actually something softer and wiser and ultimately more enduring
that you can choose. The book you mentioned, Radical Hope,
subtitled Ethics in the Face of Cultural Devastation,
Jonathan Lear appears to be the author of that book. I was reading the Wikipedia entry on Plenty Coup.
I'm so self-conscious now.
Yeah, French is not my strong suit.
But his adult crow name, or the name that was
bestowed upon him, was Many Achievements. And the entire entry is really, really fascinating.
There's a strong component, we don't necessarily have to get into this, but a strong component,
at least in his story, and these could be apocryphal or just mythologies, but there's a
consistent component of visions and fasting leading to visions dictating his decisions,
which I found very interesting in this entry, at least. Not that I can parse that.
Well, I can jump in and tell you. So his transformation, his moment of enlightenment came following a vision that he had. It was a dream vision. And I can a lot of amazing books, but that book really,
it caught me at the right moment in my life. And it was one of the most important books I've ever
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and you can get started today at wealthfront.com slash Tim. Let's look at and talk about freedom. I'm
sure we'll bounce around a lot. My understanding, and please correct me if I'm getting this wrong,
but I don't think we discussed this in our first podcast conversation that when you were younger,
you hitchhiked across the country. This was some time ago.
Freedom describes this new book something very, very different. What was the catalyst or the impetus behind what became Freedom? Did it start as a plan for experience and experience's sake?
Did it begin with a fascination or a question related to this word, this concept of freedom?
What's the genesis story?
And then the reason I brought up the hitchhiking is I'd just be curious to know how that experience contrasts with some of the experiences described.
I came to the idea to write a book about freedom partly just by noticing that people use and
misuse that word all the time.
It's an extremely potent word.
It's like the word tribe.
I mean, you say the word tribe, the word freedom.
These are elemental human values, and they go to the core of the human experience and
can be misconstrued and used to justify awful things so easily.
But they can also be used very beautifully to preserve human dignity
and to safeguard the things that we all live for.
And so I just sort of became interested in the word.
It's extremely hard to define.
So if you look it up in the dictionary,
the definition of freedom is almost non-intelligible. I mean, it's like defining
the word and. I mean, it's extremely abstract, but it's something that we all in our hearts,
in our guts, we sort of know what it means. And we know why we want to be free. We know why it's
intolerable not to be. And so I just started thinking about it. And, you know, I didn't want to write a, I'm not Jonathan Lear. I didn't want
to write a philosophical inquiry. And I certainly didn't want to write a political tract. I mean,
the word is misused in politics all the time in a sort of hideous, grotesque way. And I didn't,
you know, I didn't want to wade into the political battles around that word. I was interested in
literally through the course
of the human experience, how do people maintain their freedom? And what that basically means is
how do you maintain your autonomy in the face of a larger power? If you're the most powerful thing
in the room, your freedom is not in question, it's not in danger. Freedom becomes an important word when there's a more powerful entity that might
try to deprive you of your choices, of the quality of your circumstances. And throughout history,
how have people avoided that? Because there are powerful societies and there are weak societies
that were large, strong men, and there are smaller men or women. The universe isn't fair, and things are not divided equally.
And there's rich societies and poor societies.
So how do the underdogs manage to maintain their freedom from the groups that could oppress
them or try to?
So there's three basic ways.
My book is divided into three sections for this reason, run, fight, and think. So the first
thing you can do is just stay out of the reach of your oppressor. So for example, in the American
Southwest in the 1540s, I think it was, the Spanish first showed up, Coronado, the explorer,
showed up. And he encountered two different kinds of native societies. There were the Pueblo tribes
that lived in these sort of thick-walled houses on top of mesas.
They were agriculturalists.
They were quite wealthy.
They stayed where they were.
They were like little villages in Spain.
I mean, they were at an almost feudal European level of social evolution, economic evolution.
And then there were the Apache and the Navajo.
They didn't stay anywhere for very long.
They were materially
poor. I mean, they only owned what they could carry. They hunted and they were extremely mobile.
They lived in brush huts that they threw up in a few minutes. In Western terms, they were very poor
people. But what happened? So when the Spanish showed up and then later the Americans,
the Pueblo tribes got rolled immediately. I mean, sometimes within a few hours of confronting the
Spaniards, they couldn't outfight them and they were stuck in their villages and they would give
up or they would be defeated and massacred. The Apache remained free for another 300 plus years.
The last of the free Apache were not sort of cornered
and controlled by the US government until the end of the 1880s. I mean, my grandmother was almost alive by then, you know, she was born in 1900. You were really almost in the modern era
at this point. The machine guns been invented, the light bulb, the internal combustion engine,
I think the telephone, I mean, I can't remember. Basically,
all of the modern appliances that we think of, they've already been invented at this point in
the Apache, are still running around free, and it's because they're so mobile. So I write about
that and just the human's ability to run. I mean, from sprint to long distance, if you take the full
range of human running ability, we outstrip just about every animal,
particularly in the heat. The record for running a thousand miles is around 10 days. I mean,
someone ran a hundred miles a day for 10 days, ran a thousand miles. It's something like that.
I can't remember exactly. So fight was literally about fighting. And the interesting thing about
humans, and we're just about unique in the animal kingdom, that a small individual can actually outfight a larger one. That's not
true with elk and grizzly bear and everything else. But with humans, size is a terrible predictor of
outcome in individual combat. I looked at statistics from the UFC, mixed martial arts fighting, and larger men, when paired against smaller men,
win about 50% of the time. In other words, size is not a predictor of outcome.
Likewise, small insurgencies like the Taliban can outlast and outfight larger established
militaries like the US military. I mean, the Taliban, no tanks, no artillery, obviously no
air force, and some of them didn't even have boots. And they bought the most powerful military
in the world to a standstill. And we are now negotiating for peace with them, basically.
And they'd already done the same thing to the Russians. If smaller entities could not outfight
larger ones, freedom would not be possible. I mean, the world would be run by the largest sort of violent male, is true for chimpanzees, alpha male, and history would just
be dominated by large, oppressive, powerful societies. They definitely have an undue,
a disproportionate influence on world events, but those kinds of large societies cannot be
sure that they can dominate the smaller ones.
And if that were not true, freedom would not be possible. America would not exist. For example,
England would have crushed us during the revolution. And then again, in 1812,
you know, finally in a situation where you can't outrun or outfight them, like the labor movement in America in the early part of the 20th century, you have to outthink them. You have to
outthink the powerful entity. And that can be done as well. It's extremely effective.
The last part of my book, I go into the traits that smaller successful entities,
the traits they have in common that allow them to overcome a more powerful adversary.
They include women in their group. It's a very, very common trait that is needed. The leadership
has to be selfless.
The leadership cannot just send the warriors out to die while they're back on a hilltop.
The leadership has to metaphorically and literally face the bullets first.
And you need to have a sense of history like that we're fighting impossible odds,
but history demands that we do. There has to feel like there's a higher calling.
Religion can provide that. I'm not religious myself, but it's a very effective way of giving people a sense of a higher calling.
And national suffering. I mean, a sort of tradition of national suffering the way you had in Ireland,
the potato famine and the oppression by the English, can inspire people to give up their
lives to fight something that they probably can't even win. But if they don't fight,
they certainly won't win. And as often as not, that actually works.
Two things I'd love to mention, and one could be, actually both will, I'm sure,
be hopping off points. But the first is, you mentioned the inclusion of women in resistance
or insurgencies. And that is not just a polite inclusion. It is a pragmatic inclusion. But there's a quote, I don't remember who it was from, something along the lines of, one police officer can handle 10 men, but it takes 10 police officers to handle one woman, in part because there is, in many cultures at least, a hesitancy to inflict violence upon women, and therefore they can be extremely tactically
powerful. Is that fair to say? The participation of women in these movements is absolutely crucial.
And, you know, even for the Taliban, there were no, I don't think, any female Taliban fighters,
but women hold society together, and insurgencies are rooted in society. And if the society isn't functioning, there is no insurgency.
And so even at that level, women are absolutely necessary.
They're as necessary as ammunition or whatever.
Like they're absolutely crucial to any endeavor like that.
But at the more tactical level, the quote you're referring to about the policeman was during the mill strikes in Massachusetts.
Ah, Massachusetts.
Yeah, Lawrence, Massachusetts.
Yeah, Lawrence, Massachusetts in 1912.
And, you know, they'd have the guys out there.
And, you know, the strikes happened because the living conditions were unspeakably bad.
The wages were not even survival wages.
One in five infants died among the worker populations. One in five infants died before the
age of two. I mean, for a democratic country within the 20th century, that that was happening
was just revolting. And they rose up. And as long as they had a bunch of guys in the street,
the cops could get as rough as they wanted. They fixed their bayonets, they aimed their rifles,
people got shot, people got beaten, no problem. So the strikers started putting women on the front lines.
And of course, the cops, I mean, a lot of these cops are 20-year-old boys.
They have mothers that age or sisters or whatever.
They're not, you know, getting young men to kill women is very hard to do.
And particularly up close like that.
And so essentially, once they put women on the front line, the police didn't know what
to do.
And that's where that quote came from. It takes 10 cops to handle one woman.
Women also give a situation like that a kind of moral authority. I mean, you have a bunch of guys
on the street. It can be just mistaken for a violent mob. Once you have women in there,
it's not a violent, rightly or wrongly, many societies, our society certainly believes that women abhor violence and want what
is good for the world and for children. So you put women in the mix and suddenly it's harder to sort
of refute the legitimacy of the cause. They also have this other thing, which is sort of amazing,
is that for a variety of cultural reasons, women are, they're harder to sort of scrutinize. I mean,
even frisking a woman in public is complicated for a male cop. And sometimes, I mean, I've heard that there are female bouncers in some
clubs because men just don't want to get into a fistfight with a woman. It just looks too
bad for them. So there is this sort of tactical level of using women, but women have these lateral
connections within society that can be exploited for communication, for spying. And it's very hard
for the authorities to penetrate these lateral female social networks, particularly in ghettos
and in the slums that these workers were living in. It was very, very hard for the cops to
penetrate that and sort of eavesdrop on the movement. Whereas men, what they have, they're
terrible at those
lateral connections. What they're very good at is hierarchy. So if you have a sort of leader
who's got a male following, a sort of male coalition that he's heading up, and that guy
says, I can have 500 men on the street at 6 a.m. tomorrow morning, gunfire or no gunfire,
those guys will follow orders. And that sort of top-down hierarchy that will run into gunfire or no gunfire, those guys will follow orders. And that sort of top-down hierarchy
that will run into gunfire if need be, men are very good at that. And so you combine those two
qualities, the male hierarchy and female sort of lateral affiliation, you're presenting the
authorities with an incredibly complicated tactical problem that has very few good solutions.
Let's talk about, not necessarily hitchhiking, but I want to talk about the parallel connective
tissue that is used to weave the story that is told or the stories that are told in freedom.
I'll read a paragraph that I quite like. And then you can elaborate if you wouldn't
mind having this conversation. We called our trip the last patrol and it seemed like a long,
hard, weird thing to do until we were actually out there where suddenly it was so obvious that
we rarely even caught ourselves wondering why we were doing it. The things that had to happen out there were so clear and simple, eat, walk, hide, sleep, that just getting through the day felt like scripture,
a true and honest accounting of everything that underlies the frantic performance of life.
So of course, I'm leaving out exactly what we're talking about. What am I talking about? What is this referring to? And how did it come to be?
Yeah, so freedom is a mix of this research that I did into how people maintain their freedom
and this trip that we took, the last patrol, and the sections cut back and forth. I talk about the
last patrol because it was probably the freest I've ever been in a sort of physical sense. As I say somewhere in the book, we walked 400 miles along the railroad lines, and we
were sleeping under bridges and in the woods and in abandoned buildings and sort of no
man's land along the railroad lines.
We walked 400 miles, and most nights we were the only people who knew where we were.
There are many definitions of freedom, but surely that's one of them.
And it was one that I had the real good luck to be able to experience for a little while.
So I have to go back to 2009 to explain this.
I spent a year off and on with a platoon in combat in Afghanistan.
My colleague out there, his name was Tim Hetherington.
He was a British photographer.
We shot a ton of video out there and we collaborated and made a documentary called Restrepo that was nominated for an Oscar. It did quite well. And it was just about what it was like
to be in combat and sentence. There was no politics, no strategy, just what's it like to be
an American platoon in a firefight just about every day
so we were at one point we were tim and i were taking the train down to washington dc to talk
to national geographic because we were trying to sell this thing we didn't have a buyer yet we just
shot a lot of video and wanted to make this film and on the way down i was looking out the window
and um the entire way i realized that there was a, we were looking for our next project
after Restrepo, right? We're already looking ahead. And I was looking, I saw along the train tracks
that you could walk almost the entire way. There was a dirt bike trail or a cinder maintenance
road or a cornfield or a whatever, like you could kind of do it. And I said to Tim, I was like,
listen, man, let's walk from DC to New York along the railroad lines and let's just see what happens. And tragically, after we made Mastrepo and it was very successful,
we were at the Oscars on the red carpet. And this is almost exactly 10 years ago.
The Arab Spring was boiling away. And Tim and I are journalists, right? We're in this sort of
beautiful, luxurious world of Hollywood with our film. But meanwhile, you know, surfs up elsewhere in the world.
You know, I was like, Tim, we got to get back out there.
And we decided to go on assignment to cover the civil war in Libya.
At the last minute, I couldn't go.
And he went on his own and he was killed in the city of Misrata on April 20, 10 years ago.
And so this is always a very sad time of year for me.
I should have been on the
trip with him. Had I been, I probably would have been killed alongside him. Had I gone,
maybe I could have saved him. I felt a huge amount of guilt about it. It took me a long
time to get over his death. And he bled out. He bled out like I almost did, except he bled out
onto the ground. I bled out into my abdomen and there was a doctor there to save me. For him,
there wasn't the only difference.
After that,
I was reeling,
reeling from a lot of things,
but from Tim's death and particularly,
and I thought,
I know what I'm going to do.
I'm going to do that project.
I'm going to walk the railroad lines.
I'm going to take two guys from Restrepo that we,
Tim and I knew really well.
And I'm going to take the journalist who was with Tim when he died.
Guillermo Cervera, Spanish photographer, amazing, amazing photographer.
He was holding Tim's hand when Tim died, the back of a pickup truck.
And so I got to know Guillermo very well.
And so I convinced these guys to walk 400 miles along the railroad lines.
We did it in chunks over the course of a year.
We weren't hitching freights, right? We were walking.
I picked railroad lines because it's counterintuitively,
it's safer.
You walk along roads, you can get hit by a car really easily.
But also, they're not monitored.
I mean, you're not going to get picked up for vagrancy
because there's no cops on railroad lines.
There's no security cameras.
There's no lights.
There's nothing.
It's no man's land.
And you meet some weird cats out there.
But everyone's sort of on their own.
And it's just this weird
no man's land where you can kind of sleep wherever you want. There's abandoned buildings, there's
patches of weeds, there's whatever. You just make it work. And we got to see America from the inside
out. We walked right through the ghettos, right through the farms, right through the industrial
wastelands. We hit Philadelphia and instead of going to New York, we decided to head west, and we walked to Pittsburgh.
The Last Patrol was my experience with freedom of a certain sort.
And my book intercuts sections about that amazing trip with the real inquiries that I did into how one maintains one's freedom in the face of a more powerful adversary. How did the structure of this book
change from initial conception to finished product, if it did? I mean, I know based on
our previous conversations that you think a lot about structure. How did this book
change over time? Did you expect it to be one thing and then it ended up being quite a different thing? Or from the get-go, did you have a pretty crystallized vision of what the finished book would look like? that no one would want to read a whole book about these sort of technical or historical topics
of run, fight, think. I mean, I don't quite have Malcolm Gladwell's adept hand at presenting
these sort of arcane topics. I mean, I could do it for a few pages. I can't do it for a full-length
book. So I just thought, what I'll do is I'll combine them. And I'll combine them in such a way where my experience
out on the railroad lines is interwoven in these more abstract ideas. And so I think I have a good
sense of, after a thousand words or so, the reader wants something a little different,
like a palate cleanser. The structure for the book didn't change much, actually. I just
thought, I'm going to start with our walking. And then when I
written a chunk of that that feels dramatically complete, a thousand words or so, I'll jump to
the first topic. And one of the things I wanted to write about was America, because we're walking
right through it. And we walked through what had been the Pennsylvania frontier in the 1600s,
1700s. Life on the frontier was supposed to be very free. That's the sort of American myth.
It was very free from government. It was not free from danger. And as a result,
these communities on the frontier in Pennsylvania, they ended together in ways that were oppressive
in their, you know, the expectations. If you were part of a frontier community, the expectations
placed on you by the community in terms of group mutual defense were enormous.
So I just started playing with this idea of explaining American history in terms of people choosing one kind of freedom over another. They left the oppression of the government,
the colonial governments, and they wound up in the oppression of small communities,
where if you were a man and you had to carry your rifle and a scalping knife,
white people scalped back then as well, of course, and a tomahawk.
At all times, you had to have a rifle, a tomahawk, and a scalping knife
because you had to be ready to fight at any moment.
And if you were caught without those things, you were ostracized.
They had a kind of freedom on the frontier, but you're never completely free
because if you're alone, you're in danger and that doesn't work. So I had this idea of sort
of mixing these, my trip and what I came to understand about being alone and vulnerable
in this very small group and very vulnerable in a hostile environment, mixing that with the just
eternal human endeavor of making a society and
surviving and raising your children and not getting killed.
You know, I'd love to ask you not to turn this into a personal therapy session, but why not?
You mentioned the death of your friend, Tim. We've talked about warfare. You write very eloquently and powerfully about many things, one of which is brutality,
human-on-human brutality. And one thing that is very clear in your writing is that no one group
has a monopoly on human-on-human brutality. I mean, if you look at the history of different Native American tribes,
certainly there was intense conflict, many rivalries. You had the settled tribes, and then
you had the raiding cultures, many of which could not necessarily coexist, certainly with settlers.
And then various forms of torture that you've written about. I'm currently reading a book that
deals largely with environmental concerns and deforestation and
all sorts of tragedies related to violations against nature. And I find myself, maybe this
is just a weakness of character, but like growing kind of despondent where it just seems like the
die has been cast. And whether it's by through evolution or willful blindness,
the golf ball has been hit and it can't be unhit in certain ways. Have you ever experienced that?
I'm wondering if you've ever experienced it or kind of what keeps the lights on for you.
And again, maybe this is unique to me, but there are times where I'm just,
I really feel kind of overwhelmed by these things and that there's so little to stem the tide
of these various tragedies. How do you relate to that or not?
Well, we're primates. We're very violent primates. We're also very affiliative primates. There's no
kind of violence that humans haven't committed and that some humans enjoy committing. But by equal measure,
there's no kind of generosity and heroism and nobility and dignity that humans aren't capable
of committing, even at the loss of their own life.
Violence begets violence. You torture someone, they get their hands on someone from your group,
they're going to torture that. I mean, that's how it works. I've seen it work that way in combat over and over and over again. The rage at the enemy that would kill your buddy
or your wife or your child, there's this homicidal rage that someone would do that to you,
turns you into someone who would do that to them,
and then you're off and running.
And that's ubiquitous in the world.
I have to assume that that kind of enraged, violent response is adaptive.
It helps communities survive in the face of a dire threat,
that a more passive, okay, you can take me prisoner,
you can turn us into slaves,
you can kill us,
but we're not going to raise a hand against you,
that that was weeded out.
Whatever genes would get someone to do that
were weeded out pretty quickly in the human race.
By the same token,
if we were just a society of sort of like violent brutes,
we wouldn't have survived either.
And these beautiful human values
of caretaking, and particularly caretaking the helpless, young children, the elderly,
just people who are unfortunate, even enemy, enemies that are unfortunate that fall into our
care, they're often cared for very, very well, right? So there's this human, these twin human impulses. In freedom,
you know, I talk a little bit about the Native Americans because they practice the most
indescribably horrific torture, partly as a way of keeping white people from infiltrating their
land and taking it, right? So they were trying to be scary. And it worked. To a degree, it worked.
But of course, Western society is equally
full of hideous tortures, the Spanish Inquisition, etc. And I have here a printout of a horrible
newspaper article from February 8th, 1904, the Vicksburg Evening Post. It's just an incident
that's long been forgotten, I guess, but it's a, it was a black couple who were caught and charged with something that they probably didn't do. And they burned them alive
in Vicksburg. And before they did that, they one by one cut off all their fingers
and then tortured them with corkscrews. You know, these are Americans, American citizens within my
grandmother's lifetime. So the point is that no society has a monopoly on violence or on moral behavior we're all equally
amazing and equally horrible and i think the the task of any society is to be well defended enough
so that you don't get overrun by the barbarians but gentle and kind and loving enough so that
you can provide a moral existence within your community and for your children and hopefully within the world.
Very hard to do, obviously, because we keep screwing it up. But I think that is the goal.
And I think that's most people's goal, frankly.
Yeah, maybe I'm just, yeah, I think I'm going through a stretch where I'm having trouble,
kind of, or I don't want to say blinded by, but
like the density of the fog of brutality that I've been exposed to voluntarily through a lot of my
own reading and watching is just so heavy. I think I probably need to watch more Pixar movies for a
while, something like that. But all of those episodes in our society, in our history, enormously brutal, but they also,
because people are what they are, that brutality engenders enormously heroic, loving acts as well.
I mean, in equal measure. There were Europeans during World War II who were hiding Jews in their
basement at risk of being executed by the Nazis. People who otherwise would have been fine because
they weren't Jewish.
And they were hiding families in their basements. Strangers, people they didn't even know.
What lesson are you going to take from World War II? The soldiers that landed on D-Day to stop fascism from taking over the world. The first boats, the first landing craft that hit
the beaches, 90% of those guys died. 90. Yeah, a horrific situation.
But think about the courage and their determination to preserve the moral world order.
I would just say that you can look at the same things through the other end of the telescope.
You're going to see very different things and ones that will inspire you and comfort you.
There's a, I don't want to call it a quote, a line at the very, very beginning
in the front matter of freedom from Ecclesiastes 3.18, as for humans, God tests them so they may
know they are animals. Why did you include that? Well, I'm an atheist. My father was an atheist.
And sometimes when atheists read the Bible,
they see passages that seem to undermine one of the central tenets of Christianity,
which is that humans aren't animals.
And that there's somehow a different set of standards,
a different set of metrics, a different set of metrics,
a different reality for human beings and for the rest of the animal kingdom that were somehow special and that we were special because we were made by God.
And I just thought it was really helpful to find the Bible itself reminding us
that we might aspire to godly qualities.
I hope we all do.
For the most part, they're good qualities.
But at the end of the day,
the Bible wants us to know that we are animals.
And from dust we came and to dust we shall return.
It's very, very good to remember that.
Because when you think that you're special,
there's a risk, there's a danger that you can permit yourself special things, special rights.
And those special rights usually don't end very well.
And what we were doing on the last patrol was so physical.
We were reduced to such an animal existence. And the fight for freedom that people
throughout history and prehistory have waged, the physical and psychological fight for freedom
is so brutal that only an animal could survive it, only an animal could do it. And the reason
we have been able to do it, we as humans, is because we are animals. I don't mean it as a criticism. I actually mean it as a compliment to us all.
You've also written very eloquently about how if we, and I'm taking some liberty here with
connecting a few dots from different portions here, but how dehumanization or viewing a certain subpopulation as subhuman or animal-like
gives you special permission to do things you wouldn't otherwise view as permittable,
whether that be slavery or torture or fill in the blank, right?
Right. I mean, if you feel like you're serving God's will by liberating a piece of territory,
taking over a building, wiping out a group of people that your society has decided are evil,
if you think you're doing God's will, you don't have to stop and examine the actual morality of
what you're doing. I mean, murder is wrong in almost all circumstances, and mass murder is wrong in all circumstances.
But if you're doing God's will, then of course you don't have to dwell on that.
And one way to reinforce that idea, killing costs people psychologically. It's hard to do.
And people, even murderers, bear the scars for their lifetimes. And so if you can convince
yourself that the people you're killing aren't really human, then you don't have to struggle with the moral implications of murder,
right? Which is clearly a sin that God is against. So very, very naturally in war,
I mean, it happens spontaneously and then gets sort of codified in mythology around a war and
even in the laws around the war. But very naturally in war, you start to see the enemy as not quite human.
And that's very convenient because natural law in the Christian tradition
holds that all humans were made by God.
We're God's creatures, right?
So here you are killing God's creatures?
That's probably not a good thing.
So how do you solve that problem?
You say, oh, great, yeah, we'll follow natural law.
But those people over there, they're not really God's creatures because they're animals.
They're parasites.
They're cockroaches.
They're insects.
I mean, the words that people have used during genocide,
did many genocides in human history, to describe the people they were killing,
invariably revert to the rest of the animal kingdom,
like animals and insects.
And then, you know, then you're not,
you don't have to be unduly troubled by the moral issues
that come from killing 100,000 people,
because you're not really killing people.
And that little mental trick has allowed ordinarily otherwise decent people to do things
that are completely heinous and unconscionable without going mad.
Let's come back to this word freedom. As you mentioned, it's misused, it's abused,
it's deliberately used in politics in a contorted way for various ends. It's also in some ways defined in so many
different ways, so subjectively that it becomes difficult to pin down objectively. But there's a
concept, or I should say more accurately, coefficient, let's see if I can mispronounce this too, that I'd never come across before the book Freedom, and that is the genie coefficient or genie coefficients. Could you please explain what that is? etymology of the word freedom. It's almost a little demoralizing when you, if you come to
understand what the word is rooted in, it comes from vridom, V-R-I-D-O-M is middle German for
freedom, and it's related to the word beloved. So in an earlier epic, human epic, freedom was
thought of as something that you only owed the people that you love,
the people in your community, the people in your tribe, the people in your family, in your clan.
Those people deserve freedom. Everyone else was eligible for enslavement or worse.
You're talking about a circumstance where one's freedom, A, it's not a human universal, it's not a universal
right, but B, you only enjoy freedom because your little group is able to protect itself
from other groups that think exactly the same way about you, that you're eligible for enslavement
or death. So freedom is, in that ancient sense, is inseparable from the ability to defend yourself
physically, with force, with violence from an attacker. And if you can't, because there were
no universal laws, universal laws of human rights, human dignity, if you couldn't defend yourself,
you would probably wind up being enslaved or killed
by a more powerful adversary.
And it's important to keep in mind with the word freedom that it's rooted in a arguably
ghastly distinction between us and them, and that you're not going to be free unless you
can defend yourself.
There was a, around 5,000 years ago in Spain, there was a Neolithic population, they were
agriculturalists, they were agriculturalists,
they were quite peaceful people in the Iberian Peninsula. And around 5,000 years ago, they were
invaded by a group called the Yamnaya from the Russian steppe. And the Yamnaya had horses that
pulled chariots. And the Iberians had never even seen horses before, much less ridden them. And the Yamnaya came in and over the course of 100 years or so,
seemed to have wiped out the entire male population of Iberia and clearly mated with
the young women. Because in today's Iberia, there is no genetic material from Neolithic Iberia that's native to Iberia
on the male line. It is all Yamnaya. And then other groups that came in after that.
So basically, the men of Iberia were not able to defend themselves against the Yamnaya,
and they were scrubbed from the human gene pool. And their women were subject to ours, obviously.
But their DNA is still here.
That's the problem with not being able to defend yourself.
So now if you sort of go forward a little bit from there,
as agricultural societies took over,
they supplanted, you know, it was around 10,000 years ago,
8,000 years ago, the first crops started to be planted.
And people started to go from a hunter-gatherer society like the Apache,
where there was very little discrepancy between rich and poor
because no one really could own more than they could carry.
And in these hunter-gatherer societies, what they found,
I read a study of North American native societies,
the native tribes that were able to stockpile food or
control access to food production, like literally controlling the points along the Pacific coast
where you can fish for salmon effectively. As soon as that food production could be controlled
and food stockpiled, you started to have a ruling class and income disparity and power disparities within one's own society.
So with the Gini efficient, Gini was the name of an Italian economist from the early 1900s.
Can't remember his first name, but the Gini, G-I-N-I, the Gini coefficient is a number that
shows the difference, the income gap between rich and poor. The higher the number,
the greater the income gap. It ranges from zero to one. So 0.0 to 1.0. So the higher the number,
if you have a Gini coefficient of, say, 0.7. That's a fairly unequal society. 0.7
describes feudal European society in the Middle Ages. 0.42 was the Roman Empire. Most hunter-gatherer
societies, they have a Gini coefficient of around 0.25. So, it's much closer to complete equality
than to complete monopoly so obviously a society with
a high genie coefficient has some very powerful wealthy people and a whole lot of people who
aren't doing as well and that clearly there's a moral there's a moral problem there that's not a
good a moral society that's not a good society in our terms the The problem, though, is that the empires that have dominated world history,
the Han Empire in China, the Romans, the Turks, the Europeans, the empires that have dominated
world history invariably have high Gini coefficients. Having a low genie coefficient is a predictor of an egalitarian society that
actually does not have a lot of power in the world. And this one researcher that I talk about
in the book, he said that the original 1% were these huge, huge empires that controlled enormous
percentage of the world population in basically a master and
servant class. And that those were the empires that in evolutionary terms, they were doing very,
very well. By almost every metric, they were successful societies. They just weren't very
just, they weren't very equal. And people in them were not very free unless you were in the top
1%, the original, what he calls the original 1%.
You cover so much ground in freedom.
Do you have a particular hope for what people will take away from the book or ponder more closely as a result of reading the book. Is there any hope kind of tucked away or explicit for you that you hope
will be achieved by putting this out into the world? I think with all my work, all my books,
I'm probably not alone in this among authors. I want my readers to understand the human experience
in ways that makes them more forgiving, more compassionate,
more insightful, and more intolerant of abuse and violence. One reason to write about the
incredible injustice committed in America before the civil rights era against African Americans
is so people will be horrified and not tolerate that kind of thing.
For me, that's one of the reasons that I write, is to bring enough understanding to people that
they can act in fair ways. That's true for freedom as well. I mean, I want people to know how valuable, how precious freedom is by seeing the lengths that people have gone to maintain it.
The Easter Rising in Ireland against British rule.
Those people made a lot of mistakes, right?
I mean, they weren't angels.
But the heroism, the courage, the selflessness.
I mean, there's a passage in my book. It's a letter written by an Irish revolutionary named Michael Mallon, and he was executed by the
British for his role in the Easter Rising. And right before he's executed, he writes a letter
to his wife and children. It's almost a dream of consciousness because he's so... I mean,
you're about to shoot him. When I read my book book i did the audio recording for my book and in the studio you know his letters in my
book and i read it and the um the director who was sort of on the phone with me covid safe you know
you know advising me directing me in my reading i mean we had to stop for a moment because the
letter made her cry it's a hundred years later the letter made her start crying and you know he he died for his country
and he had to leave his family his children right so what you know i want people to understand
the incredible dignity and courage of an awful lot of otherwise very ordinary people and and
that they are they there that way because they
believe in human dignity and they believe that all people deserve respect and a decent wage
and to live in humane conditions. And I don't think you can read my book and not understand
those things. A society that's well enough organized to defend itself is well
enough organized to oppress itself. We need leaders because you can't have an army of
100,000 sergeants or privates. You need generals, you need privates, whatever.
Society needs to organize itself, and that means that people are in positions of leadership.
And there's an unfortunate tendency for powerful people in positions of leadership to exploit that position and seize rights that
other people don't have and to enrich themselves in ways that other people don't have access to
and to be exploitative and abusive. And that is true in dictatorships. It's true in democracies.
It's true in virtually every kind of society. And so I have a section about
leadership. And one of the interesting things about these small insurgencies like the Easter
Rising in Ireland is that these marginal groups, I mean, they're so outgunned, they're so overpowered
by the established political order, military order, that the successful ones can't afford to
have anything counterproductive in their organization,
right? They can't have bad leadership. If they do, they will get killed, right? It will not work.
And so you can look at successful, even successful startup businesses.
What are the common elements of these groups that have overcome enormous odds
and forced their vision on the world, hopefully a vision of equality and
dignity. And one of the things that is absolutely essential is leaders who are willing to die,
like leaders who are willing to expose themselves to the same risks as the people that they're
leading. And when you have leadership that's not willing to do that, that will not take
responsibility for their mistakes, that will blame problems on others.
When you have leaders who are cowards, you have an insurgency that is not going to last very long and will not succeed. Wealthy Western countries can afford that kind of leadership because we
are not on the edge of disaster all the time. But you can see what works and what doesn't by
the successful insurgencies and labor movements and what have you.
And one of the things is moral leadership.
I do not write about current day America, and I'm not interested in writing about politics. And I think Republicans and Democrats have produced some incredibly inspiring noble leaders
and some real villains.
You know, it's like both sides have both. The last thing I would want people to understand
from my book is that we have a right. And in fact, I would say we have an obligation to demand moral
leadership. And that means leadership that's selfless and would sacrifice itself in a moment
if it meant that that would help the country and the people who are counting on them. I'd love to read just a few paragraphs and to ask follow-up questions.
If I may indulge myself here, these are things that jumped out to me.
So here's one. This is on page 33.
For most of human history, freedom had to be at least suffered for if not died for,
and that raised its value to something almost sacred.
In modern democracies, however, an ethos of public sacrifice is rarely needed because freedom and survival are
more or less guaranteed. That is a great blessing, but allows people to believe that any sacrifice at
all, rationing water during a drought, for example, are forms of tyranny. They are no more forms of
tyranny than rationing water on a lifeboat. The idea that we can enjoy the benefits of society while owing nothing in return is literally infantile. Only children owe nothing.
How do you think people should think of what they owe, or how can someone, for themselves at least,
act as a sort of countervailing force against this sort of entitlement and perception of tyranny and
things like rationing water during a drought that I think are perverse in a sense, but also very
natural because there is no kind of imminent threat that people perceive. How do you think
about that or encourage people to think about that? It's a tricky balance. If you're alone in
the wilderness, you die. Humans do not survive alone.
We survive because we're part of a society. And we get an enormous amount of benefit from being
part of a society, and whether that's at the hunter-gatherer level or in modern America,
with the incredible technological and medical advances. I mean, among other things, I'd be dead
if I'd lived in any other society from what
happened to me last june you know we're enormously blessed and i think what's essential is to for
every person to search in their mind for how can we return the gift the gift of the society
that we live in what can we do to reinforce this thing that we depend on for
our survival? And the important thing to remember about freedom is that it's freedom from oppression
that you have a right to. It's not freedom from obligation. And we live in such a wealthy,
safe society that real obligation almost never arises.
I mean, we don't even have the draft, right? You got to pay your taxes and that's it.
We have outsourced, we have sort of subcontracted basically all of the tasks needed for survival to
specialists, to professionals. And that means that what we owe society is not clear, and there's a real loss there,
because it feels good to contribute to the welfare of the group. I mean, whether you're on a camping
trip with the Boy Scouts, or as an American national, or an immigrant to this country,
for that matter. My father was an immigrant. He was a refugee from two wars, and he came to this
country and contributed enormously, and was one of the most i think meaningful things he did in his life was contribute to this country in the ways that he
could so what can you do as a modern american where you're not needed right you can give blood
i'm alive because 10 people gave their blood they put 10 units in me i had 10 people's blood inside
me and that's why i survived and that my daughters will
have a father.
I've never given blood in my life.
I'm going to start.
I just never thought about it.
Not only are you doing something that's good, it reminds you that you're part of this thing
and that you need them and they need you.
And that awareness, that exchange between you and them, that's the human experience.
That's what life is. That's
the good stuff. And we live in a wealthy society where we don't need the good stuff isn't imposed
on us. And we think we're getting away with something. We're actually not. We're actually
losing something by not being part of that, not participating in the common good. Jury duty.
Some people do bad things. Some people are accused of doing bad things. They didn't do
anything. None of that will get sorted out unless you're sitting in the jury box, unless you take
your turn in that box. It's also, I've done it. It's also an incredible experience. I mean, it
really is. It's fascinating. It doesn't matter. It doesn't have to be a murder case. I mean,
whatever, like it could be almost anything, but it is, this is how society, it's society trying to be fair and it's a high calling jury duty. And finally, of course, vote.
If you don't vote, you are, um, you're basically saying, I don't care what happens to me
and I don't care what happens to anybody else. I just don't care about anything.
So vote. And I haven't voted in every election in my life either. I mean, I, you know, like
I'm learning as I go and these, these are the the things I aspire to. will enjoy all of them.
It will make you feel like, wow, I'm a free person.
I live in a free society.
That's incredible.
I'm so lucky.
You know, Sebastian, I really admire how expansive the range is in your writing and so much as you can go from the 30,000-foot historical multi-millennial view down to your
day-to-day experience on the last patrol and tie it together. Also, the incisiveness or incision,
I wish I were a writer or something, maybe I'd know which word it is, but but of how surgical you can be with your wording and observation.
I mean, this freedom from oppression does not equal freedom from obligation, right?
I mean, just that type of wordsmithing, I wrote it down for myself, is going to stick.
And it's just remarkable how much you're able to put without making it impenetrable, much the opposite, into, in this case, roughly 130, 135 pages.
I want to read one more, and this is just really for enjoyment.
Since we're talking about a lot of macro-level things, we're talking about a lot on the conceptual level.
But one paragraph, it's really a portion of a paragraph that I quite enjoyed was,
the fire embers still pulsed and the night air was soft and benevolent. And it felt like summer
waited for us a few days upriver. My dog lay on my ankles and the three other men shifted and
muttered next to me in their sleep. There may be better things than that, but not many. And hot
damn, did that make me want to just get out there on the fucking road and start walking? I got to
say, I think that will probably be a result of a lot of people reading this book. I have one more
question for you, but I think we're coming to a close on this conversation. Is there anything
that you would like to add? Any requests of my audience? any closing comments of any type that you would like to add before we start
to bring this round two to a close?
Yeah.
I mean,
just,
just to comment on the passage you read when we were out there,
we needed each other for small tasks,
collecting,
you know,
pumping water,
cooking dinner,
making a shelter,
finding shelter,
keeping an eye out for the cops. Cause we would have been arrested, you know, like, I water, cooking dinner, finding shelter, keeping an eye out for the cops because we would have been arrested. I mean, whatever, any number of things. We got shot at by somebody
shot at us in Pennsylvania. One time we walked 40 miles in 40 hours. We were dead on our feet.
We went through a lot and we were able to do it because we could count on each other.
So that feeling at the end of the day that you just read, that came, I was there with
my brothers and my dog.
And that feeling of contentedness came from the fact that I knew I could count on those
guys.
And they knew they could count on me.
And we had all needed all of us to be okay.
And it's easier to do that. It's more obvious.
It's clearer doing that in a small group. But at the end of the day,
330 million people are trying to do that in a country. And we all have to think that way.
If America doesn't have to survive, it could die. It could split up.
It could fragment.
It could implode.
There's no rule.
There's nothing written down saying this has to work.
It's going to work if we make it work.
And that means thinking about people in this country the way me and the other guys thought of each other on that trip.
It's a hard thing to do for 330 million people.
It's never been tried in history before, right?
But that doesn't mean it can't be done.
And I think each political, you know, there's a difficult political moment right now.
Let's just say it.
It's obvious.
Each side has to stop accusing the other side for a moment and look at its own flaws.
The idea that's popular in the right wing that you don't
have to wear a mask to protect your fellow Americans from disease, it's just silly.
It's just ridiculous and juvenile. On the other side, on the left, I grew up in a democratic
family, a liberal area, got lots of left-wing friends. If I suggest that national service,
mandatory national service might be a good idea for this country, not necessarily the military, you know, but there's a lot of ways to serve your country, you know, other than with a gun, that national service might be a good idea.
The people that flame me, they're not right-wing people, they're left-wing people.
They think they don't owe anything.
We all owe something.
And it's all of our duty as Americans and as human beings to figure out what we owe and what the most is that we can
give. And I'll tell you what, not only might that save the country, it'll save you.
Here, here. Well, Sebastian, I did say I had one more question, and this is going to veer back
into self-indulgent therapy session again. But I'm thinking, well, not I, my partner and I, my wonderful girlfriend and I are thinking about kids in the very near future.
And I can't help but have this nagging voice in the back of my head saying, you're not ready.
You don't know what you're doing. How could you possibly know what you're doing?
So there is some fear there for me. Since we last spoke, you have two new members of your family. Any advice, any thoughts
to a would-be but fearful new parent, possible parent?
Well, first of all, brother, do it. Just do it. I mean, seriously, just do it. And I'm thrilled
for you. And it's just the best thing there is. You know, maybe it's not the best thing at 20,
but eventually it's the best thing there is.
And you're not supposed to know how to do it.
You haven't done it yet.
But humans are adaptive and they're smart.
You know, like you'll figure it out.
I mean, it's not, we're animals.
Animals know how to take care of their young.
Instinctively they do, you know?
And there's a website called Evolutionary Parenting,
which looks at parenting from an evolutionary perspective and tries to put it into the
context of modern society super helpful but you know also i was talking about this with my wife
kids are you know sometimes they're just a freak show right i mean some of the emotions like they
don't cover their emotions very well so stuff comes out that's just, you know, the tantrums and this and that.
We're problem solvers, right?
So I'm like, how can I fix this?
My daughter's crying.
She's throwing stuff.
I've got to fix this.
You don't have to fix it.
Nothing lasts very long.
You just have to give them a safe, wise, compassionate environment until whatever feeling that is passes.
And I guarantee you, certainly within an hour,
but probably within a few minutes, it's over. So you ride it out, man, and you ride it out with
love, basically, and some instructive discipline when needed, but you'll know what's right.
Well, Sebastian, it's so enjoyable for me to spend time with you it's so nice to reconnect it really doesn't feel
that long ago that i was watching you type if i remember correctly hunting and pecking
with two fingers and i asked you do you write all the time like that and you're like yep
has that changed or is that still the same no no no i mean if you hit age 59 And you're like, yep. Has that changed? Or is that still the same? No, no, no, no. I mean, if you hit age 59 and you're still typing with two fingers,
you're probably going to talk that way.
And I'm so happy for you. You really sound good. And I am thrilled that you've put this small and
powerful tome out into the world, freedom.
I highly suggest people pick it up.
I just am consistently, and I've already said this, but I'll say it again,
just consistently so impressed, and I say this as someone
who could probably use 10 more editors on every one of my books
because they're phone books, for God's sake, how much you are able to pack into very slim
books without, at least in my mind, without sacrificing the essence or the details.
I really just don't know how you do it. It's tremendously impressive to me.
So I do impress upon people both the quality of the writing, but more so than that,
it's not just wordsmithing. It's really the power of the storytelling and the concepts and the history that you weave together. So people should check out Freedom. They can find you online, SebastianJunger.com, at Sebastian Junger on Twitter, Facebook, and then Instagram, at Sebastian Junger official. And thank you once again for taking the time.
I hope to break some bread in person at some point soon once we get to the light at the end of the tunnel here
with vaccination and so forth.
Thank you very much.
It was a real pleasure.
And good luck with your next adventure.
I hope it works.
And I look forward to hearing it.
Yeah, the next adventure.
If not for any other reason,
then I'm thoroughly exhausted by thinking about myself and would like to shift that focus.
So be nice to shift that lens. And to everybody listening for show notes on everything we've
discussed, links to everything we discussed, including Freedom, we will put those show notes
at Tim.blog forward slash podcast,
and they will all be easy to find.
And until next time, just remember, among many things,
freedom from oppression does not equal freedom from obligation.
Donate blood.
See what you can contribute back.
Society does give every one of us, each and every one of us, a whole lot.
And until next time, thanks for
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