The Tim Ferriss Show - #518: Q&A with Tim — Current Morning and Exercise Routines, Holotropic Breathwork, Ambition vs. Self-Compassion, Daily Practices for Joy, Ontological Shock, and More
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Hello, boys and girls, ladies and germs. This is Tim Ferriss. Welcome to another episode of
The Tim Ferriss Show, where it is usually my job to sit down with world-class performers of all
different types to tease out the habits, routines, favorite books, and so on that you can apply
and test in your own life, or lives, as the case might be. This time, we have a slightly different
format, and I am the guest. I tested a fan-supported model in 2019, as some of you know.
I ended up returning to ads by request. That's a very long story, and you can read more about it
at tim.blog slash podcast experiment. But this is all to say I still sit down occasionally with the
supporter group in a private Facebook group for Q&As and fun conversations, things like that, just for the hell of it. And we did a live Q&A on YouTube recently. I answered their questions on my
current morning and exercise routines, holotropic breathwork, ambition versus self-compassion,
diet, and everything from ontological shock to what is currently bringing me a lot of joy,
how to cultivate not caring what other people think, and much more. With all of that said, we cover a lot of topics, so I hope you enjoy this as much
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can check out c4 foundation and we're going to do a q a as promised and the the Q&A will alternate from live stream, which means the chat box where
everyone is chatting at the moment. You'll be able to submit questions. And why don't we start with
perhaps a few of the questions that were pre-submitted. So I have a list of questions
that were submitted, and I will do my best to take a stab at those questions. And we'll just
go back and forth until I run out of time. That's about it. So let's jump into it. We see people
from all over the world here, from many different countries, Scotland, from the Netherlands,
any other people here from outside the US, CMDX, I wish I knew what that was.
I don't know what that is. So perhaps somebody can tell me. Devon, England, Montana, Vancouver,
Ireland, London, Canada, SoCal, Berlin, Montreal. Great. Germany, Ireland, all over. So let us just jump into this Q&A. And I'll say this
one more time that we have questions that were submitted in advance. We also have live chat,
and I'll alternate going back and forth between the two. Hopefully we'll have some fun. And I
will do my best not to provide completely idiotic answers. I can't give any guarantees on the questions though,
although I think most of these questions are quite strong. So let's just go to a couple of softball
pitches and then I will jump into the live stream. Number one, this is from Sarah, S-E-R-A. Hey Tim,
what's a 2021 updated version of your morning routine? It is actually quite consistent,
I think, with past morning routine. The basics are 20 minutes of meditation first thing in the
morning. That's generally going to be some form of transcendental meditation. Then brushing teeth,
doing the basics of self-care, and getting downstairs to have pu-erh tea, usually peak, P-I-Q-U-E, pu-erh tea, and I'll alternate black
and green or coffee of some type. And as long-term listeners will know, I am a huge fan of both
Four Sigmatic mushroom coffee and Laird's superfood creamer. I had both this morning, in fact. From that point on, it really depends on
the day. So I organize my week in a thematic approach, meaning rather than taking the five
types of activities that I need or want to cover each week and spreading them throughout each day,
I tend to have a day dedicated to different types of work. So Tuesday will involve
lots and lots of phone calls, or at least that's when I'll batch my phone calls with my team and
with other people. So very frequently, I will not do any type of journaling on that day, but start
walking and talking. So I'll get a lot of my sun exposure on Tuesdays and so on and so forth. So it really depends on the day.
There could be writing following the caffeination.
There could be exercise.
So twice a week.
I'll get into this next.
I do some form of acrobatic or inversion training in the form of typically acroyoga.
And that leads to the next question from Mark Chavez. What is your current exercise
routine and what cool exercise equipment or gadgets are you using? So my weekly routine
right now was really, I suppose, first forged in quarantine. So during quarantine, began doing
acroyoga twice a week via Zoom with someone named Jason Niemer
as the instructor.
And practicing with my girlfriend provided us both with physical contact, additional
physical contact and play, several hours of additional contact and play per week, but
also gave us a fantastic way to move because there are forms of exercise that really don't
entail a lot of
movement through space. Acro yoga happens to include all the elements, both acrobatic and
therapeutic. So we would do say 45 to 60 minutes of inversion practice, which would include forearm
stands, handstands, and so on. And there are many different training tools to use for that.
Then do what is known as L-basing, where I'm on my back holding my girlfriend in the air with my feet and hands, and we have different roles and
responsibilities in that dynamic. And then doing some version of Thai massage, often with traction,
towards the end of that workout. And it's the combination of the sort of sympathetic activation
and parasympathetic off-ramp that I think leads to a great sense of
well-being physically and emotionally for the rest of the day. So twice a week, let's just call it
Tuesday. Thursdays, I would have acro in the morning. That would be right after the puer tea
or coffee. Then twice a week, currently, and this is post-COVID, climbing. So I do bouldering and also top roping. I haven't
done my lead climbing cert yet, so I'm not lead climbing, and have really been enjoying doing that.
And the two combine very well. Acro is really very much pushing-based, so you're going to be
pushing away or stabilizing with a pushing movement of some type with both your arms and your legs.
Of course, in rock climbing, you do have pushing in the legs, but it is largely pulling otherwise. And so I find
that that tends to balance out the, say, antagonistic muscle groups so that you don't
develop, if you approach it in a moderate way, which I am, you don't develop the repetitive stress, pain, and injuries that have plagued me
for most of my life by the virtue of overdoing things, or I should say the vice of overdoing
things. So even though my body might be able to handle climbing three or four times a week,
I am limiting myself to twice a week. And that has been fantastic. It has meant that despite the fact
I had complete shoulder reconstruction on my left shoulder in the early 2000s and elbow surgery on my right elbow, more recently,
I have been able to train without extended pain. Of course, little nicks and bruises and so on.
So we have climbing twice a week, we have acro twice a week, and then we have weight training,
typically of some type, one to two times per week. This is nothing fancy. It's something along the lines of say an Occam's protocol in the four hour body
or kettlebell swings. It's very basic. It's generally going to be 20 to 40 minutes. And
it is for the purpose of injury prevention, first and foremost, not performance enhancement.
And last but not least walking. I walk a fair amount on Tuesdays during
calls. I would say I walk for three to five hours minimum and do my best, certainly when I have
access to trails and so on, to walk for a minimum of an hour per day. And I find that walking is not just physically therapeutic, but psycho-emotionally incredibly
therapeutic. So that is what the exercise routine looks like. So we checked off two of those. Let's
try a few questions from the live stream. So we'll look at a couple of questions from the live stream
here. Edgar Inoue, I think is how we pronounce that question. What is your process
to determine if you're going the right direction? Sometimes we might get lost in trying to accomplish
things instead of thinking about what is worth working for. Really, this is an energetic canary
in the coal mine for me in the sense that if you find yourself low energy, which is very often accompanied by depressive or pessimistic thoughts,
then I will do a number of things, including 80-20 analysis. And some form of dreamlining
is outlined in the 4-Hour Workweek. But I will very frequently take the 80-20 analysis and apply it in two columns. And those are the,
say, 20% of people and activities that are producing 80% or more of my peak positive
emotional states, and then on the other side, peak negative emotional states, or negative adds and negative subtractions. And I will look at that. But really,
it's just using a simple rubric like, how quickly do you fall asleep? And how do you feel when you
first wake up? When you first wake up, is there a feeling of dread of, oh, fuck, I have to slog
through another day of not really knowing where I'm going? Or is it a different feeling? So for me, as Jodie Foster once said, I believe it could be
misattribution, but in the end, winning is sleeping well, something along those lines.
So it's really, how do you feel right before you go to bed or when you go to bed? And how do you
feel right when you wake up? And if something is off, I believe you know it. It doesn't need to be
put into a spreadsheet and analyzed. And then the question is figuring out where to focus. And to that point,
I am actually going to hop to another question here in front of me, which might be related on
some level. This is a question from Steve Schwab, and this might seem like a hard left
turn, but I don't think it is. So Steve Schwab's question is, I have constant thoughts about the
meaning or meaninglessness of life and discomfort with death. Therefore, I distract myself with
work. Do you have any recommendations on managing these thoughts? And I wanted to bring this up
because let's say you are having the experience of a malaise.
You are having trouble falling asleep or you have a certain level of anxiety about the unknown
or you wake up and feel that you are without direction.
I think those feelings are often combined with these difficulties or challenges that Steve is outlining.
So do I have any recommendations on managing these thoughts? I'm not going to start with an
answer to that. I'll start by saying that for the last several months, I have had constant thoughts
about the meaninglessness of life and quite a bit of discomfort or angst around death. So what am I
doing? So in this case, I'm not going to provide
an answer necessarily, because I also think that's a very personal thing. But I'll tell you how I am
looking to reboot the system and hopefully navigate that. Number one is I'm going to
reread Viktor Frankl's book, Man's Search for Meaning, which I've been meaning to reread for
a very long time. I also have a book a friend recommended called Smile at Fear. I can't vouch for it yet because I haven't read it. The author,
I'm going to butcher this name, Chogyam Trungpa, that's C-H-O-G-Y-A-M-T-R-U-N-G-P-A,
but Smile at Fear, the title, should find you the book. And I'm also going to read biographies of people who found meaning. And really, I don't
know how much of it is finding meaning versus choosing meaning. And I don't think there is
any inherent single objective meaning of life that should guide your steps and decisions. It seems to me that it is a personal decision
of sorts. Perhaps that is with a vocation. Perhaps you feel called to something. Perhaps
you pursue something. But I'm looking for models of people who have done that.
And so I think biographies will also hold an important position in my trying to navigate this particular period in my life. So there you have
my answer in a way to both of those. All right, so let me scroll down, see what other questions
we have in the live stream. Andrew Robinson, if you were asked to give a commencement speech,
what would be the core message? The core message would be you are the average of the five people
you spend the most time with, so pick them very carefully and prune very carefully over time because some friends are for a night, some for
a season, and some for life. And all are welcome. There is a place and a time and there are certainly
many benefits and enjoyments to be had for all, but those categories can change and not everyone is forever.
All right, two additional questions in the stream. This is from Johnny Miller. Are any of the MAPS or
Johns Hopkins studies that you're aware of looking at the therapeutic effect of holotropic breathwork?
What do you view as the potential and opportunities for breathwork. So for those who are not familiar, maps.org is a nonprofit that is the driving force behind the phase three studies for MDMA-assisted
psychotherapy for PTSD. And this very often involves veterans, victims of sexual abuse,
etc. MDMA has been shown to have tremendous promise. There was a huge cover story that is the cover of the
New York Times print edition discussing MAPS and Rick Doblin's work and so on in this area.
And Johns Hopkins, at least in this particular reference, is looking at psilocybin, which is
the psychoactive or one of the psychoactive compounds found in slossaby mushrooms or magic mushrooms for treating things like nicotine addiction, end of life,
existential distress in cancer patients, et cetera. So I'm not aware of any studies being
sponsored by MAPS or being conducted at Johns Hopkins that incorporate holotropic breathwork
specifically. But I think there is tremendous, certainly, and this is not a discovery of mine or anything novel from me, there are,
I believe, very interesting applications of breathwork, both to therapy and somatic awareness,
somatic release. That would be true in something like Hakomi therapy, H-A-K-O-M-I, which I think
is a fantastic adjunct to any type of psychedelic assisted therapy. It can also be used, and
certainly this is true in holotropic breathwork, which is so named because the tropic portion
refers to turning towards holo, wholeness, turning towards wholeness, right? So you would have
heliotropic flowers, for instance, that turn towards the sun. Holotropic would be turning
towards wholeness. And it was created much like the drumming of Michael Harner. This would be a
separate example. Holotropic breathwork was created by Stan Grof, who was and is a psychiatrist or psychotherapist
originally from the Czech Republic, who was looking for an alternative to psychedelic
compounds after they were legalized during the Nixon administration.
And you can use intense breathwork, such as holotropic breathwork, to experience non-ordinary
states of consciousness, what some
might call altered states of consciousness, without drugs. And there is value in this,
certainly. And my recommendation to anyone who approaches me and asks about psychedelics is
often, unless it's contraindicated for them, and there are some contraindications,
that they experience something like holotropic breathwork first, because A, it's legal, and B, it does not involve any drugs, which can provoke a
lot of anxiety in many people. So I view that as a precursor, or a prerequisite almost, to engaging
in any type of psychedelic therapy. But I'm not aware of any studies. I do believe that Jamie Wheel, W-H-E-A-L, is involved or may be involved in some
studies related to holotropic breathwork. And that is not the only breathwork that can be used
for all of the purposes that I have been describing. There are many others. All right,
let's jump to another question in the stream. And thanks for joining everybody.
This is fun.
I enjoy this.
Just see a note from Gon Chin.
Careful with pseudo shamans though.
Yes, be careful with pseudo shamans.
And renta shamans or yoga waska practitioners.
If anyone calls themselves a shaman,
in fact, I would say generally that is a red flag and you should probably steer clear of them because the well-trained indigenous practitioners or those
who've spent decades working in specific lineages, in my experience, without exception, do not call
themselves shamans. They have a particular term usually pulled from one of the native languages like Quechua or
Spanish or fill in the blank to describe what they do. So if someone runs up to you with a voucher
for discounted shamanic experiences, run the other direction. Question from Reese Zanino.
In a recent podcast, you talked about joint pain. Have you tried fish oil, moxa sticks,
or acupuncture? What has been the most effective tool for you?
I've tried all these things. Moxa I found interesting. Moxa or moxa bustion,
moxa sticks, using radiant heat at the joint above the skin. So you're taking a burning stick
and holding it near the skin, definitely not on the skin. What I have found most helpful for certain types of joint
issues like elbow pain, for instance, from climbing is a modulating volume. So there is a dose that
will make the exercise a poison, right? As Paracelsus would say. So if you exercise too much,
you are going to suffer the consequences. And so one is really just finding a
cadence of exercise that works, where you can still adapt and get stronger without causing
chronic tendinosis, etc. That's number one. Number two is working the muscles that act in opposition.
So if you're climbing and doing a lot of pulling, for instance, you're going to be working the
flexors of the forearm tremendously. So you'd want to do some complementary exercises with the extensors. And you can use any number
of devices for that. You could use also a bucket of rice. There are many exercises that rock climbers
use involving a large bucket of rice, which I found helpful. Voodoo floss created by my friend Kelly Starrett, I found tremendously
helpful also to use after climbing for the arms specifically, although it can be used for many
different parts of the body. So people can look up voodoo floss, I'm sure on YouTube to find videos
of Kelly demonstrating how this can be used. And otherwise contrast therapy, hot-cold. So I have a hot tub. I also have a sauna.
You could certainly just use a hot bath.
If you're fortunate enough to have two baths,
you could have one hot and then one full of ice
and at an extremely cold temperature.
So I have a chest freezer
that I have converted into a cold plunge.
Be sure to unplug the freezer so that you don't
electrocute yourself. And based on some recommendations from Kyle Kingsbury, modified
meaning really just caulking to fully waterproof the freezer to make it a cold plunge. So I will go
hot, cold, hot, cold, hot, cold. Usually let's just call it three minutes in each. And this is well
documented for recovery effects. And then nutrition. So those are a few of the things,
a few of the levers that I have pulled most recently, at least to address or rather prevent
elbow pain. And this also applies to my shoulder. And last but not least, I would say technique before volume.
So in the case of rock climbing, I do foresee a point where I will be able to train three
or four or more times per week.
Right now, my technique is so inefficient and my joints, or more accurately, my tendons
and ligaments have not strengthened at the same pace as my musculature.
So I'm being very, very cautious, but there will be a point. And I hope to climb for many decades
where I'll be able to add volume to that. All right. So I get this question a lot.
Do you know of any psychedelic retreats that I can recommend? I can't do that, of course, because
as much as I wish I could, immediately whatever I recommend
would suffer, as one listener called it, the hug of death. And they would get more applications
than they could accept. They would attempt to increase capacity, and then quality and customer
service would go through the floor, and it would be a complete disaster for everyone involved.
So, Frank Chen, who or what has consistently brought you joy in the past six
months, one year, three years, five years? Well, I would say we're talking about who, you know,
my girlfriend's the first who comes to mind. And then of course we have Molly pup, my companion,
my second girlfriend. And then that's one in the same. It's a joke, folks. I'm saying Molly is
my other girlfriend. And then best friends, etc. So that's kind of self-evident, I suppose. But
the what has consistently brought me joy in the past six months, one year. Consistent joy period
in the last year during COVID, I have found to be tremendously challenging. But I would say two things come to mind, and that
is extended time in nature, where I do not hear the noise of mankind. And I say that right now
because I'm sitting in a house where we have construction on almost every side, and it is
driving me cuckoo bananas. Extended time in nature, that involves also rucking. So taking a weighted
backpack, I use GoRuck for training purposes and just going for long hikes in old growth forests,
if at all possible. Of course, nature anywhere, I think, is very medicinal. But tall trees,
big canopy is particularly calming for my system. The Japanese might call it tree bathing.
And then also learning more about the plants and animals so that you can click the dial a few
notches on the resolution of what you see. Because of course, until you have labels for things,
until you have names for things, it is very difficult to distinguish them from the background
of, say, your visual experience. That's why children need to learn infants and toddlers
and so on labels so that they can distinguish between chair, table, wall, and so on, so that
they aren't just patterns of light and color and shadow that are somehow, I suppose, indistinguishable.
And to do that, you need names, you need labels. So I've taken walks with field biologists.
I have taken walks with biologists of several different types just through common public trails
to learn to be able to identify different trees. That's where I started because at least
on the East Coast where I first did this, the biologist said to me, look, we could try
to learn flowers and there are going to be hundreds of different wildflowers and you're
going to have tremendous trouble separating one from the next. And it could be very frustrating,
or I could teach you eight trees and you'll be able to identify 90% of the trees that you see here. And I found that to be
good advice. So those are two things. Time and nature, often moving, not just sitting still,
but that's personal preference. And then learning the plants and animals, the flora and fauna of that given area. Daniel Viba, I'm not sure if that's
how you pronounce it, but that's how I would read it. Any plans for different projects over the next
two to three years? I think there is a decent chance that I will finally write, or rather
finish, because I'm actually pretty far through it, the screenplay for the four-hour workweek, which would be kind of a best-in-show Zoolander comedy of sorts, but it would all be based on true events. And there would be a lot of philosophy and a lot of, I think, practical takeaways along the lines of something like Fight Club. So that's kind of my pet project in the back of my
mind that I have not yet finished and I really should finish. So I envision that probably being
a major project for me, or at least a project. I don't want to make it bigger than it needs to be.
Project for me in the next two to three years. I would like to do more in the visual medium.
All right, here's a recommendation from Josh or Joshua Armstrong.
Also check out Viktor Frankl's Yes to Life. It's a compilation of lectures he gave before
publishing Man's Search for Meaning, and I found it to be more actionable as direct advice. That is
great advice, Joshua, so thank you. I will check that out because I am all for actionable at the moment. Although the conceptual stuff
ultimately can soak in and help with your view of the world that then informs other decisions, but
I will check out that collection of, I guess, transcribed lectures, basically.
There's a question here. Any research on the effects, just to revisit this because
it's come up from a few people, any research on the effects of psychedelics combined with
breathwork, increased synergistic effect? I suspect that it depends on the compound,
but absolutely it is very common that breathwork administered to people on psychedelics,
and there are different versions of this. One is referred to as power breathing, has a multiplicative effect on the dose. So for instance, if we consider a
normal hit of LSD to be 100 micrograms, if you were to give someone 50 micrograms and then have
them do the equivalent of Wim Hof or holotropic breathwork from, say, after the point of administration, minutes 30 to
60, my expectation would be that many people would subjectively feel it as if it were between 100
micrograms and 200 micrograms. So that is worth being aware of. Let's look at some other questions. And of course, I'm not recommending that anyone use any illegal compounds.
So I am not a doctor.
I don't play one on the internet, nor am I your lawyer.
So everything we're discussing here is for informational purposes only.
Okay, there's a question from Debbie, Debbie Wheel or vile. I'm 69 married and have six
grandchildren. Definitely not in your target demographic, but still a big fan. Thank you,
Debbie. I appreciate that. I don't think I have a target demo. So maybe that makes everyone my
target demo. So I appreciate you being a fan question. Why are you still hesitating about
having children? I'm not hesitating about having kids, actually. I hesitated for a long time because A, I wasn't convinced that I would be a good father. And
I needed to have some conviction around that before even contemplating having kids because
I think it is inherently a selfish choice or self-interested choice. You're having kids
because you want to have kids. As far as we know, they are not choosing to have you as a parent. So I really wanted to do
a lot of self-work and go through quite a lot of therapy, many different types of therapy for
childhood trauma, et cetera, before even considering that as an option. It just,
it seemed like the only ethical way to approach it.
And secondly, some of my hesitation has been around my genetic predisposition,
and it is a genetic predisposition,
I've seen this in my family, certainly,
to depressive episodes,
and whether or not I want to pass along genetic code
that could predispose someone who didn't ask for it to experience depressive
episodes on a regular basis. But at this point, for many reasons, I am in the process of seeing
fertility docs and going through the pre-flight checklist, so to speak, to ensure that all systems
are go and then I think we're off to the races. So TBD on outcomes,
but that is the current plan. So I am no longer hesitating in my mind.
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This is actually excellent advice. So anyone who is listening to this, I would strongly suggest
that you watch a documentary called Kumare. I don't want to ruin it. So just watch the trailer,
K-U-M-A-R-E. And if you want to train yourself to look on the
bright side, if you want to have a degree of optimism while simultaneously learning to defend
yourself more effectively against charlatans, this is a great documentary. It is a real fun watch,
and it is also one hell of a nail-er. I'll leave it at that. Bogdan Bulgarian,
if that is your, oh no, Bogdan the Bulgarian. What a great name. So Bogdan, I may abridge your
question a little bit, but I think it's a good one and it's one that I get a fair amount or I've
seen a fair amount. Here it is. You've mentioned that you believe your hard charging, beat yourself
up attitude actually held you back rather than helped you get ahead.
Can you explain more about why you think that's the case?
It seems a lot of successful people
spend their 20s and 30s grinding super hard
to get to where they are.
And it's only once they've achieved success
that they take the point of view,
I shouldn't have been so hard on myself.
Do you think that you would have overcome
all the obstacles you had
if you had been more self-compassionate
even in your 20s and 30s?
So this is a great question. And on one level, it's impossible to answer.
So I can't run a Monte Carlo simulation on my life and say, if I had behaved in these different ways, reviewed myself in these other ways, that the outcomes would have been the same,
or I would have reached the same degree of financial success. But I do think that the word successful is worth
underlining here. And that is why I said financial success, and I modified it in that way.
Here's what I can say, is that a lot of people who compulsively focus on professional achievement have demons whipping them in their back.
And that there are exceptions, certainly, but many of the people who achieve outsized
financial success, success in any measurable way that can be socially reinforced
and appreciated and lauded on magazine covers and so on have superpowers and equally
super deficits and that many of them after making millions of dollars or billions of dollars
remain quite tortured and unhappy.
So I just want to say that as a preface.
That word successful is very dangerous.
So I would encourage everybody,
when you use that word successful,
at the very least to throw a modifier in front of it,
like financially successful,
or even better, financially independent, or post-economic, or whatever the concept is
that you're seeking to describe. To this point, I can't speak for my experience because I've only had the life that
I've had, but there are also counterexamples. So whenever someone says, I can't do or I couldn't
have done X because I am Y, or I had to do X, or I have to do X because I am Y. One of the first
questions that I always have or that comes to mind is, are there any counterexamples?
And I could say, for instance, and the phrasing will change, but people are financially successful because they have a beat-yourself-up
attitude in their 20s and 30s that leads them to grind super hard.
Question, are there counterexamples? And there are. I actually have quite a few friends who
did not self-flagellate, to my knowledge, and were not malicious to themselves, did not constantly focus
on their flaws, who have had outsized financial success. So is it necessary? No, I don't think so.
Is it common? Yes. So then the question is, should you risk it? If you're in your 20s and 30s, should you risk being self-compassionate? And what I would say is I see very little downside.
So if you are someone who is even asking this question, you are probably not being
self-compassionate, if that makes any sense. So you already have some edge of beat yourself up
attitude, if you're even asking this question. And if I look at what I have achieved just by
adding a little bit of softness, a little bit of slowness, a little bit of spaciousness to my life
through, say, meditation, 20 minutes in the morning, that's it. Forget about self-compassion.
That just gets too squishy for a lot of hard-driving, kind of McKinsey, Ibanker, aspiring folks who just want to conquer the world. So let's not use self-compassion. But what about
meditating 20 minutes in the morning? This will help you to become more self-aware. Let's start
there. Forget about compassion. If you have the ability to pause even
for a few seconds before reflexively responding, say in anger or in anything, if you have the
ability to be more self-aware so that you can regulate more effectively, will that make you
more effective or will that make you less effective? I. Will that make you more effective
or will that make you less effective?
I think it'll make you more effective.
These things will naturally lead,
I think, to some degree of self-compassion.
So if we deconstruct it that way,
I would have to say,
A, I have yet to find someone
who has cultivated any of these behaviors
who has said, I've lost my edge.
I lost my drive completely. I can't achieve anything anymore. And I really regret it. I've
never met anyone who has said that. This is also true for people in their 20s and 30s.
The second thing I would say is that when you take the edge off a little bit, because
this is also a concern in therapy.
People don't want to go to therapy because they're afraid they'll lose their edge.
This is very true for people like comedians or entertainers oftentimes, or they don't
want to meditate.
They don't want to journal because they might lose their edge, whatever that is.
And in my experience, you don't lose your edge. You become more aware of the psychological
clothing you put on, the stories that you tell yourself, et cetera, that produce that edge,
if that makes any sense. So you become aware of the recipe that you use for the edge. And you could view that like a, the analogy that I've used with one person
is it's like a jacket that you take off and you put in your closet. You still have that jacket.
If you need that edge, you know where to find it and you can put it back on and you can get out
and you know, you can scorch the earth or you can conquer the world, whatever it happens to be.
If somebody, for instance, like I found a stalker came out of the woodwork and really
bothered me and there was a risk that they were going to be a threat to someone in my
family.
So I went into my wardrobe and I took out my killer cloak and I put it on and I quadrupled
my edge and I was able to solve the problem.
Needless to say.
And then I can take off that cloak and put it back in my wardrobe and not wear it 24-7.
There's a time and a place for it.
But it's like a smoking jacket.
That's the analogy I used with this friend.
I said, smoking jacket's cool.
Great.
But you wear it when you're smoking in a lounge.
It's a very specific use case. You don but you wear it when you're smoking in a lounge. It's a very specific
use case. You don't fucking wear it to Starbucks. You don't walk around all day in your office
wearing a smoking jacket. You'd be a weirdo and it's just not necessary. So that's a very,
very long answer to your question, but hopefully that is helpful in some capacity. And here's the
other thing. It's not all or nothing. It's like when female friends of mine say, if I lift weights,
I'll get really bulky, won't I? And I say, that's not going to happen
overnight. You're not just going to turn into some show pony with like quadzillas in 48 hours.
So train, do some resistance training, and it's going to be incremental. And if you don't like it,
stop. You're not going to become a Buddhist master monk overnight if you
start meditating or considering some of these topics by reading books like Radical Acceptance
or Awareness by Anthony DeMello, for instance. There you are, Bogdan. Hopefully that is helpful.
Okay, question from John, and then we're going to jump back into the live stream.
John says, you've covered an experiment with a number of different
eating approaches, time-restricted eating, fasting, 30 grams of protein in the morning,
slow carb, keto, et cetera. What's your current eating plan or schedule look like?
I'm back to slow carb. I've tried so many things. And the slow carb diet, generally speaking,
is going to be my preferred method of eating. And I'm not doing much time
restricted eating. I think that there are, I am sure, benefits. I am sure because they're
documented. There are benefits to time restricted eating. But right now I'm trying to add muscle
mass and strength with a lot of the training that I'm doing. So I am not using time restricted
eating. And there are people who will say you can use
time-restricted eating or intermittent fasting to enhance anabolism. I just find it easier
to follow a normal, more or less three-meal-per-day, slow-carb diet in pursuing that.
And then from a fasting perspective, I still try to do and aim to do, say, a three-day fast, meaning a 72-hour water fast once per month,
and then at least a single one-week fast per year. That is my current regimen.
And if you have not fasted before, please do so under medical supervision. Speak to your
general practitioner beforehand, please, because not
everyone tolerates fasting terribly well. And you can listen to my podcasts with Dr. Dominic
D'Agostino, D-A-G-O-S-T-I-N-O, for all the detail in the world you could possibly want on fasting.
He is one of the country's top experts. All right, that is John. And let's jump into the
live questions here. All right, here's a question from Daniel. Any particular thinkers or writers
you've found very helpful regarding child rearing and preparation for fatherhood?
Obviously, the general work with acceptance, self-love, etc., but on rearing children.
So Daniel, honestly, I have not begun to read
those books because once I let that genie out of the bottle, I'm going to read a hundred of them.
My general feeling is spending time with my friends who I consider to be excellent parents
and excellent partners, and I do look for them to check both boxes is the best preparation that I can do
in addition to all the self-work that you mentioned.
I think that if you try to make yourself
the most compassionate, aware person possible,
obviously with boundaries,
I think I will be a strict parent on a lot of levels,
and you trust your biology.
We have been giving birth and raising children successfully for a very, very long time, well before What to Expect When You're Expecting
came out, even though I hear that's a very good book. So I'm not overly anxious or insecure
about parenting, because I do think that a lot of switches will be flipped
as soon as really we get into the process of getting pregnant, giving birth, and so on.
But I'll keep you posted. Recommendation to Daniel. Might not be exactly what you're looking
for. This is from another commenter, but the book by Gabor Mate, Scattered Minds,
touches a lot of important topics on importance of early development. All right, let's jump back to
the questions I have here in front of me. Here's one from Max. Max asks, do you have any advice
for dealing with ontological shock like that of the realization of your childhood abuse?
A sudden and dramatic need to rewrite the existing narratives of your life and identity.
I'm struggling with this. So thanks for the question, Max. I want to take a close look
at this phrase, ontological shock. I first heard this phrase from Roland Griffiths at Johns Hopkins
with reference to what some people, some patients can experience
after their first mystical experience on higher doses of something like psilocybin.
So what is ontology? Ontology now, the branch of metaphysics dealing with the nature of being.
Two, a set of concepts and categories in a subject area domain that shows their properties
and relations between them. It's really sort of a nature of being, a nature of knowing. This is
how I think about this. The ontological shock that someone can experience in a psychedelic
session would include being unable to reconcile new experiences of reality or new experiences of non-ordinary states of consciousness that
seem hyper real. How do you take this experience and then reconcile it with your normal, ordinary
way of being in the world? Turns out that it can be extremely difficult and very jarring for people. It can take,
in some instances, weeks or months or years to readjust if you don't have help. This is not
something that happens all the time, but it is something that happens with some frequency.
Then you have, we could call it ontological shock, say, of the realization or the surfacing of memories related to childhood abuse or any
type of abuse or trauma for that matter. I have found a number of tools very helpful for this.
I do find IFS, Internal Family Systems, to be very helpful, created by Dick Schwartz. I did a podcast episode with Dick Schwartz where we actually did a live session of IFS to really demonstrate and showcase the characteristics of that method.
And there are IFS therapists around the world.
So I would suggest taking a look at that podcast to see if it's something that might be of interest.
The next that comes to mind, and this applies in many arenas, is the work by Byron
Cady. And it's really a series of questions, a form of self-inquiry that allows you to
interrogate your thoughts or examine and cross-examine your thoughts or beliefs. Beliefs
being thoughts we take as true.
So the work by Byron Katie you can find online and many worksheets and so on can be found for free
on her website. And the last book I'll mention quickly here, actually there are two. One I
already mentioned, Radical Acceptance by Tara Brock, B-R-A-C-H. She's also been a guest on the podcast because almost all of my guests on the podcast have
some connection to my life, meaning I invite them on the podcast because of a personal
curiosity or a personal challenge or a personal goal.
So Tara Brock has been on my podcast that could serve as a teaser if you want to consider
Radical Acceptance, which is a fantastic, fantastic book.
The last book that I'll mention in this particular answer is one by Bruce Tift, T-I-F-T.
The book is Already Free.
And the title is worth saying twice, Already Free.
Subtitle, Buddhism Meets Psychotherapy
on the Path to Liberation. And I found this book to be akin, after reading, say, the first 50 to
75 pages, to taking off a hundred-pound backpack you didn't even realize you'd been carrying. And I think that in combination with radical acceptance
really offers a synergistic one-two punch that could help a lot with many different types of
ontological shock. So I will leave it at that. And I wish you good luck. It's a difficult experience
and that doesn't mean it is a valueless experience.
And sometimes we experience breakdowns so that we can experience breakthroughs.
I know that sounds very cliched,
but certainly I've come to believe that
in my own personal experience.
All right, I'm looking at some additional questions now
here in the live stream.
Chloe Carroll, have you finished reading Overstory yet? Yes,
I finished reading The Overstory, which for those who don't know is a Pulitzer Prize winning
novel. It is incredibly good. It is incredibly long. You need to give it time to tie the
different threads together. I thought it was a beautiful book. It has certainly increased my
interest in trees, botany, plants,
which one might expect. I recommend it to everyone. It contains a lot of beauty and a lot of brutality.
And for anyone who's read it, that'll make sense. And I think there's a tendency to shield ourselves
from brutality, which makes a lot of sense in part because it's easy to succumb
to what someone on my team called doom scrolling, particularly during COVID when every news headline,
every article seems optimized to cause a panic response or a rage response. And that is, I think, a form of unfiltered, unselected brutality that is to be
avoided, right? That would be stress in the form of distress. Then you have stress in the form of
the opposite, which is eustress, EU, like euphoria. So positive stress, weightlifting would be an example of this. The rock climbing
that I'm doing would be an example of this. These are stressors or sunlight leading to a suntan that
you want, stressors that produce an adaptation. And I think selecting painful truths or certain
types of brutality and becoming familiar with them, particularly if there
is the combination with beauty, as you would find in the overstory, it allows you to inoculate
yourself a bit. And what I mean by that is if you constantly shield yourself from the difficult,
from what you perceive to be the negative. When you are, for factors well
outside of your control, forced to encounter the negative, the difficult, the destructive,
you may find that you are more fragile. You may find that you are increasingly having trouble withstanding the onslaught if you have not trained yourself in
some fashion with the combination, which you can find, of beauty and brutality. Perhaps that's a
strange way to put it, but I do believe there's something to that. Ricky asked me,
are you sure you're not drunk? I'm 100% sure I'm not drunk. I also recorded a very long, very fun podcast just a few hours ago. So I've already
been talking for, say, three hours today. So I think there's something to that. Everyone who's
listening should try talking for six hours and then seeing how their speech evolves or devolves over the day.
Somebody asked when this ends.
Not sure.
I mean, we've gone for an hour.
I'll probably go for a little bit longer,
especially since apparently my brain function is faltering.
But I will probably go for another 20 to 30 minutes.
Eh, let's call it 15 to 30 minutes.
Here's a question.
What am I laughing at the most these days?
Someone also asked about evening routines.
And in the evening, very often my catch-up time
with my girlfriend is dinners.
We do have date nights twice a week.
And I think it's very important to block those
out. Otherwise, life will just crowd out that time with people you care about. So we have date nights
twice a week. One is tonight, so I will be certainly not staying on for hours in that case.
And then we have hot tub or sauna, which is just a great way to physically let go. And then we will very often watch a short TV show of some type. Right now that's Schitt's Creek. That's S-C-H-I-T-T apostrophe S Creek, which is absolutely hilarious. The episodes are extremely short.
We are about, I want to say three quarters of the way through season two and it's outstanding.
It is really well done and the characters are all uniquely hilarious and it's easy. It's very easy. So I would say that is one example of where I am
laughing the most these days. Here's a question from Robert Metcalf. When you get into an
unproductive thought or emotional loop, are there any particular practices, quotes, reminders that
you return to for grounding and clear thinking? I'll be the first to confess that I get into
unproductive thought or emotional loops all the fucking time. I don't know if that makes anybody
feel any better. This is an ongoing challenge, and so it goes. That's okay. Particular practices,
quotes, reminders. Practice. Number one would be morning pages. As described by Julia Cameron, there is a
morning pages workbook that I use. It is literally on my kitchen table right now. And you can learn
all about that just by searching my name, Tim Ferriss, and morning pages. And I wrote an entire
blog post on how I approached that. So I won't rehash it here, but that is definitely one of my go-to practices.
Quotes, I have a piece of wood that has a quote laser etched into it.
It's not so much a quote as a proverb.
It's a Polish proverb, and it's very simple.
Not my circus, not my monkeys.
Now, why would I use that?
Very often because my unproductive thought
or emotional loop is triggered by some bullshit that gets foisted upon me like a hot potato.
And I would say in combination with not my circus, not my monkeys, the expression,
your lack of preparation does not constitute my emergency, which was said to me once way
back in the day when I was getting started because I was trying to rush someone to do
something.
And it is simply a reminder that if you allow everyone else's to-do list to become your
to-do list, you will have a life replete of emergencies.
And that just produces a daily experience and a life of cortisol,
which I don't think any of us want. Now, granted, you need cortisol. If you didn't have it,
you would die. But you don't want to have a life that is dominated by stress hormones.
So those are a few. And then last but not least, and I know I've mentioned this already in this
episode, and the fact that I mentioned this already in this episode,
and the fact that I will mention it again should tell you that I view it as valuable,
the book Awareness by Anthony DeMello. It is a constant source of nourishment with incredible after effects. I find myself really to be at peace for two to three weeks after reading Awareness with Fresh Eyes. And I always
find a new nuance or a new takeaway from this book, even though I've read it probably 12 times
at this point, something along 10 to 12 times, I would say minimum. I have an entire shelf in my
guest bedroom at home that is full of copies of Awareness to give to friends
who come to visit. That is how strongly I feel about the benefits. Comment from Justin Stewart,
Ted Lasso is a good one too. I polled my followers on Twitter and Facebook and so on,
so a few million people asking for an easy feel-good series to binge watch. And Ted Lasso,
L-A-S-S-O, came up repeatedly. It was probably one of the top three. So that is also on my list.
And even in this chat, there are many plus ones for Ted Lasso.
Matt Ridley asks, how much time do I set aside for reading each week? I tend to read before bed
as a way to wind down. And very frequently, I would say, you know, once or twice a week,
I will try to read. This is often if I am feeling anxious for whatever reason or rushed,
but without a clear explanation, I will meditate, have my tea or coffee, then lay down on the couch
with my dog and read for 30 to 60 minutes. So I would say if you total it all up, I am probably
reading for three to five hours per week. If I'm traveling, it will be significantly higher.
Question here, how active are you in lobbying Congress to decrease
restrictions on psychedelic research? Well, there are many challenges in the arena of psychedelic
research. Certainly one is the federal scheduling of most of these compounds. And suffice to say, I am active on almost every front
related to psychedelic research. Question from, it looks like Greek. Unfortunately,
I can't read Greek phonetically, so I apologize. Have you given serious thoughts to writing
fiction? Yes, I have. And in fact, I have been writing short stories in fiction. And I've been
doing that in the mornings, before inputs, often on the weekends. And it has been tremendously
liberating. And it is quite similar to rock climbing, in fact. And I think part of the
reason I enjoy both is that you might have an idea of where you're starting the first few moves, and then you get up on the wall. And unless you've specced out the entire route,
you need to improvise and you begin to problem solve and play with puzzles on the way up.
And I quite enjoy that, which is very different from my experience of nonfiction. Nonfiction is
more like, for me at least, carpentry. It's a lot of research, preparation, laying out the outlines, knowing where you're
going, having the data in front of you. This is much more similar to playing with building blocks
or finger paints or something like that. Not to in any way denigrate fiction. Great fiction,
I find almost impossible to comprehend
as a craft. I don't know how someone like the author of Little Big, for instance, writes the
way that he writes. I just don't know how it's done. It really boggles my mind. But I am taking
it step by step, bird by bird, as one might say, which is also one of my favorite books on the craft of
writing and fiction, which is really also a great book on the craft of living, Bird by Bird by Anne
Lamott. All right, I'm going to go back, and I think I am going to wrap up in a few minutes
because my brain is clearly lagging with my slurring. And I promise you,
no drug involved. Maybe I need more drugs. All right, I'm going to read this question
from Andrew Robinson, not because my answer is a great answer, although I think it may be helpful
to some people, but it's an important topic.
So Andrew asks, how do you overcome the fear of being misunderstood? It seems that you have made many decisions in your personal and professional life, example given, opting out of a more typical
career path after Princeton, extreme experimentation, quitting startup investing, and most recently
supporting psychedelic research. That might be confusing at first, even for those in your
personal life. Anything other than fear setting that comes to mind for helping you manage how others,
whether personal friends or the general public, may perceive your decisions.
So this is a topic that we could explore for an entire episode.
But I do think the first principles are important because you can come up with all sorts of
strategies and tactics, but underlying
those are some assumptions or beliefs. And those are, in a sense, the first principles.
So for me, I suppose there are a couple of things to consider. That first, you should assume you're
almost always going to be misunderstood. Or I should say, if you assume you're almost always going to be misunderstood.
Or I should say, if you assume you will always be misunderstood, because think about how difficult
it is to understand yourself. How many people listening right now can say, I understand myself
perfectly? I certainly can't say that. I don't even know what understand would mean in such a
context. But there are misunderstandings left, right, and center every day, probably every hour,
every minute, as we sit here engaging in this live Q&A, certainly. And if we then just assume
that understanding as a concept is hard to wrap our heads around with a lot, and that even if we
could wrap our heads around it, we're going to be constantly misunderstood. That removes a lot of
the pressure to make yourself understood, if that makes any sense. So if the secret to happiness is
low expectations, as I was told by one of my Danish friends when I asked them why Denmark
rated as one of the happiest countries on earth, then perhaps the key to overcoming the fear of being misunderstood is just to assume
that everyone misunderstands everyone and that there is no point that it is pissing in the wind
to try to prevent people from misunderstanding you. So that's point number one. Point number two is that
we dramatically overestimate how much people are thinking about us. People think about themselves.
Most of us spend the vast majority of our time in the me, me, Me movie, where we are the lead actor or actress, everyone else is supporting
cast, and we are ruminating and perseverating on all sorts of nonsense. We occasionally stumble
upon something important, but mostly think about trivialities related to our own lives,
our own goals, our own fears, what other people might
be thinking, even though in truth, everyone else is also in their own solo act. And that,
I think, can be tremendously freeing. When you assume that everyone else, your family,
closest friends, et cetera, are also somewhat compulsively self-referential
and thinking about themselves most of the time. They're just not thinking about you most of the
time. And that can be, instead of being depressing, very, very uplifting and reassuring. So you can
feel free, in a sense, to do what you believe the next right thing is because it doesn't really matter.
They're not thinking about you.
At least it doesn't matter on that level.
You can also focus on communication
and expressing needs and expressing your motivations
without attachment to the response that comes.
And that takes practice.
I've been very fortunate to have felt a lot of support, not necessarily for every decision,
but I felt support for marching to the beat of my own drummer, if that makes any sense.
So those are a few thoughts related to not overcoming the fear of being misunderstood,
but reframing the fear of being misunderstood, but reframing the fear of being misunderstood. And I hope those are helpful. You could also read Make Good Art, or better yet,
watch the commencement speech, Make Good Art by Neil Gaiman, G-A-I-M-A-N. And it doesn't address this perfectly, but it speaks to vulnerability.
And I think that vulnerability, whether it's a fear of vulnerability or a wish to be more
candid with those around you, that is the connective tissue between those two recommendations.
I think that is going to be it, guys. I think I'll take a quick look at some of the questions
that we have in the live stream, but I think this is probably good. I think this is probably good.
I think it's time for me to maybe go get some exercise. Here's a complimentary comment from
someone. I saw a bumper sticker that goes, don't worry about what
other people think. They don't do it very often. Exactly. That summarizes one of the key points I
was trying to make very, very succinctly. And then a question on sleep. I'll take a stab at this.
Tips, resources, hacks for improving sleep. So I have written about sleep quite extensively in Tools of Titans. I'll mention
just a few things. California poppy is very helpful for me, at least with sleep, and I do not
want to take melatonin on a daily basis. I just do not feel good about taking things that
consistently that affect hormones without cycling off. So I
will use melatonin occasionally, although it often leaves me feeling groggy. There are people who
will take, say, phosphatidylserine. If your head tends to spin or remain very active when you're
trying to go to sleep, there are some people who will take phosphatidylserine, otherwise known as PS, which I did take, say, last night before bed to try to prevent the,
or I should say lower the release of cortisol, which then can result in spikes in blood glucose.
So those are a couple of supplemental interventions. Magnesium L3 and 8 is a version of magnesium that is
preferentially absorbed in the brain that can also be quite interesting. But the greatest
determinant of sleep quality, or I should say determinants for me, are A, restricting caffeine intake in time to before midnight, because the quarter life
of caffeine is about 12 hours, which means if you consume, say, 100 milligrams of caffeine
or 200 milligrams, but let's go with 100 because it makes the math simple,
a quarter of that will still be present 12 hours later. So if you have 100 milligrams of caffeine, that would be one
Vyvarin at noon, you'll still have 25 milligrams of that caffeine in your system. Roughly,
obviously we're dealing with averages here at midnight. Okay. So, so minimizing caffeine intake and volume and then also in time, I think, is a huge, I know, is a huge determinant of sleep quality because I track my sleep quality with something like the Oura Ring.
I do wear the Oura Ring, O-U-R-A, which I find to be extremely helpful to establish your baseline and then look at what interventions actually do to your sleep quality and types of sleep, that is phases of sleep. And second is exercise and sun exposure. So when in
doubt, just get more exercise and sun exposure before lunch. And without fail, that will increase
my sleep quality in terms of percentage of, say, restorative deep sleep, and also speed to sleep,
that is the onset of sleep. And last is temperature. So one modification that I would
make to what I wrote in Tools of Titans is I now use a cover on my bed from eight sleep, which I find to be tremendously helpful for both speed to sleep
and quality of sleep. So temperature is really one of the primary levers that I like to pull.
So I sleep as cold as I can without suffering. And that solves all sorts of relationship issues and potential
strife around fighting over the thermostat also. So there are many, many benefits to using something
like the Eight Sleep bed cover, which I do. So those are a few recommendations that you could
consider playing with, but you need to be able to certainly
evaluate whether or not your interventions are working. You could do that subjectively,
how you feel, certainly, but some metrics will be helpful. And that is where something like the
Oura Ring comes into play and can be combined with a device like Eight Sleep, which also offers some metrics and markers on a nightly basis.
And with all that said, there's a question here. I'm going to leave it as a cliffhanger. There was
a question about how I learned Japanese through judo textbooks and so on. Confusingly, The Four
Hour Chef, this book that I wrote, which was the hardest book to put together, is in fact a book about
accelerated learning. And it goes into how I used these textbooks and how I deconstructed characters
for Japanese in some length. So I'll leave it to people to explore The 4-Hour Chef if they want to
more deeply into that. And it talks about accelerated learning, not only for
factual knowledge or declarative knowledge, like memorizing characters and foreign vocabulary and
so on, but also procedural knowledge, skills, shooting a basketball, or any thousands of other
things, knife skills in the kitchen, et cetera. So all of those things are deconstructed with a
framework, D-I-S-S-S and CAFE.
And those are two frameworks that you can apply to learning just about any skill.
I have not found any exceptions.
So with that, thank you everyone for joining.
It's been really fun to connect with everybody on this live Q&A.
I hope you found some of it or any of it valuable. And I wish
everyone a wonderful week and a wonderful weekend. And take care. And take care means not just take
care of other people, but take care of yourselves. If your cultivation of compassion does not include yourself, then it is incomplete,
as my friend Jack Kornfield would say. And until next time, have fun, be safe, and thanks for
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