The Tim Ferriss Show - Ep. 18: James Altucher on Saying No, Failing Better, Business Building, and More

Episode Date: July 11, 2014

James Altucher is an American hedge fund manager, entrepreneur, and bestselling author. He has founded or cofounded more than 20 companies, including Reset Inc. and StockPickr. 17 have failed, 3 have made up all the difference. He has published 11 books.Join us in this meandering conversation about just about everything. There are some gems to be found.Enjoy! Tim***If you enjoy the podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds, and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. I also love reading the reviews!For show notes and past guests, please visit tim.blog/podcast.Sign up for Tim’s email newsletter (“5-Bullet Friday”) at tim.blog/friday.For transcripts of episodes, go to tim.blog/transcripts.Interested in sponsoring the podcast? Visit tim.blog/sponsor and fill out the form.Discover Tim’s books: tim.blog/books.Follow Tim:Twitter: twitter.com/tferriss Instagram: instagram.com/timferrissFacebook: facebook.com/timferriss YouTube: youtube.com/timferrissPast guests on The Tim Ferriss Show include Jerry Seinfeld, Hugh Jackman, Dr. Jane Goodall, LeBron James, Kevin Hart, Doris Kearns Goodwin, Jamie Foxx, Matthew McConaughey, Esther Perel, Elizabeth Gilbert, Terry Crews, Sia, Yuval Noah Harari, Malcolm Gladwell, Madeleine Albright, Cheryl Strayed, Jim Collins, Mary Karr, Maria Popova, Sam Harris, Michael Phelps, Bob Iger, Edward Norton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Neil Strauss, Ken Burns, Maria Sharapova, Marc Andreessen, Neil Gaiman, Neil de Grasse Tyson, Jocko Willink, Daniel Ek, Kelly Slater, Dr. Peter Attia, Seth Godin, Howard Marks, Dr. Brené Brown, Eric Schmidt, Michael Lewis, Joe Gebbia, Michael Pollan, Dr. Jordan Peterson, Vince Vaughn, Brian Koppelman, Ramit Sethi, Dax Shepard, Tony Robbins, Jim Dethmer, Dan Harris, Ray Dalio, Naval Ravikant, Vitalik Buterin, Elizabeth Lesser, Amanda Palmer, Katie Haun, Sir Richard Branson, Chuck Palahniuk, Arianna Huffington, Reid Hoffman, Bill Burr, Whitney Cummings, Rick Rubin, Dr. Vivek Murthy, Darren Aronofsky, and many more.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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listen to is a fun one. It is with none other than James Altucher. And James is a friend of mine. We've been friends for a number of years. He has an extremely eclectic resume. He's been a hedge fund manager, an entrepreneur. He's started multiple companies. By some statistics that I've heard, 17 out of the 20 failed. But of those that succeeded, he's made tens of millions of dollars, mostly in tech. He's published very widely and is a frequent contributor to publications, often in tech. He's published very widely and is a frequent contributor to publications, often in finance. So the Financial Times, The Street, Seeking Alpha, and so on. And in this conversation, we talk about a number of things focusing on saying no. How do you say no to the things in life you don't want so that you can get the things you do want? How do you

say no to those invitations that come in? How do you say no to the wedding invitations? How do you say yes to the big things by saying no to all the little things, for instance? So we focus on that. We talk about his business background. We talk about the economy at large, and this is currently July of 2014. Because he sits on the board of several public companies, he watches employment information very, very carefully, and we'll get into that. So it is a meandering, joyful discovery of who James is, what he believes, many of his failures, many of his failings, perhaps, or weaknesses, and we all have them. So how do you manage to get around them and multiply your strengths,

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Tim, it's great to be here. Thanks for having me on the show. It's really exciting. You've been like a rocket ship that's blasted into this podcasting world. I just want to know first, when we start, are you having fun doing it? Do you like all these podcasts that you're doing? I am. I am having a good time.

And it's really become and started off as a labor of love, a passion project, just an experiment like many others that I do. But I'm having a really good time with it. And I was always curious to see if I would enjoy being on the interviewer side of the table as opposed to the interviewee. And it turns out that as long as it's just a conversation like this will end up being, I'm sure, I find it really fun. And there are so many things that I want to know, for instance, about you, but it's not so often that we get to sit down and I get to grill you like a Charlie Rose or

someone like that. So it creates a format that allows me to dig deeper with people that I might already know or people that I don't know at all. So I'm really enjoying it. And you're on the other side of the planet at the moment, though. I just want to point that out that might not be obvious to those people listening. Why are you in Thailand at the moment? Yeah, yeah, basically, if you drilled a hole right now through the center of the earth, I'm like on the other side. So I'm in Thailand right now. And basically, Claudia, my wife is doing kind of advanced yoga training. And there's a specific place here in Thailand that she likes to go to. And I just tag along and hang out. And how are you managing the heat over there? It's not good. Tim, I'll tell you, it's a big problem. I don't know what, like you're a traveler,

so you're like the type of guy, if you go to Thailand, I'm sure you pick up on I don't know my Thai kickboxing or whatever it's called and become the world champion of it I go to Thailand and like if it's a degree over 90 I'm like oh I gotta I gotta stay inside I cannot go outside and so I basically stay inside it's like a chauffeur twice a day calls me for pad Thai where I just like stuff myself. I've given up the slow carb diet while I'm here because when in Thailand, you have to eat pad Thai. It's my one rule. Yeah. And the go carb diet. Yes, exactly. It's the go carb diet. And then and then I write and I read while I'm here. So that's it. I went to the beach once and I'm 10 feet from the beach right now. Oh, man. I want to give people some context on who you are. And I hardly know where to begin

because you've had your successes, you've had your ups and downs in many different worlds, including, of course, tech. I mean, you have a background in computer science, in investing, in building your own companies. Maybe we could start with, and I'm sure we'll talk about some of the outtakes, not just the highlights, but what are the successes that come to mind in business or investing that you could share with people? Sure, sure. And like you said, a lot of it's been sort of ups and downs. But I had a company in the 90s. It was a software slash web services company that I built up and sold. We did the websites for every entertainment company.

And in particular, every gangster rap label, we did the websites for them. Because if anyone saw my picture right now, they could tell I'm totally gangster rap label, we did the web websites for them because if anyone saw my picture right now, they could tell I'm totally gangster rap. So I sold that when my, I saw my little sister who was in junior high school at the time was studying how to make a website. And I figured that's, that's the end of this industry. And it's true. That entire industry died or transformed within a year or two after that. And then I was a venture capitalist for a while. I started a hedge fund. I started a fund of hedge funds.

Then I created another business called StockPicker.com, which I sold that business to TheStreet.com. Then I've been an angel investor for quite a bit. I'm invested in about 30 different companies. I'm on the boards of both private and public companies. I've written a bunch of books, but also along the way, I've been really, really stupid. I've been like a drunken rock star on steroids. I would think to myself, okay, that's it. I'm done as a human. My goal as a human is finished. Now I can do whatever I want. I would think to myself, okay, that's it. I'm done as a human. My goal as a human is finished. Now I can do whatever I want. I'm finished being a good guy and I can do whatever I want. And always I would immediately go broke. After making millions of dollars,

like enough money to save the planet, I would then immediately go so broke. It was like I could have easily checked into a homeless shelter and nobody would have questioned it. And fortunately, I've been able to kind of take some inventory, I guess you would call it or that that sounds a little 12 step fish. But of course, I've been able to kind of figure out what was going on with my life and, you know, and get things together. And now now for quite some time, things have been going very well. So I'm happy. You've made millions, then lost millions, then made it again, then lost it again,

then made it again, then lost it again. Of course, it's very common to talk about or write about ways to make money, but I find studying the losses really fascinating. What exactly is going on here? Are there recurring patterns? Are there any particular symptoms that you're about to lose the money you've made? If you go back and do an autopsy

on this up and down roller coaster, what are the takeaways? What led to the losses? Are they the same elements recurring or are they different things? I think it's the same elements recurring. And I, you know, I write about this a little bit, but I think essentially I lose track of my health. And I don't necessarily mean like, oh, I stopped going to the gym and then I lose millions of dollars. I mean all types of health. So I start eating poorly.

I start, you know, drinking or doing whatever. I start drinking or doing whatever. I start emotionally, I start not spending time with people who are necessarily good for me. I mean, I do everything that's like almost cliche bad behavior. And just also, I give up on trying to come up with new ideas, give up on trying to innovate. So all the things that I did while I was successful, it's almost like you're training for the Olympics and then you decide, okay, I'm just going to completely let everything go now. Like I'm just going to do this until I die, like just be a pig. And I was a pig in every way. So I would stop being creative and I little bit of money, so I must be a genius instead of

being like really grateful and respectful of, you know, this money I made and this luck that I've had and, you know, just letting it all go to hell. So, so the way I would reverse it, and this took kind of, I, I went broke enough that it's like statistically significant that I could analyze it. So I, I basically, I basically I basically said okay I've got to get you know and I've talked about this with people before but uh I I had to get physically healthy emotionally healthy be around people I love and respect you know they say there's a saying you're the average of the five people around you I had to make sure it was a good five people I had to keep being creative and innovative and so so every day I, I, I try to create and I try to share even in the smallest of ways. Uh, and every day I try to be

grateful for, for what I have for, you know, gratitude and abundance. I realized are the same thing. They seem like they're opposites almost, but like when you're abundant in something, it's also good to be grateful for that same thing or else there's a good chance you could take that abundance for granted and lose it. And so what would happen is I would take my abundance, and I'm not even talking about just money or anything, but any sort of abundance like relationships or money or whatever, and I would take that abundance for granted and I would start taking risks with it that I never would have taken before. I'm not a good risk taker.

You would think an entrepreneur is a good risk taker, but the key to entrepreneurship and really the key to success is to reduce risks because life itself is risky. Every day we wake up, it's amazing we made it through the night. Being born is like a drag. We went through that tunnel and we survived a bloody mess and we're hit by a doctor and then we're alive. And then after that, everything is risk. So, so the key to success is mitigating that risk. Uh, so you can kind of rise above the competition and, and enjoy the fruits of, of not taking risks. No, I agree. And it's always fascinating for me to

hear how people define risk. Because if you look at, say, the covers of most business magazines, you see profiles of whether it's Zuckerberg or other titans of industry, and they're so often praised for being risk takers or throwing caution to the wind and throwing a Hail Mary with everything they have. And while those make for good stories, I feel like the vast majority of top performers that I know in Silicon Valley, for instance, despite any outward profiles claiming that there are these rash and brash risk takers are actually very, very expert at mitigating risk. Like you said, they're really good at quantifying the knowns and trying to quantify the unknowns, even if it means they're vaguely correct and not precisely wrong, which I think is one of the issues with Wall Street on some level. But for you personally, and I do have a question about one of the companies that you're on the board of in a second, but speaking from my own personal experience, you have all these external risks and you can address those in various ways. be productive, for me to enjoy the work that I'm doing, I need to apply constraints and find

rituals and routines that work for me. And when I stray from that and find myself improvising on a daily basis, it's usually when I have a downward spiral of some type. When you're operating at your best, how do you structure your days or your weeks? What are the rituals or routines that help you to create your best self and best performance? Well, it's interesting because routine is a way to mitigate risk. Like if every day you say to yourself, I'm going to do something totally wild and different today. And at the end of the day, I'm going to write about it. You might not do anything fun during the day or interesting, and then you might not be

able to write it all because suddenly your mind is going in a million different directions. So if you're trying to get something done, of course you don't want to be boring and do the same thing every day. You don't want to be like me necessarily and not go to the beach today. But what I do is I always make sure I sleep at least eight hours a day. It's one third of your life. Sleep is so important for rejuvenating the brain, for rejuvenating your whole body, for releasing all these endorphins and oxytocin in the body. So you're a generally happy person and able to, you know, make decisions correctly. So I always sleep very well. I then I read. So I love, before I write, I love to read and get inspired

by four or five different writers who I consider to be great writers. Uh, and I, I'm reading different writers all the time, but each day I'll diversify a little and read four or five different writers. And then I, uh, start writing. And then once I'm finished writing after two or three hours, then my day is more free. Like then I can feel like, okay, I did the main thing I wanted to do today. I might do some business. I might have fun. But that's essentially the main routine of the day that I have.

Then after that, I try to figure out other ways to be creative or improve or whatever. I sort of feel like I try to get this mindset. I want to improve, you know, 1% a week, which seems like a small amount, but if you do that, it results in enormous improvements over the course of a year. And I've, I've really seen that by, by doing this strategy and keeping healthy in the way I described earlier, I feel like my life has changed a hundred percent every six months since I've started this approach. And it's amazing the changes that have happened. I've been really grateful for these changes, but there hasn't

been a six-month period where my life hasn't completely changed. What do, just to dig into the specifics, for instance, today or yesterday, what were the writers that you read to inspire you prior to going into your own writing well i read uh a little bit of nassim taleb's anti-fragile which is a very good book uh i read um i i don't know how to pronounce his name correctly but uh khaled has seen hasini um the kite runner and a thousand splendid sons these are excellent novels. I read a book called Brain Rules by John Medina, who kind of discusses how to keep your brain healthy.

I'm very into games, so I always read chess books or chess strategy just to keep fit with that. And I reread The Power of No, actually preparing for this podcast, because, you know, I wrote it a while ago. And so you ever have that feeling like when you wrote one of your books, and then it's published, and people are asking you questions about it. And you're like, did I write that? I can't even remember. I handed that book in a year ago. I don't remember what I wrote. Oh, yeah. I reread that a little bit as well. And it was pretty good. I liked it. Much better than any other possible response. I'm going to come back to obviously, I want to talk about the power of no, because there's just the hilarity of

all the synchronicity that came together when we were exchanging emails, I think is amusing. But when you are reading these various books, so you mentioned four or five books, are you waking up and then immediately reading a little bit of each of these books? Or do you read one per day? What's the I'm trying to figure out what the kind of recipe is your general routine as it applies to ingesting this information because I find that how people manage ingestion of information is very, it's very telling, I think, about how they manage other things. And in some cases, I think that it's very highly individualized also. So there's some people, for instance, I know venture capitalists who don't read at all. I mean, all they read is

business plans or decks, investment decks. Then there are the opposite. Then you have hedge fund managers who read a book every two or three days, but it's one book at a time, never more than one. Then you have people who juggle many, many different books. So I'm just curious how you typically go about it prior to writing each day. Well, you know, it's very interesting you use the word ingest because I really do think you are what you eat. And so a lot of people

read the news, for instance. And so I think the news is the worst form of junk food you could possibly ingest. Like it's commentary on events that are almost certainly not important and will have no effect on any decisions you make in your life. It's hastily put together by mediocre writers who were set, who were basically, you know, I've worked for newspapers, so I know what happens in the newsroom. You're basically told, find the thing that's going to scare people the most and write about it in as scary a fashion as possible. It's like every day is Halloween at the newspaper. And so I avoid newspapers.

I avoid like web surfing. You know, there's a few bloggers I read who are good writers. I always go to your blog, for instance. I'm not just saying that. But, you know, there's your blog, a few other blogs. What are the other blogs? Just to name those. I'd love to hear your short list.

I like Seth Godin's blog. He's gotten shorter and shorter in the post. But he's always a smart guy. You can see the intelligence come through. I like the blog is funny. So I like humor type of writing. David Thorne, he used to blog. He doesn't blog as much since his books have come out.

But he had a humorous blog. But mostly I don't even really read that much blogs. I really like to read books that have been, they're like the heavily curated thoughts of good writers. Because as you know, a book is not just a blog post it's like a blog post that's been rewritten a thousand times combined with a hundred other you know blog posts this is even a poor description of a book but it's a book is just heavily curated and edited and thought out and i like to start off with fiction because these are the best writers.

So I make a distinction between, let's say, literary fiction and genre fiction. And in literary fiction, I like good... I like fiction that's so good, you almost wonder to yourself, huh, is this nonfiction? Did this happen to the author? Because the style that I write,

it tends to be non-fiction but people wonder whether it's fiction like it's so outrageous they wonder whether it's fiction like the yes or like the yes or rfx story yeah nobody everybody was convinced i was lying and except for you know some people who would then make jihad threats against me but most people were convinced i was lying which i wasn't at all. And I've never lied in any post, but it's because I read these, you know, there's a certain class of authors who write largely either first person or so close to nonfiction that you can't tell the difference. A classic example is like, and this is an older example, but it's like Ernest Hemingway writes in this sort of almost nonfiction style.

And more recent examples are short story writers like Raymond Carver or Dennis Johnson or Amy Hempel. There's a lot of writers I read. These books I'm reading right now, The Kite Runner is almost in that genre or James Frey is in that genre. So I always start off with really good fiction. The reason fiction also, as opposed to nonfiction, with nonfiction, you usually get a writer who is very good at what they did. So let's say someone was a very good, you know, physicist. So he's a great physicist, not necessarily the best writer. So you'll read his book for the physics, but not for the writing. So he's a great physicist, not necessarily the best writer. So you'll read his book for the physics, but not for the writing. So I always start off with somebody I'm reading for the writing. And then I'll start reading, you know, interesting nonfiction. And there's a class

of writers, let's say, you know, Nassim Taleb, I mentioned earlier, Stephen Dubner, who was on your podcast, who wrote for economics, you wrote for economics you with your four hour books Malcolm Gladwell these are writers who have it seems like they both studied writing and what they've done so Dubner's written a bunch of very good books even before for economics

and then he teamed up with Stephen Levin who the economist and they wrote these great books together. Nassim Taleb, you could see his first book nobody's read. It's called Dynamic Hedging. It's about options trading. It's very, very technical, hard to read book, impossible to read book. But then you could see in Fooled by Randomness and The Black Swan, he's like, oh, this writing

thing is interesting. You could see his process, how he got better as a writer. And now Anti-Fragile is a very well-written book. Same with Malcolm Gladwell. His latest books always, I really loved Outliers, for instance, is a very well-written book. So I focus on nonfiction

where the writing itself also stands out. And then that's basically what I ingest. And usually at some point I'll start to get an idea for a post while I'm reading. And I'll just, I'll get up and start writing when I have this kind of, I'll always get inspired at some point while I'm reading. And I take notes while I'm reading on things, on ideas that I have. And usually I write down like 10 to 15 ideas and then I get up and start writing. And when you write, I really enjoy your writing. And I think part of the reason I enjoy it is that

it's so, you're very good at the lead, number one. And I think that having heard that you're reading fiction in some ways to prime the pump makes perfect sense now in retrospect. Because you always have very powerful openers. You're really good at grabbing attention. But then you're very vulnerable in your writing. And I think much more so than I am. And I'd love to ask you, number one, why do you think your writing has grown so quickly or the blog, let's just say, in popularity?

And I'll just mention a couple of things. So what are the reasons that it's taken off in the way that it has, which I congratulate you on. I think it's very well deserved. And then the second piece, and this is maybe psychoanalyzing me a bit, but one of my most successful posts in the last year was called Productivity Hacks for the Manic, Depressive, Neurotic, and Crazy, and then in parentheses, Like Me. I'm not prescriptive enough, it's sort of a self-indulgent exercise. It could become a self-indulgent exercise where I'm sort of airing my concerns and worries and frustrations, but without handing people a next action. How do you think about that? How are you able to be vulnerable while helpful at the same time?

And maybe that's a silly question, but it's something that I struggle with because I want to be vulnerable. I don't want people to put me up on a pedestal as some type of superhero, but I worry about what I've seen some writers succumb to, which is really just airing their frustrations or problems without helping their readership. And I'm not putting you in that category, but how do you think about these things as you're writing or thinking of writing a piece? Well, you know, and I think about that a lot because I think the goal should be, you know, you know, for any writing yours, mine, anybody's both a combination

of entertainment. So this is what, how you keep their reader interested and educational. So you have to provide some value. So when I become vulnerable, first off, two things happen. One is everyone's interested from an entertainment perspective, because when I'm vulnerable, it's not like I'm saying, oh, my kitchen sink didn't work today. This is such a drag. I'm saying I lost a lot of money and then my dad died and I couldn't help him. So I'm saying something that's really, you know, something that's been personally emotional and sad for me, but also something that a lot of people at some level can relate to, not necessarily the amounts or the type, but everybody's gone through a period where

they've been on the floor, where they've been depressed, where they've been lonely, where they've been like, oh my gosh, how this just didn't work out. I failed again. How am I going to be able to face everybody who expected that I would succeed? So I try to make the vulnerability, I try to really go a layer deeper, which is find these areas where I have been hurt, where I'm pretty sure other people have been hurt in the same way, whether it's financial or emotional, like when you, you know, for instance, a common thing is we all have problems in relationships. So I have everybody's head. So I'll write about that or, you know, family relationships or how do you deal with a boss or colleagues that are just

horrible to work with? So I always tried to find stories inside myself that have been really difficult for me to deal with. And like super difficult, like not just like, oh, it was very, you know, I didn't know how to play basketball. So I took lessons and then I got great at it. I tried to find things that were super pain points for me that I still remember as like painful, because then I'm sure other people will remember their pain points. We all have like, let's say two or three dozen, like massive pain points in our lives that, uh, everyone can relate to. And I tried to basically write about those. And then I tried to write about how I attempted to recover from it. So I never give advice, but I say what I did and what worked for me. And maybe that could work for others. And I find that over time,

from my readership, I can see it's it's worked for others. So so that's made me happy. And I believe I every article I try to bleed, but then I tried to, to cover up the bleeding and show how I did it. Yeah, it's it's a very uncommon combination of experiences and sort of literary style for me reading your stuff, because you have a lot of investment shops, you've been an entrepreneur, and you've built companies and sold companies, you're on the board of a billion dollar revenue, employment agency, we'll come back to that. Yet, at the same time, you're able to be vulnerable, and it helps you as opposed to hinders your career, so to speak, which I think is awesome.

Yeah, everybody thought it was going to destroy my career. Like, how can you say that? Like they would say, people would tweet, this is like watching a train wreck in slow motion. And then the exact same person would write to me and say, don't tell anybody, but that happened to me also. And so like, like that happened across the board. And everybody was like, how can you do this? No one's ever gonna talk to you again. But I found since I've started writing in this style, I've had more opportunities than I could have imagined. Like every every day now, I have to say no to

opportunities because it's too many. I just like writing. It's been great. Some of the opportunities that I've said yes to have, you know, helped me out a lot. And I've been able to help others. And I always make sure, like, are you sure you want to do this? Like, I've also messed up pretty badly in some cases. And they say that's exactly why we want, you know, your advice or to bring you on the board or you as an investor or whatever. Like, I've started a lot of different companies. You know, we've talked about some of the successes, but I've failed at many more.

So it's given me the full range of experiences. And fortunately, I'm like one of the only guys who's been totally honest about it. So people know I've got the full, I'm unique. I've got the full range of experiences. Most other people who, let's say, write about entrepreneurship, write about their successes, like, oh, how I made a billion dollar company. And okay, well, if I'm at a startup, I don't necessarily need the advice of someone who built a billion dollar company, I need to know from someone who's failed at building 20 other companies and how he overcame that to then build a successful company. Right? So again,

people related and became, they're like, oh, I feel like I know this guy. So I'm somebody comfortable they could talk to about their own problems. No, I definitely, I mean, I think that everyone has, everyone has failures stated or unstated and everyone has skeletons in the closet. So if they at least know which skeletons they're dealing with and you've been transparent about it, I'd imagine that lends a lot of credibility and they trust you. Now you mentioned one thing that's a good segue, and that is saying no. So this is something that everyone struggles with at a certain point or at many points.

It's something that I've struggled with. And hilarity of hilarities, the irony of the four-hour work week is that when the book came out and it had an initial print run of 12,000 copies, no one expected it to take off. It takes off, has become this massive success, and it's made it all the more important that I actually follow the rules and techniques and principles in the book, including artfully saying no. Yeah. Let me ask you a question about that, because like when people meet you and they, let's say you're working pretty hard that week, do they say, Oh, you're working a 60 hour a week. You're not working four hours this week. You know, the four hour jokes are never going to end. I

think the most common misconception, of course, and you know, the reason that people in finance use the book, the reason that people, some of the top VCs and hedge fund managers and others use it is not because they want to work four hours a week, but because the objective of the book, the reason that people, some of the top VCs and hedge fund managers and others use it is not because they want to work four hours a week, but because the objective of the book, first and foremost, is to provide a toolkit that allows people to maximize their per hour output. And then if they decide to, let's just say, get 40 hours worth of work in four hours, or do the same 40, or do 80, just at a higher level of competence where they can be more effective in competing against others, for instance, then it's up to them. But I will get four hour jokes until the day that I die. And that's just the tax that I'm going to pay. But what I've found

for myself, and when you mentioned that you'd written this book with your wife called The Power of No and you explained the premise, I was shocked and amused because, as I mentioned, I had been and have been collecting notes for about a year here and there on saying no and how other people say no and how to say no because I think it's such a critical skill and it's only becoming more and more necessary and important with instant access and social media and all of these different channels through which people can get to you or anyone for that matter. So what, what led you to write this book? Because of course I was like, oh, well, that's fantastic. If I would want anyone to write it, I mean, I think you would be at the very top of the list. So I've been We should have interviewed you before we started writing. You had all the notes.

But what led you to to write this book? Because I mean, I have I have a lot of questions. We'll get to those questions. But how did you decide to write a book about about no and the power of no. Well, it's interesting. You said that you had a hard time saying no. And so then suddenly the next thing you said was, so then you were going to write a book about saying no. And it's the same thing like your, your four hour work week. You mentioned in the book how you're working like 80 hours and it was driving you insane. And so then, you know, you figure it out and you write the book, The 4-Hour Workweek. It's in, you know, the valley of failure that we sow our seeds of success. So if I was always good at saying no all my life, or if you had always

worked a 4-Hour Workweek, you never would have thought to write a book about it because you wouldn't have understood any other way. It's like I tell people, I'm not going to buy a book on how to pick up girls from Brad Pitt because it's not going to apply to me. It's like a blind man seeing the color red. He's not going to understand what I've been through. So you have for me also, it was very difficult all my life saying no, I was a people pleaser. And I was always afraid, and still afraid to disappoint people like I want to, I want to say yes and help people. And a lot of people are more, you know, giving rather than taking and not that I'm such a nice person. But it's always been hard for me to disappoint people. So typically what I would do is

if I didn't want to do something that someone asked me is I would disappear. I just would never contact them again and I would never talk to that person again. It might be like my best friend in the world. Literally, this has happened. My best friend asked me to his wedding and I just, I didn't know how to say no to him.

I didn't want to go to it and I have never talked to him since to say no to him I didn't want to go to it and I have never talked to him since then and it's it's really horrible yeah so it was affecting my relationships like my inability to say no so I I had to really figure this out and like you I was taking notes and Claudia also my wife we were both coming at at it from different angles because we were very similar in this respect. And, you know, gradually we figured all these different ways, we kind of categorized all these different types of no that we were unable to say. And it was very interesting. So then we wrote the book according to those categories. Like for instance, not saying no

to things you don't want to do. That's kind of like the basic no, like not being assertive enough. But it reached all the way towards, you know, not being able to say no to the myths that our parents or society or colleagues put on us. Like, you know, I'm not a big believer that people should go to college. This is a big myth of society, like that you have to go to college and then you have to get the nine to five job in order to be successful and happy. So how do you identify all these societal myths and say no to them? And then finally, there's things like we talked about saying no to all the messages that are thrown at you all day long, the 30 articles

of news, the 10,000 marketing messages, and so on, you know, so that you can find, you know, saying no to these things. So you can have a little peace of and quiet in your mind. Because ultimately, what no does, it's the same thing as the four hour work week, it allows you to conserve your energy for the things you care about. So if you could say no properly to the people who ask you things that you don't want to do, then that will conserve your energy so you can do the thing. So you have time to do the things and say yes to the things that you do want to do. So I didn't want to be an actor in anybody else's story. I just want to be me. And when you start saying yes to other

people that you don't want to, you start to resent yourself. You start to be me. And when you start saying yes to other people that you don't want to, you start to resent yourself. You start to resent them. You get angry. It costs you a relationship. And most importantly, you lose time. So let's, I always use the wedding as an example. Let's say you go to a wedding you didn't want to go to. I know now for a fact, if I lose a hundred dollars, I'll always be able to make that a hundred dollars back. But if I lose five minutes or a weekend or a week, I'll never, ever get those five minutes back. Like people say, time is money. Time is not money. Time is much more valuable than money. Infinite time is more than money. And no gets you time. So it's so important in life to know how to say no. And this is why I had to learn how to do it. And then that

gave me the material to write the book along with Claudia, my wife. What would be, for instance, let's take the generic email that comes in. And it's not from a close friend. It's from an acquaintance, maybe someone you knew many years ago. And it's a generic, hey, it's been so long. We'd love to get together and catch up. When can you grab coffee? How about Tuesday at 1 p.m.? What have you found effective ways to decline that? And does it matter if they get pissed or not? I think they're, they're very closely related. Or take, yeah, and you know, you mentioned it's someone you knew. So like, obviously, if it's someone you don't know, who wants to grab coffee with you, you just simply don't have to respond. Particularly if,

you know, what I encourage people to do for a lot of people say well how can i get a mentor and what i encourage people to do is you know first provide a lot of value to people and you know don't just say hey can i buy you a cup of coffee because chances are he doesn't need a cup of coffee from you um but if if someone said you know tim if someone said to you for instance i have 10 ideas for how you could sell a billion more copies of The 4-Hour Chef, you might say, oh, OK. And then let's say he actually writes those ideas down for you. He gives them to you for free. You might say, oh, I'm going to at least write this person back and say thank you. And then let's say he writes 10 ideas for you for I've got 10 podcast guests lined up for you that i think you'd like to uh talk to

you know let me know this person then you might decide to yourself okay maybe i'm going to start to say this person might not waste my time i'm going to start to say yes to them if they ask for a cup of coffee so okay so that's the person you don't know but the person you do know where it's like where like you know it's an old friend or someone you haven't seen in a while, but you didn't use to say no to them. And they write to you, here's what I do. I just say, I just write back and I say, I can't. Now it used to be, I would write, I can't because I'm out of town that day. You know, I might lie or I can't because I'm out of town that day and I'm telling the truth. So I used to give explanations.

Why do I have to give an explanation? Like it should be the case that like my time is very valuable to me, maybe not necessarily to anybody else. People always say, oh, it doesn't hurt to ask. But it actually does potentially hurt both sides of the equation to ask so it's it's just as much hurts them as it hurts me when they when they ask like i have to say no and their relationship with me might change because they asked something that was inappropriate like they didn't respect my my time enough so so i don't give explanations anymore and i tell them and i when i i catch

myself when i start giving explanations like oh i i I'm sorry, I can't make it. I have a doctor's appointment that day. I'm really sick. I broke my leg over the weekend or something. So I just say I can't do it. You know, I hope everything is well. By the way, even when I say I hope everything is well, I don't lie there either. I try to make if I don't legitimately hope everything is well, I don't lie there either. I try to make,

if I don't legitimately hope everything is well, I don't say that. But usually I hope everything is well with the other person. Hope everything is not terrible. Yeah, exactly. Yours truly. Hope you live another day. So there's the, there's sort of two, I think a common source of overwhelm for people is the inbox and how to contend with everything that comes into the inbox. And if you happen to get what you hope for, which is probably success as defined subjectively in some capacity, chances are you're going to have more inbound requests or pitches than you can handle. So there's the question of how you say no. There's also the question of what you say no to. So I'd love to hear for you, for instance, when you look at your email, how are you currently deciding what to say no to and what

to ignore versus respond to in some positive fashion? Well, you know, it's an interesting thing because I really, just like I don't like to read news, I normally don't like to read emails. I like to read only good, good books. And so I've actually outsourced most of my email reading to India. So, and the reason India, by the way, is because let's say someone writes me a really personal letter. They're not, it's not like they're going to, some random person in Calcutta is going to know me enough and figure, oh, I've got some juicy gossip on James. Like I basically have trained a group of people what type of emails to send to me and what type of emails to ignore. And I'm sure they ignore,

they don't even tell me the numbers and I don't look, I'm sure they ignore hundreds of emails and they'll send to me something like if somebody wants me to speak at an event or if somebody wants to talk about a company I'm involved with, or if it's from a group of friends and they know who to respond to. So in general, you know, and they might make mistakes know who to respond to. So in general, and they might make mistakes, I don't know, but in general, I don't read my email. Did you provide those rules to them as just a Word document? How often do you refine those?

What is in the categorically ignore group of email at the moment. I'm curious what kind of stuff you view is currently not worthy of this non-renewable resource, which is time. Well, the most important being is, can you advise my startup? So I don't respond to any of those because I'm not interested anymore. I'm already an advisor in a lot of startups and I'm an investor in a lot of startups. And I really love what I do. I love writing and I love podcasting and being creative. So I'm just not interested in business stuff anymore. And I ignore almost all of those. I mean, again, if it's somebody from a company that I'm already involved with, that'll get forwarded to me. If it's somebody who appears to know me, and you can usually tell that in an email, they'll forward that on. If it's a family member, they ignore it and don't send it to me.

Are you serious? Yeah, unless it's my daughters or Claudia, I don't really talk to you. Here is the one problem with being vulnerable. And I'll tell us I've never really said this before. This is the one problem of being vulnerable is that and I'm assuming most of my family is not going to listen to this podcast because they avoid anything I'm involved in. But they really were embarrassed that I was admitting all of this stuff that I was failing at. Like everybody in my family got really embarrassed about me. So it's not like I talk to all of them. Like I send out Thanksgiving invitations to all of them, but nobody responds to me and my family because of my blog, only because of my blog. I've never done anything to anybody, but because of my blog,

basically my daughters talk to me and Claudia talks to me and that's about it. And even my daughters once had a problem with me and I had to really make up for it. What was, if you don't mind me asking, what was the problem? Was it, it was caused by the blog? Yes. So I start off all my blog posts as Facebook posts because I want to, it's a way to kind

of test out if a blog post might have legs. And so, um, I wrote about my, one of my daughters and feel my, my saying, I wrote about one of my daughters farting so loudly. I asked her, I asked her if she had sharted. And so, and so the other daughter writes me at like one in the morning and she's like, I asked her if she had sharted. And so the other daughter writes me at like one in the morning. And she's like, Daddy, you have to take that post down. Like the other daughter is crying about it.

And the other daughter is like sort of saying, I don't know what I could say around you and trust you anymore. And I said, I promise I will never say anything embarrassing about you ever again. Did you tag her on Facebook? Did you name her when you talked about the – No, she's so young. She's not allowed on Facebook yet. Oh, all right, all right. So she was really horrified because she really does read my stuff. Like it's so sweet.

I see it on her nightstand. Like she's got Choose Yourself. She's got a galley of the power of no. She's got the Choose Yourself stories, which i've not even really marketed or anything i just kind of threw out there and uh so she's got all my books like she reads my stuff and uh but she got really worried in this one case like maybe the parent of one of her friends would see it and um so she was upset and i didn't think she would mind like Like normally, I would take it. So I took it down immediately. And normally, when a family member has asked me to take stuff down,

I take it down immediately. And I try never to say anything bad about anybody. It's actually the stuff I've said bad about myself that has embarrassed family members like oh my relative is a moron so i'm never going to talk to him again so i'm curious about the the focus that you have on writing uh because there's there's really it's hard to verbalize the joy that one feels when they actually hit the zone in writing and i generally find writing very difficult, but in those rare moments of flow, it's just such an incredible feeling when you really put something down on paper. And maybe it's just a paragraph out of five pages that is just gold. You know it's going to resonate and you're happy with it. It's such an incredible feeling.

But given that you have business experience, you therefore have relationships and skills, and now you have an even larger platform that you could use hypothetically to generate more income of various ways and kind of the business capacity. How do you prevent yourself? What is the self-talk or the way that you keep yourself grounded, realizing I am happiest when I'm writing as opposed to advising the next 10 companies? How do you prevent that fear of missing out that is so pronounced in Silicon Valley, for instance, also New York? Like, oh my God, how could I possibly stop responding to startup emails? Because what if it's the next Uber? What if it's the next Google? What if, you know, and I have to keep this treadmill going. How do you prevent that type of positional economics dynamic where you have people building businesses around you that therefore lead you to pull away from what you know makes you happy, which it sounds like is your writing? How do you prevent,

because you've obviously engaged in business a lot. And I'm sure that there were financial drivers for that. How do you prevent yourself from reverting to that person? Yeah, it's very difficult because sometimes something seems so appealing that you're like, how can I say no to this. But at the same time, I know that if I just stick to what makes me healthy and, and so being creative is, uh, like you say, it's, it's getting into that flow. I feel that that flow, you know, is real physically, like it's endorphins that rush into your brain and, and, you know, make you healthier. It's like runner's high. And, you know, I know that money is a side effect of being very healthy, being creative, being innovative, being around good people. So I know that all of those things lead to, lead to abundance, lead to money, lead to wealth. And so I know if I just focus on what's important to

me today, the rest will follow. Like I don't have to plan out 10 years from now, you know, whether or not I could, you know, things are going to, I don't know, I might be dead 10 years from now, who knows, but I know today I'm going to enjoy it if I write and spend time with Claudia and do the things that I enjoy doing. Now, what if the next Uber ends up in my inbox and it's not forwarded on to me, which it's not going to be? I'm going to miss out on it. I've missed out on a ton of opportunities. I'll tell you, when I was a venture capitalist,

there was a company called, at the time it was called Oingo. They were going bankrupt. I could have probably bought 50% of the company for a million or $2 million. My venture capital fund was, was much greater than that. And they, we decided, we decided not to, I said, they were kind of in the search engine business where they would help rank how people are using keywords, like what are the most popular keywords. So anyway, they changed their name to Applied Semantics. They got bought by Google for 1% of Google. They became AdSense. So they became what is 99% of Google's revenues. And it would have been $1 million would have turned into

$500 million. So we all have examples like that. I have a dozen examples where I missed out on like huge opportunities. But at the same time, I'm happy with the opportunities I did take and the things that I'm working on now. So I do have businesses I'm involved with now. And, you know, that's it. Now I say no to everything else. I really enjoy trying to figure out how I can be creative today. And, and I've outsourced my investing. We both know, you know, we both have a mutual friend with Kamal Ravikant. And he is well connected in Silicon Valley. So I said, here, just you find me the next Uber, you're better at it than me. So that's where I left it. Do you, speaking of just looking at hindsight being 2020 at say the applied semantics and that deal, I've missed some, some tremendous deals, of course, as we all have, do you know, and we both have spent time with very wealthy people. Do you know anyone who was unhappy, made a bunch of money and then became happy? Or do you find that people who can't find happiness without the money generally cannot find happiness when they have the money, if that even happens? So because I wonder in my mind, I wonder,

would you, James, be happier had that deal happened? I'm not convinced that it would make that much of a difference. I know it sounds ridiculous probably to a lot of people hearing this on the podcast, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on this type of thing. Yeah, I think some money makes a big difference. So you want to be able to pay your bills and you want to have some sense of freedom, but everybody defines that in a different way. So as a great example, Mark Cuban, who seems like a great, happy guy, and I've interviewed him on my podcast. For him, I think freedom is the ability to buy the Dallas Mavericks

and a plane and do all sorts of fun things. It seems to me that guy has a really fun life and he seems to be enjoying it. And he worked really hard for it. As he said to me on my podcast, he had a passion to be rich and he got there. And I never judge. So for me, I have different passions. And having, you know, it's like here I am in Thailand and it seems like such a stupid thing. But I just, again, I wasn't even exaggerating. I'm literally 10 feet from the ocean. I've been here four or five days now. I haven't put my toes in the ocean once.

And so maybe some people are like, oh, I've got to go say hello to the ocean, you know, as soon as they get to a beach. I'm just not like that. So I like to read, write, talk to people sometimes. I know that if I had infinitely more money, I know for a fact when I had more money, or it's hard to say more, but at times when I wasn't healthy with myself, having more money only made me want to have more money. So I always felt like envious of the next level. And getting healthy made me realize, you know what? This is good.

Like I'm in a really good spot and I'm going to focus on the things I love because, again, I could die tomorrow. I have to do the things I enjoy today. I'll tell you one quick story. So I was having breakfast with someone who also was incredibly wealthy. But he was telling me about the breakfast he had the day before with a guy who was worth about $2 billion. Let's call this guy, the guy who was worth $2 billion, let's call him Mike. Scrooge McDuck. No, Mike. Okay, Mike. We're going to call him Mike. So Mike, who's a very famous guy who's worth about $2 billion, runs a huge private equity fund, very well known.

This guy was telling me the whole breakfast he was complaining. What was he complaining about? How is this kid, Larry Page, worth $18 billion and I'm only worth $2 billion? He was complaining the whole breakfast. So what a waste of like all of that hard work and energy to make 2 billion and just to use it to complain about a guy who made 18 billion. So money tends to, it doesn't, some people say money magnifies your bad qualities. It doesn't necessarily magnify your bad qualities. It magnifies all of your qualities. So good qualities, bad qualities, and so on. So the key is, you know, we all have bad qualities and good qualities. The key is for me is to keep

working on the good qualities and trying to starve the bad qualities because I have that tendency. I have a very addictive personality. I have that tendency like, oh my gosh, I've got to make more. I've got to please people more. I've got to impress people more. And a lot of times I'll equate self-worth with net worth. And so I have to starve that quality in myself and again, focus on the things that make me healthy and happy and peaceful. Happy is a bad word because happy is related to the word happenstance, which is some outcome outside of yourself. So I prefer to be calm and peaceful even rather than happy. of navigating those waters and sort of steering the ship towards things you want to do as opposed to things you don't want to do or away from things you feel obligated to do that you'd prefer not to do is saying no. What are some exercises that you would recommend to help people with no or to get

them started practicing saying no either? You know, it's a good, it's a good word that you use, which is practice because it doesn't happen overnight. Like if someone calls you up and say, Oh, can you, we haven't seen each other in five years. Can you really help me out and lend me a thousand dollars? It's hard to say, you know, just hang up the phone or say no. And that's it. I think people go through waves where first you can say, you know, let hang up the phone or say no, and that's it. I think people go through waves where first you can say, you know, let me think about it. And then you can ask other people for help. What should I do here? So now at this point, you know, like I said before, you've surrounded yourselves, you know, you're the average of the five people you've surrounded yourself with.

So you go to these five people and say, oh, so-and-so asked me for something. My gut is telling me no, but I don't quite know how to say it. So you ask for help from others. And one thing we say in this book is that while no is the most important word, help is the second most important word. And not being afraid to ask for help or ask for advice on how to deal with situations is important. So you can always delay people and say, let me think about this while you ask for help. And then you can do no with an explanation. I'm not going to do this, but I can help you in these other ways, or I can recommend you to other people. Or you could say, I just, you know, you could, and this requires practice. You could, you could just say, no, I don't think this is appropriate

at this time, but that requires practice. So, So the important thing is there's no quick and easy answer where I'm all of a sudden going to be able to say no. So the real key is understanding when you need to say no. So and that, again, is this function of health and also kind of learning not only compassion for others, but compassion for yourself. So a lot of people don't live what I would call, let's say a gentle life. So they, they are very hard on themselves. They'll, they'll be very kind to other people, but they're very hard on themselves. And so that's why they open up every email. They return every email. They want to be nice to everybody. And they feel if they're mean.

And I've been like this. So that's why I'm able to say this. So they feel if they're what's called mean or difficult to one person, then that's going to reflect poorly on them. And one person is going to hate me. And that will be bad for me. So what you're really practicing is not necessarily saying no, but practicing that you have to be kind to yourself. And you have to build up discernment

through all these aspects of health, like physical, emotional, mental, spiritual. You have to use, this will teach you discernment of boy, this person is wasting my time or invading my boundaries. This is a situation where I need to say no. So you learn the situations where you need to say no before you actually learn how to say no. And then it just becomes practice. You practice until you get to the point where you say no without an explanation. Yeah, that's a pattern that I've noticed as well.

I know Seth Godin does this. A lot of folks, I think the higher they get, the less explanation they provide, partially because, and I'm sure you've experienced this, when you provide an explanation, more often than not, the other party, thinking that persistence will be rewarded, will try to overcome that objection or that reason. It's like, oh, you broke your leg? No problem. We can do coffee in two weeks. Oh, you don't have time on Tuesday? No problem. I can do Wednesday. And it turns into

this pen pal type of ping pong, which can be extremely exhausting. So it's sort of the less justification, the less labor you're going to have to contend with when you say no. And also important to realize, let's take the basic example. Someone says, Tim, I need $1,000. I'm in a bad situation. Can you lend it to me? And I promise I'll pay you back. If you say yes to that person, then which, I'm not saying you situation. Can you lend it to me? And I promise I'll pay you back. Now, if you say

yes to that person, then which, which I'm not saying you should say yes or no, because it all depends on the situation. But let's say you do say yes to that person. Suddenly you've just inherited all of their problems. So they had some problems that led them to the point where they had to ask you, can you lend me $1,000? And now those problems are your problems once you say yes to them. So you have to decide what problems do I want to have? And most of the time, I don't want to have other people's problems. So it's not like I say no to everyone. I say yes to my friends a lot. And I say yes to opportunities when they seem interesting, particularly relating to the things that I'm interested in.

But I always make sure that I'm not inheriting problems that are too big for me. When is it a good time to say yes? And let me qualify that by saying that I was very affected by advice that I would read in books. For instance, I think it was in losing my virginity by Richard Branson. There are many others who say like, say yes to everything, you know, say yes to everything. And that will open the doors for you. That will create the opportunities for you say yes to everything. And I I'd say generally speaking, I feel that might be true in the very early days when you don't have a

lot of inbound requests for your time, but that it becomes, there's this pendulum that swings over to the other side where you go from a high percentage of saying yes to a lower and lower and lower percentage of saying yes to continue crafting a life that you want. I'd just love to get your thoughts on when it makes sense to say yes, and that could be when in someone's life, when in someone's career, or just when in general. Yeah, so I've been through this where, for instance, I had a policy, always say yes whenever a TV channel would ask me to come on because I wanted to go on TV. So CNBC would always ask me to come on because I wanted to go on TV.

And so CNBC would always ask me to go on, even at a moment's notice. And I would put on a sports coat and I'd say, okay, I'll be right there. And I don't think it ever really did anything for me or my career or anything. And it was never fun. They always, I don't have to talk about CNBC

in particular, but TV and TV news in general, it was never fun for me to go on, but I would always feel like, okay, if more people see me out there, then this is a good thing. But much better for me would have been to say no. And let's say start a business or write a book or do something that actually was creative instead of just a talking head on TV. So, you know, I've been through that where, you know, oh, you're supposed to always say yes to get opportunities. But the reality is there's a huge opportunity cost to saying yes. And I don't know how Richard Branson did it. I don't quite believe he always said yes to things. You know, I don't know. But there's a huge opportunity cost of saying yes. Let's say you go on a date and you kind of like the girl, but you're not sure. But you end up in

a in a relationship because you kept saying yes. Well, now the opportunity cost is you might miss out on meeting the love of your life if you had just stayed at home that night instead of going out on that second date. So this has probably happened to me as well. So now fortunately I learned to say no and I think I did meet the love of my life or I got married again, I'm previously divorced. But, you know, I think there's a big danger to saying yes, simply because of the opportunity cost of time. Every yes has to be treated with a lot more attention even than no, you can't make it easy for yourself to say yes, because you'll lose too much time, too much opportunity cost. Yeah. So I don't,

I don't, I don't believe in that philosophy. Even, even at any point in your career, you should always, you know, focus on your own health today. You know, every tomorrow is determined by what you do today. So saying yes to something you don't want to do will only give you a bad tomorrow. So I only say yes to, as long as I'm not harming anybody, I only say yes to things that are good for me today. Cause I know then that it'll, I'll have a good tomorrow. Now this doesn't mean, I don't say this in a callous way. Like if somebody needs help, I don't say no. Cause I always say no to people, but you know, I make sure everything's nobody's dying or nobody's suffering.

And then I decide, I use my own discernment to say, is this good for me? Is this fun for me? Or will this really help me along? And if it doesn't, then I definitely don't say yes to it. But some people don't know what to say. They don't know that TV is no good for them in some cases. Like for me, I didn't know. And so I would say yes to it.

So you have to build discernment too. And we discussed that in the book a little bit, how you do that. So I'm going to shift gears a little bit. I have just a handful more questions I'd love to ask. But one that comes to mind is given that a lot of people listening will no doubt be in the stock market or otherwise investing in different vehicles, different asset classes. You're on the board of a publicly traded employment agency. This is CRRS on NASDAQ. I would love to get your thoughts because I think you're much more macro aware than I am about what's going on in the world, where you see the economy headed. Obviously, this is not professional investment advice or anything like that, but it sounds like you have a bird's eye view of employment before the

government does. And of course, employment is a huge trigger for a lot of behaviors, a lot of the elephants, the hedge funds and so on move based on employment. What are you seeing these days and how might people interpret that? Right. So I'll qualify that what I'm saying has nothing to do with the company I'm on the board of because their information's private. But just what I'm seeing in general is that, and this is all from publicly available information about this company and similar ones, is that essentially the middle class is slowly being fired or demoted from their jobs. And it's a horrible thing, but we kind of went through a hundred years of not capitalism,

but corporatism. This idea that the corporation is going to take us from cradle to grave. From the time we leave high school or college to the time we retire, the corporation will take care of us. And then in 2008, the tide came in, and we saw that this simply wasn't true. Like the corporation started firing everybody. They went into a panic. There was no loyalty at all. Corporations simply just fired everybody they could.

And everybody else had to work extra hours. And then you would think, OK, well, it's gotten a little better since then, hasn't it? Like unemployment has gone down. The stock market is at an all time high. So it must have gotten better. And the answer is yes and no. Innovation is still happening in the economy. Like there are tech companies that are growing. The gatekeepers are going away. And by gatekeepers, I mean you can self-publish a book or you could get a car ride without using a taxi by using Uber. There's all sorts of ways in which the internet is improving the quality of our lives. But at the same time, the reason the stock market is at a high is because everybody got fired.

So companies became enormously more profitable and the stock market is ruled by profits and dividend streams. So if companies are fired, if you're paid $200,000 and you're fired or if you're paid $40,000 and you're fired, company has an extra $40,000. They actually have more than that because they don't have to pay your insurance. They don't have to pay for your computer, your desk space, all these things that they bake into your salary. So what happens is, so why is the unemployment rate then going down, is that all of these people are getting not quite fired anymore, but demoted. So they're getting outsourced to employment agencies. And you'll see, you go to

like a Manpower or Kelly Services or even CRS, the company I'm on the board of. And again, this is public information. You look at the rise in their revenues and compare that to the rise in revenues of other companies in the stock market. There's no comparison. These companies are going up over the past five years, three, four hundred percent in revenues because it's not just people outsourcing secretaries, it's companies like the major accounting firms, law firms, businesses outsourcing vice president uh employees to temp agencies and because they don't want to deal anymore with having employees because of whether whether it's too much risk if the economy goes down or too much risk with uh changing regulations that nobody wants to deal with it anymore and once these guys are outsourced to an employment agency, their salaries are going to go down, their benefits are going to go down. We're still in this period where it hasn't been quite totally unveiled what's

happening. But I think actually it's a bad trend in employment where you have to recreate yourself in a four hour workweek sort of way. You have to find your own way to build a business along the lines of the four hour workweek in order to survive in the coming decades because the big corporations will not hire you anymore. Yeah, it's an unfortunate illusion of security that leaves people oftentimes without the resources to be self-sufficient. I'm sure you've seen it a lot like with the feedback you get from all your books, but particularly the 4-Hour Workweek, people want, people now, I bet you at first people wanted that lifestyle. Now people have to learn that lifestyle. Yeah, it's a, I mean, it's a set of survival tools almost. that she bought the book, was planning on taking the leap into entrepreneurship,

and was criticized by her dad until after, I think it was 40 or 50 years of employment, he was fired by a company that had been his lifelong employer. And he did not know what the next step for him could possibly be because he hadn't developed a safety net in the form of a set of skills that he could adapt into being self-sufficient, whether that's, you know, moonlighting or being a full-time entrepreneur. I have to tell you, this is one of the reasons I had to outsource my email is I was getting, and I'm sure you get dozens of emails like that a day. And there's nothing I can do, but I would feel bad for these people. And I wouldn't want to

write like huge emails responding like what I would do because I like to write for a large audience and not just one person. So I couldn't look at these emails anymore, but I was getting a lot of them. This is what's happening across the economy. Yeah, no, it's very challenging. Well, let's do this. I would love to ask a couple of rapid fire questions, and then we'll find out where we can learn more about the book and, of course, find you online. But let me just lob a few fast questions at you, and then we can come to a close.

So the first is who's the first person that comes to mind or who comes to mind when you hear the word successful and why? You know, nobody comes to mind. I don't, I don't like the word success because, uh, success sort of implies, like people say, how do, how do you be successful? It sort of implies at some point they weren't successful. that at some point in the future they're going to be if they apply some method. I don't like to outsource my success to the future. Like right now is where when I think of success, I think of me because right now I'm exactly where I want to be. So there can't be any other success other than that.

Tomorrow, who knows? So today, this moment, I'm successful. So it's, so me, I'm the first person who comes to mind. Good answer. What is the book or what are the books that you've given most often as a gift? Okay. Other than my own books, because that would be, I, I've given my own books as gifts. I really like this one collection of short stories by this guy, Dennis Johnson, a D N-I-S, not one S. And it's called Jesus' Son. There was a movie made about it.

And it's a beautiful collection of short stories about this total drug addict. And I would say, first off, I would say I probably read it 300 times, this collection of short stories. And then I was reading an interview with Chuck Planyik. I think you say his last name, he wrote Fight Club. And he said that the one book he's read 300 times is this collection of short stories. And it's called Jesus Son, S-O-N? Yeah. And his real name is never mentioned in the book. And it's an inter, it's all interconnected short stories about this one drug addict and how he deals with it. And it's just, the writing is so beautiful and amazing. And it's a very thin book. I remember when the book came out, the day the book came out, it was in the early nineties, like 92 or 93. And I was so excited because I had read the books.

I read the stories in like obscure literary magazines, and now they were coming together as a collection. And I still, I probably, I didn't read it today, but I read from it yesterday. Wow, great. I'll check it out. I guarantee you, if you even read a chapter or two of that story or two in that book, you'll feel inspired to write something about yourself.

Great, I'll check it out. Yeah. You walk into a bar. What do you order from the bartender? Uh, water. I'm a, I'm a, I'm a web. Okay. I don't drink at all. And if I do drink, I was, uh, an alcoholic, so I don't drink at all. Yes. Okay. That's a good policy. What do you listen to while you're working? If anything? Do you listen to music? If so, what most commonly or currently? Yeah, I don't listen to any music while I'm writing for the simple reason that I don't think it's possible or it's difficult for me at least to multitask in any way. So when I'm

listening to music, I really like to listen to it. And when I'm writing, I really like to write. But I really like almost every form of music, like from classic rock to heavy metal to rap. I like all forms of rap. I was just over my buddy Ice-T's house doing a podcast with him. So I like all forms of rap, from classic rap to rap that came out yesterday. Any particular favorites? If you were to look at your iPhone or your computer at the most played list, what would be up at the top? This sounds kind of corny, but probably Led Zeppelin,

probably the Wu-Tang Clan, which is like rap in the 90s, Eminem, Ice-T, I like a lot of his stuff because he combines metal and rap. I don't know, all classic rock, a lot of stuff from the 70s, but pretty much anything. I really like, I really like all forms of music. I'll listen to country, I'll listen to gospel. I like gospel that has like a beat to it. So I listen to anything. If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be i wish i had as much trouble as brad pitt writing a book called how to pick up girls so honestly it's a it's a sinful thing but

i just wish i looked better got it do you have a favorite documentary or favorite documentaries? I, well, I like, um, and these are all, uh, from the nineties also, but the HBO used to do these really good documentaries. There's this one called high on crack street. The producer is John Albert. Very beautiful. Uh, about, it makes it seem like all I do is read and watch stuff about drug addicts, but it uh but it was very beautiful and then i like uh poop dreams which is the basketball you know follow these two kids you know up in their basketball uh dreams um and uh you know i i don't watch documentaries as much i like comedian uh the jerry seinfeld documentary when he came When he went back on the road doing stand-up after his run at Seinfeld. I really love that documentary.

So those are three. And this will be the last rapid fire. Favorite people to follow on Twitter or online in general? That's a hard question because I don't really use Twitter because I don't read news. Twitter's a great place to curate news. So if I did read news, I would use Twitter and follow the people who I trusted to show me good news items. So I don't really use Twitter for anything. Like I said, I follow your blog.

Oh, I follow Maria Popova's blog, brainpickings.org. Yeah, great, great site. And, you know, then it's just sort of random after that. There's not there's not that many, you know, if Tucker, we have a mutual friend, Tucker Max, if he writes a new article, I know it's always gonna be crazy. So I'll read that. And there's not much not much else online. I'll read. Got it. Okay,'ll read that. And there's not much, not much else online I'll read. Got it. Okay. Since, since that question was not very well pointed. I really bored out like a lot of your questions. No, it's all right. It's all right. That's why I have to, I have to, Bob and Weave,

if you had to name where you had the best meal of your life or one of the best meals of your life, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Oh my God, it might be my lunch today because I had pad thai in Thailand. So yeah, no, that's perfect. This is like a bucket list item. Like I've loved pad thai all my life. And then I stopped it because of you, because I went on this low carb diet. I can't have pad thai anymore. But in Thailand, they make it just right. I promise you, you don't even have that many carbs in it here. It's like they do it just perfect. Well, I'd say when in Thailand, do as the Thai do. Certainly, I'm not going to fault you for having Pad Thai. Well, I'm so happy that you took the time to chat

with me today. And where can people... Thank you, Tim. And I want to tell you one tiny story, which was it was real difficult for me to reach out and say, hey, we should... In both cases, because you've been on my podcast, I've been on your podcast. It's really difficult for me to ask things. And so you've been like an experiment for me actually asking you to come on my podcast and then asking hey I'll go on your podcast as well

so you'll read about that in my next book after the power of no well I can't wait I always have fun batting around ideas with you and I think other people should if they haven't check out your work. And of course, take a look at the new book as well. Where can people best find you online and learn more about what you're up to? Sure. So jamesaltucher.com is where I blog,

A-L-T-U-C-H-E-R.com, the blog. And at jaltucher on Twitter, I do a Q&A every Thursday from 3.30 to 4.30 Eastern Standard Time where hundreds of people ask me any question they want and I answer. And I've been doing that for four years. I've answered probably 10,000 questions. The Power of No is coming out July 15th. If you pre-order it,

if you pre-order it, go to powerofno.us, and Claudia and I are giving three free gifts out, so I encourage you to get those gifts before July 15th, or if it's after July 15th. I don't know, actually, when this podcast is coming out, so Power of No is a book I would highly recommend, and Choose Yourself, my last book, is a book I would highly recommend. And Choose Yourself, my last book, is a book I would highly recommend. So that's where, oh, and my podcast. So the James Altucher Show, where you could find my interview with the one and only Tim Ferriss. And I have a daily podcast called Ask Altucher. Awesome. Perfect. Well, plenty to chew on. And if people need a place to start, I would, I think some of your

stories are really hilarious. And they're all the more hilarious and instructive when you know that they're true. So check out some of the most popular posts on James' blog. And thanks, everybody, for listening. Until next time, have a great one. If you want more of The Tim Ferriss Show, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or go to 4hourblog.com. F-O-U-R-H-O-U-R-B-L-O-G.com. Where you'll find an award-winning blog, tons of audio and video interview stories with people like Warren Buffett and Mike Shinoda from Linkin Park,

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