The Toast - A Very Serious Toast with Remi Bader: Thursday, April 13th, 2023

Episode Date: April 13, 2023

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Good morning, Millennials. Welcome back to The Toast. Happy Thursday. Oh my God, it's the latter half of the week and we are continuing Friends and Family Week here at The Toast with a highly requested, very special guest. It is TikTok girly, realistic,

what do you say? Realistic, haul, creator, influencer. I don't know. Remy Bader. Hello, thank you for that introduction. Sorry, I totally botched it. What is your official bio? What is your official title?

Content creator and curve model. Yeah, I knew I fucked it up. Content creator and curve model, Remy Bader is here. Hi, Remy. Hi, thank you for having me. Thank you for coming back. It's been almost a whole year since your last appearance on the show. I think I came last year right after Coachella.

Oh my God. So that's actually what I wanted to talk to you about. We're going to catch up and stuff before we get into all the stories. And we both watched a new episode of Vanderpump Rules last night. But I was thinking about you this week because this weekend is Coachella. And you're not going? Why not? I just like really wasn't sure if it was for me.

So last year was your first year. Yeah. And now that you're a year out from it, I think the last time we spoke, it was a little fresh, a little raw for you. Yeah. Now you've had a whole year to process what that journey was like. Tell people who've never been to Coachella why it wasn't for you. And I've been twice and I totally understood all of your concerns.

I agreed with them. I didn't realize you've been. Yes, of course. It's not for me. Okay. Yeah. Well, after I want to know why it's not for you. Okay.

course it's not for me okay yeah well after I want to know why it's not for you but for me personally I just felt like I can't say it's like a bad place to be like it's a wonderful place if you're into that I realized after that I'm a concert girly not a festival girly that's fair I love to be a concert where I know every word and I'm there for that person but like why would I run around in a desert hot field that takes an hour to get into sweating dripping you know once you get in there you're not even getting out for a few hours because it's like a thing to get out all day all day I'm like trying to even think I just feel like honestly it was my sorry you're fine it was my personal experience that everything went wrong and that's why I can't be like you I would never say to anyone like you don't go to Coachella right but

if you are someone like me that I don't know if there's many people like me that have those exact experiences but like the sweating and the heat and don't like you have triggers triggers I'm triggered by heat 100% that was a huge problem I had when I went to Coachella but for me the reason why I disliked Coachella was like, yeah, I was uncomfortable and like I was sweaty and like there was a lot of long lines and walking, which, oh my God, I hate walking. And walking in the heat where I was like trying to wear like, I was also like trying to like be cute.

That was crazy in that weather. A hundred percent. I could get past that. I really could. But at the end of the day, like I'm measuring life experiences in the amount of fun that I'm having. And I didn't find it to be all that fun, especially as like a influencer, podcast or content creator. You go to create content.

So it's very much like a work. It's like a conference. And every there's so many different brand events and and everyone's just like competing to go to the best events. And you end up like, oh, I think I'll go to this party tonight. You always end up choosing the wrong party. Like, it's just I don't know. I don't find it that fun. I'm more of a stagecoach girl no brands go to

stagecoach it's very chill I love country music is it at the same place yeah it's the same exact festival the week after Coachella weekend number two see I'm surprised that you go to that then I love the music it's way less fanfare there's not like famous people there it's just like people who like country music and it's so fun it's like really the best country yeah because Coachella is known for it's just so hyped up, but it's not even, it's also years ago. Like I remember in high school being like, I'll never go to this. It wasn't something I looked at. It was like, this is so cool. Like when everyone was wearing the hats and doing the Instagram pictures, I'm like, I hate that. Oh no. I saw it. And I was

like, dear God, please one day, let me be cool enough. No, I really, really, really, I will go to synagogue every Saturday. If you just let me be cool and wear hats like that with beads on my face. God, I will eat kosher, please. Yeah, no, not me. But the one thing is I feel like everyone was like, oh my God, she clearly had a horrible time at like Revolve Fest or something because all that drama happened last year. I actually like have a little bit of FOMO because I had the best time specifically at Revolve Fest. Yeah. Because I went with them.

So I'm not, I went with them. So I'm not, I don't know. I can't say like how everyone else's experience was that just like went. I know like shit went down. But for me, I had me and Nikki, my sister had a wonderful time. Yeah. And like that was where I had the most fun because it was more of a VIP experience. It wasn't as big as Coachella. No matter if you were GA or VIP, I like really listened to the artists and had fun.

And it was just just that was more up my alley yes I will say the last time I went to Coachella Jackie and I also went to Revolve Festival and it was probably better than the the thing is with the festival it's so much work to get there like the flights and the outfits and you get there and you walk and you walk and you walk and you walk and you walk and then you finally get there and I will say like I under I understand why people are obsessed with it it's so beautiful did you have an artist pass yes I didn't yeah okay so for people that don't know like if there's VIP and there's GA but then there's an artist pass which I wasn't cool enough to know about and people are like oh you have artist pass and I'm

like no no people are so annoying about like what type of tickets yeah that's what I mean too that I'm like no so then some of these influencers are so goddamn annoying. You have artist pass? Shut up, bitch. Okay, shut up. That's what I mean with like the competition level. That's what I'm saying too. Like mind your own goddamn business, bitch.

And go put your fishnet stockings on and eat my fucking ass with a spoon. That shit bothers me. I agree. That's what I'm saying. So when I was just like in the VIP and I realized I thought VIP would be close. For me, I like to connect to the artist.

So I like to be as close as possible. you're more of like an indie music no girl like i go to the front and i'm like yeah no you're like locking eyes with like the lead singer like gonna go in the back but like i just want to feel feel feel feelings in my heart no i actually i know what you're saying when i go to concerts i i don't wear glasses, but I could benefit from wearing glasses. And I bring a pair of glasses because I really want to see the artist. And then I feel like they can see me. Like when I go to Broadway shows, when I saw Funny Girl, I was literally wearing my glasses. I really want to see that, by the way.

Oh my God. I know. But I, what were we talking about? Coachella artist pass. Yes. I didn't do that. And then I realized VIP, I was a million miles away I was like how is this VIP and I just like that was what it was everything you're saying and like

the pictures and everyone like one upping each other I just started looking there's a video of that not the video of me like crying there's a video of me just like standing around and like looking at people and being like what is this and started laughing because I'm like this is just a joke it's like a content it's a content conference it's like VidCon almost yeah I've never been there but I know what you mean me neither but I'm assuming that's what goes down yeah um so you're not going to Coachella this weekend what are you doing well I'll be in the air conditioning in my apartment smiling um no actually smiling just like staring up at your ceiling fan yeah I don't know actually I

really oh so like next week is my sister's bachelorette party in Tulum I've been hearing a lot about it so I'm really preparing and the week after three days in between and then I'm going on a Broughton trip to Turks and Caicos I know all about it Spritz will be there really yeah I didn't know that so I like need to just like chill. Calm down. But I might like maybe like go out once. Yeah, like maybe you want to get a drink or something. I'll be here.

I would love to get hibachi or something. Hibachi. Let's get hibachi. Because I just heard you like it. Let's get hibachi. What do you mean hibachi? I just posted on my Instagram story the history of Ben. By the way, you know Steve Aoki is the heir to the hibachi throne.

That's why I just posted on my story I go this is crazy no there's actually a picture of him when you walk in and you know if you go to the there's one Benihana in the city and if you go there you're like 95% likely to see Tracy Morgan he's always there that's so interesting both times I've been there in like the last five years

I had my like 25th birthday at Benihana no I think that's cool it was so cool that's the coolest. And the thing is, all you need is like 10 people to get your own table. And you don't have to pay for like a room rental. You get your own room. It's kind of like a low budget. I did all of my, so I, at the corner of my street, when I grew up, I had a hibachi place

at the corner of my street. So I was like, yo, let's all meet for hibachi. And I'd be like, let's go Saturday night. And I would like throw parties. And again, you don't have to rent it yeah just like the huge table I was like 20 of my friends and I was like this is the coolest thing I've ever done you know what that reminds me of last night on banner pump rules they were like kind of making fun of Sheena's rehearsal dinner the girls who weren't invited

I'm like that literally looks like the best wait I was gonna say that whole thing looked really fun it's kind of changing my mind a little bit because I was very much like not saying I'm getting married anytime soon but I recently spoke to my boyfriend I go I just want to let you know because I have sweating issues and all this stuff like we will not be getting married anytime like anywhere outside no I used to say that when I was getting married I wanted to have a winter wonderland yes wedding in December outside in the city yeah it's snowing perfect yes so like I just and he was like maybe um well like maybe like a way in one no I know I know. Hot there too. I know.

So I'm like already having all these rules just thinking about how I'll be anyways. But like I watched my point as I saw the wedding and I was like, it's not one day. Like you have all these celebrations around. And like it just was, it looked really fun. I know. She actually did a really good job and I was really, I don't want to get too much into it because we're going to have a whole segment at the end. But I was really impressed with Sheena.

Like the whole episode, my takeaway was like, wow, Sheena's kind of like a mature queen okay well that's I just was talking about this in my chat with my mom my sister last night because my mom I love your mom by the way yeah she's funny she's a queen well she was like love Sheena and I was like honestly like I don't agree with you like I was like I think she's like a little dramatic I agree with how she was during the wedding like I thought she'd be bugging when the air was flying and stuff. I'm like whispering. And, um, and then I was like,

and then my sister was like, yeah, mom, what? Like she's dramatic. And we were like fighting about who we liked and who we didn't like and stuff. But I do think that she handled herself very well, especially for like that.

For me, like I like have no idea what I'll be like when I'm a bride, but I'll probably be like a little bit of a scary girl. That was going to be my next question. Like what kind of bride do you think you're going be I was and I'm speaking from experience the most miserable cunt you've ever met and I never use that word you've ever met in your life like so controlling hate if she heard you use that I know but you know what sometimes it's the only right word I'm sorry mrs. Bader sometimes it's only because that's Dina it's the only I have respect for my

elders I say mrs. she hates it I I like grew up and that was like what I was forced to do and I felt like so awkward and now it just just so you know like every time like a like still to this day if like my guy friends walk up to her something and they're like Mrs. Bader she goes it's Adina and don't you ever call me she's so sexy I'm obsessed um I just was like the worst type of bride so I relate to whatever you you were constantly stressed? So stressed. I like refused to offload any of the planning to the actual wedding planners. Right.

But I had like, you know, I had this like big deal with the knot and our wedding was going to be in the magazine. And I was just like, so it became like a work thing, which I hated. And that would be like my biggest piece of advice to like an influencer. To not hire, to work and. Or like a content creator who is going to be like posting their wedding. It can become work and it work equals not content creator who is going to be like posting their wedding it can become work and it work equals not fun no matter what you do so that's my only piece of

advice it's funny because Nikki is being who I thought who I think I'll be and I'm shocked is she being a bride she's more not bridezilla like but I've never seen her more anxious and bugging about everything weddings are perfectionist wild and like just being like even she hasn't slept in days and she's like I don't know why and she's like being crazy and I'm like we chill like we're good and like it's easier said than done I know and if I had I'm just saying if I had me as a maid of honor like I know I'm like are you the maid of honor yeah well who else would it be yeah I just want to say I don't feel like you kind of convey um any sort of calm energy like right I understand why she stressed you are quite literally her maid of honor yes but

I'm but like I am like queen planner yeah that's like I like have always hosted parties for people I'm like love hosting planning making things perfect so like even though I'll bug until the moment like for my parties and stuff like I've never had a bad party I've never felt like I've like shit I dropped the ball on this like I always plan things accordingly yeah and for me I'm actually being extra chill because I'm like she'll just bring up like the bridal party when like this is coming up and I'm like let's not focus on that that's in June one thing at a time this is like coming up in a week like and we're all good for it so like let's just live in the moment. I'm being like a hippie girl.

Yes. You know the first time you were on this show. This is not your third time correct? Yeah and I remember exactly what I wore and every feeling about the last time but I don't remember anything. When was the first time? You were a guest first with Jackie and I. Okay.

Then you co-hosted. Oh yes. I actually remember you wore a black bodysuit and blue jeans. I was like that's cute. Oh my god and I. Okay. Then you co-hosted. Oh yes. I actually remember you wore a black body suit and blue jeans. I was like that's cute. I don't remember that. And that was the most like nervous day of my life. And then we sat here for like an hour afterwards talking shit about every single person on the planet.

Yes. Because that's like all I ever dreamed of doing with you guys. So much fun. And I was like this is the coolest thing. But so the first time you were here you had like just popped off. Like your life was changing. You were in this like very transition. I think you were really overwhelmed.

Wait I don't want you to get mad at mean i want to talk about this but like i have to adjust myself like i feel like i've been sitting like this the whole time trying to lean back i don't know what to do okay well i have to no i want you to be comfortable and what can pull your microphone back sit here and then just pull it towards your mouth gorgeous see now i could like see you and sit this is so much i want you to be happy Remelina okay go again so the first time you were here your life had kind of changed overnight through TikTok you had blown up and I think you were feeling like a little overwhelmed by the whole and now it's been how long have you been a TikToker two and a half years does it feel more normal now because your life just changed on a dime I still feel like it was yesterday yeah I

really do because I'm like I it like scares me in that way because I'm like, all right, I'll get to the halls next week. And then I'm like realizing I, it's been a two, like, I just feel like I'm having, I'm still having a hard time of like focusing on myself.

And like right now I'm in myself period of like your year of you. Yes. Like, and I'm really like focusing on myself and all it's good. But then I like push away the content and then it stresses me out that I can't give that to my followers I do a bad job of doing both and giving it to myself and to everyone else and that's how am I still trying to manage that two and a half years later that's what's annoying it's not that long like this is a very abnormal um like way of living right and I think it's so important I actually

spoke about this a lot in my book like doing the toast gave my life so much structure because being a content creator, like your life is pretty structureless. You know, you work at all hours of the day and then no hours of the day. You have weeks that are so busy. You can't breathe in the weeks where like kind of nothing's going on. You're like, I could literally get a day job. Right. And so doing this every day kind of gave like a nine to five structure to my day and I feel like a lot of the most successful content creators have like such crazy structure in their their day just to avoid that kind of awkward yeah I need that yeah and I almost feel like just even me this is the first time in my life not my life what the first time in years that I'm even getting up earlier

again because I used to be an early bird. Like I would even get up in college at 5 a.m. to study. I would never study at night. I would be at Starbucks at 5 a.m. when it opened. So like I like miss that version of myself and I'm bringing that back. And even just like getting up earlier and doing these things, I'm like, wow, this is like a little of routine. This is structure.

This is what I've been missing since before COVID. So I'm getting there. And then I think I could in a way,, I feel like I'm working on so many different things that, but for the first time I realized this the other day too, like everything the first year was just like public and on TikTok and whatever. The second year was all of the things I was working on, like coming to life. And I had announcement, announcement, announcement. It was like, wow, this is so exciting.

And now for the first time, it's like, I don't have these announcements, but I'm working on so much that I can't even like talk about. And that would, will probably come about like next year that I'm like, am I not doing enough? No, that's the thing about like this line of work is you're always looking at what other people are doing and comparing like, oh my God. I do that. Yeah, of course.

That's just human. But I've talked to, you've helped me a lot with this. I always tell my mom that. I'm like, Claudia helps me a lot because I'll be all like you know I'm very open about when I feel a certain way and I'm like oh my god like am I not doing enough or I feel like I'm focusing on too much like and you're like you're going to have periods in this like job where it's what highs and lows highs and lows everybody you know wants to work with you and then there's a few weeks where it's like you're kind kind of irrelevant and it comes in waves. And as long as you get comfortable knowing that there are going to be highs, there are going to be lows,

there are going to be months that are, you know, you're bringing in more money than other months and other months where you're just like kind of slow. Like it's okay. Actually lean into those slow moments because then there are months where you can't catch your breath and you long for, for a slow month. Right. And that's what I'm trying to be okay with right now because it's not even, I have to understand, like, it's not not even slower like this is like good for me but I couldn't even handle what was happening before because that was abnormal yeah and now I'm like oh it's like it is some weeks are busier some weeks are not but when those weeks are busier I'm like I can't breathe I need a rest so I'm like I just need to like lean into it more and I think that's what I'm doing

now I'm like I'm having a little bit more time on my hands where I'm like great I can actually go to the gym I could do some nice things for myself and I cooked the other night for the first time in two years I saw your steak and pasta it was really good yeah I feel like gratitude is so important not to sound literally like a freak but being grateful when you're busy but also being grateful when you're not like you need to be grateful for the opportunities that come your way because like everyone no matter who you are like you work hard to earn things in this life and when you're busy, but also being grateful when you're not like, you need to be grateful for the opportunities that come your way. Cause like everyone, no matter who you are, like you work hard to earn things in this life. And when you get them,

you should be really grateful for them. And then, then it's just also about your perspective. So like when things are going, you know, slow, you can think like, Oh my God,

like nobody wants to work with me. I hit everywhere. Like I'm done in this business. Or you could think like, wow, I can take care of myself. I can reset. I can relax so that when those months come where I'm like really busy,

I can lean in and give it a hundred percent percent like here today at the toast you're gonna give it a hundred percent you already are excited I'm happy to be here and I do feel the difference of like the last time I was here which is just funny because I feel like the first time I was here I was a fan the second time I was here we were friends but like now I feel like we're actually friends where I feel comfortable where I was like we're friends but I'm like still nervous and bugging you still had your wall up yeah I'm not nervous now oh good I mean we share a physical therapist we share a lot yeah we both went to physical therapy yesterday Frank who do you think Frank likes better it was funny like a really good patient like I make my appointments I show up every time I do my exercise at home like I don't

know how Frank couldn't like me and And I'm hilarious on the table. Well, I just want to say to everyone that like Claudia didn't find Frank. I found Frank. I never said I found Frank. People started telling me, oh, were you going to Claudia's PT? And I was like, I'm triggered. You want to know why they said that? Because I'm consistent and I always go.

And whenever I go, I post to support local businesses. This is the first, yesterday was the first time I went in a year and a half. I'm just consistent. And I never said I invented Frank. I actually said I got him from Margo, who got him from Remy. Right. Anyways. I never said I invented Frank.

He was talking you up. So, okay. Yeah. He was just like, I got like 20 new patients the other day when she posted. Support local business. Yeah. So then I started being like, oh shit, like I have to post and he's kind of like like turning us against one another I agree wait also it was just funny because I like didn't I was so tired when I went yesterday and just like out of it

because I've been working oh yes queen I was like I'm sorry Frank like I keep yawning and like whatever and he starts like whipping out the camera and I'm like we I'm not my hair's everywhere I'm of no makeup and I texted Claudia after and I'm like I had no idea I was going to a photo shoot at PT yeah he was he was like yeah well Claudia you know let's rethink the videos and do this and I was never gonna say no to Frank like yeah I was like yeah do and I was thinking and then he's like can we take a picture together and I'm like ah like I wanted so bad to be like can we just do this next time but I didn't have it in my heart to do so yeah well I always go to Frank after the toast so I always look cute and the first time we took a picture together and I was like oh I should look cute

every time in case like he wants to take more photos with me well you know what I was thinking oh my god I just cut you off no it's okay I'm just always making content at PT because you sit there for a while with that machine on your back so I'm like taking pictures of myself okay well I'm sorry that I'm in pain so am I that's why I'm at PTA bitch that's literally why I'm at PTA like I literally like saw you on your phone I'm like oh I could be on my phone like when I used to go I would like literally put the phone aside and be like because I was just like so serious and it wasn't a fun thing for me but I did enjoy it more yesterday I said to Frank I said I feel more motivated than ever like I want to feel better I just don't want to be in pain that's how I felt I'm like my back hurts like after long days and I

am going to take the matter into my own hands right like last night when I got home like can you believe I was actually doing some of the things you told me to do did you do your exercises yeah I was like pulling like pushing myself up on the bed um oh I post oh I actually yeah I meant to tell you you're about to yell at me I get a no I get a little bit of like an older tanner version of like Ben vibes from him yeah that's a compliment I'm gonna tell Ben which because you did well I get in trouble for saying you said he was like oh cute oh my god yes I did say we can cut that out we gotta but then I started looking at him and I'm like I get it because this is like Ben like I get why you see that yeah no

that's fair we could cut this out because now like frank's gonna think no it's okay it's okay because let me tell you frank watches the tone no he does because i let me tell you because i had said i was sharing listen can you cut things out on here i can but i'm not because this is funny because i said on the first time i went i told the story about how i accidentally took my pants off when i wasn't supposed to story and the whole situation was like made even more humiliating because he was like a handsome guy and that clip went so viral and the next time i was like there's no way frank saw this clip where i called him handsome he's like my wife saw it and sent it to me i'm like

oh my god now him and his wife and I was like so mortified so you just called him handsome and now I feel better that I'm not the only one and I'm not cutting it out so having said that let's dive into a little bit of pop culture news the past five stories that uh you need to know today's episode is brought to you by state farm the state farm personal price plan helps you create a plan that gives you options so you get an affordable price. And it comes with a lot of benefits like the coverage you want, a policy that helps cover what's important to you, and an affordable price just for you. You know, Jax and I, my queen Jax, we're always talking about how important personalization is and how personal some things can be. Insurance, of course,

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remy bader to shed light on her health, addressing recent comments about her body in a rare three-minute confessional. This is what she said. I don't do this often. I don't like it. I'm not good at it, but I just wanted to address your concerns about my body and talk a little bit about what it means to be a person with a body and to be seen and to be paid such close attention to. There are many different ways to look healthy and beautiful. And personally for me, the body that you've been comparing my current body to was the unhealthiest version of my body. She continued, I was on a lot of antidepressants and I was drinking on them and I was eating poorly. And I was at the lowest point of my life when I looked the way that you consider my health, you consider healthy, but that in fact wasn't healthy. She said, healthy can look different. The second thing is you never know

what someone is going through. So even if you're coming from a loving place or a caring place, that person probably is working on it or has a support system that they're working on it with you never know so be gentle with each other and be gentle with yourselves sending you guys a lot of love and I think you're beautiful no matter what you're going through no matter your weight no matter how you'd like to do your makeup these days yada yada yada um thoughts remi as like the the girl who never asked to be the spokesperson of body positivity neutrality but who is i'm gonna get shit for that she is not the spokesperson about it but i you get shit for like whatever so just honestly you should start saying some crazy shit yeah i don't really care

anymore so um yeah i saw that i reposted it i truly believe i just i I don't agree with any sort of commenting on anyone's body like I just like especially if there is a public figure because I'm like they are people think that you're not people she is reading that maybe not every single comment but she sees it especially if that's like the majority of what people are saying and you really have no idea what she's going through clearly if she feels obligated which she never makes videos like that I know it was come on and say that like something's going on and she wants to make a point the fact that she was saying that it was unhealthy for her and whatever it's just like why do you have to date and when I reposted that video I was getting messages and it's funny because lately when I get I'm saying I don't care and I do in the way that

I'm like I actually respond more to people like shut up now like I'm like oh I I'm sorry like I I don't care like I'll block you I said like just go I mean I've always been a blocker but like people were messaging me no but she really needs to figure out her body and I would respond and be like I'm sorry that's very rude and you shouldn't say that yeah even if you're saying it to me I don't care I'm not gonna agree with you like why why do you think this is a just a genuine question do you think that people feel more comfortable um commenting on the body of a thin person yeah I feel like people they probably the people that maybe wouldn't comment on someone like my body because they think that they're doing a good job by not doing that they're like an ally but they're like right but then they're like oh well she looks unhealthy in the other way.

Right. I can comment on that. And that's absolutely not true. So, okay, this is my question for you because I feel a certain way about it. And I don't know if a lot of people agree with me. Do you think it's the same thing to comment on a curvy person's body and a thin person's body? Like is one of them worse than the other? I think I always grew up feeling like if you comment that someone's fat or on a curvier person's body that it's worse.

And I do think that there are, I do think deep, deep down, I think it's worse. Deep, deep down. But I've learned to accept more. And understand. And understand more what, you know, people might be going through with that they can't gain weight and things like that, where I used to get pissed. Like most of my friends from college are, I mean, all of my friends from college and my group of friends are skinny. Like it just, I didn't choose that. People think I choose skinny. Right. It is how it is. And I remember one of my friends always complaining, being like, I can't gain weight and it's so hard for me. And I'd be like, oh, shut up. I know.

And now I really like have seen some of the things she's gone through. And I like actually, I think I like a year ago apologized. Oh, wow. For maybe some of the like me just making it a joke years prior because I'm like, no, like I don't know. Like you really have no idea like what is going on. And I. Yeah. Yeah.

No, I agree with you. Something I struggle with. And I'm not saying that I think my version of anything is right. It's like I have always felt like it's not the same to be told you're too fat and you're too skinny right because we live in a culture where skinny is a good thing it's a currency it's like so calling someone too skinny is like calling someone too good it's like it's we put a positive connotation in skinny and a negative one on fat so it's like to be told you're too fat is like you're too negative and

to be told you're too skinny it's like you're too positive but then I also I see the flip side it's like well shut the fuck up about whatever anyone's body looks like I just I definitely and it's something I don't have like clear thoughts on but it's something I don't really fully understand and maybe that's because I've literally never in my life been told that I'm too skinny me neither and I've never I can't even relate to the sentiment of not being able to gain weight. But I know that that's a thing for people and I totally respect it. It's so foreign to me. I have no idea what that's like. Like if you've ever been in a really bad place, do you choose to eat or not to eat? That's a personal question. No, without question to eat. Right. I've never been so heartbroken over anything that I lost my appetite. No, no,

me neither. I found a newer, deeper recess of my appetite to dig into. Anytime, and still to this day, because I'm still struggling with that. If someone says something that pisses me off or it's just something more negative, I go to food. That is my comfort. So same, I've never dealt with the opposite, but think about putting yourself in, let's say, her shoes,

and I have no idea what Ariana's going through, and her being in such a maybe deep, place that she's truly can't eat I am sure that that's a traumatizing thing too yeah so I understand both sides but I do also with what you're saying I I like how you explained it too because I think it's just being fat no matter what is still negative. Yeah. And in, in the mind of most people in the world. Yes. And it's just, it is a dig. Can I ask you a question? Yeah.

You posted something yesterday that I. Oh my God. I knew you were going to. Why? What did I do wrong? Wait, wait, maybe you're not. Okay. What?

I wanted to ask you, cause I had never heard of the phrase body checking. I, okay. First of all, it's crazy that you saw that because it was up for 30 minutes and I usually did it and Claudia you were the only person in my head as why oh my god well because I mean me and Claudia talk about this stuff a lot but I was like literally in the back of my head I'm like Claudia's gonna disagree with this post by the way well so I only first of all I didn't really I think I disagre with it, but I don't know what body checking is. Can you explain? I hadn't heard that phrase. I didn't know before my eating disorder treatment at all. And people were saying, and I was like, what's body checking? It's a good question. Yeah. So it's when you are staring and

looking at yourself in the mirror and like looking at like your body and whatever, but you're doing that, then you're body checking is just that really oh my god I literally did that this morning right but like it's a not it's something that people are always a lot of people are doing but what I was trying to say and wait sorry is body checking bad it's it's bad why because I don't want to say the wrong thing no it's okay but no because I'm trying to like, we're just working through thoughts. Everyone. Right.

Right. Um, it's supposed to be, yeah, bad because you're, you're literally, you're staring at yourself and constantly checking on like what you should be looking like and looking,

it's like weighing yourself constantly. Got it. But you're just looking at yourself in the mirror and looking at your body and like, like constantly it's a, it's a bad thing, I guess guess in the world of like reading recovery. Got it. Okay.

Okay. And what I was saying, and I realized I rarely ever in my two and a half years delete videos that I post. I'm like very confident with what I post. How many times you watch a video before you post it? Like you wait a couple hours and you post it immediately. I don't watch it usually.

Okay. Unless I feel like I fucked something up. I said we're like not fucked it up like where i'm like uh like i need to cut that out because i like hesitated or something but i really like i'm big on my videos are better when i do them in the moment of what i'm feeling and i want to get it out there this was something i sat on for a week and I was like okay I want to say it the right way and to just explain what I was trying to get out there versus what I realized it sounded like and then started getting automatically some negative comments I was like this isn't worth me not sleeping tonight and it's not what you meant and it's not what I meant so what I was trying to say aside from any medications or what anyone's on because I

posted recently too, I disagree. I don't think that we should be looking at people's bodies and being like, she's on this, she's on this. I don't give a shit. And like, that's just not our business. Yeah, I agree. What I am and what I was trying to say, which maybe you'll understand more, is that I really, I was on my Instagram the other day and I just was scrolling through and every story was people I know and people I don't know of just out of nowhere showing their abs out of, it's not showing a fitness journey or whatever it is. It's like all of a sudden I'm seeing what I'm seeing it is, is in the behind, it's like we're in this like skinny era now.

I'm just going to show I'm really skinny now out of nowhere. we're in this like skinny era now. I'm just going to show I'm really skinny now out of nowhere. And what's bothering me is that I'm not saying, cause what people started coming to me, you're saying you, people can't show their progress and what they're proud of. That's not what I'm saying because I guess I would want to do that too.

You know, that's where I started being like, Oh no, that's not what I mean. I just think that people are leaning into this. Like I'm seeing so much less of like, be yourself, be okay with the videos that I was making in the beginning of COVID. I'm starting to see less of that and just so much more like we need to,

you know, go back to being skinny and that's all there is. And it's scaring me. So let me tell you why I disagreed with it. And I, I knew you would. No, I do. And only because it's like kind of a mentality I have about everything in this life. I feel like what you're describing is a really niche trigger for you. Right. And I think a part of recovering from anything, and I don't know anything about eating disorders, so I might be wrong. But I think through like therapy and healing, whatever it is that you're triggered by, the point of the healing journey is to be able to be confronted by things that trigger you. of the healing journey is to be able to be confronted by things that trigger you because the, the concept that, you know, everything you see every day is should,

should be a safe space for you. Whatever that person is dealing with, whatever the trauma is, is unrealistic. It's like Fran Lebowitz quote, you know, to leave your house is to be offended. Um, so I, what I felt was like, it's almost, it's your POV, but it might not be ubiquitous if that makes sense i get that and maybe that's why i deleted it because i feel like i'm good at feeling like oh maybe this wasn't right and then i wouldn't have deleted it yeah and it's just funny because i just didn't want you to see it but oh my god i can't believe you have this like complex about me i'm crying because you know i'm literally i know what you think it's almost like a nikki thing like with my sister it's like oh i know she's gonna see so i know's going to think. And I don't want to deal with the conversation.

So I'm just going to delete that. No, by the way, I totally relate to that. Like, oh, this is going to get difficult. I'm out. Deuces. Yeah. I feel like I used to be more in the, like, I'm going to battle. I feel like I used to be more like, I'm going to battle this.

And I'm standing for what I believe. And then, like, lately, I'm just like, I don't want to. I don't want to do it. Anyways, I see what you're saying. And that is very true true I think it's a part of like things when I'm like I go home and I'm in this like everyone put the food away in the house and I realize I can't do that anymore right I do I do but I think it's more because it's a public press thing right now that's like what are they calling it not skinny girl or I couldn't

even think of the word the other day how how people are saying like. Oh, heroin chic. Heroin chic. Yeah. Like things like that. Like how it's like a thing right now. Like a trend. So I just feel like people are, I thought it was bullshit the whole time. And that, cause I'm very much do what you want and what makes you feel good.

We've talked about this. But now that I'm starting to see it as like, oh my God, I'm seeing what people are talking about. Like a full trend. And it's in my face. And I'm not actually thinking about myself because I'm okay and I'm not getting too triggered where I'm not I'm gonna go not go binge about it. Right. But I'm thinking about the people that are following all these people that aren't following them for a fitness reason or because of their bodies and are

following them for their humor or other things and are now going to be more triggered than me and maybe don't know how to handle that and I just am feeling for those other people no that's a totally fair um mentality and I'm seeing it in the eyes of like eating disorders which again you're like okay well not everyone's dealing with that so I see both sides yeah I just deleted it because I'm like it's just not no I honestly feel like the two things we're both saying are like two major like conflicting schools of thought in the culture right now about a very serious toast I literally but they are they're like two conflicting schools of thought about like a um I had like a really good thought that I can't remember what I was gonna say but like essentially that like what you're trying to say what I'm trying to say is like,

you know, we all are accountable for like what we consume, what we. Right. You can unfollow. What we allow ourselves to get like taken away with. Like, yes, influence is real,

but like if you are aware of your own consciousness and like you are actively, you know, unfollowing things like it's, it's on, it's on every individual to protect their peace. No one is going to protect your peace for you. And then I think there's another school of thought. Well, it's on, it's on every individual to protect their peace. No one is going to protect your peace for you. Right. And then I think there's another school of thought.

Well, it's like, well, why not? Why can't we make a world where, you know, everyone and everything is protected and safe, which I don't feel that way.

I don't even, right. I feel more in like, cause then the other side of Remy is always like, do whatever you want. Screw you. If you want to unfollow me, you can unfollow me.

I just think I'm just, I just don't want what I came on social media to do to completely go away. Yeah. No, that's fair. That's totally fair. All right. Should we dive into the next story? Because we took a major tangent, but wishing Ariana Grande the best.

She looked beautiful. Yes. Caitlin Bristow has revealed what she was paid for The Bachelorette. Oh, I didn't know that. So she was offered a measly $40,000 when she was going to be the bachelorette in 2015. She went on the trading secrets podcast, um,

and said when she was on just the bachelor as a contestant, she was getting $1,500, um, between that season and then the bachelorette. So she lived off of $1,500 from ABC for the whole season. No, no. Until just in that break period after the bachelor before she was the

bachelorette. So they offered her her forty thousand dollars and she was like so excited she was like i'll take it but she had hired a lawyer and she actually couldn't even afford the lawyer at the time her stepdad had to had to lend her five thousand dollars um and he negotiated way harder and was like no forty thousand dollars is not enough and put in all these stipulations and one of the executive producers called her and was like you got an entertainment lawyer and you're asking for that amount of money I'm sorry I thought this was about love for you and she was like fuck off it's about love and money okay they go hand in hand for me right now um and she was competing against Brit and so it was like even more complicated in terms of the contract so she said she wanted to make the same amount that Chris Soles who was the previous

bachelor made um which was a range between 75 and 100 grand and she said she wanted to make the same amount that Chris Soles, who was the previous bachelor made, which was a range between 75 and a hundred grand. And she said she was really smart with her negotiations and she made sure ABC would still pay her even if she lost the gig to Brit. Cause remember there was like two bachelorettes at the same time. She also negotiated that if it was Brit, she got more, she got the same amount of money. And then she also reveals the payment structure for dancing with the stars.

So everybody gets a sign onon bonus for Dancing with the Stars to announce, like, this person's coming. And I feel like that's really just based on your level of fame and relevance. And then you get paid per episode. So that's why when people get kicked off, they're bummed because they stopped getting paid. And they both obviously stopped dancing as well. Now my question for you is,

how much would it take for you to be the Bachelorette? Because I think I would not take a dollar under $20 million. $20 million? I would not do it for any less when you think about taxes and you know okay but like there's some people that they're like it's not my dream oh my god I'm not trying to get married it's my worst nightmare okay well that exactly you know many but there's some people that are like I'll do it for five dollars do you know many scenes you have to film in a bathing suit like I would literally well that's why my like my dream in another world would to be out in love island and I wouldn't really but I would rather be I would need to be paid a hundred million to actually do it because of you only live all day in a bikini no and like there's cameras in the bathroom I would I think I

would literally rather be killed than be on love island like that sounds like my worst nightmare it's like you meet the parents and stuff in the bikinis like it's free oh my god that's horrifying yeah so there's just like a real certain type of person who is built for these shows like the bachelor and love i was so die hard like i want to get married now like i would do the bachelor you would yeah but like it's not happening i also have a boyfriend you do have a boyfriend congrats but like i I can't think of anything more seriously than being on a dating show like that maybe I could be on like love is blind because there's not that much like bathing suit content and it's right and it's just crazy but like it's crazy what are you I'm realizing I think that's actually my favorite concept of a show because it's just so out of

this world but the fact that some people have worked out or maybe like one or two couples in the past whatever I'm like this is just a crazy concept I agree I think the format is probably the best one I have a problem with them though what because I do feel like I'm like this is the perfect concept where you actually could have some like larger women and maybe some how do I say this me and Ben went on a rant about this. Yeah. Friday. Maybe just some more average looking people. No, everyone is pretty average looking. And they have like diversity in a lot of different ways, but not in body diversity. Yeah, that's every dating show. And that really poses like an interesting potential for conversations and challenges and hurdles.

And I don't know why they don't do it. It's very wild. I guess like there was a plus size curvy girl she like wasn't really no one from last season but then they she's smaller than me right and then they they're I actually remember last season there was like an actual plus size girl and they like didn't put it cut her out actual yeah I'm sorry this is your chance in the perfect show to truly have people that look like all different type of actual people and they aren't doing it.

And they're still thin. They're not hitting it on the head. No. And I think from like an entertainment perspective, I don't know why they wouldn't do that. I do feel like it would make the entire process more interesting. And it brings more viewers. Yeah. I just don't get it.

But like, that's a whole, I just think that there's so many, I've been trying to think, I'm like, what show? Because people are like, Love Island, like should have, you should have you know more plus size people and like we just literally said it as it is it's like what if maybe some people are just uncomfortable being a bikini all the time or whatever it is this is the perfect show yeah to have plus size people on it and they don't do it and that's so true who are your favorites this season on love is blind are you caught up oh I'm so caught up it's like everything I care about. Yeah.

It's so easy to say my not favorites. Oh, go first. Kwame. Yeah. Also, I don't get how you didn't understand. I sent Claudia a video the other day. Oh, yeah. With no context of like my boyfriend pretending to be Kwame.

And you're like, what am I looking at? He was like walking around the house talking on the phone. I'm like, why are you sending me this video of your boyfriend talking on the phone this looks personal I'm like no like did you say this to me by accident we got in a fight and I just wanted to show you what he was talking no like I literally he was going or like whatever the laugh was anyways I posted on TikTok and people understood oh good okay but um I watched a six minute TikTok last night of the compiled of how much he wants nothing to do with Chelsea. I know. Really was hard to watch. I was going like it was just hard to watch. I feel

very bad for her but like she's truly ignoring every sign but like maybe that's just how she is. I don't know. Or maybe she just like wants to that's the thing about the show. It's like if you are not into someone and you say your true feelings you're cut from the show. So I don't think she's about the show, like seeing her sob and stuff. She wants to just get married. I know. She's so in love with him and like he can't be bothered. I think he thinks she's so fucking annoying.

Yeah. And he's definitely one of the worst. Zach, I mean, there's just no words. Okay. I like was like in the beginning, I was like justice for Zach. And I do feel because I'm sorry that girl was horrible. Horrible. But two things can be true.

He's definitely odd. Oh my God. Bliss's father hates him. I know. And Bliss's dad is onto something and honestly Bliss is giving onto something.

I thought he was such an asshole but like I get it. I get it. Bliss is giving such desperate energy like she No I think she I think they actually

really like each other. That's what Jackie said and Jackie's like I actually think they may are a good match but like Wait I think they are. She does

she does not seem annoyed by him. It's true. And like I would be freaked out he like stares in her eyes and Jackie's like I actually think they may are a good match but like I think they are she does she's not does not seem annoyed by him like it's true and like I would be freaked out he like stares in her eyes and he's like and I'm but she likes it he doesn't blame mom is I like her a lot yes I liked her too um and then this is I might get like shit for this but like what's your name Micah yeah I don't think is as bad as that other girl no I actually think she's really into Paul same I don't have a problem with her. I think she was like on a slippery slope to becoming a villain

but she cut off ties with Irina pretty quickly. She was like you're a mean girl bye. I don't think she I have no problem with her. I really don't and if you really think about it

because people are like obviously I don't like how she was like drunk and semi flirting. Flirting. Honestly it was more him going out of his way. Yeah that was weird.

No she was being messy too but that's not a crime. but if you really think about it she cut off Kwame in the beginning and literally only wanted Paul this whole time yeah like she has she's literally only wanted Paul that there's kind of like I just don't have a huge issue with her but also her friends so freaking oh my god that was really bad like who who do you think is the hottest guy on the show? Wait, is there anyone even? Oh. Oh, well, he's like beautiful, but not my type. I think Marshall's a very good looking man.

He is. It's not like I would go for Marshall. Yeah. But like, I truly feel very sick for him and feel that. Wasn't you that posted the other day saying he's toxic or something? No. Oh, it was someone else that was like unpopular opinion. But like, I think he's toxic. I'm like, I don't.

I think he's just like a different kind of person than she is. And they're not meant to be together. I love when people share unpopular opinions and hot takes. Because I feel like everyone pretty much like on social media says the same thing. Regurgitated in different ways of saying it. Yeah. But that's just a horrible take. Horrible.

I actually like I really just wish the best for Marshall. And I think that girl is a mean girl. Yeah. But wait. Who do you think is the best looking? Paul. No, no. Even though personality- He's good looking.

He's just not for me. Personality-wise, I think he would hate me, and I would literally hate him. He's so boring. We would choke each other. He's so earthy and Greta Thunberg and green and science. And I'm just like, give me a plastic straw, bitch. I'm getting in this Uber to go three blocks.

So we would hate each other. And like on night one, I'd probably strangle him in his sleep if he didn't do it to me first. But physically, I do think he is the most good looking. Okay. That's just like a little bit about me. Okay. So again, how much would you,

how much would it take seriously in this moment in time for you to become the bachelorette? Um, if I didn't have a boyfriend? Yeah, of course. My God, I'm married. Okay, like three million? Okay. Seriously, I wouldn't do it.

Or maybe like a million. It's not enough for me to be that exposed. You don't, you literally, like, you're just like, you like being the center of attention. I do. That's a very good point. I'm glad a very good point I'm glad you brought that up no I don't take it as an insult I do like to be the center of attention um in this type of scenario where like you're up for 24 hours filming rose ceremonies being in bikinis having to like make out with people on tv they go on a lot of trips and they get in a lot of hot tubs and they do a lot of hikes like no no hikes no like they don't have any movie dates right no so what if you had one dating show that you could be on what would it be such a good

question okay what are the current dating shows okay so bachelor love island literally never Love Island. Too hot to hand up. Literally never. Love is blind. Bachelor, bachelorette. Probably love is. Bachelor in paradise. No, probably love is blind. Love is blind. And on the trip to Mexico, I just like pretend to get sick or something. Is there anything else right now?

I mean, there's like a lot of like bad dating shows. Right. Yeah, love is blind is a safe one. It's safe. Okay, but you would have to end in, oh, well, you don't have a problem with that. No. Are you commitment phobic? Like you don't want to get married oh no I do oh okay I just I'm like I never thought even to this day in my life like I thought it would be probably like five six seven

more years till I have a boyfriend that I'm very don't I don't want to break out of my I just wanted to be that person that was like career focused for a while and like I and I'm very content and happy I have a boyfriend I love him but I don't want him to pull me out of like, I just want it together. Be like working and have fun and like whatever. And I'm not saying you don't do that. But I just, I think you. Bitch, I'm fun. Like I'm literally, there's nobody more fun on the planet than me.

Yes, and you know what? I'm sorry, but there's a lot of my friends out there that got married or engaged and turned boring right away. Okay, but that's a choice. That's what I'm saying. Like look at me. But it's rarer. I'm telling you some people do it and they're like, like I'm gonna just go sit in my home now I just

feel like you are fun though I agree nothing to be afraid of when it comes to marriage impacting the amount of fun you have and the amount of work you can accomplish that's all I'm saying but live your life no I agree because that I just think that it like turns into like oh also because I'm very much a person that loves to live alone so I'm yes like I I just like I'm like that's not happening anytime soon like it's crazy to me when people are like oh are you guys like living together and I'm like we haven't even been dating a year and that might be more normal for some people but like for me no no and also kids are so far down the line for me that marriage just makes it feel like that's closer but I know that you're not like oh I'm

gonna have kids tomorrow no I think as long as as you're in control of your life and making your own choices, do whatever you want. You can do whatever you want. All right, next up, Eva Mendes is explaining why she and Ryan Gosling don't appear on red carpets together, thus reminding everyone that these two are together because I literally had forgotten. So in the comments on a recent Instagram post in which Eva Mendes shared photos from the 2012 Beyond the Pines premiere, the first film she made with Ryan Gosling. She

said she's only comfortable posting images of the couple that are already publicly available. She responded to someone saying, what a cool comment. Thank you. The person had expressed a desire for her and Ryan Gosling to appear together to promote the upcoming Barbie movie. She said, what a cool comment. Thank you. But we don't do things like those together. Like these photos I've been posting, I'm only comfortable posting because it's already out there. They were only on the red carpet together once because they were promoting that film together between the pines I think it's called and it's so true that I mean they literally have two kids together in 2020

I think it was or 2022 she had referred to him as her husband on some Australian daytime talk show and people didn't even know that they had been married they are so secretive there's literally two paparazzi photos of them one from that premiere and then one when they went to Disneyland like they're so low-key which obviously you know makes me believe it's real you know I think that it's literally what we just said yeah it's like you have to choose what you want to do and if that's some sort of for we have no idea but for some reason they made this decision early on and they just one of them really wants to stick to that maybe like I just find it I find it so you're like no I just find it so unrelatable you know like this nope you have like a little thing I know but you know my skin is peeling and my because I

got a sunburn and it's all in my hair I just have to live with it okay um no it just I find it so unrelatable because I can't imagine being Eva Mendes with a husband as hot as Ryan Gosling and being Ryan Gosling with a wife as hot as Eva Mendes and not wanting to like thirst out on social media because that could quite literally never be me I get a good picture of Ben I'm posting it on five different platforms I'm uploading it to Pinterest I'm literally on flickr.com and tumblr right but like again this is how everyone's if like i just said like i like to show off my boyfriend but i refuse to tag him and and his let anyone know his name oh really oh they don't know his name in my life i haven't said it no oh interesting yeah so like

people are like why and i'm like because that's what i decided because that's your boundary so i just feel like clearly it's something there's a reason for it yeah i mean, I mean. And we're not going to know what that reason is. No, and I think the reason is fairly obvious given their level of fame and how that can really be so toxic. I feel like. I don't know. I don't know. Maybe because he had that suit.

It's funny because I actually forgot that they were together too. And then I watched The Notebook with my boyfriend a few months ago, sobbing, screaming. And when I watch a movie like that like I get like very re-addicted and I have to look at the whole Wikipedia and where are the the great are the older versions of them still alive which I don't think they are one of them is and I just got started crying again so then I started looking into them and then I watched 15 times the video of Rachel McAdams and him at the MTV Awards running and kissing. Like I'm addicted to that video.

And I was like, all I want is for them to be together. And then I'm like, oh my God, he's with someone else. And I started getting upset. I know. So is she. She what? She's with someone else too. Oh, yeah.

Like they're both really happy. I know. But like. You know what? That just reminded me of when you were talking about watching a movie. Ben came into the room the other day. The whale. Cackling at your story about the whale.

We have both really been wanting to watch it. And we've sat down twice to watch it. And we've watched the trailer. And we haven't even been able to start it. Because I think I'm going to find it so fucking sad. There's nothing happy about it. I talked to Ben about this. Oh, you did?

Okay, good. Yeah, yeah, yeah. He was just like do you think like I should watch or whatever and I'm like there is just there's a lot of controversy around it so maybe watch it because you like that like I want to see what like what's the controversy about that he's wearing a fat suit no no no okay that um no fat people were a part of making this movie he's not fat the people who made the movie aren't fat. And that they're just making it look like another movie where it's like, you are a miserable person

living in your home, eating your life away and hate your life and end up dying because you are fat. Can I say, I actually do, I don't agree with the no fat people working on the set. Like people got to work, you're fat, you're skinny, you can do your job. I'm sorry, I don't think that's a valid critique.

But I do, I'm very conscious of like the stereotype in media of fat people. It's always like the lazy, fat, slobby friend. And I find it annoying. Or like the funny friend that never hooks up with guys. Yes. I find it problematic. I get that. But I do want to say that what Brandon Frazier's character goes through,

you know, eats, eats his way into oblivion. Can't be apparent. That actually is a reality for a lot of people. So I don't know. I don't have a problem with it. So all I'm going to say,

cause we don't have to get deep into it, but like I, and I still have yet to, again, this was another thing on my list. Those two things to make a video, make a video. And I actually don't know how to say it the right way without getting people

pissed at me. But I watched that show I thank god my boyfriend didn't come over because he's been asking to watch with me I said I watched without you he was furious and I said I wouldn't have been able to watch this with you I cried the whole entire time I was watching a worse version not worse like a more intense extreme version of myself yeah I I couldn't believe like there was just I'm not giving anything away but there was one part where he looked at basically like I'm gonna die based on like he looked up finally like what something about his health and he was like it says like you are gonna die basically and instead of him doing something about it he ordered 10 boxes

of pizzas and ate all of them and I was like oh my god like this for someone who is a binge eater this is the reality of the worst situation of it not getting better. Yeah. And I think it's a really real way to watch that. And I don't necessarily think it was a, it's bad. Like inaccurate. I thought it was really interesting to watch. I don't have a problem with it at all based on what you're describing.

But it's straight sad. If you don't want to just be upset and watch a sad movie, like not ending well, you're going to like, then don't watch it. And honestly honestly I feel like having that sort of depiction might be helpful for people who don't really understand that like being overweight most of the time is not a choice that's my thing it's a genetic pre it's literally the number one cause of obesity is your genes like you're literally and so telling a fat person like well just don't order pizza it's not that part is a mental thing and that's something and it's habit and it's like telling a depressed person just you know you'll be fine get better like and that's really my problem with a lot of the discourse around these new injection

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His name is Moses Gibson. He's from Minnesota, and he had been insecure about his height for years. He first underwent the knife in 2016, but recently had his second procedure. He is 41 years old, and he has now grown five inches, and he is saying he's feeling much more confident. What do you think about that? I think this is crazy, but it's just kind of, you know, like live your life. If he's happy and so confident, I'm always, I'm a big proponent of like, yeah, this trend

where like we're all embracing our insecurities. That's great. But like sometimes you can't get past one of your insecurities. And yes, this is extreme and borderline kind of crazy. But you know what? If you feel better, I'm happy for you. It's the same thing about everything. It's like I have never, I'm very much much on like I just for me have never wanted to like change like

um do like plastic surgery or something physically on me but I literally feel zero annoyance or frustration when other people do it have you gotten any sort of cosmetic Botox nothing the only thing I've ever gotten for my TMJ was a little needle here and it did not work. Oh, you know what I was going to ask you? I've really been having bad TMJ and I've heard a lot of people having success with Botox. I also hear it makes your jaw like a little bit more snatched. It does it for me. I don't think I look any different than when I did it, but it also didn't work for me. And also you just have to be careful and make sure you go to the right person. It can literally fuck up like your smile and everything. Like you just need to

go to a good person. No, that's not worth it. and everything. Like you just need to go to a good person. No, that's not worth it. It's not worth it, I think. But also I literally got a mouth guard and my TMJ stopped. Like a really good. Where'd you get a mouth guard? I will tell you the guy. Oh, thank you.

Okay. But yeah, no, I, for me, I am, now that's going to sound bad. No, I was going to say I'm proud that I have him. But like for me, that's the thing for me. Like I was always like, I'm like, you know what? I don't want to I just like whatever no when people choose to embrace yeah I get Botox probably twice a year okay I can't even tell thank you so much yeah I did many years not many years ago probably 2018 I got a natural neck lift

oh which was basically just like I got fat removed it's not buckle fat removal it's from my double chin I hated I this is just a personal thing like I got fat removed. It's not buckle fat removal. It's from my double chin. I hated. This is just a personal thing. Like I feel like people shouldn't do the buckle fat removal because I don't think they look good. I think, no, you know what it is? It's like, it's a trend right now to have like crazy ass sunken cheekbones. And I don't think in a few years it's going to be on trend

because I do think it looks bad. It's kind of like how I feel about these floofy eyebrows that everybody does. Like they slick up their eyebrows all the way to their fucking hairline. And they look nuts. And the way we look back now at like those up their eyebrows all the way to their fucking hairline and they look nuts. And the way we look back now at like those really skinny eyebrows from the 90s,

we're going to look back at these fluffy ass Groucho Marx eyebrows and be like, what the fuck were we thinking? But eyebrows are temporary. I went home one day with eyebrows like that and my whole family said you look horrible. No, like, but that's, it's a makeup trend. Like you, it's fine.

You're not permanently changing your eyebrows, but the buckle fat removal, I just, I agree. I don't think it looks good and I think to permanently do that I think a lot of people might regret it they're gonna you have to be so careful when you get caught up in these beauty trends and I'm easily caught up I'm easily caught up in things and so I try to be really level-headed about it but you know I might in a few years wish I had my double chin back I don't think I will but I used to be very anti like getting lips so I'm like again this is like how I I've changed I'm allowed to change my mind of course like I used to get very anti-people, like, getting lips done. Like, again, this is, like, how I, I'm allowed to change my mindset on things.

Yeah, of course. So, like, I used to get, like, really mad at my sister when she would get her lips done. I'm like, you're going to regret it. You're going to regret it. I have some friends that actually look ten times better, like, when they had less lips and then now. And then, like. What do you think about my lips?

They look really good. Are they, do you get them done? I have had lip filler maybe three times in the last couple of years. I get it done a very little amount once a year then I think it's all about going to the right person because like your lips sharing to me and again I just want everyone to like look and feel their best but like for me it's a choice I I've always had like pretty decent sized lips and I'm like I'll get in these phases where I'm like should I and then I'm like no no you you have nice lips. There's no reason to get something that you don't need just because it's

trendy. No. So you're saying you would not spend $165,000 breaking your legs to grow five inches. No but he could do what he wants and I'm not mad at him. This is kind of like white chicks where she says she got her knees done and that's why she got taller but it's really Marlon Wayans. I don't remember that but I saw that movie like five times. Oh my god it's such a good movie. No I know. Well someone was like you got taller she's like oh I got my my God. It's such a good movie. No, I know. Well, someone was like, you got taller. She's like, oh, I got my knees down. They're like, you can do that. I guess you can. Do you know what is really crazy though?

When I, when I was signing, looking into signing to modeling agencies and I wanted to be a plus size model, I remember actually like, this is where I have like my little phase of like zero confidence right before COVID and right before the videos.

I remember laying in bed, like crying, being like, I just, and calling my dad saying, I just wish I was 5'10". And he said, well, well Remy, like, guess what? There's nothing you could do about that like crying, being like, I just, and calling my dad saying, I just wish I was five. And he said, well, Remy, like, guess what? There's nothing you could do about that.

And I was like, okay, I just got to get over that. He was wrong. Yeah. He was wrong. All right. Our fifth story is going to lead us into our little recap of the Vanderpump rules episode from last night. But like Howie Mandel is starting stuff. Have you seen?

So I fell asleep last night to the interview it was horrible which was insane so Andy Cohen on Watch What Happens Live last night like kind of poked fun at Howie Mandel it was like just said you know he stepped in shit he didn't even know what he was talking about he did no research Lala went on her stories and was like coming for him so now Howie Mandel is slamming back at Andy Cohen and Lala Kent after the controversial interview so he caught flack from Andy Cohen and Lala and swarms of fans. Howie has clapped back.

He said, I don't need to do homework. I know who Sandoval is. I know what show he's on. It's very funny to me now watching everybody else. Like, I don't even know some of the names of the people that are in the show and I'm getting hit hard for not knowing those names. He obviously, he famously stopped the interview

and was like, wait, who's Sheena? Wait, I cried laughing in the Uber here listening listening to you going shut up no he was really being no he was annoying he's being so sorry like an interviewer should know the information thank you he reiterated that he doesn't watch the bravo reality show but he said he wanted to give sandoval a place where he can spew his side he cheated on his girlfriend with her best friend i still don't understand white's big international news though he doesn't condone, Sandoval's month long affair, with Raquel, Howie Mandel said,

he could commend, the bar owner, quote, for being vulnerable, and removing the stigma, for mental health, people think, they could just say,

mental health, and like everything, that comes out of their mouth, after that is right, right, that's like a thing now, where it's like, well mental health,

and it's like, everyone's like, oh well mental health, no you can't just say that, like that has meaning, and what the fuck, is he talking about, it really is crazy, And it's like, everyone's like, oh, well, mental health. No, you can't just say that. Like, that has meaning. And what the fuck is he talking about? It really is crazy. And I do think that he chose, I guess he went on that, like, knowing that he wasn't going to.

Get challenged. Yeah. It was so cringe. That was the craziest thing. And now I'm watching last night's episode and all the new episodes of Vinterpump Rules with this lens of like, and I always, I pride myself on, I've been a fan of the show since the very beginning. And I have always hated Tom Sandoval. I have known. Wait, I've always hated him.

Especially in recent years. He doesn't even do a good job of hiding how narcissistic. Oh, I hate him. Is that the right word? Narcissistic? Narcissistic. He is how he's so obsessed

and in love with himself. How he's so deeply unwell. And now everyone's seeing what I've been seeing for years and so I just feel I feel vindicated in a sense I just hate him I always have and I this wasn't like a big surprise to me the surprise part was obviously and the worst part was the Raquel Raquel because she's front they're friends I think that like I don't know I commented on oh when the interview came out I commented on something and then people started trying to comment I was like

I'm not doing this um and people were just like well they clearly had a messed up relationship and I'm like I don't care that doesn't make any sense right I'm also a very like anti-cheater person so I actually think the whole thing is messed up but like other than that I think the friendship thing is messed up I think she's a very Raquel Rachel is a very insecure gal that really really craves attention and needs it. I also think from being in probably a pretty traumatizing relationship with James where like, I do, I can't help but crack up at everything he says. I know. It's hilarious.

He's so problematic, but he's so funny. I know. I couldn't, I could not imagine being in a relationship with him. No. I mean, when she told the story about him calling her mom fat. Wait, when was that? When she was talking about like two episodes ago about like, they went to Palm went to Palm Springs like with her parents like when they were engaged and this is what really caused them to break up he was just going off saying so mean he was like your dad your dad

is so miserable because he's married to your fat mom yeah he has no he's horrible he's crazy and also like I'm sorry like I actually think she's like cute and pretty but like yeah she I just have never seen someone sit there and just listen to all this without being able to say one thing or just be like, shut up. No, last night's episode was weird because like James and Allie are like kind of joining this like outsider crew of Katie, Christina, Kelly, and Lala. Like they went, they left hibachi and went to dinner with them. And it's just fucking weird.

No. But I do, I do get that one, him and Lala used to be best friends so they have like this connection and I do think they're in love maybe Katie and him at least they share that frustration I feel like it's the comfort of like yes he can't really say how upset he is yeah even though he's clearly acting that way because he has a girlfriend next to him where Katie can be like this is so upsetting to me. So I feel like he feels comfortable like with them, especially in the wedding. I don't think that that's the weirdest thing

that they're like in this little crew. I think what is- Lala? Is that what you're gonna say? I love Lala, so it's hard for me to like- Jackie and I for years have been Lala apologists, but like it's really hard to kind of defend quite literally anything she's done this season

because she's been abhorrent. And if we didn't know what we know about Raquel, like I would be so team Raquel. But of course, you know, the affair complicates things. But I just thought she was being like kind of a bad friend to Sheena, like not going to the rehearsal dinner. Literally the white party, she didn't even show up to. And when Sheena wanted to talk to her about it,

she wouldn't even acknowledge it. And she was on Watched Women's Live saying, you know, I wasn't a bridesmaid. I paid for my room. This is a vacation for me. And like, I get it. And it is a vacation, but like it's her fucking wedding. All I'm going to say is I would be way I would be have a very different

reaction than Sheena did yeah I thought Sheena was so chill and like people came to my hotel yeah my wedding okay but now I see like I hung out with like my enemy Katie I just feel bad I like I really like Lala and I just don't want to talk shit no I know but like like I know a part of being a host of the toes is like you have to have those uncomfortable conversations for me okay well I just did I just said that I would have reacted differently and I just don't want to talk shit. No, I know. But like, a part of being a host of The Toes is like, you have to have those uncomfortable conversations for me. Okay. Well, I just did. I just said that I would have reacted differently and I would have been like pissed off, but that's me.

Like, if you're coming to my hotel, like, Of course. I'm sorry, like, it's literally where I'm sitting. Getting married. Having my wedding and you wouldn't be here if I wasn't having a wedding this weekend. And so like, you can't say you're just on vacation. Like, you should be at every possible event or please leave.

And Sheena, like, kind of being chill about it made me have like a lot of respect for her um and then yeah i'm shocked she was chill later on in the night when she shared with everyone that her and brock have actually been married for a year and they were just like so happy and like summer they have a baby together and she started crying so cute beautiful girl i was like you know what this kind of makes sense why she does not being like a bridezilla like this wedding is like a formality it's just for fun right it doesn't really mean anything in like a spiritual sense when the veil was flowing in the wind i would have been like i know and she was just like it's okay just take it like she clearly did some sort of something before that to just zen her out where she was like i'm not gonna bug

at this wedding yeah she was so chill makes her more calm of a person and she's much older than she was at her first wedding her first wedding she she had her first wedding was me at my wedding like that's the energy i was giving crazy ass fucking bitch energy that's how I was acting yeah um so what do you think about Schwartz and Raquel do you think like it was so crazy I really don't blame Raquel in any sense like Katie has been horrible to her this bullied her like why would Raquel doesn't really owe Katie anything Tom is completely at fault Tom is in the wrong yeah Tom is and then going up like Tom I would have been James in that situation don't touch my leg and don't try and talk to my current girlfriend I actually he was not wrong at all I

know but also like yeah Tom I've always liked that Schwartz but he gives this innocent thing where he's like what you can't be mad at me and like trying to be chill we're like one I also think Katie you don't know behind the scenes what their conversations have been it probably was like a really big deal to like choose to end a marriage but there's allowed to be jealousy there and also like don't get with my friends no not even my friends because that's not what she said she's like just don't like get in the group and I don't feel like that's an unreasonable thing for her either I totally would be feeling the way she did and I would have been like shorts get away yeah and um that was also wrong to James Raquel I don't think really owes Katie anything

but Raquel's crazy she also doesn't owe James anything like he was horrible to her right she's just kind of like a free agent and I didn't she break up with James I don't know we don't really know how that I don't know who broke up with who, but like she is still very much like the hurt party. He has a new girlfriend. He was horrible to her. He called her mom fat. Like I feel like.

No, he was horrible to her. I feel like she really doesn't owe him anything. There was something else you just asked. Schwartz. You said you like him as a person. Yeah. Wait, no, I'm missing something. Oh, what I was confused about.

And that's why I was texting my mom. My sister also. I'm like, I'm a little confused here because you guys said to me that it like two episodes ago, um, that Tom Sandoval and Raquel started already having their fling. And then they were like, oh no, no, no. And then I was like, okay, that would make more sense because why would she kiss Schwartz? But now, listening to that interview, they did start in Sandoval's eyes. Before the wedding.

They had a connection. And they kissed. But I'm thinking that maybe in Raquel's eyes, it wasn't any sort of connection or a big deal. Because she was like, I'm into Tom Schwartz. And then maybe after, Sandoval got really jealous. Remember him standing over the table last night being like, I'm into Tom Schwartz. And then maybe after he got rich, Sandoval got really jealous. Remember him standing over the table last night being like, you got his kiss. And then Ariana's like, sit down.

Yeah, Tom, come down. I just feel like he really was jealous, and now I get it more. And he probably was like, now I want to be a thing with her so no one gets with her. The timeline really is confusing, though. It's really confusing.

I didn't get it to now I get it. I didn't even get it from the show last night. I still confused but then when i watched how he's interviewed now i understand i think we'll probably get like a very clear and concise timeline at the reunion yeah but i really can't wait till the end of may for that wait i'm so excited i'm so excited we should literally have a viewing party it's gonna be the biggest i would love event like a super bowl like yeah it's gonna be the biggest event of the season i want to buy a commercial for the toast while it's airing. I think it'll be literally the most tuned into thing. Also, I think this is a fun thing to just be discussing on social media because usually

I am, like you're one that you'll just be like, oh my God, this person sucks even if you know who they are and you've met a lot of these people where I get too nervous to do that. But the only time I ever started doing that was last year with Love is Blind so I started doing it a little more now and this is the first time I feel like I can do that because everyone's on one side if you're somewhat on Raquel's side you are delusional but I don't think there's anyone I know so it's like you could say whatever you want because we're all in a team together right everyone's like team Ariana team Ariana it's like of course team. What else? Yeah. Yeah. So let's say.

Except Howie maybe. It was sweet. I actually really thought Sheena's wedding was beautiful. And I'm really happy for her. It really was nice. And I really like Brock. And I definitely got a little teared up. Especially when Summer was walking down the aisle.

It was sweet. Wait. She's so cute. And I'm like very picky on like cute babies. And like I think she's the cutest. Wait. Also in this premiere for next week. The preview.

Katie's talking about how she's dating someone who's 25 and she brings this guy to the bar and he like literally looks 11. Like he looks like he weighs like 60 pounds. I was shook. I'm like, what? I feel like maybe you want to get the furthest away from what you are like. Yes, so true.

I don't know. I've never been married and I've never like needed to like turn. Right. Like a lot of people end up like hooking up with people that is not their type or not. That's so true. That is so true. I'm interested to see like more about him. You know, I'm very much looking forward to that whole thing because I was shook when I saw him.

I was like, what? Like I know you said he was young and I realized he was in middle school. Well, that's our show. Remy, thank you so much for being here. I love you. Guys, be sure to show Remy thank you so much for being here I love you guys make sure to follow Remy everywhere TikTok Instagram

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