The Toast - Daddy Left Us For Ariana Grande: Wednesday, July 26th, 2023

Episode Date: July 26, 2023

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Good morning, Millennials! Welcome back to the Toast and Happy Wednesday. It is hump day, a gorgeous day. An absolutely gorgeous day of the week. Like, there are so many worse ones. So, let's acknowledge that. Speaking of gorgeous, you're so gorgeous. Hey, Jax.

Hey, Claude. How you turn? Good. Really, really good. You sound well. just so good you sound like yourself good so good to hear okay okay that's enough okay Kevin that's enough I had a dream that we were at like actually you weren't there I was like at a camp and the whole camp was like a pageant and the winner of the pageant gets like hand chosen by Morgan Wallen to be his girlfriend. It was such a weird oh and like the leader of the pageant kind of like Candice Bergen's role in Miss Congeniality was played by Aunt Connie from Young Sheldon. Why wasn't I there? Maybe subconsciously I think you posed too much of

a threat to my like place in the pageant. That's what I'm thinking honestly. Yeah it's possible. Yeah and you just like knew that you couldn't compete with me. Exactly. And so I didn't. To be Morgan Wallen's girlfriend. Right. Who won? Isn't that just like. Who won the pageant? Like I want to say me because it was my dream and like if anyone's gonna win something in my dream I bet your ass better be me but I do believe I was awoken before Aunt Connie was able to announce the winner. Were there any other participants that we know or a bunch of randos you were competing against? No they were like a bunch of like like toddler and tiara type looking girlies. Young girls? No no no they weren't toddlers but like they were in tiaras.

type looking girlies. Young girls? No, no, no, no. They weren't toddlers, but like they were in tiaras. Okay, because that's an important distinction. Are we saying tiara or tiara? Now that's a word I'm starting to say so much it's starting to sound like gibberish. Okay. But is it tiara? Toddlers and tiaras. Well, we actually have a story today where that word will be in play and I just want to see how how we say it without you putting me on the spot. Because now I don't know. So we'll wait. So we'll wait. So we'll wait to find out.

Keep tuning in. Don't go anywhere. We're about to find out if it's tiaras or tiaras. Toddlers and tiaras. I think it's tiaras because tiaras is like obnoxious. Yeah. Tiara. But now it honestly just sounds like someone's name are you going to tiara's house later this is one of your favorite conversation holes to go down like data or data

zara zara excuse me i really don't think that's true it is no it's not bitch someone who's on the receiving end of your conversation at least for an hour a day, I can tell you that it is. I don't – I think you're spreading lies about me and you're using my poor memory as like an entry into spreading rumors. Okay. So I don't think that's true. But is it data or data? No, I'm kidding. It's obviously data no I know that a part of you like wants to continue talking about that no not one inch of me really cares but like do you think it's Zara or Zara

I don't know chef's choice yes. Yes, chef. That's my favorite. Chef's choice. Better than Sophie's choice? So much better. Yeah. So much better. I think collectively, like as a union, we need to stop saying Sophie's choice because it's rooted in dark history and maybe start saying chef's choice. No, it's... Well, they mean different things. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, chef's choice is like anything is good. Just take one. No, it's like you choose.

It's like the expert chooses. Like I don't want to make a decision. You choose. Yeah. And Sophie had a different choice. No. A much more difficult one. But speaking of the Holocaust,

did you see that they're making a movie about that guy? He's like the British Schindler. I'm sure you've seen the video of him. He's like an old man sitting in an audience. Yes, yes. And he thinks he's like at some TV special and then everyone in the audience stands up and it's like all the children that he saved in the Holocaust as grown adults. Yes, I did see that video, but I did not know they were making a movie.

Who's playing him? Anthony Hopkins. Be right back. Which is a name and a face that you've heard of and that you've seen. Oh, that's a nice man. Let me tell you, I've never seen this man in my goddamn life. No, I know, but he's, like, acclaimed. And he has a nice looking face.

I'm sure he'll do justice to the role. I just don't know him. face. I'm sure he'll do justice to the role. I just don't know him. Uh yeah but he I think he's like a very serious actor. No for sure that name gives like Oscar vibes. Yeah. What's the name of the movie? The movie's gonna be called The Power of Good. That's kind of a corny name. Is this on Hallmark? Yeah it's giving TV movie.'s anthony hopkins so it's not it's giving made for tv yeah what was it the power of good the power of good maybe it's not too late to change the movie title and also the power of good hold on i got confused that's not the name okay that's not the name what is it that's just the name of a documentary from 2002 about this man.

It sounds like the name of a documentary from 2002. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'm glad. Maybe it's a working title. Like maybe it's a work in progress. They don't have a title yet. Yeah.

Well, that sounds good. Yeah, I'm excited. Me too. My book club met last night how did things go and while it is technically the Bala Busta book club last night we were the I hate Emily Henry club okay and we just kind of got to talking about you know her books and now they're really not good um but for some reason every time she announces a book it's like shoots to the top of every list she's kind of giving like industry plant vibes in the book industry and you now that you are

a big reader like can't you see that there's clearly like politics in books and like there's clearly favored authors there's also authors who slay every time who like don't get the respect that recognition yeah we were all just like how did this book come and the person who chose it doesn't know hasn't read Emily Henry books. It was just everywhere so she's like of course let me choose this book. It was. You have to have a bad experience in order to have your eyes opened. Yeah. And it actually makes me sad when I think about like all the authors who are like so like deserving of that sort of recognition and people who can't even get their books on any lists. And it's like the second like an Emily Henry book comes out it's number one good reads suggested most read this month why I have no idea and her first book was beach read which I

it was good but it doesn't mean that like every book from this author is gonna be something that we have to read from now on but people were treating it as such so I read the next one people we may not make me too and that was the next one, People We May Not Make Eat You. Me too. And that was the book that burned me. The book that burned me was Book Lovers. It was so bad. And what was the name of the book that you just read, Beach Read? Happy Place.

Happy. They all sound the same. Yep. You should read Beach Read just to see what started this. Right, like I've been caught up in in her cycle like oh her book is out I have to read it but I actually never read the one that made her you know in the cycle which is Beat Reed. Yeah. And then the next book we chose is actually another one that's like everywhere whatever but I it actually looks good it's called Hello Beautiful. Oh and Napolitano.

Yeah. Are you familiar? What are your thoughts? I'm familiar with her work. She's, you know, a very swirly girl. No, she's not swirly in a sense, but she's like a literary girly, like a Danish choice-y. Oh, yeah. Because that's the thing. It's like this book we literally talked about for 45 seconds, and then we all just talked about gossip and what else we read this month and what are our plans for the summer. We could not keep the conversation on this book.

It was so insubstantial if that's a word there was not one theme we could talk about like it was just horrible yeah I'm so curious that you're gonna read Hello Beautiful I don't know what it's about I don't know whether it's good or not I'm sure it's good because she's a good author but I feel like it's just very literary well that's like what we're looking for now I just can't like you can't have a book club with a book that's like makes like that has nothing it's not thought-provoking it's not conversation starting right but you guys might be swinging the pendulum too far the other way I and again like I don't know I'm gonna ask Dana about the book and whether or not you guys would like it because I'm sure it's a good book that she liked but for your book club idk but the thing is it's too late it's too

late I'm worried you guys are over correcting because even though you're looking for a good book when I say literary like you know it's the type of books where it's like paragraphs of descriptions and feelings and like and sometimes it's a little more character driven than plot driven it's not about like oh titillating what's happening next it's like how is this person developing over the course of the novel that's fine that's fine and you know what we're finding our footing in our book club like we and I choose next so like I'm so I'm the last one to choose until we like start the cycle over again. I'm so motivated to choose the best book of all time. But what's great is that we've had like two like actual zero star stinker books.

So I really can't do worse than anyone else. Like I'm not going to be the worst, which is all I care about. What was the other zero star? Before You Knew My Name. Was that a snitch's choice? No, it sounds like one of those. Yeah. No it was horrible. Okay but this is the point of a book club. Like one. Yeah yeah. It sparks interesting dialogue. Two you should really cover the gamut of genres and authors. Yep. And every month should be different. So it's not always going to be a rose code. No and when we hate the book it's the funnest

book club. Like we just like crack up and just make fun of everything in the book. That's the redheads. So it's okay. Speaking of we're recording the redheads today. Really excited to record with the Swirleys. Really a big day in the community. Yeah because I think everybody probably liked this book but and was also a good book you know so uh if you want to become a red head I would start with this book it was a quality book and it was a Danish choice so you'll feel smarter for having read it that's the thing I love feeling smart it doesn't happen a lot but when it does it's worth all the work it 100% you know like the way ever since I read the rose code

I've been acting different and just like bringing up Bletchley Park you know the secret underground World War II British decoding center in everyday life is beyond me and I really need to watch The Imitation Game which is a movie about Bletchley Park yeah it's not about our girlies though it's about like Alan Turing I think who were like they their names came up in the book because it was supposed to be like a cool reference because they're like the who the real people who the historical because they're like the, who the. Real people. Who the historical fiction, they're the history in the historical fiction. But I haven't seen Imitation Game either.

Let me ask you something because when I was just reading about this movie about the British Schindler, he did like the kinder transport, which is they sent trains of Jewish children to Britain like without their parents. And I had read about that recently somewhere and I was feeling like it was the Rose Code. Since you read it more.

No. No. No. No. Where did I read it? I don't know. When you're as, like, literary and scholarly as we are, it's hard to pinpoint our references, you know, our bibliography.

I just get, like, deja vu because I've been here before. No, I understand. Yeah. We got a lot of good theories about what deja vu is and where it comes from on. And, you know, I heard, and by heard I mean read in a comment, that redheads are actually more likely to experience deja vu. They're more susceptible. Yeah.

Yeah. Someone said, which I don't really subscribe to, but I liked the thought, is that, like, you in a parallel universe had already done this so you were like harking back to that but not able to put your finger on it the way that I sometimes feel about it it's like if reincarnation is real then maybe in a past life you've been in this mental state and you are like remembering it but you can't put your finger on it you know I feel that but I don't I don't know if I believe in that reincarnation like different lives for the same soul you know like I just feel too connected to Claudia like there's no way Claudia's just a

shell like I bitch I am Claudia you know there's no way that I'm like this is just a vessel Claudia's kind of getting a shell excuse me no fucking way like there's literally no way that like this complex dynamic human being that I am is merely a vessel for this universe no no but the complex dynamic human being is the part that you take with you no every every life that you live in no I'm sorry no like you were a peasant in the renaissance and you had this attitude but you're saying like I might not have had this fupa yeah no see I don't agree like I feel so connected to different parts of my body you feel so you feel that connected to your physical being yes I wish I don't agree. Like, I feel so connected to different parts of my body. You feel so, you feel that connected to your physical being. Yes.

I wish I didn't. Wow. But I do. But that could be a part of, like, the makeup of your soul is that you do get connected to your physical. No. Like, that's just, that's like telling me. I'm not just a whore who gets connected to any physical shell I'm put into. No.

I think that you do, and I think that's what makes you so special as a soul. I also think it's an inherently You commit to the role. I also think it's an inherently not Jewish belief. Okay, but I just want you to know a few months ago

we spoke on the podcast about reincarnation and I was saying how like I like the idea but I know it's not Jewish and you said that there is like something about it

that's okay in Judaism. That it's like No? Yeah, that it's not that It about it that's okay in Judaism. That it's like. No. Yeah, that it's not that. It's not that far fetched. I didn't say that because I don't even know what you're talking about. You made it okay for me to explore reincarnation. No, I didn't.

Well, I would, you know what, Jackie? I think you should explore really anything so you can come to the best conclusion. But no, I did not say that. I think it makes a lot of sense, reincarnation. And yeah, ideally, like what, we go through this. Oh, I think what I said, no. What I said was like that this isn't, you know, the purpose. Life on this here earth, like this phase of, you know, life isn't the sole journey it's not the sole purpose of of life there's more after this olam haba but i don't think i said you're gonna

become a different bitch like you're not gonna become a bird i didn't say bird i think human souls remain human i mean it would only be fair in my version yeah but it's like i guess you know what jacks jacks i guess we'll just have to wait and say i guess we'll have to wait to see what people say in the comments no like when we die like we'll say is reincarnation real sound off in the comments because also think about how many humans have lived on the earth since earth's inception it would be oh it would be trillions. That's trillions of souls that God had to create, you know? Why not recycle a few good ones? Okay. On that note, you know what I always think?

Trillions of people, right? There's so – how many people are alive right now? Seven billion, right? That seems low, but yeah. More. Sure. How is it possible that there aren't like two, two people who were born on, like, you know, opposite sides of the earth or even, you know, next door neighbors who don't look exactly

alike? There are. Like, I know there are infinite ways, like, a person's face can look, nose, shape. Like, I know all that. But how is there not, like, another person who looks just like me? No, like, there is. It's called a doppelganger. But they never actually look that much alike.

No, maybe some of the ones that you've seen. But I'm telling you, like if you looked at all 7 billion people, like you would find Australian dirty. Like you would. Maybe I got to head over to Australia. Find Australian dirty. Start a podcast with her called Good Night, Mate. Maybe I gotta head over to Australia, find Australian Turney, start a podcast with her called Good Night Mate. But then also, like, you know, the course of your life has changed how you look.

Maybe Australian Turney has her old chin. Right, no, but also, like, socioeconomic things, factors, change how you look based on, like, you know, if you work outside. Right. Based on, like, your financial situation, based on what you eat. Like it does that's true. So I guess two people even they could look so much alike they could still change over the course of their life based on like different factors about you know where they're at in their life. Right. And they could take just like different directions. Maybe Australian turdy is a blonde. Right. And I wouldn't even think to like you know say we look alike because she's blonde. Right. Hmm. Australian's turdy sounds like a very complex individual and I think I got to meet her.

Yeah. And she's a surfer so she's really tan. Right. And of course very fit, which is why another reason nobody would be like, oh, you look like Australian turdy. Because she's blonde and thin so they wouldn't even take time to realize that we have the exact same face. Right. Hmm. Interesting. That's true.

Humans are interesting. And you know what else is? This upcoming episode of The Toast, because we've got five great stories, and we've got Dear Toasters Wednesday, our weekly advice segment, and we've got some good ones. Ooh.

Some girls have found themselves in some pickles. Some pickles. Some pickles experts. Yes, which is sold out, by the way. I wanted to thank all the toasters for, like, truly showing up and showing out. And the pickle experts collab, like, went so viral. We were on the Today Show. It was everywhere.

And it sold out. So, sorry, but you can't get it. And everyone who ordered it, like, a lot of people are starting to get it. And they are all posting, like, their taste tests on TikTok. It keeps coming up on my For You page. It makes me feel so cool. And they're loving it. It's really like it's shockingly good based on you know just the title the name of it. It's like ew. Pickle wine question mark. Right. Yeah what's so funny is pickle spritz made a lot of news and if we had nothing to do

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Lowest price. Guaranteed. Thank you, Claudia. You're welcome. The movie about the British Schindler is called One Life. I just had to put a pin in that. And that sounds appropriate. It does.

It's going to be at the TIFF. It's going to put a pin in that and that sounds appropriate. It does. For it's going to be at like the TIFF. It's going to be a big movie. So. Sounds like a reference to the Talmudic verse to save one life is to save a thousand. It's to save the world. Oh yeah. Even bigger. Even bigger.

All of humanity seven billion. Any any identical. Australian tourney. Okay let's get into the stories. Our first story is so crazy. Some news that's rocked the sports world. LeBron James' son, Bronny, who's 18, suffered a cardiac arrest during USC basketball practice. LeBron James' son, Bronny, suffered cardiac arrest on Monday during basketball practice

at the University of Southern California. The 18-year-old athlete was taken to a hospital where he was treated in ICU before being released to general care. The rep for the family said yesterday while practicing, Bronny James suffered a cardiac arrest. Medical staff was able to treat Bronny and take him to the hospital. He's now in stable condition and is no longer in the ICU. We ask for respect and privacy for the James family and we will update media when there's more information. That's so crazy because this is someone like a young person who's in peak physical fitness. Peak physical health. LeBron James' son. I'm sure he's probably going to have like an insane career in the NBA. So scary. I hope he's okay.

Yeah. And this reminds me of that story from last year about the Bills player. DeMar Hamlin. Who collapsed on the field. DeMar Hamlin, who also, I believe he had cardiac arrest, correct? Yeah. So terrible. Yeah, I think that DeMar Hamlin had, like, spoken out yesterday, like, sending love to Bronny.

Yeah. So terrible and so scary. And who knows what this could mean but like Bronny has made so many headlines like for being you know the next big thing in sports and I'm pretty sure in the background of one of Zach's shows a few months ago I heard the broadcaster saying that LeBron said that whatever team picks up his son he will go to okay that's giving like

nepo baby first of all yeah but like why not you know that's that's very interesting because like I was thinking before when we were just talking about him his son you know nepotism in sports like can't really be a thing because you need the talent it's just sheer talent you just have to be good it's based on numbers points scored you know free throw range whatever but this is actually like an interesting way of being like nepotistic in sports yeah and using like all of his power and influence to get the best deal for his son now would this be the I have to assume yes the first time a father and son have played on a team together? And by the time he gets to the NBA, will LeBron still be in the NBA?

I think so. Bronny's 18. I don't know at what age. But he's at USC. Yeah, but, like, they can miss, like, is it like football where you can, like, draft early? Yeah. And even still, even in five years, like, LeBron's going to be a better basketball player than yeah no he's not slowing down than people 10 20 years younger than him so yeah that's cool plus even like to like say LeBron's not scoring like he used to be like to have the Jameses on

your team like that sells tickets it's an interesting proposition. It's pretty cool. Yeah, it's pretty cool. Yeah, I feel like at some point, like, after LeBron's career, he'll probably become, like, an owner of a team. I feel like that happens a lot with, like, those major, major players. And it'd be cool. I don't know if there's, like, rules against it. If he was, like, the owner of the team that his son was on. Yeah, well, if he was the owner of a team, he could draft whoever he wants, right?

Not really. That's, like, not your job. It Yeah, well, if he was the owner of a team, he could draft whoever he wants, right? Not really. That's, like, not your job. It's, like, general manager. For sure, but, like, you own the team. So if the general manager won't do it, like, you could fire them. You could. You could.

You could. You could. Yeah. So I guess that's where nepotism could play into it as well. But if he is having cardiac issues, that could affect his sports career. I know.

So I think everyone's kind of worried and waiting and seeing. Well, I wish him well, truly. Yeah, me too. Are you ready for our next story? Yes. Megan Fox is being ripped to bits for asking fans to donate to her pal's GoFundMe. So this is like a very interesting celebrity trope that I see happen a lot. My most favorite, you know, one is Lady Gaga asking for GoFundMe donations for her dad's

restaurant. It's like, girl, help out your pops. Yeah. Okay. It's literally your dad. Here's the details on this one because it always changes. Megan Fox has been slammed for asking her Instagram followers to donate to a friend's GoFundMe rather than coughing up all the money herself.

to donate to a friend's GoFundMe rather than coughing up all the money herself. The fundraiser, which had a goal of $30,000, was set up for her nail tech Brittany's father, who was diagnosed with cancer. It's seeking to raise the same amount that Megan's fiancé Machine Gun Kelly spent on a diamond-encrusted manicure last year, the story notes. So Megan took to her Instagram story Monday night with a picture of the gofundme she put it on her instagram story saying my friend's dad was just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer if you guys are able to help please do fans of the actress whose net worth is estimated to be around eight million dollars were confused as to why she would request donations on social media

rather than picking up the bill herself a bunch of commenters said the highest donation is only 300 and it's not anonymous sis better contribute herself and lead the way someone else said if i had as much money as her i'd cover 100 of a friend's parents medical expenses before i asked strangers to um so that's the argument that she should pay for this and not ask her fans to i mean there's a lot of arguments to be made you know for Megan what's her name Fox to pay the whole thing and I think you know one of the biggest arguments is that it's $30,000 which is a lot of money not for a celebrity like they literally get paid $50,000 just to wear a

shirt from a brand like if she wanted to make this 30k back she could do it in a day so it's tacky I'm sorry it's tacky and to not have the wherewithal to like donate first like ten thousand dollars with like it could say anonymous but everyone would know it was her because that's what people do they go to GoFundMe is you can sort the donations by highest to lowest and you could see who did you know the big one and so is it possible that Megan Fox privately helped this girl out of course true true but in this day and age you gotta be a little bit more clug you know yeah especially because this has literally happened before copy and paste I remember Kylie was in trouble for this too but

also like this might sound crazy I guess I didn't know her net worth was eight million dollars I know what you're gonna say that seems kind of high to me like I feel like I guess I didn't know her net worth was $8 million. I know what you're going to say. That seems kind of high to me. Like, I feel like, I guess she was in Transformers, which is a huge movie. Yeah. But, like, she doesn't act that much. No, that's definitely true. Maybe Megan Fox is, like, I don't know, you go to the Met Gala, you got 30 grand. No, I don't think so. Like, all those things that Megan Fox does like aren't like paying gigs no she's always

making news but never for work she's always making news she's never making money it's actually an amazing point like I don't know the last time she was in a film right except Transformers is like the kind of movie that I think pays you until you die. Yeah. She definitely, no, no, like. She's known for Transformers, Jennifer's Body, which is like an indie film, by the way. Okay, but that doesn't make like, you know, so much money. Okay, so Transformers was in 2007. But she was in two Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle movies 2014 and 2016. Those feel like big money makers too. Okay but like even if they paid her a couple million dollars for those movies like

those were years ago and I'm sure she lives like a high. Okay here's what she's done recently. I have not heard of one of these things. Most recently she was in dave in one episode okay so let's just johnny and clyde i don't know her good morning spelled m-o-u-r-n-i-n-g big gold brick taurus night teeth till death midnight switchgrass that That's the Randall Emmett one. Machine Gun Kelly's music video. Rogue, Think Like a Dog, Machine Gun Kelly's music video.

Oh, okay. The Battle of Jang Sari, Zeroville, Above the Shadows. Then the first thing I've heard of is from 2016 she was in 15 episodes of new girl okay that's seven years ago i think that's really the but i'm sorry over the course of her career this is 40 new girl jennifer's body transformers Transformers again. There's three Transformers movies.

Yeah, those Transformers ones, I think, you know, can set you up for the rest of your life. She did a hundred episodes of a show called Ocean Avenue. This bitch has 30 grand lying around. I'm sorry. And then, by the way, and then there's other things you get paid for, actually a lot of money for, outside of acting. Especially somebody in the Marvel universe, like all those, you know, events. She's fine. Yeah. And is she married yet? No.

No, are they still together even? I don't know. Yeah. And like, I genuinely don't care. Yeah, I mean, we could go back and forth on whether she, you know, now, because she was in Transformers, needs to pay everyone's medical bills around her for the rest of her life. because she was in Transformers needs to pay everyone's medical bills around her for the rest of her life. But I think the idea of like kicking it to her fans is weird.

Is weird. But what if it was like her friend who was like, could you post about this? Like we could use some more eyes on it. If somebody said like to like, you have to think like, they would never ask, can you pay this? They would never ask can you pay this they would say can you post this because that's like nothing but like a normal human being would be like let me just pay it if I'm Megan Fox I don't know I don't think she's that liquid that's definitely possible

I don't know what sort of financial decision she's made. And she had a messy divorce. Let's not forget about that. Where she was definitely the earner. Yeah. Yeah. So. But to not even put $5,000. Like, come on. Yeah. But you're right.

She could have paid offline. She could have paid offline. Even though there's already, like, a donation set up. I think it would just be, like, a lot easier. But, okay. Yeah. Yeah. Instead of having to explain like your accountant this like wire transfer right now I actually read yesterday that all the money GoFundMe is like kind

of like a crazy platform all the money that was raised for that Carly Russell woman who fake abducted herself like they can't get it back that's weird right because GoFundMe does sometimes like step in and they'll like shut down phone raisers um so to not like get it back is weird weird but I thought Carly Russell's family was not accepting donations for her reward like when when it happened I thought that was so interesting when I read that I was like they weren't looking for donations for a reward like they had a reward set up but I did see what you saw about like people can't get their donations back so obviously they donated somewhere I think oh I think a lot of people donated to crime stoppers like in the in the hopes of supporting the Carly Russell search.

$63,000 raised from donors in Carly Russell case is not being refunded from Crime Stoppers. Okay, so that's not co-funding. So Crime Stoppers of Metro Alabama said on Monday that the $63,000 in reward money raised to help find Carly Russell is not being returned to donors despite her safe return. Russell, who vanished in Alabama last Thursday, yada yada. Crime Stoppers initially said that it would give back the $63,000 donated during the search

for the missing nursing student before saying in the afternoon that the money would not be refunded. The investigation is still ongoing and accordingly there is no basis to refund any contributions at this time. Furthermore, the Hoover Police Department has not requested for any donor contributions to be released or refunded. It's not clear how much money has since been returned through the group's website on Wednesday. Still displayed a notice of a reward being offered. But now we know, like. Yeah. But when you donate to Crime Stoppers, is that like a larger organization?

Or like you earmark it for Carly? I think you can earmark it to be like, you know, incentivize people with a reward. But yes, you're right. I guess that $63,000 could be dispersed, you know incentivize people with a reward but yes you're right I guess that $63,000 could be dispersed like you know to stopping other crimes right right it's not like it's going to Carly as a reward for faking her own abduction that's true so hopefully it gets used for a good cause if they really don't return it but that's really murky yeah well so oh sorry go back to Megan Fox she definitely has money she might not be as liquid as we thought she would but in the in the grand scheme of like celebrity money 30 grand is not a

lot yeah and she could have donated 10 but and she okay but like I mean I would expect her to be more as you said clugged than this but like what if she donated like 20,000 offline and that, and like, maybe the bill was 50,000 and now they're trying to raise the additional 30? 100% a possibility and that's why it's just never a good idea

for like a big celebrity to post a GoFundMe unless it's like a GoFundMe that's like millions of dollars needed, you know? Yeah. Or like,

I feel like after like a really big tragedy, like hurricane or, you know, something, there's always a GoFundMe set up with like an endless goal just to raise the most amount of money for the families who lost someone. So that's different. But like for a personal friend, Kylie's gotten in trouble.

Lady Gaga, now Megan Fox. Like we need to learn. They need to learn. It should be like a no-go zone. Okay, I totally agree with you. That's the takeaway here. But I just want to give you like a situation okay because what if the total bill was like sixty thousand dollars and Megan was like I'll pay half so now they only need to raise thirty thousand dollars and then she

posts like Brittany asked her to post the link so she posts the link and now she's in all this hot water like Megan can never come forward and say no guys I paid 30 to her before like she can never even defend herself about this because it's like you don't know and by the way when somebody needs money like we should not be thinking about things like this it's so stupid but like that is the world that we live in and so if that was the case like Megan should have done the 30 like anonymously on GoFundMe because people would have flocked to go see like what the biggest donation was they would have saw 30 assume it was Megan and be like oh okay so she donated and she's promoting but what if she donated before she knew there was going to be a GoFundMe yeah I mean sure what do you mean like and then she sure it's not like she

can just like hop on stories and then just start talking about like how much she donated how much she didn't she's never gonna like give air to this so we're just gonna like keep saying that she didn't donate more than $300 and then also then say like the friend was like hey could you could promote this like you have you know we could use some more eyes like how do you say no to your friend this is bad for my image that's fucking rude yeah it's a tough spot I'm just saying not that I agree with her I'm just saying I can recognize she's in a tough spot. You know, I agree. And there's like a million scenarios. Where she did the right thing. With the details that we don't know.

She paid $100,000 already. Yeah, 100%. 100%. But we are given information. And we have to come to conclusions with solely the information we're given. I think the takeaway is that we can't just jump to conclusions and assume the worst about people. Agreed. But I think we can all agree. conclusions and assume the worst about people agreed but that celebrities need to you know

even if someone's asking them to post their gofundme like you could say like I think this would backfire I don't know I think we can reserve judgment there's definitely like a litany of details that we do not know but I think we can all agree when Lady Gaga did it for her dad's restaurant, that was weird. Yes. Totally. Yeah. Great.

I'm glad we worked through that. Yeah. It's a complicated thing. It is, considering we don't know everything. Yeah. Are you ready for our next story? Mm-hmm. Eagle-eyed history buffs are pointing out an error

in Christopher Nolan's Oppenheimer blockbuster that's commonly made in World War II movies. our next story eagle-eyed history buffs are pointing out an error in christopher nolan's oppenheimer blockbuster that's commonly made in world war ii movies and it's i heard this it's unfortunate it really is yeah i would have never noticed it but people did so um the movie focuses uh on a time 1945 world war ii and one scene in the movie um after Japan surrender and the U.S. victory in the war they show Oppenheimer being applauded by an audience waving the flag but eagle-eyed viewers have pointed out that the flags that they're waving have 50 stars rather than 48 even though Hawaii and Alaska did not become U.S. states until 1959 so yeah okay like who the fuck is counting stars? I'm sure that's what Christopher Nolan said like oh no one's gonna count the stars it's fine. No I don't think I think if they knew

that the stars were off they would have fixed it. They put so much care and detail into these movies like I'm sure it's killing him that like he made this big epic it's so you know I'm sure I haven't seen it I don't know the story but I'm gonna say historically accurate to a degree and they're getting fucked by these flags and everyone's talking about the flag it's giving American sniper Chris Kyle and the fake baby yeah that was weird um did you see the tweet of like the woman she went viral I'm pretty sure she like deleted her whole account and it was like just want to let you guys know, there was not a woman for the first 20 minutes in Oppenheimer. And it's like, yeah, it was literally 1940, whatever, whatever.

What year was it? 1945. Yeah, it's like, well, that would make it incredibly historically accurate. Right, that's so funny. Did you see the tweet that was like, you guys, I'm worried about Barb and Hymer and COVID. Like, just be like everyone going to the movies and there being. And there being another COVID spike.

Okay. Moving on. I think it was from a doctor, too. Like, it wasn't just a lay person being, like, a freak. Um, so, the stars. So, the thing is, do I care? No. Would I have noticed this?

No. Do I think it takes away from, like, the integrity or the, you know, validity of the film? Also no. But it's not, like, it's not 100%. To me, like, the bar for inaccuracies and, like, flops will always be when somebody left a plastic water bottle in the background of Game of Thrones. No Starbucks cup, too. Whatever.

Yeah. This is so much better than that, so I'm okay. I know, but, like like imagine you make a perfect movie and then it's not perfect thus you know further proving my point that you know we're all just people it's true how one how did people even notice this is my question i'm saying like they're waving flags they're not even standing still for a minute you can't even sit there and count them and well maybe the it was because it was 48 like maybe the alignment of stars is different yeah but also like I'm sure they have so many history buffs on set like how do you like lay people notice this and not the experts you know it's a win for the lay

people and apparently according to the Daily Mail like this is a mistake that happens in a lot of movies around world war ii so how did we not learn from this right like learn from others mistakes maybe they could use ai to fix it fix it in like when it goes out to on demand i I'm sorry. This is humiliating. It's a stain on Christopher Nolan's record. He should never work again. Wow. Hot take. I mean, yeah. If you can't get the stars right, like, what are you doing?

Can you count? Why bother? Can you count, bro? Why bother? Right. Are you dumb? So humiliating. Like, I definitely knew that Hawaii and Alaska were only added to the union in the 50s.

Like, I 100% knew that. Yeah. Of course you did. You read the Rose Code. No, like, that's what I'm saying. Maybe if Christopher Nolan had read the Rose Code, we wouldn't be having this conversation. You know what it's like to know how many stars. But he doesn't.

That's his cross to bear. Not our problem. Sorry, Chris. You're on your own. Sigh. Are you ready for our next story? Mm-hmm. Ariana Grande's boyfriend's wife feels that he abandoned their family.

TMZ. No. TMZ has learned that Ari's and Ethan's relationship came as a surprise to the actor's now estranged wife, who feels he abandoned his family. Sources close to the wife, Lily J., tell us she's devastated her family's been torn apart. She's also upset their young son, who was born in August 2022, wow, one year ago, won't have both his mom and dad around constantly now that they've split. TMZ sources say Lily and Ethan aren't on good terms now that the Ariana relationship is full steam ahead. Lily feels like he's turned his back completely on his family. Now that I've had some time to think on this, and it's like started to marinate,

when we were first reported on it, like I was like, LOL, you know, Ari ruining lives. But like, Ari's ruining lives. Like, it actually is really not sitting well with me. And for what? This relationship is going to go nowhere, first of all. It's like a fun set it's like a camp romance because they were just like all together filming this film it's I'm actually like not to be such a fucking loser who needs to touch grass but like I expected more from Ariana she needs to do better yeah I mean of course it's up to this man like he has

agency and choice but like I'm sure he thinks that like Ari loves him and and he's gonna leave it all and risk it all for Ari but like we know this relationship is gonna last three months and it's really especially like to do with a one-year-old like or you could have any man in the world like this little nerd taking him from his family like you know it's not right now and especially like I'm just seeing the Barbie movie which was like very much like womanhood is a sisterhood like and it's on the man 100% but like Ari knew and like she could have looked out for her fellow sister in Christ but she didn't no she didn't and like and she's the one with power here like I'm sorry this guy's a freak

like I never heard of him when Ari comes to you and says like leave your wife and child and be with me like her womanly wiles like I would say yes well no not of course not baby Harry no but like she's the biggest star in the world she's you know this larger than life he was like and I hate to like place blame on the woman because I have to be honest if the roles were gender roles, we would be saying the same thing if it was a huge man on set and he had this woman. And also the man was notorious for just having, no offense, a revolving door of relationships that seem so serious but are not. Yep.

Then we would say the exact same thing. And I guess what Ariana would say is, screw sisterhood, you know? Yeah. And that's what she said. Very you know yeah and that's what she's very Victor Garber that's what she said this is just really sad and confusing it's not by the way it's really not a good look for Ariana like it's just not yeah but it really hasn't touched her like I I feel like. She's untouchable. Yeah she is untouchable. But no one's really saying this. It's kind of just like funny to everyone.

No I know and that's what it was for me too. But now I've sort of sat with it and it's like this mother, this wife who literally never once asked to be a part of this narrative. One in which she never asked to be a part of. And now her whole life is destroyed and now she's like in the media her instagram's being infiltrated like leave this woman alone she just married this theater nerd and wanted a nice quiet life she has a one-year-old terrible honestly it's terrible i'm sorry honestly i'm sorry i joked about it like because now it really has not sat well with me no she's a one-year year old and daddy ran off with Ariana Grande.

Like. It's so inconceivable. It's so wrong. It's. You know what it is? It's wrong. Do better Ari. Yeah.

There's plenty of single men and she could have any of them. Anyone. Anyone. Not only is she like so beautiful. She's so famous. Anyone. Like there's no reason she went for this freak no and it's like I feel as though anytime she sets her sights on someone like they will date it's not giving Irene yeah it's giving like she has she's a very charming person unlimited options she's trying to people are really drawn to her. Yeah.

This is a bad choice. There was no reason for this. Especially because, let me tell you something. I can't see the future. I'm not Raven-Symoné, but this will not last. I am Raven-Symoné, and I can tell you it won't last. Are you ready for our fifth and final story? Final story.

Yeah. Blake Lively jumps over the ropes at Kensington Palace to fix the display of her 2022 met gal address have you seen this no on tuesday the gossip girl alum posted an instagram story of her jumping over the ropes at london's kensington palace they have an exhibit called crown to couture and they have her met galala dress from this year on display. So in the video she hops over the rope and fixes her dress. She said when you're the clown who hops over the rope at the museum to fix the exhibit. Happy almost Virgo season folks. Oh so the rules don't apply to Blake Lively. Well is it her dress? Definitely not. Her dress appears alongside 200 other pieces at the exhibit inside Princess Diana's former home, including a former Lizzo look, Lady Gaga.

The exhibition also features a number of... Sounds like a cool display. It does sound like a cool display. It features a number of historic gowns as it tells the story of how rock and red carpet fashion has been influenced by the royals of the Georgian era in the 18th century. So I guess her Met Gala look this year was influenced by the Georgian era, which is possible. Cool.

But like, you know what? This is giving, you know, not only is it a museum where you're not supposed to touch anything, but it's like at Kensington Palace where you're also not supposed to touch anything. I don't know. I don't really like her bragging about this. Like, I abide by, like, I'm a rule follower. Yeah.

But what if it was your dress? Like, what if it was your retrofit dress and they didn't have like the bow tied in the way that you wore it and it was an exhibit like about 30 through the years I would ask someone to fix it like you know one time I went to a wedding you don't think that's like more self-indulge like to have like instead of just like running and DIYing it no don't put your grubby hands on the display like these are now considered works of art they're in a museum like don't touch it yeah there are ropes there for a reason wow now one time I went to a wedding at the Met and it was beautiful and I posted on my Instagram like that I was at the Met after dark. It was very cool. And I, like, joked that I was, like, touching something.

I didn't touch it, but I was like, oh, oh, oh. Somebody from the museum, there was, like, security everywhere. Like, hours later, I had seen my Instagram, came over, and I was like, oh, look, a fan. She wants a photo. She was like, please delete your Instagram. I'm like, oh, okay. I got in trouble, like, my whole night was ruined.

I'm sorry. Yeah. So I, like, oh, okay. I got in trouble like my whole night was around. I'm sorry. Yeah. And that's how Blake Lively's dress became about turdy. Yeah. I had to learn my lesson, and I think Blake should be, I think she should be spoken to, reprimanded. Yeah, it is also kind of giving like Austin Butler, Vanessa Hudgens, putting their initials on that tree.

Yes, Jackie, I thought that too. I literally thought that too. Like, look how cute we are. We're putting our initials in a tree. Yes, Jackie, I thought that too. I literally thought that too. Like, look how cute we are. We're putting our initials in a tree. Boom, citation. Yeah, I mean, it begs the question, like, who does the dress belong to? Maybe Blake loaned it to the museum,

in which case she's free to touch it however she wants. Or maybe it depends who runs the museum. Maybe they'll think this is like a quirky thing that she did, you know, bringing a little life to the exhibit. And to promote, like, the exhibit. Which sounds like a wonderful exhibit, and I hope it makes its way to the exhibit. And to promote the exhibit. Which sounds like a wonderful exhibit, and I hope it makes its way to the U.S. It actually does. And you know what would be fun?

I feel like we could play a game where we would go to every dress and see how many of the 200 we could place as to who wore it. Because that's what we do for a living. I'm telling you, I feel like we could do all 200 if they're spanning the last 5, 10 years. I don't like we could do all 200 if they're spanning the last like 5, 10 years. I don't think that they are. I think they're spanning the last like 200 years. Then definitely not.

But I will click on the link and try and find more of the dresses. Oh, yeah. These are like Renaissance looks. Oh, then no. Luke's. Luke's from the Renaissance. Luke's. Well, thanks, Jax, then no. Luke's from the Renaissance. Luke's! Well, thanks Jax for that.

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grandfather made a TikTok account, which I thought was funny and cute. I clicked on his profile and I noticed that he was following hundreds of people already. I was shocked and befuddled to see he was exclusively following hundreds of like spicy thirst trap accounts, sexy anime cosplayers, and what appear to be like only fan promotion pages. They all feature women who are about my age. What's even worse is I don't think he knows that anyone can see that information of who he follows. At family gatherings he goes on and on about how he's a total TikTok addict and now I'm literally so grossed out and uncomfortable hearing this. Should I tell him I can see who he follows,

or should I just keep this haunting information to myself? Sincerely, a traumatized toaster. Now, my rebuttal includes three words. Let grandpa live. Yes! Same. I was going to say, let gramps live, just to add a little sexy flair. Let grandpa live.

Like, stop. He obviously doesn't know that you can see it. He be mortified if he did leave him alone yeah also how old are you that they're your age um how would you be like 25 no i jackie i took everything in me not to read it how would you feel if your father came home with someone your age yeah no probably like 25 or 30 like it's not like it's underage like these are consenting females who are looking for audiences and your grandpa right your grandpa's supporting women in business supporting female creators listen let him live i'm not worried what is he gonna do with this have a little fun i'm no god forbid completely harmless god forbid grandpa lives leave him alone i assume he's not

married or he's a widowed because she would have said that. Like, my grandma. So he's fine. Leave him alone. Old people need vices too. And his is completely harmless. So you just keep your little trap shut, bitch. Okay?

Okay, but I have a question for you. How would you feel if he was married to grandma? Still. I would still think it's okay. Yeah, right? Like, what is he going to, he's not going to cheat on grandma. Like. No, I literally think it's fine. Yeah, right? Like, what is he going to, he's not going to cheat on grandma. Like. No, I literally think it's fine.

He can get his little fix. Also, if it's on TikTok, it's not like it's porn. It's just he probably suggested. That's true. It's suggested female content. And I'm sure that they're out there promoting their OnlyFans, and your grandpa has literally no clue what OnlyFans is, how to download it, how to put his credit card information in.

He's literally consuming TikTok safe content, which can be provocative for sure, but. What are their nudity policies? There's no tits ass, like you can't show nipple, but you can wear like a thong. But I think even still, I think still it would get taken down. Okay, yeah. I think grandpa's living his best life.

Like why only can you be on TikTok? Like enjoying the content. I would just, instead of the feelings you're're feeling which are definitely like discomfort and grossed out why don't you try and channel like some some positive energy for grandpa being like you know he's old he's getting up there there's probably not so many things that bring him joy and this is one of those things and so if I can just put my discomfort aside and know that my grandpa's like out here living a full happy borderline erect life then we all win it's true and as far as you knowing this information and like feeling weird about it that's your cross to bear yeah we that's the thing about getting older

it's like we end up finding things out about like parents grandparents that you didn't know when you were a kid and definitely like shakes your core you gotta get over it yeah you don't need to have like a family session if someone else in the family notices it and brings it up like you guys can bond over it but giggle grandpa is living let grandpa live all right next up dear Jackson Turdy Lou I'm in desperate need of some advice I recently broke up with my boyfriend who was the first person I ever slept with I never felt regretful when we had sex because we loved each other. But now that I'm out of a relationship, I feel so gross and slutty for having sex and not waiting till I'm closer with a person. I need some advice to help me stop slut shaming myself. Thank you.

I love you guys. I listen every day. I feel like that's so harsh. I feel like there's two routes we can take here. The first is like, I don't know if you need to hear this, but there's literally nothing wrong with like having sex with another consenting adult. It's liberating. People do it all the time.

There's nothing wrong with it. Go off, queen. Get your bag. But also, I do think there are a lot of people who don't have casual sex and exclusively like wait till they're like seeing someone exclusively or in a relationship. And that's okay too. So maybe you might be one of those people no she is one of those people and I think you know the idea of two consenting adults go off queen have sex like that doesn't work for everyone

but she was in a relationship with this person so that's why I feel like you're being so hard on yourself like you you said no no Jackie Jackie you're misunderstanding she said she was in a room she's at she's out of the relationship okay and now she's out of the relationship. Okay. And now she's out of a relationship. She feels gross and slutty for having sex with like other people. Like dating and stuff. Really? I read it as she was in a relationship and she had sex. No.

Let me read it again. Okay. I recently broke up with my boyfriend who was the first person I ever slept with. I never felt regretful when we had sex because we loved each other. Okay. But now that I'm out of a relationship I feel so gross and slutty for having sex and not waiting till I'm closer with the person. Okay by the way you could read it as what you saw or what I saw. No because yeah no. But I'm I'm because she said we loved each other so you never regret having sex with someone you love. Right but it also sounded like when she did it, she didn't regret it,

but now that she's out of their relationship, like maybe she didn't think they were as close as she thought, and now she regrets it. But why would she not think that she's close with the person that she's in a relationship with and loves? Wait, this is like actually confusing. No, no, okay, it could be both, but I will go with yours because I do think that makes like a little more sense. Yeah, and I believe that's like a thing, you know, of course they give like a label to everything

now. I think it's called demisexual, but like you can really only be intimate with someone you're like deeply like care for and love, which like isn't a sexuality. I just think it's like, I think I'm the same way. I guess I would be demisexual. That's so crazy that that's a word for wanting to love the person that you're with. Right. So I think like both routes are totally fine, but I don't think you need to like change. It might just be that you're that type of person and that's totally okay. Yeah. And you don't have to have sex with people if that's not making you happy or feel good or

like you're, it's making you feel worse after the fact like then don't be that person there are so many people who don't want to do that and don't do that like maybe you feel pressure because I mean I guess it's the societal norm now is just casual sex but that doesn't work for everyone no and I think there's like a a huge group of people who still abide by like you know not having sex with someone until they're like involved exclusively or in a relationship and that's totally okay yeah and I think it doesn't make you weird or a loser it goes for both men and women too yeah so I think ultimately like if you if you make decisions like based on how you truly feel even if it's not the popular one or the cool

one right it will lead you to the right person. Yeah. So I would just like follow your feelings. You don't have to change your feelings just because you think they're like weird or whatever. Like you feel that way for a reason. And that's totally fine. And instead of feeling gross about it, it taught you a lesson. Like now you know this about yourself. Like do with that.

Yes. Use that information. Don't just discard it and keep like pushing through and being someone that you're not. information don't just discard it and keep like pushing through and being someone that you're not you can be grateful for the lesson and not feel shame because the lesson brought you the lesson clarity the clarity right um that was confusing Jackie thank you all right our third and final one is like making my blood boil like we absolutely have to sharpen our pitchforks because we ride it down. Oh, God. Okay, I'm ready. Hey, Jackson Claude.

I watch you girlies every day. I love you both so much. I'm one year postpartum, and I'll be 30 in a few months. My husband and I were having dinner with our best friends, who are also a married couple, and I told my girlfriend that I want to start working out and for her to hold me accountable. I told her that I wanted to be in the best possible shape of my life for my 30th birthday, which is coming up. She quickly responded with, but okay, but you don't need to. You really look great.

My husband chuckled a little and said, she could stand to lose 10 pounds. I was mortified. The other husband changed the subject to sports and my husband and I haven't spoken about it yet. How do I approach this? Am I right for feeling upset? So you approach it with a shotgun. With a knife yeah

there's so many reasons as to why this is fucked up and I don't know which is the worst whether it's like him even commenting on your weight but I honestly think it's worse that he did it in front of other people no that he's so dumb that he thought that was an okay thing to say in general he thought it was okay to say it to you and he thought it was okay to say it in front of other people like the way this man needs his ass reamed out maybe he really is just that dumb and like not I mean if you gain sometimes it's like if you've gained weight I'm sorry you're a father now there's literally no excuse for being that dumb no but it's irresponsible it's honestly I would fear for you it is irresponsible to be To walk through the world being so oblivious and so dumb. Honestly, I think this calls for you sitting him down and playing in this episode.

Now listen, sir. You're literally disgusting. I'm sure you're fucking fat, bitch, okay? And your wife, who, by the way, just had a baby, is a queen. And the fact that she hasn't fucking stabbed you in your sleep you should be so goddamn grateful for that i need you to get some perspective first of all never ever in your goddamn life talk about your wife's body postpartum or not it's none of your fucking business okay also you weren't asked in that situation right oh yeah we weren't talking to you

now the second thing that is so important for a husband to learn and the fact that you have to learn this makes me just I understand you're dumb and maybe nobody told you so I'm going to tell you when you're out in public with your wife your job is to lift her up your job is to protect her but if the call is coming from inside the house if somebody's out here in public embarrassing me and it's the person I fucking sleep next to the person who's supposed to love me most in this world you are now the person I hate most in this world and your wife I don't know if she does but she should fucking hate you and you have a lot of work to do sir on yourself on being a better version for your daughter for her son excuse me for your wife and all I can say in a non-ironic

way is do better yeah no you can't walk through this world being that dumb I fear you're gonna get hit by a car you're so dumb yeah you're gonna get taken advantage like you to not know that that's the wrong thing to say in front of other people like that makes it so much worse like of course in the privacy of your own home it's still a fucked up thing to say but then you're adding like another level of humiliation to the rage you already feel I can't girly I'm so sorry this is what we have to put up with is just like women who you know are married I but it's it's unacceptable. I'm so sorry. You're a stunning queen. You just birthed a human.

Take all the time you need. Yeah. And seriously. But what if it wasn't even like a dumb thing. Like what if it's just like a cruel thing. You know. Oh. Because I'm kind of giving him the benefit of the doubt.

That he's just dumb enough to say something like that. Well, if he's saying it in like a malicious, cruel way, this is clearly a person who's extremely like verbally abusive and manipulative. And like that's honestly, if that's what he's saying in a cruel way, to me it's such a red flag for so many other worse things. But you know what? What gives me solace is I feel like she would have included in her prompt that like he's...

He's always making comments. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So maybe we can go back to dumb because the alternative just like hurts my heart. If it is the alternative, run. But if he's just dumb

and maybe like had a few beers and thought he was being funny, we have to kill him. Yeah. We have to kill his spirit so that he never makes a joke ever again because he worries that it was the worst thing he could possibly say yeah I want this man to never smile again I want him to never contribute to a conversation to never try and take a stab at

a joke yeah because oh by the way sir if you're still listening you're literally not funny no we are we know funny I'm literally a comedian funny. No. We are. We know funny. I'm literally a comedian. I sold out Madison Square Garden. Like, I know funny. You're not funny. You're dumb. Yeah.

So I think that's the advice here. Play this episode for him. Yeah. Or if you don't want to do that because we said some unkind things to him and then maybe that would cause a different fight. Yeah, it's so true. And maybe you just, like, this is your little pocket of peace where we can vent about him and then you can, like, take the applied lessons and apply them.

You're so smart. You're so smart. Rip him a new one. Sometimes it's the best, especially if, like, this was really him being dumb and not cruel. Like, he needs a sit down. He needs an ass reaming. Yeah. And I would really, I would write your thoughts out because, like, it's so annoying when,

like, you're a woman who's like mad about something and then you just are like she's crazy but it's like I have a fucking reason for being mad so your reasoning really needs to be like well thought out like the humiliation of saying something like that period but then furthermore in front of two people who like I care about and respect is humiliating that what are they going to think of me that I'm just like you know some punching bag for you and that's what our marriage is? That's not what our marriage is. So why would you want people to think that?

And be like, I know you probably think that I look bad in this situation, but actually you made yourself look terrible. I'm sure they're talking about you and not me and how they feel sorry for me to have to put up with you. Oh my God. Fucking facts, bitch. Facts. Because he's the one who should be embarrassed even though it feels like she's embarrassed he should he's the one who should actually be embarrassed because it reflected worse on him I just want to say like

I'm so mad but the fact that you're postpartum and like the worst thing he could say is that you need to lose 10 pounds like you're probably snatched so just feel good about that literally that was like my postpartum weight goal was like 10 pounds heavier yeah no if someone was like after I'm postpartum like they would say she could stand to lose 100 pounds like yeah you're fine so true yeah no let's look into that who actually loses who actually loses the last 10 pounds of anything oh not even postpartum just in life in life everyone could stand to lose 10 pounds it's so true like congrats girly you sound congrats you got your goal weight no literally oh my god I hate this man I'm so sorry but hopefully that was helpful advice and I would absolutely love an update from you just because I feel so invested in this one sometimes

it's just nice to commiserate and like have people validate how you feel and like maybe yeah maybe we could move like I mean what do what you need to do but maybe you just because I feel so invested in this one. Sometimes it's just nice to commiserate and like have people validate how you feel and like maybe. Yeah. Maybe we could move. Like I mean do what you need to do but maybe you just needed to get that off your chest and needed us to get as angry for you as you're feeling. No but it requires a conversation. I agree with that too.

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