The Toast - Opposite Day: Wednesday, December 14th, 2022

Episode Date: December 14, 2022

DJ Stephen ‘Twitch’ Boss Ellen’s DJ Dead at 40 By Suicide (TMZ) (14:42) Lisa Hochstien Seen ‘Canoodling’ Tech Entrepreneur Jody Glidden (Page Six) (23:00) Brendan Fraser Reveals We’ve Been Pronouncing His Name All Wrong (NY Post) (39:36) Jay Leno Explains How He Was Burned By Car (TMZ) (45:54) Instagram Now Supports Text Updates with Launch of Notes, Adds Other New Sharing Features (Tech Crunch) (49:30) Dear Toasters (1:01:42) The Toast with Jackie  (@JackieOshry) and Claudia Oshry  (@girlwithnojob)  NLOG Tickets Merch The Toast Patreon Girl With No Job by Claudia OshrySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Good morning, Millennials. Welcome back to The Toast. Happy hump day. It is Wednesday, a glorious day, a cause of celebration here at the morning, at The Toast. Hope everyone's having a fabulous day. Hey, Jax. How you doing?

I'm doing good. I woke up today feeling better than yesterday. God bless. Hallelujah. Hallelujah. Isn't that all we could really ask for? You know, waking up today better than the day before? It's all we can hope for.

So I'm hoping that I've turned a corner on this sickness. I hope I can enjoy the reels of today's show without watching them and feeling like I'm about to sneeze. Yeah, no, you were definitely giving off that nasally vibe yesterday, but you know what? Nobody left any mean comments, so that's nice. I feel like unless you're sick, it wouldn't trigger you. But for me, like I couldn't watch because it was it was like signaling to my sickness. It's time to sneeze. Jackie, I'm

surprised you haven't made a comment about how stunning I look. Yeah. What do you have going on today that you're all dressed up? I am going to a rare beauty event where I think I'm going to be keeping an eye out for Selina. You gotta keep an eye out for Selina. And I'm pretty sure it's like a small event. Like I think I might be able to get a photo with our girl Selina and like maybe make a TikTok or something. And so do you think I can ask her like to say keeping an eye out for Selina? Do you think that's like a line she doesn't fuck with? I't want to i feel like selena has sensitivities to certain things and i wouldn't go there okay like obviously it like is a justin thing but now it's like a cultural thing and i know you're right i should just avoid it i don't want to make her uncomfortable at her own event you don't know what her relationship is

like with nikki minaj you don't know how she feels about that name in general. Like I just feel like she has stuff that bothers her and you don't know what it is. Yeah, no, you're right. It's best to avoid. But you can like do a TikTok on your own, like behind her back, like keep an eye out for Selena. Yeah, no, I'm just gonna, I'm definitely gonna do it on my own,

but I don't wanna trigger her. You're totally right. So you're just gonna go there. Is it a lunch? Is it like a show no idea thankfully counselor it's like very small so they were like no plus ones and I was like damn and then I heard counselor was also invited I was like thank god and I just feel like it's actually not fair to the other girlies who have to show up alone knowing like I have my sister like it's

actually not fair I know but some of those other girlies like have influencer friends who will be there and like you don't so um I wouldn't say friends you have influencer friends but they're not they're not the rare beauty types I wouldn't say I think I think I'll actually well you know I'm actually kind of nervous like I don't love influencer events I don't go to them often but like this one is obviously premium and I didn't have anything else going on today. So I'm going to go and I'll definitely feel old, even though me and Selena are the same age. So we're just like, you know, you're younger than her. Oh, not me. Not being the oldest person in the room. Thank God. Yeah. I think Selena is my age. Yeah. No, Selena is definitely like a year or two older. yeah no selena's definitely like a year or two older she's in the 92 crew oh it's a good crew miley nick jonas so true 92 for life um so that's why i look stunning and why

i'm repeating an outfit i wore this weekend it's like if it works it it works you know it's really cute i might actually get it and copy you you know who it is someone we've actually had on this podcast norma kamali i literally like actually had on this podcast, Norma Kamali. I literally like actually thought about this yesterday and hadn't thought about it in so long. Like that was such a cool guest that we had. I know. And like we were online.

She knows how to like how to dress a woman. And if you're looking for some new clothes that are so versatile, that look nice, but are also comfortable, like they're perfect work clothes, they're day to night clothes. They're obviously meeting Selena outfits. Check out Norma Kamali. No, and you're right. She like definitely knows how to like fit clothing on like a real body.

Like I appreciate that. I've worn her stuff many times at different sizes. Yeah, me too. I wore her stuff when I was pregnant. She has like that one dress. She has two dresses that are similar. One is one sleeve to one is long sleeve. And it's great for a bridesmaid.

It's also great for a pregnant bridesmaid. I have the long sleeve one. She just has great stuff. And we had her on the podcast. And that's like why we're not like other podcasts. Not at all. NLOP. NLOP tour.

We should go on an NLOP tour. We, by the way, don't tease the people because you know I'll do it. It's all about you. I know. But I feel like would you rather go on a solo tour or podcast tour? Well, the only benefit of going on a solo tour is I don't have to split the money with you. Right. But you don't know like how harrowing it is to like be on stage by yourself and just be

doing everything by yourself. I think like if we went on a podcast tour like you and I, first of all, it would be so fun. It would be genuine fun. Yeah. And I wouldn't have like the pit of like, oh my God, because us podcasting, that's in my bones. I wouldn't even have to prepare.

I would just get up there and just like make some shit up, you know? Yeah. What we do here every day. It would, right. It would be so fun. We'd have to make counselor come. She would open for us. She would open for us. She would open for us.

And what would she do? I think she would give them all a stern talking to. It would be like Q&A, like advice. And she would just yell at you the whole time. And you'd leave in tears, but you'd be better off for it. You'd be glad to have had that time with counselor. And sometimes the counselor is going to tell you the things you need to hear that nobody else in your life is going to tell you.

That's what counselors do. Let me tell you how today's episode is going to be so crazy. You guys, today it's not April Fool's. It's not opposite day. But the toast is topsy-turvy today. Yeah, and you're just not ready for it. So Jackie and I have decided we're going to try it out for today. I think we're going to like it.

But if we don't, we'll go back to the way that it is. We're going to switch it up. You know, think we're going to like it. But if we don't, we'll go back to the way that it is. We're going to switch it up. You know, I'm always doing the ads, reading Dear Toasters, Unburden Yourselves, etc. And Jackie reads the stories. And Jackie, I feel like you're like gotten fatigued with reading the stories. And I've definitely gotten fatigued with reading the ads. No, it's not so much that I've gotten fatigued reading the stories. We just get so many complaints like these stories stink.

And I feel like I always ask you if you want stories that you want to contribute. But maybe like we just need so many complaints like these stories stink and I feel like I always ask you if you want stories that you want to contribute but maybe like we just need a fresh perspective like you choose the stories and I know that you get fatigued reading the ads and like the few times I've had to do them in your stead like I have the greatest time like the best time I think it's so fun so we were like I feel like that will bring a freshness to the show if you're choosing the stories and like you know a new broom sweeps clean and I'm doing the ads and reading Dear Toasters I didn't realize it was Wednesday so I have a lot of reading to do but that's fine so it's a big day Wednesday we're obviously going to do Dear Toasters at the end of the episode I have stories um also I chose a story

about the Real Housewives of Miami so we can talk a little bit I watched oh I'm not so I watched all caught up and I have thought just really one thought that sums up the season and our story is about Lisa so I feel like that's the thought you probably have right sort of it's just about the season how actually I love the Real Housewives of Miami and I'm sure the season will be good on the back of Lisa's divorce but it's not a good season so far like I'm bored to tears well we will get your hot takes in our I think it's not a good season so far. Like I'm bored to tears. Well, we will get your hot takes in our, I think it's our third story about Lisa Hochstein. And also like a season of Lisa and Larsa beefing, like cuts me to my core.

Okay, then you're going to love the story. Okay, just trust and believe. Trust and believe, will you? I'm trusting and I'm believing and I'm all caught up. So I'm really excited about that. We also have some very sad news. I'm sure everybody saw this morning. So we'll talk about that.

And you guys just let us know. Like how do you like the opposite day vibes on today's show? I'm not looking for a permanent switch up. But maybe till the end of the year. Maybe it's like a once a week thing. Just like a fun way to keep the show fresh. That's the thing. Like we're fresh.

And we're always looking for ways to become fresher. I'm constantly seeking out freshness in my everyday life. Fresh yourself. Fresh yourself. Anyways, we could jump right in, even though a thing about you doing this is like you like to like give all the stories away before we start I see and I already know two out of five already oh wow okay I see you might call it giving away but what I would call it is just you know getting everyone's what do you call it like dipping your toe in the water giving them a taste a taste you know so you know it's not like a big surprise what's coming but maybe you're right I did just kind of spoil the whole episode

should we just start over no no but also it's so weird for me to go into an episode like totally blind. I don't know what we're talking about. I'm not, I feel unprepared. I feel like I didn't do my homework is how I feel, but that's why you have to read the stories and explain it to me. No. And now I'm putting myself in an extremely vulnerable position after five years of you reading the stories and me endlessly mocking your pronunciation. I have to be perfect. Yep. And the beauty of reading the ads is no one can mock your pronunciation for reading because like we have to be serious. We're doing our job. We're doing an ad. Yeah. Yeah. No. So I'm definitely going to be spending my nights like doing enunciation classes and like what's it called?

Diction. Dialect. Yeah. Diction classes because I will not give you the opportunity to mock me. Yeah. Well, I'm really excited to see what you have cooked up for us today. Yeah. I'd love to get your take on the stories. It wasn't, you know, a bounty, but it wasn't like a desert day. There wasn't so many stories to choose from, but there also wasn't, you know, nothing. Okay. I have no idea what it's going to be. It's kind of crazy. Kind of crazy.

So I guess we should jump in so you can head over to Selina's. We are the, that TikTok sound. Crazy, crazy girls. That's literally us today. What we're doing today is so wild. So out of control. Guys, don't call the police. Don't call the police.

Like, I know we're being crazy, but it's okay. It's okay. It's end of the year. Like, crazy things happen. Like, this is our holiday party. You know, we're drunk in the workplace. I'm drinking liquid death. I'm literally drunk.

We did say that this final week of episodes before the end of the year, like, is going to be our most unhinged yet. And you know what? Sorry. We keep our promises. Sorry. You hate to see it. You hate to see girls living up to their word.

You really do. All right. Well, I'm nervous, but are you ready? I'm ready. Without further ado, do,

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I was like kind of like receiving that energy from you. I saw you on your phone. I feel like you were downloading Noom. I actually was. I was also shopping on Diff to get myself some new sunglasses. That's my effect. Okay, so our first story is really, really sad. I feel like the news broke

like 20 minutes ago and everyone is talking about it because it's so shocking dj steven twitch boss ellen's dj is dead at 40 by suicide so steven also known as twitch boss the famed dj on the ellen degeneres talk show is dead and tmz has learned it appears to be a suicide law enforcement sources tell us that steven's wife allison holker ran into an LAPD station on Tuesday and she was frantic because she said Stephen had left home without his car, which is something that was not like him at all. We're told a short time later, police got a call to a shooting at an LA hotel and they found Stephen there, dead from an apparent self-inflicted gunshot wound. Holker tells people that Stephen lit up every room he stepped into. He valued family. He valued friends and community above all else. He was leading with love and light and that was

everything to him. He was the backbone of our family, the best husband and father and an inspiration to his fans. She continues, Stephen, we love you. We miss you and I will always save the last dance for you. Everyone knows Stephen. He was DJing on the Ellen show since 2014 up until her show ending in 2020. he got his big break in show biz on so you think you can dance he came as runner up and him and his wife hosted several reality shows together they got married in 2013 they had just celebrated their nine-year anniversary on Saturday they had three kids and Steven was 40 years old rest in peace oh my god I have like chills this is like the saddest story yeah Especially because I know you don't like keep up with TikTok,

but he had like, honestly, I think he was bigger on TikTok than he was in his TV career with Ellen. Like him and his wife, I think he has like 5 million followers. His wife has 2 million. They have like a family account. They're always making content. She dances too. So it's like dancing content with his wife, with his kids.

It's like this really cute, like honestly picture perfect life. And it's just, this is such a testament to one, nothing is what it seems on social media. And it's so important to remember that. And two, like the very real mental health crisis going on in the country. And honestly, it reminds me of what you were saying when we were talking about Selena's documentary. I just feel like for so long now now we've been talking about mental health and we're just talking about it I don't feel like in any real way we're making like a positive impact or like really providing like helpful resources I just feel like every even at the bottom of this TMZ article it's like if you were someone you know is struggling it all feels like very surface yeah I feel like there's not a lot of tangible

things that we know how to do to help people aside from like talking about it, but like, how do we improve the situation? I don't, I've not seen it being improved. Like in the country, this makes me, this is heartbreaking. Like I know three kids. I, I, I don't have the words. No, it's really upsetting. And I feel like so many people were such big fans of his. Like, I feel like he has, like, a real community that's being impacted by this. And, like, obviously, so many people, I feel like, know him from Ellen.

But so many people, like, love him from his social. Like, him and his wife really shared a lot of like their life in their house and their kids and I think social media is such a contributor to negative mental health and I just feel really sad by this and I feel like everyone is so shocked because like his whole brand is positive let's just get up and dance like it's get out get healthy get exercise exercise, get out there. And you just really never know what someone's going through. Yeah. I just, I hope that like, I feel like if someone's in this position, not even the person who's going through it,

but like the people around them, their family, their wives, like I wish that there was, we knew what we could do to help people, you know? And also like what is causing so much of this pain that people are suffering from? Because it's more than ever. So there must be some sort of catalyst. And maybe it is social media and the bigger you are in social media,

even though it can be such a positive in your life and give you job opportunities and all of the, you know, ways to connect with people. Like if it's such a negative influence and there's something that should be done because like this is horrible. No, and I actually was just watching the 60 minute segment about TikTok. if it's such a negative influence and there's something that should be done because like, this is horrible. No.

And I actually was just watching the 60 minute segment about Tik TOK and it said they like surveyed like, uh, young people in this country and ask them what they want to be when they grow up. And the most popular answer was a social media influencer. Oh, our priorities are out of whack. Well, the 60 Minutes segment I was watching

was all about TikTok and how like, you're always saying this, how like in China right now, they took a survey, what do young kids want to be? And the most popular answer was like an astronaut because TikTok in China is like very educational and you're limited into how much time you can spend on it. It was a good segment.

It was like, where did I see it? Oh, on Instagram, Moshe. It's not on TikTok. Not me literally being the problem. Yeah. No, but I mean, I guess you do get good information and good things out of TikTok, but I think it's like the bigger picture of how much time is being spent on it how much you're invested in other people's lot not you but one especially someone who's impressionable like you are

your own person if I try all the time it's hard to move you into doing or feeling any other way than the way that you feel your stubbornness might help you in the battle against TikTok no but I also do think about how like yeah I always joke like that we're old and stuff but I feel so grateful that we didn't start getting like really active on social media until like late in high school when like you're not fully formed but you're much less impressionable than like a middle schooler you know and like now kids in the fifth grade are on Snapchat. Yes but also really active on social media was so different in high school than it is now for us that meant we came home from school and we logged on to facebook like for the kids now

it means in school all day every day they're battling against this addiction to their phone yeah and it's right there in their pocket like i remember when we were in high school like i used to spend a lot of time on facebook and i would be like oh i feel like i spend like a lot of time on facebook i should go like practice the piano or something like this can't be good. No, but also the time we were spending on Facebook was like engaging with people we actually knew. Nobody was putting up like filtered photos. We were putting up like blurry mobile uploads.

Like I don't think the level of toxicity was even comparable to what it is now. Like there wasn't this like beauty standard. It was really just a way of keeping in touch with like your friends from camp. Yes, there were. There wasn't this like beauty standard. It was really just a way of keeping in touch with like your friends from camp. Yes, there were, it was much less harmless, but I do think this idea of being invested in your online self and how the world sees you is veering towards where we are now. But I think one of the biggest things is we were talking to and engaging with and looking

at people who we know, not this idea of people who we have no idea who they are, what they're going through. Like you just see what they want you to see. Yeah. And by the way, this conversation is like separate to the to what's going on with Twitch. I don't think necessarily that's even what happened. I just think it's I think when we're talking about like the mental health crisis, like you can't ignore like social media's impact on that. And this is so sad.

Yeah. Like I just feel a real sadness for his wife and his kids I might be beyond beyond and it's because like their family's so cute I'm sure I'm sure everyone like I hope people rally around them and they have the support that they need but this is devastating yeah um so that was our first story sorry you know it's sad but that's the reality of what's going on our second story is another story that i spoiled already but lisa hochstein was seen canoodling with tech entrepreneur jody glidden so i'm not gonna read that a man or a woman oh sorry jody is a man great um so larsa was on watch what happens live it was a woman? Oh, sorry. Jodi is a man. Great. So Larsa was on Watch What Happens Live. Wouldn't it be great if it was a woman too?

I just wanted. Of course. We just need a clarity. Larsa was on Watch What Happens Live. And Lisa came with her. They had like this girls night out in New York. So they're back on good terms. So there's no need for you to fret.

But like why can't I watch the good terms? I feel like I'm always looking at them on social media. And they're always together in the clubs even before Lenny went away like they were always friends on Instagram and now I'm watching them on TV and they're beefing that's not that doesn't work for me no that's so fair um so Lisa came to support and then they had like a GNO where they went out to catch steak after watch what happens live Lisa they obviously called the paparazzi on themselves but because this article is like every single detail. Lisa was spotted out walking out, not holding hands, but just standing next to this guy, Jody Glidden. And then Larsa was there. So

it was like kind of a double date. Larsa was there with, you know, who she's been claiming has been her good friend, but they're holding hands. It's Marcus Jordan, who's Michael Jordan's 31 year old son. Larsa is 48. So there's a large age gap there. His frontal lobe is developed. Larsa maintains that her and Marcus are just friends. And the same with Lisa. Lisa's like, I'm not in a serious relationship. It's only been seven months since the separation.

But I'm just like having fun. And this guy's like a tech entrepreneur. Let me get. He's the CEO of IntroHive, which is a software company. And how old is he? And what does he look like? Lisa is 40.

He's very cute, like very normal looking. Like I couldn't describe you. Is he older or younger than her? It doesn't have his age. So Lisa's 40 and he is unknown okay well i love this for her i was watching last night and the last scene of the most recent episode was truly heartbreaking like they have lenny's hot mic over try not to spoil it for me because i do want to already because they're getting divorced and he has a girlfriend yeah but it's Lenny's hot mic he's talking to his friend about how he's going to

be single soon over like Lisa in the backyard they're hosting a party and like Lisa just like taking pictures with her friends like truly fucking oblivious like talking to everyone earlier about how their her and Lenny's relationship has highs and lows and right now they're in a high like she is oh god has no fucking clue I think she knows that her relationship is strained but it's been strained I think for a lot of their marriage and they work through it and then there are highs and lows and yeah right now I think Lenny's being nice to her because like he's so happy in his personal life like with his girlfriend true but he said his friend asked are you still sleeping with Lisa and he was like no because then I'd be cheating on the person that I really care

about oh shit yeah my stomach sank. And it's so crazy because like last week, Lisa's going on like about her marriage on the show, like how, you know, we're doing good. We had dinner together, whatever. And next week, like they're in the Keys and he's trying to bring the girlfriend around the house. And like in a matter of two weeks,

like her life just completely unravels. And as much as she says, like she does her family's finances. And she's in charge of the house. Like she is a kept woman. Proudly. Yes of course. Proudly.

I am so. This is one of the relationships where it's like. If it were to dissolve. Like she's someone I would really worry about. Because I don't. I think she's a strong person. Every time she gets into a fight. I'm always surprised by how much she can stand her ground but like

I Lenny isn't is responsible for their entire life you know and do they mention a prenup or anything I haven't heard it I don't know I feel like they do have a prenup okay if they don't then obviously we have nothing to worry about but the fact that I when I saw this article I can't lie I like breathe I'm like good Like she just needs to date another rich man because she was a kept woman. If they had a prenup, she obviously is going to get child support and her kids are really young, but like she lives this extravagant lifestyle. She does have a career as a housewife, as an influencer. I feel like when you're so rich and you become like a famous reality star at slash, you know, you get a huge amount of Instagram followers.

You don't really like capitalize on it. Like you don't need it. But now I think we're going to see her, you know, slumming it with the best of them. Yeah, I think that she'll be able to have a career and be fine, but like not nearly at the level that she has been living. She lives in an $80 million house.

Her closet maybe has 40 birkins like every outfit has a different birkin and like no amount of instagram influencing is can get you that unless you start your own business and have a lot of success but anyways i'm just happy then i was thinking like why can't lisa have a boyfriend like after lenny breaks her heart and goes off with his girlfriend like lisa should fall in love lisa should have a boyfriend who loves her and cares about her and like I don't know if it's this tech guy but I I hope Lenny saw those pictures this morning like and he gets a little bit of taste of his own medicine yeah no like of course you don't have to stay married to anyone but he's going about this in like the meanest way like I heard he cut her off um if

they have a prenup like the show they have footage from like they teased it a little bit where it's like he's trying to get her out of the house and he was like yeah unless I go through the courts you will not leave the house but like how is she supposed that's the mother of your children where is she supposed to go and is she taking your kids with you and so you're gonna stay alone in the 10 bedroom house when the kids are gonna go right like a condo right like a normal situation like this I feel like even with like someone who's really spiteful, like Lenny is like, you're so happy. Go with your other girl. Leave your at least for now leave the mother of your children and your children in the house that they live in. And you can go, you know, got a gallivant around town with your new girlfriend. Yeah, I I don't know

why he has to be so spiteful towards her when he's so happy and like if he just like you know gets divorced in a normal way and is like kind to her like he'll get what he wants even sooner which is to be separated I also feel like this is going to negatively affect his business because I think a lot of women and that's who he works on his women are going to take Lisa's side and be like you know and his boobs aren't that much better than anyone else's where it's like I don't want to go to this guy who's like ethically compromised for sure but I have to believe that like he's a plastic surgeon but even like the greatest to live in an 80 million dollar house I think there are other elements to his business it's possible like I don't know I'm just making this up but like you know he owns a patent on some sort of like silicone. Like, I don't think clients are what bought the $80 million house. Like, I think he's a really smart doctor.

He probably made some good investments. I think maybe he owns a patent. Like, I just, I can't understand how even, you know how many tits you have to do? I know, but I think he does that many tits. Like, look at Terry Dubrow. Look at Paul. Yeah, but like, Paul's money was also Adrian's money. Paul's money was, I think Terry does that many tits. Like look at Terry Dubrow. Look at Paul. Yeah, but like Terry. Paul's money was also Adrian's money. Paul's money was,

I think Terry Dubrow also. I think like when you get to that level of plastic surgeon, you have your hand in a lot of different things. And like you're the best at what you do. So you create like inventions and shit. Like that's how I think it. Honestly, if anybody knows,

I'm actually really, I might be wrong, but I think like the majority of Terry Dubrow's money and the majority of Lenny Hochstein's money like come from other stuff in the medical space not just the act of putting on new tits and noses okay yeah that's what I think you're probably right $80 million Lenny both do boobs it might like if they're doing boobs that are like what I have no idea what a boob job costs but yeah I mean Terry also like they are very successful in their tv like they were on botched for like 10 years yeah but they had the house before botched yeah yeah yeah no I'm just curious

you're right like he has like a skincare qvc but that ain't it yeah I just hope that he's not terrible towards her because that's just so painful it's already been painful enough like she had no idea they were getting divorced and he has a girlfriend he has a whole nother life and like and he acted like such a moron with his mic on obviously he didn't know that he was no he knew that he was Mike's friend was like are you wearing a mic he's like that's why I'm whispering like dumb dumb yeah dumb and there's another scene where he's like yelling at her when he's saying like i know you're not gonna leave this house without the courts and he looks over and sees the camera right okay then there was the scene i don't know if you saw this where the

nanny fell in the shower oh god no okay they were having a romantic dinner outside and someone comes running out their nanny fell while she was taking a shower and she broke her arm or her wrist and she needs to go to the hospital and so they're they're like lisa's freaking out and it's like okay i'm gonna call an ambulance and lenny was uh measured but then became like stern and he was like you don't call an ambulance for this either call an uber or have someone drive her it's an abuse of the system like this isn't an action she doesn't need an ambulance like that's true broke her wrist we need to ice it and we need to get her to the hospital and lisa like asked the chef she's like would you call an ambulance he was like yeah and so she's like i'm gonna call him and let me like comes in and yells

at her and it's like don't do you understand me do not call him like he was speaking so nastily to her but like i'm not sure that his point was wrong no by the way even i know that like that's not what you call an ambulance for an ambulance is when you like you can't afford to drive because that time is so precious and also like an ambulance will give you treatment in the van and and you need that time of treatment whereas like if you have to have your wrist set or arm surgery like they're not doing that in an ambulance anyway right an ambulance is like bringing the hospital to you yeah temporarily so i don't think he was wrong and at first i was like of course we're calling the ambulance like she fell and then it was like oh maybe that is an abusive system okay but the way he spoke to her was so uncomfortable there

were so many other people in the house and everyone was uncomfortable yeah damn that's rough like no I'm I I had to finish my book for book club last night which I did in my book clubs tonight and I actually did not like Flickr in the dark which is shocking because everyone was first of all I knew from the second the book started spoiler alert who the actual how oh my god it was so obvious I did not think so the second she said her dad turned around and looked at them and said be good duh no I had no idea. Like the spoiler, like the heart,

her fiance thing threw me through a loop, but I don't know. I'm just very, and I'm not even good at guessing stuff. I'm actually like dumb as fuck. Like people are always like, you couldn't like, honestly,

when, when the end of shutter Island, I was like, what ever gets that? Yeah. And you know what I mean? But like, I've never guessed something like I'm not smart like that and even I was like damn this is dumb um and my god if I had a knife I would have stabbed the

protagonist she was being so dumb like the thing is and I need to this everyone who's ever been a movie or a book main character when you find something out about a crime go to the police then you won't get framed okay okay it was it was whatever but so I only got to watch like an episode and a half and actually I agreed with what you were saying but I thought it would change like this whole thing of Larsa saying I saw this Instagram account where they said hookers live in this and then Kiki ran and Marisol ran and told Larsa so dumb I'm like this is we're so above this Miami is really I think when they found out they were going to be on Peacock, they thought

it was like, but I actually think it's the best thing for them. Like they're really in their own league. It's edited so differently. It looks more like selling sunset. Like it's very streamer. It's very elevated. And I think they're better than the storyline. Yeah.

The storyline was weird. And also Kiki is such a snitch. You could tell that Lisa felt really bad about it and that she was going to go to Larsa. The second she said it. She was going to go to Larsa and just like admit it. And I think that Kiki could have been a good friend by not saying anything at first. And then if Lisa never admitted it, Kiki could tell her, but like give her a chance to just explain herself. Like she didn't say it maliciously. She was just like being gossipy and drunk and like, it's really not a big deal. No, Kiki is a

friend of anything. She's really vying for that full-time position. And that's what that move was. And they all left out the concept. She was quoting an Instagram account and yes she misquoted but they just said Laura Lisa said this building is full of only fans and hookers but still even to like quote an Instagram account that would talk shit about like where you live is is rude it's not nice no for sure but like it's but it's leaving that out is intentionally misleading it was it requires context but it's not a capital No, for sure. But like it's, but it's leaving that out is intentionally misleading. It was, it requires context. But it's not a capital offense. It shouldn't be something that's so friendship ending. But I had to fast forward through a lot of people's scenes and I wasn't even like trying

to go quickly, but I, I physically could not watch Julia's scenes. Julia and Adriana together. Julia is dreadful. Dreadful. Honestly, I can't, her talking about like being, I don't even know what she's talking about because I had to fast forward, but I think her storyline is that she's like bored in her life because her girls went away

and like Martina's just like not happy with her. I want to know more about Martina. Like Martina should be on the show. By the way, I couldn't agree more. The most interesting thing about Julia is her wife. I don't care about the farm. I don't care about her friendship with Adriana. I don't care what her thoughts are

on her relationships with the women. But when they went behind the scenes at the Miami Open and Martina, like I thought that was so interesting. I think Martina is actually really smart. And like, I think she has like this no bullshit attitude. And her wife is like so full of shit

that I actually think it's like straining their match. Yeah, I totally agree. But Martina's everything. She is everything. I appreciate her in the show, but like she should be the, why can't she be the housewife i feel like the network approached martina and martina was like no but my wife will do it because like she's more like that and she thought it would be like good for her wife to like have this yeah because julia like needs things right now she's like i'm having a bored

housewife and but you have the show. You have your farm. What more are you looking for? She's trying to get back into modeling now. She's positively dreadful. And then I also have to fast forward through Nicole's family scenes. You know how I feel about Nicole. I don't mind her in the group setting at all. I couldn't care less about her family.

Her parents and stuff. Her kid and her husband and and their house is like that that I'll watch but her house cars and the chefs and the boats and the planes uh but when she's like beefing with her parents like fast forward no like we really don't care yeah so and I'm just so steadfast in my obsession with Marisol and Alexia like I just love their friendship Marisol has like the best style everything she wears is like designer and so cute I agree like when she went to get her nails done at for at Frankie Alexia and Frankie's and she was wearing that Prada like um dress that's like kind of like overall straps and those Chanel like Teva like shoes she looked so cute yeah how does she have all this clothing I don't know but she has amazing

style a couple of the girls have really great style and I actually would say Marisol maybe has the best style but they all always look wonderful and that's a that's a treat too yeah a lot of them look sometimes like a little gaudy like so like very Dorit Kempsey like so many but that's Miami designers I know I feel like Marisol does it like a really tasteful elegant mature way i mean marisol is also definitely an alcoholic yeah functioning but she also said she never gets hung over so it's like if i never got hung over yeah i drink all the time but your hangovers make you stop drinking because it's not worth it right or maybe she's never hung over because she's never not drunk but like it would it would it would hit you at least one she said she's never not drunk. No, but like it would, it would, it would hit you at least one. She said she's never had a hangover. Yeah, no, I would drink the same too. If life would be so much fun. It's so true. All the pros. Um, so I was happy to see Lisa out with like

an eligible rich man because that is what she needs. Yes, it is what she needs. I'm so happy to see that. I think the rest of the season is going to be heartbreaking. And if it wasn't for this divorce, like there is no season, honestly. Agreed. So before we get into our next story, I've just got to let you know that today's episode is brought to you by Bruch. Bruch, Bruch, Bruch, Bruch, Bruch, Bruch. Bruno's outside the door like,

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because that's what it is. Our next story is some enunciation news, which I think is very appropriate here at the Toast, okay? Brendan Fraser reveals we have all been pronouncing his name incorrectly. By George, we've been pronouncing George of the Jungle star, Brendan Frazier's name wrong this whole time. In a conversation with Adam Sandler

for Variety's Actors on Actors interview series, the 54 year old Frazier claimed that no one's ever gotten his name right, even though he's the talk of the town right now for his performance in Whale. So he says instead of a similar pronunciation, similar to the 90s sitcom Frasier, Frasier says his name actually rhymes with razor. So it's Fraser.

Okay, that's pretty similar. He's a little dramatic. No wonder he's an actor. And he did say fuck it. He said like don't care but like for the record if anyone cares it's Fraser I feel like that's reminds me of Outlander the protagonist her name is like Claire Fraser but it's spelled Fraser maybe they're related I think well obviously I wanted to talk about this because Brendan Fraser is my boyfriend, but also because I've been hearing a lot about this. Brendan is my boyfriend.

Brendan is a god. Brendan is a god. Brendan is a breeze in my hair on the weekend. Brendan's a relaxing thought. Aren't you envious that for you it's not? Very good. I like that. But mostly, I wanted to talk about this because I've been seeing a lot about this Variety Actors on Actors series.

I don't know if you heard anything about it. It's like a prime video series where they're sitting down like two actors at the same time and just like having conversations. They're like interviewing one another. And here's the lineup thus far. Jamie Lee Curtis and Colin Farrell, Laura Dern and Michelle Williams, Viola Davis and Jennifer Lawrence, Carrie Mulligan and Margot Robbie, Brendan Fraser and Adam Sandler, and Joe Alwyn and Paul Mezcal. So everyone's like freaking out over the Joe Alwyn, Paul Mezcal one because they're both like, you know, streaming service book turned TV show hotties.

And I think it's actually a really good concept for a show. It is. But some of these names, it just sounds like a big circle jerk. Sorry, there's more and they get better. Austin Butler and Janelle Monae. And these are all people who are currently on like the Oscars, Golden Globe circuit.

So they're all promoting their most recent project. Kate Hudson and Glenn Powell. Okay, that sounds good. John Boyega and Letitia Wright. Anna DeArmas and Eddie Redmayne. And Paul Dano and Brian Tyree Henry. Sorry, I forgot like a bunch of them. This doesn't do it for me personally.

I've been seeing a lot of clips on TikTok of like funny moments that have come out. And it does actually look good. I wouldn't watch every single episode. I would just watch the people that like I care about. It's giving CMT crossroads. Let's talk about that. Yeah. Agreed.

When was the last CMT crossroads? You do them all the time. The last one I can recall that like I remember watching like as it was actively premiering was Zach Brown band and Shawn Mendes yeah uh why don't we just google it I got my trust yeah my iPad was feeling neglected lol I loved that concept of like pairing country stars for concerts with pop stars and like playing each other's music okay oh I guess they do them a lot but like they're not all major major right and some of them are like a bunch of people so like for king and country just did one with Breland Chrissy Metz Natalie Grant and then um yeah Robert Plant and Alison Rouse Black Pumas and Mickey Guyton

Leanne Rimes and Carly Parse Ashley McBride Mickey Guyton and Brandi Clark that's pretty cool yeah so they call them like Leanne Rimes and friends yeah so I guess when they do like a big like festival lineup it's with multiple people that's pretty good I'm glad they're still doing I'm glad they're still doing it I guess not everyone can be like Kacey Musgraves and Katy Perry they do smaller artists too everyone can be like them and that's sad for everyone yeah that was a really good one I think that might be my favorite even though the Shawn smaller artists too. Not everyone can be like them. And that's sad for everyone. Yeah, that was a really good one. I think that might be my favorite. Even though the Shawn Mendes, Zac Brown man is really good. There's also Nick Jonas

and Luke Bryan. There's Halsey and Kelsey Ballerini which, are you hearing about the drama between them? No. You know, they were like really good friends. They had a song together, Graveyard, on Kelsey's last album. And then on Kelsey's new album, she has a song that was like,

became really good friends with a pop star, even put her on track five. Wish I didn't do that. If I had known we wouldn't be talking, I wouldn't have done it at the time. Something like that. That's crazy. What's the tea? I know. What's the tea? and her crossroads performance

of singing you're just a lost boy with Halsey went so viral people were obsessed with the performance I've seen it probably a hundred times just like clipped out on TikTok people were obsessed you know who needs to do one let's pair her up even though would she be a pop or a country Kelly Clarkson needs to do a crossroads. Oh, yeah. I feel like she does crossroads every day. Her life is a crossroad. Kelly Clarkson and Luke Holmes.

But would she be the country star? Okay, but would she be the country star? She would be. Or the pop star? It reminds me of like Gavin DeGraw did one, and he did one with Chris Young. So it's someone who's like still more country than him. Yeah, she needs to do one with like, mean she could sing anyone's songs i actually saw a tiktok yesterday that was like i am never going to become a singer because i don't want kelly clarkson to

ever cover one of my songs better than you because she'll literally do it better than you wait can you think who would she be a good pair with? Like we need to manifest. Do you want a girl or a boy? She's such a girl. She is. Like I think she needs to be. And she's like almost like a maternal figure to so many young women. And a mentor. So what about that girl you were just talking about on the Patreon? Meg Maroney.

Oh my God, I would die. I do think they need someone like slightly more established. Like. Like Lauren Alaina. Ingrid Andres. That would be good. That like slightly more established. Okay. Like, like Lauren Alaina. Ingrid Andres. That would be good. That would be good too. Okay.

Just a thought. Crossroads. Just some free ideas. Free idea. We have our fourth story now, which is, we never spoke about how Jay Leno like literally got burned alive. He's sitting down with Hoda and giving everyone like an update on what

happened and where he's at. He's breaking down the car fire that sent him to a burn unit with second and third degree burns and he's pretty cool when talking about it comedian sat down for an interview with hoda kotb told her how some mechanical work on one of his vintage cars turned ugly in the blink of an eye jay says that he was in his burbank garage last month working on a white stream car trying to unclog a fuel line he told his friend to blow some air through the fuel line when suddenly he was hit in the face with a full face of gas and it only got worse from there.

Jay says his face caught fire when the car's pilot light ignited the fuel and he yelled to his friend, I'm on fire. Fortunately, his friend Dave was Johnny on the spot, pulling him out of harm's way, jumping on top of him and smothering the fire. And he's back to business already. He's been pretty casual in recalling the scary situation. But he was cracking jokes after the incident to photographers just 10 days after. So he's okay, but he pretty much was lit on fire.

That's crazy. That's amazing that his friend was able to save him though. No, totally. And not to make everything about me, but like I did go through something similar. You did not. I was literally engulfed in flames you were not I was in Utah we were on vacation and I was outside setting um trying to put the fire outdoor fireplace on it was what's it called like a bonfire pit pit pit so it's one of those pits with gas. So you basically just turn the gas on, you put the lighter down

and the whole thing engulfs in flames. But when I leaned down to light the gas, I had two strands of hair dangling in front of me and the fire went up on the strands, went all the way up, singed off all the front pieces of my hair and my fucking eyelashes. Like the tips of your eyelashes.

No, I would say 50% of my eyelashes were gone like half of them in length got singed right off and all my baby hairs which was kind of nice yeah so you would say that was engulfed in flames yeah yeah I would and I'm just like kind of triggered reading this story I understand well I'm happy for Jay Leno um we've been like seeing his you know recovery and I think it's great no when he got burned which like thankfully I did not that's the difference like he actually like left the hospital with second and third degree burns I just went inside and I was like screaming yeah yeah and I smelled like like I looked like a cartoon I was like a cartoon I

had like a trail of smoke following me out from the house and I was like screaming and Olivia was in the kitchen I'm like help trail of smoke following me out from the house. And I was like screaming. And Olivia was in the kitchen. I'm like, help me. You're always screaming. You know. But there was also nothing she could do. Like it was over. Like the flames never caught. They just burned off all my hair.

And then like sit. Like fused out. But like Olivia was actually pretty good. I was like, I couldn't even put into words. I was so fucking shook. Yeah. That was crazy. I'm just like reliving the trauma, you I know I'm sorry for you I wouldn't have chosen that story because I wouldn't have wanted to bring that up for you

but see the thing about me is I'm all about healing about confronting my trauma and healing it yeah that you're you're brave I'm so brave. Nobody understands. Our fifth and final story, the final story. It's the final story and it's a little bit of tech news. It's about Instagram. Instagram is adding text updates with the launch of notes. This should have been the first story. This is the big news.

And they're adding other shared features. But the big thing going on is that amid backlash over the intrusion of the algorithmic recommended content into Instagram's feed, Instagram today introduced a number of new design features that are designed to make it easier for users to keep up with their real-world friends. Oh, real-world friends. Interesting. Right. The company is now rolling out several significant changes, including most notably an addition called Notes, a feature that Met meta has considered turning into a twitter competitor according to a recent news report with notes users can update their

friends using just text and emoji adding a different format for social updates beyond the images and videos instagram is best known for other new features are rolling out to stories and will introduce new ways to share with groups so the big feature that everyone's talking about is notes it's very much giving like a way message i I don't know why it's called notes. I don't feel like I can write a note there. I feel like I can only write like a little five word thing like razz and stress. Right. Sell it like eBay. Yeah. Hit the sell. Hit the sell out on the town. Right. But if you're hitting the sell, why can't I be on Instagram too? Right. So basically what this means is like now when you swipe into your messages, like your direct messages be on Instagram too right so basically what this means is like now when you

swipe into your messages like your direct messages section on Instagram at the very top people's your mutuals only mutual well if they if they add an away message it'll be like in you know like Tahoe for a week don't text or whatever yeah okay I think the fact that I was surprised I went to go do a message I'd leave an like an away message and I it told me that would only be people who like I follow and following back so oh wait it's already up yeah oh my god everyone was freaking oh my god one thing about me is I'm the last person on the planet you already had this on your phone you would have made it the first story because it's like crazy I don't have it let me check sometimes the toast instagram gets like the new features first no no i can't believe i already have it then you're so like hot in your app store available i'm on auto update and anyone who's not on auto update is fucking psychotic bentz offer i feel

like i'm on auto update but sometimes it just hasn't updated maybe I didn't have enough wi-fi or something like maybe I should check it out no I am always getting the new updates to Instagram I'm the last user on the list of people I'm literally the last that's because they know you don't like change and they do it for you I'm so appreciative this is honestly really stupid like I don't it is but you know what I'm gonna say one nice thing because we were just talking about how social media used to be more so about connecting with people that you actually know. And I think any updates that are trying to bring real world friends closer together,

I am going to support. Like I think one of the best inventions on Instagram in the last five years is close friends. Yeah. Like I think it's so funny. And I think people actually feel more inclined to be real on close friends and like I think it's so funny and I think people actually feel more inclined to be real on close friends and actually keep up with people that they really know or or want to know or and people who want to know them and I'm here for updates such as those

that's it that's an interesting take I agree I think close friends was like an amazing I don't know why everyone is comparing this to Twitter. It doesn't feel like Twitter at all. They're just both text. Yeah. And it's like, it's not like a, it's not a fee. People are going to be doing it every five minutes.

Right? Like tweet. Tweeting is like very much a steady stream of thoughts. Whereas this feels more like a daily update. Yeah. Yeah. I wonder if I'll use it. I just like,

I'm now waiting for Instagram and I know they're going to take 10 years to do it. But like, we really need to start to be able to use two link stickers on one. Yep. Link for top, link for pants. Right. Like so many influencers like are, like right now I'm wearing a set

and I linked to this set when I wore it a few days ago and I had to do two separate stories, link for top, link for bottom. And if I just do one motherfucking story with two motherfucking link stickers, that'd be saving me a lot of trouble. I agree. I've thought the same.

And I think a lot of people, even with the podcast, how I'm like tap to listen or tap to watch, like I would love to be able to link our podcast to YouTube and to Spotify at the exact same time. Yeah. If anybody with any influence hears this, like please, it's such a good idea.

Yeah, no brainer. They could probably roll it out in five minutes if they wanted. No, but the thing with Instagram is like, they'll say, oh, a bunch of people want us to do this okay we'll never do it unless TikTok does it and then it'll be done tomorrow so fucking true and in this article they did um mention Instagram doing this thing called candid which was an attempt to rip off be real which TikTok has done too I don't know if you know this TikTok has a another tab now where it's called moments i think and it's just to be real it doesn't come at a certain time no but you only do it once a day i kind of like the idea i mean

i'm not on be real and i'm not certainly not on tiktok but i kind of like the idea of getting to do your be real once a day and you get to choose like what about your day you want to memorialize but that's the point it's like you're not being real but like I think okay so it's not about being real but it's about memorializing your best life moments and just one a day we don't need a hundred selfies just one actually be real came this morning so I'm gonna take it right now smile smile I love being real I feel like I'm so real and I just want to show everyone how real I can be I just want to say I've actually started to really dislike be real one I have like no friends on the platform and I wanted to keep it just like people I actually know not just like a public platform so I find myself incredibly bored by it.

Every fucking time it comes, I'm in my bed and I'm watching TV and it's like embarrassing. And like, you can go into your archive and see like what you've posted every day. Nobody else can see it, just you. And it's like, it's actually embarrassing. I'm literally like in my house all the time. But so maybe that's like, I think there's nothing wrong with that. You know, I think that that is. No, but I have a full life.

Like I'm always, I work all day. Which is why I'm saying like I actually kind of like the idea of TikTok moments because you get to chronicle like the the best part of your day and sure it's a highlight reel but okay sue me since when is that such a bad thing it's a highlight reel yeah great no highlights are cool no I got dragged to filth on TikTok yesterday um because I made a TikTok and I was like in my bed with no makeup and I looked so ugly. So I put on one of these filters that like kind of changes your face, but it doesn't add makeup. So it just like made me like a little tan. I guess it made my lips look really big.

And like they were dragging me. It's on TikTok? And rightfully so. Yeah. No, I actually have TikTok on my iPad for work purposes so that I can. I do. I do look like a mongrel, but it's not my fault. So that I can follow our I do look like a mongrel but it's not my fault so that I can um follow our

fan accounts oh here yeah doing my resolutions yeah okay yeah you look like you just got filler and you have a blush but what are they saying yeah no I don't they're saying feel this in my soul I literally don't see one negative comment Oh ready Okay that's a talent of mine Is that I can find negative comments Claudia I literally don't see one Okay maybe They deleted them but there was a bunch

Ready LMAO This filter is wild Claude Holy lips Batman Are you using a filter yeah i don't see it yep maybe because you're blocking out the haters with your diff i wear sunglasses so fucking true oh my gosh thank you diff i don't have to tolerate this so those by the way those were my fast five stories how did you think that went i thought it was really fun

to be on the receiving end of them it's low pressure it is oh well my thoughts on jay leno sure one my thoughts on brendan frazer sure frazer frazer frazer and moderna don't don't disrespect my boyfriend frazer is my boyfriend frazer is god frazer is a breeze in my hair on the weekend frazer so relaxed in thought are you envious that for you it's not jackie frazer is the thunder rattling the ground frazer's on your scent like a bounty hunter frazier's gonna track you down step by step from town to town. He really is. So good. Are you ready for Dear Toasters,

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read them prior. So now I'm getting like a blind reaction to people's problems. I have not read these prior either. So we can both can both oh i see the words period blood okay yes let's jump right in to dear toasters which is our weekly advice segment where you can write into us we'll give you the best advice based on our personal experience and things that we feel and that we know and that we think would be the best remedy for you it's just yep it's personal honestly advice is more personal than comedy add it to the list you know i would accept i don't know if you've noticed i can't find my phone i've been looking for it all episodes i keep hearing it vibrate somewhere that's torture usually before the

episode i turn it on do not disturb but i couldn't find it before the episode so i didn't and now i'm just hearing like these vibrations they're driving me crazy. It's spooky. You're being spooky. The list will suffer. I hate to see it. I hate it. First up, Dear Jackson Claude, Love you girlies and all that, yada yada. So here's the sitch.

I live with two of my best friends and we all share a bathroom. Whenever one of the girls goes to the bathroom, she somehow always leaves something behind on the toilet. Some days it's a cup of pubes, others it's period blood. It's not massive amounts, but enough to gross a girl out.

I've texted her a group chat before as to not single her out, and it still happens almost every time she leaves the bathroom. I'm currently writing this after seeing some sort of discharge on the seat I'm now sitting on. My question is, how do I bring it up? Do I bring it up all or just deal with it? Do I bring it up at all or just deal with it? Yeah, bitch, you fucking bring it up. Oh my God, disgusting. disgusting she's one of my best friends but we haven't even been friends for a full year yet so things are still a little touchy yesterday I had to ask her not to slam

the doors in the morning as it's right next to my room and wakes me up she handled it well and joked about it but you could tell it bothered her I don't want to be nitpicky this isn't nitpicky because I'm sure there's annoying things I do too sure let her tell you but I like for there to be open communication I don't want to embarrass her, but I like, like I deserve to sit on a blood-free toilet seat, right? Thanks for any help, smooches. Okay, by the way, the door thing

is like actually so different because I feel like you would like in the morning close your door and not realize like the walls are thin. Like being told that, like I feel, if she's offended by that, like seriously, fuck her. And honestly, like this would literally piss me off. Of course you say something and you know what I'm really tired of having to like dance around other people's

sensitivities like you left your fucking discharge on the toilet seat like you have and I have a problem this is so nasty and and also unhygienic unsanitary like to have just like blood laying around and where other people like put their openings like it's just not clean whatsoever like the lack of self-awareness like if I sometimes I like will be in a public setting I'll use the bathroom like I'll pee and then I will have like paranoia that I didn't flush and that's just like one time and one thing and this is like all the time there's something being left behind like no puke left behind this Like no pube left behind. This is horrible. No, and I feel like this is really like symptomatic of the culture we live in where like people are afraid to confront other people.

Like you don't want to offend her. People are unashamed. Oh, well, that's another thing. We need to bring back shame. I agree. We need to shame everyone into submission. No, like a little shame is a good thing. Like you shouldn't feel shame like unnecessarily,

but like shame will have you acting right. No, because I feel like, you know, a couple of years ago, especially like online, there was this movement to like normalize periods and talk about it. Like we shouldn't have to hide it. You don't have to put your tampon up your sleeve when you go to work to go change your tampon. And like while I do approve the message I actually think shit like this is a direct result of that

movement and why maybe things got so constricted in the first place it's like okay right if we talk about period blood will that lead to girls leaving it on the seat we can't talk about it then right right no I I'm like angry on your behalf. Definitely say something. Like maybe not, like this is gross. Like maybe start documenting it. Yeah, I would take some pictures and send them in the group chat.

Like I would escalate the situation until she can't ignore it. So first you said something like, and you were like tiptoeing around the situation. I would take a pic and say, hey, who wants to come clean this up? Who's on their period? Like start being an being an investigator and then like once if she doesn't claim it then be like I it's you hey hey like I spoke to her we know it's you I don't even know

you girl and like if you don't start cleaning up after yourself like this is so unhygienic like you're gonna have to move out I could not live with someone like this like no because that's the thing it's your house too and your home should be a beacon of peace for you and you have war in your home and there's that's not okay like fuck with with someone's personal space like that's not okay no I'm like irrationally angry about this I'm so angry it's not okay take your take matters into your own hands and you're not even like so close with this girl but honestly even if I hands and you're not even like so close with this girl but honestly even if I had a friend that I was like so close with and they did stuff like this like I don't think we could be that close honestly because it speaks to a larger lack of

self-awareness and like I can't be a lack of consideration who just like doesn't care for people doesn't see themselves like just goes through life like leaving pubes and not and not like feeling self-conscious. No. And you know what? Roommates are tough and they're an interesting dynamic. And if somebody's really messy and they want to keep their personal space messy, like, you know what? That is their personal choice. But the communal spaces, especially a bathroom, you need to have a level of respect. And if you don't, like, I think you're a bad friend. I do. Yeah. Oh, for sure. And I just hate people who are like, oh man, I'm like so busy.

I couldn't bother to flush. Like that's not a thing. What? I'm pretty sure Beyonce flushes. I'm pretty sure Her Majesty, H.R.R.H., the Queen flushes. No, that's so true. Flushed. Flushed.

Unacceptable. I'm pretty sure Elon Musk flushes.es actually i'm pretty sure he has auto flush so true which is problematic for a whole other list of reasons the thing is this isn't even about flushing this is about leaving you know a little your ex party favor on the toilet seat stop are you ready for our next story yeah hi pops. My college roommate, let's call her Lucy, helped me snag an awesome job, and her mother-in-law is now my boss. Okay.

Lucy is a pretty mother-in-law. Your college friend is married? So true. Maybe it's her siblings. You know what I mean? Like, would Ben's parents be called my mother-in-law? No. Okay.

Good to know. Or maybe they were friends in college. Are they currently in college? Yes, yes, yes. My college roommate from however many years ago. Okay, okay. Lucy helped me snag an awesome job

and her mother-in-law is now my boss. Lucy is a pretty private person and despite her and I being close, she likes to share about her personal life on her own time. Her mother-in-law, however, likes to spill the beans to Lucy's life to anyone that will listen.

A few weeks ago at a work meeting, she shared to the group of about 10 people that she was having a hard day because lucy had a miscarriage something that i as lucy's best friend hadn't even known yet i let it go thinking maybe it was a lapse in judgment due to grief until this week she also shared to another large group that lucy's brother was getting a divorce i know lucy would not be chill with so many people knowing these intimate details but i also know my boss is a really kind and great person who just has a big mouth what do I do do I tell Lucy her mother-in-law spilling the beans and tattletale my boss or do I continue to find out about my friend's life through her blabbermouth boss toastily a wenchy worker see that's tough because

if you snitch like you're snitching on your boss and there's no way that like the boss wouldn't figure out that it was you who snitched once her kids start getting mad at her. And also like if you didn't have this job, like the mother-in-law could go about her life, like telling her friends and her coworkers like about things that are going on in her life. And like Lucy would never know. So I kind of think you have to keep the two things separate. I don't think it does Lucy any service to find out.

I think it's not going to change anything except drive a wedge between Lucy and her mother-in-law. Like I don't think that you need to tell her. I was going to say like you should tell Lucy just not but be like Lucy like you can't say anything but I just want you to know that like your mother-in-law has the biggest mouth. So just be cautious of what you share with her. If you if it's something you don't want getting out maybe be very vague. Just be like she's you know always like at you know big meetings sharing things about her family and like if there was something you told her that you

didn't want to get out like I would hate for you to confide it confide in her and be betrayed maybe I kind of loose about it in the middle of this person's family yeah you know what I mean like it's it's just like hearing that Lucy had a miscarriage like no I know it's it's not good it's really bad but I don't think you inserting yourself into in-law drama is a solution yeah no you're so right about that like sometimes it's truly best to mind your own business you gotta keep your work stuff at your work stuff in your personal life in your personal life and like the only thing that I think is a shame is like now you know that that Lucy had a miscarriage I'm like you can't even reach out and be like are you okay I'm here for you without giving it away yeah oh this is a real pickle yeah I would like I kind of want you to be

able to be like I heard like I you know I heard from our like whatever that you are going through like a tough time like I just want to be here for you and that might signal to Lucy like oh yes if that would if that like was a problem for her that her mother-in-law was spilling the beans um that's a good idea because then you can reach out and comfort your friend while also subliminally being like yeah your mom told me mother-in-law yeah yeah that's a good answer it's's a compromise because, yeah. I don't know, but then it's like, if you didn't tell someone something so personal

and then they came to you and they knew about it because they want to offer their condolences, like, if I wanted your condolences, I would have told you. So it's like you are kind of being selfish and, like, reaching out because you feel like you want to be there as a friend. I honestly don't know.

No, I think it's okay. She said like, it's not that Lucy didn't want to share with her. Lucy's very like closed off and maybe she'll just like be relieved that she didn't have to tell a person that this person already knows and she can like confide in her friend.

I don't know. It's like if I wanted you there for me, I would have told you. I actually think that is probably the best way to go about doing it because then Lucy will know her mother-in-law shared it while also now being able to talk about it with her friend like she said they're best friends and she's just not like a really open person I think that you should be like I heard from your mother-in-law. Are you okay?

Then you're spilling the beans without like being like a gossip about it. If you feel compelled to do something, that would be the right course of action. Yes, that's a good response. Considering all of the dynamics, if it were me, I don't think I would do anything. Yeah. I would just pretend like I was in the bathroom when she said that. I don't know anything. Yeah. Don't look at me. I don't think I would do anything. Yeah. I would just pretend like I was in the bathroom when she said that. I don't know anything. Yeah.

Don't look at me. I don't know a thing. I don't know a thing. Totally. Okay. Are you ready for our last one? Yes. Dear Jackie and Claudia, last year my brother, we'll call him William, married a girl named Kate.

William and Kate moved into my parents' basement after getting married. I am his younger sister and live there too. Kate and I became close sister-in-laws, but one night we were drinking wine and she spilled a secret. She told me before she met my brother she was engaged to a girl. She said they lived together

and she broke off the engagement just months before meeting my brother. She proceeded to tell me not to tell him or anyone. My brother is completely in the dark about her past. What the fuck do I do? Do I tell him, confront her about it again? Love, a sister-in-law who is confused. Eh,

I don't think it's a big deal. They're already married, so what's gonna happen? Yeah, and like, you know, everyone has a past. It's not like she was,

you know, her past is she was on the run. Like, she was a little gay. I would say it depends on your closeness with your sibling. Like,

I would fucking tell my sisters well for sure but like we are the mafia right but like are you guys the mafia like do you are you I don't know but like my advice I would tell my fucking sibling anything I know about your partner yeah but like brothers and sister relationships are different like they really are okay still a sibling still your blood no it doesn't matter like what she was like if she was engaged period before like i would tell my fucking sibling i would tell them anything yeah like i don't come to like the the spouse you know don't come to me as a safe place for your secrets because it's all going right back to him do you think she's hiding it because he

doesn't want her to know that she was engaged or she doesn't want her to know that she was engaged or she doesn't want him to know that she was engaged to a woman both hmm I don't think it will change anything but I do think that like partners now that I think about it sorry it's kind of like a crazy thing to keep from your husband. Yeah. That you're engaged. Yeah. Is it though? Yeah. We all have a past. I don't know.

Okay, yeah, we all have a past, but like you share your story with your partner. It's not like you just meet someone and from that day forward, that really, that's all that matters truly. But like everyone has a history and in order to know you, I need to know your history. Like in order to understand you. Yeah. Tell your fricking brother. and in order to know you I need to know your history like in order to understand you yeah tell your freaking brother yeah tell your brother if you're close or like sometimes you know you're not that close but like this is the sister you never had like decide like whose side do you want to take for life or also you could just like be sneaky and you all get drunk on wine and you're

like you're drunk and you're like and you let it slip like it's like you let it slip you're like where is she now and your brother's like who no I love that idea you're just like the crazy drunk younger sister the crazy drunk younger sister she gets in no trouble Jackie the crazy drunk younger sister works every time. Well, those were the dear toasters. I hope that we made meaningful impact today. I really do. I do too.

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