The Toast - Queens and Their Permits: Wednesday, November 2nd, 2022

Episode Date: November 2, 2022

Christina Applegate, 50, Reflects on 40-Pound Weight Gain And Her Devastating Decline in Mobility (Daily Mail) (14:05) Diana Jenkins Identifies Cyberbully Who Attacked Garcelle Beauvais’ Son (Page Six) (19:17) James Corden Issues Groveling Apology To Ricky Gervais After Being Caught Using his 2018 Stand Up Joke (Daily Mail) (31:14) Adele Reveals How We’ve All Been Pronouncing Her Name Incorrectly (People) (36:47) Mementoes of the Queen’s War (Daily Mail) (42:46) Dear Toasters (47:19) The Toast with Jackie  (@JackieOshry) and Claudia Oshry  (@girlwithnojob)  NLOG Tickets Merch The Toast Patreon Girl With No Job by Claudia OshrySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Good morning, millennials. Welcome back to the toast. Happy Wednesday. It is hump day. So don't forget to hump someone you love. We've got the Stryce brothers in the studio. So check, check. Check and check.

You might not see my baby boy, Bryce. Oh my God. We tried to like Rube Goldberg a little centerpiece today for the studio. If you're watching on YouTube. Mortifying. Hang on. And we said if it fell, which I didn't think think it would that we'd be really embarrassed and we are

because now everyone can see hold everyone can see what we were doing we're low budget girls today cute yesterday when you hit hid my coffee and then but it was hard for me to drink my coffee so we put this little thing here to hold up the curd and then it fell and embarrassed us. And that's not, that's crooked. Sorry. Literally, that's like you and my wig. Maybe I'm just. Are you okay? Give it to me.

Maybe I'm just like off balance, you know. Motherhood has changed you. If you, oh, it's not up yet. So we filmed an amazing. Gorgeous. Halloween vlog. We vlogged our whole weekend, like trying on different costumes for like stuff with the kids, obviously Toast-A-Ween. There was a lot of the creative process behind our personal family costumes and the Toast-A-Ween costume.

You get to really get into our minds and see how these gorgeous looks came together. So the vlog is ready. I'll probably upload it sometime today. Be sure to look out for that. And you'll see how Jackie is definitely off balance because she botched my wig. I did. Like it was the botch of a century. I know.

The thing is, we were talking about it last night when we rewatched the vlog. It's like Claudia had a very clear idea of what she wanted. So she should have just done it herself. Yeah, for sure. Like my whole life, I've been trained just to like know that like you're more talented than me in certain things. You're more careful. Like in certain things you're more careful like yeah you're more meticulous detail oriented so like when it comes to cutting a wig I would never just like raw dog it myself should have done that the thing is while I accept full responsibility and I am really sorry but you

still looked great yeah it wasn't me it was Viserys. I can't. Oh my God. The cop out of the century. I can't be held responsible. For things Viserys did. For things Viserys did. No, that's like holding Jamie Lee Curtis responsible for things Lindsay Lohan did. Right. No, I get it. Thank you for understanding.

Also, so many big news announcements, but I took my permit test yesterday and I have not shared the results. Because we also vlogged that experience as well. I was thinking, I meant to talk to you about this before. Should we like withhold the status of your test until the vlog comes out? Yeah. Because it's like what happens is kind of crazy. Okay, so I won't say anything more about that.

The vlog will be up in a few days then. And you'll just have to wait and see on patreon.com slash a toast if jackie pastor like you know what i need we need to start being more clickbait i totally agree we never engage in clickbait and like cheap ploys but maybe we should no no like every day of a do a group vlog friend crashes car like i'm gonna start doing that like because we're really honest we say like you know this is one of our best episodes we'll say you know this one's not so great because we are authentic internet personalities and how is that working out for us not great so if you want to know what happened at my permit test yesterday head to patreon.com slash the toast in a few days when the episode is up I just need to edit the redheads first because

that goes live tomorrow we recorded the new episode of the redheads last night with the girlies was so great to get the girls together. We're getting the band back together. We read Hester by Lori Liko Albanese, which is a very seasonal book because it's like witchy. And do you know the book, The Scarlet Letter? I mean, like I've heard of it. You know, Easy A. Yeah, right. Exactly. And it's like American literature, Scarlet Letter, high school. And so this book like imagines what happened in the author's life to lead him to write that book so it's like a little bit of fan fiction and it's cute it's like um it's like 50 shades to twilight you know the idea of you to harry styles exactly that's next up on my book reading list except i told you guys i started a book club with my friends like the first meetings on monday and

everyone's like talking about the book in the chat. I'm like, I haven't even started it. So we're flying home today. Jackie is headed to NYC. NYC. So I'll read it on the plane if I'm not too busy, just like being in love with Roldini, you know? Of course.

That's always so hard. I might be busy. You might be. It's really hard to read on a plane. When you have a child. A kid, but good luck to you. No might be. It's really hard to read on a plane. When you have a child. A kid, but good luck to you. No, I'm really excited for you to read your book. Maybe I would even join you in your pursuit.

No one can be in a book club without me usurping it. Are you still going to be in town on Monday? Do you want to come? I won't be. But that's so me. You could join in virtually. It's not the same. And you should have your own thing.

Why do I have to be a big, dope, big sister? No, because that's us like oh you're doing something i'll be there i'm being to you what we are to margo oh you're going to dinner can we come yeah nashville for a concert can we come but like when we ask margo's like no but like i'm when you ask like of course you can come we're very like that with each other like and each other's friends 100 100 like when i'm hanging out with my friends they never know when you'll just be coming to we're a package deal and that's the thing about like just being around me it's like I'm full of surprises you never know what you're gonna get it's so true she's so spontaneous I'm not like other girls she's so unpredictable she eats something different every single day I've never really kind of like been the type of, what do they call those creatures of habit? No, that's not me. Couldn't be me.

More that, more housekeeping. So we have the vlogs coming. We have some in post-production. Some will be released today. New episode of the Redheads drops tomorrow. And that's all very exciting. I think that's all my housekeeping. You know, we've been churning out the Patreon content

when we're together, which is always fun. Yeah. And we got a new car. Oh my God, you guys. There's nothing like vlogging in the car with. It's like a, it's a, it's a phone mount for your phone that you can like mount the phone up on your windshield or on your dash directions, but yeah, like Uber drivers, it's really helpful for directions and stuff. We use it for vlogging and it's so premium. That's what we did for the mukbang. So we thought ours arrived. And so we were just living life. We use it for vlogging and it's so premium. That's what we did for the mukbang. So we thought ours arrived. And so we were just living life. We were being such vloggers yesterday.

Like it was crazy. And we have a fabulous latter half of the week plan because we're obviously going to New York. We have some work tings, some mogul tings, but it's also Jackie's 30th birthday. So we have like a nice Shabbat dinner plan. We have a GNO planned. It's going to be fabulous. Yeah.

I'm really excited. I'm revving up for my 30th. It's starting to dawn on me like the significance of turning 30. Of the day. And like where I was at when I was 20 versus now and like how I spent my decade. So where were you at 20? Well, I was in college. Okay.

And I was just like not the girl I am, the woman I am now. No, of course not. But like what were you like? The Toasters didn't really know you at 20. What were you like at 20? At 20? You were probably like a junior. Yeah, I was, I was kind of crazy.

You were rambunctious. You were like loud. You were like that girl, like kind of like center of attention. Not because you wanted it, because like that was like the energy you commandeered. Yeah, but like pretty wild, lots of drinking. Like I would say that's one of the biggest changes from like then to now and like we really miss that girl like are you gonna drink at all this weekend in yeah in like a measured way like I'm not no not in like a binge drinking sort of way no when do you think the next time you're gonna like binge drink is?

It would have to be a time when I'm not with rolled. Yeah. Because being like a hungover mom sounds like the worst thing. I don't know how it can be done. Yeah. No, it literally cannot. Could you imagine? No.

No. And the hangovers I get? Yeah. No, it's over for me. It's game over. I'm not saying I don't understand. Yeah. I get it. Yeah.

Wow. It's been a whole decade. It's game over. I'm not saying I don't understand. Yeah. I get it. Yeah. Wow, it's been a whole decade. A whole ass decade. So I feel really good about leaving my 20s in the past. I feel good about how I spent them. Like we built a business. Right. You got married, had a baby.

Like it was advancement on all fronts. Yeah. So I feel great. And I'm excited for this next decade. Impart one piece of wisdom to a 20 year old right now. Like for what you learn when in your twenties and what you're, what you now know going into your thirties. Ooh,

what would I like tell a 20 year old self? I mean, unfortunately like all lessons have to be learned the hard way. There's nothing that I could say to you right now that would change anything you're going to be doing. No, that's fair. You know. Yeah. So I guess I would just give some good practical advice like take your makeup off before you go to sleep at night and if you you know if you're feeling crazy use a moisturizer

too. And just be careful what you post on social media. Yeah. That would be like my. Yes for sure. My number one. You could tell anyone that at any age. At any age and it still slaps the advice and use sunscreen yeah um try not to fry your hair if you don't have to use a heat protecting spray if you're going to apply heat um these are also just good beauty tips in general you know a way to preserve your youth ain't that the truth um well thank you for that life you know you gotta you gotta figure it out for yourself yeah just enjoy the ride and be safe be safe um well we've got a great show it's wednesday which means dear toasters which is just a truly favorite segment of ours we've got fabulous stories fabulous girls fabulous bros and i feel as though without further ado it is time for the fast five stories that you need to know before you wake up and take a bite out of your morning toast.

No. It is time for the fast five stories that you need to know. Clink. Or the fast five stories that you need to know. Glug, glug, glug. Glug, glug, glug. Or the fast five stories that you need to know. Pchoo.

Cah. You know, like a can opening. Yeah, yeah. Did that translate? Of course. I could see it, smell it it oh it's an excuse for claudia to do asmr actually um the last time i did asmr like nobody could hear anything i don't think these microphones are really asmr approved which is devastating devastating sure sure devastated asmr i'm sure they do really they do okay so let's get into the stories do you have anything you want to share with the group before we do that is so crazy that

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Yesterday I did watch. Yesterday I did watch Cocoa. I found the plot extremely difficult to follow. I haven't watched it yet, but I'm kind of like saving it kind of like inside out because I know it's really good and i want to actually ingest it not just watch bits and pieces because i think the message is really strong no like you ain't ready for inside out like i just i know you are going to love it and in kanto i haven't watched welcome to the family madrigal welcome to the family madrigal no i don't like that song we don't talk about bruno no

and i think you actually might really relate to the character of bruno why because bruno is like this family member who you're not allowed to talk about obviously because he like left the family years ago turns out he's been living in the walls. He's been there the whole time. Oh, interesting. It's not like Kanye says he's the creepy uncle. I mean, he's definitely a little weird. He lives in the wall, you know? So there's like something like definitely not 100% with him.

Okay, maybe I just won't watch the movie so I can enjoy the song still. Welcome to the family, Madrigal. Okay, thank you for that little Disney interlude. Our first story, Christina Applegate has done an interview with the New York Times and revealed that she has gained 40 pounds since being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and now struggles to walk without the support of a crane. The 50-year-old actress, who shared her diagnosis initially in August of 2021,

reflected on the difficulties she's experienced while filming the final season of her Netflix show, Dead to Me, amid her battle. So the new season is coming out soon and it's the final season. Right. Such a good show. She did an interview with the New York Times and said, this is the first time anyone's going to see me the way I am. I put on 40 pounds. I can't walk without a cane. I want people to know that I'm very aware of all of that. So she was filming the final season and they took a long break for her to get treatment. Oh, that's so nice. She talked about shooting the last season and said, quote, I had an obligation. The powers that be were like, let's just stop. We don't need to finish it. Let's put a few episodes together with previously recorded footage. And Christina said, no, we're going to do it, but we're going to do it on my terms.

Wow. Um, first of all, dead to me is such a good show. So I'm glad they didn't just like finagle some ending together. Cause like thus far it's been like a really well thought out and like really good show. Um, and it's very cool. I feel like in Hollywood, like, Oh, you gained 40 pounds. Like we're done with you. Like the fact that they want to still work with her and that they just kind of like cast her to the side. There's yet for Hollywood um I also think perhaps this in this last season there will be scenes where she's struggling um I think she said she struggles to like stand or walk and I think she wants to let the viewers know in advance like if that's what you see this is why right and this is what I'm going through right now yeah I feel like a lot people, like I feel like MS has been a, like it's been more brought more to the forefront.

Like Selma Blair on Dancing with the Stars. Like I feel like I now know much more. I don't know what I thought MS was before, but I thought it was like totally like debilitating to the sense where like you couldn't really move and seeing people like Dancing with the stars and like still going to work and acting it's very cool i have a like a really special place in my heart for christina applegate yeah because of don't tell mom the babysitter's dead of course like i've just loved her for so long and she's really like she's that bitch like she is successful like teen throb heart she's like literally a teenage heartthrob who then successfully turned that into like a really long prosperous career yeah we stan we really really do and everything she's in is

stellar stellar i'm excited for the new season to come out i hope christina's doing well she also is going to be like doing public press for the um for the show and it's just like so sad that she feels the need to preface everything by being like i you know i gained weight i look different this is why and it's like she doesn't owe us an explanation, you know, I gained weight. I look different. This is why. And it's like, she doesn't owe us an explanation, but you know that if she didn't say anything, then the headlines would just be so nasty. It would be so nasty. And honestly, I think that she probably is giving us a heads up like for her own sake, because to have to deal with like people commenting on, I mean, it reminds me of, and it's much worse for women,

but just a recent example is like Zac Efron showed up to a red carpet, like looking very different. Like people just like annihilated him and he's a man. So like, it's going to be worse for a woman. So like, I'm sure she did it partially for herself. Yes. And, and so when people, someone shows up looking different, like people, you know, conjecture and come up with crazy reasons as to why.

So I think she just wants to, you know, get ahead of it and, um, also promote the new season, which is really exciting. Dead to me is such a good show. I feel like it's a good bin show.

Like if you don't watch it, knowing there's the final season is coming out. Um, I feel like it's 30 minute episodes. It's like not that long, but it's like really premium. It's like nice. Like just, it's like, it. It's like nice, like just,

it's like, it has it all. It has it all. Yeah. Murder. Comedy. Nice house. It's like dramedy.

Tragedy. It's got it all. James Marsden. James Marsden, like most important. Chutney. Linda Cardellini. I thought it was you

walking through the front door. What would you, how would you feel? If your father was 87 when you're your age. Such an iconic movie. Chny how long have you been getting one who like does fire rolls fire yes he's in mad men she was in freaks and geeks but like to me linda cardellini will never not be chenny of course like the hair the plaid power suit i thought it was you such an iconic that was a cultural shift actually

that movie yeah yeah i know that scene in particular oh no there was some i think she's my age did you tell you that she's my age how would you feel if your father married someone your own age the whole movie was the shift of course but like that scene like i remember the first time i saw it i was like wait what it was chutney so good so good yeah Linda Cardellini has like a good radar for what what jobs to accept Justin Timberlake should you know take counsel with these women I actually think a lot of people should take counsel with Linda Cardellini I think they would learn a lot she's really she's been like she really has managed to stay at like the top of her game for a really long time but also like not become like overexposed like she can go to the grocery store like but i'm sure she makes

a lot of money yeah that's the life yeah she can focus on the art and as artists we totally get that totally are you ready for our next story which is an interesting development in the real housewives of beverly hills troll bullying saga yes? Yes. Diana Jenkins identifies the cyber bully who attacked Garcelle's son. So Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star Diana Jenkins has identified a person who may be responsible for cyber bullying Garcelle's 15-year-old son, Jax, a source tells Page Six.

After reviewing data obtained under subpoena from Meta, which owns Instagram, Jenkins' legal team is cracking down on a Northern California resident whose IP address and phone number were linked to an Instagram account called at Queen of the Tea. So the source said Diana is committed to seeing this through and unmasking whoever is responsible and all parties who were involved. She wants to make sure that she shares with the public all the progress that is being made in this case every step of the way. So Queen of the Tea was among the many accounts that Jax revealed had sent him racially offensive messages in August.

They had written some of the posts that were on Jax's Instagram stories as like examples of what he was receiving. So now with the potential suspect behind the important message, Diana's attorneys are pursuing an additional subpoena in the hopes of producing more evidence linking the individual behind the instagram account to the wider attack on garcelle's son this person has seemingly deactivated their instagram account now and now we'll have to wait for more information i cannot tell you how much i love this i okay there are no words to tell you how much I love this if true I love this so much but a part of me about is a little suspicious about this just because is it really possible to subpoena meta and like they'll give you the IP address of someone who

was bullied like what are the rules about that well I think the reason like obviously if somebody sends me a message like you're fat bitch like I I can't subpoena meta, but I think like the fact that this was threatening to a minor, it was, I think it's technically like, it's not like a hate crime, but it's like racially motivated. Like, I think because it was such like a next level message, maybe a subpoena is possible. I thought the same thing. Cause like, girl, we could subpoena meta. I have a list of people who's like accounts.

I need their IP addresses. No, like who oh we could subpoena meta I have a list of people who's like accounts I need their IP addresses like who else can we subpoena like I I find that very interesting and I mean you categorize this attack as like next level but what is that actually what is that threshold for getting a subpoena from meta well I hope it's true one because anyone who's like ever made a fake account and like sent a message I saw like the craziest thing written about our family recently like jail for you jail for you like to be to just fucking make things up or threaten a minor like jail for fucking you and I hope that Diana takes this all the way I literally want to contribute to her legal fund not that she needs it just so that like let this be a lesson to anyone who engages in like anonymous online

troll behavior like your time is coming your time is fucking coming I'm getting your fucking IP address and I'm gonna show up at your motherfucking house bitch what are you gonna do there nothing because this is a because I don't want to go to jail oh but I'm gonna yell at you and you know what I am gonna do I am gonna take a picture of you because that's what's most embarrassing yeah no there just needs to be accountability we were talking about this last week like if you want to sling some shit around like put your face behind it okay and so that's what's really interesting I was reading all these threads on Twitter last night people were talking about like Elon Twitter whatever but people were engaging in like an actual like interesting discourse not just like oh Elon's like rich we hate him um

about this thing that Twitter now wants to do which is offering a service where you pay eight dollars a month to be verified now people are like well that's you know unfair because yada yada what about like people who are actually you know famous and people actually make like fake accounts of us like but I think what Elon was going for which I think is really interesting is not verified means that you're famous verified means like we have your information you're a real person right so then like Twitter will just start then prioritizing conversations and tweets of people who are verified meaning we know their name address last name location location, social.

And I think, I don't know if you should necessarily have to pay for that because then it's not fair. It's not accessible to everyone. But I think it's an interesting way of moving forward where it's like conversations being had on this app. You're really only going to see ones from people who have been verified in the sense that like we know who they are. Yeah. That you're real people and you want to put like your money where your mouth is

and your face with what you're saying. I actually, I didn't realize that that was the intention behind it, but I think that that's so smart. And then people who don't verify themselves, who are talking shit, like you're just gonna be like, oh, well, you're a troll.

You can dismiss it. And like their content does not, you have to search for it. It's at the bottom. Like, so I don't know if having it be paid is the best way to do that. I feel like. So many social media platforms, apps, services you pay to play. So it's not that crazy if it's an $8 one-time fee.

No, no, it's a month. $8 a month. Yeah. Well, if you want to be like a big wig on Twitter and you want people to see your interesting thoughts, then that's like, it's a subscription model, you know? No, for sure. Um, I think that there's a really good concept there. I don't, I just wonder if like people who are already verified or, you know, celebrities, if they don't have, if they wouldn't have to pay, they probably don't, which is dumb because like, right. That's the people who can afford it right um but i just thought like this world in which everyone has to identify themselves on social media and engage in

discourse as themselves themselves where their friends and family can see what they're saying still so brave right i think that is a very um interesting potentially like um not life-changing but game-changing service so I thought that was interesting yeah like that this this world in which you can just create accounts on Instagram on all these different platforms with not a single identifying detail except an email account which people just make fake email accounts it's like like, it takes 10 seconds to make a new Gmail account. It's really dangerous. Like, it's really not okay. And I think, like, Instagram does virtually nothing to-

No, and they, like, do small things and they think that they solved it. Like, you can now block an account and block all the other accounts that this person made. That's actually a really good one. But is it based on IP address? What's it based on? Device, probably. Okay, so- Make it on your iPad, yeah. Right, like, it's not ip address what's it based on a device probably okay so make it on your ipad yeah right like it's it's not perfect it's not solving no online bullying

but it's it's a really good step yeah it's something yeah it's still like there there's not been anything that's really going to solve this yet and i i think that's a very strong idea yeah i thought that it was really interesting and people were just dismissing it because it's like, Oh, $8 to be like a fake celebrity. But it's like, not really about that at all. And you know what? In the early days of Facebook, you had to have a student email address to join. And like, I don't know when those parameters were lifted. And it used to be for just like college students and it was high school and college students. And now it's just anyone. And I think you can can you can be in middle school and have like fake accounts and you could be 80 like everyone has a Facebook but it did start as somewhere where you had to be a person no and it was much more it

wasn't you know completely issue free but it was felt like a lot safer of an environment yeah we maybe it was the beginning of all the issues that we're experiencing now, but they weren't as prevalent then. No, so I thought that was really interesting. And I think if they do it, it'll be like a cool case study for perhaps other platforms. Agreed. Anyways, if true, what Diana is sharing, I think that's major. Awesome.

Also- I just love the idea that like this person like really thought that like they could send whatever they wanted because I'm sure they've done it a million times. But like, I just know like they're not sleeping. Like this person is so fucking afraid. Yeah. Some of the records obtained from Meta were connected to overseas IP addresses. However, the Queen of the Tea account was linked to an IP address and phone number in California.

And so Diana's lawyers are looking for more subpoenas to confirm that this person paid for Internet and phone services tied to Queen of the Tea may be paid for bots. Right. Right. So interesting. I like that Diana's not letting this go. Yeah. I mean, she was.

Honestly, if she didn't pursue this, we probably all would have assumed. But then in the back of my mind, we're like, oh, yeah, that was the thing Diana did. Yeah. No mean, she was really, honestly, if she didn't pursue this, we probably all would have let it go. But then in the back of my mind, we're like, oh yeah, that was the thing Diana did. Yeah, no,

she's trying to clear her name and I know she's not doing it like for me, but I do feel like enormously grateful because I feel like this is really, this can and should really scare the fuck out of people who engage in behavior like this. Yeah.

And maybe it's time for them to get some serious, serious help. Yeah. And I think it's great for Garcelle. And hopefully, you know, if they are able to solve this crime, then they can find a way to maybe be friends and maybe Diana would even be on another season. Yeah, maybe. I also think this is a problem within the Bravo space that needs to work itself out, too, because obviously all different corners of the internet have their own problems. Bravo really seems to have like a fan issue. Like I'm not saying all Bravo fans by any means,

but I'm saying like every single show, like I feel like in recent reunions, they talk about like the death threats. And like, it's literally a reality show. Like everyone needs to calm the fuck down. Some people are really like just genuinely unbalanced. And like the energy they put into reality shows so much to the point where they're going to threaten the lives of people who they

watch on TV like those like these people really need help like for real. But I think this is sets a great precedent. Yeah it does. I love it. Love it. Okay our next story James Corden is having a bad month. Is it James Corden's bad month that's brought to you by Away Suitcases? Yes it is because he needs to go on a trip. Away makes suitcases, bags, and other travel accessories designed to make moving through the world a lot more seamless which is a good thing because travel makes us better people by giving us different perspectives. So no matter where you're going you can rely on Away's range of travel products to solve real travel problems and get you out there. I mean this couldn't be more apropos we're flying out today I've got my Away suitcase. Ben got his Away suitcase.

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word for word, on the Late Late Show. I saw a video somebody spliced together of like the james and the ricky it was word for word a thing from one of ricky's specials it's um about like a town square advertising for guitar lessons and then people getting upset i don't want guitar lessons i want piano lessons and it's all about like seeing things on the internet that you don't like and just moving on right um and it's literally word for word and so Ricky Gervais had tweeted the video of it and said the bit about the town square advert for guitar lessons is brilliant crying emoji and James Corden tweeted inadvertently told a brilliant Ricky Ricky Gervais joke on the

show last night obviously not knowing it came from him it's brilliant because it's a Ricky Gervais joke you can all you can watch all of Ricky's excellent specials on Netflix. Okay, so do I think James Corden sat down and wrote down a joke he heard from Ricky Gervais' special? No. A lazy writer who just got fired. Or a writer who hates James Corden and is sick of being treated poorly by him

and decided to give him the old one too. Perhaps. I think that would be very subversive. I think it's a lazy writer. Yeah. I mean, what's so funny is like, you know, we put these, you know, supposedly the funniest men ever. We put them on TV and they have a whole team of writers to write them jokes. And they still need to take from other people. And of all it's never funny like nobody watches the the opening monologues of um late night shows and it's like it's like corny dad jokes it's like not funny um and there are so many and there's a whole team of writers writing that for them people who are like trained comedians the funniest people in the country who are writing like it's crazy and then you have like a super funny host

delivering like right no and the host super funny line the host got there because they're so funny yet you're not gonna write the jokes but like why can't there be a host who like does his monologue and like just talks like no no prompter like just says the funny thing that he's thinking no but like before he starts the show. That's the thing with late night. It's like such an antiquated format. Like this is what Johnny Carson used to do. Like you could change it up.

Yeah. It's 2022. No, and it's like, there are so many comedians. There are so many places that we can watch comedians. And so it's not Johnny Carson where it's like, we're all tuning in at one time. We have options now.

We have options. And so to see what they're doing over there it's just like sad no it's like embarrassing and it's not very inventive no and then to to then steal a whole ass bit is word for word sometimes I do feel like especially when you're commenting on things like in social media or in pop culture I do think two people can have the same thought can come to the same conclusion like create the same. Maybe it's not always going to be worded exactly the same, but sometimes I feel like when people accuse other people of stealing, I'm like, that's a stretch. Like it wasn't the funniest, most original joke anyway. And like, I could see how more than one

person came to that conclusion. This is literal plagiarism to one point, like one-on-one. Yes. So it's not the same. No, it's not the same. Like that would be like Ricky Gervais having said, you know, you can go on to the internet and choose not to engage in things you don't like. And then James Corden saying the same thing. And it's like, oh, two people think. It's a rational thought. And I could see how two human beings who engage in rational thought could both come to that one rational thought.

But to make this very specific example, and James didn't even deny it. No, he didn't deny that like this joke wasn't stolen yeah I do appreciate that he at least didn't blame his writers I actually think his response was as good as can be right no I don't think he stole it himself I think it was definitely I mean that would mean that James Corden and all these guys write their own material and we know that they don't so he would never do that like Ricky stuff it's not obscure like you can find you can stitch it very easily he would never choose to embarrass himself in this way no but I do think like his apology not throwing his writer under the bus who obviously has been fired and

stole the joke um I do think that's quite commendable like he took the fall so I know this is you know one another a list of things to make James Corden look bad but for me this actually makes James Corden like look pretty good ish also when as good as can be when Ricky Gervais like tweeted the video initially someone said didn't deliver it like you though I assume he used he asked to use that joke and then Ricky said no I reckon one of the writers came up with it quote for him I doubt he would knowingly just copy such a famous stand-up routine word for word like no no of course of course I'm surprised like nobody else if it's like it i mean i imagine i don't i'm not like a huge follower of ricky gervais's comedy like i actually like him but i don't know his bits but i imagine if there's a whole team of writers no one like they all work in comedy they know

comedy they wouldn't realize one of them is reciting a familiar famous bit yeah maybe they all are working against james corden they're trying to take him down oh yeah makes a thing so yeah james corden's bad month continues i really i wish i wish for him some rest it's hard going through it like yes and then go do his show every day i know that's the thing it's like other people can take time off like the the um the internet forgets because if you become you know do you take a step back there's more people for them to make fun of but when you're on tv every single day it's like no no it's endless yeah yeah well he is ending his show in like a year oh so his time is almost up and is someone else gonna take his spot they

haven't said if and who yet but they did did say that he is. His next season will be his final. Our next story, Adele reveals how we've all been pronouncing her name incorrectly this whole time. So Adele set the record straight about her name in a recent Q&A with fans in L.A. to promote the release

of her I Drink Wine music video. So someone asked a question and she said, love that. She said my name perfectly. The correct pronunciation is Adele not Adele Adele Adele yeah u-h hyphen Adele Adele but it's not because it's Adele but it is it is I mean I feel like this happens every couple of years with a celebrity who like is a household name and then we find out like their name is Ariana Grande like right you know what I mean um and it's like we all found out Ariana Grande's name was Ariana Grande and we

still call her Ariana Grande so I don't know if this is necessarily going to change the way in which we speak about Adele yeah um but it's good to know the more you know the more you know like it's giving Majdijan for me yeah and one thing about me is that once I have a pronunciation in my head like I I can't I'm physically unable it's crazy yeah like didn't we find out Rihanna is actually Rihanna or did I make that up I don't remember that okay so I made that one up. Perhaps. It's definitely possible. Also, she's releasing a music video for I Drink Wine. I can't think of that song without thinking about, remember when you- Yes, me too.

Claudia, when her track list came out before the album, Claudia went through the track list and like did her idea of what- Of what I thought the songs would sound like just given their titles. And when it was I Drink wine she said I drink wine wine wine wine it literally sounds like the song like how does the song go I think it was actually one of my favorites on the album one thing about me is that I have not listened to 30 even once like I don't know what any of the songs sound like and I was just watching a TikTok about this because what's so funny is like technically just based based on purely numbers alone like

Adele is currently in her flop era um like her 30 is her worst performing album since 19 but it's still like sold triple not even I mean it's sold more than Midnight's like it's a huge seller because this TikTok was talking about like who the predictions are for album of the year are going to be. And like, you really can't ignore 30 just based on the numbers. Um, even though like technically Adele's in her flop era.

Yeah. If you're comparing her to Adele. To herself. But if you're comparing her to the average singer songwriter, she's doing amazing. Yeah. No, of course.

I think she'll be nominated but she won't win yeah um the prediction for on tiktok um who did they say i thought was gonna win they were really campaigning hard for bad bunny even though bad bunny i don't know why i said like that um for bad bunny um although this person didn't think and i don't know what qualifies this person as an opinion we should give a shit about but um that grammys has you know kind of like ignored bad bunny that they don't think like bad bunny would be um but they thought renaissance should be in there they thought kendrick lamar should be in there they shot lizzo should be in there um luke home should be in there i'm sorry growing up is the album of my year i completely

agree by the way also like kelsey ballerini like that album like is that album do you know what i mean yeah i listened to it and i feel like right now i'm not in the headspace for it like if if this was like if i was 20 i would be obsessed no it's whimsical yeah it's just like really light um but i will at a different like I don't know it took me by the way when it came out when I'm getting ready for like a dinner or something like I'll listen to it when it came out I was just like not in that particular head space and I was like a little late that's why I'm talking about it now but now I'm like fully immersed in the album like it is an album that feels like an album I totally get that two things

this is making me excited for end of year music recap. Spotify wrapped. Obviously Spotify wrapped usually stops tracking your data on October 31st, but they are extending it. Because of Midnight's probably. Because of Midnight's.

That's crazy. Huh. But yeah, I was going to say like. My data is going to be, I have no idea what it's going to reveal. Because like one thing about me is like I don't listen to new music. it's going to reveal because like one thing about me is like I don't listen to new music like I listen to the same five like I still love my 2019 Spotify wrapped playlist like I listen to the same so I don't know what it's going to be I think it's going to be a

lot of Luke Holmes a lot of Taylor a lot of Morgan Wallen because then I think about where I listen to Spotify and it's like my Amazon Echo so it's like what do I listen to in the shower yeah or when I'm getting ready it's actually sorry my number one it's gonna be evermore that's really all I listen to this year oh true mine is gonna be it's a mixture of me and Harry's music so oh right probably Luke Holmes would be number one and probably Mimi Webb will be number two I just like listen to her song and I also like I like songs on Spotify like five songs a month and I just keep listening to them over and over again. But we've got a lot of Beethoven in there. We've got Elvis.

I've got a lot of Sagala. I think my number one song of the year is going to be If I Can Dream by Elvis. Actually, it's going to be middle of somewhere. Yes, it is. And then number two will be If I Can Dream. And then what else? There was one other thing that I listened to.

Oh, I had to all that. Oh, I had to put on this white noise one night. And so I put this one song on repeat and that's going to be my number one song of the year. No, like Spotify needs to work on the rap thing. Like if you have kids like removing all like the cocoa melon, like. No, I think it's actually a sign of the times, but like, I just need to be able to delete that white noise. Yeah, yeah, yeah. No, that's not a song.

No, it's not a song. I mean, it's, does it come up as a song or is it like a podcast it might be in like a different category of your data if it's a podcast true because I don't know how you can make a song that's an hour you know no it wasn't it was like three minutes and it was over and over oh it's a song it's my song of the year how exciting okay our fifth and final story. Some super exciting news. Some of the Queen's personal effects will be going up for auction. Yes, mementos of the Queen's war, Her Majesty's driving permit,

and photos of her working as a mechanic. You should get the driving permit. I know. How much do you think it costs? I don't know. I was looking through and they didn't have prices. And do we have to go to London? I think we need to get on a plane. I think we need to. on a plane i think we need to go to the auction they're going up for auction alongside a 1950s petticoat from our girl cute i need the driver driver's permit yeah that's what we need that's what we

need if anybody gets it if you want to share i want to apologize to the podcasters theo snoring so loud if that's what you've been hearing i keep trying to like move him to like no i don't i think the smooth sounds of theo snoring are calming. Okay, okay. I just wanted to let you know, like, it's not anything in your office or your car. Like, it's Theo. Yeah. Also, her undergarments are going up.

That's not nice. Auction, 1,500 pounds. And then there are some military-era mementos that are set to reach 20 000 pounds but the queen never held a driver's license fun fact well it's a permit she no no i know but so she got her permit she was permitted to learn but then she never had to get a license she never had to she never did like but she drove all the time oh she always drove herself think of the queen being a criminal driving without a license it's like a literally a c-class felony yeah it's bad well maybe maybe it's fine because she had a permit and there was always an adult in the

car no but she used to drive herself around no i know like balmoral no but there was definitely like a security guard in there like she was probably never alone in the crown like and fill up in that movie that i just watched the queen she drives alone well it's a movie so it's her property right so everyone can fuck off everyone can fuck all the way off yeah um okay we have to buy the permit like theo stop yeah so there's no no price too high you know what we need we We need a Queen Elizabeth II Museum. It could be like one of these traveling museums.

It can start in London, of course. Of course, of course. But it should come to New York. I like that. It should have like tons of Queenie effects. And I think that would be

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He's a P-jump and is the first grandbaby on my side. Normally this would be a huge deal and he would instantly be the center of attention among my family, right? Wrong. Here's the thing. The thing is, my dad and step-mom decided to adopt a puppy a month after my baby was born. And ever since that day, my son has been overshadowed by this dog.

I send photos of the baby's first doctor's appointments. I got a text back with a photo at the vet. Oh, you think your baby is teething? My puppy just lost two teeth. It's a cute pic of the baby in the stroller, but here's the puppy on our walk today. This is her dad and stepmom? Yeah, every time she sent the picture,

they want to- I didn't know if it was her in-laws or- No, her dad. Or her kin. No, it's her kin, and it's the first grandbaby on her side. Got it, got it. I complained about our lack of sleep once

and they started talking about how hard crate training has been. I mean, every conversation circles back to the dog. It is so awkward and cringy to me. This makes me not want to send any photos or share updates about my baby, which makes me so sad. Not to mention they've been so busy puppy training

that they haven't really asked about how the baby is doing on their own. Not to be dramatic, but I feel like they're missing out on the most exciting times of his life. Do I say something about how this is making me feel? Task my sister with calling them out for being super annoying or just try and ride it out and hope it gets better.

Love, a mama toaster who's sick about who is sick over hearing about her parents dog. That's so crazy. No, that's like something like kind of diabolical that like a 20 year old would do. Not like a grown ass man. Yeah. At least it's giving you know what it's giving. I don't know anything about it's giving evil stepmother Meredith Blake right but she didn't say that like it's the stepmother leading the charge no but she just did say like dad and stepmom so like

not me like you know villainizing the stepmom right no of course and of course part of my advice would be like go talk to your dad one-on-one I'm glad to hear that you have a sister and yeah and she like you can talk to her you can talk to her because you know if these two were your only family and they're not like getting excited that would be so disheartening that would be so disheartening I think that you're totally justified in feeling sad about this and if you do feel like a lot of the dog fanfare is coming from evil stepmother um maybe talk to your dad one-on-one and be like I'm so excited but see the thing is like i actually don't think it's coming from the evil stepmother like the dad that was my projection excited about

a new dog yeah we don't even know if the stepmother's evil like maybe the stepmother stepped in when this girl was two and has been like a real mother to her like we don't know you know right right right like i was just projecting like what i've known about stepmothers from the movies maybe like you talk to both of them and just say it like in a totally i think tasking the sister like you're fucking busy bitch like you're busy i of them and just say it like in a totally. I think Tess and the sister, like you're fucking busy, bitch. Like you're busy. I think if your sister went over there and be like, hey, I went to Rachel's house last night and she was like so overwhelmed with the baby and she was just like really upset,

feeling like nobody cares. Like she had a baby and everyone's like obsessing over the dog. So I feel like we should all make a conscious effort. Like that's what you do. Like when someone has a baby, like they're really vulnerable. They don't have time to like talk about their feelings with everyone. Like I think Tess and the sister is a great job. As long as the sister handles it like a pro and it isn't like obvious that like this is

like a setup, you know? Yeah. Hopefully stepmother doesn't listen to this podcast. Totally. Um, yeah, I like that too. Like this is a job for, this is what sisters are for. But also just like prepare yourself for if they continue to be disappointing and to divest, to de-invest from caring about what-

Their opinions. Even sharing pictures in the stroller. Like find a different group chat to send those pictures with. Send them to us. With people who care about you and will be excited about it. Put them in the Toast After Dark Facebook group. Like we'll be excited. Yeah, we will be excited.

Chosen family. Like send them to your sister, send them to your friends your friends like don't keep setting yourself up for disappointment if after your sister talks to them it doesn't get better no because this is hella fucking rude yeah like the more i think about it like it's literally child ass behavior from a grown-ass man and a grown-ass woman and honestly i'm pissed yeah sister send the sister and if nothing changes bye like seriously bye yeah we have a lot of like mama related ones today yeah and don't send pictures and see how long you go before they ask yes yes withhold withhold the cuteness die best hi jackie and claudia i need some objective advice while keep this concise i am 35 with two boys i need some objective advice so I will keep this concise. Yes. I am 35 with

two boys, a four-year-old and a one-year-old and a husband. We have two embryos left, both girls, and my husband says that he's done. Part of me agrees, but the other part of me really wants a girl. And for context, my hubby really pushed for boys, so he already got what he wanted. And if it matters, we found out the gender of our embryos before having the first two. Right. Who gets the final call here? We can't really have another one if we're both not on board. But I want a girl. Help and please keep anonymous.

Sincerely, a toaster who wants a mini me. No, I mean, like your man's got what he wanted. Like it's time for you. And also like you do all the work when it comes to childbirth. Like it's it's ultimately it's a decision you both have to make. But ultimately it's your call. No, but she asked like who gets the last word? The woman.

The woman gets the last word. Like women are pushing children out of their vaginas. When the roles are reversed and the man really wants another kid and the woman doesn't, like oftentimes the woman gets, the woman has one who has to carry, the woman's one who has to give birth.

Like it's a lot on the woman. So yeah, it's a decision that you guys should talk about. No, and like when a man wants more children, like it's so sweet, like it's so nice, but it's literally not your call. Yeah, and I think that if this is what you want, then, but the thing is you have to want it bad enough to want it enough for the both of you.

Yeah. And to like bring him to your team, you know? Cause if you're like, I want it a little bit, like that's not gonna convince him, but if he sees you're so excited you want a girl so badly like it's everything you ever wanted then like of course that's your husband and he loves you and that's what you're going to do yeah but also I like I want you to do whatever you want but I want to say there's something like extremely cool about being like a mom of just boys like we were just

met this woman in your neighborhood who has like so many boys and she was like the coolest bitch I'd ever met like I was really taken by her like I kind of want to be like I want to have like like five boys like I think there's like kind of something sickening about it you know what I mean and I think about all like my friends moms who I know who like have all boys and I'm like they're so cool you know yeah so just think about like there is something really cool obviously like girls want to have girls but there's something like kind of sickening about being like a mom of boys and then like these boys grow up into like big huge men it's like's like, yeah, bitch, I did that. You know? And like, you can, you can be in charge of like how these men enter the world and like

how they treat women. Like, it's just like, it's very powerful, you know? Yes. But I would also say like, aside from the gender of like wanting a girl when we have boys and he wanted boys, like, do you want another baby? Do you want to bring another human into this world? Do you want to foster another life? That's something that you have to answer for yourself.

And then you either have to want it bad enough to like get everyone on board because it can't be like half in. Okay. So by the way, like if you, you know, God willing one day Baruch Hashem, Lehan Hara, like have more kids, like do you have a preference for what you have next? I, I don't. Like you're so girly. So obviously like a girl would be nice.

Before, like when I got pregnant the first time before I found out the gender, like I really did want a girl. Um, and. When you found out it was a boy, we were like a little disappointed. Like it's okay. You could say. Like. Like a little.

If I had to have chosen. Right. You would have chosen a girl. I would have chosen a girl. Thank God I didn't have to have chosen because I'm obsessed with being a boy mom. No, totally. And so many people who, and I announced like my pregnancy and the gender, so many people messaged me.

They're like, I'm one of four girls. I wanted a girl so badly, but I have a boy. There's nothing like having a boy. And it's so true. It's so different. But there's something so special about having a boy and like the connection between a boy and his mom. No, it's so true.

Like some of the best boys out there that I know, like love their moms. And that's why they're the best because they love their moms and they respect women. So it really, it's been amazing. And so if you had to choose, like, do you now want to have like one of each or like you want to try and be like at a strictly boy house? Like if you had to have a preference. I don't want to say because then like, what if then I have another kid and it's not what I said and they'll always be like, yeah, delete the episode okay here's the promise we'll delete

the episode if you end up with the opposite of what you wanted okay I'm not saying I could just see it okay will you tell me afterwards of course okay um well best of luck to you and at the end of the day remember it's your call but like Jackie said it best like you have to want it enough for two people because like to convince him like if there was something that my husband wanted so badly more than anything in the world like it would make me want it too yeah but if you just want it a little bit like it's not gonna happen yeah no no and also like like this is why I think about it like you you could be done having kids. Like, isn't that like, you want to be done. Right. Like,

I feel like I would want to be done. You know, it's like, I can't wait till like, I want to have kids. I'm going to love my kids. I have my future kids see this. Like,

I don't mean it, but like, I am excited to be done with the part of having kids and just like being like a human being again, raising kids, you know, like I wish I was at that stage. I look at like other people on social media who are like done.

I'm like, Oh my God, you did it. Like it's behind you. I'm so happy for you. I know, but they look at was at that stage. I look at like other people on social media who are like done. I'm like, oh my God, you did it. Like it's behind you. I'm so happy for you. I know, but they look at you like it's all in front of you. And like those, those bebe years, like they can't get back. Like those were the best of times. Oh my God.

That's so sweet. What a great shift in perspective. Shifting perspectives with Streisand. Our third and final. Good morning. I am in a mom's Facebook group for our local area and my sister is a nanny for a family that is also in the Facebook group.

They don't know me though or my name. Wait, sorry, start again. I was just thinking about the last one. This always happens to me. I am in a mom's Facebook group for our local area and my sister is a nanny for a family that's also in the Facebook group. Okay.

But the family in the Facebook group doesn't know about this girl. Yeah, yeah. Recently, the mom that my sister nannies for posted in the Facebook group doesn't know about this girl. Yeah. Yeah. Recently, the mom that my sister nannies for posted in the group saying that she was unhappy with their nanny. It came my sister. She said she wasn't doing enough educational activities with her kids and she's looking for a new nanny to start ASAP,

but she has not told yet the nanny, the former nanny. My sister is not a part of this group and therefore doesn't know that they are looking to replace her. She loves this family and the kids love her. Do I tell her that the mom posted this or do I let her find out on her own not a part of this group and therefore doesn't know that they are looking to replace her she loves this family and the kids love her do i tell her that the mom posted this or do i let her find out on her own in a couple of weeks time i know she'll be devastated but i don't know if it's my place help a loved but confused toaster obviously you tell your sister like this in this job market like she's got it you know get proactive she's got to start sending out resumes

not even that tell her to start upping the educational content no by the way like give her the answers to the test Jackie this literally sounds like the nanny diaries where it's like you're not talking to Grayson in French like yeah we'll have to get him an au pair no like I think this is obviously a super awkward situation but I think that you should tell your sister not in like a gossipy way or like a you know you're done way but like I saw this i don't want you to be upset she wants more educational stuff for her kids like ramp that up and like she could be happy yeah actually that's true i didn't think about that i thought about her like getting out of dodge like dumping the family be like oh you're gonna dump me i'm gonna dump you first bitch

but no that's true she could still salvage the job go get some books like yeah just be like i saw these amazing things like i was watching miss rachel or whatever i was you know just be like i was watching nachio they were talking about this amazing exhibit at the Met like do you think it'd be okay if I took Sarah yeah like I don't know what educational what the ages are and like what materials the kids should be ingesting at this age like get some workbooks right and start making it an educational environment no you have like maybe some people could write in the comments like good things to do in the educational realm for kids that would really impress your her employer no I feel like you've really gotten like a an unfair advantage now like you know what your

employer wants and you're gonna give it to her before she even asks yeah love that love that for you good idea thanks your advice was on point today mine was like a little all over the place no your first one you got the first one right yeah you got the last two though thank you thank you to everyone who wrote in to dear toasters which again is always a safe space you can write in we'll keep it anonymous you could change people's names we would never blow up your spot and you could write in about anything today was very family heavy sometimes it's more friends heavy sometimes it's more relationship heavy i like these ones me too they really made me think um and that email again is dear toasters at gmail.com try and keep it as brief as possible just like the need to know

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