The Toast - S4 Ep116: Bad Stories, Great Show: Wednesday, June 30th, 2021

Episode Date: June 30, 2021

TLC Officially Cancels 'Counting On,' Drops the Duggar Family After Josh Duggar's Recent Arrest (US Weekly) That's So Raven's Kyle Massey Charged With Felony for Immoral Communication With Teenage Girl (E! News) Sex/Life Co-Stars Sarah Shahi and Adam Demos Are Dating IRL (E! News) The Devil Wears Prada Turns 15: 8 Facts You Didn't Know About the Movie Until Now (PEOPLE) Netflix Acknowledges Lazy Viewers by Allowing Us to Watch Partially Downloaded Content Offline (Vulture) Real Housewives of New York Recap Dear Toasters Advice Segment The Morning Toast with Claudia (@girlwithnojob) and Jackie Oshry (@jackieoshry) Merch: https://shopmorningtoast.com/ The Morning Toast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/themorningtoast Girl With No Job by Claudia Oshry: https://www.girlwithnojob.com/bookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Good morning, Millennials! Welcome back to the Morning Toast. Happy Wednesday. It is Hump Day! So don't forget to hump someone you love, whether that is your partner, your dog. No judgment here. No judgment. It's a beautiful hump day. I personally feel like this week is going by slowly and that it should be Thursday. That's how I feel. Yeah, it's definitely feeling like a Thursday vibe on a Wednesday, which is really not great. No, it's not great. You never want that for your week. But hump day is always a reason to celebrate. It is a little too hot to be out here. Oh my God. You guys, the heat wave is reaching astronomical levels. I do feel like it is causing people to go like a little bit crazy. People in the street are just acting nuts more so than the

average, you know, New York street Walker. Yeah. Wow. Not street Walkerwalker didn't think it could get crazier walker on the street yeah not yeah thank you um it's so fucking hot I know a lot of places are just like guys we're gonna get through this we fucking better yeah right if we get through it with a stormy weekend I'll be annoyed yeah because we have a long weekend ahead of us everybody has a long weekend ahead of them and that's always something to look forward to and life is all about having moments of things to look forward to and now Claudia and I finally have something to look forward to because as of like 11 o'clock last night we planned our weekend yeah I just want to say like we were going back and forth for the last week about like what to do

which house to choose should we stay at a hotel where should we go and it was honestly weighing really heavy on me like when I woke up in the morning it was the first thing I thought about because I'm like I will not be stuck in the city for July 4th like I just won't but at the rate we were'm like, I will not be stuck in the city for July 4th. Like I just won't. But at the rate we were going, like we were going to be stuck in the city for July 4th. So you were feeling brighter? I was feeling brighter. It's also just like such an expensive weekend, but we got such a good deal. Like I feel really good about our decision.

I feel really good. And the boys will be there due and brew. And I'm excited for the bonding they're going to share. I think they're going to swim a little doggy paddle. I think it's going to be so amazing for their, for their development. So we hope you guys have your plans checked out. And if you don't, this is your sign. There's literally one more day. Like girl, like get a share house. I think we're the only people on earth who like didn't have a plan. Everyone like has their shit together when it comes to July 4th. Yeah, I know. And it's like,

we usually do, but we're fine. We're fine. I never do. We have a good show for you guys today. Not gonna lie. Like, let's be upfront. You know, the stories, they're not very good. They're not. But you know what? We have gotten Monday and Tuesday, both two days with really good stories, like juiciness coming out of the stories. And so today is slightly mindless, just nothing crazy but we do have dear toasters which always makes the episodes so good and we have um brony recap tv recap real housewives of new york which is really turning into like not a very good show no no no not good there's no drama no not good at all where is the drama i don't know someone throw a glass i really was like

really thinking about how i could end my tenure of watching the show. That's what I was thinking about while I was watching it. Like how could I get away with no longer watching the show? And it sucks because like there are some franchises when the episodes like aren't juicy or anything like I still enjoy. But I just think this group is kind of like a rundown. Look, it's a lot of the women and I it's a hundred percent time for a refresh I've said this once I've said it again they're getting to OC levels of sadness like

they really are I don't think we need a whole refresh but five cast members on any show is just not enough I don't know why they don't add more people to the mix and then see what happens from there like I feel like Beverly Hills we have eight women it's a lot yeah no but there's so much there's so many dynamics happening no it's better yeah so anyways we have your recap but if this was a sneak peek like we weren't thrilled yeah but um I have nothing else to share oh actually that's not true yesterday was such a busy day meetings meetings meetings podcast podcast podcast meetings meetings literally for me I did three podcasts yesterday plus a vlog right so I posted yesterday my getting ready hair and makeup tutorial how I get ready every day for the show obviously my hair is up today but I show you how I blow it out every day and I think people are really enjoying it you know

it's just some some good beauty content I think you know when you watch a YouTube tutorial and it makes you like want to like redo your whole routine and like try new techniques and try new products? That's what I felt watching the video. What did you take away from it? Well, I was really interested in how you do your eyeshadow because I just didn't know that you did that. You know, like you smoke out your under eye for the toast.

Like that was just a crazy thing I didn't know about you. Very lightly. I guess, is that what it's called? Smoking out? Yeah. And you're also like so self-conscious about your eyebrows. Like you didn't stop touching them and talking about them and like, girl, they're really not that bad. Like you have to get over it. So it's just like, it's always going to plague me. Like ever since I was young and like my eyebrows

just are my cross to bear. And I feel like you were talking about them a lot, just like people wouldn't comment on them. Like you're aware, you know? Because I've gotten so many comments. Like they've, they beat me down about my eyebrows like now this is the result do you know what I saw in that vlog a broken woman like literally like you were so fucking self-conscious about your eyebrows and I swear to god there was literally nothing wrong with them I was like she's like this one's so much better than the other I'm like they literally look the same that is so funny well thank you for that and also if you did feel like influenced to do anything that I do I linked every single product like I went out there I got the links and I shared them with you so I got I have some good products I think that eyeshadow palette that I use I just

got and I just think the colors are stunning tartlet juicy palette because I saw a makeup artist had it and she used it on me and like the colors just really worked for me and then I just went out and got it for myself well she's actually gonna give it on me and like the colors just really worked for me and then I just went out and got it for myself. She was actually going to give it to me which was so generous. Wow, that is so nice. And I was just like I can't accept but I'll go get it for myself.

Speaking of Patreon, we have another episode dropping today. It's the fifth of the month and it's kind of like the one everyone's been waiting for, you know? It is a sit down interview

one year later with Olivia Aschere aka Mikaela's mom and we really got deep into it. She teared up at one point and so did I. Yeah. It was really beautiful.

Everyone got their questions answered about motherhood, about going back to work, about Mikayla, about the podcast, Maternity Live, about Olivia choosing not to share pictures of Mikayla on social media. Like, so much. We really covered everything and it was a really, really, really like,

honestly, like emotional episode. Wow, I am so excited to listen to it. And then you have the pleasure of listening to the Redheads episode. See, content, content, content, meetings, meetings, meetings, podcast, podcast, podcast. And also like with this long weekend ahead of us, like we didn't want to leave you guys stranded. There is so much content to get you from Thursday to Tuesday, though.

I hope you guys will be having so much fun that like, you know, the content can wait till the following week. Yeah. So this is a good time to tell you guys like we're taking off Friday, Monday. Yeah. Because we were just feeling out like what the corporate world was doing. And it seems as though like that's what people are doing. Yeah so this is a good time to tell you guys like we're taking off Friday Monday. Yeah because we were just feeling out like what the corporate world was doing and it seems as though like that's what people are doing. Yeah. And we're really looking forward to doing that as well. We adhere to the Morgan Stanley like a holiday calendar. Yeah we really do. So I'm excited

to listen to Olivia on the Patreon. Redhead's episode drops tomorrow. We recorded last night and it is flames truly. The girls are just like the girls are on one we gave them pizza before we started recording I was gonna ask you if you think everyone was on one because usually you guys go to dinner afterwards and I'm sure you're just like hungry and kind of depleted when you do the podcast but we ordered two pies of pizza before the redheads arrived and then everyone had like two slices before do you think that made a difference you know I do but I don't want to say that like in any other episode we we are depl and hungry. Because like once those mics turn on, the girls turn on. Like we're so passionate, honestly.

And I think actually in last night's episode, like the passion is jumping through the microphone. It's palpable. It's palpable. Also because like we're all talking about this book that we all really liked. And then we're just talking about books that we like in general. And you can really feel the passion, I swear. You know what book I really liked? Hmm.

Girls and a Job, The Crazy Beautiful Life of an Instagram Thirst Monster, a New York Times bestseller, available really anywhere. Audiobook, ebook, Amazon, Kindle, Barnes & Noble, Books a Million. Get it in Canada. It's really, like, people are kind of still quaking over it.

So it's the book of the summer, Reese Witherspoon said. So check it out. Check it out. It's a great beach read-in for your long weekend. I couldn't recommend a better book. And if you don't like reading, there's pictures in the middle. Is this book upside down? Yes, it is.

If you don't like reading, you can get the book on Audible. Yes. Yes, Jackie. Make the sale. Make the sale. You know what? You can actually go to audible.com slash redhead because we have a promo code for you um you do we work with audible yeah oh so you can get a promo code on

my book on any audible no on my book sure sure sure this yeah it's it's vertical integration get claudia's book on audible if you don't like to read but go to audible.com slash redheads oh didn't know we got a code how legit are you guys working with audible no totally our sponsors for the episode yesterday were actually like really great and so bookie you love to see your passion projects becoming like full-blown empires you know you really do no you really really do that's how passionate I feel about the redheads and I you know I see the numbers I see how many people listen to the toast I see how many people listen to the redheads and I'll say that there are some people that don't listen I see how many people listen to the toast. I see how many people listen to the redheads. And I'll say that there are some people that don't listen to the redheads that listen to the toast.

And I just want to implore you. You're missing out. I agree. You're missing out. And then also yesterday I was on another TNN podcast that I'm pretty sure drops today. But just in case it doesn't, I will get back to you. Get back. No, but I'm pretty sure that does.

I just like, it does. Okay. I'm on Mood with Moreland Elizabeth today. We're talking all about wellness, like the journey where I'm at now because I was like so hard on wellness when I got back and like now I'm in a place where I'm I'm you know um well I'm well and I'm just maintaining wellness and we had such a good conversation I had so much fun talking to her I hadn't been on mood since pre-pandemic so I really think like if you were to listen to that episode and then this episode she's a whole new two different

gals yeah I was just talking about how like if you told me two years ago like I was gonna go on a wellness retreat and I was gonna be into all these things I was gonna have a peloton bike in my house I'd be like is she am I okay yeah am I okay in two years but see like that's the thing like we're constantly growing we do it every day we're growing in the evening and even when we play and if we grow a little we can do more things because we're growing and so my new such a good song and such a good message 100 for the kids growth um we've got a great show i'm ready to dive into the i would say medium slow five stories today dragged out unnecessary oh my god i'm kidding you know we

always pull through for you guys but just some days hit different than others it's not our fault like nobody decided to you know announce a pregnancy like but even that's like that's not my favorite kind of news to talk about it's actually my least favorite what's there to say congrats like some stories are just same even though they might be super interesting they're impossible to report on for more than 90 seconds like stories so happy for her yeah it's like great stories that are like pregnancy news like that like sad news what is your favorite kind of story i'm so glad you asked i love a layered story that's just that really sums you up as a person because you are a layered person.

No, I like something that like you don't really know about, but I'm an expert in like the frenemies drama. I love explaining things to you. Anything having to do with like internet drama is like where I thrive. Interesting. And if anybody wants to start any internet drama with me, I'm so down. Just let me know where we meet up and i'll start talking shit about you on the podcast tana mojo bitch oh no i'm kidding i love you but like if

you want to start beef i'll do it okay cool cool i'm jeffree star boom no i'm kidding okay please don't go for me yeah you couldn't handle it for one fucking second i feel like literally crying in my room yeah take a seat okay well I guess what are your favorite kinds of stories I don't know I'm trying to think I'm trying I honestly like I really like the Suez canal like that oh I miss those days my favorite kind of story Suez news global being a part of something global being about that is my favorite kind of news. And also like, you know, interesting. Like we're learning stuff here news. Maybe we're sharing with you.

We're giving you something to talk about at the dinner table, on a date. Like that's really my favorite kind of news. And you know what news I actually don't like is when our opinions like are not valued. Or like people like get mad at us for our opinions. Like I remember when we reported on the call her daddy situation a lot of people didn't agree with us and they were like coming for us it's like girl it's not that serious no and I also like this isn't a type of story but I really do like having um podcast news no no no that I always like yeah for sure and I don't want to say like an unpopular opinion but I really like

presenting all different sorts of opinions well you are literally like the queen of unpopular opinions land like you literally live there full-time um and I don't know if you believe those opinions or you just want to be contrarian sometimes I don't know I don't think I'm a contrarian type of person I just really think it's important to look at something from like all different POVs I agree especially with like internet stuff everyone piles onto one side and just like takes a side because that's what they heard not because like that's what they believe. Right so that's just something that's important to me. It's so important to do things that are important to you so I support you 100%. 100%. Um and so I think like we've circled the drain. Yeah let's go. We've avoided the stories as long

as we could. So without further a did it did-did-a-do, where are you? Right here being perfect on hump day, ready to be humped by his mom. It is time for the Fast Five Stories that you need to know before you wake up and take a bite out of your morning toast. Oh. Ooh. My breath smells great. Thanks to Bruce.

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years ago they made a whole statement like we will not be wearing the Duggars they canceled 19 kids and counting okay and then they gave them a show called fine teen fins and founting like they just gave them a different job so they just like kind of swerved on us and not that it's comparable but like I'm still really upset that Honey Boo Boo got canceled when the reason they got canceled was because the woman that Mama June was. I'm sorry, the man that Mama June was dating, Sugar Bear, had like gotten arrested for something fucking gross. And they like didn't even give them another chance. But like the Duggars got another chance. And it's like bring back Honey Boo Boo.

Literally the best show of all time. Sugar Bear hair care. Duggars got another chance and it's like bring back Honey Boo Boo literally the best show of all time. Sugar Bear Hair Care. I heard he was the inspiration for that brand like he was all over the mood board. Yeah 100 percent. So TLC put out a statement saying TLC will not be producing additional seasons of Counting On. TLC feels it's important to give the Duggar family the opportunity to address their situation privately. Okay so first it was 19 kids and counting that got canceled now it was counting on and now they got it canceled so what's next counting like 20 plus yeah literally like or no because they have to get rid of josh like and his wife so it's like down to 17 yeah yeah so i'm just like this is really shady of tlc because the same exact thing

they released a statement the same exact thing happened the first time it happened with josh tugger and that wasn't the end of the show so they're just like shady little liars yeah for sure you dirty little liar for sure what movie is that from i don't know but i what okay i'll do some content okay thank you you do i pop out of the sunroof of a car me girls yeah thank you really good trades you dirty little liar so honestly um great this is like an update in the case i heard that josh duggar's like hearing got pushed back to november so he's just like chilling until then um and i don't know i have no peace from this story none whatsoever and tlc like claiming to do the right thing after they really should have and could have done it and pretended to do it 10 years ago or however many years ago his first incident was i don't know this

is the morally corrupt tlc network and i don't stand for it 100 and also bring back honey boo that is really the message here yeah i think that's it i think it was like her stepdad who was acting inappropriate so just like take him off the show yeah the show's not even about him it's literally about alana and literally called honey boo boo take him off the show. Yeah. The show's not even about him. It's literally about Alana and her mom. It's literally called Honey Moo Boo. Was that what the show was called? I think so. I think so. That was,

can we just talk for a minute about how good of a show that was? Like they literally use subtitles even though everyone was speaking English. Like it was the craziest fucking show. Like true. I don't even, I don't even know.

It was just like family values. Like they were just so disgusting. like they would have mayo eating contests and like literally one of the kids like had an extra toe like it was just wild like here comes honey boo-boo that's what the show is called I bet you it's on like what's the TLC streaming platform discovery plus oh gotta sign up right that sounds right it actually doesn't sound right. It sounds right to me. Actually, it does sound right. That's like married at first sight and everything. Yeah. Yeah. So I just think, I know there's a small but mighty community of us who watched that show and who loved it. And I do believe me and our sister Olivia, like, were the two biggest fans of the

show. And I was really devastated when it got canceled. But apparently TLC has no morals, so they should just bring it back. Yeah. Honey Boo Boo's been in the news recently, too. They have no scruples. Uh about what? I don't know I just feel like she's been like doing interviews and. Good she's literally a star and like the world refuses to recognize it just because they don't she doesn't fit the prototype for what we think of a star but like she's literally gonna be the next Jojo Siwa. Like she's a star. Well she was the first. And I've been saying this for years. She was the first. Yeah like she's a star and she was the first and i've been saying this for years she was the first yeah but she's not as kid friendly as jojo sewell she like curses and shit yeah i'm just saying don't count out the boo-boo i fucking love her okay next story uh

that's so ravens kyle massey has been charged with felony for immoral communication with a teenage girl cory c Corey in the house? Yep. Washington state prosecutors accused him of communicating with a minor for immoral purposes, according to a June 14th filing obtained by E! News. The That's So Raven actor, now 29, allegedly communicated with the young girl during a two-month period between December 1st, 2018 and January 31st, 2019. The girl, who E! News has chosen not to identify by name was 13

years old at the time and is now 16. Like honestly what is with everyone? We've got Drake Bell, Josh Duggar, Kyle Massey, Jerry from Cheer. Like everyone. This is a horrible trend. What the fuck is wrong with people? I have no idea. Texting a

13 year old? What are you doing you freak? Massey allegedly believed she was a minor when he electronically communicated with her for immoral purposes of a sexual nature, quote. You know, this is like becoming something we frequently report on. Like, I just want to vomit. Like, it's disgusting. And I just want to like add it to the list of things

that I don't enjoy reporting on. Oh, I'm so glad you said that. 100% because it's really sick. It's so twisted. Like, how many different ways can you say sick, disgusting, twisted? Yeah. And I guess the theme between all the people is like they're all people who got famous when they were like kids.

Like Drake Bell, Kyle Massey, Josh Duggar. Not so much Jerry. Well he's a college. Yeah. It's just. It's so sick. And I'm really like really over reporting on this. So if everyone could just like start talking to people their own age I would really appreciate that I think that's a really

good message yeah just like you know stay in your lane like play with people your own age talk to people your own age it's so twisted and I'm so upset because I loved Cory in the house like now like that whole part of my childhood is completely ruined like and I can never re-watch that so Raven without thinking yeah so many of my childhood is completely ruined. Like, and I can never rewatch That's So Raven without thinking. Yeah, so many parts of childhood have been ruined. 100%. Seventh Heaven? Ruined.

Absolutely ruined. What else? Oh, The Cosby Show? Ruined. Ruined. We could make a whole list. We really could. Let me think.

Hold on. What was, like, really the Seventh Heaven one was, like, the big. The big one. The big one the big one yeah drop it in the comments what's been ruined for you yeah are you ready for our next story sure a little um age appropriate news thank god yes sex life co-stars sarah shahi and adam demos are dating irl okay we need to talk about sex life because I'm sure like many of you I went home hit up put up Netflix went to episode 3 minute 20 and saw a big penis yesterday. Big penis. A very big penis and I was glad that I was a part of that moment you know. Culturally. Culturally then I saw the

TikTok that everyone was experiencing this and I'm sure if you were just like innocently watching this show on Netflix, that penis hits different. Episode three, minute 20. And I was prepared, you know? Did you go back and watch some of the show? No, I did not have the time. Like I said, three podcasts, meetings, meetings, meetings yesterday, vlogging.

But you made it a priority to go home and just watch the penis. Of course, because like we said, research. We are all in on research here. Sorry we're so devoted to our jobs like it's not our fault. But I did feel like now I want to watch more of this show. I would love to get your opinion on the actual show because it's like so stupid. I know. But I did find it really interesting that these two people are dating now and I read like an article that she kind of detailed how they met. You know, we met the first day in the makeup trailer and it was just over, you know? And it's like, girl, no.

Like, we know why. We know when it was over. Just be real with us. Just about episode three, minute 20. Just be real with us, woman to woman. Like, we know. It's fine. Let's not make it something it's not.

Also, what I didn't realize, because I wasn't looking at his face when he turned around was that he is the actor from Unreal he plays like that the bachelor the Australian bachelor and he's in your least favorite movie falling in love that um Christina Millian in Netflix Netflix movie yeah yeah so is he the guy who fixes up the house or is he like the villain no I think he's the guy who fixes up the house and then they fall in love with so good he's obviously like hitting a stride recently in his work yeah no and I think I think it's cool like those movies and shows are all very similar that like Hallmark Lifetime vibe and it's like if it ain't broke don't fix it he's got a niche he does and I'm glad he also found love. Can I say that like when I put out my story yesterday,

like brand new episode of The Morning Toast is up. I talk about the 15 inch penis I saw yesterday. I got 1,000 messages from like my girlfriends and my like gay friends being like, where's his penis? I'm like, episode three, minute 20. That is so funny. I posted on my story.

I'm sure you saw like me going I was cracking up going to the show but until you got to the second story like you didn't realize that I was going to something specific so one of my friends was like tell me oh my god I've been looking for a new show should I start this yeah tell her to start an episode three minute twenty immediate responded oh okay so so they're dating let's go dating in real life also what I did watch last night I watched the first episode of too hot to handle oh what did you think i thought that everything that you said was totally on point who do you like who do you not like um love melinda obsessed i okay so as far as the guys i like so like honestly all unremarkable like i know and i just kind of

always feel that way even like when i watch love island. I just feel like they are kind of, I can't remember everyone's name, but I really like the French guy. Oh, Martin. He's so cute and really a nice guy. And I like the stripper cowboy. I think he's Englishman. I think he's Nathan. No.

No? I don't think so. Gregory? No. Charles. No. David? Matthew? Yeah, whatever whatever the blonde guy he for some reason like just totally overlooked yeah and it still is like literally it's so sad like to me

he's the hottest one yeah and no one can give less of a shit about him it's so funny like to hear like to see everyone come down you obviously form your own opinions of who you think is the best looking and then when they break off into groups and they talk about who everyone's interested in like I personally thought the girl who came in last Kayla Kayla I thought she was like so stunning and no one even mentioned her Jackie she literally might as well not be on the show it's the most shocking thing because she's the prettiest one that's crazy but then it also goes to show you how much like yes all these people are so hot to the point of like you can't even compare them. Everyone's hot.

It's all about personality. Like that's really like it's really how you differentiate yourself. How stunning is Emily? Emily is. British like really into that fuckboy cam. Green bikini when she arrived. Do you think I remember? Half up half down hair.

Still don't know. British yes. Brunette. Yeah. British. Really tall. Really tan. Yeah yeah. Stunning. Yeah. Stunning. Everyone is stunning. think I remember half up half down hair still don't know British yes brunette yeah British really tall really tan yeah yeah stunning yeah stunning everyone is stunning so you have to like be have more to you than that a hundred percent which I always find interesting I feel the same about Love Island it's like the hottest person can come down but like they don't connect with

anyone like you have to also have a personality and they're boring and that's why I think Melinda is my favorite because she's literally like maybe one of the prettiest girls I've ever seen in my life. But she's so funny. She borders on like a little annoying, which I relate to because that is my personality. But she's bubbly and she's effervescent and she's a great gal. Yeah, she really is. So I'm excited to keep watching that. I'll miss Jeff Dye, though.

I was looking forward to getting to know him more. Wasn't that funny? That was funny. And wasn't it cool how people now knew the show? Like, oh my God, we're on Too Hot to Handle, not like what? Yeah. I like that. For sure.

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Okay, cool. The Devil Wears Prada is turning 15 years old. So here are eight facts you didn't know about the movie until now. Can I guess? Sure. Anne Hathaway had to audition nine times for the role. The first one, Anne Hathaway wasn't the first choice for Andy, which we know. Scarlett Johansson was.

Rachel McAdams was. I've heard that over the year. And we spoke about that like literally last week. So but I think the other facts I personally didn't know. So I'm going to share with you. Hit me. Second one. No designers wanted to lend clothes to the movie.

The iconic costume designer Patricia Field was in charge of the film's fashion but despite her status couture houses hesitated to lend pieces for fear of upsetting the powers that be at Vogue. Oh that's actually really interesting. Isn't that an interesting fact and you know what i was watching a tiktok yesterday about a girl who used to be anna winter's assistant and it was like five things i learned here's how i got the job it's anna winter's assistant and do you know her name is anna winter no that's what the girl said it's literally winter like the season i feel like she like did that on purpose no so it's like spell it with an a yeah no I feel like she was like meant to be winter and then she liked how winter I'm just

saying like that vibe that does make sense and also I will I challenge anyone to show me a movie that was designed by Patricia Field that wasn't an iconic classic right like if I were you know an editor and they were like Patricia Field is doing a movie do you want to lend clothes I would be like 150 percent and like for what when obviously the movie about my life does hit theaters Patricia Field will be the costume designer you think so 100 percent okay she just really knows how to like capture in essence the moment yeah okay next one fact we didn't know but makes total sense Stanley Tucci was the secret weapon. Oh, of course. The script was already pretty sharp,

but Tucci took things to the next level, often improvising moments for his character that made the cast crack up. Gird your loins, as Miranda approaches, was one of them. It was an improv? Yep. Gird your loins. That's so interesting.

And he really is the best part of the movie. Who would you say is your favorite character in the movie? I really like, okay, I need to think about it I do like I love Stanley Chuchi obviously because also like when when you sit next to him on a plane one time and then you did not sit next to him on the plane you just sat next to a bald man and then you watch the movie like it does hit different no it does Jackie okay you did not you were in coach I think I was in I was in economy plus and I think I sat next to the guy from Kingsman I do fine if we're being honest okay yeah let's be honest because it's so important but there's nothing to say that it wasn't Stanley Tucci no there's facts to say I

really had three witnesses me Margo and Olivia I think it was Merlin from the Kingsman I really do okay I actually could see that yeah um no okay so we can't decide who our favorite is but I think it was Merlin from the Kingsman I really do okay I actually could see that yeah um no okay so we can't decide who our favorite is but I think we can all decide who our least favorite is three two one Adrian Grenier and he actually did an interview recently about how like how we've all grown up with this movie now 15 years later and we realized like her boyfriend was so not supportive and like kind of an asshole and she like bent over backwards for him and he did an interview and he was like yeah no like you know what's his name in the movie matt nate nate wow good memory nate was like really immature he hadn't developed yet like they did this whole interview like on how the character was low-key like the fucking worst yeah he thought he made a grilled cheese so all

is forgiven yeah that's like eight dollars of jarlsberg like okay well don't be wasteful you eat it she's watching her weight like don't be a dick yes be supportive don't be temptation she's on a wellness journey no like yeah i can literally write like a dissertation on nate 100 so toxic but i do think if he had been played by someone else he would have come off better i i do think that adrian grenier like and i've i really have i love entourage he has such an annoying face i really like entourage i hate vinnie chase hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate loathe entirely like literally fucking hate the worst character on planet earth and i'm obsessed with mark walberg and vinnie

chase is like loosely based off of mark walberg not even loosely and like it makes me think if I was ever in a room with Mark Wahlberg, like we would knock it along. No. And that upsets me. I just think like everything Adrian touches ruins. He ruins straws. Ruined. Look at me here with my plastic straw tumbler coming soon.

Are you ready for our next fact? Mm-hmm. Miranda Priestly's office was a dead ringer for its inspiration. Okay. That makes sense. He was able to recreate the office so authentically that the designer was told Anna redecorated hers immediately after the movie came out. Do you think that like that's her cross to bear?

That movie? Well, probably. But I feel like she comes off in the movie. Not bad. Really? Like that's what you would expect from the editor. A vote. She's like harsh, like, that's what you would expect from the editor. A vote. She's like harsh,

but she's not cruel. And like, I feel like Miranda, because it is a movie, like she has those moments of humanity. Do you think Meryl Streep has ever been to the Met Gala?

Or since that movie came out? Or do you think she's like banned? Because that was a brave thing to do, to play Anna Wintour. So brave. I don't know if I could do it. I'm Googling right now. Like do any pictures come up of her at the Met Gala? Meryl Streep Met Gala. She will attend her first ever Met Gala next May and that was in November of 2019. So she never got to go. So

yeah she's never been to a Met Gala. That's actually really interesting. That is really interesting. Wow. I guess Anna doesn't seem like the type of person who she does seem like the type of person who holds grudges. Yes, but this next fact is that Anna Wintour had a sense of humor about it. Despite the biting parody of her intimidating workplace persona, the cast and crew remembers her poking a little fun at herself during the premiere. She sat right in front of me and David with her daughter and wore Prada. I remember her daughter nudging her through the screen like they got that right. Oh. And years later, Meryl Streep filmed a video for Vogue in Anna's office, in which the two women made a few subtle nods to their shared history. Oh, okay, okay.

So it's all good. So it's all good. Okay. So Anna went to the premiere. I didn't know that. Yeah, I didn't know that either. Do you think Anna... And she wore Prada.

Oh. Because the devil wears Prada. Do you think that Anna and Lauren Weisberger the girl who wrote the book are cool well if you read when life gives you lululemons like Emily who's based on her no she's Andy no it's Emily who wrote the book the Andy character no Emily wrote Devil Wears Prada oh that's a good question Andy I think yeah she was like a writer girl yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah and then she wrote a different book from Emily's perspective where Emily is in good graces with Anna Anna but Lauren Weisberger is the Andy character yeah and there's no mention of Andy really when life gives you lululemons is a really

good book it is a really good book and I think everyone should read it and not read the one after it. She wrote Devil Wears Prada then an Emily POV after Vogue and it was really good called When Life Gives You

Lululemons and then some random fucking book that just came out and it stinks. Yeah. Sorry. Speaking of Emily

Emily Bunsen's comfort was key. The shoes had to be punishing in keeping with the high fashion world of Vogue but which meant that Blunt and Streep were always excited for their close-up any chance Meryl and I had I know we were in Uggs in most of the shots from the waist up cool I love Emily Blunt oh do you know the most best thing ever I feel like a lot of people don't

know this Emily Blunt has a sister yes her sister is married to stanley chuchi yes felicity blunt or whatever that's such a fabulous little hollywood what no i when i was sitting next to stanley he was going on and on about felicity sister-in-law yeah his sister-in-law and her sister yeah no for sure yeah so so i just feel like a lot of people didn't know that. Do you think they met? I think I did. Do you think they met 15 years ago, like on the set through Emily? I actually do think that.

I think it could be possible. They did. Okay, that should be a fact in this factory. Yeah, this, oh, the shoes we wore. Who fucking cares? It's like this person had two good facts about the movie, and then they had to put together a listicle, and they're like, what's the least we could do eight facts totally I'm gonna give you the last two

which was Meryl Streep went method for the role and regretted it um she in attempt to make herself more intimidating on screen she removed herself from the cast's interaction she says it was a horrible I was miserable in my trailer I can hear them all rocking and laughing I was so depressed that's the last time I ever attempted a method acting. Oh, that's interesting. That is interesting. And then the last fact is that Adrian Grenier knows you think Nate is the villain. And it's what you just said. I was just as immature as him at the time, so I couldn't see his shortcomings. But after taking time to reflect and much deliberation online, I can realize the truth in that perspective. Okay, good. I'm so glad we're all on the same page. Yeah. No, I mean, it's such a good a good movie it's so iconic I love like fun facts about movies me too you know there weren't that many stories and you know what

Devil Wears Prada is one of those e-movies we love that I actually can stand watching like e has the rights like the license to four movies and Devil Wears Prada is one of them and when it's on I will never not watch it yeah I agree and they really do use the term love loosely though i do love the devil wears prada and you know what my favorite scene is obviously when she finally gets her makeover and then she's like walking to work and like the subway passes and she's in a new outfit she walks past a tree and there's a new outfit oh yeah like that's always good and like whenever i hear that song i can't think of anything other than Devil Wears Prada. Suddenly I, suddenly I see. This is what I want to be.

Suddenly I, suddenly I see. Why the hell it means so much to me. Suddenly. And by the way, my whole life, I thought the guy, Christian, who like takes her to Paris and like tries to kiss her and she fucks or whatever. I literally, my whole life, like you could not tell me differently, thought that was Billy Bush. We know. We know. know okay and it's not no but I could see how you it is how you thought that okay it is

yeah I was like wow good for that guy on access Hollywood are you got a real job are you ready for our fifth and final story I am okay me too good're both ready. I love being ready. Okay. Fifth and final story. Netflix acknowledges lazy viewers by allowing us to watch partially downloaded content offline. Huh? So you know when you try and download a show for your flight and not the whole thing downloads and you're like, fuck, if only I started sooner and didn't wait until I was on airport Wi-Fi. Now, if something is partially downloaded, you will be able to watch it.

This is great of course. I just really need there to be some sort of Netflix airline partnership. JetBlue has Amazon Prime Video so if you have the Prime Video app and you connect to the JetBlue Wi-Fi you can watch anything. And it's the only airline that has

that with a streaming service and it's so stupid. Everyone should have it. It's the best thing ever yeah I don't know I I but I'm that girl watching stuff on planes is like so you miss so much yes but I just have to say like this applies to me like I'm that girl like I'm I'm hot spotting my iPad to my phone while I'm boarding to try and download so this is helpful for sure for sure it's not, it's not the end. Like, there's more that can be done to help travelers watch Netflix. Maybe also, like, reducing download times. Yeah.

Things of that nature. Figuring it out. Yeah. 100%. And also, what's with, like, if you download something three times, like, you can't ever download it again? Yes! The fuck?

Says who? Yes! On my iPad, it's so annoying. Like, you've already downloaded too many things today. Like is this parental controls no no or like sometimes i download something for a flight it expires i don't watch it um the next time i'll download it again and then like it says you've exceeded the downloads like i can't download it again yeah but why yeah who made up those rules like that's kind of garbage agreed well maybe they'll hear our cries um well those are the pacify stories

and you definitely did not need to know them, but I do hope you enjoyed your time with us. I think that you probably did. And the show's not even close to over because we've got the TV recap segment. Real Housewives of New York was on last night. The ladies went to Harlem. Sonia got really drunk.

Ebony and Ramona had an insane conversation, but ended on weirdly good terms. Yeah. And we met Vernon Shaw who I actually really appreciated her energy like when she was talking to Leah about how she was literally diagnosed with cancer 13 years ago and was given four months to live and now she's 13 years in remission and how she just has like this whole new lease on life she's like I do whatever the fuck I want like I don't care what anyone thinks about me I'm like I live for your energy and is she friend of or because she goes on the trip to Salem. Yeah. And Salem's next week. Yeah. Oh,

so maybe she's like friend of, maybe they're listening to our cries and bringing in more people. There's such a desperate need for new people. Um, and I feel like she's an interesting gal. Like I did enjoy her. I enjoyed her a lot. I thought she was really funny and I I'm glad that she's going on the trip because we need like new energy new personalities everything um I really can't even remember what else happened Luann had a conversation with her daughter who's now also sober for a year and a half and I guess I didn't even realize that Luann's dad struggled with alcoholism and it like definitely like runs in her family yeah when she said like he's the river that runs through my life I was like that's deep and so now Victoria being sober is like I

think really good for Luann I really I just get the vibe from Luann for the last couple seasons like she's sober on the show and then she's not sober but I don't think that's the case now I hope so but I yeah I get that vibe too but I really feel like now she tried to you know do it surface level and just like for appearances and then she really had to learn on her own and in her own way that like no she needs to be sober permanently yeah well I hope that she sticks with it because like I do really feel like she's at her best when she's sober I agree I think she's really uh like she doesn't contribute that much this season you know because she's kind of like always quiet and I feel like when the other women are getting are drinking she gets like more

anxious and like has to kind of remove herself. But she's, you know, she's Lou. That's why she was so quiet in Harlem. And like Ebony, I think, brought it up to Leah. I thought that conversation between Ebony and Leah was really interesting. And I think like Leah's the only person who Ebony trusts her opinion, I think. And because that dinner in Harlem was like fun but like kind of a bust like a lot of the women were like were bored and I think that Ebony definitely has this like huge

like burden to be the first black housewife and to just like use her platform and like be funny and interesting entertaining and also represent herself and like it's just a lot and I think that like she definitely is struggling with like the best way to do that yeah um and I thought Leah actually gave her really good advice like be yourself like do what's important to you but like also know how to like have fun with us like it's not it doesn't always have to be heavy and I think that was good advice and I think Ebony was like definitely struggling it must be like a lot of pressure to like be the first black housewife also with a bunch of women who are like not adept on really what's going on in the world like they do really live in their own bubble so I think it's a bunch of women who are like not adept on really what's going on in the world like they do

really live in their own bubble so I think it's a lot of pressure and I think she was going you know like having a hard time finding the right balance but I think she gets there oh for sure and I also think that overall like she's an awesome housewife like I genuinely really enjoy everything that she brings to the show like her commentary confessionals her cavalier her brew was quaking she's a really cute dog oh my god brew was so excited to see a fellow cav on the show and when she said at her election party that like leah's dog misbehaving like made her dog misbehave like that actually is what happens like i 100 agree and support her that's gonna be this weekend yeah like brew is such a bad influence but he's so sweet no and brew's not as bad as angel no angel was on the table like

biting Leah's nose no brew would never brew would never no he just gets excited and pees his pants like if things happen things happen he's young but yes I agree I feel like there's so much to Ebony like we don't even know yet like and honestly I've been saying this for a while like we need elegant rich housewives and that's literally what Ebony is like her home is so stunning it looks like a hotel room yeah stunning so like I think there's more to Ebony I think she feels a lot of pressure in the position position that she's in and rightfully so um but when Ramona when they were taking a picture at the Harlem party and Ramona was like I don't like this we're just like white and black it was like it was honestly so awkward and justice for Ebony's friend Natalie who like has been now at two of these events with these

crazy fucking women and you could just see her face she's like what is going on here yeah no when they first it they aired that and then it went right to commercial i was like what did you just say i was like did you really just say that and then when they aired it again i guess it was like well received by the group yes because i was like how is everyone going to receive this comment like it's very awkward and uncomfortable but everyone was cool everyone was cool it was funny um also i just wanted to say one more thing i actually think um a cash trip even though they just got back from the Hamptons I think a cash trip is exactly what they need and somewhere that's like not someone's home like maybe they're in a hotel or a house where it's not like it's Ramona's turf it's not anyone's turf it's just like we are going on a trip we're going to have

fun you know I don't have to like worry about doing things your way like Leah can say whatever she wants at the Salem Hotel like I think that that's actually what they need I did catch up because I was really behind and I just have to say like the way Leah treated Heather Thompson in the Hamptons was so vile and disgusting and I just we breezed right past it because I think Heather went on that trip realized she does not want to be friend of it it's not worth it I think she's done filming like literally for the rest of the season and I'm just annoyed because like Leah really owes her like a very deep apology I saw a headline this morning actually page six that Leah said like she might

have been a little hard on Heather especially because Ebony like did miscommunicate what Heather said yeah and I felt awkward for Ebony because she started the whole thing when she like misunderstood what Heather had said and regurgitated it in a different way to Leah yeah I guess leah was on watch what happens live and she said i was definitely hard on her um she was like uh when she walked to show back she didn't actually hear the word dumb so she was like i was like oops well i think that like she like really ran leah off the show as far as heather and that's as far as what i know just from like reading tabloids and stuff like i don't think Heather makes a return and I don't think Heather even goes through is gonna

go to the reunion and I wouldn't either I wouldn't either like so she's never gonna get the apology she rightfully deserves I totally agree and that's what's so confusing about Leah because sometimes she is so on the money and then other times it's lunacy yeah no and she was actually really um in a good space on watch up and live last night she wore a free britney shirt sony was literally the star of the show if anybody knows where her earrings are from like please i need them um and i i really do get enjoy her getting to like explain herself but you're right like she's been so out of control but she is going through something her grandma did die like while she was in the hamptons like that fucking sucks yeah that really sucks and of course like i'm glad that they mentioned maybe she felt like she

shouldn't have come yeah but not that that would have made any difference and also like this is leah's job and she has to work and so i'm sure she would have just also felt anxiety and that's what she said on watch drop inside because everyone's been saying like why'd you go to hampton she's like this is an obligation like we are an ensemble cast we're not that big like it is my job yeah okay i appreciate that she said that. And so she has a family of 40 people. So they couldn't because of COVID all be at the grandma's house. They had to rotate anyway. Pertinent information.

And so I want to be able to move on from her behavior in Hampton towards Heather, because I do think like she was at her absolute worst. Um, and I do think that sometimes, you know, I don't want to give anyone a pass, but like, yeah, no things happen and you react and you're in a bad place. But that can't happen without a major apology to Heather that I don't think the opportunity will present itself. Because Heather's done with this group. Yeah.

So moving forward, like I do feel like there is a foundation for good stuff to happen, but like there's just really been nothing meaty or juicy or even remotely interesting and I just like need things to happen I feel like Ramona and Sonia are bubbling up I feel like they're not in a good place I think that Ebony and the new Housewife Burnin' Shaw like I don't think they get along that's just the vibe that I got like I need something I need yeah conflict conflict drama fighting sides everyone's fighting take a side throw a drink like something I agree also I just want to say because I think I said on this show that I thought the pageant was going to be like so stupid and I have to say like I was smiling from ear to ear I thought it was hysterical I thought it was funny too I didn't think Leah deserved to win I thought

Sonya Morgan 100% deserved to win and I'm just I'm glad that Lou told us that like Leah was on purpose and I just thought it was actually a really fun fun activity. And I was being a hater. And it was cute. It was a cute idea. Like that's what you had to do last year. Like get fucking creative with your friends. Yeah. In a basement.

And that's what they did. You do what you got to do. All right. Final segment of the show is Dear Toasters, our advice segment where you can write into deartoasters at gmail.com anytime and do what you do. Write to us. Tell us what you're going through.

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Thank you for that, Claudia. All right. First off, I love you both. The morning toast has become the 45 minutes of my 9 to 5 every day, and for that, I love you. Here's my predicament. The other day, I was telling my boyfriend that I was feeling fat and insecure in a swimsuit around his friends, family, et cetera.

He responded by saying, no, you're just my tubbly bunny. I think she meant to say tubby bunny. Now I would like to qualify that he often speaks in a joking voice and calls me nicknames when he's trying to be cute. However he proceeded to poke my stomach and call me tubbly over and over again. While I managed to maintain my composure in the moment I cried as soon as I got home because he made me feel fat. Normally I find this behavior cute but this time it hurt my feelings and I don't know how to address it without damaging damaging a fun dynamic in our relationship how would you proceed should I just rub it off as a joke or chew him out doesn't the adjective tubbly make me sound like a whale I appreciate you both a desperate toaster who fear swimsuit season what is tubbly I don't know like I thought you meant

tubby tubbly I don't know but she said tubbly twice. Three times. I'm going to look it up. Hold on. Okay. And I definitely think that there's, let me see what she said again. Can I read that? Tubbly. No, no, not that.

I just want to see how she phrased her question. Should I rub it off as a joke or chew him out? There is so much in between rubbing it off as a joke and chewing him out. By the way, Urban Dictionary says tubbly is an individual who is not fat, but has an unsymmetrically shaped stomach, creating the illusion that they are indeed a fat ass this website is so disgusting like i can't i can't that's regardless it's really hurtful and i think you just need to tell him yeah it also depends what kind of relationship you have because like

if you are have the type of like conflict resolution where like something upsets you you bring it up and you resolve it, then you should do that. I get that there's like probably a little bit more like you feel embarrassed, but you got to bring it up. Yeah, no, this is your relationship. This is your boyfriend. This is a crossroads and this is a very good indicator how he receives this. If he respects your feelings, like if that,

you should move forward in your relationship. Not saying that necessarily you'll break up over this if you let him know, but like the way that he responds to you telling him that something hurts your feelings and like can you please stop I think is really important to know so I would just like sit him down be like I know you probably don't mean anything by it like you don't have to chew him out like I know you probably don't mean anything by it but it actually kind of hurts my feelings and doesn't make me feel any better about how I was already feeling so if you could please stop calling me that I would appreciate it because if you guys do have this like jokey kind of candor he might not know that he crossed the line yeah so unless you tell him there's no way that he knows I feel like

I've been that person before I'm always coming up with like nicknames and all these different things and I definitely I feel like someone has said to me please don't call me that I'm like yeah definitely and I don't think it's like awkward or anything. I think you just have to set boundaries. And I also feel like the longer you let it go, the more ingrained it is and it's harder to correct. Yeah. You know? And it's just going to eat away at you.

So just get it out. But don't be mad at him because I don't think he did it with bad intentions. I don't think so either. All right, next up. This is a long one. Dear Jackie and Claudia, let me start off by saying your podcast is one of the best parts of my day. You two both make me smile and are just so great.

Dear Toasters is also such premium content and it's kind of bittersweet that I'm now writing and asking for your advice. Anyways, here's the situation. My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years and started doing long distance over the past year as we both started university in different states. The other day I was on his laptop watching YouTube videos. Snooping. And I came across a recently visited webpage. OnlyFans.

Of course, I couldn't ignore this and I clicked the link. The user login was already signed in under a name. John Mitts. Which is not the name of my boyfriend. And was subscribed to six girls with OnlyFans. And had ongoing messages with the accounts. Eek. I was originally shocked and disgusted with this uncovering.

It felt so personal because we have such a good sex relationship, even with the long distance. And it really hurt that he was seeking some, this sort of thing from other girls. I was so furious and I left him a note on his laptop saying nice only fans account while he was out of the house. Since uncovering the account, I called him out and gave him a strong piece of my mind.

He was embarrassed and now feels extremely guilty trying to make it up to me in any possible way. He told me he only watches it when we are in an argument. That's worse. I still feel humiliated and my self-worth has taken a hit. I don't feel good enough for him now and I'm questioning a lot of things. He was aware of my insecurities and I can't believe he would engage in this. He's already sometimes controlling over what I wear and he can get jealous when I have guy friends. The thing is, I've never given him a reason to doubt my loyalty,

and I am not a girl who puts herself out there. What's your take on the situation? Would you continue to brush things under the rug? I'm looking for a non-biased opinion and would greatly appreciate any insight. Signed, a very bitter and confused toaster. My unbiased opinion is this guy fucking sucks. This is so layered, because first of all, it was just the OnlyFans thing. I think this is like a very real issue.

Because I'm inclined to say like these girls are the OnlyFans. Like to them, like your boyfriend is just one million. Like there is no romantic thing happening. Like it's really akin to watching porn. But the messaging. How would you feel if your husband had an only fans account with like six girls that he was like messaging but the messaging is just like part of the no it's no it's not like that's the thing i think the subscribing to six honestly they say

like only fans is a really really good alternative to free porn you're paying the people like creators 100 so i would actually say this now but like if i opened ben's laptop and he was subscribed to like supporting a couple only fans as a couple creators as opposed to watching free porn i would think he was a great guy and the messaging is what i really don't like because you pay for content and that's what the service is on only fans messaging is not included in that so building a relationship that's what the service is on OnlyFans messaging is not included in that so building a relationship that's really where the betrayal is yeah I agree and then also and then what you said then you said some other stuff that was a red flag more so than the OnlyFans because I think

I think a lot of couples it's a gray area it's a hurdle that a lot of a lot of couples are gonna have he controls what you wear and jealous of your guy friends this guy sounds like bad fucking news especially when he's philandering on his laptop all that all the time. Yup. I really don't like this man. My unbiased opinion is like each time, like girl, find someone where you live.

You'll be so much happier not being in a long distance relationship and find someone who respects you. Like based on your, the way that you frame things, like it sounds like this was a high school relationship that now is a college relationship. Cause you said university. And I do think that high school relationships, there's a time and a place and it's in high

school and it's time to move on. It's definitely time to move on. You need to expand your wings. If the two of you are meant to be together, you'll get back together. But like fly. Yeah. Also, I kind of feel like he's kind of manipulative. Like when you called him out on it, he's just like trying to make it up.

Like he just, I don't know. I get bad vibes. Yeah, me too. I'm sure you actually trying to make it up like he just I don't know I get bad vibes yeah I'm sure you actually tried to make him sound good yeah a hundred percent I think it's time to let it go get on hit hinge or whatever no just go to like your campus bulletin all right you're in college oh no you don't even need a new boyfriend like go live like you're in college girl that's what I'm saying you've been in a long distance relationship like girls gotta get laid like it's time all right third and final one hey Claude Claude and Jax hang it on. So I have a bit of a dilemma. One of my best friends is getting married next year and when we were hanging out the other day she told me she wants to be a part of her wedding but just not as a bridesmaid but still

do everything with them and wear the same color as them which I was totally fine with until she told me that she's having 10 bridesmaids and I'm the only one out of the friends that isn't in the wedding. She tried explaining herself but honestly she made things worse as she would go on to say, I'm not as close with so-and-so, but they would be devastated if they weren't in my wedding. And I know that you would be more understanding. Honestly, at this point, I just don't want to be a part of it, especially not wearing the same color as the bridesmaid.

I feel like that's really odd. Should I talk to her about it or just stick it out and be the weird girl at the wedding that's trying to be a bridesmaid? Help a toaster who doesn't want to be known as the wannabe bridesmaid. This is fucking rude. I would say, I'm say i'm just like these these quantities are bothering me today because everyone just is out here acting so disrespectfully towards our precious toasters i would say eat my ass okay i'm not spending money on your bachelorette party i'm not getting a dress in the color that you want just so i can be fucking disrespected one out of out of 10 girls

this is so like this is a chutzpah dick thing to do like i think you say i'm not interested i'm happy to come to the wedding as a guest but i'm not interested in this weird alternative plan you have to make me feel bad and to make your losery friends feel good like i'm out of here do not do this like that would make you the biggest fucking doormat of all time do not do this stand up for yourself have some self-respect do not do this don't do if you write us an update and you tell us you did this like I'll be so disappointed in you don't do it like it's so fucking rude like it isn't a a thing where like you have your bridesmaids and then you have people who come on your back side who you're like close with and want to celebrate with but like you're

not that they're they're not that close well or you just have your your group your number is too big but it's never just one person and that those people don't wear the color dress yeah I guess like at my wedding I had a lot of people come on my bachelorette party just because like I wanted more of the merrier and they all came to the wedding they didn't walk down the aisle they didn't wear the color but I think that's fine no that's what I did too okay okay yeah I think that that's fine I think that a bachelorette party like is really fun the more the merrier truly the more the merrier but to ask them to wear a specific color dress and then be the only one not walking down the aisle I would say go fuck yourself I actually like this

is so hurtful I wouldn't even go to the wedding no I would I would rip her a new one but that's just like the mood I'm in right now some girls just get so fucking wild when they're brides and then I'm sure she'll show the text to her friends and be like, could you believe she said this to me? Like, it's my wedding. So by the way, make sure to say it nice. Be like, honestly, I really don't feel comfortable with this. I'm happy just to come as a guest.

So you don't, put it on her so you don't have to make that hard decision. So you don't, and put something in about the other friends so that if she shows it to the other friends, she's getting herself in trouble. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, say, I know you don't want to let Emily, Cara, and Sarah, put them in by name so that when you, so that she can't screenshot it and send it to other people without making herself look bad.

I know you said Emily, Cara, and Sarah shouldn't be bridesmaids, but you don't want to hurt their feelings because they can't handle it because they're weak women unlike me. So, and then make it seem like you're, I'll take the burden off of you. Like, you're the hero here. You're the martyr. And honestly, like, not being in someone's bridal party is such a gift. Like it's such torture to be a bridesmaid.

I would start off the text saying, no offense, but that's horseshit. That's how I would start it. And then list your reasons and make sure to reference Emily, Kara, and Sarah. By name, first and last, Emily Jones. So that she can't send it to the group. A hundred percent. Genius. And that's can't send it to the group. 100%. Genius. Genius. And that's our show.

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