The Toast - We've Been Stumped: Wednesday, June 14th, 2023

Episode Date: June 14, 2023

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Good morning, Millennials! Welcome back to The Toast and happy Wednesday, everyone. Hope you're all having a blessed and juicy and delicious and scrumptious hump day. Speaking of scrumptious, hey Jax, how you durn? I'm durn good, thanks for asking. That's a really sensual intro. Have you been watching too much of The Idol? I actually have not seen even one mere minute of The Idol, and based on everyone's reactions i

feel as though i've made the right decision i was chuckling yesterday at your episode with the satchel when you guys were going quote per quote it did you die i would i was dying honestly i'm like grateful that i had that story when um counselor was on because like we can laugh about it you would have like not been okay if we had to say that like yeah no but I thought you guys said it really tastefully I understood the words that you were meaning to skirting around yeah I thought you guys handled it like a bunch of pros with grace and elegance you would say with grace and elegance but I would expect nothing less you know what was not graceful and elegant what the period talk ladies yeah so we we kind of go wild when you're out like all the rule the rule book is thrown out the window when Jax is taking a day off

and that means we just go kind of crazy yeah it was a lot of period it actually like wasn't a lot of period oh my god I hope the mic picked that up I hope the mic picked that up. I hope the mic picked it up too. I think it did. Screaming for mama. Mama. No, it wasn't a lot. It was just like more than what we do. Listen, I probably say this on a monthly basis now. And I feel like you guys are like if I never said anything about talking about periods,

like you wouldn't feel the need to talk about them. But it's because I told you you can't. That now you're like rebelling and it's like, oh, she's not here. Let's Talking about periods. Like you wouldn't feel the need to talk about them. But it's because I told you you can't. That now you're like rebelling and it's like, oh, she's not here. Let's talk about periods. And I swear I say this once a month because that's how periods work. But I do feel as though it's important when the listeners know that I am on my period. Like if people are like, wow, Claudia was like kind of rude today. Like, yeah, I'm on my period. Fuck all the way off.

That part I do understand. Yeah. I just feel like when people know us as intimately as they do spend an hour with us every day if a couple days a month I'm like not being myself there is a an actual biological reason and to not let people know that is to not let them know the full story and that's not me being a transparent and authentic influencer you know what you're speaking facts I'm feeling convinced you know you ever get comments people being like were you okay today like no bitch I authentic influencer. You know what? You're speaking facts. I'm feeling convinced. You know, you ever get comments, people being like, were you okay today? Like, no, bitch, I was on my period. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Not for me. Like I've had three periods in the last two years, but yeah. So funny enough, I was actually thinking about your menstrual cycle on my way to dinner last night,

just thinking like, how many periods has this bitch had in the last two years? So I had three periods. I can't believe you brought me down to your level. No, but you know what, Jackie? We are a podcast that uplifts women. And you know what? Women get periods. It's true.

Okay. I had three periods in between pregnancies because I didn't get my period while I was breastfeeding. Right, right, right. Wow. So you've had three periods in the last breastfeeding. Right, right, right. Wow. So you've had three periods in the last two years and that's why you get pregnant. And that's how Sue sees it. No, but I would say that the hormonal changes and bodily changes that come with pregnancy are much more extreme than just a lethal period. So when I hear you bitches complaining. I'm like, sure. Sure. Sure.

Listen, you know, all of our problems are problems, you know? Are valid. Are valid. Yes. Yeah. Sure. Sure. I went to a fabulous restaurant last night, like a new hot spot in town.

It was so cute. It was so good. It was called Teresi. And it was just like a gorgeous night out in NYC. I really felt like Carrie Bradshaw like running around in my kitten heels. Were you wearing kitten heels? I was wearing like a like a block sandal. So yeah, they were like a little kitten. Cute. Yeah. What'd you eat? Such a good question. I had this it was like, you know, tapas style. Like you just get like a bunch of little things and everybody shares it. it so me and Brian he got like a bunch of appetizers that weren't just not my vibe like this

oyster cake it was just not gonna happen for me um but for entrees we got a penne tortellini pomodoro which was scrumdiddlyumptious sounds rich and we split um chicken. It was very good. Great. Yeah, I love discovering new places in my hometown. Where was the restaurant located? Mulberry Street. Wow. I went all the way down. She went downtown.

Downtown. And then I came home, watched 1989 World Tour, a little bit of Young Sheldon, and went to sleep. I finished Love and Death last night. Oh my God, what did you think? I thought it was really good. So crazy. Spoiler alert. Yeah.

Spoiler alert that she was not guilty, but... She wasn't guilty. That was the thing. And that's what I feel like the show did a good job of. Like she was nuts and she was so wrong for sleeping with that girl's husband. But in the actual crime, it was self-defense. Like Betty brought the ax out not once but twice. Betty swung first.

But the thing is like we still only have her version of events. Yes. And so the show really did like obviously take her side because they showed us her version of events as the truth. That like Betty swung first. So I guess we just all have to believe that. And also like if it was self-defense, like why didn't she just call the cops? And why did she leave the baby in the duty all day?

Oh my God. Okay. The baby. That episode. There should be jail time for that. That episode gave me such bad anxiety. Of course. And they were all looking for Betty.

It's like, yeah, of course, Betty. But the baby, I was like, well, you know, Candy's a mom. She probably like changed a diaper, put the kid down, gave him a snack before she left. Like that's literally what I thought because I'm like, there's no way. And then I was like, the baby, the baby, the baby. And then they finally like addressed the baby

when all those neighbors. And you know what? I feel like that episode was a really good example of why you should always be nice and know your neighbors. Yeah, that for sure. But also there needs to be a crime for her leaving a baby alone unattended for like 12 hours a hundred percent i completely agree jail time i also thought one of the craziest parts and then a separate jail time for cavaliers for the cavaliers left abandoned

the strether and thank god they had each other thank god they had each other and thank god they were outside so they could like shit and poop but they just were probably hungry the body oh my god totally but i thought strice would never he would never eat his mommy i thought also one of the crazier parts was the end where they you know gave updates on what happened to everyone in real life after the trial wrapped and the lawyer who ran for governor and then ended up committing suicide I was like shook yeah I thought Candy and him were gonna end up together because they were both kind of like diabolical yeah they were really crazy really crazy I thought um everyone's like it was really Emmy worthy acting for Landry for Elizabeth the only thing about Landry is that like to me he's so lovable Landry the man

that he made Alan Gore really likable whereas then even in the small snippet they gave us about him at the end of the show that like he remarried soon after the grandparents adopted the kids so he wasn't even a father like maybe he wasn't like the best guy because I weirdly was feeling like even though he's cheating on his wife like he's still a good husband no no I know he was like he was kind of harmless even though he was doing harmful things and I really did feel like she totally like rope I mean she did rope him into the affair like yeah like it would have been so hard for him to say no and it was and he tried to say no for so long and then even that night when he like knew something was up with Betty and he kept calling the house oh my god go home no I was

just like well you don't expect that it's the absolute worst thing yeah and I also guess like if that happened today everyone would be like quaking but with nobody had unless you were home you couldn't be reached by phone yeah but like if you're like an absent husband, like you don't notice if you don't hear from your wife for 12 hours. Yeah. Yeah. So when he like kept calling the house, I was just like, you know what? In his own weird way, he is a good husband.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I did feel like there was just one kind of like loose end that I was confused on. Okay. How when Alan stood trial, like he kind of lied when he said the affair like ended completely clean Candy didn't want anything else from him like Candy did like Candy was vocal about her feelings for him and like he just couldn't take the plunge I felt it felt like he lied

well I feel like Candy in her like soul was like kind of wanting more and she would talk to Sherry and like we knew that she was like just saying certain things but didn't mean them but to Alan like she tried oh I guess they had that fight in the diner and then in the park hmm yeah but it did end and then ended like maybe when it ended yeah it was like a breakup combo but then like it was eight months later and it wasn't like she was following him around town how like sad and cute and sweet was Pat. Like at first he was kind of the villain because he wasn't like the most adoring, doting husband. But then like when shit got rough

and she was like still so terrible to him, he was such a good husband and dad. And the fact that they ended up getting divorced is not surprising, but like it was sad. Yeah, not surprising. It was a really good show. It was a good show.

We enjoyed it. It was like a perfect length I didn't need any more than that seven episodes I don't know what's next for me but I've been reading a lot I think I'll wait to get into like another bingey show because also like I just hate the feeling of when you're so in a show that like you just keep wanting to like run back to the tv and watch and it's like there's life to be lived you know there's children to parent. Yeah, there's bed to be rested on. I remember that. Like, I can't be watching TV all day. Yeah, yeah.

I actually didn't watch any TV yesterday. I was just, like, so booked and busy. I went to the dentist, finally. I've just been, like, putting that off. Got my teeth cleaned. I'm feeling good. I'm feeling fresh. Your shiny teeth and you?

My shiny teeth and me. Yeah. They look nice and shiny. Thanks. That's the thing about teeth cleaning. Like you get out of the chair and you expect to like look like Vanna White, you know, like new veneers. And they really look the same because like cleanliness is not about color.

Yeah, that is very true. And they were like, you want us to polish? I was like, oh yeah, give me a polish. I was like, I'm going to walk out. But like Ross, when he gets his teeth white and like blinding people in the streets. No. Did you talk to your dentist about whether veneers are right for you? I didn't. Although he is a cosmetic dentist. So I know that like, if I want to, you know, change my whole face and get veneers one day, I will be going to him.

But you know, I have so many issues with my body. And shockingly, my teeth are not one of them. Like, yeah, my teeth aren't like perfection like veneers but they're literally fine yeah but they're just like and for me too I just feel like excuse me no this is for this goes for me too I feel like until you have veneers you don't have adult teeth so I actually I'm like refusing to subscribe to this like Hollywood narrative this beauty standard for veneers like no you you can be beautiful and have like normal teeth my teeth are so normal watch I'm literally gonna replay this episode in a year when I have like a full set of veneers I know I'm so immature we had this

conversation like a year ago yeah I don't know if we'll ever get veneers but the thing is I don't know I feel like sometimes like we're like George Washington just like running around with our natural teeth. Who do we think we are? No, I know. We're so natural. We're so George. Well, the thing is I don't really see a world in which I do get veneers because A, like I just genuinely like think it's too expensive. And B, it's the longest, most painful procedure where you're like fully awake for it. Like honestly, no. Okay.

Like I have such a low tolerance to like put up with pain and just tedious like no yeah like I plan on getting a breast augmentation one day and yeah I know that's really painful but I'm asleep bitch like bye no and like that's that's worth it that's been bothering you just to get veneers just to keep up you're like trying to goat me into getting veneers and like I'm not I'm gonna be I'm George till the day I die yeah no I'm not trying to go you I'm just it's kind of just like the elephant in the room with us that we like walk around with our natural teeth and but like doesn't everyone like I refuse to be I will not be insecure about my teeth like my teeth are fine yeah and you can always just keep your mouth closed but that's really

no if there's like a list of things I want to change on my body I would say teeth 30 okay I don't even think about my teeth ever I see a picture I'm like what a gorgeous smile that girl has yeah I don't think about my teeth ever but maybe I should be thinking about them more no you shouldn't like no no I mean, I shouldn't and I won't be. I'm just saying. No, don't just say. We're fine. Okay.

My shiny teeth and me. So we've got a great show today. We've got stories. We've got dear toasters. And two of them really made me chuckle when I was reading them this morning. So I can't wait to give. I'll give a little teaser, okay? So, you know, you don't off but before the end of the episode

there is a situation um and I think it's a it's a kind of a divisive topic about people who kiss their parents on the lips okay and we'll talk about it more okay can't wait to talk about that I haven't done deer toasters in a few weeks so I'm excited to help our girlies oh yeah I love doing deer toasters with you like no one no knows, no one rules with an iron fist quite like Jax. So true. Although I will say last week, Joey Camasta actually did give some, like, I expected him to be, like, funny and crazy. But he also gave some, like, actually really good advice.

Joey Camasta's, like, kind of Hamish. Joey Camasta's, like, kind of everything. Well, that's true. Mm-hmm. Yeah. So, I guess, anything else you want to chit-chat about before we dive in? No, I think I'm all caught up. Okay.

And I'm looking forward to what the stories have to bring for us in. Actually, wait, wait, sorry. Before we get into that, last night I was driving to dinner, and I passed a restaurant called Mama Dew's Kitchen. And I'm like, Theo's mom has a restaurant? You got to keep him far away. I think we should do a Patreon where we go and eat there. Mama Do's Kitchen.

Do you know what kind of food it was? No, I just drove right past it. Mama Do's. I feel like Ben would go there. It was giving like all American. I think the sign had like a picnic table pattern. Like it was giving very barbecue, like all American vibes. Was Do's spelled D-U or D-O?

D-U. Oh, so it was authentic. Do-da-do. Do-da-do. How is Dew? Amazing. Like just lifting the spirits. Are you going to bring him over today?

Sure. Yeah, right? Yeah. For the Shredderin. Let Shredderin ring. Let the Stryspro sing. That's such a good song. I know.

It's a day of reckoning. Who sings that? Martina McBride. Fucking queen. Like ASPCA. Question mark. Sorry. I think.

No, it's definitely giving martina mcbride but there's like a few country women who like give martina mcbride energy you know sarah mclaughlin is another one i disagree i think she kind of stands alone martina mcbride no i'm sorry sarah mclaughlin is aspca hold on yes she is freedom and that's not martina. Let the white doves sing. Let the whole world know that today. Martina. What's the song called? Independence Day.

Independence Day. Yeah. But there's actually like a few songs called Independence Day and they're all so good. Your Independence Day. Yeah, that's like if you title your song Independence Day, it'll probably be good. What do you think is the number one Martina McBride song? The one about this one's for the girls. Yeah, I agree.

This one's for the girls. Yeah, it's so good. Now I'm on Martina McBride's Wikipedia. She has three children, beautiful daughters. You're on Martina McBride TikTok. Are you okay? Martina? You're on Martina Mccbride are you okay martina you're on martina mcbride tiktok literally she's 56 she's a leo and it's actually uh independence day is martina

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wanting to get healthy i was like i know i need to start drinking more water so i bought one and i was like gonna buy stanley because that's what everyone had I'm like not this thing being like $60 for a water bottle so I went on Amazon and I just bought like a bottle with a straw from like Simple Human it was literally $12 and it was amazing and I had no problems with it it kept my beverages cold then when I just did I went on a brand trip and in like the little gift bag there was a Stanley I was like oh well now I can be like all the girlies and this one was like cool neon one. So I brought it home with me. And I've been using it ever since.

And you know what? It really is that bitch. Like it keeps that shit ice cold. Like this water is from last night and it's freezing. Wow. I kind of need a Stanley because I need to be drinking more water. I was actually just going to get a water bottle on Amazon, like get one of the ones that are like hourly, like those crazy ones.

But I don't need a crazy one. I just need something that's going to make it more fun for me to drink water and through a straw because then I'll drink like more passively yes and you know you could sprinkle Stanley you could sprinkle like a little crystal light in there because crystal light is drinking water it totally counts yeah no it does I just have to like look at what it's made of but yeah yeah because you're like in your clean girl era but I feel like crystal would never do that to us I feel like crystal would do exactly that like crystal is fake as fuck okay but there are also like crystal light alternatives like these new wave like mio like all these like new clean ones yeah yeah yeah or I could just like squeeze a lemon in there call it a day you know

I've done that too I do love a lemon water yeah okay I think I'm gonna get a Stanley after this I've been influenced by turdiluha I do have like one problem with the Stanley and if you have a Stanley you know what I'm talking about because like oh actually I guess right now no never mind how often do you wash it every time I go to refill it so like every few days do you can you put in the dishwasher I don't know I never have I just do a soap and a sponge and I move on with my life because there's just water in there not duty I know but I just like hate hand washing stuff oh really I actually prefer hand washing stuff because really if I throw something in the dishwasher like I will never see it again like I this is what I do I'll I'll load up the dish the dishwasher like for a few days because I'm not gonna wash like three

bowls so when there's enough stuff so let's's say I put my Stanley in on Monday. I probably won't run the dishwasher until Wednesday. And then I probably won't unload the dishwasher until Friday because Thursday I will be like, oh, I forgot to unload the dishwasher and then I'll open up the dishwasher. I'm like, you've all just been like sitting in here. Let me run it again. And then by Friday I pull it out. So it's like then I'm left five days without my Stanley if I need something like if it's I have like also this like glass mason jar thing that I drink my coffee in

like I literally do not uh dishwash it I hand wash it if I need something I cannot put it in the dishwasher the dishwasher is a black hole that is at home when I'm like home home I run my dishwasher like once or twice a day so it's not an issue but here like we have less dishes so yeah if I put something in the dishwasher like I literally I think you won't see it for a week it's still in there I don't know the last time we actually ran the dishwasher because it's not full I hate like dish I don't believe in dishwashers like there are certain New York City apartments I'm the polar like I can't speak right now because right now I'm not living like in my truth but at home like everything goes in the dishwasher

no I and I literally will like when I'm buying something new on Amazon or something like I have to make sure it's dishwasher safe otherwise I'm not getting it no I wouldn't know if that's Stanley's dishwasher safe or not it has literally never been in the dishwasher but I have to imagine it's dishwasher safe I don't know some things are dishwasher safe it's fine but it like chips away at the integrity of the thing like caraway yeah yeah like caraway I'm okay with hand washing like because it's worth I hand wash all my pans like if because I need a pan to cook and if I put in the dishwasher I'll never see her again that's really funny yeah okay well now that we've covered that let's get into the stories I think we should first up Stassi Schroeder is giving us a look inside Ariana and Katie's

sandwich shop something about her so the other night Stassi posted on Instagram she went to stop something about her with Katie Lala and Christina Kelly and they got the grand tour and like the restaurant is done so we saw the outside it has like this yellow and white striped awning super cute and then the inside is so as they described like Nancy Meyer girly swirly it's really as it's like Parisian too yeah honestly it looks like Stassi designed it I by the way Jackie I thought the same thing it looked like Stassi's aesthetic in a wall between like those framed pictures, very like Marie Antoinette.

Now, if you were, you know, an active user on TikTok, you would have saw the interior of something about her like weeks ago because there's this guy who literally goes to West Hollywood every day and like puts his phone up against the window and you saw all the furniture. So I had seen this before, but I actually hadn't seen that wall that Stassi had panned to in her Instagram story. And it was really very well done. Yeah, it was really well done.

I'm sure they're opening soon. I think someone said this in the comments of our thing, which I guess makes sense. They'll wait to open until they're filming. Yeah, even though they did say before this whole shebang was that end of May, early June, which has passed. Yeah, but they're ready to open, it looks like. Actually, you never know what's going on in the kitchen.

Just like Schwartz and Sandy's looked ready for a while, but it wasn't. But it didn't like really look ready, too. It was like kind of like defunct. Yeah, but also making sandwiches is different than like a whole ass menu bar. No, this was like I thought this was a smart idea prior to Scandival but now like everyone's team Katie and Ariana it's obviously an even better idea but like such a low lift I think they only they don't have a bar they might serve wine but like not hard liquor um it's such a low lift and it's very smart yeah I'm excited for them and I think they were actually

able because you know they were like looking for investors. I think they were able to fund it themselves because it's like a smaller project and they did all that merch and stuff to like fund it. Yeah, I think so too. I hope so. That's like, that's kind of major. Yeah. Did they say they made $200,000 in the merch?

Yes. Right. So I don't know how much it takes to open a sandwich shop, but I feel like they're in the ballpark. Especially then if they both come to the table with like a hundred grand each personally to invest in their business. Yeah, I don't know how much it costs, but it's a small spot. It has like a little cute patio in the front. I hear there's also a back patio.

This is what the guy on TikTok said. So it's not like a huge project. It was actually, you know, it's very legitimate. Yeah, and also what's so crazy is if you remember, like Katie originally wanted to open the sandwich shop with Tom like years ago, and he chose to do Swartz and Sandy's. Yeah. And then she, you know, mentioned it to Ariana, and Ariana loved the idea.

But like if Tom had played his cards differently and correctly, he'd be in a much different position. I also just want to say like for the record I still don't really like the name I don't dislike it okay what should it be called sandwich sluts obsessed um I don't know what it should be called but I just don't something about her sounds like you know a line of clothing free people would make like I don't know there's just but that seems like the vibe but that's not leaning for like a restaurant like hey you want to go grab lunch at you know subway or something like you want to go grab

lunch at something about her it's like a little long okay I don't disagree yeah like like you want to grab a jersey mics but it doesn't actively bother me. It actively bothers me. But they said it would be like, it's something about her sandwiches, you know? Oh, something about her sandwiches. Like when you're talking about the sandwiches, you're like, there's something about her sandwiches. Oh, I thought you meant like, there's something about her sandwiches. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

No, like it's a double entendre. It's like a play on words. Okay, wait, by the way, I see that. Yeah, it's like it's – I can't think of a word for it, but it's just a little like nice fairy dust. Yeah, it's not my favorite. Okay, well, maybe one day we'll go to L.A. and we can go get sandwiches. That's the other thing. Like I wish I could enjoy.

Like I don't even like sandwiches. Maybe they'll franchise. But what do you mean? They might have a nice sourdough. If they have, like, a peanut butter and jelly. I'm sure that they will have an elevated peanut butter and jelly, even though I know what you mean. Or, like, an elevated grilled cheese, probably. For sure.

Yeah. For sure. What about a grilled chicken sandwich? Love a grilled chicken sandwich. I think you should give it a chance. I will. We'll have to go to L.A. I love L.A.

When do you think we'll go to L.A. again? We? I don't know. Me, probably sometime in the next few months. But you, I don't know. No, we. L.A. Steens. L.A. Week?

L.A. Week. You know I'm always down. Like, we work around your ovulation and menstrual cycles it's true but I also feel like with us in LA like it's always a last minute affair like we don't make plans to go up to LA LA just kind of summons us yeah it's like yeah LA call Hollywood calls we've Hollywood calls and we pick up yeah so who knows when we'll go to LA could be next week well actually it could be next week it actually actually can't be next week, but. No, like, we know it won't be for, like, the next six months at least.

Yeah, yeah. So we'll see. But you know me. I love L.A. more than you. I love L.A. Yeah, Jackie weirdly, like, loves L.A. Like, I think you would live there. I think I would.

No, I wouldn't. I wouldn't live there. But I like going there so much. Like, people complain so much when they go there but the people are just like I don't know stuff I like everything about it when I go I don't but I'm also just like a hater to my core you know because you hate the people I don't like the people I don't't like the culture you know yeah

like the matcha hike culture I went in Rome turdy Lou no I did I hiked Ranyan Canyon whatever it's called it was one of the worst days of my life that's weird that you did that

why did you do that because I was with like two skinny bitches who wanted to do it I literally sat down on a bench halfway One of the worst days of my life. That's weird that you did that. Why did you do that? Because I was with like two skinny bitches who wanted to do it. I literally sat down on a bench halfway and they like went up and then came back down and picked me up on the way down. I was like, I'm done with this shit. Who were you with? Alicia and Anna. Damn.

We were like be doing L.A. things. They're like running in Canyon. I'm like, OK. That's crazy. Yeah. That you did that. Yeah. I could never get you That's crazy. Yeah. That you did that. Yeah. I could never get you to do that.

Yeah. Wow. Well, are you ready for our next story? Yeah. Because it has to do with something we were talking about on Monday, models getting married to eligible men. Victoria's Secret angel Taylor Hill married her, quote, best friend Daniel Fryer on a Colorado

ranch. Obsessed. Taylor Hill married the love of her life and best friend private equity investor Daniel Fryer near her hometown at the 6500 acre. I love when your best friend just also happens to be like a private investor and equity bank divider or whatever you said.

Yeah. A private equity investor. I just kind of love when that happens they got married at the devil's thumb ranch and resort in Colorado last Saturday the bride originally met her husband who's London born in Geneva raised at jazz fest in Aspen in 2019 and he popped the question two years later in Italy with a large emerald cut tri-diamond ring this wedding is like so Pinterest but like in a really good way. It's so chic. You know what it reminds me of?

It reminds me of 1929, the show. Like that's the vibe. I loved her look. I loved everything about it. Like they really bloomed where they were planted. It was very Colorado mountainous, and she was very whimsical and and bohemian but in a really nice looking way it was beautiful yeah it was very yellowstone coated it was not like crazy

ostentatious but it was really beautiful and tasteful like you can tell it costs a lot of money but it's not because there was like gold dripping from the centerpieces like it was really tasteful she's so beautiful I loved like how he's like this foreign businessman but they had this like all-american wedding I'm obsessed and her dress obsessed obsessed like I feel like it's actually not getting as much attention as it deserves this wedding people are kind of stumbling upon it but it's not like you know headline news and now it's getting like more attention because people are genuinely interested and like what's just like a cute couple like she's 27 he's 29 so normal so normal I'm obsessed no they definitely go in my Jasmine Tewks Miranda Kerr category like I need to learn more about

him and like his you know background and finances but I'm shipping I'm here for it they're in the category like that's an elite wedding elite marriage elite coupling elite everything yeah and were there even any celebrities there that you saw I'm sure they were like fellow models Taylor Hill's like a real she's like really a supermodel yeah but like her bridal party was normies love to see it so yeah just like normal yeah but like normal normal but everyone is so beautiful and rich yeah yeah yeah it was really spectacular I love a wedding like this and you know it kind of reminds me like the last wedding we were really obsessed with I forgot about them they're also an elite marriage Kate Bach and Kevin Love yeah except he is a athlete NBA NBA player. Like a businessman. But also Sophia Richie and Elliot.

Oh, yeah. Oh, that's a great businessman beau as well. Because she's like a model. Tastemaker. Amongst other things. And he's a businessman beau. Yeah. No, the girlies are like out here making good marriages.

Like I feel like we're all over like dating like actors and athletes. Like they just break your heart. Find a rich private citizen. You will live a much happier life. Hard working. Nepo baby, I'm down. Family money. It's good.

Yeah, it's nice. I'm happy for them. This was a really gorgeous wedding. Vogue also like it was the photographs were amazing it was so so highbrow so elegant but like not in a tacky way at all yeah no and her dress was like really interesting because it was very it was gorgeous but it was very like simple pilgrim yeah but like only a supermodel could look like that amazing and she like it I feel like I rarely see a wedding dress that's something new.

Yeah. Or something that's unexpected. And I just really liked it. I agree. Are you ready for our next story? I am. The Weeknd is defending his douchebag character's gluttonous sex scene in The Idol following the backlash that Turdy, Lou, and Margot described

yesterday. So The Weeknd defended his despicable character on the highly controversial HBO series The Idol after a graphic sex scene left viewers and sisters horrified. He spoke to GQ on Tuesday and said there's nothing sexy about it. However you're feeling watching that scene whether it's discomfort or you feel gross or you feel embarrassed for the characters it's all those emotions adding up to this guy is in way over his head the situation is one where he is not supposed to be here uh he said the sex scene is portrayed in such a gluttonous way because Tedros can't believe he's there you look at him and this is a score Jocelyn might be the biggest score he's ever had it's very obvious he's overindulging he walks into this house looking around like goddamn am I way over my head this could be the biggest job I've ever done um okay I don't know what to say like

yeah like I guess sure he could explain why why this scene is the way that it is. And his, you know, I'm sure in the context of the show, I don't watch the show, but I'm sure in the context of the show, his explanation makes a lot of sense for his character, right? But here's the thing. Like, why did they have to make the show? I know. And, you know, it literally is, like, the viewership is through the roof. I think they had more people tune in to the second episode than they did like the premiere of Euphoria. I think it was like 3.3 million people.

Like this is what people want. Like what? It's like a disgusting show. Oh, I didn't see that, that it's actually performing well. Yeah. I had like people being like the show's flopping, the show's flopping. And then I saw like a Nielsen rating and it was fucking high.

Sounds like it's the same amount of people as succession finale right succession finale was like what four well I can understand why people want to like they hear about this there's a curiosity sex scene there's a curiosity so people will watch it who knows if this will hook them enough to keep watching it but everything I see this show just like gives me the willies the willies every time I go to max to watch love and death like it keeps coming up and it's just like it just gives me the willies yeah and there's like a part of me that definitely wanted to watch it because I'm really intrigued by Lily Rose Depp as just like a young starlet um but she plays a young starlet and she's like this young starlet who's like being exploited and it's like very you know dark and I don't think I want to watch that

no me neither I I don't know I just it's too much like it's just too much like can't we just like but like can we just like watch nice things yeah like can't you just put your clothes back on like I just I just like it's too why does everything have to be so like I feel like with shows it's been like slowly you know we'll see a scene that would like I feel like when we used to watch girls there would be like a scene that everyone would talk about that was like so crazy but it was like one scene out of a whole show and now it's like with each show that comes up it's like we're getting used to more and more and like now it's just like each show that comes up it's like we're getting used to more and more and like now it's just like straight porn no I completely agree like it used to be um like

even when you think of like sex in the city which was like the most racy show in the context of like today's climate it's like not even that crazy no like we never even saw a penis in actually I think that maybe you do see penis in sex in the city but not on the e reruns no because I watch it on hbmx oh okay you might like there's probably like six pairs of tits every episode there might be like three penises in the whole franchise like it's so crazy but no that was like the most racy show of a generation and it's like in today's context it's like a tame show child's play yeah like we're just like this is not me judging this is just me asking like where actually where do we draw the line like are we keep going so far we keep going yeah it's like why does every show have to be like so sexy yeah but I do get me wrong like I like it in a few yeah no and I feel like it's like sometimes

it adds value you know they like to push the the limits but I feel like with this show the idol it's kind of the first time people are like calm the fuck down yeah people are looking around and being like how did we get here how did we get here how do we get out literally we get out we used to give them something to see oh baby look at us that's literally what that song is about yeah well we'll see what happens with this show yeah it's yeah i'm curious if the ratings are high just because there's like a curiosity and people's interests have been peaked because the show has been described as like really dark, really weird. No, and I think also when you see these headlines that's like The Weeknd and Lily Rose Depp

are having like literal sex on screen, like people are going to go and watch that. Yeah, yeah. But that's not a sustainable business model. No, and that's not like a television show. Right, where it's like a story being told. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Okay, our next story, a little comedy news oh yeah amy schumer

is roasting sociopath hilaria baldwin's fake heritage and von trapp amount of kids in her new netflix special so amy schumer is going after hilaria in her new netflix special emergency contact while doing a comedy set about parenting and motherhood, Amy recalled the fact that Hilaria from España is actually Hillary from Boston. Schumer reminded her audience that the former yoga instructor, the wife of troubled actor Alec Baldwin, is in no way Spanish.

Her parents are not from Spain. No one in her life is from Spain. Despite hailing from Massachusetts, Hilaria gave her Von Trapp amount of children very Spanish names like jamón and croqueta and flamenco, she joked. Then she assured viewers she was not trying to bully a sociopath and instead pointed out that both Hilaria and Alec simply don't give a fuck, not only about making up a cultural identity, but also about fatally shooting the Russ cinematographer Helena Hutchins. fatally shooting the Rust cinematographer,

Helena Hutchins. Yeah, she like, she did not hold back in the slightest when talking about Eladia and Alec, which was actually refreshing, because people have seemed to move on, but like, I'm right where you left me. I'm still thinking about the fact that, and there's not a day that goes by

that I don't think about how fucking weird it is, what she did. Oh, how you say, uh, cucumber? Like, are you okay? Yeah. Is the special out? Yeah, it came out yesterday. I'm actually going to watch it.

I've kind of been, like, loving Amy Schumer ever since the Oscars. Me too. Not since the Oscars. Well, I always love Amy Schumer, and she's literally Dana's favorite comedian. So, like, I'll always like her because she brings Dana so much joy. But she's just, like, really funny sometimes. Yeah, no, I never – I actually really always like her because she brings Dana so much joy. But she's just, like, really funny sometimes. Yeah, no, I never, I actually really always liked her movies. But I never really got into her stand-up.

It was just, like, never, she was never just a female comedian. I was, like, you know, drawn to watching. And Dana was always, like, Amy Schumer. I'm like, yeah, okay, whatever. And I think, like, for a while I was like, oh, Amy Schumer is just, like, so overrated. But she's kind of not. She's kind of, like, really funny. No, like, she just fell into that trap where she's so talented like we used to watch

like Dana and I inside Amy Schumer we saw Amy Schumer at MSG she came out with like a few movies that were so so good and so she went from being like a mid-sized comedian to just being like insanely huge and like anything else kind of the expectation was greater than the result and I feel like she got kind of stuck in the mud for a few years but that's an amazing like way of putting it but she inherently is so talented and so funny and I like her comedy a lot and I think you would like it too because sometimes like your comedy reminds me of her and yeah no I plan on watching her special um and her movies like she needs to make more movies not enough people talk about I Feel Pretty like it's literally the best she had some flops so like that like what snatched with Goldie Hawn

they're a mother-daughter duo who get kidnapped oh I I never even heard of this film yeah no there I think there was another one too. But I feel like she's been in movies and then she's like created movies. I feel like Trainwreck and I Feel Pretty are like her and Judd Apatow like doing everything. And then maybe she got cast in this other movie.

Like it doesn't feel like an Amy Schumer project. I think it was an Amy Schumer project. Damn, it was an Amy Schumer production? Yeah, I'm trying to confirm that yeah you know this Goldie Hawn movie like does feel familiar yeah did you see it I did see it and it was not good parts of it no and it was not good damn yeah that's what happens like you start doing well and then they put you in crapola because they think that you can save everything they think that people like you enough that just the movie they put you in crapola. Because they think that you can save everything.

They think that people like you enough that just the movie will be good and people will go and see it. Yeah. And, you know, she was on Watch What Happens Live recently talking about Barbie. And I actually thought what she said was interesting. She's like, the Barbie that, like, we just all saw the trailer for is, like, not the Barbie I was cast in. And that's why I left. Like, it was, like, a weird movie. And I think there were, like, a lot of changes happened. I don't even know if Greta Gerwig was on for the one that Amy Schumer was in but she basically said like this movie looks good and the one that I was casting like did not

yeah because we talked about how she did that that's what we were told like it was going to be Amy Schumer and she's like kicked out of Barbie Land she's like Will Ferrell and Elf and then we heard that like it's no longer Amy and that the movie premise was changing but like honestly and I love Margot Robbie and obviously like she's quintessential Barbie but the idea of like Amy Schumer playing outcast Barbie from Barbie Land like sounds unreal no it sounds hysterical is the movie supposed to be a comedy I think so okay how does it not accommodate I don't know is it like rated pg-13 is isn't Barbie for kids like it's yeah I don't think it's for kids this isn't like Barbie this isn't Barbie for kids but like Mattel has to like approve you know of the content you know what I mean yeah it's rated pg-13 okay what was elf rated I feel like it was like literally rated pg I feel like uh I'm looking I'm looking

pg so cute yeah so that's like a perfect movie because it really is like a funny film, no matter who you are. Like, I'm sure as a kid we thought it was hysterical, but now, like as an adult, like it's still funny. Yeah. And that's kind of what I thought Barbie was going to be, but Barbie's like a little bit more raunchy. Yeah, I don't know.

I don't know. We'll see. Yeah, we'll have to see. There's so many questions about this film. Are you ready for our fifth and final story? Yes, before we dive into Dear Toasters? Yes. A TikToker faked his own death and then showed up at the funeral in a helicopter to teach his family a wider lesson.

Jesus Christ. A TikToker in Belgium faked his death before turning up at his own funeral in a helicopter in a bid to see who in his wider family would show up. David Barreton, who goes by the TikTok handle Ragnar LeFou, carried out the stunt in front of mourners over the weekend with the aid of his wife and children who helped him orchestrate it. Various clips shared by other TikTokers appear to show scenes from the day, including shots of a coffin and a memorial. He's also also prepared the scene with a post saying rest in peace daddy i will never stop thinking about you why is like daddy her dad this tiktoker is an older gentleman

oh i just assumed it was like a 12 year old because this is something so dumb no because also like when you hear tiktoker no he's an older gentleman he has kids he has a large family and i guess he felt like everyone was neglecting him so he faked his own death to teach them a lesson. They're at the funeral and he showed up in a helicopter and he explained his reasoning for the stunt. He said we all grew apart. I felt unappreciated. That's why I wanted to give you a life lesson and show you that you shouldn't wait until

someone is dead to meet up with them. In a further video he said that though he was glad to feel loved on his funeral day it's when we're alive that we need to hear these things. I did this to start my life again with you, he addressed his wider family. So, I mean, it's a beautiful message. However, I do feel as though he could have, you know, sent the message in a less traumatizing way. In a less traumatizing way, for sure. It's very pick me. No, and you know sent the message in a less traumatizing way in a less traumatizing way for sure it's very pick me like no and you know what like somebody who would do this is deeply unwell and like no wonder your family was ignoring you you're probably psychotic yeah yeah what the fuck

that someone has to go to to do this yeah like and this is coming from me I live for attention I would quite literally Never do this If you felt like No one was like Answering your calls Or showing up for you Or just like giving you

The love and attention You deserve I feel like You maybe would No like I have Scruples Like I have I have limitations

Like and there's you know A lot I would do But there's a lot I wouldn't do This is Like this will Like put people in therapy. Yeah.

Or it's all just, like, this elaborate plan for a TikTok. That's also what I was thinking. Like, did he film the funeral? It could be both. I do think that when you are, like, a TikTok, especially, like, a stunt prank TikTok, you do try and think of, like, big ideas. Like, and things that you wouldn't like care to do if you weren't on tiktok like you would just live your life right but i think he also wanted to teach people a lesson well i think the lesson was learned but it's probably not the lesson

he wanted us to learn because the lesson i'm sure his family learned was like damn uncle brad or whatever his name is fucking nuts And I want no part of this family. Yeah. So that's what you missed. That's what the deeply unwell TikTokers are up to abroad. Not so dissimilar from the deeply unwell TikTokers here. No, not dissimilar in the slightest. Yeah. And honestly, to be honest, I see really like disturbing prank TikToks of just like people. Yeah. And honestly, to be honest, like, I see really, like, disturbing prank TikToks of just, like, people.

Yeah. Disturbing the peace and being menaces to society. And so it's, like, if you want to just fuck with your own family in this way, like, it's really not as, weirdly not as crazy as some of the other stuff I've seen. Yeah, no. Like, people who are menaces to society and, like public pranks and like I hate people like that. It's the lowest form of like content. It's such a low bar for comedy. Like I hate that shit.

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and use code toast to redeem 30% off your first month of Seed's DS01 Daily Symbiotic. That's seed, S-E-E-D dot com slash toast, code toast. All right, are you ready for dear toasters? I am, I am. Hey, Jacksonson claude my boyfriend and i have been together for almost three years and we've been living together for two throughout the past six months my boyfriend has chosen to sleep almost every night alone in the guest room occasionally on the weekends he'll sleep in our bed with me but those times have gotten few and far between he likes to play video games late at night and says he doesn't want to wake me up by coming to bed late i told him that it really upsets me and i actually wouldn't mind him coming to bed late as

long as he comes to bed eventually and I get to wake up next to him. He says I'm trying to take away too much of his personal time and it shouldn't matter because when we are asleep, it's not valuable quality time. He doesn't understand why I'm upset that we aren't sleeping in the same bed and he makes me feel like I'm asking for too much. I've tried bringing this up to him multiple times and the conversation never ends well. Am I overreacting or am I asking for too much? What should I do? Thanks. A lonely toaster.

That is, this is weird. This is weird. Something's weird about it that he's like so insistent on sleeping in the guest room even though his reasons for not sleeping with you would be like things that you should decide whether or not you would be okay with. Yeah, there's definitely another reason. Sleep isn't quality time. Like that's so random.

I actually just read, I was almost going to choose it as a story yesterday. This woman, you know, she's like me and my husband have the perfect marriage. We live in separate boroughs. And I know that there are like people who, you know, sleep in separate beds or literally even have separate homes. I think Jackie Goldschneider's parents literally live in separate houses. Like I know that there are things and whatever works for whatever marriage. But like if you are saying like you want a partner who sleeps in bed with you, like and that's a non-negotiable, you are so not asking for a lot. That's extremely valid.

And yeah, you don't spend quality time when you sleep with someone. But like any night I'm sleeping alone, like there's a loneliness. Like I totally get it. You're not, you're so justified in what you're asking for. And I feel like the video game thing like is not a real answer. That was like his cover. And you saying it doesn't bother you, like definitely fucked with him. So I feel like maybe he game thing like is not a real answer. That was like his cover. And you saying it doesn't bother you like definitely fucked with him. So I feel like I feel like maybe he's doing something in his sleep.

Like maybe it's like jerking off. Like I don't know. Like I think there's like something he's not telling you. Yeah I would try and find out what the reason is. But also yeah some couples live separately or whatnot. But that's after like decades of marriage where you're just like like set in your ways and want your space and you've earned it but after being in a relationship for two years like

you shouldn't have to be sleeping alone especially if you don't want to be so I would try and find the source of the issue because it sounds like he's coming up with a bunch of excuses like I don't know maybe he pees the bed something yeah yeah no there's he's hiding something yeah he's hiding something he is yeah maybe he like plays his video games and it's like an episode of Black Mirror and he's having an affair in the video game and then he doesn't feel comfortable like going to sleep with you oh my god it's so Black Mirror it's so Landry it's so metaverse yeah no this is weird um I don't think it has anything to do with the video games and my advice would be to like actually figure out what it is.

But he sounds like so closed off and like borderline immature. It's like you won't sleep with your girlfriend. You're playing video games. Like you sound like a teenager. Yeah. And like maybe that could, I would imagine that would show through in other areas of the relationship. So I would, I would not like brush this off.

And also like you didn't get into a relationship to sleep alone. Like that's one of the perks of being in a loving relationship is like you have someone to go to bed with and you know pillow talk and cuddle and like those are the good times sleep is honestly for me like a quality time like I disagree with him no and also the and the fact that like you're going to bed every night alone and not getting that quality time like the time before bed like when you watch tv or you talk or you just like both read in silence like that's the definition of quality time so him not sleeping with you while the sleeping might not be quality time it's all the the activities around the sleep like waking

up and going to sleep that are like the best parts of a relationship and you're missing out on that. Yeah so I would push the issue for sure for sure there's something else going on don't let this because then you'll just get into a place where it's like it is what it is and you find yourself you know with someone for 10 years and you're never sleeping together and you're missing out on that and if that's important to you then don't that's not something that you should have to compromise on and it being important to you is so valid like you're not overreacting. You're not asking for too much. Right.

But there's also other people who this would not be important to them. And it's like, oh, sweet. I get to be in a relationship, but I still get a whole ass bed to myself. Best of both worlds. Right. But like if one person in the relationship like wants to sleep together, then we're both sleeping together. Yeah.

Yeah. No, I'm not into this like new age, separate boroughs. It's actually like not that new age. Like in Downtonon they had separate rooms we're kind of like going back yeah I guess I guess that's actually fair but but in Downton they were doing the societal norm and now the societal norm is to sleep together yeah yeah and the couples that were really in love would always like sneak around and sleep together it's so true and also that was only really for the aristocracy to sleep separate. Like it's not like every like all people were

doing that. No you're right. Like the the staff who were married were sleeping in the same bed. Yeah or just like middle class or lower class people like they weren't having separate bedrooms. Yeah it's a it's a luxury not many could afford. Yeah. All right ready for our next one? Mm-hmm. Hey Jackson Dirty. Long-time listener. First-time afford. Yeah. All right, ready for our next one? Mm-hmm. Hey, Jackson Dirty. Long-time listener, first-time writer. I'll get right into it.

My boyfriend is 24, and we've been dating for a few years. P-jump, everything of the sort, yada, yada. Except whenever he says goodbye to his mom, he kisses her on the mouth. This weirds me out. I have two older brothers, and I've never seen them kiss my mom. But I don't know how to approach him about it without making his mom upset. What if she thinks I'm a naggy bitch girlfriend because I'm controlling her son? Or he thinks I'm out of pocket for this.

Am I crazy for thinking this? Please help. Sincerely, a toaster who doesn't kiss their mom. I'm a little stumped. But I feel like you are a better... Candidate because I don't have a boy son. No. Actually actually the opposite like you kiss Harry on the mouth more than I do I was I won't be doing that when he has a girlfriend he's a baby I was I don't know like what what day you're just gonna stop

there will there will come a time where like it won't be like normal and it will be weird like I won't do it okay so you're saying it's not cool for adults to kiss their parents on the lips. No. So here's the thing. I feel like neither of us can really truly answer this fairly because we do kiss our mom on the lips. Like I don't know actually if you do but I do. Like I don't think it's weird but like we're all girls. So I have to imagine if I had a father who was alive I would not be kissing him on the mouth. But I would probably still be kissing my mom.

I think it's a gender thing. Interesting. be kissing him on the mouth but I would probably still be kissing my mom I think it's a gender thing interesting so if this girl's boyfriend was kissing his dad on the lips that would be fine no no no no sorry okay here and these are my rules okay and they there's no of engagement and there's no rhyme or reason I'm not saying they're right but this is what I think is normal okay girls can kiss their moms on the lip girls cannot kiss their dads on the lip boys cannot kiss their moms on the lip boys cannot kiss their dads on the lips okay so just like a mother daughter so yes I don't know I don't know I mean I I imagine I would feel the same way that this girl feels like seeing it yeah this is unequivocally bizarre but like I don't know if as a mama like if I if I'm going to be

insisting on kissing Harry on the lips when he's a grown man. Yeah, right. I don't think I will be because that's just really not who I am. Right, that's the thing. That's why it's also not fair because, like, you also are just not, like, a kisser. Yeah, but, like, Tom Brady and his kids, like, when they would kiss on the lips and stuff and people would be quaking. What were your thoughts? When Tom Brady was kissing his kids, I definitely thought it was weird, but not crazy. I actually don't think it's weird.

But when Tom Brady was kissing his own dad, I thought that was weird. I don't think so. I think you either do it, like, it's either normal in your household or it's not. Yeah. Like, but it's not, like, if you do it, like, it's, then when people make it weird, that makes it weird. It's like, whoa, bro, what are you thinking? Like, we just like. No, I know. It's just like if you do it like it's then when people make it weird that makes it weird. It's like whoa bro what are you thinking? Like we just like. No I know.

It's just my parent. But like your boyfriend's kissing another woman. Like. Oh my god. No this is like a really gray area. Like it's personal. There's not a rule. Like what I said is just what I think.

But you're right. It's clearly reflected reflected off of my own life experience. Like I. Ben doesn't kiss either of his parents on the lips so this is not I really honestly for the first time in my life like I'm truly stumped I know me too I don't know if it's worth saying something because you kind of just like look crazy like what you're jealous of his mom no you look crazy and if the mom found out that you had, and then how does, how does he go from kissing his mom his whole life to not?

Yeah. She's going to think she did something wrong. That you just have to wince every time you see it and that's your cross to bear. Yeah. And I guess like you can talk to your partner about it and tell him that like you think it's weird without asking him to do anything, but just like vocalizing your feelings.

So that, like, every time he does it, he gets a pit, and maybe he'll do it less. Yeah, like, you deserve to be heard. Your feelings are valid. Right? Yeah, this is just, like, one of those things, like, how it's just, like, hard and weird to merge families because people have different customs. And people were just, like, raised so differently.

Even people who were raised similar. At its core, like, even, even you know people who were raised in the same town, same religion, same whatever. Like even like similar people have differences in how they were raised and like customs and stuff. So but I do feel like if something bothers you like it's never a bad thing to speak your truth without asking for anything. I don't think everything that bothers a person needs to be spoken. That's actually so true. Honestly, I'm truly stumped. I really don't know. I would like people to sound off in the comments.

Yeah, yeah. Maybe you've been through something similar. Yeah, and you've had like either a good outcome or it's something you've swallowed. This is where we need to rely on our network. Yeah, that's so true it's beyond us we're limited in our knowledge of this and I have literally like no nothing even remotely similar in my life experience to like hark back to yeah I agree toasters sound off great One, two. All right. Are you ready for our third and final Dear Toasters? I'm ready. Hey, Jackson Claude.

I feel bad even sharing this, but I have to get it off my chest and get some advice. My boyfriend recently shared with me that he's super self-conscious about his nipples because they're, quote, puffy and they make him look overweight. If you Google puffy nipples, you'll understand what I mean. It's definitely a genetic thing considering his brother has them too. I feel weird even looking at his brother's nipples. Anyways, he recently discovered these little bandages that cover them up and make his chest look more normal under shirts. Since then, he's had to rip them off when his shirt comes off when we're getting intimate. And that act gives me the creeps. It honestly ruins the mood when he has to turn around,

rip the bandages off, and then get back to whatever we were doing. He's such a supportive king whenever I feel self-conscious, so I don't want to make him feel bad, but I'm really getting the ick about this. Please help a girl out over these nipples. Every piece of advice is welcome. Wow.

Another one that is so tough. I think this is something you got to swallow. Really? Yeah. Because you said like he's such a supportive king. Anything about your body, you feeling self-conscious. And you know what I think for a guy to admit like that something's bothering him and then to like actually do something about it is a level of vulnerability that is we should admire and we should encourage that. So you then to be like, it grosses me out. Like, you know what? You could tell them, leave them on. Or like, I don't know.

Is it the act of ripping them off? I think it's the act of ripping them off, the reminder that they're there, the break in the flow of sexy time to do this. I understand what she's saying completely. Oh, by the way, I completely understand. But I'm saying like for the health and sanctity of your relationship like I do think you just have to get over it and maybe because it's new it's giving you the ick and once it becomes customary like you'll forget about it but I think like you should really try to look past it honestly that's really you're asking a lot i know but imagine the destruction

to his self-confidence that she actually sits him down and says it i know like no why are these so hard today no i know like is it us or is it are these queries no these queries are particularly um divisive. And Dear Toasters woke up today and chose violence. I feel like in the last one, I really had absolutely no idea what to say. In this one, I feel like you have to work on getting over it. I actually feel strongly about that. What if you suggested you guys shower before? Every time?

Not every time, but maybe eventually he'll stop wearing them like maybe he's just going through a phase of yes being so you just have to get over this patch but if you were like let's shower so then he has to take them off first and then you can like properly enter the routine yeah I guess but like that seems so strategic and kind of calculating when you could just learn to accept it. Like honestly. Okay. I really feel like – like I get it.

Like I just want to say I'm not judging you. I wonder if it hurts. I completely get the ick. If they hurt to take off. And so it's like – Yeah, if he has hairs around his nipple. Yeah. Yeah.

How are you supposed to go from like being in the moment to then like watching someone If they hurt to take off. And so it's like. Yeah. If he has hairs around his nipple. Yeah. Yeah. How are you supposed to go from like being in the moment then like watching someone rip off what's essentially like a really painful bandaid. No I know. Two of them. Why doesn't he leave them on? Is that more of an ick? Like nipples for men are like not like a big deal.

Yeah. You could say just leave it babe. Try. Yeah. Yeah. Try. That's a good one this was tough honestly like this is tough but like I you have our sympathies honestly like you're in a pickle

and I feel you're in a pickle but you're a good girlfriend that you even care enough to like want to protect his feelings yeah I just I don't think you'll ever really regret like just ignoring it but I do think if you say something like you might regret it like because like he might feel so self-conscious you know like set off yeah a chain reaction yeah I don't think you will regret not bringing it up no but that that depends on like what kind of person you are like and there's no right or wrong answer but like would you rather be uncomfortable about something or would you rather like be fine with something but no I know that someone else is uncomfortable about something wait phrase a question like would you

rather be uncomfortable or have the other person be uncomfortable and you are fine and and you're like me me you'd rather be the uncomfortable one because then if we're both uncomfortable not only am I uncomfortable but I'm also then double uncomfortable knowing like what what is he thinking yeah no I agree I'm the same way um but everyone's different I think I think based on our conversation I think you have to get over it and tell him he doesn't need to take them off. Or maybe, like, when he's taking them off, like, you go do something quickly, like, for yourself. So you don't have to watch.

Fetch a snack. Fetch a snack. Pee. Something. Like. Yeah. Yeah. Get the lights.

Put on music. Yeah. Every time he takes them off, you go to put on music. Yeah. Yeah. I'm curious if the nipples bothered you before, you know, he got them taped up. Didn't sound like it. Yeah.

Interesting. I'm sticking firm. I like this solution of busy yourself during that time with something that's a mood enhancer to counteract the mood de-enhancer. Also very good advice. A candle. A sexy playlist. Yeah. Oils.

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