The Viall Files - E171 Be Your Badass Self with Constance Nunes

Episode Date: September 2, 2020

Today on The Viall Files we are joined by Constance Nunes, the definition of a badass. She has been making a name for herself in the automotive industry for years, but with season 2 of Car Masters: Rust to Riches out now on Netflix, she is reigniting the conversation of women taking charge in a male dominated industry. A self-proclaimed “glam girl wrenching in a boy's world,” she sits down with us to talk about the assumptions people make about her, how people react to her work, and how being taken seriously has been something she's had to earn over and over again. We also dive deep into her DM’s and the crazy that slides into them, and what she is looking for now in a man after separating from her husband. Get ready to feel empowered after this very down-to-earth conversation with a women whose nails will never get in the way of her skill.  “I'm not a trailblazer. I'm a representative.”  Make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode and as always send in your relationship questions to [e-mail] to be a part of our Monday episodes.  THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS: HELLO FRESH: hellofresh.com/viallfiles80 use code viallfiles80 at check out for $80 off your first month, including free shipping on your first box THERAGUN: theragun.com/viall to try Theragun for a risk-free thirty-days  NATURAL HABITS: nhoils.com use code KRISSY for 30% off  Episode Socials:  Viall Files @viallfiles Nick Viall @nickviall Constance Nunes @constance_nunes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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little bit oh but not a lot of it but a little bit but not a lot I think that's okay I think that's okay we have a great episode today uh Constance Nunes yes uh a wonderful interesting lovely woman yes star of uh of Car Masters on Netflix. Constance is a babe. I'm just going to put it out there. She's beautiful. And when you see her in person or you say we're going on her Instagram, you might just assume, you might oversimplify. Be like, oh, hot chick.

But here she is kicking ass in cars. And I don't know nothing about cars. She knows everything. I don't know nothing about cars she knows everything i don't know anything about it was a fun conversation to talk about obviously we have all these kind of gender biases in terms of like what women should do what men what uh men should do and like you know like i grew up and my dad always drove my mom never drove if it was the two of them. Huh. You're right. I think that's exactly the same in my head. I can give a shit about driving.

Really? If I am in a relationship, if my girlfriend or wife wants to drive, great. It doesn't emasculate me. But it's funny that we do so much in our society. Anyways, we have a great conversation with Constance about kicking ass in what's perceived as a male dominated kind of industry. Yeah. And she also just got,

uh, divorced. And so she's out there dating wild, uh, because of who she is and how she looks, she gets those like crazy DMS. That's like a fun little conversation as well. So,

uh, also like, I'm just trying to be able to roller skate without people making assumptions about me and thinking that's something like women should do people think only women should roller skate well you know sometimes people make uh comments that i don't appreciate anyways it's fine i don't care i'm gonna roller skate i don't know i'm just saying you've got skills so anyway anyway anyway anyways no it's not any i know it's not anyways but it's like your thing so you should just lean into it uh shall we get the constant let's do it uh constants how are you thanks for coming i'm good good um you're blowing up right now because you're killing it on your wonderful show season two out now on Netflix

yeah no it's great we have fun so we thought it would be interesting to have you on because here you are kicking ass in what is perceived to be a male dominated industry and uh it's almost kind of weird that we have industries out there that are dominated by one gender or another yeah i mean we're we're making progress we're making progress you do you find yourself to be a trailblazer you know i think that there is a lot of women in the auto industry but they're like there really is like a lot of us when people come up to me and they're like oh there's nobody like you I'm like no there's a lot of like women out there that are doing what I do I just am fortunate enough to do it on a really big platform so I guess it's more that uh not that I'm a trailblazer, but I feel like I'm a representative and I'm doing my best to be the best representative.

I like that. And so you've been in the cars your whole life. Like, what's your earliest memory of working on a car? Well, my dad was into drag racing and he owns a shop in Thousand Oaks still to this day. So I kind of just worked on stuff with him all the time. Like to me, it was very normal to come home from school and work on cars instead of like playing outside or doing something else. And you know, like everything there is to know about cars. I mean, I know a lot.

I just I don't know you open up a hood build cars yeah no you open up a hood of a car you're just like this all makes sense to me yeah i mean i just love cars in any aspect so i mean i primarily build that's like my trade i guess but i race i mean i love to events, like anything that's automotive related. I'm excited about. So you've like won awards racing. Yeah, no, I've done a lot of races, like rally stuff, off-road stuff, drag racing. So I kind of, I try my hand at everything. Your whole life, obviously. So when you got into it early, I mean, even no matter how you know we're

always becoming more and more progressive so things that are considered male or female dominated you know when you were growing up was even probably seemed more rare so when you were in a young person did you like in like in school did you tell people in school that you were the guys in you're into cars or did you did you feel like you had to hide it? Or were the girls like, why don't you want to come? Was it like a weird thing? I definitely didn't have a lot of girlfriends growing up. That wasn't like a thing because I was into like boy stuff.

Like I built cars. I liked shotguns. I liked playing like Super Nintendo. Like I was just into boy stuff, but I was very girly, but I just didn't have a lot of girlfriends because I couldn't relate to them on like that many things. Is gaming like video gaming more? Because there's a lot of women.

More male. There's a lot of women. Especially back in the day. Back in the day. That was my question because you're seeing more and more women getting into gaming. Yeah. But maybe not so much back in the day.

Yeah. And like I drove like a classic maybe not so much back in the day. Yeah. And like I drove like a classic car to school, which at the time, yeah, actually the same car I own today. The same car. Yeah, 64 and a half Mustang. And you just probably take really good care of it. I mean, that's my baby.

64 and a half. What do you mean? It's technically like a pre-production Mustang. It's the first one that they ever made. You had this in high school yeah and i still have it today yeah what's it worth the car is actually more famous than me like online people like they don't even care about me they're like where's the baby staying that's it's me fix that up it was like a gift from your dad or how did you get like a or did you do that like yeah i had a my first car in high school was a 1980 orange toyota tercel hatchback that we called jose because that's cool that sounds good listen that's like a whole vibe i feel oh

it was a vibe i actually quite miss that car so you're in high school driving this classic car you're like you had the car that guys in high school would fantasize about having so they could get chicks like you yeah how did that work and then she's the chick that's driving the car you're useless to me yeah yeah because i yeah the stereotype of like what kind of car do you drive you know yeah or a guy and so you already you already had did you have a lot of guys did did you ever feel like you intimidated men because of the the hobbies that you were into yeah a little bit so do you find yourself being annoyingly challenged by guys um yes and no like i think i have a lot of respect

in the industry just because i've been here so long i guess brian maybe not so much in the industry because yeah it sounds like you have an immense amount of credibility in the industry just because i've been here so long i guess brian maybe not so much in the industry because yeah it sounds like you have an immense amount of credibility in the industry but like if you meet a guy and they're like they you know they don't they don't know about cars yeah and then they find out and they're like really do they the first thing is always this they go oh what do you do and i go i build cars and they go let me see your hands it's the first thing every single time and i find it the most infuriating thing because they want to see your hands because they expect you to have these really like just dirty, gross, like when they see you have nails, they're like, there's no way.

And I'm like, I've been working this way for my whole life and I've never had a problem doing anything. But it's the first question every time. Let me see your hands. Let me see your hands. There's no way you work on cars with those hands. And then do they follow it up with like, well, then tell me like if you work on cars. Oh, well, usually it's like if I'm like out at like a restaurant or a bar or something,

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woman who's better at them at what's what's again what they even perceive themselves like i'm supposed to be good at this i'm a man you know um i've never been that person like i've never yeah i don't you know i don't i just haven't i just don't care you know i'm a very competitive person yeah and in general but i just never felt like i don't care if i'm beat out by someone i don't really care what gender you are yeah um and i've always been as as competitive as i am if i'm beat by someone whatever it is uh i'm impressed yeah because i'm like you beat me yeah you know so i'm always like well how did you do that that's really cool like i want to learn like i feel like that's been a strength of mine to be able to not be like well fuck them they cheated or they got jealous or whatever the reason is and so yeah it's never bothered me but do you feel like you've gotten that you know in general like

do you feel like you deal with that in your dating life i was more so focused on the fact that you were like talking about how women like ask you about that because it makes me feel like they feel like they gotta tone it down to like yeah you know like get these guys to like be okay with them and that makes me so sad yeah like uh i think it i see yeah i see that a lot i don't know if they feel like they have to yeah i don't yeah like you kind of have to like dial it back like it's like if i was like interested in a guy that was also into cars and like i knew something he didn't like that would be like me being like i'm not gonna say anything and let him let him figure it out and look like he's like got it all figured out but i just don like, I don't understand that at all.

I feel like. But that's why I asked you the question because I honestly don't, because like I said, because here I am thinking like, well, I, as a guy, that's not me. I don't think that way. I can't speak for every guy. So I don't know if that is just a perception that women have because of like, say,

a patriarchy kind of society we have is it like an excuse like because sometimes it might be like you know a guy like let's say it's a successful person a woman and a guy is like she's had a bad string of luck with guys does she like say well guys just don't like me because i'm smart and successful or is it because like you're annoying or you know what i'm saying is it excuse? Or is it and that's why I want like, do you feel as someone who clearly is in who was successful, who's not only successful, but successful in an industry that society sometimes considers to be male dominated? Do you feel that? Or do you or is it do you think it's? Does that make sense? Yeah, you know, I guess Yeah, I guess I don't feel like I've personally experienced that,

but I also feel like that's because I don't surround myself with people that have like that train of thought. Like I think when I think of the guy that would be upset about that, it's someone that I wouldn't be hanging around with or spend my time talking to or anything like that. So it's like, I think like in a relationship or even pursuing someone, like it's a mutual respect thing. Right. So I don't, you should respect the fact that I'm really good at this and like admire that just like I would admire if you were really good at something. Um, so I can

see where they're coming from. I just have never experienced that because I don't put myself in those situations. That makes sense to me, but I've kind of always thought, well, maybe men really- I think secure men think that way. Well, it's just like,

but I also think that sometimes when I was hearing that, I was like, I don't know if these, I don't know if it's what you're saying is true in terms of all guys are intimidated by strong-minded women I don't that that was kind of my thought is this like um is it like something that it's easier to say to yourself then you know maybe it's like you have an annoying habit or something you know I don't know I mean I think there's definitely something to that like um i think women in general sometimes uh they want love really bad right everybody does and but sometimes that gets a little like overly pushy and maybe they're not intimidated by your job or you being really good at stuff or being a strong like independent woman maybe they're intimidated

because you're really like intense. Yeah. It's like, it's not your job. It's that you constantly belittle me. Yeah. Like, just like calm down, like be your like badass self, but you can be your badass self without being like, I'm a badass. And I need you to know that. And I'm going to be really forceful about it so that, you know, cause that would be intimidating.

I would feel intimidated like talking you you don't seem like kind of staying with that topic of a lot of women or people or women or they'll be like well i'm a i'm a strong-minded person you don't even just you do you have you ever even described yourself as that because you almost seem like you don't feel like the need to. Yeah, I don't really feel the need to. I feel like when you meet me, you kind of get the vibe of who I am as a person. And that's it. I don't need to give you a presentation on the person that I am.

This is it. That's it. Yeah. And so your experience, had doesn't seem like you've ever had any trouble with uh i like that how you said in terms of you're right it's like how who you surround yourself yeah like you seem so it's like guys you're going after you have a beat on is he just insecure or is he intent Like you're just immediately not attracted to that. Yeah.

I mean, like it goes both ways. There's things that men I'm sure find about women as like insecure factors. Right. And there's things that women find about men. And I find like if that's bothersome to you, that's that's weird to me. And it's an insecure thing. And I'm not really interested in like going any further down this road with you. NH, natural habits, essential oils, people.

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to be clean if they come out and, you know, see a client or whatever. So in general, like the mechanics are a lot cleaner than you would expect and you wouldn't think twice about that as a guy but as soon as it's a woman they're like oh you have to be covered in grease head to toe and it's like your hair's gotta be dirty oh like smell if i post something on instagram and I'm not like, you can't physically see that I am covered in everything possible. They're like, oh, she didn't work on that. She just took a picture next to it. Really?

Like it's wild. Yeah. So it's almost as if like they think you're the, when we had Ginger Z on, Good Morning America, weather meteorologist. And yes, it's like the same kind of mantra. Like, I'm not the hot weather girl they just hired to stand in front of the green screen. You know, where you're like, I'm not the hot mechanic

who just stands in front of the car to pretend. Like Ginger's like, I actually studied science. I'm a scientist i went to school and people will still do that they can't what i've noticed at least from like my own situations is like they have a really hard time connecting being generically good looking and being in a field opposite than your normal like female male field those two things just cannot go together in most people's mind which i always have the same response of like my mascara does not change if i can rebuild a carburetor like it has no effect on what i'm

doing whatsoever do you experience that double standard with just men or with women as well? I do get it from some women, but it's mostly men. Like the women love it. They're like, thank you. Like, because I, like I get women that come up to me and they're like, I tone myself down. Like they work on cars and they purposely tone themselves

down to be taken seriously. When you say tone down, almost like ugly I tone myself down. Like they work on cars and they purposely tone themselves down to be taken seriously. When you say tone down, almost like ugly up kind of thing. Yeah, like they'll dress down. No, and it's so sad. Don't do my hair. It's a slow down. Yeah, no, I've met women.

If you cut your finger, just let it bleed and let it dry out the next day. It's crazy though how like true it is. I've met women before that, the hands thing again they'll say before they go and like meet people they'll purposely like dirty up their hands to like for credibility yeah it's wild to me that's so crazy to me i think that's actually one of the coolest things about you is that you're like so comfortable being feminine and like being like i

don't care yeah like well i just think like you should be comfortable however you want to be. If you want to be, you know, dressed down, whatever, like that's really cool. Like that's what you're comfortable with. Sure.

I'm comfortable like this. This is how I like to be and it makes me happy. So I'm going to keep doing it. And like I said, nothing about this affects how I'm able to do my job. Like my skill is not affected by my appearance. Yeah. I mean,

that's obvious, but obviously not, not to, I mean, but it's crazy that we do that. Yeah. It's kind of crazy. Cause I bet,

do you have like young girls that come up to you or just kind of like, like inspired by you or that you like talk to that kind of a, like, this is so cool that you're doing this. because i bet a lot of young girls have like dads that work on cars and then like like all that kind of stuff and like growing up in that kind of situation they're kind of like don't have role models that kind of like oh i can be like that or they just don't go for it at all like i have a lot of like girls women everything that will come up and be like yeah you know i really you know like cars i wanted to get into it but you know it's it's for boys or you know i didn't want

to do it because i like being really girly and i just like was told that that's not a thing that you do um or like even for me i grew up building cars my whole life it's what my dad did i did it every day and i never took shop class in high school because because it was a boy thing to do and you know it was weird like i remember talking to like my counselor when you pick your elective classes right and i was like well i'm kind of considering like shop class and she she was a woman and she was like like that really yeah and i was like okay well and like i wanted to do it not because like your dad was like a mechanic oh yeah yeah already like kind of had a and so i never did i never did because uh that's why i was still like in that

feeling of i'm being judged it's not what i'm supposed to do publicly. So I'll just do this at home. And and that's my thing here. And I wasn't comfortable enough to go into a classroom full of men and potentially deal with like the consequences of being a woman in that environment. Oh, and that's coming from someone that already was doing that all the time. So can you imagine being a female in high school where you're already like not that confident and trying to go through all of that? But then it's like you don't have any experience in it, but you want to learn. You know, you don't. What did I end up doing?

She's like home economics. I think I did. I should have baked this fucking cookie but it's it's wild because like i'm very like housewifey in that sense of like i cook every day like my house looks like pinterest like i'm very about that but i only did it because that was like what you were supposed to do and like i said that's coming from someone that was already working on cars, and I didn't do it. So I can't imagine being someone that has no connection to doing that. They don't have a dad that does it or something or a mom or anything. They want to learn,

but they never go for it because it's a boy thing to do. I want to know about like, if people slide into your DMs and what they say. My DMs are a very interesting dark place how so um you know i'm all for people shooting their shot because i think you should um but i get some really inappropriate things in my dms like i had to actually stop using Snapchat because it was just... Just too much dick pic? Oh, like I couldn't open them. Like it's just every single one.

Just random dick pics. Oh, yeah. Videos. The videos are always a nice thing to pop open unexpectedly. Masturbating. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's just cranking away. So Snapchat's not a thing for me anymore.

Like it got that bad but i had but can't can't they do that on like it's i understand that there's a perception in snapchat that like it goes away but like it doesn't really it yeah well there's yes it's the but but also if they really so like you don't get them at all on Instagram? On Instagram, I get very detailed descriptions about what they would like to do with me. Oh, shit. Yeah. I mean, I love a good dick pic. And I even get that in like the comments.

Yeah. On my Instagram, I'm very about, I talk to everybody. I try to at least you engage oh i engage with like everybody yeah so i try the best i can because i mean i feel like we're all in it together yeah i know i mean like i have fun with my followers you know um but i do get a lot of people that'll leave those type of messages just straight up in the comments and i usually respond to them with like either like you realize this is like public and everyone can read it or um cool story bro that one usually sets them off cool story yeah when do you ever get like normal ones like hi you seem nice i'd like to get to know you

um i do get a lot of those but i'm more talking about like things that you would consider what would what's the percentage of d and i don't mean like dms or replies like you posted instagram story and people are commenting on whatever it is. Just like random one-off messages. But like out of like a slide. Yeah. A specific slide. Like, hey, you know, whether they.

Hey, I think you're beautiful. I admire you. Blah, blah, blah, blah. I'd like to get to know you. I'd like to get to know you. Shooting my shot over here. Yeah. This is me sliding.

I mean, I get a lot of those, but I also, I just got out of a 10-year relationship. So, yeah. So, I wasn't really paying attention to a lot of those. How long recently have you gotten out of that? As of January. So, it's still relatively fresh, but it's almost nine months. Have you in the past nine months been more like,

well, let's see what's, have you paid closer attention? Well, we've been on quarantine, so it's a little hard to date. Well, all the more reason why you might be paying more attention to your DMs. And also I feel like, again, I'm not good with technology. And now everyone's in the dating app realm of doing that kind of thing.

You're not on the dating apps. I'm not on any dating apps, no. Have you thought about it? Yes, but I guess I'm just not used to that style of dating because the last time I dated was 10 years ago. What are your biggest insecurities about that? We have a lot of people who are in similar positions who are like, you know, I've been out of the game. Yeah, no, I feel like I'm totally like that person of like, I've been out of the game a long time. And I'm not really sure

like how that works. I guess my biggest insecurity is definitely getting people that are interested based off face value. Like in my DMs, it's a lot of, you know, I love you, like you're so beautiful and you love cars. You're my perfect woman. So they think that you're the perfect woman because you're pretty and you like cars which to me is just not i'm not even interested in continuing this conversation because it's face value have you gotten a dm that you from a guy yeah that you replied to because they you thought maybe this person isn't um i haven't zero no i feel like also though that might be because i haven't really um put it out there that i'm available i mean but i also i also get why in your case especially

because like yeah i do i get dms from random people and people occasionally shooting their shot, sure. But the level of aggression that men, like as you described. Oh, it's so crazy. You know, it's just even other women friends that I have that even don't have, say, large fowls. Yeah. It's always like, why would you think that works? And I'm assuming they don't think it works

or they don't, I don't know. I just. Because why? It seems bizarre. You you have to on some level think that it's gonna work right yeah because like why else would you like on some small like level you're like you know what this might be it i i don't i can't speak for these guys but like i just have a hard time believing the guy who's like you know what i'm gonna take down my pants yeah bust out the lotion yeah i'm gonna start jerking off i'm gonna record it and i'm gonna send it to

this stranger yeah because and she's going to be like maybe i want some of that they're hoping that she's the one that's gonna be like well maybe i was gonna say like maybe they're thinking i feel like it's so like blown away by their dick that i'll be like wow that, I need to have that immediately. I look at those pictures and I'm like, I don't even look at the penis. I look at those pictures that I'll get on like dating apps and I'll be like, why are you wearing white socks with your black sneakers holding your penis? Noticing everything else in the back.

Like that'll be the thing that annoys me. Or like, I wouldn't even talk to you because your bed's not made. Like what's wrong with you? Like that's what I noticed. But you think that guys are saying like, this is my dick should go on oh for sure i feel like more it's like a fetish of theirs to show people they're like it's because you know how like back in the day the the you know the exposure guy who would like run out in the trench the flasher for like the thrill yeah i

don't know right but i feel like the internet allows people, like the internet allows people to do a lot of things. That they wouldn't normally do. And that's almost like the modern day flashing. Yeah. I just feel, because I just don't know who in their right mind would think. Like girls not send that to boys? Could you imagine?

I just can't imagine the guy who's like, yeah, I'm going to jerk off. I'm going to send it. And the girl's going to write back, back yeah i'm into that dinner tonight yeah like i said maybe they they think it's gonna work you know the girls do what to me you just get a like a dm with a picture of like a new boobs yeah sure i have right but like even then i'm assuming that they don't think that i'm going to be like we should date i think they do though i think if you're sending a nude photograph to a stranger that you're interested

in you're definitely like this is going to blow them away but i also will give women more like you know women are beautiful guys are not naked kind of thing right and so like and men are simple i get why like because it went it does work with men more often than not but like this whole like are these guys showing their faces sometimes yeah but at least they're gonna be like at least they're really showing them you the whole goods not just like yeah just the dick with this white sock edition how do i know this is your dick yeah do you ever fuck around with them um or i feel like it's like sometimes they'll ask for nudes like either in return or they'll just a lot of times they ask for nudes um and i usually at the time i would be like yeah no problem like i'll

send you one of my husband right now and then they're like and they're offended they get offended at that point which is mind-blowing to me that they're now offended that i offered to send them a nude of my man when they asked me as a stranger for a nude of myself but that's usually they would out of nowhere just be like can you send me a nude yeah i mean i know i mean i clearly believe it i just find like i just feel like these are guys who are just like know they're being annoying no i really like they're very because they get so upset based off your response that I know that they're serious, but I've learned with all this, instead of just being like, really like overwhelmed by just the nonsense that I just have fun with it. And I just respond in the most like ridiculous

fashion that I can think of. Sometimes guys are gross. Yeah, I get it. It's just, it's just, it's, it's, it's it's it's amazing annoying amazing that you had to delete snapchat because there's too much penis yeah the snapchat was too much instagram is more manageable because less people will send you nude photographs on instagram versus snapchat cock snap snap snap snap it's not penis snap penis snapchat or like i i get a lot of them asking for an only fans account but they're asking with the intent of me having nudes on there um i feel like isn't that what it's it's what it's known for i mean i only know that's my that's my it's my backup backup backup plan i mean i only learned about this last week so really just yeah good for you if it all goes yeah i mean i get a lot of people that ask for that and

i'm actually thinking of starting one but it's not going to be of me i'm just going to put really sexy photos of my mustang on there yeah and like get people to pay for it thinking that it's going to be like me but it's really just tell them on this but oddly i think a lot of people would still be down to pay for it probably so now that you're out there dating in a new relation that you're in a i'm in a no relationship in a no relationship what uh for the guys listening what are you what are you looking for in a guy uh are you into more macho manly man because you're in the car industry or or not so much um i don't think that that's something that's like at the top of my priority list actually i think a lot of people would assume i want someone that's like either into cars as well or somewhat like into that style of stuff.

But no, I mean, like I want someone that has their own job, can take care of themselves and is self-sufficient. is self-sufficient um how and i feel like this is something that women never say but because they're almost worried about men having their own life but i kind of want you to have like your own life where like i want to be with you all the time and like i want to take a lot of your time but i also want you to do your own thing because i'm busy all the time. I work nonstop. And sometimes I want to have a glass of wine by myself. So you value your independence even in relationships? Yeah. Like, I think like the time that you have together should be really dedicated to like you guys together

and focused on that. But I think it's totally healthy to have time alone. And I think that women, especially women my age, are terrified of that concept because they think if they either think if their man is without them, that they're doing something bad, right? And that's just, that can't happen. Or they think that if they're not with them all the time, that somehow they're going to be like forgotten or not thought of or not a priority. But I don't think that's true. I think it's healthy to have your own thing.

So I would want him to have his own, like we can share a lot of hobbies and do a lot of things, share a lot of friends, but I would love them to have their own thing too. Is that something that you've struggled with in your dating life? Do you find that guys aren't good at that? No, actually, I think my ex was actually really good at that.

Like we had a lot of things in common that we like to do like together, but we had a lot of things that we would do on our own and he had his own career too. So we were, you know, working in different things that kept us busy too. So I think that part of our relationship actually was really great. And I look for something like that in the next one too. And any, any fun horror story dates that you've had in the,

I mean, it's been quarantine. I know, but yeah. Or no dating at all. I actually have been no dating at all. Yeah. Just been like,

why? You're just not right. Is it? Well well i think like there's definitely like when you're with someone for that amount of time there's that like period of time that you're just like i need a break like are you are you is it are you nervous to get back out there definitely nervous i'm nervous but i think it's in a way that isn't what people would think that I'm nervous about. What do you think? I think I'm mostly nervous, again, going back to like the face value thing is like everyone wants to date you because they see you as this one thing of like you're pretty and you work on cars. Great.

Let's get married. And you're like, whoa, OK, well, there's like 10 more layers to this that you're not paying attention to. And I just feel like because of the job that I'm in and because of the, like, I guess being on TV and everything, that that's really what they're going to focus on. And I don't want that. You could go like on a dating app and just not put any cars yeah on there change my name maybe

no I mean I mean like if a guy wants to google you yeah he's gonna know but like like Garcelle had that problem right she was like

I went on dating apps and people were like this isn't really you like send me a real picture yeah I don't well I don't think I'm that

like I don't think I'm famous so I don't I don't think well I mean yeah what I'm saying is there's a lot of I'm famous. So I don't think. Well, I mean, yeah. What I'm saying is there's a lot of guys who are gonna know who you are. There'll be a lot of guys who don't, right? Especially if like you put up five pictures

and it's like not the type of content you would say would put on your Instagram or people who would recognize you would see would put on your Instagram or people would, who would recognize you would see would be like, this looks like, yeah, but I don't think, yeah,

I don't know if it is, you know, it says it is. I mean, it says it's the name, but I don't know. Just might be a way of, of,

uh, like with your dating app, if you could like come up with your dating app, but it'd be like one of your pictures of you working on a car on a Sunday afternoon or in the garage or just like you in your pajamas watching TV? It would most likely be like me and my puppy because that is a really big thing. Like if you are going to date me, you have to accept that I have like a furry son that comes along with the package because he's basically like my child.

So you just have to know you're going to be like, you know, a stepdad in the mix. I feel like you should get back out there and start getting on some bad dates, you know? Yeah, I mean, I guess I haven't had like a bad date in a long time. You have to have a couple bad dates. Yeah. I think that's kind of part of the getting out.

Yeah. I will say like I would be very excited. Like I get almost envious of women that get to talk about their like horrible experiences like with their friends where they're like, yeah, I went on this date last night and it was crazy and I had to have like so-and-so call me so I could get out. Like I just think that'd be really fun and I've never gotten to experience that before.

I assure you that when you start dating again, it's going to happen. Or like where you have to like sneak out the back door. Like, I don't know. I've never gotten to experience that. And part of that seems very fun to me actually. Would women actually leave dates is it because they feel really uncomfortable or or unsafe or because like

leaving a date and like powering through like an awkward date are two very different things right yeah i mean i can't relate it to a dating aspect obviously but i can relate that to just like in a normal situation i don't think that i would be the person to just get up and leave and they have no idea but you're already like two blocks down the road like for me like if i'm not into this i'm gonna tell you like i'm leaving now bye like yeah i don't know i was at a bar one day and this girl was like oh i'm gonna go get drinks for us and she like met this like tinder date and he's like I'm gonna go get go to the bathroom And she was like sitting right next to the bar and he just never came back And I felt so bad for I actually took her out drinking the rest of the night

Beautiful she was beautiful. She was from Sweden. She was in town like full she was from sweden she was in town like it's like that would be me i would buy her a drink i was like let's go to the abbey and i'll just buy you some drinks why would anyone do that i don't know but he literally was like yeah get me a whiskey drink i'm just gonna run to the bathroom and then literally like 15 minutes later i was like i was like i don't think he's coming back and i felt so bad and she was just sitting there i was like come have a drink with me that's annoying just say you don't want to be there because it's that kind of stuff that then women are like, oh, I don't want to date. Guys are awful. All this stuff. And it's like, just be a friend.

Just be a friend. You're going to have a bad... I mean, I want to have a bad date that's like awkward because I'm like, whoa, this person's kind of weird. Yeah. I've literally sat down at a date before and someone's been like, oh, you're a lot thicker than I thought you were. And I would be like, cool. I'm going to go now. And I just just leave you're a lot more rude than i was yeah exactly

you've had that happen oh yeah god guys are dicks guys are such that i just like if you're not feeling it just be straight up and be like this isn't really there's like this connection yeah i'm gonna take off yeah caught up with a friend last night, and she was kind of reengaging in the dating life. And she was telling me how she recently went on a date with a guy who, I mean, she's like, I got catfished. And it wasn't like she got catfished in an official sense, but everything about his dating profile was a lie you know he said he was 39 he was like 45 he didn't mention he had two kids which you can debate whether he

has to do it right away his picture looks nothing he was like 40 pounds lighter looked had less hair it was like nothing about it was current or recent and like and then when she met him he just like pretended that wasn't he he said he was 5 10 he was clearly 5 8 uh or 5 11 you know it was like everything about it and she's just like well and i'm like did you like point it out did you leave she's like i just no i just went along with it she muscled through the first date and it was awkward and weird and things like that but yeah she didn't like leave even then and i would you i would argue that you could have a right to if someone was so dishonest about how they represent themselves in a dating app um of like just looking like a different person lying about their age because even like she she brought it up it came up on the date where he admitted his

age and i'm like so what he just pretended as if he didn't know that his dating app said he was like five years younger like he set it up five years ago and just didn't like that was just a type of popular oh yeah no what are you talking about what do you what do you mean why would you think i'm 39 yeah uh because it's the first thing i see you know like um but she just powered through. And I feel like that's a normal. Oh, see, I don't know. Would you?

I'm just not that girl, I guess. You would, you would get up and go? Yeah, no, I'd be like, holding up my phone like, hey. I don't know who you are. Yeah, like, you're not the person I'm meeting. Sorry. That takes. I'm very like, but I'm just very upfront about everything.

Like, I just feel no need to try to like push. If you met a guy on a dating app who said he was six foot, how tall are you? You're tall. Yeah, I'm like almost 5'8". How do you feel about shorter guys? That's fine. I feel like that's a weird thing thing like when people get really attached to stuff like that or like they're like i only date blondes and i'm like okay cool but like what if you meet a

smoking brunette like you just never know so what if you meet the one and he's five eight and you're just like i can't do it you're five eight like that's weird he's the one i mean i'm just and that's why you like you're still single is because of these hang-ups like you sound you make a lot of sense but if a guy lied about his height i think that would you be like would you go would you make up a stand-up against the law i'll be like all right i don't buy it it says you're six foot you're clearly five eight like if i walked up and saw it i honestly would probably start laughing a little. And if he made like a joke about it,

I might be like, well, I could have one drink and see. Yeah, like if he was like, I forgot my lifts at home. Yeah, like if he was real funny about it, I might give him like one drink just to see what it's about. And then I'd be like, well, was that like an insecurity thing? You know, later on. Yeah. He's like, listen, I just needed to get you to go out with me because I know I'm.

Yeah. Yeah. But like if you come in. My body language says I'm 6'4", baby. You know. Like if they don't say anything like your friend's date or something like that, that's weird to me. You have to at least be coming in with something hilarious about why you would lie about that. What if your guy's really young?

Really younger than you or way older than you? I mean, they have a lot more stamina, right? Yeah, right. I like it. So age, nothing really matters to you. It just is like their personality. No, if it fits, it fits. Yeah.

Exactly. Exactly. If it fits, it fits. That should be the title of this episode um do you have a time for a little game called do you mean do you know me before we let you go yeah it's real simple i'm just gonna ask do you know me and chrissy and i are going to don't answer right away. Okay. So I'll read the question.

Does Constance this, that think about your answer? We'll try to guess. Okay. And we'll see who knows you better. I was going to say, I feel like you got to run for your money right now. With Chrissy?

Yeah. Cause we had a good like 10 minutes before you got here to um deep dive in the girl talk so we'll see we'll see and i got to pick the questions we will see as he's checking i'm looking through your notes just to get a get a cheat a cheat i'm cheating all right do you know me with constance nunez question number one does constance use alufa in the shower just so i'm clear alufa is something that's functional and you use to wash yourself yeah it's like the puppy thing okay that you'd put apply soap on it and then use it to then wash your body yes yes i'm gonna say

no this is i'm gonna say i've because i've most got like myself i'm just like the soap on my hand and just start rubbing it around. I like one of those seafoam like sponge things. So I like to use those. So I'm going to say no. So you're saying. I know the difference between those two things. I'm just saying. It has set in.

Yeah. Yeah. I'm saying she uses something other than her hand. It's hand or something else. Those are the categories. Oh, in that case. Thank you. Thank you. In that case, yeah, she uses something other than her hand it's hand or something else those are the categories in that case yeah she uses something other than her hand okay well i'll say well now now you need to if you're saying that it's like lufa or the field then i'm not as confident

the lufa takes down nick i'll just stick with my answer loofah yeah um i do use a loofah yeah when you work in the shop you need that extra scrubbing yeah yeah so that you can have those pretty hands yeah so that the boys can look at that yeah ask you about that for the judginess yeah have you ever been catfished has constant ever been catfished well i'm gonna say no only because she's been married and hasn't actively been in the dating world recently to to be catfished you have to give a shit you have to like you know i'm saying you have to be like oh this person might be someone i'm interested in talking to, regardless if it's relationship, professional or otherwise, and then only to find out that's not who they were. And I don't feel like she has been catfished yet.

Yet being the operative word that if we check in a year from now. Yeah, it's like check back now. I'm going to agree with your analysis, Nicholas. No, I have not been catfished Can't wait to do it I was going to say let's make it exciting though Anyone listening out there that Wants to catfish me Let's have some fun

Has Constance ever been walked in While having sex Walked in on I'm going to say I mean your parents can walked in on? Yeah. I'm gonna say... I mean, your parents can walk in on you in high school. I'm gonna go with sure. Why not?

Yeah, I'm gonna go with yes in some form or another. I feel like everyone's been walked in on once or twice. Or once. Yes, quite a few times. Who? Where? All sorts of places. it happens with so all all sorts of places would suggest that maybe you're performing said acts in places that privacy is questionable sure yeah i mean

when you're in the mood you're in the mood, you're in the mood. Yeah. We should be friends. It's more like an invitation. We can go out later. I love it. Like walked in on it where it's just like, oh my God, why are you walking in here? Like, because the door was open. Oh, no.

It's more like they do, they back out. And then later they're like, what was going on? Yeah. I have questions. I'm curious. They're interested. Did, this is a good one. This is a good one.

Did Constance cry while watching The Lion King? Have you seen The Lion King? The new one or the old one? Trick question. Does it? Either. Okay. Any Lion King?

No. I'm going to say Either. Okay. Any Lion King? No. I'm going to say yes. Okay. And by cry, I mean just at least a single tear. She does love animals, so I don't know. If you didn't cry when Mufasa died, I don't think you have a heart. I feel like you're leading the question and the answer now with that one.

But no. But that's because the last time I saw it, I think I was like five. I'm sure if I watched it today. What about Titanic? Have you ever cried during Titanic? Everyone cries during Titanic. I don't. You don't? It's like he's frozen.

Let him go. I cried the other night watching Mr. Holland's opus. He could have been on that door, I'm pretty sure. That's what I'm saying, I wouldn't cry. Yeah, it's like you're being kind of selfish, Rose. Well, I know you can drive stick shift.

But what about like the old people in the bed holding each other while the water's rushing you know that was based off real people who it's like the owners of macy's or something i don't like quote me on that but i'm pretty sure it was macy's the the original founders of macy's yeah does constance in the picture on their phone lock it is what is it how do i read this is constance in the picture on their phones locks it's like do you have a picture of yourself on the phone on your screensaver oh oh yeah i know let me say sure she's got some hot pictures i do but it's not like an actual photo of me it's like a pin-up drawing of me in my car yeah okay i have the that was tough because i would i almost would have her dog was factory setting raindrops nice nice oh you know that's a very, like, you're keeping it classic, you know? Yeah.

Do the raindrops move? Last question. Has Constance ever been to Coachella? Of course. She's from LA. I mean, even if she's been married, married couples can go get music. Do they do cool car show stuff at Coachella? She's been to Coachella.

I'll say no, just for fun i have not um i'm like a metallica person so nice what is that what does a metallica person like i listen to mostly like rock stuff yeah so i've seen them like 12 times now metallica yeah but i have not been to Coachella. But I did want to go this year because I was like, I'm single and that's like a thing single people do, right?

Is go to Coachella. But now, now that's not a thing. Yeah. It's like a thing bachelor people do too, right? Yeah. Seems very Instagrammy and hip.

Oh, stagecoach. I knew one of them. I haven't done that either. They seem like single people events events so it wasn't something that stagecoach i think would be fun that's more country i like that more it you know the drinking portion certainly single people events but i think yeah why can't couples go to music concerts together yeah i mean well i think you go you're, good chance you won't get herpes because the single people, you know, you never know in a music festival.

Yeah. Just saying. It's like. Perhaps. Hey, so we're doing new things this year. So it was on my list. I'm working. One thing at a time.

Okay. First, I got to get on a dating app. I need to be catfished now by several people. The list is just getting really long. It's a brave new dating app. Maybe I'm the first part off that list. Constance, it's been a ton of fun. Thanks for sharing with us your story.

Yeah, it's fascinating. Really cool what you're doing. And always fun to talk to women like yourself who are doing things and setting an example for not only women out there, but men that you can do whatever it is you have a passion for. And you don't have to explain why you love something. Counselor tells you that maybe you should do something a little bit more manly or feminine. If you're a man or woman, you just tell them to go fuck themselves. Yeah, exactly. And tell them to do, you're going to do whatever it is you want to do and be awesome at it.

So way to be a great role model for people out there. And where can people find you before we let you go? They can find me on Netflix watching Car Masters season one and two and Instagram at Constance underscore Nunes. Yeah. See, the underscore is important.

Yeah. So, I don't know. I looked up. There's no good pun in the underscore. Thanks so much. I really appreciate you coming on

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