The Viall Files - E238 Understanding Psychic Mediums With Chris Medina

Episode Date: February 17, 2021

Today we are joined by Psychic Medium Chris Medina. As a skeptic, Nick spends time to try and understand the difference between Psychics and Mediums, how the process works, and lets Chris read him a little bit to see if he is able to dig deep with him.  Nick really wanted to know if Chris could just predict the Packers season but in opening himself up to learn about Chris’s work, he was ok with that answer being a no and moving on to more personal topics. Whether you are a skeptic or a believer there is a little something for everyone in this episode.  “What I am looking for is for you to get out of your way, so you can get out of my way.” Please make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode and as always send in your relationship questions to [e-mail] to be a part of our Monday episodes.    THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS: Masterclass: http://www.masterclass.com/VIALL for 15% off your membership  Shipstation: http://wwwshipstation.com use code VIALL to get a 60-day free trial. Bev: http://www.drinkbev.com/VIALL Receive 20% off your first purchase. PLUS FREE SHIPPING on all orders. Natural Habits: http://www.nhoils.com use code KRISSY for 25% off.    Episode Socials:  @viallfiles @nickviall @psychicchrism See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What is going on everybody happy Wednesday to you all I can't thank you enough for choosing to listen to our podcast today of the sea of options you clearly have. I'm your host, Nick, and I am joined by Chrissy, my producer, who is in scorching hot Montana. How warm is it there today? It's minus 14. Amanda, part of the syndicate, the social syndicate, is with us as well. Allie is slacking. I know she's going to get really subconscious.

I mean, that Allie, she's such a slacker. She should get it together. She should get it together. Yeah. Thank God for Amanda. Yeah. What did we do? Thank God, Amanda.

Thank God. Poor Allie. Allie in the studio as well. Chris Medina is with us to talk about psychics in mediums i forgot to even mention to chris uh i don't know if i've told this story before maybe i did on on my patreon that's still available if you're interested in uh what happened when i was the bachelor but uh that's segue that was impressive i'll never forget uh while filming one of the young ladies who i i sent home on a date before i sent her home knowing i was going to send her home but waiting for her you know waiting for the right time i guess you could say tell me that before she came on the show that she sat down and spoke with a median.

And if you're saying, no, Nick, you mean a medium? I'm saying, no, she said median. And I was confused at the time because I was like, what do you mean a street signal told you that you were going to find love on the show? And I did this whole interview about like how I was pretty sure she meant medium, but said median. And then they didn't air that because, you know.

And did that medium tell her she was going to be with Nick for the rest of her life? Well, I think it did tell her that she was going to find love in the next couple of months, I think is what she told me. No, not with you. And then I said, can I walk you out? me um not with you and then i said can i walk you out but uh i gotta say uh uh chris was great is great really enjoyed the conversation with him uh we have thought about having uh mediums and psychics on this podcast before i am a skepticic, not a true believer. Chris, he is. I've always wanted to have a conversation with a psychic about just their practice.

And I always wanted to be up front with him about that I wanted to just ask some questions. You know, I am a skeptic but open to learning. Chris was the only one who has ever said yes. Yeah. And so props to Chris. I hope you enjoyed the conversation. I had a ton of fun with him, a really delightful person.

And I think you will find this episode to be a lot of fun, regardless of what your thoughts and opinions are about this psychic and medium world. So we can't thank Chris enough for being so gracious with his time and having this conversation. Don't forget to send in your questions at asknick at castme.com, cast with a K for our Ask Nick episodes. We need your stories

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And if there is nothing else, let's get to Chris Medina. Chris, thanks so much for coming Thank you for having me I'm really excited to have you We've discussed, Chrissy and I, about having a psychic or a medium on the show And we've both, for our own personal interest, thought it would be a great topic to have Chrissy, because she's a big fan of it. A true believer, as they say. Myself, I'm more of a skeptic.

And I often like having conversations with people about topics that I either don't understand or I'm a skeptic. For example, like we had Ricky Williams on a couple of weeks ago who was really big into astrology. And up into the time I had spoken with Ricky Williams, I was like Cosmo magazine it's fun it's neat I know a little bit about it talking to him oh my god I've learned so much more on how it could be useful and and why people who are who really study it can add value into understanding ourselves and relationships and that was really interesting we've had other mediums and psychics reach out to the show and asked to come on to be guests and we're very upfront it's like hey i'm a skeptic are you open to having a conversation about that and then have a discussion and quickly we're just like nope we don't want to come on we're not it's just like well now i'm even

more of a skeptic now you are what are you You're a fucking like, let me look under the hood, bro. If you're trying to sell me a car, you know? Yeah. I want you to buy this thing. I want, you know, but like, no, no, no, no. Like, well, I will send you pictures, you know, just take my word for it. It's a really good car. Yeah.

But I want you to buy it. But no conversation about it whatsoever. No, we can't discuss it. So I just want to say thank you. Well, thank you. Thank you for having me. For coming on. Knowing that I'm going to get grilled like a steak. Not grilled. That's the thing. I'm not. I just want to say, like, I, I am a bit of a skeptic about it. And and I also willing to acknowledge there's just a lot I don't understand. My skepticism comes from a place of ignorance or not understanding. And also it does sound a little fishy.

Believe it or not. No, seriously. I'm a skeptic too. When I came into doing this, I've always been a psychic my entire life and did not start doing this for a profession until about 2014. And when I came out to do it, I was like, I'm going to change the way the world looks at spirituality, metaphysical stuff, psychics, mediums. It's corny. You know what I'm saying? Like you've got people chasing fucking ghosts around a cemetery, screaming at them, yelling at them. You know, how many fucking times can you ask somebody or tell somebody that's over the age of like 30?

I'm picking up a dead grandfather or this type of spirit, this type of energy. And first of all all why the fuck would these ghosts come to you in the first place they have nothing to do with you so when i see these on the show like i've had ghosts do you want me to go into this yeah i please just to satisfy your curiosity here i've had ghosts that were racist in their in their lives before they passed away be the same shitty way they were they are after death like this woman came to me and her father passed away and she had all this drama i always tell the story had all this drama with her family that where's the money at where's this where's that

the father came through and was you have to understand something when i open that side up everybody wants to come through so i'm sitting there and i'm listening to the i'm giving the woman the reading i'm telling her what's going on I'm also picking up on all these different spirits ghosts if you will coming through and I hear this one guy come through loud and clear and be like I can't believe that I'm sitting here having to talk to a fucking f the the sure the word for gay and I was like what and he was like yeah I can't believe I'm sitting here talking to an effing you know I tell her to mind her own business that it's done it's over with and I asked the woman I was like I have to ask you something I said I'm not trying to be disrespectful or rude I said but was your father a miserable fuck before

he died and she was like yeah I was just like well what do you mean I said was he like racist in like just horrible attitude and she's like yeah 100% I said he's he's here I said let's wrap this up and get him the fuck out of my house. Yeah. Okay. I know. Never a bad time to learn. That's a true statement, but it's sometimes it's an even better time. And when you're sitting at home and nothing to do, and you've run out of things to watch on Netflix, go ahead and take a masterclass because truly there is something out there for everyone. Whether you want to learn how to sleep better, train your dog, write a book, make a movie, write music, sing, cook. The list goes on. And the people who are teaching these classes are truly world renowned.

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do you mean because you just told a story about a racist ghost just what we see on tv it's not again my my readings are completely different than what i see on television gotcha you know what i'm saying it's more it's more about, believe it or not, these people don't want to come through. They don't want to be speaking to their relatives. They want these people to move on and let go. So it's not like what you see on TV, like, I'm trapped here. I can't go because of this. They're more like, do you have any idea what it's like on the other side?

When you leave your body, it's done. You're no longer Nick. All your problems, all the shit that you had with those women on television, it's all done and it's all over with. So you said you weren't a psychic before 2000? I've always been a psychic. You've always been a psychic? I've always been a psychic.

Never did this for a profession until 2014. Gotcha. Okay. Thank you for clarifying. When does one realize they're a psychic? As a little boy. Okay. And what was that like?

I remember my dad is Native American. He's Apache Indian. And so is the rest of his family. And they all have the ability in some sort of way. And I grew up with my dad. We lived in Palmdale. He's a biker. And we'd get stoned all the time.

And my dad has an amazing sense of humor to where he likes to trip people out. So here I am, like at the age of three three or four going into the room that they smoke weed in and giving his friends readings and then making them cry I remember making one guy cry so bad that I thought I did something wrong and then my dad would just hit me up and ask me what do you get off of this person what are you picking up from this person what are you seeing and then I would just tell him and it's not like it's when people ask about it it's not like um I'm I don't know if you want to call it channeling it's it like it's when people ask about it it's not like um i'm i don't know if you want to call it channeling it's it's it's just i don't know how else to explain it other than it's just images and words that i hear but it's not like a female or male i don't know how to explain it's

not a female or male type of voice it's just the insight that comes through it's like a a sense or a gut feeling i guess i'm assuming that assuming, like you said, Hokie, there's probably... Can you tell from the people who claim to be psychics or mediums that they're full of shit if they are? I mean, I assume if this is a legit thing and there's people who really have this ability, there's probably a lot more people who pretend to have it and leverage. Because I think a lot of the people who are skeptics and cautious

is that kind of sometimes where I have a problem with religion, you know, for me. And I grew up in a very religious household, and I'm a faith-based person and believe in God. But you sometimes see people use religion as a weapon or weaponize God and play on people's vulnerabilities, you know, monetize and benefit from. And you could see that same criticism with psychics and mediums, people who, like you say, are longing to connect with someone who passed away.

People are constantly looking for closure in, you know, in all aspects of life. And certainly with death, it's hard to get closure. How do you, what could people look for, for someone who might be full of shit, who might not be like, you know, it's like the vulnerable person out there who wants to seek out someone who, you know, has your abilities, but how can they steer away from someone who might be a crook? I mean, that's hard because I'm just going to shit on it a little bit here. I've worked those, those events, like the conscious life exposed those psychic events and stuff like that in about 95% of these people are full of shit.

I mean, they're just scary, seriously. And what ends up happening is that the person is so, like you said, they're so vulnerable. They want to know about what's going to happen, how this is going to come into play, you just just to have that that comfort or that you know that that peace of mind that they'll end up giving the person that's reading them all the information up front and that's all the person needs to steer them in that direction of like you know belief or or taking down that road of illusion does that make sense sure yeah so when i come in when i do my readings i don't tell when people ask me like you know what what should i expect what should i do during a psychic reading if the person's fucking psychic give them your name that's it sure let them work for it so when it

comes to my readings i don't i tell people just give me your name that's it and send a picture but don't tell me anything else about you for the first five to six of the five to six minutes of the reading i'm gonna go in and give you what i'm getting directly and then i'll open it up for questions because if you start having them ask questions or they start saying shit they're pretty much giving themselves their own reading oh yeah well because that's sometimes how it seems like it's like well did you know someone who wore a shirt at some point it was yes yeah exactly I did yeah I'm like oh my god was that shirt white it was was that made of cotton exactly did they sometimes like get crazy and wear polyester you know spice things up a little bit yeah uh did they eat lunch on wednesdays

um i'm sorry they were the kind of people that eat food right yeah yeah so you almost kind of have to earn their trust in a way one people who's reading you're giving do you sometimes ask people to to not speak i tell them all the time i say stop stop stop stop stop and i cut them off i'm known for that during my readings do you have any names out in the public that you're not necessarily a fan of who you would advise to stay away from i'm it's totally a loaded question you don't have to answer it's totally a loaded question i'm gonna'm going to throw the people under the bus that we were talking about before and just leave it at that.

You know what I'm talking about, Chrissy? I know who you're talking about. Do they draw? Do you draw? No. You know, the... They may draw. They may draw squiggly lines and...

Maybe we'll edit that. Why? I have no loyalty to people who don't want to come on the show and exactly fuck them no i'm just kidding i feel like starting a fight in the medium community i'll win for sure yeah no i'm just kidding but that's like but that is the thing like that is the thing right it's like okay cool let's have this conversation but when you are so like my reaction to that was like when you're so not wanting to

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Did you know that the Packers were going to have a devastating loss in the NFC Championship? I'm gay. Like, I don't give a shit about the Packers. But that's what I'm saying. What does that mean like if i if we were friends like three weeks ago could i have been like just to save me the stress just fucking tell me how this day's gonna go yeah but that that's a hard thing though and this is not a cop-out i hate giving readings to where i'm giving a futuristic reading because

that's such a tricky thing because if you're if you're dealing with somebody that is a little bit more behind the scenes or doesn't have like the uh the voice or the energy or just like that the confidence determination to get up and do shit how can i predict a fruitful future for you does that make sense like if you're constantly in your own way how are things going to change what's going to set you apart from the person that's actually putting the time and effort in? It's not relying on a psychic. So, I mean, that's interesting because does predicting the future, it's more potential outcomes? I guess, you know, then the next question is like, are you good at stock trading? You know, kind of like, how's that work with the ability to predict the future?

I'm going to do the psychic hop out here. it's not to be used for personal gain there's so many times that i wanted to get insight especially when it comes to like dating and shit like that you know give me give me this and they're like you know you have to wait in line like everybody else and i know that sounds just you i know it sounds like a cop-out but it's true i'd be a fucking billionaire right now it's a harder answer that's what, that's why I'm going around through the back door doing this that way. No pun intended. Well done. So, yeah, I guess I'm still curious about being able to tell the future. Is it just more because you're right.

Like I've always said, like, I hate it when people say things like, well, if it's meant to be, it'll happen. Or, you know, there's a plan for everything. And I'm just like is there i mean i i believe that if you're willing to learn from mistakes uh you can things will have a way of working out you know short of death and taxes you know if you are open to listening to your past observing your mistakes and the people around you you can create better outcomes from yourself and if you are unwilling to learn you can't sometimes shitty things happen to good people and you can even learn from that that's just how i believe i i don't think that um you know they'll say god has a plan i'm just like i i believe in god i also believe in um uh free will and and if there's free

will i'm thinking well then i don't know if it's god's plan but i definitely could do something to fuck up my day tomorrow and i can make a mistake and i can hopefully learn from it or i cannot and and i'm so thankful for that ability to make my choices that's what makes you um and and so like how does that work with being a psychic and the ability to tell the future? Is it more like, you know, if you do X, Y, and Z, this will happen? Or if you do X, Y, and Z, that will happen? What is that like? I give them both.

I give them both. I'll predict what's going on with them and tell them like, like, I'll give them insight about who they are to their core, the things that are holding them back and telling them you can, you know, if you, if you choose to do it this way, you're going to get the same results. You know what I'm saying? Like, like, I, like, I don't, I leave the power. I think what psychics and mediums do is that they want the recognition.

They want the fame. They want the clout for it. I'm not looking for that shit. What I'm looking for you is to get it, to get out of your way so you can get out of my way. Does that make sense? Like open up your fucking eyes so you can see what's going on and not have another just really fast here. I have an issue with the whole love and light community. The what?

Love and light community. I have an issue with the whole love and light community. The what? Love and light community. I'm totally unfamiliar with that. It's what you were just saying about, you know, I'm going to leave it in the hands of the universe. That's just something that you say when you disappoint yourself. That's, yeah. It's a way to make yourself feel better about the shitty things that either you did or sometimes that things that you have no control over. Exactly.

And those are the harder pills to swallow. Exactly. So when they tell me, you know, I'm going to leave it to the universe or if spirit wants me to do it, I'm going to leave it. Have you ever, have you ever heard of get the fuck up and do something? You know what I'm saying? Like, like what you're, you're, that's what's wrong with you is that you're leaving your power in the hands of other people. You're, you're dismissing accountability and responsibility for your own life and hoping

that someone's going to come in here and fix it for you. There's a lot of people in your community who kind of lead with that. Oh, yeah. 100. Yeah. I tell people I won't read you more than two or three times because then what ends up happening is you become codependent on me. And the last thing I need is more kids. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yeah. So you have a three reading limit? For the same thing. I like that. Because I'm not your therapist. Yeah. I like that. Yeah. I mean, cause I would assume, you know, like, uh, uh, the, uh, profitable medium or psychic would be like, well, you know how like a therapist is like, well, we're out of time. I'll see you right. We're getting to the good stuff. And well, I guess we'll have to do

that next time. I charge, I charge a good amount for a half hour session, an hour long session. You could ask every one of my clients. I never go. I'm not a clock watcher. I'm not like somebody at the 30 minute mark be like, okay, we're done. I want to get you out of your own way. I don't want you coming back to me. I want you to tell me.

I want you to tell your friends about me. But I want the session to speak for itself. What else can you tell us and educate us about being a psychic in a medium? That it's not what you see on television. I mean, I'm going to say a good majority of that shit is all you know it's all for points it's all for uh you know making things more interesting but uh i'm a psychic i mean i've always been this way i lead a very normal life i have two kids you know i you know worked in the insurance company for insurance industry for almost 20 years that i'm normal that i just have an ability you worked in insurance. Yeah.

That's kind of ironic. And I did. I did. Were you able to be like, hey, you're really going to need this? You know what? Actually. You might want to get the umbrella policy, buddy. Yeah, exactly.

Full liability, honey. And it was long term care insurance where people were where you set these things up and the term is, oh you handle this client from the cradle to the grave and so you're dealing with people that are dying on a constant basis it says here that you correctly predicted Stassi Schrader's relationship with her fiancee mm-hmm did you did you give her a warning that she might not want to say insensitive shit on a pot I did that on her show yeah it's like hey you sometimes say things yeah stassi but she's a good girl though i i i i'm not gonna shit talk her i think she's i think she's a good girl i i met her she was nothing but kind to me when i did so yeah

where do you want to go from here on this i mean i i sometimes i don't know how many more questions without sounding like I'm, I'm being difficult. Do you give readings on podcasts or like our, where, where are we? Like, what can you tell me about me? I don't know. Like you don't have to, but I'm also kind of curious. I've been thankful that I haven't experienced true loss in my life.

I have some relatives that passed away. Everything that everything about you is internal. What does that mean? That everything that goes on with you has to do with your way of thinking. And it's not necessarily a bad thing. I think that sometimes that you, I feel like with you, you end up getting caught up in what's, please don't think I'm calling you a follower or shit talking anyway. Sometimes I think you get caught up in what's expected of you. Sometimes that you can't separate what's really going on versus what's

been going on does that make sense you're talking specifically about me specifically about you I should say that again that you're that you internalize more that you're more internal all your issues are internal here so with when it comes to your way of thinking I think that sometimes again that you do some you do what's it you've been doing what's expected of you not not following or being like, you know, oh, is this going to make you happy here? But you just kind of been going down the same path here without really taking some time to really see where you're at in your, in your path. Does that make sense? What's, what's personal to you? What means the most to you? I don't know. I don't know if I agree or

disagree with that. I mean, I am someone who is an overthinker. Everyone knows this about me. If you listen to my show, if you've hung out with me for 15 minutes, you am someone who is an overthinker. Everyone knows this about me. If you listen to my show, if you've hung out with me for 15 minutes, you know I'm an overthinker. That's why I said all your stuff is internal. So when it comes to the over, again, I don't want to add to your stuff. Well, I believe that my stuff is an over-ternal.

In terms of doing other things, sometimes I get frustrated because I refuse to do that in terms of if I don't believe it's right, if I don't believe despite what people might say, I won't do it or I will do it depending on what that is. Now, that being said, sometimes I might anticipate criticism for something I'm doing or not doing, or I might, you know, like, or the perception of what I'm doing. Does that make sense? Like, not doing or i might you know like or the perception of what i'm doing does that make sense like you know i'm doing x y and z i'm good with it but i don't know what people are going to

say do i think about that fuck yes who doesn't well he fails to realize sometimes that you're in this space already you're already you're already got a seat at the table you know what i'm saying like like like you're here you've earned your spot so i feel like with you um the creative bug is going to get more intense over, I'm going to say over the rest of this year, as far as like new ideas, getting involved in new business ventures here, but making sure that you're not, here's the thing with you and tell me if this is wrong. You can challenge me.

No, this is fun. The only thing with you, again, is that overthinking and holding yourself back. Not, not out of fear. Like, you know, what are people going to think of it? But sometimes I think that you have all these great ideas and they're a little bit on the i'm not going to say the whimsical side of things or the feminine side of things and i think that sometimes you're not you don't allow yourself the opportunity to be as free-flowing as you possibly can be i've really been busting out some great wig content in the past couple weeks and Have you seen it? And I'll joke with Amanda,

one of my social media people, that we come up with ideas that we brainstorm. There are a couple times I'm like, all right, we've got a couple wigs. Let's get away from the wigs. Is that what you're speaking to?

No, not like dressing up. I mean, you've done more drag than I have. I bought a few wigs a couple years ago i figured i might as well get a return on my investment my audience seems to enjoy it i i don't find it emasculating or anything it's no it's all fun but uh i will like sometimes i mean do you write well i'm writing a book right now uh i'm not i don't write and i don't i'm not good at it and it doesn't come naturally are you really is it that it doesn't

come naturally yeah i find that hard to believe my overthinking has a way of not getting it's a coffee table book for for uh questions with nick on my instagram. But I'm trying to write around those thoughts. If I write you something, there might be some nuggets of good ideas in there. It's also a hard read. I mean, thank God for my editor because I don't know where a fucking comma goes to save my life and run on sentences are my friend.

And I don't, I mean, spelling, please. I don't know. Sometimes word check is kind of like, I have no fucking clue what you're trying to spell here but uh i think he downplays himself i think that you downplay yourself those are all true statements it is but you but but it may be but i think he's like i've seen his text well come on i i think that i think he's doing the love and light thing i think that he's cushioning the blow to just make himself feel better. But I think there's more there's more to you inside than you think you let on in that.

Again, we'll get we'll get to predictions later. But what do you mean by that? Because I'm willing to like I'm willing to have you tell me I'm more awesome than I realize. Like, don't get me wrong. I'm open to that narrative. No, but I'm kidding. And I've said this before. I said this on my friend's podcast,

and I've talked to my therapist about this, that I'm more comfortable criticizing myself in preparation for outside criticism. There's a desire for me to be self-aware, knowing that that can be challenging at times. And as a result, I want to make sure that I'm aware of potential criticism that can come my way is a way because nothing bothers me more internally than being called out for something that I didn't realize before they did. Like a justifiable criticism or it's just like, oh, fuck. You suffer from what most people suffer from

is that your intuition collides with your everyday way of thinking. I think that you're very perceptive and you're very much, you can be a very much a no bullshit type of person, but I don't think that that's your approach right off the bat. I think you kind of let people do what they're going to do

and then kind of like, and then jump in at that point. But I think what ends up happening with you is that you going to do and then kind of like, and then, and then jump in at that point. But I think what ends up happening with you is that you put on these layers and extension with your way of thinking that take you further out than you need to be instead of just kind of like doing it in the moment or kind of like, you know, putting one foot in front of the other and just see where it goes. You're trying to, you're trying to make sure that every step that you take is going to ensure your weight.

Sure. And that's too fucking stressful. I mean, you, how's your digestion? Well, you know, I think, okay think okay like am i pooping yeah like do you have issues when in the bathroom like are you i mean if you'd ask my sister maria she'd probably say yes but i feel like i'm okay with it because you carry a lot of the energy i'm i'm i grind my i'm constantly i'm a high anxiety person don't tell me anything yeah don't yeah i'm sorry't know. No, this is all not like, not news. Like if you've done your homework, you know, but that's just the thing.

I don't, again, I'm not, not to shit on you, but I don't, I don't know. You know, I don't watch it. Believe it or not. I don't want, for being gay, I don't watch the bachelor. You know, I just heard that, you know, when they reach out and they were like, you know, Oh, you know, you want to be on his show? I was like, yeah, for sure. And they twice up.

Well, wait a minute. Is he skeptical? And they're like, yeah. I was like, this is going to be fun, but that's like yeah for sure and they tell us up well wait a minute is he skeptical and they're like yeah i was like this is gonna be fun but that's it that's all that i know so when it comes to you and when i talk about internalizing stuff and all the energy that you store is all internal that's enough to knock your body out of whack oh yeah totally so what do you do to release i work out masturbate a ton i'm just for sure but do you but are you actually letting go of what's been holding you back or the i don't want to be all you know

psychic here but do you actually let go and come to terms with the check-in? I have an extraordinarily hard time letting go. I'm a dweller. I get that from my mom. That's the one thing that's going to get in your way, and that's what's going to age you faster than anything else. Well, that I believe. But you, again, I'm not trying to kiss your ass. But I do age gracefully.

You sure do. God, can you imagine if I wasn't a warrior, I'm not trying to kiss gracefully. So you sure do. Yeah. But God, can you imagine if I wasn't a warrior, what I'd look like? But yeah, I do. I do. I hold on to things.

I, I, as I've gotten older, I've become more aware of that. And so I try, have you become more aware of it or you better at playing the game? What do you mean? Have you become more aware of what your issues are or better at hiding them or manipulating the game into your favor no i truly i mean therapy for me has really helped

that i think the core thing i've worked on with my therapist is getting out of my own way uh if there is something in my world that is bothering me to try to address it and do something with it but let it go and and not obsess over it fixate over it for the next you know 24 48 hours like i would in the past or maybe weeks fuck and then kind of just process my anxiety um and you know kind of control you can control and try to let it go have i gotten better yes and my it will always be a struggle for me but I do think through my my working with my therapist I've gotten better at just having those like you know breathing you know focusing on my breathing acknowledging that I can't do anything about this and then let it go um sometimes I'm better at it than others other times I just like I'm in a rabbit hole you

know I will I won't take my own advice that, you know, like I will sometimes give my friends or peers of like, well, you can, you can, you can go on Instagram and Twitter and obsessively read about yourself and, and look for the criticism or you could just ignore it and, and not make it feel bigger than it is in reality, because that's what social media is going to do. But fuck, sometimes I'm like, I'll, I'll,

I'll have what almost feels like an out of body experience where I'll be like, I know I'm fucking doing this and I don't know why I'm not going to stop, but I'm just, I'm going to keep, fuck it. I'm going to keep going. You know, I'll do that all the time.

Worst thing though. But yeah, like I said, I have nothing negative to give you when it comes to predicting your future or what I see for you. The only one thing here is again, as things start to get busier, busier throughout the rest of this year and things start to open back up and more opportunity comes into play for you because you're not done growing. I mean, as far as like when it comes to your career, I don't know what you have planned for yourself. What's up with these hosting gigs? What about them?

Do you have any hosting gigs that are coming up? I do. Yeah. You've got all these things that are going to, again, I know it sounds cliche to cliche to say that you know the next Andy Cohen or Ryan Seacrest and shit like that But agents would love to hear that yeah But the only thing that's gonna get in your way is you in your way of thinking I think that you have a lot of Shit to work with I think you I think you're obviously a very good-looking man with with you know Got an insane amount of charisma you talk very well

I think the only thing that's gonna ever get in your way is you in your way of thinking and instead of you know when you're Talking about releasing and I acknowledge all this stuff here. Yeah, you acknowledge it. But are we just putting a bandaid on it? Well, how can I can you give me pointers to work on this? You're going to start retraining your mind. You've always thought this way. You're changing a lifetime of thinking into and restructuring it into a whole different way. Be patient and realize what you have to work with because your anxiety. I mean, I'm not I'm not saying that I'm picking up huge amounts of anxiety from you, to work with because your anxiety, I mean,

I'm not, I'm not saying that I'm picking up huge amounts of anxiety from you, but there's a lot of, when I, when I try to, this is so stupid, but when I try to look inside your head, you take me down different avenues. You're, you're very, very fast. Like, like, like, like I'm still talking to you or you're already thinking of your next question and onto the next thing. Does that make sense? It's very, it's very lightning fast. So when you tell me that, you know, I absorb all this, or I listen to what my therapist said and i'm and i'm you know making these changes here i question that sometimes because with you you're you could be very surface level you don't want to go too far with myself or anyone what both i think even like in relationships

i think that uh i don't want to i don't know come on that's fine i just think like in relationships that it has that it has to be difficult for you sometimes because your way of thinking, and please do not think I'm calling you gay or anything negative like that, but I think you have a very feminine way of thinking sometimes and it collides with your masculinity. What do you mean by that? Like, I think that you, in relationships, have you ever been placed on a pedestal? Have you ever been the one to?

I don't think so, but I'm open to hearing more. I just, I'm not going to shit on this relationship that he's in now, but I'm just wondering if again, even like in relationships, if you're being 100% you and kind of owning who you are in it and just kind of opening up in a way that truly makes you feel good within instead of, instead of feeling like you have to either be on guard or, or wonder what that other person's thinking. Because to you, it, to me, being you is stressful to me because of the overthinking yeah no it's hard to be me i do but at the end of the day look look at you though um yeah i mean i

uh i think there's some nuggets there that could be some truth i mean the feminine masculine i don't really totally get i mean they're they... This has to do with love and how you receive love and how you are in relationships. Because with you, again, I'm not saying that. I'm not saying that you want to be babied in the relationship, but you require a lot of attention. Do I? To me, you're the one.

You tell me. But whether or not... I don't think I do. I don't. I don't. I mean, I'm always, as you say this, I'm thinking and trying to be objective. I mean, do I like attention? Sure. Do I? I don't think I do. I don't. I don't. I mean, I'm always, as you say this, I'm thinking and trying to be objective. I mean, do I like attention?

Sure. Do I? I don't. I'm definitely not. I've never been in any relationship I've ever had that I've asked. I don't think I've ever asked for more love. Not because, and I've never felt the need to ask for more love. Because in all those relationships, you felt the love?

Well, different ways. I mean, all my relationships up to this point have ended, right? The reasons why. And as I look back on those relationships, I kind of evaluated the love I did receive, right? I mean, I was someone when I was younger who, you know, you could say the fixer. And by the fixer,, who, you know, you could say the. The fixer and by the fixer, I mean, you know, you know, almost stubborn. My competitiveness in life would be like, no, you know, you know, my parents were these great examples of of a relationship to me, at least from what I saw.

They were very good at. I never saw them fight. I'm sure they did, but they were very conscious about that. What that sometimes learned as I was younger, it's like, you know, the fighting for love. And, you know, you learn from your parents that marriage can be hard and there's good years, bad years, months, whatever. When you're younger and you fall in love for the first time, I took that as like, well, no matter what happens, I'm going to fight for this relationship. And so as I got older, you realize some things are worth fighting for and some things are not. Now, as I look back and reflect on those relationships, I realized some of the love I actually wasn't receiving in the moment in those relationships. I didn't think about it. I didn't get that at the time. I look back now and now as

I go in and look for new relationships, I try to look for those things I wasn't getting. Does that make sense? Makes perfect sense. Yeah. So. But are you allowing yourself the opportunity to receive that love, though, like this current relationship? I mean, I don't know if you want to touch it, but. We could touch it.

I couldn't be happier. It's a relatively new. It's different. You know, we we've known each other. different you know we we've known each other uh you know i've mentioned this already but we we were hanging out for almost a year before we were like let's be in a committed relationship you know um it was we were never just friends right it was always romantic but uh and when without question when it comes to my love life, I very much have my walls up both personally is like someone who's had other relationships that didn't work out. And now from a public standpoint, I'm just very guarded about talking about my relationship publicly.

I am protective of the people I'm in relationships with. I am protective of myself. I don't think any public relationship, I don't think there's anything that should be gained from having a public relationship. I think you can survive it. I think you can work with it. But I personally don't feel like it's going to do anything good for the relationship.

And so I'm very guarded about that. I think about that. And I don't know if I'm right or wrong, but that's just how I think. It's just a lot of shit to think about i do yeah it's a lot of kind of like putting instead of like i mean do you understand where i'm coming from as far as like being free and be able to float as freely as you possibly can without hindering yourself it's like you you over you like you're always thinking about oh yeah yeah no yeah it's exhausting yeah and quite frankly but do you see really fast i don't

mean to cut you off but do you see what we see when we look at you not not with the not with the the the beauty of nick and what it in in the beautiful things that annoy people about me yeah like no just like no like like you like how what we see in you like as far as like you know again you're you're you're already you already got a seat at the table you've already put your spot in it's a this year is going to teach you again i don't want to get too far spot in. This year is going to teach you. Again, I don't want to get too far into it, but this year is going to be all about what I bring to the table for my career. There's going to be a lot of changes when it comes to opportunities that come into play, but also the most important thing is what's going on in the inside on how Nick is receiving love.

Without the excuses and without the overthinking here, getting to the core of who you are, you've got a good two years of that coming up and it doesn't have to it's not negative i just feel i feel like this is going to be the most freeing time i didn't see that yeah i didn't feel as negative yeah um i yeah i don't know receiving love um you know again i think i'm just actively thinking about my current relationship and yeah i i really love the the affection i am receiving in that relationship i uh we're very communicative uh we don't uh and uh we we talk about our feelings with each other so i don't know if i could be more into receiving how does it feel feels great yeah i'm super happy um at do i the overthinking thinker in me well uh i'm very well because i feel happy because it's so good and because i've

felt happy in the past and have it not work out I my overthinking will try to get ahead of potential pitfalls and problems which I already know can be annoying to the person I don't need a psychic to tell me that you know but yeah I am aware of that and that's something I do try to work on. And there is a, for me, trying to find the balance of what is helpful and what can be detrimental. You know, it makes it. Yeah. Like when you tell me that you're going to a therapist and all this stuff and that, you know, you, that you're,

that you're trying to do the self work within here and that's all great. That's all, that's all fine and dandy here, but you come from a place of practicality and logic. It's not necessarily about how you feel. It's how you think most of the time. Does that make sense? So with you, it's working on, again, I'm not trying to turn you into an emotional person or say that you have to be more in tune with your feelings or go within and all that shit.

You're pretty much within all the time. So with you, it's all about allowing yourself the opportunity to flow. Again, I know it sounds gay, but to flow freely and not hold yourself back and catch yourself when you're overthinking handle what's within your control and everything outside leave it alone you know it it's it it's a constant i mean it's a constant struggle yes yeah yeah no it is i was thinking about something obviously that i wanted to ask you um oh one thing i hear all the time that i actually as someone who tries to be self-aware sometimes i'm surprised when i hear it because on on one side you know is even if there's a host this podcast i can be direct

brutally honest uh i will tell people how i feel you know and in situations where a lot of people sometimes don't and and be like oh you're just so direct and i'm like oh yeah i mean i i think so too and then on the flip side uh in in person even in relationships with people who i feel like i'm the closest with will often say i'm hard to read they don't know what i'm thinking or that i sometimes lack emotion i think you intimidate them i've yes i hear that i think that you intimidate them and i i'm not gonna lie i was a little intimidated coming in here i was like why well because i watched a couple of your clips i want i watched the one with the with the football player the astrologer i didn't see anything negative with it i was like whatever people are like you know

oh be careful because of you know x y and z or blah blah blah and you know and then you know Christy was saying that you know people didn't want to come on the show because they don't want to be challenged or whatever I I can get that but when you sit down and you talk to you then I see you're gonna slap me in the mouth for saying this but then I see the insecurity I see I see that I see the the the what goes on behind the scenes and I don't think there's again it's not gonna it's not gonna make me think that oh you're a miserable person or you know or that you're a liar or anything like that i just think that again with you it's allow i'm gonna say this over and over again it's allowing yourself the opportunity to flow as freely as you can without overthinking it or hindering yourself

because again with you it's a lot it's a lot of mental i wonder like how you sleep at night sometimes pretty good lately yeah Yeah. Smoke weed. Oh, thanks to that Helix sleep mattress. Yeah. Also, thank you, Helix sleep. I'm a side sleeper. Oh, my God. So you smoke weed?

Yes. I don't drink all that much. If I have an indulgence, it's weed. And that's something that I've only gotten into the past few years yeah and I I don't feel like I I sleep fine without it I do enjoy you know at the end of the day having just a tad a micro dose as they say I always smoke after my sessions and I find it to be helpful for myself uh i don't uh yeah and that for me is uh what do they say a vice not a vice but more of a i guess a release i think that's good for you because it lowers your it lowers your mental down it allows you to kind of be

it allows me to calm down be silly get out of my own head uh and it's been very helpful with that have you tried writing on it i have and how does it feel pretty good yeah but like i don't like using it during the day and i have a hard time wanting to be productive at night because there's that balance of using it to unwind get out of my thoughts get out of my head try to be present um does that make sense and then if i'm writing then i'm work and then there's this mental thing that I'm working. That's a lot of thinking, though. Like just sitting here, it's a lot of thinking on your end.

And people can say, well, people think all the time. Yeah, but yours is so loud, though. That makes sense. I sometimes am unaware of how loud my thinking is to others. I can see my eyes going like this. The wheels turning. yeah yeah yeah but again like with like being able to sleep you say you sleep fine or whatever again i know that you were mentioning grinding your teeth and stuff i grind my teeth yeah to me to me with you again

all that built-up energy i always tell people it's it's like your body's so tight from all this energy that you're storing in and i'm not one of those energy or or readers or whatever it's just what i pick up on the body that's why i asked about your digestion because with you you can cause yourself like like issues with your stomach or you know just kind of feeling like there's a little bit of a lag with you because you're carrying all this energy and not releasing it to to its entirety or letting it go and people are asking people ask well how do you let that go it's every night i do a release and my way of releasing is just you know letting go of the readings that i did disconnecting somebody told me a long time ago um it was a reiki healer i don't know if you believe in reiki but they said

i don't i don't know what it is it's like energy work people coming and massaging you and putting crystals all over you and shit um this one lady said you've got all these attachments on you you need to start cutting these attachments and letting things go do it every night start releasing get rid of your clients get rid of the energy that you have and get back to you so i'm going to tell you to start centering yourself because you're going to be busy over the next couple of years. I mean longer than that. But the next couple of years are going to be a lot personal, a lot more personal, and a lot more having to do with work, with different opportunities that I feel is going to pull you out of your comfort zone. That sounds exciting. Yeah.

But the thing is to get him to not to over fucking think it though. It's a challenge. It is a challenge. Yeah. I mean, it's weird. When I was younger, I never thought I would lose my mind. I don't know if this is common for people as they get older. But now as I get older, I'm just like, I could see it.

Does that make sense? What a shame for somebody like you to get Alzheimer's or something. You know, that's so always on point with their way of thinking. But I would be very surprised if that happened to you. Doesn't run in my family, thank God. Knock on wood. But yeah, no, there's just like this because I am in my head. There's this thought of like I just some it is.

It's just like it's the best way I can describe it feels like a tornado in my head. And then I just have to try to like take a breath. I mean, I just, sometimes I'll pull into the driveway and I'll just sit there and breathe and put my head in the steering wheel. And I'm actually seemingly having a pretty good day. I don't even know why I'm fucked up in the head. I'm just like, oh God, I'm exhausted. I don't think that you give yourself enough personal credit.

I think that even if something was to come out of left field for you, that what I like about you is the power of your mouth, that you can talk yourself out and talk yourself into shit and out of stuff here. So I think with you, you're not giving yourself again, I don't want to tell you who you are, but you don't give yourself enough credit or you don't stop to think about all the positive things that make you, you. Yeah. You know, that seems, somewhat fair I have a hot I have a hard time accepting compliments really you don't believe that no it makes me uncomfortable you know what it is sometimes I think most of my life I've been accused of being cocky I think that's a defense mechanism.

But when I still get complimented, I question people's sincerity. See all that overthinking? That's why I get uncomfortable. I don't know if you mean it. I brought you flowers and chocolate-covered strawberries. I'm always looking at the angle. I'm always looking at the angle. What would I have to get from you?

That was a really nice gesture. I'm not that bad. The person I am dating, the thing I love about her most is how present she can be and how thoughtful she is. And it's easier for her. Because I'm an overthinker, I can be a more thoughtful person to others because I'm too busy thinking about myself.

I saw one picture of her on your Instagram. It was when she was sitting on the couch. Yeah, I mean, it's new. She's got to be careful with absorbing too much of your energy and not allowing it to take a toll on her because she's... I'm not going to call

her an energy vampire or anything like that, but she can latch on too much sometimes and it could take a toll on her. Are we going to make it? It's up to you what's your gut tell you i like that face that face was chrissy can you help me please i'm just kidding uh you do yeah i think it's a good experience for i think that you're going to i'm not again

i'm not i'm not going to predict that i don't i don't want to go that's the same thing why i won't discuss death with people but i think that it's a good thing for you. You told Stassi Schroeder that. Fuck. That her. Yeah. Uh oh. I'm concerned. I'm just worried about you.

Okay. I'm worried about your way of thinking and you. So it's not an us problem. It's a me problem. No I'm not going to put it all on you too because she's got issues. I wonder does she speak up? Yeah. I mean, when we first started dating, she's a more quiet person.

Uh-huh. She is someone who, again, she's- Quiet scares me because it's what they don't say. Oh, but she is, as we are, a relationship evolves. She's finding her voice. what they don't say oh but she is as we are a relationship evolves she's clear like she's finding her voice and like i couldn't date someone i don't respect i couldn't date someone whose opinion i don't value i couldn't date someone who i can't ask questions about and i couldn't date someone who doesn't have a voice. I've learned to value the difference between

being loud and quiet versus having a voice and not. I've dated other people, I've said this a lot, that were loud, that were big personalities. They certainly spoke. It didn't work well. I found it to be hurtful sometimes or just maybe there's a lack of compatibility and I I have found to appreciate and value people who when they do say something it's it's more

about them what it's behind it if it's meaningful regardless of how loud they are how often they speak I you know i think again like i'm gonna be positive about it again nothing negative to say about the relationship but i think with her and with you i think it's a good learning experience a good growing opportunity for you because again with her with her she seems again she doesn't strike me as a loud type of person she just strikes me as somebody that that i'm not gonna she doesn't internalize the way that you internalize. Does that make sense?

She's a little bit more, I'd say a little bit more sensitive, a little bit more, I don't know. I want to call her intuitive. Yeah. Well, I think that would be all fair assessment. And so when it comes to you, I think, I think that, I think that with her, that she can, if you allow yourself the opportunity to let go in it and not to overthink it, it's going to be a really good relationship for the both of you because you can bring to the table what she's lacking for her you know with finding her voice and you know realizing who you are and she can she can you know bring that that love because the reason why I brought the roses and I brought the strawberries was again how do you how is Nick receiving love

do those strawberries have chocolate on them yeah white chocolate and regular chocolate because she asked for, she tweeted something about wanting flowers and chocolate covered strawberries. You fucker, you're going to take my idea and give it to her. No, she, I've already known this. But can I just, where'd you get the chocolate strawberries, bro? I got

them from, what was it? Bristol Farms. Okay. Yeah. Alright. Noted. Yeah, I mean. My turn. No, I'm just kidding. What? All right. Yeah. Noted. Yeah. I mean. My turn. No, I'm just kidding. What?

Go ahead. I said my turn. Yeah. Text her right now and tell her those came from Chris Medina so he doesn't take credit for it. I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. Are you worried that you low-key suggested that we're not going to work out because now

I'm going to worry about it? That's why I didn't want to go there. Stop worrying about it. I'm not really worried about it. I do have a question for you, though, really fast. You say that you're going to a therapist. How does that work, especially with somebody like you? Because you're a great... I mean, it's relatively new. I felt it started in quarantine and my anxiety was getting no place i have you know on this podcast openly talk about how i support mental health and and i think if you want you

know if you feel the need you should go there and i just internally felt like i want to do this you know and there's some you know i'm in my head a lot and and I want to try to channel my energy better. And so I That's that's why and I did and it's been Helpful. I don't know the reason why it's been it's over zoom if you mean like how I oh really? Yeah, yeah because you're so perceptive of people and like a good judge of character like when you read people I'd find it weird. I always tell some of my clients is that that have the same energy as you I Don't know how that would work again not telling you that you shouldn't do it's because you'd be reading her more than she'd be reading you yeah I've thought about that where I mean like my ego like this is terrible I want to be the most interesting client she has how narcissistic is that um terrible um it's so

on brand this is such a thought like no really am I like do I challenge you like it's so on brand. That's such a thought. It's so on brand. Like, no, really. Am I like, do I challenge you? Like, it's so terrible. But she's great. I mean, I, but I, there's a respect I have for her. She was referred to me by a friend. I reserve the right personally to go in there and be like this person sucks yeah and move on i've quite enjoyed her um i don't know what she does to have gained my respect but she

has it and um i i find it to be beneficial um there we you know part of what you do i have to cut you off part of what's going to come into play over the next couple of years is going to be, it's not going to be all about the therapy and what's going on with you, but the clarity and the insight that you get from,'m saying too much but i feel like your story what's going to end up happening over the next i'm going to say the rest of this year leading into 2022 into 2023 is going to be it's going to be different it's going to be more of kind of like a i don't want to say a different version of you i'm going to say more of a in-tuned version of who you are knowing where you're at in this space and time, and then sharing your experiences about it. I have a hard time wanting to share my experiences about things. But it's not like we're going to sit in front of a campfire and be like,

oh my God, this is what happened here. You're going to do it in a way that's you. Yeah. Interesting. Yeah. Good stuff. So on brand. What do you mean you mean oh i've never asked my therapist for advice i don't know if that's good or bad but i'm not interested in her advice i'm just interested in you know talking to her

so what do you guys talk about how i'm yeah isn't that like the whole point of therapy oh yeah i i is it i'm pretty sure therapists aren't supposed to give their advice they're supposed to help you guide you in a way to help you make the best decisions for yourself is she guiding you in that way or are you telling her where you want to go and she's making sure that it's okay I honestly don't know but it seems to help with my anxiety I do know that much, and I don't feel like she has dictated my decisions. I feel good about the decisions I've made and that they are mine. I am someone that if I don't feel like the decision was mine, I have a hard time living with that decision.

I feel like I need to personally own my decisions. And if I don't, I feel dirty. Does that make sense? It makes perfect sense. I think that, again, I'm going to throw it back in your face that you overthink things. I think that you're a lot better off than you give yourself credit for. And it's time to start thinking that way. I'm not saying that you're not doing anything with your career, not putting one foot in front of the other.

But you have all the fucking tools that you need to work with. You know this. What ends up happening to you- Well, one thing, I don't know how to enjoy things. Like, I have a hard time enjoying anything. Does that make sense? It makes perfect sense

because you overthink it. Yeah. That's the huge thing. But he knows, it's not like we're talking- Except roller skating. I saw those roller skating. I truly just enjoy that. You just enjoy that and you don't overthink it. Yeah, I need to get my roller sk's not like we're roller skating. I saw those roller skates. I truly just enjoy that.

You just enjoy that and you don't overthink it. Yeah. I need to get my roller skates again so we can go roller skating. But again, he knows all this. He knows what's going on with him. He knows what his issue is. He knows what he needs to be doing. What's next?

Stop using the excuse that, you know, that, that you overthink. You can't use that anymore. Well, I, I don't, just just god's honest truth everyone loves to tell me i overthink i i've recently started just to acknowledge and accept that it's probably true because it always used to bug me even a few even a few years ago um that uh i didn't i was like what do you mean i don't overthink i i think, you know, when you tell an overthinker that they think, they're just like, I'm just, I'm thinking how, you know, like it's all relative.

The way I think seems normal. And all of a sudden I had other people tell me I overthink. And I'm like, no, no, that's just called thinking. That's like using my head. Now, as I've gotten older, I'm like, you know, maybe some people, you know, enough people tell you something. You're like, I should probably listen. But how self-aware are you of yourself?

Like, remember I told you, you don't see what we see. You know, you're obviously, you're being Nick all day. You know, you're looking out of your own eyes. You don't take time to see how you come across to other people. And again, I think other people have an issue with your overthinking because they're like, if we can just get rid of that one thing, look how far this guy is going to go. Yeah, but am I aware of it what you fucking should be well because you can read it on your face uh-huh what do you mean you may not be aware

of it but you can read when you're overthinking your face tells no i know but am i aware of that yeah have i become aware of that yes in the moment am i good at being present enough to like stop myself in the moment from doing it? I haven't gotten that far yet. You know, those people that draw you as a cartoon character, they're going to draw him with like these bubbles above his head. Like with all this shit going on here, because it's all it's all overthinking. I know, but I don't want to make that I don't want to makeissy the satisfaction of giving her a quick reading, how can I take this information and use it to ensure that I bring about the best possible outcomes over the next couple of years for myself? life. Instead of speaking about it, you're going to have to start taking action. Your actions are going to have to be louder than your words. You're going to have to retrain your way of thinking into a different way of thinking of not being so... I'm not saying... You've got amazing self-control,

and I think that's what gets in your way sometimes too, is that self-control stuff. Is that where you were, again, what causes you to overthink? Letting yourself, again, flow freely here, not overthink it here. Realize that you're not overthinking here realize that you're not somebody that's going to go out there and make an ass out of yourself on purpose or that's not going to be taken seriously i don't you don't come across that way and i think that the overthinking all it does here is it kind of hinders you and it puts you puts you a couple steps back when you should be four steps ahead of the game especially with somebody like your personality and what you bring to the table and all that creativity that you have going on i feel like you stifle it probably yeah well um creativity

from a creative standpoint it's uh i mean it's been fun the past few years i certainly i certainly stifled in my past career when i sold software you know i don't know how creative i need to be here but it's been fun to open up that gate again, so to speak. And I definitely feel like whatever change that you speak to or growth will come in that area because I feel like I am re-tapping it into that kind of brain and those skills in ways that I shut off since maybe high school. But make sure that you are present though, that you're paying attention to what's going on around you and not just what you're not what you're not what you're seeing in front of your face here, because these opportunities are going to come to you in a way where it's going to probably be in passing or kind of like someone's going to drop dimes or that you need to go and pick up. So again, don't be afraid to think. I'm not saying that you're that you're so close minded that you can't think outside the box.

Just be a little bit more receptive to what's going on around you without being so much in your head. Gotcha. Yeah. I am a creature of habit, and I can be close-minded about things that I'm willing to do. But I'm definitely more open-minded in other things. I don't know. It's fun. Chrissy, do you have questions for Chris?

Or Chris, do you have questions for Chrris or or chris do you have questions for chrissy let's go chrissy you can ask me the questions i don't have any questions are you why because i'm nervous don't be nervous don't be nervous okay so you don't want to go in there and read you yeah okay i'm sorry can i ask a question how does it matter virtually zoom in person no as long as i can see her yeah okay um these continue yeah uh i have nothing again nothing negative to give you but there um i i question your family and your lineage and the issues that happen the the issue when it comes to the women in your family does that make sense as far as like when it comes to mental health and how, not saying that

everybody's crazy here, but there's a lot of like this, and I hate using these words here, but a lot of karmic energy with the women that are in the family. Does that make sense? And I feel like with you, first of all, is your mother still around? What is your mother like in the relationship with your mother? Because with her and the her in the way that the way that the way that you come in here, I feel like I feel like you are the reason why the river is going to change its flow in the family. Does that make sense? As far as like being being I feel like you've got you're crazy intuitive, but I feel like some of that stuff that some of that stuff scares you, especially when you have to look at people that you're close to.

Does that make sense? And pick up things on them that you don't that you that it it it can it can hurt you or or or you can be very sensitive about especially when it comes to your your mother does that make sense yes so there's a lot of this i literally just cried about this last night with aj which is freaking me out you seriously have such a psychic boner right now yeah i'm yeah my mother and my relationship is is very important i can confirm i can confirm pressure and guilt yeah but you're you're here for a different reason what you what you've been placed here to do again i'm not calling you superwoman or anything like that here is to is that you are going to change the way the river flows and with you with these lessons here and with what you have to do in this lifetime here is learn to let go and become your own here and your mother the the the guilt

that you have towards your mother or that energy that comes in here because your mother your mother has had a very interesting life does that make sense like to where i feel like you feel like you're responsible for her sometimes and i feel like what ends up happening is that your guilt can get the better of you and so this is all about coming into your own and and i honestly feel like you feel like you're responsible for her sometimes and i feel like what ends up happening is that your guilt can get the better of you and so this is all about coming into your own and and i honestly feel like when it comes to your intuition that sometimes it's again i'm going to go back to saying that it scares you to to pick up on this and i think that just like with with nick overthinking i feel like with you it can cause like some sort of depression or anxiety so you have to be really careful with that because

again, just like I was talking about his girlfriend being an energy person, you're very much the same way too that you got to be careful who you're around because when I talk about people having demons inside of them, I'm not saying that you're possessed by the devil, but you have that dark energy inside of you that sometimes can get the better of you, especially when your mother comes around or there's people that are like that, that entice that inside of you and it can make you feel like shit do i know it so yeah how do you feel about that any questions i literally had this conversation last night and like broke down in tears about like this is this that's kind of crazy yeah i literally i literally had that conversation last night and like broke down in tears about like this is this that's kind of crazy yeah i literally i literally had that conversation last night because

my father did pass away and i have this like overwhelming guilt and overwhelming like like i know like my i feel like my path is to take care of my mother and what do i get to accomplish or have in my own life before that happens let me tell you literally was the conversation i had last night so that happens? Girl, let me tell you about family. Literally was the conversation I had last night. So that's kind of crazy. Let me tell you about family really quick. What sets me apart from other psychics is that I don't condone that blood is thicker than water or that you have to respect them because it's family.

Let's be truthful here. We have people in our family that you and I both know that if we worked with them outside of from being a family, we would never fuck with them in our personal lives. And I feel like what ends up happening to people is they take these family values in this identity of like, I have to, that's my mother, that's this or whatever. I have a very similar background as you, and I had to get rid of all that shit. And again, I'm not trying to compare apples to oranges here, but that guilt and that feeling of having to be responsible why would i want to be responsible or take that guilt on my shoulders when this person can fuck up on their own all they want and i have to be the one to take the brunt of it it's not worth it

color me thank you so much you're welcome love we can talk there's other things that i want to talk to you about on personal stuff um we can talk about off-air. So if you want to get my email information from Nick, we can do that. All right. Okay. All right. Thanks, Chris. You're welcome, love.

Chris, this has been a pleasure. Before we let you go, we like to play a game with our guests called, ironically, Do You Know Me? Do you know me? Where we get to guess if we know a lot about our guests. Okay. So we will put on our psychic caps and see if we can return the favor. Before I go, just what are the percentage chances I'm in a relationship with the same person a year from now?

What do you give it? Come on, Chris. She's going to hate us. Am am i gonna be a dad anytime soon you would make a great dad i mean that's not what i asked i'm gonna say there's a good i'm gonna say there's a good percentage that just feels like you're lying to me on the spot oh yeah so no i'm not gonna be a dad anytime soon define soon great question i'm not I'm not going to be a dad anytime soon Define soon Great question I'm not trying to have a kid right now A lot's going to change over the next couple years for you A lot

A lot of breaking the mold Getting out of your comfort zone Realizations and stuff So again I'm going to stay with the next Three to five years But probably not with the person I'm in a relationship with. God damn.

There's an 80% chance that it's going to be with her. There's your percentage. It sounded like 20 when he said 80. Help me out, Christy. Don't leave me out here. I'm just reading your body language, bro. I'm still stuck on my mom's shit. Christy's digesting over there. I'm just reading your body language, bro. I'm still stuck on my mom's shit. Chrissy's

digesting over there. I'm just having fun with you. This has been a lot of fun. Do you know me? Chris. You can't use your notes. Medina. I'm not. This has nothing to do, but I always like to have

my notes in front of me. Question number one. Has Chris ever lived abroad? Has Chris ever lived abroad? I'm going to say no. I don't know why. I have no reason. Just a gut feeling.

He is 100% right. Does Chris have a record player? Does he like the vinyls i'm gonna say i do so i'm gonna say yes yeah chris doesn't strike me as someone who cares too much about being ironic or you know he certainly wouldn't do it because it makes him feel cool no and I don't know if he's that much of a music lover. So I'm going to say no. He was so close. No, but I am a huge music lover.

You are? Yes. I said too much. Has Chris ever cut his own hair? Ever? What are we talking ever here? Like ever? Have you ever used a scissors to his hair?

Has he like trimmed his? Yes. The guy. Every guy's cut their own hair they you go you all have one of those thingamajiggies the shavers yeah has he ever yes he has a clip yes yes yes for sure has chris ever gone to work high yeah on what'm going to guess anything. No. Ever? I mean, I guess you could say I have if I've smoked weed to write a book. I've never. I've never done it while going to work for someone else. I've done it while going to work for myself. And our our age policy, our HR policy is, you know, if it makes you more productive, then go nuts. Good to know. Now I know the HR policy is, you know, if it makes you more productive, then go nuts. Good to know. Now I know the HR policy.

For myself. I mean, I don't know. As long as you're productive, Chrissy. So on that sense, I'm going to say he has to some. Yeah. Yes, I have. I say no. I win. Has Chris ever quit his job? Yes. We know he sold insurance before he is now a psychic. That's not even a question. He told us the answer. Right? I mean, just to confirm.

Does Chris know five cast members from Jersey Shore? Are there more than five? I don't know five. I don't. I know like three. So I'm going to say no. I'm going to say no. But he does like pop culture. Wait, he does really like pop culture.

So, okay, I'm still going to say no. But he does like pop culture. Wait, he does really like pop culture. So, okay, I'm still going to say no. No, you're right. Has Chris ever been in an open relationship? Hmm, interesting. Yeah, we don't, I don't know. I don't even know if he's in a relationship. I do know he likes rough sex. Mm-hmm.

That much has been verified. Like, yeah yeah with the punching fine man if you want me to choke you I will has he ever been in an open relationship no but he's discussed it he's good I'm a jealous bitch and a possessive bitch so I would never be in an open relationship

ever in my life but have you ever had a discussion yes has chris ever paid to have their eyebrows done hard yes i can't see his eyebrows yeah i'm gonna go with yes too god i love you guys yes and he said hard yes i don't know whether to be yeah offended by that or i knew i was right because you sounded offended and i always know when i'm right about someone because when you elicit an emotional response by telling about someone who they are and they and they feel it you know you nailed it because you get because you're like fuck i hate that about you know like uh know that when you really strike a nerve with whoever you're dating

has uh chris ever faked an orgasm everyone's done it let me say yes i did try to get away with it once harder to do as a guy but i definitely tried uh sure chris has faked it yeah yeah yeah it. Yeah. It's definitely harder. You're like, how do I, do I just. We could be here all day talking about some of that stuff, but yeah. Last question. Has Chris ever gambled in Vegas? I mean, yeah.

Sure. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Great. Do You Know Me with Chris Medina. Chris, this has really been a lot of fun. An absolute pleasure. Thank you.

Can you tell people where they can find you listen to your podcast follow you on social all that fun stuff yeah you can sign up for a reading at chris medina dot guide there's an option for a half hour session or an hour long session chris medina dot guide uh social media is at psychic chris yeah at psychic chris m instagram twitter facebook and my podcast is called In Your Head with Chris Medina. And it's got a big gay pink fluorescent logo on it, so you can't miss it. Awesome. Well, again, I really appreciate you coming on and being willing to indulge my skepticism in questions.

And it certainly goes a long way for me, not that you care, because a lot of your peers are unwilling to do that. I appreciate it. Props to you. Thank you guys for listening. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Don't forget to send in your questions at asknick at castmedia.com, cast with a K. We would love your five-star reviews.

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