the zurkie show - does this sound familiar

Episode Date: September 19, 2025

you are not a loser, so don't act like one.sending you all lots of love and peaaaaaaaaaaace!https://linktr.ee/thezurkieshow

You're pathetic. I gave you a plan on what you were supposed to do today and you couldn't even execute that. I gave you the opportunity to do something good for yourself, but you went against it because you didn't feel like it. You are pathetic. You are an excuse for a human being. I don't know why you think you deserve anything when you are a loser. You're a loser. I tried. I tried, but you're a loser and you'll forever stay a loser. Is that an acceptable way to talk to yourself? because that's all that my brain has been telling me today. And I just accept it. I guess I am a loser.

I guess my mind is correct. I mean, yeah, I had all these plans. Yeah, I wanted to do everything today and be productive and be on my grind. But I didn't. And now what is happening instead is I have the evidence to back up the fact that I will be worthless for the rest of my life. I have the evidence to back up the fact that I don't do anything correct, that I set out these goals for myself, and I just cannot accomplish them. matter what I do, what I try. But I think the problem is this. I have already convinced myself of this from a very young age and there's a chance that you have to. You are convinced that you are a

loser. You are convinced that your life does not matter. You are convinced that no matter what you do, it will never be enough because life has dealt you a losing hand. And it's a fixed way of thinking and it's honestly not your fault for fixing it because you have learned this. This is something that is passed down. For me, it was passed down from my parents. There are winners and there are losers. Get used to it. You're not doing enough. Get used to it. Do more. And even if you do enough, the expectation is that you will be excellent. And if you are excellent, good, you pass. You will not get praised. You know why? Because you are a loser. You want somebody to sit here and be so. sorry for yourself, you want somebody to give you a participation trophy? No, that's what losers get.

But I am so convinced that I am a loser that I cannot win. I am so convinced that I am losing at everything in my life that I cannot accept greatness for myself and I cannot trust the people around me and I cannot just be alive and be myself because all of the time it feels like I'm losing. The truth is, is that you're not a loser. The truth is that you do a lot for yourself. You have a hard time admitting that. You have a hard time seeing that because your entire life, you've been convinced

that you are a loser. But a loser wouldn't choose to sit here and watch this video. A loser wouldn't choose to give themselves an opportunity to think differently about their current situation. A loser would not have an open mind. would close everything off and accept the fact that they're not enough.

You don't need to be a winner or a loser. You just need to be. And you have to accept that as important as it is to win and excel in this life, it is equally important to fail and to make mistakes and to get embarrassed and to feel awkward about the fact that a comment went off a little bit weird to your crush and she might not like you back and that, yes, you kind of have some acne on your face and maybe people will notice it. They won't because they're too busy noticing their own acne. That's how it works. But catch this mindset and understand that this is a mindset and this

is not reality. No matter how bad your circumstances are, people have it worse than others. You are not a loser. You're not. The idea of winning and losing. is so, it's so cookie cutter. It's so fixated on the point system on this idea that you need to do X, Y, and Z in your life in order to be deemed worthy. Why can't we just start at accepting that we are worthy? And we got to build on top of that. And I know maybe the fuel is not as strong, you know, maybe hatred and this idea that you are a loser drives you to get out of bed and it drives you to work harder, but there is a certain amount of pride, I think, that you subsequently just get rid of when you call yourself a loser and you label yourself as the problem all of the time.

Because everything you do then is built out of fear. Everything you do is built out of the idea that you will never be worthy enough. So you need to continue to prove yourself to other people when the reality is you've already proven enough to yourself by just being here. This is not easy. Being alive is not easy. I'm giving you the grace, dude. It's hard. Especially now.

Especially now. It's very difficult. Why make it more difficult on yourself? Why impose these self-limiting beliefs? Why impose this idea that I'm cooked, chat, because I'm a loser. This is dangerous. because this isolates you. It makes you believe that you are in fact in a losing world

and that nobody understands you and that nobody will understand that you are never going to be good enough when in reality nobody notices that. People care about your character. They care about the way that you treat other people and that you are respectful and that you see everybody is equal

and you don't just be like, oh, you're mad, you know, or I don't like you because of some dumb. belief. Like, that's what matters. This idea that you are a loser is just not true. It's just not. Because what even is a loser? Well, a loser is somebody who still lives at their parents, who's got no motion on hinge or on Tinder? According to who? Well, a loser is somebody that plays a bunch of video games all the time. A loser is somebody who can't get into the gym because, Because they got mental blocks.

I can't get into the gym right now. I've had a hard time being consistent. I like playing some GTA. I like playing some Minecraft. There's nothing wrong with those things. It's the mentality, though. It's the idea that you have convinced yourself you are a loser and you look through your life with the prism that you are a loser.

It's the idea that you think you will never be worthy enough because you got cheated on. Because somebody used you and left you for somebody else who you think is more attractive than you. And you've been like, oh, there you go. There's my proof that I am a loser, that I will always lose. For me, it was when I couldn't convince my high school sweetheart that I was better than her current boyfriend.

And they had been together for a while. and I was the new guy on the block. Like, I couldn't do it. And I wasn't in that relationship. I wasn't in that chase because I was trying to be with somebody who matched my values,

who cared about me, who saw me the same way as I cared. You know, I saw them. No, it was because I wanted to win them over. Two completely different things. And when I did not win, I thought of myself as a loser. Okay.

Now, will you lose in life? Will you have moments where you tried your hardest and you still will fall short? Absolutely. There's always a runner up in the World Cup. And sure, while all the glory and the glamour is put on the champion, you cannot discredit the fact that that other team made it to the final. And that's the difference. Sure, it might not feel good to accept the fact that, yeah, man, I came in second.

Yeah, you know, I gave myself like a big chance to do this. and it just did not work. It's difficult to look back at those moments where you thought that you were on the cusp of something great, where you thought that you were making progress in your life. Maybe you were feeling really, really good after being in a rut for a month for a year. And it feels like you just went back down to that pit.

You went back down to that slump. But that is just one of the waves of life. And it just happened once. And guess what? It will continue to happen. And that's just how it goes. That's just how it goes. Does that mean that you're a loser for having ups and downs?

Does it mean that that will forever be your life? And that is just the entirety of your existence is going through the bad? I would argue that it's the way you perceive these things. Do you look at these moments as things in your life that are just throwing you in a loop? Oh my gosh, I'm cooked. Or do you look at these things as tests, as trials? Tests of your character, trials of who you are. Because I think that we've become a little bit comfortable in the way that we live.

I think that we've become a little bit domestic in our problem solving. Take on something hard. What? What do you mean by that? Take on something hard. Challenge yourself. Even if you are in the deepest, darkest place in your mind, challenge yourself to do something good. Maybe that's cleaning your room today.

Maybe that's taking that stack of plates that's in the corner of your room to the dishwasher. You don't even have to start it. You can just put it there, you know? It's that step. It's that reframing. It's that decision to actively go against how you feel right now and what you think, though, you know, your reality is, which is this idea that you are a loser and you will forever be a loser and everything you do is an L, a big fat L. It's taking that and being like, all right, like, let me do something that would make me feel like a person.

Not even a winner, just a person, just somebody who deserves to exist here. If you have huge self-confidence issues about how you look, maybe it's about figuring out what is the lowest threshold of a makeup. What is the lowest amount of cover up of your face or of the features of your body that you're not comfortable with that you can do and still go outside and show yourself and be in a public place? If you have social anxiety, it is what is the smallest amount of conversation you can have with a stranger or with one of your friends in a public setting that will make you feel

a little bit better about yourself. Because right now, this talk of being convinced that you are doing everything wrong and highlighting all of these tiny things that you do and adding them up as that being the

definition of your personality. It's just not reality, Zerky Show. Sure. You're human. You will make mistakes. You will do things that are just bad, objectively bad, right?

At least in your mind. But with every mistake comes an opportunity to learn. I don't think we cherish that enough. With every mistake, there's an opportunity to figure out who you are a little bit more. And if you do not put yourself in a position where you are challenged, and you do not challenge your own beliefs and challenge the way in which you interact with this. Life. you will continue to stick to your idea and your belief

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You're not a loser. I believe in you, Zerky Show. Find that evidence in your life and find that evidence within you. Today's episode of The Zirky Show was filmed in beautiful Orlando, Florida, here on the lake. It is so pretty. I love the swamp lands of Florida. And I just love Orlando so much, so underrated.

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