the zurkie show - love isn’t supposed to feel like this

Episode Date: December 27, 2024

loving isn't easy, but it seems like our generation struggles the most with it. maybe we need to give it another shot. https://linktr.ee/thezurkieshow

I just want someone who will like me and love me. For me, that's really what I want. I think that's what a lot of us want. There are so many questions in this life that I wish I already had the answer to. First, why is a day that Chili's $60? Why is that? Because that's crazy. Next, what is that thing in the sky in New Jersey?

I keep seeing videos of it. What is that? Is it a drone? Is it an orb? What is that thing? And lastly What is love? Baby don't hurt me

All right enough with the pipes Unc used to sing Not anymore Now he sings once in a while What is love? What is love? Because whatever it is, I'm pretty bad at it I am not the goat of love

And I think that Our generation Gen Z we've been heard a lot in love because we don't know what it is we don't know what it is we think we know

because on Instagram love seems to be you know a vacation to Cancun every week it seems to be getting spoiled by your significant other with a brand new Mercedes and Kendra Scott necklace and getting a you know a Stanley Cup

and all those things you know seem cool and awesome I mean you know I guess, but that's not what real love is. At least I don't think so, and I think a lot of us have kind of realized that's not what love is. But it's what people tell us love should be, you know? No, don't compromise yourself, man. Get a girl who's going to listen to everything you say and isn't going to challenge you. Oh my gosh, he's not for you.

If he doesn't want to buy you, you know, front row seats at the next. commanders game he's not for you really really that's love is things people buy you experiences they can afford to give you yes i think i think part of it it is for sure because if you're being stingy with the coin you might be stingy with your love absolutely but that's not what love is and a lot of us we don't want that i don't really care if my significant other is going to spoil me and get me the you know, I don't know, messy Stanley Cup. I don't care about that. I don't really care that my significant other can read my mind

and wants to get me the cold Palmer jersey that I've been wanting for a while because he's the goat. He's so good. Oh my gosh. Cold Palmer, man, I love you so much. Anyways, like, I don't really care about that. I don't care. What's more important to me is that, you know, they're interested in the fact that I like soccer and it's a big part of my life and I love playing it and I love watching it. Like that's more important to me. Them spoiling me once in a while, it's cool. Like it definitely adds to it and you should, you know, get spoiled like yoss.

You know, you should. But like, I just, I just want someone to share life with. I just want somebody who is going to ask me how my day was when I come home. and I'm like in turmoil and I'm like this day was terrible. I just want someone who will like me and love me. For me, that's really what I want. I think that's what a lot of us want. Amazon presents Jeff versus Taco Truck Salsa,

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Because you're so much better than that. What, that I just want somebody who's going to like me? Like, not really. Okay, and hold on, I'm going to take that back. Because we need to find our significant other, in my opinion, attractive, right? Like, you have to like them. And what might be attractive to some people won't be attractive to other people. That's just, like, objectively a fact.

I mean, and there's nothing wrong in that. But, like, bro, where has the love gone? Where has it gone? Maybe it's a lack of effort. Maybe it's a lack of wanting to commit. Because when we were younger, like relationships, became this this really convoluted thing

when really they were just they were very simple you like the person you go on dates with them and then if you don't like them you stop and then we just be like we just dirtied the water

we polluted the water you know and it has radiation in it now and it's like everywhere you step you just find an ick everywhere you go you're like oh you know you don't even give the person

the benefit of the doubt it's just like no it's over they looked at me weird while we were on the date at Chili's, oh, I don't like them anymore. Like, you haven't even given them a chance. And I'm saying this because I've done that. I've totally been the person who's been, like,

trying to find something to not like about somebody else because I just wasn't confident in myself. Like, absolutely. But I don't know. I think part of it, too, is like, we just, we don't have a baseline as a generation of what a healthy, good relationship is supposed to look like, because all the time we're obsessed with other people's relationships literally all the time and when

you're scrolling at 3 a.m. and you see like a beautiful couple who's more well off than you who has a family like you just can't help but think like man that's the that's the standard when really like you're at level one you're a level one mafia henchman you're not mafia boss like you are level one you are supposed to be finding someone that you can just like hold a conversation with and you find interesting and they find you interesting. I feel like a lot of dates like you go into it and you're like, well, I met them online and they're not going to be the same and it's like it's going to be mid. And then it is mid because automatically you're just like in defense mode. And a lot of people out here are not over their exes. They're not.

Okay. Stop lying to yourself. You are not over your ex. You need to sit down pen and paper, write how you feel and come. to the terms that you like them still and that's fine that's okay like it took me bro it took me like two years to get over my ex two years of thinking and being like you know what what am i doing why did i feel this way what went wrong that's that's normal that's normal you need time to grow like you need space to grow it's but it's still like what is love

Am I alone on this? Or, like, do we feel this as collectively? Like, what is this? Because I don't know. And maybe nobody knows. Maybe, you know, the boomer generation that could buy a house for $20, maybe they don't know either. But maybe they kind of just went with the flow and they went to a shindig.

And all of a sudden, you know, they met their wife. And they're like, oh, we're going to get married and move to two sons. son because all the boomers are in Arizona for some reason. Oh, actually, I know why. It's because it's warm. I mean, respect. And Arizona's really cool. It's beautiful there. It's gorgeous. But what is love, bro? Because baby don't hurt me. Truly, baby don't hurt me. And we got to, we got to figure out how to not hurt each other in these relationships because it is causing, it is causing a lot of people to not want to date, like ever again, which is bad. That is not good.

That is not a good thing. It is one thing to be, like, alone and be like, I'm a lone wolf, like the lone wolf sitting under the tree meme. But it's another thing that actually go through, like, 60 years of your life alone. And what happens if you get sick and you have nobody? What happens if you don't, you know, make ends meet and you're broke and you have no one to go to? Like, that's why we have partnerships. That's why we have other halves of us. And I get it.

A lot of people are like, well, the only reason you would get in a relationship is to have kids. Okay, yeah. And if you don't want to have kids, you totally don't have to have kids. It's up to you. But like, me, I'm speaking for myself. Like, I want to have a family one day. I do. Am I perfect?

Hell no. But I can give it my all. And I can try to. be the best part of my relationship that I can be. I can try to hold my own. And will I fail? Yeah, I'll make so many mistakes. Welcome aboard via rail. Please sit and enjoy. Please sit and stretch. Steep. Flip. Or that and enjoy. Via rail, love the way. I feel like part of love is making a lot of mistakes.

It's figuring out what you like about love and what you don't like about love. And that's normal. But we're depriving ourselves from doing that. And I'm part of the problem, bro, because I gave up recently. I downloaded Hinge for like two weeks and I deleted it because I was like, this is sad. This is making me feel really sad that I'm a mid-looking guy. Which, like, for a lot of us that think that way, it's like not true. And most people don't like they don't care.

Online they do care because that's the first thing you see. So like, you know, that whole argument like, well, people do care about your looks. Yeah, they do. But if you have a golden personality, if you are an interesting person, if you're a caring person, like majority of the time, if you go up to someone in real life, not over the phone, they're going to have a conversation with you. They're going to like you probably. But we don't do that because this is.

become the epicenter of everything. Oh, phones are bad. But that's not the answer either. It's not that because the phones are not going away. It's not going to go away. It's only going to become, you know, more intense, you know. VR headset, VR girlfriend. That's the future.

That's the future. And that's not love. No AI can generate you the feelings, the butterflies you get. When you go up to someone, you find attractive, and you say, hi, my name is, blank, Jeff, my name Jeff. And you say, I think you're very pretty. What's your name? My name's Alyssa. Where are you from?

Oh, I'm from the Bay. I love Alenium. Okay. Alyssa, listen, I don't want to take up too much of your time, but I think you're really pretty. I'd love to get coffee with you. Like, would you be down for that? You know, I have noticed. You've been looks maxing.

So yes. Except the last part. No one's going to say that in real life. But like, what is love? I don't know. Nobody knows. The moral of the story is love is trying. Love is giving it a shot.

Love is knowing you're going to make mistakes. Is knowing you're not going to be perfect. It's knowing that the end of the day, that other person has your back, that other person cares for you. and they want what's best for you. That is love. And a lot of us, we haven't even opened ourselves up to love.

And it needs to change. And I'm part of the problem. I need to stop giving up on love. I need to stop telling myself, well, it's cooked out there like it's just done. When I can go to a public event, when I can go and meet people, when I could talk to people.

The gift of gab, I can yap at people. You probably can too. You probably can too. I got to stop living like, you know, I'm living in a video game and I haven't unlocked the levels in order to have love. That's not true. It's not true. That's what I think love is.

It's trying. Because what is the other option? What? Scrolling on my phone until like 3 a.m., looking at things I shouldn't be looking at that are corrupting my brain. Like no, it's that's not the other, like that's, I mean, that is the other option, but it's, that sounds terrible. It sounds bad. And we got to, we have the power to catch ourselves. Like, we're young. A lot of us are, are very young. Even though we think we're super old and we're unk. No, we're, we're so young. Life is long. So if you want love, if you want to be loved,

love yourself first and try. Go out there. It's going to be. It's going to be. a long battle, but you will find it. And there's a difference between trying to look for love, right? Like, I'm looking everywhere, blah, blah, blah. But just like, go out there, experience things. Be yourself. You will attract the love you deserve. You will attract the love that you deserve.

You will. You will. Go out there. Go out there. Zerky Show. Jeez, this was a passionate one. because I don't even, I don't know. I don't know, and I'm not gonna sit here and act like I do,

because that is a big pet peeve of mine when people are like, yeah, I know. You have no idea. You got no clue. Zero clue. I'll be honest, I don't know. I can only tell you what I think love is. But do the things you love because this life is a short one.

I'm gonna sound like a parrot saying this, but the Zirky Show is here to stay. You can listen to it. You can watch it. Whatever you fancy, we gotcha. So tap in. 2025 is here. Let's enjoy it.

Let's shoot our shots. Like, this is the year where we start to think different. It's the year of growth. Zerky Show. I love you so much. Peace. Be be, peace. Peace.

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