the zurkie show - what attitude costs you

Episode Date: December 11, 2024

there was a reality in my life where I would wake up, look in the mirror, and feel sorry for myself. and then I realized I had nothing to lose.

There was a reality in my life where my day to day was waking up, looking at the mirror, and feeling sorry for myself. Because I thought I was fat, because I thought I was ugly and stupid. I was working a dead-end job that I thought was mid. It was fine. I was grateful that I had it, but it was mid. And one day, when I was looking at the mirror, I realized, I had nothing to lose. Why?

Because if I was going to keep living my life this way, nothing was going to change. You cannot do the same thing over and over again and expect different results, especially when you know the things that you're doing aren't working. So I said, okay, I have nothing to lose. Maybe I should change the way I view my world.

attitude is free. So I decided, instead of waking up in the morning and calling myself an ugly, fat, loser, excuse of a human being in my mind, what if I found something I liked about myself? Even if it wasn't true, what if I found something that was okay? I was like, all right. Those were small things. I wasn't risen myself. I wasn't being like, sin, sin, sin.

he wasn't made for you. No, I was, you know, looking at myself and being like, okay, hey, face cards looking pretty good today. Hey, I look rested. I looked like I slept eight hours. Great. This small change in the morning started to spill over to other things in my life. Suddenly, when I would go into work, instead of being like,

oh, my God, I'm working eight hours. Oh, my gosh. I used it as an opportunity to learn. Okay, I'm in the footwear department. What can I learn about the shoes that I'm working with? The new Roshi runs just came in. How can I learn more about them? So if someone asks me about them, I can tell them about the Roshi runs.

Is there another department that needs help? Offering that I would help out. Attitude? Oh, see, even this. This sucks. I want to show you this card that says attitude is free, but it's blown away. I can look at that and be like, Or I can straighten the card out.

I can try again. Attitude is free. The way that you view your surroundings, the way that you view yourself, you can control it. You can. No, no, it's just the way it is. Maybe.

Or maybe it's your attitude. What do you have to lose? A lot of us don't want to change. We don't even want to entertain change. because it's scary. And I get it. This attitude thing, most people think it's a bunch of woo-wah.

It's a bunch of, it's a crystal. But what do you have to lose? Because I'll tell you something. When I started to decide I want to live a good life and I'm going to live a good life, I started living a good life.

Genuinely. Did it happen overnight? Absolutely not. Do things still suck? Of course. You kidding me? The other week my car engine almost burst into flames. But at least it didn't actually.

Then I had to take it to a mechanic and drop $800. I met the mechanic that I know I can go and take my car and get serviced. Chill guy. Things will always happen. That is just baseline, life experience. Things always happen. Sometimes they're unfortunate. And you're going to have to pay a price.

You will. Whether that's your time, whether that's monetarily, whether that's part of your soul. When you get heartbroken, you pay the price. Part of you leaves you. It sucks. So if you have attitude for free, why not do something with it? You will not leave me alone, huh? Okay.

Want the ball? Dogs. If you're going to have a dog, you're going to have to throw it. A ball once in a while. It is what it is. That's what life is, right? An attitude is something I think that needs to be studied. For a lot of us, we think we already know what our attitude is.

Yeah, I have a pretty good mindset. Sure, you know, I think I have a chill life, whatever. But have you really went and examined how you think of things when you're under pressure? Because when you're under pressure, that's when your attitude gets tested. When you're on a road trip with your family and you're helping your parents on, Google Maps and you're telling them to go off a one exit and they don't listen to you because they're like no it shows that it's the next exit and then they get mad at you they get mad at you it's your problem right that they didn't take the right exit that you

told them five times to take attitude bro you could look at that and be upset and be angry brush it off you already deal with so much stuff some things aren't worth the time real talk attitude is so powerful we underestimate the power of it because it's not something tangible it's not something that you really think of you have to be cognizant of it

you have to notice it for me my attitude really shows itself when I start talking to myself in the way that I communicate with who I am and the way I have my internal monologues And sometimes those monologues are terrible. I'll wake up in the morning and there's a part of my brain that's telling me,

you suck. You suck. You told yourself you're going to wake up at 7 and you woke up at 8.30. You're a loser. You're a freaking loser. I can't believe it. Hello. That's my attitude.

Be cognizant of how you talk to yourself. Because at the end of the day, that really changes all of your attitude going forward towards everything. Your perspective on everything. If you don't know how to have a good attitude about yourself, you won't have a good attitude about work. You won't have a good attitude about school. Being cognizant of attitude allows you to be more present and it allows you to actually see the opportunities in front of you. If you have a negative attitude towards life, why would you be able to seek out things that are positive? Attitude is free. How you decide to look at it and use it is entirely up to you. But let me warn you,

everything has a price. If you decide that you want a negative attitude because it doesn't matter, there's nothing to be positive about, have fun wasting parts of your life away. Just know if you decide to have a positive attitude, there will be people. in your life who won't understand it. And sadly, you might have to cut off some friendships. It's just what it is. If you decide to go on your own adventure, you can't expect a tribe to follow. But you will find new people who respect your attitude and have the same one.

And those friendships are more valuable than anything else. Zirky Show. Man, I love you guys so much. I will keep telling you that every single day. Enjoy yourself. Don't take anything too seriously. And remember, it's all a choice. The way and what you want to live your life, it's a choice.

And I believe in you. We out. Peace.