the zurkie show - why most people never see change

Episode Date: February 13, 2025

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I used to be convinced that the power of consistency was utter BS. I used to think that people would just say that as a, oh, well, how did I get successful? A consistency. Even though they got lucky or they had some kind of nepo baby situation where they were getting millions of dollars. But I remember that my opinion on this changed when honestly my friend checked me about my constant complaining. about my weight. I was, you know, making really self-deprecating jokes about how I was fat. I was ugly. I'm never going to find love. The whole nine yards. And I really believed it because I was just, like, I was just not happy with the fact that I was not treating my body in a very good and

sustainable way. I was binge eating a lot. I was, you know, man, I would buy like a family, family-sized checks mix and down it, you know, while watching YouTube. And do I have any complaints about that time? No, that was like awesome, bro. Coming back to your dorm room and eating a whole family bag of checks mix is like top five human experiences of all time. I'll say it. I'll sit here and say it. You don't want to admit it. I'll admit it. It's goaded. And in the same way that it's goaded, it is so detrimental to your mental and to who you are as a person because it sucks. It sucks when you realize that you can't have, you know, boundaries. You can't set real boundaries for yourself and that's how I knew it was a problem.

So one day my friend was like, listen, I don't like the fact that you keep making these jokes about yourself. It's really making me concerned that, you know, you feel bad about your weight. And I was like, well, I do. I don't care, but I do. And he's like, yeah, but I think that this is ridiculous that you just keep making fun of it and you don't do anything about it. It's one thing. You can do whatever you want, but if you genuinely want to change and you have these feelings about your body, you should do something about it. And that really caught me off guard. I was like, dang. No, no. That's not true. You know, it's just I can't really change because, and I started to list a whole bunch of excuses. I was like, I don't know, my body is different.

And, you know, oh, well, I'm eating really good. It's only a matter of time. And he's like, yeah, you are eating really good when you get invited to go out somewhere and you're ordering an appetizer, an on course and a dessert. Of course you're eating very well, but you're not eating good. And I tried to argue with him. I was just like, what are you talking about, bro? Like, no, you're a hater. Like, why are you hating on me? And I remember he was like, listen, I don't care what you do.

But I think that if you really want it, you would do it in a way that was sustainable and good. And you would do it in a way that built momentum. What are you talking about? One, you don't know me. Two, momentum for what? And he explained to me. He's like, dude, I try to eat the same kind of thing every single day just so I have some kind of predictability. I try to build my diet in a way that gets me the most protein and I don't have to think as much as when I don't have a plan.

And it was observing him the next couple of days when he went through his routine that made me realize, wait a minute. Momentum is power. Momentum is power. respectfully there are a lot of people that give up on their goals give up on other people give up on themselves because they're not consistent enough to build momentum and momentum is important because that is the evidence that whatever you're doing is working and I think that one of the problems is we try to create a very complicated explanation for what working is. It's that, oh, if I don't make a certain amount of money this month, it means it's not

working. And although that might be true, okay, sure, it's not the end-all be-all. Or, oh, if I don't lose X amount of pounds this month, it means that my journey is not working. And I think that it's important to keep, you know, stock of how you're doing. You should definitely keep tabs and keep, you know, have a number, have a metric that you're going after for your goals. But sometimes it's about just showing up every day, even when you don't see the results and having faith in what you're doing. And I get it. If you keep doing the same kind of thing and you're not seeing different results, you might have to change the way that you're doing the thing. But the power in momentum is that once you get a little bit of it, it's so easy to use for the rest of it.

Once you break through two, three weeks at the gym, it's easy to just keep going. because you've already built that in. You already have the momentum, right? If you are a little bit more, you know, conservative in the way that you play a certain sport and one game, you start just trusting your gut and you ball out, you know, you take that fade away three when you weren't supposed to, technically, right?

But you did it and it goes in. You build that confidence. You build momentum. It's why, honestly, in the sports world, like you fear a player that's in form. Like, you feel. You fear somebody that you know has had game after game after game where they've been playing fearlessly. You fear somebody that's just been on top of their game.

Why? Because of momentum. And momentum comes in all different kinds of forms. Like it's not, you know, binary to one thing. Maybe your momentum isn't physical. Maybe it's mental. Maybe it's the fact that even though, yes, you haven't reaped the rewards of, doing your triathlon training yet you're going to after you have put in that second month and you're like

oh i'm committed to this i'm in this it's the same thing with lifestyle changes right like when you do actually commit to wanting to walk more for example because you feel like you haven't walked enough it's after you walk after a while when it's boring when you're like why am i doing this that you build the momentum to be like wait a minute i want to keep going with this I think instead of focusing on the outcome entirely, you should focus on the momentum. You should focus on building something that you feel like you can show up for every single day. That feels good. I think it's the same thing with your relationship with people.

Shocker, right? But if you have momentum in a relationship, that is something that is very strong. If you talk to somebody every single day, if you keep them in the loop, if you back, build and build and build on certain connections, you'd be surprised as to what will come out of them. But a lot of us give up before we even see anything. And it's easy because sometimes, like, if we set the bar super high and we're like, well, I want, you know, I want my, my videos to start taking off. I want them to look like a movie right away. It's like, it's not going to happen. But if you're putting in a little bit of work each day and you have the mindset of like,

I'm going to build on each single day, right? I'm going to learn. at least one little thing that's new so I know for the next day and I can take it over, that's momentum that is powerful. That is so powerful. In the same way of just applying something that you read about or something that you watch every day just a little bit, even if it's a small amount, the momentum in that is so, so good and important. I remember I had a substitute teacher once in one of my like high school art classes and she talked about how like there is a momentum to life and respectfully my substitute teacher was a little bit crazy i kind of like you can tell when someone's a little you know screws a little bit loose but i was i liked her i liked her she was being real and she's like listen

right now is the time where you get every you know you build up your train you build up all the skills you build up your wagons and wagons and respectfully i have a wagon so Yeah, with that being said, when you start to go down life and you start living life, it's the train, it's the momentum, it keeps on going. And if you don't have the skills to, you know, harness this momentum, it's just going to go to waste. And what a shame, right? In a similar vein, I remember I had a really good conversation with somebody who, you know, I was trying to connect with, connect, connect, right?

and he was this engineer that worked abroad in London, got my beat from London, right? And the really cool thing was he told me, you know what, I believe that the laws of thermodynamics, like they apply to life, to goals, and that when you have something super, super small, when you like build, you know, for example, a snowball on the top of the hill and you kind of scrunch it up and it's really small. When you start to roll it, it'll start to pick up snow, and the weight of that snowball

will just continue to build and build and build until you have an unstoppable force. And in a similar vein, that's basically what being consistent builds. It's packing the snow, and the momentum is that speed going down that hill. And if you already have that speed going down the hill and you know, okay,

even this day it's a little bit hard but if I pack just a little bit of snow on you're going to be so much more motivated to do that and I think that's the problem though right it's so easy to make our goals or our aspirations just super insanely difficult to obtain we don't even work with the confines of what we have at our disposal and instead we set these these metrics or we set these things that are just like not really realistic to who we are as people or what we want to do and I sound like a broken record saying that. I've been saying that for a lot of videos, but I think the main thing I just want you to understand is that momentum is really your friend. It is the power that will keep you going. It is the power bank that you can add to your iPhone 5S, you know, from 20, whatever. I don't know when that came out, 2016. You know what I'm talking? Or is it the iPhone with like the, it looked like candy? You know what I'm talking about? The iPhone 6C or 5C, real ones will know what I'm talking about but like the the battery would die super super super super fast so you had to get like a morphine case i don't know my mom had one and i just like have a memory of like what is what are those what is

that bro but i guess they were kind of cool and i guess that we have the the cases now that are just like more sleek and have a battery attached to them and charge wirelessly anyways momentum is really the battery that's going to charge your forward pursuit it is going to be the thing that keeps you moving forward and it's always good to get external momentum it's good to be recognized by your peers and by people that you respect and you love but you cannot rely on that being the single thing that keeps you going if like the idea of somebody liking what you're doing is solo the thing that keeps you going like you will stop eventually because you know the praise will will one day drop off and then you'll be like well i fell off when in reality you didn't you didn't fall off it just wasn't as good as

something else, that's fine. But maybe that thing will help somebody else. Who knows? Momentum has become such a key thing in my life and I've seen it work for me and against me. I see the momentum when I mess up my sleep schedule. I mess up my entire schedule in general of my life. It seeps into everything. Everything is derailed by it. And it builds momentum and I have to catch it and I have to cognitively be like, no, I will not be staying. today. I will be going to sleep at a reasonable time and it takes everything in me to do that.

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In a similar vein of if you have really negative thoughts, people don't understand that those thoughts will begin to continue to spiral and spiral and build. And if you don't catch it, it can really get you down. Down, down, down in the dumps. Now, it's one thing to have a feeling that you're like, I don't feel good, I feel bad, I feel upset. Totally valid. I'm not going to sit here and be like, don't be sad. No, you should be sad when it's time to be sad.

Absolutely. But if you are just unpromptly, you know, letting yourself spiral with these negative thoughts and you're not thinking of like, okay, what is something I can do to at least address it? At the very least, you don't have to change it. You can just address where these thoughts are coming from. And then what you do is completely up to you. you will find that it will just continue to bog you down and it's just going to, for some people, it becomes the cornerstone of their life is this just negative, you know, downfall that they've

created themselves. Maybe it was one thing that somebody told them and they believed it and then it's just snowballed into something really ugly that they cannot accept about themselves. I mean, and that's where I was going down with my weight, right? And at a certain point, I had to catch myself and be like, okay, no, I accept the way I look. And instead of complaining about this, I'm going to accept myself. It's an uncomfortable thing to do. I don't like to do it, but I'm going to accept myself. This is where I'm at? Cool. Now let me try to build a lifestyle for myself that's more active. Let me try to, instead of sitting on the couch, go for a walk when I call somebody. Let me try to be more active. Let me try to be cognizant of what I'm putting

in my body. Does it mean that I don't enjoy Panda Express Orange Chicken once in a while? Absolutely not. Of course I enjoy those things. Of course. Jeez, it's awesome. It's awesome. But I know now that, okay, there are consequences for my action. And if I choose to build good, healthy momentum in my life, it will carry me over the moments that naturally are just going to suck. But I'll have the evidence of like, I've done this before. We're chilling. Let's keep going.

Let's keep going. Yes, this is going to suck. But let's keep going. Because I have this evidence. I have this momentum that is. proof that I can do it. I can. Why? Because I've done it before. And in a similar vein, if you don't build this kind of momentum with like any kind of, you know, goal that maybe isn't super defined or, you know, even like trying to apply for a job or something, right? If you don't build this kind of

momentum, it'll be easy to burst, you know, give all your energy into one thing. And when you don't get that same energy reciprocated, you're going to be like, okay, this is cooked, I'm done. Whatever, I'm giving up. But that's not the way to do things. At least I have lived both experiences. I've lived the experience of trying to burst my way into making something happen. And I can tell you right now, I live a life now where in the things that I love to do, I do just a little bit of them each day.

And it's awesome. It is awesome. So much better. I've lowered the threshold on a lot of things. And I've accepted that some days I will get out of bed late, but I still have my non-negotiables for the day and it is awesome it is awesome and that's because I have momentum it's because I started something and I'm like I'm not going to stop I'm not if it doesn't work I'm going to change it I'm going to figure it out but I will not stop doing things for myself because that is important the relationship

you have with yourself is so important it is so important and it comes from a level of solitude too you have to be able to kind of be alone and everyone has their own threshold I've talked about that too, but do we really spend time alone enough for us to understand that we're feeling this momentum, that we're feeling good? Because sometimes, you know, it's easy to not acknowledge that you're doing good things for yourself, especially if you kind of have like a self-sabotage mindset. I've had that. It's easy to just be like, yeah, I guess whatever. I don't care. You have to celebrate that momentum too. Because if you don't, that power. That power is going to slip away. And momentum is truly power for yourself. That's really where it's

powerful. And there's a lot of, there are a lot of admiring things about being able to stay consistent with something. And in a lot of ways, consistency really does build freedom in your life. And it does make you feel like you are in control of a lot of things. Because there is a certain degree of your life that you can absolutely build control over. Need a vehicle that isn't afraid to make a splash? That's the Volkswagen Taos. Capable and confident, the Volkswagen Taos is fit for everyday life. Nimble in traffic, agile and tight spots, and still spacious enough for weekend getaways.

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Okay, if that's the case, that's fine. There's no guilt in that. But build that momentum. Figure out what you've got to do to get there. You get me? Because I find a lot of people just deprive themselves from doing anything because they are afraid of the consequences. of doing anything, of choosing the wrong thing. So they choose nothing.

Why? Why? Wouldn't it be better to just see and understand, at least know that that thing was worth your time or it wasn't worth your time? I think so. I absolutely think so. But it's easier said than done.

It's easier said than done. But building momentum will bring you so much power, Zerky Show. It will bring you so much power. You will be happy that you stayed consistent. You will be happy that you did something for yourself. And this can be the smallest of things. I do my, I make my bed every morning. I know like that's, oh, really? You make your bed every morning even though you're going to sleep in it. Yeah, but I like it. I like to know that I've done something already. I make coffee every morning for myself. Just tapped into decaf, by the way. It's been interesting. I don't know. I definitely can't wait for the next time I have a cup of coffee, which might be concerned.

but it is what it is. Either way, you know, I do these small things because they allow me to build that momentum throughout the day. Now, does this mean that your momentum is a cold plunge at 5 a.m.? I mean, maybe. Yeah, that's cool. If that's what you want to do, absolutely be my guest. But your momentum can be something as simple as just writing down what your dream was from the night before, if that's something that you want to do. Or calling somebody that you haven't talked to in a while, you know, once a week. That's how you build momentum. And And it is important that we build these things. It is important that we stay cognizant of the small things because the small things always add up. Zerky Show! The small things always add up. It's been done. I've made a PEO box.

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