the zurkie show - why nothing in your life changes

Episode Date: January 3, 2026

let go of who you think you are, and just focus on the person you'd like to become. it's a new year, so treat yourself like a new person. sending you all lots of love and peaaaaaace! https://linktr.ee/thezurkieshow

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And this past year, I finally told it to screw off. Get lost, buddy. And it changed everything. Right now, I'm in Orlando, Florida. I just had a great New Year's with my girlfriend that I love. I'm enjoying myself. I have freedom for the first time ever. And I just want to tell you that your 2026,

can be the best year of your life. I'm not going to try to give you some kind of technique to make you more productive, because I don't actually believe in any of that. And honestly, I think that you already know all the advice I could give you. The one thing that I do want you to think about going into this new year is how is your ego trying to trick you? This is something that I've witnessed not only in myself,

but in the people around me. ego creates self-limiting beliefs. I'm too good for that. I could never tap dance. That's not me. Yeah, you know, you think it's cringe or whatever that people are going to look at you weird. But you just, you're afraid to do it. That's really where it's coming from.

Ego is built on this idea of fear. And it's something that is kind of building like this castle wall around us, like the old Krakow Valle, if you ever go to Krakuf. beautiful castle in the middle of the whole city. I mean, my opinion, the best city in the world. You will have these walls up your entire life that will limit you from trying new things, from meeting new people, just because you think your life needs to be a certain way, when in reality you should let it go.

I let my life go this year. I did not create some kind of insane vision. I had a vision board in my room that I looked at every day, but honestly, I didn't care so much what it was. looked like I just cared that I did the work, that I controlled what I could. I told myself I wanted to be consistent and I wanted to actually create videos for the first time in my life consistently and that was the focus. It didn't matter that I didn't know how to make something perfectly. What mattered is that I learned and that I put in some kind of work and I really urge you

to think about your own life the same way. It's insane. how many people will hold mistakes against them. And I'm one of those. I will do that all the time. I will think of all of the ways that I fumbled and the mistakes that I made. But in reality, what I have learned from a year of doing something consistently is that the mistakes don't matter as much when you do it over and over and over and over again. Because when you do increase your volume of whatever it is, making friends, going on

dates, being a good person to yourself, you will learn. And that's something that I think has been overlooked. We want results so much. We're a results world now that nobody cares about the art of learning. And that is what makes life so great, in my opinion. But your ego will convince you otherwise. Your ego will convince you that you are a loser, that you are lonely, that you have no friends, that you have no talent. You don't have anything to save yourself with. But in reality, that's just your internal dialogue. The world can really be your canvas if you just change what kind of paintbrush you're using. It can really be a wonderful place if you stop feeding into negativity so much because that's the way you were brought up. You were in a very

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In life, that's a huge thing. You want safety, you want control, you want stability. That's why people go to college to get a nice degree to get a good job. But in today's world, what I really urge you to think about is the fact that nothing is stable. Nothing is. Think of how many people have lost their jobs. I should censor that because of AI. Think of how many people have had to change their lifestyle

because of changes, of climate change, a bunch of different things. This world is changing at a very rapid pace. And I think that we have been told that the world doesn't change when in reality it's always been changing. That's not me denying climate change, by the way. That's just me saying that this whole stability, thing is framed to us in a way of job security, in a way of friendship security, in a way of don't change if you have something good. But what if to you, that good thing isn't good?

What if you're not happy? You don't enjoy your job. You don't enjoy the college you go to. You don't enjoy the friends that you're around. Why are you being told that changing something could risk everything and why should you do that? I think if you don't, try you'll never know and I think that if you talk yourself out of things out of new experiences out of meeting people you will regret everything in the future this doesn't mean that I think you should go couch surf Europe tomorrow what I think it means is you need to be deliberate with finding time to spend with yourself and asking yourself the questions that matter and not listening to your ego

That's been created by what your parents have told you, what your friends have told you. It needs to be internal. If you want to go to Japan next year, forget the group chat, do it yourself. If you want a career change of some kind, forget thinking about a job in the same field because your dad told you it pays really well. Find that other thing. It's the year where you start to look out for yourself. Too many of us think that the world is looking out for us. No, it's not.

Too many of us think that, oh, our friends, they're always going to have our best interest. Well, if we have good friends, but a lot of us don't. So many of us think that there are things guaranteed in this life for us when in reality, nothing is. So with that knowledge, you can look at it and think this life is cooked, this life is terrible, or you can stop listening to your ego and just accept that your life is going to have turns. changes. You're going to lose people. You're going to gain people. You're going to have experiences. You're going to wish you never had experiences. And at the end of the day, what matters, what stability you can actually achieve are the actions that you take. This world works on action. It doesn't work on

words. It works on action. And a lot of us have been led to believe that it's just words. When somebody tells you, I love you, that means that they love you. No, it's how they act that matters. When you talk to yourself, I'm going to lock in this year. This year's my year. That doesn't matter. What matters is what you do. Stop making false promises to yourself.

I was the worst at this. My entire life, I made false promises. I told everyone around me that I was going to do incredible things and that I was going to be the goat or whatever. ego BS I was saying. What mattered was what I did. And what I did didn't, didn't reflect that at all. I wanted to be an open-minded person, but when somebody would give me a different perspective, I would be like, I'm not going to listen to that. I wanted to be somebody who really prioritized their own craft, but I wasn't even willing to put in the sacrifice and the hours to do what mattered

to me. I told myself that I wanted to talk for a living, but I thought, I have not nothing to say in front of the camera. My life has been too privileged. Your ego is going to hold you back this year if you don't recognize it. And if you don't actually question yourself and think, are these thoughts mine? Or is this just what I think I need to think? Frozen lasagna, medium power, 15 minutes. Sounds like Ojo time. Let's play. Feel the fun with Play Ojo. The online casino with all the latest slides. and live casino games. What you win is yours to keep with no wagering requirements, instant payouts, and no minimum withdraws. Hey, I just won. Woohoo.

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and it takes all the things that we think are so bad about us that we loathe right from within and it amplifies it. It plugs it into an amp and then into a console and through some speakers in our brain that replays all of the times we've been bad. And then the ego has evidence to be like, bro, you shouldn't change. Bro, no, no, no. And it can go in the same way. It can be like, bro, you're so much better than this. Bro, like, you're the, I know that you're way better than this other kid. Like, you should be going to that school. You should be in that starting position. it takes tuning those speakers down a little bit and realizing that there is humility in admitting, wait a minute, I'm a nobody.

And guess what? We're all nobody's. But we're all somebody. We're all the person that we decide to be. And I think that's way better than striving to have some kind of title and be someone. You should just be comfortable with expressing yourself and figuring. out the actions that will improve your own life and that will not look the same as everybody else. I used to think that a relationship was going to solve my troubles and honestly relationships are a lot of work bro.

Everybody likes to romanticize it and think oh, it'd be awesome bro. I'm going to have like my girlfriend and go to the movies. But nobody talks about the nights on the phone when you two have a disagreement. when you think the relationship is cooked and you guys have to communicate and figure out what is the next step for this. Nobody likes to talk about the fact that long distance is difficult and even any distance is difficult. Making time for somebody else in your life when you are trying to chase after something is difficult.

Those are things though that you learn and you overcome through action. And if you just have this ego of like, I'm never going to date anybody because that like nah i'm locked in i'm focused oh i'm too ugly for all that stuff like no like nobody would ever love me again you're listening the speaker is playing loud and clear and your ego is laughing at you stop thinking that your life needs to look a certain way and act on it be surprised by the action a lot of us think that you know we are going to have this sensation of like being super wired when we wake up at a certain time every day, you're going to wake up tired some days.

And then what? That, I think, stops so much growth and so much progress is the idea of how we should feel. You shouldn't feel anything. Stop thinking you should expect this if you do this. Just do the work. Act. Stop promising people.

Oh, bro, I'm going to lock in. Bro, I'm going to start this business. bro, I'm going to make this content. I'm going to focus on and just go out and do it. Nobody needs to know about these things. Why would you want people to know about these things? It's because you want your ego to be right about you that you'll never do them. So don't give it that satisfaction and actually try it. And another thing about trying things, a lot of us are not trying hard enough. I wasn't because I was making excuses because I didn't want it.

I didn't want it enough. That's the truth. And that's a form of accountability. I think that, you know, granted, you have a situation where trying more would mean that you quit your job that, like, your family depends on you. Everyone has a different situation. I accept that. But if you know you could be trying more and doing more and you are convincing yourself that, oh, I just can't. It's not going to work. It's not.

If you're not willing to get uncomfortable and think of a way to make it work, you are too focused on what the goal or the achievement will look like to other people. You don't actually want it. You just want to be praised for it. You don't actually want a relationship. You just want to seem like you're in one so you can tell your family or show, you know, online that you have one. That is the problem. Is the ego as you're controlling your whole life? you know how your life is going right now because you've been living a lot of it in the same way

that you've been right and although my perspective might be one that is hard to believe what do you have to lose trying it you would you know you would just lose the way that you're living your life right now which hey if you enjoy it then you don't need to listen to any of this but if you are miserable and you hate yourself like i did in 2025 at the beginning and instead of being like well that's just that's it that's how it's going to go I just stopped focusing on what the ego was trying to tell me and I acted and I did something something that could either distract me or just push me a little bit forward in the right direction I don't think you have anything to lose I think that you have everything to gain and it's the mindset in my

opinion of being open to just experience things to not judge them to not think Oh, just because I've been doing this thing, you know, this photography for a year and it hasn't been working the way I want to. Instead of just being like, well, then I have to give up. Having the humility to be like, if I want this to work, it would be working in a different way. What do I need to change? How do I need to change what I'm doing right now? Because a lot of us, I think, cut ourselves off way too soon. Like, we don't even allow to experiment.

with what we have. And in 2026, guess what? You're going to have a lot of time. You're going to have a lot of time, Zerky Show. And again, you can use that time to do nothing. You can use that time to feel like, well, here we go again, right? Ah, shit. Here we go again.

Like the CJ meme. Or you can decide that you'll try it. You'll try to think differently. you'll try to act in a way that doesn't actually inflate your ego and make you, you know, excited at the fact that you're so terrible and then you have such a bad life. And again, everyone's circumstances are different, but what I can tell you is when I removed myself from this idea of who I needed to be and I just focused on existing day to day and the actions in my control and I tried. I tried everything I could. I saw results. And I would even be the first to say,

I don't think I tried hard enough. I don't promise that you're going to have an overnight success. A lot of people in this life are lucky. And I am one of those people that got very lucky, and I admit that. I'm not saying that you're going to get a girlfriend or boyfriend or partner by the end of the year. That's not what I'm saying either.

I'm not saying that financially you're going to be rolling in the dough, and you're going to be able to buy like a Rolex or something, that's, that doesn't matter. What I'm trying to tell you is once you get rid of the ego in your life, once you start to actually focus on what is tangible and the paint that you have at your disposal and how you can brush it on the canvas and make different kinds of circles and squiggly lines and faces

and actually have it mold into something, you are going to be a lot more happy. because if you are looking at your life right now and you think that this is so cooked, this is so terrible, if you don't change, nothing changes. So I think it's worth just attempting to look at what you have in front of you and experience it. No matter how weird, no matter how bad, just go through it. And don't do it with any ego in mind. Just exist and try.

Zirky Show act. That is the most important thing in this upcoming year. I love you all. I hope you had an incredible 2025 New Year's Eve, New Year's Day. I miss every single one of you. And this year, there will be a lot of changes. I'm just letting you know the way the show has been for the last year is going to change. And I hope that you enjoy what is going to come.

I'm not going to tell you what's going to happen. It will just happen again. With that being said, I just want to say I appreciate every single one of you. If you are trying something new this year, do it. Don't hold yourself back. Don't tell yourself, well, I don't know. Go in and just do it. Outside of that, you know I always believe in you.

You know that you matter the world to me. And I'm so blessed to be able to interact with all of you, speak to all of you, meet some of you. at the end of this all I want to I want to thank you for an incredible 2025 and I also want to send every single one of you lots of love

and peace