the zurkie show - you broke up for a reason

Episode Date: December 9, 2025

be careful.you were together and it didn't work out.what makes you think it'll work out this time?sending you all lots of love and peaaaaaaaaace!https://linktr.ee/thezurkieshow

I was convinced she changed. We were having a conversation in my car. The snow was hitting kind of how it is right now. It was a beautiful night. And I was just in love. Anything she could have told me, I would have taken it as fact. Even though her actions didn't follow it up, I wanted her back. I wanted her back so bad that I was willing to look over all of the emotions that I had manipulated within myself.

And also all of the things that I was giving. guilted into doing just so I could have her in my life. And then tragedy struck. The same thing happened. But this time it was my fault. This time I had to cut things off. And I felt even worse than when I was cut off from her. I think if you are being given a second chance with somebody that you've already had

kind of a relationship with. You've already kind of thought in your mind, well, we could get back together. It would be easy. You need to chillax and really think about it. Ask yourself if that's really something that is going to help you and bring you joy. Or is it just easy? Because doing something easy is great. I mean, obviously, I love, you know, and I can go to a drive-thru and get some Peter Terry's and just like, you know, have a little burger. A little soda. You know, it's great. But what's harder is cooking a nice home cooked meal, making some chili, bringing out the, you know, the pressure cooker.

Opening it up, getting some rice. That's not as easy. And oftentimes with people, we do the same thing. We like to essentially use people for their convenience. Even though we know like there's no long-term goal with them, there's no idea that we're going to be together forever and this is my person and I'm willing to try with them. And also what I think is there's always an imbalance. If something didn't work out the first time, yes, of course, it could have been time. It could have been the moment.

And I believe in second chances and third chances and six or seven chances, whatever. But this episode is brought to you by FedEx. These days, the power move isn't having a big metallic credit card to drop on the check at a corporate launch. The real power move is leveling up your business with FedEx intelligence and accessing one of the biggest data networks powered by one of the biggest delivery networks. Level up your business with FedEx, the new power move. What if it's a trap? What if it's just a call for attention? What if all of these promises and the way this person wants to interact with you?

It's not genuine. And what if you're not being honest with yourself about what you want? What if you think that's what you want? Because you haven't had anyone in your life. You haven't dated anybody for a long time. Or maybe you've just been going to bed, cuddling a pillow. I know I have. And the idea of just having some easy dopamine or having someone to cuddle, man, that is enough for me to

You're like, all right, yeah. You manipulated me that one time, but who cares, man? Like, I just want somebody to hug, you know? But everything comes at a cost. There aren't freebies in this world. I hope you understand that. There's always something that you might lose if you entertain something that you know deep down is not good for you. And maybe you need to mess around and find out, hey, I'm a proponent of that too.

But stand your ground if you know that something's not good. if you know that your ex is crawling back to you and it's because she went had like a ball he went did his whole college experience and now he's realized that it he feels empty inside and you were the only girl to show him real love or you were the only partner that looked out for them and thought of them wherever you went you got a little gifts you knew that they loved airplanes so you took a video of an airplane every time it flew by the attention to detail was so perfect they can't get it anywhere else Just know that they left you.

They left you. There is a reason you didn't work out. And do not let the new sweet talking influence you to do something you don't want to do. If they've changed, it's different. If you see that they are remorseful and they want to actually give a shot at this, proceed with caution, but you should do it. Life is too short to just banish people and be like, no, we're done. But too many times I've gotten hurt by by letting go of my gut feeling, by letting go of the past and being like, okay, you know what, whatever.

Let's see what's going to happen. But it's not whatever. It's not. It's your livelihood. It's your life. It's stress. It's one of the biggest things. biggest things of living longer. Did you know this? That if you have less chronic stress,

if you have less things that give you anxious thoughts and make you kind of feel all tense in your body, you will live longer. It's one of the things. I mean, I don't know. Everyone's got something deep in the genetic code that might mess around with you. But if you're not stressing all the time, if they're going to text you back, if you're not stressing that, oh my gosh, they're out at this party. What if, oh, their other X's there like, oh, there's is not good. I think that you will have a better life. You won't worry as much. You won't feel like you have to watch your shoulder all the time, like a midfielder in the Premier League, check in the back to see if someone's going to go and tackle them. Make these things, these emotional affairs, simple for yourself. Emotions aren't easy, but they can be simple. They can be understood and you can go through them and come to conclusions about people because of them. If they made you feel like less of a human being,

if they made you feel guilty for things that weren't your fault, if they made you reconsider things that were so fundamental to your core and your personality and who you are and they made fun of the fact that you were once a horse girl or they made fun of the fact that, you know, you drew furry art at one point in your life, They make fun of the fact that you like certain things because it's special to you. Are you really going to give them another chance? Maybe they've changed. But just be careful.

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Please sit and stretch. Steep. Flip or that and enjoy. Via Rail, love the way. Sometimes we desire to have somebody put us through pain so we can realize how worthless we are. And that comes from a lack of self-respect. I wanted to go through that pain again because I knew the first time, you know, hey, I made me go to the gym

and the real reason it was because that's all I thought I deserved. But Zerke's show, you don't just deserve that. And that is the easy thing to do is to fall back into the loop of the fact that, oh, I'm not enough. And you know what, this is the best I'm going to get. So screw it, we're getting back together. And even though my family doesn't like them,

my friends think he's, you know, schmid, I'm going to go in again. because you know what, it's for the lore, but at what point is it lore? And at what point is it torture? At what point is it actually like realizing this person does not care about me. They never have, they never will. But you know what? No matter what you do, I just want you to know, I'm not going to judge you for it.

Because I think everyone needs to learn on their own time. it's one thing for me to tell you but it's another thing for you to have the scars on your own skin and your own life to finally realize when it's time to stop it's time to stop zirky show i hope you're having a great beginning of your december if you're trying something new just know that i believe in you and i'm greeting you from the Colorado mountains right now. I'm going to have to find my way home. I kind of went on a little hike, but we'll figure it out. If you're trying something new, just know that I believe in you. And as always, I'm sending you lots of love and be cold, man.