the zurkie show - you can’t force a good day

Episode Date: November 3, 2025

so you took an L today.admit it, then meet yourself where you are.sending you all lots of love and peaaaaaaaaace!https://linktr.ee/thezurkieshow

Let yourself take the L. If you had a bad day, let yourself admit that it sucked. Admit that you messed it up. Admit that you tried and tried and tried, and it just was not meant to happen. Stop being so hung up on the fact that it's going wrong and accept it and pivot. Just accept it. Keep going. You tend to focus on all the things that are going bad all the time because you think that that defines who you are. And if you are not doing good enough all of the time, you are less of a human being. You don't deserve any kind of respect. You don't deserve anything.

That's just not the case. And the more that you become equated with this idea of just beating yourself down every time you try to do anything, you're not going to do anything. You're not. There's just really good analogy. I was talking to one of my really good friends, Ryan, shout out Ryan. and he was explaining to me about this idea of all of us having an inner child that likes to be expressed, that likes to do fun things. And for a lot of us, our inner child, maybe is creativity, maybe it's something career related, maybe it's something that we've decided to base our personality around. And we as adults demand it to constantly work instead of nourishing it and finding other ways to.

inspire it and keep it going. You hold your inner child in this cage and when it just like asks you for a cup of water, you decide to tell it everything that's wrong with it. How are you supposed to do anything if you have no respect for the good parts of you, for the parts of you that want to do good things? The truth is beating yourself up for things. that are out of your control are so it's just easy it's easy and it's comfortable because you know I grew up in a way recognizing and having to

recognize what was my fault and sometimes having to take accountability for situations and things that were not even my wrongdoing it's just how the world was going, how my family was. I just had to take accountability for these things. And now, when I have more things in my control as an adult, I have to not only take accountability for when things go wrong, but I have to like recognize that things are going wrong and I have to find a solution to mitigate it going wrong. Because I have a theory that like, if something is meant to combust. If something is meant to it will, trying to fight it

and trying to tell myself, no, no, oh my gosh, no, I can't let this happen. I can't lose this person. I can't let this relationship be fumbled. I have found that allowing yourself to go through the pain of messing up is way better than trying to claw at saving something. Today is a prime example. I did everything right.

I did everything right. I planned everything out. I made sure that I was ready to take on today. I kept repeating to myself, today is a gift. And I think I need a gift receipt for this gift because I am returning it. I didn't do anything with today. This episode is brought to you by FedEx. These days, the power move.

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slope. I'm not somebody who's like, I want to get praise for just sitting at home on the couch. No, but that is also needed. It is. People online will try to convince you that it's not and you need to be grinding. No, you don't. No, you don't. I'll sit here and tell you that your recovery and your ability to just like be bored, eat without needing to watch something, hang out, is so important. It is as important as your ability to be able to sit down and focus. I promise. People love to talk about the grind of athletes, right? Oh my gosh.

Messi is just on the field and he's grinding, even though he walks for like 90% of the game. Ronaldo is just, he's getting upper 90, right? LeBron is dominating. Nobody talks about how much time they spend in recovery, how much time they spend with trainers working, taking

the stress of the game and being an athlete and taking a step back. These are things that we need to adopt if we want to perform, if we want to do good things, we need to recover. but for some reason

we equate like using our brains and and you know doing something that isn't like physical as I don't need to recover from that no your brain needs to rest you need to rest

you've been in back-to-back relationships you need to rest you need to not date for a little bit of time if not a long time because this addictive to piling things onto your plate, it hits a point where you have diminishing returns.

And it's just not good for you anymore. I was like in plenty clubs in college. I was trying to do everything I could all the time. How many internship applications can I apply for? Bro, it does not, it does not impact my self-worth. The fact that I had a bad day, because I know I'm going to bounce back. know I'm going to be better. It's an off day. It happens. You have teams that get to a final that are supposed to sweep the other team and the other team. They just lock in. They have a

great game. Okay. Maybe that's what happened today. Maybe today you lost. You lost big time. There was some kind of meeting you had to attend that was going to, you thought, change your life. There was some kind of date that you wanted to go on that you got faded for, right? Whatever it is, instead of holding it against you, just take it. Just take it. Be like, okay, it's cool. Was not meant to happen. I'm going to keep moving.

Because holding all of these things against you, holding all of these things as, oh my goodness, this is evidence that I'm not good enough and I'll never be good enough. I'm just so mid. It will dig you into a trench. And it will dig you into this trench in which the only solution is trying to be perfect, which you will not be, and then creating this insane imbalance of I need to be so locked in that it negates all of the bad things that just happened to me. It's not fair.

That's not fair. you're too focused on just like what happened right now you're not looking at the long term you're not looking at all the things that over the course of your life you've done right over the course of today you've done right sure maybe i didn't get my 30 pages of my book that i wanted to read read but i woke up i journaled i made myself coffee twice decaf i didn't know that it was decaf maybe that was part of the problem that would have gotten me you know coffee that would have a lot of me in. Um, I went on two walks. Like, I was very active. I was very, very good at existing today. It's enough. It's enough.

Welcome aboard via rail. Please sit and enjoy. Please sit and stretch. Steep. Flip. Or that. And enjoy. Via Rail, love the way. recognize that in these low moments because I know you want more I know you want to strive to be better and I think that that's awesome and I admire that about you but if you want to strive to be better the days in which you suck you need to admit okay I sucked a little bit but that it's not all lost because this is I think the danger the yo-yo you have one bad day and that gives you some reason, evidence, to throw it all away. That's not true. That's not true, Zerky Show.

It was one day. You have tomorrow. You have the day after tomorrow. You have the time to make the changes. You can still prove it. It wasn't good today. All right. Let's focus on the next day.

Let's focus on the days that matter. You're not alone. You got this. I believe in you. As always, Zerke's show, I hope you're doing well, and I am sending you all lots of love and I love you. Rosen lasagna, medium power, 15 minutes. Sounds like Ojo time. Let's play.

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