the zurkie show - you’re being left out for a reason

Episode Date: December 9, 2025

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The solution isn't running away. It's not telling yourself that you are so terrible and locking yourself in a cabin in the woods so you can go on a winter arc, eat a bunch of ground turkey and rice and become buff. That won't actually solve the problems that you feel within yourself of being lonely and not being understood by the people around you. There's a reason that you weren't invited to that friend group gathering. And although you want to believe it's because you're not good enough or, you know, people don't like you, maybe it's because you are being cut some slack. You are actually being given a beautiful opportunity to focus entirely on yourself and not in the way of just distancing yourself from the entire populace of the earth. There is a lot of merit and beauty and starting over. And I think when people are dealt a hand of like not being able to hang out with a friend group that was their childhood best friends, they look at that and think that is the worst thing in the world.

I know I did. When I was discounted and called weird and made an out. outcast, all I wanted to do was find a way to get back into the group. But then I really started thinking about it and I was like, maybe that group isn't for me and they don't actually like me and all of the jokes that they make at my dispense isn't something that I have to subject myself to. Maybe instead I can find people that are interested in the same kind of art and music and craftsmanship that I'm interested in, and they're as crazy as me to stand in the middle of the woods during a blizzard and speak into a camera.

I think that you will find so much more life and more joy in just spending time with people who care because the reality is not a lot of things in this world care about you. It's never too early to plan your summer story in Europe with WestJet from rolling countryside to cobblestone streets. Begin your next chapter. Book your seat at westjet.com or call your travel agent, WestJet, where your story takes off. Think about the country you live in. Think about the community you live in, the college that you go to. Do you really feel like people care about you?

Like, there is a genuine interest in you? There's a good chance, no. You're just a number. You are just a worker bee that goes and gets a slop bowl and sits down at the desk. Now, I know that that is kind of a dumeristic like the world was cooked, but I say this in a way of, that is actually very freeing. When you realize that people don't really give a sigma as much as you think,

and there is actually a whole world out here to explore and things to do, you start to realize that losing people isn't as scary as people make it out to be. Right? We watch like movies and we listen to, you know, audiobooks and stuff about how terrible it is to be an outcast and how terrible it is to have no friends. but nobody talks about the insane amount of peer pressure that comes into friend groups, the insane amount of like standards and politics you have to keep up with, just to befriend one part of the friend group and make sure that that part of the friend group

doesn't mess up the other part of the friend group. And then they always start to date each other. So it just all, it all gets cooked. I don't think that the solution to your problem are more friends. You just need a couple good ones. you just need a buddy or two where if you called them if you called her they would pick up and they would say yes to an impromptu lore gathering event they would say you know what yeah i want to go skiing in the swiss alps this weekend you know what yeah i do actually want to go to your mom's birthday party let's pull up you need

people who are going to say yes and they're going to do it with a smile on their face and they also won't be miserable about spending time with you there are a lot of people that probably are in your service that don't actually like to spend time with you. And guess what? You probably don't like to spend time with them. Why are you lying to yourself and trying to find all the good when in reality there isn't much? It's okay. You can let them go. You can tell yourself that maybe they're going to get better. But what if you deserve better? You don't deserve to wait on somebody to, you know, show how good of a person they are. Hell no. Just go. Get up and go. You're not chained to anything. used to believe that I was chained to the friends that I was with. I was only confined in the

circles that I had and my environment or where I was at in school or the places that I have frequented, those are the only places that I could find friends when in reality you can find friends anywhere. You're one conversation away from getting to know somebody and potentially you're a couple more from becoming good friends and learning more about yourself. This episode is brought to you by FedEx. These days, The power move isn't having a big metallic credit card to drop on the check at a corporate launch. The real power move is leveling up your business with FedEx intelligence and accessing one

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More like habanier, yes. Save the everyday with Amazon. Another problem I find, though, is that friendships are transactional a lot of the time. And I wish that people were more upfront with it. I have no problem with, you know, being somebody's buddy for pickleball or being, you know, a business partner or something. We don't need to be friends. We can be coworkers. And I'm sure you've had this where you have somebody you get along with super duper well at your work, at your school, whatever.

And all of a sudden when you hang out outside of that, it's kind of cringe. It's kind of odd. It's kind of weird. That is normal. Some people are best in a certain environment for you. And it doesn't mean that they need to be your best friend all of the time everywhere. Maybe you're just work friends. There's nothing wrong with that.

That's actually a great thing. You need work friends. Maybe you guys are just really good at playing on the same soccer team together. Man, you get those through bowls like KDB, you send it to Holland, boom, you know, top bins every time. If that's the case, it doesn't mean that you need to attend each other's birthday parties. There's this kind of guilt and shame that comes with not reciprocating a friend. friendship, not reciprocating the feelings that somebody has for you, but you don't owe anybody anything. If you want to entertain a friendship or a relationship, you should. But just because they want

to something doesn't mean you give it to them. It doesn't mean that they deserve it. Your time is very valuable. Your time is very limited. And you should spend it getting peddled by snow in the face. Oh, God. Oh, you should spend it how you want it. You shouldn't feel obligated. to just give your time up to people. And I've made this mistake so many times in my life because, you know, inherently I'm a people pleaser. I want people to like me. And saying no has been equated to a bad thing. When in reality, it's the most freeing thing you can do. It saves you so much time. It saves you so much worry. It saves you so much heartbreak and ridiculous expectations of like, well, I thought we were really good friends. Dude, no, we talked twice.

We're not really good friends. You're not my boyfriend. You're not my Bro, Ski, you're not my brethren, all right? You just, I know you. Where do you know me from? Where do you know me from? Things are feeling a little less human these days, aren't they? But isn't the whole point of progress to make things more human? That's why, at TD, when we design a product,

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Also, maybe friends aren't that important. Maybe you... You should know how to hang out with yourself first before obsessing about other people all of the time. I'm not someone who's anti-frenship. As I said before, I think you should have plenty. But I think that there is a pressure that people put on having friends all the time and not being able to spend time alone because they need to be stimulated by other people.

You should know a lot of people, but keep your circle tight. really, really keep your circle tight because it's true. If you're not around the people that you would want to break bread with at a celebration, those aren't people that are going to stand up for you. Those aren't people that are going to show interest and love into you. They're not going to support you when you decide to move halfway across the country. They're not going to call you and be like, yo, it was good, man. How you been?

They're not going to do that. And if you have only so much life to give and to live, spending it with people that are mid is such an L way of using it. It's just not, it's like, I am saying this because I have done this. I've just tried to seek love and appreciation from people that were never, ever going to give it to me.

And now that I don't, and I just let friendships happen naturally, I let a conversation that I have at a coffee shop turn into bumping into each other in a park and then being like, oh, we should grab coffee, we should hang out. It feels real. It feels a lot more solid and it feels like the people in my life actually want me. Who want me? I want you, man. But Zerky Show, it's, it's a weird tight rope dealing with people that you don't like. You know, it's kind of like a shimmy. You got to, you got to kind of move

bob and weave a little bit and it's just, it's draining. So don't do that. In my opinion, I think you should focus on people that really, really like you, really trust you, and blossom those friendships, water those friendships. Those are the ones you should go and visit, hang out with, and be intentional with. Other than that, go out in the snow, enjoy yourself. I'm out here in Colorado having a grand old time. If you want to tap into more of the Zerky Show, it is the Zirky Show everywhere you go. And if you're trying something new, just know that I believe in you. And as always, I am sending you lots of love and peace. Frozen lasagna, medium power, 15 minutes.

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