There Are No Girls on the Internet - She Called a Black Child a Slur — Then Raised $700K. Kiandria Demone Is Saying ‘Not Today.’

Episode Date: May 14, 2025

Welcome to Season 5 of There Are No Girls on the Internet   We're kicking things off with a powerful and timely conversation. Bridget speaks with activist, entrepreneur and creator Kiandria Demone, the visionary behind the viral #SquareUpForJustice campaign. After a white woman in Minnesota hurled a racial slur at a 5-year-old Black child and then raised nearly $1 million online, Kiandria stepped up to challenge the systems that made it possible. Her campaign holds payment platforms accountable for enabling and profiting from hate. In this episode, Kiandria explains why this isn’t just a race issue—it’s a tech accountability issue. She shares how her digital activism is helping expose and shut down racist profiteering, and what it means to find strength in online communities during heavy times. . .  Support Kiandria’s campaign: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-5n3WUw13NYEe6VVOh03x8goGZb9fd_04nERHz4vzaI/edit?tab=t.0 Check out the cool items in Kiandria's shop: https://femmefindsatl.com/  Follow us for original videos, infographics, and content throughout the week:Instagram: @BridgetMarieInDCTikTok: @BridgetMarieInDCYouTube: @ThereAreNoGirlsOnTheInternet . .  Whether you’ve been listening for years or are just joining us, thank you for spending your time with us. We’d love to hear what you think—email us at [e-mail]. New this season: We’re releasing two episodes each week—feature interviews on Tuesdays and tech news roundups on Fridays. Be sure to catch both.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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What happened next is even more. upsetting. Shiloh Hendrix launched a crowdfunding campaign on the Christian platform Give Send Go. I called the kid out for what he was, she wrote in her plea. As of today, Shiloh Hendrix has raised over $700,000. She's just the latest figure to be embraced as a right-wing folk hero, or anti-hero, depending on who you ask. After a moment of very public, very ugly behavior. And once again, the wagons are circling, all in the name of fighting so-called cancel culture. But what kind of society rewards racial slurs being hurled at children coming with a six-figure payout? Not one that Keandria Demone is fighting for.

What about this situation spoke to you? Like, how did you first find out about this situation? So one of the things I do on my social media is I'm known for exposing racist people on the internet. That's just kind of my niche. Keandria is the black woman leading a growing movement to make sure Shiloh Hendrix never sees a dime of that money. It came to my attention because my followers were bringing it to me saying, hey, here's somebody who you need to expose. Here's somebody you need to target. They're like, Keanu, did you see this?

Right. So I went and I checked out the video and I was just disgusted by it. I was so disgusted and it was so disheartening. Like, originally it just made me sad. And I sat on it like there were a few days that went by and people were like, oh, I know you're about to drag her. I know you're about to drag her as the story continued to grow. But I was so sad. I was just so sad.

I was silent about it for a while. I know that silence. When this story first hit my feed, I froze. It was so upsetting. I couldn't even bring myself to click into it, not right away. Because what was there to say? What could we do? wasn't this just the state of the world now?

A world where someone can shout a slur at a child, a baby, and walk away with a huge payday. It didn't feel like there was much to be done other than ignoring it and kind of moving on. In this moment, I have often found myself feeling sort of disempowered. Like, well, what can we do? Like, this is the norm now, what can we do? But luckily, you had a very different reaction.

So what was it that made you be like, I am not going to like just sit in my sadness and feel disempowered. I am actually going to do something. What made you take that choice? Right. So initially I was like you. I was choosing not to engage with it. I was, I wouldn't share anything.

I wouldn't comment on anything. I did not want to put her on my page because I felt like, okay, same old saying, you know, another racist person getting famous for being a racist. So originally I saw people outraged, but I felt like, The outrage was really just amplifying her. And then she had the gall to monetize it. And I'm just like, okay, no, enough is enough. You know what I mean?

Like, you have to draw the line at something. It's not enough that you did it. It's not enough that you're unapologetic and you've done it publicly. Now you want to make money off of it. An entrepreneur with a background in web development, Kandria starts digging, searching for anything, something that could be the key to stop. stopping this payment from going through.

I was hoping to catch something that could potentially stop giving and go from operating. So I thought about it. And I'm like, you know what, even if I find something, because I'm just down this rabbit hole on their website at this point, I'm like, even if I find something, they're just going to fix it. The minute it comes to their attention, they are going to fix that same day.

And then they're going to be right back on the same bullshit. And so I started thinking like, where is the money at? Like, we may not be able to stop them from operating this website. But somebody somewhere has a bank. And in this country, banks do have policies. You can't just do what you want to when it comes to monetizing something. And that's what a lot of people don't understand. I have heard a lot of people arguing.

Free speech, free speech. This is protected under free speech. her actions are not protected under free speech once it is monetized. And that is two completely different things. Once you start making money and selling it, there are laws that you have to adhere to. And so I just started thinking about that and trying to find who is processing these payments for her. So I want to talk more about that. Can you tell us a bit about how you went through that process of figuring out like,

oh, Square might be involved here. Like who was the payment processor? Yeah, so I was, again, I was on their website and I went to their checkout page and I'm trying to figure out who the payment processor was from the checkout page and it wasn't really clear like who it was. Right. So I'm looking at the checkout page and then I think, hmm, I know how to break down their code. Like I remember this old dusty skill that I used to use years ago. if only someone were to break down the entire code of this website, then I could find what plugins are attached to it. And I knew that because when I had clients who would maybe have

an issue with their checkout or there's a bug on their site, it's lagging, whatever, we'll have to go and break that code down and find where the bug is or where the issue is, right? So that's something, it was just second nature to do that because I did that as a job for so long. And so I started thinking like there's a plugin, right? This is an online website. Gives and Go is not the bank. They're not that big of a platform, right? So I thought they have to have a third party payment processor and that third party payment processor is going to be a plug-in and plug-ins can be found in your HTML code. When you learned how to do this, you certainly weren't like, one day, I will be exposing the payment processor for a racist. Like the way that we develop skills and retain those skills

then you never know how they're going to be useful. Like that is, that's, I mean, it's almost like you've updated the way that an earlier generation of activists and organizers were is like for the digital age. Right. Absolutely. And that's something I've spoken with activists in my area now, like prominent activists in the area. And also I've connected with the local and national chapter of the NAACP. And that is one of the things that they not only commended me for, they're excited. for me to step into this space and join and partner with their organization to bring.

Really, I don't want to get, I don't want to say, oh, we're bringing protesting to the digital age because it's bigger than that. We are bringing an entire civil rights movement and merging it, fusing it with the digital age, because social media is such a powerful tool. Right now, it's arguably one of the most powerful tools to sway the masses. So if you can use social media, you can really, really do anything. On the show, we talk a lot about changes to social media platforms, you know, threads, Facebook, Instagram. We can Twitter slash X as a whole other thing. But like,

the changes that they've made, I would say specifically to keep marginalized people, so like black folks, women from being able to use those platforms to organize. Like right now, if you talk about anything political on Instagram, you do, like, they've been, they've been explicit about this. They are suppressing that kind of content. And so honestly, your work in really trying to build this momentum on social media was one of the first organizing moments that I saw this year that really seemed to connect and take off. It was maybe this and the target boycotts, which have also been pretty successful. So one, I want to lift up the importance of being able to cut through on social media at all when these platforms have been so clear and explicit

about trying to suppress exactly that kind of organizing content. Like Mark Zuckerberg works hard, but black women work harder. But also, it kind of turned the tide a little bit because it's been a depressing year of what feels like great losses. And I don't know, now I'm kind of feeling like, okay, maybe we have this, right? Like determined, skilled black women in tech

knowing how to look at the code. Like, we might have gained a little more ground than I sort of was feeling at the beginning of the year. Do you know what I mean? I know exactly what you mean. And there's something in that that's so powerful in remembering who we are. Because like you said, we were in a space

where everybody was sad, everybody was defeated, and they want us to feel like that. They don't want us to know how capable we are. And one thing I love about this whole thing is, I think it woke a lot of black women up to who they are. I've had other black women reach out, and they're like, oh, I don't know how to code, but I do know law, right?

And the law says, A, B, C, D, E, right? So they're like, hmm, I didn't, I knew I had that skill, but I didn't know where I could. apply it to. And now I know how I can apply it to make a difference. We've had people reach out about taxes, accounting. They're like, you know, she has to report this. She has to report that. So blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And it's just been such an eye-opening experience for a lot of people that once you have a plan and you decide, you know, we are going to, we're going to fight back.

I'm not going to be defeated. I'm going to fight back. And I think that's the difference it made for a lot of people. So what is the current status of the donations today? So the status of the donations, the site is still operating. A lot of people get discouraged by that. But I want people to remember, we are not targeting gives and go, right? So the site is still operating, but the CEO of give sin go made a statement publicly to the press. And he said it in an interview that she has not cashed out the funds. They have not been collected.

She has to undergo a very rigorous verification process. And from my experience with these payment processors, anytime something is under investigation, I've done a lot of assuaging people and just assuring them is going to be okay because not everybody has the experience I have. But if you've ever worked with a third party payment processor, be a Stripe, Square, PayPal, if there's an investigation open, they are going to protect themselves as a company to freeze those funds. So let's use our deductive reasoning here, even though they didn't explicitly and probably can't explicitly say, we're not paying her.

They, he confirmed he has not paid it out. And from my experience with these payment processors, any sort of investigation will freeze your funds. So the funds, as of now, my understanding is it sitting in limbo and we are pressing these payment processors not to pay it out to her. Let's take a quick break. Another podcast from some SNL late night comedy guide, not quite.

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I mean, there's a difference. No, that's it. No, it's not. It's actually the same exact thing. Saying the company's mission is to show the power of Jesus' light in dark times. Shiloh is going through a dark moment just as much as his other family is. And we want to be a light in all of these moments, he said. But even if the funds are released, Candria has a plan.

So here is the plan. Now, if they continue to collect the funds, and let's say worst case scenario, she does receive that payout, her collecting those funds and monetizing hate speech is against all of their policy, whether it's PayPal Square, I don't give a damn anymore. Who she attaches that campaign to any bank in this country that I know of, if they pay her those funds, they have violated that policy. And so what we're going to do is get other people involved because there are so many people, myself, including. who have utilized these payment processors, and we have had our funds frozen, we have had our accounts closed, we have had financial delays, we have had hardships to our life and businesses, all in the name of this policy. So we have to adhere to this strict policy, and we have to bear the consequences, but you're willing to make an exception for racism and white supremacy. So if they

choose that, then that's them, but we do have a battle strategy and we have a gang plan, and that plan is to collect signatures and to have people create a paper trail. So keep filing those reports, document everything that happened to you and the widespread harm it has caused. And we are gearing up to sue them in a class action lawsuit. If they paid that out and we have attorneys willing to get involved as well, volunteering pro bono, if they paid that money out to her, anybody who has ever, ever been affected negatively by their company and that, that policy will have legal grounds for a lawsuit because in this country, you don't get to pick and choose who you apply your policy to. And you damn sure cannot make exceptions for racism.

Wow. That is brilliant. We've done episodes on the show before about how payment processors will just freeze your funds and really not give you a lot of explanation. It's happened to me. It's happened to a lot of people, a lot of entrepreneurs, a lot of business owners, frankly, a lot of people at the margins who I think they suspect are not really going to push or really going to fight. And so I love how you're organizing this of like, okay, so if they say we can make this exception for someone who called a black child a slur, then like, why did I not get an exception as an entrepreneur? Where's my money at? Right. And we're urging everybody to start asking that. Where's my money at? Not just the lawsuit. Let's hold them accountable. Hey, that money you froze indefinitely. If she can get hers, y'all need. to run me mine too. Yeah, to run me my money.

Run it. When someone becomes a right-wing folk hero online, after a very public display of bad behavior, one of the first things they sometimes go looking for is a big payday. And that payday depends on digital infrastructure, crowdfunding platforms, payment processors, and more. But Keandria isn't just trying to stop Shiloh Hendrix from cashing in. Oh, no. she's going after the entire ecosystem that makes it possible. The digital pipelines that let people like Shiloh turn hate into profit.

So you are not just targeting any one payment processor. You're also targeting cash app, afterpay, Webley, title, spiral. And you say if they're funding hate, they are fair game. How do you see all of these as sort of connected? I see them as connected because it has become commonplace. and it has been normalized to profit off of hate and racism. So whether it's Stripe, whether it's square, we want to make an example out of them,

and we want these companies to know they will be held accountable. Right. So the goal is, and they've been scrambling. We've seen it happen in real time. It's been documented on my social media and in other places as well. They've been scrambling, trying to make excuses, trying to deny it. And now she is using a different payment processor. Right now she's currently using Stripe.

that the campaign is connected to Stripe now. But we want anybody involved to know, like, hey, I don't care if she switches to Stripe, PayPal, I don't care who she connects. You are getting your hands dirty by getting involved, and we will hold you accountable. So what we are aiming to do is to pretty much make her persona non-grada, right? this lump sum of money from give sin go. If you pay it out, we are going to cost you way more than that. It probably won't surprise you that Chandra is facing a tax online for what she's doing. She says she's been duxed, threatened, even had her businesses targeted.

To her, it kind of comes with the territory. But what stings even more is being erased from the very movement she's helping to build? She's expected to carry the weight of the work without even getting credit for it. people are attacking your business, your work because of the organizing that you're doing around this. And so, like, it is not without cost what you are doing, like personal cost, personal stakes. And still, I've seen people essentially, like, erase the labor that you're doing. Like, the expectation is that you absorb all the cost and the risk and the doxing and threats associated with this work, but also get none of the shine.

Is that how you felt? It is. And to me, it wasn't even necessarily about shine, which I'm not apologizing for that. Yes, I want recognition and I want the accolades for my work, regardless of what it is. You're not going to erase me from a narrative that I created in its entirety, especially when it is about racism. Like, it's so ironic that it infuriates me because they have pushed us to the background and they have, they're expecting our labor. labor. They are needing our labor. They are depending on our labor, but wanting to erase us from the narrative. And that is not leadership. That is exploitation. That is what has been happening for since the beginning of our existence in this country. We're keeping everything running. We're holding everything

together. We are literally building everything, but also being mistreated and disrespected and treated as less than people. And I don't like that. And one of the things that I'm adamant about is people saying my name and it's not because, you know, I want the clout and I want some type of, like, it's not I'm trying to be a start. The fact is, before this even blew up, those racist white supremacists, they knew my name. They knew exactly who did it and who were targeting. They started organizing and growing before we even did. Honestly, before this went viral, they were targeting me. So if the people who hate black women, if the people who want to silence me,

know my name, I need the people who will protect black women to know my name too. Because it's not just the cost, it is the risk. That's why I was intentional about amplifying my name because you can't just make Keandria disappear now and nobody's going to ask questions about it. Yeah, I mean, it is, it has really been something the way people, I mean, I've seen people straight up say like, Candria, I don't know her, like this, like, like, it's, it's so silly and petty and stupid, like, come on, but also people will straight, like, take credit for it, which I find really shocking because it's very clear who is the organizer of this. I just, I don't even really have a question. I've just been really surprised by how the quickness with which people will

erase your name, erase your labor, erase your voice, even as something as small as like people tagging some of those big kind of like call out accounts. And it's like, do you think, I don't think that, I don't think, I don't look at you and think like, oh, you're someone who needs help doing this. You're someone who needs help calling out racial injustice. Like, I feel like you're handling it quite well. No, I'm actually really incredible. I'm actually leading in that. So whether or not they know me by numbers, whether or not there's a million people here just watching the 40,000 that were there, baby, they were engaged. Okay. The people who were there and have been there and have been supporting me, they are, they know I'm no nonsense. They know the work that I do and they support me completely and it does make a difference. It makes an impact. There have been several times. That's one of the things I'm known for is running racist people off the internet. When somebody gets known for being blatantly racist, we will expose you and drag you and then we will have a digital funeral.

And people will laugh about it and we will have fun and it's so delicious because they deserve that. I personally condone bullying only when it's a racist person. because at this point, they don't seem to be receptive of anything else. More after a quick break. Another podcast from some SNL, late-night comedy guy, not quite. Unhumor me with Robert Smygel and friends. Me and hilarious guests from Jim Gaffigan to Bob Odenkirk to David Letterman, help make you funnier.

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We started this conversation talking about seeing the whole Shiloh Hendricks story everywhere online. And it really, a lot of ink online has been dedicated to this woman and what she did. Something that you said, you said, aside from this particular situation, I feel that if you share news that incites extreme outrage and emotion in people like racism does, you have a responsibility to follow up and give updates regarding a possible solution. And that really stuck with me because there, for all, if for every news outlet, that covered what happened, far less of them are covering your organizing effort and like what's happening now. How do you, how would you want this story to be covered in a way that really

tells the full story? That's a great question because I just had an experience today with a black news outlet, a black news outlet that covered this story and they have a large following. And the bias in that article was so insane. Right. And this is what stuck with me. and what bothered me. When I read this article, it presented the narrative as if O'Chiandria tried, but she was still unable to stop it. And she's been receiving death threats and this, fighting them back is taking a toll, right? They positioned me as defeated and positioned her as the hero. And that is not the reality. The reality is right now, in our plan of action, we have accomplished our first goal. She has not received that payout. We have not been defeated. And regardless

of what the outcome is, I have been showing up day in and day out online and offline at this point. I have been showing up and I have been fighting this tirelessly. Right. So when people are telling this story, it's not even about mentioning my name. I want you to say we are fighting back. We are fighting back and we will hold them accountable. And that's one of the reasons why you mentioned earlier. So I wanted to circle back to that. you mentioned how these platforms suppress us, right? This story was viral for days on another platform. It was unfolding for days before a lot of these bigger platforms even picked it up before a lot of like

Instagram. That literally just happened like yesterday. Nobody on Instagram even knew what was going on. And I appreciate the people who support me and the people who tag me because it was word of mouth. What I know for a fact is word of mouth. Aside from technology, word of mouth is still the best form of marketing, right? So there were so many people saying, hey, you have to check out Keandria.

You have to check out Keandria. You have to go and look at what Keandria is doing. It got to the point where on the internet from what I saw, you could not mention this case. You could not mention Shiloh Hendricks. You couldn't mention what was going on without people tagging me. And I wanted that because it brought the traffic to the solution, right? and it brought the traffic to the people who were actually fighting back. I didn't like that.

I think that a lot of the time in the media in general and content creators, if I'm being honest, even some of these larger accounts, they want the views and they want to feel like they want to do enough to say I was engaged enough to talk about it so that they could get the views. But they're not really doing the necessary like journalism that should be involved, which content creators aren't journalists. So that's understandable. But I think that's across the board.

If you're going to talk about it, talk about the solution. If you don't talk about the solution, let me say that because I want to make that clear. If you tell this story and you don't tell that we're fighting back, that is intentional. We perceive that as intentional. That's not just me. My entire following, the consensus is if you don't tell that we're fighting back, if you intentionally minimize that or leave that out, you are making it very clear. which side you're on.

We are, look at the state of the world, look at the state of our country. There is no more straddle in defense. There is no more playing it safe in between. You have to pick one. And your silence will be taken as complicity. Why would anyone donate to Shiloh Hendrix in the first place? For some, at least based on the comments left on the crowdfunding campaign, it's pretty explicitly about race.

Gives and Goh eventually disabled the comments because so many of them were filled with outright racial slurs and references to Nazism. But it's not just about race. It's also about this perceived racial retribution. Back in April, some teenagers got into a fight at a swim meet. Austin McCaff, who is white, was killed. Carmelo Anthony, who was black, cooperated with police and claimed self-defense. Still, he's now being charged with first-degree murder. His family launched a crowdfunding campaign on gives and go to raise money for his legal defense. Shiloh's story and Carmelo's story aren't really alike in any meaningful way. But that hasn't stopped some of the most toxic voices on the far right from drawing a false

equivalence. White supremacist and Trump dinner guest Nick Fuentes posted, quote, Black people just raised $500,000 for a cold-blooded killer who stabbed a white teenager to death. So I don't want to hear one word about the Shiloh Hendricks fundraiser. Either everybody gets to be tribal or nobody does. They're saying, well, you know, black people raised all this money for him. This is the same. What do you say to people who feel that way? I usually don't say shit to them. I usually block them immediately. But if you want to know my stance when it comes to that, I've had a few people ask me just barely like, how do you feel about Carmelo? Like, do you not feel like that's the same? And no, I don't feel like that's the same at all.

One thing I know about this other side that we're fighting white supremacist or racist. overall. One thing I know about them is how petty and childish they can be. They thrive off of that. There usually is no real logic behind the things that they're saying. Like, if you were really a logical thinker, you wouldn't be a fucking white supremacist. You know? So a lot of the time, it's just nonsense that they're spouting overall. So I don't engage in that. But anybody who is even on, like, supporting me but wants to understand, Carmelo and Austin were children. They were children, and that entire situation is a tragedy. If I'm being honest, I feel transparently that Austin, I do feel if they attacked

Carmelo, I do feel like that was wrong, and I think it's unfortunate that it led to a loss of life. But I also do feel this, and this might not be something that everybody agrees with, but I do still feel like he was a kid. I do still feel like Austin was a kid, you know, and kids, they fuck up. sometimes. You know what I mean? So even though, even if they were racist, even if they were targeted in them, even if they were raised that way, I don't know. Whatever they did, they were kids and kids fuck up. So anytime I see a child being hurt, period, my heart breaks. And in this

case, two children were hurt. It wasn't just him. It wasn't just Austin. Austin lost his life and that's heartbreaking. But look at what this is doing to Carmelo. And if they attacked him, he didn't deserve that either. He doesn't deserve to be targeted. He had a right to defend. He had a right to defend himself. It's unfortunate that it ended in a loss of life, but he had a right to defend himself. That whole situation is unfortunate, and I can understand where, even though I wouldn't donate to Austin's family, honestly, I can understand communities supporting the families on either side, because this is a situation that just never should have happened to begin with. so many things could have been done differently

and both of those kids unfortunately are victims. There's like two things can exist in the same space. And to me that was just heartbreaking because they were kids and none of that should have happened and I understand both sides wanting to support them because that whole situation was just sad and messed up. That is completely different. Then this, this person,

that is completely different than a grown fucking woman attacking a child. Even with Carmelo and Austin, these are two kids that at least were capable of speaking up and, you know, advocating for themselves to some extent. This is a baby. She is targeting a baby that can't defend themselves. An autistic child that cannot defend themselves. So for an adult to attack and target a baby

and use a racial slur and to profit off just doing it. Like she didn't have any real need to raise any funds. Like people, if people are dachshing you, if people are targeting you, threatening you, that sometimes racism pisses people off. That is the consequences of your own action. So save the white woman tears. That is the consequences of you being racist.

And that's not the same. A tragedy and the consequences of her. her own actions are not the same at all. I think you put it so well. And I think, like, how is the world made better by having a world where there is a financial incentive to attacking a, like, a defenseless baby in public? Like, whose life?

And so these people who are, like, on her side or advocating for her, I would really love to ask them, is that a better world, a world where somebody will attack a baby and get, over half a million dollars for that? Is that a better world? For them, I'm sure. For them, I think they want to put black people in our place and they want to send a message that they support that and they will uphold their racist values. That's what it was about. It wasn't just about her. It is about them saying, I saw comments that are saying the white race will rise. Like they feel like they are a dying breed.

And that is, in fact, a dying ideology. White supremacy and that sort of racism, that's a dying ideology. It's way, way more frowned upon than it used to be. So they feel like they're essentially a dying breed. And that was their attempt to send a message that they are going to uphold that. It's like the last gasps of something where they feel, they feel this pendulum swinging back. And they're like, no, we have to do all we can. can to get more ground.

Yeah, they're grasping at straws for sure. And I was watching this Pierce Morgan's show. They did a panel on this with like four different panelists. There was a white panelist on the show who basically was like saying the N-word is free speech. She goes on to talk about how she calls black people the N-word whenever she feels like it, whenever it's warranted. And I don't know. It made me wonder if we are going to a place.

where we're moving backward, where people don't necessarily feel any kind of shame or issue with using a slur or directed toward a baby in public. Do you think that this is like a last gasp? Or do you think we're moving toward a place where like, actually, that's cool again. Like, it's totally fine to use a slur on a baby in public. Right.

No, I don't believe that at all because of all of the public outrage. She was terrible. She's just horrible. Like, she's one of them people when you talk to her, you leave feeling less than you were. Like, how did I get dumber? by talking to you. So I didn't listen to a lot of what she had to say.

You didn't miss anything. No, a lot of those people, they're just not logical. And I don't think that, I don't think that the entire country is moving backwards. I don't think that at all. I think that they're trying to manipulate us into thinking that we are so we feel defeated. But you can tell by the outrage that that's not the direction we're going. We're not going. We're never going back to where it was just okay with no.

no consequence. We're never, ever, ever going back to where you can do stuff like that and nobody is going to check you

about it. So that's the difference. I don't believe we're ever going to go back there, but I do believe

that they want us to think that we will so that we won't feel like we have the power to fight back.

One of the things that I think about, and I know this is going to seem random but follow me here. So I think

about, you know, when during slavery, the slave did not know they intentionally kept them from getting an education reading from even leaving the plantation because they didn't not know that they outnumbered them it's the same thing like they need to get a new fucking playbook like you know what i mean well like we peep this shit by now like we can see like hey y'all are trying to manipulate us but the masses i don't think the masses agree with you

and when people even though they don't have any shame to me from my perspective when people just go publicly saying stuff like that. You look like a weirdo. I feel like the masses either think you're tripping. They're like, I don't know about that, or they're outraged. But it's very few of them that are actually siding with you. I don't want people to be swayed by that. Like, don't think that they outnumber us or that we're going back there.

No, keep calling them out like the weirdos that they are. And there are more of us than there are of them. That is so important. There are. They don't want us to know that. They don't want us to know that. but there is absolutely more of us. And it's not just more black people.

There are more people who don't want to live in a society like that. There are people who say even if they aren't like, even if their heart isn't so invested in black culture and the black community, they feel like, okay, if it's okay to target them, one day it'll be okay to target me. And I need people to, I need people to keep thinking like that. If they will go after black people, they'll go after me because I'm Asian.

because I'm a woman or because I'm Hispanic or whatever that looks like. There are a lot of people who don't want to live in a society like that. Something that you said on threads that I thought was so good. You said, although this entire movement is centered around race, race is not the only issue. The bigger issue is allowing people to profit off of harm. These companies have made their fortunes on the backs of vulnerable people. Racism is just the current vehicle to do so.

So this particular situation is about whether or not companies, can help somebody monetize and profit off of hate, racism specifically. But tomorrow, maybe it's immigration status, maybe it's gender, maybe it's sexuality, you know, it, it, and I think that was so important that like, I think that is what is galvanizing people in this movement. It's like, I think people are smart enough to see,

like, this is not the world I want to live in where somebody can, is incentivized to be this hateful towards a baby that wasn't doing, like, a baby, you know? You know, a baby doing baby shit. Kids, they get into things, you know. So I agree that there are a lot of people who they just don't want to live in a society like that. And I think that's important that we keep crawling them out. Because you're right, it's this society in general, there's so much of that.

I want to say, honestly, our society, unfortunately, is built like that. There are so many systems that are profiting off of harm. even I won't get into Luigi and I won't talk about what he did, but this is the same thing. It is people profiting off of harm. It's all circular. And until we start speaking up and tearing those fucking systems down, I ain't even saying we got to tear them down. I ain't tearing it down. You built it.

You fix it. How can people support you, support this work, take action? Like, what should listeners be doing? Thank you for asking that. So first of all, taking action is one of the things. that's the most important to me. So I've created an entire Google document that you can download.

It's at the link in my bio on all my social media platforms. It's called Square Up for Change, which I'm just so proud of that hashtag. That is good branding. Square up for that is hashtag. We'll put the links in the show notes of the episode as well so folks can find it.

Yeah, I'm so proud of that hashtag. That's like, that's just one of my favorite things. So they can either search that hashtag, square up for justice or they can just go to the link in my bio. I've documented and gave steps to everything, right? So that's the first thing they can do if they want to stay active. What I want people to do right now, because this whole square back and forth has become a whole thing. We don't give a fuck about that, right? Their grave has been dug, all right? Square, they didn't sign their death certificate and now they're just spiraling. So what we're not going to do is let them,

let them leach our energy and drain us into a back and forth. We're not going to be pulled into a back and forth with Square and forget about what we're doing. So right now, Square, we've, like, we've targeted them. We've targeted block. We're going to keep holding them accountable. We're going to keep filing those complaints. If you haven't already, go and file that complaint. But if you have already been active, it is time for us to target stripe. Not just target stripe. It is time for us to do the same thing. File complaints. Any sort of, any sort of product that they have, we need to be calling for a boycott if they don't freeze those funds. And it's the same thing. Right. now filed a complaint and they will be the subject of a class action lawsuit if they pay those

funds out to her. Now, one of the things I just learned before I even got on here with you that I'm starting to see a little bit of, I'm kind of see some scuttle butt that I didn't really like, right? I'm the type, I'm really no nonsense. And I'm like, focus y'all. Like, don't let this shit get y'all off the course, right? So this is one of the things I want people to pay attention to because Stripe is they are big and they are embedded like everywhere. Somebody sent me a screenshot from their website and I looked on their website. They have partners who they are connected to. So it lists Uber, it lists Etsy, it lists anthropology, talk space.

They have a whole list of partners, right? And so we're now calling out those partners too. Now we're not calling for a boycott of them yet, but we are calling out those partners and saying, hey, are you cool with this shit your friends doing? We want to hold all of them accountable and we are pressing all of them. And honestly, I don't have to call for a boycott at this point. If you don't choose a side, those companies know they're going to lose business. Or if they don't know, they're about to find out.

They're about to find out. I love it. You know, we've talked a lot about the movement you've been organizing. How does it personally feel? You know, I was listening to that Sam Cook song, A Change Is Going to Come. I know that that song, somebody was telling you about how that song felt in this moment in light of the work that you're doing. How does this personally feel to you to be anchoring such an impactful movement that is really inspiring so many folks who maybe felt disempowered like I did coming into the year? I feel like this is a, I feel like I have known for a while, and I don't want to be a cliche, but I don't want to be cliche, but it's true.

I've known for a while I was going to do something. I have this fire inside of me and I just, I'm so righteous and I always stand up for what I feel is right. So I've known that I had that inside of me for a long time. So when this started unfolding, I didn't know how big it was going to be, but it feels like, okay, that's what I was supposed to do. So to me, it's grounding and it feels like, oh, fucking finally, because all the work that I've been doing to lead me here, so many things make sense. there is a part of it that's a little bittersweet to me. That's the part I haven't talked about. I haven't gone on my social media or anything to talk about it because I am from Alabama, right?

So I do come from a family that is rooted in the South. And a lot of this feels personal to me. And there's a part of it where I know I've shared before that my mom is sick now. So she's like she's medically incapacitated. So there is a part of me personally that's like, like I wish my mama could see. You know what I mean? I don't think she, she's always, she calls me, you're my good baby, you're my special baby.

She always tells me, go to law school, go to law school, you're going to do something with yourself, right? And she thought being a lawyer was making it for me. She would not, it would blow her mind if she could see what I'm doing now. So that's the part to me that's a little heavy when I talk about it or think about it because I haven't talked about it at all. But that's the part that's heavy as I know my mom, I know she would be mind-blum if she could see because she is one person who always knew I was going to do something. She had, I think she probably had no idea what she was speaking into existence for you. No. Beyond her wildest dreams.

Yeah. And mine, for sure, for sure. Because where I come from, people don't do stuff like that. So I know, you know, I'm from Alabama. So obviously they have people who led the civil rights movement, but the environment I come from, if you are financially successful, it's because you're a drug dealer.

Other than that, they're working dead-end jobs. They're caught up in this same cycle, right? And a lot of them don't even make it out of there where I'm from. So for me to have not only made it out of this town that's in the South, in Alabama, that is riddled racism, them. Like, that's one of the things I think prepared me for it. Like, I'm from the South. Do you think this is the first time I've ever been called the N-Work? So for me to make it out of that environment, not only to do something that made an impact, but to specifically be fighting racism in the way I am,

it's all circular and it's just, it's really grounded for me. That's, I mean, you're, it is circular because you're creating a climate where less black babies have to grow up being like, oh, it's fine to call me the N-word. And you know what? If nothing else, I would be happy if nothing else if people think twice before doing shit like that. So before I go and attack this little black child, is it going to be a whole movement against me? Like, am I going to have to relocate after that? Is there anything that I did not ask that you want to make sure it gets included in this conversation? You asked me, but I didn't answer because I got off on a different topic with. ADHD, right? But you ask me how people could support me because a lot of people are supporting

me personally. So I do have a nonprofit organization that's called Project 92, you know, 92% club check. So I have a nonprofit that will be the umbrella for all of my activism. As of now, I don't have any crowdfunding campaign. A lot of people keep asking me that because you know, y'all know good and damn well. If I make a go-finding me, they're just going to report it and snatch it down. So I'm working with a web developer now. add a page to my website to where we can start collecting donations and people can support, specifically support my activism. But as of now, any product that I have, my business is FemFonds ATL. So it's www.femFINFINDS ATL. That's not a plug for me to try to sell products. I'm not

trying to monetize this, but the reality is this is a lot of time and it is a lot of energy. So keeping me financially stable gives me the freedom to continue to do this work. So if they want to support me, I'm not going to create a GoFund me, but you can shop on my site. And there's also an option to leave a tip. And when you leave a tip that goes directly to my nonprofit organization. And I'm going to say, I think people should shop your site. And I think people should leave a tip because this work is hard. It's costly.

Like we were saying, like it is not without personal risk. cost. And yeah, it's like it's it's a marathon, not a sprint. And we have to make sure that the people who are who are leading these movements are taken care of and that we have, we have the backs of the people who are doing the work and like actually walking the walk, not just talking the talk. So I will, I am saying I think people should financially support. Thank you. Thank you. You know what? There is something that I don't want to say struggle. Something I deal with and battle with sometimes it's imposter syndrome. So I almost like, I'm like, I don't, I don't want to feel like I'm blood in myself.

You know what I mean? It's crazy that I can go and I can go head first and fight them fearlessly. But when people are like, what can we do for you? I'm like, I don't know. Well, you know what I mean? But it is the reality in the world that we live in, like shit costs money, bro. Like, I have to be able to work and I have to be able to pay bills. You know what I mean?

I can't focus if I'm worried about where I'm going to lay my head at. So supporting me does make a huge difference. And I am working on that. I am working on the channels that they can just directly donate. But I also, after taking on all those payment processors, I think it would be wise to just build my own platform on my own site. There was something in me. I'm not afraid of the movement,

but there was something in me that was low-key, terrified of people just thinking, this was a money grab for me because I'm so passionate. I am so passionate about this work. And I knew if it wasn't nobody but me, doing the work, she's not about, I don't want to just sit back and watch her profit from verbally attacking the child, right? So people were asking, how can we support you? How can we support you? And I just, I was afraid of that. I didn't want people like, oh, another grifter, like cloud chaser, you know what I mean? Because that will minimize the work that I'm doing. If right now,

I were to like put up a go fund me and then it gets all these donations, I know for a fact the narrative is going to be, which maybe I shouldn't care. I'll talk to my therapist about that. But I know for a fact, the narrative is going to be like, see, this is why she did this. She just wanted to make money. So that's why I'm intentional about the channels that I tell y'all to go through because I'm not just telling y'all to just give me money, give me money, give me money, give me money. You can support my business. But I'm not just asking for a big lump sum of money like y'all. Like her. Like her. You're better than that. You're actually doing work that I think is worth a million dollars.

Right. Right. And I told, you know what's funny? I told my son that yesterday because people kept telling me like, you need to make a go-fund me. You need to make a go-fummy. Girl, right now people want to donate. And I am nothing, if not a strategic thinker, especially when it comes to my business. Because I'm going to be real.

Could I have, the first day it went viral? And people like, Kendra, save the day. Could I have put up some sort of crowdfunding and got maybe a hundred. 100K, two, three, right? I could have done that. I absolutely could. I could probably do that right now. But I want to position myself a leader here long term.

So the money's going to come. I'm not worried about that. The money is going to come. There will be more opportunities. There will be people will continue to support my site. The bigger my brand grows, that money's going to come. So I don't feel like I have to make this desperate move to grab that. I love this abundant mindset of like it will come, the timing will align.

You know, you were meant to, I think that you were meant to be doing exactly what you're doing right now. I think that's exactly the right mindset. Thank you. I appreciate that. And frankly, I was already successful. I'm just pissed off. Now you're successful and pissed. Yeah, I already had money.

I'm fine. My business was here before this happening. I'm just irritated by that shit. I love it. Is there anything else that you want to add before we stop the recording? This has been great. Like, you're such a breath of fresh air to speak to. Thank you.

I appreciate it. No, I want to add that I appreciate you. I appreciate you in any platform, any person that is intentional about telling this story and telling it in the right way. As you said, people erase us from the narrative. There are people blatantly like being biased the other way, even a black platform. You know what I mean? There are so many people that are just cancel.

Casually, casually getting this story wrong just for the sake of views because it's viral right now. But you are intentional in getting the story right and telling the correct narrative. And I appreciate you in any platform that does that. Got a story about an interesting thing in tech or just want to say hi? You can reach us at hello at tangoody.com. You can also find transcripts for today's episode at tangoody.com. There are no girls on the internet was created by me, Bridget Todd. It's a production of IHeart Radio and Unbossed Creative.

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