There Are No Girls on the Internet - Why trad wife content is taking over social media right now (with Under the Influence's Jo Piazza)

Episode Date: September 9, 2022

Have you been seeing a lot of content on social media romanticizing women not working outside of the home?  Jo Piazza, host of the hilarious and insightful podcast Under the Influence, breaks down why we're seeing so much trad wife content right now.   #TradWives: sexism as gateway to white supremacy: https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/countering-radical-right/tradwives-sexism-gateway-white-supremacy/ Listen to Under the Influence: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/under-the-influence-with-jo-piazza/id1544171101See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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traditional is really obscenely misplaced. There are No Girls on the Internet as a production of IHeart Radio and Unbossed Creative. I'm Bridget Todd, and this is There Are No Girls on the Internet. If you are a woman, listen out because I need to tell you something kind of important. It turns out we have all been tricked. Oh, yes. Feminism was alive, and it was just a scam to get us one. working outside of the home so we could provide more taxable income to the government.

It turns out that we were much better off back in the 50s as traditional housewives. Think about it. We didn't have to work outside of the home, and we could spend all of our time raising our kids and running a household. And we were so much happier back then, too. You know, back when we as women couldn't own property, couldn't vote, couldn't take out a credit card. Oh, and it was also legal for our spouses to rape us. So if you spend any time at all on TikTok, you're probably seeing an influx of this kind of content, which is commonly called tradwife content, short for a traditional wife, that posits that women

weren't just happier, but also we were more empowered when we stayed at home and embraced more traditional gendered roles in the household. And I believe that this is not a coincidence, against the backdrop of some pretty scary and heavy political and social happenings, things like economic instability, impending climate crisis, which always disproportionately harms women more, but gunning of Roe versus Wade and the loss of the right to control our own bodies. I think content like this does two things. One, it responds to and exploits the understandable fear and anxiety that a lot of women are feeling, particularly in the absence of any kind of a meaningful institutional support. And I also think it's kind of meant to soothe us in a way.

You know, don't be too angry, ladies. You were much. much better off without rights anyway. But all of this content is just a depiction of a fantasy life that never even really existed. And it's yet another way that social media is trying to sell women on a dangerous lie. I'm Joe Piazza and I'm an author, journalist, and podcaster, most recently the host of the podcast called Under the Influence. On Joe's great podcast, under the influence, she chronicles how the business and culture of influencing social media and the internet has impacted women. And right now, a lot of what she's seeing includes trad wife content. So your podcast is amazing. And that was one of the reasons why I was so excited to talk to you today

because, you know, I've been scrolling social media a lot lately. And I can't seem to get away from this, like, I guess, trad wife content, this content made by women that is sort of giving us to say, idea that being a traditional stay-at-home wife and mother is the path to power and happiness for women. Have you seen this content on your feed? Not only have I seen this content on my feed, but it has been dominating my feed for some reason. Maybe sometimes I'm like Instagram knows I'm pregnant and wants to force me to stay home in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant forever. And it thinks you'd be happier if that's how you lived your life. And they think I'd be happier.

And you know, so my gut reaction to this is, and it's the same as it is with most things, if you want to stay home and be a quote unquote traditional wife and, you know, take on all of the trappings of domesticity that we're popularized by mass media in the 1950s, and this is what you really want. Fucking awesome. You do it. You do you. And my feminism is mostly centered on women choosing what makes them happy. I do not necessarily think that this is the path to empowerment for the majority of women. But I do think that this is becoming so popular.

And we know that Instagram surfaces things that they think will soothe people's adult brains as they make them more addled. Because the world is kind of a disaster right now. And when the world is a disaster, people want nostalgia, even if it's a disaster. a false nostalgia. And this nostalgia for a quote unquote better time when women were quote unquote traditional is really obscenely misplaced. Yeah, it almost seems like it is painting a fantasy portrait of a time that did not exist because, you know, even for white women back in the day, I'm not necessarily quick to say

that they were so happy, you know, it was like legal for your spouse to rape you. You couldn't own property. you couldn't, you know, take, like, have your own money. Like, I don't. You couldn't have a credit. You couldn't have a credit card. Right. And.

Yeah. So, I mean, it's most, let's be honest. It's mostly can't having a credit. It's mostly not having a credit card and rape, marital rate. Right. And so I think it, like, it harkens back in a way that, that paints these times as, like, really rosy. And, and, yeah, it's like a fantasy world that never even existed even during that time. Yeah.

Exactly. Exactly. Exactly. And not to mention the fact that it, absolutely 100% never even existed in media for black women and women of lower economic statuses and immigrant women. So yeah, it's a completely, completely false nostalgia. And I think you hit on something interesting, which is that these TikToks, especially that I see, that really seem to be trying to convince women that we've been lied to into thinking that having a job

and, you know, working outside of the home is empowering. It really, for that narrative to work, you basically had to ignore non-white women. You have to basically say, like, I'm a white woman talking to other white women in a world where people who are not white, if they exist, we're not speaking to them, we're not thinking about their experiences, we're not interrogating that at all. No, no, exactly.

The whole idea of a happy woman who enjoyed an idyllic life in the home, tending to her family while her husband did the wage-earning labor, is just kind of a fantasy. Obviously, it certainly did not exist for non-white women, and it kind of didn't even really ever exist for white women either. Or not the way we've been led to believe anyway. In fact, Joe says the entire happy housewhite thing was a creation presented by a few specific pieces of mass media that made its way into the culture and just kind of stuck. I mean, the whole tradwife's aesthetic really does come from a very

narrow sliver of 1950s sitcoms. And we're talking June Cleaver, talking daddy, father knows best, daddy knows best. I mean, the shows we saw in Nick at Night as kids, really. And it was mass media telling us that this is what the world looked like. What it didn't look like that for the majority of white women, it never looked like that for black women, women of a lower economic status, immigrant women. And I think, look, we're desperate. We are desperate to cling to something because the world isn't working right now. I don't think that the concept of women working outside the home, I think work has failed all of us, not just women. Work has failed to empower us as a human race right now. And so there is this small set of people saying, well, what if you didn't have to work?

Look at these women who didn't have to work, these like three women who didn't have to work. in 1954. Don't they look so happy in their gingham dresses with their beach waves that they never could have really gotten in 1954? They do that shit with the Dyson handworn. Yeah, I love your point that we're,

even if you're thinking about mass media from the 50s, the Tradwife stuff from, that was shown there, it's only a small, like, subsection of shows. Like, Lucille Ball, even she wanted to be on the show in, or be in Ricky, and, um, Desi show back in the day. So like they're not even demonstrating that like it was a dominant, you know, a dominant culture. Never.

Lucy wanted to work. Lucy was messy. Lucy was, I mean, I love Lucy. I just said I love Lucy. Because she was delightfully fucked up in so many ways. And she kind of bucked the trend of the trad wife that was on TV in so many ways. You don't see that if you just like, you know, glance at one episode of the show. But she really did it.

And Lucille Ball in real life was a goddamn baller. She owned her brand. She owned her shit. She owned her show. So she was not a trad wife in any way, shape, or form. But just the fact that we keep getting served this on Instagram, and this is not what I want to be seeing right now. I want to be seeing more nap dresses and caftans.

And frankly, I'm just in the mood for some fucking calf memes. I don't want to see a trad wife. Let's take a quick break. Another podcast from some SNL late-night comedy guy, not quite. Unhumor me with Robert Smygel and Friends. Me and hilarious guests from Bob Odenkirk to David Letterman help make you funnier.

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Listen, Inside American Soccer with Tom Bogart and Tab Ramos on the IHeart Radio app, Apple podcast, wherever you get your podcast. At our back. To be clear, there is. absolutely nothing wrong with not working outside of the home or finding enjoyment in the domestic. But what can be scary are the ways that trad wife content can present a palatable pipeline for women to be led into extremist ideology. Yeah, and I think that you make a good point about the way that it's definitely being like surfaced right now for whatever reason. And I think that's what I think can be kind of almost harmful, right?

Like Treadwife stuff for me is like a little annoying, a little, I find it a little bit smug. But I know that a lot of that content can really be a pipeline into like more extremist thinking. You know, if you are saying like, oh, well, the world was much better in the 50s and the 40s when, you know, people of color, quote, knew their place and women knew their place. It's like a hop skip and a jump away from some pretty nasty extremist, you know, ideology. I wouldn't even say it's a hop, skip, and a jump. That's giving it too much credit. That's saying that it would take us three steps to get there. I mean, I think we're kind of just teetering on the edge of this dangerous territory.

It's also, for me, very dangerous because it pits two groups of women against each other. It pits the woman who does stay at home for whatever reason to take care of her children, to take care of her home, because she fucking has to, because there's no goddamn child care in this country. against the woman who either chooses to work because she wants to, works because she has to, and it's setting up this dichotomy that says, oh, like, this life is better than this life, or this woman is so different from you that you are at odds with her when at the end of the day, we're all doing labor, raising children is labor, making meals, cleaning the house, it's labor. Like, neither of these things is necessarily better than the other one. Yeah, that's actually my biggest, other than the like extremist ideology, that's one of my biggest

problems with this kind of trad wife content is that it really, I think a lot of times hinges on this aspect of comparison. And that's part of it that I don't like. I think there's like a smugness to it that's like, I've figured something out that other women are too stupid or too shallow to see. And I just feel like if people, like I think people should do whatever, them happy, whatever they can afford to do. You know, I also think there's a kind of, in some of the content, there's a kind of persecution complex, like, oh, I don't want to be on Tinder or in the office or away from my child or having my children in public school and I'm demonized for it.

And I think in 2022, I don't, this is my opinion. I don't necessarily see a lot of people demonizing women who stay, who aren't working outside of the home. I think that, like, frankly, in my opinion, if you can, if you figured it out how to make that work for you, like, I'm jealous, if anything, like, I think that's great. God bless you. Yeah. And I think, yeah, I think you're right. It sets up this dichotomy of two different groups of women where one is better than the other or one's choices are better than the other or more real than the other.

And I just think it's not really a binary. Plenty of people, especially parents will work, will leave the workforce, come back to the workforce. it's not this binary thing where if you are able and enjoy not working outside of the home, that is like a, that innately makes you better. I just think it like, it negates the reality of just like being a person who has to make choices that are right for, right for their lives. Totally, totally, absolutely. And also a lot of the Chadwife content, much like most of the content on Instagram, is a glossified version of reality. And it's also a lie.

A lot of these traditional wives claim that this childwife lifestyle is about paying homage to a slower, more intentional lifestyle. There's nothing slow about being at home with two toddlers. Are you kidding? Like, give me my workday any day where I'm like sitting at my computer and drinking coffee rather than getting up every two minutes to be like, I need strawberries. This water doesn't have enough ice. There's something weird being between my toes. What the fuck? That is not slow and intentional.

That is being, I say this all the time. I love my kids. Like, I really, really like them. I like being a mom. And I also don't really want to be alone one-on-one with them for longer than three hours at a time. I don't. I'm exhausted. I need a break.

And I just, for me, striking a balance between doing meaningful work. and caring for, I also don't want to come home at night and have them already in bed, right? So meaningful work with caregiving, I mean, that's the goddamn sweet spot for me. And I think everyone has to find their own sweet spot. Yeah, I think you're right. And I think, you know, that's, at least for me,

like, that's what feminism is about, like women being able to make the best choices for them and that being okay. And I think, you know, every time I see one of those TikToks, it's like, I live a slow life. part of me wants to be like, what part of a slow life involves setting up a tripod? You know what I mean? Like, if I'm living a slow life, I'm not, like, a lot of the TikToks that I see on that are like, probably involve an incredible amount of work to put together. Oh my God, it doesn't look so slow and soft to me. It actually looks like a lot of work on top of being around your kids, which we know is exhausting and draining. Awful. I mean, let's be honest, a lot of it is awful. Yeah, those beach waves. That wasn't slow. It took a lot of work.

Those eyelashes, you all wear, you've all got fake eyelashes on. There's nothing slow and intentional. Actually, it's intentional. There's nothing slow about putting on fake eyelashes. Oh, no, it's incredibly time consuming. And, like, yeah, and I think, like, that's, I don't know, part of me wonders if, like, there's just something about this content that is tailor made for social media and that it invites comparison.

And it can, it is an easy way to sort of polish up a lie, you know, that, like, you're living a slow life. You're so centered and in touch with your kids and yada, yada, yada. But in fact, it can be none of that, but you're presenting this very pretty package to women and moms. A lot of whom are, frankly, at their limit. They've been doing remote learning. They've been through this pandemic. We've gone through like tampon shortages and baby formula shortages and no meaningful institutional support or help.

Selling, continuing to sell moms this polished up lie is almost kind of cruel to me. It is cruel. It's absolutely cruel. because and I think it's just it's a very patriarchal view of the work of motherhood of saying oh look at these beautiful pictures of these beautiful houses this is so easy this is a slower life no that is work that is so much labor and you know I've I've dabbled in the domestic arts at times and that's frankly that's harder work for me than having a dozen meetings in a day trying to make a zucchini dead okay like it's just like I'm not good at that It's not innate to me. It's not to say someone else doesn't wildly enjoy it. And I do think that we have sidelined, we've sidelined work in the home, right? And my biggest issue is always that we just don't call things done in the home work.

But neither do the trad wives. They're blowing off that work. They're saying this is a slower and easier lifestyle and not recognizing that everything that a woman does in the home is actual work. Yeah, I think that's a good point. that like, if you are a mom or a parent who is engaging in the pretty exhausting work of raising little humans, to have someone go on social media and be like, actually, this isn't labor, this isn't work, this is just something that, you know, that you should always enjoy that should come naturally to you as a woman, that should just be really pleasing and nice and happy and gentle and slow.

I think a lot of parents, the work of raising a child does not feel happy or slow or any of that. And I don't know, it's just another way to lie to women about the work that we're all doing, that we are doing and sort of this burden that we all have to, that we're all should should enjoy it all the time. It just is like another added way that we're just not supported. No, it's really, it really is. It's another way of putting it down and putting down the labor that we put into a life, to make a life, to raise human.

I think, I think that raising human beings is one of the hardest things that I do. do in this portfolio of many things that I do in our economically precarious society. But it also, it's just, it remains undervalued in the traditional wives movement, while they claim that they're elevating it, are continuing to undervalue it by saying this is an easier way of life. Oh, that's so true. I really want to see like the 70s, 80s era completely checked out mom who has not seen her kids all day.

And when they come home, she's like, oh, I hope you've been fed because I'm not making dinner. I want that mom to come back into Vogue. Yeah. I mean, I, the parenting book that I want to write and then no one will let me write because cancel culture is a parent like it's 1984, man.

Put him in the way back of the car. Let's find some candy cigarettes, right? And just, and pop them in front of the TV and give them all the sugary cereals because, you know it? And smoke, I guess smoke and drink in front of them too, because that was my life. Even if I had a cigarette now, I'd probably die, but sometimes I still think about it, about how, like, wonderful it would be.

And I feel like I turned out fucking great. And I was a latchkey kid whose parents chainsmithed two packs of cools a day in front of me. I don't even have asthma. It's honestly so funny to see the different, like, I don't want to say trends, but waves of parenting. Because, yeah, I was parenting. I was, I feel like I was the last generation of kids whose parents were like, go outside, I don't want to see you for several hours.

And like, if you did that today, you'd be arrested. Well, it was funny. I have a story, which will probably get me arrested. And I don't care anymore. Just don't take my kids away, okay? Like, I'm a good mom. But it's pouring fucking rain yesterday at school pickup. And my husband hates using a car because we live in the city.

And so, like, obviously, like, I drop my toddler off at her first day of preschool. Pick her up again in the pouring rain. I'm seven months pregnant, by the way. I'm huge. When I asked another parent that had a car there, if they could drive me the four blocks home to drop me off. They're like, oh, I don't know if I have enough seats. And it was like a massive super room.

I'm like, what is pile on to the way back? It's four blocks. It wouldn't do it. They're like, there's no seat belts back there. And I was like, it's the way back. It's okay. I'm like, we, you know, I mean, like, again, like, I'm not going to do it for like a three hour road trip with my kid.

But like, we're just so afraid of everything anymore. And I think it's, it's, it's, This is a whole other episode. It's creating fucked up kids. It's creating kids who don't know how to live in the goddamn world as the world is burning down around us. But that's another podcast that no one will let me do. I had that same experience on a family trip recently

where my sister-in-law, we were piled into a car. And she was like, I'll just hold her on my lap. Carsey, we're going two blocks. It's fine. Two bucks. Yeah, yeah. I don't know. Again, like, I think so many corners of the Internet

are dark and terrible for women And the ones that are dark, the most dark and terrible are the ones that look the prettiest. That's such a, I mean, I think you're right because, you know, I'm not a parent, but I can imagine if you're a new mom, it's scary. And then you go to these social media places or spaces that are sensibly supposed to be about support and helping you. And they just make you feel that much more inadequate and alone and terrified. Terrible. I would never want to be a new mom again.

and be scrolling the internet and looking at Instagram. I'm just happy that I'm an old mom at this point who is just going to let a third child fall out of my body and probably sleep in a cardboard box next door that. But I just, yeah, I don't have time for it. But like thinking if like I was so terrified about new motherhood, which all new moms are. And then they see these kinds of pictures and they're like, I'm failing.

Well, women, we think we're failing every day. I wake up and feel like a failure, even though, like, rationally, I know that I shouldn't. I write good books. I make good podcasts, but, like, I still feel like I'm failing every day. We don't need another person to tell us that we're failing. Especially not doing so under the guise of, I'm telling you this to help you. This is just for your own good that you need to know this information about how much you're failing as a mom. Exactly, exactly.

Yeah. So, I don't, again, like, women working in the home, raising children. doing domestic labor, good thing. Women that say that we, women have failed by being in the workforce, workforce, fuck you. Fuck you real hard. More after a quick break.

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It wouldn't be a huge surprise if our team ends up in the quarterfinals or potentially a great run into the semifinals. The World Cup is almost here. Experience it all with us. with us. Listen, Inside American Soccer with Tom Bogart and Tab Ramos on the Iheart Radio app, Apple podcast, wherever you get your podcast. Let's get right back into it. I do have one last quick question for you. So speaking of all things, throwbacky and traditional, especially for women, I happen to know that you have a particular interest in a one miss Laura Ingalls Wilder. If you don't know who that

is, she was the writer of the series Little House on the Prairie, which became a TV show and was massively influential. Can you tell us about that interest? and where it might take you next. What a badass bitch she was. Yes, I love me, some Laura Ingles Wilder. I read all the books growing up, but I'm not as much of an obsessive as my dear friend, Clennis McNickel, who co-hosted under the influence with me

and who also married my husband and I in front of a Sphinx seven years ago. I mean, she's like a freak about Laura Ingalls Wilder. But we're both obsessed with how this woman's real life, stories of growing up on the prairie have become the most read books, probably among the most red books in the entire world and also have shaped how we view the American West. And we are doing a new podcast called Wilder, which comes out in March, where we spent a good chunk of this summer traveling around the United States going to the Laura Ingalls Wilder homesteads and revisiting what her legacy means to America, what she got wrong.

She didn't get everything right. She fucked up a lot of stuff. Like, she really, there's a lot more that she could have included in those books about what was happening in Black America at the time, what was happening with the indigenous people whose land that her family was constantly moving on to. That said, she was so ahead of her time in terms of being a wild child who just wanted to explore the world and the things we've reported out while doing this podcast have been so fascinating. My favorite is that Laura is really huge with Japanese tourists.

Huge. She's huge in Japan. Who knew? And it's for a couple of reasons. One, Japanese schools often use the Little House books to teach English. The darker side of that, many of the internment camps forced people to read the Laura Engels Wilder books here in America. And then the television show was wildly popular.

So these little towns, these little very white rural towns where Laura's from, get bust loads of Japanese tourists visiting them every year. But to their, like, the towns love it. And it has actually opened the town's eyes to different cultures that they never would have experienced were it not for Laura. And so, and that's just like one of the little little tidbits that we loved while we were doing this. And yeah, that podcast is coming out in March. I'm also hoping to work on a podcast about Judy Bloom and her enduring legacy on our lives. Oh my God. Please, I am obsessed with Judy Bloom.

When I was a kid, the book, Are You There, God? It's me, Margaret. Are you there, God? It's like, it was, we like trade. I mean, this is, we used to trade it. Like, when I was in, like, fourth or fifth grade, it was, we thought it was, like, the most grown-up, like, you know, book about our bodies and our, the way, you know, we would like, like, trade it to each other like, oh, have you read this? Mm-hmm. I know, I know that one and then also Dini in forever. I'm like, this is the dirtiest sex I've ever read about.

Yeah, all right, great. You're going to come on that show. I'm trying to get that greenlit right now. So you're coming on it. I'm going to tell everyone that you're right. I'm in. I'm in. I cannot wait.

Right. Joe, thank you so much for being here. Where can folks keep up with all the cool work that you're doing? Unfortunately, the fucking Instagram at Joe Piazza author. I spend all of my days trashing Instagram and saying how much I hate it.

And then I'm like, this is really the easiest place to find me. So thank you. Instagram. At Joe Piazza author is the easiest place. I'm going to have this baby in like two months. So I'm going to, I'm either going to go dark or I'm going to become a traditional one.

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