These Fukken Feelings Podcast© - Beyond the Box of Chocolates A New Vision for Love's Celebration

Episode Date: February 13, 2024

Send us a Text Message.Valentine's Day can be like a box of chocolates for the heart: sweet for some, bittersweet for others. As we unravel the complexities of this day of love, we're reminded that while some are swooning, others might be nursing a broken heart. That's why this episode is a heartfelt journey through the highs and lows of February 14th. We're peeling back the layers of Valentine's Day, challenging the standard narrative that it's all about romance and grand gestures. With a fo...

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Grab a drink and take a seat the session begins now not everybody is fortunate enough to be loved or be in a loving relationship or have love or have a significant other or dating or just whatever it is for many many reasons and valentine's day can be really really hard on a person's mental health especially when you don't have love because this is the holiday known for love and actually it wasn't like saint valentine a really cruel guy or died a really crazy death or something y'all should look into that's a crazy story but like i'm one of those people that feel like you should celebrate so if you have a love celebrate that love crystal buy james a damn gift okay or something a girl gets asked a tool and put a heart on it like there's something that you can get on

valentine's day is just not about women sorry no it's not it's not okay and pussy is not a gift that you was born with that. You didn't go buy that. Okay? I need something you wasn't born with. Okay? So, anyway. That's all damn gifts.

Seriously, though. I just want you to be mindful of your surroundings. And I'm going to tell you to check in on your single friends. Take a few minutes out of your day to check in on your single friends. And just to make sure that they're okay. Because I know a person and have known people

who have almost given up their lives on this holiday because they were alone or because they thought they were alone. Because what's all the commercials? Everybody's engaged and happy and then now motherfuckers and this is another part that killed me okay if you don't got the money don't spend that shit why you sit there gonna spend all this

money be stressed during valentine's day so now your valentine's day kind of suck because you bought a gift that was too expensive and you don't know how you're going to pay for it and the rent due on Friday. Don't do that. Okay. Do not do that. All right. But it doesn't take money to be romantic. Right. But anyway, the moral of the story is checking on your single friends. Know that Valentine's day can be very triggering. And if you're dating somebody or you're meeting somebody new, remember that you don't know their traumas. You don't know what they've been through. So when it comes down to the intimate part of the night, make sure you get consent and you do things the right way. You know, so those are going through around us.

And we can be insensitive. And it's hard to be the one not to get the flowers and not to get the teddy bear and husband not come to work and do something. And half the time people get that done. Ain't a happy relationship. That's a story for another day. I mean, celebrate your people. If you love them, celebrate them all year round. Don't wait until Valentine's Day. But, okay, like I said, I ain't going to get on this high horse and preach. But, sorry, Chris, I'm going to let you talk. But I just, no, seriously, I was just thinking about that.

I thought about that. And I was like, and honestly, I was talking to a friend of mine. And she kind of like, another Valentine's Day alone. And it just like made me think like, damn, people suffer during this holiday. You know, like because she was talking about how like I don't even want to go to work that day. They just got to be so extra. And, you know, and I was like, damn, like I feel like ain't nobody in our office going to get shit. So I don't know.

I don't know. I bought you guys all candy. I'm talking about you guys all candy. I'm talking about like ain't nobody getting no flowers. Oh, leaves might. Only leaves. Or Priscilla. Okay. As you can see, we're working on our mental health right.

But no, no, really important. Just this little short episode. I really am going to air this. I don't care how foolish it is because I just want you to be mindful of the people in the world. You know, it's like, okay, I believe wholeheartedly that you shouldn't compare yourself to others. But that doesn't mean that you can't have compassion

and that you can't show people love and that you just can't care. You know, so yeah, support your love, but just check in on your people that don't quite have it right now and um i'm gonna do that and hey if you need to check in um you can text crystal her number is but not really guys anything you wanted to say to the people no i i think you're completely right very check-in on whoever.

Even the people that do have husbands and stuff, if you know that. Right, right. I know a couple that don't have any money and she's like, I don't want flowers because flowers are expensive and

you just basically throw them out. So now it becomes a negative thing and he gets them, she's going to have a little attitude because he spent money on something that now wasn't important. You know, look, this is one of those commercialized holidays, you know,

that people found a way to make a lot of money off of. But hey, I don't know, I really, I don't judge or try not to judge. I mean, it is what it is. It's celebrated. I would like to celebrate Valentine's Day, but I also believe that the person that I love, know I love them every single day. I think like you said, you should love them every day.

Right. Not just, same with Mother's Day. Right. Like, I think it's so stupid to celebrate mother's day because you're a mom forever as soon as you have a kid and your child should show you that they love you every day not just one day and you know but i think okay in that one i don't disagree with right because i'm like i y'all know the world know how much I love my mama. You know what I'm saying? I mean, my mama live with me. Okay, I pay the bills,

but, you know, she live with me, right? So that's still her house. But, it is. It's her house. So, but I just want y'all to look, I ain't no scrub. My mama live with me. And I'm sorry if I seem to be judging. If you a scrub, maybe you just going through something. No judgment. But, you know. Rewind that and then quit. I shouldn't have just said that. I should have just left it alone.

Okay. But, I don't know. I feel like birthdays. Like, I feel like it's really, really dope to have a day where you can just go extra as a bitch for the person you love. You know? Because it's like, yeah, I can show appreciation every day. And I do. You know what I'm saying?

Well, I mean, birthdays, I feel like it's your mom should be. Not your mom should get gifts, but, like, that's the day. She is pro-mommy. Bitch, you just can't get everything you can't take birthdays okay like she was like technically so if you want her crystals 18 kids why y'all not buying her gifts every day please buy

her a gift and send it to her every day let her know no I know that you know your kids love you yeah I don't know I mean I spoiled the hell out of my mama you know what I'm saying I'll be like oh I don't like this pillow tomorrow she got a new pillow, you know? And it's, well, and I guess that's not love. Like just because I buy her things, it's not love.

But I guess my point of that was that I try to do what I can to make her comfortable. Right. I try to do what I can to make sure. But that's love. Right. So it's like, yeah, I get her a new pillow, but it's because I want her to be comfortable. Right. You know what I'm saying?

And I guess that's it. It's like because I want her to be comfortable. Right. You know what I'm saying? And I guess that's it. It's like, I want the very best for my mom. So I'm going to do whatever I can within my means to give her the very best that I can give her. However, I like that one day a year we can get together as a family and celebrate mom. Yeah. If you do that, if you like gather all. So once again, we're not about judgment., however people, you know, so once again, we're not about judgment. So however people decide

to celebrate their moms. Right. But I feel like it's a day that moms, I mean, I feel like it's a day, like, moms that should really. What about the moms aren't here? Okay. You can still celebrate your mom. You can still celebrate your mom, but that puts them into, like, sort of

like going to work. And everybody's like talking about how it's Mother's Day and take for Becca. Mother's Day. Girl, you went back to all another stories. She went back to the beginning of the conversation where I was just telling y'all to be mindful about celebrating a little too hard. I think that's what it is. Like sometimes you can celebrate a little too hard. I think that's what it is. Like sometimes you can celebrate a little too hard. Right.

And it comes across as bragging. Right. You know, it comes when it's a little too much. It comes across as like showing off in a way, you know, and I think that's the part of it. That's, you know, my dad ain't around. And but not even that, you know, it's like I don't mourn so much about my dad's death as I do the loss of relationship we would have had as I'm growing into this person that I'm growing into. Right. Like, I feel like my dad would have loved this Micah.

You know what I'm saying? And so it's like I met someone in those kind of ways. Right. Like, I know I'm making you proud right now. Like, you can't tell me I ain't making you proud right now. Right.

You know, but it's like, oh, it sucks that he can't be here for that. Right. You know, because my dad was always a champion of things. So I get what you're saying,

but that's not important. We just talking. We are going to release this, like, really, really release it. Just Valentine's Day. I mean, but that's not important. We just talking. We are going to release this, like really, really release it. Just Valentine's Day. I mean, just check in with people. Just make sure people are good. Love shouldn't just be celebrated romantically.

So I think it's okay to show. Or yes. I don't think that it should be. But it can be. Oh, it can be. But I think something for people that don't have a lot of money a simple right make your own thing a symbolic or gesture or something or like things can be done to show that you love each other in all kinds of situations right you know you think

about stray animals you know i'm saying i'm thinking my dog now no i'm thinking about how you know you can have two like a cat and a dog we we have a cat and a dog they live in the neighborhood and they just always together and just like they find they share their food you know so my thing is like that's love but you could be the most strangest of beings at the moment in the most strangest situations and still be able to show love and i guess that was my point of the being the strays because even a stray has love

or can't show love. Right. And I think that we just need to remember that if nothing else, they created this little funky, stupid holiday. No, I ain't single on purpose. But no, they created this holiday for love. I'm going to say that. Whoever created this holiday

for love I'm going to say that whoever created this holiday had love in mind and then someone evil twisted it up like Maleficent I know you're not posting this far this way from I can't post okay

so no sorry guys we're just chilling, being silly. But we are posting this. So, of course, I'm sorry it's getting posted. Because it is important to remember, just remember people, remember that tomorrow can be traumatizing and it can be triggering. Not tomorrow. Sorry, Valentine's Day. Can't be.

It can be triggering and it can be traumatizing. Traumatizing and triggering. That's not what we want to show people or give people that we love. Let's, I don't know, continue to heal. Continue to hope. Continue to love. Let's count the costs

and make the change. Trauma is expensive. Brand new episodes every Monday. These fucking feelings podcast, brand new episodes every Wednesday. And we ain't gonna tell you who stood us up or whatever, but it's triggering. Deuces.

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