Think Fast Talk Smart: Communication Techniques - 153. Listen Up, Leaders: A Record-Setting Coach’s Guide to Communication

Episode Date: July 30, 2024

Tara VanDerveer has more wins than any other coach in NCAA basketball history. But as she says, motivating and leading teams isn’t about barking orders. Communication, she says, “It start...s, number one, with listening.”For VanDerveer, leadership isn’t about a power dynamic, but a collaboration between her and her team. “I can't do it by myself and they can't do it by themselves. But as a team, we can,” she says. From seeking opinions from her assistant coaches to connecting with players about life outside the gym, VanDerveer recognizes that championships are won through communication. “The relationships that you have with your players, the communication that you have with them, will determine your success as a coach,” she says.In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, VanDerveer and host Matt Abrahams explore more communication insights from on and off the court — being clear and concise, giving praise and positive feedback, and letting go of perfectionism.Episode Reference Links:Tara VanDerveerEp.102 Create Presence: How to Communicate in a Way Others Can FeelEp.35 Leading From The Hot Seat: How To Communicate Under PressureConnect:Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart PremiumEmail Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.ioEpisode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart WebsiteNewsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.ioThink Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn,  Instagram, YouTubeMatt Abrahams >>> LinkedIn ********Thank you to our sponsors.  These partnerships support the ongoing production of the podcast, allowing us to bring it to you at no cost.Strawberry.me. Get 50% off your first coaching session today at Strawberry.me/smartJoin our Think Fast Talk Smart Learning Community and become the communicator you want to be. 

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Starting point is 00:01:43 Welcome to Think Fast, Talk Smart, the podcast. Today I am thrilled to speak with Tara Vandevere. Tara served as Stanford University's women's basketball coach for 38 years. She retired in 2024. Under her leadership, Tara led Stanford to three national champion and amassed the most wins of any basketball coach, men's or women's.
Starting point is 00:02:06 Beyond Stanford, she coached the U.S. national team to Olympic gold in 1996 and wrote the book Shooting from the Outside. Tara, congratulations on your success. And thanks so much for joining me. I have enjoyed watching so many Stanford Women's Basketball Games over all these years. I look forward to our conversation. Thank you, Matt. It's a pleasure to be here.
Starting point is 00:02:27 Excellent. Should we get started? Sure. Great. trust and openness to feedback are essential for success of any team, especially a sports team. How do you foster a supportive environment where people are comfortable being challenged and pushing themselves? Matt, that's a great question. And I think that trust and openness is really the foundation of any relationship.
Starting point is 00:02:50 And coaching is really important to have a great relationship. Everyone is someone's sister. And to really care about the players you coach, to really care about the people you work whether it's your staff or your assistants or even a manager or anyone that you meet really is the most important thing. And so the relationships that you have with your players and the communication that you have with them really will determine your success as a coach. And I'm really fortunate. I've had great players, but I've also had great relationships with the players I've coached. Thank you for that. I've done a lot of work recently on how to speak clearly and concisely in the
Starting point is 00:03:27 moment, off the cuff. And it seems to be very. to me that as a coach during the game, you have to be a master of this, be it talking to your team during a brief time out during a really important moment or making your case to a referee. What has helped you accomplish your communication goals in those moments when you have little time to prepare, the stakes are high and you have to get your message across? I think that that is really important, especially making adjustments in games. In-game adjustments, halftime adjustments. It's really critical to have the right message and be concise. I call it putting out the biggest fire. So what is hurting us the most in the game? Are we not getting
Starting point is 00:04:05 back on defense? Are we not getting on the boards, rebounding? Are we taking bad shots? And so for me, it's identifying what one thing that I need everyone to focus on, or if it's maybe a three-minute timeout, then I could go two things or maybe even three things, and at half-time, no more than five. So it's really making sure that we're getting the message across, this is exactly what I need you to do. And this is how I needed to do it. And then as far as the referees go, as long as they can't read my mind, we're okay with them. I try to think of the officials in our games as part of the game, as they're trying to help the game be, you know, make it a great game. But sometimes you just want to pull your hair out. So what I hear there is that part of what you're doing is you're being
Starting point is 00:04:47 very conscious of how you use that time efficiently and you're prioritizing what's the most important, what's on fire, as you said. And I think many of us, when we have to speak in the moment, can start from that bottom line. What's the initiation point? And it sounds like also you're thinking about the duration of time you have and then you adjust the number of items that you talk about in that amount of time. And many of us in the moment we feel such pressure that we just start talking and it comes out in a garbled way that might not be really succinct. I get a lot of help actually from my assistant coaches too. So as the team is maybe coming over to the bench, a lot of coaches kind of make this big, you know, big huddle and everything. I don't do that, but I listen to my assistants and I'll just say
Starting point is 00:05:28 what do they need to know? What does our team need to know? So the other point there is that as a leader, in those moments of high stakes and pressure, listening to others who can give you advice and guidance is a good point. I don't want to let this thing with the ref go away just yet. Framing the involvement of everybody in the communication is important. And if you see the ref as an enemy, that's going to change the way you communicate. But if you see the referee as somebody who's actually helping the game be played, that might change what you say in those moments.
Starting point is 00:05:55 And I think all of us can look at that. You know what, Matt, I thought this was pretty funny, actually. You know, I've only gotten three technicals in basically 48 years of coaching. I never got a technical with the Olympic team. But three technicals in that amount of time is pretty rare. But I also went in one of my last games, I had a referee want to take a picture with me. And I thought that was a great compliment. I view them as part of the team.
Starting point is 00:06:19 They're working on having women's basketball be a great entertainment, have it be fun, have it be safe. So I view them as part of the team. Excellent. And again, for those who aren't well versed in basketball, a technical foul is a foul where there's a violation called by the referee because some rule or something inappropriate has been done. And a player can do that, a coach can do that.
Starting point is 00:06:40 The fact that you've only had three is amazing. I know. I really try to coach in practice, not wait for the game to then throw out new ideas or get on players or even get on the ref. So it's not getting too emotional. Absolutely. leads to my next question, which is about motivation and focus. How do you motivate a team during
Starting point is 00:07:01 hard, challenging times, like after several defeats? And on the other side of that, how do you keep a team focused on continuing to work and push themselves after lots of successes? How do you play with those different emotions and keep people motivated and focused? Well, if you have too many losses, you're not worried about it because you're fired. But I think one of the things I learned early on my career. We had three games that were against really big teams when I was coaching in Ohio State, and we lost the first game. And I remember coming into practice the next day, oh, we're going to work so hard. And I'm like, it shouldn't take a loss to change how you do things. So I really kind of changed in midstream. We ended up winning the next two games, which was great.
Starting point is 00:07:37 But I decided to develop a routine that no matter what happened in the game, after the game, we have a routine where each coach will write up an individual feedback sheet for each player. So you would get a feedback sheet like Matt, you did three great things. You rebounded really well. You ran the floor really hard. And you know, you made your free throws. But on defense, let's work on keeping your player in front of you. Or, you know, there might be something else, you know, passing the ball.
Starting point is 00:08:04 You had people open so that we give them feedback instead of coming in and after you lose and yelling and carrying on. And the second thing we will do is as a team, we'll have a goal sheet. And we go through this goal sheet that's the same after every game. and what did we shoot from the free-thru line, field goal percentage? Did we hold a player under 17 points per game? And so we have basically 10 goals that we go through and we try to identify if we, in fact, get all those goals and we're going to be successful. And then the next thing we do is watch a highlight tape. And don't miss a highlight, someone will let you know. And it's watching, you know,
Starting point is 00:08:37 the good highlights of good things we do. And everyone likes the highlights. And then we do a teaching tape, things that we want to do better. So we've developed that routine after a win or a loss. And our challenge in the game is not to necessarily beat the other team. The other team is there to help us be a great team. It's to be the best team we can be. There are so many things you said in that answer I want to comment on. First, what you ended your answer with, I think is a really amazing frame for people to think about when they go into contentious situations. Maybe it's not on a basketball court. Maybe it's a negotiation. Maybe it's some kind of conflict that you see the other team's job is to help you be better. It's not your job to defeat. the other team. It's your job to learn and grow and become better. And I think that is an amazing reframe and something that could help all of us in our communication. I heard you mention several times this notion of routine. And you and I have had some conversation before we got on the recording here. The routine's important to you. And it sounds like routine helps you both when things are
Starting point is 00:09:40 going really well and when things aren't going so well. And you even mentioned earlier that you have a routine in terms of doing a lot of the coaching in the practice, not during the game. Talk to me about the value of routine and how you see that play out in your own life and perhaps how others could benefit from routine. We're wired to kind of know what to expect. And when you go to the gym, we go to practice, we have a routine for practice where we do what we call a warm up. We'll do a little ball handling. We'll do some individual work, get people going. And then we do a dynamic warm up. And during that dynamic warmup, I will walk around and high five each player like, Matt, how are you doing today? You know, how are your classes?
Starting point is 00:10:17 And just connect with them on an individual kind of basis. And then we'll get together in a circle. We huddle up in a circle and I talk to them about these are our goals today. This is what we're going to work on. And let's have a great day. Let's have a great practice. I can see how routine helps. It gets people in the right head space and gets them ready to go.
Starting point is 00:10:35 You had mentioned something about watching highlight reels and then teaching tapes. What are your thoughts on feedback? Because I think a lot of people expect a coach to be very direct about the things they need to improve. But it sounds like praise or positive feedback is an essential part to your coaching philosophy. What do you think about that? I definitely praised and positive feedback. My dad would always say, you get more bees with honey than vinegar. And I will tell you this, I was a head coach when I was 23 years old. And I've not really known anything but being a head coach. And something that really helped me was, as an adult, after the Olympic experience, I decided I wanted to learn how to play the piano.
Starting point is 00:11:12 And I'd never played the piano before, so I thought I could teach myself. And after two weeks, I realized, I can't do this. Have you ever played the piano? Not well, no. I'm still struggling with the guitar. It's hard. It's really hard. But I got a great teacher. And what I learned within one year, I did a CD and then another CD. And people said me, oh my God, Tart, you're good. And I'm like, no, I have a great teacher. And what I want to do as a coach is what my piano teacher did for me is to be able to take people to a place they can't get to by themselves. And so through coaching, I want to help someone be, you know, the best player they can be. And I can't do it by myself and they can't do it by themselves. But as a team, I think we can't. can do it. And the relationship that I have with them, the trust that they feel, the fact that I care about them. And that's an old coaching adage that players don't care how much you know, they know how much
Starting point is 00:12:04 you care. And to let them know that I'm here for you, I ask them to go up on the high wire and I'm their net. And as coaches, that's what I try to do is be there for them no matter what happens. I like this idea of coaches being a partner and a guide on the side as you go. And that's a valuable way to look at leadership and management, I think, to help bring people to success. And focusing on the positive and the connection and getting to know the people you're giving that feedback to,
Starting point is 00:12:31 I think is a lesson we can all learn from. In a New York Times interview, you did with my colleague and friend and past guest, Glenn Kraman, you discussed the value of taking risks and experimenting. You just shared about learning to play the piano, which I think is a fantastic thing to take up. Can you share more about your thoughts on risk-taking?
Starting point is 00:12:51 Well, probably the biggest risk I've ever taken is coming to Stanford. I left Ohio State team that was a really top-rated team with great recruits, but I wanted the challenge of coaching at a place that combined really excellence in the classroom and on the court. And this was probably the biggest career risk I've ever taken. I think also leaving Stanford to coach the Olympic team, I had to resign from Stanford, and I was coaching the Olympic team for a year was a big risk. And then on the court, we really embraced the three-point line. And we were one of the first teams to say, hey, shoot them up out there.
Starting point is 00:13:29 Now you watched it. Everyone's shooting threes. But in the old days, some coaches would penalize a team or a player if they took a three. So I am a little bit in some ways a little bit too risky sometimes. One time we put in a new offense over Christmas break before a big game. And we got blasted in that game. I had to shelve that offense. but we came back to that offense and won a national championship.
Starting point is 00:13:51 So sometimes the risks don't pan out the way you want them to. But it sounds like risk taking is part of who you are and has led to some great successes. But what I heard in that answer, especially at the end, was that you have to learn from the risks you take and make adjustments. And it sounds like you did that after that Christmas break and then refined it and came back and had benefit. They're reasonable risks. That one, putting the offense in in two weeks, I did it when my assistant coaches were gone. And I knew as soon as they came back and they said, that's a stupid. idea. I think that, you know, taking risks that are going to pay off, not wild swinging for the fence
Starting point is 00:14:24 every time. I want to go back to something you said earlier about your job is to help your players not just get better at the game, but also to be better in life. How do you approach that dual role as a coach? Many leaders, many managers would benefit by helping their employees not just do better at their jobs, but be better in life. What are your thoughts on that? And are there certain things you look to do to help and maybe prioritize one over the other at certain times? I think helping players be more successful on the court and more successful in their life go hand in hand. They are not two opposite things at all. I think my biggest success stories are helping young women mature and be great teammates. And a great teammate is someone that is unselfish,
Starting point is 00:15:11 that is disciplined, that is hardworking, that is encouraging other players, is happy for other people's success. And these are things that are, I think, also success stories beyond the court. Now, yes, we work on dribbling and shooting and defense and things like that, but it's most important that they're a great teammate. I think the biggest reward is to play on a team, not to have someone go out and have an individual great game. So focusing on everybody being connected and supporting each other helps everybody. And all managers, all leaders can work to help foster that collaboration. It certainly sounds like your leadership style and your coaching style is values driven.
Starting point is 00:15:54 And it sounds like you do a really good job of inculcating those values in your team. I have a follow-on question to this. A unique part of coaching at a college level is turnover. I mean, every several years, you lose some of your players to maybe more basketball. basketball, maybe other things. Many managers have turnover in their organizations. How do you prepare for that? How do you create a process where new people coming in can quickly connect to the team that you already have? And how do you celebrate those who are leaving and the contributions they've made? In some ways, there's a treadmill that you're on constantly as a coach. Well, I think first of all, we have, again, the routine. We have a banquet at the end of the year, which signals the end of this current season.
Starting point is 00:16:35 and we do celebrate our seniors and our whole team and our staff and our coaches and our fans. And we celebrate then. And then the next day, we get on to the next year. And we meet. And when we bring in new freshmen, we really work hard on onboarding them into what I call the Stanford way. This is how we do things at Stanford. We're on time.
Starting point is 00:16:58 We took our uniforms in, you know, shirts in. We take off jewelry. This is how we do it at Stanford. and we encourage, and hopefully we have great leadership because they've learned from, as freshmen, they learn from the seniors. And that's where it's really key to have great leadership so that they learn the right way.
Starting point is 00:17:15 And you're hoping that you're working really hard on communication so that in the locker room, after a really tough day, instead of complaining, they're like, wow, that was a tough day, but we're getting better. And the younger players learn from the older players, and the older players learn from the players that have been before them or from the coaches. I like this idea of rituals and routines and the fact that you celebrate, you acknowledge,
Starting point is 00:17:39 and then you move on. And equipping and empowering those who've been there longer to then help those who are coming can be really beneficial. So it's not your job as the coach to do this. It's the team's job to do this in conjunction with you. One thing that one time we had a practice and one of my coaches, like five-year-old daughters was at practice and she was watching the practice and she's a basketball player now. But afterwards she said, Mom, it was so exciting to hear. the older players encourage and coach the younger players.
Starting point is 00:18:08 Absolutely. I have watched many of your games from the stands. And one of the things I noticed about your style is you seem eminently calm on the court. Yet I know there's a lot of emotion playing out. And I'm curious, how do you manage the emotions involved and stay calm and communicate effectively? And I'm looking to pull from your wisdom to share with those listening because a lot of us in our work lives have a lot of emotion. and how can we stay calm, stay focused, because you seem to be a master of that.
Starting point is 00:18:39 When you think of a great baseball hitter, they say to them that the ball slows down. And I think if you slow the game down instead of speeding it up with emotion, then your players can stay calm. I don't feel that I would be as effective if I'm like a raving maniac on the sideline, and if I'm distracted with the officials
Starting point is 00:18:59 or if I'm worried about things I can't control. So I can control on my emotion and I try to keep that in check. And I want our team to keep it in check. I don't want our team out there fouling the heck out of people or getting technicals or, you know, getting upset with themselves. I might be, what the heck are they doing? But I'm like, okay, you know, good job. Stay with it. And that they then can let it go and get back right in it.
Starting point is 00:19:22 Have a short memory. Yes, exactly. I want to come back to that short memory. Two things that I'm taking away that I think a lot of us can think about is slowing things down. Emotion, as you said, speeds things up and we can take a breath. We can take a walk around the building. We can pause the meeting and come back. There are lots of ways to slow things down.
Starting point is 00:19:40 You were kind enough prior to us starting this conversation to ask about my experience with other coaches. And I shared with you an experience I had with one of my son's coaches, a phenomenal kids coach. And one of the things he taught me, and I've actually included in my teaching and in the work I do, especially around spontaneous speaking, is this notion of next play. And you mentioned it in your own way there where you say you have to have a short memory. Can you explain how you help people not ruminate? Because rumination can get in the way of what comes next. How do you coach somebody through that? You know, I think our brains in some ways are wired to negativity.
Starting point is 00:20:16 And so we kind of just jump on mistakes. And like I know as an example, even with my piano, that I would practice, practice, practice. I go down and give a recital. And like one note, I would just remember that bad note. And again, I think it's really important that myself, my staff, other teammates are really positive. I've had players like someone's at the free throw line and we need this free throw and someone will miss it and the bench will yell. We love you. Making sure that everyone knows we're here for you.
Starting point is 00:20:46 And it's not going to be life or death on the basketball court, but we want people to be successful and to encourage them. And we have had some players that are really great at. it didn't matter how many mistakes they made, they just kept playing hard. But, you know, just let it go. Let it go. And my mom had a thing, be like a duck. Let it roll off your back. So it's perspective taking and staying focused on the goal. I know that equity between women's and men's sports is a really important issue for you. What tactics and things do you consider when trying to raise awareness and influence others to your point of view on this issue? Well, Matt, it probably started in my family where I'm one of five children and I have
Starting point is 00:21:25 brother and three sisters. But when my parents served dinner, they didn't serve hot dogs to the girls and steak to the boy. And I think that that's what we've experienced a lot in athletics is a disparity between what women have gotten and what men have gotten. That is changing, thankfully. But even in the NCAA tournament in 2021, we were in San Antonio, the men were playing in Indianapolis, and they had a bubble because it was during the pandemic. And they showed the weight room for the men. It was this huge experience. of weight room, and they showed little barbells for the women. And the NCAA was taken to task for that, which they should have. What upset me during that time was the fact that they actually
Starting point is 00:22:07 were doing antigen testing for the women and PCR testing for the men. And having been at Stanford, you know, the gold standard was PCR testing. And I think that that's something that we're obviously working on. And we need allies and it's moms and dads and, you know, just people supporting women and being fair to women. So having a clear direction that you see and speaking up are the tools that you've used, and you've been a great advocate for it, and thank you. Well, thanks. One of the things at this Final Four that we were at, everyone wanted to talk about it,
Starting point is 00:22:41 and I said to our team, no, we're not talking about it now. We're going to focus on winning the national championship. Then we'll talk about it. And if we're national champions, we have a better platform. So let's win it first, and we did. And that was incredibly exciting to watch. And again, it comes down to what we've talked about earlier, prioritizing and knowing when the right time is to do the work that needs to be done. We'll be right back to finish our conversation.
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Starting point is 00:24:07 That's upw-w-rk.com. And now, back to our conversation. Before we end, I'd like to ask three questions. One, I create just for you and two, I've asked people all along. Are you up for that? I am. Excellent. You recently, literally just today, I learned of it, received the honor of having the basketball court in Maples Pavilion, where you have played as a coach for decades,
Starting point is 00:24:34 named after you. You're the first person I've ever known to have a court named after. You're holding court in your own court. This brings a question to me. First, congratulations. You live over the course of your career, and especially recently upon your retirement, have received lots of accolades, lots of praise. For many of us, receiving praise can be hard to take. It can feel awkward and embarrassing. And yet I've seen you do it with just such delight and such politeness. Any advice or guidance on how to accept praise? Well, first, I'm really excited about having a court named after me, and I'm really worried the first time I go there, I'll probably just burst into tears. It's an incredible honor, and it's pretty emotional. But, you know, I've received
Starting point is 00:25:12 since winning the milestone game and retiring, I've gotten an incredible amount of emails and texts and, you know, people congratulating. And I just know that it's not ever just me. You know, I had great parents and a great family. I work with a terrific staff. I've coached great players. And I look at basketball and like life. It's a team game.
Starting point is 00:25:36 And I sometimes am the face of our team, but it's not all about me. And I know that they're congratulating everyone. And so I'm excited because that's a great reflection on, whether it's my family or the team or university, and I'm very thankful for that. That's a great reflection. But as far as how I feel about it,
Starting point is 00:25:57 sometimes I will tell you quite honestly, I get a little embarrassed. Yeah, I think many of us can be very embarrassed when we're singled out for successes. In some ways for me personally, it's easier to take criticism than it is praise. But I think you gave us great insight into who you are when you said that the accolades,
Starting point is 00:26:13 while you're the face of them, represent the team. And I think that says a lot about who you are and how you approach, not just coaching, but life. I'd like to ask you question number two. Who is a communicator that you admire and why? That is a really hard question. But can I tell you two? Sure.
Starting point is 00:26:30 The first person I'm going with is Marion Anderson. And I don't know if you know that name, but she is, you have to go into the history books. She sang, God bless America, at the Washington event where Martin Luther King gave his I Have a Dream speech. And she also, I go to Chautauqua, New York, which is a place where you have speakers and music and she sang and I got goosebumps. She communicated to me just an amazing emotion that I've never forgotten since I was like 10 years old. She was a civil rights leader in her way of singing and she was not allowed as a black woman to sing in the United States. She had to go to Europe, but she came back and just an amazing voice that really helped me just feel this like you
Starting point is 00:27:15 could feel it resonate inside your body. And then the second person, it was also a physical reaction to, you'll get a kick out of this one, Jerry Seinfeld, who I got a chance to go to a Stanford event that was fundraising at the hospital. He had me laughing so hard. I'm like, this man is communicating. So those are my two favorites. So it sounds to me that in both those instances, it's about a physical, emotional response that they were able to bring about in you. And I don't know what my expectations were for your answer to this question, but I'm pretty sure it wasn't a singer and a comedian. I just thought, well, if these people really spoke to me in a different way. Absolutely. Thank you for sharing. Final question for you. What are the first three ingredients that go
Starting point is 00:27:59 into a successful communication recipe? I think communicating is exchanging. And I would say it starts number one with listening so that I understand you where you're coming from, what messages we can exchange. And then if I'm speaking or communicating with you, it's having a message that is valuable to knowledge, you know, something that you are going to value. And then also making sure that the message is clear, that I'm not just rambling on, but it's concise and there's clarity. So listening, we hear that a lot in response to this answer. And it's nice to add your voice to that chorus. And again, as a coach, at least in my mind, I see coaches as people who are speaking all the time. And it's delightful to hear that a coaching philosophy, a leadership philosophy,
Starting point is 00:28:50 can start with listening. Having a clear message and making sure that message is focused. What a great recipe. Tara, this has been fantastic. Your values led leadership, your success as a result of that. Thank you for sharing. It has been a delight not just to talk to you, but over all the years I've been affiliated with Stanford watching your career and your success. Thank you. Thank you, Matt. Thank you for joining us for another episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, the podcast. To learn more about how to create a strong leadership presence, listen to episode 102 with
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