This Is Woman's Work with Nicole Kalil - Healing Mental And Emotional Wounds with Stephanie Kwong | 234

Episode Date: September 16, 2024

Is it really possible to change the subconscious mind? I think the answer is yes, but it seems much easier with the small things and much harder with the big things that have really hurt us. Said another way, changing something is one thing – HEALING it is another. So today, we’re going to talk about how to do just that. Stephanie Kwong is our guest, an old friend of mine, and a transformative force as Co-Founder of the Rapid Rewire Method. Stephanie is passionate about the groundbreaking Rapid Rewire Method tools, capable of swiftly dissolving emotional turmoil, limiting beliefs, disserving identities, and even trauma. Her mission is clear: to empower others with learning these tools to cultivate joy, inner peace, fulfillment, and true liberation – and she believes it doesn’t need to be so hard or take so long. Through her proven approach, clients achieve personal, professional, and financial success, demonstrating that the shift from limitation to power is not only possible but can be fast, painless, and sustainable. The only way to heal your wounds is to decide to. I know it’s not that simple, but that’s the place to start…then find and accept support. Connect with Stephanie: Website: https://rapidrewiremethod.com/  Rapid Rewire Method free demo:https://rapidrewiremethod.biz/freebie  IG: https://www.instagram.com/iamstephaniekwong/  FB:https://www.facebook.com/rapidrewiremethod   LI: https://www.linkedin.com/company/rapid-rewire-method/  Like what you heard? Please rate and review  Thanks to our This Is Woman’s Work Sponsor: Head to zenimals.com/NICOLEMKALIL and use my code NICOLEMKALIL to save 10% off your Zenimal!  Whether you’re looking for yourself, your kid(s)/teens, as a gift for someone else - everyone will benefit from more moments of zen (and they offer discounts on bundles)!

I'm Nicole Kalil, and you are listening to the This Is Woman's Work podcast, where together we're redefining what it means, what it looks and feels like to be doing woman's work in the world today with you as the decider. Because being the decider of what is true and right and authentic for you is empowering. It's energizing. It's freeing. And it's full of possibilities. But it can also feel a little overwhelming, right? Like me, I'm the decider, not my parents or my partner, my siblings or my kids, my friends and coworkers, my religion and my culture, not the guilt I feel or the experiences that have led me to this point. Are you sure? I don't know about you, but I catch myself sometimes thinking this is who I am as if it's

fixed and decided. But here's what I really believe. Our experiences shape us. Our environment informs us. Our abilities enable us. Our belief systems develop us. Our desires drive us and our traumas affect us. And you are still the decider for you as I am for me. It's a simple concept, but friend, it ain't easy because what we decide in our conscious mind can only take us so far. It's kind of like a backseat driver. It can yell, it can point things out and know the right way to go. And yet our unconscious mind is likely still in the driver's seat. And our unconscious mind, well, that shit goes deep. It's not afraid to dig way into our past. It holds onto all the memories and the repressed feelings. It's storing all of our emotional wounds and scars, whether we're aware of it or not. So here's the question

I also catch myself thinking. Is it really possible to change the subconscious mind? Can I really grab hold of the wheel and go where I want to go? I think the answer is yes. And I think it's easier with the smaller things and much harder with the things that have really hurt us. Said another way, changing is one thing, healing is another. So today we're going to talk about how we heal our emotional wounds. Stephanie Kwong is our guest and an old friend of mine and a transformative force as co-founder of the Rapid Rewire Method. Stephanie is passionate about the groundbreaking

Rapid Rewire Method tools capable of swiftly dissolving emotional turmoil, limiting beliefs, deserving identities, and even trauma. Her mission is clear, to empower others with learning these tools to cultivate joy, inner peace, fulfillment, and true liberation. And she believes it doesn't need to be so hard or take all that long. Through her proven approach, clients achieve personal, professional, and financial success, demonstrating that the shift from limitation to power is not only possible, but can be fast, painless, and sustainable. Okay, Stephanie, thank you for being here. It's so good to see your face.

Let me start by asking, is it really possible to heal some of those old mental and emotional wounds that we've been living with for like ever? Absolutely. So, um, I mean, one scientific way, cause I know some people are not as into the woo and they want to know is this tangible and real, but neuroscience has shown that we do have neuroplasticity. What does that mean? That the mind is open and pliable can be changed. The mind and the emotions and the body semantics are all connected. You shifted on one level, the others begin to change as well. You have the ability to have tools that work with the mind, emotions and the body in the way that an experience or memory is stored in the body and in the mind, you can absolutely integrate it and create the transformation or the change that you're looking for. So there's been so much evidence. I mean, I always try to put myself through the ringer first.

It's like, is this stuff really real? And is it legit? And so I've dove in as a student, a seeker of my own healing of my past traumas and wounding and very disempowering belief systems that I was either indoctrinated into or that when I was a kid, I misinterpreted experiences and made up stories that were negative and bad about myself, about who I could be or how I'm supposed to be in order to be loved and accepted. And as an adult, I realized so much of this was hindering me versus empowering me. And then that's where I began the work. And over the course of over 20 something years as a seeker

of my own inner peace, my own consciousness evolution and healing and transformation, I can say that who I am now is very different from who I was before because change is possible. When you dive into your own inner world, when you confront yourself, face off with who you are now and go, man, this is working, this isn't working. Okay. What do I need to do in order to transmute and transform that to become the person I know I'm meant to be, to embody our highest selves, which are fully empowered, fulfilled, brilliant beings, you know, that are truly limitless and to break free from those limitations. But you can, I feel like I'm evidence of that and been able to really work with people to prove that it's absolutely possible as well. I'm with you.

It is possible. And it feels hard, at least when you think about it, it feels like it's going to be long and painful. And so let me start by talking about maybe identifying some of these more unconscious beliefs or patterns or wounds that are in the driver's seat that we might not be aware of. So like, I know most of us, if we've experienced trauma, we know about that. We know what that is. But you mentioned a lot of things, especially when we're younger, the things we make up about ourselves and our place in the world, and even misconceptions that happen. So I guess that question is, how do we identify some of these unconscious things? How do

we bring them into our conscious mind? So I think that step number one to be able to create any sort of change in your life is to increase your own self-awareness. That's number one, right? So often I think we're just reacting to life and not paying attention to our thoughts, our beliefs, our behaviors that are really actually in opposition of what we say we want. So it takes some time to like slow down first, observe yourself like you're your own science experiment and start to, you know, dissect and peel back the layers and observe like, wow, what are consistent thoughts that I'm thinking in my head that have me feel like crap? And I know I used to have a ton of those of like, you know, no one's going to like you unless you do this or man, this person didn't invite me here. That probably means that they

don't, that I suck. And then I'm not just not good enough. Like we let these thoughts run in our minds as if they're truth, capital T truth, when they're really just past conditioning or just random thoughts that pop up in our head that are supporting the underlying subconscious beliefs that we hold. I liked what you said, observing yourself like a science experiment. I think that's important because scientists often don't judge the thing

that they are observing, right? It's neutral. It's about gathering information, gaining understanding. And that feels kind of important in this gaining self-awareness. Yes. A hundred percent, because when people start to do the work, right, we start to be in self-observation. The natural inclination is to then judge what we find, right? Oh God, I'm doing that thing again. Or I can't believe I think those thoughts, what an idiot. And it's like, no, this is neutral territory where we're literally, like you said, gathering data. If you want to be able to create

that change, you have to see what you need to change first and just observe it as what it is and not placing judgment on top of it. Because if you resist it, it's going to be more difficult to transform, right? The resistance is going to hold it there. The surrendering to it, the allowing of it, the just observation, neutral observation of it now creates it as something that can be shifted. And so again, when you're really looking at yourself and your life, what are the consistent thoughts that, and how do we find the limitations? That was your question. Just look at your life, right? Is where's your bank account? How's your health? How are your relationships?

What are the consistent habits that maybe no one really sees you doing behind closed doors and yet you consistently do it and it has you feel bad about yourself? Anything that creates dissonance in your mind and your emotions and your body is most likely not serving your highest good and isn't in alignment with who you actually want to be in life. And it's again, part of your old conditioning. And I love that saying where people go, what happened to you in the past isn't your fault, but what you do about it into the future is your responsibility, right? We can't change what happened to us. We cannot redo the misinterpretations of past events that we make ourselves bad and wrong for, but nowadays our responsibility

to be able to shift that. And again, it starts with observing yourself, your thoughts, your beliefs, your habits, your patterns, what is serving you and what is not. And when you're able to see that and you're like, man, you know, or here's a self-sabotaging pattern. I keep saying I want to hit this goal in my work or my career. And yet I'm taking actions that are totally out of alignment with that, right? I know I want to get that raise. I know that I'm qualified for it. I've been at this organization long

enough. I'm the person. And yet something is holding me back to speak up and ask for it. Ooh, that's information. Let's dive into that and see what is that that's holding you back from being able to speak up, to be able to claim what you want, to be able to ask for what you need and what you feel you deserve. And then when you start to peel back the layers, like let's just take that one example, right? Maybe you start to uncover stories or beliefs of I'm not good enough. I don't deserve good things. You know?

Always going to be hard. That's a big one for me. I often find myself thinking it's supposed to be hard. Yes. Or it has to be hard in order for it to be worthy or in order for it to count. And then I get upset. I'm like, why is this so hard? Well, you're literally creating the very thing you believe, right? It's so fascinating. I want to share a quick story about that. I did a Vipassana and it's a 10 day silent meditation. You don't speak to anybody. You meditate for 14 half hours. I've done so many crazy things in the name of transformation. I've drank weird things. I've

snorted stuff. I've prayed for many hours. There's so many things that I've explored over those 20 years plus years that I mentioned before. And yet the Vipassana was one thing that I was absolutely terrified by. I don't know why. To sit in silence, not talk to people and or look at anybody and then to meditate for that long. And I had so many friends that did it. I kept sourcing for understanding what the experience was going to be like because I felt a call to it. And then my buddy Jake, I remember he did it and he's like, oh, I loved it.

And I was like, wait, you did? And he goes, yeah. Everybody else I heard from said it was how hard it was. And he was like, no, I loved it. And I was like, wait, you did? And he goes, yeah. Everybody else I heard from said it was how hard it was. And he was like, no, I loved it. It was super easy. And I go, what made it so easy for you? And why did you love it so much? He goes, because I just decided that that was going to be my experience. And it was. And so whatever frame of mind we're in, whatever perception, whatever lens we're looking through, we are going to absolutely create that for ourselves because we are that powerful.

And so if we have the lens of it's going to be hard, everything has to be hard. Guess what? It will be. If you say it's going to be easy, I'm going to love it. Guess what? It will be. It's so fascinating where we don't, again, take the time to decide intentionally what our experience is going to be. It's so fascinating where we don't, again, take the time to decide intentionally what our experience is going to be. As I mentioned before, too, we're just reacting to life, thinking that

we're powerless. And yet we have the ultimate power to decide who we want to be, how we want to perceive things, how we want to respond to things versus just automatically react to it. And it takes that ability to slow down, be self-aware, and then to do the work, the inner work to align with who we say we want to be and what we want to achieve. Most of us are just out of alignment. That's all. It's not bad or wrong. No judgment. But we might have disempowering belief systems or disserving or conflicting identities that we're stuck in that are out of alignment with what we want. And that's the only thing that's in our way.

You are absolutely worthy. You're absolutely good enough. You're absolutely capable. You absolutely have all the resources internally that you need to be in to achieve what you want. It's there might be some misalignments that occurred in the past that now you just got to do the work to get aligned. And again, it starts with observation, paying attention to what is out of alignment internally for you. I'm JJ Khalil, and I'm here to tell you about my Zenimal. Zenimal is a meditation tool that helps me in so many ways, like settling down at the end of the day to fall asleep, to practice gratitude and awareness of

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commit to doing this inner healing work and inner transformation work? There are some people that find it through plant medicines, right? And to me, plant medicines are more of like a door opener. It starts to reveal to you maybe things that you've repressed in your subconscious, but it doesn't do the work for you. Now you still got to go do the work and create the change. But like for me, when I did ayahuasca, I actually saw that I experienced abuse as a child. To me, I was like, no, it's just how you're raised as a kid in the 80s and your parents hit you and stuff like that. But actually it came through that that was my experience. And I was like, whoa, I have this information now, but now what do I do? Right. And also what were some of the

coping mechanisms I created to avoid feeling that pain that I did as a kid? That's the work that you have to do. Some people might go through more mental routes. Some people go through more emotional routes. It could be through cognitive behavioral. It could be more classical therapeutic routes for some people. That's what they choose. Others choose, you know, more alternative therapies like hypnosis, NLP, somatic experience, et cetera. These are all things I'm trained in. And yet I'm just going to give a quick plug, like the tools that we do at Rapid Rewire, I have found are so easy. People, I still, sometimes I'm like, how could it be that easy? How could it be that fast? And how could it be that integrative? Meaning that once it's the transformation has happened, once it's integrated, it literally no longer becomes a problem. And I was similar to you, Nicole. I was like, it's gotta be hard to be worth it. It's gotta be hard for the change to happen. And I remember I had a mentor who said to me, she's like, Stephanie, it doesn't always have to be a root canal. Like change doesn't have to

be a root canal. And I was like, it doesn't? I'm Asian. You know what I mean? Like everything's hard in my world. I had immigrant parents who came and pushed really hard. It's in my DNA. It's in, you know, my ancestral history. And yet my work has been in this lifetime to break that and change that. Obviously, I'm a big believer in the work that we do, but I want everyone listening to know that there isn't one right path. Healing transformation is not linear. It's not like I do this, that's going to change. And then the next thing, it's kind of like a wild west where you put yourself into different circumstances and then you start to notice other stuff arise. You know, when I was single, there was a whole set of inner turmoil

that I experienced of being single that, Ooh, okay, this is data information that I've got to heal. And then I get into a relationship thinking that that's the thing that I want and everything's going to be fine. I get into a relationship. Now all my stuff around trusting men and feeling truly loved or feeling like I can be loved without having to do something all the time to feel valuable in my relationship, that started to come up and I'm like, oh gosh, more work to do. So every time you're navigating life, when you're in that observation, you start to see where these limitations or these disempowering beliefs start to arise. And then it becomes do the work and find the thing that works for you.

I'm trained in NLP, hypnosis, somatic experiencing, TRE, Havening, EFT, breathwork, etc. And I got pregnant back in December 2020 with my partner. I really wanted to be a mom of my own bio child. I have two great stepkids, but I wanted to like create life in my own body. And so when I got pregnant without trying with my partner, I was like, oh my gosh, our spirit child has come through, meant to be a mom, our little miracle. And then at nine and a half weeks, I lost the baby. And I know that there's no timeline for grieving. I'm also very familiar with grief, but this time something was very different because over time I just kept getting worse in my symptoms. I was, you know, I couldn't

really look at social media in 2021. Everyone was announcing their COVID babies. If I'd go outside and I'd see a pregnant woman or a baby, I would get so dysregulated. I mean, I'd be bawling inside of a grocery store uncontrollably and I have to escape because I don't want to be in the store just crying. I had days where I was still not able to get out of bed, suicidal ideation. It was really dark. And it was a deep struggle. And all the tools that I had were not getting me to the resolution that I need to. And I'm an entrepreneur. I can't just take five months off. I still have to do things to be able to support myself. Even with

an extraordinary community of coaches, healers, therapists, shamans that I accumulated over 14 years as a coach, nothing seemed to help. And literally I was connected to these tools that are the rapid rewire method. And in one 60 minute session, process the trauma, drain the emotional charge that I couldn't even feel or find sadness or grief in my body anymore. It was gone. It's never come back. I've never had to reprocess it. And I was like, what is this? I was known for getting fast results. And all of a sudden this changed the game for me. And you know, a lot of people will say, well, you can't rush healing or you can't rush trauma, you know, or heal trauma that quickly. And I go, well, yeah, but a lot of people also thought that you couldn't run a four minute mile.

And then some do did. And now everybody can. And I feel like that's essentially, you know, the old paradigms that it has to be hard. It has to take time. You have to, or you only learn tools to cope when the triggers arise. So you can downregulate your nervous system and be okay in the moment, but then it'll trigger again. And you just deal with the triggers or you have to do something repetitively over and over and over and over again, hoping at some point it'll kick in. And then when it doesn't, you get frustrated thinking that it's going to not going to work. I'm never going to change. And it's like, whoa, wait, maybe you just need, you know, a pathway that works efficiently with the mind, the emotions and the body integratively so that you can create that rapid healing and do it more easily.

And in a way that has the results stick. And we don't have to suffer with our traumas or the disempowering belief system or the coping mechanisms that we've formed that we're stuck in, that we feel is the only way that's going to create safety for ourselves. We can transcend all that. And it's just when you find the right pathways to do it. But the key really is, is to dive in and do the work. Okay. So first, thank you for sharing your story. Second, thank you for saying that we all are responsible and get to find what works best

for us. I think that's so, so, so important. And then tell us more about this method and these tools. And I don't know if it's how they work. I don't even know enough about it to know what are the right questions to ask. But if you can share more about what's different. Yes. So the thing that I love about these processes that are different from others is we actually process the now.

What is the challenge you're experiencing right now? And then how do we integrate it so that when you heal the thing in the now, how it's affecting you, like maybe you have created an identity of an untrusting person because you've been screwed in the past by either past family members, men that you've dated, whatever it is. And now you want to open your heart to a healthy, loving relationship, but there's this control in this fear that you're going to get hurt again. And that is overriding your ability to attract someone because you're stuck in that wanting to control. That's going to, again, keep you stuck. And when you have the tools like we do, what happens? We deal with it in the now, not when did that happen to you in the past? I used to do hypnosis and I do age regression to

bring people back to the moment in time when that issue was formed. Okay, cool. We've got information, but now what? We want to still change it. So what we do is we shift it in the now, which then ultimately cleans it in the timelines in the past. And for the future, it will no longer affect you or your decisions or your future, it will no longer affect you or your decisions or your actions, which will then create a new future for you. So that's one thing that I love is we really focus on the now. What also makes these tools effective is that they work with the mind, the emotions, and the body. There are so many fantastic tools out there, but many of them solely focus on the mind, like cognitive behavioral

therapy, right? It's cognition thinking. There's some that are just focused on the emotions. I know EFT works a lot on that. And then there's some that are just somatic based when people talk about yoga, movement, breath work that only works into the body, but now we're missing the emotion and the cognition. It might come up inside of the process, but it's not focused on that. So these tools will help, but when you're not integrating in the way that a memory or an experience is stored on all three levels, it's just going to take a lot longer and a lot more repetition to try to knock it out, right? You're just chipping away at it versus like, let's just pull the whole thing apart.

And so again, that's what our tools do. And so every single one of our processes, they address images, thoughts, emotions, and body sensations. Those are the four, what we call them levels of awareness or levels of consciousness. And that's how a memory or experience is neurologically or somatically tagged in the body.

That then either holds it in place until it's actually addressed and resolved. So we can move beyond it and literally rewire it or it holds it in place to keep you stuck. And so our tools again, work that well, where it addresses mind, emotions, body images, thoughts, emotions, body sensations. And we do do a process of duplication. So it's like, put your attention to it, let the content arise, experience it, and then we can let it go. So often we repress it. And when we don't actually let it come to the surface, that's why it stays stuck, right? We have to bring it to the light and our tools

by function allow you to do that. So you put your attention to it and it's like all the unconscious content starts to come up and it's just naturally the way the process is designed that enables that. And then people literally will share, that's so crazy. I didn't know that that was a thing that's holding in place, or I didn't know I thought that or believe that. And wow, or I didn't know that, you know, this emotion was actually underneath. We just, I just supported a friend with a process and she thought what was anger was actually sadness because anger and sadness can masquerade for each other. And so she was like, no, I was

just pissed. And really the deeper cut, what came up was this deep grief that she held. And so it's cool because our tools allow all of that to come up. When it all does, boom, it can be integrated. And it's really cool because you don't have to stay in it for that long. Certain processes make you re-experience the trauma, sit in it for a while. And to me, sometimes that can be very much re-traumatizing versus helping. And ours is like maybe two seconds, our trauma release process, you're in it for maybe two seconds. You just have to be able to bring it up so that we can start to integrate it. But that's what we mean by it doesn't have to be hard. It can be gentle. And then because our tools work so effectively

with the mind, emotions, and body, that's why it works so quickly and has long lasting results. Okay. So first I can relate with what you were saying with your friend. I often say to myself, if I sit with my anger long enough, I will begin to recognize it as grief because that is so common in my experience. The question that popped up for me for people listening who like me are intrigued, but have never heard of this before. How does this therapy, we know what that looks like, right? You sit with a therapist, they ask questions, you answer them. How is this facilitated? Yeah. So what's really neat is our tools are actually, they were created by a European psychotherapist and researcher. His name is Zevrad Slavinsky.

We love to give credit where credit's due. This guy, we call him a grand synthesizer. He was able to see what were the modalities out there, what were the unnecessary parts of them, of the protocols, and then what were the actual elements that created the change. And so he'd whack away unnecessary pieces and start to stack the ones that did. And what he created is these very refined protocols that are so refined, they're literally standardized into a script, Nicole. Like if I handed you one right now and said, I'm experiencing deep frustration or I'm feeling anxious, can you help me? You would just follow this and you can get a result. So essentially they're like a series of questions that again, work with the mind, emotions,

body, whatever content arises could be mental, emotional, or somatic based. And you're just guided through a very easy to follow process. We have multiple tools depending on what it is that the person needs support with. And so you essentially would have, if you were being facilitated, have your eyes closed. The facilitator could just be asking these prompts and you just answer them as truthfully as possible, whether you have to feel into it, see an image or, you know, articulate what the thoughts are. What's super cool is these tools, you can actually facilitate them on yourself too. So I'm all about self-sovereignty and the ability to be truly self-empowered to liberate yourself from any suffering or struggle.

Our tools, you can literally use the same exact protocol for yourself. You could use it also to an entire group. And so it's really just simply responding to the prompts and answering as truthfully as possible. And then in the end, it gets integrated. I mean, I was working with a woman who just joined one of our trainings. She told me she actually canceled a call because she goes, I'm solo parenting right now. I, um, you know, I have a nine month old and a three-year-old and they're not going down and I'm super dysregulated. I have all these tools that I'm trained in. Nothing's working and I just need a break. So I said to her, I was like, you know, I'm happy to support you. If you want, we hopped on and I ran her through, her through two of our processes. I started her off with one.

She was at a 10 on rage around her kids and when they get chaotic. And she went down to a six after the first pass. I took her through another process and then I went down. She got to a place where she goes, I don't know why, but I'm laughing right now. And she goes, do you hear my kids in the other room? They're literally losing their SHIT right now. They're losing their shit. And my husband's in there. She goes, and all I can do is laugh. And she goes, and normally I would leave. Like I would shut down this call and try to go save him, but I think he's going to be fine. And I can be right here right now. And I was like, holy crap. So again, we're seeing this change in real time, right? But because she was facilitated

in a way that worked where her rage was stored, which then diminished to anger, which then went to sadness. And then it just dissipated. It was really extraordinary to witness. So really the person who's being facilitated, you're just going through a series of prompts that are blocked out. When you go through therapy, it's what does a therapist think to ask you? And usually it's a, oh, you share something and go, well, how does that feel? And then how did that feel? And so that's the line of questioning inside of the more common therapy model that most people know. In ours, it's literally a structure that starts to pull out the content that's holding your problem in place. And then through that process, it shifts and people are surprised because they go, wait, I went from this to this in 20 something minutes.

How did that happen? I'm like, the tool is just structured in a way to work with the mind, emotions, and body so that we could clear it on all levels. I have an answer to this question, but I am wildly curious to hear yours. Whether it's the rapid rewire method or whatever method might work for you, why do you believe that this work is so important? Why must we deal with our old wounds and do the work, whether it's hard or easy? What's at stake? What's at stake is your living into who you're meant to be, your soul's evolution, and also your true fulfillment in life and impacting the world around you.

How do you want your kids to fulfill in their life? Do you want them also to go around screaming at other people, hitting other people, avoiding others, having very disempowering or very unhealthy coping mechanisms because you haven't healed yourself and your kid is literally modeling after you. So what's at stake is generational, passing it down through your lineage. Also your ability to just feel empowered as you're meant to be. You know, you pointed out earlier when I said you were powerful, you absolutely are. You just have to strip away the layers that are lies that are not that. And that's the work that you can do. Most people I feel are potential to be the creator of a reality that you want to be living in versus one that's on autopilot that's designed by your unconscious

programming where most of it is not serving who you want to be and what you want to achieve it's an opposition of that so there's a lot at stake. And I highly encourage people to do the work. Your mental health, your emotional health, your physical health is all at stake. When people create physical dis-ease in their bodies because they have mental and emotional dis-ease occurring, which then creates a whole entire set of chemicals that are cascading down into your body, creating issues. It's, it's mind blowing to me sometimes when people just focus, they go, oh, cancer. Okay, great. Nutrition supplements, treatment. And it's like, whoa, let's get to the root of the issue. And that's a deeper cut of mental, emotional stuff that comes up when people have autoimmune disorders. It has been linked to like the mental emotional attack that you have on yourself that then also shows up in physical form inside of an autoimmune disorder, et cetera, et cetera. Right. I really just encourage if you're listening,

the most important work you can do is to create that healing, that transformation. And what I used to shout from the top of the mountains, and I'm going to bring it back now, is deepening into self-love. Yep. I would just sort of recap. It's all connected and everything that matters is at stake. That's how important this is. Stephanie, thank you for being on the show and for your incredibly important work. If you are listening and you want to learn more about the rapid rewire method, and you absolutely should, go to rapidrewiremethod.com and you can find both Stephanie Kwong and Rapid Rewire on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn and all the places. Thank you. Oh, thank you so much.

All right. I've said it before and I'll say it again because I truly believe it. Everything you desire, all the things you hope for, the dreams that matter most, it all lives on the other side of you dealing with your emotional wounds and of the fear that can come up. You can't go around it or over it. You must go through it. And while that may sound scary, not going through it, staying right where you feel safe, being stuck is way scarier because letting fear and the wounds of your past be the decider of who you are and who you get to be puts a lid on all of it, on all of you. And the only way to heal your wounds is to decide to.

I know it's not that simple, but that's the place to start. And the only way to heal your wounds is to decide to. I know it's not that simple, but that's the place to start. And then find and accept support. Be brave, choose confidence, and remember it's all connected and everything that matters to you is at stake. Create the transformation and the change you're looking for because that is woman's work.