This Is Woman's Work with Nicole Kalil - What Does a Woman Have to Do to Be Believed? Sexual Assault, Accountability & Double Standards with E. Jean Carroll | 363

Episode Date: November 19, 2025

When a powerful man says, “She’s not my type,” and a jury (actually, multiple juries) finds that man liable for sexual abuse and defamation, that’s not just a headline — that’s a mastercla...ss in what it takes for a woman to be believed in America. In this episode, writer, journalist, and Not My Type: One Woman vs. a President author E. Jean Carroll joins Nicole to talk about truth, power, paperclips, and what actually happens when you drag a president into court and win. Twice. We talk about the facts, the stories we build around those facts, and why so many people will twist themselves into a pretzel to excuse powerful men while shredding women who speak up. We get into: What actually happened in court — beyond the headlines, hot takes, and Twitter warriors How clothes became her armor and why what she wore in court mattered more than you’d think The “not my type” moment, the infamous deposition photo, and how Trump accidentally proved his own lie Why her sexual history was dragged into the trial — and how she took back that narrative with joy Trauma responses, laughter in the dressing room, and why “if you didn’t scream it doesn’t count” is garbage How mock juries forced her legal team to reckon with ageism, beauty standards, and who we think is “believable” What she plans to do with the tens of millions awarded in damages — and why giving it away is part of her resistance strategy The big questions this case raises: What does a woman have to do to be believed? And what does a powerful man have to do to be held accountable?  Because this isn’t just E. Jean Carroll’s story. It’s a mirror held up to how we treat women, power, and truth — and a reminder that one 80-something woman can still change the story for all of us. Thank you to our sponsors! Get 20% off your first order at curehydration.com/WOMANSWORK with code WOMANSWORK — and if you get a post-purchase survey, mention you heard about Cure here to help support the show!  Visit beducate.me/womanswork69 and use code womanswork69 for 65% off the annual pass.  Black Friday has come early at Cozy Earth! Right now, you can stack my code WOMANSWORK on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. Connect with E Jean: Book: https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/not-my-type-9781250381682/ Substack: https://ejeancarroll.substack.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/ejeancarroll1/  X: https://x.com/ejeancarroll?lang=en Related Podcast Episodes: The Fourth Trauma Response You’ve Never Heard Of (And How It’s Running Your Life) with Dr. Ingrid Clayton | 342 Access, Agency & The Abortion Underground with Rebecca Grant | 358 The Biology Of Trauma - And How To Heal It with Dr. Aimie Apigian | 346 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review:Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:00 I am Nicole Khalil, and you're listening to the This Is Woman's Work podcast. We're together. We're redefining what it means, what it looks and feels like to be doing women's work in the world today. And since redefining women's work can often mean facing big challenges, hard truths, and a whole lot of head trash, I very often lean on a tool that has helped. helped me cut through a lot of the noise. I ask myself these four questions. What are the facts? What am I making up about the facts? Is there another way to see it? And how do I get into action from here? And today's episode feels like a good time to use that framework because our guest
Starting point is 00:00:46 and our topic will definitely trigger opinions, beliefs, and judgments. Maybe you come to the show already believing E. Jean Carroll. Or maybe you don't. Maybe your politics drive your perspective. Maybe you come to this conversation looking to learn, maybe looking to criticize. The truth is we'd be hard-pressed to find anyone who is listening from a completely neutral and open place. So I'm going to start us off with the first question. What are the facts? Well, here are some of them. Elizabeth Jean Carroll is a journalist, the author of five books, including a biography of Hunter S. Thompson and the New York Times best-selling book,
Starting point is 00:01:28 not my type. One woman versus a president. Her Ask E. Gene advice column ran an L magazine for over 25 years, making it one of the longest running advice columns in American publishing. She was named one of times most influential people in the world in 2024. She accused Donald Trump of sexual assault, sued him for defamation and battery, and in May of 2023, an upstate New York jury found Trump liable for sexual abuse, not rape under New York's technical definition, and defamation, and awarded Carol $5 million. In January, 24, a separate jury found Trump liable for defamation related to remarks he made after the first verdict and awarded $83.3 million in damages. Trump filed a counterclaim against E. Jean Carroll, which was dismissed. In 2024, he lost his initial appeal of the
Starting point is 00:02:23 verdict. In June of 25, his request for an en banc hearing was denied in September of 25. The Second U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals upheld the 83.3 million defamation verdict against him. Those are the facts as the time of this recording. So what do I make up about the facts? Well, from my perspective, E. Jean Carroll is my kind of woman. Strong, funny, a torchbearer for writing your own rules and giving the finger to the shoulds and the supposed tos. She took on power and she won. And still, still, we live in a country that elected a man twice divorced known for his infidelity and whose companies have filed for bankruptcy six times and then reelected that same man
Starting point is 00:03:06 after a jury found him liable for sexual abuse and defamation. What I make up about the facts is this. No woman ever could get elected to anything, not even PTA president, with that same track record. far too many men and women bend over backwards to excuse the inexcusable and powerful men while dismissing and discrediting women, even when the facts leave little room for doubt. So what are you making up about the facts? That's the question I'd like you to carry as you listen today. Because beyond the headlines, the opinions, and the drama, there is E. Jean's story, her perspective, her voice, and her power.
Starting point is 00:03:47 E. Jean Carroll, thank you for being our again. guest, I want to start by asking you, did I misstate, misunderstand, or misrepresent any important facts before we dive into our conversation? Oh, that was brilliant. Wow. Yeah, okay, good. Just making sure I didn't mess anything up. I was, uh, that was striking when you said, no woman who had been divorced twice and bankrupted six times and accused by 16 men of, sexual misbehavior could have been voted, as you say, onto school board or to any office in the country. It is astonishing. And you really brought home that fact. Thank you, Nicole. Thank you. My pleasure. Well, my pleasure to bring it home, not my pleasure that that's the current state we live in, right? It's so
Starting point is 00:04:45 incredibly frustrating. I had not thought of it that way. I had never, that had never, that had never occurred to me. Yes, I'm frustrated that he is voted president after not just me, but 16 other very credible, some say 23 women, some say 48 women, have accused him of misbehavior. That to me is amazing that women are not believed in this country when a powerful man speaks. Right. And not believed by men, but also by women. Do, don't get me started, girl. No, don't get me started.
Starting point is 00:05:25 I can't. It's so frustrated. Yes. Yes. Okay. So I have to ask you because I have to imagine people say things like you did this in order to write a book or to get fame or to make money. When the trials were happening, did you ever imagine writing this book?
Starting point is 00:05:46 Did you intend it? I know kept the book a secret. Talk us through, you know, this idea that that was an end game for you. Here's the thing. If I wanted to write a book about something, it wouldn't have been about being sexually assault. That, yes, I loved, listen, I love to, I'm a writer. I'm an old, elderly journalist who has earned her living for 45 years telling the story
Starting point is 00:06:14 of what's going on around her. So, of course, when the trial, when the two trials started, if you've ever looked at a trial transcript in your life, they are some of the most hysterical documents in the world. And I saw, I was placed in such a weird and comic and unusual world of a trial, which I had never been near in my life. It was also astonishing, of course, the journalists in me every night I would go back to my hotel room and speak into my recorder and remember and call forth every detail of what happened that day, everything I could remember. I also had all of the newspaper stories every day, all of the blogs, all the tweets. I was watching the world watch what was going on, and I was in the middle of it. So, of course, in the back of my mind, just in case I decided to write a book, there's something always in the, well, you know this, you're a journalist, always in the back of our
Starting point is 00:07:27 mind is we'll write about it. Why? Because it's the way I process the world. It's the way I process what happens to me. I sit down and I write about it. And so, of course, I wrote the book. Had nothing to do with, you know, six years ago when I accused Donald Trump. No, that was not. And that's no. Well, that explains a lot because your attention to detail in the book is pretty intense. So that makes sense that you were courting as it was happening. My question is why do you describe so much detail? Why do you go into what everybody is wearing, what people are eating. What about the details was so important for you to share? Well, as we all know, in every sexual assault trial, you know, for the last 2,000 years, it is all centered
Starting point is 00:08:22 on the woman's body and what she has on that body. And if she looks sexy wearing that body, and what was she wearing, was it too provocative? So this time I just turned around and described what every man in the, what the judge was wearing, what the attorneys were wearing. I described what everyone was wearing. Also, I'm just into clothes. And a judge Louis A. Kaplan's federal court runway is one of the most fantastic in New York. And it was, it's also the way and I think every woman listening to this is going to understand my clothing was my armor Nicole it is how I got my confidence I could feel those clothes holding me in and keeping me button tight protecting my perimeter also we all know that when we feel we look good
Starting point is 00:09:27 we feel good and we have more confidence so clothes are essential, essential. Yeah. And the title of your book, Not My Type, was there an element of your clothes and your armor and how you had to show up? I mean, my understanding is the title came from Trump saying
Starting point is 00:09:51 that this never happened because you weren't his type. But in the book, you talk about how part of the legal strategy that you had to deal with was, making the jury see that you were, in fact, his type. Yeah. Talk to us about that. And, I mean, that had to have been kind of challenging.
Starting point is 00:10:11 Well, actually, Robbie Kaplan, one of the world's great attorneys, and certainly one of the finest attorneys of her entire generation. She is my attorney. She was with her partners in Marilago, and she was deposing Donald Trump. This, you know what, I was completely ignorant. I had no idea there was such a thing as depositions before trial. Nicole, I was completely like a lamb to the slot. Anyway, so Robbie is down in Marilago deposing Donald Trump.
Starting point is 00:10:48 And she tells Donald Trump three times that she is going to show him a picture of E. Jean Carroll. This is all on tape, by the way, all on video with court transcribers, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. She says three times she's going to show him a picture of E. Jean Carroll. She's saying this to the very man who, when he was president, said numerous times, she is not my type. He said sitting at the resolute desk, she is not my type. So that's what she's working with. So in the deposition, she tells him she's going to show him a picture of Eugene Carroll. And then she puts down in front of him, about five minutes later, a photo of a group. She said, can you please identify the people in this photograph?
Starting point is 00:11:42 And Trump looks at it. He looks right at Ivana Trump. He says, I don't know who that is. Then he points to me and says, that's Marla. And Rami said, the woman you're pointing to is Marlon? He said, yeah, yeah, that's Marlon. That's my wife. And then Alina Haba, his attorney, jumps in, no, that's Carol!
Starting point is 00:12:11 So that is where the title comes from. Right. He said, I was not his type, but of course, as every woman knows, he is not my type. That is the center of the guy. He was not my type. And he shouldn't be anybody's type, frankly. Yeah. You mentioned this already and is almost always the case in any sort of sexual assault or rape case where what a woman was doing, what she was wearing, any choice she's made, you know, comes into question. And one of those components is, of course, your sexual history. And I say, of course, because it happens all the time, not because it should be part of this. Your sexual history was very much a part of the trial. And my question is, How did that feel? Was it painful to relive? Like, does it actually have anything to do with the case here?
Starting point is 00:13:08 Talk to us about that? Of course not. But I love talking about my lovers. Love them. You know what? You want to talk about my sexual history? Fine. Bring it on. Because my lovers were the best. I mean, I had great lovers. And so, no, that was like a high point for me. I loved that, you know what? And by the way, after they learned how much I love talking about my lovers and how fabulous. this my sexual history was. They never asked me again about it. No, who. They just didn't. You know what? Women are allowed to love sex.
Starting point is 00:13:40 And they're allowed to be proud of their history. And their lives, you know, and I had some fabulous lovers. And I made that perfectly clear in the deposition because I started out with a man with whom I lost my virginity. I believe he lost his virginity, too, at the time. and he was an Olympic gold medal winner. Okay, that's how, that was just starting out. So the list was fantastic. The guys are fantastic.
Starting point is 00:14:11 And where my sexual history did come into play is that I never had sex again after the assault in Bergdorf, never. That's what happened. I just never was able to. So that's where it comes. That's where my sexual history did, as you say, played an important role in the trial. Leaves are falling, lattes are being questionably flavored, and it's officially time to get cozy. And nobody does cozy like cozy earth. For me, fall and the holidays are all about curling up on the couch, lighting the fire and changing into my PJs the second I'm done for
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Starting point is 00:18:31 This isn't somebody who's claiming that every sexual encounter she's ever had. You clearly knew the difference between something you wanted and enjoyed and something that you did not. Yeah, yeah. And when I came forward in 2019 and told my story in New York Magazine, it was after a third, Within minutes of that magazine article hitting, I expected him to deny it. Of course. And to say it was consensual.
Starting point is 00:19:06 That's what I expected. I was not prepared for him to call me a liar 26 times. That was the thing that got me. 26 times in three days from the White House calling me a liar, that was stunning to me. And all the consequences that stem from that, I have to imagine that dramatically impacted your ability to work, your safety, your credibility. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I was fired and I lost my, who's going to write to an advice columnist who the president of the United States is calling a liar? I mean, it really hit. I'm a journalist. My whole reason the way I live is to find the facts and report the facts, tell the facts.
Starting point is 00:19:53 That's what I do. Because if you run around not telling the facts, you're not a journalist for long, and you can't be hired, and you can't work at magazines, which is what I would. And you can't write books. So it just killed me. I mean, that took my name. That was it. And yet, in reading the book, laughter plays a pretty big role. I have to imagine the court transcripts are probably pretty dry, eliminate the story and stick to the facts type thing.
Starting point is 00:20:23 But in your book, there is quite a bit of your story. There is quite a bit of laughter. You bring some joy to some heavy. Why was that important to you? Why is that important to you? Because life is a comedy, Nicole. If we don't understand life is a comedy, if we think of life as a tragedy,
Starting point is 00:20:44 then we're going to live a little bit of a sad life. Now, life is a comedy, and the courtroom scenes, even though the courtroom transcripts actually if you get into them they're very funny I mean just think of what they're doing you know how far did he pull down your tights up to here up to here no down to here where was that where you know it that's a very funny situation about a very tragic event but the way it's torn to shreds it was so bizarre that either you laugh or you just give up, you know. So that's most, yes, the entire book is a, well, it's the story of a triumph.
Starting point is 00:21:33 So it's a good story. Right. Trump's defense attorney also made much of your reaction in the trial when Trump forced himself on you in the dressing room. My understanding is you laughed at one point and he spent a lot of time trying to Oh, yeah. Tell you, you should have reacted differently. Why didn't you scream?
Starting point is 00:21:54 Yeah, yeah, that would. Tell us about that. That was a big moment in a trial. Well, I think everybody listening to your podcast understands that when you get into a situation, a man has erotic intentions, one of the great ways to shut him down is to laugh, right? I mean, there's very little else that works like a good laugh at a guy to be like he will be drawn away from his intentions. engine. So that's what I did. Also, when the attack started, apparently I kept laughing. And I kept laughing all the way through it because when I called my best friend, she wasn't not my best friend at the time. Oddly enough, I called Lisa Bernbach, who was the funniest writer I knew. So I called
Starting point is 00:22:42 Lisa, and I'm laughing on the phone. And she had to tell me to Jean, stop laughing. Or I don't know her exact words or I think she said I don't think this is funny eugene um so apparently I laughed and so that's what I reported that's how I said and so uh Joe Tocopina Joe Tocopina shaped like Popeye one of the great criminal defense attorneys in the country could not stop banging on that because he he was from the 1700s and if a woman doesn't scream then a woman is not being attacked. Right. Apparently he's never met a woman.
Starting point is 00:23:24 Every woman reacts differently. Well, and it even goes to the different trauma responses. Yes, there's, you know, flight and fight. Yes. And freeze. But there's also now identified fawn trauma response, which is, I think, I don't know if that's what happened here. I'm not by any means diagnosing or anything like that.
Starting point is 00:23:43 But this thing that sometimes we do is women, when we're in a situation where we don't have physical power where we laugh or flirt or whatever, you know, to try to save ourselves. That is almost in all situations where women do not have a physical power to overcome. Because we are outweighed and out-hided and out-powered. It's very rare where the situation where the woman is stronger than the man. Yes. Every woman reacts differently. What evidence did we not get to hear about or it wasn't reported on or covered that you thought should have been. Well, number one, we're going to use Epstein tapes. And Michael Wolff, the journalist, has hours and hours and hours of Epstein tapes. And he has a tape of Epstein on the
Starting point is 00:24:36 phone telling a friend about running into Trump shortly after the event at Bergdorf. And Trump, quote, regaling him. with the, quote, torrid details of the attack. Now, that is, as they say, gold when it comes to evidence. But it was Robbie Kaplan. First of all, she thought the Judge Kaplan would never allow it in because it's so prejudicial. You cannot say the word Epstein in a court trial
Starting point is 00:25:08 and expect the jury to remember anything else after that. So she pretty much thought that Judge Kaplan would not allow it. Also, there is a hearsay problem. However, you know, that did not go in as evidence. Robbie has many opinions about it and everybody else has many opinions about it, but it did not go in. And even without it, we won. So there. Right. I know part of your team's legal strategy was to put on a mock trial. Out of curiosity, what was the mock jury verdict and what? What did that help you with when it came to your actual trial?
Starting point is 00:25:50 Oh, well, you know, I didn't know there were such a thing as mock trials. I had no idea. Before the OJ trials, they ran huge mock trials. What you do is you get prospective jurors chosen from the same jury pool that they do in the Southern District, which is the Southern District in your is not, don't think Manhattan. We're not talking Manhattan here. We're talking about upstate New York, you know, we're talking about the Trump counties. We're talking, you know, so the Southern District of New York is huge.
Starting point is 00:26:27 So we drew prospective jurors from the same jury pool. They come to a ballroom in downtown New York. There are 27 of them. And then they're divided into three juries of nine each. And the entire case is presented to these people. And it starts with giving the evidence. We have somebody playing Trump's lawyers. We showed tapes from his deposition trials.
Starting point is 00:26:56 We showed tapes of me in my deposition. Then we had people reading the witnesses' reports, and we presented a case. Everything was perfect. All three juries agreed, yes. Something happened in the Bergdorf dressing room. in 1996. They all agreed, yes, something sexual happened in the Bergdorf dressing room in 1990s. And all three of them absolutely agreed 100% down the line that the two people in the
Starting point is 00:27:30 dressing room in the Bergdorf in 1997 were Eugene Carroll and Donald Trump. What they did not agree on was they thought I wanted it because I was too old and ugly for Donald Trump. to attack. So my attorneys and I changed my look back to exactly how I looked in 1996 who did the hair, we did the makeup.
Starting point is 00:27:58 I wore clothes from 1996. I still have the great classics from 96. So that helped the jury have an idea that I could be the woman who was in that dressing in
Starting point is 00:28:14 1996 because when they're looking an old 82, well, at the time, a 79-year-old woman in the courtroom, it's very hard to picture a woman younger, as we all know. It's impossible. But the hair and the makeup and the clothes helped, and we proved our case. Yeah. Again, back to the, I don't know if double standard is the right term, but the idea that people would believe that Donald Trump was so attractive that people wanted to have sex with him, given how he looks today is mind blasting to me, too. But that's a topic for another day. The juries awarded you $5 million
Starting point is 00:28:50 and then north of $83 million. I mean, have you gotten that money? When do you get that money? What are you going to do with it? What does that mean for you? Well, as you can see, I live in a Hubble, and so buying stuff is not part of my happiness. What I'm going to do is I'm going to take that money
Starting point is 00:29:09 and I'm going to give it to everything Donald Trump hates, mainly. And number one is devoting that money to getting women's rights back. The rights of our own body, the rights to educate our children, the rights for health care, get our women's rights back
Starting point is 00:29:28 because they are being taken away at a rate, which is astonishing. So that's basically what I'm going to do with the money. Thank you on behalf of women for doing that. And I'm curious about your experience being in the courtroom. And then now that the verdicts are in and the elections have happened, like, how do you stand being in a room with this person, having this person be the president? Like, how do you even live in this crazy reality that we're in? Well, first of all,
Starting point is 00:30:06 being in a courtroom with Trump was edify because he misbehaved the whole time. And it's funny, Because when a jury watches Trump, hour after hour, and they were glued in, glued, they were mesmerized by him. You can't take your eyes off him because, number one, he's the most powerful man in the world. No question. And two, the most powerful man in the world is just behaving in eccentricly weird ways, moaning, and growing. and hissing and spitting and staring and just, and I mean, he was very old and very, very bad. He treated his criminal defense lawyer Alina Haba terribly to watch for the woman jurors,
Starting point is 00:31:05 although he only had two women jurors, to watch him mistreat a woman right in front of him. So when people actually get a chance to see him in person, they voted him guilty. Guilty. Now, he gets away with the voters because at the end of each day in trial, he would go out and talk to the press. I'm the one who's damaged. I'm the one who's suffered. I'm the one who deserves the money. His voters, his supporters, they just lap it up.
Starting point is 00:31:41 I have no idea what kind of, I don't know what it is that attracts him to him. I think it's because he's rich and they all want to be rich. I think that's it. They all want to be him, right? I guess. I don't. What else? Well, it's curious because what you said happened in the courtroom, I think, is how I perceive a little bit about what's happening is, you know, people are glued and mesmerized to his misbehavior.
Starting point is 00:32:09 Yes, yes. It is really interesting. I just wonder if there is an element of like people wishing they could get away with the same things or I have to be clear here. For me, my issue isn't political. It's I just can't. I go back to no woman would ever have been elected given the same track record. And I can't even get into Democrat versus Republican or any of those things. It's the misbehaving.
Starting point is 00:32:37 It's the no, that behavior wouldn't be acceptable anywhere else or. by anyone else, why are we so mesmerized and why are we so willing to explain a way we're dismiss? That's the part I have a really hard time with. I have a hard time. Just listen to you say you have a hard time. It is amazing because the word dismiss, they somehow ignore the 16 or 23 women who've come forward. They just say, I don't believe it. Right. That's how they handle. it. But why don't they believe it? Maybe three women, okay, maybe three women could get together and conspire to bring down the president, maybe four women, but 16 women, and have one woman such as myself go through the course for six years, six years and take a lot of crap because of
Starting point is 00:33:39 and still not be believed, I don't know what a woman has to do in this country to be believed. What does she have to do? I mean, what? Does she have to win in court? Yes, she wins in court. Is she believed? No. What does she have to do? God, even if there was video evidence, there still be people who wouldn't believe. Of course, we had 11 witnesses. But here's to say, sexual assault is rarely witnessed by anybody. Right. That is no reason not to believe a woman. And women rarely go to the police.
Starting point is 00:34:20 Rare. It's rare. So that is the other reason why the woman is not. So I just, yeah, you brought up a very good point. Well, and that question, I think, is the fundamental one that is at the core of all of this, says what does a woman have to do in order to be believed? And what does a powerful man have to do to be held accountable? I don't know. I don't know either. I have no idea. My last question is if there's anything that you would share from your experience up to this point, because it's not
Starting point is 00:34:59 completely over, right? What is something that you would want to share or that you wish more people understood about your experience? Well, I wish they understood that if one old woman, one 82-year-old woman can beat Donald Trump, anybody could be, and to stand the hell up and resist. That's all it takes. And people seem a little frightened right now. And this is the time when we got to get it together.
Starting point is 00:35:30 This is why I'm wearing the paper clip. Do you see this? Yep. Paperclip. It stands for resisting Donald Trump. In the Second World War, people showed their resistance to the Nazis by wearing the paperclip. Everybody, I would like everybody who listens to your podcast to start wearing the paperclip. Show your resistance to Trump. Well, thank you for being bold and brave, for standing up for yourself and all of us, for taking all of the heat and all of the things in order to stand your ground. And I'm just so grateful for you and for you being here today. Well, thank you, Nicole. I love talking to you. Thank you very much. My pleasure. All right, friend, the book again is not my type. Go to bookshop.org or go to your local book.
Starting point is 00:36:23 store. Let's keep our local bookstores in business. And all of the links to Miss Carol's substack and social media accounts and all the things you need to know are going to be in show notes so you can find and follow her. Fantastic. Yes. And thank you again. Okay, friend, what have you been making up about the facts? And is there a different way to see it? Maybe it's this, that laughter can live right alongside pain, that strength does not mean silence, and that a woman standing up for herself in the face of power isn't just her fight. It reshapes what's possible for all of us. And how do we get into action from here?
Starting point is 00:37:00 Well, first, we believe more women. We hold people accountable. We stop excusing the inexcusable. We keep telling the truth, even when it's uncomfortable, even when it's unpopular, even when the world would rather we sit down and shut up. Because this, this refusal to be silenced, this insistence on choice, truth, and accountability,
Starting point is 00:37:20 this is, it has to be, women's work.

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