This Past Weekend - #581 - Big Guy

Episode Date: May 10, 2025

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Mother's Day is right around the corner. And if you're undecided on what to get mom, maybe some flowers or a nice meal that she doesn't have to cook is just the break she needs. But for a limited time use code THEO50. That's right THEO50 to get 50% off up to a $15 value when you spend $15 or more at local florists, convenience, grocery, and retail stores on DoorDash. And starting May 9th through Mother's Day weekend, your flowers order will unlock credit towards select gifts that take cooking,

planning, and more off Mom's plate. Make this Mother's Day special with DoorDash. Code Theo50 50 terms apply. All right. Here we are. Welcome to the month of May in the year 2025. Thank you for joining me here today. Thank you for letting me be a part of your life. And and you be a part of mine today. Happy Mother's Day. We'll start with that. We got a nice episode of, we got some Mother's Day stuff.

We're going to get into a little bit of light news and then we had a call a few weeks back about grief and loss and we had a lot of nice feedback calls and informative heart, heart, heartish, heartfelt contributions so we'll get into those in a bit as well. But yeah Mother's Day, that's it cuz your mom people your mama raised you Think about that Your mom, but you were good. You was doing nothing your little ass laying there Doing nothing bull Hunting for a fucking hand tit. That's all you was doing You was just hunting for that little hand tit

with your little hands. You was a little slurplord. And your mother raised you. First of all, if something came up to me and started sucking on my breast, on my tit, or whatever it's called, tit for man or whatever, I would not then raise it. That is, you have to think about that.

If someone started sucking on your tip, would you take it off and then raise it and grow it to its full form? Only a mother would do that type shit, boy. That's some next level. That's some next level behavior mothers out there. With your ass too, a lot of kids never washed they ass. We had a buddy, his legs just knew his pants so well.

He wore the same pants always. And so you knew good and well so nobody was washing his ass, boy. Not a chance. Even his mom, and she tried, you see her warm up some water on a stove in a stove pot and it pull a pack pull his pants back and just dump it right down the back of his pants hoping to even to get a half wash or quarter wash on his ass with that warm water but damn your mother your my mothers did that and when we couldn't read, imagine you sitting there with somebody, right?

And they can't read, you know? And you gotta teach them to, you start with the first letter and you show them that. And it's a picture of like an alligator and a little kid and the mom's like, what's that? And he's like, lizard, lizard or whatever. He can't even say shit. He don't even say nothing. He just look at you And try to cop a quick hit off that tit That's a dumb child. We were all dumb child

My mother helped us out of that out of that cavern of knowing nothing God They did a lot of work. And then even on some, once you were in school, when you had to go to school and take a test, and you was, you was dumb, buddy, you was damn dumb. You was a dumb child. And your mother still hugged you and said you're gonna do good on it. I remember my mom would be like, you're gonna do great on your test.

I'd look at her like, really, I am? And she, yeah, you're gonna do great. And I would leave out the door and I peeked back in the window where you could see her just shaking her head. Like, he gonna fuck it up. But that's crazy to send something, know something is gonna not do well on a damn spelling

or whatever it's called. And send it out in the world and still hug it. And pretend like when they get back, how'd you do? You fucking know good and well how they did mom They didn't do shit boy They didn't do shit, bro opening pants Another batch of warm water on that ass is spring cleaning Mother's Day man, that's what it is and that's what it ain't man. Um

Mother's Day, man, that's what it is. And that's what it ain't, man. Yeah, I want to say happy Mother's Day to my mother. I know she watches this show and I appreciate that. Man, happy Mother's Day to all the moms out there. The ones that do it by themselves and some of y'all have helped. And yeah, it's just as we know you're doing it somebody's doing it and it ain't us it ain't us children we get we thought we someone's children

we think we did it ourself we didn't do shit so make sure to reach out to your mother hit her with a happy uh mother's day get her something We got a one of our commercials. They got a good advertising or something beautiful You get her some good items or something break her off something get your mother something drive over there. Give her a hug boy Keep your hands off that breast. Oh boy you of age, you know Keep your hands off that breast, oh boy, you of age, nah. You of age, cause that's always the crazy, you see some nine year old at the basketball game, and he over there. And he up under his mother wearing a triple XL men's polo shirt,

just so that kid can get up under there and knobble off on that tit. And he fucking nine, bro. Dude, I remember they had this one kid, Lil Bubby was his name, and he would go slip up on his mom's shirt, hit mom, I don't know if she was in a wheelchair, she was just, just, just, just not, you know,

kind of looked like she was in a wheelchair type shit and she had them crazy breasts them kind you it looked like uh they cracked open and were kind of flooding out at like them bitches was I don't even know if they are at a certain point it was like She had them fucking beanbag. She had them, she had them damn BOOSH CHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCHCH breasts, getting a nap in and betting on a horse racing. Cause she had them big break time tits, boy. She had them damn baby bags.

She had a fucking damn a cow walk up and try to feed off of them bitches. She had them, them front end loaders on her. What were we talking about? Uh, what are we talking about Easton? Mother's day. Mother's day. That's it, man. That is it. Sorry, I went off on a tangent. Oh, but I remember they had this kid, La Bubbie,

and he would go over by his mom's, by his mom. He'd get up, he'd get him a damn candy bar and get up under that shirt and get on that tit. You'd see him, and he'd have to pop his head out to catch more breath, to catch more air. He'd be like... He'd stick his head out... And then back under there, candyin' and titin', candyin' and titin'.

Under there, damn nine years old, brother, you gonna do good on your test, son? No, he ain't a kid's damn dumb, baby. Happy Mother's Day, um... Oh, I don't know what I'm gonna get my m... Baby Happy Mother's Day. Um, oh I don't know what I'm gonna get my mom. Well, I'll get my mother some uh, I'll send her a card and I sent that thing on Monday boy So it's gonna be there cuz for years I'm that guy send that late card, you know, I sent that bit Should get that bitch on father's day. She gets that. And she did both jobs anyway, so they should make that.

They should make that Mother Father's Day card, the two in one hitter now. They should get that thing released out there. Because you've heard me say it before, man, the hardest working man I've ever met is my mother. Big facts, Happy Mother's Day to you and to your mothers, make sure to get that love line here with that love line. Do something, get over there, tickle her.

Know what I'm saying? Buy her a bra that says keep out on it and honor those words. Because you too tall to be titin'. You know that shit, type shit, boy. What's going on, feeling a little injured today I picked up something at the gym Bam injured didn't even and it was that kind of thing where your back locks up in your lung like that just you it's like

the wind got knocked out of your back. And you know, and your friend's like, what's going on? And you're like eee. You can't even talk. It just, you just, so I just left. I don't know what they thought I had cancer or whatever, but yeah, injured myself.

Went to the massage place over here. And I go to the Chinese shop over there that chop shop You say right on the side chop shop, you know, and they selling fucking rice right out the back of that bitch boy They they'll remodel your saw They'll remodel your spinal column They're fucking on Jenga that bitch and then hit you with that damn two grams of rice when you roll out the door. They got that shit in there. And I got, whenever I go get that massage at the Chinese place, I get, I ask for the big guy.

I want big guy. When I call him on the phone, he knows me. My buddy Yang over there, I call him on the phone. He say, you come here, I call him on the phone. He said, you coming? I said, big guy. You got big gay? Sometimes we got him, sometimes we don't. Because I've had this second string, they said big guy.

Big guy gone. Big guy gone. That's what he said, I don't know what he meant. But I think he was trying to say big guy gone, right? And I spot him a letter if he ain't got it all, bro. He from another country, you know? That's the kind of guy I am. I'll fucking give you a vowel.

Big guy gone. Gone. I got you. I got you with that E, twin. So yeah, he said big guy gone. So I went in there and they had a second big guy in that bitch, bro. The second, and he ain't that big guy gone. So I went in there and they had a second big guy in that bitch, bro. The second, and he ain't that big, bro.

He kind of, he just, he trying to like make his neck long, just trying to look big or something, you know? He put on mittens and shit. Because Asian, they try to trick you when you're looking at them. They trick you, they visual, they're the fucking, they're the bok choy David Blaine's baby.

Them bitches are fucking, they trick you, bruh. They'll put a piece of rice over each eye and tell you they sleeping, that's who they are. They tricks just like that. But, but I said big guy, he said, big guy gone, but I showed up anyway. I took that second, that fucking other big guy, big guy. He said, big guy gone. But I showed up anyway, I took that second,

that fucking other big guy, bruh. And he went, shit. This little motherfucker, this little fucking woodpecker. He couldn't do shit, he would fucking hammer, just trying to hammer on me, bruh. He just put one of his arms out and was just like that, just woodpecker,pecker me with that elbow Didn't do shit. I'm fucking still hurt

But anyway, what else big guy I want to be gay Dude, I'll tell you this brah So one time I'm in there and I was getting a massage at this other joint I went to this other joint and I'm in there brah and I at this other joint. I went to this other joint and I'm in Nebra and I do the massage where it's like this chair thing that you sit kind of forward on. Easton can you bring that up for me brother? And we're borrowing Easton today he's helping us produce and blessings to you man and and Easton works on John Chris's podcast what's it called? Net Positive. Net Positive with John Chris, if you want to tap in with him.

What did I ask you, Easton, do you remember? Pull up a chair picture. Get that massage chair, that front, forward leaning. Let's go with that. Oh yeah, yeah, that's the kind they have right there. They put your face in a little, it's like a little soft little tallest seat, but it's soft But it's little yeah. Yeah, yeah, put your face on that and then they just start getting at you anyway

So yeah, I'll go in he's got one of those chair chair massages, so I sit in there and big guy Okay Big guy here big guy, big guy here, big guy gone, big guy here. Big guy starts rattling on me doing his big guy shit, fucking leaving sweat on my back. I can feel it. Every now and then I know he's really popping back there if I feel a bead of sweat hit my fucking neck. So he back there popping, right?

And then I look over, dude, in the chair next to me, there's a kid getting a massage, right? I didn't know this could happen, right? It's like this kid, kind of like the Rizler, right? Like probably nine, maybe nine, and like kind of Ruben-esque, you know, chubbish or whatever they call it, this chubbish little kid. And there's a guy just like rubbing over, just like massaging him, you know?

And I didn't know a kid could get him. I didn't know. And I'm like, am I watching like a, like what am I watching? Like is this a kid getting a massage or is this like a, like is it legal or you know, I just didn't know. Yeah, I'm like, and like how long do you watch? It's such a massage. Like if, you know, but yeah, this kid, but it was so crazy.

This kid was getting a massage, like this kid got a massage or was getting a massage this kid. So the massage and a kid kid it's during the school day So I'm like, what is how you know? What rich little kid skipped school to get a fucking massage, bro Then anyway, so we're sitting there and at some point somebody did a um a fart You know somebody did a and I think it was this kid right it was it was crazy dude I'm I'm there. It's already weird enough somebody's massaging the kid. I'm getting fucking big guy

Big guy is over there fucking working me in and and the little dudes over here getting fucking chopped out You know this little fucking six fifth graders or whatever This little fifth graders. He's getting over there fucking chopped out by Chim Chop, your boy, right? And I'm like, can you even massage a kid? I'm thinking, and then somebody just started a fart out of their body. And I think it was the kid, right? Because I think, look, if you massage a kid, they're going to fart. They got to strike back somehow because it's illegal to touch them. So, and it sounded like it sounded like, like, I don't know, it sounded like somebody was drinking milk

and then just like, it was just, it sounded like a, it just sounded like a ghost wearing booty cologne that had just climbed out of that child. And am I saying it was definitely the kid who was in there doing farts or whatever, but you know, I don't know. You know, I'm no farting Luther King or whatever, but I have a dream that somebody farting in here. But there was another guy in there. So it could have been other guy, you know, whoever that was, Louis Fartacon.

Nah, it's just a, it's just a activist joke. Anyway, no, yeah, it could have been this other guy in there. I don't know, because there was another guy in there. Just a guy, like worked at a bank or something or was like Cheating on his wife some guy, right? And they were over there shining him up they over there really getting into his shoulders and neck, you know He had two kind of medium guys. He didn't have no big guy like I did

bitch Uh, but they chopping into him and that and that and but at some point the room started to smell bad somebody chopped off a real fart. And it sounded like somebody had like had put like milk on just like Like their butt had been drinking milk and then just fart just did a fart, bro. It was crazy. You could hear it just sounded like some bro, it was crazy you could hear it just sounded like Like a like somebody had taken a tight foot out of a wet boot, you know out of a wet, uh, uh Rubber boot just

But anyway, what is that? Happy Mother's Day, bro. So I'm telling y'all I Got a massage and you got to take care of yourself when you get them. When I go into a massage place, first thing I say, no pop pop. I say no pop pop. Touch the ween. Tap on my weener two times. No pop pop for me. That's what I say when I say, when I go into those places.

Um, we got an episode, oh, and that means don't touch me. Don't touch, no, uh, don't touch this, you know, don't, don't wean, don't stay off my weiner, that's what I say, you know? Stay off my small gay, huh? Stay off my small gay! huh stay off my small guy Big guy no no

medium guy But I tell him right when I walk in don't jerk me off I do that myself I do it at home. I do it under you know I do under with clothes blinds or whatever music on music off whatever I Don't jerk off with the fan on I say that Point blank you see some dudes brah. No, I got buddies You walk in a room is smelling that like they've been jerking out. Oh well and the fan is on bro Have some respect, bro Have you out there drying out your root or whatever and you out there popping off, bruh.

You out there fricking earning pearls out of your own ween out there. So, praise God. We'll get to an ad in just a second. We got a new pope, is that right there, Easton? That is correct. And what did you think about it? What's the news on him? You got any information on him?

He is the first American Pope. No way. Yes, he is from Chicago, Illinois. D'oh, bears, boy. Wow. I'll pull up his name here. He's going by Pope Leo the 14th and his name is Robert Prevost. Bobby Prevost baby! And who do the Packers have Aaron Rodgers dude? It's a rap bro.

Jordan love that dude nobody. The Pope! Ding ding! Dude we got the Pope huh? Go Cubs, go. Hey Chicago, what do you say? We got the Pope today. Gang, boy! We ride here.

Big gate! Big gate! Damn, bro. I hope he stops the massaging of children. You know what I'm talking about? We shut it down, bro. Hope he stops the massaging of children. You know what I'm talking about? We shut it down, brother. I don't know if we can say that. And how do we know when they pick the pope? So they, I guess all the cardinals,

there's like a bunch of, I don't know how many, they all like silently, secretly, like you know like thing you did in school where you let it like close your eyes and raise your hand and the teacher counted? I guess it's like that where they like secretly vote And they don't decide until I think it's like a two-thirds majority so like heads up sovereign up or whatever So they if the Pope I guess every day they do it if the Pope hasn't been chosen they do like black smoke out Of the chimney and then if the Pope is get does get chosen and it's white smoke that comes out of the tree

Oh really? So how long did it take him to choose this Pope? I think just like two days because yesterday it was black smoke and then there are two days ago was black smoke and then yesterday It was white smoke Have we ever had a black Pope yet? Wow, bro, that's what we got to get that black pope boy. Big guy. What about an Asian pope if we had it? Oh, we got to get a damn low Asian pope boy. Just a little bit of prayer fried rice, boy, you feel me? I want to say thank you to mom for having all the answers. She had

them all. She didn't, sometimes they were wrong yet, but she had them all. Imagine something just asking you questions for 18 years and more and you do your best to answer every one. Yep, that's a mom. But this year we're answering for mom. And the answer is, we're going to give them flowers plus a real break. Because moms are at it 24-7. And flowers, it's nice, but you know what they really want is a break. From everyone's questions, from the endless to-do list, from moming. Oh, I still ask my mom so many questions. I will call and ask my mom what shoe size I wear. I could look in my shoe, I could do a ruler against my foot,

but I will call my mom, and if she doesn't answer it when I call, I will just not know what my shoe size is for the day. Oh, if I was a mom, I would just put earplugs in, that's what I would do. I would tell my kids, I would have like one of those lights that taxis have above them on the top of a taxi that says when it's available or not. I would turn the light off, not available, and then I would,

what would I do if I were a mom? Oh, I would get in a big bubble bath. That's what my mom used to do. She would yell, she'd yell at us and say something, and say we weren't gonna be able to have something, then you would hear her slammer door And then every now and then you'd hear her get in that bubble bath right there And maybe crack open a cold beer or something or cold little can of milk or whatever

You hear crack it open and get that bubble bath going Sud so how you couldn't see, hear nothing. Is she in there? I don't know what she would and I think she would just sit in there in the in the bubbles and have a little sip of beer or cold milk. Something to get her through the day man. So if I was a mother I would do that. Oh and I forgot to add this Mother's Day when you buy your mom flowers you'll get up to $75 as a dash pass member or up to $50 as a non-dash pass member towards a family meal that mom doesn't have to cook. A fun activity so mom can play without planning

or a self-care retreat in case mom just wants some me time. Yep, that's Theo50, T-H-E-O, number five, number zero, to get 50% off, up to a $15 value That's Theo50, T-H-E-O, number five, number zero, to get 50% off, up to a $15 value when you spend $15 or more at local florists, convenience, grocery, and retail stores on DoorDash. And starting May 9th through Mother's Day weekend, your flowers order will unlock credit towards select gifts that'll take cooking, planning, and more off of mom's plate

Make this Mother's Day special with door- terms apply All right, you know one of the last episodes the last solo episode we had called a chili boy or something like that Was it chili baby chili chili boy, chili baby? Chili, oh pickle chili. And it was about a month ago and a man called in who had lost his girlfriend to cancer. So we're gonna take a quick listen to that. Hey Theo, hope you're doing well. I'm calling you today to see if I can get your perspective on something.

My girlfriend of four years, she passed away five and a half months ago. five and a half months ago. She uh, it wasn't not a surprise but you know she had cancer we thought that she had a little more time. But um yeah um since then I've spent most of my time

doing nothing. You know um I would visit her grave every day for months which is good I guess for getting help. He goes and visits her grave every day He would say for months onward and thank you for sharing this brother of my apartment, but I would just let the time pass, you know, but um recently I've started a

Going back to school full time and working again. And honestly, I feel like I'm just doing it because it's expected of me, you know, from the people around me, my family, my peers. I guess another reason that is I'm pretty young. So maybe some people just expect me to move forward pretty fast, but I don't want to. Sometimes I feel like I was left behind. Yeah, thank you for the call, brother. We discussed this on a previous episode, but we got some calls that came in and I wanted

to listen to some of them here just so you can get an idea. As always, the hotline is 985-664-9503. And here's a call that came in about grief. We asked callers if they had any suggestions for that gentleman. And here's some of the responses that we got. Hey, Theo, man, love your show, bro. Listen to you every day or every time you make a podcast. I'm actually listening to Pickle Chili right now.

And I heard the caller call in about he lost his girlfriend or whatever, and you ask some people to call in, give some ideas of how maybe he can handle this situation and look I actually lost my daughter five years ago to this day from a brain aneurysm and I guess the only advice I can say is like man don't let nobody tell you how long you should grieve. Uh, it's going to be different for everyone. Cause not every, not every, uh, situation is going to be built the same. So, uh, do it at your own speed, man. Um,

there's going to be a lot of people that don't want to get involved and tell you how you should do these, but you have to experience this the way that you need to experience this to make it right for you I have dreams about my daughter often man, and it's like it's funny because I can my dreams I know she's passed away, and I know she's not with her so while I'm dreaming I try to I just try to hug her and talk to her and make that dream last as long as I can You know and look brother miss bruh, miss her. Miss her every day.

I talk to my daughter. I miss, I mean, every night before I say a prayer, I talk to my daughter and I've been doing that since the day she's passed away. And look, last but not least, bruh, this doesn't get easier. It really doesn't. It just becomes a new type of normal if

If that makes some sense, bro, man, you know gang gang. Love you, bro Love you, too, bro. Thank you, man man Man that's this Man, that's just... That's all, you know, it's... That's nice of him to call. He called out of Louisiana. I see that area code 337 over there. And you can hear the bayou in the back of his drawer right there.

Yeah, I remember after my dad was gone, even still, sometimes if I'm having like a tough day whenever I go to sleep at night, I'll... Yeah, I'll hope that I get to see him or that he shows up, you know? And then sometimes it's like, gets to be further. Sometimes it's like further and further between times and then, yeah, and it just like, you just wish some, you hope that somebody will be there. But then sometimes they are in your dream.

And yeah, that's awesome, man. That's a really nice sentiment to share. Thank you for that call. Let's take another call here. Hey Theo, hey man. Just wanted to call in, in response, listening to the Pickle Chili podcast and the guy. Thank you for listening man. I appreciate that. Thank all you all anybody who listened.

I lost his girlfriend and after five months wanted to respond to somebody that's been through that too. Lost my fiance, high school sweethearts. Yeah, day before my birthday, she was in a car accident. And it's tough, man. It's somebody that you've been with for seven years. At a young age, I was 21, she's 20. So it's kind of rough. But just wanted to respond to him and letting him know the things that have helped me and maybe it'll help him and somebody else. And the biggest thing is I got all those, the same symptoms as him, um, you know, didn't want to do anything, uh, you lose your purpose in life and, uh, some things that you touched on Theo, you know, uh, you want to dream, you want to feel

all that again. And it's all true. But the thing that helped me the most is surround yourself with friends and family. And those things right there, the people that love and support you, I'm still close with her family. And those things help you get through it, man. So anytime I'm having those rough days and weeks and you just, like you said, get out, surround yourself with people that love you and your friends, go do some things with your friends.

They're always there for you. And I got a dog, you know, and that really helped me get through that too, man. You always got somebody excited to see you when you get home. And that's it, man. That's really the answer. You'll never forget. You'll never move on completely. You hope to have a normal life.

But the things that help you push through it are going to be just love. Surround yourself with people who love you. Amen, man. Yeah, there's a song by this guy, Stephen Wilson Jr. Thank you for that call and thank you to the caller previously too and thank you guys for both sharing your experience with loss. Yeah, there's this song, Grief, is that by Stephen Wilson Jr. and it's a Grief is only love that has nowhere to go and and I thought about that. I thought about that since that gentleman called in. Because love is like, love is this feeling that it has to land on someone or an object. It has to land on something, right?

Like a person place, they have to, love has to have a place to land if you love. Like you can love yourself, but that's more like integrity and confidence. And then it can even drift into ego or whatever. That's more like integrity and confidence. And then it can even drift into ego or whatever. But when you really love, you love someone. You know? And so love is really, it's an outward thing.

It's, it's not, it's yours, but it's, if it's active, it's not yours. It's, it's a, it's not yours. It's like a bridge almost kind of. And then, yeah, once that recipient is gone, once that place where it was landing is gone, it's like it almost becomes, it's crazy that something that is so wonderful can become so painful. Because then you have all these same feelings but they don't have the place to land.

Yeah, I remember when my father died, I remember I just, I was at his funeral and it was like the most like scariest thing ever. There was people there that I didn't even know any of them. This family that I just moved in with, the day it took me over there, and some of our neighbors went with me. I just remember like, it was all these feelings that I think I didn't even know that I'd had

that I wanted to be for my father, and I didn't even know that I'd had that I wanted to be for my father and I didn't even know I had them. And now it was just like they were, they hit a dam. They just would never have a place to go. And I just remember like, just so much tears and like crying and like it would be like going into the cracks of the floor and I just wanted to be one of those tears.

I wanted to just disappear. Let's take some other calls man and we're not trying to make that like I guess it can't help but be like sad but I think it's real right and it's real this is you know life is real, this is, you know, life is real. And it's full of real things. And I'm just glad we don't have to go through them alone. So that's a nice thought to have right now. Hey, Theo, I'm replying to the gentleman that had recently lost a girlfriend.

I had lost my girlfriend back in 2018 so it's going on seven years now. It's tough and it sounds like he was looking for answers when you know the only thing that I could say is like it sounds like he's on the right track and If I was him I would just choose to live through the memories that they shared together I Remember my girlfriend always telling me that you know, she thought I was a good teacher and So now I'm in a field where I'm able to teach people things. And I just feel like every time I do, I just, it reminds me of her and there's just like, it's no longer a sadness anymore. There's a happiness in it. And

Yeah. You know, it's funny, thank you, sorry I'm belching, I had a little bit of Celsius, but thank you for the call, man. Yeah, I remember my dad, like one thing, like one of the only things I remember he said to me ever in my life was that I was a survivor. He used to always say that, you're a survivor. You know?

And maybe he knew that because he was so old that it would be something that I would need, I don't know. But it's like one thing that I just feel like, you know, I relate to or something. You know, like I'm going to get through this, I guess, you know? So I think that's really magical that when you act out something that somebody who loves you told you you were, when you do those things, that you are kind of servicing that relationship that's no longer there.

You know? Like if she says that, or you said this part. I remember my girlfriend always telling me that, you know, she thought I was a good teacher. And so now I'm in a field where I'm able to teach people things and. Yeah, I could totally see that, man. That by then teaching that, you feel like you're honoring her.

And it makes you feel that same way that you felt when she told you it was something that you did really well. Yeah. It's interesting how we figure out how to keep going in the world, all of us. And that we want to, that's one thing that I think is amazing about life, is this will to survive, right? It's like you have a man that lost his daughter and he's, you know, and there's, it's like he wants to go and at least wake up and see the day every day because, you know, probably through his eyes, his daughter somehow gets to see the day as well, you know probably through his eyes his daughter somehow gets to see the day as well you know I think there's just something in us that wants to survive so much and I don't even know what to say about that or what I think about that thought but thank you for that call man thanks for sharing that um all right let's take one more call

Thanks for sharing that. All right. Let's take one more call. Hey, Theo. This is Tyler from Cincinnati. Hey, Tyler, thank you for calling dude. Cincinnati over there. Will the bangles have a decent defense? I don't know.

All the money's on the offensive side of the ball. It feels like if they let Trey Hendrickson go now with that said, is it a Joe burrow make or break year? We'll see about that baby. Onward brother. I don't have personal experience with a loss of an immediate loved one, but I've walked next to someone who has and our church offers counseling around that. And one of the resources we use is this book called Dark Clouds Deep Mercy. I highly recommend it to everyone who is dealing with loss and I buy it for

anyone close to me that I hear has a loved one who they've lost and they've found some peace from that book. Yeah hopefully that can be a resource to some people who are listening. Thanks. Bye. All right. Yeah. Thank you for that suggestion, man. I know there's a lot of grief books out there and stuff, but it's just like, how do you go through it? Yeah, it's interesting. The young man who called early, the first call, the original call was saying that he felt like he got left behind. Yeah, it's just, it's all kind of fascinating. Even though it's so sad. I was, I was, the other day this came up on my feed when I was thinking about grief. And it's Jim Carrey once said, or this site attributes it to him, grief is not just an emotion, it's an unraveling, a space where something once lived but is now gone.

It carves through you, leaving a hollow ache where love once resided. In the beginning, it feels unbearable, like a wound that will never close. But over time, the raw edges begin to mend. The pain softens, but the imprint remains, a quiet reminder of what once was. The truth is you never really move on, you move with it.

The love you have does not disappear, it transforms. It lingers in the echoes of laughter and the warmth of old memories in the silent moments where you still reach for what is no longer there. And that's okay. Grief is not a burden to be hidden. It's not a weakness to be ashamed of. It is the deepest proof that love existed. That's something beautiful once touched your life. So let yourself feel it. Let yourself mourn. Let yourself remember. There is no timeline. There is no right way to grieve. Some days will be heavy and some will feel lighter.

Some moments will bring unexpected waves of sadness while others will fill you with gratitude for the love you were lucky enough to experience. Honor your grief, for it is sacred. It is a testament to the depth of your heart. And in time, through the pain, you will find healing, not because you have forgotten, but because you have learned how to carry both love and loss together." Man, that's pretty powerful. Yeah, whenever I had heard that quote, that, yeah, that grief is only love that has no place to go. It's a great song too by Stephen Wilson Jr. I don't believe that the quote is his, but it's a great song.

Yeah, like you have memories and sometimes even just telling a funny story about someone that's gone can almost make you have the same feeling as if they are still alive sometimes. But yeah thank you guys for anyway listening to that. I know some of that stuff's kind of heavy and stuff to think about but it's nice to take moments to think about people and just hear what, just be alive. Yeah, it's nice to just be alive. Yeah, I don't mean that. I just mean it's, I don't know what I mean. Anyway, yeah, thank you everybody for made some calls and called in

There's a lot of nice calls and suggestions and we try to put some together there You know, I wanted to say something there's been something that's just been kind of on my heart and so I feel like I should Bring it up There is You know, we've had people on the podcast in the past to talk about it. And there's just a, there's a conflict that's been happening in the Middle East. People know about it between Israel and Palestine and some of the areas over there, the Gaza area they talk about. And I just think it feels to me, I don't know if I,

it just feels to me like it's a genocide that's happening while we're alive here in front of our lives. And I don't, sometimes I feel like I should say something. I'm not a geologist or a geographer or anything like that. So I don't know a lot of the, some of it I do know though. I know the basics of the issues over there, but for me it's just like how I feel

like you see all these photos of people, just children, women, people, body parts, just people like putting their kids back together. And I just can't believe that we're watching that and that more isn't said about it. And so I'm not saying anyone else needs to say anything, but I think I'm just that more isn't said about it. And so I'm not saying anyone else needs to say anything, but I think I'm just that more isn't said about it by me. So I just, I wanna be able to speak up about that, that I think we're watching probably like, you know, one of the sickest things that's ever happened.

And I'm sorry if I've kind of haven't said about it, I've tried to talk about it and learn about it. But I don't know, maybe I just want to say something. I don't even know what to do. You know, and it's crazy because our country is also complicit in it. It has been for a long time. It's just kind of interesting because then you just realize, oh, well, I'm just a member of this country, but what we want sometimes doesn't matter. You just have to be a member of a place and your government is making other choices. I don't know if I said that correctly or I don't even know exactly what I said, but

I just have it just like been making me really sick and I feel like I just needed to say something that I think you don't have to think that I'm not asking you to do anything. But I just have to say that so I'm not sitting by, you know, there's that peace inside of me. Like, why can't you say something? You know, there's people that can't even speak and you can say something, you know, and so that's how I just had to speak up. Anyway, I think maybe it's starting to make it about me there at the end. But yeah, so just praying for those people and just the grief that that is all going to cause. You notice like, what are we doing? But and I know that this has happened to other ethnicities and other cultures. I know that it's happening to other places too.

I just don't see that as much. And so, yeah, anyway. Anyway, that was kind of a downer ending, but big guy. Big guy! So Mother's Day is a good day to just be reminded to love people, whether it's your mother or a kid or a puppy or a little alligator, whatever you got over there, you know, even if it's a memory, you know. Get a picture out of somebody that was a member of your life or that loved you and spend a few moments with them, you know, or that's what I'm going to try to do.

You know, I got a couple of pictures of my dad. I think there's a couple of memories that I keep of him that are like, that are just mine it feels like, you know? Yeah, there's a couple memories of him that I feel like are just mine. And so yeah, I can just, you know, I can, you can spend time with those. You're the only two people that have those in the world is you and that other person. So that's a really, that's one of a kind. So that's really something cool that you can do. But anyway, this is getting long.

Happy Mother's Day. Thanks for letting me be a part of your life today. Thanks for being a part of my life today. And I don't even know how to end this, what to do. I don't even have any music on today, so. Big gay! Big gay! Big gay!

But yeah, anyway, quit listening to me. Text your mom, even if you hate her, text her and be like, hey, ma, love you. And then just send a wink emoji after that's a log. Hey It's a start right you guys be good to yourselves, baby. Praise God. Thank you. Oh And Easton, thank you so much Easton for helping us out today dude came over. We never even met We never even met what are you getting your mom for Mother's Day Easton? We me and my siblings went in on something. I don't really know what it is yet.

I'll find out on Mother's Day as well. Type shit! Dude, the craziest is when you buy something to your siblings, right? They picked it out. They show up with it. Mom opens it. She likes it, but you don't fucking like it. It's happened a few times. That's crazy. That's like, dude, that's one of the cra- that's guy, that's why being a mom has to be so crazy. Something crawls out of your body, right? Hangs out in the kitchen for probably 15 years, right? And then basically, I don't know, sorry, I don't know if there wasn't an ending to that,

but yeah, dude, that would be the thing. Somebody got my mom one of those boat in a bottle thing, ship in a bottle. You know what I'm talking about? Yeah. Yeah. We all gave my sister some money and she was going, she was, she'd been using or whatever, or mountain climbing or whatever she called it, but she um we gave her the money She shows up we each gave her like 80 bucks. She shows up. She was to have something nice for mom She got her Ship in a bottle's dog had no change with it Like bitch get the give it up fucking change bitch come on big guy Like, bitch, give me that fucking change, bitch. Come on, big guy!

Alright, man, thank you, Easton, bruh. Much obliged, appreciate you. And make sure to check out Net Positive with John Chris and Easton on there. And you guys be good to yourselves, baby. I'm just floating on the breeze and I feel I'm falling like these leaves I must be cornerstone Oh but when I reach that ground I'll share this piece of mind I found I can feel it in my bones But it's gonna take a little more I'm just floating on the breeze and I feel I'm falling like these leaves I must be cornerstone

Oh but when I reach that ground I'll share this piece of mind I found I can feel it in my bones But it's gonna take a little more I'm just floating on the breeze and I feel I'm falling like these leaves I must be cornerstone Oh but when I reach that ground I'll share this piece of mind I found I can feel it in my bones But it's gonna take a little more I'm just floating on the breeze and I feel I'm falling like these leaves I must be cornerstone